WEBVTT - EP 388: Good Dad, Bad Dad 0:00:02.600 --> 0:00:04.240 Guess what decision we're about to make. 0:00:04.720 --> 0:00:05.840 Horrible decision. 0:00:08.640 --> 0:00:09.960 Sorry, vibrate. 0:00:10.720 --> 0:00:12.600 It's a library, he said, put your ship on the 0:00:12.720 --> 0:00:14.960 Gray Beach beet for fishing in a page. 0:00:18.920 --> 0:00:20.079 It's my birthday week. 0:00:22.880 --> 0:00:24.599 Oh, she said, you violent. 0:00:27.120 --> 0:00:29.320 I'm gonna shut up. Why did you put this in front. 0:00:29.080 --> 0:00:31.520 Of Honest, I think about it all the time. 0:00:31.920 --> 0:00:34.960 That's crazy, now, you know what's she's kind of nuts. Now, 0:00:34.960 --> 0:00:35.680 I ain't gonna hold you. 0:00:35.680 --> 0:00:37.360 When I when I said I wanted to hire you back, 0:00:37.440 --> 0:00:40.400 she was like, well, you know he's you know you 0:00:40.440 --> 0:00:43.400 nobody does right. And I was like, girl, anybody the girl, 0:00:43.440 --> 0:00:45.880 he ain't gonna punch us, know you did. 0:00:45.960 --> 0:00:46.800 You were a little nervous. 0:00:46.800 --> 0:00:48.680 No, it was your punch, isn't it. I kind of 0:00:48.680 --> 0:00:50.760 felt awkward because of orient mall. 0:00:51.000 --> 0:00:51.640 Oh I didn't. 0:00:52.040 --> 0:00:54.640 That made me feel awf They're not they know they're 0:00:54.720 --> 0:00:57.640 super chill. But I just meant, like, damn, we're gonna 0:00:57.640 --> 0:00:58.840 take it in right back. 0:00:59.000 --> 0:01:01.720 Hell yeah the job that time. 0:01:02.160 --> 0:01:04.760 But I was just like, and you know, it's funny 0:01:04.760 --> 0:01:06.920 because a lot of people don't maybe understand how it 0:01:07.080 --> 0:01:08.199 all happened, right. 0:01:08.160 --> 0:01:10.040 How is yeah? 0:01:10.080 --> 0:01:12.280 This is not going on the episode. No, no, we 0:01:12.280 --> 0:01:13.160 don't even talk about it. 0:01:13.200 --> 0:01:16.760 Okay, Well, anyway, I definitely called Rory once that happening. 0:01:16.880 --> 0:01:18.319 Y'all welcome to a horrible decision. 0:01:20.760 --> 0:01:22.360 We got our producers on the line and tell you 0:01:22.360 --> 0:01:22.880 the t eden. 0:01:23.720 --> 0:01:25.880 So I called Rory to hang out that week, and 0:01:25.959 --> 0:01:27.200 y'all know, I'm not on Twitter. 0:01:27.840 --> 0:01:30.039 No one told me what happened. So I called Rory. 0:01:30.080 --> 0:01:32.160 I'm like, hey, we're talking ship or whatever for like 0:01:32.160 --> 0:01:34.480 five or ten minutes. He's like, so go ahead, and 0:01:34.480 --> 0:01:39.360 I'm like what And he's like come on, and I'm like, 0:01:39.880 --> 0:01:42.800 what the fuck is going on. He's like, wheezy, like 0:01:42.840 --> 0:01:43.560 you're finding with me. 0:01:43.640 --> 0:01:44.600 I'm like, I am not. 0:01:45.360 --> 0:01:49.000 He's like, oh yeah, you literally don't be in the world. 0:01:49.120 --> 0:01:50.240 You got you in your own world. 0:01:50.600 --> 0:01:51.320 I am, but you're not. 0:01:51.680 --> 0:01:53.800 Once you're on Twitter, you're dealing with the Twitter spears 0:01:53.840 --> 0:01:56.240 of the bullshit, shit, crazy shit. 0:01:56.880 --> 0:01:58.920 Let me tell you how like far removed I am. 0:01:59.440 --> 0:02:02.800 I got a call from someone I work with and 0:02:02.800 --> 0:02:05.360 it was literally like you need to stop doing and 0:02:05.400 --> 0:02:06.920 I'm like, what are you talking about? It was because 0:02:07.000 --> 0:02:10.799 Mandy and start ex co host we're beefing, and I'm 0:02:10.800 --> 0:02:11.280 like I was. 0:02:11.280 --> 0:02:13.000 From that I thought you were talking about the other 0:02:13.040 --> 0:02:16.640 podcaster or the way every week and somebody you. 0:02:16.960 --> 0:02:18.920 Don't be knowing what's going on. The only thing I 0:02:18.919 --> 0:02:21.480 did know, bitch, when you pulled out that laptop, and 0:02:21.560 --> 0:02:23.280 I know, so what's crazy? 0:02:23.320 --> 0:02:26.160 As niggas swear i'd be beefing anyway, but it don't 0:02:26.160 --> 0:02:28.760 be beef with nobody. I just share my opinion and 0:02:28.800 --> 0:02:33.440 move on. But also I really love being petty. Oh 0:02:33.480 --> 0:02:37.120 my god, that shit make my pussy thump in real life, 0:02:37.400 --> 0:02:42.120 like my shit be like I'm like pet I swear to. 0:02:42.040 --> 0:02:42.919 Go on it. 0:02:43.440 --> 0:02:44.600 So you think you don't start it. 0:02:45.120 --> 0:02:48.800 I started first off, freedom of speech. It's one of 0:02:48.800 --> 0:02:50.880 the amendments commandments. 0:02:51.120 --> 0:02:55.600 What it's amendments. Fight you're right, bitch, get the fuck 0:02:55.639 --> 0:02:56.040 out of here. 0:02:56.760 --> 0:02:58.600 Listen because when I moved to Georgia, bitch a bitch 0:02:58.600 --> 0:03:01.520 getting a little pink gun pupy. It's gonna be key 0:03:01.560 --> 0:03:04.120 you going on now, you're good, I mean, listen, the 0:03:04.360 --> 0:03:05.799 gun the gun about to be gunning. 0:03:07.280 --> 0:03:07.520 Girl. 0:03:07.560 --> 0:03:10.040 I had a phone call from a girl that I 0:03:10.240 --> 0:03:12.560 rarely hang out with, maybe once a year. I see 0:03:12.600 --> 0:03:14.400 her and she was like, girl, I can't wait to 0:03:14.440 --> 0:03:15.720 hang out with you when you and Atlanta. I'm like, 0:03:15.720 --> 0:03:17.160 I'm not coming to Atlanta. What are you talking about. 0:03:17.160 --> 0:03:19.080 I don't have any plan. She's like, no, I listened 0:03:19.080 --> 0:03:20.239 to this weekend. Man, he's coming to Wanta. 0:03:20.280 --> 0:03:21.320 So that's crazy. 0:03:21.480 --> 0:03:24.040 I said, Oh, first off, the fact that you could 0:03:24.120 --> 0:03:27.360 live in La and Mexico. But niggas think the show 0:03:27.440 --> 0:03:30.400 ending because I'm moving to Atlanta. I'm like, bitch, I'm 0:03:30.400 --> 0:03:32.000 gonna still be in New York. We're gonna make it 0:03:32.040 --> 0:03:32.800 motherfucker happen. 0:03:32.919 --> 0:03:35.160 I aready may come from this. I think that could 0:03:35.160 --> 0:03:35.520 be fun. 0:03:35.960 --> 0:03:37.840 I think I told you Earnier Leisure inspired me a 0:03:37.880 --> 0:03:40.720 little bit because they travel for episodes, like if there's 0:03:40.760 --> 0:03:41.920 anything that's close by. 0:03:41.960 --> 0:03:44.000 I'm like, now we are touring next year. If I 0:03:44.000 --> 0:03:45.880 don't the least amount of times I have to get 0:03:45.880 --> 0:03:47.480 on a plane next year, No, I'm about. 0:03:47.280 --> 0:03:49.640 To get back on Atlanta. To me, is traveling like 0:03:49.920 --> 0:03:50.840 it's I. 0:03:50.800 --> 0:03:52.440 Go to La now because you're there, if you have 0:03:52.480 --> 0:03:54.400 to come to Atlanta. Yeah, I think we'll be open 0:03:54.440 --> 0:03:58.040 to more guest options. But I think the audience be 0:03:58.080 --> 0:03:59.840 liking these solos, so I think as long as we 0:03:59.920 --> 0:04:02.120 know fighting, hey, if y'all start seeing a whole bunch 0:04:02.160 --> 0:04:02.520 of guests. 0:04:02.600 --> 0:04:05.520 Just know we're going through it, but. 0:04:05.400 --> 0:04:07.600 We will come back. That's how feel about booty picks. 0:04:07.600 --> 0:04:10.640 If I post my ass, bitch, what the oh that 0:04:10.760 --> 0:04:11.360 mean you single? 0:04:11.880 --> 0:04:14.040 That single? I mean I'm trying to fiss them off. 0:04:14.600 --> 0:04:16.719 Oh and see, this is why I'm going to be 0:04:16.720 --> 0:04:18.760 single forever, because bitch, I wish the nigga. 0:04:18.480 --> 0:04:21.120 Would, Oh, girl, you're not going to see here and. 0:04:21.080 --> 0:04:23.040 Go straight to the internet and get the attention of 0:04:23.680 --> 0:04:26.240 folks because we because you're mad right now, Because I'd 0:04:26.279 --> 0:04:27.520 be like, go and then that's. 0:04:27.400 --> 0:04:27.880 The problem too. 0:04:28.000 --> 0:04:30.480 No, it's just fun, you know, so for me, So 0:04:30.520 --> 0:04:33.040 that's where I think should be fucking up with me, Like, 0:04:33.760 --> 0:04:34.880 I don't think I care enough. 0:04:35.080 --> 0:04:36.799 So when niggas see that shit, don't. 0:04:36.640 --> 0:04:39.800 Really phathe me, they'd be like, oh, but you don't 0:04:39.839 --> 0:04:40.920 even really like part of the game. 0:04:41.560 --> 0:04:42.760 Yeah, I don't be caring. 0:04:42.600 --> 0:04:43.200 Hate the player. 0:04:44.720 --> 0:04:46.159 So I wanted to bring something up that I found 0:04:46.200 --> 0:04:50.239 to be interested in speaking of niggas, So I'm watching 0:04:50.279 --> 0:04:52.960 Love is Blind with my dude, right. The Love is 0:04:52.960 --> 0:04:56.440 Blind UK version, very very interesting one because there's a 0:04:56.440 --> 0:04:59.440 black couple on there and the girl that he chose 0:04:59.480 --> 0:05:02.360 to me, she a big girl, but she's definitely like curvy. 0:05:02.560 --> 0:05:04.640 You know what's crazy about you saying whatever? You about 0:05:04.640 --> 0:05:04.800 to go? 0:05:04.960 --> 0:05:07.840 Say so because they're casting in Atlanta right now. For 0:05:07.880 --> 0:05:11.080 Love is Blind. My homegirls was like, bitch, you gotta 0:05:11.120 --> 0:05:12.960 go on. Are you about to move here? And I said, 0:05:13.760 --> 0:05:16.640 are are we friends? My love is not blind? No, 0:05:17.440 --> 0:05:20.839 I need to see my life. Need to be down, bitch, 0:05:20.880 --> 0:05:22.160 I'm too shut up, a little bit blond. 0:05:22.240 --> 0:05:23.479 Normally I say like, oh, I. 0:05:26.120 --> 0:05:27.600 Being with a fine nigga. 0:05:27.720 --> 0:05:27.880 Bro. 0:05:27.960 --> 0:05:28.760 We went to the layout. 0:05:28.800 --> 0:05:30.479 I can't tell you how many people stop this nigga 0:05:30.520 --> 0:05:32.400 to hey, I'm making a photo off. I'm doing this, 0:05:32.440 --> 0:05:34.640 I'm doing that. It does feel good again. But so 0:05:34.680 --> 0:05:37.920 something made me realize, oh, maybe I do have a 0:05:37.920 --> 0:05:38.560 little mandy in me. 0:05:38.640 --> 0:05:39.840 Here's why she's got a. 0:05:39.760 --> 0:05:42.400 Little mandy in you. Say it again, Say it again. 0:05:44.240 --> 0:05:48.840 I didn't say I was eating ass. So here's the 0:05:48.880 --> 0:05:51.440 conversation we start happening. We watched Love is Lying and 0:05:51.640 --> 0:05:53.520 when the black dude saw the shorty, he was like, oh, 0:05:53.520 --> 0:05:56.400 she's fired. She's fired. So we didn't really believe. I 0:05:56.440 --> 0:05:58.200 was like, oh no, I feel like he wasn't feeling 0:05:58.240 --> 0:06:00.760 the fact. You know, there was another girl he almost chose, 0:06:00.880 --> 0:06:02.640 who's super fit. She even talks about how she goes 0:06:02.680 --> 0:06:04.640 to gym twice a week, and when he saw her, 0:06:04.880 --> 0:06:08.360 his reaction was intense. So we were like his love 0:06:08.400 --> 0:06:10.240 really blind. And I said to him, you think if 0:06:10.279 --> 0:06:12.520 we were behind these walls, we would choose each other. 0:06:12.640 --> 0:06:14.160 He was like, yeah, of. 0:06:14.080 --> 0:06:16.520 Course, we would think about our first phone conversation before 0:06:16.520 --> 0:06:18.000 we ever met in person. We were on the phone 0:06:18.000 --> 0:06:20.240 for hours, like we really vibe with each other. I'm like, yeah, 0:06:20.279 --> 0:06:23.400 but if I was on it, it's because I feel 0:06:23.440 --> 0:06:25.839 like I thought you were fine and you thought I 0:06:25.920 --> 0:06:27.960 was fine. So we're flirting now because we know each 0:06:27.960 --> 0:06:31.760 other sexy. That's the basis of our first connection, right, 0:06:32.320 --> 0:06:34.120 I said, but what if there was a guy in 0:06:34.160 --> 0:06:37.400 the pods on Love is Blind? That we have a 0:06:37.400 --> 0:06:40.680 lot of different opinions my man and I like, I said, 0:06:40.680 --> 0:06:42.880 he's like he's very wolfy in the sense that he's 0:06:42.880 --> 0:06:44.040 a hotep niga and I'm. 0:06:43.880 --> 0:06:47.320 Not what if I men will do shaking his head 0:06:47.760 --> 0:06:48.080 kind of. 0:06:48.120 --> 0:06:50.160 Had a different energy or was more like oh yeah, 0:06:50.320 --> 0:06:52.400 I'm all about this, or or like sex head and 0:06:52.680 --> 0:06:53.520 women's liberation. 0:06:53.640 --> 0:06:55.919 Would I have been like, oh, we're so in alignment. 0:06:56.240 --> 0:06:58.240 Would I have thought that was more of a guy 0:06:58.320 --> 0:07:02.240 for me, just because the fact that behind these walls, 0:07:02.600 --> 0:07:04.720 I'm trying to find. 0:07:04.480 --> 0:07:05.760 Someone quote unquote compatible. 0:07:06.200 --> 0:07:07.719 And I was like, Yo, if we would have seen 0:07:07.760 --> 0:07:11.560 each other outside in that honeymoon's face, like Nigga, we 0:07:11.600 --> 0:07:12.520 would have been wilding out. 0:07:12.560 --> 0:07:13.240 Me and him are. 0:07:13.120 --> 0:07:16.120 Really attracted to each other to the point, Mandy, and 0:07:16.160 --> 0:07:19.360 this is why I don't think love is blind. Well, 0:07:19.360 --> 0:07:23.240 we had a disagreement a few weeks ago. I tried 0:07:23.240 --> 0:07:25.120 to FaceTime him. He was mad at me about some shit. 0:07:25.160 --> 0:07:26.760 I no, really, I was like, come on, answer to phone. 0:07:26.800 --> 0:07:29.760 He's like no. Later that week he told me he 0:07:29.800 --> 0:07:30.600 didn't answer the phone. 0:07:30.600 --> 0:07:33.920 He's like, I can't look at you when we're in 0:07:33.960 --> 0:07:38.360 a disagreement because it makes me not focus on why 0:07:38.400 --> 0:07:38.920 I was mad. 0:07:39.640 --> 0:07:41.040 I love you so much. I'm looking at you. 0:07:41.080 --> 0:07:43.800 I care about you like I'm seeing you, and it's 0:07:43.880 --> 0:07:45.760 ruining even what I want to try to get on 0:07:45.760 --> 0:07:48.360 the table, Like I can't focus on getting through to 0:07:48.400 --> 0:07:49.600 the issue because I'm looking at you. 0:07:49.720 --> 0:07:51.160 That's a problem. That was a problem. 0:07:51.200 --> 0:07:54.520 That's why I stayed with my excellent bitch. I know 0:07:54.720 --> 0:07:57.000 this just because you're not baby. 0:07:57.200 --> 0:07:59.360 Guess yes, when I tell you. 0:07:59.400 --> 0:08:01.880 I was like, all right, this nigga line right now, 0:08:01.880 --> 0:08:03.560 and I know he lying because he's not a good liar. 0:08:04.200 --> 0:08:07.360 And I was like, but the god, damn he like 0:08:07.520 --> 0:08:11.760 the way I wanted to jump his fucking bones every time, 0:08:11.800 --> 0:08:14.400 the way I wanted to fuck him. I couldn't even 0:08:14.400 --> 0:08:17.920 be mad for long because it's like, damn he fine, okay, whatever, 0:08:17.920 --> 0:08:21.880 he ain't shit, but he fine, Like I like a financing, 0:08:22.200 --> 0:08:24.520 and what's crazy is only for so long. By the way, 0:08:24.560 --> 0:08:26.679 you get ugly after. Like when I saw that nigga 0:08:26.680 --> 0:08:28.720 at the part, I was like, look, he's salmon ass 0:08:28.840 --> 0:08:29.520 ugly as shorts. 0:08:29.560 --> 0:08:32.200 This nigga got on. I thought his outfit was ugly. 0:08:32.280 --> 0:08:35.120 I thought I saw everything. 0:08:34.679 --> 0:08:37.560 About I said. He came, I said, the last year 0:08:37.600 --> 0:08:40.400 of his bit rough. He looking a little rough. I 0:08:40.440 --> 0:08:43.000 just didn't like anything about him. I said, oh, he 0:08:43.080 --> 0:08:45.760 looking every bit of fifty. Now he didn't look yo. 0:08:46.000 --> 0:08:48.920 I hated everything, but that's because I had guys. 0:08:48.960 --> 0:08:51.600 But while I was in the midst of it and 0:08:51.800 --> 0:08:56.360 really enthralled by him, his looks literally made everything blind. 0:08:56.440 --> 0:08:58.600 I do think that by the love thing that's that's 0:08:58.600 --> 0:09:01.599 what I'm saying, love isn't blind because there is. 0:09:01.679 --> 0:09:04.960 Love is blind to the bullshitrue, love. 0:09:04.800 --> 0:09:06.720 Is blind to the bullshit. Let's be very clear. 0:09:06.880 --> 0:09:10.760 The physicality of the conversation. You start to see somebody 0:09:10.800 --> 0:09:13.800 and realize like why you love them, and I think 0:09:15.280 --> 0:09:16.000 the attraction. 0:09:16.520 --> 0:09:20.080 For example, right now, I talk about. 0:09:19.840 --> 0:09:22.840 My dad being in a wheelchair a lot, and my 0:09:23.000 --> 0:09:25.920 mom and him are very playful about it. Right, But 0:09:26.000 --> 0:09:29.560 attraction isn't necessarily physical. It's spirit too, and it's something 0:09:29.600 --> 0:09:31.520 you have to see, and it's energy that you have 0:09:31.559 --> 0:09:37.160 to see. I say that because my daddy witchy, because 0:09:37.200 --> 0:09:40.439 he witchy. I'm not talking about myself. I'm watching this 0:09:40.760 --> 0:09:43.120 with my parents, right. They were together when my dad 0:09:43.160 --> 0:09:45.840 was younger, more fit. He used to be a boxer 0:09:45.840 --> 0:09:48.400 in his young age, a cop and like all kinds 0:09:48.440 --> 0:09:49.719 of like military shit he used to do, so he 0:09:49.720 --> 0:09:53.560 had a fit body. As he's aging and more fragile, 0:09:54.240 --> 0:09:57.240 my mom is still very into him, and I'm wondering, 0:09:57.360 --> 0:10:00.439 like sometimes in my brain if she's being phony with 0:10:00.520 --> 0:10:02.920 him or whatever, And I'm like, oh, it's because you 0:10:02.960 --> 0:10:05.000 could still feel this thing with him when you see him. 0:10:05.040 --> 0:10:06.679 He's making you laugh. You're looking at his eyes. 0:10:07.600 --> 0:10:11.640 It's not just if they're fine, it's your connection to them, 0:10:11.800 --> 0:10:16.400 of course, and like that shit is so physical that 0:10:16.520 --> 0:10:19.760 I don't believe that those couples that like say they're 0:10:19.760 --> 0:10:22.439 falling in love and the pods like are in reality. 