WEBVTT - Scary Hour & Micro Weddings 0:00:00.480 --> 0:00:03.320 From Hollywood. See you, thank you for listening to us. 0:00:03.400 --> 0:00:08.039 Ryan Air on Air with a Ryan Seacrest. 0:00:09.640 --> 0:00:12.840 You're on a kiss Seacrest with you grabbing Emma one 0:00:12.880 --> 0:00:15.440 eight five to one two seven, Emma, good morning. So 0:00:16.040 --> 0:00:19.880 you had a humiliating moment with your boyfriend's parents and 0:00:19.880 --> 0:00:24.040 now yes, and now you want to win them over, 0:00:24.040 --> 0:00:25.600 but you're dreading it. What happened. 0:00:27.040 --> 0:00:31.600 It happened over Halloween. My boyfriend had a Halloween party 0:00:32.320 --> 0:00:34.720 and I was under the impression that it was just 0:00:34.760 --> 0:00:39.320 for our friends, but he also invited his family unbeknownst 0:00:39.320 --> 0:00:43.080 to me, and I showed up in a very revealing 0:00:43.200 --> 0:00:46.680 sexy nurse costume, and I will never forget the look 0:00:46.720 --> 0:00:49.000 on his family's faces when. 0:00:48.880 --> 0:00:52.239 I walked in the door, and so kind of, well 0:00:52.280 --> 0:00:52.800 most kind of. 0:00:52.840 --> 0:00:55.760 Since then, I've been avoiding them as much as I can. 0:00:56.200 --> 0:01:01.360 I successfully dodged not seeing them over the holidays, and 0:01:01.640 --> 0:01:04.600 my boyfriend knows I'm embarrassed. He doesn't know I'm actively 0:01:05.360 --> 0:01:08.600 avoiding his family. But it's his birthday at the end 0:01:08.640 --> 0:01:13.400 of the month, and we're doing a dinner with his family, 0:01:13.560 --> 0:01:18.200 and I just my time has come to face them again, 0:01:18.240 --> 0:01:19.360 and I just don't know. 0:01:20.000 --> 0:01:22.759 What to do if I mentioned it, I just play cool. 0:01:23.640 --> 0:01:24.679 Oh I am just. 0:01:26.160 --> 0:01:26.280 So. 0:01:26.360 --> 0:01:29.280 First of all, space is good, gap in time is good. 0:01:29.600 --> 0:01:33.360 Memories wane, they soften, so that's good news. You can't 0:01:33.440 --> 0:01:36.399 kick the can inevitably forever. And here's the thing. You 0:01:36.440 --> 0:01:38.560 don't acknowledge it. If it comes up, you own it. 0:01:38.680 --> 0:01:39.240 That's simple. 0:01:39.520 --> 0:01:42.280 Yeah, I think that's a good plan. 0:01:42.319 --> 0:01:44.360 And I really didn't think of them. 0:01:44.440 --> 0:01:47.560 Not something super embarrassing happened to me early on in 0:01:47.600 --> 0:01:49.640 the years with Michael and I and his whole family 0:01:50.320 --> 0:01:54.240 not sexy nurse outfit. But he sent a picture of 0:01:54.280 --> 0:01:56.880 him at the Dodger game and said my view. I 0:01:56.920 --> 0:01:59.040 didn't realize it was a group text. This is years 0:01:59.040 --> 0:02:02.279 ago before you can see names in group texts. And 0:02:02.360 --> 0:02:03.880 so then I took a picture of me in the 0:02:03.880 --> 0:02:06.120 bathroom because I'd just gone out of the shower in 0:02:06.160 --> 0:02:09.440 my towel selfie and said my view, and I sent 0:02:09.520 --> 0:02:13.920 it back to his entire family. And this is like 0:02:14.600 --> 0:02:18.320 maybe like four months into us dating and so man, 0:02:18.360 --> 0:02:18.799 and then. 0:02:18.639 --> 0:02:19.079 That is it. 0:02:19.080 --> 0:02:20.880 It just became a joke, and it just became like, oh, 0:02:20.880 --> 0:02:22.720 we're gonna get more selfies, so. 0:02:22.919 --> 0:02:25.840 Just own it. 0:02:25.919 --> 0:02:28.800 So either it doesn't come up, and when it comes up, 0:02:28.840 --> 0:02:29.720 you can't be bothered by it. 0:02:29.800 --> 0:02:30.600 Yeah, own it. 0:02:30.720 --> 0:02:33.639 That's good advice, Sisney, a great one and it's a 0:02:33.720 --> 0:02:34.240 nice breaker. 