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Speaker 1: Guess what decision we're about to make.

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Speaker 2: Horrible decision.

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Speaker 3: Sorry, vibrate.

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Speaker 4: It's a library, he said, put your ship on the

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Speaker 4: Gray Beach beet for fishing in a page.

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Speaker 5: It's my birthday week.

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Speaker 2: Oh, she said, you violent.

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Speaker 3: I'm gonna shut up. Why did you put this in front.

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Speaker 1: Of Honest, I think about it all the time.

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Speaker 2: That's crazy, now, you know what's she's kind of nuts. Now,

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Speaker 2: I ain't gonna hold you.

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Speaker 4: When I when I said I wanted to hire you back,

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Speaker 4: she was like, well, you know he's you know you

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Speaker 4: nobody does right. And I was like, girl, anybody the girl,

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Speaker 4: he ain't gonna punch us, know you did.

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Speaker 2: You were a little nervous.

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Speaker 1: No, it was your punch, isn't it. I kind of

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Speaker 1: felt awkward because of orient mall.

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Speaker 2: Oh I didn't.

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Speaker 1: That made me feel awf They're not they know they're

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Speaker 1: super chill. But I just meant, like, damn, we're gonna

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Speaker 1: take it in right back.

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Speaker 2: Hell yeah the job that time.

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Speaker 6: But I was just like, and you know, it's funny

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Speaker 6: because a lot of people don't maybe understand how it

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Speaker 6: all happened, right.

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Speaker 3: How is yeah?

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Speaker 2: This is not going on the episode. No, no, we

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Speaker 2: don't even talk about it.

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Speaker 1: Okay, Well, anyway, I definitely called Rory once that happening.

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Speaker 2: Y'all welcome to a horrible decision.

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Speaker 1: We got our producers on the line and tell you

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Speaker 1: the t eden.

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Speaker 6: So I called Rory to hang out that week, and

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Speaker 6: y'all know, I'm not on Twitter.

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Speaker 1: No one told me what happened. So I called Rory.

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Speaker 6: I'm like, hey, we're talking ship or whatever for like

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Speaker 6: five or ten minutes. He's like, so go ahead, and

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Speaker 6: I'm like what And he's like come on, and I'm like,

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Speaker 6: what the fuck is going on. He's like, wheezy, like

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Speaker 6: you're finding with me.

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Speaker 2: I'm like, I am not.

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Speaker 4: He's like, oh yeah, you literally don't be in the world.

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Speaker 4: You got you in your own world.

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Speaker 3: I am, but you're not.

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Speaker 4: Once you're on Twitter, you're dealing with the Twitter spears

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Speaker 4: of the bullshit, shit, crazy shit.

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Speaker 6: Let me tell you how like far removed I am.

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Speaker 6: I got a call from someone I work with and

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Speaker 6: it was literally like you need to stop doing and

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Speaker 6: I'm like, what are you talking about? It was because

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Speaker 6: Mandy and start ex co host we're beefing, and I'm

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Speaker 6: like I was.

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Speaker 4: From that I thought you were talking about the other

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Speaker 4: podcaster or the way every week and somebody you.

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Speaker 6: Don't be knowing what's going on. The only thing I

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Speaker 6: did know, bitch, when you pulled out that laptop, and

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Speaker 6: I know, so what's crazy?

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Speaker 4: As niggas swear i'd be beefing anyway, but it don't

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Speaker 4: be beef with nobody. I just share my opinion and

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Speaker 4: move on. But also I really love being petty. Oh

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Speaker 4: my god, that shit make my pussy thump in real life,

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Speaker 4: like my shit be like I'm like pet I swear to.

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Speaker 2: Go on it.

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Speaker 1: So you think you don't start it.

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Speaker 4: I started first off, freedom of speech. It's one of

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Speaker 4: the amendments commandments.

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Speaker 2: What it's amendments. Fight you're right, bitch, get the fuck

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Speaker 2: out of here.

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Speaker 4: Listen because when I moved to Georgia, bitch a bitch

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Speaker 4: getting a little pink gun pupy. It's gonna be key

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Speaker 4: you going on now, you're good, I mean, listen, the

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Speaker 4: gun the gun about to be gunning.

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Speaker 5: Girl.

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Speaker 6: I had a phone call from a girl that I

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Speaker 6: rarely hang out with, maybe once a year. I see

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Speaker 6: her and she was like, girl, I can't wait to

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Speaker 6: hang out with you when you and Atlanta. I'm like,

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Speaker 6: I'm not coming to Atlanta. What are you talking about.

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Speaker 6: I don't have any plan. She's like, no, I listened

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Speaker 6: to this weekend. Man, he's coming to Wanta.

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Speaker 2: So that's crazy.

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Speaker 4: I said, Oh, first off, the fact that you could

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Speaker 4: live in La and Mexico. But niggas think the show

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Speaker 4: ending because I'm moving to Atlanta. I'm like, bitch, I'm

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Speaker 4: gonna still be in New York. We're gonna make it

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Speaker 4: motherfucker happen.

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Speaker 1: I aready may come from this. I think that could

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Speaker 1: be fun.

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Speaker 6: I think I told you Earnier Leisure inspired me a

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Speaker 4: I'm like, now we are touring next year. If I

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Speaker 4: don't the least amount of times I have to get

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Speaker 4: on a plane next year, No, I'm about.

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Speaker 1: To get back on Atlanta. To me, is traveling like

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Speaker 1: it's I.

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Speaker 4: Go to La now because you're there, if you have

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Speaker 4: to come to Atlanta. Yeah, I think we'll be open

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Speaker 4: to more guest options. But I think the audience be

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Speaker 4: liking these solos, so I think as long as we

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Speaker 2: Just know we're going through it, but.

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Speaker 6: We will come back. That's how feel about booty picks.

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Speaker 6: If I post my ass, bitch, what the oh that

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Speaker 6: mean you single?

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Speaker 1: That single? I mean I'm trying to fiss them off.

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Speaker 4: Oh and see, this is why I'm going to be

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Speaker 4: single forever, because bitch, I wish the nigga.

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Speaker 1: Would, Oh, girl, you're not going to see here and.

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Speaker 4: Go straight to the internet and get the attention of

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Speaker 4: folks because we because you're mad right now, Because I'd

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Speaker 4: be like, go and then that's.

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Speaker 2: The problem too.

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Speaker 4: No, it's just fun, you know, so for me, So

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Speaker 4: that's where I think should be fucking up with me, Like,

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Speaker 4: I don't think I care enough.

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Speaker 2: So when niggas see that shit, don't.

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Speaker 4: Really phathe me, they'd be like, oh, but you don't

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Speaker 2: Yeah, I don't be caring.

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Speaker 1: Hate the player.

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Speaker 6: So I wanted to bring something up that I found

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Speaker 6: to be interested in speaking of niggas, So I'm watching

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Speaker 6: Love is Blind with my dude, right. The Love is

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Speaker 6: Blind UK version, very very interesting one because there's a

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Speaker 6: to me, she a big girl, but she's definitely like curvy.

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Speaker 2: You know what's crazy about you saying whatever? You about

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Speaker 2: to go?

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Speaker 4: Say so because they're casting in Atlanta right now. For

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Speaker 4: Love is Blind. My homegirls was like, bitch, you gotta

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Speaker 4: go on. Are you about to move here? And I said,

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Speaker 4: I need to see my life. Need to be down, bitch,

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Speaker 4: I'm too shut up, a little bit blond.

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Speaker 6: Normally I say like, oh, I.

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Speaker 1: Being with a fine nigga.

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Speaker 6: Bro.

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Speaker 1: We went to the layout.

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Speaker 6: I can't tell you how many people stop this nigga

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Speaker 6: to hey, I'm making a photo off. I'm doing this,

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Speaker 6: I'm doing that. It does feel good again. But so

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Speaker 6: something made me realize, oh, maybe I do have a

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Speaker 6: little mandy in me.

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Speaker 1: Here's why she's got a.

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Speaker 2: Little mandy in you. Say it again, Say it again.

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Speaker 6: I didn't say I was eating ass. So here's the

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Speaker 1: He was like, yeah, of.

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Speaker 6: Course, we would think about our first phone conversation before

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Speaker 6: And I was like, Yo, if we would have seen

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Speaker 6: Really attracted to each other to the point, Mandy, and

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Speaker 6: this is why I don't think love is blind. Well,

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Speaker 6: I no, really, I was like, come on, answer to phone.

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Speaker 1: He's like no. Later that week he told me he

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Speaker 6: He's like, I can't look at you when we're in

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Speaker 6: I was mad.

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Speaker 1: I love you so much. I'm looking at you.

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Speaker 6: I care about you like I'm seeing you, and it's

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Speaker 2: That's a problem. That was a problem.

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Speaker 4: That's why I stayed with my excellent bitch. I know

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Speaker 4: this just because you're not baby.

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Speaker 2: Guess yes, when I tell you.

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Speaker 4: I was like, all right, this nigga line right now,

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Speaker 4: and I know he lying because he's not a good liar.

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Speaker 4: And I was like, but the god, damn he like

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Speaker 4: the way I wanted to jump his fucking bones every time,

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Speaker 4: the way I wanted to fuck him. I couldn't even

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Speaker 4: be mad for long because it's like, damn he fine, okay, whatever,

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Speaker 4: he ain't shit, but he fine, Like I like a financing,

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Speaker 4: and what's crazy is only for so long. By the way,

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Speaker 4: you get ugly after. Like when I saw that nigga

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Speaker 4: at the part, I was like, look, he's salmon ass

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Speaker 4: ugly as shorts.

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Speaker 2: This nigga got on. I thought his outfit was ugly.

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Speaker 2: I thought I saw everything.

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Speaker 4: About I said. He came, I said, the last year

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Speaker 6: It's not just if they're fine, it's your connection to them,

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Speaker 4: I mean, I think that that's a bit of the problem.

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Speaker 2: And love is blind. Like did you see the did

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Speaker 4: The one where it was like, wait, your granddad's named that,

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Speaker 6: Them had specially needs fucking cousins and it was like, yo,

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Speaker 6: Someone will understand me. Yeah now, no, I'll do a

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Speaker 6: no Kodak come on it. Look it's really embarrassing. He

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Speaker 6: told me that in backstage in our show we were

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Speaker 6: playing Kaya. He was like, I looked at you like

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Speaker 6: It really enjoy if I would have been on that

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Speaker 6: I'm probably going to match with you because I'm like,

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Speaker 6: it takes me like a few days to get it out,

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Speaker 6: like real bad.

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Speaker 1: Damn did that happen to?

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Speaker 5: You know?

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Speaker 3: Bitch?

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Speaker 4: I go down there and I'd be like what, I

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Speaker 4: is would be talking about nigga, I ain't gonna hold you,

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Speaker 4: and I'm like, yuck, but I don't like accents, And

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Speaker 1: I you literally have it.

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Speaker 4: I don't sound like do you got me fucked up?

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Speaker 4: When I go anywhere, they'd be like, you're from New York.

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Speaker 4: But I think it's because I'm loud.

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Speaker 6: Okay, I do not sound do you know why people

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Speaker 6: they don't sound like No, I don't sound deep like

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Speaker 6: the thing we're from New York because the dressing is elevated. Okay,

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Speaker 6: Like when you go to another spot in the States,

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Speaker 6: more sweaty I now even when I'm in La, right

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Speaker 6: the way that people know I'm not from LA or

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Speaker 2: Wear spandex, I was gonna say, it's.

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Speaker 1: Not it's not as leisure and it's not dead as

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Speaker 4: They wear leggings and ship, that's it, and they all.

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Speaker 6: Just you putting shit on that just kind of look

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Speaker 6: a little different. You're almost like, does this not match?

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Speaker 6: And in New York that ship is a vibe. The

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Speaker 6: is a cargo pant and a crop tea. Because that's

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Speaker 6: just bad bitch wear in the summertime. Yeah right, that's

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Speaker 6: what all about. He's gonna wear in summertime.

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Speaker 1: Butter than that.

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Speaker 4: No, I's be knowing and I really appreciate it. Like

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Speaker 4: Bruh and the niggas dressed the same.

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Speaker 6: It's cool because it's kind of sexy for l A

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Speaker 6: like if you want to wear es centrals every day?

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Speaker 1: Cool, Like I get that to your do your.

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Speaker 2: Neutral the neutral. But I do like a little skater boy.

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Speaker 6: I like a little gate Actually, if I could put

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Speaker 6: not Ocho.

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Speaker 3: What's his name?

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Speaker 6: He got his song Ochog that nigga be dressing. Okay,

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Speaker 6: he got a swag to him with the dickies. He

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Speaker 6: dresses like a Mexican is what you're saying, okay?

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Speaker 1: Or Mexicans.

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Speaker 2: He's just like you.

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Speaker 1: No dosetress quatro something, bitch? What is it in your

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Speaker 1: d today?

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Speaker 3: I forgot what I forgot?

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Speaker 1: It's not it's the ot genesis nigga.

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Speaker 3: You mean, first of all, the song from I Think

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Speaker 3: It's My Local.

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Speaker 4: That is a whole different song. That's not a whole

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Speaker 4: different beat. That's why she just started saying something in Spanish.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, I forgot.

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Speaker 1: I'm not at him my hall pass list.

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Speaker 2: Y G is added to your hall pass list.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, it's probably a swag. Okay, right now, it's then which.

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Speaker 3: Is the one?

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Speaker 4: One?

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Speaker 3: Is? His name is m J. Whole different guy?

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Speaker 4: Anyway, I don't know him so to me all the niggas,

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Speaker 4: wow y g okay, b.

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Speaker 6: I'm not gonna hold you whenever left right, let me

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Speaker 6: see you do it. I'm like, okay, that's.

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Speaker 4: Just that's crazy. That is crazy.

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Speaker 3: I love.

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Speaker 4: Aesthetically like, he looks like what I want to pass

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Speaker 4: and want to suck his dick from the back.

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Speaker 1: Now are you looking at him? That nigga?

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Speaker 3: Look you looking at him?

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Speaker 2: He looks like if you had these hills on, he

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Speaker 2: may have to look up.

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Speaker 1: No, I don't think he's not short.

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Speaker 6: He's I actually think he's tall.

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Speaker 3: So you guess on his head five nine.

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Speaker 1: I'm gonna say six to one.

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Speaker 3: He's six feet okay, which means.

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Speaker 1: He's five ten and a half. No, no, no, he's

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Speaker 2: They even know you think.

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Speaker 4: Away from Iverson is not even over six ft in

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Speaker 4: the internet, say he's six to one. Go look and

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Speaker 4: see how tay Allen Iverson is. Alan Iverson is lucky

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Speaker 4: to be five eleven and three quarters.

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Speaker 3: Why do you think that is though? Because they be

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Speaker 3: lying just says six feet and he ain't. If you

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Speaker 3: five eleven six quarters, I'm giving you six.

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Speaker 4: No, Ai is not fucking six feet tall. I'm telling you, Bro,

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Speaker 4: I'm five to one out have been in the same spot. Bro,

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Speaker 4: that nigga used to be at the strip club every

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Speaker 4: time when I lived in Atlanta.

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Speaker 2: He's six ft to you, No, he's six foot that

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Speaker 2: he is under six ft.

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Speaker 1: I'm telling you he's not sure. I've seen him.

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Speaker 2: No, I've seen why you too. He's short to me.

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Speaker 3: I mean, okay, we have to understand that Mandy's parameters.

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Speaker 3: Tall is very different. I'm like miniature to her. I

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Speaker 3: can say no, essentially based off this math. Yeah, based

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Speaker 4: I'm saying that Normally, when niggas say he's six ft,

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Speaker 4: it's two inches short.

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Speaker 1: Someone google helps tall Duke Dennis this did you want

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Speaker 1: to put that, nigga?

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Speaker 2: Oh, he's already looked up. He likes sixty three. Duke

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Speaker 2: dinnis like sixty three right.

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Speaker 5: To two inches?

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Speaker 4: Now, first bet you wouldn't say that about no Dick.

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Speaker 5: Yes, two more inches.

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Speaker 3: That's forty all, bro.

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Speaker 4: Two inches on a heel is a lot, two inches

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Speaker 4: a lot, two inches on a human being is a lot.

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Speaker 2: Are y'all serious?

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Speaker 3: You wouldn't be tight. I just told Wolf I'll be tight.

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Speaker 3: I lost.

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Speaker 1: There's niggas reason I take it. I'm not as shallow

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Speaker 1: as you.

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Speaker 2: There are niggas doing their whole knees to get two inches.

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Speaker 3: I don't need to be taller. I'm good.

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Speaker 2: But that's what I'm saying. Y'all better stop acting like

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Speaker 2: two inches in a lot?

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Speaker 1: Yes, girl with you.

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Speaker 4: Now, I'm just saying two inches of the difference between

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Speaker 4: a cute heel and a kitten.

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Speaker 2: There's a difference, bitch. Let's talk about the inches here,

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Speaker 2: all right.

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Speaker 3: Let me ask you a question. Right, A dude is

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Speaker 3: six ' to two, but he also got a six

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Speaker 3: inch dick. You could either lose one of the two

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Speaker 3: inches from either side. Which two inches is you lose it?

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Speaker 1: I'm gonna keep the dick, is it?

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Speaker 2: Is it girthy?

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Speaker 6: It's a normal girl, and I'm my mandy on this

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Speaker 6: one than two inches? Actually yeah, wait, he's six he's six.

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Speaker 2: Oh, he's six. He's six ft okay, six ft. He

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Speaker 2: has got to go to the six foot.

444
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Speaker 3: So you had to lose.

445
00:18:19,400 --> 00:18:21,679
Speaker 2: From a six footer or two inches of dick from a.

446
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Speaker 3: Six inch So he's out of five ten or four

447
00:18:23,320 --> 00:18:24,120
Speaker 3: inches either Way'm.

448
00:18:23,920 --> 00:18:25,960
Speaker 1: Gonna kick the dick, keep the dick six inch to

449
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Speaker 1: me is not bad. I think six inch is really good.

450
00:18:28,440 --> 00:18:29,920
Speaker 1: He loved when you went love to six.

451
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Speaker 2: You're gonna let me fuck out the niggas.

452
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Speaker 3: No, see, look that's crazy. That's the compromise.

453
00:18:38,800 --> 00:18:42,000
Speaker 2: I mean what, bitch, I want to be a little tall.

454
00:18:42,280 --> 00:18:43,080
Speaker 2: Let me look up at you.

455
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Speaker 3: But he's gonna be five to ten over a six

456
00:18:47,720 --> 00:18:53,120
Speaker 3: inch dick. No, man, bro, that's what I'm saying.

457
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Speaker 2: I'm a Napoleon complex.

458
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Speaker 1: I'm glad.

459
00:18:57,359 --> 00:19:03,119
Speaker 4: Yeah, I'm just saying, is not no point taller, bitch,

460
00:19:03,200 --> 00:19:06,119
Speaker 4: I feel taller than what I really am.

461
00:19:06,480 --> 00:19:09,960
Speaker 2: I'm just saying, I'm like, okay, y'all being real judgy

462
00:19:10,119 --> 00:19:10,560
Speaker 2: right now.

463
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Speaker 4: No, both would the she's losing the two inches height,

464
00:19:18,359 --> 00:19:19,800
Speaker 4: I'm losing the two inches of dick.

465
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Speaker 2: But it's going to be.

466
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Speaker 4: I get extra, I get some more dick, or bitch,

467
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Speaker 4: I'll put an extender on him at this point, like,

468
00:19:27,560 --> 00:19:28,120
Speaker 4: because I am.

469
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Speaker 3: I would be So why would you be tight.

470
00:19:30,560 --> 00:19:35,960
Speaker 4: About the extender? You know you can extend your dick.

471
00:19:37,480 --> 00:19:39,280
Speaker 4: You don't want to put your dick inside of another dick?

472
00:19:39,840 --> 00:19:45,000
Speaker 1: No, actually that is a good question for.

473
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Speaker 3: Dick.

474
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Speaker 4: Yeah, wait, no, I would ask No, I want to

475
00:19:48,880 --> 00:19:52,560
Speaker 4: ask this question So would you where an if you're

476
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Speaker 4: if you got with a woman who lets you know

477
00:19:55,040 --> 00:19:57,680
Speaker 4: that she's a size queen, would.

478
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Speaker 1: You even if you have a ten inches dick right now,

479
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Speaker 1: I don't.

480
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Speaker 4: Care about the side Like say you got a small

481
00:20:01,000 --> 00:20:02,720
Speaker 4: dick and you get with a size queen but you

482
00:20:02,800 --> 00:20:06,720
Speaker 4: love her dearly. Would you rather wear the extendo on

483
00:20:06,760 --> 00:20:09,119
Speaker 4: your dick to make your dick bigger? Or would you

484
00:20:09,160 --> 00:20:10,800
Speaker 4: allow her to fuck nigga with a big dick?