0:10:23.400 --> 0:10:26.000 Like ever, they're not in a real reality because at 0:10:26.000 --> 0:10:26.920 the end of the day. 0:10:26.880 --> 0:10:29.480 Yes, someone can be amazing. You fell in love with 0:10:29.520 --> 0:10:32.200 a friend, bro, Yeah, that is the differentiation. 0:10:32.480 --> 0:10:35.560 I mean, I think that that's a bit of the problem. 0:10:36.000 --> 0:10:39.480 When people get into relationships. They're looking for the perfect person. 0:10:39.920 --> 0:10:42.280 They're looking for someone that they have everything in common. 0:10:42.320 --> 0:10:45.040 When I do believe opposites a track, but in a 0:10:45.040 --> 0:10:47.880 way that could be like should be healthy though, Like 0:10:48.200 --> 0:10:50.120 me and my partner bit y'all know, he was a 0:10:50.160 --> 0:10:53.560 flatterther fucking all the shit and I loved just the 0:10:53.600 --> 0:10:57.800 constant conversations because we didn't agree on a lot of 0:10:57.800 --> 0:11:00.880 things around life, but it made for excitement. I think 0:11:01.520 --> 0:11:04.640 also people constantly look for someone who likes every single 0:11:04.640 --> 0:11:06.400 thing that they do. I remember when King Noir was 0:11:06.440 --> 0:11:08.600 on here and he was like, I don't like pretty Ricky. 0:11:08.960 --> 0:11:10.839 So if we're in a relationship, I would love for 0:11:10.880 --> 0:11:13.120 you to go enjoy that with someone else go into 0:11:13.160 --> 0:11:15.199 it pretty ricky. I think so many times you look 0:11:15.280 --> 0:11:18.880 for we look for someone to like be everything we 0:11:18.920 --> 0:11:20.720 want them to be, or to be so similar to 0:11:20.840 --> 0:11:23.000 us that that's what I think happens. 0:11:23.000 --> 0:11:25.040 And love is blind. Like did you see the did 0:11:25.120 --> 0:11:25.640 y'all see. 0:11:25.480 --> 0:11:28.400 The one where it was like, wait, your granddad's named that, 0:11:28.600 --> 0:11:31.280 me too, your aunt is named that, me too, and yeah, 0:11:31.600 --> 0:11:34.160 just thought they were fucking meant to be together and 0:11:34.200 --> 0:11:36.240 not thinking that they were fucking really two of. 0:11:36.200 --> 0:11:39.240 Them had specially needs fucking cousins and it was like, yo, 0:11:39.480 --> 0:11:41.240 but really, I'm not even trying to be funny. 0:11:42.160 --> 0:11:43.480 Can you imagine. 0:11:43.480 --> 0:11:46.880 Brother who's special needs and you meet somebody who also 0:11:46.960 --> 0:11:47.880 is going through the same thing. 0:11:47.920 --> 0:11:48.880 You're like, oh my. 0:11:49.080 --> 0:11:52.600 Someone will understand me. Yeah now, no, I'll do a 0:11:52.600 --> 0:11:55.360 family tree. You were just making me think something, figure 0:11:55.400 --> 0:11:57.840 this out, because baby, we might get together and have 0:11:57.920 --> 0:12:00.360 kids that end up like our cousins. You know when 0:12:00.360 --> 0:12:03.720 I noticed the biggest differentiation in myself and my partner 0:12:03.840 --> 0:12:08.360 right now, what my Florida shit, the nigga be looking 0:12:08.360 --> 0:12:10.679 at me like, bitch, you are a bird. Don't let 0:12:10.679 --> 0:12:12.880 no Kodak come on it. Look it's really embarrassing. He 0:12:13.000 --> 0:12:15.720 told me that in backstage in our show we were 0:12:15.720 --> 0:12:17.880 playing Kaya. He was like, I looked at you like 0:12:17.880 --> 0:12:22.160 I cannot leave on Well you're out Florida, Florida's own. 0:12:22.679 --> 0:12:25.920 It really enjoy if I would have been on that 0:12:26.000 --> 0:12:29.880 show and met a nigga from Florida, Oh it's over. 0:12:30.200 --> 0:12:31.960 I'm probably going to match with you because I'm like, 0:12:32.080 --> 0:12:35.880 we shouldna say, git, you've grace fault. And as much 0:12:35.920 --> 0:12:37.680 as people say like, oh, you know how we change 0:12:37.679 --> 0:12:40.120 our voice out of that, when I go back to Florida, 0:12:40.240 --> 0:12:43.000 it takes me like a few days to get it out, 0:12:43.280 --> 0:12:44.120 like real bad. 0:12:44.080 --> 0:12:45.719 Damn did that happen to? 0:12:45.800 --> 0:12:46.000 You know? 0:12:46.040 --> 0:12:46.240 Bitch? 0:12:46.280 --> 0:12:47.679 I go down there and I'd be like what, I 0:12:47.920 --> 0:12:50.880 don't understand anybody like I'd be like, god, damn, this 0:12:50.920 --> 0:12:54.559 is would be talking about nigga, I ain't gonna hold you, 0:12:54.559 --> 0:12:57.040 and I'm like, yuck, but I don't like accents, And 0:12:57.080 --> 0:12:59.000 I realized, oh, it's very deep down here. 0:12:59.559 --> 0:13:00.959 I you literally have it. 0:13:01.520 --> 0:13:04.080 I don't sound like do you got me fucked up? 0:13:04.440 --> 0:13:06.160 When I go anywhere, they'd be like, you're from New York. 0:13:06.160 --> 0:13:07.080 But I think it's because I'm loud. 0:13:07.160 --> 0:13:09.920 Okay, I do not sound do you know why people 0:13:09.920 --> 0:13:12.120 they don't sound like No, I don't sound deep like 0:13:12.160 --> 0:13:16.320 the thing we're from New York because the dressing is elevated. Okay, 0:13:16.520 --> 0:13:19.080 Like when you go to another spot in the States, 0:13:19.640 --> 0:13:22.200 you're clothes, you realize like, oh, like I got some 0:13:22.240 --> 0:13:24.920 more sweaty I now even when I'm in La, right 0:13:25.600 --> 0:13:28.240 the way that people know I'm not from LA or 0:13:28.640 --> 0:13:29.040 you don't. 0:13:28.880 --> 0:13:30.760 Wear spandex, I was gonna say, it's. 0:13:30.600 --> 0:13:33.880 Not it's not as leisure and it's not dead as 0:13:34.040 --> 0:13:34.440 You're right. 0:13:35.080 --> 0:13:38.520 They wear leggings and ship, that's it, and they all. 0:13:38.440 --> 0:13:41.040 Just you putting shit on that just kind of look 0:13:41.080 --> 0:13:43.640 a little different. You're almost like, does this not match? 0:13:43.720 --> 0:13:45.880 And in New York that ship is a vibe. The 0:13:45.920 --> 0:13:48.080 only thing LA girls do that New York girls do 0:13:48.160 --> 0:13:49.920 is a cargo pant and a crop tea. Because that's 0:13:50.000 --> 0:13:52.440 just bad bitch wear in the summertime. Yeah right, that's 0:13:52.480 --> 0:13:53.880 what all about. He's gonna wear in summertime. 0:13:53.880 --> 0:13:54.400 Butter than that. 0:13:54.520 --> 0:13:57.760 No, I's be knowing and I really appreciate it. Like 0:13:58.000 --> 0:13:59.720 Bruh and the niggas dressed the same. 0:14:00.160 --> 0:14:02.319 It's cool because it's kind of sexy for l A 0:14:02.880 --> 0:14:05.040 like if you want to wear es centrals every day? 0:14:05.120 --> 0:14:06.840 Cool, Like I get that to your do your. 0:14:06.760 --> 0:14:10.240 Neutral the neutral. But I do like a little skater boy. 0:14:10.320 --> 0:14:12.760 I like a little gate Actually, if I could put 0:14:12.800 --> 0:14:15.400 the Mexican style on a black man kind of like 0:14:15.760 --> 0:14:16.320 not Ocho. 0:14:16.400 --> 0:14:16.880 What's his name? 0:14:16.920 --> 0:14:22.120 He got his song Ochog that nigga be dressing. Okay, 0:14:22.400 --> 0:14:24.360 he got a swag to him with the dickies. He 0:14:24.480 --> 0:14:26.880 dresses like a Mexican is what you're saying, okay? 0:14:27.880 --> 0:14:29.280 Or Mexicans. 0:14:30.080 --> 0:14:31.080 He's just like you. 0:14:31.880 --> 0:14:36.800 No dosetress quatro something, bitch? What is it in your 0:14:36.840 --> 0:14:37.240 d today? 0:14:37.520 --> 0:14:38.640 I forgot what I forgot? 0:14:42.920 --> 0:14:45.680 It's not it's the ot genesis nigga. 0:14:45.960 --> 0:14:47.920 You mean, first of all, the song from I Think 0:14:47.960 --> 0:14:53.920 It's My Local. 0:14:53.440 --> 0:14:55.200 That is a whole different song. That's not a whole 0:14:55.200 --> 0:14:58.520 different beat. That's why she just started saying something in Spanish. 0:14:58.320 --> 0:14:59.280 Yeah, I forgot. 0:14:59.400 --> 0:15:01.720 I'm not at him my hall pass list. 0:15:02.320 --> 0:15:04.280 Y G is added to your hall pass list. 0:15:04.360 --> 0:15:10.400 Yeah, it's probably a swag. Okay, right now, it's then which. 0:15:10.240 --> 0:15:10.840 Is the one? 0:15:11.440 --> 0:15:11.600 One? 0:15:11.720 --> 0:15:15.040 Is? His name is m J. Whole different guy? 0:15:15.360 --> 0:15:20.320 Anyway, I don't know him so to me all the niggas, 0:15:22.000 --> 0:15:23.320 wow y g okay, b. 0:15:23.440 --> 0:15:26.200 I'm not gonna hold you whenever left right, let me 0:15:26.240 --> 0:15:29.400 see you do it. I'm like, okay, that's. 0:15:28.160 --> 0:15:33.800 Just that's crazy. That is crazy. 0:15:34.040 --> 0:15:34.400 I love. 0:15:36.760 --> 0:15:39.880 Aesthetically like, he looks like what I want to pass 0:15:39.880 --> 0:15:41.240 and want to suck his dick from the back. 0:15:41.280 --> 0:15:43.440 Now are you looking at him? That nigga? 0:15:43.520 --> 0:15:44.680 Look you looking at him? 0:15:45.600 --> 0:15:47.240 He looks like if you had these hills on, he 0:15:47.280 --> 0:15:48.120 may have to look up. 0:15:48.760 --> 0:15:49.840 No, I don't think he's not short. 0:15:50.080 --> 0:15:54.840 He's I actually think he's tall. 0:15:55.000 --> 0:15:56.720 So you guess on his head five nine. 0:15:57.080 --> 0:15:58.120 I'm gonna say six to one. 0:15:58.280 --> 0:16:00.280 He's six feet okay, which means. 0:16:00.200 --> 0:16:01.880 He's five ten and a half. No, no, no, he's 0:16:01.880 --> 0:16:02.200 not short. 0:16:02.400 --> 0:16:04.000 They even know you think. 0:16:05.800 --> 0:16:08.440 Away from Iverson is not even over six ft in 0:16:08.480 --> 0:16:10.840 the internet, say he's six to one. Go look and 0:16:10.880 --> 0:16:14.040 see how tay Allen Iverson is. Alan Iverson is lucky 0:16:14.040 --> 0:16:15.480 to be five eleven and three quarters. 0:16:15.840 --> 0:16:17.760 Why do you think that is though? Because they be 0:16:17.840 --> 0:16:20.640 lying just says six feet and he ain't. If you 0:16:20.720 --> 0:16:23.640 five eleven six quarters, I'm giving you six. 0:16:23.800 --> 0:16:29.240 No, Ai is not fucking six feet tall. I'm telling you, Bro, 0:16:29.320 --> 0:16:31.240 I'm five to one out have been in the same spot. Bro, 0:16:31.280 --> 0:16:32.840 that nigga used to be at the strip club every 0:16:32.840 --> 0:16:33.880 time when I lived in Atlanta. 0:16:34.040 --> 0:16:36.760 He's six ft to you, No, he's six foot that 0:16:36.920 --> 0:16:38.000 he is under six ft. 0:16:38.800 --> 0:16:40.000 I'm telling you he's not sure. I've seen him. 0:16:40.040 --> 0:16:41.800 No, I've seen why you too. He's short to me. 0:16:42.080 --> 0:16:46.479 I mean, okay, we have to understand that Mandy's parameters. 0:16:46.520 --> 0:16:50.920 Tall is very different. I'm like miniature to her. I 0:16:50.920 --> 0:16:54.920 can say no, essentially based off this math. Yeah, based 0:16:54.960 --> 0:16:55.560 off this math. 0:16:55.760 --> 0:16:58.480 I'm saying that Normally, when niggas say he's six ft, 0:16:58.960 --> 0:17:00.000 it's two inches short. 0:17:00.080 --> 0:17:01.960 Someone google helps tall Duke Dennis this did you want 0:17:01.960 --> 0:17:02.640 to put that, nigga? 0:17:03.400 --> 0:17:07.159 Oh, he's already looked up. He likes sixty three. Duke 0:17:07.200 --> 0:17:08.320 dinnis like sixty three right. 0:17:08.400 --> 0:17:10.920 To two inches? 0:17:11.119 --> 0:17:14.840 Now, first bet you wouldn't say that about no Dick. 0:17:15.200 --> 0:17:16.280 Yes, two more inches. 0:17:16.359 --> 0:17:18.320 That's forty all, bro. 0:17:18.600 --> 0:17:20.560 Two inches on a heel is a lot, two inches 0:17:21.080 --> 0:17:23.000 a lot, two inches on a human being is a lot. 0:17:23.960 --> 0:17:24.720 Are y'all serious? 0:17:24.960 --> 0:17:26.760 You wouldn't be tight. I just told Wolf I'll be tight. 0:17:26.800 --> 0:17:27.080 I lost. 0:17:27.280 --> 0:17:29.679 There's niggas reason I take it. I'm not as shallow 0:17:29.720 --> 0:17:30.320 as you. 0:17:30.680 --> 0:17:33.800 There are niggas doing their whole knees to get two inches. 0:17:34.160 --> 0:17:35.800 I don't need to be taller. I'm good. 0:17:35.880 --> 0:17:37.560 But that's what I'm saying. Y'all better stop acting like 0:17:37.560 --> 0:17:38.320 two inches in a lot? 0:17:38.400 --> 0:17:40.600 Yes, girl with you. 0:17:41.760 --> 0:17:44.000 Now, I'm just saying two inches of the difference between 0:17:44.240 --> 0:17:45.440 a cute heel and a kitten. 0:17:45.880 --> 0:17:48.840 There's a difference, bitch. Let's talk about the inches here, 0:17:49.040 --> 0:17:49.320 all right. 0:17:49.400 --> 0:17:52.119 Let me ask you a question. Right, A dude is 0:17:52.320 --> 0:17:54.880 six ' to two, but he also got a six 0:17:54.960 --> 0:17:57.480 inch dick. You could either lose one of the two 0:17:57.480 --> 0:18:00.760 inches from either side. Which two inches is you lose it? 0:18:00.800 --> 0:18:02.640 I'm gonna keep the dick, is it? 0:18:02.680 --> 0:18:03.240 Is it girthy? 0:18:05.440 --> 0:18:08.280 It's a normal girl, and I'm my mandy on this 0:18:08.280 --> 0:18:11.720 one than two inches? Actually yeah, wait, he's six he's six. 0:18:12.600 --> 0:18:15.440 Oh, he's six. He's six ft okay, six ft. He 0:18:15.560 --> 0:18:17.240 has got to go to the six foot. 0:18:17.359 --> 0:18:20.560 So you had to lose. 0:18:19.400 --> 0:18:21.679 From a six footer or two inches of dick from a. 0:18:21.680 --> 0:18:23.280 Six inch So he's out of five ten or four 0:18:23.320 --> 0:18:24.120 inches either Way'm. 0:18:23.920 --> 0:18:25.960 Gonna kick the dick, keep the dick six inch to 0:18:26.000 --> 0:18:28.120 me is not bad. I think six inch is really good. 0:18:28.440 --> 0:18:29.920 He loved when you went love to six. 0:18:30.440 --> 0:18:31.840 You're gonna let me fuck out the niggas. 0:18:32.160 --> 0:18:38.240 No, see, look that's crazy. That's the compromise. 0:18:38.800 --> 0:18:42.000 I mean what, bitch, I want to be a little tall. 0:18:42.280 --> 0:18:43.080 Let me look up at you. 0:18:45.000 --> 0:18:47.720 But he's gonna be five to ten over a six 0:18:47.720 --> 0:18:53.120 inch dick. No, man, bro, that's what I'm saying. 0:18:53.440 --> 0:18:54.760 I'm a Napoleon complex. 0:18:56.200 --> 0:18:56.880 I'm glad. 0:18:57.359 --> 0:19:03.119 Yeah, I'm just saying, is not no point taller, bitch, 0:19:03.200 --> 0:19:06.119 I feel taller than what I really am. 0:19:06.480 --> 0:19:09.960 I'm just saying, I'm like, okay, y'all being real judgy 0:19:10.119 --> 0:19:10.560 right now. 0:19:11.680 --> 0:19:18.160 No, both would the she's losing the two inches height, 0:19:18.359 --> 0:19:19.800 I'm losing the two inches of dick. 0:19:19.880 --> 0:19:20.720 But it's going to be. 0:19:22.800 --> 0:19:25.720 I get extra, I get some more dick, or bitch, 0:19:25.720 --> 0:19:27.560 I'll put an extender on him at this point, like, 0:19:27.560 --> 0:19:28.120 because I am. 0:19:28.240 --> 0:19:30.680 I would be So why would you be tight. 0:19:30.560 --> 0:19:35.960 About the extender? You know you can extend your dick. 0:19:37.480 --> 0:19:39.280 You don't want to put your dick inside of another dick? 0:19:39.840 --> 0:19:45.000 No, actually that is a good question for. 0:19:46.640 --> 0:19:46.800 Dick. 0:19:46.880 --> 0:19:48.879 Yeah, wait, no, I would ask No, I want to 0:19:48.880 --> 0:19:52.560 ask this question So would you where an if you're 0:19:52.640 --> 0:19:55.000 if you got with a woman who lets you know 0:19:55.040 --> 0:19:57.680 that she's a size queen, would. 0:19:57.359 --> 0:19:59.080 You even if you have a ten inches dick right now, 0:19:59.080 --> 0:19:59.480 I don't. 0:19:59.320 --> 0:20:00.960 Care about the side Like say you got a small 0:20:01.000 --> 0:20:02.720 dick and you get with a size queen but you 0:20:02.800 --> 0:20:06.720 love her dearly. Would you rather wear the extendo on 0:20:06.760 --> 0:20:09.119 your dick to make your dick bigger? Or would you 0:20:09.160 --> 0:20:10.800 allow her to fuck nigga with a big dick? 0:20:11.119 --> 0:20:18.800 Oh, that's a good question. Which what what's your answer? 0:20:19.800 --> 0:20:21.720 So you you don't have a brain of y'all wolf, 0:20:21.760 --> 0:20:22.239 I want to hear. 0:20:22.680 --> 0:20:25.719 I'm gonna have to add the extend though I'm not 0:20:25.760 --> 0:20:27.080 into dude my girls. 