0:02:34.320 --> 0:02:36.200 A good luck with the meeting. 0:02:36.200 --> 0:02:39.040 Okay, true, thank you so much. 0:02:39.040 --> 0:02:44.880 Take care, bye bye. The feeling of being just mortified 0:02:44.919 --> 0:02:49.919 in that first moment of every organ in your body stops, right, 0:02:50.000 --> 0:02:52.080 blood stops, it freezes, everything stops. 0:02:52.560 --> 0:02:56.200 You suffocate. You're like reverse reverse reverse, can't. 0:02:56.040 --> 0:03:00.760 Reverse you do? Oh wow, I'm trying to think of 0:03:00.760 --> 0:03:01.360 a story like that. 0:03:01.400 --> 0:03:04.200 I have I don't. I'm sorry, all right. 0:03:04.160 --> 0:03:06.120 We gotta take a break one or two point seven 0:03:06.240 --> 0:03:10.480 kiss FM. If you were in the valley recently and 0:03:10.520 --> 0:03:13.160 you were at Sportsman's Lodge, you better watch your back 0:03:13.160 --> 0:03:15.000 because Systey's coming after you. 0:03:15.000 --> 0:03:18.000 You are a thief. This happens to all of us. 0:03:18.360 --> 0:03:23.519 I know you're a thief. Someone blatantly stole your parking space. 0:03:23.560 --> 0:03:24.080 What happened? 0:03:24.360 --> 0:03:25.040 So this. 0:03:25.480 --> 0:03:28.160 If you've been to the shops at Sportsman's Lodge, you 0:03:28.280 --> 0:03:32.360 know the parking there is wild, and especially during peak 0:03:32.400 --> 0:03:35.680 hours like lunchtime or like when people get off work. Honestly, 0:03:35.720 --> 0:03:38.240 anytime of the day, it's crazy. So I was waiting 0:03:38.320 --> 0:03:40.320 for a spot. And you know how I like to. 0:03:40.280 --> 0:03:45.200 Back my car in, right, I mean you are, yes, 0:03:45.520 --> 0:03:46.080 I love that. 0:03:46.200 --> 0:03:48.000 When I back it in, then when I'm ready to leave, 0:03:48.040 --> 0:03:50.240 I just leave. I don't have to wait and look 0:03:50.280 --> 0:03:53.080 for cars. So I went to pull forward. I was 0:03:53.080 --> 0:03:55.040 waiting for the spot forever, and then they leave, and 0:03:55.080 --> 0:03:57.200 then I will go to pull forward and to reverse 0:03:57.240 --> 0:04:00.160 it in, and then someone comes from behind and just 0:04:00.320 --> 0:04:01.320 swoops right in. 0:04:01.280 --> 0:04:04.080 As if they did not see me, because I did 0:04:04.080 --> 0:04:07.400 not pass it. I was going forward to reverse into it. 0:04:07.600 --> 0:04:10.000 I think you can't reverse into spots when you're out 0:04:10.000 --> 0:04:10.600 in the wild. 0:04:10.760 --> 0:04:12.000 Wait out in the wild. 0:04:13.480 --> 0:04:16.240 Here we get here so early, there's nobody really around. 0:04:16.320 --> 0:04:18.599 You can do your thing. But like when there's other 0:04:18.680 --> 0:04:20.960 people around, you can't do it. 0:04:21.040 --> 0:04:23.320 I mean, I mean, I'm with Tony that you're running 0:04:23.320 --> 0:04:27.160 a risk by doing this whole three point turnaround. Keep 0:04:27.240 --> 0:04:29.560 backing it in where people are confused with what you're doing. 0:04:29.640 --> 0:04:31.479 Like if I were to see you doing the back end, 0:04:31.480 --> 0:04:33.080 I would think, oh, she's going the other way. I'm 0:04:33.080 --> 0:04:36.760 taking the spot. So when you do this your efficiency 0:04:36.920 --> 0:04:39.320 parking model, you saw me aware that you may be 0:04:39.520 --> 0:04:40.760 sending the wrong signal. 