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I ain't even gonna hold 40 00:01:58,160 --> 00:02:00,880 Speaker 1: you Monday suppressing as Yeah, they'd be excited when they 41 00:02:00,920 --> 00:02:04,360 Speaker 1: hear our voices. So welcome you'all to another episode of 42 00:02:04,640 --> 00:02:07,840 Speaker 1: Horrible Decisions that the girl, Mandy Be, I'm Wheezy and 43 00:02:07,880 --> 00:02:10,359 Speaker 1: we have a special guest. Can you introduce yourself? Hi, 44 00:02:10,520 --> 00:02:13,440 Speaker 1: I'm Liz Goldwyn and I am the founder of the 45 00:02:13,520 --> 00:02:17,080 Speaker 1: sex Ed. I need to add something behind be because 46 00:02:17,120 --> 00:02:20,760 Speaker 1: I like to have a full name, like dang, just be, 47 00:02:21,160 --> 00:02:24,600 Speaker 1: I'm Liz gold What do I say? I know you 48 00:02:24,680 --> 00:02:27,920 Speaker 1: don't start saying. We're also not we don't have as 49 00:02:27,960 --> 00:02:30,760 Speaker 1: many accolades, so maybe that's why we don't say her name. 50 00:02:31,160 --> 00:02:35,960 Speaker 1: I don't know. I mean, you're accountant. That's pretty much 51 00:02:36,000 --> 00:02:38,799 Speaker 1: our own accolades to the show. Um. So I met 52 00:02:38,840 --> 00:02:41,400 Speaker 1: Liz when I went to a porn pant Porn and 53 00:02:41,400 --> 00:02:43,520 Speaker 1: Pleasure with Eric lest I talked about that all the time, 54 00:02:43,520 --> 00:02:47,079 Speaker 1: and I was like so enamored just seeing like two 55 00:02:47,080 --> 00:02:49,640 Speaker 1: women up there talking about you know, and both of 56 00:02:49,639 --> 00:02:52,400 Speaker 1: you look so poised, and you know, Eric was verry. 57 00:02:52,480 --> 00:02:54,480 Speaker 1: I'm not even gonna hold you. I feel like I 58 00:02:54,480 --> 00:02:58,960 Speaker 1: gotta speak a little during. Basically, what she's saying is 59 00:02:58,960 --> 00:03:02,359 Speaker 1: we're ghetto, you know. I was just like, damn, this 60 00:03:02,400 --> 00:03:04,200 Speaker 1: is so dope. And I knew who Eric LLSS was 61 00:03:04,240 --> 00:03:05,639 Speaker 1: and I never had heard of you before. And then 62 00:03:05,639 --> 00:03:07,400 Speaker 1: when you talked about directing and all the things that 63 00:03:07,440 --> 00:03:09,720 Speaker 1: you've done, and you were just very pro women, and 64 00:03:09,760 --> 00:03:12,720 Speaker 1: I felt like it would be perfect fresh show. Not 65 00:03:12,800 --> 00:03:17,440 Speaker 1: only did she got a blue checkmark, that's right, that's right, 66 00:03:17,840 --> 00:03:21,240 Speaker 1: it is verified. But I listened to one of your 67 00:03:21,240 --> 00:03:22,680 Speaker 1: episodes where I don't know if it was a man 68 00:03:22,720 --> 00:03:25,519 Speaker 1: I wanted teaching blow drop tricks, blue paget, yeah, and 69 00:03:26,320 --> 00:03:30,600 Speaker 1: giving falacio and lingus. Actually, we have yet to do 70 00:03:30,680 --> 00:03:35,040 Speaker 1: a kind of lingus one that's very important. People don't. 71 00:03:35,120 --> 00:03:38,320 Speaker 1: I've actually had people tell me before like that when 72 00:03:38,320 --> 00:03:41,680 Speaker 1: they were teenage boys, they would google how to you know, 73 00:03:41,760 --> 00:03:46,280 Speaker 1: how to give proper, proper head for women. I'm like, well, 74 00:03:46,360 --> 00:03:48,520 Speaker 1: let's see, there's a two hour video of it on 75 00:03:48,560 --> 00:03:52,360 Speaker 1: portn Hub because I looked it up before. Now did 76 00:03:52,360 --> 00:03:55,560 Speaker 1: you want to? I mean, but here's the thing, Like 77 00:03:56,080 --> 00:03:59,920 Speaker 1: doesn't everyone like the same way with men? A lot 78 00:04:00,040 --> 00:04:02,640 Speaker 1: men like to receive head in different ways. There's not 79 00:04:02,680 --> 00:04:05,320 Speaker 1: really one way to perform kind of ling it like give. 80 00:04:05,600 --> 00:04:07,280 Speaker 1: I mean, there's no one way to do any now. 81 00:04:07,320 --> 00:04:10,000 Speaker 1: But it's actually right, right, but we but just like 82 00:04:10,040 --> 00:04:12,920 Speaker 1: there's good job tips like actually sucking or being able 83 00:04:12,960 --> 00:04:15,880 Speaker 1: to twisting motions that there were some good tips in 84 00:04:15,880 --> 00:04:18,560 Speaker 1: there too, especially I think for women. For me, I 85 00:04:18,600 --> 00:04:20,360 Speaker 1: got a laby a massage and I talked about it 86 00:04:20,360 --> 00:04:22,240 Speaker 1: all the time on the show because it was so amazing. 87 00:04:22,520 --> 00:04:24,880 Speaker 1: When I watched the How To Eat Pussy thing, he 88 00:04:25,000 --> 00:04:27,240 Speaker 1: touched the lips a lot, and the things people forget 89 00:04:27,279 --> 00:04:29,280 Speaker 1: to do. They just like either go right on your 90 00:04:29,279 --> 00:04:31,279 Speaker 1: clip or they just start sticking fingers in there and 91 00:04:31,320 --> 00:04:35,159 Speaker 1: there's not like this nice suave movement to it that 92 00:04:35,240 --> 00:04:37,800 Speaker 1: I want. But we can all learn. But it's a 93 00:04:37,839 --> 00:04:41,640 Speaker 1: good video. But that episode, Holy Shit, is one of 94 00:04:41,640 --> 00:04:44,280 Speaker 1: our more popular episodes. I will, I mean it was, 95 00:04:44,480 --> 00:04:46,440 Speaker 1: and you did a very good job asking like so 96 00:04:46,560 --> 00:04:49,719 Speaker 1: exactly how and she, I mean she broke because what 97 00:04:49,760 --> 00:04:51,719 Speaker 1: I liked to do. What the whole concept of what 98 00:04:51,960 --> 00:04:54,360 Speaker 1: we're doing with the sex said is even on our 99 00:04:54,400 --> 00:04:56,760 Speaker 1: site when we have articles like anal sex one oh 100 00:04:56,800 --> 00:04:59,080 Speaker 1: one or orgasm breathing, which I know you want to 101 00:04:59,120 --> 00:05:04,279 Speaker 1: get to our period sex is I try to imagine. 102 00:05:05,880 --> 00:05:08,919 Speaker 1: I mean, now you're getting really happy with it. You 103 00:05:09,040 --> 00:05:12,640 Speaker 1: just said that really proudly, and I'm just like, I mean, 104 00:05:12,680 --> 00:05:15,640 Speaker 1: I love it and I'm always super horny, like right 105 00:05:15,680 --> 00:05:18,000 Speaker 1: before my period when I'm on my period. It's a 106 00:05:18,040 --> 00:05:20,880 Speaker 1: personal thing. But like I like to think that we're 107 00:05:20,880 --> 00:05:24,640 Speaker 1: not talking to people who necessarily have ever done any 108 00:05:24,680 --> 00:05:26,880 Speaker 1: of this before. Like you can't assume that people are 109 00:05:27,080 --> 00:05:29,440 Speaker 1: There's no such thing really as being an expert in sex. 110 00:05:29,480 --> 00:05:31,280 Speaker 1: We're all trying to figure it out. We're all like 111 00:05:31,320 --> 00:05:34,240 Speaker 1: on this evolving learning curve, right, and like what turns 112 00:05:34,240 --> 00:05:36,960 Speaker 1: you on now might be totally different in six months, 113 00:05:37,000 --> 00:05:39,960 Speaker 1: six years. I mean, I hope that I'm super freaky 114 00:05:39,960 --> 00:05:42,200 Speaker 1: when I'm eighty, that I'm doing things that I'm not 115 00:05:42,279 --> 00:05:45,760 Speaker 1: doing now, so you keep I made my mom, Actually, 116 00:05:45,800 --> 00:05:49,719 Speaker 1: my mother edited our anal sex one oh one essay 117 00:05:49,839 --> 00:05:52,200 Speaker 1: and she's like, I don't know what, honey, I've never 118 00:05:52,240 --> 00:05:55,320 Speaker 1: had anal sex. I'm like, that's great, because I want 119 00:05:55,360 --> 00:05:57,560 Speaker 1: this to read like real one oh one in the 120 00:05:57,560 --> 00:05:59,719 Speaker 1: person who wrote it was an expert, and so she 121 00:06:00,000 --> 00:06:01,760 Speaker 1: is me to edit back and she's like, you know, 122 00:06:02,360 --> 00:06:04,560 Speaker 1: you talk about at the end of the article talks 123 00:06:04,600 --> 00:06:07,520 Speaker 1: about poo and does it hurt, and like, I feel 124 00:06:07,560 --> 00:06:09,440 Speaker 1: like you got to mention that right up top, which 125 00:06:09,480 --> 00:06:14,360 Speaker 1: was a great tip. And what's crazy is we were 126 00:06:14,520 --> 00:06:17,080 Speaker 1: just in Miami and that was one of the questions 127 00:06:17,440 --> 00:06:20,159 Speaker 1: a woman like asking how she can go through with 128 00:06:20,200 --> 00:06:23,360 Speaker 1: having anal sex and so we all gave anal sex tips. Um, 129 00:06:23,400 --> 00:06:25,640 Speaker 1: but you keep mentioning the sex ed. I want our 130 00:06:25,680 --> 00:06:28,000 Speaker 1: listeners to know that is the name of your podcast. 131 00:06:28,080 --> 00:06:30,440 Speaker 1: It's it's our it's our podcast, but it's also our 132 00:06:30,440 --> 00:06:32,920 Speaker 1: website is the sex Said dot Com. And we do. 133 00:06:33,200 --> 00:06:35,919 Speaker 1: We have essays written by experts, We do live talks 134 00:06:35,960 --> 00:06:38,320 Speaker 1: and events. I actually bought the domain names in two 135 00:06:38,360 --> 00:06:40,760 Speaker 1: thousand eight. I was gonna say no one else own it. 136 00:06:41,279 --> 00:06:43,280 Speaker 1: I owned the sex Said and I owned the Sex 137 00:06:43,320 --> 00:06:48,760 Speaker 1: Said show dot Com, both of them. Yeah. I've been 138 00:06:48,800 --> 00:06:50,960 Speaker 1: in this game a long time. My first job was 139 00:06:51,000 --> 00:06:53,600 Speaker 1: at Planned Parents Who when I was thirteen, working in 140 00:06:53,600 --> 00:06:57,840 Speaker 1: the clinic, and I answered phones um. And then I 141 00:06:57,880 --> 00:07:01,400 Speaker 1: did peer education, and then I helped organized their media librarys. 142 00:07:01,480 --> 00:07:03,680 Speaker 1: This is like pre Google, so people will come in 143 00:07:03,720 --> 00:07:08,040 Speaker 1: and check out like books and vhs, not even DVDs, 144 00:07:08,040 --> 00:07:11,800 Speaker 1: but vhs and pamphlets. Um. And then I wrote. I 145 00:07:11,840 --> 00:07:15,840 Speaker 1: wrote two books about sexuality, the first one about burlesque 146 00:07:16,000 --> 00:07:17,880 Speaker 1: and the advent of strip tease. We have yet to 147 00:07:17,920 --> 00:07:22,280 Speaker 1: do an episode on that. I want. I mean when 148 00:07:22,280 --> 00:07:24,000 Speaker 1: she when I when I talked to those like what 149 00:07:24,000 --> 00:07:25,840 Speaker 1: what can we talk about? And she mentioned burlesque. I 150 00:07:25,880 --> 00:07:28,960 Speaker 1: just felt like the topic for today's episode is like 151 00:07:29,320 --> 00:07:32,760 Speaker 1: starting over again and just getting back to yourself. And 152 00:07:32,800 --> 00:07:35,160 Speaker 1: I feel like you've lived a lot of life, especially 153 00:07:35,160 --> 00:07:37,840 Speaker 1: to have been married. That's really important even if someone's 154 00:07:37,880 --> 00:07:39,360 Speaker 1: not married right now. But it's just a break up. 155 00:07:39,400 --> 00:07:41,360 Speaker 1: How do I reinvent myself? How do I get back 156 00:07:41,360 --> 00:07:43,920 Speaker 1: out there? The number one question? I feel like after 157 00:07:43,960 --> 00:07:46,160 Speaker 1: their shows, I totally had to do that. I mean 158 00:07:46,200 --> 00:07:48,560 Speaker 1: I met my ex husband when I was eighteen, and 159 00:07:48,640 --> 00:07:51,080 Speaker 1: I really struggled when we got married. I really you know, 160 00:07:51,120 --> 00:07:53,840 Speaker 1: that whole thing like who am I? What's my identity? 161 00:07:54,080 --> 00:07:56,600 Speaker 1: And even though I was like I had a career, 162 00:07:56,640 --> 00:07:58,840 Speaker 1: I had, you know, I was, you know, writing books, 163 00:07:58,840 --> 00:08:01,120 Speaker 1: I had made a film, it's sold it to HBO, 164 00:08:01,440 --> 00:08:03,640 Speaker 1: also on bur lesque, all of a sudden I had 165 00:08:03,640 --> 00:08:05,720 Speaker 1: this fear that like, oh, I'm just going to be 166 00:08:05,760 --> 00:08:07,600 Speaker 1: a wife. Is that what people are going to look 167 00:08:07,640 --> 00:08:09,760 Speaker 1: at me? As as I was young, no one else 168 00:08:09,840 --> 00:08:12,600 Speaker 1: was married, and and you know, we were together for 169 00:08:12,640 --> 00:08:15,600 Speaker 1: thirteen years and you're a very different person from eighteen 170 00:08:15,640 --> 00:08:18,840 Speaker 1: to thirty, and I wife wasn't even anything I knew 171 00:08:18,840 --> 00:08:20,960 Speaker 1: about your identity. I just knew boss witch Li is 172 00:08:21,120 --> 00:08:23,080 Speaker 1: all this list of ship that like when you google 173 00:08:23,160 --> 00:08:25,600 Speaker 1: you that you find and it's crazy that someone like 174 00:08:25,640 --> 00:08:27,680 Speaker 1: you could have thought that. But you know what, it 175 00:08:27,760 --> 00:08:30,119 Speaker 1: made me kind of focus on being a boss bitch 176 00:08:30,240 --> 00:08:33,600 Speaker 1: because I was like not going to bart. I mean, 177 00:08:33,640 --> 00:08:39,560 Speaker 1: I'm at stoner and always have been. So I brought 178 00:08:39,640 --> 00:08:42,200 Speaker 1: my vey, have my vade pen in my bag. Yeah. 179 00:08:42,920 --> 00:08:45,600 Speaker 1: Big On cannabis, we do a lot of cannabis on 180 00:08:45,600 --> 00:08:49,199 Speaker 1: our site, Cannada the neuroscience. Yeah, he's over there being like, yeah, 181 00:08:50,320 --> 00:08:53,079 Speaker 1: neuroscignce my my boyfriend actually is in cannabis too. No, 182 00:08:53,280 --> 00:08:56,920 Speaker 1: but yeah, can neuroscience of cannabis and cannabis and sex 183 00:08:56,920 --> 00:08:59,960 Speaker 1: because first of all, alcohol, we know the science alcohol 184 00:09:00,200 --> 00:09:02,760 Speaker 1: and consent. We don't know the song we do because 185 00:09:02,760 --> 00:09:06,640 Speaker 1: we publish it. We published it. We do. Alcohol is 186 00:09:06,679 --> 00:09:10,000 Speaker 1: definitely like it's much better for your body right to 187 00:09:11,120 --> 00:09:14,040 Speaker 1: use cannabis. And it also when it comes to consent 188 00:09:14,200 --> 00:09:20,160 Speaker 1: and boundaries people, there's a lot more around assault and 189 00:09:20,360 --> 00:09:23,480 Speaker 1: rape with alcohol. And then can't what are you gonna do? 190 00:09:23,720 --> 00:09:26,040 Speaker 1: Like you're gonna get high and you're gonna get tired 191 00:09:26,160 --> 00:09:29,080 Speaker 1: and you know you're gonna eat a snack or I 192 00:09:29,080 --> 00:09:35,320 Speaker 1: can't feel you're not going to get aggressive. Well, I 193 00:09:35,360 --> 00:09:38,880 Speaker 1: had edibles and I actually did it so that my 194 00:09:38,960 --> 00:09:41,679 Speaker 1: mind could be at ease and so that I didn't 195 00:09:41,720 --> 00:09:44,840 Speaker 1: think of all the horsh things I was about to do. 196 00:09:45,280 --> 00:09:48,120 Speaker 1: But but yeah, I actually had like one of my 197 00:09:48,520 --> 00:09:52,640 Speaker 1: male male three male male female threesomes on edibles and 198 00:09:52,880 --> 00:09:56,120 Speaker 1: I was gone, honey, I was in the stars. Like 199 00:09:56,640 --> 00:09:58,839 Speaker 1: he like his friends started well at one point, I 200 00:09:58,840 --> 00:10:02,160 Speaker 1: didn't even know which one I was, but like seriously, 201 00:10:02,520 --> 00:10:06,200 Speaker 1: but like the friend like started making me squirt and 202 00:10:06,240 --> 00:10:09,160 Speaker 1: I was just like whoa, what's going on? Who's doing that? 203 00:10:09,600 --> 00:10:11,599 Speaker 1: And then my guy was like what you're doing? But 204 00:10:11,640 --> 00:10:13,400 Speaker 1: it was feeling good but he didn't really know. But yeah, 205 00:10:14,920 --> 00:10:17,120 Speaker 1: gotta know your dosing. Yeah, well I did. It was 206 00:10:17,160 --> 00:10:21,120 Speaker 1: one gubby bear. I should have had a leg a 207 00:10:21,360 --> 00:10:24,880 Speaker 1: quarter had a quarter in California where I live, Like 208 00:10:24,960 --> 00:10:30,559 Speaker 1: we've got sensories and different. I mean it is That's 209 00:10:30,559 --> 00:10:32,240 Speaker 1: why I don't smoke weed with my West Coast friend 210 00:10:32,280 --> 00:10:34,040 Speaker 1: and they're like, we gotta get you hind and I'm like, I, no, 211 00:10:34,200 --> 00:10:37,640 Speaker 1: you don't. Well we reusally got some icebreakers that we 212 00:10:37,720 --> 00:10:40,120 Speaker 1: like to do with our guests, and this is kind 213 00:10:40,160 --> 00:10:43,360 Speaker 1: of just to open you up, not literally, but just 214 00:10:43,400 --> 00:10:44,880 Speaker 1: to kind of, you know, get you on your little 215 00:10:44,880 --> 00:10:49,040 Speaker 1: horrible decisions vibe. Okay, So first one, I haven't pulled 216 00:10:49,080 --> 00:10:52,080 Speaker 1: up right here. When is the last time you came? 217 00:10:52,480 --> 00:10:55,800 Speaker 1: If solo? What were you watching slash thinking about the 218 00:10:55,880 --> 00:11:02,200 Speaker 1: last time I came this week? Uh? Was it is today? Yeah? 219 00:11:02,320 --> 00:11:07,000 Speaker 1: Like I don't know the day before yesterday, the day 220 00:11:07,000 --> 00:11:09,839 Speaker 1: before yesterday, because I haven't I haven't been like home 221 00:11:09,880 --> 00:11:12,200 Speaker 1: all day. But I really do think like it's great 222 00:11:12,280 --> 00:11:15,440 Speaker 1: to masturbate before like you have a big meeting. I 223 00:11:15,440 --> 00:11:18,040 Speaker 1: mean date for sure, if you're at all. But like 224 00:11:18,520 --> 00:11:21,959 Speaker 1: I think I'm a big believer in orgasm manifesting. Oh 225 00:11:22,000 --> 00:11:25,720 Speaker 1: my god. We had Kristen sal Yeah. She she wrote 226 00:11:25,760 --> 00:11:28,679 Speaker 1: the book which is feminist LS. So we had her 227 00:11:28,720 --> 00:11:31,240 Speaker 1: on and she was like, oh, talking about sex magic 228 00:11:31,360 --> 00:11:33,040 Speaker 1: and she's like, you've got to get some greenery if 229 00:11:33,040 --> 00:11:34,960 Speaker 1: you want money, and think about it. I was like, 230 00:11:35,080 --> 00:11:39,120 Speaker 1: damn you can. Yeah, you can masturbate an orgasm for financials. 