WEBVTT - Ep 113: Starting over with self love feat Liz Goldwyn

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<v Speaker 1>and let's get on with the show. So hally, y'all,

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<v Speaker 1>what's up is Monday? Y'all? Love? I think we are

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<v Speaker 1>making people love Mondays now. I ain't even gonna hold

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<v Speaker 1>you Monday suppressing as Yeah, they'd be excited when they

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<v Speaker 1>hear our voices. So welcome you'all to another episode of

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<v Speaker 1>Horrible Decisions that the girl, Mandy Be, I'm Wheezy and

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<v Speaker 1>we have a special guest. Can you introduce yourself? Hi,

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<v Speaker 1>I'm Liz Goldwyn and I am the founder of the

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<v Speaker 1>sex Ed. I need to add something behind be because

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<v Speaker 1>I like to have a full name, like dang, just be,

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<v Speaker 1>I'm Liz gold What do I say? I know you

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<v Speaker 1>don't start saying. We're also not we don't have as

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<v Speaker 1>many accolades, so maybe that's why we don't say her name.

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<v Speaker 1>I don't know. I mean, you're accountant. That's pretty much

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<v Speaker 1>our own accolades to the show. Um. So I met

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<v Speaker 1>Liz when I went to a porn pant Porn and

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<v Speaker 1>Pleasure with Eric lest I talked about that all the time,

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<v Speaker 1>and I was like so enamored just seeing like two

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<v Speaker 1>women up there talking about you know, and both of

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<v Speaker 1>you look so poised, and you know, Eric was verry.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm not even gonna hold you. I feel like I

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<v Speaker 1>gotta speak a little during. Basically, what she's saying is

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<v Speaker 1>we're ghetto, you know. I was just like, damn, this

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<v Speaker 1>is so dope. And I knew who Eric LLSS was

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<v Speaker 1>and I never had heard of you before. And then

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<v Speaker 1>when you talked about directing and all the things that

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<v Speaker 1>you've done, and you were just very pro women, and

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<v Speaker 1>I felt like it would be perfect fresh show. Not

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<v Speaker 1>only did she got a blue checkmark, that's right, that's right,

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<v Speaker 1>it is verified. But I listened to one of your

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<v Speaker 1>episodes where I don't know if it was a man

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<v Speaker 1>I wanted teaching blow drop tricks, blue paget, yeah, and

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<v Speaker 1>giving falacio and lingus. Actually, we have yet to do

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<v Speaker 1>a kind of lingus one that's very important. People don't.

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<v Speaker 1>I've actually had people tell me before like that when

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<v Speaker 1>they were teenage boys, they would google how to you know,

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<v Speaker 1>how to give proper, proper head for women. I'm like, well,

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<v Speaker 1>let's see, there's a two hour video of it on

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<v Speaker 1>portn Hub because I looked it up before. Now did

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<v Speaker 1>you want to? I mean, but here's the thing, Like

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<v Speaker 1>doesn't everyone like the same way with men? A lot

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<v Speaker 1>men like to receive head in different ways. There's not

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<v Speaker 1>really one way to perform kind of ling it like give.

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<v Speaker 1>I mean, there's no one way to do any now.

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<v Speaker 1>But it's actually right, right, but we but just like

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<v Speaker 1>there's good job tips like actually sucking or being able

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<v Speaker 1>to twisting motions that there were some good tips in

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<v Speaker 1>there too, especially I think for women. For me, I

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<v Speaker 1>got a laby a massage and I talked about it

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<v Speaker 1>all the time on the show because it was so amazing.

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<v Speaker 1>When I watched the How To Eat Pussy thing, he

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<v Speaker 1>touched the lips a lot, and the things people forget

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<v Speaker 1>to do. They just like either go right on your

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<v Speaker 1>clip or they just start sticking fingers in there and

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<v Speaker 1>there's not like this nice suave movement to it that

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<v Speaker 1>I want. But we can all learn. But it's a

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<v Speaker 1>good video. But that episode, Holy Shit, is one of

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<v Speaker 1>our more popular episodes. I will, I mean it was,

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<v Speaker 1>and you did a very good job asking like so

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<v Speaker 1>exactly how and she, I mean she broke because what

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<v Speaker 1>I liked to do. What the whole concept of what

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<v Speaker 1>we're doing with the sex said is even on our

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<v Speaker 1>site when we have articles like anal sex one oh

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<v Speaker 1>one or orgasm breathing, which I know you want to

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<v Speaker 1>get to our period sex is I try to imagine.

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<v Speaker 1>I mean, now you're getting really happy with it. You

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<v Speaker 1>just said that really proudly, and I'm just like, I mean,

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<v Speaker 1>I love it and I'm always super horny, like right

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<v Speaker 1>before my period when I'm on my period. It's a

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<v Speaker 1>personal thing. But like I like to think that we're

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<v Speaker 1>not talking to people who necessarily have ever done any

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<v Speaker 1>of this before. Like you can't assume that people are

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<v Speaker 1>There's no such thing really as being an expert in sex.

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<v Speaker 1>We're all trying to figure it out. We're all like

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<v Speaker 1>on this evolving learning curve, right, and like what turns

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<v Speaker 1>you on now might be totally different in six months,

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<v Speaker 1>six years. I mean, I hope that I'm super freaky

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<v Speaker 1>when I'm eighty, that I'm doing things that I'm not

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<v Speaker 1>doing now, so you keep I made my mom, Actually,

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<v Speaker 1>my mother edited our anal sex one oh one essay

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<v Speaker 1>and she's like, I don't know what, honey, I've never

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<v Speaker 1>had anal sex. I'm like, that's great, because I want

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<v Speaker 1>this to read like real one oh one in the

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<v Speaker 1>person who wrote it was an expert, and so she

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<v Speaker 1>is me to edit back and she's like, you know,

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<v Speaker 1>you talk about at the end of the article talks

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<v Speaker 1>about poo and does it hurt, and like, I feel

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<v Speaker 1>like you got to mention that right up top, which

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<v Speaker 1>was a great tip. And what's crazy is we were

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<v Speaker 1>just in Miami and that was one of the questions

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<v Speaker 1>a woman like asking how she can go through with

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<v Speaker 1>having anal sex and so we all gave anal sex tips. Um,

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<v Speaker 1>but you keep mentioning the sex ed. I want our

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<v Speaker 1>listeners to know that is the name of your podcast.

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<v Speaker 1>It's it's our it's our podcast, but it's also our

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<v Speaker 1>website is the sex Said dot Com. And we do.

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<v Speaker 1>We have essays written by experts, We do live talks

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<v Speaker 1>and events. I actually bought the domain names in two

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<v Speaker 1>thousand eight. I was gonna say no one else own it.

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<v Speaker 1>I owned the sex Said and I owned the Sex

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<v Speaker 1>Said show dot Com, both of them. Yeah. I've been

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<v Speaker 1>in this game a long time. My first job was

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<v Speaker 1>at Planned Parents Who when I was thirteen, working in

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<v Speaker 1>the clinic, and I answered phones um. And then I

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<v Speaker 1>did peer education, and then I helped organized their media librarys.

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<v Speaker 1>This is like pre Google, so people will come in

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<v Speaker 1>and check out like books and vhs, not even DVDs,

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<v Speaker 1>but vhs and pamphlets. Um. And then I wrote. I

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<v Speaker 1>wrote two books about sexuality, the first one about burlesque

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<v Speaker 1>and the advent of strip tease. We have yet to

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<v Speaker 1>do an episode on that. I want. I mean when

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<v Speaker 1>she when I when I talked to those like what

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<v Speaker 1>what can we talk about? And she mentioned burlesque. I

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<v Speaker 1>just felt like the topic for today's episode is like

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<v Speaker 1>starting over again and just getting back to yourself. And

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<v Speaker 1>I feel like you've lived a lot of life, especially

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<v Speaker 1>to have been married. That's really important even if someone's

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<v Speaker 1>not married right now. But it's just a break up.

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<v Speaker 1>How do I reinvent myself? How do I get back

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<v Speaker 1>out there? The number one question? I feel like after

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<v Speaker 1>their shows, I totally had to do that. I mean

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<v Speaker 1>I met my ex husband when I was eighteen, and

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<v Speaker 1>I really struggled when we got married. I really you know,

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<v Speaker 1>that whole thing like who am I? What's my identity?

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<v Speaker 1>And even though I was like I had a career,

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<v Speaker 1>I had, you know, I was, you know, writing books,

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<v Speaker 1>I had made a film, it's sold it to HBO,

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<v Speaker 1>also on bur lesque, all of a sudden I had

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<v Speaker 1>this fear that like, oh, I'm just going to be

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<v Speaker 1>a wife. Is that what people are going to look

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<v Speaker 1>at me? As as I was young, no one else

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<v Speaker 1>was married, and and you know, we were together for

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<v Speaker 1>thirteen years and you're a very different person from eighteen

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<v Speaker 1>to thirty, and I wife wasn't even anything I knew

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<v Speaker 1>about your identity. I just knew boss witch Li is

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<v Speaker 1>all this list of ship that like when you google

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<v Speaker 1>you that you find and it's crazy that someone like

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<v Speaker 1>you could have thought that. But you know what, it

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<v Speaker 1>made me kind of focus on being a boss bitch

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<v Speaker 1>because I was like not going to bart. I mean,

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<v Speaker 1>I'm at stoner and always have been. So I brought

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<v Speaker 1>my vey, have my vade pen in my bag. Yeah.

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<v Speaker 1>Big On cannabis, we do a lot of cannabis on

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<v Speaker 1>our site, Cannada the neuroscience. Yeah, he's over there being like, yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>neuroscignce my my boyfriend actually is in cannabis too. No,

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<v Speaker 1>but yeah, can neuroscience of cannabis and cannabis and sex

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<v Speaker 1>because first of all, alcohol, we know the science alcohol

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<v Speaker 1>and consent. We don't know the song we do because

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<v Speaker 1>we publish it. We published it. We do. Alcohol is

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<v Speaker 1>definitely like it's much better for your body right to

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<v Speaker 1>use cannabis. And it also when it comes to consent

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<v Speaker 1>and boundaries people, there's a lot more around assault and

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<v Speaker 1>rape with alcohol. And then can't what are you gonna do?

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<v Speaker 1>Like you're gonna get high and you're gonna get tired

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<v Speaker 1>and you know you're gonna eat a snack or I

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<v Speaker 1>can't feel you're not going to get aggressive. Well, I

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<v Speaker 1>had edibles and I actually did it so that my

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<v Speaker 1>mind could be at ease and so that I didn't

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<v Speaker 1>think of all the horsh things I was about to do.

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<v Speaker 1>But but yeah, I actually had like one of my

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<v Speaker 1>male male three male male female threesomes on edibles and

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<v Speaker 1>I was gone, honey, I was in the stars. Like

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<v Speaker 1>he like his friends started well at one point, I

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<v Speaker 1>didn't even know which one I was, but like seriously,

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<v Speaker 1>but like the friend like started making me squirt and

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<v Speaker 1>I was just like whoa, what's going on? Who's doing that?

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<v Speaker 1>And then my guy was like what you're doing? But

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<v Speaker 1>it was feeling good but he didn't really know. But yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>gotta know your dosing. Yeah, well I did. It was

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<v Speaker 1>one gubby bear. I should have had a leg a

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<v Speaker 1>quarter had a quarter in California where I live, Like

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<v Speaker 1>we've got sensories and different. I mean it is That's

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<v Speaker 1>why I don't smoke weed with my West Coast friend

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<v Speaker 1>and they're like, we gotta get you hind and I'm like, I, no,

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<v Speaker 1>you don't. Well we reusally got some icebreakers that we

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<v Speaker 1>like to do with our guests, and this is kind

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<v Speaker 1>of just to open you up, not literally, but just

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<v Speaker 1>to kind of, you know, get you on your little

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<v Speaker 1>horrible decisions vibe. Okay, So first one, I haven't pulled

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<v Speaker 1>up right here. When is the last time you came?

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<v Speaker 1>If solo? What were you watching slash thinking about the

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<v Speaker 1>last time I came this week? Uh? Was it is today? Yeah?

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<v Speaker 1>Like I don't know the day before yesterday, the day

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<v Speaker 1>before yesterday, because I haven't I haven't been like home

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<v Speaker 1>all day. But I really do think like it's great

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<v Speaker 1>to masturbate before like you have a big meeting. I

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<v Speaker 1>mean date for sure, if you're at all. But like

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<v Speaker 1>I think I'm a big believer in orgasm manifesting. Oh

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<v Speaker 1>my god. We had Kristen sal Yeah. She she wrote

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<v Speaker 1>the book which is feminist LS. So we had her

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<v Speaker 1>on and she was like, oh, talking about sex magic

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<v Speaker 1>and she's like, you've got to get some greenery if

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<v Speaker 1>you want money, and think about it. I was like,

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<v Speaker 1>damn you can. Yeah, you can masturbate an orgasm for financials.

0:11:39.240 --> 0:11:41.520
<v Speaker 1>I mean you can visualize a color, you can visualize

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<v Speaker 1>something you want the same way that I don't know

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<v Speaker 1>if you guys do altars at all ever, like burn candles? Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>like have an altar in your house where you like

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<v Speaker 1>I have a small one. Yeah, maybe you have like

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<v Speaker 1>a picture, you know, whatever it is that you can

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<v Speaker 1>make your own. But yeah, I do think like masturbation

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<v Speaker 1>is really so you didn't before a meeting? What did

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<v Speaker 1>you were you watch? I actually well know that my

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<v Speaker 1>last quarter as I was with my boyfriend. But I

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<v Speaker 1>do think, I do think I do. I am a big,

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<v Speaker 1>big fan of like masturbating before big business meetings. I've

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<v Speaker 1>been doing it before interviews, like since we had her,

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<v Speaker 1>like I've been having small interviews for like little casting things,

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<v Speaker 1>and I just tried to fund myself and think, you know,

0:12:22.120 --> 0:12:24.440
<v Speaker 1>maybe the pheromones are out there, they're like booking me

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<v Speaker 1>for Hoshan anyway. But it relaxed, It relaxes you, and

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<v Speaker 1>I puts you in touch with your own power. So well,

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<v Speaker 1>and I do I masturbate um every time, like I

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<v Speaker 1>go to sleep. But the last time I came was

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<v Speaker 1>hot today there my lunch break, bitch green As was

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<v Speaker 1>up here. You know, I just sucked him in Miami.