0:20:27.160 --> 0:20:30.359 Okay, I don't like either one of these options, but 0:20:30.480 --> 0:20:31.880 I'm picking the extendo for sure. 0:20:32.200 --> 0:20:34.359 Yeah, I'm not letting my girl. 0:20:34.960 --> 0:20:41.399 God, but y'all want three songs fucking another bitch and 0:20:41.480 --> 0:20:42.320 we're gonna do three songs. 0:20:42.400 --> 0:20:43.320 Let me get some old dick. 0:20:43.400 --> 0:20:43.920 God, damn. 0:20:43.960 --> 0:20:49.080 Honestly, men are show used to over time feeling emasculated 0:20:49.080 --> 0:20:51.480 by another MANU girl that I think. 0:20:51.520 --> 0:20:55.800 But I'm a cheek that you think? What that? 0:20:55.920 --> 0:20:56.320 I think? 0:20:56.920 --> 0:21:00.119 I try to when they do the devil standard. And 0:21:00.160 --> 0:21:03.520 I only give them grace because the patriarchy has tried 0:21:03.560 --> 0:21:06.000 to make women understand like they're good to fuck other women. 0:21:06.000 --> 0:21:07.880 They're good to fuck other women, and there's nobody doing 0:21:07.920 --> 0:21:10.359 that for us. There's nobody saying, hey, women want to 0:21:10.480 --> 0:21:12.520 meet someone else. They want to do this, ladies, I 0:21:12.560 --> 0:21:13.520 will be your savior. 0:21:13.760 --> 0:21:16.760 We want more dick, Give us more dick. Some of 0:21:16.840 --> 0:21:19.960 us want trains, some of us want gang bangs, some 0:21:20.000 --> 0:21:25.200 of us want BUKACKI wheezy. I think that we should start. 0:21:25.520 --> 0:21:26.760 We should be here today. 0:21:27.600 --> 0:21:31.800 No, we should be we should we should today stand 0:21:31.880 --> 0:21:35.399 up as a woman to let the world know that 0:21:35.600 --> 0:21:38.720 women desire and crave and. 0:21:38.880 --> 0:21:41.560 Yearn President, I'm going. 0:21:41.480 --> 0:21:43.520 To hope that you get your gang bangs, you keep 0:21:43.560 --> 0:21:47.760 your trades at least once a goddamn here, and I 0:21:47.960 --> 0:21:49.480 prodly stand. 0:21:53.000 --> 0:21:57.119 A year. I feel like men embrace their freaks. Excuse me, 0:21:57.200 --> 0:21:58.119 I don't think so, bro. 0:21:58.240 --> 0:21:58.840 Let me tell you. 0:21:59.560 --> 0:22:03.280 I don't think the world accepts like just seeing what 0:22:03.280 --> 0:22:06.600 what what the world. And when I say the world, 0:22:06.720 --> 0:22:09.280 the internet and everyone had to say about Adam twenty 0:22:09.280 --> 0:22:13.080 two allowing Lena to sleep with other men completely let 0:22:13.080 --> 0:22:15.480 me know that a lot of men, even if they 0:22:15.560 --> 0:22:18.240 would be okay with it, don't know how to express 0:22:18.280 --> 0:22:20.359 it or what. Never want to let anyone know that 0:22:20.760 --> 0:22:23.240 it wouldn't bother me if my bitch went out and 0:22:23.280 --> 0:22:26.280 fucked another guy. But I think because of how everyone 0:22:26.320 --> 0:22:30.600 around him would make him feel for that decision, it's something. 0:22:30.280 --> 0:22:32.640 That nor ain't nobody going to dine. 0:22:32.680 --> 0:22:35.080 Oh, let me tell you something to people that were 0:22:35.119 --> 0:22:37.840 acting like that with Adam. Hate Adam twenty two because 0:22:37.840 --> 0:22:39.000 he's white with a hippiexide. 0:22:39.119 --> 0:22:41.040 That's kind that makes sense. 0:22:41.280 --> 0:22:41.919 Hate him for that. 0:22:42.119 --> 0:22:45.240 Yeah, he already was dating a woman who was doing 0:22:45.280 --> 0:22:48.800 sex with sex work like then y'all took it even further. Bro, 0:22:48.920 --> 0:22:50.600 I just want to say something. I don't even know 0:22:50.640 --> 0:22:53.000 if they'll see this, but I work with a woman 0:22:53.480 --> 0:22:57.000 with Kenya Barris that literally told me she just found 0:22:57.000 --> 0:23:00.280 out that she goes to school whatever privates. Well, she 0:23:00.280 --> 0:23:03.119 has her kid in. Adam and Lenna's daughter go there. Okay, 0:23:03.240 --> 0:23:05.680 she was like, hey, do you know who Lenna? Wait, 0:23:05.720 --> 0:23:09.000 you talked about this and so basically talked about how 0:23:09.040 --> 0:23:12.480 normal Adam and Lena were on this field trip. She's like, 0:23:12.520 --> 0:23:14.760 he's so cool, They're so great. They're such great parents. 0:23:14.840 --> 0:23:16.280 I can't believe they do born. 0:23:16.960 --> 0:23:20.719 And I'm like, how why kids get her? 0:23:21.200 --> 0:23:22.440 Regular people have sex, but. 0:23:22.440 --> 0:23:25.040 Here's the things that have sex. This woman. 0:23:25.080 --> 0:23:26.680 The woman is kind of older, and she's like, I 0:23:26.720 --> 0:23:30.040 cannot believe it. I cannot believe right. And so the 0:23:30.080 --> 0:23:31.840 fact that Adam and Lenna, I'm like, Yo, I wish 0:23:31.880 --> 0:23:33.000 you knew how much money they were making. 0:23:33.000 --> 0:23:34.080 I wish you knew how big they were. 0:23:34.160 --> 0:23:38.120 Yeah, they probably make more money than you, bitch, Sorry. 0:23:37.440 --> 0:23:41.159 On my friend, I work well, but problem, get out 0:23:41.240 --> 0:23:41.560 your hair. 0:23:42.080 --> 0:23:44.800 But no, I think the point is, like, this is 0:23:44.840 --> 0:23:48.040 someone whose kid goes to school with their kids the 0:23:48.200 --> 0:23:51.239 internet is looking at. First of all, Lenna has her 0:23:51.280 --> 0:23:53.840 own Lenda the mom. She even has an Instagram where 0:23:53.880 --> 0:23:57.080 she shares her family life. Right, they're real fucking parents. 0:23:57.200 --> 0:24:01.400 And like the fact that one world you can see 0:24:01.400 --> 0:24:04.240 this is okay. One world he's okay being an interviewer. 0:24:04.320 --> 0:24:06.440 It's okay when she's just doing OnlyFans. In the second 0:24:06.480 --> 0:24:10.440 it's sex with another man. Now we're gonna fucking shit 0:24:10.520 --> 0:24:11.080 all over. 0:24:10.920 --> 0:24:13.400 It, and it did. Bro, I'm not gonna lie. 0:24:14.600 --> 0:24:17.280 I think adamyo act like it's okay. But that shit 0:24:17.280 --> 0:24:17.959 would bother me. 0:24:18.119 --> 0:24:18.840 I ain't gonna hold you. 0:24:18.880 --> 0:24:21.879 That's why I know y'all be like, uh like you 0:24:22.000 --> 0:24:25.040 being in a sex club every bitch. I've been going 0:24:25.080 --> 0:24:26.640 like bi weekly just to go and talk to people 0:24:26.720 --> 0:24:29.360 because it's so refreshing to just be around people who 0:24:29.400 --> 0:24:32.640 are just so openly accepting of their kinks and other 0:24:32.760 --> 0:24:36.040 people and seeing seeing was fine, but seeing people bring 0:24:36.080 --> 0:24:38.680 even their partners like and that's what I even loved 0:24:38.680 --> 0:24:41.000 about going to Hito when we went, like talking to 0:24:41.680 --> 0:24:44.520 a married couple who brought condoms, and the man was like, 0:24:44.640 --> 0:24:45.840 and these ain't for me, these. 0:24:45.680 --> 0:24:46.840 Are if she wants to have fun. 0:24:47.119 --> 0:24:49.760 Like, I love to know that there are people that 0:24:49.840 --> 0:24:53.520 are literally living in whatever truth that they've created for 0:24:53.640 --> 0:24:56.800 them that makes them happy, that removes all of the 0:24:56.840 --> 0:24:58.359 stigma that fucking society has. 0:24:58.359 --> 0:25:02.440 There's there's a screenshot someone told me that I'm not Oh, 0:25:02.560 --> 0:25:05.760 that's not love weezy like the relationship I'm in. And 0:25:05.840 --> 0:25:09.880 I read this comment from this week's episode. So many 0:25:09.960 --> 0:25:13.840 cis hetero people live in extreme contradictions, cheating but judging 0:25:13.920 --> 0:25:17.800 open relationships, don't get tested, but have hello raw sex yep, 0:25:17.920 --> 0:25:19.679 don't believe in abortions, but don't take care of their 0:25:19.760 --> 0:25:23.600 kids or do any form of due diligence on selecting 0:25:23.640 --> 0:25:24.399 the right partner. 0:25:24.560 --> 0:25:24.760 Yep. 0:25:24.920 --> 0:25:27.080 And that to me is so important because you don't 0:25:27.080 --> 0:25:29.520 believe in abortions, but you're having a baby with someone 0:25:29.560 --> 0:25:31.199 that you don't really give a fuck about, and you're 0:25:31.200 --> 0:25:31.680 bringing a gun. 0:25:31.760 --> 0:25:34.399 To me, it's the fucking everybody raw and not getting 0:25:34.400 --> 0:25:38.480 tested judging sex workers who get tested like damn near 0:25:38.480 --> 0:25:39.320 every nine days. 0:25:39.600 --> 0:25:42.040 So and that's really why I chose today to talk 0:25:42.080 --> 0:25:47.240 about so much about active parenthood, because Yeah, I'm trying 0:25:47.240 --> 0:25:48.720 to think of something else. I wanted to talk to 0:25:48.720 --> 0:25:54.800 you about Vanilla Ship. No, something about you that I was 0:25:54.840 --> 0:26:03.040 trying to follo. Oh what was the follow up? What's 0:26:03.040 --> 0:26:05.480 been the follow up from from the couple? Have you 0:26:05.520 --> 0:26:06.520 spoken to them for what? 0:26:06.760 --> 0:26:06.879 No? 0:26:06.920 --> 0:26:08.040 They got to get the ship together? 0:26:08.080 --> 0:26:10.600 Oh so they haven't even like that was that's all 0:26:10.640 --> 0:26:13.159 I wanted to know. They had like a picture nothing yet? 0:26:13.359 --> 0:26:15.639 Well no, I also was like I don't. Oh yeah, no, 0:26:15.800 --> 0:26:17.640 I still follow Yeah that's been happening. 0:26:18.119 --> 0:26:24.119 Uh just any light conbo there? Yeah, no, anyway, all right, 0:26:24.240 --> 0:26:25.200 Solla ship. 0:26:26.040 --> 0:26:28.960 This one is gets a little dark, but a great 0:26:29.000 --> 0:26:31.120 topic to talk about, and we often don't really talk 0:26:31.160 --> 0:26:33.600 about the R word. Trigger warning if you want to 0:26:33.600 --> 0:26:35.320 skip a few minutes. We'll put it in the description 0:26:35.359 --> 0:26:36.800 of this bio. What part you don't have to hear 0:26:36.840 --> 0:26:40.640 about what our word stuff? So our word is rape? 0:26:41.760 --> 0:26:43.679 What are you you know? 0:26:45.640 --> 0:26:45.880 I mean? 0:26:45.920 --> 0:26:49.560 Although in trouble for the other R word, she had 0:26:49.560 --> 0:26:50.680 to change the whole Goddamn. 0:26:50.760 --> 0:26:51.879 I really feel like I had to. 0:26:52.880 --> 0:26:55.560 Why that show? You don't think they know what the 0:26:55.640 --> 0:26:58.400 R word is anyway? NPR dot Org. 0:26:58.880 --> 0:27:02.080 There is a new law happened around July, but you're 0:27:02.119 --> 0:27:05.400 just getting around to talking about it now. In Louisiana, 0:27:06.000 --> 0:27:09.560 there is a surgical castration law. It is the first 0:27:09.600 --> 0:27:11.800 state to allow, if you don't know what that means, 0:27:11.840 --> 0:27:15.000 your dick to be cut off as a punishment for 0:27:15.200 --> 0:27:19.760 sex crimes under a new law with a Republican governor, 0:27:20.000 --> 0:27:21.960 which this to me, is kind of crazy because I 0:27:21.960 --> 0:27:26.840 feel like victims of rape aren't normally protected enough by 0:27:26.880 --> 0:27:28.840 Republicans to me, not from what I've been reading, but 0:27:29.359 --> 0:27:31.600 especially with abortune and making them have the kids. So 0:27:31.640 --> 0:27:34.000 it's kind of ironic that a Republican governor is doing this. 0:27:34.080 --> 0:27:37.560 But whatever, he's allowing judges to order people found guilty 0:27:37.640 --> 0:27:41.880 of certain sex crimes against Myerner to undergo a christ So. 0:27:41.840 --> 0:27:44.160 It's specific to pedophilia, yes, okay. 0:27:44.200 --> 0:27:46.520 So the use of the castration as a punishment is 0:27:46.560 --> 0:27:51.639 a permanent US procedure that will remove the testicles or 0:27:51.680 --> 0:27:56.080 the ovaries to stop the production of sex hormones. 0:27:56.520 --> 0:27:59.080 It is actually very rare around the world. 0:27:59.480 --> 0:28:00.359 Check public. 0:28:01.119 --> 0:28:04.760 Madagascar and Nigeria have some laws on the books about it. 0:28:05.040 --> 0:28:06.879 I also have these new braces. I shouldn't have been 0:28:06.880 --> 0:28:11.280 reading an article. Several states, including Louisiana, have allowed for 0:28:11.480 --> 0:28:16.320 chemical castration with pharmaceutical drugs to push down these sex 0:28:16.359 --> 0:28:18.600 offenders drive. I didn't even know that, okay, but it's 0:28:18.640 --> 0:28:23.560 grabbing headlines because it's raising concerns around ethics and constitutionality 0:28:23.600 --> 0:28:26.399 of the law over whether the punishment. 0:28:25.920 --> 0:28:27.480 Would actually make a difference. 0:28:27.920 --> 0:28:32.520 That made me too, mainly because any friend of mine, 0:28:32.840 --> 0:28:34.520 I never had something happen to me when I was 0:28:34.520 --> 0:28:36.840 a kid, but a lot of them was touching. 0:28:37.280 --> 0:28:39.400 It wasn't entrgue with a penis. 0:28:39.800 --> 0:28:41.600 They got touched by an uncle, they got touched by 0:28:41.640 --> 0:28:43.800 a cousin, or even one of the people I know 0:28:43.880 --> 0:28:47.600 their father and it wasn't full on sex, but it 0:28:47.640 --> 0:28:51.000 was touching. So there are e but so that's the thing. 0:28:51.040 --> 0:28:53.640 But that's why it's a testical excuse me because of producing. 0:28:55.000 --> 0:28:58.120 So that's why I think when you discuss the R 0:28:58.160 --> 0:29:02.560 word and the R word kid, that's why that's why 0:29:02.600 --> 0:29:05.360 semen semen is involved in all of that, like because 0:29:05.360 --> 0:29:08.440 it does include that part of the sex act so 0:29:08.480 --> 0:29:11.720 to me. To me though, in terms of it being 0:29:11.720 --> 0:29:17.160 a punishment, I think the the psychology around what even 0:29:17.160 --> 0:29:19.680 we talk about in terms of sex and what people 0:29:19.720 --> 0:29:23.280 get off on. If this person is no longer having 0:29:23.440 --> 0:29:26.640 the desire need to explode, which is how we know 0:29:26.720 --> 0:29:30.080 a lot of men get there, you know, and they're 0:29:30.760 --> 0:29:32.840 what they look like, you know, what they enjoy, I 0:29:32.880 --> 0:29:36.360 think it could lead to maybe people going to more 0:29:36.400 --> 0:29:40.680 extremes like sodomy or using different tools or different things, 0:29:41.320 --> 0:29:42.720 you know, kind of like what fucking. 0:29:42.640 --> 0:29:45.520 Who's the nick that I just watched? Who's the uh 0:29:46.000 --> 0:29:46.600 Ted Bundy? 0:29:47.680 --> 0:29:51.160 Like the way that you have a you you, I 0:29:51.200 --> 0:29:53.320 think that it could lead to you having a different 0:29:53.360 --> 0:29:55.240 type of mind to where you will get off for 0:29:55.360 --> 0:29:57.920 maybe things if you have the sick mind to force 0:29:57.960 --> 0:30:00.520 yourself on a child, or force your up into an 0:30:00.560 --> 0:30:03.920 individual that is not consenting. I think if that gets 0:30:04.000 --> 0:30:07.560 taken away, your mind can become more deserved, more disturbed 0:30:07.720 --> 0:30:09.920 to you taking advantage of people in other ways, well, 0:30:09.960 --> 0:30:11.400 let me mean it could be sick age. 0:30:11.760 --> 0:30:15.240 So this is rape, incest, and molestation under thirteen. The 0:30:15.280 --> 0:30:19.240 punishment is on the judge discretion. Now you can refuse it, 0:30:19.720 --> 0:30:22.160 and if you refuse it, you have another three to 0:30:22.240 --> 0:30:25.960 five years of additional prison sentence without getting our early. 0:30:26.720 --> 0:30:31.800 The law doesn't allow anyone under seventeen to receive that punishment. 0:30:33.760 --> 0:30:36.760 The rep said they were inspired to propose the bill 0:30:36.840 --> 0:30:39.040 after seeing a disturbing article about a fifty one year 0:30:39.080 --> 0:30:41.760 old man who was arrested for raping a twelve year 0:30:41.800 --> 0:30:45.720 old and the story revealed he was already a registered 0:30:45.760 --> 0:30:48.760 sex offender and he raped a five year old and 0:30:48.800 --> 0:30:52.400 O seven and she believes that there wasn't a strong 0:30:52.520 --> 0:30:55.000 enough law to stop it and believes that forcing that 0:30:55.040 --> 0:31:00.720 procedure could have saved that person. And also raping a 0:31:00.760 --> 0:31:03.720 five year old is such a cruel and unusual punishment. 0:31:03.960 --> 0:31:05.880 He later did it to a twelve year old, which 0:31:05.920 --> 0:31:06.520 is a lot older. 0:31:06.520 --> 0:31:08.800 But yeah, I don't know. 0:31:08.840 --> 0:31:11.160 It made me think a lot, because, to be honest, 0:31:11.160 --> 0:31:15.160 if it's my kid, do it. But that's also how 0:31:15.200 --> 0:31:17.040 I'm feeling in that moment. So I wondered if there 0:31:17.080 --> 0:31:19.520 could be another layer, and I actually think the layer. 0:31:19.720 --> 0:31:21.640 Should be incess. 