231 00:11:39,240 --> 00:11:41,520 Speaker 1: I mean you can visualize a color, you can visualize 232 00:11:41,520 --> 00:11:43,480 Speaker 1: something you want the same way that I don't know 233 00:11:43,520 --> 00:11:47,400 Speaker 1: if you guys do altars at all ever, like burn candles? Yeah, 234 00:11:47,440 --> 00:11:49,280 Speaker 1: like have an altar in your house where you like 235 00:11:49,880 --> 00:11:51,760 Speaker 1: I have a small one. Yeah, maybe you have like 236 00:11:52,000 --> 00:11:54,880 Speaker 1: a picture, you know, whatever it is that you can 237 00:11:54,920 --> 00:11:58,720 Speaker 1: make your own. But yeah, I do think like masturbation 238 00:11:58,840 --> 00:12:01,240 Speaker 1: is really so you didn't before a meeting? What did 239 00:12:01,240 --> 00:12:03,920 Speaker 1: you were you watch? I actually well know that my 240 00:12:04,000 --> 00:12:06,520 Speaker 1: last quarter as I was with my boyfriend. But I 241 00:12:06,559 --> 00:12:09,680 Speaker 1: do think, I do think I do. I am a big, 242 00:12:09,760 --> 00:12:14,600 Speaker 1: big fan of like masturbating before big business meetings. I've 243 00:12:14,600 --> 00:12:17,079 Speaker 1: been doing it before interviews, like since we had her, 244 00:12:17,160 --> 00:12:19,840 Speaker 1: like I've been having small interviews for like little casting things, 245 00:12:20,240 --> 00:12:22,120 Speaker 1: and I just tried to fund myself and think, you know, 246 00:12:22,120 --> 00:12:24,440 Speaker 1: maybe the pheromones are out there, they're like booking me 247 00:12:24,480 --> 00:12:27,240 Speaker 1: for Hoshan anyway. But it relaxed, It relaxes you, and 248 00:12:27,320 --> 00:12:30,280 Speaker 1: I puts you in touch with your own power. So well, 249 00:12:30,320 --> 00:12:33,320 Speaker 1: and I do I masturbate um every time, like I 250 00:12:33,360 --> 00:12:36,719 Speaker 1: go to sleep. But the last time I came was 251 00:12:36,920 --> 00:12:40,760 Speaker 1: hot today there my lunch break, bitch green As was 252 00:12:40,800 --> 00:12:42,199 Speaker 1: up here. You know, I just sucked him in Miami. 253 00:12:42,280 --> 00:12:44,040 Speaker 1: So I felt like he had to like redeem himself 254 00:12:44,040 --> 00:12:46,880 Speaker 1: a little bit. Um. So he hit me and he 255 00:12:46,960 --> 00:12:48,800 Speaker 1: was like, I'm in New York. I say, dick your 256 00:12:48,840 --> 00:12:51,640 Speaker 1: lunch bread. Literally it was amazing. My friend said, I 257 00:12:51,679 --> 00:12:55,360 Speaker 1: was the best hope. Forty minutes, Bro got it to 258 00:12:55,600 --> 00:13:01,040 Speaker 1: him in midtown. But Big came back to motherfucking office 259 00:13:01,440 --> 00:13:03,960 Speaker 1: and our heads time to pick up some motherfucking lunch. 260 00:13:04,200 --> 00:13:07,280 Speaker 1: But it was so well, does anyone else use your computer? No, 261 00:13:07,400 --> 00:13:09,800 Speaker 1: it's my computer with my monitor, thank thank you, But no, 262 00:13:09,920 --> 00:13:12,320 Speaker 1: I did have to, like and my bun almost came 263 00:13:12,320 --> 00:13:14,160 Speaker 1: off because I ain't got bobby pins, so this is 264 00:13:14,200 --> 00:13:16,880 Speaker 1: really like a loose bun. And I had to put 265 00:13:16,920 --> 00:13:18,320 Speaker 1: a bun on today because I thought we was gonna 266 00:13:18,360 --> 00:13:21,480 Speaker 1: have video, but Benson motherfucking as at home. Sorry guys, 267 00:13:21,480 --> 00:13:24,320 Speaker 1: sorry lack of video today. We're gonna, you know, post 268 00:13:24,360 --> 00:13:26,040 Speaker 1: a picture of how cute Whiz is. Yeah, but it 269 00:13:26,080 --> 00:13:29,080 Speaker 1: was great. Um, good for you, yeah he um. He 270 00:13:29,280 --> 00:13:30,840 Speaker 1: let me know he's in town to see a doctor 271 00:13:30,920 --> 00:13:32,319 Speaker 1: or whatever. So it's just like an in and out 272 00:13:32,320 --> 00:13:36,960 Speaker 1: he leaves tonight. No, it's not, you know, he's athletic. Um. 273 00:13:37,480 --> 00:13:40,040 Speaker 1: I'm actually impressed that you managed to fit the lunch 274 00:13:40,080 --> 00:13:42,959 Speaker 1: in too, so I know I'm right like I did 275 00:13:43,080 --> 00:13:45,199 Speaker 1: he I did bring the lunch back to my desk. 276 00:13:45,320 --> 00:13:48,240 Speaker 1: I didn't have no, we didn't have time for this, 277 00:13:48,360 --> 00:13:50,360 Speaker 1: so I literally walked in and so what's crazy is 278 00:13:50,360 --> 00:13:51,600 Speaker 1: we still kind of did to catch up, but you know, 279 00:13:51,640 --> 00:13:53,720 Speaker 1: I just saw him in Miami, so there was not 280 00:13:53,800 --> 00:13:55,360 Speaker 1: much to catch up on. Except when I walked to 281 00:13:55,360 --> 00:13:57,120 Speaker 1: the room, I was like, you ain't gonna pull that 282 00:13:57,120 --> 00:13:59,440 Speaker 1: ship you did in Miami? Are we doing? Bro? He 283 00:13:59,679 --> 00:14:03,000 Speaker 1: like he been, He's been in Miami for the off season, so, bitch, 284 00:14:03,040 --> 00:14:05,520 Speaker 1: we went through three condoms but he didn't come. So 285 00:14:05,559 --> 00:14:07,440 Speaker 1: then he like had me sucking his dick just for 286 00:14:07,480 --> 00:14:09,720 Speaker 1: too long. Bro, I said, sir, I have a live show. 287 00:14:09,760 --> 00:14:12,600 Speaker 1: I need my jaw. And it was just like I'd 288 00:14:12,679 --> 00:14:14,760 Speaker 1: never I haven't sucked dick with an attitude in a 289 00:14:14,840 --> 00:14:19,160 Speaker 1: long as time, bitch, I was. I had the biggest 290 00:14:19,160 --> 00:14:23,360 Speaker 1: attitude sucking. I was like, I was like, Nigga, is 291 00:14:23,360 --> 00:14:25,080 Speaker 1: you gonna come or I ain't gonna keep sucking his 292 00:14:25,120 --> 00:14:27,760 Speaker 1: dick Like I was just angry sucking a dick. So 293 00:14:28,160 --> 00:14:31,240 Speaker 1: I like, as we're walking around the room, I'm like, 294 00:14:31,280 --> 00:14:32,880 Speaker 1: you ain't gonna pull that ship? Did you last time? 295 00:14:32,920 --> 00:14:34,680 Speaker 1: He asked how the show was? So, while we're talking 296 00:14:34,680 --> 00:14:41,600 Speaker 1: after having taking did it was so great? This pretty much? 297 00:14:41,640 --> 00:14:43,640 Speaker 1: And then we laid on the bed, I started sucking 298 00:14:43,680 --> 00:14:45,360 Speaker 1: and he got really hard, and then we sucked and 299 00:14:45,520 --> 00:14:51,000 Speaker 1: I he's he's comparable ton stick. So I come with 300 00:14:51,080 --> 00:14:53,880 Speaker 1: penetration with him like almost every time we So I 301 00:14:53,920 --> 00:14:56,400 Speaker 1: had two orgasms during my lunch break and it was amazing. 302 00:14:56,480 --> 00:14:59,320 Speaker 1: So what about you? You're making me like really horny 303 00:14:59,400 --> 00:15:02,600 Speaker 1: right now. I wonder if that's what would be talking 304 00:15:02,600 --> 00:15:05,160 Speaker 1: about while they be at work. Oh my god, Me 305 00:15:05,200 --> 00:15:07,760 Speaker 1: and Mandy were playing like porn into the fucking mic. 306 00:15:07,760 --> 00:15:09,560 Speaker 1: This girl was like, I couldn't even take it anymore. 307 00:15:09,680 --> 00:15:12,160 Speaker 1: I kind of feel bad, but they choose to listen 308 00:15:12,200 --> 00:15:13,960 Speaker 1: to this at their jobs. It's not our fucking you 309 00:15:14,000 --> 00:15:17,680 Speaker 1: should ride do it on the ride home. So whatever, 310 00:15:18,040 --> 00:15:21,400 Speaker 1: when the last time you? Or I've had so many 311 00:15:21,400 --> 00:15:24,960 Speaker 1: threesomes this past week that um with the same two people. 312 00:15:25,000 --> 00:15:26,880 Speaker 1: By the way, I'll get into that in another show 313 00:15:26,880 --> 00:15:29,840 Speaker 1: because it's definitely a story, but I'm ovulating this week. 314 00:15:29,840 --> 00:15:33,480 Speaker 1: I cannot stop sucking myself, like it's so insane. We're 315 00:15:33,480 --> 00:15:36,160 Speaker 1: all in this group chat right, and everybody's like out 316 00:15:36,240 --> 00:15:38,440 Speaker 1: on their post vacation blues, like we all feel like shit, 317 00:15:38,880 --> 00:15:41,080 Speaker 1: you know what I mean, because we've been together and cuddling, 318 00:15:41,160 --> 00:15:43,920 Speaker 1: and like he's like, damn, I woke up alone and 319 00:15:43,960 --> 00:15:46,520 Speaker 1: like I looked to laugh at listen the right she's alone, 320 00:15:46,960 --> 00:15:49,760 Speaker 1: and so like I can't stop mastering it. Probably three 321 00:15:49,800 --> 00:15:51,800 Speaker 1: times a day. I mean maybe a little bit more. 322 00:15:51,840 --> 00:15:54,120 Speaker 1: I'm not gonna front. But even when I pull up 323 00:15:54,120 --> 00:15:55,600 Speaker 1: the porn, now I look, I have to look up 324 00:15:55,640 --> 00:15:59,280 Speaker 1: passionate threesome and then you you type in passionate bro, 325 00:15:59,400 --> 00:16:04,880 Speaker 1: because I have to imagine what I have emotional passionate threesome. 326 00:16:05,680 --> 00:16:08,320 Speaker 1: An here I go. I just I just want gang bang. 327 00:16:08,880 --> 00:16:11,160 Speaker 1: I normally want gang bang, but I have to emulate. 328 00:16:12,400 --> 00:16:14,640 Speaker 1: So now it's not even good enough. Now I have 329 00:16:14,720 --> 00:16:16,360 Speaker 1: to look at the pictures of both of them and 330 00:16:16,400 --> 00:16:18,480 Speaker 1: the small little videos we made, and I have to 331 00:16:18,520 --> 00:16:20,480 Speaker 1: go think about it and then master me. I can't 332 00:16:20,480 --> 00:16:22,240 Speaker 1: look at porn right now because the sex I had 333 00:16:22,320 --> 00:16:25,240 Speaker 1: was so good, probably the best sex I've ever had, 334 00:16:25,280 --> 00:16:27,920 Speaker 1: that porn doesn't work anymore. So I came with an 335 00:16:27,920 --> 00:16:30,200 Speaker 1: attitude basically, you suck dick with an attitude. I came 336 00:16:30,280 --> 00:16:33,160 Speaker 1: with an attitude. You were probably fine. I don't want. 337 00:16:33,200 --> 00:16:34,680 Speaker 1: I don't want. I mean, I watch a lot of 338 00:16:34,720 --> 00:16:38,160 Speaker 1: porn for work for research, like for a long time, 339 00:16:38,360 --> 00:16:40,640 Speaker 1: so I don't really watch it in my personal life. 340 00:16:40,720 --> 00:16:43,040 Speaker 1: Really can you without it? They don't need it. I 341 00:16:43,040 --> 00:16:45,840 Speaker 1: don't know I need any I can't masturbate it all 342 00:16:45,840 --> 00:16:48,680 Speaker 1: without porn. I'm but I'm visual. I don't think my 343 00:16:48,720 --> 00:16:50,520 Speaker 1: imagination is there all the way. What do you think 344 00:16:50,560 --> 00:16:54,880 Speaker 1: about everything? Anything? I just I guess it's like, you know, 345 00:16:54,960 --> 00:16:57,040 Speaker 1: I have I feel like all day long and looking 346 00:16:57,040 --> 00:16:58,640 Speaker 1: at so much stuff for work that like at a 347 00:16:58,680 --> 00:17:01,080 Speaker 1: certain point I get over sat saturated and I just 348 00:17:01,240 --> 00:17:04,679 Speaker 1: like it's almost like it becomes work. So it's like 349 00:17:04,800 --> 00:17:08,440 Speaker 1: not sexy sexy to me. But like I'll read erotica sometimes, 350 00:17:08,520 --> 00:17:12,119 Speaker 1: or like I don't read. I love. We have a 351 00:17:12,119 --> 00:17:14,600 Speaker 1: whole section on our website. We have a whole bookshelf section. 352 00:17:14,840 --> 00:17:16,840 Speaker 1: Actually it was like all sorts of things, like all 353 00:17:16,840 --> 00:17:21,400 Speaker 1: sorts of books around sex, health, consciousness, erotica. Yeah, I love, big, 354 00:17:21,440 --> 00:17:23,720 Speaker 1: big fan of erotica. Well, speaking of that, we have 355 00:17:23,800 --> 00:17:27,680 Speaker 1: another little game it's called this or That, So yeah, 356 00:17:27,720 --> 00:17:30,720 Speaker 1: this is all for you. So vibrator or your hand. 357 00:17:31,720 --> 00:17:35,399 Speaker 1: I gotta go with a vibrator. Yeah, just because I 358 00:17:35,440 --> 00:17:40,760 Speaker 1: love my lil I love. I'm a big Lielo fanfully, 359 00:17:40,920 --> 00:17:45,840 Speaker 1: so they are very expensive, but I've had only I've 360 00:17:45,840 --> 00:17:50,040 Speaker 1: had too lelos, like only two don't wear out over 361 00:17:50,040 --> 00:17:52,119 Speaker 1: like the last like you have a section couple. The 362 00:17:52,240 --> 00:17:55,520 Speaker 1: last nine years, I gets sent a ton of vibrators 363 00:17:55,560 --> 00:18:00,680 Speaker 1: and those are like my standby of the not I 364 00:18:00,760 --> 00:18:04,040 Speaker 1: was telling us advertising. But also, you know, you gotta 365 00:18:04,080 --> 00:18:06,080 Speaker 1: be really careful. We have another thing on our site 366 00:18:06,119 --> 00:18:08,200 Speaker 1: about sex toy safety because a lot of the sex 367 00:18:08,200 --> 00:18:12,359 Speaker 1: toy companies that they're using like toxic plastics on the 368 00:18:12,520 --> 00:18:16,080 Speaker 1: vibrators and they don't clean, they don't clean. Yeah, I know, 369 00:18:16,200 --> 00:18:20,879 Speaker 1: you gotta be really really careful about what you put Regina. Alright, 370 00:18:20,960 --> 00:18:24,960 Speaker 1: so male male female threesome or female female male threesome. 