0:04:40.920 --> 0:04:43.640 They definitely saw me, they knew that I was waiting. 0:04:43.720 --> 0:04:46.120 They were just a jerk. And so did you see 0:04:46.200 --> 0:04:48.040 a lot at your window down? What did you do? 0:04:48.240 --> 0:04:50.760 I did not, Huh. I was frustrated, but it was 0:04:50.800 --> 0:04:52.120 just one of those things, and I was like, Okay, 0:04:52.120 --> 0:04:53.960 I'm not going to let this ruin my day because 0:04:54.000 --> 0:04:56.280 otherwise I'm just going to be mean to everybody. 0:04:56.600 --> 0:04:58.200 I've been seeing a lot of this lately. 0:04:58.320 --> 0:04:59.720 We were pulling out of a spot and there was 0:04:59.720 --> 0:05:01.679 a car like with their blinker to take our spot, 0:05:01.800 --> 0:05:04.040 and another car came from the other side of the 0:05:04.080 --> 0:05:06.320 street and went into it before the other car that 0:05:06.400 --> 0:05:06.800 was waiting. 0:05:06.920 --> 0:05:09.880 Yeah, at least every time I'm there someone's fighting. Like 0:05:10.000 --> 0:05:12.039 there's like people honking or yelling at each other. Because 0:05:12.080 --> 0:05:13.960 this happens often, especially there. 0:05:14.640 --> 0:05:16.120 Don't be one of those people. Less it affect you, 0:05:16.120 --> 0:05:18.400 and don't be almost feel that cuts off the park. Also, 0:05:18.440 --> 0:05:21.920 stop with the three point turnaround back and that's really hard, honestly. 0:05:22.560 --> 0:05:26.320 How don't two point seven Kiss FM appreciate you checking 0:05:26.360 --> 0:05:28.839 in with us as your regular routine in the morning. 0:05:28.839 --> 0:05:30.040 If you just listen to us for the first time. 0:05:30.120 --> 0:05:33.479 Hi, I'm Ryan Sisney, Tanya, Sophia our intern by the way, Sophia, 0:05:33.520 --> 0:05:36.680 our intern who lives with other people. We've all done this, 0:05:36.760 --> 0:05:39.839 We've all had roommates. I had a plethora roommates back 0:05:39.880 --> 0:05:42.599 in the day coming through the system here when I 0:05:42.640 --> 0:05:44.279 first moved out to LA. It's just like a write 0:05:44.279 --> 0:05:47.040 a passage you got to share when you first get here. 0:05:47.160 --> 0:05:47.360 Yep. 0:05:47.480 --> 0:05:50.920 And some weird stuff, some strange things happen when you 0:05:50.960 --> 0:05:51.720 live with people. 0:05:52.560 --> 0:05:58.360 It's amazing. Yeah, people can be unique. Yeah they could 0:05:58.360 --> 0:05:58.960 be unique. 0:06:00.080 --> 0:06:02.920 Feel what's the latest problem, and your roommate does listen, 0:06:03.040 --> 0:06:04.760 so high roommate can go ahead. 0:06:06.360 --> 0:06:09.320 So thankfully. I roommates with my two best friends, and 0:06:09.839 --> 0:06:12.920 they recently came to me and were like, we want 0:06:12.920 --> 0:06:16.839 to buy an espresso machine. And espresso machines are like 0:06:16.880 --> 0:06:20.320 three hundred dollars off the bat, and they're like, okay, 0:06:20.320 --> 0:06:21.760 we can just buy it and then we'll all just 0:06:21.800 --> 0:06:24.279 split the cost and use it and have like a. 0:06:24.120 --> 0:06:25.560 Bar in our apartment. 0:06:26.000 --> 0:06:28.560 The only issue is is that I don't drink coffee 0:06:28.839 --> 0:06:31.239 like that. And even if I was to get into coffee, 0:06:31.240 --> 0:06:32.640 I feel like I would start off with maybe like 0:06:32.680 --> 0:06:34.480 a cold brew from the grocery store. 