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Speaker 4: I'm Erica and I'm Mila and this is Good.

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Speaker 3: Mom's Bad Choices Podcast Beach Season two.

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Speaker 3: Dating, and just look at this as the ultimate group chat.

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Speaker 3: So you're out the game. But say is bomb?

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Speaker 4: Because at first I was like, girl, we had bombs?

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Speaker 3: Dudes don't want to No, dudes still don't want to

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Speaker 4: Still. I've heard it two different ways. I've heard it

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Speaker 3: Yeah, yeah, because I've had guys where it's like they

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Speaker 4: It must be the only reason. But no, it's just something.

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Speaker 4: And that's another fucked up thing, like as a woman,

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Speaker 4: an eligible woman and that shit is being crazy. I've

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Speaker 3: Plenty of bit you state him and men don't.

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Speaker 3: Good mom's bad underscore bad choices. If you want to

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Speaker 4: Saying, pull up in our dam mill, bro, going to

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Speaker 4: going to do a small percentage of exactly. That's really

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Speaker 4: it's time we join voices. Join voices.

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Speaker 3: We're gonna joins the guy and price together. I go,

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Speaker 3: moms unite.

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Speaker 4: We're sexy too.

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Speaker 3: No, it's true, it's true, But I don't know. I mean, honestly, though,

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Speaker 4: Guy, he just has too much time.

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Speaker 4: it's a cute African. Oh yeah, that's fine. Different but

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Speaker 4: Have it gone, I hang out, But yeah, there is

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Speaker 4: I was like, are you scared? Did you say that? No?

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Speaker 4: He was great. I think that can be worked on,

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Speaker 4: He was like yes.

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Speaker 3: He was like, why I haven't heard from you and

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Speaker 4: So like how much availability you think? Yeah, that's another thing,

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Speaker 4: How about you? Guys? Are women?

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Speaker 3: I think got it mixed around. They did it on purpose.

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Speaker 4: Then they're just spare donors. Yes, they're just firm donors.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, for like sitting on that stick, I'm like cuddling. Yeah,

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Speaker 4: it kind of likes nice too. I like to kind

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Speaker 4: will take you the yoga and the beach? Yeah I

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Speaker 4: got I'm gonna go back out with him. Yeah you should.

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Speaker 4: stories like this doesnt having been any time in my life.

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00:20:29,440 --> 00:20:31,520
Speaker 4: I'm a guy in the lawn, I'm on the fucking

439
00:20:31,520 --> 00:20:33,479
Speaker 4: top of a mountain and he skis up on me.

440
00:20:33,640 --> 00:20:38,040
Speaker 3: All Tinder, all tender, all Tinder, I answer.

441
00:20:37,840 --> 00:20:43,160
Speaker 4: Us, I love, like clearly I needed to try again. Wait,

442
00:20:43,160 --> 00:20:45,439
Speaker 4: I just want to be clear about this tender meetup.

443
00:20:45,920 --> 00:20:48,480
Speaker 4: You were on the top of the mountain where in Mammoth.

444
00:20:48,560 --> 00:20:51,160
Speaker 3: No, in Utah, You're you know you were in Okay.

445
00:20:51,200 --> 00:20:54,480
Speaker 4: You were in Utah for sun Dance. You grew on

446
00:20:54,560 --> 00:20:58,160
Speaker 4: Tinder in Utah, I mean yeah, and on while going

447
00:20:58,200 --> 00:21:00,600
Speaker 4: up the ski slope, you decided and he literally met

448
00:21:00,600 --> 00:21:03,520
Speaker 4: you like, oh, black diamond, blue circle, and he pulled

449
00:21:03,600 --> 00:21:06,240
Speaker 4: up one hundred percent accurate. How long were you waiting

450
00:21:06,240 --> 00:21:07,840
Speaker 4: at the top of the mine. Well, I was skiing,

451
00:21:07,880 --> 00:21:08,760
Speaker 4: I like waited for him.

452
00:21:08,800 --> 00:21:10,199
Speaker 3: I didn't wait for him, like I went on and

453
00:21:10,280 --> 00:21:12,280
Speaker 3: ski and then he was like, let's exchange numbers.

454
00:21:12,280 --> 00:21:13,200
Speaker 4: So then we exchange numbers.

455
00:21:13,240 --> 00:21:14,840
Speaker 3: He's like, I'll text you on my way, and he

456
00:21:15,000 --> 00:21:17,560
Speaker 3: like left like twenty minutes later, and then he was

457
00:21:17,560 --> 00:21:19,080
Speaker 3: like my He's like, I'm with a group of like

458
00:21:19,119 --> 00:21:19,600
Speaker 3: twenty people.

459
00:21:19,680 --> 00:21:20,360
Speaker 4: They don't want to go.

460
00:21:20,320 --> 00:21:21,920
Speaker 3: Ski, they're all fucked up from the night before.

461
00:21:21,920 --> 00:21:24,040
Speaker 4: I'm gonna till meet you. And he so he met

462
00:21:24,080 --> 00:21:25,800
Speaker 4: up with me and we met at the mountain. I

463
00:21:25,840 --> 00:21:27,320
Speaker 4: was like, I'm wearing a bright pink.

464
00:21:27,119 --> 00:21:30,600
Speaker 3: Ski sow like and he found out and I didn't

465
00:21:30,600 --> 00:21:32,760
Speaker 3: see his face for like the first hour because he

466
00:21:32,840 --> 00:21:35,359
Speaker 3: had like goy mask on and the goggles.

467
00:21:35,359 --> 00:21:36,400
Speaker 4: Like I was like, all I.

468
00:21:36,320 --> 00:21:39,600
Speaker 3: Saw was you even can't fish that you're always his mouth.

469
00:21:39,640 --> 00:21:40,480
Speaker 4: Sure you should have known that.

470
00:21:40,520 --> 00:21:41,680
Speaker 3: It was a trembling.

471
00:21:42,880 --> 00:21:46,399
Speaker 4: Wait. So then oh my god. So then so we skied.

472
00:21:46,400 --> 00:21:48,119
Speaker 3: We had a great time because I was with my

473
00:21:48,160 --> 00:21:50,240
Speaker 3: friend who doesn't know how to ski, and I remember

474
00:21:50,280 --> 00:21:51,879
Speaker 3: we talked about this, like when you're with people that

475
00:21:51,960 --> 00:21:54,000
Speaker 3: don't know how to ski, if I'm annoring things. So

476
00:21:54,040 --> 00:21:56,320
Speaker 3: I was like, girl, I gave her a lesson and

477
00:21:56,359 --> 00:21:58,400
Speaker 3: then I was like, I'm out, and so I went

478
00:21:58,480 --> 00:22:00,359
Speaker 3: with him and we skied for like two hours. I

479
00:22:00,400 --> 00:22:02,960
Speaker 3: have the best time ever because he was a really

480
00:22:03,000 --> 00:22:06,240
Speaker 3: good snowboarder. And then we got on this chair lift

481
00:22:06,280 --> 00:22:07,960
Speaker 3: and then like he just like looked at me and

482
00:22:07,960 --> 00:22:09,200
Speaker 3: then we just made.

483
00:22:09,000 --> 00:22:13,440
Speaker 4: Out on the mountain chair that's going up the mountain. Wow,

484
00:22:13,520 --> 00:22:17,640
Speaker 4: I'm definitely right the fuck now because this is some bullshit,

485
00:22:17,840 --> 00:22:21,160
Speaker 4: like this sounds like a love story. Was his lip trembling?

486
00:22:21,200 --> 00:22:25,639
Speaker 4: Then it was cold? It was justified if you have

487
00:22:25,680 --> 00:22:28,479
Speaker 4: a lipt trimble, always meet the bitch on the mountain.

488
00:22:29,040 --> 00:22:32,840
Speaker 4: She may not notice when you get back to the California. Oh,

489
00:22:32,920 --> 00:22:34,679
Speaker 4: he might have had a troubling list, you know what.

490
00:22:34,720 --> 00:22:37,160
Speaker 4: I just realized. Also, no one's ever going to date

491
00:22:37,160 --> 00:22:39,200
Speaker 4: this if we talk about every single person.

492
00:22:38,880 --> 00:22:40,840
Speaker 3: We date on here, but no one knows who they are.

493
00:22:40,960 --> 00:22:43,439
Speaker 4: They just know they know they were like, fuck that bitch.

494
00:22:43,480 --> 00:22:45,640
Speaker 4: I'm just I'm never going to talk about this podcast

495
00:22:45,680 --> 00:22:47,959
Speaker 4: with them, you know, Like we can't even tell anyone

496
00:22:48,200 --> 00:22:50,439
Speaker 4: it's a secret. They won't listen.

497
00:22:50,720 --> 00:22:55,600
Speaker 3: I mean, it's very rare that people invest in their friends.

498
00:22:55,640 --> 00:22:57,399
Speaker 3: Even you can't even get your friends and your life.

499
00:22:57,880 --> 00:23:01,360
Speaker 3: You post something right, right, right host a booty picks

500
00:23:01,600 --> 00:23:02,399
Speaker 3: four hundred.

501
00:23:02,640 --> 00:23:04,800
Speaker 4: Right, like you're all your motherfucker's minded to fall away

502
00:23:04,840 --> 00:23:05,560
Speaker 4: from my business?

503
00:23:05,680 --> 00:23:08,040
Speaker 3: Right Like you post a booty pick, I get like

504
00:23:08,080 --> 00:23:10,520
Speaker 3: four hundred bags, and I post something I'm really passionate about.

505
00:23:10,560 --> 00:23:14,000
Speaker 3: It's like fifty right. Okay, people, y'all don't love me.