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<v Speaker 1>So I felt like he had to like redeem himself

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<v Speaker 1>a little bit. Um. So he hit me and he

0:12:46.960 --> 0:12:48.800
<v Speaker 1>was like, I'm in New York. I say, dick your

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<v Speaker 1>lunch bread. Literally it was amazing. My friend said, I

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<v Speaker 1>was the best hope. Forty minutes, Bro got it to

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<v Speaker 1>him in midtown. But Big came back to motherfucking office

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<v Speaker 1>and our heads time to pick up some motherfucking lunch.

0:13:04.200 --> 0:13:07.280
<v Speaker 1>But it was so well, does anyone else use your computer? No,

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<v Speaker 1>it's my computer with my monitor, thank thank you, But no,

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<v Speaker 1>I did have to, like and my bun almost came

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<v Speaker 1>off because I ain't got bobby pins, so this is

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<v Speaker 1>really like a loose bun. And I had to put

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<v Speaker 1>a bun on today because I thought we was gonna

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<v Speaker 1>have video, but Benson motherfucking as at home. Sorry guys,

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<v Speaker 1>sorry lack of video today. We're gonna, you know, post

0:13:24.360 --> 0:13:26.040
<v Speaker 1>a picture of how cute Whiz is. Yeah, but it

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<v Speaker 1>was great. Um, good for you, yeah he um. He

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<v Speaker 1>let me know he's in town to see a doctor

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<v Speaker 1>or whatever. So it's just like an in and out

0:13:32.320 --> 0:13:36.960
<v Speaker 1>he leaves tonight. No, it's not, you know, he's athletic. Um.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm actually impressed that you managed to fit the lunch

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<v Speaker 1>in too, so I know I'm right like I did

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<v Speaker 1>he I did bring the lunch back to my desk.

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<v Speaker 1>I didn't have no, we didn't have time for this,

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<v Speaker 1>so I literally walked in and so what's crazy is

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<v Speaker 1>we still kind of did to catch up, but you know,

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<v Speaker 1>I just saw him in Miami, so there was not

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<v Speaker 1>much to catch up on. Except when I walked to

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<v Speaker 1>the room, I was like, you ain't gonna pull that

0:13:57.120 --> 0:13:59.440
<v Speaker 1>ship you did in Miami? Are we doing? Bro? He

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<v Speaker 1>like he been, He's been in Miami for the off season, so, bitch,

0:14:03.040 --> 0:14:05.520
<v Speaker 1>we went through three condoms but he didn't come. So

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<v Speaker 1>then he like had me sucking his dick just for

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<v Speaker 1>too long. Bro, I said, sir, I have a live show.

0:14:09.760 --> 0:14:12.600
<v Speaker 1>I need my jaw. And it was just like I'd

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<v Speaker 1>never I haven't sucked dick with an attitude in a

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<v Speaker 1>long as time, bitch, I was. I had the biggest

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<v Speaker 1>attitude sucking. I was like, I was like, Nigga, is

0:14:23.360 --> 0:14:25.080
<v Speaker 1>you gonna come or I ain't gonna keep sucking his

0:14:25.120 --> 0:14:27.760
<v Speaker 1>dick Like I was just angry sucking a dick. So

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<v Speaker 1>I like, as we're walking around the room, I'm like,

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<v Speaker 1>you ain't gonna pull that ship? Did you last time?

0:14:32.920 --> 0:14:34.680
<v Speaker 1>He asked how the show was? So, while we're talking

0:14:34.680 --> 0:14:41.600
<v Speaker 1>after having taking did it was so great? This pretty much?

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<v Speaker 1>And then we laid on the bed, I started sucking

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<v Speaker 1>and he got really hard, and then we sucked and

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<v Speaker 1>I he's he's comparable ton stick. So I come with

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<v Speaker 1>penetration with him like almost every time we So I

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<v Speaker 1>had two orgasms during my lunch break and it was amazing.

0:14:56.480 --> 0:14:59.320
<v Speaker 1>So what about you? You're making me like really horny

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<v Speaker 1>right now. I wonder if that's what would be talking

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<v Speaker 1>about while they be at work. Oh my god, Me

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<v Speaker 1>and Mandy were playing like porn into the fucking mic.

0:15:07.760 --> 0:15:09.560
<v Speaker 1>This girl was like, I couldn't even take it anymore.

0:15:09.680 --> 0:15:12.160
<v Speaker 1>I kind of feel bad, but they choose to listen

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<v Speaker 1>to this at their jobs. It's not our fucking you

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<v Speaker 1>should ride do it on the ride home. So whatever,

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<v Speaker 1>when the last time you? Or I've had so many

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<v Speaker 1>threesomes this past week that um with the same two people.

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<v Speaker 1>By the way, I'll get into that in another show

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<v Speaker 1>because it's definitely a story, but I'm ovulating this week.

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<v Speaker 1>I cannot stop sucking myself, like it's so insane. We're

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<v Speaker 1>all in this group chat right, and everybody's like out

0:15:36.240 --> 0:15:38.440
<v Speaker 1>on their post vacation blues, like we all feel like shit,

0:15:38.880 --> 0:15:41.080
<v Speaker 1>you know what I mean, because we've been together and cuddling,

0:15:41.160 --> 0:15:43.920
<v Speaker 1>and like he's like, damn, I woke up alone and

0:15:43.960 --> 0:15:46.520
<v Speaker 1>like I looked to laugh at listen the right she's alone,

0:15:46.960 --> 0:15:49.760
<v Speaker 1>and so like I can't stop mastering it. Probably three

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<v Speaker 1>times a day. I mean maybe a little bit more.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm not gonna front. But even when I pull up

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<v Speaker 1>the porn, now I look, I have to look up

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<v Speaker 1>passionate threesome and then you you type in passionate bro,

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<v Speaker 1>because I have to imagine what I have emotional passionate threesome.

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<v Speaker 1>An here I go. I just I just want gang bang.

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<v Speaker 1>I normally want gang bang, but I have to emulate.

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<v Speaker 1>So now it's not even good enough. Now I have

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<v Speaker 1>to look at the pictures of both of them and

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<v Speaker 1>the small little videos we made, and I have to

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<v Speaker 1>go think about it and then master me. I can't

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<v Speaker 1>look at porn right now because the sex I had

0:16:22.320 --> 0:16:25.240
<v Speaker 1>was so good, probably the best sex I've ever had,

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<v Speaker 1>that porn doesn't work anymore. So I came with an

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<v Speaker 1>attitude basically, you suck dick with an attitude. I came

0:16:30.280 --> 0:16:33.160
<v Speaker 1>with an attitude. You were probably fine. I don't want.

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<v Speaker 1>I don't want. I mean, I watch a lot of

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<v Speaker 1>porn for work for research, like for a long time,

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<v Speaker 1>so I don't really watch it in my personal life.

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<v Speaker 1>Really can you without it? They don't need it. I

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<v Speaker 1>don't know I need any I can't masturbate it all

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<v Speaker 1>without porn. I'm but I'm visual. I don't think my

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<v Speaker 1>imagination is there all the way. What do you think

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<v Speaker 1>about everything? Anything? I just I guess it's like, you know,

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<v Speaker 1>I have I feel like all day long and looking

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<v Speaker 1>at so much stuff for work that like at a

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<v Speaker 1>certain point I get over sat saturated and I just

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<v Speaker 1>like it's almost like it becomes work. So it's like

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<v Speaker 1>not sexy sexy to me. But like I'll read erotica sometimes,

0:17:08.520 --> 0:17:12.119
<v Speaker 1>or like I don't read. I love. We have a

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<v Speaker 1>whole section on our website. We have a whole bookshelf section.

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<v Speaker 1>Actually it was like all sorts of things, like all

0:17:16.840 --> 0:17:21.400
<v Speaker 1>sorts of books around sex, health, consciousness, erotica. Yeah, I love, big,

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<v Speaker 1>big fan of erotica. Well, speaking of that, we have

0:17:23.800 --> 0:17:27.680
<v Speaker 1>another little game it's called this or That, So yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>this is all for you. So vibrator or your hand.

0:17:31.720 --> 0:17:35.399
<v Speaker 1>I gotta go with a vibrator. Yeah, just because I

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<v Speaker 1>love my lil I love. I'm a big Lielo fanfully,

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<v Speaker 1>so they are very expensive, but I've had only I've

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<v Speaker 1>had too lelos, like only two don't wear out over

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<v Speaker 1>like the last like you have a section couple. The

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<v Speaker 1>last nine years, I gets sent a ton of vibrators

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<v Speaker 1>and those are like my standby of the not I

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<v Speaker 1>was telling us advertising. But also, you know, you gotta

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<v Speaker 1>be really careful. We have another thing on our site

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<v Speaker 1>about sex toy safety because a lot of the sex

0:18:08.200 --> 0:18:12.359
<v Speaker 1>toy companies that they're using like toxic plastics on the

0:18:12.520 --> 0:18:16.080
<v Speaker 1>vibrators and they don't clean, they don't clean. Yeah, I know,

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<v Speaker 1>you gotta be really really careful about what you put Regina. Alright,

0:18:20.960 --> 0:18:24.960
<v Speaker 1>so male male female threesome or female female male threesome.

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<v Speaker 1>You know, I'm really a big fan of homeorotic porn

0:18:28.359 --> 0:18:36.720
<v Speaker 1>actually in the room. Yes, if I'm going to watch porn,

0:18:36.760 --> 0:18:39.800
<v Speaker 1>I probably that's what it gay me. So just Dick's

0:18:39.840 --> 0:18:43.040
<v Speaker 1>galoy like bisexual threesome and that normally comes with that

0:18:43.280 --> 0:18:47.200
<v Speaker 1>is sex. Oh my god, bisexual male milk when it's

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<v Speaker 1>like a sixty nine with a guy and a girl, right,

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<v Speaker 1>and then that guy's sucking her and then like the

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<v Speaker 1>other one sexist dick. Yeah, I really like that too. Well,

0:18:54.680 --> 0:18:58.280
<v Speaker 1>clearly I think I've said that. Okay, So a little

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<v Speaker 1>bit of b DSM, blind foe or handcuffs, I like, um,

0:19:05.000 --> 0:19:11.240
<v Speaker 1>what do I have a blindfold? Um? Like a little

0:19:11.280 --> 0:19:14.520
<v Speaker 1>whip of like a nice little suede whip. I've been

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<v Speaker 1>tied up. I've been tied up professionally too, by one

0:19:17.920 --> 0:19:20.119
<v Speaker 1>of my really close friends who's one of the best

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<v Speaker 1>like mistresses of the ropes in the world. She has

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<v Speaker 1>a salon and parents around, Like, I mean it took hours, yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>elaborate hours to tie you. Yeah, because like it's a

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<v Speaker 1>whole thing. Like no, I mean we did it was

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<v Speaker 1>like in a hotel room. Yeah, and then she put

0:19:38.000 --> 0:19:39.720
<v Speaker 1>me like I wanted to. I really want to do

0:19:39.760 --> 0:19:41.320
<v Speaker 1>it with her to see, like what did I like?

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<v Speaker 1>What do I don't like? Okay, so I don't like

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<v Speaker 1>being hog tied. That wasn't me, Like, yeah, I got

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<v Speaker 1>really claustrophobic. But it was super interesting because she kept

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<v Speaker 1>on saying to me, remember your breathing remember your yoga,

0:19:52.240 --> 0:19:55.200
<v Speaker 1>remember your meditation the whole time, which I hadn't really

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<v Speaker 1>got acted. No, it's really important to like be in

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<v Speaker 1>your body, to really be in your body, get out

0:20:01.880 --> 0:20:04.160
<v Speaker 1>of your head. Yeah yeah, well you can't move, you're

0:20:04.200 --> 0:20:07.080
<v Speaker 1>being confined. And she you know, there's all the knots

0:20:07.240 --> 0:20:09.159
<v Speaker 1>in the back. She's so I'm in this sort of

0:20:09.200 --> 0:20:13.879
<v Speaker 1>elaborate braided corset especially, and everything meets and the small

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<v Speaker 1>on my back and then it's like, you know, a

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<v Speaker 1>long cord and she's holding it. And at the end

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<v Speaker 1>of what was probably like four hours, she was like,

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<v Speaker 1>I was like, okay, I need to get out of

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<v Speaker 1>this now. And she was like, well, let me just

0:20:23.800 --> 0:20:26.040
<v Speaker 1>do one thing with you. And you know that game

0:20:26.040 --> 0:20:30.760
<v Speaker 1>when your kid trust forwards. She was like to fall forwards.

0:20:31.040 --> 0:20:34.000
<v Speaker 1>So I fell forwards, but she's holding me, so I

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<v Speaker 1>you know, I'm suspended, like just above the ground. And

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<v Speaker 1>it was such a like I felt so safe. I felt.

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<v Speaker 1>And she works a lot with women, especially who are

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<v Speaker 1>dealing with like reclaiming their bodies or sexual assault, and

0:20:46.240 --> 0:20:48.000
<v Speaker 1>I was like, it was like, you know how sometimes

0:20:48.040 --> 0:20:50.639
<v Speaker 1>you need to walk into someone else's shoes to understand.

0:20:50.880 --> 0:20:52.520
<v Speaker 1>I really needed to do that to be like, oh,

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<v Speaker 1>I totally get it. Of course, I feel so protected

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<v Speaker 1>and safe and like in your signed and you feel like, yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>I feel like I felt us. Imagine if someone took

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<v Speaker 1>hours in you and you're like, oh, I get it,

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<v Speaker 1>and then yeah, and then you have ghost ropes. I

0:21:07.359 --> 0:21:10.399
<v Speaker 1>definitely feel like you have like ghost yeah, but no,

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<v Speaker 1>also you just feel you feel like you feel like

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<v Speaker 1>you haven't an episode on Bondage. I got a guy

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<v Speaker 1>never trying to get thought about that, we gotta do it.

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<v Speaker 1>I never thought about that either. Just you finally get

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<v Speaker 1>it off after hours, you can still feel it. That's

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<v Speaker 1>like when I wear a wig. I'm gonna say, that's

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<v Speaker 1>like how when like I get fun real good and

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<v Speaker 1>like my stomach, I still feel like the dick in

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<v Speaker 1>my stomach. That's how I was when on my lunchbreak.

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<v Speaker 1>But that's how I love that. And then you went

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<v Speaker 1>back to your spreadsheet, read those legs and that excel. Well,

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<v Speaker 1>Encounters dot com, the UK's leading dating site for married people,

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<v Speaker 1>has shared its staggering research into sex on first dates.