0:06:35.200 --> 0:06:38.040 So if we were to split the cost. 0:06:37.920 --> 0:06:40.440 Like, I don't want to be pitching in that much money, 0:06:40.720 --> 0:06:42.839 even though I don't drink the coffee. 0:06:43.200 --> 0:06:46.400 Right, and they expect you to pitch in for it 0:06:46.560 --> 0:06:48.160 as a non coffee advocate. 0:06:48.440 --> 0:06:48.920 Yeah, they do. 0:06:48.960 --> 0:06:50.839 And I've told them like, hey, I don't really you know, 0:06:50.920 --> 0:06:53.640 drink coffee. I'm more of a tea person. And they're like, oh, well, 0:06:53.640 --> 0:06:55.520 there's three of us, so we'll I'll just split it equally. 0:06:55.880 --> 0:07:00.000 That's all you should never should never to your roommates. 0:07:00.120 --> 0:07:02.600 Never live with just a tea person. That's just a bag. 0:07:03.920 --> 0:07:05.720 I would warn you about that before you even got 0:07:05.720 --> 0:07:09.359 started on this path. I think it's totally fair that 0:07:09.480 --> 0:07:12.120 you don't pay for it and you don't use it, 0:07:12.200 --> 0:07:14.080 like you just need to make sure you don't borrow 0:07:14.120 --> 0:07:16.000 it or use it every once in a while. And 0:07:16.040 --> 0:07:18.320 if they want to espresso machine, then they need to go. 0:07:18.600 --> 0:07:21.200 Yeah, they need to split it, just the two of them. 0:07:21.480 --> 0:07:23.280 But then I'm kind of nervous because what if I 0:07:23.320 --> 0:07:28.560 want to try the espresso one day? 0:07:29.480 --> 0:07:33.200 Yeah, you could probably get some tea pods for it, right, 0:07:34.000 --> 0:07:34.920 But I feel like, for me. 0:07:34.920 --> 0:07:36.120 You have to pay for it. So you got to 0:07:36.160 --> 0:07:38.080 decide what you want to do. I'd rather not pay 0:07:38.120 --> 0:07:40.680 for it, not use it. Yeah that's true. I'll just 0:07:40.720 --> 0:07:42.680 buy my coffee from the store if I get it, 0:07:42.760 --> 0:07:44.600 and then it's going to add up to what the 0:07:44.640 --> 0:07:50.240 costs would have been for you to just hapause. 0:07:48.400 --> 0:07:51.360 You gotta you gotta understand these things. You bring an 0:07:51.440 --> 0:07:53.320 espresso machine into your life, where do you put it? 0:07:53.440 --> 0:07:55.880 Counter space? Then when you guys all break up and 0:07:55.920 --> 0:07:56.880 split up, who gets it? 0:07:57.120 --> 0:07:58.800 Yeah? 0:07:59.320 --> 0:08:03.320 Well, having roommates, so they're just never gonna have anything, 0:08:03.360 --> 0:08:05.720 they won't have a couch, they won't have a coffee table. 0:08:08.080 --> 0:08:10.360 To your remates to be aware, she's only a tea drinker. Really, 0:08:10.720 --> 0:08:13.040 here we go kiss FM. So your quote of the 0:08:13.120 --> 0:08:15.040 day in just a second. But this is interesting. If 0:08:15.080 --> 0:08:17.880 you're not having a great day and you just feel 0:08:17.880 --> 0:08:21.320 like you may not get through it already, scientists say 0:08:21.360 --> 0:08:22.280 you should do this instantly. 0:08:22.360 --> 0:08:23.280 It will improve your mood. 0:08:23.320 --> 0:08:26.040 And that is take a photo of ordinary moments like 0:08:26.080 --> 0:08:31.200 making your coffee or feeding your pet. Scientists say it's 0:08:31.200 --> 0:08:34.280 called mindful photography. It helps you appreciate the moment that 0:08:34.360 --> 0:08:37.960 we are in, leading to improve health, happiness, and clarity. 