485
00:20:11,119 --> 00:20:18,800
Speaker 3: Oh, that's a good question. Which what what's your answer?

486
00:20:19,800 --> 00:20:21,720
Speaker 2: So you you don't have a brain of y'all wolf,

487
00:20:21,760 --> 00:20:22,239
Speaker 2: I want to hear.

488
00:20:22,680 --> 00:20:25,719
Speaker 3: I'm gonna have to add the extend though I'm not

489
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Speaker 3: into dude my girls.

490
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Speaker 7: Okay, I don't like either one of these options, but

491
00:20:30,480 --> 00:20:31,880
Speaker 7: I'm picking the extendo for sure.

492
00:20:32,200 --> 00:20:34,359
Speaker 3: Yeah, I'm not letting my girl.

493
00:20:34,960 --> 00:20:41,399
Speaker 2: God, but y'all want three songs fucking another bitch and

494
00:20:41,480 --> 00:20:42,320
Speaker 2: we're gonna do three songs.

495
00:20:42,400 --> 00:20:43,320
Speaker 1: Let me get some old dick.

496
00:20:43,400 --> 00:20:43,920
Speaker 2: God, damn.

497
00:20:43,960 --> 00:20:49,080
Speaker 6: Honestly, men are show used to over time feeling emasculated

498
00:20:49,080 --> 00:20:51,480
Speaker 6: by another MANU girl that I think.

499
00:20:51,520 --> 00:20:55,800
Speaker 3: But I'm a cheek that you think? What that?

500
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Speaker 1: I think?

501
00:20:56,920 --> 00:21:00,119
Speaker 6: I try to when they do the devil standard. And

502
00:21:00,160 --> 00:21:03,520
Speaker 6: I only give them grace because the patriarchy has tried

503
00:21:03,560 --> 00:21:06,000
Speaker 6: to make women understand like they're good to fuck other women.

504
00:21:06,000 --> 00:21:07,880
Speaker 6: They're good to fuck other women, and there's nobody doing

505
00:21:07,920 --> 00:21:10,359
Speaker 6: that for us. There's nobody saying, hey, women want to

506
00:21:10,480 --> 00:21:12,520
Speaker 6: meet someone else. They want to do this, ladies, I

507
00:21:12,560 --> 00:21:13,520
Speaker 6: will be your savior.

508
00:21:13,760 --> 00:21:16,760
Speaker 2: We want more dick, Give us more dick. Some of

509
00:21:16,840 --> 00:21:19,960
Speaker 2: us want trains, some of us want gang bangs, some

510
00:21:20,000 --> 00:21:25,200
Speaker 2: of us want BUKACKI wheezy. I think that we should start.

511
00:21:25,520 --> 00:21:26,760
Speaker 2: We should be here today.

512
00:21:27,600 --> 00:21:31,800
Speaker 4: No, we should be we should we should today stand

513
00:21:31,880 --> 00:21:35,399
Speaker 4: up as a woman to let the world know that

514
00:21:35,600 --> 00:21:38,720
Speaker 4: women desire and crave and.

515
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Speaker 2: Yearn President, I'm going.

516
00:21:41,480 --> 00:21:43,520
Speaker 1: To hope that you get your gang bangs, you keep

517
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Speaker 1: your trades at least once a goddamn here, and I

518
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Speaker 1: prodly stand.

519
00:21:53,000 --> 00:21:57,119
Speaker 3: A year. I feel like men embrace their freaks. Excuse me,

520
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Speaker 3: I don't think so, bro.

521
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Speaker 1: Let me tell you.

522
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Speaker 4: I don't think the world accepts like just seeing what

523
00:22:03,280 --> 00:22:06,600
Speaker 4: what what the world. And when I say the world,

524
00:22:06,720 --> 00:22:09,280
Speaker 4: the internet and everyone had to say about Adam twenty

525
00:22:09,280 --> 00:22:13,080
Speaker 4: two allowing Lena to sleep with other men completely let

526
00:22:13,080 --> 00:22:15,480
Speaker 4: me know that a lot of men, even if they

527
00:22:15,560 --> 00:22:18,240
Speaker 4: would be okay with it, don't know how to express

528
00:22:18,280 --> 00:22:20,359
Speaker 4: it or what. Never want to let anyone know that

529
00:22:20,760 --> 00:22:23,240
Speaker 4: it wouldn't bother me if my bitch went out and

530
00:22:23,280 --> 00:22:26,280
Speaker 4: fucked another guy. But I think because of how everyone

531
00:22:26,320 --> 00:22:30,600
Speaker 4: around him would make him feel for that decision, it's something.

532
00:22:30,280 --> 00:22:32,640
Speaker 2: That nor ain't nobody going to dine.

533
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Speaker 6: Oh, let me tell you something to people that were

534
00:22:35,119 --> 00:22:37,840
Speaker 6: acting like that with Adam. Hate Adam twenty two because

535
00:22:37,840 --> 00:22:39,000
Speaker 6: he's white with a hippiexide.

536
00:22:39,119 --> 00:22:41,040
Speaker 3: That's kind that makes sense.

537
00:22:41,280 --> 00:22:41,919
Speaker 1: Hate him for that.

538
00:22:42,119 --> 00:22:45,240
Speaker 6: Yeah, he already was dating a woman who was doing

539
00:22:45,280 --> 00:22:48,800
Speaker 6: sex with sex work like then y'all took it even further. Bro,

540
00:22:48,920 --> 00:22:50,600
Speaker 6: I just want to say something. I don't even know

541
00:22:50,640 --> 00:22:53,000
Speaker 6: if they'll see this, but I work with a woman

542
00:22:53,480 --> 00:22:57,000
Speaker 6: with Kenya Barris that literally told me she just found

543
00:22:57,000 --> 00:23:00,280
Speaker 6: out that she goes to school whatever privates. Well, she

544
00:23:00,280 --> 00:23:03,119
Speaker 6: has her kid in. Adam and Lenna's daughter go there. Okay,

545
00:23:03,240 --> 00:23:05,680
Speaker 6: she was like, hey, do you know who Lenna? Wait,

546
00:23:05,720 --> 00:23:09,000
Speaker 6: you talked about this and so basically talked about how

547
00:23:09,040 --> 00:23:12,480
Speaker 6: normal Adam and Lena were on this field trip. She's like,

548
00:23:12,520 --> 00:23:14,760
Speaker 6: he's so cool, They're so great. They're such great parents.

549
00:23:14,840 --> 00:23:16,280
Speaker 6: I can't believe they do born.

550
00:23:16,960 --> 00:23:20,719
Speaker 1: And I'm like, how why kids get her?

551
00:23:21,200 --> 00:23:22,440
Speaker 2: Regular people have sex, but.

552
00:23:22,440 --> 00:23:25,040
Speaker 1: Here's the things that have sex. This woman.

553
00:23:25,080 --> 00:23:26,680
Speaker 6: The woman is kind of older, and she's like, I

554
00:23:26,720 --> 00:23:30,040
Speaker 6: cannot believe it. I cannot believe right. And so the

555
00:23:30,080 --> 00:23:31,840
Speaker 6: fact that Adam and Lenna, I'm like, Yo, I wish

556
00:23:31,880 --> 00:23:33,000
Speaker 6: you knew how much money they were making.

557
00:23:33,000 --> 00:23:34,080
Speaker 1: I wish you knew how big they were.

558
00:23:34,160 --> 00:23:38,120
Speaker 4: Yeah, they probably make more money than you, bitch, Sorry.

559
00:23:37,440 --> 00:23:41,159
Speaker 2: On my friend, I work well, but problem, get out

560
00:23:41,240 --> 00:23:41,560
Speaker 2: your hair.

561
00:23:42,080 --> 00:23:44,800
Speaker 6: But no, I think the point is, like, this is

562
00:23:44,840 --> 00:23:48,040
Speaker 6: someone whose kid goes to school with their kids the

563
00:23:48,200 --> 00:23:51,239
Speaker 6: internet is looking at. First of all, Lenna has her

564
00:23:51,280 --> 00:23:53,840
Speaker 6: own Lenda the mom. She even has an Instagram where

565
00:23:53,880 --> 00:23:57,080
Speaker 6: she shares her family life. Right, they're real fucking parents.

566
00:23:57,200 --> 00:24:01,400
Speaker 6: And like the fact that one world you can see

567
00:24:01,400 --> 00:24:04,240
Speaker 6: this is okay. One world he's okay being an interviewer.

568
00:24:04,320 --> 00:24:06,440
Speaker 6: It's okay when she's just doing OnlyFans. In the second

569
00:24:06,480 --> 00:24:10,440
Speaker 6: it's sex with another man. Now we're gonna fucking shit

570
00:24:10,520 --> 00:24:11,080
Speaker 6: all over.

571
00:24:10,920 --> 00:24:13,400
Speaker 1: It, and it did. Bro, I'm not gonna lie.

572
00:24:14,600 --> 00:24:17,280
Speaker 6: I think adamyo act like it's okay. But that shit

573
00:24:17,280 --> 00:24:17,959
Speaker 6: would bother me.

574
00:24:18,119 --> 00:24:18,840
Speaker 2: I ain't gonna hold you.

575
00:24:18,880 --> 00:24:21,879
Speaker 4: That's why I know y'all be like, uh like you

576
00:24:22,000 --> 00:24:25,040
Speaker 4: being in a sex club every bitch. I've been going

577
00:24:25,080 --> 00:24:26,640
Speaker 4: like bi weekly just to go and talk to people

578
00:24:26,720 --> 00:24:29,360
Speaker 4: because it's so refreshing to just be around people who

579
00:24:29,400 --> 00:24:32,640
Speaker 4: are just so openly accepting of their kinks and other

580
00:24:32,760 --> 00:24:36,040
Speaker 4: people and seeing seeing was fine, but seeing people bring

581
00:24:36,080 --> 00:24:38,680
Speaker 4: even their partners like and that's what I even loved

582
00:24:38,680 --> 00:24:41,000
Speaker 4: about going to Hito when we went, like talking to

583
00:24:41,680 --> 00:24:44,520
Speaker 4: a married couple who brought condoms, and the man was like,

584
00:24:44,640 --> 00:24:45,840
Speaker 4: and these ain't for me, these.

585
00:24:45,680 --> 00:24:46,840
Speaker 2: Are if she wants to have fun.

586
00:24:47,119 --> 00:24:49,760
Speaker 4: Like, I love to know that there are people that

587
00:24:49,840 --> 00:24:53,520
Speaker 4: are literally living in whatever truth that they've created for

588
00:24:53,640 --> 00:24:56,800
Speaker 4: them that makes them happy, that removes all of the

589
00:24:56,840 --> 00:24:58,359
Speaker 4: stigma that fucking society has.

590
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Speaker 6: There's there's a screenshot someone told me that I'm not Oh,

591
00:25:02,560 --> 00:25:05,760
Speaker 6: that's not love weezy like the relationship I'm in. And

592
00:25:05,840 --> 00:25:09,880
Speaker 6: I read this comment from this week's episode. So many

593
00:25:09,960 --> 00:25:13,840
Speaker 6: cis hetero people live in extreme contradictions, cheating but judging

594
00:25:13,920 --> 00:25:17,800
Speaker 6: open relationships, don't get tested, but have hello raw sex yep,

595
00:25:17,920 --> 00:25:19,679
Speaker 6: don't believe in abortions, but don't take care of their

596
00:25:19,760 --> 00:25:23,600
Speaker 6: kids or do any form of due diligence on selecting

597
00:25:23,640 --> 00:25:24,399
Speaker 6: the right partner.

598
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Speaker 3: Yep.

599
00:25:24,920 --> 00:25:27,080
Speaker 6: And that to me is so important because you don't

600
00:25:27,080 --> 00:25:29,520
Speaker 6: believe in abortions, but you're having a baby with someone

601
00:25:29,560 --> 00:25:31,199
Speaker 6: that you don't really give a fuck about, and you're

602
00:25:31,200 --> 00:25:31,680
Speaker 6: bringing a gun.

603
00:25:31,760 --> 00:25:34,399
Speaker 4: To me, it's the fucking everybody raw and not getting

604
00:25:34,400 --> 00:25:38,480
Speaker 4: tested judging sex workers who get tested like damn near

605
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Speaker 4: every nine days.

606
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Speaker 6: So and that's really why I chose today to talk

607
00:25:42,080 --> 00:25:47,240
Speaker 6: about so much about active parenthood, because Yeah, I'm trying

608
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Speaker 6: to think of something else. I wanted to talk to

609
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Speaker 6: you about Vanilla Ship. No, something about you that I was

610
00:25:54,840 --> 00:26:03,040
Speaker 6: trying to follo. Oh what was the follow up? What's

611
00:26:03,040 --> 00:26:05,480
Speaker 6: been the follow up from from the couple? Have you

612
00:26:05,520 --> 00:26:06,520
Speaker 6: spoken to them for what?

613
00:26:06,760 --> 00:26:06,879
Speaker 8: No?

614
00:26:06,920 --> 00:26:08,040
Speaker 2: They got to get the ship together?

615
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Speaker 6: Oh so they haven't even like that was that's all

616
00:26:10,640 --> 00:26:13,159
Speaker 6: I wanted to know. They had like a picture nothing yet?

617
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Speaker 4: Well no, I also was like I don't. Oh yeah, no,

618
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Speaker 4: I still follow Yeah that's been happening.

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Speaker 1: Uh just any light conbo there? Yeah, no, anyway, all right,

620
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Speaker 1: Solla ship.

621
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Speaker 6: This one is gets a little dark, but a great

622
00:26:29,000 --> 00:26:31,120
Speaker 6: topic to talk about, and we often don't really talk

623
00:26:31,160 --> 00:26:33,600
Speaker 6: about the R word. Trigger warning if you want to

624
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Speaker 6: skip a few minutes. We'll put it in the description

625
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Speaker 6: of this bio. What part you don't have to hear

626
00:26:36,840 --> 00:26:40,640
Speaker 6: about what our word stuff? So our word is rape?

627
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Speaker 3: What are you you know?

628
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Speaker 2: I mean?

629
00:26:45,920 --> 00:26:49,560
Speaker 4: Although in trouble for the other R word, she had

630
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Speaker 4: to change the whole Goddamn.

631
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Speaker 1: I really feel like I had to.

632
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Speaker 4: Why that show? You don't think they know what the

633
00:26:55,640 --> 00:26:58,400
Speaker 4: R word is anyway? NPR dot Org.

634
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Speaker 6: There is a new law happened around July, but you're

635
00:27:02,119 --> 00:27:05,400
Speaker 6: just getting around to talking about it now. In Louisiana,

636
00:27:06,000 --> 00:27:09,560
Speaker 6: there is a surgical castration law. It is the first

637
00:27:09,600 --> 00:27:11,800
Speaker 6: state to allow, if you don't know what that means,

638
00:27:11,840 --> 00:27:15,000
Speaker 6: your dick to be cut off as a punishment for

639
00:27:15,200 --> 00:27:19,760
Speaker 6: sex crimes under a new law with a Republican governor,

640
00:27:20,000 --> 00:27:21,960
Speaker 6: which this to me, is kind of crazy because I

641
00:27:21,960 --> 00:27:26,840
Speaker 6: feel like victims of rape aren't normally protected enough by

642
00:27:26,880 --> 00:27:28,840
Speaker 6: Republicans to me, not from what I've been reading, but

643
00:27:29,359 --> 00:27:31,600
Speaker 6: especially with abortune and making them have the kids. So

644
00:27:31,640 --> 00:27:34,000
Speaker 6: it's kind of ironic that a Republican governor is doing this.

645
00:27:34,080 --> 00:27:37,560
Speaker 6: But whatever, he's allowing judges to order people found guilty

646
00:27:37,640 --> 00:27:41,880
Speaker 6: of certain sex crimes against Myerner to undergo a christ So.

647
00:27:41,840 --> 00:27:44,160
Speaker 2: It's specific to pedophilia, yes, okay.

648
00:27:44,200 --> 00:27:46,520
Speaker 6: So the use of the castration as a punishment is

649
00:27:46,560 --> 00:27:51,639
Speaker 6: a permanent US procedure that will remove the testicles or

650
00:27:51,680 --> 00:27:56,080
Speaker 6: the ovaries to stop the production of sex hormones.

651
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Speaker 1: It is actually very rare around the world.

652
00:27:59,480 --> 00:28:00,359
Speaker 2: Check public.

653
00:28:01,119 --> 00:28:04,760
Speaker 6: Madagascar and Nigeria have some laws on the books about it.

654
00:28:05,040 --> 00:28:06,879
Speaker 6: I also have these new braces. I shouldn't have been

655
00:28:06,880 --> 00:28:11,280
Speaker 6: reading an article. Several states, including Louisiana, have allowed for

656
00:28:11,480 --> 00:28:16,320
Speaker 6: chemical castration with pharmaceutical drugs to push down these sex

657
00:28:16,359 --> 00:28:18,600
Speaker 6: offenders drive. I didn't even know that, okay, but it's

658
00:28:18,640 --> 00:28:23,560
Speaker 6: grabbing headlines because it's raising concerns around ethics and constitutionality

659
00:28:23,600 --> 00:28:26,399
Speaker 6: of the law over whether the punishment.

660
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Speaker 1: Would actually make a difference.

661
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Speaker 6: That made me too, mainly because any friend of mine,

662
00:28:32,840 --> 00:28:34,520
Speaker 6: I never had something happen to me when I was

663
00:28:34,520 --> 00:28:36,840
Speaker 6: a kid, but a lot of them was touching.

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Speaker 1: It wasn't entrgue with a penis.

665
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Speaker 6: They got touched by an uncle, they got touched by

666
00:28:41,640 --> 00:28:43,800
Speaker 6: a cousin, or even one of the people I know

667
00:28:43,880 --> 00:28:47,600
Speaker 6: their father and it wasn't full on sex, but it

668
00:28:47,640 --> 00:28:51,000
Speaker 6: was touching. So there are e but so that's the thing.

669
00:28:51,040 --> 00:28:53,640
Speaker 6: But that's why it's a testical excuse me because of producing.

670
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Speaker 4: So that's why I think when you discuss the R

671
00:28:58,160 --> 00:29:02,560
Speaker 4: word and the R word kid, that's why that's why

672
00:29:02,600 --> 00:29:05,360
Speaker 4: semen semen is involved in all of that, like because

673
00:29:05,360 --> 00:29:08,440
Speaker 4: it does include that part of the sex act so

674
00:29:08,480 --> 00:29:11,720
Speaker 4: to me. To me though, in terms of it being

675
00:29:11,720 --> 00:29:17,160
Speaker 4: a punishment, I think the the psychology around what even

676
00:29:17,160 --> 00:29:19,680
Speaker 4: we talk about in terms of sex and what people

677
00:29:19,720 --> 00:29:23,280
Speaker 4: get off on. If this person is no longer having

678
00:29:23,440 --> 00:29:26,640
Speaker 4: the desire need to explode, which is how we know

679
00:29:26,720 --> 00:29:30,080
Speaker 4: a lot of men get there, you know, and they're

680
00:29:30,760 --> 00:29:32,840
Speaker 4: what they look like, you know, what they enjoy, I

681
00:29:32,880 --> 00:29:36,360
Speaker 4: think it could lead to maybe people going to more

682
00:29:36,400 --> 00:29:40,680
Speaker 4: extremes like sodomy or using different tools or different things,

683
00:29:41,320 --> 00:29:42,720
Speaker 4: you know, kind of like what fucking.

684
00:29:42,640 --> 00:29:45,520
Speaker 2: Who's the nick that I just watched? Who's the uh

685
00:29:46,000 --> 00:29:46,600
Speaker 2: Ted Bundy?

686
00:29:47,680 --> 00:29:51,160
Speaker 4: Like the way that you have a you you, I

687
00:29:51,200 --> 00:29:53,320
Speaker 4: think that it could lead to you having a different

688
00:29:53,360 --> 00:29:55,240
Speaker 4: type of mind to where you will get off for

689
00:29:55,360 --> 00:29:57,920
Speaker 4: maybe things if you have the sick mind to force

690
00:29:57,960 --> 00:30:00,520
Speaker 4: yourself on a child, or force your up into an

691
00:30:00,560 --> 00:30:03,920
Speaker 4: individual that is not consenting. I think if that gets

692
00:30:04,000 --> 00:30:07,560
Speaker 4: taken away, your mind can become more deserved, more disturbed

693
00:30:07,720 --> 00:30:09,920
Speaker 4: to you taking advantage of people in other ways, well,

694
00:30:09,960 --> 00:30:11,400
Speaker 4: let me mean it could be sick age.

695
00:30:11,760 --> 00:30:15,240
Speaker 6: So this is rape, incest, and molestation under thirteen. The

696
00:30:15,280 --> 00:30:19,240
Speaker 6: punishment is on the judge discretion. Now you can refuse it,

697
00:30:19,720 --> 00:30:22,160
Speaker 6: and if you refuse it, you have another three to

698
00:30:22,240 --> 00:30:25,960
Speaker 6: five years of additional prison sentence without getting our early.