0:31:21.880 --> 0:31:26.080 I think pedophilia is a sickness that would be like 0:31:27.480 --> 0:31:31.880 I guess autism. There's like so with autism, there's no medicaid, 0:31:32.000 --> 0:31:35.760 like you're living with autism. I think that if your brain, girl, 0:31:35.840 --> 0:31:38.760 know you did no let me finish, let me get here, 0:31:39.120 --> 0:31:42.719 If your brain puts you to where you feel like 0:31:42.920 --> 0:31:46.640 pedophilia like you can't control it. I think that if 0:31:46.800 --> 0:31:49.960 because it's a crime, that you should be in jail 0:31:50.000 --> 0:31:52.520 forever a five year old, I think you there shouldn't 0:31:52.520 --> 0:31:54.400 be a time that you get out. I think that 0:31:54.520 --> 0:31:57.200 because in your mind, you did nothing wrong. And I 0:31:57.240 --> 0:31:59.040 don't think that there's rehabilitation for. 0:31:59.560 --> 0:32:01.720 Pedophil Let me take that. 0:32:03.160 --> 0:32:04.960 I think that it's a sickness that we've made it 0:32:05.000 --> 0:32:06.880 also into a crime. So I don't think that they 0:32:06.880 --> 0:32:08.520 should be out in the open. I think that they 0:32:08.560 --> 0:32:11.400 need to be locked away. Not that there's anything wrong 0:32:11.440 --> 0:32:12.200 with I. 0:32:12.240 --> 0:32:15.000 Want to be sure. I draw that parallel what I'm saying. No, no, no, 0:32:15.040 --> 0:32:15.640 that's what I'm saying. 0:32:15.680 --> 0:32:15.880 Let me. 0:32:16.320 --> 0:32:18.600 Let me make it to where it's a sickness that 0:32:19.280 --> 0:32:21.400 a crime is attached to it that I don't think 0:32:21.440 --> 0:32:23.840 that you rehabilitate out of because I think that there's 0:32:23.920 --> 0:32:26.880 literally something just unbalanced, and. 0:32:29.840 --> 0:32:31.920 I want to because they can't put them in jail. 0:32:31.960 --> 0:32:33.520 I agree, even a five year old, you got to 0:32:33.520 --> 0:32:34.120 go to jail for life. 0:32:34.200 --> 0:32:36.640 Yeah, that's jail for life. You don't get out, and 0:32:37.160 --> 0:32:38.440 you know what I mean. Or I'm cool with I 0:32:38.440 --> 0:32:40.360 would be cool, I would be more little with. Yeah, 0:32:40.400 --> 0:32:42.880 I would be cool with the death on it because 0:32:42.880 --> 0:32:45.640 the trauma that a you put onto that child four life, 0:32:45.880 --> 0:32:49.160 but be the fact that you were probably more likely 0:32:49.480 --> 0:32:51.080 to do it again to another child. 0:32:51.160 --> 0:32:52.880 Noah, bra you got it. You gotta die. 0:32:53.160 --> 0:32:58.760 From five to ten, like then it's twelve. All of 0:32:58.800 --> 0:33:01.479 us are having trauma. And I say that to say, like, 0:33:02.160 --> 0:33:03.880 are we going to kill everybody? Because we are looking 0:33:03.960 --> 0:33:04.600 at five. 0:33:04.400 --> 0:33:07.520 I'm talking about sexual we're talking about rape right now. 0:33:07.560 --> 0:33:09.920 I know we are, and that that was strong so 0:33:10.040 --> 0:33:14.000 to me, yes, any age, but that law specifically was 0:33:14.040 --> 0:33:19.520 for under twelve. I will say for under twelve killed him, motherfucker. 0:33:20.320 --> 0:33:23.920 I don't see how a grown man twenty eight plus 0:33:24.440 --> 0:33:27.240 one could even find a way to where that would be. 0:33:27.240 --> 0:33:28.560 Okay, dude. 0:33:29.080 --> 0:33:33.200 I had a conversation with a man recently where I 0:33:33.240 --> 0:33:35.800 told him about someone I know who's lost their virginity 0:33:35.840 --> 0:33:39.400 to their dad, and he said, I think I dated 0:33:39.480 --> 0:33:41.240 three girls that's father had sex with them. 0:33:41.400 --> 0:33:43.560 Yeah, and he's in his forties. And he was like, 0:33:43.640 --> 0:33:44.760 it's crazy, Like. 0:33:44.840 --> 0:33:46.640 I mean, I talked about it, like that's why my 0:33:46.720 --> 0:33:49.880 uncle is deported. Bro, when did did ten years and 0:33:49.920 --> 0:33:50.640 then got deported? 0:33:51.560 --> 0:33:52.440 Do you know how close? 0:33:52.520 --> 0:33:54.200 And I don't think he would be our family too. 0:33:54.240 --> 0:33:55.160 I don't think he should be out there. 0:33:55.160 --> 0:33:59.280 There's literally every like this is so fucking normal, Like 0:33:59.440 --> 0:34:02.520 I remember this reaction. Maybe maybe I talked about it 0:34:02.560 --> 0:34:04.840 in the book, but that my mom had to someone 0:34:04.880 --> 0:34:06.040 taking me to a toy store. 0:34:06.680 --> 0:34:07.400 Did I talk about it? 0:34:07.480 --> 0:34:08.520 You talked about it on the pod? 0:34:08.600 --> 0:34:10.239 Oh yeah, the way that my mom ran out the 0:34:10.239 --> 0:34:12.440 house or no shoes on, fucking ran after the car, 0:34:12.520 --> 0:34:13.680 tried to pull open the car door. 0:34:13.680 --> 0:34:14.640 And I'm like, why can't. 0:34:14.440 --> 0:34:17.120 I man talking about this all the time. The fact 0:34:17.120 --> 0:34:19.879 that we all have normalized having a creepy uncle. It's 0:34:19.920 --> 0:34:22.680 fucking weird, Like I think the way this is but 0:34:22.719 --> 0:34:24.680 the yeah, but the way that ain't nobody checking these 0:34:24.760 --> 0:34:27.560 niggas like y'all should be disgusted and call these motherfuckers out. 0:34:27.560 --> 0:34:30.040 Why do they keep coming to the barbecue? Why the fuck? 0:34:30.080 --> 0:34:32.600 I don't care if it's your brother Monday, Like, why 0:34:32.640 --> 0:34:35.359 do they keep coming around if you know that they 0:34:35.400 --> 0:34:40.839 have any sort of weirdo creepy ass shitls No, Like, 0:34:41.440 --> 0:34:43.560 why the fuck are they even still being invited around? 0:34:43.600 --> 0:34:46.040 Why are they not being checked? It's disgusting speaking of it. 0:34:46.080 --> 0:34:48.120 Remember the woman who tried to shoot her husband's dick 0:34:48.120 --> 0:34:50.200 off in DC and she's in jail for the daycare. 0:34:50.320 --> 0:34:54.600 For the daycare. Yeah, it's disgusting. Shit nasty out here, bruh. 0:34:54.719 --> 0:34:58.400 Anyway, So yeah, sorry for the trigger warning. 0:34:58.480 --> 0:34:59.000 Hope y'all. 0:34:59.200 --> 0:35:01.840 No, but I mean and most of the time, I vannello. 0:35:01.840 --> 0:35:03.319 Shit is fun. But I mean I do feel like 0:35:03.360 --> 0:35:04.799 sex and the news that was a big deal. 0:35:05.040 --> 0:35:10.080 YEAHNT talk about that one for the hohod dirve. I'll 0:35:10.080 --> 0:35:12.879 tell you right now. It's a braceist tip. The only 0:35:12.880 --> 0:35:16.800 one I got this shit is tough. 0:35:17.080 --> 0:35:20.560 I'm sure you spit more. Oh yeah, you probably could. 0:35:20.640 --> 0:35:21.359 Slap your head. 0:35:23.120 --> 0:35:27.239 So the issue with sucond dick is when you put 0:35:27.280 --> 0:35:30.319 your lips around your teeth, like he can't feel the 0:35:30.320 --> 0:35:33.000 braces right, So the problem isn't for him. 0:35:33.040 --> 0:35:33.960 He don't need to be scared. 0:35:34.000 --> 0:35:36.120 I need to be scared because now the braces are 0:35:36.160 --> 0:35:38.480 rubbing the inside of my che of your gums. So 0:35:38.520 --> 0:35:42.879 the braceist tip I have is literally wax around the teeth. 0:35:42.920 --> 0:35:45.560 They sell this orthodon hiss wax uhuh. But for anyone 0:35:45.600 --> 0:35:46.920 when in Visilin, I know a lot of people do 0:35:46.960 --> 0:35:50.759 other orthrow work where your gums are actually sore. There's 0:35:50.800 --> 0:35:53.680 this thing that starts with a pee sore gum's mouth wash. 0:35:54.080 --> 0:35:56.360 You do that before you suck a dick. Girl, you 0:35:56.360 --> 0:35:58.359 don't feel okay, you have to. 0:35:58.320 --> 0:36:00.520 Leave it in your mouth for two minutes and as 0:36:00.600 --> 0:36:03.680 some ingredient would be, you'll figure out when you go 0:36:03.680 --> 0:36:05.600 to the story there's only like one sore mouth gum thing. 0:36:06.440 --> 0:36:09.520 When you switch it around, literally you don't feel anything 0:36:10.000 --> 0:36:11.200 and then you start drooling. 0:36:11.520 --> 0:36:14.120 Now I'm gonna tell you. You said there's only one 0:36:14.800 --> 0:36:19.279 sore mouth numb thing whatever. Not sure if it's edible, well, baby, 0:36:19.280 --> 0:36:21.600 I don't have had uh. The one that makes the 0:36:22.440 --> 0:36:24.800 no no, no, no no no, the one that's supposed to 0:36:24.880 --> 0:36:25.839 numb your booty off, fra. 0:36:26.760 --> 0:36:28.719 Baby, that ship gets your mouth. 0:36:28.760 --> 0:36:32.600 You're not feeling shitbe I did a little at. 0:36:32.640 --> 0:36:38.200 M and I sucked a little disgusting baby. 0:36:38.239 --> 0:36:40.960 Oh, I mean I'm stuck the dickstraight and mind you, 0:36:41.040 --> 0:36:45.480 I got the pain, I got the numbing lube in 0:36:45.600 --> 0:36:48.480 my ass, not thinking anything of it. Baby, when I 0:36:48.520 --> 0:36:51.840 tell you, I'm I couldn't even bitch. I felt like 0:36:51.880 --> 0:36:54.520 my tongue was gone. I felt like everything was out 0:36:54.560 --> 0:36:59.560 my mouth. Bitch, that's another option, bitch. I was like, girl, 0:37:00.120 --> 0:37:03.279 there my pumpmit. I couldn't talk. Shit was crazy. I 0:37:03.320 --> 0:37:06.799 was like, oh, fuck, I don't fucked up now. Well, well, 0:37:06.840 --> 0:37:08.120 well well say. 0:37:07.920 --> 0:37:10.440 That to say, uh, yeah, so you've used. 0:37:10.320 --> 0:37:12.879 It, yeah, and it works like you don't. 0:37:12.920 --> 0:37:14.560 Oh, I haven't got to suck a dick yet. I've 0:37:14.560 --> 0:37:16.240 been practicing on bananas and cucumbers. 0:37:16.280 --> 0:37:18.440 Oh you haven't sucked his dick yet since. 0:37:18.400 --> 0:37:19.879 No, unfortunately, I haven't had time. 0:37:19.920 --> 0:37:23.080 But not you given a tip without No, I'm practicing 0:37:23.840 --> 0:37:27.440 M seriously, and I've been collecting data and apparently wax 0:37:27.520 --> 0:37:31.080 is the only thing, and I tried the sor numb THINGA. 0:37:31.400 --> 0:37:33.880 I love, you can leave it. I'm not about to 0:37:33.920 --> 0:37:34.479 hurt my factor. 0:37:34.640 --> 0:37:36.840 No, but I only love what you just said because 0:37:36.880 --> 0:37:39.640 this goes into the horrible decision and some. 0:37:39.560 --> 0:37:41.520 Takes that I have collecting data. 0:37:41.680 --> 0:37:45.319 No, the fact that you collected data but you're inexperienced 0:37:45.960 --> 0:37:46.880 because you haven't done it yet. 0:37:47.000 --> 0:37:47.880 That you're giving advice. 0:37:48.760 --> 0:37:50.640 Oh well, I mean here's the thing. 0:37:52.040 --> 0:37:53.520 We didn't have enough time for me to tell y'all 0:37:53.560 --> 0:37:56.200 my first dick sucking story before we got in the studio, 0:37:56.360 --> 0:37:58.880 But I really wanted to give that tip because you 0:37:59.000 --> 0:38:01.680 have to actually look at tips up before you try it. Like, 0:38:01.719 --> 0:38:03.680 there's so many ways to hurt yourself now that you 0:38:03.719 --> 0:38:06.000 have this thing right, Like literally, I'm going back to 0:38:06.040 --> 0:38:08.520 Thailand and I want to go to reggae bar, and 0:38:08.560 --> 0:38:11.279 reggae bar is a place where you fight for a 0:38:11.320 --> 0:38:13.320 free drink. And I was like, well, I want to 0:38:13.320 --> 0:38:14.960 beat some whole up and give my lotle aggression out. 0:38:14.960 --> 0:38:17.919 And you have braces, I know, bitch, that's a weapon mine. 0:38:17.920 --> 0:38:20.040 I can slip my hole and now we're fighting with blood. 0:38:20.320 --> 0:38:23.680 No, Like literally, when I was fighting the girl. My 0:38:23.800 --> 0:38:25.680 septum ring was new, and I was like, why am 0:38:25.680 --> 0:38:27.840 I leaking? If she didn't hit my face? It was 0:38:27.960 --> 0:38:30.080 just the helmet going around. 0:38:30.880 --> 0:38:31.520 Just the bitch. 0:38:31.560 --> 0:38:33.040 I ain't even doing that no more because bit ch'all 0:38:33.040 --> 0:38:34.759 told you when I got in that fight at Impanatamma. 0:38:34.840 --> 0:38:36.520 The first thing I said, bitch, I don't want to 0:38:36.520 --> 0:38:37.840 have to go back to Columbia. 0:38:37.920 --> 0:38:38.359 Still there. 0:38:38.760 --> 0:38:41.239 Oh that's Florida again. 0:38:41.480 --> 0:38:43.279 But no, the brace. I can't fight because I have 0:38:43.360 --> 0:38:45.440 fucking braces. It's gonna fucking make it cut. 0:38:45.320 --> 0:38:45.759 Up my mouth. 0:38:46.120 --> 0:38:49.320 So yeah, bitch, you're gonna be leaking blood, gonna be 0:38:49.320 --> 0:38:50.680 heavy where you're gonna look like you lost. 0:38:51.320 --> 0:38:54.839 So I love that you brought that up because like her, 0:38:54.880 --> 0:38:57.520 I was like, oh, that's a good one. So a 0:38:57.560 --> 0:38:59.839 few weeks ago, this interview comes out with cam New 0:38:59.840 --> 0:39:02.600 and doctor Bryant, and there's been so many opinions on it, 0:39:02.640 --> 0:39:04.440 and there was for me watching it, there were so 0:39:04.480 --> 0:39:06.359 many where I disagreed with him and agreed with him, 0:39:06.400 --> 0:39:08.120 disagreed with her, agreed with him. 0:39:08.160 --> 0:39:10.879 By the way, our audience specifically, we had a town 0:39:10.880 --> 0:39:12.239 hall a couple months ago and they didn't want to 0:39:12.280 --> 0:39:14.760 talk about like this specifically. 0:39:14.280 --> 0:39:17.000 So I want you all to know we're pulling topics 0:39:17.040 --> 0:39:19.000 from this. We're not going to dissect one person didn't 0:39:19.000 --> 0:39:19.560 want to talk about it. 0:39:19.560 --> 0:39:19.840 I don't know. 0:39:20.280 --> 0:39:20.680 It was a lot. 0:39:21.040 --> 0:39:22.200 I was on this thing. 0:39:22.320 --> 0:39:22.879 It don't matter. 0:39:24.400 --> 0:39:27.279 I wait, wait, but you didn't let me finish. We're 0:39:27.280 --> 0:39:27.640 not going to. 0:39:27.800 --> 0:39:31.479 Talk specifically to a cam Newton or a doctor Brian 0:39:31.520 --> 0:39:33.440 as much as we're going to talk about the themes 0:39:33.520 --> 0:39:35.920 around the conversation and what was brought up in a 0:39:35.960 --> 0:39:36.880 general census. 0:39:36.960 --> 0:39:37.239 That's all. 0:39:37.320 --> 0:39:39.120 I don't care what y'all want to talk about. At 0:39:39.120 --> 0:39:40.640 the end of the day, it's my god damn show. 0:39:40.960 --> 0:39:42.840 So when I make the mother fucking outline, that's what. 0:39:42.840 --> 0:39:44.520 We're talking about. Shit. 0:39:45.239 --> 0:39:49.560 Anyway, point is the reason this conversation is really important 0:39:49.920 --> 0:39:56.080 to me is because I am finding that I'm seeing 0:39:56.120 --> 0:39:59.240 a lot of celebration around taking care of your kids 0:40:00.200 --> 0:40:04.200 when it comes to men with money. And I don't 0:40:04.239 --> 0:40:06.120 have a dog in the spighte as far as an 0:40:06.200 --> 0:40:10.040 absentee father, but I know from dating and from having 0:40:10.120 --> 0:40:13.279 very close friends, and even from my own mother what 0:40:13.320 --> 0:40:16.320 it's been like to have an inactive father, and even 0:40:16.400 --> 0:40:18.360 conversations for the last eight years on this PODU and 0:40:18.400 --> 0:40:20.120 even before we were podcasting things, she would tell me 0:40:20.120 --> 0:40:22.600 about your dad and I was literally thinking, this is 0:40:22.640 --> 0:40:25.239 a great conversation out with Mandy, because I can't imagine 0:40:25.520 --> 0:40:29.400 how you feel hearing shit like this. So doctor Bryant, 0:40:29.400 --> 0:40:32.600 who is a relationship coach, she's a woman that went recently, 0:40:32.600 --> 0:40:36.480 had conversations recently with Nick Cannon and Cam Newton about 0:40:36.480 --> 0:40:40.399 them bringing kids into the world. And one specific conversation 0:40:40.960 --> 0:40:44.120 that really struck a chord for me was her conversation 0:40:44.320 --> 0:40:47.640 with Cam Newton and having more children but not getting married. 0:40:47.719 --> 0:40:52.279 So I'm not married, right, I have beautiful children. How 0:40:52.280 --> 0:40:53.320 many eight. 0:40:54.840 --> 0:40:56.760 I was at that I didn't do my research. 0:40:56.760 --> 0:40:57.799 I that was four, but eight? 0:40:57.840 --> 0:40:59.920 Okay, how many women? 0:41:00.440 --> 0:41:04.680 Three? And this is the kicker. I want more. 0:41:05.719 --> 0:41:08.080 Now by multiple women. 0:41:08.120 --> 0:41:09.960 What's the intent by your wife? 0:41:10.239 --> 0:41:12.560 I just want God to bring them. Oh and you 0:41:12.560 --> 0:41:14.000 have so you just because. 0:41:13.680 --> 0:41:18.600 My point is this, my desire to get married is 0:41:18.719 --> 0:41:23.959 lower than my fear of divorce. So as you had said, 0:41:24.040 --> 0:41:27.080 Doctor Brian, you said it, I said, I will agree. 0:41:27.440 --> 0:41:29.799 I'm just taking my time, but you will And I 0:41:29.800 --> 0:41:32.160 say this with all respect and love. What I'm about 0:41:32.160 --> 0:41:36.480 to say, next, Okay, Cam, but you will selfishly create 0:41:36.560 --> 0:41:39.719 broken families even if you're in their life and you're 0:41:39.760 --> 0:41:41.839 a proactive father, and I believe you're an amazing daddy. 0:41:41.840 --> 0:41:44.640 I can only imagine with just your presence and knowing 0:41:44.640 --> 0:41:49.399 you thus far. But these families are still broken. Every 0:41:49.480 --> 0:41:52.279 child cannot have Papa in the house with them, so 0:41:52.640 --> 0:41:55.440 some child, if not all, all will end up with 0:41:55.600 --> 0:41:58.400 some kind of deficit without daddy being there. 