506
00:23:15,160 --> 00:23:16,680
Speaker 3: They're not gonna listen. I might as well just say

507
00:23:16,680 --> 00:23:17,320
Speaker 3: their names.

508
00:23:17,560 --> 00:23:21,680
Speaker 4: I will, so basically all you, your success in dating

509
00:23:21,840 --> 00:23:24,920
Speaker 4: so far has been on tender, and that's why I'm

510
00:23:24,920 --> 00:23:28,399
Speaker 4: failing in life because my one tender encounter this is

511
00:23:28,440 --> 00:23:35,040
Speaker 4: like end up being our tender episode. I'm trying to think, Oh,

512
00:23:35,119 --> 00:23:37,879
Speaker 4: E only met up with like two The first one

513
00:23:37,920 --> 00:23:42,760
Speaker 4: was much larger in person than he appeared in his photographs.

514
00:23:44,160 --> 00:23:46,879
Speaker 4: But I am a very nice person and I'm very

515
00:23:46,960 --> 00:23:50,480
Speaker 4: non judgmental, and I'm actually I usually am the least

516
00:23:50,520 --> 00:23:53,560
Speaker 4: shallow of my friends. I'm like, he's such a nice guy,

517
00:23:53,840 --> 00:23:59,000
Speaker 4: like who cares? Like I've been in all types of guys. Yeah,

518
00:23:59,600 --> 00:24:02,760
Speaker 4: so he was like a big boy. He wasn't big,

519
00:24:02,880 --> 00:24:03,400
Speaker 4: but he was big.

520
00:24:03,560 --> 00:24:04,399
Speaker 3: Did you want to sec a date?

521
00:24:04,480 --> 00:24:09,199
Speaker 4: Though? We went out to the club, went out to breakfast.

522
00:24:09,640 --> 00:24:11,800
Speaker 3: Wait, did you spend the night? No, I know, I

523
00:24:11,880 --> 00:24:13,320
Speaker 3: wasn't separcations.

524
00:24:13,400 --> 00:24:15,879
Speaker 4: Yeah, and then it was kind of cute, but like

525
00:24:15,920 --> 00:24:17,640
Speaker 4: he was kind of square. I went to his house

526
00:24:17,680 --> 00:24:19,600
Speaker 4: one day, like he just moved out here. He had

527
00:24:19,600 --> 00:24:20,960
Speaker 4: like a real job. I'm getting marry. He was an

528
00:24:21,040 --> 00:24:23,199
Speaker 4: edge ena. It was like a very square, like a

529
00:24:23,240 --> 00:24:25,280
Speaker 4: mama's boy. And that's good and all, but like not

530
00:24:25,359 --> 00:24:31,280
Speaker 4: for me. But the second one, Jeremy should have said that.

531
00:24:31,359 --> 00:24:37,240
Speaker 4: But Johnny, Hey, Johnny was white. I'm just gonna believe

532
00:24:37,280 --> 00:24:39,520
Speaker 4: that part out it was.

533
00:24:39,920 --> 00:24:40,560
Speaker 3: That's a good one.

534
00:24:41,720 --> 00:24:44,560
Speaker 4: The only reason we're gonna pre record. Look, everybody's fucking

535
00:24:44,640 --> 00:24:48,320
Speaker 4: name out before. We have no friends and no dating potential.

536
00:24:49,480 --> 00:24:51,720
Speaker 4: Oh he was he was white, and he was cute,

537
00:24:51,760 --> 00:24:53,920
Speaker 4: and I actually I matched with him on Tender. First

538
00:24:53,920 --> 00:24:55,520
Speaker 4: of all, I don't I need to update my Tender.

539
00:24:55,520 --> 00:24:57,280
Speaker 4: This is also shout out to Tender because I went

540
00:24:57,359 --> 00:24:59,159
Speaker 4: to New York and went on Tender and for like

541
00:24:59,280 --> 00:25:01,359
Speaker 4: four hours, I was still getting hits from La and

542
00:25:01,400 --> 00:25:02,960
Speaker 4: I was like, what the fuck, that's.

543
00:25:02,760 --> 00:25:03,680
Speaker 3: What happened to me too.

544
00:25:03,760 --> 00:25:06,880
Speaker 4: You need to get that location shit on point because

545
00:25:06,920 --> 00:25:08,520
Speaker 4: if I'm in New York, I need it.

546
00:25:08,560 --> 00:25:09,680
Speaker 3: As soon as I opened the app.

547
00:25:09,720 --> 00:25:11,000
Speaker 4: I need to be in New York. I don't need

548
00:25:11,000 --> 00:25:13,119
Speaker 4: to be four hours getting hits from California. Because this

549
00:25:13,200 --> 00:25:17,760
Speaker 4: is how I met fucking Johnny. It's four hours. They

550
00:25:17,800 --> 00:25:20,359
Speaker 4: hadn't switched it over. He's hitting me up, and I'm like, oh,

551
00:25:20,359 --> 00:25:21,560
Speaker 4: I meet up with him and he's like, oh. Then

552
00:25:21,560 --> 00:25:24,400
Speaker 4: I realized he's in California. Whatever. I wasn't fucking New York.

553
00:25:24,400 --> 00:25:27,840
Speaker 4: Two months. Two months later, this motherfucker is still like

554
00:25:27,960 --> 00:25:30,040
Speaker 4: hitting me up. I'm like, okay, I'm gonna be When

555
00:25:30,040 --> 00:25:31,520
Speaker 4: he hit me up for like the third time, I

556
00:25:31,480 --> 00:25:33,480
Speaker 4: had just happened to be in the airport coming back,

557
00:25:34,520 --> 00:25:36,359
Speaker 4: so I'm like, it just so happens. I'm on my

558
00:25:36,400 --> 00:25:37,640
Speaker 4: way back right now. I was like, oh, you came

559
00:25:37,720 --> 00:25:40,520
Speaker 4: back to you, coming back to claim me as my

560
00:25:40,640 --> 00:25:42,679
Speaker 4: woman or something. I'm like, okay, he's real confident.

561
00:25:42,760 --> 00:25:47,000
Speaker 3: This is Jeremy Johnny Johnny and he has four girls,

562
00:25:47,080 --> 00:25:48,640
Speaker 3: so I'm like, okay. He seems like a good dad,

563
00:25:48,680 --> 00:25:49,440
Speaker 3: which is kind.

564
00:25:49,240 --> 00:25:53,240
Speaker 4: Of, yeah, at this point attractive because we should be

565
00:25:53,240 --> 00:25:54,879
Speaker 4: the fucking Brady bunch up on this bench, you know,

566
00:25:55,160 --> 00:25:56,760
Speaker 4: least I don't have to school you and like dues

567
00:25:56,760 --> 00:25:59,560
Speaker 4: and don't so being a parent. Anyway, he was really cool.

568
00:25:59,640 --> 00:26:02,199
Speaker 4: We went out, they picked me up on the Uber.

569
00:26:04,760 --> 00:26:07,720
Speaker 4: We started drinking, and he was like real deep, like

570
00:26:07,760 --> 00:26:09,360
Speaker 4: he came over and it's like, why doould start drinking?

571
00:26:09,359 --> 00:26:11,040
Speaker 4: Came up set next to me and was like touching

572
00:26:11,080 --> 00:26:13,320
Speaker 4: on my hand, looking deep in my eyes, which is

573
00:26:13,359 --> 00:26:15,359
Speaker 4: also a thing I tend to find when I do

574
00:26:15,520 --> 00:26:19,400
Speaker 4: white guys. They're real deep, real into you, like it's

575
00:26:19,440 --> 00:26:21,600
Speaker 4: so beautiful. Love and wedding so long to touch your face,

576
00:26:22,000 --> 00:26:26,480
Speaker 4: touch your hands and just touch your lips, like, oh

577
00:26:26,560 --> 00:26:28,200
Speaker 4: my god, I wish if I could find a text

578
00:26:28,200 --> 00:26:30,880
Speaker 4: from him, girl, I'm gonna look for he would talk

579
00:26:30,960 --> 00:26:35,560
Speaker 4: to me as if he was writing. Yeah, it was

580
00:26:35,720 --> 00:26:38,560
Speaker 4: so strange. Oh my god, I plurried to god, I

581
00:26:38,560 --> 00:26:42,560
Speaker 4: still have these sex Damn. Did I raise some Damn?

582
00:26:43,119 --> 00:26:46,639
Speaker 4: It was like your sweet touch your warm, your warm hairs,

583
00:26:46,680 --> 00:26:49,639
Speaker 4: and it was so warm. It was so weird. Anyway,

584
00:26:49,680 --> 00:26:52,240
Speaker 4: we started drinking. We're drinking and we started walking up

585
00:26:52,240 --> 00:26:54,679
Speaker 4: the street to maybe the next spot, and I'm like,

586
00:26:54,720 --> 00:26:56,320
Speaker 4: you know, so asking about his ex wife, and I

587
00:26:56,320 --> 00:26:59,640
Speaker 4: guess the ex wife must now dated brother. First of all,

588
00:26:59,800 --> 00:27:01,919
Speaker 4: I've forgot to tell you he's from fucking like Utah.

589
00:27:02,080 --> 00:27:04,320
Speaker 4: And he also disclosed he never sent a black person

590
00:27:04,840 --> 00:27:05,960
Speaker 4: till he was in college.

591
00:27:06,080 --> 00:27:08,760
Speaker 3: Let me tell you, because I was out there. Utah

592
00:27:09,000 --> 00:27:10,919
Speaker 3: is not it's not a place for blacks.