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<v Speaker 1>If you want a serious relationship, sex on the first date,

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<v Speaker 1>It's crucial. According to new research, more than a third

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<v Speaker 1>of men found love after sleeping with their partner on

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<v Speaker 1>the first day, more than the third and more than

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<v Speaker 1>accountant more than a third, no, one third more than

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<v Speaker 1>it ship. It is whole like three sex and she

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<v Speaker 1>can do your talk um. Fifties six percent of women

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<v Speaker 1>have had sex with their partner after the first date.

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<v Speaker 1>The study highlights it has led to a proper relationship

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<v Speaker 1>for thirty six percent of women and of men. But

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<v Speaker 1>women are slightly more weary than men of partners who

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<v Speaker 1>want to jump into bed straight away. One in six

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<v Speaker 1>women you want to do that? No, I'm not gonna that.

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<v Speaker 1>They would think less of someone if they had sex

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<v Speaker 1>on the first night, compared to eleven percent of men,

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<v Speaker 1>which is crazy because I think men definitely care more

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<v Speaker 1>if you have sex with them on the first night.

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<v Speaker 1>So these these are um for you guys wanting to know.

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<v Speaker 1>More than two thousand people were surveyed for this research.

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<v Speaker 1>I was about to ask that I was about people.

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<v Speaker 1>I started reading I don't want to read it, and

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<v Speaker 1>when my old co workers gave it to me, farah

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<v Speaker 1>why men love bitches? And I was like, oh, this

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<v Speaker 1>but it has so many like old ideals in there

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<v Speaker 1>that I found two game playing. There's a section on

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<v Speaker 1>this book about making a man waiting is like going

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<v Speaker 1>to grow his rest Steve Harvey, like growing that respect

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<v Speaker 1>for you, and like the timeline of it, and like

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<v Speaker 1>when you say no for the first time, make sure

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<v Speaker 1>it's when they really wanted. And I was like, a

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<v Speaker 1>part of me feels like this is really asinine because

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<v Speaker 1>I don't know. I think it's old fashioned. And also,

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<v Speaker 1>don't you want to know what the sex is like,

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<v Speaker 1>because if it's bad, it's bad, then like, damn, you're

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<v Speaker 1>a great person. Now you're so nice. This is why

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<v Speaker 1>people fuck the poor boy because they waited too long

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<v Speaker 1>where they already loved you. No, I can't be me like, yeah, see, well,

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<v Speaker 1>I think it's also important that that is for maybe

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<v Speaker 1>women like us or a lot of our women listeners,

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<v Speaker 1>where sex is an important factor for them. I've met

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<v Speaker 1>so many people like and I've even had friends where

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<v Speaker 1>they don't understand how I can fox so much, or

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<v Speaker 1>how casual sex happens with me, or how I can

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<v Speaker 1>have sex with someone that I'm not even emotionally tied

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<v Speaker 1>to like stuff like that. But it's because I genuinely

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<v Speaker 1>like sex. So I think for maybe those individuals where

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<v Speaker 1>they can be with someone and have bad sex at

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<v Speaker 1>the same time, maybe having sex on the first night

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<v Speaker 1>doesn't matter to them as much as the would us.

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<v Speaker 1>But you know, I'm like very I have a high

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<v Speaker 1>sex drive, but I actually am we're careful, like I've

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<v Speaker 1>I've been in an anogamous relationship, I was an anogamous marriage,

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<v Speaker 1>and I'm I'm very careful about energy, right, Like if

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<v Speaker 1>I make people take off their shoes before they come

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<v Speaker 1>into my house because not because of dirt, because of

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<v Speaker 1>the energy that you're bringing in from from the street. Right.

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<v Speaker 1>So if I am that crazy about shoes, like, I'm

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<v Speaker 1>being even crazier about anything penetrating me. So I take

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<v Speaker 1>a few dates until I find find that we're on

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<v Speaker 1>the same synergy and we have that connection together, and

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<v Speaker 1>if we don't, I don't think I know at the

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<v Speaker 1>first date. All the time I can, but I'm not sure.

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<v Speaker 1>And I think it's because I'm so like outgoing or

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<v Speaker 1>like so extroverted that I could like anybody. That's why

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<v Speaker 1>it takes me a few dates to see if we're

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<v Speaker 1>really really don't you usually like And I think we

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<v Speaker 1>often ignore this, especially women. We have a gut intuition

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<v Speaker 1>about things or people, right, don't you immediately sort of

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<v Speaker 1>feel something if something's off, feel it in your gut,

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<v Speaker 1>and you know, we are taught to ignore that feeling

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<v Speaker 1>like we're you know, we even like if they if

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<v Speaker 1>they pull people who are serial rapists or Cereal Coast.

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<v Speaker 1>When you when you when people you know to the

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<v Speaker 1>victim profiling, they always say, well, there was something in

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<v Speaker 1>my head that told me it was weird, but egg nortics,

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<v Speaker 1>I didn't want to be rude. I didn't want to

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<v Speaker 1>be rude. I didn't want to be impolite. But usually

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<v Speaker 1>you kind of know instinctually things about people like absolutely energetically,

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<v Speaker 1>So I go by that. It's only been a couple

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<v Speaker 1>of times of the first date. But yeah, they dig energy.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm feeling it. They your you know, well, I don't

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<v Speaker 1>know if I want a big vagina, Why don't you

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<v Speaker 1>want big vagina energy TV type vagina energy tight? I

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<v Speaker 1>can't have a type vagina I mean big vagina energy.

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<v Speaker 1>I didn't necessarily I was like, yeah, well, yeah that too.

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<v Speaker 1>I don't know. We go sex in the City episode

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<v Speaker 1>when she told the doctor she's like, your penis is

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<v Speaker 1>just too small. He was like, did you ever think

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<v Speaker 1>your vagina was too big? Yeah? Now I'm really big

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<v Speaker 1>on on energy. So it's it's weird though, like because

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<v Speaker 1>I don't know what dating which I don't even know

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<v Speaker 1>what how what dating is now, especially with doing either

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<v Speaker 1>the profiles or I'm I am revisiting a lot of

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<v Speaker 1>past relationships and seeing if because we're in different spaces now,

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<v Speaker 1>if maybe the time is right for us to build

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<v Speaker 1>moving forward. So I mean with me and those are people,

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<v Speaker 1>A lot of those people are people that I've slept with,

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<v Speaker 1>like on the first night. I know that my last

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<v Speaker 1>boyfriend I slept with on the first night and I

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<v Speaker 1>was talking to his brother first and it still worked out.

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<v Speaker 1>So I feel like with past relationships, the only reason

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<v Speaker 1>I can't jump back in them is because I sometimes

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<v Speaker 1>harbor those same feelings like maybe I'll get over that moment,

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<v Speaker 1>but it's like you still did that to me, Like

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<v Speaker 1>am I going to ever be able to get over it?

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<v Speaker 1>I feel like new relationships it's a clean slate, like

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<v Speaker 1>I'm not the person where you have to earn my trust.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm that person that you start here and then you

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<v Speaker 1>can lose it, like where some people you need to

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<v Speaker 1>build it up, like they don't trust you at all

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<v Speaker 1>and it takes time. Okay, So I'm the opposite. So

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<v Speaker 1>that's why if I've already lost it, it's like I'm

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<v Speaker 1>getting Yeah, it's hard. They say that women take like

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<v Speaker 1>an oven take a while to heat up, but once

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<v Speaker 1>we're off, that should have shut down. I believe that

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<v Speaker 1>ship it's see and I guess it's just weird for

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<v Speaker 1>me because with friendships with sexual partners, with past relationships,

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<v Speaker 1>like I don't really end badly with many people like

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<v Speaker 1>all to end bad, but I mean we just lose

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<v Speaker 1>connect like you know, lose us talking or I have

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<v Speaker 1>a lot going on so now we stopped talking, or

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<v Speaker 1>maybe they get into something like, I don't know. I

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<v Speaker 1>feel like we've just always pulled away because of what

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<v Speaker 1>we both have going on in our lives, and then

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<v Speaker 1>later we find ourselves in each other's dance again, I

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<v Speaker 1>mean each other's You have the eyes. This girl on

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<v Speaker 1>our show the last show we had, she was like,

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<v Speaker 1>what do I do if I'm like I broke up

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<v Speaker 1>with my boyfriend. I'm trying to bring all my old

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<v Speaker 1>holds back? Like, what do I do? Man? He was like,

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<v Speaker 1>just send the eyes, just next questions. I felt so

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<v Speaker 1>bad that girls like, okay, it does swear it works.

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<v Speaker 1>They see them eyes, they know what's up. I don't know.

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<v Speaker 1>A new picture of my braids and someone sent me

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<v Speaker 1>the eyes and I was like, they look like mine

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<v Speaker 1>from the d C show. That's cool. I feel like

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<v Speaker 1>I inspired you their box braids. Well, I'm just saying

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<v Speaker 1>they're not trying O braids relaxed anyway. He literally sent

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<v Speaker 1>me the eyes. This guy used to funk and I

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<v Speaker 1>wrote back in all caps, No, what's kick in the Week?

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<v Speaker 1>Starry King in the Week? For you listeners that may

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<v Speaker 1>have never listened, or Liz, if you're not sure what

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<v Speaker 1>it is, our kink is this basically big word that week.

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<v Speaker 1>This wuldn't even be big hole. No, I know how

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<v Speaker 1>to say this one. But it's also because that's right.

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<v Speaker 1>This is only the first episode we're recording, so this

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<v Speaker 1>is the problem. I mess up words all the time,

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<v Speaker 1>but it's because I'm tired, and I used that we

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<v Speaker 1>record after I do a long day of work on

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<v Speaker 1>spreadsheet and counting and apparently dick sucking during my LUs break. Um.

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<v Speaker 1>So the kick of the week for this week is

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<v Speaker 1>this is so you would pick this, um, it's high

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<v Speaker 1>growth filia. Do you want to guess what high grophilia means?

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<v Speaker 1>Because you're smart? High growth felia? I was. I mean,

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<v Speaker 1>immediately my mind goes to weed and hydroponics, So I'm

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<v Speaker 1>gonna I don't know this guy. But this is also

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<v Speaker 1>known as the liquid fetish. And no, guys, this is

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<v Speaker 1>not where Weezy wants to be drowned. Um. If I

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<v Speaker 1>said one time that I thought it would be hot

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<v Speaker 1>if a guy maybe put my face in water a

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<v Speaker 1>little bit, and now this bitch tells the whole world

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<v Speaker 1>TV that I want to be fucking drowned. So this

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<v Speaker 1>is actually funny because and I want to know if

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<v Speaker 1>you have any stories about this, but um, this fetish

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<v Speaker 1>is if you would rather avoid the wet spot on

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<v Speaker 1>the bed, then this kink probably isn't for you. Mess

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<v Speaker 1>fetish this enjoy the mess created by sexual fluids, both

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<v Speaker 1>male and female fluid. They may use the fluids as

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<v Speaker 1>loops to drink, to paint on their partners bodies, or

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<v Speaker 1>passing it back and forth orally or snowballing. Um. I

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<v Speaker 1>guess another part of this would be like people who

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<v Speaker 1>like to actually after they have sex and the sheets

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<v Speaker 1>are all wet, they like to lay on the moist

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<v Speaker 1>or wet sheets that it can't be avoided. Right, Sometimes

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<v Speaker 1>you're just like some bedsheet pulp. I mean I have

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<v Speaker 1>to write that down at the episode. Well, I know

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<v Speaker 1>you like me and like liquids. Oh, you know, like

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<v Speaker 1>a boo cocky horr. Not that I've done it. See

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<v Speaker 1>that sounded real, King Shamy, I'm like, I do it,

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<v Speaker 1>but I'm like obsessed. I'm a fucking calm horror. I

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<v Speaker 1>love that ship. A matter of fact, I'm gonna just

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<v Speaker 1>tell you guys before because I know we didn't do

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<v Speaker 1>the threesome episode yet, so they were fucking missionary, right,

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<v Speaker 1>and I was sitting on her face and me and

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<v Speaker 1>him are making out, and I fucking came right because

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<v Speaker 1>I'm like watching them, and I guess he came watching

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<v Speaker 1>me so right. When he did, he like takes my

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<v Speaker 1>hair and like made me get it. I'm so fucking

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<v Speaker 1>it was like real, this is why I can't masturbate

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<v Speaker 1>to any other porn now, but like my own thoughts

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<v Speaker 1>then I had to get it, and like my mouth

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<v Speaker 1>was it was like dripping all over me. Bro. It

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<v Speaker 1>was so fucking good in her. And I have been

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<v Speaker 1>sucking for years, right, him and I just started sucking

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<v Speaker 1>like last six months, and you know, I've been sucking

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<v Speaker 1>her for so long and she has I've never seen

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<v Speaker 1>her with a guy. She's never seen me with a guy.

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<v Speaker 1>And I'm like, oh, can I like pass it back

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<v Speaker 1>and forth? It's like so much because we've never talked

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<v Speaker 1>about it. Y'all did all of this without having We

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<v Speaker 1>talked all the time about having these conversations about her

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<v Speaker 1>and I didn't talk about one moment. We had an

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<v Speaker 1>entire threesome episode. Wheezy, I need you to practice with

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<v Speaker 1>the funk you preach. Because we talked about having conversations

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<v Speaker 1>and guidelines and this is what we talked about. I

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<v Speaker 1>sent to the long text. I was like, everybody put

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<v Speaker 1>your thumbs up, her thumbs down in the group chat, blindfold, handcuffs, banking,

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<v Speaker 1>spitting um, all kinds of ship like that. I said,

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<v Speaker 1>spit or swallow. She was like, I don't like spitting it.

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<v Speaker 1>I'll only swallow. I was like, okay, like text, yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>like we're both groups like going back and front millennials.

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<v Speaker 1>It was fun actually, so we all live in different places,

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<v Speaker 1>so you know, they would send their thumbs up and

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<v Speaker 1>make a new suggestion and like, I really enjoyed doing it,

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<v Speaker 1>but this is not possible for you that right, So

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<v Speaker 1>the only thing I guess I forgot to say is

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<v Speaker 1>like come swapping. It just didn't come to my mind.

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<v Speaker 1>So right when it was in my mouth and it

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<v Speaker 1>was kind of full, I was like ribble and then

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<v Speaker 1>they started talking to each other, but hot it. I

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<v Speaker 1>was like, okay, so's I guess that window is gone.