0:41:59.120 --> 0:42:03.640 Nick Cannon has seven hundred and fifty children and no 0:42:03.760 --> 0:42:05.879 wife right now and claims. 0:42:05.520 --> 0:42:06.440 To be a great dad. 0:42:07.200 --> 0:42:11.080 Can you be a great dad with having so many 0:42:11.120 --> 0:42:15.479 different relationships with women now, Doctor Bryant, The woman said 0:42:15.560 --> 0:42:19.440 you can't because you're creating broken homes. I completely agree 0:42:19.480 --> 0:42:22.719 with that sentiment. On the contrary, when I started having 0:42:22.719 --> 0:42:25.080 this conversation with a friend of mine, she's like, girl, 0:42:25.120 --> 0:42:27.280 my husband is here every day and don't do nothing. 0:42:27.040 --> 0:42:29.080 With these kids. Yeah, I disagree with that. 0:42:29.440 --> 0:42:32.080 You disagree with what the same way I think that 0:42:33.080 --> 0:42:36.799 someone can be an awful partner and a great dad 0:42:37.280 --> 0:42:41.200 is the same way I feel like. 0:42:39.360 --> 0:42:39.879 It like. 0:42:41.440 --> 0:42:42.040 I'm trying to. 0:42:43.880 --> 0:42:47.040 So when I saw, first off, I don't think anyone 0:42:47.160 --> 0:42:49.160 is a good parent. That's where I want to start. 0:42:49.560 --> 0:42:52.280 And I say that because a lot of times people 0:42:52.280 --> 0:42:55.880 become parents for the first time, even when they have 0:42:56.040 --> 0:43:00.000 multiple kids, they become their they course correct from maybe 0:43:00.080 --> 0:43:00.760 what they felt. 0:43:00.520 --> 0:43:02.280 Like they did with your parents for the first people. 0:43:02.480 --> 0:43:05.640 Well, parents are always normal people, but being a parent 0:43:05.800 --> 0:43:08.200 is hard to teach. Mind you, a lot of people 0:43:08.280 --> 0:43:10.960 have the traumas for maybe how their parents failed. So 0:43:11.480 --> 0:43:13.360 the same way, I feel like I'm kind of dating 0:43:13.400 --> 0:43:15.880 by knowing what I don't want. A lot of people 0:43:16.080 --> 0:43:18.920 who are parents are literally trying to be who their 0:43:19.040 --> 0:43:22.120 parents weren't without any idea of the right way to 0:43:22.160 --> 0:43:24.279 do something. They only know what they think is the 0:43:24.320 --> 0:43:26.840 right way to do something. But there's so many things involved. 0:43:26.960 --> 0:43:29.640 There's the economics of things. Then there's the kind of 0:43:29.680 --> 0:43:33.600 line between not giving your child enough lover or attention. 0:43:33.320 --> 0:43:34.160 And then spoiling. 0:43:34.480 --> 0:43:37.560 Like there's these like weird lines that if you go 0:43:37.680 --> 0:43:39.279 two parts to the left, they feel like you don't 0:43:39.320 --> 0:43:39.919 love them enough. 0:43:40.080 --> 0:43:42.280 But then if you spoil a child, there. 0:43:42.080 --> 0:43:44.440 Becomes resentment and you hovering over them, or as soon 0:43:44.440 --> 0:43:46.279 as they leave the house now they feel like they 0:43:46.280 --> 0:43:48.439 can be free. So I feel like, because we're dealing 0:43:48.440 --> 0:43:52.560 with humans. 0:43:50.320 --> 0:43:52.600 As the children. 0:43:53.160 --> 0:43:55.520 I think, mind you, you have also all the outside 0:43:55.560 --> 0:43:57.439 forces where you can't protect them when they're at school 0:43:57.480 --> 0:43:59.160 or when they're at their friend's house. I think this 0:43:59.280 --> 0:44:02.680 idea of a good parent is one of those it's 0:44:02.719 --> 0:44:06.200 literally aligned with a perfect man or a perfect woman. 0:44:07.040 --> 0:44:10.000 It doesn't exist. And so I think that the way 0:44:10.040 --> 0:44:13.440 that we believe that you can be a good parent, 0:44:14.520 --> 0:44:17.400 I think it's so subjective that I don't think it exists, 0:44:17.680 --> 0:44:19.600 and I think that someone's always gonna fall short. 0:44:24.760 --> 0:44:28.320 What is a So to answer that question, I asked Instagram, 0:44:28.360 --> 0:44:30.680 and I'm gonna read some of their answers what an 0:44:30.719 --> 0:44:34.239 active parent looks like. So the reason I said that 0:44:34.360 --> 0:44:36.640 is because good dad, bad dad? Fine, you paid for everything, 0:44:36.760 --> 0:44:40.640 Sure you're a good dad in your head, but active parents. 0:44:41.000 --> 0:44:43.480 Can you really be an active parent if you're not 0:44:43.560 --> 0:44:46.400 with that person. Again, to doctor Brian's point with creating 0:44:46.400 --> 0:44:48.840 broken homes, I say this to say. 0:44:50.600 --> 0:44:53.239 Most success, do you define an active parent? 0:44:53.840 --> 0:44:55.560 That's the thing. There is no definition. 0:44:56.200 --> 0:44:58.720 So I was gonna say I say this to say 0:44:59.000 --> 0:45:02.640 no one's answer is this to me, I think my 0:45:02.760 --> 0:45:04.880 dad was an active parent because we got to do 0:45:04.920 --> 0:45:08.839 something every weekend together. Now, my dad literally worked six 0:45:08.920 --> 0:45:12.880 days a week. That to me was active. And I 0:45:12.920 --> 0:45:14.680 guess if my dad didn't live in my home. My 0:45:14.680 --> 0:45:16.439 parents are still married. I grew up with a father 0:45:16.480 --> 0:45:18.279 in the house. Maybe my dad would have had me 0:45:18.320 --> 0:45:21.520 any weekend everywhere like anyway, so maybe he would have 0:45:21.640 --> 0:45:25.280 always been an active parent in my head. Now, everybody 0:45:25.320 --> 0:45:27.080 has a different answer. I'm gonna read some of those, 0:45:27.640 --> 0:45:30.680 but I'm gonna say this, I don't know if there's 0:45:30.680 --> 0:45:32.560 a way that Nick Cannon or Cam Newton can be 0:45:32.600 --> 0:45:36.320 active parents to eight children, mainly because busy lifestyle. You 0:45:36.360 --> 0:45:38.240 don't live in the same city as all of these kids. 0:45:38.440 --> 0:45:40.719 How fucking active can you be? At least to me, 0:45:40.880 --> 0:45:43.560 baseline of an active parent if you don't live in 0:45:43.560 --> 0:45:47.040 the same house or city, you should still know them teachers' names, 0:45:47.320 --> 0:45:49.319 you should still know the academy of your own kid, 0:45:49.600 --> 0:45:51.640 what their problems are, who their friends are. You should 0:45:51.640 --> 0:45:54.040 be engaging with them daily. How can you engage with 0:45:54.080 --> 0:45:55.000 eight children daily? 0:45:56.040 --> 0:45:58.399 I mean niggas can engage eight women daily. I did 0:45:58.440 --> 0:46:02.200 want to say that, No, there is a baseline online. 0:46:02.280 --> 0:46:04.279 An active parent is someone who is involved in their 0:46:04.360 --> 0:46:06.919 child's life. An takes an active role in their growth 0:46:06.960 --> 0:46:10.200 and development. So there's four bullet points for this. Being proactive, 0:46:10.440 --> 0:46:13.839 so teaching values and being a role model. Again, where 0:46:13.880 --> 0:46:16.359 I feel like people being a role model is where 0:46:16.640 --> 0:46:21.280 it's hard, communicating openly, setting clear expectations and boundaries, being present, 0:46:21.520 --> 0:46:24.040 so participating in activities together, and showing interests in a 0:46:24.120 --> 0:46:28.480 children's interest, and then providing positive reinforcement, which is encouraging 0:46:28.480 --> 0:46:33.160 good behavior. So in those even just four bullet points 0:46:33.160 --> 0:46:36.399 of something, I think those are hard for people who 0:46:36.400 --> 0:46:40.840 even aren't parents to do in friendships, to do in relationships. 0:46:41.080 --> 0:46:44.239 So that's where I feel like being active as a 0:46:44.320 --> 0:46:47.440 human being is difficult, let alone with someone who is 0:46:47.760 --> 0:46:51.080 developing as a human being themselves. 0:46:51.360 --> 0:46:52.520 I think those things are hard. 0:46:53.440 --> 0:46:55.319 I think it's hard, but I think that the main 0:46:55.360 --> 0:46:56.840 thing is Sorry, I'm just trying to find where I 0:46:56.880 --> 0:46:58.839 screenshot all this and I want to. 0:46:58.920 --> 0:47:01.600 Bring a point to So I was raised in a 0:47:01.640 --> 0:47:09.840 single parent household, and to be fair, where society and 0:47:09.920 --> 0:47:16.040 all of these places put emphasis on men to financially provide. Again, 0:47:16.080 --> 0:47:18.120 the conversations around fifty to fifty dates, who pays for 0:47:18.160 --> 0:47:23.880 a first date? Unfortunately for fathers or men within the household. 0:47:24.360 --> 0:47:26.839 Provision is a big thing. Providing is a big thing. 0:47:27.320 --> 0:47:30.239 So there's a lot of men who feel as though, well, 0:47:31.440 --> 0:47:33.480 none of my child support payments was late. So I 0:47:33.520 --> 0:47:34.839 did what I was supposed to do as a dad. 0:47:34.920 --> 0:47:37.759 And let's be very clear, that's where I kind of 0:47:37.760 --> 0:47:41.200 found an issue in becoming an adult. Like my dad 0:47:41.239 --> 0:47:43.520 now feels like I owe him as an adult because 0:47:43.800 --> 0:47:45.360 he took care of me as a child, because he 0:47:45.360 --> 0:47:49.520 paid his child support payments. Next, he feels like he 0:47:49.600 --> 0:47:53.560 is old now because he did right by his child support. 0:47:53.560 --> 0:47:56.520 Mind you, didn't speak to us for a year, made 0:47:56.600 --> 0:47:59.480 us all go through DNA tests because my mom needed 0:47:59.480 --> 0:48:02.880 more financially. Mind you, that's the only thing you gotta do. 0:48:02.920 --> 0:48:06.240 Because literally, in the book I'm writing, I can't remember 0:48:06.239 --> 0:48:07.960 one basketball game he showed up to. 0:48:08.239 --> 0:48:10.719 Can't remember one inner mirror game, can't remember that SoC game. 0:48:12.320 --> 0:48:13.160 But here's the thing. 0:48:14.040 --> 0:48:16.279 No, for a lot of people in the way they 0:48:16.280 --> 0:48:19.320 could compare it, I saw him maybe every other weekend. 0:48:19.560 --> 0:48:21.279 And when it came to school supplies, when it came 0:48:21.320 --> 0:48:23.719 to Christmases, when it came to birthdays, when it came 0:48:23.760 --> 0:48:28.080 to up showing on my mom. Oh, he came in 0:48:28.160 --> 0:48:30.400 all the electronics. Oh your mom got you. 0:48:30.440 --> 0:48:32.160 That for Christmas? Look what daddy got you? 0:48:32.400 --> 0:48:34.319 Hold on, let me know question so to me? 0:48:34.719 --> 0:48:38.160 So again song every other weekend for a long time. 0:48:38.239 --> 0:48:39.640 Yeah, what did you guys do? 0:48:39.719 --> 0:48:41.520 And then he called, and then my and then my 0:48:41.840 --> 0:48:45.680 sister who wasn't his. He took in until he didn't 0:48:45.680 --> 0:48:47.359 want to pay more money than it became a whole 0:48:47.400 --> 0:48:47.839 little thing. 0:48:48.400 --> 0:48:50.600 So you spend time with your dad every other weekend. 0:48:50.920 --> 0:48:52.880 And I don't know my white family. 0:48:53.160 --> 0:48:55.200 So whenever I was with my family, it was with 0:48:55.239 --> 0:48:57.480 my Jamaican side, so I know all my aunties, all 0:48:57.480 --> 0:49:01.560 my uncles. We were always with my Jamaica family. So 0:49:01.800 --> 0:49:03.840 that was the only family I had, was them growing 0:49:03.920 --> 0:49:05.120 up edd And. 0:49:05.160 --> 0:49:06.560 Did you grow up with both parents in the house? 0:49:06.760 --> 0:49:07.480 I did? Yeah? 0:49:07.520 --> 0:49:10.399 And you how douse? 0:49:10.400 --> 0:49:12.000 I know you and your daughter are super close now, 0:49:12.040 --> 0:49:13.520 Like how often did you see your dad? 0:49:15.280 --> 0:49:15.520 Man? 0:49:15.600 --> 0:49:19.719 If my memory serves me, probably like probably similar to 0:49:19.760 --> 0:49:21.720 Mandy's in certain cases did. 0:49:21.520 --> 0:49:24.280 That some weekends? 0:49:25.239 --> 0:49:27.040 I felt like the time we spent with each other 0:49:27.160 --> 0:49:29.719 was really quality time that made it enough, Like I 0:49:29.760 --> 0:49:30.880 would say mine was different. 0:49:31.000 --> 0:49:33.000 Oh That's why I asked you, what were you guys doing. 0:49:33.120 --> 0:49:36.440 We were hanging with his girlfriends. His girlfriends baked us cookies, 0:49:36.440 --> 0:49:38.880 his girlfriends took us to them. All his girlfriends. His 0:49:38.960 --> 0:49:41.879 girlfriends always were great, Like there was Jennifer, one, two, 0:49:41.880 --> 0:49:43.719 and three, there was there were all and we knew 0:49:43.719 --> 0:49:45.920 all the names. And we hung out with the other 0:49:45.960 --> 0:49:47.359 women in his life and they were great. 0:49:47.400 --> 0:49:49.000 So he didn't make your time my dad. 0:49:49.040 --> 0:49:53.680 But but because I met my grandmother just being Jamaican, like, 0:49:53.760 --> 0:49:56.279 he was just very He worked, He worked hard, and 0:49:56.320 --> 0:49:58.400 he provided. That's what he knew what to do as 0:49:58.400 --> 0:50:02.439 a like as a Jamaican, he worked hard. He could 0:50:02.520 --> 0:50:04.759 cook his ass off, and when he was around, it 0:50:04.840 --> 0:50:07.040 was like, yo, I need give me my time. I'm 0:50:07.080 --> 0:50:11.680 drinking my fucking my beer, I'm smoking, I'm I'm off 0:50:11.719 --> 0:50:13.640 from work because he worked so fucking much. 0:50:13.680 --> 0:50:15.120 Now I want to ask you all this. 0:50:15.200 --> 0:50:17.919 So I made an Instagram story asking people to tell 0:50:17.960 --> 0:50:19.560 me what an active parent look like. 0:50:20.080 --> 0:50:20.880 I then ask. 0:50:20.760 --> 0:50:24.440 People, Hey, if your baby mama and you break up 0:50:24.480 --> 0:50:27.239 whatever and she moves to another city, let it be work. 0:50:28.320 --> 0:50:32.000 How often is seeing your kid? Does it make you 0:50:32.040 --> 0:50:34.320 an active parent? Because sometimes it's not by the choice 0:50:34.360 --> 0:50:36.359 of the father, right and I want to give men 0:50:36.400 --> 0:50:39.080 some grace with that, because a lot of women do move. 0:50:39.120 --> 0:50:41.320 Maybe they weaponize, yep, they had a painful breakup. 0:50:42.520 --> 0:50:44.440 Maybe they just are like completely like I got to 0:50:44.440 --> 0:50:48.000 remove myself from this in that instance, and especially income 0:50:48.040 --> 0:50:50.600 because it's not just paying anymore, it's flying there. How 0:50:50.640 --> 0:50:52.520 often do you think you'd need to see that kid 0:50:52.560 --> 0:50:53.959 for them to be active enough? 0:50:55.239 --> 0:50:56.520 Again, I think it's subjective. 0:50:56.560 --> 0:50:58.640 I mean, and to be clear, I think that when 0:50:58.840 --> 0:51:02.600 a parent is not in the household all the time, again, 0:51:02.680 --> 0:51:04.839 I don't think you truly know how to be a parent. 0:51:05.239 --> 0:51:07.840 Like so when we moved to Atlanta when I was 0:51:07.880 --> 0:51:10.600 in high school, my dad never came to Atlanta to 0:51:10.600 --> 0:51:13.800 see us, but I came down to Orlando spend a summer, 0:51:13.800 --> 0:51:16.960 and bitch ended up pregnant because he wasn't around. 0:51:17.040 --> 0:51:19.040 We was able to do Bitch, we went to Tampa. 0:51:19.120 --> 0:51:21.399 We was bitch ill was at your house more than 0:51:21.440 --> 0:51:22.880 I saw my dad that summer. 0:51:23.239 --> 0:51:24.600 So I think. 0:51:24.440 --> 0:51:25.719 They're not jewel fucked up. 0:51:26.000 --> 0:51:29.120 No, But to me, I think like that word. 0:51:29.160 --> 0:51:30.879 I don't want to lean on active because I think 0:51:30.920 --> 0:51:34.480 it looks differently and I think it shows up with 0:51:34.520 --> 0:51:35.960 you an adult, but different. 0:51:35.719 --> 0:51:38.040 I think that's the thing though, That's the conversation we're having, right. 0:51:38.080 --> 0:51:41.240 It's like, I want to at least talk about active 0:51:41.320 --> 0:51:43.920 because you and I both have friends with children. 0:51:43.960 --> 0:51:46.120 Maybe they're married, maybe they're they're in long term relationships, 0:51:46.160 --> 0:51:46.880 or maybe they're single. 0:51:47.400 --> 0:51:50.680 And I keep seeing this reoccurring theme of one with 0:51:50.719 --> 0:51:53.560 my closest friend, her daughter's about fifteen, that nigga don't 0:51:53.560 --> 0:51:56.120 spend money and he gets his daughter every summer. No 0:51:56.239 --> 0:51:58.239 money really goes there, right, he's on child's forty, never 0:51:58.280 --> 0:52:03.640 sent shit. So I'm just wondering, like, what is truly enough? 0:52:03.680 --> 0:52:06.960 So I'll read some of these comments from people so 0:52:07.000 --> 0:52:12.440 you can get an idea. So one woman says, an 0:52:12.480 --> 0:52:14.759 active father is present to the point where my kid 0:52:14.840 --> 0:52:19.000 can call him and he's either their asap or emotionally 0:52:19.440 --> 0:52:22.879 or physically. When my daughter calls her father, he lives 0:52:22.920 --> 0:52:26.600 seven hours away, he's made his way down to Orlando 0:52:26.600 --> 0:52:28.879 if he needs to show up, and or we'll sit 0:52:28.880 --> 0:52:32.040 on FaceTime with her to help her through emotionally. Another 0:52:32.080 --> 0:52:37.920 person said, if you can't do the same activities or 0:52:38.160 --> 0:52:41.439 large events like the mom is, you're not an active dad. 0:52:41.480 --> 0:52:44.360 Why is my father not there for graduation or a birthday. 