593
00:27:11,600 --> 00:27:13,399
Speaker 4: I mean Mormons. I mean I know Mormons are not

594
00:27:13,440 --> 00:27:15,000
Speaker 4: down with the blacks. So I can only imagine it

595
00:27:15,040 --> 00:27:17,760
Speaker 4: tak a place for us. Yes, so he said he

596
00:27:17,840 --> 00:27:20,399
Speaker 4: I don't know how he got this sweet tooth for

597
00:27:20,520 --> 00:27:23,200
Speaker 4: brown sugar, but he ain't never seen a black person

598
00:27:23,240 --> 00:27:24,240
Speaker 4: until against them.

599
00:27:24,240 --> 00:27:26,200
Speaker 3: It was against the rules. He feels like he's doing something.

600
00:27:26,760 --> 00:27:28,560
Speaker 4: Yeah, so that's another thing. I'm like, this is a

601
00:27:28,600 --> 00:27:31,200
Speaker 4: fetish and I'm the type of this girl. Anybody starts

602
00:27:31,200 --> 00:27:33,760
Speaker 4: talking about the X the ex wife who's now remarried

603
00:27:33,760 --> 00:27:40,639
Speaker 4: to Jamal. So I'm like, yes, that was really I

604
00:27:40,640 --> 00:27:42,800
Speaker 4: was like, you're I started laughing, like, oh, she got it.

605
00:27:43,359 --> 00:27:44,800
Speaker 4: I was like, what does he do. He's like, oh, well,

606
00:27:44,840 --> 00:27:46,919
Speaker 4: basically just live off my child support checks. So I

607
00:27:47,040 --> 00:27:49,199
Speaker 4: made the mistake of saying, oh, he's a nigga, and

608
00:27:49,240 --> 00:27:53,840
Speaker 4: he was like, yeah, he's a nigga. Even he repeated it,

609
00:27:54,119 --> 00:27:58,320
Speaker 4: repeated it and at the time I was drunk in surprise,

610
00:27:58,440 --> 00:28:03,359
Speaker 4: so I thought it was because he said the like

611
00:28:03,480 --> 00:28:07,639
Speaker 4: hard a too like nigga. So I was like, okay, whatever,

612
00:28:07,920 --> 00:28:09,639
Speaker 4: she's kind of funny. But then like after that, he

613
00:28:09,760 --> 00:28:12,720
Speaker 4: continued to make racial comments like if some are not comfortable,

614
00:28:12,760 --> 00:28:15,400
Speaker 4: he thought you were, like holy yeah, he got so comfortable,

615
00:28:15,440 --> 00:28:17,560
Speaker 4: Like okay, this is another funny joke. But then out

616
00:28:17,600 --> 00:28:19,160
Speaker 4: for this I got bad. So like the second day,

617
00:28:19,600 --> 00:28:24,320
Speaker 4: I was meeting him for appetizers, and well, okay, I

618
00:28:24,400 --> 00:28:25,960
Speaker 4: was meeting for food. First of all, I don't go

619
00:28:26,000 --> 00:28:27,960
Speaker 4: anywhere without the motivation of food first.

620
00:28:27,960 --> 00:28:29,719
Speaker 3: And if you disappoint me and your like I just

621
00:28:29,760 --> 00:28:32,359
Speaker 3: never heard someone say I was meeting someone for appetime,

622
00:28:33,920 --> 00:28:37,359
Speaker 3: What a sad which says something like that me or.

623
00:28:39,120 --> 00:28:41,440
Speaker 4: We'll look to in second spot for our entree and

624
00:28:41,520 --> 00:28:47,080
Speaker 4: a certain spot for our dessert. So I said, disorder

625
00:28:47,120 --> 00:28:48,640
Speaker 4: whatever it looks good. So when I get to the bar,

626
00:28:48,760 --> 00:28:50,760
Speaker 4: I said, he said, yeah, I asked the bartender what

627
00:28:50,760 --> 00:28:53,240
Speaker 4: would be a good appetizer for a black girl? So

628
00:28:53,320 --> 00:29:02,720
Speaker 4: I got you macaroni And.

629
00:28:58,560 --> 00:29:01,440
Speaker 3: I also thought that was hilarious. But I shouldn't know.

630
00:29:01,520 --> 00:29:04,680
Speaker 4: These two signs were already like he was already given

631
00:29:04,760 --> 00:29:08,080
Speaker 4: me you're doing too much. The third and fourth and

632
00:29:08,080 --> 00:29:10,080
Speaker 4: fifth strike came really bunched up together.

633
00:29:10,800 --> 00:29:12,400
Speaker 3: There was a bunch of shrikes after that.

634
00:29:12,480 --> 00:29:14,840
Speaker 4: A lot of them were blored because there was like intoxication.

635
00:29:14,920 --> 00:29:16,560
Speaker 4: But the one time he tried me when I was sober,

636
00:29:16,640 --> 00:29:19,080
Speaker 4: I was like, yeah, so let me tell you his

637
00:29:19,160 --> 00:29:23,560
Speaker 4: other jokes were. He was like, yeah, I was just

638
00:29:23,600 --> 00:29:26,240
Speaker 4: talking to my you doesn't even die. I was talking

639
00:29:26,240 --> 00:29:32,920
Speaker 4: to my homie Chris Chris and uh, oh my god.

640
00:29:32,960 --> 00:29:37,360
Speaker 4: Would he say like Tiger. I said t I or

641
00:29:37,400 --> 00:29:39,600
Speaker 4: something and I was like, what are you talking about?

642
00:29:41,080 --> 00:29:41,320
Speaker 6: No?

643
00:29:41,440 --> 00:29:45,720
Speaker 4: He was like, yeah, I was talking to him about,

644
00:29:45,720 --> 00:29:48,240
Speaker 4: you know, the chick I just met, basically tell me

645
00:29:48,480 --> 00:29:50,560
Speaker 4: these hell was a loyal And I was like, wait,

646
00:29:50,560 --> 00:29:53,360
Speaker 4: what who are your friends? I'm like, are you talking

647
00:29:53,360 --> 00:29:55,240
Speaker 4: about me? I was so confused. He's like, you didn't

648
00:29:55,280 --> 00:29:59,120
Speaker 4: get it. He said Chris Brown, and I was like I.

649
00:30:01,600 --> 00:30:03,880
Speaker 4: Then I was like, I'm in Atlanta visiting my friend Mirror.

650
00:30:04,800 --> 00:30:05,640
Speaker 3: We went to school together.

651
00:30:05,640 --> 00:30:07,880
Speaker 4: We went to HBCU. He's like, go out to Mirror,

652
00:30:08,120 --> 00:30:11,400
Speaker 4: hey girl, hey, and shout out to Clark. He's like, oh,

653
00:30:11,400 --> 00:30:14,000
Speaker 4: you went to Hillman and I was like, what to Hilman,

654
00:30:14,080 --> 00:30:16,080
Speaker 4: is that from the Cosby's or something? No, girls from

655
00:30:16,120 --> 00:30:19,040
Speaker 4: different world? And then he's like, oh what you don't

656
00:30:19,040 --> 00:30:22,480
Speaker 4: think I'm woke enough? Oh God? And after he tried woke,

657
00:30:23,280 --> 00:30:24,760
Speaker 4: I was done with tender altogether.

658
00:30:25,480 --> 00:30:26,200
Speaker 3: I met him close the.

659
00:30:26,200 --> 00:30:28,680
Speaker 4: Chapter on All My White Boys and I definitely closing church.

660
00:30:29,640 --> 00:30:31,360
Speaker 4: And it was sad because he was so into me. Girl.

661
00:30:31,400 --> 00:30:33,200
Speaker 4: He would like, make out with me. How did you

662
00:30:33,320 --> 00:30:36,480
Speaker 4: end it? After that conversation he knew. I was not

663
00:30:36,680 --> 00:30:39,320
Speaker 4: like it was too much. No, No, this was on phone,

664
00:30:39,360 --> 00:30:42,360
Speaker 4: and you know what the last comment was. He made

665
00:30:42,360 --> 00:30:44,760
Speaker 4: a joke to the effects of, oh, yeah, because I'm white,

666
00:30:44,800 --> 00:30:47,040
Speaker 4: all I have to do is just wake up and

667
00:30:47,240 --> 00:30:50,240
Speaker 4: not do anything. I said, are you implying that there's

668
00:30:50,240 --> 00:30:52,160
Speaker 4: not white privilege? I don't know how he got on

669
00:30:52,200 --> 00:30:54,400
Speaker 4: this topic, but he didn't get the memo that I'm

670
00:30:54,400 --> 00:30:57,880
Speaker 4: not the person to discussed this with. And he was like, yeah,

671
00:30:57,920 --> 00:31:01,960
Speaker 4: because oh race, this is a comment racist only exists

672
00:31:02,000 --> 00:31:04,440
Speaker 4: on social media. I said, yeah, easy for you to

673
00:31:04,480 --> 00:31:11,280
Speaker 4: s that was sacred. Yeah, what's happening.

674
00:31:12,320 --> 00:31:19,800
Speaker 6: Wow, don't do that to her? Nona, sorry, give her

675
00:31:19,800 --> 00:31:23,560
Speaker 6: a had be nice.

676
00:31:25,840 --> 00:31:30,720
Speaker 3: Choking each other I know literally go, oh my gosh,

677
00:31:32,120 --> 00:31:37,320
Speaker 3: good mom, good moms, just bad chimes. You're totally paying attention.