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<v Speaker 1>I'll just swallow it. But it was my mouth for

0:33:25.680 --> 0:33:27.440
<v Speaker 1>like a good forty five seconds. But I was just

0:33:27.480 --> 0:33:30.080
<v Speaker 1>kind of sitting there like looking like a fish. But

0:33:30.120 --> 0:33:32.960
<v Speaker 1>you know, whatever, I'll take it. So I only picked

0:33:32.960 --> 0:33:35.440
<v Speaker 1>this like with fetish because when I was watching boot

0:33:35.480 --> 0:33:38.600
<v Speaker 1>Cockey recently, I like love looking it up. I found

0:33:38.600 --> 0:33:40.880
<v Speaker 1>like the fake boot Cockey. Have you ever seen this?

0:33:42.240 --> 0:33:45.800
<v Speaker 1>It's so disgusting. It's like basically these huge tubes of

0:33:45.960 --> 0:33:48.360
<v Speaker 1>like come and it like looks super fake and it's

0:33:48.400 --> 0:33:51.160
<v Speaker 1>just like white and gooey. It looks like slime from Nickelodeon,

0:33:51.200 --> 0:33:53.600
<v Speaker 1>but white. And the girls are like their eyes are

0:33:53.600 --> 0:33:55.720
<v Speaker 1>covered in it and they're like rolling all over the ground.

0:33:55.720 --> 0:33:58.160
<v Speaker 1>There's like tarp on the floor. And I was like, yo,

0:33:58.360 --> 0:34:01.400
<v Speaker 1>like this is just not fun. Get there. I don't

0:34:01.440 --> 0:34:04.360
<v Speaker 1>want I don't want to tell you you don't want

0:34:04.360 --> 0:34:07.600
<v Speaker 1>to see her search history, but people in the comments

0:34:07.640 --> 0:34:09.520
<v Speaker 1>because every time I look at something weird, I'm like,

0:34:09.520 --> 0:34:10.960
<v Speaker 1>I gotta see what people think of this ship. And

0:34:10.960 --> 0:34:13.440
<v Speaker 1>they're so fucking into it. They're like fucking drown me

0:34:13.480 --> 0:34:17.120
<v Speaker 1>and come and like that whole drowning income thing is

0:34:17.120 --> 0:34:19.680
<v Speaker 1>how you get there? Okay, I guess. I mean it's

0:34:19.680 --> 0:34:25.560
<v Speaker 1>gonna be a beauty product pretty soon. Yeah. There's already

0:34:25.560 --> 0:34:28.360
<v Speaker 1>like beauty products that are like your own blood. You know,

0:34:28.400 --> 0:34:31.280
<v Speaker 1>they have all the vampire Rihanna has the lip glass,

0:34:31.280 --> 0:34:34.200
<v Speaker 1>diamond milk and looks like m Yeah, sparkly cub I

0:34:34.239 --> 0:34:37.839
<v Speaker 1>think I think that's going to be the next big thing. Well,

0:34:37.840 --> 0:34:42.200
<v Speaker 1>they do have and hair products. Yeah, okay, so semans

0:34:42.200 --> 0:34:46.359
<v Speaker 1>for facials for sure. But if I that, I mean

0:34:46.560 --> 0:34:49.600
<v Speaker 1>for mask you put you like so you'll just like

0:34:49.680 --> 0:34:52.799
<v Speaker 1>put semen on your face. I mean you've done it

0:34:52.840 --> 0:34:59.560
<v Speaker 1>on my teeson. It's very drying. It's very drying. It's like,

0:34:59.640 --> 0:35:02.200
<v Speaker 1>you know, because my pores are huge right here. That's

0:35:02.200 --> 0:35:05.680
<v Speaker 1>what the institutions. Great skin, but not like put some

0:35:05.760 --> 0:35:07.600
<v Speaker 1>semen on there. I mean they didn't say that. I'm

0:35:07.640 --> 0:35:11.200
<v Speaker 1>not for that fucking tube. Me need the bucket. I'd

0:35:11.239 --> 0:35:12.759
<v Speaker 1>like to spend my money. If it's a lot of

0:35:12.800 --> 0:35:15.879
<v Speaker 1>money on vacations, food and drugs. That's I'm not doing

0:35:15.920 --> 0:35:18.279
<v Speaker 1>it with sucking beauty products. No, I think you can

0:35:18.320 --> 0:35:21.200
<v Speaker 1>make your own too, Yeah, I mean maybe not with

0:35:21.280 --> 0:35:25.360
<v Speaker 1>semen if that's that's what you're like, some full fat

0:35:25.440 --> 0:35:31.959
<v Speaker 1>Greek yogurt and honey and if my friends days, there's

0:35:32.000 --> 0:35:34.120
<v Speaker 1>got to be a recipe for this ship, a recipe

0:35:34.160 --> 0:35:41.239
<v Speaker 1>for preventing wrinkles. The sperm makes skin glow, according to

0:35:41.320 --> 0:35:43.399
<v Speaker 1>a new study that a man probably did it's good

0:35:43.400 --> 0:35:46.040
<v Speaker 1>for the skin. The proteins and nutrients present in sperm

0:35:46.360 --> 0:35:48.839
<v Speaker 1>can make your face glow and loosen and lighten those

0:35:48.920 --> 0:35:51.560
<v Speaker 1>nasty looking scars. See, that's why I had it on

0:35:51.680 --> 0:35:55.400
<v Speaker 1>my nick bit. You know, I was, please tell us

0:35:55.440 --> 0:35:57.520
<v Speaker 1>the story while I blow my nose. No, no, I'm

0:35:57.560 --> 0:36:00.719
<v Speaker 1>not gonna s No, it's just a pearl necklace. Mind you.

0:36:00.800 --> 0:36:03.040
<v Speaker 1>It's with the same guy who's dick I suck during

0:36:03.080 --> 0:36:09.080
<v Speaker 1>lunch today. It's not so Anyways, Basically, I fucked a

0:36:09.120 --> 0:36:12.399
<v Speaker 1>guy really drunk, and I didn't realize where he came.

0:36:12.480 --> 0:36:14.480
<v Speaker 1>And the next morning I rushed out because I had

0:36:14.520 --> 0:36:17.040
<v Speaker 1>to go have brunch, and my next started itching and

0:36:17.200 --> 0:36:19.680
<v Speaker 1>apparently came all my face in my neck and so

0:36:19.719 --> 0:36:21.279
<v Speaker 1>there was dried nut all in the neck and it

0:36:21.400 --> 0:36:24.719
<v Speaker 1>started flaking in my friend's card. And don't mind me,

0:36:24.760 --> 0:36:28.600
<v Speaker 1>that just happened. And um, we're gonna go ahead and

0:36:28.640 --> 0:36:32.960
<v Speaker 1>Walwheezy goes and blows her nose. Oh, I'm sorry. We're

0:36:32.960 --> 0:36:35.879
<v Speaker 1>gonna go ahead and get into our horrible decision. Now

0:36:36.040 --> 0:36:39.520
<v Speaker 1>Wheezy started this weapon. Now we're going ahead and getting

0:36:39.520 --> 0:36:43.360
<v Speaker 1>into our horrible decision. And I'm excited about this, um

0:36:43.400 --> 0:36:46.759
<v Speaker 1>because again we haven't getting asked these questions a whole lot.

0:36:48.080 --> 0:36:49.600
<v Speaker 1>What do you want to go through and say? What

0:36:49.640 --> 0:36:52.239
<v Speaker 1>the horrible decision is you? Kind of? Yeah, So I

0:36:52.520 --> 0:36:55.479
<v Speaker 1>wanted to make this about starting over and self love.

0:36:55.680 --> 0:36:58.280
<v Speaker 1>You know, you shared that you've been married before, and

0:36:58.360 --> 0:37:00.560
<v Speaker 1>you've you've have so many accomplishments in life, and I

0:37:00.600 --> 0:37:04.560
<v Speaker 1>feel like sometimes men or women are bad relationships can

0:37:04.600 --> 0:37:06.960
<v Speaker 1>really funk us up from our end goal and our

0:37:07.080 --> 0:37:10.560
<v Speaker 1>camp and our purpose. So I wanted to dive into

0:37:12.320 --> 0:37:16.360
<v Speaker 1>what what your story is, you know, just briefly, but

0:37:17.400 --> 0:37:20.799
<v Speaker 1>basically the healing process after you know, how how how

0:37:20.840 --> 0:37:23.600
<v Speaker 1>would you can you walk us through yours? Yeah, you

0:37:23.640 --> 0:37:26.560
<v Speaker 1>know one from it. I like to advise people too.

0:37:26.960 --> 0:37:30.840
<v Speaker 1>I think that's helpful. Is like even you know, sometimes

0:37:30.840 --> 0:37:34.480
<v Speaker 1>like yeah, our hearts are so fucking broken, right, and

0:37:34.520 --> 0:37:36.279
<v Speaker 1>people are like, well, the best way to get over

0:37:36.480 --> 0:37:38.960
<v Speaker 1>to someone is to get under someone. But sometimes actually

0:37:39.000 --> 0:37:43.080
<v Speaker 1>you need to reclaim your sexuality and yourself. Like so

0:37:43.120 --> 0:37:45.920
<v Speaker 1>we're talking about energy, right, and like the energy that

0:37:45.960 --> 0:37:48.840
<v Speaker 1>you take on. So if you're being penetrated, for example,

0:37:48.960 --> 0:37:51.440
<v Speaker 1>like you're literally taking on someone else's energy and that

0:37:51.480 --> 0:37:53.799
<v Speaker 1>takes a while to clear from your system. So I

0:37:53.840 --> 0:37:57.279
<v Speaker 1>think like going through periods of self imposed celibacy can

0:37:57.320 --> 0:37:59.480
<v Speaker 1>be really good. That can be a good thing. It's

0:37:59.480 --> 0:38:03.120
<v Speaker 1>almost like a Howlett cleanser between courses of like a meal. Right.

0:38:03.360 --> 0:38:05.560
<v Speaker 1>It's like kind of reclaiming your space. That doesn't mean

0:38:05.600 --> 0:38:07.960
<v Speaker 1>that you can't masturbate or look at whatever you want

0:38:08.000 --> 0:38:10.480
<v Speaker 1>to do, just it doesn't even mean that you can't

0:38:10.480 --> 0:38:13.319
<v Speaker 1>funk around with someone else. It's just maybe meaning like

0:38:13.680 --> 0:38:17.239
<v Speaker 1>not being not being penetrated by them, you know, like

0:38:17.480 --> 0:38:20.280
<v Speaker 1>keeping some space for yourself. I think for me, at least,

0:38:20.760 --> 0:38:22.719
<v Speaker 1>I did go through reading about that. Yeah, I went

0:38:22.719 --> 0:38:25.600
<v Speaker 1>through a period of that, um you know. And I

0:38:25.600 --> 0:38:28.640
<v Speaker 1>think we had Nina Hartley, who's a really famous adult

0:38:28.680 --> 0:38:31.920
<v Speaker 1>star on our podcast and and she even talks about

0:38:31.920 --> 0:38:34.680
<v Speaker 1>that like someone who's for a living is having sex

0:38:36.000 --> 0:38:39.120
<v Speaker 1>and she's pant sexual. Yeah. I think that like that

0:38:39.200 --> 0:38:41.680
<v Speaker 1>for me was a big thing kind of felt so.

0:38:42.360 --> 0:38:45.920
<v Speaker 1>I mean I felt really heartbroken. It was not heartbroken.

0:38:46.000 --> 0:38:48.799
<v Speaker 1>I've literally felt it in my chest like I've been

0:38:48.880 --> 0:38:52.759
<v Speaker 1>fucking heartbroken. I can feel it. I'm walking around. It's heavy,

0:38:52.960 --> 0:38:55.000
<v Speaker 1>and I have wanted to make myself feel better. The

0:38:55.000 --> 0:38:57.040
<v Speaker 1>first thing I do is texted X of course you

0:38:57.080 --> 0:38:59.560
<v Speaker 1>do because you want that immediate gratification. You want us

0:38:59.640 --> 0:39:03.560
<v Speaker 1>feel like you're still desired, right, But like what are

0:39:03.600 --> 0:39:07.400
<v Speaker 1>you desiring yourself? And you're looking for someone else's validation,

0:39:07.680 --> 0:39:09.880
<v Speaker 1>which is and I'm the first thing I do with

0:39:09.920 --> 0:39:12.520
<v Speaker 1>a breakup when my heart is like broken or I'm

0:39:12.880 --> 0:39:15.480
<v Speaker 1>all right, I become really hurt by a guy. I

0:39:15.560 --> 0:39:19.440
<v Speaker 1>hate all men, and so I find myself just over

0:39:19.640 --> 0:39:23.520
<v Speaker 1>saturating my schedule between work, between finding something to do,

0:39:23.680 --> 0:39:25.759
<v Speaker 1>hanging around friends, hitting people up, like let's too long

0:39:25.800 --> 0:39:28.280
<v Speaker 1>close to dinner, let's scrab drinks and I'm just out

0:39:28.680 --> 0:39:30.960
<v Speaker 1>with a lot of friends. But I actually feel like

0:39:31.040 --> 0:39:32.600
<v Speaker 1>I hate man. I don't want to be hit on,

0:39:32.640 --> 0:39:34.280
<v Speaker 1>I don't want to talk to men, I don't respond

0:39:34.320 --> 0:39:37.120
<v Speaker 1>to like, and I just kind of clock out from

0:39:37.120 --> 0:39:40.000
<v Speaker 1>even And I don't want to sit in that, because

0:39:40.040 --> 0:39:41.640
<v Speaker 1>I think most of us don't want to sit in

0:39:41.640 --> 0:39:45.640
<v Speaker 1>the loneliness and the fear and the vulnerability and feeling abandoned,

0:39:45.680 --> 0:39:49.160
<v Speaker 1>which is why we like turn to drugs, turn to food,

0:39:49.160 --> 0:39:52.000
<v Speaker 1>turned to alcohol, turned to sex. All those things are great,

0:39:52.320 --> 0:39:55.520
<v Speaker 1>but like doing all those things with intention, right, not

0:39:55.600 --> 0:39:58.719
<v Speaker 1>because we want to mask our loneliness, like it's okay

0:39:58.719 --> 0:40:01.560
<v Speaker 1>to be lonely and feel shitty and feel fear and

0:40:01.600 --> 0:40:03.799
<v Speaker 1>feel vulnerable and wake up in the middle of night

0:40:03.840 --> 0:40:05.359
<v Speaker 1>and be like, am I going to die alone? Those

0:40:05.360 --> 0:40:08.040
<v Speaker 1>are human questions that every single person on the planet has,

0:40:08.560 --> 0:40:10.840
<v Speaker 1>you know. I feel like we all think we're alone

0:40:10.840 --> 0:40:12.879
<v Speaker 1>in that that, like we're the only one that has

0:40:12.920 --> 0:40:14.680
<v Speaker 1>those fears, and we all have those fears, we just

0:40:14.680 --> 0:40:17.280
<v Speaker 1>don't talk about it, and it's like it's going to pass,

0:40:17.440 --> 0:40:19.759
<v Speaker 1>just like the clock turns around, you know, or a

0:40:19.800 --> 0:40:22.480
<v Speaker 1>wave comes in and out. We're just like, culturally so

0:40:22.640 --> 0:40:25.840
<v Speaker 1>uncomfortable with that that we want to cover it up immediately.