0:08:38.000 --> 0:08:40.160 So I guess it's the simple things in life that 0:08:40.200 --> 0:08:42.480 bring you pleasure. You need to be reminded of those 0:08:42.760 --> 0:08:45.240 with imagery to give you that feeling. 0:08:45.280 --> 0:08:48.680 Again, I will tell you it works. It works. 0:08:48.760 --> 0:08:51.679 Remember the steak I had Thursday night last week? Yeah, 0:08:51.760 --> 0:08:53.120 I looked at that photo all weekend. 0:08:56.120 --> 0:08:57.480 I did. I looked at all week and it actually 0:08:57.520 --> 0:08:59.280 made me feel better. I know what you mean. Though. 0:08:59.280 --> 0:09:01.559 Sometimes I take the mixtures of ASA's hair like and 0:09:01.679 --> 0:09:03.320 I do like a new hairstyle on her, and then 0:09:03.360 --> 0:09:04.680 when I go back to look at it, it makes 0:09:04.720 --> 0:09:05.240 me happy. 0:09:06.200 --> 0:09:07.000 Here's today's quote. 0:09:07.040 --> 0:09:08.720 Even if you don't have all the things you want, 0:09:08.800 --> 0:09:11.360 to be grateful for the things you don't have now. 0:09:11.480 --> 0:09:13.280 You don't want, oh preach. 0:09:13.480 --> 0:09:16.120 You're on Kiss FM one of two point seventy Los 0:09:16.120 --> 0:09:17.840 Angeles weddings. 0:09:18.280 --> 0:09:20.360 Not at the top of my list. Not at the 0:09:20.400 --> 0:09:23.160 top of my list, you do say the top of 0:09:23.200 --> 0:09:24.360 a lot of goals lists. 0:09:25.160 --> 0:09:29.199 A lot of mileage out of going to a wedding. Recently, 0:09:29.760 --> 0:09:30.480 Kanya's Oh. 0:09:30.400 --> 0:09:33.200 Yeah, I'm coming up on a year on that crazy. 0:09:32.880 --> 0:09:35.800 Last wedding I attended. Last wedding I thought about attending. 0:09:36.400 --> 0:09:39.440 But now they're saying that the micro wedding is a 0:09:39.480 --> 0:09:42.400 popular version of the wedding. What is the micro wedding 0:09:42.400 --> 0:09:43.520 and why is it so popular? 0:09:43.600 --> 0:09:45.080 So this was a trend that kind of blew up 0:09:45.160 --> 0:09:47.800 during the COVID years because people were forced to have 0:09:48.040 --> 0:09:52.880 small gatherings for weddings, and so it was very small, intimate, 0:09:53.360 --> 0:09:56.559 maybe twenty five to fifty people that would be considered 0:09:56.559 --> 0:09:59.000 a micro wedding. And they're saying they're making a comeback 0:09:59.080 --> 0:10:01.760 for this year's specif Nickleen twenty twenty six, I feel 0:10:01.800 --> 0:10:04.360 like if you did get married, or when you get married, Ryan, 0:10:05.000 --> 0:10:06.840 you might go to micro wedding route. 0:10:07.960 --> 0:10:08.320 Uh. 0:10:08.320 --> 0:10:11.600 Look, I mean you've heard me preach about weddings. I 0:10:11.640 --> 0:10:13.920 have nothing against them. They just haven't been at the 0:10:13.920 --> 0:10:16.320 top of my priority list recently. But maybe if that 0:10:16.480 --> 0:10:18.240 changes with time that goes by. 0:10:18.440 --> 0:10:19.719 Right. Yeah, No, But. 0:10:19.720 --> 0:10:23.080 If if I were to get into this whole thing 0:10:23.240 --> 0:10:26.760 of a wedding, I would definitely do it quietly alone. 0:10:27.080 --> 0:10:30.679 I mean maybe with my partner, but no big group 0:10:30.800 --> 0:10:34.360 gathering of friends and family and having to deal with 0:10:34.400 --> 0:10:37.720 an invitation list. So if you're unmarried, is it at 0:10:37.720 --> 0:10:38.960 the top of a list of yours? 0:10:39.960 --> 0:10:42.319 Not the top? No, she's so young. 0:10:44.080 --> 0:10:47.680 So we'll both youth, both young. Yeah on my list 0:10:47.679 --> 0:10:49.840 either what's at the top of your list? 0:10:50.720 --> 0:10:55.439 Probably getting through school hopefully, Yeah, your career. 