678
00:31:39,520 --> 00:31:45,120
Speaker 4: Oh yeah, basically racism alisis on social media. And I said, yeah,

679
00:31:45,160 --> 00:31:48,200
Speaker 4: easy for you to say, because you don't ever have

680
00:31:48,200 --> 00:31:51,560
Speaker 4: to r any of these things. And he basically said

681
00:31:51,600 --> 00:31:55,480
Speaker 4: that he's from Ireland and the Irish never had slaves,

682
00:31:56,080 --> 00:32:00,000
Speaker 4: and that racism and that slavery only existed down south.

683
00:32:00,520 --> 00:32:05,120
Speaker 4: So after like those fourteen dumb ass, fucking comments, I

684
00:32:05,240 --> 00:32:08,360
Speaker 4: kindly told him this was I'm not we're not gonna talk.

685
00:32:08,400 --> 00:32:10,040
Speaker 4: And then he sent me like a book chapter of

686
00:32:10,080 --> 00:32:11,920
Speaker 4: text after like, I can't believe you would think I'm

687
00:32:11,920 --> 00:32:13,960
Speaker 4: a racist. You don't know what I've done for this community.

688
00:32:14,000 --> 00:32:16,520
Speaker 4: Because he's like a gym. I'm like, what does that

689
00:32:16,600 --> 00:32:18,720
Speaker 4: mean if five young black guys go to your gym?

690
00:32:18,800 --> 00:32:19,880
Speaker 3: So you saved.

691
00:32:20,360 --> 00:32:23,520
Speaker 4: Saving black community. Then he even put in there you

692
00:32:23,560 --> 00:32:25,840
Speaker 4: know you don't know how I take care of my

693
00:32:25,840 --> 00:32:30,920
Speaker 4: my daughter's stepsister. I'm like, oh, Jamal's daughter, So you

694
00:32:30,960 --> 00:32:33,320
Speaker 4: guys got se Jamal's daughter in this too, like and

695
00:32:33,480 --> 00:32:37,959
Speaker 4: also and also my daughters have a black stepsister. Oh

696
00:32:38,000 --> 00:32:38,280
Speaker 4: my god.

697
00:32:38,320 --> 00:32:40,680
Speaker 3: That's when people say, like I have a black cousin. Yeah,

698
00:32:40,720 --> 00:32:41,600
Speaker 3: I have a black friend.

699
00:32:41,680 --> 00:32:45,080
Speaker 4: Yeah, like my granddaughter's half black. Like that wasn't your choice,

700
00:32:45,120 --> 00:32:47,320
Speaker 4: your your daughter laid down was a black dick, and

701
00:32:47,320 --> 00:32:53,120
Speaker 4: now you gotta pay for it. Oh my god. Yeah,

702
00:32:53,240 --> 00:32:55,200
Speaker 4: tender is so not so much for me, so much

703
00:32:55,240 --> 00:32:58,080
Speaker 4: for you. But I'm downloading it now, so maybe I

704
00:32:58,080 --> 00:32:59,800
Speaker 4: have some updated story. You should swipe.

705
00:32:59,840 --> 00:33:04,320
Speaker 3: So, but I don't use Tinder in LA because it

706
00:33:04,360 --> 00:33:04,920
Speaker 3: doesn't work.

707
00:33:05,360 --> 00:33:06,520
Speaker 4: It's not so much that.

708
00:33:07,160 --> 00:33:09,120
Speaker 3: Actually the first Tinder day I ever went on was

709
00:33:09,160 --> 00:33:11,479
Speaker 3: in LA because I just got on my relationship. I

710
00:33:11,560 --> 00:33:14,320
Speaker 3: was like, just felt like I needed to meet someone

711
00:33:14,440 --> 00:33:15,640
Speaker 3: or do something.

712
00:33:16,840 --> 00:33:18,680
Speaker 4: To make me feel like, I don't know, like a

713
00:33:18,720 --> 00:33:19,280
Speaker 4: woman again.

714
00:33:19,320 --> 00:33:24,520
Speaker 3: I felt so like like just like this weird, unsexual

715
00:33:24,880 --> 00:33:26,320
Speaker 3: like I don't know who I was. I was like,

716
00:33:26,320 --> 00:33:27,440
Speaker 3: I just need to get some day.

717
00:33:27,840 --> 00:33:30,200
Speaker 7: That's a part like like being secked into the mom

718
00:33:30,760 --> 00:33:34,000
Speaker 7: the momly I felt like I was, you know, I

719
00:33:34,080 --> 00:33:37,040
Speaker 7: was really invested in my relationship and I just felt

720
00:33:37,080 --> 00:33:40,520
Speaker 7: like I was just being playing this mom role, playing

721
00:33:40,520 --> 00:33:43,400
Speaker 7: this loyal girlfriend fiance.

722
00:33:43,240 --> 00:33:46,400
Speaker 4: Role, and I kind of.

723
00:33:46,360 --> 00:33:49,120
Speaker 3: Like lost my like who Erica was as a woman,

724
00:33:49,240 --> 00:33:54,920
Speaker 3: like sexually and emotionally and even in my career, you know,

725
00:33:55,080 --> 00:33:56,840
Speaker 3: and so like when I got out of it, I

726
00:33:56,880 --> 00:34:00,320
Speaker 3: was kind of like it was a relief, but it

727
00:34:00,360 --> 00:34:03,440
Speaker 3: was like, Okay, how do I I don't have male friends,

728
00:34:03,520 --> 00:34:05,280
Speaker 3: and I have male friends, but none of them I

729
00:34:05,280 --> 00:34:07,840
Speaker 3: want to go on a date with you. To get that,

730
00:34:07,920 --> 00:34:11,480
Speaker 3: I needed someone so foreign to me. I did not

731
00:34:11,560 --> 00:34:13,239
Speaker 3: want to be you know what I mean. So I

732
00:34:13,320 --> 00:34:16,080
Speaker 3: used it in La and the first day was cool,

733
00:34:16,120 --> 00:34:18,160
Speaker 3: like I had a goal that was to make out

734
00:34:18,160 --> 00:34:21,160
Speaker 3: and I accomplished that goal. You know, afterwards guy homeboy

735
00:34:21,320 --> 00:34:22,600
Speaker 3: got attached or whatever, and I was.

736
00:34:22,560 --> 00:34:23,640
Speaker 4: Like absolutely not.

737
00:34:24,200 --> 00:34:26,480
Speaker 3: But after that, like people would like people would hit

738
00:34:26,480 --> 00:34:28,600
Speaker 3: me up and be like, Erica, you know, I saw

739
00:34:28,680 --> 00:34:31,920
Speaker 3: someone had a fake Tinder account, but someone's using your

740
00:34:31,920 --> 00:34:34,600
Speaker 3: photos because you know, no one knew for sure if

741
00:34:34,600 --> 00:34:37,240
Speaker 3: I was broken up, and I was like, no, that's

742
00:34:37,400 --> 00:34:40,839
Speaker 3: that's me. And then like it kept happening because La

743
00:34:41,000 --> 00:34:43,399
Speaker 3: is way too small apparently.

744
00:34:42,920 --> 00:34:47,279
Speaker 4: Like everybody knows everybody. I mean, just oh, we gotta

745
00:34:47,360 --> 00:34:48,719
Speaker 4: download soul Swipe.

746
00:34:48,880 --> 00:34:50,600
Speaker 3: I got yeah, oh didn't got downloak that. I was

747
00:34:50,600 --> 00:34:52,120
Speaker 3: just telling my friend about that today.

748
00:34:52,200 --> 00:34:54,640
Speaker 4: Maybe, but it's because there's even less black people in

749
00:34:54,760 --> 00:34:58,480
Speaker 4: La nobody will find us there. No, that's going to

750
00:34:58,520 --> 00:35:01,239
Speaker 4: be all the hood hood is, you know.

751
00:35:01,600 --> 00:35:07,880
Speaker 3: I kind of like how I got away from a

752
00:35:08,600 --> 00:35:14,040
Speaker 3: like I love me anyway, but yeah, So then I

753
00:35:14,040 --> 00:35:16,000
Speaker 3: realized I couldn't use it Tinder in La. I was like,

754
00:35:16,040 --> 00:35:17,759
Speaker 3: you know, this is too close to home. I don't

755
00:35:17,800 --> 00:35:20,440
Speaker 3: know people on here and low key I'd rather I

756
00:35:20,440 --> 00:35:22,120
Speaker 3: don't know, I just feel like it's more fun when

757
00:35:22,120 --> 00:35:22,719
Speaker 3: you're out of town.

758
00:35:23,120 --> 00:35:31,239
Speaker 4: Speaking of technological dating, have you heard of that? Like

759
00:35:31,480 --> 00:35:36,440
Speaker 4: really exclusive? They have to approve you ya, yes, yeah,

760
00:35:36,480 --> 00:35:38,840
Speaker 4: they denied me. They put me in a waiting list,

761
00:35:39,040 --> 00:35:41,480
Speaker 4: and I want to slip those throats. Wait when did

762
00:35:41,480 --> 00:35:46,240
Speaker 4: this talpen? Like a year ago when I first got single, I.

763
00:35:46,080 --> 00:35:49,200
Speaker 3: Was like, really, my cousin's on that, or she was

764
00:35:49,200 --> 00:35:50,399
Speaker 3: she's a boyfriend, but she.

765
00:35:50,520 --> 00:35:50,880
Speaker 2: Was on that.

766
00:35:50,960 --> 00:35:53,759
Speaker 4: I've heard some really crazy stories about the guys that

767
00:35:53,800 --> 00:35:55,640
Speaker 4: were getting on there, like the girl who I told

768
00:35:55,640 --> 00:35:59,040
Speaker 4: me about it my client, This bitch sorry in the

769
00:35:59,120 --> 00:36:01,759
Speaker 4: best possible way, met a guy who flew her to

770
00:36:01,840 --> 00:36:06,040
Speaker 4: Croatia for a week and her like six other girls

771
00:36:06,080 --> 00:36:06,439
Speaker 4: and put.