371 00:18:25,280 --> 00:18:28,240 Speaker 1: You know, I'm really a big fan of homeorotic porn 372 00:18:28,359 --> 00:18:36,720 Speaker 1: actually in the room. Yes, if I'm going to watch porn, 373 00:18:36,760 --> 00:18:39,800 Speaker 1: I probably that's what it gay me. So just Dick's 374 00:18:39,840 --> 00:18:43,040 Speaker 1: galoy like bisexual threesome and that normally comes with that 375 00:18:43,280 --> 00:18:47,200 Speaker 1: is sex. Oh my god, bisexual male milk when it's 376 00:18:47,200 --> 00:18:49,520 Speaker 1: like a sixty nine with a guy and a girl, right, 377 00:18:49,560 --> 00:18:51,119 Speaker 1: and then that guy's sucking her and then like the 378 00:18:51,160 --> 00:18:54,600 Speaker 1: other one sexist dick. Yeah, I really like that too. Well, 379 00:18:54,680 --> 00:18:58,280 Speaker 1: clearly I think I've said that. Okay, So a little 380 00:18:58,280 --> 00:19:04,959 Speaker 1: bit of b DSM, blind foe or handcuffs, I like, um, 381 00:19:05,000 --> 00:19:11,240 Speaker 1: what do I have a blindfold? Um? Like a little 382 00:19:11,280 --> 00:19:14,520 Speaker 1: whip of like a nice little suede whip. I've been 383 00:19:14,560 --> 00:19:17,880 Speaker 1: tied up. I've been tied up professionally too, by one 384 00:19:17,920 --> 00:19:20,119 Speaker 1: of my really close friends who's one of the best 385 00:19:20,280 --> 00:19:22,320 Speaker 1: like mistresses of the ropes in the world. She has 386 00:19:22,359 --> 00:19:27,000 Speaker 1: a salon and parents around, Like, I mean it took hours, yeah, 387 00:19:28,080 --> 00:19:32,240 Speaker 1: elaborate hours to tie you. Yeah, because like it's a 388 00:19:32,280 --> 00:19:35,760 Speaker 1: whole thing. Like no, I mean we did it was 389 00:19:35,800 --> 00:19:37,960 Speaker 1: like in a hotel room. Yeah, and then she put 390 00:19:38,000 --> 00:19:39,720 Speaker 1: me like I wanted to. I really want to do 391 00:19:39,760 --> 00:19:41,320 Speaker 1: it with her to see, like what did I like? 392 00:19:41,359 --> 00:19:43,040 Speaker 1: What do I don't like? Okay, so I don't like 393 00:19:43,119 --> 00:19:46,359 Speaker 1: being hog tied. That wasn't me, Like, yeah, I got 394 00:19:46,400 --> 00:19:49,080 Speaker 1: really claustrophobic. But it was super interesting because she kept 395 00:19:49,080 --> 00:19:52,080 Speaker 1: on saying to me, remember your breathing remember your yoga, 396 00:19:52,240 --> 00:19:55,200 Speaker 1: remember your meditation the whole time, which I hadn't really 397 00:19:55,240 --> 00:19:59,080 Speaker 1: got acted. No, it's really important to like be in 398 00:19:59,160 --> 00:20:01,880 Speaker 1: your body, to really be in your body, get out 399 00:20:01,880 --> 00:20:04,160 Speaker 1: of your head. Yeah yeah, well you can't move, you're 400 00:20:04,200 --> 00:20:07,080 Speaker 1: being confined. And she you know, there's all the knots 401 00:20:07,240 --> 00:20:09,159 Speaker 1: in the back. She's so I'm in this sort of 402 00:20:09,200 --> 00:20:13,879 Speaker 1: elaborate braided corset especially, and everything meets and the small 403 00:20:13,880 --> 00:20:15,680 Speaker 1: on my back and then it's like, you know, a 404 00:20:15,720 --> 00:20:18,080 Speaker 1: long cord and she's holding it. And at the end 405 00:20:18,200 --> 00:20:20,600 Speaker 1: of what was probably like four hours, she was like, 406 00:20:20,640 --> 00:20:21,960 Speaker 1: I was like, okay, I need to get out of 407 00:20:22,000 --> 00:20:23,760 Speaker 1: this now. And she was like, well, let me just 408 00:20:23,800 --> 00:20:26,040 Speaker 1: do one thing with you. And you know that game 409 00:20:26,040 --> 00:20:30,760 Speaker 1: when your kid trust forwards. She was like to fall forwards. 410 00:20:31,040 --> 00:20:34,000 Speaker 1: So I fell forwards, but she's holding me, so I 411 00:20:34,160 --> 00:20:36,159 Speaker 1: you know, I'm suspended, like just above the ground. And 412 00:20:36,160 --> 00:20:39,640 Speaker 1: it was such a like I felt so safe. I felt. 413 00:20:39,640 --> 00:20:41,920 Speaker 1: And she works a lot with women, especially who are 414 00:20:42,000 --> 00:20:45,040 Speaker 1: dealing with like reclaiming their bodies or sexual assault, and 415 00:20:46,240 --> 00:20:48,000 Speaker 1: I was like, it was like, you know how sometimes 416 00:20:48,040 --> 00:20:50,639 Speaker 1: you need to walk into someone else's shoes to understand. 417 00:20:50,880 --> 00:20:52,520 Speaker 1: I really needed to do that to be like, oh, 418 00:20:52,560 --> 00:20:55,160 Speaker 1: I totally get it. Of course, I feel so protected 419 00:20:55,200 --> 00:20:58,760 Speaker 1: and safe and like in your signed and you feel like, yeah, 420 00:20:58,840 --> 00:21:01,280 Speaker 1: I feel like I felt us. Imagine if someone took 421 00:21:01,320 --> 00:21:05,000 Speaker 1: hours in you and you're like, oh, I get it, 422 00:21:05,040 --> 00:21:07,280 Speaker 1: and then yeah, and then you have ghost ropes. I 423 00:21:07,359 --> 00:21:10,399 Speaker 1: definitely feel like you have like ghost yeah, but no, 424 00:21:10,480 --> 00:21:13,320 Speaker 1: also you just feel you feel like you feel like 425 00:21:13,359 --> 00:21:15,400 Speaker 1: you haven't an episode on Bondage. I got a guy 426 00:21:15,560 --> 00:21:17,639 Speaker 1: never trying to get thought about that, we gotta do it. 427 00:21:17,640 --> 00:21:20,280 Speaker 1: I never thought about that either. Just you finally get 428 00:21:20,280 --> 00:21:22,360 Speaker 1: it off after hours, you can still feel it. That's 429 00:21:22,400 --> 00:21:24,680 Speaker 1: like when I wear a wig. I'm gonna say, that's 430 00:21:24,760 --> 00:21:27,040 Speaker 1: like how when like I get fun real good and 431 00:21:27,119 --> 00:21:28,879 Speaker 1: like my stomach, I still feel like the dick in 432 00:21:28,960 --> 00:21:33,120 Speaker 1: my stomach. That's how I was when on my lunchbreak. 433 00:21:33,119 --> 00:21:38,000 Speaker 1: But that's how I love that. And then you went 434 00:21:38,040 --> 00:21:44,440 Speaker 1: back to your spreadsheet, read those legs and that excel. Well, 435 00:21:44,480 --> 00:21:48,320 Speaker 1: I'm really happy. So every episode we have this segment 436 00:21:48,400 --> 00:21:50,760 Speaker 1: called Vanilla Ship, and bitch, this is a good one. 437 00:21:50,760 --> 00:21:52,480 Speaker 1: I don't even gonna hold you. I just read the title. 438 00:21:53,400 --> 00:21:57,479 Speaker 1: So the title for this week's Vanilla Ship is sex 439 00:21:57,600 --> 00:22:01,159 Speaker 1: on first date that is important if you a serious relationship. 440 00:22:01,680 --> 00:22:05,200 Speaker 1: I slept with my ex husband on the first day 441 00:22:05,280 --> 00:22:12,439 Speaker 1: all of my boyfriends my boyfriendst UK article Yes so 442 00:22:12,480 --> 00:22:15,880 Speaker 1: it's from mirror Um dot c O dot UK. Elicit 443 00:22:15,920 --> 00:22:19,040 Speaker 1: Encounters dot com, the UK's leading dating site for married people, 444 00:22:19,040 --> 00:22:22,520 Speaker 1: has shared its staggering research into sex on first dates. 445 00:22:22,800 --> 00:22:25,120 Speaker 1: If you want a serious relationship, sex on the first date, 446 00:22:25,119 --> 00:22:27,840 Speaker 1: It's crucial. According to new research, more than a third 447 00:22:27,840 --> 00:22:30,400 Speaker 1: of men found love after sleeping with their partner on 448 00:22:30,560 --> 00:22:33,440 Speaker 1: the first day, more than the third and more than 449 00:22:34,200 --> 00:22:41,240 Speaker 1: accountant more than a third, no, one third more than 450 00:22:41,320 --> 00:22:50,439 Speaker 1: it ship. It is whole like three sex and she 451 00:22:50,440 --> 00:22:54,040 Speaker 1: can do your talk um. Fifties six percent of women 452 00:22:54,119 --> 00:22:56,160 Speaker 1: have had sex with their partner after the first date. 453 00:22:56,240 --> 00:22:59,240 Speaker 1: The study highlights it has led to a proper relationship 454 00:22:59,280 --> 00:23:02,639 Speaker 1: for thirty six percent of women and of men. But 455 00:23:02,720 --> 00:23:05,600 Speaker 1: women are slightly more weary than men of partners who 456 00:23:05,600 --> 00:23:08,200 Speaker 1: want to jump into bed straight away. One in six 457 00:23:08,240 --> 00:23:11,320 Speaker 1: women you want to do that? No, I'm not gonna that. 458 00:23:13,560 --> 00:23:15,879 Speaker 1: They would think less of someone if they had sex 459 00:23:15,920 --> 00:23:18,800 Speaker 1: on the first night, compared to eleven percent of men, 460 00:23:19,000 --> 00:23:22,040 Speaker 1: which is crazy because I think men definitely care more 461 00:23:22,119 --> 00:23:23,640 Speaker 1: if you have sex with them on the first night. 462 00:23:23,720 --> 00:23:26,600 Speaker 1: So these these are um for you guys wanting to know. 463 00:23:26,640 --> 00:23:29,160 Speaker 1: More than two thousand people were surveyed for this research. 464 00:23:29,359 --> 00:23:32,600 Speaker 1: I was about to ask that I was about people. 465 00:23:32,920 --> 00:23:34,840 Speaker 1: I started reading I don't want to read it, and 466 00:23:34,960 --> 00:23:37,280 Speaker 1: when my old co workers gave it to me, farah 467 00:23:37,400 --> 00:23:39,080 Speaker 1: why men love bitches? And I was like, oh, this 468 00:23:40,440 --> 00:23:44,720 Speaker 1: but it has so many like old ideals in there 469 00:23:44,760 --> 00:23:48,080 Speaker 1: that I found two game playing. There's a section on 470 00:23:48,119 --> 00:23:51,240 Speaker 1: this book about making a man waiting is like going 471 00:23:51,320 --> 00:23:54,120 Speaker 1: to grow his rest Steve Harvey, like growing that respect 472 00:23:54,160 --> 00:23:57,040 Speaker 1: for you, and like the timeline of it, and like 473 00:23:57,119 --> 00:23:58,960 Speaker 1: when you say no for the first time, make sure 474 00:23:58,960 --> 00:24:01,679 Speaker 1: it's when they really wanted. And I was like, a 475 00:24:01,760 --> 00:24:04,320 Speaker 1: part of me feels like this is really asinine because 476 00:24:05,480 --> 00:24:08,040 Speaker 1: I don't know. I think it's old fashioned. And also, 477 00:24:08,160 --> 00:24:09,879 Speaker 1: don't you want to know what the sex is like, 478 00:24:09,960 --> 00:24:13,560 Speaker 1: because if it's bad, it's bad, then like, damn, you're 479 00:24:13,560 --> 00:24:17,960 Speaker 1: a great person. Now you're so nice. This is why 480 00:24:18,040 --> 00:24:20,320 Speaker 1: people fuck the poor boy because they waited too long 481 00:24:20,400 --> 00:24:24,640 Speaker 1: where they already loved you. No, I can't be me like, yeah, see, well, 482 00:24:24,680 --> 00:24:27,479 Speaker 1: I think it's also important that that is for maybe 483 00:24:27,600 --> 00:24:30,440 Speaker 1: women like us or a lot of our women listeners, 484 00:24:30,640 --> 00:24:33,400 Speaker 1: where sex is an important factor for them. I've met 485 00:24:33,440 --> 00:24:35,360 Speaker 1: so many people like and I've even had friends where 486 00:24:35,400 --> 00:24:37,439 Speaker 1: they don't understand how I can fox so much, or 487 00:24:37,640 --> 00:24:39,560 Speaker 1: how casual sex happens with me, or how I can 488 00:24:39,600 --> 00:24:41,560 Speaker 1: have sex with someone that I'm not even emotionally tied 489 00:24:41,600 --> 00:24:44,200 Speaker 1: to like stuff like that. But it's because I genuinely 490 00:24:44,320 --> 00:24:48,240 Speaker 1: like sex. So I think for maybe those individuals where 491 00:24:48,280 --> 00:24:50,600 Speaker 1: they can be with someone and have bad sex at 492 00:24:50,600 --> 00:24:53,399 Speaker 1: the same time, maybe having sex on the first night 493 00:24:53,400 --> 00:24:55,520 Speaker 1: doesn't matter to them as much as the would us. 494 00:24:56,119 --> 00:24:58,200 Speaker 1: But you know, I'm like very I have a high 495 00:24:58,240 --> 00:25:01,000 Speaker 1: sex drive, but I actually am we're careful, like I've 496 00:25:01,040 --> 00:25:04,520 Speaker 1: I've been in an anogamous relationship, I was an anogamous marriage, 497 00:25:04,520 --> 00:25:08,760 Speaker 1: and I'm I'm very careful about energy, right, Like if 498 00:25:08,840 --> 00:25:11,320 Speaker 1: I make people take off their shoes before they come 499 00:25:11,320 --> 00:25:14,800 Speaker 1: into my house because not because of dirt, because of 500 00:25:14,840 --> 00:25:17,879 Speaker 1: the energy that you're bringing in from from the street. Right. 501 00:25:17,960 --> 00:25:20,960 Speaker 1: So if I am that crazy about shoes, like, I'm 502 00:25:21,040 --> 00:25:23,920 Speaker 1: being even crazier about anything penetrating me. So I take 503 00:25:24,160 --> 00:25:26,639 Speaker 1: a few dates until I find find that we're on 504 00:25:26,680 --> 00:25:29,240 Speaker 1: the same synergy and we have that connection together, and 505 00:25:29,240 --> 00:25:31,320 Speaker 1: if we don't, I don't think I know at the 506 00:25:31,320 --> 00:25:33,800 Speaker 1: first date. All the time I can, but I'm not sure. 507 00:25:34,240 --> 00:25:37,760 Speaker 1: And I think it's because I'm so like outgoing or 508 00:25:37,800 --> 00:25:40,560 Speaker 1: like so extroverted that I could like anybody. That's why 509 00:25:40,560 --> 00:25:42,160 Speaker 1: it takes me a few dates to see if we're 510 00:25:42,200 --> 00:25:44,199 Speaker 1: really really don't you usually like And I think we 511 00:25:44,240 --> 00:25:47,320 Speaker 1: often ignore this, especially women. We have a gut intuition 512 00:25:47,480 --> 00:25:50,199 Speaker 1: about things or people, right, don't you immediately sort of 513 00:25:50,200 --> 00:25:54,000 Speaker 1: feel something if something's off, feel it in your gut, 514 00:25:54,440 --> 00:25:56,879 Speaker 1: and you know, we are taught to ignore that feeling 515 00:25:57,080 --> 00:26:00,199 Speaker 1: like we're you know, we even like if they if 516 00:26:00,200 --> 00:26:04,359 Speaker 1: they pull people who are serial rapists or Cereal Coast. 517 00:26:04,400 --> 00:26:06,639 Speaker 1: When you when you when people you know to the 518 00:26:06,760 --> 00:26:09,919 Speaker 1: victim profiling, they always say, well, there was something in 519 00:26:09,960 --> 00:26:12,160 Speaker 1: my head that told me it was weird, but egg nortics, 520 00:26:12,160 --> 00:26:14,679 Speaker 1: I didn't want to be rude. I didn't want to 521 00:26:14,680 --> 00:26:17,399 Speaker 1: be rude. I didn't want to be impolite. But usually 522 00:26:17,440 --> 00:26:22,120 Speaker 1: you kind of know instinctually things about people like absolutely energetically, 523 00:26:22,440 --> 00:26:24,120 Speaker 1: So I go by that. It's only been a couple 524 00:26:24,160 --> 00:26:30,639 Speaker 1: of times of the first date. But yeah, they dig energy. 525 00:26:30,720 --> 00:26:35,880 Speaker 1: I'm feeling it. They your you know, well, I don't 526 00:26:35,880 --> 00:26:37,920 Speaker 1: know if I want a big vagina, Why don't you 527 00:26:37,960 --> 00:26:43,119 Speaker 1: want big vagina energy TV type vagina energy tight? I 528 00:26:43,160 --> 00:26:47,199 Speaker 1: can't have a type vagina I mean big vagina energy. 529 00:26:47,320 --> 00:26:52,240 Speaker 1: I didn't necessarily I was like, yeah, well, yeah that too. 530 00:26:52,320 --> 00:26:55,119 Speaker 1: I don't know. We go sex in the City episode 531 00:26:55,359 --> 00:26:57,399 Speaker 1: when she told the doctor she's like, your penis is 532 00:26:57,440 --> 00:26:58,720 Speaker 1: just too small. He was like, did you ever think 533 00:26:58,720 --> 00:27:04,320 Speaker 1: your vagina was too big? Yeah? Now I'm really big 534 00:27:04,400 --> 00:27:07,560 Speaker 1: on on energy. So it's it's weird though, like because 535 00:27:07,960 --> 00:27:09,840 Speaker 1: I don't know what dating which I don't even know 536 00:27:09,920 --> 00:27:13,359 Speaker 1: what how what dating is now, especially with doing either 537 00:27:14,000 --> 00:27:17,000 Speaker 1: the profiles or I'm I am revisiting a lot of 538 00:27:17,080 --> 00:27:20,920 Speaker 1: past relationships and seeing if because we're in different spaces now, 539 00:27:21,040 --> 00:27:22,960 Speaker 1: if maybe the time is right for us to build 540 00:27:23,320 --> 00:27:27,160 Speaker 1: moving forward. So I mean with me and those are people, 541 00:27:27,359 --> 00:27:29,159 Speaker 1: A lot of those people are people that I've slept with, 542 00:27:29,280 --> 00:27:31,560 Speaker 1: like on the first night. I know that my last 543 00:27:31,560 --> 00:27:33,679 Speaker 1: boyfriend I slept with on the first night and I 544 00:27:33,720 --> 00:27:35,720 Speaker 1: was talking to his brother first and it still worked out. 545 00:27:35,800 --> 00:27:38,800 Speaker 1: So I feel like with past relationships, the only reason 546 00:27:38,880 --> 00:27:41,720 Speaker 1: I can't jump back in them is because I sometimes 547 00:27:41,760 --> 00:27:44,840 Speaker 1: harbor those same feelings like maybe I'll get over that moment, 548 00:27:44,880 --> 00:27:47,359 Speaker 1: but it's like you still did that to me, Like 549 00:27:47,400 --> 00:27:48,840 Speaker 1: am I going to ever be able to get over it? 550 00:27:49,520 --> 00:27:52,919 Speaker 1: I feel like new relationships it's a clean slate, like 551 00:27:53,000 --> 00:27:55,240 Speaker 1: I'm not the person where you have to earn my trust. 