0:40:26.160 --> 0:40:27.880
<v Speaker 1>Have you, um, I don't know if you guys have

0:40:27.920 --> 0:40:30.839
<v Speaker 1>ever experienced this, but a few months back, I'd say,

0:40:30.840 --> 0:40:34.399
<v Speaker 1>in January, everything was just going fine. I've been making

0:40:34.400 --> 0:40:36.719
<v Speaker 1>the most money I've ever made, Mandy and I are

0:40:36.719 --> 0:40:40.120
<v Speaker 1>getting along, everything is fine, and I was like, I

0:40:40.160 --> 0:40:43.840
<v Speaker 1>feel nothing, And it was almost worse than feeling sad,

0:40:44.160 --> 0:40:47.560
<v Speaker 1>Like I had no emotion going on, because sometimes when

0:40:47.600 --> 0:40:49.960
<v Speaker 1>you're in those feelings, I think it feels good to

0:40:50.000 --> 0:40:51.640
<v Speaker 1>feel him. I don't know if you've felt that, like

0:40:51.640 --> 0:40:53.680
<v Speaker 1>when you cried and it feels good to like let

0:40:53.680 --> 0:40:55.880
<v Speaker 1>yourself go through that. And I've tried to make that

0:40:55.920 --> 0:40:58.120
<v Speaker 1>my process, like when I'm feeling a lot of emotions,

0:40:58.160 --> 0:41:01.120
<v Speaker 1>to actually sit and under stand when I'm feeling instead

0:41:01.120 --> 0:41:03.120
<v Speaker 1>of covering it up, because what I've done in the

0:41:03.160 --> 0:41:06.640
<v Speaker 1>past is text exes, go out and get sucked up,

0:41:07.160 --> 0:41:09.880
<v Speaker 1>just go to something really random, go on vacation randomly

0:41:10.000 --> 0:41:11.839
<v Speaker 1>with a friend, and spend too much money, and it's

0:41:11.840 --> 0:41:13.279
<v Speaker 1>like then I have to sit in those feelings when

0:41:13.280 --> 0:41:16.359
<v Speaker 1>I come home. So now I try to actually process them,

0:41:16.400 --> 0:41:18.520
<v Speaker 1>write them down, talk about what I'm feeling, and it

0:41:18.600 --> 0:41:21.319
<v Speaker 1>feels better to like go through that motion instead of

0:41:21.320 --> 0:41:24.080
<v Speaker 1>covering it up. How long do you think for Let's

0:41:24.080 --> 0:41:26.399
<v Speaker 1>say you were in a thirteen year relationship, but let's

0:41:26.400 --> 0:41:29.000
<v Speaker 1>say someone who is going through a heartbreak of someone

0:41:29.000 --> 0:41:30.759
<v Speaker 1>they just met, let's say six months or a year,

0:41:31.040 --> 0:41:33.360
<v Speaker 1>They say, it takes half the time that you've been together.

0:41:33.480 --> 0:41:36.759
<v Speaker 1>I don't know. I my friend Didavante, speaking of Burlesque,

0:41:36.840 --> 0:41:40.719
<v Speaker 1>she had gotten divorced like just eight months before me

0:41:41.000 --> 0:41:47.279
<v Speaker 1>actually to Manson, Marilyn Manson, yeah, um, and she and

0:41:47.320 --> 0:41:50.040
<v Speaker 1>I would like ask her all the time, like, okay,

0:41:50.040 --> 0:41:52.399
<v Speaker 1>so what's what should what should be happening now because

0:41:52.400 --> 0:41:55.200
<v Speaker 1>she was like had just was sort of at every

0:41:55.200 --> 0:41:57.680
<v Speaker 1>phase of the healing, like just a little bit before me.

0:41:57.960 --> 0:41:59.480
<v Speaker 1>I'm like, what is it to be over? And I

0:41:59.560 --> 0:42:02.160
<v Speaker 1>kept on thinking like fuck if I could invent a

0:42:02.200 --> 0:42:05.399
<v Speaker 1>pill for heartbreak? Like yeah. But then the other thing

0:42:05.480 --> 0:42:08.399
<v Speaker 1>is you would you think about all the great art

0:42:08.560 --> 0:42:10.680
<v Speaker 1>right and music? Like thinking about all the music we

0:42:10.719 --> 0:42:13.040
<v Speaker 1>listened to, Like so much of the best art and

0:42:13.160 --> 0:42:16.080
<v Speaker 1>music is made from heartbreak, and it's not a lot

0:42:16.120 --> 0:42:18.000
<v Speaker 1>of I mean, it's hard to make great art when

0:42:18.000 --> 0:42:21.480
<v Speaker 1>you're super happy, right because you're just like living your life,

0:42:22.080 --> 0:42:23.920
<v Speaker 1>like you know, everything is Love came out with you,

0:42:24.120 --> 0:42:28.279
<v Speaker 1>Sat jay Z, but it wasn't lemonade, Yeah, exactly exactly.

0:42:28.719 --> 0:42:32.440
<v Speaker 1>Video Remember when she smashed it's like him, I swear

0:42:32.480 --> 0:42:34.520
<v Speaker 1>to God. And when we all felt that, we all

0:42:34.760 --> 0:42:37.400
<v Speaker 1>empathized that we all had been in that space, right

0:42:37.600 --> 0:42:39.560
<v Speaker 1>and more than like sometimes I think when people are

0:42:39.560 --> 0:42:43.040
<v Speaker 1>super happy, you're like, well, I'm not fucking happy. Why

0:42:43.200 --> 0:42:50.600
<v Speaker 1>they love New York because nobody's happy, don't. I saw

0:42:50.640 --> 0:42:52.719
<v Speaker 1>a couple making on the subway. This is a long

0:42:52.760 --> 0:42:54.600
<v Speaker 1>time ago, but I'll remember this moment. I was going

0:42:54.640 --> 0:42:56.279
<v Speaker 1>to work and everybody's in a bad mood, and she's

0:42:56.280 --> 0:42:58.560
<v Speaker 1>like Meani and me and the girl looked at each

0:42:58.560 --> 0:43:01.400
<v Speaker 1>other like the fund is there problem? Like you're just

0:43:01.400 --> 0:43:03.440
<v Speaker 1>trying to get to work and bitch, you're on this

0:43:03.520 --> 0:43:10.120
<v Speaker 1>train with your fucking chip York. When I moved back

0:43:10.120 --> 0:43:12.560
<v Speaker 1>to l A from New York, I remember like if

0:43:12.560 --> 0:43:14.920
<v Speaker 1>someone would ask me a question, like a stranger, like

0:43:14.960 --> 0:43:16.839
<v Speaker 1>where did you get your yogurt or something, I would

0:43:16.880 --> 0:43:20.960
<v Speaker 1>like roll up my car window. Why are they being nice?

0:43:21.040 --> 0:43:25.400
<v Speaker 1>Why are they talking to me? And the weirds really weird? Okay,

0:43:25.480 --> 0:43:28.040
<v Speaker 1>so we go through the healing process. Let's say that

0:43:28.080 --> 0:43:30.400
<v Speaker 1>part is over, But what do you think is a

0:43:30.400 --> 0:43:33.880
<v Speaker 1>good way to get back out there? That's the question

0:43:33.920 --> 0:43:36.600
<v Speaker 1>that we've been getting at a lot of our know

0:43:36.640 --> 0:43:39.520
<v Speaker 1>how to answer it anymore. Yeah, so they want to know, Hey,

0:43:39.640 --> 0:43:41.839
<v Speaker 1>I'm done dating, but I want to now get out

0:43:41.840 --> 0:43:44.520
<v Speaker 1>and date, but I'm not looking to jump into anything else.

0:43:45.040 --> 0:43:47.719
<v Speaker 1>What would be kind of your go to or any time,

0:43:47.760 --> 0:43:50.680
<v Speaker 1>even if it's a process like things to start doing

0:43:50.680 --> 0:43:52.640
<v Speaker 1>and get yourself out there. But like, let's just imagine

0:43:52.680 --> 0:43:55.080
<v Speaker 1>someone that's been in a relationship and pretty much quarantine

0:43:55.120 --> 0:43:57.359
<v Speaker 1>themselves to their boyfriend I think it's a really good

0:43:57.400 --> 0:43:59.760
<v Speaker 1>idea in general to like get outside of your comfort

0:43:59.840 --> 0:44:02.960
<v Speaker 1>zone own with like your scene that you're in, right, Like,

0:44:03.239 --> 0:44:05.440
<v Speaker 1>I think it's really good to like maybe go, I

0:44:05.480 --> 0:44:08.160
<v Speaker 1>don't know, do something you would never go do before,

0:44:08.400 --> 0:44:12.200
<v Speaker 1>like take a class or like go I don't know,

0:44:12.400 --> 0:44:15.319
<v Speaker 1>Like there's a million different Like you live in a

0:44:15.320 --> 0:44:17.600
<v Speaker 1>city like New York, there's a million different scenes that

0:44:17.640 --> 0:44:19.040
<v Speaker 1>you're not part of, and you kind of get stuck

0:44:19.080 --> 0:44:20.359
<v Speaker 1>in your rold and you think, oh, I just meet

0:44:20.400 --> 0:44:22.560
<v Speaker 1>the same people and everyone's the same as the same

0:44:22.600 --> 0:44:25.240
<v Speaker 1>type of person. But like if you just force yourself

0:44:25.280 --> 0:44:27.200
<v Speaker 1>to get outside of your comfort zone a little bit,

0:44:27.239 --> 0:44:29.840
<v Speaker 1>Basically I should go to Brooklyn. I was able to say, Basically,

0:44:29.840 --> 0:44:34.120
<v Speaker 1>I gotta go where white people go in the house

0:44:34.160 --> 0:44:37.920
<v Speaker 1>you think, yes, you'll see me there. Actually, to be

0:44:38.040 --> 0:44:40.600
<v Speaker 1>frank with you, I when I first moved to New York,

0:44:40.640 --> 0:44:44.160
<v Speaker 1>I was going on meat packing, right, and I just

0:44:44.440 --> 0:44:45.799
<v Speaker 1>I felt like I was meeting too many of the

0:44:45.800 --> 0:44:47.480
<v Speaker 1>same guys. I was like, you know what, the time

0:44:47.520 --> 0:44:50.160
<v Speaker 1>of the black club, I'm done. And that was literally

0:44:50.200 --> 0:44:51.920
<v Speaker 1>what I had to do. And it wasn't like I

0:44:51.960 --> 0:44:53.880
<v Speaker 1>was not going to black clubs on purpose. I was

0:44:53.920 --> 0:44:56.440
<v Speaker 1>just so into that meat packing like high life, like

0:44:56.640 --> 0:44:58.720
<v Speaker 1>you know, your twenty dollar martinis. I love that ship.

0:44:58.880 --> 0:45:00.960
<v Speaker 1>It took me getting a little bit lower east Side,

0:45:01.080 --> 0:45:03.319
<v Speaker 1>a mixed dive bar kind of vibe, heading out to

0:45:03.360 --> 0:45:06.480
<v Speaker 1>Brooklyn doing different type of parties to be like, oh,

0:45:06.480 --> 0:45:09.759
<v Speaker 1>like I'm fine now I'm making new friends and then

0:45:09.800 --> 0:45:12.480
<v Speaker 1>I could go back and be okay. But I was

0:45:12.520 --> 0:45:14.560
<v Speaker 1>seeing the same people. When you see those same people,

0:45:14.600 --> 0:45:18.120
<v Speaker 1>even the same women, it really was reminders of the

0:45:18.160 --> 0:45:20.479
<v Speaker 1>person I was dating, and I hated that ship. Also

0:45:20.560 --> 0:45:22.920
<v Speaker 1>think you should ask random people to set you up,

0:45:23.160 --> 0:45:25.759
<v Speaker 1>like people who are not necessarily your immediate best friend,

0:45:25.880 --> 0:45:28.359
<v Speaker 1>but like I don't know. It could be a coworker,

0:45:28.600 --> 0:45:32.440
<v Speaker 1>like no, but you never you never know, and it

0:45:32.560 --> 0:45:34.960
<v Speaker 1>might not be that person. It could be like a

0:45:35.000 --> 0:45:36.840
<v Speaker 1>friend of that person, or like they could take you

0:45:36.880 --> 0:45:40.920
<v Speaker 1>to a party, like one person's trash is another person's treasure, right.

0:45:41.840 --> 0:45:44.759
<v Speaker 1>I didn't even think about that. I mean, when we're

0:45:44.800 --> 0:45:46.640
<v Speaker 1>so used to not being set up because this is

0:45:46.680 --> 0:45:49.600
<v Speaker 1>not our I got so many niggers already, it's like

0:45:49.920 --> 0:45:56.880
<v Speaker 1>more like I do I know, Like so that's another

0:45:56.920 --> 0:46:02.239
<v Speaker 1>thing with me, Like I don't know if it's I

0:46:02.239 --> 0:46:05.440
<v Speaker 1>don't call it fear, and a few people were in

0:46:05.520 --> 0:46:08.319
<v Speaker 1>like that. They also revisit the past with people. But

0:46:08.680 --> 0:46:10.879
<v Speaker 1>the time it takes to get to know someone and

0:46:11.239 --> 0:46:14.680
<v Speaker 1>allowing new energy feels like more way, more work than

0:46:14.719 --> 0:46:17.359
<v Speaker 1>me just going back to someone who I'm familiar with.