0:52:44.400 --> 0:52:48.480 To me, that makes no sense. Another person says, mine 0:52:48.520 --> 0:52:50.680 is a very difficult one. My baby father is in 0:52:50.719 --> 0:52:53.479 the military, so he can't even get on the phone 0:52:53.520 --> 0:52:56.200 with my kid every day. However, he is doing enough 0:52:56.200 --> 0:52:58.879 to spend quality moments, interactions, and time. 0:52:58.960 --> 0:53:03.600 Like Wolfe said, long letters, photos, very detailed memories. 0:53:04.040 --> 0:53:07.319 He is doing enough to make an impact and an 0:53:07.360 --> 0:53:10.759 imprint on her life. He even sends gifts that she'll 0:53:10.840 --> 0:53:15.880 randomly receive. Fathers who bond with their children. For the 0:53:15.920 --> 0:53:17.640 most part, I would say ninety percent of people said 0:53:17.640 --> 0:53:19.840 showing up for lifetime major events. 0:53:20.719 --> 0:53:23.799 Yeah, which is crazy. My dad showed up to our 0:53:23.800 --> 0:53:25.120 graduations and our birthday. 0:53:25.680 --> 0:53:27.200 You even just said I don't remember him at a 0:53:27.200 --> 0:53:27.759 basketball game. 0:53:28.120 --> 0:53:31.759 Not a basketball game, but major. But again subjective. 0:53:32.120 --> 0:53:33.840 He may not have thought that meant anything to me, 0:53:34.120 --> 0:53:36.400 but he showed up to all of our graduations, my 0:53:36.440 --> 0:53:40.080 school dances, all the things that maybe he considered large events. 0:53:40.640 --> 0:53:43.680 And don't think that that was him being active. 0:53:45.880 --> 0:53:48.200 You don't think him showing up was I think you 0:53:48.320 --> 0:53:48.919 just want more. 0:53:49.280 --> 0:53:50.839 Well that and that's why I think all of this 0:53:50.920 --> 0:53:53.440 is subjective. Because even that first thing you wrote a 0:53:53.480 --> 0:53:58.880 man to be to open up emotionally or or cope 0:53:58.920 --> 0:54:03.040 with my daughter's children's emotions. That is such a hard 0:54:03.080 --> 0:54:05.880 thing for a man to do in a romantic relationship 0:54:05.920 --> 0:54:06.520 as an adult. 0:54:06.920 --> 0:54:08.960 So also the things that we require these men to 0:54:09.000 --> 0:54:11.320 show up as his parents, then niggas don't even know 0:54:11.320 --> 0:54:12.000 how to do with us. 0:54:12.200 --> 0:54:15.160 Well, listen to this one about providing. I did a 0:54:15.160 --> 0:54:20.120 poll I said, does money make you an active parent? 0:54:20.760 --> 0:54:23.800 Four thousand people voted eighty seven percent. 0:54:24.640 --> 0:54:24.799 No. 0:54:25.760 --> 0:54:28.520 People do not believe providing is active. I then had 0:54:28.640 --> 0:54:32.160 someone right, this one was interesting. Please keep this anonymous. 0:54:32.160 --> 0:54:32.520 Weezy. 0:54:32.960 --> 0:54:35.680 My father is the CEO of a fortune five hundred company. 0:54:36.560 --> 0:54:39.440 I would literally have given back all of the expensive 0:54:39.440 --> 0:54:41.880 things he ever bought me just to have had some 0:54:41.960 --> 0:54:45.320 fun moments with him, a theme park, anything. I literally 0:54:45.400 --> 0:54:47.600 never did anything fun with my dad because he was 0:54:47.640 --> 0:54:53.000 so busy on making money, being popular and rich and 0:54:53.040 --> 0:54:55.600 making sure he could say he was providing for his family. 0:54:55.960 --> 0:54:58.360 I grew so much resentment when he got married again 0:54:58.640 --> 0:55:01.080 because he got to have another who I'm sure got 0:55:01.080 --> 0:55:04.120 more of him. Another dude wrote me. I then wrote 0:55:04.120 --> 0:55:06.040 and said, fathers, can you tell me where you fucked up? 0:55:08.160 --> 0:55:11.080 This dude said, since me and my baby mother have 0:55:11.200 --> 0:55:14.600 so much more bitterness toward each other, literally, it becomes 0:55:14.600 --> 0:55:18.160 a hostage negotiation to see my fucking kid. In most cases, 0:55:18.200 --> 0:55:20.719 I can only be as active as her mom will 0:55:20.719 --> 0:55:22.960 allow me to. And I know my daughter's gonna grow 0:55:23.040 --> 0:55:25.200 up thinking I didn't give a fuck about her. There's 0:55:25.239 --> 0:55:27.719 even moments when I do see her and I'm so 0:55:27.880 --> 0:55:30.479 angry from having a ten second interaction with her mom 0:55:30.520 --> 0:55:33.440 that I can't even be present anymore. I believe that 0:55:33.480 --> 0:55:36.799 what you sorry, I believe that what you posted about 0:55:36.880 --> 0:55:40.240 Nick Cannon and Cam Newton not being active is totally correct. 0:55:40.600 --> 0:55:43.759 They are beginning relationships with their children while having no 0:55:43.880 --> 0:55:47.400 relationships with their mother. Having children with good women is 0:55:47.480 --> 0:55:50.319 not a good choice for your child. It's a bad 0:55:50.440 --> 0:55:52.480 choice for you and a bad choice for their future. 0:55:52.840 --> 0:55:56.000 That one I love because Cam Newton literally said something like, oh, well, 0:55:56.040 --> 0:55:58.920 these women are high functioning or whatever because they want 0:55:58.920 --> 0:56:01.040 to have kids, like I'm choosing baby mamas, And I 0:56:01.040 --> 0:56:06.239 do think that's bullshit, Like rich niggas having a bunch 0:56:06.239 --> 0:56:08.200 of kids is bullshit. 0:56:08.520 --> 0:56:10.399 We're not gonna tell me Father's Day. 0:56:10.440 --> 0:56:12.680 Your kid wants to fucking see you, and Nick Cannon 0:56:12.719 --> 0:56:15.000 can be eight places and give them all the fucking love. 0:56:15.239 --> 0:56:16.960 And even if they're all in one place, Mandy and 0:56:17.000 --> 0:56:19.160 he had to rent a goddamn event hall to fit 0:56:19.200 --> 0:56:21.120 all the kids, it's still not enough. 0:56:21.360 --> 0:56:22.439 I am doing too much. 0:56:22.480 --> 0:56:26.480 But I'm also going to blame the patriarchy here and 0:56:26.560 --> 0:56:30.120 for what women are putting as a necessary need. Like 0:56:30.120 --> 0:56:32.640 I said, a lot of our conversations are how much 0:56:32.640 --> 0:56:33.200 money do you have? 0:56:33.280 --> 0:56:34.120 What can you do for me? 0:56:34.560 --> 0:56:37.239 We're pushing the narrative that a man's value is based 0:56:37.280 --> 0:56:39.080 on how heavy his pockets are. 0:56:39.040 --> 0:56:39.759 A lot of the time. 0:56:40.120 --> 0:56:42.359 And so if we're doing that in dating, if we're 0:56:42.360 --> 0:56:46.440 doing that in choosing a partner, where they feel like 0:56:46.800 --> 0:56:49.920 my value comes with my money, and so when they 0:56:50.000 --> 0:56:53.960 feel like their money is what matters to their children, 0:56:54.280 --> 0:56:57.600 to their families, to the women they date, that's why 0:56:57.640 --> 0:56:59.520 so many of them are gonna believe like, well, I 0:56:59.560 --> 0:57:01.520 did what I'll supposed to do. I made the money, 0:57:01.560 --> 0:57:02.120 you got paid. 0:57:02.200 --> 0:57:04.080 I told you. That's where my dad feels like, that's 0:57:04.080 --> 0:57:05.000 where my dad showed up. 0:57:05.000 --> 0:57:07.719 And I'm like, now as an adult and hearing my mom, no, 0:57:08.000 --> 0:57:11.080 it doesn't it's not all it takes. However, society is 0:57:11.120 --> 0:57:14.680 pushing the envelope that a man's value is based on 0:57:15.000 --> 0:57:17.320 how much money and what he can provide and how 0:57:17.360 --> 0:57:20.080 he provides it, and that unfortunately they don't know in 0:57:20.160 --> 0:57:23.160 what other ways they should be or have to show up. 0:57:23.360 --> 0:57:26.800 And it reminds me of the conversation where it's like, damn, y'all, 0:57:26.800 --> 0:57:28.760 just keep moving the goal post. Now I'm paying all 0:57:28.760 --> 0:57:30.160 the bills, but now I need to be an ear 0:57:30.200 --> 0:57:32.920 for you to listen. Now I need to be emotionally sound, 0:57:33.560 --> 0:57:35.600 and men are like, Damn, I thought all I had 0:57:35.600 --> 0:57:37.160 to do was make money, because that's what I thought. 0:57:37.240 --> 0:57:38.640 I just I thought I had to be a provider. 0:57:38.840 --> 0:57:41.480 Now you want me to be an emotional creature. You 0:57:41.480 --> 0:57:42.760 want me to show those things to you. 0:57:43.480 --> 0:57:45.120 Damn, I got to catch up. I don't know how 0:57:45.160 --> 0:57:46.000 to do that yet, dude. 0:57:46.040 --> 0:57:48.640 Honestly, I think this is why we need more content 0:57:48.760 --> 0:57:52.680 surrounding fatherhood. And that's why I love DDG, who's the 0:57:52.760 --> 0:57:55.080 new Oh John Queeze. They said, Damn he coming for 0:57:55.160 --> 0:57:57.800 DDG because he was like, oh, I don't know, I'm 0:57:57.840 --> 0:57:59.440 happy to be around this baby or you know, and 0:57:59.520 --> 0:58:02.600 I know that's your and I loved seeing that I 0:58:02.600 --> 0:58:04.600 think he posted like I don't know how y'all be 0:58:04.600 --> 0:58:07.600 doing nothing or whatever he said, and people were coming like, 0:58:07.640 --> 0:58:09.160 oh wait till you get to this year, and it's like, 0:58:09.200 --> 0:58:11.920 God damn, let that nigga be fucking excited bro to 0:58:12.000 --> 0:58:14.840 change a diaper, to be happy about being a dad 0:58:14.880 --> 0:58:15.520 for the first time. 0:58:15.560 --> 0:58:16.400 I love seeing people. 0:58:16.480 --> 0:58:19.640 I think he has to do it what his ex leaked, 0:58:20.440 --> 0:58:22.160 because he made it seem like having a baby with 0:58:22.240 --> 0:58:24.560 someone doesn't mean you're a family with them, and so 0:58:24.600 --> 0:58:27.480 I think that's the other thing, like I don't know 0:58:27.520 --> 0:58:30.400 what strong an. So they were, Yeah, there was beef 0:58:30.400 --> 0:58:33.120 and dramas, so I think whatever the response was no, 0:58:33.320 --> 0:58:35.800 like we could be happy for someone, but if shit 0:58:35.920 --> 0:58:38.440 then came out like people gonna be a little little 0:58:38.600 --> 0:58:40.600 you know. I know, I'm open for the best with 0:58:40.600 --> 0:58:44.000 their happiness. But there was a text message that got 0:58:44.040 --> 0:58:45.840 leaked where he was like, yeah, well, having a baby 0:58:45.880 --> 0:58:47.960 with a woman doesn't mean you're a family and he 0:58:48.000 --> 0:58:49.360 said that to the ex, and the ex post of 0:58:49.440 --> 0:58:52.200 the screenshot while she was pregnant. 0:58:52.960 --> 0:58:56.080 Yeah, so anyway, Yeah, I. 0:58:56.000 --> 0:58:57.600 Don't know the family part. What I'm saying is I 0:58:57.640 --> 0:59:00.360 like watching him be a good dad. Actually, to me, it's. 0:59:00.200 --> 0:59:00.680 Not about me. 0:59:00.800 --> 0:59:01.800 We haven't seen him be a good dad. 0:59:01.840 --> 0:59:03.680 We saw they just had the baby, but we've seen 0:59:03.720 --> 0:59:06.440 the excitement of him becoming. 0:59:05.520 --> 0:59:07.440 A father, and I like that aspect. 0:59:08.440 --> 0:59:12.640 I'm gonna actually disagree on that one. You said we 0:59:12.640 --> 0:59:14.240 haven't seen him being a good dad. I think the 0:59:14.280 --> 0:59:17.880 baby was three days old. To me, the excitement changing 0:59:17.920 --> 0:59:20.360 a diaper, doing whatever, I feel like that, that to 0:59:20.400 --> 0:59:22.040 me is what I want to see and it would 0:59:22.600 --> 0:59:24.560 give me the idea that someone is being a good 0:59:24.640 --> 0:59:27.240 dad slash active dad. Like I think what we're seeing 0:59:27.280 --> 0:59:30.600 from DDG is specifically why someone made that joke you 0:59:30.680 --> 0:59:32.360 must be coming for him, is because he posts his 0:59:32.440 --> 0:59:35.240 kids so much, looks so excited, is laughing so much. 0:59:35.680 --> 0:59:37.640 And I don't feel like I see that kind of stuff. 0:59:37.640 --> 0:59:39.120 I see it with moms so much more. 0:59:39.480 --> 0:59:42.560 And I really would love to celebrate father's relationships with 0:59:42.600 --> 0:59:44.440 their kids and get to know that, even if it's 0:59:44.480 --> 0:59:46.320 from celebrities or influencers or whatever. 0:59:46.720 --> 0:59:48.120 I really don't see a lot. 0:59:47.960 --> 0:59:49.080 Of that, So you don't see it. 0:59:49.120 --> 0:59:52.480 I know that's the thing right now online is especially 0:59:52.520 --> 0:59:55.280 even with Safari and other celebrities, they go and get 0:59:55.320 --> 0:59:58.000 their kids take pictures, make it seem like they're active, 0:59:58.120 --> 1:00:01.440 and then they're not so like to me even speaking, and. 1:00:01.480 --> 1:00:05.560 What is there saying about Sahari they. 1:00:06.400 --> 1:00:08.200 Babe, you ain't got them nothing for their birthday. You 1:00:08.240 --> 1:00:10.240 don't know, you know nothing about it. You're never around 1:00:10.240 --> 1:00:12.080 and the only time you're around them, you want to 1:00:12.120 --> 1:00:13.480 take all pictures and have it in their face like 1:00:13.520 --> 1:00:16.080 you're around Gosha. So like even to me, the posting 1:00:16.120 --> 1:00:18.959 online and things like that, those to me don't mean 1:00:19.320 --> 1:00:21.640 that you're an active or a good parent like my dad. 1:00:22.040 --> 1:00:25.000 I think we're watching it though my dad's still influencing. 1:00:25.120 --> 1:00:27.680 My dad would be the loudest person at my events. 1:00:28.080 --> 1:00:30.320 My dad before I went down to Orlando last time, 1:00:30.640 --> 1:00:33.160 he was bragging. He told me how he was bragging 1:00:33.200 --> 1:00:35.960 about me. Nigg I ain't talk to you on the phone, 1:00:36.000 --> 1:00:36.920 and so. 1:00:37.040 --> 1:00:38.000 What can a dad do? 1:00:38.120 --> 1:00:40.320 But that's what I'm saying. We're humans. 1:00:41.080 --> 1:00:42.520 You think it's I mean to the contry. 1:00:42.520 --> 1:00:44.320 I don't think you could be a good parent period. 1:00:44.320 --> 1:00:44.720 I don't, I. 1:00:44.640 --> 1:00:48.760 Think, But I think the point is like still seeing 1:00:49.520 --> 1:00:54.280 I'm sorry, seeing men take on certain roles with their 1:00:54.360 --> 1:00:55.919 kid or spending time with their children. 1:00:55.960 --> 1:00:57.040 I think it's good to see. 1:00:57.080 --> 1:00:59.680 We don't see it, and I think like we're celebrating 1:00:59.680 --> 1:01:02.280 to this whole having a bunch of babies but taking 1:01:02.280 --> 1:01:04.520 care of them money wise. Thing like that Nick Cannon conversation, 1:01:04.560 --> 1:01:06.960 which I hate, and I do like to see activity. 1:01:07.280 --> 1:01:10.640 I think that's really influential. One of my favorite videos online. 1:01:10.640 --> 1:01:12.800 I wish I could find it. It's a nigga that 1:01:12.920 --> 1:01:15.320 just had a baby and all his homeboys are in 1:01:15.360 --> 1:01:17.160 the house. It's like a New York dude and they 1:01:17.200 --> 1:01:19.040 hold in dolls and shit with the baby. Has anybody 1:01:19.080 --> 1:01:21.520 seen this and they like, a, ah, she going to 1:01:21.600 --> 1:01:24.240 the grocery store. And it's like adorable to me because 1:01:24.240 --> 1:01:26.720 it's like, oh my god, seeing men have community. When 1:01:26.760 --> 1:01:29.160 I get all my homegirls, a gonna rush to the forefront, right, 1:01:29.160 --> 1:01:30.280 even the ones that don't have kids. 1:01:30.320 --> 1:01:31.040 That's what women do. 1:01:31.440 --> 1:01:33.080 But I just don't get to see it a lot 1:01:33.120 --> 1:01:35.720 in brotherhood or with men, and I feel like if 1:01:35.760 --> 1:01:37.520 we got to have more examples of that, it would 1:01:37.600 --> 1:01:41.000 really help show fathers that it's not just a payment, 1:01:41.120 --> 1:01:44.600 Like there's so much more contact and it's made me 1:01:44.640 --> 1:01:47.960 hate Nick Cannon. Bro Anyway, Okay, so more conversation that 1:01:48.040 --> 1:01:49.240 happened before we get out of here. 1:01:49.360 --> 1:01:52.720 Yeah, specifically with doctor. 1:01:52.360 --> 1:01:55.240 Brian yepe is that you brought this because this is 1:01:55.240 --> 1:01:57.400 the conversation she was talking about a lot of this 1:01:57.440 --> 1:01:58.040 high functioning. 1:01:58.080 --> 1:01:59.920 I hate that high value have function to comment. 1:01:59.720 --> 1:02:03.680 But high functioning meaning emotional management, which is ironic because 1:02:04.040 --> 1:02:06.080 when I was listening, I almost felt like she ain't 1:02:06.080 --> 1:02:08.880 have it a little bit. She was getting very irritated 1:02:08.920 --> 1:02:12.720 by him bringing up her singleness. But I also think. 1:02:13.840 --> 1:02:17.720 Because that's it, it's irritating, it's irritating, but because it 1:02:17.760 --> 1:02:19.880 invalidates me as a woman, or why I can speak 1:02:19.920 --> 1:02:20.840 to what I'm speaking to. 1:02:21.480 --> 1:02:24.720 No, he was doing it. I actually think he was 1:02:24.760 --> 1:02:26.280 doing it to like pick at her because she was. 1:02:26.280 --> 1:02:26.840 That's what I'm saying. 1:02:26.840 --> 1:02:27.480 It was an insult. 