552 00:27:55,400 --> 00:27:57,800 Speaker 1: I'm that person that you start here and then you 553 00:27:57,840 --> 00:28:01,280 Speaker 1: can lose it, like where some people you need to 554 00:28:01,320 --> 00:28:02,960 Speaker 1: build it up, like they don't trust you at all 555 00:28:03,000 --> 00:28:06,040 Speaker 1: and it takes time. Okay, So I'm the opposite. So 556 00:28:06,119 --> 00:28:08,800 Speaker 1: that's why if I've already lost it, it's like I'm 557 00:28:09,320 --> 00:28:13,520 Speaker 1: getting Yeah, it's hard. They say that women take like 558 00:28:13,600 --> 00:28:16,520 Speaker 1: an oven take a while to heat up, but once 559 00:28:16,640 --> 00:28:19,560 Speaker 1: we're off, that should have shut down. I believe that 560 00:28:19,680 --> 00:28:22,080 Speaker 1: ship it's see and I guess it's just weird for 561 00:28:22,119 --> 00:28:27,080 Speaker 1: me because with friendships with sexual partners, with past relationships, 562 00:28:27,119 --> 00:28:31,200 Speaker 1: like I don't really end badly with many people like 563 00:28:31,520 --> 00:28:34,840 Speaker 1: all to end bad, but I mean we just lose 564 00:28:35,200 --> 00:28:39,840 Speaker 1: connect like you know, lose us talking or I have 565 00:28:39,920 --> 00:28:42,320 Speaker 1: a lot going on so now we stopped talking, or 566 00:28:42,360 --> 00:28:44,680 Speaker 1: maybe they get into something like, I don't know. I 567 00:28:44,680 --> 00:28:47,040 Speaker 1: feel like we've just always pulled away because of what 568 00:28:47,080 --> 00:28:48,760 Speaker 1: we both have going on in our lives, and then 569 00:28:49,000 --> 00:28:51,320 Speaker 1: later we find ourselves in each other's dance again, I 570 00:28:51,360 --> 00:28:55,160 Speaker 1: mean each other's You have the eyes. This girl on 571 00:28:55,200 --> 00:28:57,080 Speaker 1: our show the last show we had, she was like, 572 00:28:57,200 --> 00:28:58,640 Speaker 1: what do I do if I'm like I broke up 573 00:28:58,640 --> 00:29:00,200 Speaker 1: with my boyfriend. I'm trying to bring all my old 574 00:29:00,240 --> 00:29:01,880 Speaker 1: holds back? Like, what do I do? Man? He was like, 575 00:29:02,280 --> 00:29:06,160 Speaker 1: just send the eyes, just next questions. I felt so 576 00:29:06,200 --> 00:29:09,400 Speaker 1: bad that girls like, okay, it does swear it works. 577 00:29:09,400 --> 00:29:11,880 Speaker 1: They see them eyes, they know what's up. I don't know. 578 00:29:11,920 --> 00:29:13,760 Speaker 1: A new picture of my braids and someone sent me 579 00:29:13,760 --> 00:29:15,640 Speaker 1: the eyes and I was like, they look like mine 580 00:29:15,640 --> 00:29:17,320 Speaker 1: from the d C show. That's cool. I feel like 581 00:29:17,320 --> 00:29:19,840 Speaker 1: I inspired you their box braids. Well, I'm just saying 582 00:29:19,960 --> 00:29:25,480 Speaker 1: they're not trying O braids relaxed anyway. He literally sent 583 00:29:25,560 --> 00:29:27,080 Speaker 1: me the eyes. This guy used to funk and I 584 00:29:27,160 --> 00:29:31,400 Speaker 1: wrote back in all caps, No, what's kick in the Week? 585 00:29:31,400 --> 00:29:33,360 Speaker 1: Starry King in the Week? For you listeners that may 586 00:29:33,360 --> 00:29:35,840 Speaker 1: have never listened, or Liz, if you're not sure what 587 00:29:35,880 --> 00:29:39,400 Speaker 1: it is, our kink is this basically big word that week. 588 00:29:39,480 --> 00:29:43,080 Speaker 1: This wuldn't even be big hole. No, I know how 589 00:29:43,120 --> 00:29:45,440 Speaker 1: to say this one. But it's also because that's right. 590 00:29:45,560 --> 00:29:47,600 Speaker 1: This is only the first episode we're recording, so this 591 00:29:47,640 --> 00:29:49,400 Speaker 1: is the problem. I mess up words all the time, 592 00:29:49,400 --> 00:29:51,240 Speaker 1: but it's because I'm tired, and I used that we 593 00:29:51,360 --> 00:29:53,800 Speaker 1: record after I do a long day of work on 594 00:29:53,840 --> 00:29:57,520 Speaker 1: spreadsheet and counting and apparently dick sucking during my LUs break. Um. 595 00:29:57,520 --> 00:29:59,520 Speaker 1: So the kick of the week for this week is 596 00:30:00,040 --> 00:30:03,720 Speaker 1: this is so you would pick this, um, it's high 597 00:30:03,760 --> 00:30:07,480 Speaker 1: growth filia. Do you want to guess what high grophilia means? 598 00:30:07,480 --> 00:30:10,480 Speaker 1: Because you're smart? High growth felia? I was. I mean, 599 00:30:10,520 --> 00:30:13,960 Speaker 1: immediately my mind goes to weed and hydroponics, So I'm 600 00:30:13,960 --> 00:30:19,360 Speaker 1: gonna I don't know this guy. But this is also 601 00:30:19,480 --> 00:30:22,160 Speaker 1: known as the liquid fetish. And no, guys, this is 602 00:30:22,160 --> 00:30:25,680 Speaker 1: not where Weezy wants to be drowned. Um. If I 603 00:30:25,880 --> 00:30:28,200 Speaker 1: said one time that I thought it would be hot 604 00:30:28,240 --> 00:30:30,520 Speaker 1: if a guy maybe put my face in water a 605 00:30:30,600 --> 00:30:32,880 Speaker 1: little bit, and now this bitch tells the whole world 606 00:30:33,640 --> 00:30:36,760 Speaker 1: TV that I want to be fucking drowned. So this 607 00:30:36,840 --> 00:30:39,080 Speaker 1: is actually funny because and I want to know if 608 00:30:39,080 --> 00:30:41,840 Speaker 1: you have any stories about this, but um, this fetish 609 00:30:42,040 --> 00:30:44,320 Speaker 1: is if you would rather avoid the wet spot on 610 00:30:44,360 --> 00:30:47,440 Speaker 1: the bed, then this kink probably isn't for you. Mess 611 00:30:47,560 --> 00:30:51,520 Speaker 1: fetish this enjoy the mess created by sexual fluids, both 612 00:30:51,600 --> 00:30:54,560 Speaker 1: male and female fluid. They may use the fluids as 613 00:30:54,640 --> 00:30:58,000 Speaker 1: loops to drink, to paint on their partners bodies, or 614 00:30:58,080 --> 00:31:01,800 Speaker 1: passing it back and forth orally or snowballing. Um. I 615 00:31:01,800 --> 00:31:03,760 Speaker 1: guess another part of this would be like people who 616 00:31:03,800 --> 00:31:06,160 Speaker 1: like to actually after they have sex and the sheets 617 00:31:06,200 --> 00:31:09,440 Speaker 1: are all wet, they like to lay on the moist 618 00:31:09,560 --> 00:31:14,000 Speaker 1: or wet sheets that it can't be avoided. Right, Sometimes 619 00:31:14,000 --> 00:31:20,960 Speaker 1: you're just like some bedsheet pulp. I mean I have 620 00:31:21,000 --> 00:31:23,640 Speaker 1: to write that down at the episode. Well, I know 621 00:31:23,760 --> 00:31:25,960 Speaker 1: you like me and like liquids. Oh, you know, like 622 00:31:26,000 --> 00:31:28,720 Speaker 1: a boo cocky horr. Not that I've done it. See 623 00:31:28,760 --> 00:31:30,880 Speaker 1: that sounded real, King Shamy, I'm like, I do it, 624 00:31:30,920 --> 00:31:33,960 Speaker 1: but I'm like obsessed. I'm a fucking calm horror. I 625 00:31:34,000 --> 00:31:35,880 Speaker 1: love that ship. A matter of fact, I'm gonna just 626 00:31:35,920 --> 00:31:37,840 Speaker 1: tell you guys before because I know we didn't do 627 00:31:37,840 --> 00:31:41,120 Speaker 1: the threesome episode yet, so they were fucking missionary, right, 628 00:31:41,480 --> 00:31:42,840 Speaker 1: and I was sitting on her face and me and 629 00:31:42,960 --> 00:31:45,280 Speaker 1: him are making out, and I fucking came right because 630 00:31:45,280 --> 00:31:47,959 Speaker 1: I'm like watching them, and I guess he came watching 631 00:31:48,000 --> 00:31:50,640 Speaker 1: me so right. When he did, he like takes my 632 00:31:50,680 --> 00:31:55,160 Speaker 1: hair and like made me get it. I'm so fucking 633 00:31:55,400 --> 00:31:57,040 Speaker 1: it was like real, this is why I can't masturbate 634 00:31:57,080 --> 00:31:58,880 Speaker 1: to any other porn now, but like my own thoughts 635 00:31:59,360 --> 00:32:01,080 Speaker 1: then I had to get it, and like my mouth 636 00:32:01,160 --> 00:32:03,680 Speaker 1: was it was like dripping all over me. Bro. It 637 00:32:03,800 --> 00:32:05,880 Speaker 1: was so fucking good in her. And I have been 638 00:32:05,880 --> 00:32:08,440 Speaker 1: sucking for years, right, him and I just started sucking 639 00:32:08,480 --> 00:32:11,200 Speaker 1: like last six months, and you know, I've been sucking 640 00:32:11,240 --> 00:32:13,200 Speaker 1: her for so long and she has I've never seen 641 00:32:13,200 --> 00:32:14,840 Speaker 1: her with a guy. She's never seen me with a guy. 642 00:32:15,120 --> 00:32:16,640 Speaker 1: And I'm like, oh, can I like pass it back 643 00:32:16,640 --> 00:32:18,440 Speaker 1: and forth? It's like so much because we've never talked 644 00:32:18,480 --> 00:32:21,280 Speaker 1: about it. Y'all did all of this without having We 645 00:32:21,480 --> 00:32:24,960 Speaker 1: talked all the time about having these conversations about her 646 00:32:25,080 --> 00:32:28,040 Speaker 1: and I didn't talk about one moment. We had an 647 00:32:28,200 --> 00:32:31,080 Speaker 1: entire threesome episode. Wheezy, I need you to practice with 648 00:32:31,160 --> 00:32:34,640 Speaker 1: the funk you preach. Because we talked about having conversations 649 00:32:34,680 --> 00:32:38,200 Speaker 1: and guidelines and this is what we talked about. I 650 00:32:38,240 --> 00:32:40,440 Speaker 1: sent to the long text. I was like, everybody put 651 00:32:40,440 --> 00:32:43,680 Speaker 1: your thumbs up, her thumbs down in the group chat, blindfold, handcuffs, banking, 652 00:32:43,720 --> 00:32:46,720 Speaker 1: spitting um, all kinds of ship like that. I said, 653 00:32:46,760 --> 00:32:49,080 Speaker 1: spit or swallow. She was like, I don't like spitting it. 654 00:32:49,200 --> 00:32:53,600 Speaker 1: I'll only swallow. I was like, okay, like text, yeah, 655 00:32:53,600 --> 00:32:56,400 Speaker 1: like we're both groups like going back and front millennials. 656 00:32:56,640 --> 00:32:59,719 Speaker 1: It was fun actually, so we all live in different places, 657 00:32:59,760 --> 00:33:01,440 Speaker 1: so you know, they would send their thumbs up and 658 00:33:01,440 --> 00:33:04,040 Speaker 1: make a new suggestion and like, I really enjoyed doing it, 659 00:33:04,080 --> 00:33:09,239 Speaker 1: but this is not possible for you that right, So 660 00:33:09,320 --> 00:33:11,120 Speaker 1: the only thing I guess I forgot to say is 661 00:33:11,160 --> 00:33:13,280 Speaker 1: like come swapping. It just didn't come to my mind. 662 00:33:13,800 --> 00:33:15,000 Speaker 1: So right when it was in my mouth and it 663 00:33:15,000 --> 00:33:20,200 Speaker 1: was kind of full, I was like ribble and then 664 00:33:20,240 --> 00:33:22,400 Speaker 1: they started talking to each other, but hot it. I 665 00:33:22,280 --> 00:33:23,920 Speaker 1: was like, okay, so's I guess that window is gone. 666 00:33:23,960 --> 00:33:25,640 Speaker 1: I'll just swallow it. But it was my mouth for 667 00:33:25,680 --> 00:33:27,440 Speaker 1: like a good forty five seconds. But I was just 668 00:33:27,480 --> 00:33:30,080 Speaker 1: kind of sitting there like looking like a fish. But 669 00:33:30,120 --> 00:33:32,960 Speaker 1: you know, whatever, I'll take it. So I only picked 670 00:33:32,960 --> 00:33:35,440 Speaker 1: this like with fetish because when I was watching boot 671 00:33:35,480 --> 00:33:38,600 Speaker 1: Cockey recently, I like love looking it up. I found 672 00:33:38,600 --> 00:33:40,880 Speaker 1: like the fake boot Cockey. Have you ever seen this? 673 00:33:42,240 --> 00:33:45,800 Speaker 1: It's so disgusting. It's like basically these huge tubes of 674 00:33:45,960 --> 00:33:48,360 Speaker 1: like come and it like looks super fake and it's 675 00:33:48,400 --> 00:33:51,160 Speaker 1: just like white and gooey. It looks like slime from Nickelodeon, 676 00:33:51,200 --> 00:33:53,600 Speaker 1: but white. And the girls are like their eyes are 677 00:33:53,600 --> 00:33:55,720 Speaker 1: covered in it and they're like rolling all over the ground. 678 00:33:55,720 --> 00:33:58,160 Speaker 1: There's like tarp on the floor. And I was like, yo, 679 00:33:58,360 --> 00:34:01,400 Speaker 1: like this is just not fun. Get there. I don't 680 00:34:01,440 --> 00:34:04,360 Speaker 1: want I don't want to tell you you don't want 681 00:34:04,360 --> 00:34:07,600 Speaker 1: to see her search history, but people in the comments 682 00:34:07,640 --> 00:34:09,520 Speaker 1: because every time I look at something weird, I'm like, 683 00:34:09,520 --> 00:34:10,960 Speaker 1: I gotta see what people think of this ship. And 684 00:34:10,960 --> 00:34:13,440 Speaker 1: they're so fucking into it. They're like fucking drown me 685 00:34:13,480 --> 00:34:17,120 Speaker 1: and come and like that whole drowning income thing is 686 00:34:17,120 --> 00:34:19,680 Speaker 1: how you get there? Okay, I guess. I mean it's 687 00:34:19,680 --> 00:34:25,560 Speaker 1: gonna be a beauty product pretty soon. Yeah. There's already 688 00:34:25,560 --> 00:34:28,360 Speaker 1: like beauty products that are like your own blood. You know, 689 00:34:28,400 --> 00:34:31,280 Speaker 1: they have all the vampire Rihanna has the lip glass, 690 00:34:31,280 --> 00:34:34,200 Speaker 1: diamond milk and looks like m Yeah, sparkly cub I 691 00:34:34,239 --> 00:34:37,839 Speaker 1: think I think that's going to be the next big thing. Well, 692 00:34:37,840 --> 00:34:42,200 Speaker 1: they do have and hair products. Yeah, okay, so semans 693 00:34:42,200 --> 00:34:46,359 Speaker 1: for facials for sure. But if I that, I mean 694 00:34:46,560 --> 00:34:49,600 Speaker 1: for mask you put you like so you'll just like 695 00:34:49,680 --> 00:34:52,799 Speaker 1: put semen on your face. I mean you've done it 696 00:34:52,840 --> 00:34:59,560 Speaker 1: on my teeson. It's very drying. It's very drying. It's like, 697 00:34:59,640 --> 00:35:02,200 Speaker 1: you know, because my pores are huge right here. That's 698 00:35:02,200 --> 00:35:05,680 Speaker 1: what the institutions. Great skin, but not like put some 699 00:35:05,760 --> 00:35:07,600 Speaker 1: semen on there. I mean they didn't say that. I'm 700 00:35:07,640 --> 00:35:11,200 Speaker 1: not for that fucking tube. Me need the bucket. I'd 701 00:35:11,239 --> 00:35:12,759 Speaker 1: like to spend my money. If it's a lot of 702 00:35:12,800 --> 00:35:15,879 Speaker 1: money on vacations, food and drugs. That's I'm not doing 703 00:35:15,920 --> 00:35:18,279 Speaker 1: it with sucking beauty products. No, I think you can 704 00:35:18,320 --> 00:35:21,200 Speaker 1: make your own too, Yeah, I mean maybe not with 705 00:35:21,280 --> 00:35:25,360 Speaker 1: semen if that's that's what you're like, some full fat 706 00:35:25,440 --> 00:35:31,959 Speaker 1: Greek yogurt and honey and if my friends days, there's 707 00:35:32,000 --> 00:35:34,120 Speaker 1: got to be a recipe for this ship, a recipe 708 00:35:34,160 --> 00:35:41,239 Speaker 1: for preventing wrinkles. The sperm makes skin glow, according to 709 00:35:41,320 --> 00:35:43,399 Speaker 1: a new study that a man probably did it's good 710 00:35:43,400 --> 00:35:46,040 Speaker 1: for the skin. The proteins and nutrients present in sperm 711 00:35:46,360 --> 00:35:48,839 Speaker 1: can make your face glow and loosen and lighten those 712 00:35:48,920 --> 00:35:51,560 Speaker 1: nasty looking scars. See, that's why I had it on 713 00:35:51,680 --> 00:35:55,400 Speaker 1: my nick bit. You know, I was, please tell us 714 00:35:55,440 --> 00:35:57,520 Speaker 1: the story while I blow my nose. No, no, I'm 715 00:35:57,560 --> 00:36:00,719 Speaker 1: not gonna s No, it's just a pearl necklace. Mind you. 716 00:36:00,800 --> 00:36:03,040 Speaker 1: It's with the same guy who's dick I suck during 717 00:36:03,080 --> 00:36:09,080 Speaker 1: lunch today. It's not so Anyways, Basically, I fucked a 718 00:36:09,120 --> 00:36:12,399 Speaker 1: guy really drunk, and I didn't realize where he came. 719 00:36:12,480 --> 00:36:14,480 Speaker 1: And the next morning I rushed out because I had 720 00:36:14,520 --> 00:36:17,040 Speaker 1: to go have brunch, and my next started itching and 721 00:36:17,200 --> 00:36:19,680 Speaker 1: apparently came all my face in my neck and so 722 00:36:19,719 --> 00:36:21,279 Speaker 1: there was dried nut all in the neck and it 723 00:36:21,400 --> 00:36:24,719 Speaker 1: started flaking in my friend's card. And don't mind me, 724 00:36:24,760 --> 00:36:28,600 Speaker 1: that just happened. And um, we're gonna go ahead and 725 00:36:28,640 --> 00:36:32,960 Speaker 1: Walwheezy goes and blows her nose. Oh, I'm sorry. We're 726 00:36:32,960 --> 00:36:35,879 Speaker 1: gonna go ahead and get into our horrible decision. Now 727 00:36:36,040 --> 00:36:39,520 Speaker 1: Wheezy started this weapon. Now we're going ahead and getting 728 00:36:39,520 --> 00:36:43,360 Speaker 1: into our horrible decision. And I'm excited about this, um 729 00:36:43,400 --> 00:36:46,759 Speaker 1: because again we haven't getting asked these questions a whole lot. 730 00:36:48,080 --> 00:36:49,600 Speaker 1: What do you want to go through and say? What 731 00:36:49,640 --> 00:36:52,239 Speaker 1: the horrible decision is you? Kind of? Yeah, So I 732 00:36:52,520 --> 00:36:55,479 Speaker 1: wanted to make this about starting over and self love. 733 00:36:55,680 --> 00:36:58,280 Speaker 1: You know, you shared that you've been married before, and 734 00:36:58,360 --> 00:37:00,560 Speaker 1: you've you've have so many accomplishments in life, and I 735 00:37:00,600 --> 00:37:04,560 Speaker 1: feel like sometimes men or women are bad relationships can 736 00:37:04,600 --> 00:37:06,960 Speaker 1: really funk us up from our end goal and our 737 00:37:07,080 --> 00:37:10,560 Speaker 1: camp and our purpose. So I wanted to dive into 738 00:37:12,320 --> 00:37:16,360 Speaker 1: what what your story is, you know, just briefly, but 739 00:37:17,400 --> 00:37:20,799 Speaker 1: basically the healing process after you know, how how how 740 00:37:20,840 --> 00:37:23,600 Speaker 1: would you can you walk us through yours? Yeah, you 741 00:37:23,640 --> 00:37:26,560 Speaker 1: know one from it. I like to advise people too. 742 00:37:26,960 --> 00:37:30,840 Speaker 1: I think that's helpful. Is like even you know, sometimes 743 00:37:30,840 --> 00:37:34,480 Speaker 1: like yeah, our hearts are so fucking broken, right, and 744 00:37:34,520 --> 00:37:36,279 Speaker 1: people are like, well, the best way to get over 745 00:37:36,480 --> 00:37:38,960 Speaker 1: to someone is to get under someone. But sometimes actually 746 00:37:39,000 --> 00:37:43,080 Speaker 1: you need to reclaim your sexuality and yourself. Like so 747 00:37:43,120 --> 00:37:45,920 Speaker 1: we're talking about energy, right, and like the energy that 748 00:37:45,960 --> 00:37:48,840 Speaker 1: you take on. So if you're being penetrated, for example, 749 00:37:48,960 --> 00:37:51,440 Speaker 1: like you're literally taking on someone else's energy and that 750 00:37:51,480 --> 00:37:53,799 Speaker 1: takes a while to clear from your system. So I 751 00:37:53,840 --> 00:37:57,279 Speaker 1: think like going through periods of self imposed celibacy can 752 00:37:57,320 --> 00:37:59,480 Speaker 1: be really good. That can be a good thing. It's 753 00:37:59,480 --> 00:38:03,120 Speaker 1: almost like a Howlett cleanser between courses of like a meal. Right. 