772
00:36:06,360 --> 00:36:07,759
Speaker 3: Him up in like a thirty p on them.

773
00:36:07,920 --> 00:36:10,640
Speaker 4: No, he did not on them. He was really respectful

774
00:36:10,680 --> 00:36:11,040
Speaker 4: and nice.

775
00:36:11,120 --> 00:36:12,160
Speaker 3: Could she share sex with him?

776
00:36:12,320 --> 00:36:14,040
Speaker 4: No, she said the other girls were like biting at

777
00:36:14,040 --> 00:36:16,080
Speaker 4: the bit, so she didn't feel she didn't even have to.

778
00:36:16,800 --> 00:36:18,160
Speaker 4: She was like she said, she was like a little

779
00:36:18,160 --> 00:36:19,520
Speaker 4: bit older than the other girls, and she was just

780
00:36:19,520 --> 00:36:22,839
Speaker 4: like she just had a good time. Amazing, that's how

781
00:36:22,880 --> 00:36:25,720
Speaker 4: you do it. Like he was like a soccer player

782
00:36:25,840 --> 00:36:27,800
Speaker 4: or something. They went on a date, was like a

783
00:36:27,960 --> 00:36:29,520
Speaker 4: ex tennis layer.

784
00:36:29,600 --> 00:36:32,480
Speaker 3: Like, well, so my cousin went like dated some like

785
00:36:32,680 --> 00:36:34,759
Speaker 3: lead singer of like a pretty popular band, or like

786
00:36:34,800 --> 00:36:37,719
Speaker 3: a guitarist of a popular band. She's dated like she's

787
00:36:37,719 --> 00:36:40,280
Speaker 3: an art she's an artist to herself, so she's dated,

788
00:36:40,360 --> 00:36:45,840
Speaker 3: Like what are they Okay? She's dated like some You

789
00:36:46,200 --> 00:36:49,560
Speaker 3: definitely meet some well to do entertainment people.

790
00:36:49,520 --> 00:36:51,960
Speaker 4: Have secret society dating. That's why I'm not on there

791
00:36:51,960 --> 00:36:52,680
Speaker 4: because I don't want to.

792
00:36:52,680 --> 00:36:55,200
Speaker 3: Have anything to do with anything related to entertainment.

793
00:36:55,520 --> 00:36:57,759
Speaker 4: I probably will never get accepted now because after they

794
00:36:57,760 --> 00:36:59,320
Speaker 4: call me in the waiting list, I ever wrote a

795
00:36:59,400 --> 00:37:06,960
Speaker 4: nassy You wrote an email email and suggested, oh did

796
00:37:06,960 --> 00:37:08,400
Speaker 4: you who recommended your did you? Don't you have to

797
00:37:08,400 --> 00:37:11,440
Speaker 4: have recommendations? Yeah? And I had a recommendation where they

798
00:37:11,480 --> 00:37:14,359
Speaker 4: had with a with a quality their quality. I guess

799
00:37:14,360 --> 00:37:15,080
Speaker 4: I just was.

800
00:37:14,960 --> 00:37:16,839
Speaker 3: Like, it's like the STUW whole house of data I now,

801
00:37:16,960 --> 00:37:17,560
Speaker 3: and I would I.

802
00:37:17,680 --> 00:37:19,160
Speaker 4: Really want to know who's on there. But I bet

803
00:37:19,200 --> 00:37:21,400
Speaker 4: you I can find the statistics that probably weren't that

804
00:37:21,480 --> 00:37:24,080
Speaker 4: many girls that look like me. I mean, I don't know,

805
00:37:24,200 --> 00:37:24,759
Speaker 4: probably not.

806
00:37:24,960 --> 00:37:28,320
Speaker 3: I mean in La yea Riot, I can on Yeah,

807
00:37:28,320 --> 00:37:30,439
Speaker 3: and you know, she showed me her profile and it's

808
00:37:30,440 --> 00:37:34,480
Speaker 3: so dramatic, literally, like you have a soundtrack to your photos.

809
00:37:34,600 --> 00:37:36,880
Speaker 3: Shut the fuck, like a music video. Wait, so it's

810
00:37:36,880 --> 00:37:39,319
Speaker 3: a movie. Yeah, So you put your photos and it's

811
00:37:39,360 --> 00:37:41,960
Speaker 3: like you like fades in and fades out. You have

812
00:37:42,040 --> 00:37:45,439
Speaker 3: to pick a song to be like your background music. Yeah,

813
00:37:45,480 --> 00:37:46,760
Speaker 3: it's it's pretty.

814
00:37:46,840 --> 00:37:47,800
Speaker 4: That's insane.

815
00:37:48,280 --> 00:37:49,920
Speaker 3: And I had another friend who was on a Millionaire

816
00:37:49,960 --> 00:37:51,360
Speaker 3: Matchmaker and she's with her boyfriend.

817
00:37:51,360 --> 00:37:52,359
Speaker 4: Now did she pay for it?

818
00:37:52,960 --> 00:37:53,120
Speaker 3: Yeah?

819
00:37:53,120 --> 00:37:55,400
Speaker 4: It wasn't like the show. It was like the actual app.

820
00:37:55,480 --> 00:37:57,879
Speaker 4: There's an app, yes, and you pay I might if

821
00:37:57,880 --> 00:37:59,920
Speaker 4: you pay you that's gonna be.

822
00:37:59,920 --> 00:38:02,799
Speaker 3: The she's who's she likes older guys though, like he's

823
00:38:02,840 --> 00:38:06,319
Speaker 3: probably like fifty older guys. That's true. So then I mean,

824
00:38:06,360 --> 00:38:07,000
Speaker 3: I don't mind other.

825
00:38:07,120 --> 00:38:10,040
Speaker 4: I don't know. I'm open. I'm open. Call me, how

826
00:38:10,080 --> 00:38:12,840
Speaker 4: old are you? How do you call me? I've dated

827
00:38:12,880 --> 00:38:17,319
Speaker 4: some or like been friends with some pretty older guys.

828
00:38:18,200 --> 00:38:20,280
Speaker 3: I find that I always date like within like five

829
00:38:20,360 --> 00:38:23,560
Speaker 3: year during age gap between not below though.

830
00:38:23,560 --> 00:38:26,239
Speaker 4: I will never date someone younger than me. Don't even try.

831
00:38:26,600 --> 00:38:29,080
Speaker 4: I just don't. I met that one's really sexy young

832
00:38:29,160 --> 00:38:32,279
Speaker 4: saying who's mature and I'll still a cancer, but he's

833
00:38:32,320 --> 00:38:33,200
Speaker 4: also like youngest.

834
00:38:33,239 --> 00:38:33,439
Speaker 3: Fuck.

835
00:38:33,760 --> 00:38:36,560
Speaker 4: I just feel like everyone seems mature of us. Yeah,

836
00:38:36,680 --> 00:38:39,279
Speaker 4: and then they said I can crazy when they're twenty seven. Yeah,

837
00:38:39,520 --> 00:38:41,080
Speaker 4: even if they're fifty, they're twenty seven.

838
00:38:41,280 --> 00:38:43,400
Speaker 3: That's true, but it's even worse than they actually are.

839
00:38:44,040 --> 00:38:47,040
Speaker 3: Like honestly, if someone told me they were twenty nine,

840
00:38:47,160 --> 00:38:48,000
Speaker 3: I might not date them.

841
00:38:48,000 --> 00:38:50,239
Speaker 4: That's how like ages. I don't know. I mean, I

842
00:38:50,560 --> 00:38:52,880
Speaker 4: don't want to date unless you really have your shit together.

843
00:38:52,960 --> 00:38:56,880
Speaker 4: Because I always say this, Like my b d baby's

844
00:38:56,920 --> 00:39:00,520
Speaker 4: daddy is my age. She's twenty nine and in May years,

845
00:39:00,520 --> 00:39:04,640
Speaker 4: that's about fifteen. Okay, so if you are even thirty

846
00:39:04,640 --> 00:39:07,920
Speaker 4: five the man years, you're about twenty three. So they

847
00:39:08,000 --> 00:39:09,799
Speaker 4: like the older the better because I don't have time like,

848
00:39:10,120 --> 00:39:12,160
Speaker 4: don't fucking call me too much, don't be riding me,

849
00:39:12,200 --> 00:39:14,359
Speaker 4: don't be asking me to me God damn questions. Have

850
00:39:14,400 --> 00:39:15,880
Speaker 4: some shit to do, so you're not worried about what

851
00:39:15,880 --> 00:39:18,879
Speaker 4: the fuck I'm doing. Don't be insecure. That's all young guys. Shit,

852
00:39:18,960 --> 00:39:21,080
Speaker 4: Get your shit together, have your money together, because mine's

853
00:39:21,120 --> 00:39:24,320
Speaker 4: not all the way together for life sixty five.

854
00:39:24,120 --> 00:39:26,560
Speaker 3: Percent there, so I need you to handle the rest.

855
00:39:26,719 --> 00:39:28,520
Speaker 4: You need to be like one hundred and ten percent

856
00:39:28,520 --> 00:39:30,200
Speaker 4: there because you know, honestly, I need a man.

857
00:39:30,239 --> 00:39:31,680
Speaker 3: But I tell me I need a mentor.