1:02:27.520 --> 1:02:27.880 I don't know. 1:02:28.000 --> 1:02:30.200 So I can see her agitation because you're saying that 1:02:30.240 --> 1:02:32.320 to insult me, right, which is grid. 1:02:32.560 --> 1:02:36.280 However, we had an war on here. You had made 1:02:36.280 --> 1:02:36.880 a comment on. 1:02:36.880 --> 1:02:38.720 Oh that's why you let me get him up with 1:02:38.840 --> 1:02:40.800 I could so let me let me talk about this 1:02:41.600 --> 1:02:44.880 a relationship. Coach being single is kind of crazy. However, 1:02:46.240 --> 1:02:49.040 why I could kind of see it is because I 1:02:49.080 --> 1:02:51.000 don't know if my therapist has ever been through some 1:02:51.040 --> 1:02:53.960 of the issues I'm talking about, whether it be financially, 1:02:54.040 --> 1:02:56.080 money or whatever. But I do know there's killed enough 1:02:56.240 --> 1:02:59.520 to guide me through which I believe doctor Bryant can 1:02:59.680 --> 1:03:02.920 be right when anwar was on here, I think he's amazing. 1:03:02.960 --> 1:03:04.439 I love some of his advice. Some of it I don't. 1:03:04.480 --> 1:03:06.680 But for the most part I do. You were like, well, 1:03:06.680 --> 1:03:07.400 he's gay. 1:03:07.480 --> 1:03:12.240 Well no, so this is so let me explain my point. 1:03:12.360 --> 1:03:18.840 I do not believe that a gay male should be 1:03:18.880 --> 1:03:25.080 giving advice to heterosexual women on their relationships with men, 1:03:25.720 --> 1:03:29.520 because what a gay man has gone through in his life, 1:03:29.800 --> 1:03:32.360 how he interacts the same way. We know they act 1:03:32.400 --> 1:03:34.520 completely different with Grinder than they do on Tender. 1:03:34.720 --> 1:03:35.680 There is difference. 1:03:35.800 --> 1:03:39.320 There are a huge difference between hetero sexual relationships and 1:03:39.600 --> 1:03:40.960 homosexual relationships. 1:03:41.000 --> 1:03:41.360 One thing. 1:03:41.640 --> 1:03:44.400 Secondly, we didn't get into it. I know he is 1:03:44.480 --> 1:03:48.440 history speaking to dating online. I did not remember asking 1:03:48.440 --> 1:03:52.160 about his educational background when I don't know. 1:03:52.080 --> 1:03:55.000 What it is years, which is why doing something. 1:03:54.720 --> 1:03:57.560 For fifteen years and say has been active doing it 1:03:57.600 --> 1:03:59.960 and has literally studied it, and he talked about that. 1:04:00.080 --> 1:04:02.600 Well, I want to know the criteria well, and I 1:04:02.640 --> 1:04:05.400 say that because we can be gay. 1:04:05.520 --> 1:04:05.960 No, no, no no. 1:04:06.440 --> 1:04:08.160 We've had SHAMBOOTI on the podcast. 1:04:08.400 --> 1:04:10.480 Who went to school to become this because she was 1:04:10.520 --> 1:04:13.240 giving advice for years before she went to school for 1:04:13.240 --> 1:04:17.320 a sex head, right, So my and relationships, that's her 1:04:17.360 --> 1:04:19.400 and Brella. That's why she's not a full sex spert. 1:04:19.760 --> 1:04:22.960 It was definitely the mix between relationships, her dynamic. That's 1:04:22.960 --> 1:04:24.560 why she got married, That's why she went to school 1:04:24.880 --> 1:04:26.840 got it. But it's because she said she didn't feel 1:04:26.880 --> 1:04:29.200 like people took her serious without both. I don't think 1:04:29.240 --> 1:04:31.920 I can get relationship advice from a gay man who 1:04:31.920 --> 1:04:34.680 has never had a heterosexual relationship with a man. 1:04:35.080 --> 1:04:36.560 I also, again don't know his education. 1:04:37.000 --> 1:04:42.560 Lastly, doctor Bryan specifically a has two degrees and a 1:04:42.600 --> 1:04:45.520 doctorate on specific psychology, so she went. 1:04:45.360 --> 1:04:46.160 To school for it. 1:04:46.280 --> 1:04:48.600 Agree, I understand why she can coche. 1:04:48.400 --> 1:04:51.320 So the same way I believe for someone. And this 1:04:51.360 --> 1:04:53.440 is the argument I have all the time. I'm fine 1:04:53.560 --> 1:04:57.080 with Skip Bayless being commentator, speaking on the business and 1:04:57.160 --> 1:04:59.680 all this stuff of sports without having ever been an athlete. 1:05:00.080 --> 1:05:03.080 To me, Doctor Brian expresses she had four proposals. 1:05:03.320 --> 1:05:06.440 She's been in numerous relationships where she does she did 1:05:06.480 --> 1:05:09.160 admit that three of them were because she wasn't ready. 1:05:09.400 --> 1:05:11.560 So to me, she's gotten as far as being proposed 1:05:11.560 --> 1:05:14.640 to engaged, didn't go through with a full wedding. 1:05:15.040 --> 1:05:15.800 I don't see that. 1:05:16.040 --> 1:05:18.120 I don't think that it's bad for her to be 1:05:18.200 --> 1:05:21.920 current in a moment in time. She's currently single giving advice. 1:05:22.000 --> 1:05:23.640 I don't think she has to be married to give 1:05:23.680 --> 1:05:27.640 relationship advice. She's not specifically talking to married women. 1:05:27.720 --> 1:05:29.440 I agree with you, and she doesn't have to be 1:05:29.520 --> 1:05:34.320 married to give advice. Okay, However, I do think and 1:05:34.360 --> 1:05:36.840 that's why the animal I thinking doctor Ryan thing came 1:05:36.840 --> 1:05:37.320 to my mind. 1:05:37.400 --> 1:05:38.160 Mm hm. 1:05:39.280 --> 1:05:42.640 He's been married fifteen years and has three children and 1:05:42.760 --> 1:05:44.800 has been going through the weeds of what a relationship 1:05:44.840 --> 1:05:47.960 is like. And to me, I almost feel like their 1:05:48.040 --> 1:05:50.880 roles could be reversed. And I'll tell you why. To me, 1:05:51.040 --> 1:05:54.400 he is more authorized to be giving coaching advice while 1:05:54.400 --> 1:05:57.240 in a relationship, and she'd be better off talking to 1:05:57.280 --> 1:05:59.560 women on being single because she's actually in the dating field. 1:06:00.080 --> 1:06:03.680 But I'm not gonna hold you, Mandy like a single woman. 1:06:03.800 --> 1:06:05.440 It wouldn't give me a lot of faith if they 1:06:05.440 --> 1:06:09.520 were coaching me in dating now she's coaching in relationships 1:06:09.520 --> 1:06:13.520 and dynamics. To me, that's more therapy. So I understand 1:06:13.520 --> 1:06:16.560 why she does. That's a relationship coach. Yeah yeah, yeah, so, 1:06:17.520 --> 1:06:19.160 but I get why he was trying to like kind 1:06:19.160 --> 1:06:21.600 of stick it to her because he's feeling like shitty 1:06:21.640 --> 1:06:23.400 when she's telling him what he's doing is wrong, which 1:06:23.480 --> 1:06:26.160 cam Newton is wrong. But I almost felt like they 1:06:26.160 --> 1:06:29.600 could be flipped to me, someone married to fifteen years, 1:06:29.640 --> 1:06:33.240 that's a long accomplishment and coaching that entire time, and 1:06:33.280 --> 1:06:35.920 the children. Most of the women come into him probably 1:06:36.000 --> 1:06:38.600 want a husband and kids. That's why they're paying tens 1:06:38.640 --> 1:06:42.680 of thousands of dollars. Right in her particular case, if 1:06:42.720 --> 1:06:45.200 you're coaching married people and never have been married. 1:06:47.400 --> 1:06:49.400 I don't know if she's psychological, I don't know. 1:06:49.520 --> 1:06:51.920 So I don't know her to be a marriage counselor 1:06:51.960 --> 1:06:55.280 though like you could, but you're dealing with the relationship dynamics. 1:06:55.520 --> 1:06:57.120 Like so, I think that that's the problem. 1:06:57.200 --> 1:06:59.720 When you're in a relationship, whether you're married, whether you're single, 1:06:59.720 --> 1:07:02.680 whether you're dating, whether you're ethical non monogamous, whether you're monogamous, 1:07:02.760 --> 1:07:06.400 you're dealing with people and communicating, which is what she 1:07:06.480 --> 1:07:09.040 talked about. That's why she believes she's high functioning, because 1:07:09.040 --> 1:07:10.479 she knows to listen and she. 1:07:10.400 --> 1:07:11.280 Knows how to communicate. 1:07:11.480 --> 1:07:13.520 I think those are the difficulties and tropes that we 1:07:13.560 --> 1:07:15.960 have in relationships, so much that I don't find it 1:07:16.000 --> 1:07:18.400 a problem that she's doing it to me, though I 1:07:18.760 --> 1:07:22.480 don't think it's a problem, no, so, but where on 1:07:22.520 --> 1:07:24.440 the other end, I don't think there's a problem with 1:07:24.480 --> 1:07:29.320 what she's doing with anwar. Being a homosexual black man 1:07:29.480 --> 1:07:32.000 giving advice to black heterosexual women. 1:07:32.600 --> 1:07:35.640 That's where I find it to be completely like, nah. 1:07:35.520 --> 1:07:39.640 Bro, So let's talk more than about experience. Yeah, if 1:07:39.640 --> 1:07:43.560 he's had most of his clients end up in successful relationships, 1:07:44.160 --> 1:07:45.800 is he not doing the job they're paying him to do. 1:07:45.920 --> 1:07:47.480 I could say this is the number one podcast in 1:07:47.480 --> 1:07:50.360 the world. I could say anything. I don't see that. 1:07:50.400 --> 1:07:51.320 I didn't see stats. 1:07:51.560 --> 1:07:53.600 I mean, now you're trying to nail somebody to the cross. 1:07:53.600 --> 1:07:57.000 But let's just say we're taking that word for value, like, 1:07:57.320 --> 1:07:59.720 there are many people that do a job with something 1:07:59.760 --> 1:08:02.280 that they don't have. You before you got in a relationship, 1:08:02.320 --> 1:08:04.760 were giving relationship and dating advice before having a boyfriend. 1:08:05.240 --> 1:08:06.520 We've been there and doing it. 1:08:06.840 --> 1:08:09.440 I think someone that's been in a field for fifteen 1:08:09.520 --> 1:08:11.480 years literally even when he was like I said, oh, 1:08:11.560 --> 1:08:13.600 is there any relationship? If I think I said this 1:08:13.840 --> 1:08:15.760 that you may regret, He's like, some of it has 1:08:15.760 --> 1:08:19.120 had to change dynamics, Like, I don't know. I do 1:08:19.200 --> 1:08:24.040 believe you can coach someone like to date even though you're. 1:08:23.880 --> 1:08:25.559 Gay, Like I believe that. 1:08:25.920 --> 1:08:30.080 I think also dealing with black women specifically is probably 1:08:30.120 --> 1:08:30.799 what makes. 1:08:30.560 --> 1:08:32.400 It a lot more. 1:08:32.640 --> 1:08:35.479 Relative, right, Like, I'm sure white women probably come to him, 1:08:35.479 --> 1:08:39.000 but we're raising a black family. He understands he's dynamics 1:08:39.000 --> 1:08:41.439 with men. Yeah, he's gay, but I've had a gay 1:08:41.479 --> 1:08:43.800 therapist before. That's listening to advice. There are some people 1:08:43.840 --> 1:08:46.360 that seek out gay therapists for their gay issues alone. 1:08:46.560 --> 1:08:49.439 But I don't really think there's anything wrong to me, 1:08:49.600 --> 1:08:53.240 It's more about knowing you've experienced this yourself. That's why 1:08:53.280 --> 1:08:56.120 I think cam Newton probably was fucking hating on her 1:08:56.120 --> 1:08:57.000 with that you could. 1:08:56.880 --> 1:08:59.919 Talk about relationship a doctor in dating levels. 1:09:00.080 --> 1:09:05.080 Sexuality matters because to me, just I would just say 1:09:05.080 --> 1:09:09.679 that then sexuality matters to me, and how you navigate 1:09:09.680 --> 1:09:12.360 the advice that you're receiving from any coach, and so 1:09:12.479 --> 1:09:17.559 to me, someone who's Christian, faith based, monogamous and has 1:09:17.600 --> 1:09:21.360 never had an ethically non monogamous relationship wouldn't go to 1:09:21.800 --> 1:09:25.479 like sexuality to me in terms of discussing relationships, which 1:09:25.520 --> 1:09:28.320 is why we talk so much about how sex impacts 1:09:28.360 --> 1:09:31.120 our relationships or why people feel like your relationship can't 1:09:31.120 --> 1:09:33.439 be real because of the dynamics you insert in sex. 1:09:33.840 --> 1:09:36.840 That's where I'm saying, like we're dealing with people, yes, 1:09:36.960 --> 1:09:39.640 but sexuality plays such a large role in how we 1:09:39.640 --> 1:09:43.519 show up in relationships, specifically specifically romantic ones. I'm not 1:09:43.680 --> 1:09:46.120 taking dating advice from a homosexual. 1:09:46.800 --> 1:09:47.320 I'm just not. 1:09:47.680 --> 1:09:48.240 I refuse. 1:09:49.200 --> 1:09:52.280 You ain't never been in a heterosexual relationship the same 1:09:52.320 --> 1:09:56.439 way I'm not gonna take advice from a monogamous, faith 1:09:56.520 --> 1:09:59.960 based person who has never experienced lifestyle. 1:10:00.640 --> 1:10:04.120 So then is doctor Bryant then qualified to be giving 1:10:04.200 --> 1:10:05.960 dating advice to people that want to get married? 1:10:08.439 --> 1:10:12.240 She's not well, she said the three of the four proposals. 1:10:12.400 --> 1:10:14.240 She never made it all the way. But also, you're 1:10:14.280 --> 1:10:16.840 asking someone to me, getting married is not the high 1:10:16.840 --> 1:10:18.600 all be all, and there's people people. 1:10:18.360 --> 1:10:20.639 That are paying I'm gonta disagree with this many. Okay, 1:10:20.640 --> 1:10:22.920 you can tell people that no, no, no, people that are paying. 1:10:23.160 --> 1:10:23.599 Yeah. 1:10:23.720 --> 1:10:25.960 I don't believe that everybody thinks marriage is a high 1:10:26.160 --> 1:10:28.320 be all, but we can all pretty much tell. 1:10:28.520 --> 1:10:31.080 If you're not ask you're hitting money. Will you not 1:10:31.160 --> 1:10:32.640 looking for just ah boyfriend? 1:10:32.680 --> 1:10:33.960 So let me ask you this question. 1:10:34.720 --> 1:10:38.479 On the opposite end, she has never been married, but 1:10:38.600 --> 1:10:40.760 has been proposed to four times and has been in 1:10:40.760 --> 1:10:44.080 long standing relationships. Would you rather take advice from her 1:10:44.720 --> 1:10:47.000 or someone who's been divorced three times? 1:10:47.760 --> 1:10:50.559 Because then those marriages A good question. The marriages didn't work. 1:10:51.479 --> 1:10:54.840 I don't actually think that's a wash on them. Okay, 1:10:55.760 --> 1:10:58.720 so she's been proposed to four times, don't know why. 1:10:58.760 --> 1:11:00.000 Don't know what type of niggas you date. 1:11:00.720 --> 1:11:03.599 To be honest, she could have stayed in relationships where like, 1:11:03.680 --> 1:11:05.040 I don't know, it might have been your fault too. 1:11:05.160 --> 1:11:07.520 She said it was her part. The three though, that's 1:11:07.760 --> 1:11:08.719 that she loves. 1:11:08.640 --> 1:11:11.479 Right and so like they're that uh course, correcting learning 1:11:11.479 --> 1:11:13.639 where you like, I think you can probably teach people 1:11:13.640 --> 1:11:15.200 but actually consider them. 1:11:15.120 --> 1:11:16.400 To be okay cool. 1:11:17.000 --> 1:11:19.920 The reason I do is because there's a lot of 1:11:19.960 --> 1:11:22.400 power in saying no. So if a woman's been divorced 1:11:22.479 --> 1:11:24.320 or like when my single friends give me advice, right, 1:11:25.240 --> 1:11:26.720 and my man has even said to me too, like, 1:11:26.760 --> 1:11:28.559 I don't know why you would ask or talk to 1:11:28.560 --> 1:11:30.120 this about so and so if they're not right, And 1:11:30.160 --> 1:11:32.000 I'm like, yeah, but they've been in a relationship before, 1:11:32.160 --> 1:11:35.320 and a lot of women say no to bad relationships. 1:11:35.520 --> 1:11:35.960 Me too. 1:11:36.360 --> 1:11:37.800 If I would have stayed with old day, would that 1:11:37.880 --> 1:11:41.440 have made me a better Like? No, so they're divorcing 1:11:41.600 --> 1:11:43.280 to get into Like, I don't know. The only thing 1:11:43.320 --> 1:11:45.880 I want to know when I'm talking to somebody, if 1:11:45.880 --> 1:11:49.160 I'm really asking them to lead me, I would actually 1:11:49.280 --> 1:11:51.400 rather see them in it. So if I had to 1:11:51.439 --> 1:11:53.240 pick from her or Animar, it'd probably be in work, 1:11:53.560 --> 1:11:56.639 mainly because that lifestyle is probably what I. 1:11:56.560 --> 1:11:59.120 Would want when I'm paying for it, what I'm looking for. 1:11:59.720 --> 1:12:02.240 And I do know that a fifteen year marriage is 1:12:02.280 --> 1:12:06.120 so unheard of and children that to me, I'm like, damn, 1:12:06.360 --> 1:12:08.040 you probably got more to teach me than she do. 1:12:09.840 --> 1:12:11.920 They been able to be married for fifteen years. 1:12:11.800 --> 1:12:13.400 Legally he's from Canada. 1:12:13.400 --> 1:12:15.800 I'm not sure, but I think marriage in New York 1:12:16.240 --> 1:12:18.799 and that was twenty over twenty years ago was it over. 1:12:18.920 --> 1:12:20.679 I think so because I was here when it became 1:12:20.760 --> 1:12:22.840 legal the United States became legal. 1:12:23.240 --> 1:12:25.840 No, it's still by state. It's not people maybe they 1:12:25.840 --> 1:12:31.080 went to wh it ain't federally, Yes it is. Gay 1:12:31.120 --> 1:12:33.680 marriage is not a federal it's still by state. No, 1:12:34.000 --> 1:12:35.040 that's a more should we look. 1:12:34.960 --> 1:12:35.439 That up. 1:12:37.400 --> 1:12:41.200 Obama. It happened under Obama. That's what you probably remember. 