754 00:38:03,360 --> 00:38:05,560 Speaker 1: It's like kind of reclaiming your space. That doesn't mean 755 00:38:05,600 --> 00:38:07,960 Speaker 1: that you can't masturbate or look at whatever you want 756 00:38:08,000 --> 00:38:10,480 Speaker 1: to do, just it doesn't even mean that you can't 757 00:38:10,480 --> 00:38:13,319 Speaker 1: funk around with someone else. It's just maybe meaning like 758 00:38:13,680 --> 00:38:17,239 Speaker 1: not being not being penetrated by them, you know, like 759 00:38:17,480 --> 00:38:20,280 Speaker 1: keeping some space for yourself. I think for me, at least, 760 00:38:20,760 --> 00:38:22,719 Speaker 1: I did go through reading about that. Yeah, I went 761 00:38:22,719 --> 00:38:25,600 Speaker 1: through a period of that, um you know. And I 762 00:38:25,600 --> 00:38:28,640 Speaker 1: think we had Nina Hartley, who's a really famous adult 763 00:38:28,680 --> 00:38:31,920 Speaker 1: star on our podcast and and she even talks about 764 00:38:31,920 --> 00:38:34,680 Speaker 1: that like someone who's for a living is having sex 765 00:38:36,000 --> 00:38:39,120 Speaker 1: and she's pant sexual. Yeah. I think that like that 766 00:38:39,200 --> 00:38:41,680 Speaker 1: for me was a big thing kind of felt so. 767 00:38:42,360 --> 00:38:45,920 Speaker 1: I mean I felt really heartbroken. It was not heartbroken. 768 00:38:46,000 --> 00:38:48,799 Speaker 1: I've literally felt it in my chest like I've been 769 00:38:48,880 --> 00:38:52,759 Speaker 1: fucking heartbroken. I can feel it. I'm walking around. It's heavy, 770 00:38:52,960 --> 00:38:55,000 Speaker 1: and I have wanted to make myself feel better. The 771 00:38:55,000 --> 00:38:57,040 Speaker 1: first thing I do is texted X of course you 772 00:38:57,080 --> 00:38:59,560 Speaker 1: do because you want that immediate gratification. You want us 773 00:38:59,640 --> 00:39:03,560 Speaker 1: feel like you're still desired, right, But like what are 774 00:39:03,600 --> 00:39:07,400 Speaker 1: you desiring yourself? And you're looking for someone else's validation, 775 00:39:07,680 --> 00:39:09,880 Speaker 1: which is and I'm the first thing I do with 776 00:39:09,920 --> 00:39:12,520 Speaker 1: a breakup when my heart is like broken or I'm 777 00:39:12,880 --> 00:39:15,480 Speaker 1: all right, I become really hurt by a guy. I 778 00:39:15,560 --> 00:39:19,440 Speaker 1: hate all men, and so I find myself just over 779 00:39:19,640 --> 00:39:23,520 Speaker 1: saturating my schedule between work, between finding something to do, 780 00:39:23,680 --> 00:39:25,759 Speaker 1: hanging around friends, hitting people up, like let's too long 781 00:39:25,800 --> 00:39:28,280 Speaker 1: close to dinner, let's scrab drinks and I'm just out 782 00:39:28,680 --> 00:39:30,960 Speaker 1: with a lot of friends. But I actually feel like 783 00:39:31,040 --> 00:39:32,600 Speaker 1: I hate man. I don't want to be hit on, 784 00:39:32,640 --> 00:39:34,280 Speaker 1: I don't want to talk to men, I don't respond 785 00:39:34,320 --> 00:39:37,120 Speaker 1: to like, and I just kind of clock out from 786 00:39:37,120 --> 00:39:40,000 Speaker 1: even And I don't want to sit in that, because 787 00:39:40,040 --> 00:39:41,640 Speaker 1: I think most of us don't want to sit in 788 00:39:41,640 --> 00:39:45,640 Speaker 1: the loneliness and the fear and the vulnerability and feeling abandoned, 789 00:39:45,680 --> 00:39:49,160 Speaker 1: which is why we like turn to drugs, turn to food, 790 00:39:49,160 --> 00:39:52,000 Speaker 1: turned to alcohol, turned to sex. All those things are great, 791 00:39:52,320 --> 00:39:55,520 Speaker 1: but like doing all those things with intention, right, not 792 00:39:55,600 --> 00:39:58,719 Speaker 1: because we want to mask our loneliness, like it's okay 793 00:39:58,719 --> 00:40:01,560 Speaker 1: to be lonely and feel shitty and feel fear and 794 00:40:01,600 --> 00:40:03,799 Speaker 1: feel vulnerable and wake up in the middle of night 795 00:40:03,840 --> 00:40:05,359 Speaker 1: and be like, am I going to die alone? Those 796 00:40:05,360 --> 00:40:08,040 Speaker 1: are human questions that every single person on the planet has, 797 00:40:08,560 --> 00:40:10,840 Speaker 1: you know. I feel like we all think we're alone 798 00:40:10,840 --> 00:40:12,879 Speaker 1: in that that, like we're the only one that has 799 00:40:12,920 --> 00:40:14,680 Speaker 1: those fears, and we all have those fears, we just 800 00:40:14,680 --> 00:40:17,280 Speaker 1: don't talk about it, and it's like it's going to pass, 801 00:40:17,440 --> 00:40:19,759 Speaker 1: just like the clock turns around, you know, or a 802 00:40:19,800 --> 00:40:22,480 Speaker 1: wave comes in and out. We're just like, culturally so 803 00:40:22,640 --> 00:40:25,840 Speaker 1: uncomfortable with that that we want to cover it up immediately. 804 00:40:26,160 --> 00:40:27,880 Speaker 1: Have you, um, I don't know if you guys have 805 00:40:27,920 --> 00:40:30,839 Speaker 1: ever experienced this, but a few months back, I'd say, 806 00:40:30,840 --> 00:40:34,399 Speaker 1: in January, everything was just going fine. I've been making 807 00:40:34,400 --> 00:40:36,719 Speaker 1: the most money I've ever made, Mandy and I are 808 00:40:36,719 --> 00:40:40,120 Speaker 1: getting along, everything is fine, and I was like, I 809 00:40:40,160 --> 00:40:43,840 Speaker 1: feel nothing, And it was almost worse than feeling sad, 810 00:40:44,160 --> 00:40:47,560 Speaker 1: Like I had no emotion going on, because sometimes when 811 00:40:47,600 --> 00:40:49,960 Speaker 1: you're in those feelings, I think it feels good to 812 00:40:50,000 --> 00:40:51,640 Speaker 1: feel him. I don't know if you've felt that, like 813 00:40:51,640 --> 00:40:53,680 Speaker 1: when you cried and it feels good to like let 814 00:40:53,680 --> 00:40:55,880 Speaker 1: yourself go through that. And I've tried to make that 815 00:40:55,920 --> 00:40:58,120 Speaker 1: my process, like when I'm feeling a lot of emotions, 816 00:40:58,160 --> 00:41:01,120 Speaker 1: to actually sit and under stand when I'm feeling instead 817 00:41:01,120 --> 00:41:03,120 Speaker 1: of covering it up, because what I've done in the 818 00:41:03,160 --> 00:41:06,640 Speaker 1: past is text exes, go out and get sucked up, 819 00:41:07,160 --> 00:41:09,880 Speaker 1: just go to something really random, go on vacation randomly 820 00:41:10,000 --> 00:41:11,839 Speaker 1: with a friend, and spend too much money, and it's 821 00:41:11,840 --> 00:41:13,279 Speaker 1: like then I have to sit in those feelings when 822 00:41:13,280 --> 00:41:16,359 Speaker 1: I come home. So now I try to actually process them, 823 00:41:16,400 --> 00:41:18,520 Speaker 1: write them down, talk about what I'm feeling, and it 824 00:41:18,600 --> 00:41:21,319 Speaker 1: feels better to like go through that motion instead of 825 00:41:21,320 --> 00:41:24,080 Speaker 1: covering it up. How long do you think for Let's 826 00:41:24,080 --> 00:41:26,399 Speaker 1: say you were in a thirteen year relationship, but let's 827 00:41:26,400 --> 00:41:29,000 Speaker 1: say someone who is going through a heartbreak of someone 828 00:41:29,000 --> 00:41:30,759 Speaker 1: they just met, let's say six months or a year, 829 00:41:31,040 --> 00:41:33,360 Speaker 1: They say, it takes half the time that you've been together. 830 00:41:33,480 --> 00:41:36,759 Speaker 1: I don't know. I my friend Didavante, speaking of Burlesque, 831 00:41:36,840 --> 00:41:40,719 Speaker 1: she had gotten divorced like just eight months before me 832 00:41:41,000 --> 00:41:47,279 Speaker 1: actually to Manson, Marilyn Manson, yeah, um, and she and 833 00:41:47,320 --> 00:41:50,040 Speaker 1: I would like ask her all the time, like, okay, 834 00:41:50,040 --> 00:41:52,399 Speaker 1: so what's what should what should be happening now because 835 00:41:52,400 --> 00:41:55,200 Speaker 1: she was like had just was sort of at every 836 00:41:55,200 --> 00:41:57,680 Speaker 1: phase of the healing, like just a little bit before me. 837 00:41:57,960 --> 00:41:59,480 Speaker 1: I'm like, what is it to be over? And I 838 00:41:59,560 --> 00:42:02,160 Speaker 1: kept on thinking like fuck if I could invent a 839 00:42:02,200 --> 00:42:05,399 Speaker 1: pill for heartbreak? Like yeah. But then the other thing 840 00:42:05,480 --> 00:42:08,399 Speaker 1: is you would you think about all the great art 841 00:42:08,560 --> 00:42:10,680 Speaker 1: right and music? Like thinking about all the music we 842 00:42:10,719 --> 00:42:13,040 Speaker 1: listened to, Like so much of the best art and 843 00:42:13,160 --> 00:42:16,080 Speaker 1: music is made from heartbreak, and it's not a lot 844 00:42:16,120 --> 00:42:18,000 Speaker 1: of I mean, it's hard to make great art when 845 00:42:18,000 --> 00:42:21,480 Speaker 1: you're super happy, right because you're just like living your life, 846 00:42:22,080 --> 00:42:23,920 Speaker 1: like you know, everything is Love came out with you, 847 00:42:24,120 --> 00:42:28,279 Speaker 1: Sat jay Z, but it wasn't lemonade, Yeah, exactly exactly. 848 00:42:28,719 --> 00:42:32,440 Speaker 1: Video Remember when she smashed it's like him, I swear 849 00:42:32,480 --> 00:42:34,520 Speaker 1: to God. And when we all felt that, we all 850 00:42:34,760 --> 00:42:37,400 Speaker 1: empathized that we all had been in that space, right 851 00:42:37,600 --> 00:42:39,560 Speaker 1: and more than like sometimes I think when people are 852 00:42:39,560 --> 00:42:43,040 Speaker 1: super happy, you're like, well, I'm not fucking happy. Why 853 00:42:43,200 --> 00:42:50,600 Speaker 1: they love New York because nobody's happy, don't. I saw 854 00:42:50,640 --> 00:42:52,719 Speaker 1: a couple making on the subway. This is a long 855 00:42:52,760 --> 00:42:54,600 Speaker 1: time ago, but I'll remember this moment. I was going 856 00:42:54,640 --> 00:42:56,279 Speaker 1: to work and everybody's in a bad mood, and she's 857 00:42:56,280 --> 00:42:58,560 Speaker 1: like Meani and me and the girl looked at each 858 00:42:58,560 --> 00:43:01,400 Speaker 1: other like the fund is there problem? Like you're just 859 00:43:01,400 --> 00:43:03,440 Speaker 1: trying to get to work and bitch, you're on this 860 00:43:03,520 --> 00:43:10,120 Speaker 1: train with your fucking chip York. When I moved back 861 00:43:10,120 --> 00:43:12,560 Speaker 1: to l A from New York, I remember like if 862 00:43:12,560 --> 00:43:14,920 Speaker 1: someone would ask me a question, like a stranger, like 863 00:43:14,960 --> 00:43:16,839 Speaker 1: where did you get your yogurt or something, I would 864 00:43:16,880 --> 00:43:20,960 Speaker 1: like roll up my car window. Why are they being nice? 865 00:43:21,040 --> 00:43:25,400 Speaker 1: Why are they talking to me? And the weirds really weird? Okay, 866 00:43:25,480 --> 00:43:28,040 Speaker 1: so we go through the healing process. Let's say that 867 00:43:28,080 --> 00:43:30,400 Speaker 1: part is over, But what do you think is a 868 00:43:30,400 --> 00:43:33,880 Speaker 1: good way to get back out there? That's the question 869 00:43:33,920 --> 00:43:36,600 Speaker 1: that we've been getting at a lot of our know 870 00:43:36,640 --> 00:43:39,520 Speaker 1: how to answer it anymore. Yeah, so they want to know, Hey, 871 00:43:39,640 --> 00:43:41,839 Speaker 1: I'm done dating, but I want to now get out 872 00:43:41,840 --> 00:43:44,520 Speaker 1: and date, but I'm not looking to jump into anything else. 873 00:43:45,040 --> 00:43:47,719 Speaker 1: What would be kind of your go to or any time, 874 00:43:47,760 --> 00:43:50,680 Speaker 1: even if it's a process like things to start doing 875 00:43:50,680 --> 00:43:52,640 Speaker 1: and get yourself out there. But like, let's just imagine 876 00:43:52,680 --> 00:43:55,080 Speaker 1: someone that's been in a relationship and pretty much quarantine 877 00:43:55,120 --> 00:43:57,359 Speaker 1: themselves to their boyfriend I think it's a really good 878 00:43:57,400 --> 00:43:59,760 Speaker 1: idea in general to like get outside of your comfort 879 00:43:59,840 --> 00:44:02,960 Speaker 1: zone own with like your scene that you're in, right, Like, 880 00:44:03,239 --> 00:44:05,440 Speaker 1: I think it's really good to like maybe go, I 881 00:44:05,480 --> 00:44:08,160 Speaker 1: don't know, do something you would never go do before, 882 00:44:08,400 --> 00:44:12,200 Speaker 1: like take a class or like go I don't know, 883 00:44:12,400 --> 00:44:15,319 Speaker 1: Like there's a million different Like you live in a 884 00:44:15,320 --> 00:44:17,600 Speaker 1: city like New York, there's a million different scenes that 885 00:44:17,640 --> 00:44:19,040 Speaker 1: you're not part of, and you kind of get stuck 886 00:44:19,080 --> 00:44:20,359 Speaker 1: in your rold and you think, oh, I just meet 887 00:44:20,400 --> 00:44:22,560 Speaker 1: the same people and everyone's the same as the same 888 00:44:22,600 --> 00:44:25,240 Speaker 1: type of person. But like if you just force yourself 889 00:44:25,280 --> 00:44:27,200 Speaker 1: to get outside of your comfort zone a little bit, 890 00:44:27,239 --> 00:44:29,840 Speaker 1: Basically I should go to Brooklyn. I was able to say, Basically, 891 00:44:29,840 --> 00:44:34,120 Speaker 1: I gotta go where white people go in the house 892 00:44:34,160 --> 00:44:37,920 Speaker 1: you think, yes, you'll see me there. Actually, to be 893 00:44:38,040 --> 00:44:40,600 Speaker 1: frank with you, I when I first moved to New York, 894 00:44:40,640 --> 00:44:44,160 Speaker 1: I was going on meat packing, right, and I just 895 00:44:44,440 --> 00:44:45,799 Speaker 1: I felt like I was meeting too many of the 896 00:44:45,800 --> 00:44:47,480 Speaker 1: same guys. I was like, you know what, the time 897 00:44:47,520 --> 00:44:50,160 Speaker 1: of the black club, I'm done. And that was literally 898 00:44:50,200 --> 00:44:51,920 Speaker 1: what I had to do. And it wasn't like I 899 00:44:51,960 --> 00:44:53,880 Speaker 1: was not going to black clubs on purpose. I was 900 00:44:53,920 --> 00:44:56,440 Speaker 1: just so into that meat packing like high life, like 901 00:44:56,640 --> 00:44:58,720 Speaker 1: you know, your twenty dollar martinis. I love that ship. 902 00:44:58,880 --> 00:45:00,960 Speaker 1: It took me getting a little bit lower east Side, 903 00:45:01,080 --> 00:45:03,319 Speaker 1: a mixed dive bar kind of vibe, heading out to 904 00:45:03,360 --> 00:45:06,480 Speaker 1: Brooklyn doing different type of parties to be like, oh, 905 00:45:06,480 --> 00:45:09,759 Speaker 1: like I'm fine now I'm making new friends and then 906 00:45:09,800 --> 00:45:12,480 Speaker 1: I could go back and be okay. But I was 907 00:45:12,520 --> 00:45:14,560 Speaker 1: seeing the same people. When you see those same people, 908 00:45:14,600 --> 00:45:18,120 Speaker 1: even the same women, it really was reminders of the 909 00:45:18,160 --> 00:45:20,479 Speaker 1: person I was dating, and I hated that ship. Also 910 00:45:20,560 --> 00:45:22,920 Speaker 1: think you should ask random people to set you up, 911 00:45:23,160 --> 00:45:25,759 Speaker 1: like people who are not necessarily your immediate best friend, 912 00:45:25,880 --> 00:45:28,359 Speaker 1: but like I don't know. It could be a coworker, 913 00:45:28,600 --> 00:45:32,440 Speaker 1: like no, but you never you never know, and it 914 00:45:32,560 --> 00:45:34,960 Speaker 1: might not be that person. It could be like a 915 00:45:35,000 --> 00:45:36,840 Speaker 1: friend of that person, or like they could take you 916 00:45:36,880 --> 00:45:40,920 Speaker 1: to a party, like one person's trash is another person's treasure, right. 