858
00:39:31,960 --> 00:39:35,520
Speaker 4: Yeah, show me I need I need a man mentor. Okay,

859
00:39:35,760 --> 00:39:38,040
Speaker 4: oh my god. Honestly, like I don't want to do

860
00:39:38,080 --> 00:39:40,880
Speaker 4: the teaching. I don't. I can't mold anyone like I'm

861
00:39:40,960 --> 00:39:43,240
Speaker 4: so used to like caring and nurturing and all this shit.

862
00:39:43,640 --> 00:39:47,280
Speaker 4: I have not one single lesson to give one person.

863
00:39:47,320 --> 00:39:50,040
Speaker 4: I need all the teaching I can get. I agree.

864
00:39:50,960 --> 00:39:56,200
Speaker 4: That's why I guess I'm an agist. Yeah, i'm my highest.

865
00:39:57,320 --> 00:39:59,160
Speaker 4: I'm I'm too short, Like you can't be short of

866
00:39:59,160 --> 00:40:01,719
Speaker 4: than me. You're a minute. I might legally be right

867
00:40:01,760 --> 00:40:06,359
Speaker 4: over a midget, Like legally I believe I am right

868
00:40:06,480 --> 00:40:08,880
Speaker 4: past the MIDI tree. So if you're sure, then me,

869
00:40:08,920 --> 00:40:10,560
Speaker 4: it's just that you're a dwarf and I don't set

870
00:40:10,640 --> 00:40:12,440
Speaker 4: them an a. I doctors kimina, I may I have

871
00:40:12,440 --> 00:40:15,319
Speaker 4: one eye? I did the guy in a partialgic, not

872
00:40:15,440 --> 00:40:15,960
Speaker 4: fetting Bob.

873
00:40:16,360 --> 00:40:25,520
Speaker 3: He was white, a paraplegic. Hi, when I turn the light, Okay,

874
00:40:25,640 --> 00:40:26,239
Speaker 3: that's not try.

875
00:40:26,280 --> 00:40:26,760
Speaker 4: It's Irin.

876
00:40:27,080 --> 00:40:27,920
Speaker 3: She says, lights on.

877
00:40:28,760 --> 00:40:31,520
Speaker 4: You don't want to do it. Show show show, Luna,

878
00:40:31,640 --> 00:40:32,120
Speaker 4: Show Luna.

879
00:40:32,239 --> 00:40:34,800
Speaker 3: Okay, bye, Okay, those are our children.

880
00:40:34,840 --> 00:40:36,920
Speaker 4: Those are our kids, Luna and Irin that are at

881
00:40:36,960 --> 00:40:39,879
Speaker 4: at ten thirty nine pm because we're good moms and

882
00:40:39,960 --> 00:40:42,080
Speaker 4: we're making a bad decision to not put our kids

883
00:40:42,080 --> 00:40:44,359
Speaker 4: to sleep right now, especially the best decision because they're

884
00:40:44,360 --> 00:40:47,320
Speaker 4: going to sleep in the moth exactly. Okay, here's a confession.

885
00:40:48,640 --> 00:40:51,040
Speaker 4: I regularly, if I'm not doing shit, let my daughter

886
00:40:51,080 --> 00:40:53,359
Speaker 4: stay up late so that she doesn't make it too

887
00:40:53,360 --> 00:40:55,759
Speaker 4: early in the morning, which is terrible because it's going

888
00:40:55,800 --> 00:40:57,200
Speaker 4: to mess her life up in the future, and I'm

889
00:40:57,239 --> 00:40:57,879
Speaker 4: going to work on.

890
00:40:57,840 --> 00:41:01,520
Speaker 3: It next week. She was sleeping Terran's changed every week.

891
00:41:01,640 --> 00:41:05,040
Speaker 3: I was like, she needs she that's an easy fixy, Okay, My,

892
00:41:05,480 --> 00:41:07,560
Speaker 3: I mean, I can't say that I do that on purpose,

893
00:41:07,600 --> 00:41:11,640
Speaker 3: but I have done it and I definitely works, and

894
00:41:11,640 --> 00:41:13,520
Speaker 3: maybe I should because my kid has been waking me

895
00:41:13,640 --> 00:41:17,080
Speaker 3: up at like between six forty five and seven thirty

896
00:41:17,200 --> 00:41:19,399
Speaker 3: every morning and sometimes like I don't go to bed

897
00:41:19,480 --> 00:41:22,279
Speaker 3: till like two. So I'm tired and I don't even

898
00:41:22,320 --> 00:41:22,880
Speaker 3: know how to sleep.

899
00:41:22,880 --> 00:41:24,239
Speaker 4: And that's why I took a nap today because I

900
00:41:24,320 --> 00:41:27,160
Speaker 4: was like, I'm tired. I need a nap. Another confession.

901
00:41:27,600 --> 00:41:30,440
Speaker 4: When my kid breaks up too early, I'll pour some

902
00:41:30,600 --> 00:41:32,600
Speaker 4: cereal and I give her my phone on you too,

903
00:41:36,120 --> 00:41:38,960
Speaker 4: and I do a small silent pair. She doesn't suck

904
00:41:39,000 --> 00:41:41,959
Speaker 4: anything up and usually she does it. She's just compactly fine,

905
00:41:42,040 --> 00:41:44,600
Speaker 4: like an angel, watch your YouTube until my phone dies,

906
00:41:44,640 --> 00:41:46,319
Speaker 4: in which case that's am I alert to wake The

907
00:41:46,360 --> 00:41:48,600
Speaker 4: bets are at wake time. Yeah.

908
00:41:48,800 --> 00:41:50,319
Speaker 3: The other day she woke me up and I was like,

909
00:41:50,719 --> 00:41:53,640
Speaker 3: I was like, you're going to sleep, and she's like, Mama,

910
00:41:54,120 --> 00:41:56,000
Speaker 3: She's like, I'm not tired. I said no, we're going

911
00:41:56,040 --> 00:41:57,640
Speaker 3: to sleep, like I forced her.

912
00:41:58,160 --> 00:41:59,000
Speaker 4: She wouldn't feel great.

913
00:41:59,000 --> 00:41:59,160
Speaker 3: Girl.

914
00:41:59,239 --> 00:41:59,960
Speaker 4: She went back to sleep.

915
00:42:00,040 --> 00:42:04,160
Speaker 3: Took a lot, but I was tired and I was like, no,

916
00:42:04,360 --> 00:42:05,360
Speaker 3: we're not doing.

917
00:42:05,120 --> 00:42:08,480
Speaker 4: This right now. Nothing's happening for you.

918
00:42:08,960 --> 00:42:10,560
Speaker 3: I'm like, just close your eyes and ten you're sleeping.

919
00:42:10,560 --> 00:42:12,280
Speaker 3: I don't care what do you just be quiet?

920
00:42:12,680 --> 00:42:14,880
Speaker 4: Yeah, but I've.

921
00:42:14,680 --> 00:42:18,480
Speaker 3: Been like really trying to Like it's been like the

922
00:42:18,520 --> 00:42:24,640
Speaker 3: past week or two, Irie has been like crying about TV.

923
00:42:25,080 --> 00:42:27,799
Speaker 3: She's obsessed with the TV, and it's been pissing me

924
00:42:27,840 --> 00:42:31,480
Speaker 3: off because it's my fault because like I need to

925
00:42:31,480 --> 00:42:33,160
Speaker 3: get things done, so I'll put the TV on, you

926
00:42:33,200 --> 00:42:34,800
Speaker 3: know what I mean, or like it's just an easy

927
00:42:34,880 --> 00:42:35,520
Speaker 3: thing to do.

928
00:42:36,080 --> 00:42:37,080
Speaker 4: So I've challenged me.

929
00:42:37,160 --> 00:42:39,000
Speaker 3: I was like, okay, like I need to challenge myself

930
00:42:39,160 --> 00:42:41,160
Speaker 3: every like we're not doing TV in the morning anymore.

931
00:42:41,520 --> 00:42:43,480
Speaker 3: And it's been hard. Like today, like I was like

932
00:42:43,520 --> 00:42:45,040
Speaker 3: really tempted to put the TV on. I was like,

933
00:42:45,080 --> 00:42:46,680
Speaker 3: you know what, I really have to get I to

934
00:42:46,719 --> 00:42:48,120
Speaker 3: send these emails. I have to do this, and I

935
00:42:48,160 --> 00:42:52,759
Speaker 3: was like, we're gonna read this book, okay, and we

936
00:42:52,840 --> 00:42:55,120
Speaker 3: read it, but I think it's it's honestly been helping though.

937
00:42:55,160 --> 00:42:57,719
Speaker 3: It's really been helping because it forces me to have

938
00:42:57,760 --> 00:42:59,800
Speaker 3: to like not the first thing that I do in

939
00:42:59,800 --> 00:43:02,120
Speaker 3: them when he's get on Instagram when right, because that's

940
00:43:02,160 --> 00:43:04,040
Speaker 3: what I do because I'm addicted to my phone, look

941
00:43:04,120 --> 00:43:06,040
Speaker 3: like one hundred twenty.

942
00:43:06,080 --> 00:43:07,000
Speaker 4: We all are, we all are.

943
00:43:07,440 --> 00:43:09,480
Speaker 3: It's so bad though, Like I was disgusting. I was

944
00:43:09,520 --> 00:43:11,960
Speaker 3: literally like thinking, like I wonder, like if I can

945
00:43:12,040 --> 00:43:14,719
Speaker 3: track how many hours a day I'm on my phone,

946
00:43:14,719 --> 00:43:20,040
Speaker 3: it would probably be so many, so many hours, like

947
00:43:20,080 --> 00:43:21,439
Speaker 3: probably most of my day.