699
00:30:26,720 --> 00:30:31,800
Speaker 6: The law doesn't allow anyone under seventeen to receive that punishment.

700
00:30:33,760 --> 00:30:36,760
Speaker 6: The rep said they were inspired to propose the bill

701
00:30:36,840 --> 00:30:39,040
Speaker 6: after seeing a disturbing article about a fifty one year

702
00:30:39,080 --> 00:30:41,760
Speaker 6: old man who was arrested for raping a twelve year

703
00:30:41,800 --> 00:30:45,720
Speaker 6: old and the story revealed he was already a registered

704
00:30:45,760 --> 00:30:48,760
Speaker 6: sex offender and he raped a five year old and

705
00:30:48,800 --> 00:30:52,400
Speaker 6: O seven and she believes that there wasn't a strong

706
00:30:52,520 --> 00:30:55,000
Speaker 6: enough law to stop it and believes that forcing that

707
00:30:55,040 --> 00:31:00,720
Speaker 6: procedure could have saved that person. And also raping a

708
00:31:00,760 --> 00:31:03,720
Speaker 6: five year old is such a cruel and unusual punishment.

709
00:31:03,960 --> 00:31:05,880
Speaker 6: He later did it to a twelve year old, which

710
00:31:05,920 --> 00:31:06,520
Speaker 6: is a lot older.

711
00:31:06,520 --> 00:31:08,800
Speaker 1: But yeah, I don't know.

712
00:31:08,840 --> 00:31:11,160
Speaker 6: It made me think a lot, because, to be honest,

713
00:31:11,160 --> 00:31:15,160
Speaker 6: if it's my kid, do it. But that's also how

714
00:31:15,200 --> 00:31:17,040
Speaker 6: I'm feeling in that moment. So I wondered if there

715
00:31:17,080 --> 00:31:19,520
Speaker 6: could be another layer, and I actually think the layer.

716
00:31:19,720 --> 00:31:21,640
Speaker 1: Should be incess.

717
00:31:21,880 --> 00:31:26,080
Speaker 4: I think pedophilia is a sickness that would be like

718
00:31:27,480 --> 00:31:31,880
Speaker 4: I guess autism. There's like so with autism, there's no medicaid,

719
00:31:32,000 --> 00:31:35,760
Speaker 4: like you're living with autism. I think that if your brain, girl,

720
00:31:35,840 --> 00:31:38,760
Speaker 4: know you did no let me finish, let me get here,

721
00:31:39,120 --> 00:31:42,719
Speaker 4: If your brain puts you to where you feel like

722
00:31:42,920 --> 00:31:46,640
Speaker 4: pedophilia like you can't control it. I think that if

723
00:31:46,800 --> 00:31:49,960
Speaker 4: because it's a crime, that you should be in jail

724
00:31:50,000 --> 00:31:52,520
Speaker 4: forever a five year old, I think you there shouldn't

725
00:31:52,520 --> 00:31:54,400
Speaker 4: be a time that you get out. I think that

726
00:31:54,520 --> 00:31:57,200
Speaker 4: because in your mind, you did nothing wrong. And I

727
00:31:57,240 --> 00:31:59,040
Speaker 4: don't think that there's rehabilitation for.

728
00:31:59,560 --> 00:32:01,720
Speaker 1: Pedophil Let me take that.

729
00:32:03,160 --> 00:32:04,960
Speaker 4: I think that it's a sickness that we've made it

730
00:32:05,000 --> 00:32:06,880
Speaker 4: also into a crime. So I don't think that they

731
00:32:06,880 --> 00:32:08,520
Speaker 4: should be out in the open. I think that they

732
00:32:08,560 --> 00:32:11,400
Speaker 4: need to be locked away. Not that there's anything wrong

733
00:32:11,440 --> 00:32:12,200
Speaker 4: with I.

734
00:32:12,240 --> 00:32:15,000
Speaker 2: Want to be sure. I draw that parallel what I'm saying. No, no, no,

735
00:32:15,040 --> 00:32:15,640
Speaker 2: that's what I'm saying.

736
00:32:15,680 --> 00:32:15,880
Speaker 5: Let me.

737
00:32:16,320 --> 00:32:18,600
Speaker 4: Let me make it to where it's a sickness that

738
00:32:19,280 --> 00:32:21,400
Speaker 4: a crime is attached to it that I don't think

739
00:32:21,440 --> 00:32:23,840
Speaker 4: that you rehabilitate out of because I think that there's

740
00:32:23,920 --> 00:32:26,880
Speaker 4: literally something just unbalanced, and.

741
00:32:29,840 --> 00:32:31,920
Speaker 1: I want to because they can't put them in jail.

742
00:32:31,960 --> 00:32:33,520
Speaker 1: I agree, even a five year old, you got to

743
00:32:33,520 --> 00:32:34,120
Speaker 1: go to jail for life.

744
00:32:34,200 --> 00:32:36,640
Speaker 4: Yeah, that's jail for life. You don't get out, and

745
00:32:37,160 --> 00:32:38,440
Speaker 4: you know what I mean. Or I'm cool with I

746
00:32:38,440 --> 00:32:40,360
Speaker 4: would be cool, I would be more little with. Yeah,

747
00:32:40,400 --> 00:32:42,880
Speaker 4: I would be cool with the death on it because

748
00:32:42,880 --> 00:32:45,640
Speaker 4: the trauma that a you put onto that child four life,

749
00:32:45,880 --> 00:32:49,160
Speaker 4: but be the fact that you were probably more likely

750
00:32:49,480 --> 00:32:51,080
Speaker 4: to do it again to another child.

751
00:32:51,160 --> 00:32:52,880
Speaker 2: Noah, bra you got it. You gotta die.

752
00:32:53,160 --> 00:32:58,760
Speaker 6: From five to ten, like then it's twelve. All of

753
00:32:58,800 --> 00:33:01,479
Speaker 6: us are having trauma. And I say that to say, like,

754
00:33:02,160 --> 00:33:03,880
Speaker 6: are we going to kill everybody? Because we are looking

755
00:33:03,960 --> 00:33:04,600
Speaker 6: at five.

756
00:33:04,400 --> 00:33:07,520
Speaker 4: I'm talking about sexual we're talking about rape right now.

757
00:33:07,560 --> 00:33:09,920
Speaker 4: I know we are, and that that was strong so

758
00:33:10,040 --> 00:33:14,000
Speaker 4: to me, yes, any age, but that law specifically was

759
00:33:14,040 --> 00:33:19,520
Speaker 4: for under twelve. I will say for under twelve killed him, motherfucker.

760
00:33:20,320 --> 00:33:23,920
Speaker 4: I don't see how a grown man twenty eight plus

761
00:33:24,440 --> 00:33:27,240
Speaker 4: one could even find a way to where that would be.

762
00:33:27,240 --> 00:33:28,560
Speaker 1: Okay, dude.

763
00:33:29,080 --> 00:33:33,200
Speaker 6: I had a conversation with a man recently where I

764
00:33:33,240 --> 00:33:35,800
Speaker 6: told him about someone I know who's lost their virginity

765
00:33:35,840 --> 00:33:39,400
Speaker 6: to their dad, and he said, I think I dated

766
00:33:39,480 --> 00:33:41,240
Speaker 6: three girls that's father had sex with them.

767
00:33:41,400 --> 00:33:43,560
Speaker 1: Yeah, and he's in his forties. And he was like,

768
00:33:43,640 --> 00:33:44,760
Speaker 1: it's crazy, Like.

769
00:33:44,840 --> 00:33:46,640
Speaker 4: I mean, I talked about it, like that's why my

770
00:33:46,720 --> 00:33:49,880
Speaker 4: uncle is deported. Bro, when did did ten years and

771
00:33:49,920 --> 00:33:50,640
Speaker 4: then got deported?

772
00:33:51,560 --> 00:33:52,440
Speaker 1: Do you know how close?

773
00:33:52,520 --> 00:33:54,200
Speaker 2: And I don't think he would be our family too.

774
00:33:54,240 --> 00:33:55,160
Speaker 2: I don't think he should be out there.

775
00:33:55,160 --> 00:33:59,280
Speaker 6: There's literally every like this is so fucking normal, Like

776
00:33:59,440 --> 00:34:02,520
Speaker 6: I remember this reaction. Maybe maybe I talked about it

777
00:34:02,560 --> 00:34:04,840
Speaker 6: in the book, but that my mom had to someone

778
00:34:04,880 --> 00:34:06,040
Speaker 6: taking me to a toy store.

779
00:34:06,680 --> 00:34:07,400
Speaker 3: Did I talk about it?

780
00:34:07,480 --> 00:34:08,520
Speaker 2: You talked about it on the pod?

781
00:34:08,600 --> 00:34:10,239
Speaker 6: Oh yeah, the way that my mom ran out the

782
00:34:10,239 --> 00:34:12,440
Speaker 6: house or no shoes on, fucking ran after the car,

783
00:34:12,520 --> 00:34:13,680
Speaker 6: tried to pull open the car door.

784
00:34:13,680 --> 00:34:14,640
Speaker 1: And I'm like, why can't.

785
00:34:14,440 --> 00:34:17,120
Speaker 4: I man talking about this all the time. The fact

786
00:34:17,120 --> 00:34:19,879
Speaker 4: that we all have normalized having a creepy uncle. It's

787
00:34:19,920 --> 00:34:22,680
Speaker 4: fucking weird, Like I think the way this is but

788
00:34:22,719 --> 00:34:24,680
Speaker 4: the yeah, but the way that ain't nobody checking these

789
00:34:24,760 --> 00:34:27,560
Speaker 4: niggas like y'all should be disgusted and call these motherfuckers out.

790
00:34:27,560 --> 00:34:30,040
Speaker 2: Why do they keep coming to the barbecue? Why the fuck?

791
00:34:30,080 --> 00:34:32,600
Speaker 4: I don't care if it's your brother Monday, Like, why

792
00:34:32,640 --> 00:34:35,359
Speaker 4: do they keep coming around if you know that they

793
00:34:35,400 --> 00:34:40,839
Speaker 4: have any sort of weirdo creepy ass shitls No, Like,

794
00:34:41,440 --> 00:34:43,560
Speaker 4: why the fuck are they even still being invited around?

795
00:34:43,600 --> 00:34:46,040
Speaker 2: Why are they not being checked? It's disgusting speaking of it.

796
00:34:46,080 --> 00:34:48,120
Speaker 6: Remember the woman who tried to shoot her husband's dick

797
00:34:48,120 --> 00:34:50,200
Speaker 6: off in DC and she's in jail for the daycare.

798
00:34:50,320 --> 00:34:54,600
Speaker 4: For the daycare. Yeah, it's disgusting. Shit nasty out here, bruh.

799
00:34:54,719 --> 00:34:58,400
Speaker 6: Anyway, So yeah, sorry for the trigger warning.

800
00:34:58,480 --> 00:34:59,000
Speaker 2: Hope y'all.

801
00:34:59,200 --> 00:35:01,840
Speaker 1: No, but I mean and most of the time, I vannello.

802
00:35:01,840 --> 00:35:03,319
Speaker 6: Shit is fun. But I mean I do feel like

803
00:35:03,360 --> 00:35:04,799
Speaker 6: sex and the news that was a big deal.

804
00:35:05,040 --> 00:35:10,080
Speaker 1: YEAHNT talk about that one for the hohod dirve. I'll

805
00:35:10,080 --> 00:35:12,879
Speaker 1: tell you right now. It's a braceist tip. The only

806
00:35:12,880 --> 00:35:16,800
Speaker 1: one I got this shit is tough.

807
00:35:17,080 --> 00:35:20,560
Speaker 3: I'm sure you spit more. Oh yeah, you probably could.

808
00:35:20,640 --> 00:35:21,359
Speaker 2: Slap your head.

809
00:35:23,120 --> 00:35:27,239
Speaker 6: So the issue with sucond dick is when you put

810
00:35:27,280 --> 00:35:30,319
Speaker 6: your lips around your teeth, like he can't feel the

811
00:35:30,320 --> 00:35:33,000
Speaker 6: braces right, So the problem isn't for him.

812
00:35:33,040 --> 00:35:33,960
Speaker 1: He don't need to be scared.

813
00:35:34,000 --> 00:35:36,120
Speaker 6: I need to be scared because now the braces are

814
00:35:36,160 --> 00:35:38,480
Speaker 6: rubbing the inside of my che of your gums. So

815
00:35:38,520 --> 00:35:42,879
Speaker 6: the braceist tip I have is literally wax around the teeth.

816
00:35:42,920 --> 00:35:45,560
Speaker 6: They sell this orthodon hiss wax uhuh. But for anyone

817
00:35:45,600 --> 00:35:46,920
Speaker 6: when in Visilin, I know a lot of people do

818
00:35:46,960 --> 00:35:50,759
Speaker 6: other orthrow work where your gums are actually sore. There's

819
00:35:50,800 --> 00:35:53,680
Speaker 6: this thing that starts with a pee sore gum's mouth wash.

820
00:35:54,080 --> 00:35:56,360
Speaker 1: You do that before you suck a dick. Girl, you

821
00:35:56,360 --> 00:35:58,359
Speaker 1: don't feel okay, you have to.

822
00:35:58,320 --> 00:36:00,520
Speaker 6: Leave it in your mouth for two minutes and as

823
00:36:00,600 --> 00:36:03,680
Speaker 6: some ingredient would be, you'll figure out when you go

824
00:36:03,680 --> 00:36:05,600
Speaker 6: to the story there's only like one sore mouth gum thing.

825
00:36:06,440 --> 00:36:09,520
Speaker 6: When you switch it around, literally you don't feel anything

826
00:36:10,000 --> 00:36:11,200
Speaker 6: and then you start drooling.

827
00:36:11,520 --> 00:36:14,120
Speaker 4: Now I'm gonna tell you. You said there's only one

828
00:36:14,800 --> 00:36:19,279
Speaker 4: sore mouth numb thing whatever. Not sure if it's edible, well, baby,

829
00:36:19,280 --> 00:36:21,600
Speaker 4: I don't have had uh. The one that makes the

830
00:36:22,440 --> 00:36:24,800
Speaker 4: no no, no, no no no, the one that's supposed to

831
00:36:24,880 --> 00:36:25,839
Speaker 4: numb your booty off, fra.

832
00:36:26,760 --> 00:36:28,719
Speaker 2: Baby, that ship gets your mouth.

833
00:36:28,760 --> 00:36:32,600
Speaker 4: You're not feeling shitbe I did a little at.

834
00:36:32,640 --> 00:36:38,200
Speaker 6: M and I sucked a little disgusting baby.

835
00:36:38,239 --> 00:36:40,960
Speaker 4: Oh, I mean I'm stuck the dickstraight and mind you,

836
00:36:41,040 --> 00:36:45,480
Speaker 4: I got the pain, I got the numbing lube in

837
00:36:45,600 --> 00:36:48,480
Speaker 4: my ass, not thinking anything of it. Baby, when I

838
00:36:48,520 --> 00:36:51,840
Speaker 4: tell you, I'm I couldn't even bitch. I felt like

839
00:36:51,880 --> 00:36:54,520
Speaker 4: my tongue was gone. I felt like everything was out

840
00:36:54,560 --> 00:36:59,560
Speaker 4: my mouth. Bitch, that's another option, bitch. I was like, girl,

841
00:37:00,120 --> 00:37:03,279
Speaker 4: there my pumpmit. I couldn't talk. Shit was crazy. I

842
00:37:03,320 --> 00:37:06,799
Speaker 4: was like, oh, fuck, I don't fucked up now. Well, well,

843
00:37:06,840 --> 00:37:08,120
Speaker 4: well well say.

844
00:37:07,920 --> 00:37:10,440
Speaker 1: That to say, uh, yeah, so you've used.

845
00:37:10,320 --> 00:37:12,879
Speaker 2: It, yeah, and it works like you don't.

846
00:37:12,920 --> 00:37:14,560
Speaker 6: Oh, I haven't got to suck a dick yet. I've

847
00:37:14,560 --> 00:37:16,240
Speaker 6: been practicing on bananas and cucumbers.

848
00:37:16,280 --> 00:37:18,440
Speaker 3: Oh you haven't sucked his dick yet since.

849
00:37:18,400 --> 00:37:19,879
Speaker 1: No, unfortunately, I haven't had time.

850
00:37:19,920 --> 00:37:23,080
Speaker 6: But not you given a tip without No, I'm practicing

851
00:37:23,840 --> 00:37:27,440
Speaker 6: M seriously, and I've been collecting data and apparently wax

852
00:37:27,520 --> 00:37:31,080
Speaker 6: is the only thing, and I tried the sor numb THINGA.

853
00:37:31,400 --> 00:37:33,880
Speaker 2: I love, you can leave it. I'm not about to

854
00:37:33,920 --> 00:37:34,479
Speaker 2: hurt my factor.

855
00:37:34,640 --> 00:37:36,840
Speaker 4: No, but I only love what you just said because

856
00:37:36,880 --> 00:37:39,640
Speaker 4: this goes into the horrible decision and some.

857
00:37:39,560 --> 00:37:41,520
Speaker 1: Takes that I have collecting data.

858
00:37:41,680 --> 00:37:45,319
Speaker 4: No, the fact that you collected data but you're inexperienced

859
00:37:45,960 --> 00:37:46,880
Speaker 4: because you haven't done it yet.

860
00:37:47,000 --> 00:37:47,880
Speaker 5: That you're giving advice.

861
00:37:48,760 --> 00:37:50,640
Speaker 1: Oh well, I mean here's the thing.

862
00:37:52,040 --> 00:37:53,520
Speaker 6: We didn't have enough time for me to tell y'all

863
00:37:53,560 --> 00:37:56,200
Speaker 6: my first dick sucking story before we got in the studio,

864
00:37:56,360 --> 00:37:58,880
Speaker 6: But I really wanted to give that tip because you

865
00:37:59,000 --> 00:38:01,680
Speaker 6: have to actually look at tips up before you try it. Like,

866
00:38:01,719 --> 00:38:03,680
Speaker 6: there's so many ways to hurt yourself now that you

867
00:38:03,719 --> 00:38:06,000
Speaker 6: have this thing right, Like literally, I'm going back to

868
00:38:06,040 --> 00:38:08,520
Speaker 6: Thailand and I want to go to reggae bar, and

869
00:38:08,560 --> 00:38:11,279
Speaker 6: reggae bar is a place where you fight for a

870
00:38:11,320 --> 00:38:13,320
Speaker 6: free drink. And I was like, well, I want to

871
00:38:13,320 --> 00:38:14,960
Speaker 6: beat some whole up and give my lotle aggression out.

872
00:38:14,960 --> 00:38:17,919
Speaker 4: And you have braces, I know, bitch, that's a weapon mine.

873
00:38:17,920 --> 00:38:20,040
Speaker 4: I can slip my hole and now we're fighting with blood.

874
00:38:20,320 --> 00:38:23,680
Speaker 6: No, Like literally, when I was fighting the girl. My

875
00:38:23,800 --> 00:38:25,680
Speaker 6: septum ring was new, and I was like, why am

876
00:38:25,680 --> 00:38:27,840
Speaker 6: I leaking? If she didn't hit my face? It was

877
00:38:27,960 --> 00:38:30,080
Speaker 6: just the helmet going around.

878
00:38:30,880 --> 00:38:31,520
Speaker 2: Just the bitch.

879
00:38:31,560 --> 00:38:33,040
Speaker 4: I ain't even doing that no more because bit ch'all

880
00:38:33,040 --> 00:38:34,759
Speaker 4: told you when I got in that fight at Impanatamma.

881
00:38:34,840 --> 00:38:36,520
Speaker 4: The first thing I said, bitch, I don't want to

882
00:38:36,520 --> 00:38:37,840
Speaker 4: have to go back to Columbia.

883
00:38:37,920 --> 00:38:38,359
Speaker 2: Still there.

884
00:38:38,760 --> 00:38:41,239
Speaker 1: Oh that's Florida again.

885
00:38:41,480 --> 00:38:43,279
Speaker 6: But no, the brace. I can't fight because I have

886
00:38:43,360 --> 00:38:45,440
Speaker 6: fucking braces. It's gonna fucking make it cut.

887
00:38:45,320 --> 00:38:45,759
Speaker 1: Up my mouth.

888
00:38:46,120 --> 00:38:49,320
Speaker 2: So yeah, bitch, you're gonna be leaking blood, gonna be

889
00:38:49,320 --> 00:38:50,680
Speaker 2: heavy where you're gonna look like you lost.