0:10:55.480 --> 0:10:58.120 There time to micro wed yourself. 0:10:58.400 --> 0:11:01.480 Well, they're saying, these weddings are ye more personal, they're 0:11:01.520 --> 0:11:03.560 easy to budget for, and let's face it, I feel 0:11:03.600 --> 0:11:06.960 like everyone is broke these days. So it's just comes 0:11:07.000 --> 0:11:09.280 down to budgeting for these couples. And so they're like, 0:11:09.320 --> 0:11:11.920 are we going to spend hundreds and the thousands of 0:11:11.920 --> 0:11:15.120 dollars for a big, giant wedding that ends up becoming 0:11:15.120 --> 0:11:17.439 more of like a show or do we have something 0:11:17.480 --> 0:11:21.080 more intimate and smaller and you save more. 0:11:21.160 --> 0:11:21.400 I don't. 0:11:21.880 --> 0:11:24.199 I don't know why I'm so clear on weddings, having 0:11:24.280 --> 0:11:26.120 never had one, but I'm very clear on this. 0:11:26.240 --> 0:11:28.520 Yeah, you know he was is more less is more? 0:11:29.240 --> 0:11:32.120 O two point seven gis FM. 0:11:32.600 --> 0:11:35.520 Okay, let's see this is called the scary hour. A 0:11:35.520 --> 0:11:38.400 lot of people have been bringing this up lately, the 0:11:38.520 --> 0:11:40.079 scary hour. Do you even know what it is? Do 0:11:40.120 --> 0:11:42.000 you have one to eat Disney things? We need a 0:11:42.040 --> 0:11:42.920 scary hour every day? 0:11:42.920 --> 0:11:43.360 What is it? 0:11:43.679 --> 0:11:46.280 So it's basically an hour that you set aside for 0:11:46.360 --> 0:11:49.880 all the stress and stressful tasks that you have on 0:11:49.880 --> 0:11:51.839 your to do list or in your life or whatever 0:11:51.880 --> 0:11:54.040 you have to get done, because I know for me, 0:11:54.679 --> 0:11:56.040 I kind of just write stuff down on my to 0:11:56.040 --> 0:11:59.200 do list, okay, like scheduled donsisappointment, call the insurance and 0:11:59.200 --> 0:12:01.040 fix whatever I need to fix with that, and this 0:12:01.280 --> 0:12:02.120 for the kids and whatever. 0:12:02.200 --> 0:12:03.079 Right, it's endless. 0:12:03.440 --> 0:12:06.520 But maybe and I feel like sometimes you get a 0:12:06.559 --> 0:12:08.640 few things done, but you don't ever like get through 0:12:08.679 --> 0:12:12.480 the list because because it's just it's overwhelming. So what 0:12:12.520 --> 0:12:15.520 you should do is set aside an hour, maybe it's 0:12:15.520 --> 0:12:18.600 once a week, so you can start small, and you legit 0:12:18.800 --> 0:12:21.160 put a timer and you're like, this is the hour 0:12:21.240 --> 0:12:23.840 I'm getting everything done. And then you commit to that 0:12:23.880 --> 0:12:27.000 one hour, no interruptions. And they say it really is 0:12:27.040 --> 0:12:29.280 like a stress reliever and it helps you so much. 0:12:29.280 --> 0:12:32.199 It's all over TikTok. It's gone viral. So I'm kind 0:12:32.200 --> 0:12:34.680 of into this. So scary are because it's the scary task, 0:12:34.720 --> 0:12:39.520 the difficult test, just like that exactly. Yes, I like 0:12:39.559 --> 0:12:39.880 it too. 0:12:40.080 --> 0:12:42.000 I think that the problem I have this problem, actually, 0:12:42.000 --> 0:12:45.080 I have this problem with things that are incoming to me, 0:12:45.640 --> 0:12:48.079 like a lot of work, things that are incoming. 0:12:47.760 --> 0:12:48.760 On all over the place. 