917 00:45:41,840 --> 00:45:44,759 Speaker 1: I didn't even think about that. I mean, when we're 918 00:45:44,800 --> 00:45:46,640 Speaker 1: so used to not being set up because this is 919 00:45:46,680 --> 00:45:49,600 Speaker 1: not our I got so many niggers already, it's like 920 00:45:49,920 --> 00:45:56,880 Speaker 1: more like I do I know, Like so that's another 921 00:45:56,920 --> 00:46:02,239 Speaker 1: thing with me, Like I don't know if it's I 922 00:46:02,239 --> 00:46:05,440 Speaker 1: don't call it fear, and a few people were in 923 00:46:05,520 --> 00:46:08,319 Speaker 1: like that. They also revisit the past with people. But 924 00:46:08,680 --> 00:46:10,879 Speaker 1: the time it takes to get to know someone and 925 00:46:11,239 --> 00:46:14,680 Speaker 1: allowing new energy feels like more way, more work than 926 00:46:14,719 --> 00:46:17,359 Speaker 1: me just going back to someone who I'm familiar with. 927 00:46:17,560 --> 00:46:20,360 Speaker 1: But you're talking about for sucks, right, No, both like 928 00:46:20,960 --> 00:46:25,399 Speaker 1: relationships like niggas is free agents and retired now they're 929 00:46:25,440 --> 00:46:29,239 Speaker 1: not playing and traveling the like athletes. The one I'm 930 00:46:29,239 --> 00:46:32,839 Speaker 1: talking to was former football thank you, but um like, 931 00:46:33,160 --> 00:46:35,840 Speaker 1: so they're also in a different space in their life. Also, 932 00:46:36,000 --> 00:46:37,719 Speaker 1: back when I was dealing with these guys, I was 933 00:46:37,760 --> 00:46:40,160 Speaker 1: either living in Atlanta or Miami. I was a bartender, 934 00:46:40,239 --> 00:46:42,680 Speaker 1: I was in the fast life, so like I was 935 00:46:42,760 --> 00:46:45,200 Speaker 1: viewed differently to them than where I am now. Like 936 00:46:45,320 --> 00:46:47,400 Speaker 1: I have my ship together, I still don't have kids. 937 00:46:47,480 --> 00:46:51,560 Speaker 1: I'm like kids, so that's also out of space where 938 00:46:51,600 --> 00:46:54,200 Speaker 1: I'm able to really I feel like you you said 939 00:46:54,239 --> 00:47:00,840 Speaker 1: I never I've never said I. You've used the word family. 940 00:47:01,280 --> 00:47:03,040 Speaker 1: You never use the word kids here, and I'm talking 941 00:47:03,040 --> 00:47:05,120 Speaker 1: about a dog or a finger monkey, bitch. I've been 942 00:47:05,120 --> 00:47:09,280 Speaker 1: looking up finger monkeys. Finger I want a little finger 943 00:47:09,320 --> 00:47:12,040 Speaker 1: monkey like I follow these these finger monkeys on Instagram 944 00:47:12,040 --> 00:47:15,360 Speaker 1: called Diddy and Kong. They are so cute and finger monkey, 945 00:47:15,360 --> 00:47:17,759 Speaker 1: I'm gonna show you they're real cute. So that's what 946 00:47:17,880 --> 00:47:20,239 Speaker 1: you want, not like a dog, like a dog, I 947 00:47:20,320 --> 00:47:22,560 Speaker 1: really do want. Like we're looking this up first, thank you, 948 00:47:22,560 --> 00:47:25,160 Speaker 1: Here we go. We're good. Look up real Diddy call. 949 00:47:25,280 --> 00:47:30,360 Speaker 1: Look they got a million followers. Pretty don't marry cute actually, 950 00:47:30,640 --> 00:47:32,239 Speaker 1: so I want a finger monkey and these are like 951 00:47:32,239 --> 00:47:36,120 Speaker 1: the little bigger monkey. Where do you keep these nails? 952 00:47:36,200 --> 00:47:39,520 Speaker 1: Look like they might scratch though, Man, I'm gonna get 953 00:47:39,520 --> 00:47:44,160 Speaker 1: about a pedicure, but no, like in my mind, I'm 954 00:47:44,200 --> 00:47:46,640 Speaker 1: not gonna lie. So with talking to a lot of 955 00:47:46,640 --> 00:47:49,120 Speaker 1: these men, they do have children already, and a lot 956 00:47:49,160 --> 00:47:50,879 Speaker 1: of them because they got multiple A lot of them 957 00:47:50,880 --> 00:47:55,640 Speaker 1: doesn't cut their dicks now like they're snipped now you 958 00:47:55,719 --> 00:48:00,480 Speaker 1: know what I mean, you know the word the sect 959 00:48:00,560 --> 00:48:04,839 Speaker 1: me there you go, come on, you know what. So 960 00:48:04,920 --> 00:48:07,920 Speaker 1: like now they can't have like babies, and so now 961 00:48:07,960 --> 00:48:10,840 Speaker 1: it is to where like I think even for a 962 00:48:10,880 --> 00:48:13,520 Speaker 1: lot of them because of where they are with money wise, 963 00:48:13,520 --> 00:48:16,000 Speaker 1: power wise, like it's it's a genuine thing, like I 964 00:48:16,040 --> 00:48:18,239 Speaker 1: ain't trying to have no baby, like just to keep 965 00:48:18,320 --> 00:48:21,000 Speaker 1: you like it's a genuine connection. They're in different spaces 966 00:48:21,000 --> 00:48:24,480 Speaker 1: in their life. So I believe in timing, and I think, 967 00:48:24,600 --> 00:48:26,279 Speaker 1: I don't know if that's a good thing or bad thing. 968 00:48:26,320 --> 00:48:28,160 Speaker 1: I guess while we're talking about time that it takes 969 00:48:28,200 --> 00:48:30,799 Speaker 1: to heal, I believe in timing of meeting people. I 970 00:48:30,840 --> 00:48:33,520 Speaker 1: believe in I believe in meeting people, and sometimes it's 971 00:48:33,560 --> 00:48:36,279 Speaker 1: just the wrong time. It may work. Damn, I wish 972 00:48:36,360 --> 00:48:38,560 Speaker 1: I met you at a later time in life or 973 00:48:38,800 --> 00:48:41,880 Speaker 1: sooner in life before you know things happened. So to 974 00:48:41,960 --> 00:48:44,560 Speaker 1: me and a space where I genuinely feel like I'm 975 00:48:44,560 --> 00:48:46,480 Speaker 1: gonna do. I'm in a new bubble, I'm in a 976 00:48:46,480 --> 00:48:49,839 Speaker 1: new career. I'm we have this podcast where it's taken 977 00:48:49,840 --> 00:48:51,960 Speaker 1: off and I'm traveling and I'm in this creative space. 978 00:48:52,160 --> 00:48:54,160 Speaker 1: I genuinely feel like I'm in a new space that 979 00:48:54,200 --> 00:48:56,319 Speaker 1: I can provide something different in a relationship that I 980 00:48:56,320 --> 00:48:59,160 Speaker 1: could as you being in a new space and you 981 00:48:59,360 --> 00:49:01,760 Speaker 1: doing what you want to do and investing your energy 982 00:49:01,800 --> 00:49:05,040 Speaker 1: fully into it is what brings people into your orbit. 983 00:49:05,160 --> 00:49:10,080 Speaker 1: I truly believe sometimes to look for it, it's not 984 00:49:10,120 --> 00:49:12,920 Speaker 1: gonna come. But the second that you're like busy and 985 00:49:12,960 --> 00:49:15,040 Speaker 1: focus on whatever it is that you're doing. All of 986 00:49:15,120 --> 00:49:18,480 Speaker 1: a sudden, it's like the universe is just sending you 987 00:49:18,480 --> 00:49:22,160 Speaker 1: sell people. Right, It's funny you mentioned that, Like, so 988 00:49:22,880 --> 00:49:25,640 Speaker 1: probably for the last four or five years, I've been 989 00:49:25,680 --> 00:49:28,320 Speaker 1: talking about wanting to have a boyfriend and a girlfriend, 990 00:49:28,360 --> 00:49:32,479 Speaker 1: or being a threatle or whatever. And I never thought 991 00:49:32,520 --> 00:49:34,600 Speaker 1: that the two people I would sleep be sleeping with 992 00:49:34,600 --> 00:49:37,080 Speaker 1: would be it. And like when I tell you, it 993 00:49:37,160 --> 00:49:41,120 Speaker 1: was so intense at one point, like I almost woke 994 00:49:41,200 --> 00:49:42,960 Speaker 1: up and started crying. Of course I'm emotional, but I 995 00:49:43,000 --> 00:49:44,600 Speaker 1: was like, damn, I didn't think I would feel like this. 996 00:49:44,640 --> 00:49:46,440 Speaker 1: I thought we were just gonna have sex and eat 997 00:49:47,200 --> 00:49:48,839 Speaker 1: Like I thought this is gonna be it. I didn't 998 00:49:48,840 --> 00:49:51,320 Speaker 1: think we'd be holding hands and touching each other's faces 999 00:49:51,360 --> 00:49:53,600 Speaker 1: and planning the next vacation while we're still sitting together, 1000 00:49:54,160 --> 00:49:57,360 Speaker 1: you know. And it was like really really intense. And 1001 00:49:57,400 --> 00:49:59,919 Speaker 1: my mom was like, you manifested this for so long, 1002 00:50:00,520 --> 00:50:02,759 Speaker 1: even looking at these two people, like maybe you and 1003 00:50:02,880 --> 00:50:04,759 Speaker 1: him weren't like that, maybe you and her weren't like that, 1004 00:50:04,800 --> 00:50:07,600 Speaker 1: but like together now you can become something because it's 1005 00:50:07,719 --> 00:50:09,759 Speaker 1: just been waiting for you. There she was like, you 1006 00:50:09,800 --> 00:50:12,600 Speaker 1: probably weren't trying to have it like you were the 1007 00:50:12,640 --> 00:50:15,000 Speaker 1: last few years. Anytime I would a girl, I'd be like, 1008 00:50:15,040 --> 00:50:17,640 Speaker 1: you should meet this guy and we should be a thing. 1009 00:50:18,280 --> 00:50:21,879 Speaker 1: What happened like that? So that's interesting that you said 1010 00:50:21,960 --> 00:50:23,799 Speaker 1: you can really actually bring it into your orbit, because 1011 00:50:23,800 --> 00:50:26,560 Speaker 1: I kind of feel like I did. I really am 1012 00:50:26,640 --> 00:50:29,040 Speaker 1: like super nervous because it felt so great, and I'm 1013 00:50:29,080 --> 00:50:31,000 Speaker 1: just like ships will let down of two people, not 1014 00:50:31,080 --> 00:50:33,200 Speaker 1: just one now if it doesn't work. Yeah, but don't 1015 00:50:33,200 --> 00:50:40,799 Speaker 1: future funk yourself. So like was like, okay, so we're 1016 00:50:40,880 --> 00:50:43,120 Speaker 1: talking about, like if we're talking about being in the 1017 00:50:43,160 --> 00:50:46,240 Speaker 1: moment and being present, most of us are constantly future 1018 00:50:46,280 --> 00:50:49,120 Speaker 1: fucking ourselves, Like we're going into like what could happen, 1019 00:50:49,200 --> 00:50:52,920 Speaker 1: what will happen, like what might happen? And we're like, 1020 00:50:53,120 --> 00:50:55,200 Speaker 1: you know, the more that you put your mindset there, 1021 00:50:55,280 --> 00:50:57,680 Speaker 1: you bring it in instead of being like right here, 1022 00:50:57,800 --> 00:51:00,840 Speaker 1: right now, you're future fucking yourself. But it's so something 1023 00:51:00,880 --> 00:51:03,000 Speaker 1: to where And I think a lot of us do 1024 00:51:03,080 --> 00:51:05,759 Speaker 1: that with dating or meeting someone. We have this vision 1025 00:51:05,760 --> 00:51:07,360 Speaker 1: of what we want this person to do, how we 1026 00:51:07,400 --> 00:51:09,720 Speaker 1: want them to actually want them to answer our text messages, 1027 00:51:09,920 --> 00:51:11,360 Speaker 1: how we want to wake up in the morning to 1028 00:51:11,400 --> 00:51:14,120 Speaker 1: them what we hope our conversations to be to where 1029 00:51:14,400 --> 00:51:17,279 Speaker 1: we set ourselves up to these expectations, and as soon 1030 00:51:17,280 --> 00:51:19,879 Speaker 1: as that person doesn't live up to the expectations, now 1031 00:51:19,880 --> 00:51:22,479 Speaker 1: we're disappointed. And once you're disappointed, then you're like, okay, 1032 00:51:22,480 --> 00:51:24,000 Speaker 1: well then he's not it. Let me move on to 1033 00:51:24,080 --> 00:51:27,439 Speaker 1: the next. But we are expecting someone else to give 1034 00:51:27,520 --> 00:51:30,600 Speaker 1: us every single thing. It's just not like, okay, we 1035 00:51:30,640 --> 00:51:33,520 Speaker 1: can We're never going to get every single thing from 1036 00:51:33,560 --> 00:51:36,120 Speaker 1: one person. That's just not possible. Do you think you 1037 00:51:36,160 --> 00:51:38,960 Speaker 1: can give that? You can't. You can't be someone's like 1038 00:51:39,080 --> 00:51:41,479 Speaker 1: love or partner, best friend. You've got to find those 1039 00:51:41,520 --> 00:51:43,439 Speaker 1: things in other in other people. You've got to find 1040 00:51:43,440 --> 00:51:45,680 Speaker 1: it in yourself. So let really like the person that 1041 00:51:45,760 --> 00:51:49,480 Speaker 1: you're having that intimate romantic relationship with that's like you know, 1042 00:51:49,640 --> 00:51:51,440 Speaker 1: you accept them for what it is. Let me ask you, 1043 00:51:51,440 --> 00:51:55,160 Speaker 1: you said your monogamous damn use in my mind, because 1044 00:51:55,200 --> 00:51:58,160 Speaker 1: that was my next question. We always say we use 1045 00:51:58,239 --> 00:52:01,960 Speaker 1: that as a reason, but I I really appreciate monogamous 1046 00:52:02,080 --> 00:52:07,880 Speaker 1: right now. Yeah, Well that doesn't mean like maybe I 1047 00:52:07,880 --> 00:52:12,080 Speaker 1: don't know the question. So we we use this as 1048 00:52:12,120 --> 00:52:15,440 Speaker 1: a like exactly what you say compartmentalizing relationships and people 1049 00:52:15,480 --> 00:52:16,840 Speaker 1: and friends. Right, I need a friend I want to 1050 00:52:16,880 --> 00:52:20,080 Speaker 1: go out with for this and that you're saying that 1051 00:52:20,160 --> 00:52:22,960 Speaker 1: and able to understand that concept. But you're still monogamous. 1052 00:52:23,000 --> 00:52:25,040 Speaker 1: So how do you do it then? Because I don't 1053 00:52:25,040 --> 00:52:29,200 Speaker 1: necessarily expect my partner who I'm sleeping with to give 1054 00:52:29,239 --> 00:52:31,960 Speaker 1: me everything, right, Like, I still I'm a creative person, 1055 00:52:31,960 --> 00:52:34,280 Speaker 1: and I think you, like, if you're doing anything creative, 1056 00:52:34,320 --> 00:52:36,919 Speaker 1: there's gonna be some vibes or energy with people you're 1057 00:52:37,000 --> 00:52:40,160 Speaker 1: creating with. I flirt with everybody under the sun, and mean, 1058 00:52:40,239 --> 00:52:42,399 Speaker 1: like I have a company that's called The Sex Said, 1059 00:52:42,440 --> 00:52:44,759 Speaker 1: I'm talking about sex with other people all day long. 1060 00:52:44,800 --> 00:52:47,799 Speaker 1: I can you know I'm flirting with you guys over here, 1061 00:52:47,960 --> 00:52:50,080 Speaker 1: Like I don't know, I get energy from a lot 1062 00:52:50,120 --> 00:52:52,920 Speaker 1: of people. So when I'm with him, like you know, also, 1063 00:52:52,960 --> 00:52:56,000 Speaker 1: it's constantly evolving. You know, it's not like perfect. We 1064 00:52:56,080 --> 00:52:58,239 Speaker 1: have our ship and we we talk about it and 1065 00:52:58,239 --> 00:53:00,520 Speaker 1: we're both trying to evolve into like what we want 1066 00:53:00,560 --> 00:53:04,360 Speaker 1: this relationship to be and the certain limited expectations that 1067 00:53:04,400 --> 00:53:06,680 Speaker 1: each of us have and can give. Like, I mean, 1068 00:53:06,760 --> 00:53:09,239 Speaker 1: nobody's perfect. But you don't have to. You're saying you 1069 00:53:09,239 --> 00:53:11,399 Speaker 1: don't your your into creative ship, but you don't need 1070 00:53:11,440 --> 00:53:13,719 Speaker 1: that from him. I do. I mean I get a 1071 00:53:13,760 --> 00:53:16,160 Speaker 1: lot of stuff from him, but I also don't expect that, 1072 00:53:16,200 --> 00:53:19,319 Speaker 1: like he's going to give me satisfy every single one 1073 00:53:19,320 --> 00:53:21,239 Speaker 1: of my needs. I like that a lot because I 1074 00:53:21,239 --> 00:53:23,880 Speaker 1: think sometimes the pressure of making sure this perfect partner 1075 00:53:23,960 --> 00:53:27,959 Speaker 1: when really you don't have to do it all, Like 1076 00:53:28,400 --> 00:53:30,799 Speaker 1: just because you're sucking me doesn't mean you still can't 1077 00:53:30,800 --> 00:53:33,320 Speaker 1: have someone else in your life. For or for example, 1078 00:53:33,360 --> 00:53:36,840 Speaker 1: like he's very he's like super alpha, and he's not 1079 00:53:37,120 --> 00:53:40,759 Speaker 1: like I've always dated artists before who were like I love, 1080 00:53:40,960 --> 00:53:43,799 Speaker 1: you know, really flowery with the words and stuff. And 1081 00:53:43,840 --> 00:53:47,120 Speaker 1: he's like he's really solid. He's really there. But he's 1082 00:53:47,160 --> 00:53:48,960 Speaker 1: not going to do that because that's just not who 1083 00:53:49,000 --> 00:53:52,200 Speaker 1: he is. And like I you know, it's like sometimes 1084 00:53:52,239 --> 00:53:54,080 Speaker 1: it drives me crazy, but then I'm like, all right, 1085 00:53:54,120 --> 00:53:55,840 Speaker 1: I'm not going to get that from him. But I 1086 00:53:55,880 --> 00:53:58,000 Speaker 1: can count on him, you know, I can count on 1087 00:53:58,040 --> 00:53:59,839 Speaker 1: him where I've had like a million guys like right 1088 00:54:00,120 --> 00:54:03,360 Speaker 1: fucking love letters and like send flowers all the time 1089 00:54:03,520 --> 00:54:07,160 Speaker 1: and like, but they're not really necessarily like the solid guys, 1090 00:54:07,680 --> 00:54:09,920 Speaker 1: I like it a lot like that. Being there from 1091 00:54:09,920 --> 00:54:12,600 Speaker 1: someone's a lot of fucking work. Yeah, you just have 1092 00:54:12,680 --> 00:54:15,319 Speaker 1: to realize where people are coming from, too, and how 1093 00:54:15,360 --> 00:54:17,600 Speaker 1: they were brought up in condition and what kind of 1094 00:54:17,600 --> 00:54:21,080 Speaker 1: loved relationship they've had, like with their parents for example. 