890
00:38:51,320 --> 00:38:54,839
Speaker 6: So I love that you brought that up because like her,

891
00:38:54,880 --> 00:38:57,520
Speaker 6: I was like, oh, that's a good one. So a

892
00:38:57,560 --> 00:38:59,839
Speaker 6: few weeks ago, this interview comes out with cam New

893
00:38:59,840 --> 00:39:02,600
Speaker 6: and doctor Bryant, and there's been so many opinions on it,

894
00:39:02,640 --> 00:39:04,440
Speaker 6: and there was for me watching it, there were so

895
00:39:04,480 --> 00:39:06,359
Speaker 6: many where I disagreed with him and agreed with him,

896
00:39:06,400 --> 00:39:08,120
Speaker 6: disagreed with her, agreed with him.

897
00:39:08,160 --> 00:39:10,879
Speaker 4: By the way, our audience specifically, we had a town

898
00:39:10,880 --> 00:39:12,239
Speaker 4: hall a couple months ago and they didn't want to

899
00:39:12,280 --> 00:39:14,760
Speaker 4: talk about like this specifically.

900
00:39:14,280 --> 00:39:17,000
Speaker 2: So I want you all to know we're pulling topics

901
00:39:17,040 --> 00:39:19,000
Speaker 2: from this. We're not going to dissect one person didn't

902
00:39:19,000 --> 00:39:19,560
Speaker 2: want to talk about it.

903
00:39:19,560 --> 00:39:19,840
Speaker 1: I don't know.

904
00:39:20,280 --> 00:39:20,680
Speaker 3: It was a lot.

905
00:39:21,040 --> 00:39:22,200
Speaker 2: I was on this thing.

906
00:39:22,320 --> 00:39:22,879
Speaker 1: It don't matter.

907
00:39:24,400 --> 00:39:27,279
Speaker 2: I wait, wait, but you didn't let me finish. We're

908
00:39:27,280 --> 00:39:27,640
Speaker 2: not going to.

909
00:39:27,800 --> 00:39:31,479
Speaker 4: Talk specifically to a cam Newton or a doctor Brian

910
00:39:31,520 --> 00:39:33,440
Speaker 4: as much as we're going to talk about the themes

911
00:39:33,520 --> 00:39:35,920
Speaker 4: around the conversation and what was brought up in a

912
00:39:35,960 --> 00:39:36,880
Speaker 4: general census.

913
00:39:36,960 --> 00:39:37,239
Speaker 3: That's all.

914
00:39:37,320 --> 00:39:39,120
Speaker 6: I don't care what y'all want to talk about. At

915
00:39:39,120 --> 00:39:40,640
Speaker 6: the end of the day, it's my god damn show.

916
00:39:40,960 --> 00:39:42,840
Speaker 6: So when I make the mother fucking outline, that's what.

917
00:39:42,840 --> 00:39:44,520
Speaker 1: We're talking about. Shit.

918
00:39:45,239 --> 00:39:49,560
Speaker 6: Anyway, point is the reason this conversation is really important

919
00:39:49,920 --> 00:39:56,080
Speaker 6: to me is because I am finding that I'm seeing

920
00:39:56,120 --> 00:39:59,240
Speaker 6: a lot of celebration around taking care of your kids

921
00:40:00,200 --> 00:40:04,200
Speaker 6: when it comes to men with money. And I don't

922
00:40:04,239 --> 00:40:06,120
Speaker 6: have a dog in the spighte as far as an

923
00:40:06,200 --> 00:40:10,040
Speaker 6: absentee father, but I know from dating and from having

924
00:40:10,120 --> 00:40:13,279
Speaker 6: very close friends, and even from my own mother what

925
00:40:13,320 --> 00:40:16,320
Speaker 6: it's been like to have an inactive father, and even

926
00:40:16,400 --> 00:40:18,360
Speaker 6: conversations for the last eight years on this PODU and

927
00:40:18,400 --> 00:40:20,120
Speaker 6: even before we were podcasting things, she would tell me

928
00:40:20,120 --> 00:40:22,600
Speaker 6: about your dad and I was literally thinking, this is

929
00:40:22,640 --> 00:40:25,239
Speaker 6: a great conversation out with Mandy, because I can't imagine

930
00:40:25,520 --> 00:40:29,400
Speaker 6: how you feel hearing shit like this. So doctor Bryant,

931
00:40:29,400 --> 00:40:32,600
Speaker 6: who is a relationship coach, she's a woman that went recently,

932
00:40:32,600 --> 00:40:36,480
Speaker 6: had conversations recently with Nick Cannon and Cam Newton about

933
00:40:36,480 --> 00:40:40,399
Speaker 6: them bringing kids into the world. And one specific conversation

934
00:40:40,960 --> 00:40:44,120
Speaker 6: that really struck a chord for me was her conversation

935
00:40:44,320 --> 00:40:47,640
Speaker 6: with Cam Newton and having more children but not getting married.

936
00:40:47,719 --> 00:40:52,279
Speaker 3: So I'm not married, right, I have beautiful children. How

937
00:40:52,280 --> 00:40:53,320
Speaker 3: many eight.

938
00:40:54,840 --> 00:40:56,760
Speaker 1: I was at that I didn't do my research.

939
00:40:56,760 --> 00:40:57,799
Speaker 2: I that was four, but eight?

940
00:40:57,840 --> 00:40:59,920
Speaker 1: Okay, how many women?

941
00:41:00,440 --> 00:41:04,680
Speaker 3: Three? And this is the kicker. I want more.

942
00:41:05,719 --> 00:41:08,080
Speaker 2: Now by multiple women.

943
00:41:08,120 --> 00:41:09,960
Speaker 1: What's the intent by your wife?

944
00:41:10,239 --> 00:41:12,560
Speaker 3: I just want God to bring them. Oh and you

945
00:41:12,560 --> 00:41:14,000
Speaker 3: have so you just because.

946
00:41:13,680 --> 00:41:18,600
Speaker 9: My point is this, my desire to get married is

947
00:41:18,719 --> 00:41:23,959
Speaker 9: lower than my fear of divorce. So as you had said,

948
00:41:24,040 --> 00:41:27,080
Speaker 9: Doctor Brian, you said it, I said, I will agree.

949
00:41:27,440 --> 00:41:29,799
Speaker 8: I'm just taking my time, but you will And I

950
00:41:29,800 --> 00:41:32,160
Speaker 8: say this with all respect and love. What I'm about

951
00:41:32,160 --> 00:41:36,480
Speaker 8: to say, next, Okay, Cam, but you will selfishly create

952
00:41:36,560 --> 00:41:39,719
Speaker 8: broken families even if you're in their life and you're

953
00:41:39,760 --> 00:41:41,839
Speaker 8: a proactive father, and I believe you're an amazing daddy.

954
00:41:41,840 --> 00:41:44,640
Speaker 8: I can only imagine with just your presence and knowing

955
00:41:44,640 --> 00:41:49,399
Speaker 8: you thus far. But these families are still broken. Every

956
00:41:49,480 --> 00:41:52,279
Speaker 8: child cannot have Papa in the house with them, so

957
00:41:52,640 --> 00:41:55,440
Speaker 8: some child, if not all, all will end up with

958
00:41:55,600 --> 00:41:58,400
Speaker 8: some kind of deficit without daddy being there.

959
00:41:59,120 --> 00:42:03,640
Speaker 6: Nick Cannon has seven hundred and fifty children and no

960
00:42:03,760 --> 00:42:05,879
Speaker 6: wife right now and claims.

961
00:42:05,520 --> 00:42:06,440
Speaker 1: To be a great dad.

962
00:42:07,200 --> 00:42:11,080
Speaker 6: Can you be a great dad with having so many

963
00:42:11,120 --> 00:42:15,479
Speaker 6: different relationships with women now, Doctor Bryant, The woman said

964
00:42:15,560 --> 00:42:19,440
Speaker 6: you can't because you're creating broken homes. I completely agree

965
00:42:19,480 --> 00:42:22,719
Speaker 6: with that sentiment. On the contrary, when I started having

966
00:42:22,719 --> 00:42:25,080
Speaker 6: this conversation with a friend of mine, she's like, girl,

967
00:42:25,120 --> 00:42:27,280
Speaker 6: my husband is here every day and don't do nothing.

968
00:42:27,040 --> 00:42:29,080
Speaker 2: With these kids. Yeah, I disagree with that.

969
00:42:29,440 --> 00:42:32,080
Speaker 4: You disagree with what the same way I think that

970
00:42:33,080 --> 00:42:36,799
Speaker 4: someone can be an awful partner and a great dad

971
00:42:37,280 --> 00:42:41,200
Speaker 4: is the same way I feel like.

972
00:42:39,360 --> 00:42:39,879
Speaker 6: It like.

973
00:42:41,440 --> 00:42:42,040
Speaker 2: I'm trying to.

974
00:42:43,880 --> 00:42:47,040
Speaker 4: So when I saw, first off, I don't think anyone

975
00:42:47,160 --> 00:42:49,160
Speaker 4: is a good parent. That's where I want to start.

976
00:42:49,560 --> 00:42:52,280
Speaker 4: And I say that because a lot of times people

977
00:42:52,280 --> 00:42:55,880
Speaker 4: become parents for the first time, even when they have

978
00:42:56,040 --> 00:43:00,000
Speaker 4: multiple kids, they become their they course correct from maybe

979
00:43:00,080 --> 00:43:00,760
Speaker 4: what they felt.

980
00:43:00,520 --> 00:43:02,280
Speaker 2: Like they did with your parents for the first people.

981
00:43:02,480 --> 00:43:05,640
Speaker 4: Well, parents are always normal people, but being a parent

982
00:43:05,800 --> 00:43:08,200
Speaker 4: is hard to teach. Mind you, a lot of people

983
00:43:08,280 --> 00:43:10,960
Speaker 4: have the traumas for maybe how their parents failed. So

984
00:43:11,480 --> 00:43:13,360
Speaker 4: the same way, I feel like I'm kind of dating

985
00:43:13,400 --> 00:43:15,880
Speaker 4: by knowing what I don't want. A lot of people

986
00:43:16,080 --> 00:43:18,920
Speaker 4: who are parents are literally trying to be who their

987
00:43:19,040 --> 00:43:22,120
Speaker 4: parents weren't without any idea of the right way to

988
00:43:22,160 --> 00:43:24,279
Speaker 4: do something. They only know what they think is the

989
00:43:24,320 --> 00:43:26,840
Speaker 4: right way to do something. But there's so many things involved.

990
00:43:26,960 --> 00:43:29,640
Speaker 4: There's the economics of things. Then there's the kind of

991
00:43:29,680 --> 00:43:33,600
Speaker 4: line between not giving your child enough lover or attention.

992
00:43:33,320 --> 00:43:34,160
Speaker 1: And then spoiling.

993
00:43:34,480 --> 00:43:37,560
Speaker 4: Like there's these like weird lines that if you go

994
00:43:37,680 --> 00:43:39,279
Speaker 4: two parts to the left, they feel like you don't

995
00:43:39,320 --> 00:43:39,919
Speaker 4: love them enough.

996
00:43:40,080 --> 00:43:42,280
Speaker 2: But then if you spoil a child, there.

997
00:43:42,080 --> 00:43:44,440
Speaker 4: Becomes resentment and you hovering over them, or as soon

998
00:43:44,440 --> 00:43:46,279
Speaker 4: as they leave the house now they feel like they

999
00:43:46,280 --> 00:43:48,439
Speaker 4: can be free. So I feel like, because we're dealing

1000
00:43:48,440 --> 00:43:52,560
Speaker 4: with humans.

1001
00:43:50,320 --> 00:43:52,600
Speaker 2: As the children.

1002
00:43:53,160 --> 00:43:55,520
Speaker 4: I think, mind you, you have also all the outside

1003
00:43:55,560 --> 00:43:57,439
Speaker 4: forces where you can't protect them when they're at school

1004
00:43:57,480 --> 00:43:59,160
Speaker 4: or when they're at their friend's house. I think this

1005
00:43:59,280 --> 00:44:02,680
Speaker 4: idea of a good parent is one of those it's

1006
00:44:02,719 --> 00:44:06,200
Speaker 4: literally aligned with a perfect man or a perfect woman.

1007
00:44:07,040 --> 00:44:10,000
Speaker 4: It doesn't exist. And so I think that the way

1008
00:44:10,040 --> 00:44:13,440
Speaker 4: that we believe that you can be a good parent,

1009
00:44:14,520 --> 00:44:17,400
Speaker 4: I think it's so subjective that I don't think it exists,

1010
00:44:17,680 --> 00:44:19,600
Speaker 4: and I think that someone's always gonna fall short.

1011
00:44:24,760 --> 00:44:28,320
Speaker 6: What is a So to answer that question, I asked Instagram,

1012
00:44:28,360 --> 00:44:30,680
Speaker 6: and I'm gonna read some of their answers what an

1013
00:44:30,719 --> 00:44:34,239
Speaker 6: active parent looks like. So the reason I said that

1014
00:44:34,360 --> 00:44:36,640
Speaker 6: is because good dad, bad dad? Fine, you paid for everything,

1015
00:44:36,760 --> 00:44:40,640
Speaker 6: Sure you're a good dad in your head, but active parents.

1016
00:44:41,000 --> 00:44:43,480
Speaker 6: Can you really be an active parent if you're not

1017
00:44:43,560 --> 00:44:46,400
Speaker 6: with that person. Again, to doctor Brian's point with creating

1018
00:44:46,400 --> 00:44:48,840
Speaker 6: broken homes, I say this to say.

1019
00:44:50,600 --> 00:44:53,239
Speaker 2: Most success, do you define an active parent?

1020
00:44:53,840 --> 00:44:55,560
Speaker 1: That's the thing. There is no definition.

1021
00:44:56,200 --> 00:44:58,720
Speaker 6: So I was gonna say I say this to say

1022
00:44:59,000 --> 00:45:02,640
Speaker 6: no one's answer is this to me, I think my

1023
00:45:02,760 --> 00:45:04,880
Speaker 6: dad was an active parent because we got to do

1024
00:45:04,920 --> 00:45:08,839
Speaker 6: something every weekend together. Now, my dad literally worked six

1025
00:45:08,920 --> 00:45:12,880
Speaker 6: days a week. That to me was active. And I

1026
00:45:12,920 --> 00:45:14,680
Speaker 6: guess if my dad didn't live in my home. My

1027
00:45:14,680 --> 00:45:16,439
Speaker 6: parents are still married. I grew up with a father

1028
00:45:16,480 --> 00:45:18,279
Speaker 6: in the house. Maybe my dad would have had me

1029
00:45:18,320 --> 00:45:21,520
Speaker 6: any weekend everywhere like anyway, so maybe he would have

1030
00:45:21,640 --> 00:45:25,280
Speaker 6: always been an active parent in my head. Now, everybody

1031
00:45:25,320 --> 00:45:27,080
Speaker 6: has a different answer. I'm gonna read some of those,

1032
00:45:27,640 --> 00:45:30,680
Speaker 6: but I'm gonna say this, I don't know if there's

1033
00:45:30,680 --> 00:45:32,560
Speaker 6: a way that Nick Cannon or Cam Newton can be

1034
00:45:32,600 --> 00:45:36,320
Speaker 6: active parents to eight children, mainly because busy lifestyle. You

1035
00:45:36,360 --> 00:45:38,240
Speaker 6: don't live in the same city as all of these kids.

1036
00:45:38,440 --> 00:45:40,719
Speaker 6: How fucking active can you be? At least to me,

1037
00:45:40,880 --> 00:45:43,560
Speaker 6: baseline of an active parent if you don't live in

1038
00:45:43,560 --> 00:45:47,040
Speaker 6: the same house or city, you should still know them teachers' names,

1039
00:45:47,320 --> 00:45:49,319
Speaker 6: you should still know the academy of your own kid,

1040
00:45:49,600 --> 00:45:51,640
Speaker 6: what their problems are, who their friends are. You should

1041
00:45:51,640 --> 00:45:54,040
Speaker 6: be engaging with them daily. How can you engage with

1042
00:45:54,080 --> 00:45:55,000
Speaker 6: eight children daily?

1043
00:45:56,040 --> 00:45:58,399
Speaker 4: I mean niggas can engage eight women daily. I did

1044
00:45:58,440 --> 00:46:02,200
Speaker 4: want to say that, No, there is a baseline online.

1045
00:46:02,280 --> 00:46:04,279
Speaker 4: An active parent is someone who is involved in their

1046
00:46:04,360 --> 00:46:06,919
Speaker 4: child's life. An takes an active role in their growth

1047
00:46:06,960 --> 00:46:10,200
Speaker 4: and development. So there's four bullet points for this. Being proactive,

1048
00:46:10,440 --> 00:46:13,839
Speaker 4: so teaching values and being a role model. Again, where

1049
00:46:13,880 --> 00:46:16,359
Speaker 4: I feel like people being a role model is where

1050
00:46:16,640 --> 00:46:21,280
Speaker 4: it's hard, communicating openly, setting clear expectations and boundaries, being present,

1051
00:46:21,520 --> 00:46:24,040
Speaker 4: so participating in activities together, and showing interests in a

1052
00:46:24,120 --> 00:46:28,480
Speaker 4: children's interest, and then providing positive reinforcement, which is encouraging

1053
00:46:28,480 --> 00:46:33,160
Speaker 4: good behavior. So in those even just four bullet points

1054
00:46:33,160 --> 00:46:36,399
Speaker 4: of something, I think those are hard for people who

1055
00:46:36,400 --> 00:46:40,840
Speaker 4: even aren't parents to do in friendships, to do in relationships.

1056
00:46:41,080 --> 00:46:44,239
Speaker 4: So that's where I feel like being active as a

1057
00:46:44,320 --> 00:46:47,440
Speaker 4: human being is difficult, let alone with someone who is

1058
00:46:47,760 --> 00:46:51,080
Speaker 4: developing as a human being themselves.

1059
00:46:51,360 --> 00:46:52,520
Speaker 2: I think those things are hard.

1060
00:46:53,440 --> 00:46:55,319
Speaker 6: I think it's hard, but I think that the main

1061
00:46:55,360 --> 00:46:56,840
Speaker 6: thing is Sorry, I'm just trying to find where I

1062
00:46:56,880 --> 00:46:58,839
Speaker 6: screenshot all this and I want to.

1063
00:46:58,920 --> 00:47:01,600
Speaker 4: Bring a point to So I was raised in a

1064
00:47:01,640 --> 00:47:09,840
Speaker 4: single parent household, and to be fair, where society and

1065
00:47:09,920 --> 00:47:16,040
Speaker 4: all of these places put emphasis on men to financially provide. Again,

1066
00:47:16,080 --> 00:47:18,120
Speaker 4: the conversations around fifty to fifty dates, who pays for

1067
00:47:18,160 --> 00:47:23,880
Speaker 4: a first date? Unfortunately for fathers or men within the household.

1068
00:47:24,360 --> 00:47:26,839
Speaker 4: Provision is a big thing. Providing is a big thing.

1069
00:47:27,320 --> 00:47:30,239
Speaker 4: So there's a lot of men who feel as though, well,

1070
00:47:31,440 --> 00:47:33,480
Speaker 4: none of my child support payments was late. So I

1071
00:47:33,520 --> 00:47:34,839
Speaker 4: did what I was supposed to do as a dad.

1072
00:47:34,920 --> 00:47:37,759
Speaker 4: And let's be very clear, that's where I kind of

1073
00:47:37,760 --> 00:47:41,200
Speaker 4: found an issue in becoming an adult. Like my dad

1074
00:47:41,239 --> 00:47:43,520
Speaker 4: now feels like I owe him as an adult because

1075
00:47:43,800 --> 00:47:45,360
Speaker 4: he took care of me as a child, because he

1076
00:47:45,360 --> 00:47:49,520
Speaker 4: paid his child support payments. Next, he feels like he

1077
00:47:49,600 --> 00:47:53,560
Speaker 4: is old now because he did right by his child support.

1078
00:47:53,560 --> 00:47:56,520
Speaker 4: Mind you, didn't speak to us for a year, made

1079
00:47:56,600 --> 00:47:59,480
Speaker 4: us all go through DNA tests because my mom needed

1080
00:47:59,480 --> 00:48:02,880
Speaker 4: more financially. Mind you, that's the only thing you gotta do.

1081
00:48:02,920 --> 00:48:06,240
Speaker 4: Because literally, in the book I'm writing, I can't remember

1082
00:48:06,239 --> 00:48:07,960
Speaker 4: one basketball game he showed up to.

1083
00:48:08,239 --> 00:48:10,719
Speaker 2: Can't remember one inner mirror game, can't remember that SoC game.

1084
00:48:12,320 --> 00:48:13,160
Speaker 2: But here's the thing.

1085
00:48:14,040 --> 00:48:16,279
Speaker 4: No, for a lot of people in the way they

1086
00:48:16,280 --> 00:48:19,320
Speaker 4: could compare it, I saw him maybe every other weekend.