0:46:17.560 --> 0:46:20.360
<v Speaker 1>But you're talking about for sucks, right, No, both like

0:46:20.960 --> 0:46:25.399
<v Speaker 1>relationships like niggas is free agents and retired now they're

0:46:25.440 --> 0:46:29.239
<v Speaker 1>not playing and traveling the like athletes. The one I'm

0:46:29.239 --> 0:46:32.839
<v Speaker 1>talking to was former football thank you, but um like,

0:46:33.160 --> 0:46:35.840
<v Speaker 1>so they're also in a different space in their life. Also,

0:46:36.000 --> 0:46:37.719
<v Speaker 1>back when I was dealing with these guys, I was

0:46:37.760 --> 0:46:40.160
<v Speaker 1>either living in Atlanta or Miami. I was a bartender,

0:46:40.239 --> 0:46:42.680
<v Speaker 1>I was in the fast life, so like I was

0:46:42.760 --> 0:46:45.200
<v Speaker 1>viewed differently to them than where I am now. Like

0:46:45.320 --> 0:46:47.400
<v Speaker 1>I have my ship together, I still don't have kids.

0:46:47.480 --> 0:46:51.560
<v Speaker 1>I'm like kids, so that's also out of space where

0:46:51.600 --> 0:46:54.200
<v Speaker 1>I'm able to really I feel like you you said

0:46:54.239 --> 0:47:00.840
<v Speaker 1>I never I've never said I. You've used the word family.

0:47:01.280 --> 0:47:03.040
<v Speaker 1>You never use the word kids here, and I'm talking

0:47:03.040 --> 0:47:05.120
<v Speaker 1>about a dog or a finger monkey, bitch. I've been

0:47:05.120 --> 0:47:09.280
<v Speaker 1>looking up finger monkeys. Finger I want a little finger

0:47:09.320 --> 0:47:12.040
<v Speaker 1>monkey like I follow these these finger monkeys on Instagram

0:47:12.040 --> 0:47:15.360
<v Speaker 1>called Diddy and Kong. They are so cute and finger monkey,

0:47:15.360 --> 0:47:17.759
<v Speaker 1>I'm gonna show you they're real cute. So that's what

0:47:17.880 --> 0:47:20.239
<v Speaker 1>you want, not like a dog, like a dog, I

0:47:20.320 --> 0:47:22.560
<v Speaker 1>really do want. Like we're looking this up first, thank you,

0:47:22.560 --> 0:47:25.160
<v Speaker 1>Here we go. We're good. Look up real Diddy call.

0:47:25.280 --> 0:47:30.360
<v Speaker 1>Look they got a million followers. Pretty don't marry cute actually,

0:47:30.640 --> 0:47:32.239
<v Speaker 1>so I want a finger monkey and these are like

0:47:32.239 --> 0:47:36.120
<v Speaker 1>the little bigger monkey. Where do you keep these nails?

0:47:36.200 --> 0:47:39.520
<v Speaker 1>Look like they might scratch though, Man, I'm gonna get

0:47:39.520 --> 0:47:44.160
<v Speaker 1>about a pedicure, but no, like in my mind, I'm

0:47:44.200 --> 0:47:46.640
<v Speaker 1>not gonna lie. So with talking to a lot of

0:47:46.640 --> 0:47:49.120
<v Speaker 1>these men, they do have children already, and a lot

0:47:49.160 --> 0:47:50.879
<v Speaker 1>of them because they got multiple A lot of them

0:47:50.880 --> 0:47:55.640
<v Speaker 1>doesn't cut their dicks now like they're snipped now you

0:47:55.719 --> 0:48:00.480
<v Speaker 1>know what I mean, you know the word the sect

0:48:00.560 --> 0:48:04.839
<v Speaker 1>me there you go, come on, you know what. So

0:48:04.920 --> 0:48:07.920
<v Speaker 1>like now they can't have like babies, and so now

0:48:07.960 --> 0:48:10.840
<v Speaker 1>it is to where like I think even for a

0:48:10.880 --> 0:48:13.520
<v Speaker 1>lot of them because of where they are with money wise,

0:48:13.520 --> 0:48:16.000
<v Speaker 1>power wise, like it's it's a genuine thing, like I

0:48:16.040 --> 0:48:18.239
<v Speaker 1>ain't trying to have no baby, like just to keep

0:48:18.320 --> 0:48:21.000
<v Speaker 1>you like it's a genuine connection. They're in different spaces

0:48:21.000 --> 0:48:24.480
<v Speaker 1>in their life. So I believe in timing, and I think,

0:48:24.600 --> 0:48:26.279
<v Speaker 1>I don't know if that's a good thing or bad thing.

0:48:26.320 --> 0:48:28.160
<v Speaker 1>I guess while we're talking about time that it takes

0:48:28.200 --> 0:48:30.799
<v Speaker 1>to heal, I believe in timing of meeting people. I

0:48:30.840 --> 0:48:33.520
<v Speaker 1>believe in I believe in meeting people, and sometimes it's

0:48:33.560 --> 0:48:36.279
<v Speaker 1>just the wrong time. It may work. Damn, I wish

0:48:36.360 --> 0:48:38.560
<v Speaker 1>I met you at a later time in life or

0:48:38.800 --> 0:48:41.880
<v Speaker 1>sooner in life before you know things happened. So to

0:48:41.960 --> 0:48:44.560
<v Speaker 1>me and a space where I genuinely feel like I'm

0:48:44.560 --> 0:48:46.480
<v Speaker 1>gonna do. I'm in a new bubble, I'm in a

0:48:46.480 --> 0:48:49.839
<v Speaker 1>new career. I'm we have this podcast where it's taken

0:48:49.840 --> 0:48:51.960
<v Speaker 1>off and I'm traveling and I'm in this creative space.

0:48:52.160 --> 0:48:54.160
<v Speaker 1>I genuinely feel like I'm in a new space that

0:48:54.200 --> 0:48:56.319
<v Speaker 1>I can provide something different in a relationship that I

0:48:56.320 --> 0:48:59.160
<v Speaker 1>could as you being in a new space and you

0:48:59.360 --> 0:49:01.760
<v Speaker 1>doing what you want to do and investing your energy

0:49:01.800 --> 0:49:05.040
<v Speaker 1>fully into it is what brings people into your orbit.

0:49:05.160 --> 0:49:10.080
<v Speaker 1>I truly believe sometimes to look for it, it's not

0:49:10.120 --> 0:49:12.920
<v Speaker 1>gonna come. But the second that you're like busy and

0:49:12.960 --> 0:49:15.040
<v Speaker 1>focus on whatever it is that you're doing. All of

0:49:15.120 --> 0:49:18.480
<v Speaker 1>a sudden, it's like the universe is just sending you

0:49:18.480 --> 0:49:22.160
<v Speaker 1>sell people. Right, It's funny you mentioned that, Like, so

0:49:22.880 --> 0:49:25.640
<v Speaker 1>probably for the last four or five years, I've been

0:49:25.680 --> 0:49:28.320
<v Speaker 1>talking about wanting to have a boyfriend and a girlfriend,

0:49:28.360 --> 0:49:32.479
<v Speaker 1>or being a threatle or whatever. And I never thought

0:49:32.520 --> 0:49:34.600
<v Speaker 1>that the two people I would sleep be sleeping with

0:49:34.600 --> 0:49:37.080
<v Speaker 1>would be it. And like when I tell you, it

0:49:37.160 --> 0:49:41.120
<v Speaker 1>was so intense at one point, like I almost woke

0:49:41.200 --> 0:49:42.960
<v Speaker 1>up and started crying. Of course I'm emotional, but I

0:49:43.000 --> 0:49:44.600
<v Speaker 1>was like, damn, I didn't think I would feel like this.

0:49:44.640 --> 0:49:46.440
<v Speaker 1>I thought we were just gonna have sex and eat

0:49:47.200 --> 0:49:48.839
<v Speaker 1>Like I thought this is gonna be it. I didn't

0:49:48.840 --> 0:49:51.320
<v Speaker 1>think we'd be holding hands and touching each other's faces

0:49:51.360 --> 0:49:53.600
<v Speaker 1>and planning the next vacation while we're still sitting together,

0:49:54.160 --> 0:49:57.360
<v Speaker 1>you know. And it was like really really intense. And

0:49:57.400 --> 0:49:59.919
<v Speaker 1>my mom was like, you manifested this for so long,

0:50:00.520 --> 0:50:02.759
<v Speaker 1>even looking at these two people, like maybe you and

0:50:02.880 --> 0:50:04.759
<v Speaker 1>him weren't like that, maybe you and her weren't like that,

0:50:04.800 --> 0:50:07.600
<v Speaker 1>but like together now you can become something because it's

0:50:07.719 --> 0:50:09.759
<v Speaker 1>just been waiting for you. There she was like, you

0:50:09.800 --> 0:50:12.600
<v Speaker 1>probably weren't trying to have it like you were the

0:50:12.640 --> 0:50:15.000
<v Speaker 1>last few years. Anytime I would a girl, I'd be like,

0:50:15.040 --> 0:50:17.640
<v Speaker 1>you should meet this guy and we should be a thing.

0:50:18.280 --> 0:50:21.879
<v Speaker 1>What happened like that? So that's interesting that you said

0:50:21.960 --> 0:50:23.799
<v Speaker 1>you can really actually bring it into your orbit, because

0:50:23.800 --> 0:50:26.560
<v Speaker 1>I kind of feel like I did. I really am

0:50:26.640 --> 0:50:29.040
<v Speaker 1>like super nervous because it felt so great, and I'm

0:50:29.080 --> 0:50:31.000
<v Speaker 1>just like ships will let down of two people, not

0:50:31.080 --> 0:50:33.200
<v Speaker 1>just one now if it doesn't work. Yeah, but don't

0:50:33.200 --> 0:50:40.799
<v Speaker 1>future funk yourself. So like was like, okay, so we're

0:50:40.880 --> 0:50:43.120
<v Speaker 1>talking about, like if we're talking about being in the

0:50:43.160 --> 0:50:46.240
<v Speaker 1>moment and being present, most of us are constantly future

0:50:46.280 --> 0:50:49.120
<v Speaker 1>fucking ourselves, Like we're going into like what could happen,

0:50:49.200 --> 0:50:52.920
<v Speaker 1>what will happen, like what might happen? And we're like,

0:50:53.120 --> 0:50:55.200
<v Speaker 1>you know, the more that you put your mindset there,

0:50:55.280 --> 0:50:57.680
<v Speaker 1>you bring it in instead of being like right here,

0:50:57.800 --> 0:51:00.840
<v Speaker 1>right now, you're future fucking yourself. But it's so something

0:51:00.880 --> 0:51:03.000
<v Speaker 1>to where And I think a lot of us do

0:51:03.080 --> 0:51:05.759
<v Speaker 1>that with dating or meeting someone. We have this vision

0:51:05.760 --> 0:51:07.360
<v Speaker 1>of what we want this person to do, how we

0:51:07.400 --> 0:51:09.720
<v Speaker 1>want them to actually want them to answer our text messages,

0:51:09.920 --> 0:51:11.360
<v Speaker 1>how we want to wake up in the morning to

0:51:11.400 --> 0:51:14.120
<v Speaker 1>them what we hope our conversations to be to where

0:51:14.400 --> 0:51:17.279
<v Speaker 1>we set ourselves up to these expectations, and as soon

0:51:17.280 --> 0:51:19.879
<v Speaker 1>as that person doesn't live up to the expectations, now

0:51:19.880 --> 0:51:22.479
<v Speaker 1>we're disappointed. And once you're disappointed, then you're like, okay,

0:51:22.480 --> 0:51:24.000
<v Speaker 1>well then he's not it. Let me move on to

0:51:24.080 --> 0:51:27.439
<v Speaker 1>the next. But we are expecting someone else to give

0:51:27.520 --> 0:51:30.600
<v Speaker 1>us every single thing. It's just not like, okay, we

0:51:30.640 --> 0:51:33.520
<v Speaker 1>can We're never going to get every single thing from

0:51:33.560 --> 0:51:36.120
<v Speaker 1>one person. That's just not possible. Do you think you

0:51:36.160 --> 0:51:38.960
<v Speaker 1>can give that? You can't. You can't be someone's like

0:51:39.080 --> 0:51:41.479
<v Speaker 1>love or partner, best friend. You've got to find those

0:51:41.520 --> 0:51:43.439
<v Speaker 1>things in other in other people. You've got to find

0:51:43.440 --> 0:51:45.680
<v Speaker 1>it in yourself. So let really like the person that

0:51:45.760 --> 0:51:49.480
<v Speaker 1>you're having that intimate romantic relationship with that's like you know,

0:51:49.640 --> 0:51:51.440
<v Speaker 1>you accept them for what it is. Let me ask you,

0:51:51.440 --> 0:51:55.160
<v Speaker 1>you said your monogamous damn use in my mind, because

0:51:55.200 --> 0:51:58.160
<v Speaker 1>that was my next question. We always say we use

0:51:58.239 --> 0:52:01.960
<v Speaker 1>that as a reason, but I I really appreciate monogamous

0:52:02.080 --> 0:52:07.880
<v Speaker 1>right now. Yeah, Well that doesn't mean like maybe I

0:52:07.880 --> 0:52:12.080
<v Speaker 1>don't know the question. So we we use this as

0:52:12.120 --> 0:52:15.440
<v Speaker 1>a like exactly what you say compartmentalizing relationships and people

0:52:15.480 --> 0:52:16.840
<v Speaker 1>and friends. Right, I need a friend I want to

0:52:16.880 --> 0:52:20.080
<v Speaker 1>go out with for this and that you're saying that

0:52:20.160 --> 0:52:22.960
<v Speaker 1>and able to understand that concept. But you're still monogamous.

0:52:23.000 --> 0:52:25.040
<v Speaker 1>So how do you do it then? Because I don't

0:52:25.040 --> 0:52:29.200
<v Speaker 1>necessarily expect my partner who I'm sleeping with to give

0:52:29.239 --> 0:52:31.960
<v Speaker 1>me everything, right, Like, I still I'm a creative person,

0:52:31.960 --> 0:52:34.280
<v Speaker 1>and I think you, like, if you're doing anything creative,

0:52:34.320 --> 0:52:36.919
<v Speaker 1>there's gonna be some vibes or energy with people you're

0:52:37.000 --> 0:52:40.160
<v Speaker 1>creating with. I flirt with everybody under the sun, and mean,

0:52:40.239 --> 0:52:42.399
<v Speaker 1>like I have a company that's called The Sex Said,

0:52:42.440 --> 0:52:44.759
<v Speaker 1>I'm talking about sex with other people all day long.