1095 00:54:21,160 --> 00:54:22,640 Speaker 1: Like has a lot to do with the way we 1096 00:54:22,719 --> 00:54:26,000 Speaker 1: relate to each other in relationships, because it's basically like 1097 00:54:26,080 --> 00:54:29,680 Speaker 1: we're constantly trying to recreate the relationship with the parent 1098 00:54:29,800 --> 00:54:34,760 Speaker 1: we had the most difficulty with as a child, like unconsciously, unconsciously, 1099 00:54:34,840 --> 00:54:38,680 Speaker 1: that's who we pick, really, yeah, in order to recreate 1100 00:54:38,719 --> 00:54:42,120 Speaker 1: and heal those relationships. Like that's why I like tall 1101 00:54:42,200 --> 00:54:44,319 Speaker 1: n like, I like tall lights, king guys, I like 1102 00:54:44,400 --> 00:54:47,319 Speaker 1: everything opposite from my dad. Is that who you had 1103 00:54:47,360 --> 00:54:50,839 Speaker 1: like the most difficult relationship with? Actually it was both 1104 00:54:50,840 --> 00:54:52,879 Speaker 1: of them, as me and my mom are friends now, 1105 00:54:53,360 --> 00:54:55,359 Speaker 1: but growing up me and my mom, But it has 1106 00:54:55,360 --> 00:54:56,919 Speaker 1: a lot. But as I got an older, I see 1107 00:54:56,920 --> 00:54:58,759 Speaker 1: it's because we were a lot. There's something to be 1108 00:54:58,800 --> 00:55:01,520 Speaker 1: said what you look for in men and how she 1109 00:55:01,640 --> 00:55:03,480 Speaker 1: was saying, like you picked someone like them. Mandy is 1110 00:55:03,480 --> 00:55:06,759 Speaker 1: always saying she likes affluent men because her dad wasn't 1111 00:55:06,800 --> 00:55:09,360 Speaker 1: as helpful and when she was a kid. So that 1112 00:55:09,520 --> 00:55:12,960 Speaker 1: is kind of making sure that you're trying to fix 1113 00:55:13,040 --> 00:55:15,480 Speaker 1: what was better. You're trying to fix your childhood basically. 1114 00:55:17,360 --> 00:55:20,560 Speaker 1: The um. But I guess that makes sense. I know, 1115 00:55:20,640 --> 00:55:23,600 Speaker 1: I hear it. I wait, well, I want to get 1116 00:55:23,640 --> 00:55:27,799 Speaker 1: into orgasm breathing before you want him to want them 1117 00:55:27,800 --> 00:55:31,480 Speaker 1: to a clip of us. Well, with the orgasm, you'll 1118 00:55:31,520 --> 00:55:34,000 Speaker 1: do it. Okay, So with the orgasm breathing, I want 1119 00:55:34,000 --> 00:55:35,800 Speaker 1: to do that, and then I do want to gauge 1120 00:55:35,920 --> 00:55:40,799 Speaker 1: some of your knowledge a little bit for our homemale section. Um, 1121 00:55:40,800 --> 00:55:42,440 Speaker 1: this is your home section. Do you want to do 1122 00:55:42,520 --> 00:55:50,279 Speaker 1: orgasm breathing? First? Let's do orgasm breathing. You got to 1123 00:55:50,320 --> 00:55:53,000 Speaker 1: be in the shot. I'm like so fucked up from 1124 00:55:53,000 --> 00:55:55,759 Speaker 1: this cold right now, it's just all the traveling. I 1125 00:55:55,800 --> 00:55:59,120 Speaker 1: need to get myself together. Okay, what the fund is 1126 00:55:59,239 --> 00:56:02,440 Speaker 1: orgasm breathing. So, orgasm breathing is a technique where you 1127 00:56:02,440 --> 00:56:05,920 Speaker 1: can bring yourself to orgasm hands free, just with breathing 1128 00:56:06,040 --> 00:56:08,120 Speaker 1: and using your public floor muscles. Don't believe you, but 1129 00:56:08,160 --> 00:56:10,520 Speaker 1: I've heard it. Yeah, everyone can do it, no matter 1130 00:56:10,600 --> 00:56:13,040 Speaker 1: what kind of genitals you have. Okay, do it, so 1131 00:56:13,160 --> 00:56:15,319 Speaker 1: like you know what your public floor muscles are, right, Yeah, 1132 00:56:15,360 --> 00:56:17,600 Speaker 1: I've done public floor therapy before. Okay, So like, well 1133 00:56:17,840 --> 00:56:20,719 Speaker 1: for listeners who aren't familiar with it, right, it's the 1134 00:56:20,800 --> 00:56:23,719 Speaker 1: muscles that you contract when you're trying to stop your 1135 00:56:23,719 --> 00:56:28,680 Speaker 1: flow of p. So if you've got a penis, contract 1136 00:56:28,719 --> 00:56:32,360 Speaker 1: that muscle. If you've got a vagina, if that contract 1137 00:56:32,400 --> 00:56:36,279 Speaker 1: that muscle. Yeah, it's it's just it's basically the same thing, right, 1138 00:56:36,320 --> 00:56:40,239 Speaker 1: So they're your PC muscles. So you the breath is 1139 00:56:40,280 --> 00:56:42,360 Speaker 1: two parts, right, so we know what that squeezing that 1140 00:56:42,440 --> 00:56:45,440 Speaker 1: muscles like. Right, So, and then the breath is imagine 1141 00:56:45,480 --> 00:56:48,719 Speaker 1: you're sucking in through a straw, so your lips are 1142 00:56:48,719 --> 00:56:52,279 Speaker 1: like so at the bottom of that breath, imagine it 1143 00:56:52,360 --> 00:56:55,759 Speaker 1: traveling up from from the shorter generals. No, I'm just 1144 00:56:55,800 --> 00:56:58,360 Speaker 1: gonna be long. So as soon as I start sucking 1145 00:56:58,400 --> 00:57:00,840 Speaker 1: the breath, I'm gonna squeeze, and I'm gonna stay squeeze, 1146 00:57:00,840 --> 00:57:08,520 Speaker 1: and I'm gonna go And I'm still squeezing this whole time, 1147 00:57:08,560 --> 00:57:14,640 Speaker 1: and I'm slowly ship too much out and you're vagina, 1148 00:57:14,760 --> 00:57:18,000 Speaker 1: I'm still squeezing. Your kegels are squeezed. Still squeezing this 1149 00:57:18,000 --> 00:57:20,040 Speaker 1: whole time, and then at the bottom of my breath 1150 00:57:20,520 --> 00:57:25,240 Speaker 1: I released, I released the kegle. So does that make sense? 1151 00:57:25,680 --> 00:57:27,840 Speaker 1: Does that make sense? You're like, you're squeezing your muscles 1152 00:57:27,880 --> 00:57:30,600 Speaker 1: from the bottom of the breath up holding holding the 1153 00:57:30,880 --> 00:57:34,800 Speaker 1: squeeze and slowly so squeezing the muscle. By the way, 1154 00:57:34,840 --> 00:57:37,200 Speaker 1: for those listeners who have never really worked their kegle 1155 00:57:37,240 --> 00:57:40,920 Speaker 1: muscles before, I would saying keegle ship whatever, kegle keegele. 1156 00:57:41,160 --> 00:57:43,680 Speaker 1: So it feels like if you try to stop that 1157 00:57:43,760 --> 00:57:45,440 Speaker 1: pe like hold it, you can do it right now. 1158 00:57:45,480 --> 00:57:51,200 Speaker 1: I'm doing mine right now, feeling like holding it like 1159 00:57:51,200 --> 00:57:54,160 Speaker 1: like if you're paid, if you're like But by the way, 1160 00:57:54,200 --> 00:58:01,120 Speaker 1: it's really are you squeezing if you don't want to 1161 00:58:01,360 --> 00:58:04,800 Speaker 1: have a loose bladder when you're older, By the way, 1162 00:58:04,840 --> 00:58:07,400 Speaker 1: it's very important if you're talking about a tight vagina, 1163 00:58:07,400 --> 00:58:09,840 Speaker 1: which is a myth, by the way, I don't want 1164 00:58:09,840 --> 00:58:13,120 Speaker 1: to perpetuate. But if you do want to have control 1165 00:58:13,240 --> 00:58:16,600 Speaker 1: over your bladder when you're older, it's super important to 1166 00:58:16,800 --> 00:58:20,880 Speaker 1: practice your kegles. And it's also really helpful for multiple orgasms. 1167 00:58:20,880 --> 00:58:23,360 Speaker 1: What about the balls like that you can put in 1168 00:58:23,400 --> 00:58:28,480 Speaker 1: your vagina like the I didn't know what you're asking. 1169 00:58:28,520 --> 00:58:30,280 Speaker 1: I was like, please, God, don't let her think you 1170 00:58:30,280 --> 00:58:35,640 Speaker 1: have a fucking your ether in your ball. Yeah, people 1171 00:58:35,680 --> 00:58:38,120 Speaker 1: like men. While the woman who bettany Vernon is her name, 1172 00:58:38,160 --> 00:58:41,440 Speaker 1: who had bondage with she does beautiful ben Wall balls. 1173 00:58:41,880 --> 00:58:44,320 Speaker 1: Also some people like you know, I mean, I think, 1174 00:58:44,360 --> 00:58:46,400 Speaker 1: like the whole Yoni egg thing, how do they help 1175 00:58:46,440 --> 00:58:48,680 Speaker 1: your pussy? Then, well, it gives you. It's also like 1176 00:58:48,720 --> 00:58:51,160 Speaker 1: it's the same thing. It's muscle control, which you can 1177 00:58:51,240 --> 00:58:53,959 Speaker 1: do like you know, like I'm doing right now. So 1178 00:58:54,280 --> 00:59:03,479 Speaker 1: just having awareness of you. I've never been the Pussy Show, 1179 00:59:03,760 --> 00:59:06,520 Speaker 1: and I went in there before and the very first 1180 00:59:06,560 --> 00:59:08,600 Speaker 1: trick that was going on was this girl asked the 1181 00:59:08,600 --> 00:59:10,320 Speaker 1: guy at the bar what his name was, and she 1182 00:59:10,400 --> 00:59:13,760 Speaker 1: took a marker, put it in her pussy and literally 1183 00:59:13,880 --> 00:59:17,360 Speaker 1: wrote his name on a sheet of paper with the 1184 00:59:17,400 --> 00:59:21,439 Speaker 1: marker in her pussy. I've had muscle control. You haven't 1185 00:59:21,440 --> 00:59:25,320 Speaker 1: seen like mommy who can lift weights with her she 1186 00:59:25,360 --> 00:59:29,400 Speaker 1: can like lift word with her vaginas. That's crazy. But 1187 00:59:29,440 --> 00:59:32,160 Speaker 1: then why are they older? You think? Why are they older? Girl? 1188 00:59:32,240 --> 00:59:33,920 Speaker 1: The same way why sex gets better when you get 1189 00:59:33,960 --> 00:59:38,400 Speaker 1: older because your body your body. If you know your 1190 00:59:38,400 --> 00:59:40,720 Speaker 1: body and you don't feel like you give yourself permission. 1191 00:59:41,280 --> 00:59:45,440 Speaker 1: I will say when I worked in Miami, Uncle Luke 1192 00:59:45,480 --> 00:59:47,640 Speaker 1: would have holes up there playing Corona bottles in the 1193 00:59:47,720 --> 00:59:50,680 Speaker 1: Pussy Girl. I remember those videos. It was so lit 1194 00:59:51,200 --> 00:59:55,560 Speaker 1: Uncle Lucas like from two Life prop like every single word, 1195 00:59:55,880 --> 01:00:00,760 Speaker 1: every song. My mother threw the cassette tape out of 1196 01:00:00,760 --> 01:00:05,520 Speaker 1: the window of the cart. There's only one place where 1197 01:00:05,520 --> 01:00:11,720 Speaker 1: you were. So because you are, I would like to say, 1198 01:00:11,760 --> 01:00:14,480 Speaker 1: a sexpert, and you have the sex ed show and 1199 01:00:14,520 --> 01:00:18,320 Speaker 1: the sex ed domain because you was on it. Um. 1200 01:00:18,360 --> 01:00:20,919 Speaker 1: I want to get into our home mail session before 1201 01:00:20,960 --> 01:00:23,600 Speaker 1: we get out of here, and the question from this 1202 01:00:23,760 --> 01:00:26,800 Speaker 1: is am I still a virgin? Hi? Ladies. First of all, 1203 01:00:26,840 --> 01:00:29,320 Speaker 1: I'm a big fan and love listening to your podcast. 1204 01:00:29,640 --> 01:00:32,600 Speaker 1: So I am or was a twenty nine year old 1205 01:00:32,680 --> 01:00:35,959 Speaker 1: virgin until recently. I got into a relationship and things 1206 01:00:36,000 --> 01:00:38,280 Speaker 1: just kind of happened and next thing you know, we 1207 01:00:38,360 --> 01:00:41,640 Speaker 1: are having sex, or so I thought. I have never 1208 01:00:41,680 --> 01:00:44,440 Speaker 1: had sex, so I am not sure. However, it felt 1209 01:00:44,440 --> 01:00:47,560 Speaker 1: painful when he first went inside, but after I did 1210 01:00:47,560 --> 01:00:50,360 Speaker 1: not feel much pain and honestly was expecting to fill 1211 01:00:50,440 --> 01:00:53,200 Speaker 1: my hymen break and was next expecting to see blood. 1212 01:00:53,520 --> 01:00:56,240 Speaker 1: None of that happened. To make things worse, he asked 1213 01:00:56,280 --> 01:00:58,680 Speaker 1: me if I was really a virgin, which hurt my feelings. 1214 01:00:59,040 --> 01:01:01,840 Speaker 1: Now I am not variance, but it's not rocket science 1215 01:01:01,880 --> 01:01:03,919 Speaker 1: to know if a dude has a big or small dick, 1216 01:01:04,200 --> 01:01:06,840 Speaker 1: which he is on the smaller side, is it possible 1217 01:01:07,040 --> 01:01:10,160 Speaker 1: that he is too short to reach my hyman? Since then, 1218 01:01:10,480 --> 01:01:13,000 Speaker 1: we have tried five more times. The same thing happened 1219 01:01:13,200 --> 01:01:15,919 Speaker 1: her upon entering and felt nothing after that. I don't 1220 01:01:15,920 --> 01:01:18,040 Speaker 1: even feel like I have had sex. How do I 1221 01:01:18,080 --> 01:01:21,320 Speaker 1: bring this up? Is this normal? Please? Help? First of all, 1222 01:01:21,320 --> 01:01:25,120 Speaker 1: it's totally normal. It's totally normal. And like, this whole 1223 01:01:25,160 --> 01:01:28,960 Speaker 1: idea of virginity really bothers me too, because what is virginity? 1224 01:01:29,000 --> 01:01:31,560 Speaker 1: And like, does virginity mean you have to have sex 1225 01:01:31,640 --> 01:01:34,800 Speaker 1: between a penis and a vagina to totally not be 1226 01:01:34,880 --> 01:01:38,160 Speaker 1: a virgin? Myman can break while riding a bike, they 1227 01:01:38,160 --> 01:01:40,320 Speaker 1: say a lot of people over twenty. I think I 1228 01:01:40,320 --> 01:01:41,680 Speaker 1: was reading this somewhere. I don't know if it's twenty 1229 01:01:41,720 --> 01:01:43,440 Speaker 1: years old or a different age, but I have already 1230 01:01:43,480 --> 01:01:46,640 Speaker 1: lost it somewhere another around the way. So like, even 1231 01:01:46,680 --> 01:01:48,560 Speaker 1: if they haven't had sex, yet you may not have 1232 01:01:49,040 --> 01:01:52,120 Speaker 1: that big old break, right, and also like did you 1233 01:01:52,160 --> 01:01:54,680 Speaker 1: have that idea, just the idea that like, well what 1234 01:01:54,800 --> 01:01:57,160 Speaker 1: about if you have anal sex or if oral sex 1235 01:01:57,280 --> 01:02:01,840 Speaker 1: or fingering like all of those things, like the idea 1236 01:02:02,000 --> 01:02:04,680 Speaker 1: in middle school, Like the hose of middle school will 1237 01:02:04,680 --> 01:02:06,360 Speaker 1: go around and say they still haven't had sex, but 1238 01:02:06,400 --> 01:02:08,920 Speaker 1: they had an on and they just blew everyone off 1239 01:02:08,960 --> 01:02:14,360 Speaker 1: like they just sucked their dick, and so they you've broken. 