1087
00:48:19,560 --> 00:48:21,279
Speaker 4: And when it came to school supplies, when it came

1088
00:48:21,320 --> 00:48:23,719
Speaker 4: to Christmases, when it came to birthdays, when it came

1089
00:48:23,760 --> 00:48:28,080
Speaker 4: to up showing on my mom. Oh, he came in

1090
00:48:28,160 --> 00:48:30,400
Speaker 4: all the electronics. Oh your mom got you.

1091
00:48:30,440 --> 00:48:32,160
Speaker 2: That for Christmas? Look what daddy got you?

1092
00:48:32,400 --> 00:48:34,319
Speaker 1: Hold on, let me know question so to me?

1093
00:48:34,719 --> 00:48:38,160
Speaker 2: So again song every other weekend for a long time.

1094
00:48:38,239 --> 00:48:39,640
Speaker 1: Yeah, what did you guys do?

1095
00:48:39,719 --> 00:48:41,520
Speaker 4: And then he called, and then my and then my

1096
00:48:41,840 --> 00:48:45,680
Speaker 4: sister who wasn't his. He took in until he didn't

1097
00:48:45,680 --> 00:48:47,359
Speaker 4: want to pay more money than it became a whole

1098
00:48:47,400 --> 00:48:47,839
Speaker 4: little thing.

1099
00:48:48,400 --> 00:48:50,600
Speaker 1: So you spend time with your dad every other weekend.

1100
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Speaker 2: And I don't know my white family.

1101
00:48:53,160 --> 00:48:55,200
Speaker 4: So whenever I was with my family, it was with

1102
00:48:55,239 --> 00:48:57,480
Speaker 4: my Jamaican side, so I know all my aunties, all

1103
00:48:57,480 --> 00:49:01,560
Speaker 4: my uncles. We were always with my Jamaica family. So

1104
00:49:01,800 --> 00:49:03,840
Speaker 4: that was the only family I had, was them growing

1105
00:49:03,920 --> 00:49:05,120
Speaker 4: up edd And.

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00:49:05,160 --> 00:49:06,560
Speaker 1: Did you grow up with both parents in the house?

1107
00:49:06,760 --> 00:49:07,480
Speaker 3: I did? Yeah?

1108
00:49:07,520 --> 00:49:10,399
Speaker 1: And you how douse?

1109
00:49:10,400 --> 00:49:12,000
Speaker 6: I know you and your daughter are super close now,

1110
00:49:12,040 --> 00:49:13,520
Speaker 6: Like how often did you see your dad?

1111
00:49:15,280 --> 00:49:15,520
Speaker 3: Man?

1112
00:49:15,600 --> 00:49:19,719
Speaker 7: If my memory serves me, probably like probably similar to

1113
00:49:19,760 --> 00:49:21,720
Speaker 7: Mandy's in certain cases did.

1114
00:49:21,520 --> 00:49:24,280
Speaker 1: That some weekends?

1115
00:49:25,239 --> 00:49:27,040
Speaker 7: I felt like the time we spent with each other

1116
00:49:27,160 --> 00:49:29,719
Speaker 7: was really quality time that made it enough, Like I

1117
00:49:29,760 --> 00:49:30,880
Speaker 7: would say mine was different.

1118
00:49:31,000 --> 00:49:33,000
Speaker 1: Oh That's why I asked you, what were you guys doing.

1119
00:49:33,120 --> 00:49:36,440
Speaker 4: We were hanging with his girlfriends. His girlfriends baked us cookies,

1120
00:49:36,440 --> 00:49:38,880
Speaker 4: his girlfriends took us to them. All his girlfriends. His

1121
00:49:38,960 --> 00:49:41,879
Speaker 4: girlfriends always were great, Like there was Jennifer, one, two,

1122
00:49:41,880 --> 00:49:43,719
Speaker 4: and three, there was there were all and we knew

1123
00:49:43,719 --> 00:49:45,920
Speaker 4: all the names. And we hung out with the other

1124
00:49:45,960 --> 00:49:47,359
Speaker 4: women in his life and they were great.

1125
00:49:47,400 --> 00:49:49,000
Speaker 1: So he didn't make your time my dad.

1126
00:49:49,040 --> 00:49:53,680
Speaker 4: But but because I met my grandmother just being Jamaican, like,

1127
00:49:53,760 --> 00:49:56,279
Speaker 4: he was just very He worked, He worked hard, and

1128
00:49:56,320 --> 00:49:58,400
Speaker 4: he provided. That's what he knew what to do as

1129
00:49:58,400 --> 00:50:02,439
Speaker 4: a like as a Jamaican, he worked hard. He could

1130
00:50:02,520 --> 00:50:04,759
Speaker 4: cook his ass off, and when he was around, it

1131
00:50:04,840 --> 00:50:07,040
Speaker 4: was like, yo, I need give me my time. I'm

1132
00:50:07,080 --> 00:50:11,680
Speaker 4: drinking my fucking my beer, I'm smoking, I'm I'm off

1133
00:50:11,719 --> 00:50:13,640
Speaker 4: from work because he worked so fucking much.

1134
00:50:13,680 --> 00:50:15,120
Speaker 1: Now I want to ask you all this.

1135
00:50:15,200 --> 00:50:17,919
Speaker 6: So I made an Instagram story asking people to tell

1136
00:50:17,960 --> 00:50:19,560
Speaker 6: me what an active parent look like.

1137
00:50:20,080 --> 00:50:20,880
Speaker 1: I then ask.

1138
00:50:20,760 --> 00:50:24,440
Speaker 6: People, Hey, if your baby mama and you break up

1139
00:50:24,480 --> 00:50:27,239
Speaker 6: whatever and she moves to another city, let it be work.

1140
00:50:28,320 --> 00:50:32,000
Speaker 6: How often is seeing your kid? Does it make you

1141
00:50:32,040 --> 00:50:34,320
Speaker 6: an active parent? Because sometimes it's not by the choice

1142
00:50:34,360 --> 00:50:36,359
Speaker 6: of the father, right and I want to give men

1143
00:50:36,400 --> 00:50:39,080
Speaker 6: some grace with that, because a lot of women do move.

1144
00:50:39,120 --> 00:50:41,320
Speaker 1: Maybe they weaponize, yep, they had a painful breakup.

1145
00:50:42,520 --> 00:50:44,440
Speaker 6: Maybe they just are like completely like I got to

1146
00:50:44,440 --> 00:50:48,000
Speaker 6: remove myself from this in that instance, and especially income

1147
00:50:48,040 --> 00:50:50,600
Speaker 6: because it's not just paying anymore, it's flying there. How

1148
00:50:50,640 --> 00:50:52,520
Speaker 6: often do you think you'd need to see that kid

1149
00:50:52,560 --> 00:50:53,959
Speaker 6: for them to be active enough?

1150
00:50:55,239 --> 00:50:56,520
Speaker 2: Again, I think it's subjective.

1151
00:50:56,560 --> 00:50:58,640
Speaker 4: I mean, and to be clear, I think that when

1152
00:50:58,840 --> 00:51:02,600
Speaker 4: a parent is not in the household all the time, again,

1153
00:51:02,680 --> 00:51:04,839
Speaker 4: I don't think you truly know how to be a parent.

1154
00:51:05,239 --> 00:51:07,840
Speaker 4: Like so when we moved to Atlanta when I was

1155
00:51:07,880 --> 00:51:10,600
Speaker 4: in high school, my dad never came to Atlanta to

1156
00:51:10,600 --> 00:51:13,800
Speaker 4: see us, but I came down to Orlando spend a summer,

1157
00:51:13,800 --> 00:51:16,960
Speaker 4: and bitch ended up pregnant because he wasn't around.

1158
00:51:17,040 --> 00:51:19,040
Speaker 2: We was able to do Bitch, we went to Tampa.

1159
00:51:19,120 --> 00:51:21,399
Speaker 4: We was bitch ill was at your house more than

1160
00:51:21,440 --> 00:51:22,880
Speaker 4: I saw my dad that summer.

1161
00:51:23,239 --> 00:51:24,600
Speaker 2: So I think.

1162
00:51:24,440 --> 00:51:25,719
Speaker 1: They're not jewel fucked up.

1163
00:51:26,000 --> 00:51:29,120
Speaker 2: No, But to me, I think like that word.

1164
00:51:29,160 --> 00:51:30,879
Speaker 4: I don't want to lean on active because I think

1165
00:51:30,920 --> 00:51:34,480
Speaker 4: it looks differently and I think it shows up with

1166
00:51:34,520 --> 00:51:35,960
Speaker 4: you an adult, but different.

1167
00:51:35,719 --> 00:51:38,040
Speaker 6: I think that's the thing though, That's the conversation we're having, right.

1168
00:51:38,080 --> 00:51:41,240
Speaker 6: It's like, I want to at least talk about active

1169
00:51:41,320 --> 00:51:43,920
Speaker 6: because you and I both have friends with children.

1170
00:51:43,960 --> 00:51:46,120
Speaker 1: Maybe they're married, maybe they're they're in long term relationships,

1171
00:51:46,160 --> 00:51:46,880
Speaker 1: or maybe they're single.

1172
00:51:47,400 --> 00:51:50,680
Speaker 6: And I keep seeing this reoccurring theme of one with

1173
00:51:50,719 --> 00:51:53,560
Speaker 6: my closest friend, her daughter's about fifteen, that nigga don't

1174
00:51:53,560 --> 00:51:56,120
Speaker 6: spend money and he gets his daughter every summer. No

1175
00:51:56,239 --> 00:51:58,239
Speaker 6: money really goes there, right, he's on child's forty, never

1176
00:51:58,280 --> 00:52:03,640
Speaker 6: sent shit. So I'm just wondering, like, what is truly enough?

1177
00:52:03,680 --> 00:52:06,960
Speaker 6: So I'll read some of these comments from people so

1178
00:52:07,000 --> 00:52:12,440
Speaker 6: you can get an idea. So one woman says, an

1179
00:52:12,480 --> 00:52:14,759
Speaker 6: active father is present to the point where my kid

1180
00:52:14,840 --> 00:52:19,000
Speaker 6: can call him and he's either their asap or emotionally

1181
00:52:19,440 --> 00:52:22,879
Speaker 6: or physically. When my daughter calls her father, he lives

1182
00:52:22,920 --> 00:52:26,600
Speaker 6: seven hours away, he's made his way down to Orlando

1183
00:52:26,600 --> 00:52:28,879
Speaker 6: if he needs to show up, and or we'll sit

1184
00:52:28,880 --> 00:52:32,040
Speaker 6: on FaceTime with her to help her through emotionally. Another

1185
00:52:32,080 --> 00:52:37,920
Speaker 6: person said, if you can't do the same activities or

1186
00:52:38,160 --> 00:52:41,439
Speaker 6: large events like the mom is, you're not an active dad.

1187
00:52:41,480 --> 00:52:44,360
Speaker 6: Why is my father not there for graduation or a birthday.

1188
00:52:44,400 --> 00:52:48,480
Speaker 6: To me, that makes no sense. Another person says, mine

1189
00:52:48,520 --> 00:52:50,680
Speaker 6: is a very difficult one. My baby father is in

1190
00:52:50,719 --> 00:52:53,479
Speaker 6: the military, so he can't even get on the phone

1191
00:52:53,520 --> 00:52:56,200
Speaker 6: with my kid every day. However, he is doing enough

1192
00:52:56,200 --> 00:52:58,879
Speaker 6: to spend quality moments, interactions, and time.

1193
00:52:58,960 --> 00:53:03,600
Speaker 1: Like Wolfe said, long letters, photos, very detailed memories.

1194
00:53:04,040 --> 00:53:07,319
Speaker 6: He is doing enough to make an impact and an

1195
00:53:07,360 --> 00:53:10,759
Speaker 6: imprint on her life. He even sends gifts that she'll

1196
00:53:10,840 --> 00:53:15,880
Speaker 6: randomly receive. Fathers who bond with their children. For the

1197
00:53:15,920 --> 00:53:17,640
Speaker 6: most part, I would say ninety percent of people said

1198
00:53:17,640 --> 00:53:19,840
Speaker 6: showing up for lifetime major events.

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00:53:20,719 --> 00:53:23,799
Speaker 4: Yeah, which is crazy. My dad showed up to our

1200
00:53:23,800 --> 00:53:25,120
Speaker 4: graduations and our birthday.

1201
00:53:25,680 --> 00:53:27,200
Speaker 1: You even just said I don't remember him at a

1202
00:53:27,200 --> 00:53:27,759
Speaker 1: basketball game.

1203
00:53:28,120 --> 00:53:31,759
Speaker 2: Not a basketball game, but major. But again subjective.

1204
00:53:32,120 --> 00:53:33,840
Speaker 4: He may not have thought that meant anything to me,

1205
00:53:34,120 --> 00:53:36,400
Speaker 4: but he showed up to all of our graduations, my

1206
00:53:36,440 --> 00:53:40,080
Speaker 4: school dances, all the things that maybe he considered large events.

1207
00:53:40,640 --> 00:53:43,680
Speaker 2: And don't think that that was him being active.

1208
00:53:45,880 --> 00:53:48,200
Speaker 1: You don't think him showing up was I think you

1209
00:53:48,320 --> 00:53:48,919
Speaker 1: just want more.

1210
00:53:49,280 --> 00:53:50,839
Speaker 4: Well that and that's why I think all of this

1211
00:53:50,920 --> 00:53:53,440
Speaker 4: is subjective. Because even that first thing you wrote a

1212
00:53:53,480 --> 00:53:58,880
Speaker 4: man to be to open up emotionally or or cope

1213
00:53:58,920 --> 00:54:03,040
Speaker 4: with my daughter's children's emotions. That is such a hard

1214
00:54:03,080 --> 00:54:05,880
Speaker 4: thing for a man to do in a romantic relationship

1215
00:54:05,920 --> 00:54:06,520
Speaker 4: as an adult.

1216
00:54:06,920 --> 00:54:08,960
Speaker 2: So also the things that we require these men to

1217
00:54:09,000 --> 00:54:11,320
Speaker 2: show up as his parents, then niggas don't even know

1218
00:54:11,320 --> 00:54:12,000
Speaker 2: how to do with us.

1219
00:54:12,200 --> 00:54:15,160
Speaker 6: Well, listen to this one about providing. I did a

1220
00:54:15,160 --> 00:54:20,120
Speaker 6: poll I said, does money make you an active parent?

1221
00:54:20,760 --> 00:54:23,800
Speaker 6: Four thousand people voted eighty seven percent.

1222
00:54:24,640 --> 00:54:24,799
Speaker 5: No.

1223
00:54:25,760 --> 00:54:28,520
Speaker 6: People do not believe providing is active. I then had

1224
00:54:28,640 --> 00:54:32,160
Speaker 6: someone right, this one was interesting. Please keep this anonymous.

1225
00:54:32,160 --> 00:54:32,520
Speaker 1: Weezy.

1226
00:54:32,960 --> 00:54:35,680
Speaker 6: My father is the CEO of a fortune five hundred company.

1227
00:54:36,560 --> 00:54:39,440
Speaker 6: I would literally have given back all of the expensive

1228
00:54:39,440 --> 00:54:41,880
Speaker 6: things he ever bought me just to have had some

1229
00:54:41,960 --> 00:54:45,320
Speaker 6: fun moments with him, a theme park, anything. I literally

1230
00:54:45,400 --> 00:54:47,600
Speaker 6: never did anything fun with my dad because he was

1231
00:54:47,640 --> 00:54:53,000
Speaker 6: so busy on making money, being popular and rich and

1232
00:54:53,040 --> 00:54:55,600
Speaker 6: making sure he could say he was providing for his family.

1233
00:54:55,960 --> 00:54:58,360
Speaker 6: I grew so much resentment when he got married again

1234
00:54:58,640 --> 00:55:01,080
Speaker 6: because he got to have another who I'm sure got

1235
00:55:01,080 --> 00:55:04,120
Speaker 6: more of him. Another dude wrote me. I then wrote

1236
00:55:04,120 --> 00:55:06,040
Speaker 6: and said, fathers, can you tell me where you fucked up?

1237
00:55:08,160 --> 00:55:11,080
Speaker 6: This dude said, since me and my baby mother have

1238
00:55:11,200 --> 00:55:14,600
Speaker 6: so much more bitterness toward each other, literally, it becomes

1239
00:55:14,600 --> 00:55:18,160
Speaker 6: a hostage negotiation to see my fucking kid. In most cases,

1240
00:55:18,200 --> 00:55:20,719
Speaker 6: I can only be as active as her mom will

1241
00:55:20,719 --> 00:55:22,960
Speaker 6: allow me to. And I know my daughter's gonna grow

1242
00:55:23,040 --> 00:55:25,200
Speaker 6: up thinking I didn't give a fuck about her. There's

1243
00:55:25,239 --> 00:55:27,719
Speaker 6: even moments when I do see her and I'm so

1244
00:55:27,880 --> 00:55:30,479
Speaker 6: angry from having a ten second interaction with her mom

1245
00:55:30,520 --> 00:55:33,440
Speaker 6: that I can't even be present anymore. I believe that

1246
00:55:33,480 --> 00:55:36,799
Speaker 6: what you sorry, I believe that what you posted about

1247
00:55:36,880 --> 00:55:40,240
Speaker 6: Nick Cannon and Cam Newton not being active is totally correct.

1248
00:55:40,600 --> 00:55:43,759
Speaker 6: They are beginning relationships with their children while having no

1249
00:55:43,880 --> 00:55:47,400
Speaker 6: relationships with their mother. Having children with good women is

1250
00:55:47,480 --> 00:55:50,319
Speaker 6: not a good choice for your child. It's a bad

1251
00:55:50,440 --> 00:55:52,480
Speaker 6: choice for you and a bad choice for their future.

1252
00:55:52,840 --> 00:55:56,000
Speaker 6: That one I love because Cam Newton literally said something like, oh, well,

1253
00:55:56,040 --> 00:55:58,920
Speaker 6: these women are high functioning or whatever because they want

1254
00:55:58,920 --> 00:56:01,040
Speaker 6: to have kids, like I'm choosing baby mamas, And I

1255
00:56:01,040 --> 00:56:06,239
Speaker 6: do think that's bullshit, Like rich niggas having a bunch

1256
00:56:06,239 --> 00:56:08,200
Speaker 6: of kids is bullshit.

1257
00:56:08,520 --> 00:56:10,399
Speaker 1: We're not gonna tell me Father's Day.

1258
00:56:10,440 --> 00:56:12,680
Speaker 6: Your kid wants to fucking see you, and Nick Cannon

1259
00:56:12,719 --> 00:56:15,000
Speaker 6: can be eight places and give them all the fucking love.

1260
00:56:15,239 --> 00:56:16,960
Speaker 6: And even if they're all in one place, Mandy and

1261
00:56:17,000 --> 00:56:19,160
Speaker 6: he had to rent a goddamn event hall to fit

1262
00:56:19,200 --> 00:56:21,120
Speaker 6: all the kids, it's still not enough.

1263
00:56:21,360 --> 00:56:22,439
Speaker 2: I am doing too much.

1264
00:56:22,480 --> 00:56:26,480
Speaker 4: But I'm also going to blame the patriarchy here and

1265
00:56:26,560 --> 00:56:30,120
Speaker 4: for what women are putting as a necessary need. Like

1266
00:56:30,120 --> 00:56:32,640
Speaker 4: I said, a lot of our conversations are how much

1267
00:56:32,640 --> 00:56:33,200
Speaker 4: money do you have?

1268
00:56:33,280 --> 00:56:34,120
Speaker 2: What can you do for me?

1269
00:56:34,560 --> 00:56:37,239
Speaker 4: We're pushing the narrative that a man's value is based

1270
00:56:37,280 --> 00:56:39,080
Speaker 4: on how heavy his pockets are.

1271
00:56:39,040 --> 00:56:39,759
Speaker 2: A lot of the time.

1272
00:56:40,120 --> 00:56:42,359
Speaker 4: And so if we're doing that in dating, if we're

1273
00:56:42,360 --> 00:56:46,440
Speaker 4: doing that in choosing a partner, where they feel like

1274
00:56:46,800 --> 00:56:49,920
Speaker 4: my value comes with my money, and so when they

1275
00:56:50,000 --> 00:56:53,960
Speaker 4: feel like their money is what matters to their children,

1276
00:56:54,280 --> 00:56:57,600
Speaker 4: to their families, to the women they date, that's why

1277
00:56:57,640 --> 00:56:59,520
Speaker 4: so many of them are gonna believe like, well, I

1278
00:56:59,560 --> 00:57:01,520
Speaker 4: did what I'll supposed to do. I made the money,

1279
00:57:01,560 --> 00:57:02,120
Speaker 4: you got paid.

1280
00:57:02,200 --> 00:57:04,080
Speaker 2: I told you. That's where my dad feels like, that's

1281
00:57:04,080 --> 00:57:05,000
Speaker 2: where my dad showed up.