0:12:48.880 --> 0:12:50.920 Yeah, I just want to say, can you just send 0:12:50.960 --> 0:12:54.199 them all to me at four? Like everything that needs 0:12:54.200 --> 0:12:56.800 to answer, Just send them all at once? Yeah, because 0:12:57.000 --> 0:12:59.199 you get scattered in sidetracked and does save more time. 0:12:59.679 --> 0:13:01.240 I don't the name of it, but I like the 0:13:01.240 --> 0:13:01.800 idea of it. 0:13:01.920 --> 0:13:04.120 Yeah, the name is misleading, but I get it. 0:13:04.520 --> 0:13:07.600 Let's call the productive period. Do you know the production 0:13:08.080 --> 0:13:10.000 rate to make it happen? 0:13:10.720 --> 0:13:13.160 Get it done? Hour? All right? Ryan Rose is coming out. 0:13:14.960 --> 0:13:15.800 It's time. 0:13:17.120 --> 0:13:20.720 For Ryan's roses on Kiss FM. Thanks for waiting. If 0:13:20.760 --> 0:13:24.280 you just got here, I'm gonna jump into it. Amy says, 0:13:24.320 --> 0:13:26.600 my husband's trying to get sober. I'm really proud of him. 0:13:26.800 --> 0:13:29.760 As part of the making Amend's process. He confessed to 0:13:29.800 --> 0:13:33.280 a drunken one night stand earlier this year. It destroyed 0:13:33.320 --> 0:13:36.200 my trust in him, even though I want to be supportive. 0:13:36.240 --> 0:13:39.840 Seeing who he sends the roses to would help rebuild 0:13:40.120 --> 0:13:40.959 that trust. 0:13:42.040 --> 0:13:43.559 Okay, let's get to. 0:13:45.000 --> 0:13:45.520 Amy. 0:13:46.520 --> 0:13:49.160 Good morning, Amy. Thank you for reaching out. 0:13:49.640 --> 0:13:54.199 Now we acknowledge the level of complexity here because you've 0:13:54.200 --> 0:13:57.320 got your husband doing a great thing while he's getting 0:13:57.360 --> 0:14:01.520 sober and going back and as you said, making amends 0:14:02.679 --> 0:14:05.559 and being truthful. The problem is the truth that he 0:14:05.600 --> 0:14:08.040 had to confess is a big violation in your trust 0:14:08.120 --> 0:14:09.760 in your relationship. 0:14:09.200 --> 0:14:12.240 Right, Yeah, that's right. 0:14:14.080 --> 0:14:16.640 I mean, look, I don't need to know much about 0:14:16.640 --> 0:14:18.920 the one night stand. I don't need to know anything 0:14:18.920 --> 0:14:22.240 about that. I think My question here is this is 0:14:22.280 --> 0:14:25.880 really simple. I don't know why are we calling him? 0:14:26.080 --> 0:14:27.800 Because if you already know he had the affair, what 0:14:27.800 --> 0:14:29.320 are we asking him about? 0:14:29.920 --> 0:14:33.280 Okay, well, okay, so I guess you know. My husband's 0:14:33.320 --> 0:14:36.840 been sober for about six months, and a few weeks 0:14:36.840 --> 0:14:39.360 ago he set me down confessed to be one night 0:14:39.400 --> 0:14:42.280 stand that he had while he was drinking, and it 0:14:42.360 --> 0:14:45.800 happened earlier this year, like before he got sober, but 0:14:45.880 --> 0:14:49.520 of course, like hearing it now completely shattered me. So 0:14:49.600 --> 0:14:51.600 I am trying to support him and I want to 0:14:51.640 --> 0:14:56.920 believe this new version of him, But ever since that confession, 0:14:57.120 --> 0:15:01.160 my trust has been barely holding together. He swears he 0:15:01.360 --> 0:15:04.840 is committed to us and to his sobriety, but I 0:15:04.840 --> 0:15:08.520 can't get past this fear that like, there's just more 0:15:08.560 --> 0:15:12.280 I don't know. So for me, sending the roses is 0:15:12.360 --> 0:15:16.400 less about catching him in something new and more about 0:15:17.000 --> 0:15:20.920 just seeing where his heart is right now, if he 0:15:21.040 --> 0:15:24.240 is fully present in his marriage and I need to 0:15:24.240 --> 0:15:26.000 hear it. I mean I need to hear it, and 0:15:26.040 --> 0:15:29.040 I need something to help me believe him again. 