1240 01:02:14,440 --> 01:02:16,280 Speaker 1: But a lot of like a lot of people who 1241 01:02:16,280 --> 01:02:19,360 Speaker 1: are like fourteen year olds now are like having anal 1242 01:02:19,440 --> 01:02:23,240 Speaker 1: sex instead of any that's because they feel like it's 1243 01:02:23,240 --> 01:02:27,560 Speaker 1: preserving their virginity. That's so crazy, feeling like I started 1244 01:02:27,560 --> 01:02:28,960 Speaker 1: to say that as I got over, like I'm gonna say, 1245 01:02:29,000 --> 01:02:30,720 Speaker 1: I asked for my husband is really just my excuse 1246 01:02:30,720 --> 01:02:34,040 Speaker 1: to not sucking the ass. But well, I don't think 1247 01:02:34,120 --> 01:02:36,280 Speaker 1: I have anything left to save for my husband, So 1248 01:02:36,320 --> 01:02:39,600 Speaker 1: I hope my husband isn't worried about say I haven't 1249 01:02:39,600 --> 01:02:43,320 Speaker 1: been fucked. Oh I haven't gagged anyone with my foot, 1250 01:02:43,360 --> 01:02:45,560 Speaker 1: but I do have a proposition for that. So unless 1251 01:02:45,560 --> 01:02:47,480 Speaker 1: he comes from the brain, my husband may not be 1252 01:02:47,520 --> 01:02:49,440 Speaker 1: able to do that either. What it's left like an 1253 01:02:49,480 --> 01:02:56,200 Speaker 1: ear fun like he got knees or something behind the knees. Yeah, 1254 01:02:57,240 --> 01:03:02,120 Speaker 1: pet oh my god, okay like that interviewed, he was like, yeah, 1255 01:03:02,480 --> 01:03:04,080 Speaker 1: And every time I posted a picture like this in 1256 01:03:04,160 --> 01:03:08,920 Speaker 1: my bed, he always he's like, yo, they look a 1257 01:03:09,000 --> 01:03:13,240 Speaker 1: good Well okay, so I like, I like that. Do 1258 01:03:13,280 --> 01:03:16,200 Speaker 1: you have any advice for she's still a version? I mean, listen, 1259 01:03:17,120 --> 01:03:19,680 Speaker 1: I don't know what happened to your hyman or where 1260 01:03:19,680 --> 01:03:22,040 Speaker 1: it is, but like, you definitely had sex if it 1261 01:03:22,120 --> 01:03:24,120 Speaker 1: went in there. Sure he might not be big enough 1262 01:03:24,160 --> 01:03:27,400 Speaker 1: for you, but absolutely not. You're not still a virgin. 1263 01:03:27,480 --> 01:03:31,240 Speaker 1: Just just listen, did it go in if it did? Know, 1264 01:03:32,040 --> 01:03:35,280 Speaker 1: I think the whole blood seeing thing is kind of stupid, 1265 01:03:35,560 --> 01:03:38,560 Speaker 1: and I'm sorry that you know. This is how unsure 1266 01:03:38,600 --> 01:03:40,680 Speaker 1: I was about that you were waiting for this big reveal. 1267 01:03:41,240 --> 01:03:43,800 Speaker 1: Dick just pushed my period on because I definitely led 1268 01:03:44,000 --> 01:03:47,280 Speaker 1: like right after I did too. Yeah. So but I 1269 01:03:47,280 --> 01:03:49,920 Speaker 1: thought I had sex with Yeah I was and it 1270 01:03:49,960 --> 01:03:53,720 Speaker 1: went right. Yeah, So it's very possible that girl. Maybe 1271 01:03:53,720 --> 01:03:56,080 Speaker 1: you did a split, you know, to get but you 1272 01:03:56,120 --> 01:03:58,840 Speaker 1: know what that's like. When I do talks um and 1273 01:03:58,880 --> 01:04:01,640 Speaker 1: people ask questions and audience, the number one thing that 1274 01:04:01,640 --> 01:04:05,160 Speaker 1: people approach me privately about our virgins in their twenties, 1275 01:04:05,240 --> 01:04:08,800 Speaker 1: because I think also culturally we shame people for not 1276 01:04:08,880 --> 01:04:12,560 Speaker 1: having sex, which is crazy. It's like, where where does 1277 01:04:12,560 --> 01:04:15,960 Speaker 1: this come from? Where is this law that you and 1278 01:04:16,520 --> 01:04:19,959 Speaker 1: great for you? Like, whatever you want, however you want 1279 01:04:20,000 --> 01:04:22,920 Speaker 1: to consider your sexuality or yourself is all okay. As 1280 01:04:22,960 --> 01:04:25,480 Speaker 1: long as you're not hurting yourself or someone else. It's 1281 01:04:25,520 --> 01:04:31,600 Speaker 1: all okay. Animals or animals or dead people or kid. Yeah, 1282 01:04:31,960 --> 01:04:34,480 Speaker 1: I do want to like, let's do two more minutes, 1283 01:04:34,600 --> 01:04:36,840 Speaker 1: but I just really want to know. We have this question. 1284 01:04:36,880 --> 01:04:38,880 Speaker 1: A lot girl came out to us at Houston show 1285 01:04:38,880 --> 01:04:41,320 Speaker 1: and asked me about her virginity and how do I 1286 01:04:41,360 --> 01:04:43,160 Speaker 1: get out there? I want to lose my virginia over 1287 01:04:44,560 --> 01:04:46,200 Speaker 1: What kind of advice would you have for them? Well, 1288 01:04:46,200 --> 01:04:47,640 Speaker 1: first of all, I'll be like, why do you do 1289 01:04:47,720 --> 01:04:49,160 Speaker 1: you want to lose it because you want to lose 1290 01:04:49,200 --> 01:04:51,160 Speaker 1: it or because you think you should lose it because 1291 01:04:51,200 --> 01:04:54,520 Speaker 1: everyone says you're supposed to lose it, And like, really 1292 01:04:54,560 --> 01:04:57,840 Speaker 1: think about that, because it's such a personal choice. You 1293 01:04:57,880 --> 01:04:59,919 Speaker 1: want to make sure you're doing things because you want 1294 01:05:00,040 --> 01:05:01,959 Speaker 1: to do That is what we preach on this show. 1295 01:05:02,080 --> 01:05:06,439 Speaker 1: So like, I feel like as kind of sex liberators 1296 01:05:06,480 --> 01:05:09,120 Speaker 1: and how we talk about women really even having sex 1297 01:05:09,400 --> 01:05:11,480 Speaker 1: because you want to have an orgasm or you want 1298 01:05:11,520 --> 01:05:13,320 Speaker 1: to enjoy it, and not to have sex because a 1299 01:05:13,360 --> 01:05:15,439 Speaker 1: man just wants to have sex with you. I feel 1300 01:05:15,440 --> 01:05:18,000 Speaker 1: like the virgins that listen to this show should definitely 1301 01:05:18,040 --> 01:05:20,320 Speaker 1: take that bit of advice and really hone in on 1302 01:05:20,560 --> 01:05:22,520 Speaker 1: why do you want to lose your virginity and don't 1303 01:05:22,560 --> 01:05:25,440 Speaker 1: just go out there looking for anna lose your virginity 1304 01:05:25,480 --> 01:05:30,600 Speaker 1: for it. When yeah, when I had like celibate periods, 1305 01:05:30,640 --> 01:05:32,840 Speaker 1: I had so many friends just be like you should 1306 01:05:32,880 --> 01:05:34,960 Speaker 1: just be having sex and you're going to get cobwebs 1307 01:05:35,000 --> 01:05:38,280 Speaker 1: down there, and like no, people really didn't understand, you know. 1308 01:05:38,320 --> 01:05:41,600 Speaker 1: And I'm like, I'm fucking liberated, you know, Like I've 1309 01:05:41,600 --> 01:05:46,640 Speaker 1: got my little my, you know, sex toy. I've got 1310 01:05:46,800 --> 01:05:49,200 Speaker 1: done it in different times of different breakups, for different 1311 01:05:49,280 --> 01:05:51,320 Speaker 1: different periods, and I've known other people have done it. 1312 01:05:51,360 --> 01:05:53,520 Speaker 1: I'm like, why are you trying to shame me? Why 1313 01:05:53,560 --> 01:05:55,520 Speaker 1: are you trying to shame me? Like just the same 1314 01:05:55,640 --> 01:05:58,480 Speaker 1: problem as slush shaming and its virgin shaming, So you 1315 01:05:58,480 --> 01:06:03,640 Speaker 1: should just like stop with this. People And they want 1316 01:06:03,720 --> 01:06:06,600 Speaker 1: to do with their bodies. I like that. I like that. 1317 01:06:06,680 --> 01:06:09,520 Speaker 1: So before we get out of here, let our listeners 1318 01:06:09,560 --> 01:06:12,040 Speaker 1: know what you have coming up where they can find 1319 01:06:12,080 --> 01:06:14,400 Speaker 1: you and all your social media handles and all that 1320 01:06:14,440 --> 01:06:16,480 Speaker 1: cool stuff. All right, Well, we have a new season 1321 01:06:16,520 --> 01:06:19,080 Speaker 1: of The Sex Said podcast which I host, coming out 1322 01:06:19,320 --> 01:06:21,680 Speaker 1: next week I guess like the day day or two 1323 01:06:21,720 --> 01:06:26,760 Speaker 1: after this. Wherever you stream podcasts where the sex Said? 1324 01:06:26,960 --> 01:06:31,120 Speaker 1: On Instagram where the Sex Said. Our website is the 1325 01:06:31,200 --> 01:06:34,400 Speaker 1: sex Said dot com and my personal instagram is Goldilocks. 1326 01:06:34,480 --> 01:06:38,400 Speaker 1: G yeah, look for the Blue what's that episode that? 1327 01:06:38,440 --> 01:06:40,160 Speaker 1: I love that? I think that's such a good place 1328 01:06:40,200 --> 01:06:43,880 Speaker 1: to start. What was that Loue Paget episode? Blue Paget 1329 01:06:44,000 --> 01:06:47,680 Speaker 1: does really has really good tips for con Lingus and Flacio, 1330 01:06:48,040 --> 01:06:50,600 Speaker 1: and I think so that will work for literally all 1331 01:06:50,600 --> 01:06:53,680 Speaker 1: of our listeners. So yeah, it was very listeners for 1332 01:06:53,720 --> 01:06:59,720 Speaker 1: the women listen no matter what. How okay, good, no, 1333 01:07:00,160 --> 01:07:02,360 Speaker 1: thank you so much coming out. I hope you guys 1334 01:07:02,400 --> 01:07:05,800 Speaker 1: all enjoyed this episode. As you guys know, because of 1335 01:07:05,840 --> 01:07:08,440 Speaker 1: you guys, we are able to go on tour. We 1336 01:07:08,600 --> 01:07:12,680 Speaker 1: have l a we get and I can go laughing 1337 01:07:12,720 --> 01:07:14,920 Speaker 1: to get hot school. God, I'm a light enough to 1338 01:07:14,960 --> 01:07:17,600 Speaker 1: dig and ship, but I'm not getting I'm scared. Oh 1339 01:07:17,600 --> 01:07:20,640 Speaker 1: I'm gonna get high, but I'm probably gonna only get 1340 01:07:20,720 --> 01:07:22,760 Speaker 1: high like once day night and then I'm gonna stop 1341 01:07:22,760 --> 01:07:24,760 Speaker 1: by Friday because i can't be high on the weekend. 1342 01:07:24,800 --> 01:07:28,000 Speaker 1: But staying in the Beverly and let me just tell 1343 01:07:28,040 --> 01:07:30,560 Speaker 1: you the first time I'm saying now, I'm not I'm sorry. 1344 01:07:30,560 --> 01:07:32,880 Speaker 1: She wants the fans. I'm not just putting what hotel 1345 01:07:32,960 --> 01:07:35,400 Speaker 1: I'm staying. It's super bouge. Nobody could get in, right, 1346 01:07:35,440 --> 01:07:38,040 Speaker 1: they block it out of it. So wait, because I'm 1347 01:07:38,080 --> 01:07:39,840 Speaker 1: staying there last time, like, oh, this is really nice 1348 01:07:39,840 --> 01:07:41,480 Speaker 1: and it was Grammy weekend so they did that biggest 1349 01:07:41,560 --> 01:07:44,760 Speaker 1: party there and Ship fucking Oprah everybody, right, So I'm 1350 01:07:44,760 --> 01:07:46,360 Speaker 1: like wanting to smoke weed, but I don't want to 1351 01:07:46,360 --> 01:07:50,760 Speaker 1: be like tacky and all of these times and like 1352 01:07:51,000 --> 01:07:53,400 Speaker 1: suits are fucking smoking weed and Ship and I'm like, here, 1353 01:07:53,440 --> 01:07:55,760 Speaker 1: I am. I was being ghetto with Ship and I'm like, OK, 1354 01:07:56,440 --> 01:08:00,440 Speaker 1: so just say we got like less than ten tickets 1355 01:08:00,480 --> 01:08:02,800 Speaker 1: left for our second show. I do want to shout 1356 01:08:02,800 --> 01:08:05,760 Speaker 1: out to everyone coming on May twelve on Mother's Day, 1357 01:08:05,840 --> 01:08:08,040 Speaker 1: but we we got you know, star set a event 1358 01:08:08,080 --> 01:08:10,280 Speaker 1: motherfucker planned out f y'all and motherfucking l a. So 1359 01:08:10,280 --> 01:08:13,280 Speaker 1: see you guys at the Hollywood Improv and then sorry 1360 01:08:13,280 --> 01:08:16,400 Speaker 1: for you guys, UM in Toronto. Toronto is sold the 1361 01:08:16,439 --> 01:08:19,599 Speaker 1: funk out bitch, so that'll be will be there May eighteenth, 1362 01:08:19,640 --> 01:08:22,040 Speaker 1: and that will wrap up our tour. Also, once again, 1363 01:08:22,040 --> 01:08:24,160 Speaker 1: we want to shout out all of our patrons. Because 1364 01:08:24,160 --> 01:08:28,240 Speaker 1: of you guys, this tour is possible. So if you 1365 01:08:28,240 --> 01:08:31,040 Speaker 1: guys have not yet become a patron, for five dollars 1366 01:08:31,040 --> 01:08:34,000 Speaker 1: a month, you get three bonus episodes and at the 1367 01:08:34,000 --> 01:08:36,639 Speaker 1: top tier of fifteen dollars a month, you guys will 1368 01:08:36,680 --> 01:08:39,120 Speaker 1: get merch after four months. UM, we've been sending those 1369 01:08:39,120 --> 01:08:40,800 Speaker 1: out and I think we're actually gonna start on working 1370 01:08:40,800 --> 01:08:42,400 Speaker 1: on what socks and mugs and a whole bunch of 1371 01:08:42,400 --> 01:08:47,840 Speaker 1: little extra other other things for so UM. If you 1372 01:08:47,840 --> 01:08:51,120 Speaker 1: guys haven't yet UM checked that out. 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And once again this has been he 1381 01:09:13,080 --> 01:09:22,519 Speaker 1: had another episode of Horrible Decisions by so y'all all like, Elder, 1382 01:09:22,640 --> 01:09:24,439 Speaker 1: So when you when you pop your when'd you pop 1383 01:09:24,439 --> 01:09:32,439 Speaker 1: your cherry? Wow? Because you know from the South, I'm like, 1384 01:09:34,520 --> 01:09:39,360 Speaker 1: I may, I may or may not have been like 1385 01:09:40,120 --> 01:09:44,759 Speaker 1: nineteen wow. You know I want you held out longer 1386 01:09:44,760 --> 01:09:49,400 Speaker 1: than it really. Yeah, yeah, I can tell you I 1387 01:09:49,400 --> 01:09:53,080 Speaker 1: don't love. I don't love. I don't love that. I 1388 01:09:53,080 --> 01:09:56,800 Speaker 1: can tell y'all fast. Let me because at one point 1389 01:09:56,800 --> 01:09:59,920 Speaker 1: in high school, me and my two female best friends, 1390 01:10:00,040 --> 01:10:04,200 Speaker 1: Selma and Janet, we had a like a celebratory pact, 1391 01:10:04,920 --> 01:10:07,160 Speaker 1: so we were like, we're not going to have sex 1392 01:10:07,200 --> 01:10:13,120 Speaker 1: to eighteen, and that's so we're gonna, like, you know, 1393 01:10:13,200 --> 01:10:16,280 Speaker 1: stick to it. And I had a very close sexual 1394 01:10:16,280 --> 01:10:20,200 Speaker 1: account or the female kind ones. And that's my questions 1395 01:10:20,240 --> 01:10:22,840 Speaker 1: for you. Well, I'm about to answer it. And I 1396 01:10:22,920 --> 01:10:25,960 Speaker 1: got there, it looked down at it. It was like 1397 01:10:26,200 --> 01:10:32,200 Speaker 1: there's a pack that I made. I can't believe I'm 1398 01:10:32,200 --> 01:10:36,040 Speaker 1: seeing this. I was like, there's a pack that I made. Um, 1399 01:10:36,160 --> 01:10:38,200 Speaker 1: So I can't do this, but I would love to 1400 01:10:38,200 --> 01:10:41,800 Speaker 1: be your friend call me. Didn't she know you were gay? No, 1401 01:10:41,920 --> 01:10:44,360 Speaker 1: of course not. I was real like hetero in high school. 1402 01:10:45,040 --> 01:10:48,519 Speaker 1: So what she looked like she was? Actually? No, why 1403 01:10:48,560 --> 01:10:50,880 Speaker 1: she gotta be white? I don't know. Do I look 1404 01:10:50,920 --> 01:10:54,439 Speaker 1: like a white girl type of guy? Oh? My god? 1405 01:10:55,120 --> 01:11:00,160 Speaker 1: You know that's why other that's why you got that look. No, 1406 01:11:01,200 --> 01:11:05,760 Speaker 1: she was a complete ebony goddess princess. She was a 1407 01:11:05,800 --> 01:11:08,439 Speaker 1: little bit darker than you, Like I was about to say, 1408 01:11:08,439 --> 01:11:09,800 Speaker 1: like she had to be a lot of that because 1409 01:11:09,840 --> 01:11:19,240 Speaker 1: wheezy white. First of all, Mandy, I'm just saying you 1410 01:11:19,360 --> 01:11:21,960 Speaker 1: talked about the ebony goddess present did say a little 1411 01:11:22,000 --> 01:11:26,560 Speaker 1: bit lot of You just want to say at black 1412 01:11:26,600 --> 01:11:32,280 Speaker 1: and Middle Eastern may that's fine. That ain't white. You 1413 01:11:32,400 --> 01:11:35,720 Speaker 1: sound sound good, bit sound good just because you said 1414 01:11:35,760 --> 01:11:37,800 Speaker 1: your god damn DNA and you probably got somebody else. 1415 01:11:37,880 --> 01:11:41,280 Speaker 1: You want to believe that I do that. I can't 1416 01:11:41,320 --> 01:11:42,880 Speaker 1: do this one. You want to mean, I don't believe it. 1417 01:11:42,960 --> 01:11:45,280 Speaker 1: Like the government has already followed me, and they just 1418 01:11:45,280 --> 01:11:48,679 Speaker 1: tell you flies, bro, They just tell you what they want. 1419 01:11:49,600 --> 01:11:56,080 Speaker 1: People lie everything. People, Yes, They imagine if you thought 1420 01:11:56,080 --> 01:11:58,200 Speaker 1: your daddy was something. You're like, I don't see any 1421 01:11:58,240 --> 01:12:02,360 Speaker 1: bit of well you don't I'm part Chinese, so that 1422 01:12:02,520 --> 01:12:07,320 Speaker 1: you couldn't wait to say that I am. People say that, No, 1423 01:12:07,560 --> 01:12:14,760 Speaker 1: I mean my eyes are a little, a little, However, 1424 01:12:15,080 --> 01:12:18,639 Speaker 1: I really am my great grandfa No, my grandfather actually 1425 01:12:18,960 --> 01:12:20,040 Speaker 1: was from Canton, China,