948
00:43:21,520 --> 00:43:23,160
Speaker 4: And then it's like when you when you add that

949
00:43:23,280 --> 00:43:26,880
Speaker 4: up in your life or in your child's life, exactly most.

950
00:43:26,600 --> 00:43:28,640
Speaker 3: Of my day. If it's not checking my emails, if

951
00:43:28,640 --> 00:43:30,640
Speaker 3: it's not checking how many likes I.

952
00:43:30,600 --> 00:43:32,480
Speaker 4: Have on this? Yeah, but you like you just posted

953
00:43:32,520 --> 00:43:34,600
Speaker 4: to me minute, Yeah I did how many? It's who commented?

954
00:43:34,800 --> 00:43:36,839
Speaker 4: Like who's why is this a sign? Ask cut? You're

955
00:43:36,960 --> 00:43:39,680
Speaker 4: like it's seventy like over things that looks good.

956
00:43:40,040 --> 00:43:43,600
Speaker 3: It's too much, too And then my job is like

957
00:43:43,719 --> 00:43:48,319
Speaker 3: requires me to be like socially active, and it's just

958
00:43:48,360 --> 00:43:51,719
Speaker 3: like it's too much. It's just a lot, and I'm

959
00:43:51,760 --> 00:43:55,480
Speaker 3: trying to like I feel like that morning thing hopefully

960
00:43:55,520 --> 00:43:57,760
Speaker 3: will grow into something else, but I already feel myself

961
00:43:57,800 --> 00:43:59,799
Speaker 3: wanting to like be like fuck it just from the TV.

962
00:44:00,800 --> 00:44:03,480
Speaker 4: Yeah, but I mean I guess the part of the

963
00:44:03,480 --> 00:44:06,000
Speaker 4: bed I still be putting the hair like here's here's

964
00:44:06,000 --> 00:44:08,520
Speaker 4: the YouTube right right now, and that shit is so weird.

965
00:44:09,640 --> 00:44:12,520
Speaker 4: But the cool thing about raising a kid is that

966
00:44:13,280 --> 00:44:15,560
Speaker 4: it kind of forces you to be more aware of

967
00:44:15,600 --> 00:44:17,799
Speaker 4: your own actions too, So you know what I mean.

968
00:44:17,880 --> 00:44:20,400
Speaker 4: So like you're going to have times you know, you

969
00:44:20,440 --> 00:44:22,200
Speaker 4: want to do certain shit and you're like, you know,

970
00:44:22,239 --> 00:44:24,239
Speaker 4: that rational voice in your head is like, no, don't

971
00:44:24,320 --> 00:44:26,239
Speaker 4: just get weird fucking kids the phone so she can

972
00:44:26,280 --> 00:44:29,200
Speaker 4: look at other people play this toys. It's weird, right,

973
00:44:29,440 --> 00:44:30,799
Speaker 4: you know? I know.

974
00:44:30,880 --> 00:44:32,319
Speaker 3: But then I think when I was a kid, like,

975
00:44:32,320 --> 00:44:34,600
Speaker 3: what but my mom wasn't on Instagram?

976
00:44:35,000 --> 00:44:35,200
Speaker 5: Was she?

977
00:44:35,480 --> 00:44:38,400
Speaker 4: I guess? Was I just watching TV? Probably? Yeah? The vhs?

978
00:44:38,440 --> 00:44:41,120
Speaker 4: I don't know. They had to be way more involved obviously. Yeah.

979
00:44:41,200 --> 00:44:43,360
Speaker 4: Oh my god. It reminds me of having worked to

980
00:44:43,360 --> 00:44:45,960
Speaker 4: the Chris Rock Special and it's like, I haven't seen it.

981
00:44:46,640 --> 00:44:49,840
Speaker 4: He has this joke about this is my wife. He

982
00:44:50,000 --> 00:44:53,200
Speaker 4: was like back in the day with my parents, my

983
00:44:53,320 --> 00:44:56,799
Speaker 4: parents when we were coming up. My dad left at

984
00:44:56,840 --> 00:44:58,759
Speaker 4: six point thirty. He didn't come back to about eight

985
00:44:58,760 --> 00:45:02,120
Speaker 4: o'clock at night. That all day, my mom had no

986
00:45:02,160 --> 00:45:04,279
Speaker 4: way of getting in contact with with my dad. If

987
00:45:04,280 --> 00:45:06,239
Speaker 4: we died, he came back. He said, well, what.

988
00:45:06,280 --> 00:45:09,640
Speaker 3: Time did the dad the kids say, because.

989
00:45:09,440 --> 00:45:11,480
Speaker 4: He wouldn't he would have no way of finno until

990
00:45:11,480 --> 00:45:13,680
Speaker 4: he got home at night. He said, Now you leave

991
00:45:13,719 --> 00:45:17,000
Speaker 4: the fucking house and your wife's fucking texting every mother

992
00:45:17,120 --> 00:45:20,120
Speaker 4: fucking second minute, every feeling for you. She's like, he

993
00:45:20,160 --> 00:45:20,719
Speaker 4: didn't miss me?

994
00:45:20,760 --> 00:45:22,920
Speaker 3: Why are you want to talk? We've been talking all

995
00:45:23,200 --> 00:45:23,960
Speaker 3: the fucking day.

996
00:45:24,000 --> 00:45:27,640
Speaker 4: I'm like, ain't that the fucking I know everything going

997
00:45:27,640 --> 00:45:29,240
Speaker 4: on all the fucking time.

998
00:45:29,120 --> 00:45:29,560
Speaker 8: All the time.

999
00:45:29,600 --> 00:45:31,560
Speaker 3: I mean, it's a good thing or when it comes

1000
00:45:31,560 --> 00:45:34,040
Speaker 3: to I guess your kids. But it's also like FaceTime

1001
00:45:34,120 --> 00:45:37,160
Speaker 3: is amazing. Yeah, you know what I mean, especially because

1002
00:45:37,239 --> 00:45:39,520
Speaker 3: I travel a lot and like so does your dad.

1003
00:45:39,640 --> 00:45:42,239
Speaker 4: But it's really bad for like you're blowing up my spot.

1004
00:45:42,560 --> 00:45:45,279
Speaker 3: Yeah, don't don't face I don't not make a face

1005
00:45:45,320 --> 00:45:47,759
Speaker 3: time appointment, but your appointment first all.

1006
00:45:47,760 --> 00:45:50,440
Speaker 4: I'm not FaceTime me.

1007
00:45:51,080 --> 00:45:51,160
Speaker 3: No.

1008
00:45:51,280 --> 00:45:51,799
Speaker 4: I hate that.

1009
00:45:52,080 --> 00:45:54,520
Speaker 3: No, that like the only person that can do that

1010
00:45:54,960 --> 00:45:58,400
Speaker 3: is like her like floor bananny missed.

1011
00:45:58,200 --> 00:46:04,200
Speaker 4: Me or my grandma. She's with my daughter, right, it's.

1012
00:46:04,080 --> 00:46:06,919
Speaker 3: All key, like Loki, her dad's gonna have to stop

1013
00:46:06,960 --> 00:46:08,880
Speaker 3: doing it, yeah, because because wait, what if you're like

1014
00:46:08,920 --> 00:46:09,359
Speaker 3: laid up.

1015
00:46:09,640 --> 00:46:11,400
Speaker 4: Yeah, and you're like, the baby's not with you, but

1016
00:46:11,400 --> 00:46:12,839
Speaker 4: you don't want that and I don't have big right now,

1017
00:46:13,320 --> 00:46:13,920
Speaker 4: like right.

1018
00:46:13,800 --> 00:46:18,360
Speaker 3: Now, it's okay, it's still early in the game of singleness.

1019
00:46:17,680 --> 00:46:19,399
Speaker 4: That I'm not out here too great.

1020
00:46:19,520 --> 00:46:24,560
Speaker 3: Well right, no, but yeah, I've had people like just

1021
00:46:24,640 --> 00:46:26,719
Speaker 3: FaceTime me out of the blue and I'm like, why

1022
00:46:26,800 --> 00:46:29,080
Speaker 3: are you face text first?

1023
00:46:29,360 --> 00:46:29,560
Speaker 4: Yeah?

1024
00:46:29,920 --> 00:46:32,400
Speaker 3: Step one, step one, make an appointment.

1025
00:46:34,200 --> 00:46:37,160
Speaker 4: Back to the dating thing now that we were talking

1026
00:46:37,160 --> 00:46:41,040
Speaker 4: about the kids, have you like has every been around

1027
00:46:41,080 --> 00:46:45,200
Speaker 4: anybody you've dated or like no, or like seeing No.

1028
00:46:47,520 --> 00:46:49,319
Speaker 4: I had a scenario world that young guy I met.

1029
00:46:49,480 --> 00:46:52,520
Speaker 4: I met him in New York. I'm playing all my

1030
00:46:52,560 --> 00:46:56,040
Speaker 4: business while Lena was with me, like at a barbecue,

1031
00:46:56,120 --> 00:46:58,840
Speaker 4: so there was like it was an all in one situation.

1032
00:46:58,960 --> 00:47:00,839
Speaker 4: So he had already like nothing up like making out

1033
00:47:00,920 --> 00:47:02,480
Speaker 4: or like what like you knew.

1034
00:47:02,280 --> 00:47:03,200
Speaker 3: You were going to meet him there.

1035
00:47:03,400 --> 00:47:07,000
Speaker 4: No, No, we happened to meet there. Yeah, me and

1036
00:47:07,080 --> 00:47:09,080
Speaker 4: my whole family was there, like my grandmother, my dad.

1037
00:47:09,280 --> 00:47:09,480
Speaker 3: Yeah.