0:52:44.800 --> 0:52:47.799
<v Speaker 1>I can you know I'm flirting with you guys over here,

0:52:47.960 --> 0:52:50.080
<v Speaker 1>Like I don't know, I get energy from a lot

0:52:50.120 --> 0:52:52.920
<v Speaker 1>of people. So when I'm with him, like you know, also,

0:52:52.960 --> 0:52:56.000
<v Speaker 1>it's constantly evolving. You know, it's not like perfect. We

0:52:56.080 --> 0:52:58.239
<v Speaker 1>have our ship and we we talk about it and

0:52:58.239 --> 0:53:00.520
<v Speaker 1>we're both trying to evolve into like what we want

0:53:00.560 --> 0:53:04.360
<v Speaker 1>this relationship to be and the certain limited expectations that

0:53:04.400 --> 0:53:06.680
<v Speaker 1>each of us have and can give. Like, I mean,

0:53:06.760 --> 0:53:09.239
<v Speaker 1>nobody's perfect. But you don't have to. You're saying you

0:53:09.239 --> 0:53:11.399
<v Speaker 1>don't your your into creative ship, but you don't need

0:53:11.440 --> 0:53:13.719
<v Speaker 1>that from him. I do. I mean I get a

0:53:13.760 --> 0:53:16.160
<v Speaker 1>lot of stuff from him, but I also don't expect that,

0:53:16.200 --> 0:53:19.319
<v Speaker 1>like he's going to give me satisfy every single one

0:53:19.320 --> 0:53:21.239
<v Speaker 1>of my needs. I like that a lot because I

0:53:21.239 --> 0:53:23.880
<v Speaker 1>think sometimes the pressure of making sure this perfect partner

0:53:23.960 --> 0:53:27.959
<v Speaker 1>when really you don't have to do it all, Like

0:53:28.400 --> 0:53:30.799
<v Speaker 1>just because you're sucking me doesn't mean you still can't

0:53:30.800 --> 0:53:33.320
<v Speaker 1>have someone else in your life. For or for example,

0:53:33.360 --> 0:53:36.840
<v Speaker 1>like he's very he's like super alpha, and he's not

0:53:37.120 --> 0:53:40.759
<v Speaker 1>like I've always dated artists before who were like I love,

0:53:40.960 --> 0:53:43.799
<v Speaker 1>you know, really flowery with the words and stuff. And

0:53:43.840 --> 0:53:47.120
<v Speaker 1>he's like he's really solid. He's really there. But he's

0:53:47.160 --> 0:53:48.960
<v Speaker 1>not going to do that because that's just not who

0:53:49.000 --> 0:53:52.200
<v Speaker 1>he is. And like I you know, it's like sometimes

0:53:52.239 --> 0:53:54.080
<v Speaker 1>it drives me crazy, but then I'm like, all right,

0:53:54.120 --> 0:53:55.840
<v Speaker 1>I'm not going to get that from him. But I

0:53:55.880 --> 0:53:58.000
<v Speaker 1>can count on him, you know, I can count on

0:53:58.040 --> 0:53:59.839
<v Speaker 1>him where I've had like a million guys like right

0:54:00.120 --> 0:54:03.360
<v Speaker 1>fucking love letters and like send flowers all the time

0:54:03.520 --> 0:54:07.160
<v Speaker 1>and like, but they're not really necessarily like the solid guys,

0:54:07.680 --> 0:54:09.920
<v Speaker 1>I like it a lot like that. Being there from

0:54:09.920 --> 0:54:12.600
<v Speaker 1>someone's a lot of fucking work. Yeah, you just have

0:54:12.680 --> 0:54:15.319
<v Speaker 1>to realize where people are coming from, too, and how

0:54:15.360 --> 0:54:17.600
<v Speaker 1>they were brought up in condition and what kind of

0:54:17.600 --> 0:54:21.080
<v Speaker 1>loved relationship they've had, like with their parents for example.

0:54:21.160 --> 0:54:22.640
<v Speaker 1>Like has a lot to do with the way we

0:54:22.719 --> 0:54:26.000
<v Speaker 1>relate to each other in relationships, because it's basically like

0:54:26.080 --> 0:54:29.680
<v Speaker 1>we're constantly trying to recreate the relationship with the parent

0:54:29.800 --> 0:54:34.760
<v Speaker 1>we had the most difficulty with as a child, like unconsciously, unconsciously,

0:54:34.840 --> 0:54:38.680
<v Speaker 1>that's who we pick, really, yeah, in order to recreate

0:54:38.719 --> 0:54:42.120
<v Speaker 1>and heal those relationships. Like that's why I like tall

0:54:42.200 --> 0:54:44.319
<v Speaker 1>n like, I like tall lights, king guys, I like

0:54:44.400 --> 0:54:47.319
<v Speaker 1>everything opposite from my dad. Is that who you had

0:54:47.360 --> 0:54:50.839
<v Speaker 1>like the most difficult relationship with? Actually it was both

0:54:50.840 --> 0:54:52.879
<v Speaker 1>of them, as me and my mom are friends now,

0:54:53.360 --> 0:54:55.359
<v Speaker 1>but growing up me and my mom, But it has

0:54:55.360 --> 0:54:56.919
<v Speaker 1>a lot. But as I got an older, I see

0:54:56.920 --> 0:54:58.759
<v Speaker 1>it's because we were a lot. There's something to be

0:54:58.800 --> 0:55:01.520
<v Speaker 1>said what you look for in men and how she

0:55:01.640 --> 0:55:03.480
<v Speaker 1>was saying, like you picked someone like them. Mandy is

0:55:03.480 --> 0:55:06.759
<v Speaker 1>always saying she likes affluent men because her dad wasn't

0:55:06.800 --> 0:55:09.360
<v Speaker 1>as helpful and when she was a kid. So that

0:55:09.520 --> 0:55:12.960
<v Speaker 1>is kind of making sure that you're trying to fix

0:55:13.040 --> 0:55:15.480
<v Speaker 1>what was better. You're trying to fix your childhood basically.

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<v Speaker 1>The um. But I guess that makes sense. I know,

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<v Speaker 1>I hear it. I wait, well, I want to get

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<v Speaker 1>into orgasm breathing before you want him to want them

0:55:27.800 --> 0:55:31.480
<v Speaker 1>to a clip of us. Well, with the orgasm, you'll

0:55:31.520 --> 0:55:34.000
<v Speaker 1>do it. Okay, So with the orgasm breathing, I want

0:55:34.000 --> 0:55:35.800
<v Speaker 1>to do that, and then I do want to gauge

0:55:35.920 --> 0:55:40.799
<v Speaker 1>some of your knowledge a little bit for our homemale section. Um,

0:55:40.800 --> 0:55:42.440
<v Speaker 1>this is your home section. Do you want to do

0:55:42.520 --> 0:55:50.279
<v Speaker 1>orgasm breathing? First? Let's do orgasm breathing. You got to

0:55:50.320 --> 0:55:53.000
<v Speaker 1>be in the shot. I'm like so fucked up from

0:55:53.000 --> 0:55:55.759
<v Speaker 1>this cold right now, it's just all the traveling. I

0:55:55.800 --> 0:55:59.120
<v Speaker 1>need to get myself together. Okay, what the fund is

0:55:59.239 --> 0:56:02.440
<v Speaker 1>orgasm breathing. So, orgasm breathing is a technique where you

0:56:02.440 --> 0:56:05.920
<v Speaker 1>can bring yourself to orgasm hands free, just with breathing

0:56:06.040 --> 0:56:08.120
<v Speaker 1>and using your public floor muscles. Don't believe you, but

0:56:08.160 --> 0:56:10.520
<v Speaker 1>I've heard it. Yeah, everyone can do it, no matter

0:56:10.600 --> 0:56:13.040
<v Speaker 1>what kind of genitals you have. Okay, do it, so

0:56:13.160 --> 0:56:15.319
<v Speaker 1>like you know what your public floor muscles are, right, Yeah,

0:56:15.360 --> 0:56:17.600
<v Speaker 1>I've done public floor therapy before. Okay, So like, well

0:56:17.840 --> 0:56:20.719
<v Speaker 1>for listeners who aren't familiar with it, right, it's the

0:56:20.800 --> 0:56:23.719
<v Speaker 1>muscles that you contract when you're trying to stop your

0:56:23.719 --> 0:56:28.680
<v Speaker 1>flow of p. So if you've got a penis, contract

0:56:28.719 --> 0:56:32.360
<v Speaker 1>that muscle. If you've got a vagina, if that contract

0:56:32.400 --> 0:56:36.279
<v Speaker 1>that muscle. Yeah, it's it's just it's basically the same thing, right,

0:56:36.320 --> 0:56:40.239
<v Speaker 1>So they're your PC muscles. So you the breath is

0:56:40.280 --> 0:56:42.360
<v Speaker 1>two parts, right, so we know what that squeezing that

0:56:42.440 --> 0:56:45.440
<v Speaker 1>muscles like. Right, So, and then the breath is imagine

0:56:45.480 --> 0:56:48.719
<v Speaker 1>you're sucking in through a straw, so your lips are

0:56:48.719 --> 0:56:52.279
<v Speaker 1>like so at the bottom of that breath, imagine it

0:56:52.360 --> 0:56:55.759
<v Speaker 1>traveling up from from the shorter generals. No, I'm just

0:56:55.800 --> 0:56:58.360
<v Speaker 1>gonna be long. So as soon as I start sucking

0:56:58.400 --> 0:57:00.840
<v Speaker 1>the breath, I'm gonna squeeze, and I'm gonna stay squeeze,

0:57:00.840 --> 0:57:08.520
<v Speaker 1>and I'm gonna go And I'm still squeezing this whole time,

0:57:08.560 --> 0:57:14.640
<v Speaker 1>and I'm slowly ship too much out and you're vagina,

0:57:14.760 --> 0:57:18.000
<v Speaker 1>I'm still squeezing. Your kegels are squeezed. Still squeezing this

0:57:18.000 --> 0:57:20.040
<v Speaker 1>whole time, and then at the bottom of my breath

0:57:20.520 --> 0:57:25.240
<v Speaker 1>I released, I released the kegle. So does that make sense?

0:57:25.680 --> 0:57:27.840
<v Speaker 1>Does that make sense? You're like, you're squeezing your muscles

0:57:27.880 --> 0:57:30.600
<v Speaker 1>from the bottom of the breath up holding holding the

0:57:30.880 --> 0:57:34.800
<v Speaker 1>squeeze and slowly so squeezing the muscle. By the way,

0:57:34.840 --> 0:57:37.200
<v Speaker 1>for those listeners who have never really worked their kegle

0:57:37.240 --> 0:57:40.920
<v Speaker 1>muscles before, I would saying keegle ship whatever, kegle keegele.

0:57:41.160 --> 0:57:43.680
<v Speaker 1>So it feels like if you try to stop that

0:57:43.760 --> 0:57:45.440
<v Speaker 1>pe like hold it, you can do it right now.

0:57:45.480 --> 0:57:51.200
<v Speaker 1>I'm doing mine right now, feeling like holding it like

0:57:51.200 --> 0:57:54.160
<v Speaker 1>like if you're paid, if you're like But by the way,

0:57:54.200 --> 0:58:01.120
<v Speaker 1>it's really are you squeezing if you don't want to

0:58:01.360 --> 0:58:04.800
<v Speaker 1>have a loose bladder when you're older, By the way,

0:58:04.840 --> 0:58:07.400
<v Speaker 1>it's very important if you're talking about a tight vagina,

0:58:07.400 --> 0:58:09.840
<v Speaker 1>which is a myth, by the way, I don't want

0:58:09.840 --> 0:58:13.120
<v Speaker 1>to perpetuate. But if you do want to have control

0:58:13.240 --> 0:58:16.600
<v Speaker 1>over your bladder when you're older, it's super important to

0:58:16.800 --> 0:58:20.880
<v Speaker 1>practice your kegles. And it's also really helpful for multiple orgasms.

0:58:20.880 --> 0:58:23.360
<v Speaker 1>What about the balls like that you can put in

0:58:23.400 --> 0:58:28.480
<v Speaker 1>your vagina like the I didn't know what you're asking.

0:58:28.520 --> 0:58:30.280
<v Speaker 1>I was like, please, God, don't let her think you

0:58:30.280 --> 0:58:35.640
<v Speaker 1>have a fucking your ether in your ball. Yeah, people

0:58:35.680 --> 0:58:38.120
<v Speaker 1>like men. While the woman who bettany Vernon is her name,

0:58:38.160 --> 0:58:41.440
<v Speaker 1>who had bondage with she does beautiful ben Wall balls.

0:58:41.880 --> 0:58:44.320
<v Speaker 1>Also some people like you know, I mean, I think,

0:58:44.360 --> 0:58:46.400
<v Speaker 1>like the whole Yoni egg thing, how do they help

0:58:46.440 --> 0:58:48.680
<v Speaker 1>your pussy? Then, well, it gives you. It's also like

0:58:48.720 --> 0:58:51.160
<v Speaker 1>it's the same thing. It's muscle control, which you can

0:58:51.240 --> 0:58:53.959
<v Speaker 1>do like you know, like I'm doing right now. So

0:58:54.280 --> 0:59:03.479
<v Speaker 1>just having awareness of you. I've never been the Pussy Show,

0:59:03.760 --> 0:59:06.520
<v Speaker 1>and I went in there before and the very first

0:59:06.560 --> 0:59:08.600
<v Speaker 1>trick that was going on was this girl asked the

0:59:08.600 --> 0:59:10.320
<v Speaker 1>guy at the bar what his name was, and she

0:59:10.400 --> 0:59:13.760
<v Speaker 1>took a marker, put it in her pussy and literally

0:59:13.880 --> 0:59:17.360
<v Speaker 1>wrote his name on a sheet of paper with the

0:59:17.400 --> 0:59:21.439
<v Speaker 1>marker in her pussy. I've had muscle control. You haven't

0:59:21.440 --> 0:59:25.320
<v Speaker 1>seen like mommy who can lift weights with her she

0:59:25.360 --> 0:59:29.400
<v Speaker 1>can like lift word with her vaginas. That's crazy. But

0:59:29.440 --> 0:59:32.160
<v Speaker 1>then why are they older? You think? Why are they older? Girl?

0:59:32.240 --> 0:59:33.920
<v Speaker 1>The same way why sex gets better when you get

0:59:33.960 --> 0:59:38.400
<v Speaker 1>older because your body your body. If you know your

0:59:38.400 --> 0:59:40.720
<v Speaker 1>body and you don't feel like you give yourself permission.