1282
00:57:05,000 --> 00:57:07,719
Speaker 4: And I'm like, now as an adult and hearing my mom, no,

1283
00:57:08,000 --> 00:57:11,080
Speaker 4: it doesn't it's not all it takes. However, society is

1284
00:57:11,120 --> 00:57:14,680
Speaker 4: pushing the envelope that a man's value is based on

1285
00:57:15,000 --> 00:57:17,320
Speaker 4: how much money and what he can provide and how

1286
00:57:17,360 --> 00:57:20,080
Speaker 4: he provides it, and that unfortunately they don't know in

1287
00:57:20,160 --> 00:57:23,160
Speaker 4: what other ways they should be or have to show up.

1288
00:57:23,360 --> 00:57:26,800
Speaker 4: And it reminds me of the conversation where it's like, damn, y'all,

1289
00:57:26,800 --> 00:57:28,760
Speaker 4: just keep moving the goal post. Now I'm paying all

1290
00:57:28,760 --> 00:57:30,160
Speaker 4: the bills, but now I need to be an ear

1291
00:57:30,200 --> 00:57:32,920
Speaker 4: for you to listen. Now I need to be emotionally sound,

1292
00:57:33,560 --> 00:57:35,600
Speaker 4: and men are like, Damn, I thought all I had

1293
00:57:35,600 --> 00:57:37,160
Speaker 4: to do was make money, because that's what I thought.

1294
00:57:37,240 --> 00:57:38,640
Speaker 2: I just I thought I had to be a provider.

1295
00:57:38,840 --> 00:57:41,480
Speaker 4: Now you want me to be an emotional creature. You

1296
00:57:41,480 --> 00:57:42,760
Speaker 4: want me to show those things to you.

1297
00:57:43,480 --> 00:57:45,120
Speaker 2: Damn, I got to catch up. I don't know how

1298
00:57:45,160 --> 00:57:46,000
Speaker 2: to do that yet, dude.

1299
00:57:46,040 --> 00:57:48,640
Speaker 6: Honestly, I think this is why we need more content

1300
00:57:48,760 --> 00:57:52,680
Speaker 6: surrounding fatherhood. And that's why I love DDG, who's the

1301
00:57:52,760 --> 00:57:55,080
Speaker 6: new Oh John Queeze. They said, Damn he coming for

1302
00:57:55,160 --> 00:57:57,800
Speaker 6: DDG because he was like, oh, I don't know, I'm

1303
00:57:57,840 --> 00:57:59,440
Speaker 6: happy to be around this baby or you know, and

1304
00:57:59,520 --> 00:58:02,600
Speaker 6: I know that's your and I loved seeing that I

1305
00:58:02,600 --> 00:58:04,600
Speaker 6: think he posted like I don't know how y'all be

1306
00:58:04,600 --> 00:58:07,600
Speaker 6: doing nothing or whatever he said, and people were coming like,

1307
00:58:07,640 --> 00:58:09,160
Speaker 6: oh wait till you get to this year, and it's like,

1308
00:58:09,200 --> 00:58:11,920
Speaker 6: God damn, let that nigga be fucking excited bro to

1309
00:58:12,000 --> 00:58:14,840
Speaker 6: change a diaper, to be happy about being a dad

1310
00:58:14,880 --> 00:58:15,520
Speaker 6: for the first time.

1311
00:58:15,560 --> 00:58:16,400
Speaker 1: I love seeing people.

1312
00:58:16,480 --> 00:58:19,640
Speaker 4: I think he has to do it what his ex leaked,

1313
00:58:20,440 --> 00:58:22,160
Speaker 4: because he made it seem like having a baby with

1314
00:58:22,240 --> 00:58:24,560
Speaker 4: someone doesn't mean you're a family with them, and so

1315
00:58:24,600 --> 00:58:27,480
Speaker 4: I think that's the other thing, like I don't know

1316
00:58:27,520 --> 00:58:30,400
Speaker 4: what strong an. So they were, Yeah, there was beef

1317
00:58:30,400 --> 00:58:33,120
Speaker 4: and dramas, so I think whatever the response was no,

1318
00:58:33,320 --> 00:58:35,800
Speaker 4: like we could be happy for someone, but if shit

1319
00:58:35,920 --> 00:58:38,440
Speaker 4: then came out like people gonna be a little little

1320
00:58:38,600 --> 00:58:40,600
Speaker 4: you know. I know, I'm open for the best with

1321
00:58:40,600 --> 00:58:44,000
Speaker 4: their happiness. But there was a text message that got

1322
00:58:44,040 --> 00:58:45,840
Speaker 4: leaked where he was like, yeah, well, having a baby

1323
00:58:45,880 --> 00:58:47,960
Speaker 4: with a woman doesn't mean you're a family and he

1324
00:58:48,000 --> 00:58:49,360
Speaker 4: said that to the ex, and the ex post of

1325
00:58:49,440 --> 00:58:52,200
Speaker 4: the screenshot while she was pregnant.

1326
00:58:52,960 --> 00:58:56,080
Speaker 2: Yeah, so anyway, Yeah, I.

1327
00:58:56,000 --> 00:58:57,600
Speaker 6: Don't know the family part. What I'm saying is I

1328
00:58:57,640 --> 00:59:00,360
Speaker 6: like watching him be a good dad. Actually, to me, it's.

1329
00:59:00,200 --> 00:59:00,680
Speaker 1: Not about me.

1330
00:59:00,800 --> 00:59:01,800
Speaker 2: We haven't seen him be a good dad.

1331
00:59:01,840 --> 00:59:03,680
Speaker 4: We saw they just had the baby, but we've seen

1332
00:59:03,720 --> 00:59:06,440
Speaker 4: the excitement of him becoming.

1333
00:59:05,520 --> 00:59:07,440
Speaker 2: A father, and I like that aspect.

1334
00:59:08,440 --> 00:59:12,640
Speaker 6: I'm gonna actually disagree on that one. You said we

1335
00:59:12,640 --> 00:59:14,240
Speaker 6: haven't seen him being a good dad. I think the

1336
00:59:14,280 --> 00:59:17,880
Speaker 6: baby was three days old. To me, the excitement changing

1337
00:59:17,920 --> 00:59:20,360
Speaker 6: a diaper, doing whatever, I feel like that, that to

1338
00:59:20,400 --> 00:59:22,040
Speaker 6: me is what I want to see and it would

1339
00:59:22,600 --> 00:59:24,560
Speaker 6: give me the idea that someone is being a good

1340
00:59:24,640 --> 00:59:27,240
Speaker 6: dad slash active dad. Like I think what we're seeing

1341
00:59:27,280 --> 00:59:30,600
Speaker 6: from DDG is specifically why someone made that joke you

1342
00:59:30,680 --> 00:59:32,360
Speaker 6: must be coming for him, is because he posts his

1343
00:59:32,440 --> 00:59:35,240
Speaker 6: kids so much, looks so excited, is laughing so much.

1344
00:59:35,680 --> 00:59:37,640
Speaker 6: And I don't feel like I see that kind of stuff.

1345
00:59:37,640 --> 00:59:39,120
Speaker 1: I see it with moms so much more.

1346
00:59:39,480 --> 00:59:42,560
Speaker 6: And I really would love to celebrate father's relationships with

1347
00:59:42,600 --> 00:59:44,440
Speaker 6: their kids and get to know that, even if it's

1348
00:59:44,480 --> 00:59:46,320
Speaker 6: from celebrities or influencers or whatever.

1349
00:59:46,720 --> 00:59:48,120
Speaker 1: I really don't see a lot.

1350
00:59:47,960 --> 00:59:49,080
Speaker 2: Of that, So you don't see it.

1351
00:59:49,120 --> 00:59:52,480
Speaker 4: I know that's the thing right now online is especially

1352
00:59:52,520 --> 00:59:55,280
Speaker 4: even with Safari and other celebrities, they go and get

1353
00:59:55,320 --> 00:59:58,000
Speaker 4: their kids take pictures, make it seem like they're active,

1354
00:59:58,120 --> 01:00:01,440
Speaker 4: and then they're not so like to me even speaking, and.

1355
01:00:01,480 --> 01:00:05,560
Speaker 1: What is there saying about Sahari they.

1356
01:00:06,400 --> 01:00:08,200
Speaker 4: Babe, you ain't got them nothing for their birthday. You

1357
01:00:08,240 --> 01:00:10,240
Speaker 4: don't know, you know nothing about it. You're never around

1358
01:00:10,240 --> 01:00:12,080
Speaker 4: and the only time you're around them, you want to

1359
01:00:12,120 --> 01:00:13,480
Speaker 4: take all pictures and have it in their face like

1360
01:00:13,520 --> 01:00:16,080
Speaker 4: you're around Gosha. So like even to me, the posting

1361
01:00:16,120 --> 01:00:18,959
Speaker 4: online and things like that, those to me don't mean

1362
01:00:19,320 --> 01:00:21,640
Speaker 4: that you're an active or a good parent like my dad.

1363
01:00:22,040 --> 01:00:25,000
Speaker 1: I think we're watching it though my dad's still influencing.

1364
01:00:25,120 --> 01:00:27,680
Speaker 4: My dad would be the loudest person at my events.

1365
01:00:28,080 --> 01:00:30,320
Speaker 4: My dad before I went down to Orlando last time,

1366
01:00:30,640 --> 01:00:33,160
Speaker 4: he was bragging. He told me how he was bragging

1367
01:00:33,200 --> 01:00:35,960
Speaker 4: about me. Nigg I ain't talk to you on the phone,

1368
01:00:36,000 --> 01:00:36,920
Speaker 4: and so.

1369
01:00:37,040 --> 01:00:38,000
Speaker 1: What can a dad do?

1370
01:00:38,120 --> 01:00:40,320
Speaker 2: But that's what I'm saying. We're humans.

1371
01:00:41,080 --> 01:00:42,520
Speaker 1: You think it's I mean to the contry.

1372
01:00:42,520 --> 01:00:44,320
Speaker 2: I don't think you could be a good parent period.

1373
01:00:44,320 --> 01:00:44,720
Speaker 2: I don't, I.

1374
01:00:44,640 --> 01:00:48,760
Speaker 6: Think, But I think the point is like still seeing

1375
01:00:49,520 --> 01:00:54,280
Speaker 6: I'm sorry, seeing men take on certain roles with their

1376
01:00:54,360 --> 01:00:55,919
Speaker 6: kid or spending time with their children.

1377
01:00:55,960 --> 01:00:57,040
Speaker 1: I think it's good to see.

1378
01:00:57,080 --> 01:00:59,680
Speaker 6: We don't see it, and I think like we're celebrating

1379
01:00:59,680 --> 01:01:02,280
Speaker 6: to this whole having a bunch of babies but taking

1380
01:01:02,280 --> 01:01:04,520
Speaker 6: care of them money wise. Thing like that Nick Cannon conversation,

1381
01:01:04,560 --> 01:01:06,960
Speaker 6: which I hate, and I do like to see activity.

1382
01:01:07,280 --> 01:01:10,640
Speaker 6: I think that's really influential. One of my favorite videos online.

1383
01:01:10,640 --> 01:01:12,800
Speaker 6: I wish I could find it. It's a nigga that

1384
01:01:12,920 --> 01:01:15,320
Speaker 6: just had a baby and all his homeboys are in

1385
01:01:15,360 --> 01:01:17,160
Speaker 6: the house. It's like a New York dude and they

1386
01:01:17,200 --> 01:01:19,040
Speaker 6: hold in dolls and shit with the baby. Has anybody

1387
01:01:19,080 --> 01:01:21,520
Speaker 6: seen this and they like, a, ah, she going to

1388
01:01:21,600 --> 01:01:24,240
Speaker 6: the grocery store. And it's like adorable to me because

1389
01:01:24,240 --> 01:01:26,720
Speaker 6: it's like, oh my god, seeing men have community. When

1390
01:01:26,760 --> 01:01:29,160
Speaker 6: I get all my homegirls, a gonna rush to the forefront, right,

1391
01:01:29,160 --> 01:01:30,280
Speaker 6: even the ones that don't have kids.

1392
01:01:30,320 --> 01:01:31,040
Speaker 1: That's what women do.

1393
01:01:31,440 --> 01:01:33,080
Speaker 6: But I just don't get to see it a lot

1394
01:01:33,120 --> 01:01:35,720
Speaker 6: in brotherhood or with men, and I feel like if

1395
01:01:35,760 --> 01:01:37,520
Speaker 6: we got to have more examples of that, it would

1396
01:01:37,600 --> 01:01:41,000
Speaker 6: really help show fathers that it's not just a payment,

1397
01:01:41,120 --> 01:01:44,600
Speaker 6: Like there's so much more contact and it's made me

1398
01:01:44,640 --> 01:01:47,960
Speaker 6: hate Nick Cannon. Bro Anyway, Okay, so more conversation that

1399
01:01:48,040 --> 01:01:49,240
Speaker 6: happened before we get out of here.

1400
01:01:49,360 --> 01:01:52,720
Speaker 2: Yeah, specifically with doctor.

1401
01:01:52,360 --> 01:01:55,240
Speaker 6: Brian yepe is that you brought this because this is

1402
01:01:55,240 --> 01:01:57,400
Speaker 6: the conversation she was talking about a lot of this

1403
01:01:57,440 --> 01:01:58,040
Speaker 6: high functioning.

1404
01:01:58,080 --> 01:01:59,920
Speaker 1: I hate that high value have function to comment.

1405
01:01:59,720 --> 01:02:03,680
Speaker 6: But high functioning meaning emotional management, which is ironic because

1406
01:02:04,040 --> 01:02:06,080
Speaker 6: when I was listening, I almost felt like she ain't

1407
01:02:06,080 --> 01:02:08,880
Speaker 6: have it a little bit. She was getting very irritated

1408
01:02:08,920 --> 01:02:12,720
Speaker 6: by him bringing up her singleness. But I also think.

1409
01:02:13,840 --> 01:02:17,720
Speaker 4: Because that's it, it's irritating, it's irritating, but because it

1410
01:02:17,760 --> 01:02:19,880
Speaker 4: invalidates me as a woman, or why I can speak

1411
01:02:19,920 --> 01:02:20,840
Speaker 4: to what I'm speaking to.

1412
01:02:21,480 --> 01:02:24,720
Speaker 6: No, he was doing it. I actually think he was

1413
01:02:24,760 --> 01:02:26,280
Speaker 6: doing it to like pick at her because she was.

1414
01:02:26,280 --> 01:02:26,840
Speaker 2: That's what I'm saying.

1415
01:02:26,840 --> 01:02:27,480
Speaker 3: It was an insult.

1416
01:02:27,520 --> 01:02:27,880
Speaker 1: I don't know.

1417
01:02:28,000 --> 01:02:30,200
Speaker 4: So I can see her agitation because you're saying that

1418
01:02:30,240 --> 01:02:32,320
Speaker 4: to insult me, right, which is grid.

1419
01:02:32,560 --> 01:02:36,280
Speaker 1: However, we had an war on here. You had made

1420
01:02:36,280 --> 01:02:36,880
Speaker 1: a comment on.

1421
01:02:36,880 --> 01:02:38,720
Speaker 6: Oh that's why you let me get him up with

1422
01:02:38,840 --> 01:02:40,800
Speaker 6: I could so let me let me talk about this

1423
01:02:41,600 --> 01:02:44,880
Speaker 6: a relationship. Coach being single is kind of crazy. However,

1424
01:02:46,240 --> 01:02:49,040
Speaker 6: why I could kind of see it is because I

1425
01:02:49,080 --> 01:02:51,000
Speaker 6: don't know if my therapist has ever been through some

1426
01:02:51,040 --> 01:02:53,960
Speaker 6: of the issues I'm talking about, whether it be financially,

1427
01:02:54,040 --> 01:02:56,080
Speaker 6: money or whatever. But I do know there's killed enough

1428
01:02:56,240 --> 01:02:59,520
Speaker 6: to guide me through which I believe doctor Bryant can

1429
01:02:59,680 --> 01:03:02,920
Speaker 6: be right when anwar was on here, I think he's amazing.

1430
01:03:02,960 --> 01:03:04,439
Speaker 1: I love some of his advice. Some of it I don't.

1431
01:03:04,480 --> 01:03:06,680
Speaker 1: But for the most part I do. You were like, well,

1432
01:03:06,680 --> 01:03:07,400
Speaker 1: he's gay.

1433
01:03:07,480 --> 01:03:12,240
Speaker 4: Well no, so this is so let me explain my point.

1434
01:03:12,360 --> 01:03:18,840
Speaker 4: I do not believe that a gay male should be

1435
01:03:18,880 --> 01:03:25,080
Speaker 4: giving advice to heterosexual women on their relationships with men,

1436
01:03:25,720 --> 01:03:29,520
Speaker 4: because what a gay man has gone through in his life,

1437
01:03:29,800 --> 01:03:32,360
Speaker 4: how he interacts the same way. We know they act

1438
01:03:32,400 --> 01:03:34,520
Speaker 4: completely different with Grinder than they do on Tender.

1439
01:03:34,720 --> 01:03:35,680
Speaker 2: There is difference.

1440
01:03:35,800 --> 01:03:39,320
Speaker 4: There are a huge difference between hetero sexual relationships and

1441
01:03:39,600 --> 01:03:40,960
Speaker 4: homosexual relationships.

1442
01:03:41,000 --> 01:03:41,360
Speaker 2: One thing.

1443
01:03:41,640 --> 01:03:44,400
Speaker 4: Secondly, we didn't get into it. I know he is

1444
01:03:44,480 --> 01:03:48,440
Speaker 4: history speaking to dating online. I did not remember asking

1445
01:03:48,440 --> 01:03:52,160
Speaker 4: about his educational background when I don't know.

1446
01:03:52,080 --> 01:03:55,000
Speaker 2: What it is years, which is why doing something.

1447
01:03:54,720 --> 01:03:57,560
Speaker 6: For fifteen years and say has been active doing it

1448
01:03:57,600 --> 01:03:59,960
Speaker 6: and has literally studied it, and he talked about that.

1449
01:04:00,080 --> 01:04:02,600
Speaker 4: Well, I want to know the criteria well, and I

1450
01:04:02,640 --> 01:04:05,400
Speaker 4: say that because we can be gay.

1451
01:04:05,520 --> 01:04:05,960
Speaker 1: No, no, no no.

1452
01:04:06,440 --> 01:04:08,160
Speaker 2: We've had SHAMBOOTI on the podcast.

1453
01:04:08,400 --> 01:04:10,480
Speaker 4: Who went to school to become this because she was

1454
01:04:10,520 --> 01:04:13,240
Speaker 4: giving advice for years before she went to school for

1455
01:04:13,240 --> 01:04:17,320
Speaker 4: a sex head, right, So my and relationships, that's her

1456
01:04:17,360 --> 01:04:19,400
Speaker 4: and Brella. That's why she's not a full sex spert.

1457
01:04:19,760 --> 01:04:22,960
Speaker 4: It was definitely the mix between relationships, her dynamic. That's

1458
01:04:22,960 --> 01:04:24,560
Speaker 4: why she got married, That's why she went to school

1459
01:04:24,880 --> 01:04:26,840
Speaker 4: got it. But it's because she said she didn't feel

1460
01:04:26,880 --> 01:04:29,200
Speaker 4: like people took her serious without both. I don't think

1461
01:04:29,240 --> 01:04:31,920
Speaker 4: I can get relationship advice from a gay man who

1462
01:04:31,920 --> 01:04:34,680
Speaker 4: has never had a heterosexual relationship with a man.

1463
01:04:35,080 --> 01:04:36,560
Speaker 2: I also, again don't know his education.

1464
01:04:37,000 --> 01:04:42,560
Speaker 4: Lastly, doctor Bryan specifically a has two degrees and a

1465
01:04:42,600 --> 01:04:45,520
Speaker 4: doctorate on specific psychology, so she went.

1466
01:04:45,360 --> 01:04:46,160
Speaker 2: To school for it.

1467
01:04:46,280 --> 01:04:48,600
Speaker 1: Agree, I understand why she can coche.

1468
01:04:48,400 --> 01:04:51,320
Speaker 4: So the same way I believe for someone. And this

1469
01:04:51,360 --> 01:04:53,440
Speaker 4: is the argument I have all the time. I'm fine

1470
01:04:53,560 --> 01:04:57,080
Speaker 4: with Skip Bayless being commentator, speaking on the business and

1471
01:04:57,160 --> 01:04:59,680
Speaker 4: all this stuff of sports without having ever been an athlete.

1472
01:05:00,080 --> 01:05:03,080
Speaker 2: To me, Doctor Brian expresses she had four proposals.

1473
01:05:03,320 --> 01:05:06,440
Speaker 4: She's been in numerous relationships where she does she did

1474
01:05:06,480 --> 01:05:09,160
Speaker 4: admit that three of them were because she wasn't ready.

1475
01:05:09,400 --> 01:05:11,560
Speaker 4: So to me, she's gotten as far as being proposed

1476
01:05:11,560 --> 01:05:14,640
Speaker 4: to engaged, didn't go through with a full wedding.