0:15:29.640 --> 0:15:32.440 Okay, let's just say that, Dan, Let's make the call. 0:15:32.600 --> 0:15:34.280 Let's get to the bottom of this next for you. 0:15:34.320 --> 0:15:38.600 Okay, Okay, thank you, thank you. Hold on one second. 0:15:39.160 --> 0:15:43.280 It is Ryan's roses. I feel like if this goes well, 0:15:43.320 --> 0:15:45.080 she makes the choice to forgive him, to move on, 0:15:45.160 --> 0:15:48.600 and let's go right well, Stein kiss a time for 0:15:48.880 --> 0:15:52.080 the call on Ryan's roses. If you just arrived, Amy's 0:15:52.120 --> 0:15:55.360 on the phone. Good news is her husband's getting sober. 0:15:55.800 --> 0:15:58.000 As part of the process, he's got to go back 0:15:58.040 --> 0:15:59.920 and confess things. He told her the truth about a 0:16:00.000 --> 0:16:03.160 one night stand earlier this year. I guess she wants 0:16:03.240 --> 0:16:07.280 the peace of mind that this is the only thing. 0:16:07.960 --> 0:16:11.200 This is it that he did confess everything. This call 0:16:11.280 --> 0:16:14.920 will seal hopefully that peace of mind if it goes well. 0:16:15.600 --> 0:16:17.560 So Amy, I guess my question is if if you 0:16:17.600 --> 0:16:19.200 find out that he sends these roses to you, and 0:16:19.240 --> 0:16:21.640 you have no more real doubt here because he's already 0:16:21.640 --> 0:16:24.240 confessed that one night stand, have you made the choice. 0:16:24.320 --> 0:16:26.280 Are you going to make the choice to forgive and 0:16:26.320 --> 0:16:27.680 move on and be with him? 0:16:29.920 --> 0:16:35.120 I mean, that's my hope. I think it will help 0:16:35.200 --> 0:16:40.080 me understand that I can move forward and continue making 0:16:40.400 --> 0:16:41.760 that choice. Does that make sense? 0:16:42.520 --> 0:16:42.920 Yeah? 0:16:43.000 --> 0:16:45.320 Amy, When you say earlier this year, you mean like 0:16:45.720 --> 0:16:46.240 last year? 0:16:46.280 --> 0:16:47.040 Technically, right? 0:16:48.960 --> 0:16:49.200 Yeah? 0:16:49.520 --> 0:16:51.400 I was just like it wasn't day, it wasn't days ago, 0:16:51.520 --> 0:16:53.440 it was like early last year. 0:16:53.840 --> 0:16:56.320 Got it? Got Yeah. So he's been sitting with us 0:16:56.320 --> 0:16:57.800 for a while and he finally just told. 0:16:57.560 --> 0:16:59.280 You that's right. 0:17:00.040 --> 0:17:03.000 M Well, we're going to dial him now. Be very 0:17:03.080 --> 0:17:05.359 very quiet, Okay, I want to find out what he says. 0:17:05.800 --> 0:17:07.600 I need you to say, Ryan, you have my permission 0:17:07.600 --> 0:17:08.840 to call, and then your husband's name. 0:17:09.400 --> 0:17:13.320 Go ahead, okay, Ryan, you have my permission to call. 0:17:15.240 --> 0:17:19.159 All right, what's the name of the person he had 0:17:19.200 --> 0:17:19.720 the affair with? 0:17:21.440 --> 0:17:24.879 A uh kylo? 0:17:26.040 --> 0:17:28.159 Okay, here we go. Be very quiet. Good luck. We 0:17:28.200 --> 0:17:42.359 wish you well. Hello, Hi, can I speak to Nate please? 0:17:43.960 --> 0:17:45.040 This is Hi. 0:17:45.119 --> 0:17:47.360 My name is Amanda. I'm calling from the Fresh Flores 0:17:47.400 --> 0:17:51.040 in Montclair. How are you doing this morning? I'll find 0:17:51.840 --> 0:17:54.560 Oh that's great. 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