0:59:41.280 --> 0:59:45.440
<v Speaker 1>I will say when I worked in Miami, Uncle Luke

0:59:45.480 --> 0:59:47.640
<v Speaker 1>would have holes up there playing Corona bottles in the

0:59:47.720 --> 0:59:50.680
<v Speaker 1>Pussy Girl. I remember those videos. It was so lit

0:59:51.200 --> 0:59:55.560
<v Speaker 1>Uncle Lucas like from two Life prop like every single word,

0:59:55.880 --> 1:00:00.760
<v Speaker 1>every song. My mother threw the cassette tape out of

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<v Speaker 1>the window of the cart. There's only one place where

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<v Speaker 1>you were. So because you are, I would like to say,

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<v Speaker 1>a sexpert, and you have the sex ed show and

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<v Speaker 1>the sex ed domain because you was on it. Um.

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<v Speaker 1>I want to get into our home mail session before

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<v Speaker 1>we get out of here, and the question from this

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<v Speaker 1>is am I still a virgin? Hi? Ladies. First of all,

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<v Speaker 1>I'm a big fan and love listening to your podcast.

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<v Speaker 1>So I am or was a twenty nine year old

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<v Speaker 1>virgin until recently. I got into a relationship and things

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<v Speaker 1>just kind of happened and next thing you know, we

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<v Speaker 1>are having sex, or so I thought. I have never

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<v Speaker 1>had sex, so I am not sure. However, it felt

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<v Speaker 1>painful when he first went inside, but after I did

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<v Speaker 1>not feel much pain and honestly was expecting to fill

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<v Speaker 1>my hymen break and was next expecting to see blood.

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<v Speaker 1>None of that happened. To make things worse, he asked

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<v Speaker 1>me if I was really a virgin, which hurt my feelings.

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<v Speaker 1>Now I am not variance, but it's not rocket science

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<v Speaker 1>to know if a dude has a big or small dick,

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<v Speaker 1>which he is on the smaller side, is it possible

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<v Speaker 1>that he is too short to reach my hyman? Since then,

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<v Speaker 1>we have tried five more times. The same thing happened

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<v Speaker 1>her upon entering and felt nothing after that. I don't

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<v Speaker 1>even feel like I have had sex. How do I

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<v Speaker 1>bring this up? Is this normal? Please? Help? First of all,

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<v Speaker 1>it's totally normal. It's totally normal. And like, this whole

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<v Speaker 1>idea of virginity really bothers me too, because what is virginity?

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<v Speaker 1>And like, does virginity mean you have to have sex

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<v Speaker 1>between a penis and a vagina to totally not be

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<v Speaker 1>a virgin? Myman can break while riding a bike, they

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<v Speaker 1>say a lot of people over twenty. I think I

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<v Speaker 1>was reading this somewhere. I don't know if it's twenty

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<v Speaker 1>years old or a different age, but I have already

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<v Speaker 1>lost it somewhere another around the way. So like, even

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<v Speaker 1>if they haven't had sex, yet you may not have

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<v Speaker 1>that big old break, right, and also like did you

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<v Speaker 1>have that idea, just the idea that like, well what

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<v Speaker 1>about if you have anal sex or if oral sex

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<v Speaker 1>or fingering like all of those things, like the idea

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<v Speaker 1>in middle school, Like the hose of middle school will

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<v Speaker 1>go around and say they still haven't had sex, but

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<v Speaker 1>they had an on and they just blew everyone off

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<v Speaker 1>like they just sucked their dick, and so they you've broken.

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<v Speaker 1>But a lot of like a lot of people who

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<v Speaker 1>are like fourteen year olds now are like having anal

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<v Speaker 1>sex instead of any that's because they feel like it's

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<v Speaker 1>preserving their virginity. That's so crazy, feeling like I started

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<v Speaker 1>to say that as I got over, like I'm gonna say,

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<v Speaker 1>I asked for my husband is really just my excuse

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<v Speaker 1>to not sucking the ass. But well, I don't think

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<v Speaker 1>I have anything left to save for my husband, So

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<v Speaker 1>I hope my husband isn't worried about say I haven't

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<v Speaker 1>been fucked. Oh I haven't gagged anyone with my foot,

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<v Speaker 1>but I do have a proposition for that. So unless

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<v Speaker 1>he comes from the brain, my husband may not be

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<v Speaker 1>able to do that either. What it's left like an

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<v Speaker 1>ear fun like he got knees or something behind the knees. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>pet oh my god, okay like that interviewed, he was like, yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>And every time I posted a picture like this in

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<v Speaker 1>my bed, he always he's like, yo, they look a

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<v Speaker 1>good Well okay, so I like, I like that. Do

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<v Speaker 1>you have any advice for she's still a version? I mean, listen,

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<v Speaker 1>I don't know what happened to your hyman or where

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<v Speaker 1>it is, but like, you definitely had sex if it

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<v Speaker 1>went in there. Sure he might not be big enough

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<v Speaker 1>for you, but absolutely not. You're not still a virgin.

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<v Speaker 1>Just just listen, did it go in if it did? Know,

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<v Speaker 1>I think the whole blood seeing thing is kind of stupid,

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<v Speaker 1>and I'm sorry that you know. This is how unsure

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<v Speaker 1>I was about that you were waiting for this big reveal.

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<v Speaker 1>Dick just pushed my period on because I definitely led

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<v Speaker 1>like right after I did too. Yeah. So but I

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<v Speaker 1>thought I had sex with Yeah I was and it

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<v Speaker 1>went right. Yeah, So it's very possible that girl. Maybe

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<v Speaker 1>you did a split, you know, to get but you

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<v Speaker 1>know what that's like. When I do talks um and

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<v Speaker 1>people ask questions and audience, the number one thing that

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<v Speaker 1>people approach me privately about our virgins in their twenties,

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<v Speaker 1>because I think also culturally we shame people for not

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<v Speaker 1>having sex, which is crazy. It's like, where where does

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<v Speaker 1>this come from? Where is this law that you and

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<v Speaker 1>great for you? Like, whatever you want, however you want

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<v Speaker 1>to consider your sexuality or yourself is all okay. As

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<v Speaker 1>long as you're not hurting yourself or someone else. It's

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<v Speaker 1>all okay. Animals or animals or dead people or kid. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>I do want to like, let's do two more minutes,

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<v Speaker 1>but I just really want to know. We have this question.

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<v Speaker 1>A lot girl came out to us at Houston show

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<v Speaker 1>and asked me about her virginity and how do I

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<v Speaker 1>get out there? I want to lose my virginia over

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<v Speaker 1>What kind of advice would you have for them? Well,

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<v Speaker 1>first of all, I'll be like, why do you do

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<v Speaker 1>you want to lose it because you want to lose

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<v Speaker 1>it or because you think you should lose it because

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<v Speaker 1>everyone says you're supposed to lose it, And like, really

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<v Speaker 1>think about that, because it's such a personal choice. You

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<v Speaker 1>want to make sure you're doing things because you want

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<v Speaker 1>to do That is what we preach on this show.

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<v Speaker 1>So like, I feel like as kind of sex liberators

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<v Speaker 1>and how we talk about women really even having sex

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<v Speaker 1>because you want to have an orgasm or you want

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<v Speaker 1>to enjoy it, and not to have sex because a

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<v Speaker 1>man just wants to have sex with you. I feel

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<v Speaker 1>like the virgins that listen to this show should definitely

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<v Speaker 1>take that bit of advice and really hone in on

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<v Speaker 1>why do you want to lose your virginity and don't

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<v Speaker 1>just go out there looking for anna lose your virginity

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<v Speaker 1>for it. When yeah, when I had like celibate periods,

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<v Speaker 1>I had so many friends just be like you should

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<v Speaker 1>just be having sex and you're going to get cobwebs

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<v Speaker 1>down there, and like no, people really didn't understand, you know.

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<v Speaker 1>And I'm like, I'm fucking liberated, you know, Like I've

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<v Speaker 1>got my little my, you know, sex toy. I've got

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<v Speaker 1>done it in different times of different breakups, for different

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<v Speaker 1>different periods, and I've known other people have done it.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm like, why are you trying to shame me? Why

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<v Speaker 1>are you trying to shame me? Like just the same

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<v Speaker 1>problem as slush shaming and its virgin shaming, So you

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<v Speaker 1>should just like stop with this. People And they want

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<v Speaker 1>to do with their bodies. I like that. I like that.

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<v Speaker 1>So before we get out of here, let our listeners

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<v Speaker 1>know what you have coming up where they can find

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<v Speaker 1>you and all your social media handles and all that

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<v Speaker 1>cool stuff. All right, Well, we have a new season

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<v Speaker 1>of The Sex Said podcast which I host, coming out

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<v Speaker 1>next week I guess like the day day or two

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<v Speaker 1>after this. Wherever you stream podcasts where the sex Said?

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<v Speaker 1>On Instagram where the Sex Said. Our website is the

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<v Speaker 1>sex Said dot com and my personal instagram is Goldilocks.

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<v Speaker 1>G yeah, look for the Blue what's that episode that?

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<v Speaker 1>I love that? I think that's such a good place

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<v Speaker 1>to start. What was that Loue Paget episode? Blue Paget

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<v Speaker 1>does really has really good tips for con Lingus and Flacio,

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<v Speaker 1>and I think so that will work for literally all

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<v Speaker 1>of our listeners. So yeah, it was very listeners for

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<v Speaker 1>the women listen no matter what. How okay, good, no,

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<v Speaker 1>thank you so much coming out. I hope you guys

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<v Speaker 1>all enjoyed this episode. As you guys know, because of

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<v Speaker 1>you guys, we are able to go on tour. We

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<v Speaker 1>have l a we get and I can go laughing

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<v Speaker 1>to get hot school. God, I'm a light enough to

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<v Speaker 1>dig and ship, but I'm not getting I'm scared. Oh

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<v Speaker 1>I'm gonna get high, but I'm probably gonna only get

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<v Speaker 1>high like once day night and then I'm gonna stop

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<v Speaker 1>by Friday because i can't be high on the weekend.

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<v Speaker 1>But staying in the Beverly and let me just tell

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<v Speaker 1>you the first time I'm saying now, I'm not I'm sorry.

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<v Speaker 1>She wants the fans. I'm not just putting what hotel

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<v Speaker 1>I'm staying. It's super bouge. Nobody could get in, right,

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<v Speaker 1>they block it out of it. So wait, because I'm

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<v Speaker 1>staying there last time, like, oh, this is really nice

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<v Speaker 1>and it was Grammy weekend so they did that biggest

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<v Speaker 1>party there and Ship fucking Oprah everybody, right, So I'm

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<v Speaker 1>like wanting to smoke weed, but I don't want to

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<v Speaker 1>be like tacky and all of these times and like

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<v Speaker 1>suits are fucking smoking weed and Ship and I'm like, here,

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<v Speaker 1>I am. I was being ghetto with Ship and I'm like, OK,

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<v Speaker 1>so just say we got like less than ten tickets

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<v Speaker 1>left for our second show. I do want to shout

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<v Speaker 1>out to everyone coming on May twelve on Mother's Day,

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<v Speaker 1>but we we got you know, star set a event

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<v Speaker 1>motherfucker planned out f y'all and motherfucking l a. So

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<v Speaker 1>see you guys at the Hollywood Improv and then sorry

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<v Speaker 1>for you guys, UM in Toronto. Toronto is sold the

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<v Speaker 1>funk out bitch, so that'll be will be there May eighteenth,

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<v Speaker 1>and that will wrap up our tour. Also, once again,

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<v Speaker 1>had another episode of Horrible Decisions by so y'all all like, Elder,

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<v Speaker 1>So when you when you pop your when'd you pop

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<v Speaker 1>your cherry? Wow? Because you know from the South, I'm like,

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<v Speaker 1>I may, I may or may not have been like

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<v Speaker 1>nineteen wow. You know I want you held out longer

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<v Speaker 1>than it really. Yeah, yeah, I can tell you I

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<v Speaker 1>don't love. I don't love. I don't love that. I

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<v Speaker 1>can tell y'all fast. Let me because at one point

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<v Speaker 1>in high school, me and my two female best friends,

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<v Speaker 1>Selma and Janet, we had a like a celebratory pact,

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<v Speaker 1>so we were like, we're not going to have sex

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<v Speaker 1>to eighteen, and that's so we're gonna, like, you know,

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<v Speaker 1>stick to it. And I had a very close sexual

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<v Speaker 1>account or the female kind ones. And that's my questions

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<v Speaker 1>for you. Well, I'm about to answer it. And I

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<v Speaker 1>got there, it looked down at it. It was like

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<v Speaker 1>there's a pack that I made. I can't believe I'm

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<v Speaker 1>seeing this. I was like, there's a pack that I made. Um,

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<v Speaker 1>So I can't do this, but I would love to

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<v Speaker 1>be your friend call me. Didn't she know you were gay? No,

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<v Speaker 1>of course not. I was real like hetero in high school.

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<v Speaker 1>So what she looked like she was? Actually? No, why

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<v Speaker 1>she gotta be white? I don't know. Do I look

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<v Speaker 1>like a white girl type of guy? Oh? My god?

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<v Speaker 1>You know that's why other that's why you got that look. No,

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<v Speaker 1>she was a complete ebony goddess princess. She was a

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<v Speaker 1>little bit darker than you, Like I was about to say,

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<v Speaker 1>like she had to be a lot of that because

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<v Speaker 1>wheezy white. First of all, Mandy, I'm just saying you

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<v Speaker 1>talked about the ebony goddess present did say a little

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<v Speaker 1>bit lot of You just want to say at black

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<v Speaker 1>and Middle Eastern may that's fine. That ain't white. You

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<v Speaker 1>sound sound good, bit sound good just because you said

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<v Speaker 1>your god damn DNA and you probably got somebody else.

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<v Speaker 1>You want to believe that I do that. I can't

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<v Speaker 1>do this one. You want to mean, I don't believe it.

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<v Speaker 1>Like the government has already followed me, and they just

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<v Speaker 1>tell you flies, bro, They just tell you what they want.

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<v Speaker 1>People lie everything. People, Yes, They imagine if you thought

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<v Speaker 1>your daddy was something. You're like, I don't see any

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<v Speaker 1>bit of well you don't I'm part Chinese, so that

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<v Speaker 1>you couldn't wait to say that I am. People say that, No,

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<v Speaker 1>I mean my eyes are a little, a little, However,

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<v Speaker 1>I really am my great grandfa No, my grandfather actually

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<v Speaker 1>was from Canton, China,