1477
01:05:15,040 --> 01:05:15,800
Speaker 2: I don't see that.

1478
01:05:16,040 --> 01:05:18,120
Speaker 4: I don't think that it's bad for her to be

1479
01:05:18,200 --> 01:05:21,920
Speaker 4: current in a moment in time. She's currently single giving advice.

1480
01:05:22,000 --> 01:05:23,640
Speaker 4: I don't think she has to be married to give

1481
01:05:23,680 --> 01:05:27,640
Speaker 4: relationship advice. She's not specifically talking to married women.

1482
01:05:27,720 --> 01:05:29,440
Speaker 6: I agree with you, and she doesn't have to be

1483
01:05:29,520 --> 01:05:34,320
Speaker 6: married to give advice. Okay, However, I do think and

1484
01:05:34,360 --> 01:05:36,840
Speaker 6: that's why the animal I thinking doctor Ryan thing came

1485
01:05:36,840 --> 01:05:37,320
Speaker 6: to my mind.

1486
01:05:37,400 --> 01:05:38,160
Speaker 2: Mm hm.

1487
01:05:39,280 --> 01:05:42,640
Speaker 6: He's been married fifteen years and has three children and

1488
01:05:42,760 --> 01:05:44,800
Speaker 6: has been going through the weeds of what a relationship

1489
01:05:44,840 --> 01:05:47,960
Speaker 6: is like. And to me, I almost feel like their

1490
01:05:48,040 --> 01:05:50,880
Speaker 6: roles could be reversed. And I'll tell you why. To me,

1491
01:05:51,040 --> 01:05:54,400
Speaker 6: he is more authorized to be giving coaching advice while

1492
01:05:54,400 --> 01:05:57,240
Speaker 6: in a relationship, and she'd be better off talking to

1493
01:05:57,280 --> 01:05:59,560
Speaker 6: women on being single because she's actually in the dating field.

1494
01:06:00,080 --> 01:06:03,680
Speaker 6: But I'm not gonna hold you, Mandy like a single woman.

1495
01:06:03,800 --> 01:06:05,440
Speaker 6: It wouldn't give me a lot of faith if they

1496
01:06:05,440 --> 01:06:09,520
Speaker 6: were coaching me in dating now she's coaching in relationships

1497
01:06:09,520 --> 01:06:13,520
Speaker 6: and dynamics. To me, that's more therapy. So I understand

1498
01:06:13,520 --> 01:06:16,560
Speaker 6: why she does. That's a relationship coach. Yeah yeah, yeah, so,

1499
01:06:17,520 --> 01:06:19,160
Speaker 6: but I get why he was trying to like kind

1500
01:06:19,160 --> 01:06:21,600
Speaker 6: of stick it to her because he's feeling like shitty

1501
01:06:21,640 --> 01:06:23,400
Speaker 6: when she's telling him what he's doing is wrong, which

1502
01:06:23,480 --> 01:06:26,160
Speaker 6: cam Newton is wrong. But I almost felt like they

1503
01:06:26,160 --> 01:06:29,600
Speaker 6: could be flipped to me, someone married to fifteen years,

1504
01:06:29,640 --> 01:06:33,240
Speaker 6: that's a long accomplishment and coaching that entire time, and

1505
01:06:33,280 --> 01:06:35,920
Speaker 6: the children. Most of the women come into him probably

1506
01:06:36,000 --> 01:06:38,600
Speaker 6: want a husband and kids. That's why they're paying tens

1507
01:06:38,640 --> 01:06:42,680
Speaker 6: of thousands of dollars. Right in her particular case, if

1508
01:06:42,720 --> 01:06:45,200
Speaker 6: you're coaching married people and never have been married.

1509
01:06:47,400 --> 01:06:49,400
Speaker 2: I don't know if she's psychological, I don't know.

1510
01:06:49,520 --> 01:06:51,920
Speaker 4: So I don't know her to be a marriage counselor

1511
01:06:51,960 --> 01:06:55,280
Speaker 4: though like you could, but you're dealing with the relationship dynamics.

1512
01:06:55,520 --> 01:06:57,120
Speaker 2: Like so, I think that that's the problem.

1513
01:06:57,200 --> 01:06:59,720
Speaker 4: When you're in a relationship, whether you're married, whether you're single,

1514
01:06:59,720 --> 01:07:02,680
Speaker 4: whether you're dating, whether you're ethical non monogamous, whether you're monogamous,

1515
01:07:02,760 --> 01:07:06,400
Speaker 4: you're dealing with people and communicating, which is what she

1516
01:07:06,480 --> 01:07:09,040
Speaker 4: talked about. That's why she believes she's high functioning, because

1517
01:07:09,040 --> 01:07:10,479
Speaker 4: she knows to listen and she.

1518
01:07:10,400 --> 01:07:11,280
Speaker 2: Knows how to communicate.

1519
01:07:11,480 --> 01:07:13,520
Speaker 4: I think those are the difficulties and tropes that we

1520
01:07:13,560 --> 01:07:15,960
Speaker 4: have in relationships, so much that I don't find it

1521
01:07:16,000 --> 01:07:18,400
Speaker 4: a problem that she's doing it to me, though I

1522
01:07:18,760 --> 01:07:22,480
Speaker 4: don't think it's a problem, no, so, but where on

1523
01:07:22,520 --> 01:07:24,440
Speaker 4: the other end, I don't think there's a problem with

1524
01:07:24,480 --> 01:07:29,320
Speaker 4: what she's doing with anwar. Being a homosexual black man

1525
01:07:29,480 --> 01:07:32,000
Speaker 4: giving advice to black heterosexual women.

1526
01:07:32,600 --> 01:07:35,640
Speaker 2: That's where I find it to be completely like, nah.

1527
01:07:35,520 --> 01:07:39,640
Speaker 6: Bro, So let's talk more than about experience. Yeah, if

1528
01:07:39,640 --> 01:07:43,560
Speaker 6: he's had most of his clients end up in successful relationships,

1529
01:07:44,160 --> 01:07:45,800
Speaker 6: is he not doing the job they're paying him to do.

1530
01:07:45,920 --> 01:07:47,480
Speaker 2: I could say this is the number one podcast in

1531
01:07:47,480 --> 01:07:50,360
Speaker 2: the world. I could say anything. I don't see that.

1532
01:07:50,400 --> 01:07:51,320
Speaker 2: I didn't see stats.

1533
01:07:51,560 --> 01:07:53,600
Speaker 6: I mean, now you're trying to nail somebody to the cross.

1534
01:07:53,600 --> 01:07:57,000
Speaker 6: But let's just say we're taking that word for value, like,

1535
01:07:57,320 --> 01:07:59,720
Speaker 6: there are many people that do a job with something

1536
01:07:59,760 --> 01:08:02,280
Speaker 6: that they don't have. You before you got in a relationship,

1537
01:08:02,320 --> 01:08:04,760
Speaker 6: were giving relationship and dating advice before having a boyfriend.

1538
01:08:05,240 --> 01:08:06,520
Speaker 1: We've been there and doing it.

1539
01:08:06,840 --> 01:08:09,440
Speaker 6: I think someone that's been in a field for fifteen

1540
01:08:09,520 --> 01:08:11,480
Speaker 6: years literally even when he was like I said, oh,

1541
01:08:11,560 --> 01:08:13,600
Speaker 6: is there any relationship? If I think I said this

1542
01:08:13,840 --> 01:08:15,760
Speaker 6: that you may regret, He's like, some of it has

1543
01:08:15,760 --> 01:08:19,120
Speaker 6: had to change dynamics, Like, I don't know. I do

1544
01:08:19,200 --> 01:08:24,040
Speaker 6: believe you can coach someone like to date even though you're.

1545
01:08:23,880 --> 01:08:25,559
Speaker 1: Gay, Like I believe that.

1546
01:08:25,920 --> 01:08:30,080
Speaker 6: I think also dealing with black women specifically is probably

1547
01:08:30,120 --> 01:08:30,799
Speaker 6: what makes.

1548
01:08:30,560 --> 01:08:32,400
Speaker 1: It a lot more.

1549
01:08:32,640 --> 01:08:35,479
Speaker 6: Relative, right, Like, I'm sure white women probably come to him,

1550
01:08:35,479 --> 01:08:39,000
Speaker 6: but we're raising a black family. He understands he's dynamics

1551
01:08:39,000 --> 01:08:41,439
Speaker 6: with men. Yeah, he's gay, but I've had a gay

1552
01:08:41,479 --> 01:08:43,800
Speaker 6: therapist before. That's listening to advice. There are some people

1553
01:08:43,840 --> 01:08:46,360
Speaker 6: that seek out gay therapists for their gay issues alone.

1554
01:08:46,560 --> 01:08:49,439
Speaker 6: But I don't really think there's anything wrong to me,

1555
01:08:49,600 --> 01:08:53,240
Speaker 6: It's more about knowing you've experienced this yourself. That's why

1556
01:08:53,280 --> 01:08:56,120
Speaker 6: I think cam Newton probably was fucking hating on her

1557
01:08:56,120 --> 01:08:57,000
Speaker 6: with that you could.

1558
01:08:56,880 --> 01:08:59,919
Speaker 2: Talk about relationship a doctor in dating levels.

1559
01:09:00,080 --> 01:09:05,080
Speaker 4: Sexuality matters because to me, just I would just say

1560
01:09:05,080 --> 01:09:09,679
Speaker 4: that then sexuality matters to me, and how you navigate

1561
01:09:09,680 --> 01:09:12,360
Speaker 4: the advice that you're receiving from any coach, and so

1562
01:09:12,479 --> 01:09:17,559
Speaker 4: to me, someone who's Christian, faith based, monogamous and has

1563
01:09:17,600 --> 01:09:21,360
Speaker 4: never had an ethically non monogamous relationship wouldn't go to

1564
01:09:21,800 --> 01:09:25,479
Speaker 4: like sexuality to me in terms of discussing relationships, which

1565
01:09:25,520 --> 01:09:28,320
Speaker 4: is why we talk so much about how sex impacts

1566
01:09:28,360 --> 01:09:31,120
Speaker 4: our relationships or why people feel like your relationship can't

1567
01:09:31,120 --> 01:09:33,439
Speaker 4: be real because of the dynamics you insert in sex.

1568
01:09:33,840 --> 01:09:36,840
Speaker 4: That's where I'm saying, like we're dealing with people, yes,

1569
01:09:36,960 --> 01:09:39,640
Speaker 4: but sexuality plays such a large role in how we

1570
01:09:39,640 --> 01:09:43,519
Speaker 4: show up in relationships, specifically specifically romantic ones. I'm not

1571
01:09:43,680 --> 01:09:46,120
Speaker 4: taking dating advice from a homosexual.

1572
01:09:46,800 --> 01:09:47,320
Speaker 2: I'm just not.

1573
01:09:47,680 --> 01:09:48,240
Speaker 1: I refuse.

1574
01:09:49,200 --> 01:09:52,280
Speaker 4: You ain't never been in a heterosexual relationship the same

1575
01:09:52,320 --> 01:09:56,439
Speaker 4: way I'm not gonna take advice from a monogamous, faith

1576
01:09:56,520 --> 01:09:59,960
Speaker 4: based person who has never experienced lifestyle.

1577
01:10:00,640 --> 01:10:04,120
Speaker 6: So then is doctor Bryant then qualified to be giving

1578
01:10:04,200 --> 01:10:05,960
Speaker 6: dating advice to people that want to get married?

1579
01:10:08,439 --> 01:10:12,240
Speaker 4: She's not well, she said the three of the four proposals.

1580
01:10:12,400 --> 01:10:14,240
Speaker 4: She never made it all the way. But also, you're

1581
01:10:14,280 --> 01:10:16,840
Speaker 4: asking someone to me, getting married is not the high

1582
01:10:16,840 --> 01:10:18,600
Speaker 4: all be all, and there's people people.

1583
01:10:18,360 --> 01:10:20,639
Speaker 6: That are paying I'm gonta disagree with this many. Okay,

1584
01:10:20,640 --> 01:10:22,920
Speaker 6: you can tell people that no, no, no, people that are paying.

1585
01:10:23,160 --> 01:10:23,599
Speaker 2: Yeah.

1586
01:10:23,720 --> 01:10:25,960
Speaker 6: I don't believe that everybody thinks marriage is a high

1587
01:10:26,160 --> 01:10:28,320
Speaker 6: be all, but we can all pretty much tell.

1588
01:10:28,520 --> 01:10:31,080
Speaker 1: If you're not ask you're hitting money. Will you not

1589
01:10:31,160 --> 01:10:32,640
Speaker 1: looking for just ah boyfriend?

1590
01:10:32,680 --> 01:10:33,960
Speaker 2: So let me ask you this question.

1591
01:10:34,720 --> 01:10:38,479
Speaker 4: On the opposite end, she has never been married, but

1592
01:10:38,600 --> 01:10:40,760
Speaker 4: has been proposed to four times and has been in

1593
01:10:40,760 --> 01:10:44,080
Speaker 4: long standing relationships. Would you rather take advice from her

1594
01:10:44,720 --> 01:10:47,000
Speaker 4: or someone who's been divorced three times?

1595
01:10:47,760 --> 01:10:50,559
Speaker 2: Because then those marriages A good question. The marriages didn't work.

1596
01:10:51,479 --> 01:10:54,840
Speaker 6: I don't actually think that's a wash on them. Okay,

1597
01:10:55,760 --> 01:10:58,720
Speaker 6: so she's been proposed to four times, don't know why.

1598
01:10:58,760 --> 01:11:00,000
Speaker 1: Don't know what type of niggas you date.

1599
01:11:00,720 --> 01:11:03,599
Speaker 6: To be honest, she could have stayed in relationships where like,

1600
01:11:03,680 --> 01:11:05,040
Speaker 6: I don't know, it might have been your fault too.

1601
01:11:05,160 --> 01:11:07,520
Speaker 2: She said it was her part. The three though, that's

1602
01:11:07,760 --> 01:11:08,719
Speaker 2: that she loves.

1603
01:11:08,640 --> 01:11:11,479
Speaker 6: Right and so like they're that uh course, correcting learning

1604
01:11:11,479 --> 01:11:13,639
Speaker 6: where you like, I think you can probably teach people

1605
01:11:13,640 --> 01:11:15,200
Speaker 6: but actually consider them.

1606
01:11:15,120 --> 01:11:16,400
Speaker 2: To be okay cool.

1607
01:11:17,000 --> 01:11:19,920
Speaker 6: The reason I do is because there's a lot of

1608
01:11:19,960 --> 01:11:22,400
Speaker 6: power in saying no. So if a woman's been divorced

1609
01:11:22,479 --> 01:11:24,320
Speaker 6: or like when my single friends give me advice, right,

1610
01:11:25,240 --> 01:11:26,720
Speaker 6: and my man has even said to me too, like,

1611
01:11:26,760 --> 01:11:28,559
Speaker 6: I don't know why you would ask or talk to

1612
01:11:28,560 --> 01:11:30,120
Speaker 6: this about so and so if they're not right, And

1613
01:11:30,160 --> 01:11:32,000
Speaker 6: I'm like, yeah, but they've been in a relationship before,

1614
01:11:32,160 --> 01:11:35,320
Speaker 6: and a lot of women say no to bad relationships.

1615
01:11:35,520 --> 01:11:35,960
Speaker 1: Me too.

1616
01:11:36,360 --> 01:11:37,800
Speaker 6: If I would have stayed with old day, would that

1617
01:11:37,880 --> 01:11:41,440
Speaker 6: have made me a better Like? No, so they're divorcing

1618
01:11:41,600 --> 01:11:43,280
Speaker 6: to get into Like, I don't know. The only thing

1619
01:11:43,320 --> 01:11:45,880
Speaker 6: I want to know when I'm talking to somebody, if

1620
01:11:45,880 --> 01:11:49,160
Speaker 6: I'm really asking them to lead me, I would actually

1621
01:11:49,280 --> 01:11:51,400
Speaker 6: rather see them in it. So if I had to

1622
01:11:51,439 --> 01:11:53,240
Speaker 6: pick from her or Animar, it'd probably be in work,

1623
01:11:53,560 --> 01:11:56,639
Speaker 6: mainly because that lifestyle is probably what I.

1624
01:11:56,560 --> 01:11:59,120
Speaker 1: Would want when I'm paying for it, what I'm looking for.

1625
01:11:59,720 --> 01:12:02,240
Speaker 6: And I do know that a fifteen year marriage is

1626
01:12:02,280 --> 01:12:06,120
Speaker 6: so unheard of and children that to me, I'm like, damn,

1627
01:12:06,360 --> 01:12:08,040
Speaker 6: you probably got more to teach me than she do.

1628
01:12:09,840 --> 01:12:11,920
Speaker 2: They been able to be married for fifteen years.

1629
01:12:11,800 --> 01:12:13,400
Speaker 1: Legally he's from Canada.

1630
01:12:13,400 --> 01:12:15,800
Speaker 6: I'm not sure, but I think marriage in New York

1631
01:12:16,240 --> 01:12:18,799
Speaker 6: and that was twenty over twenty years ago was it over.

1632
01:12:18,920 --> 01:12:20,679
Speaker 6: I think so because I was here when it became

1633
01:12:20,760 --> 01:12:22,840
Speaker 6: legal the United States became legal.

1634
01:12:23,240 --> 01:12:25,840
Speaker 4: No, it's still by state. It's not people maybe they

1635
01:12:25,840 --> 01:12:31,080
Speaker 4: went to wh it ain't federally, Yes it is. Gay

1636
01:12:31,120 --> 01:12:33,680
Speaker 4: marriage is not a federal it's still by state. No,

1637
01:12:34,000 --> 01:12:35,040
Speaker 4: that's a more should we look.

1638
01:12:34,960 --> 01:12:35,439
Speaker 2: That up.

1639
01:12:37,400 --> 01:12:41,200
Speaker 1: Obama. It happened under Obama. That's what you probably remember.

1640
01:12:42,040 --> 01:12:44,240
Speaker 1: Hawaii was still all the gaze.

1641
01:12:44,920 --> 01:12:47,400
Speaker 3: On June twenty sixth, twenty fifteen, the US Supreme Court

1642
01:12:47,800 --> 01:12:50,679
Speaker 3: struck down on all state bands in the same sex marriage.

1643
01:12:50,680 --> 01:12:54,839
Speaker 2: So legal, Okay, So that's nine years, bro, twenty fifteen?

1644
01:12:54,880 --> 01:12:55,679
Speaker 2: Bro what nigga?

1645
01:12:55,720 --> 01:12:57,679
Speaker 1: Okay, I'm just saying you say twenty bitch.

1646
01:12:57,720 --> 01:12:59,320
Speaker 3: I was like, wait, I've been like nine years.

1647
01:12:59,400 --> 01:12:59,760
Speaker 1: Who knows.

1648
01:13:00,960 --> 01:13:04,120
Speaker 4: But anyway, so I don't know if he was legally

1649
01:13:04,120 --> 01:13:06,120
Speaker 4: married for fifteen years, but okay you can.

1650
01:13:06,360 --> 01:13:07,720
Speaker 1: You could have gotten married in another state.

1651
01:13:08,040 --> 01:13:10,760
Speaker 3: And they're Canadian, right, And that was also a common thing,

1652
01:13:11,000 --> 01:13:11,640
Speaker 3: that of state thing.

1653
01:13:11,800 --> 01:13:14,520
Speaker 6: Yeah, in Canada, they definitely got a better fucking representative

1654
01:13:14,520 --> 01:13:17,559
Speaker 6: than we do. But anyway, say I had to say, yeah,

1655
01:13:17,760 --> 01:13:20,519
Speaker 6: for me, I do believe in longevity and working it

1656
01:13:20,520 --> 01:13:23,000
Speaker 6: through and it being healthy, Like that's a good marker.

1657
01:13:23,040 --> 01:13:25,519
Speaker 6: And I would say that to someone in business if

1658
01:13:25,520 --> 01:13:28,080
Speaker 6: you had a fucking podcast studio or any kind of

1659
01:13:28,080 --> 01:13:31,160
Speaker 6: audio production studio a longer time than me, and that

1660
01:13:31,240 --> 01:13:34,120
Speaker 6: business was running and up, I'm gonna probably ask you

1661
01:13:34,200 --> 01:13:36,880
Speaker 6: for some advice before I would an influencer that just

1662
01:13:36,920 --> 01:13:39,559
Speaker 6: opened their shit but it boomed. Like, I do think

1663
01:13:39,560 --> 01:13:44,400
Speaker 6: that longevity is something that people respect. But again, I

1664
01:13:44,439 --> 01:13:49,240
Speaker 6: think doctor Bryant can counsel because of the psychology degree.

1665
01:13:50,200 --> 01:13:52,400
Speaker 2: But dating, I don't know it's advice.