1:12:42.040 --> 1:12:44.240 Hawaii was still all the gaze. 1:12:44.920 --> 1:12:47.400 On June twenty sixth, twenty fifteen, the US Supreme Court 1:12:47.800 --> 1:12:50.679 struck down on all state bands in the same sex marriage. 1:12:50.680 --> 1:12:54.839 So legal, Okay, So that's nine years, bro, twenty fifteen? 1:12:54.880 --> 1:12:55.679 Bro what nigga? 1:12:55.720 --> 1:12:57.679 Okay, I'm just saying you say twenty bitch. 1:12:57.720 --> 1:12:59.320 I was like, wait, I've been like nine years. 1:12:59.400 --> 1:12:59.760 Who knows. 1:13:00.960 --> 1:13:04.120 But anyway, so I don't know if he was legally 1:13:04.120 --> 1:13:06.120 married for fifteen years, but okay you can. 1:13:06.360 --> 1:13:07.720 You could have gotten married in another state. 1:13:08.040 --> 1:13:10.760 And they're Canadian, right, And that was also a common thing, 1:13:11.000 --> 1:13:11.640 that of state thing. 1:13:11.800 --> 1:13:14.520 Yeah, in Canada, they definitely got a better fucking representative 1:13:14.520 --> 1:13:17.559 than we do. But anyway, say I had to say, yeah, 1:13:17.760 --> 1:13:20.519 for me, I do believe in longevity and working it 1:13:20.520 --> 1:13:23.000 through and it being healthy, Like that's a good marker. 1:13:23.040 --> 1:13:25.519 And I would say that to someone in business if 1:13:25.520 --> 1:13:28.080 you had a fucking podcast studio or any kind of 1:13:28.080 --> 1:13:31.160 audio production studio a longer time than me, and that 1:13:31.240 --> 1:13:34.120 business was running and up, I'm gonna probably ask you 1:13:34.200 --> 1:13:36.880 for some advice before I would an influencer that just 1:13:36.920 --> 1:13:39.559 opened their shit but it boomed. Like, I do think 1:13:39.560 --> 1:13:44.400 that longevity is something that people respect. But again, I 1:13:44.439 --> 1:13:49.240 think doctor Bryant can counsel because of the psychology degree. 1:13:50.200 --> 1:13:52.400 But dating, I don't know it's advice. 1:13:52.479 --> 1:13:57.040 Yeah, I still don't want nothing from a homosexual. 1:13:57.640 --> 1:13:57.880 Uh. 1:13:58.040 --> 1:13:59.960 I don't really know why that bothered you so much. 1:14:00.120 --> 1:14:02.920 It doesn't bother me. I'm saying, first off, I'm not bothered. 1:14:02.960 --> 1:14:03.599 I'm not angry. 1:14:04.240 --> 1:14:08.640 I don't feel like I want someone even if I. 1:14:11.240 --> 1:14:13.719 Believe sexuality matters. That's my point. 1:14:14.840 --> 1:14:17.920 That's my point is that the sexuality matters in your 1:14:17.960 --> 1:14:23.320 experience through the sexuality that you are matters if you 1:14:23.360 --> 1:14:25.040 have not had a heterosexual relationship. 1:14:25.160 --> 1:14:28.760 If your experience is to help women get to that's 1:14:28.800 --> 1:14:30.320 pretty much what it is, get to the finish line, 1:14:30.320 --> 1:14:31.320 which is marriage, right. 1:14:32.080 --> 1:14:34.519 And I guess that's my different like where I feel 1:14:34.520 --> 1:14:38.000 like it's different. I think relationship advice for the relationship 1:14:38.040 --> 1:14:41.040 coaching and those things. Marriage is not the end goal 1:14:41.120 --> 1:14:44.080 for everyone. So when we talk about the qualifications of 1:14:44.120 --> 1:14:46.920 why someone may be going to a dating a relationship coach, 1:14:47.200 --> 1:14:49.760 then being single in the moment to help me through 1:14:49.760 --> 1:14:51.519 my relationship doesn't matter if they're married or not. 1:14:51.640 --> 1:14:54.519 Do you think that actually this for everybody in the room. 1:14:55.280 --> 1:14:59.000 So an War is not a matchmaker, he's a dating 1:14:59.040 --> 1:15:00.599 coach for people that want to get married. 1:15:00.640 --> 1:15:01.519 That's like what he said. 1:15:02.400 --> 1:15:06.800 Do y'all think that anyone that's spending money though, is 1:15:06.880 --> 1:15:09.040 going to spend money if they're not looking for a 1:15:09.120 --> 1:15:09.960 husband or wife. 1:15:09.800 --> 1:15:10.679 Because I actually don't. 1:15:10.760 --> 1:15:13.679 It's a couple's therapy happen. No, no, no, single people paying 1:15:13.680 --> 1:15:15.960 a dating coach. Single people paying a dating coach. 1:15:16.200 --> 1:15:18.519 So that's the thing. She's not a dating coach, she's 1:15:18.520 --> 1:15:20.200 a dating account I'm not talking about her. 1:15:20.640 --> 1:15:23.320 I'm just trying to like, oh, this is conversation because 1:15:23.320 --> 1:15:25.000 you're saying marriage isn't the end goal for everybody. But 1:15:25.040 --> 1:15:27.479 I think for dating coaches that's got to be their thing. 1:15:27.880 --> 1:15:29.880 Do y'all believe that everyone paying for dating coach wants 1:15:29.880 --> 1:15:30.360 to get married. 1:15:31.600 --> 1:15:33.960 I thought, so I would think that there's an end 1:15:33.960 --> 1:15:35.519 goal if you're doing something like that. 1:15:35.479 --> 1:15:37.439 Or just to get a partner. Just because you get 1:15:37.439 --> 1:15:39.240 what someone doesn't mean going to. 1:15:39.160 --> 1:15:40.080 Pay for it if it's not. 1:15:40.280 --> 1:15:41.400 But I don't think there's a way. 1:15:41.200 --> 1:15:43.479 To confirm that just because you make a match that 1:15:43.520 --> 1:15:44.839 this person is going to be your husband. 1:15:45.000 --> 1:15:47.759 I know, but I think when someone's spending the money, 1:15:47.800 --> 1:15:48.960 they want marriage, but. 1:15:48.880 --> 1:15:51.000 There's no way to That's what I'm saying. 1:15:51.240 --> 1:15:53.360 Even if we get matched, that doesn't mean this person's 1:15:53.360 --> 1:15:55.679 going to be my husband or my wife. I think 1:15:55.680 --> 1:15:58.160 that that's an unrealistic expectation just because I'm paying money, 1:15:58.160 --> 1:15:59.120 I'm going to find my husband. 1:15:59.640 --> 1:16:01.400 That's not feel like it's like if you go to 1:16:01.400 --> 1:16:03.519 a subway and like you get a wrap instead of 1:16:03.560 --> 1:16:05.960 a fucking six foot or foot long, you know what 1:16:05.960 --> 1:16:06.360 I'm saying. 1:16:06.400 --> 1:16:09.880 So, the thing that's happening within dating coaches right from 1:16:09.880 --> 1:16:12.719 even when I gather when he talked about specifically these 1:16:12.760 --> 1:16:14.960 women in Bigger City, then when he said six to 1:16:15.000 --> 1:16:18.040 eight months for a commitment, whereas the other ones ninety days. 1:16:18.600 --> 1:16:21.360 I think what's happening is that these people that are 1:16:21.360 --> 1:16:24.880 paying don't have the tools to set because it's all 1:16:24.880 --> 1:16:26.720 about boundaries. And this is actually something he said on 1:16:26.760 --> 1:16:29.240 a live I watched. He's like, I'm not saying stress 1:16:29.320 --> 1:16:32.120 him out, but by stress him out, I mean make 1:16:32.160 --> 1:16:35.400 your boundaries that strong. I'm not doing this or I'm 1:16:35.400 --> 1:16:37.120 not going to be dating you without having X, y Z. 1:16:37.320 --> 1:16:39.080 Like you've made some for yourself too, right, Like. 1:16:39.120 --> 1:16:40.120 Those are my boundaries. 1:16:40.240 --> 1:16:42.439 There's a difference though, between boundaries and ultimatums, which we 1:16:42.479 --> 1:16:47.040 talked about too, right. Soa walking away, right, that's about 1:16:47.120 --> 1:16:47.519 the point. 1:16:47.720 --> 1:16:50.479 So like I think dating coaches are there to kind 1:16:50.479 --> 1:16:52.120 of guide you through that because a lot of women 1:16:52.160 --> 1:16:55.240 a aren't walking away be setting that tone or ce 1:16:56.160 --> 1:16:57.040 able to really. 1:16:56.840 --> 1:17:00.880 Go out there and date in a way that puts 1:17:00.880 --> 1:17:02.200 them in a position of power. 1:17:02.439 --> 1:17:04.120 I think a lot of girls go on these dates 1:17:04.160 --> 1:17:07.559 and they're kind of just like following the dudes, you know, flow, 1:17:07.880 --> 1:17:10.120 whereas the coaches are kind of being like, hey, this 1:17:10.200 --> 1:17:11.880 is what your next step needs to be. I think 1:17:11.920 --> 1:17:14.760 that's why people pay, But I also believe that the 1:17:14.880 --> 1:17:17.479 end goal for them is marriage. I find it hard 1:17:17.520 --> 1:17:19.240 to believe that there is a woman out there that 1:17:19.280 --> 1:17:22.720 would spend anywhere from five to ten thousand dollars to 1:17:22.960 --> 1:17:24.559 just have a long term for I think they really 1:17:24.640 --> 1:17:27.599 want a husband, because I think people that just want 1:17:27.600 --> 1:17:30.080 to date casually feel comfortable enough to do it solo. 1:17:32.240 --> 1:17:32.840 But you don't. 1:17:34.560 --> 1:17:37.800 We disagree on this, and I just I know we've 1:17:37.800 --> 1:17:39.439 been going back and forth for a long time and 1:17:39.479 --> 1:17:40.360 we're over on time. 1:17:40.920 --> 1:17:42.400 Wrap it up, wrap it up out. 1:17:42.600 --> 1:17:43.280 I'm just like. 1:17:44.040 --> 1:17:46.479 I've said my point, you've said your part. Dropping the 1:17:46.520 --> 1:17:50.680 comments who you you know where you stand on dating coaches, 1:17:51.040 --> 1:17:55.160 dating relationships and qualifications of them, and you know, drop 1:17:55.160 --> 1:17:56.000 it in the comments below. 1:17:56.280 --> 1:17:57.679 Seew uh. 1:17:57.760 --> 1:18:02.120 And you guys want some more content like this, make 1:18:02.120 --> 1:18:04.679 sure you join us on our Patreon. That's patreon dot com. 1:18:04.760 --> 1:18:07.919 Next Slash Horrible Decisions. This has been yet another episode 1:18:07.960 --> 1:18:08.879 of Horrior Decisions. 1:18:10.960 --> 1:18:13.600 If you haven't heard Monday's episode yet, it is the 1:18:13.640 --> 1:18:15.519 same exact guess which we've never done. 1:18:16.120 --> 1:18:19.280 You know, we haven't shout out to Drake. 1:18:19.320 --> 1:18:19.920 He's back now. 1:18:20.800 --> 1:18:27.280 Actually he dropped to at Gordo killing in Sideways and 1:18:27.320 --> 1:18:30.280 then he just dropped one hundred gigabytes of new music. 1:18:30.760 --> 1:18:31.960 Is this? Did you hear? 1:18:32.120 --> 1:18:32.960 This is racial? 1:18:33.120 --> 1:18:33.680 Don't do that. 1:18:34.120 --> 1:18:34.640 Don't do that. 1:18:35.120 --> 1:18:39.639 I'm not gonna hold you for the next couple of months. 1:18:39.920 --> 1:18:42.360 This is how this is how people gonna listen to Drake. 1:18:46.520 --> 1:18:47.200 Be the phony. 1:18:47.240 --> 1:18:49.120 I ain't gonna hold you people is just cheap. 1:18:50.439 --> 1:18:52.040 I don't been to a whole lot of parties, a 1:18:52.040 --> 1:18:55.400 whole lot of clubs, a whole different country. And baby 1:18:55.479 --> 1:18:57.840 Drake was going off and and and the girls and 1:18:57.880 --> 1:18:58.840 the boys. 1:18:59.320 --> 1:19:02.519 You know what was to They not like us. Listen, 1:19:03.760 --> 1:19:05.400 They're like not, they're not like us. 1:19:05.439 --> 1:19:08.439 Every day since it came out, like just accident, just 1:19:08.479 --> 1:19:11.280 walking around someone played it. But you know that clip 1:19:11.320 --> 1:19:13.960 of Drew Ski dancing to Grease, like when it's like 1:19:14.000 --> 1:19:16.240 a little meme of him, He's like, this is a 1:19:16.360 --> 1:19:18.320 meme of Drew Ski dance on the boat to a 1:19:18.400 --> 1:19:22.639 Drake song, Like you forget that, Like pe the minute 1:19:22.680 --> 1:19:26.799 there's a banger, everyone's gonna be like, oh, like goodness 1:19:26.840 --> 1:19:29.120 gracious or the super so super so with yacht's out 1:19:29.160 --> 1:19:29.920 right now, it's all over. 1:19:29.960 --> 1:19:33.280 TikTok oh, yeah no, that's what I'm saying. He's still 1:19:33.520 --> 1:19:38.080 dropping And even I don't even that ship was Gordo. 1:19:39.000 --> 1:19:42.120 By the way, how crazy is it that Revamps happened? 1:19:42.240 --> 1:19:44.479 I don't know if anyone ever heard of Gordo before, 1:19:45.160 --> 1:19:47.080 he looked very familiar to me. When I used to 1:19:47.160 --> 1:19:49.320 rave with Vinnie back in the day, one of my 1:19:49.320 --> 1:19:51.840 favorite DJs was this dude named DJ Carnage because he 1:19:51.840 --> 1:19:52.800 would play trap shit. 1:19:53.720 --> 1:19:55.760 I'm looking at him, yes. 1:19:55.640 --> 1:19:57.719 Oh wow, whoa who. 1:19:59.280 --> 1:19:59.880 Look at that. 1:20:00.680 --> 1:20:02.240 I'm talking to her friend of mine, like, why would 1:20:02.240 --> 1:20:02.600 they do that? 1:20:02.640 --> 1:20:04.920 And it's like, because when you're boxed in, if you 1:20:04.920 --> 1:20:06.120 don't rename. 1:20:06.479 --> 1:20:07.120 Didn't hit make it? 1:20:07.200 --> 1:20:07.479 Do that? 1:20:11.880 --> 1:20:17.880 Kitty boy? DP know about to titty had Well? 1:20:17.880 --> 1:20:19.760 Anyway, oh that's right, here we go. 1:20:20.800 --> 1:20:23.799 So the same thing happened that day. No, no, no, take something. 1:20:23.880 --> 1:20:25.920 I wanted to do this outline about marriage because when 1:20:25.960 --> 1:20:29.760 I clicked on your Instagram, I'm like, oh, yeah, he's happy, 1:20:30.560 --> 1:20:32.320 and you were getting a gift for your husband that day, 1:20:32.360 --> 1:20:35.000 I think, But we ended up getting so deep and 1:20:35.080 --> 1:20:39.280 combo and one sexuality we need to talk about off 1:20:39.360 --> 1:20:39.760 the top. 1:20:40.120 --> 1:20:43.519 Yes, the Gabriel you need so now your senses that 1:20:43.600 --> 1:20:44.120 I was right. 1:20:44.360 --> 1:20:49.439 Listen, it's not that we think that you have more 1:20:49.880 --> 1:20:54.040 ground to stand on than we initially gave you. But also, 1:20:54.400 --> 1:20:57.680 I'm not gonna be up here saying she's not a 1:20:57.880 --> 1:20:59.960 great actress. But then if I look at the rate, 1:21:00.240 --> 1:21:02.479 is I go, oh, where I'm I putting her? Where 1:21:02.479 --> 1:21:05.200 am I putting her? So you know, I think I 1:21:05.240 --> 1:21:07.719 think this is a black people need to We didn't 1:21:07.720 --> 1:21:10.720 have a referendum in the black community. Everyone's gonna get 1:21:10.720 --> 1:21:13.040 a pamphlet and everyone can vote and we'll figure out 1:21:13.040 --> 1:21:15.320 where we're going to play Anzwe Bassett. We know she's 1:21:15.360 --> 1:21:17.840 above azeb Basket is above Gabrielle Union. 1:21:17.880 --> 1:21:19.639 Of course if. 1:21:19.520 --> 1:21:22.160 There, if there is, you know how people do tiers 1:21:22.400 --> 1:21:25.719 where you're worth five points, four points point, two points, 1:21:25.720 --> 1:21:26.080 one point. 1:21:26.160 --> 1:21:29.479 Yes, Gabrielle Union is a two pointer or three. I 1:21:29.479 --> 1:21:30.840 would not even put her point. 1:21:31.120 --> 1:21:32.520 Who's your three? 1:21:32.680 --> 1:21:36.840 So if Angela's five, yeah, and Palmer's four, we're going 1:21:36.840 --> 1:21:37.800 to Palmer four. 1:21:38.400 --> 1:21:41.560 Okay, Right, we're giving Kiki four and not three. I 1:21:41.600 --> 1:21:44.519 would give key Palmer three. Okay, I would give her three, 1:21:44.600 --> 1:21:46.240 but then I gotta get Gabrielle Union and three. 1:21:46.320 --> 1:21:50.880 I think Kikey's above Gabrielle, and I have Gabrielle a two. 1:21:51.120 --> 1:21:55.760 Wow, Wow, like make it good at a one. 1:21:58.400 --> 1:22:00.639 Don't do what she died. 1:22:01.640 --> 1:22:02.520 She died. 1:22:04.000 --> 1:22:04.320 Baby. 1:22:04.680 --> 1:22:07.080 Maybe there has been zero range with meg a good 1:22:07.200 --> 1:22:13.080 or haler. Hold on y'all, but that's it over, y'all 1:22:13.080 --> 1:22:14.800 as play for the people. 1:22:15.120 --> 1:22:17.400 So I got maybe hold on, I'm. 1:22:22.640 --> 1:22:24.920 Okay, So okay, A four. 1:22:25.680 --> 1:22:31.840 I would probably put, oh, like Otavia Spencer, Kerry Washington. 1:22:33.400 --> 1:22:34.519 Washington up there in five. 1:22:34.840 --> 1:22:37.080 I would put Kerry Washington out of four, I'll give 1:22:37.160 --> 1:22:37.920 Carrit four or five. 1:22:37.920 --> 1:22:40.400 I would give her a four. Five Yeah, Otavia Spencer 1:22:40.400 --> 1:22:42.879 four five. Okay, she got hardware. 1:22:42.920 --> 1:22:46.320 Okay, oh my god, I got that was funny. 1:22:46.840 --> 1:22:53.439 Yeah, you need to take cousin baby. 1:22:53.600 --> 1:22:55.880 Don't do that because even she had mad years from 1:22:55.920 --> 1:23:00.280 them to get better. And Harlem and that recent black five. Sorry, 1:23:00.600 --> 1:23:01.720 Halle Berry. I would put it a four. 1:23:01.800 --> 1:23:02.160 I'm done. 1:23:02.160 --> 1:23:02.639 This is crazy. 1:23:02.680 --> 1:23:04.400 I just typed an African American. 1:23:04.040 --> 1:23:07.760 Acts, say giks, it comes up as the third in it. 1:23:08.800 --> 1:23:12.040 So you just called a segment from our bonus content 1:23:12.240 --> 1:23:15.200 over on Patreon. We have so much more bonus content 1:23:15.360 --> 1:23:18.839 BTS live episodes, hundreds of hours. 1:23:19.080 --> 1:23:22.839 How are you not subscribed? Go right now Patreon dot com. 1:23:22.840 --> 1:23:24.480 Backslash moverbel Decisions