1666
01:13:52,479 --> 01:13:57,040
Speaker 4: Yeah, I still don't want nothing from a homosexual.

1667
01:13:57,640 --> 01:13:57,880
Speaker 5: Uh.

1668
01:13:58,040 --> 01:13:59,960
Speaker 1: I don't really know why that bothered you so much.

1669
01:14:00,120 --> 01:14:02,920
Speaker 2: It doesn't bother me. I'm saying, first off, I'm not bothered.

1670
01:14:02,960 --> 01:14:03,599
Speaker 2: I'm not angry.

1671
01:14:04,240 --> 01:14:08,640
Speaker 4: I don't feel like I want someone even if I.

1672
01:14:11,240 --> 01:14:13,719
Speaker 2: Believe sexuality matters. That's my point.

1673
01:14:14,840 --> 01:14:17,920
Speaker 4: That's my point is that the sexuality matters in your

1674
01:14:17,960 --> 01:14:23,320
Speaker 4: experience through the sexuality that you are matters if you

1675
01:14:23,360 --> 01:14:25,040
Speaker 4: have not had a heterosexual relationship.

1676
01:14:25,160 --> 01:14:28,760
Speaker 6: If your experience is to help women get to that's

1677
01:14:28,800 --> 01:14:30,320
Speaker 6: pretty much what it is, get to the finish line,

1678
01:14:30,320 --> 01:14:31,320
Speaker 6: which is marriage, right.

1679
01:14:32,080 --> 01:14:34,519
Speaker 4: And I guess that's my different like where I feel

1680
01:14:34,520 --> 01:14:38,000
Speaker 4: like it's different. I think relationship advice for the relationship

1681
01:14:38,040 --> 01:14:41,040
Speaker 4: coaching and those things. Marriage is not the end goal

1682
01:14:41,120 --> 01:14:44,080
Speaker 4: for everyone. So when we talk about the qualifications of

1683
01:14:44,120 --> 01:14:46,920
Speaker 4: why someone may be going to a dating a relationship coach,

1684
01:14:47,200 --> 01:14:49,760
Speaker 4: then being single in the moment to help me through

1685
01:14:49,760 --> 01:14:51,519
Speaker 4: my relationship doesn't matter if they're married or not.

1686
01:14:51,640 --> 01:14:54,519
Speaker 1: Do you think that actually this for everybody in the room.

1687
01:14:55,280 --> 01:14:59,000
Speaker 6: So an War is not a matchmaker, he's a dating

1688
01:14:59,040 --> 01:15:00,599
Speaker 6: coach for people that want to get married.

1689
01:15:00,640 --> 01:15:01,519
Speaker 1: That's like what he said.

1690
01:15:02,400 --> 01:15:06,800
Speaker 6: Do y'all think that anyone that's spending money though, is

1691
01:15:06,880 --> 01:15:09,040
Speaker 6: going to spend money if they're not looking for a

1692
01:15:09,120 --> 01:15:09,960
Speaker 6: husband or wife.

1693
01:15:09,800 --> 01:15:10,679
Speaker 1: Because I actually don't.

1694
01:15:10,760 --> 01:15:13,679
Speaker 6: It's a couple's therapy happen. No, no, no, single people paying

1695
01:15:13,680 --> 01:15:15,960
Speaker 6: a dating coach. Single people paying a dating coach.

1696
01:15:16,200 --> 01:15:18,519
Speaker 4: So that's the thing. She's not a dating coach, she's

1697
01:15:18,520 --> 01:15:20,200
Speaker 4: a dating account I'm not talking about her.

1698
01:15:20,640 --> 01:15:23,320
Speaker 6: I'm just trying to like, oh, this is conversation because

1699
01:15:23,320 --> 01:15:25,000
Speaker 6: you're saying marriage isn't the end goal for everybody. But

1700
01:15:25,040 --> 01:15:27,479
Speaker 6: I think for dating coaches that's got to be their thing.

1701
01:15:27,880 --> 01:15:29,880
Speaker 6: Do y'all believe that everyone paying for dating coach wants

1702
01:15:29,880 --> 01:15:30,360
Speaker 6: to get married.

1703
01:15:31,600 --> 01:15:33,960
Speaker 3: I thought, so I would think that there's an end

1704
01:15:33,960 --> 01:15:35,519
Speaker 3: goal if you're doing something like that.

1705
01:15:35,479 --> 01:15:37,439
Speaker 2: Or just to get a partner. Just because you get

1706
01:15:37,439 --> 01:15:39,240
Speaker 2: what someone doesn't mean going to.

1707
01:15:39,160 --> 01:15:40,080
Speaker 1: Pay for it if it's not.

1708
01:15:40,280 --> 01:15:41,400
Speaker 2: But I don't think there's a way.

1709
01:15:41,200 --> 01:15:43,479
Speaker 4: To confirm that just because you make a match that

1710
01:15:43,520 --> 01:15:44,839
Speaker 4: this person is going to be your husband.

1711
01:15:45,000 --> 01:15:47,759
Speaker 6: I know, but I think when someone's spending the money,

1712
01:15:47,800 --> 01:15:48,960
Speaker 6: they want marriage, but.

1713
01:15:48,880 --> 01:15:51,000
Speaker 2: There's no way to That's what I'm saying.

1714
01:15:51,240 --> 01:15:53,360
Speaker 4: Even if we get matched, that doesn't mean this person's

1715
01:15:53,360 --> 01:15:55,679
Speaker 4: going to be my husband or my wife. I think

1716
01:15:55,680 --> 01:15:58,160
Speaker 4: that that's an unrealistic expectation just because I'm paying money,

1717
01:15:58,160 --> 01:15:59,120
Speaker 4: I'm going to find my husband.

1718
01:15:59,640 --> 01:16:01,400
Speaker 3: That's not feel like it's like if you go to

1719
01:16:01,400 --> 01:16:03,519
Speaker 3: a subway and like you get a wrap instead of

1720
01:16:03,560 --> 01:16:05,960
Speaker 3: a fucking six foot or foot long, you know what

1721
01:16:05,960 --> 01:16:06,360
Speaker 3: I'm saying.

1722
01:16:06,400 --> 01:16:09,880
Speaker 6: So, the thing that's happening within dating coaches right from

1723
01:16:09,880 --> 01:16:12,719
Speaker 6: even when I gather when he talked about specifically these

1724
01:16:12,760 --> 01:16:14,960
Speaker 6: women in Bigger City, then when he said six to

1725
01:16:15,000 --> 01:16:18,040
Speaker 6: eight months for a commitment, whereas the other ones ninety days.

1726
01:16:18,600 --> 01:16:21,360
Speaker 6: I think what's happening is that these people that are

1727
01:16:21,360 --> 01:16:24,880
Speaker 6: paying don't have the tools to set because it's all

1728
01:16:24,880 --> 01:16:26,720
Speaker 6: about boundaries. And this is actually something he said on

1729
01:16:26,760 --> 01:16:29,240
Speaker 6: a live I watched. He's like, I'm not saying stress

1730
01:16:29,320 --> 01:16:32,120
Speaker 6: him out, but by stress him out, I mean make

1731
01:16:32,160 --> 01:16:35,400
Speaker 6: your boundaries that strong. I'm not doing this or I'm

1732
01:16:35,400 --> 01:16:37,120
Speaker 6: not going to be dating you without having X, y Z.

1733
01:16:37,320 --> 01:16:39,080
Speaker 6: Like you've made some for yourself too, right, Like.

1734
01:16:39,120 --> 01:16:40,120
Speaker 2: Those are my boundaries.

1735
01:16:40,240 --> 01:16:42,439
Speaker 4: There's a difference though, between boundaries and ultimatums, which we

1736
01:16:42,479 --> 01:16:47,040
Speaker 4: talked about too, right. Soa walking away, right, that's about

1737
01:16:47,120 --> 01:16:47,519
Speaker 4: the point.

1738
01:16:47,720 --> 01:16:50,479
Speaker 6: So like I think dating coaches are there to kind

1739
01:16:50,479 --> 01:16:52,120
Speaker 6: of guide you through that because a lot of women

1740
01:16:52,160 --> 01:16:55,240
Speaker 6: a aren't walking away be setting that tone or ce

1741
01:16:56,160 --> 01:16:57,040
Speaker 6: able to really.

1742
01:16:56,840 --> 01:17:00,880
Speaker 1: Go out there and date in a way that puts

1743
01:17:00,880 --> 01:17:02,200
Speaker 1: them in a position of power.

1744
01:17:02,439 --> 01:17:04,120
Speaker 6: I think a lot of girls go on these dates

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Speaker 6: and they're kind of just like following the dudes, you know, flow,

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01:17:07,880 --> 01:17:10,120
Speaker 6: whereas the coaches are kind of being like, hey, this

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01:17:10,200 --> 01:17:11,880
Speaker 6: is what your next step needs to be. I think

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01:17:11,920 --> 01:17:14,760
Speaker 6: that's why people pay, But I also believe that the

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01:17:14,880 --> 01:17:17,479
Speaker 6: end goal for them is marriage. I find it hard

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01:17:17,520 --> 01:17:19,240
Speaker 6: to believe that there is a woman out there that

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01:17:19,280 --> 01:17:22,720
Speaker 6: would spend anywhere from five to ten thousand dollars to

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01:17:22,960 --> 01:17:24,559
Speaker 6: just have a long term for I think they really

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01:17:24,640 --> 01:17:27,599
Speaker 6: want a husband, because I think people that just want

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01:17:27,600 --> 01:17:30,080
Speaker 6: to date casually feel comfortable enough to do it solo.

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01:17:32,240 --> 01:17:32,840
Speaker 1: But you don't.

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Speaker 4: We disagree on this, and I just I know we've

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01:17:37,800 --> 01:17:39,439
Speaker 4: been going back and forth for a long time and

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01:17:39,479 --> 01:17:40,360
Speaker 4: we're over on time.

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01:17:40,920 --> 01:17:42,400
Speaker 1: Wrap it up, wrap it up out.

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01:17:42,600 --> 01:17:43,280
Speaker 2: I'm just like.

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01:17:44,040 --> 01:17:46,479
Speaker 4: I've said my point, you've said your part. Dropping the

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01:17:46,520 --> 01:17:50,680
Speaker 4: comments who you you know where you stand on dating coaches,

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01:17:51,040 --> 01:17:55,160
Speaker 4: dating relationships and qualifications of them, and you know, drop

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01:17:55,160 --> 01:17:56,000
Speaker 4: it in the comments below.

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01:17:56,280 --> 01:17:57,679
Speaker 2: Seew uh.

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01:17:57,760 --> 01:18:02,120
Speaker 4: And you guys want some more content like this, make

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01:18:02,120 --> 01:18:04,679
Speaker 4: sure you join us on our Patreon. That's patreon dot com.

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01:18:04,760 --> 01:18:07,919
Speaker 4: Next Slash Horrible Decisions. This has been yet another episode

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01:18:07,960 --> 01:18:08,879
Speaker 4: of Horrior Decisions.

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01:18:10,960 --> 01:18:13,600
Speaker 6: If you haven't heard Monday's episode yet, it is the

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01:18:13,640 --> 01:18:15,519
Speaker 6: same exact guess which we've never done.

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01:18:16,120 --> 01:18:19,280
Speaker 2: You know, we haven't shout out to Drake.

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01:18:19,320 --> 01:18:19,920
Speaker 5: He's back now.

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01:18:20,800 --> 01:18:27,280
Speaker 4: Actually he dropped to at Gordo killing in Sideways and

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01:18:27,320 --> 01:18:30,280
Speaker 4: then he just dropped one hundred gigabytes of new music.

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01:18:30,760 --> 01:18:31,960
Speaker 3: Is this? Did you hear?

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01:18:32,120 --> 01:18:32,960
Speaker 1: This is racial?

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01:18:33,120 --> 01:18:33,680
Speaker 5: Don't do that.

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01:18:34,120 --> 01:18:34,640
Speaker 3: Don't do that.

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01:18:35,120 --> 01:18:39,639
Speaker 10: I'm not gonna hold you for the next couple of months.

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01:18:39,920 --> 01:18:42,360
Speaker 10: This is how this is how people gonna listen to Drake.

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01:18:46,520 --> 01:18:47,200
Speaker 5: Be the phony.

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01:18:47,240 --> 01:18:49,120
Speaker 2: I ain't gonna hold you people is just cheap.

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01:18:50,439 --> 01:18:52,040
Speaker 4: I don't been to a whole lot of parties, a

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01:18:52,040 --> 01:18:55,400
Speaker 4: whole lot of clubs, a whole different country. And baby

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01:18:55,479 --> 01:18:57,840
Speaker 4: Drake was going off and and and the girls and

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01:18:57,880 --> 01:18:58,840
Speaker 4: the boys.

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01:18:59,320 --> 01:19:02,519
Speaker 5: You know what was to They not like us. Listen,

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01:19:03,760 --> 01:19:05,400
Speaker 5: They're like not, they're not like us.

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01:19:05,439 --> 01:19:08,439
Speaker 10: Every day since it came out, like just accident, just

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01:19:08,479 --> 01:19:11,280
Speaker 10: walking around someone played it. But you know that clip

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01:19:11,320 --> 01:19:13,960
Speaker 10: of Drew Ski dancing to Grease, like when it's like

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01:19:14,000 --> 01:19:16,240
Speaker 10: a little meme of him, He's like, this is a

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01:19:16,360 --> 01:19:18,320
Speaker 10: meme of Drew Ski dance on the boat to a

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01:19:18,400 --> 01:19:22,639
Speaker 10: Drake song, Like you forget that, Like pe the minute

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01:19:22,680 --> 01:19:26,799
Speaker 10: there's a banger, everyone's gonna be like, oh, like goodness

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01:19:26,840 --> 01:19:29,120
Speaker 10: gracious or the super so super so with yacht's out

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01:19:29,160 --> 01:19:29,920
Speaker 10: right now, it's all over.

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Speaker 4: TikTok oh, yeah no, that's what I'm saying. He's still

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01:19:33,520 --> 01:19:38,080
Speaker 4: dropping And even I don't even that ship was Gordo.

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Speaker 6: By the way, how crazy is it that Revamps happened?

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01:19:42,240 --> 01:19:44,479
Speaker 6: I don't know if anyone ever heard of Gordo before,

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01:19:45,160 --> 01:19:47,080
Speaker 6: he looked very familiar to me. When I used to

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01:19:47,160 --> 01:19:49,320
Speaker 6: rave with Vinnie back in the day, one of my

1805
01:19:49,320 --> 01:19:51,840
Speaker 6: favorite DJs was this dude named DJ Carnage because he

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01:19:51,840 --> 01:19:52,800
Speaker 6: would play trap shit.

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01:19:53,720 --> 01:19:55,760
Speaker 5: I'm looking at him, yes.

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01:19:55,640 --> 01:19:57,719
Speaker 2: Oh wow, whoa who.

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01:19:59,280 --> 01:19:59,880
Speaker 5: Look at that.

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01:20:00,680 --> 01:20:02,240
Speaker 2: I'm talking to her friend of mine, like, why would

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01:20:02,240 --> 01:20:02,600
Speaker 2: they do that?

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01:20:02,640 --> 01:20:04,920
Speaker 6: And it's like, because when you're boxed in, if you

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01:20:04,920 --> 01:20:06,120
Speaker 6: don't rename.

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01:20:06,479 --> 01:20:07,120
Speaker 2: Didn't hit make it?

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01:20:07,200 --> 01:20:07,479
Speaker 1: Do that?

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01:20:11,880 --> 01:20:17,880
Speaker 5: Kitty boy? DP know about to titty had Well?

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01:20:17,880 --> 01:20:19,760
Speaker 1: Anyway, oh that's right, here we go.

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01:20:20,800 --> 01:20:23,799
Speaker 2: So the same thing happened that day. No, no, no, take something.

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Speaker 6: I wanted to do this outline about marriage because when

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01:20:25,960 --> 01:20:29,760
Speaker 6: I clicked on your Instagram, I'm like, oh, yeah, he's happy,

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01:20:30,560 --> 01:20:32,320
Speaker 6: and you were getting a gift for your husband that day,

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01:20:32,360 --> 01:20:35,000
Speaker 6: I think, But we ended up getting so deep and

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01:20:35,080 --> 01:20:39,280
Speaker 6: combo and one sexuality we need to talk about off

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01:20:39,360 --> 01:20:39,760
Speaker 6: the top.

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01:20:40,120 --> 01:20:43,519
Speaker 2: Yes, the Gabriel you need so now your senses that

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01:20:43,600 --> 01:20:44,120
Speaker 2: I was right.

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Speaker 10: Listen, it's not that we think that you have more

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01:20:49,880 --> 01:20:54,040
Speaker 10: ground to stand on than we initially gave you. But also,

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01:20:54,400 --> 01:20:57,680
Speaker 10: I'm not gonna be up here saying she's not a

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01:20:57,880 --> 01:20:59,960
Speaker 10: great actress. But then if I look at the rate,

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01:21:00,240 --> 01:21:02,479
Speaker 10: is I go, oh, where I'm I putting her? Where

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Speaker 10: am I putting her? So you know, I think I

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01:21:05,240 --> 01:21:07,719
Speaker 10: think this is a black people need to We didn't

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01:21:07,720 --> 01:21:10,720
Speaker 10: have a referendum in the black community. Everyone's gonna get

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01:21:10,720 --> 01:21:13,040
Speaker 10: a pamphlet and everyone can vote and we'll figure out

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01:21:13,040 --> 01:21:15,320
Speaker 10: where we're going to play Anzwe Bassett. We know she's

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01:21:15,360 --> 01:21:17,840
Speaker 10: above azeb Basket is above Gabrielle Union.

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Speaker 5: Of course if.

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01:21:19,520 --> 01:21:22,160
Speaker 4: There, if there is, you know how people do tiers

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01:21:22,400 --> 01:21:25,719
Speaker 4: where you're worth five points, four points point, two points,

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Speaker 4: one point.

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01:21:26,160 --> 01:21:29,479
Speaker 2: Yes, Gabrielle Union is a two pointer or three. I

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01:21:29,479 --> 01:21:30,840
Speaker 2: would not even put her point.

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Speaker 5: Who's your three?

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01:21:32,680 --> 01:21:36,840
Speaker 6: So if Angela's five, yeah, and Palmer's four, we're going

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01:21:36,840 --> 01:21:37,800
Speaker 6: to Palmer four.

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01:21:38,400 --> 01:21:41,560
Speaker 4: Okay, Right, we're giving Kiki four and not three. I

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01:21:41,600 --> 01:21:44,519
Speaker 4: would give key Palmer three. Okay, I would give her three,

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01:21:44,600 --> 01:21:46,240
Speaker 4: but then I gotta get Gabrielle Union and three.

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01:21:46,320 --> 01:21:50,880
Speaker 6: I think Kikey's above Gabrielle, and I have Gabrielle a two.

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01:21:51,120 --> 01:21:55,760
Speaker 4: Wow, Wow, like make it good at a one.

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01:21:58,400 --> 01:22:00,639
Speaker 5: Don't do what she died.

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01:22:01,640 --> 01:22:02,520
Speaker 6: She died.

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01:22:04,000 --> 01:22:04,320
Speaker 1: Baby.

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01:22:04,680 --> 01:22:07,080
Speaker 5: Maybe there has been zero range with meg a good

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01:22:07,200 --> 01:22:13,080
Speaker 5: or haler. Hold on y'all, but that's it over, y'all

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01:22:13,080 --> 01:22:14,800
Speaker 5: as play for the people.

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01:22:15,120 --> 01:22:17,400
Speaker 2: So I got maybe hold on, I'm.

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01:22:22,640 --> 01:22:24,920
Speaker 5: Okay, So okay, A four.

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Speaker 4: I would probably put, oh, like Otavia Spencer, Kerry Washington.

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Speaker 1: Washington up there in five.

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Speaker 2: I would put Kerry Washington out of four, I'll give

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01:22:37,160 --> 01:22:37,920
Speaker 2: Carrit four or five.

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Speaker 5: I would give her a four. Five Yeah, Otavia Spencer

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01:22:40,400 --> 01:22:42,879
Speaker 5: four five. Okay, she got hardware.

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Speaker 10: Okay, oh my god, I got that was funny.

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01:22:46,840 --> 01:22:53,439
Speaker 5: Yeah, you need to take cousin baby.

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01:22:53,600 --> 01:22:55,880
Speaker 4: Don't do that because even she had mad years from

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01:22:55,920 --> 01:23:00,280
Speaker 4: them to get better. And Harlem and that recent black five. Sorry,

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01:23:00,600 --> 01:23:01,720
Speaker 4: Halle Berry. I would put it a four.

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Speaker 2: I'm done.

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Speaker 1: This is crazy.

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01:23:02,680 --> 01:23:04,400
Speaker 2: I just typed an African American.

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01:23:04,040 --> 01:23:07,760
Speaker 1: Acts, say giks, it comes up as the third in it.

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