1038
00:47:10,440 --> 00:47:12,000
Speaker 4: No, I didn't plan that. We didn't like to meet

1039
00:47:12,080 --> 00:47:16,319
Speaker 4: up there, but like he like made out with me

1040
00:47:16,520 --> 00:47:20,080
Speaker 4: and at the barbecue, so cute, young and sexy. So

1041
00:47:20,160 --> 00:47:20,920
Speaker 4: I went with it.

1042
00:47:21,560 --> 00:47:23,479
Speaker 3: My kid was there, my dad, my brother. I didn't

1043
00:47:23,480 --> 00:47:24,160
Speaker 3: give three focks.

1044
00:47:24,160 --> 00:47:28,480
Speaker 4: I was like, but you know, after that, you know,

1045
00:47:28,520 --> 00:47:29,840
Speaker 4: he would come by and hang out because he was

1046
00:47:29,840 --> 00:47:32,080
Speaker 4: also friends with the girl I was staying with, and

1047
00:47:32,160 --> 00:47:34,520
Speaker 4: you know, like it I had to think about it,

1048
00:47:34,560 --> 00:47:36,080
Speaker 4: you know what I mean, like, you know, being a

1049
00:47:36,080 --> 00:47:38,160
Speaker 4: certain way or like not even affectionate because I'm not

1050
00:47:38,239 --> 00:47:41,319
Speaker 4: like a mushy type of girl. But it is kind

1051
00:47:41,320 --> 00:47:43,880
Speaker 4: of weird. And then like her dad was face signing me,

1052
00:47:43,960 --> 00:47:47,239
Speaker 4: and she, oh great, she face signed me Luna. I

1053
00:47:47,239 --> 00:47:49,799
Speaker 4: get the phone to Luna. She says, here, it's my

1054
00:47:49,920 --> 00:47:55,080
Speaker 4: dad to the guy. And then the dumb young ass

1055
00:47:55,160 --> 00:48:00,319
Speaker 4: guy because he's twenty six, goes awkward. I'm like, you

1056
00:48:00,400 --> 00:48:02,040
Speaker 4: shut the fuck up, all femal.

1057
00:48:02,160 --> 00:48:06,360
Speaker 3: You pretend like you can't hear or seep. Oh my god,

1058
00:48:06,640 --> 00:48:08,640
Speaker 3: I know, well so did so?

1059
00:48:08,719 --> 00:48:10,560
Speaker 4: Did Luna see you make out with this guy? No,

1060
00:48:11,160 --> 00:48:13,080
Speaker 4: but she didn't see us like sitting on the couch together,

1061
00:48:13,480 --> 00:48:14,719
Speaker 4: and I can see her eyes kind.

1062
00:48:14,600 --> 00:48:17,080
Speaker 3: Of looking at me, like looking at him, like not

1063
00:48:17,560 --> 00:48:19,440
Speaker 3: she looked like, what do you?

1064
00:48:19,600 --> 00:48:22,000
Speaker 4: I didn't noticarily kind of get in on it. But

1065
00:48:22,080 --> 00:48:23,239
Speaker 4: he's really cute, so I don't know if she was

1066
00:48:23,400 --> 00:48:26,359
Speaker 4: trying to battle me for my I didn't menure he

1067
00:48:26,400 --> 00:48:26,719
Speaker 4: was young.

1068
00:48:27,320 --> 00:48:28,080
Speaker 3: I don't know she was.

1069
00:48:28,040 --> 00:48:29,959
Speaker 4: Trying to do some kind of territorial shit.

1070
00:48:30,880 --> 00:48:31,600
Speaker 3: Oh my god.

1071
00:48:31,800 --> 00:48:33,359
Speaker 4: I don't know if it was about me or about him,

1072
00:48:34,080 --> 00:48:34,520
Speaker 4: but you know.

1073
00:48:34,400 --> 00:48:36,480
Speaker 3: What it is for me, I mean, it's definitely like

1074
00:48:37,680 --> 00:48:40,799
Speaker 3: I'm like, I don't I have really no desire to

1075
00:48:40,840 --> 00:48:43,080
Speaker 3: introduce these people to my kid. But also more so

1076
00:48:44,280 --> 00:48:47,200
Speaker 3: it's more so an egotistical thing, and it's that I

1077
00:48:47,360 --> 00:48:49,480
Speaker 3: absolutely do not.

1078
00:48:49,560 --> 00:48:51,600
Speaker 4: Want her father bringing any woman around her.

1079
00:48:52,040 --> 00:48:55,279
Speaker 3: So I don't want to give him any reason to

1080
00:48:55,400 --> 00:48:59,680
Speaker 3: feel like that's okay because I'm a jealous bitch, and

1081
00:49:00,120 --> 00:49:02,960
Speaker 3: not even jealous. I just don't want another woman around

1082
00:49:02,960 --> 00:49:04,839
Speaker 3: my kid, at least not yet. I know eventually one

1083
00:49:04,920 --> 00:49:06,960
Speaker 3: day it'll happen, but I'm so not ready for that.

1084
00:49:07,000 --> 00:49:08,600
Speaker 4: I know, and I like.

1085
00:49:10,040 --> 00:49:13,279
Speaker 3: Might hurt somebody, and so it's just better for us.

1086
00:49:13,440 --> 00:49:15,400
Speaker 3: And we actually just recently had this conversation, me and

1087
00:49:15,440 --> 00:49:17,880
Speaker 3: him because I was like, look, we're trying to iron out.

1088
00:49:17,760 --> 00:49:18,719
Speaker 4: Like you know, how we do.

1089
00:49:19,160 --> 00:49:21,600
Speaker 3: So I'm just learning, we're learning how to co parent

1090
00:49:21,719 --> 00:49:25,560
Speaker 3: like currently, you know, and so like I was just

1091
00:49:25,640 --> 00:49:26,120
Speaker 3: like you.

1092
00:49:26,880 --> 00:49:28,359
Speaker 4: I don't want her around any women.

1093
00:49:28,920 --> 00:49:31,240
Speaker 3: It's like, I know, eventually one day you'll date someone,

1094
00:49:31,280 --> 00:49:34,200
Speaker 3: but I need to meet them first, and like you

1095
00:49:34,280 --> 00:49:37,080
Speaker 3: need to know for sure that this is something serious.

1096
00:49:38,239 --> 00:49:42,840
Speaker 3: Oh those are I read? Show them to her. No,

1097
00:49:42,960 --> 00:49:46,760
Speaker 3: close the door, okay, close the door, close the door, please,

1098
00:49:48,400 --> 00:49:51,520
Speaker 3: thank you. So I think it's more so.

1099
00:49:52,480 --> 00:49:56,080
Speaker 4: It's more so like I don't want hands to do it.

1100
00:49:56,080 --> 00:49:56,680
Speaker 4: It's all of them.

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00:49:56,760 --> 00:49:58,480
Speaker 3: I don't know. I look at my daughter's like this,

1102
00:49:58,560 --> 00:50:03,359
Speaker 3: like precious, like little, like a little person, and I

1103
00:50:03,440 --> 00:50:06,279
Speaker 3: just don't. I don't even met any men that I

1104
00:50:06,280 --> 00:50:08,120
Speaker 3: feel like are worthy of even meeting her.

1105
00:50:08,920 --> 00:50:09,440
Speaker 4: That's what it.

1106
00:50:09,920 --> 00:50:12,600
Speaker 3: Really comes down to. No, I agree, and they already

1107
00:50:12,600 --> 00:50:15,439
Speaker 3: see her on Instagram. Right, that's fine, fine.

1108
00:50:15,280 --> 00:50:17,560
Speaker 4: Right, stay there. Yeah, if I can get if I

1109
00:50:17,600 --> 00:50:19,960
Speaker 4: can avoid it, definitely. But like I mean, I guess

1110
00:50:19,960 --> 00:50:22,560
Speaker 4: people I've known longer who call themselves winning to date me,

1111
00:50:22,640 --> 00:50:26,240
Speaker 4: I'm definitely like you want to eat me and my baby.

1112
00:50:26,360 --> 00:50:28,480
Speaker 4: And then it also makes me so don't touch me,

1113
00:50:28,719 --> 00:50:31,120
Speaker 4: don't look at me, don't think about it. See this

1114
00:50:32,080 --> 00:50:34,720
Speaker 4: that's true because you know, like I mean, I'm definitely

1115
00:50:34,760 --> 00:50:36,560
Speaker 4: not gonna bring around someone I'm you know.

1116
00:50:37,280 --> 00:50:39,759
Speaker 3: You can single longer than me too, like on and

1117
00:50:39,800 --> 00:50:40,759
Speaker 3: off single longer than me.

1118
00:50:40,840 --> 00:50:42,480
Speaker 4: So I feel like but also she's she started to

1119
00:50:42,520 --> 00:50:44,520
Speaker 4: learn how to talk, like the talking is way clearer

1120
00:50:44,600 --> 00:50:46,800
Speaker 4: right now too, And I'm like, oh, bitch, you're gonna

1121
00:50:46,800 --> 00:50:55,320
Speaker 4: tell yeah, like okay on the date A yeah.

1122
00:50:55,600 --> 00:50:58,800
Speaker 3: I just Also I think also because my my growing

1123
00:50:58,880 --> 00:51:02,719
Speaker 3: up with a single parent, she never I mean, I've

1124
00:51:02,719 --> 00:51:05,200
Speaker 3: met my mom. I remember my mom's boyfriends. I'm sure

1125
00:51:05,200 --> 00:51:07,640
Speaker 3: she brought people around and was just like this is

1126
00:51:07,880 --> 00:51:13,480
Speaker 3: this is Johnny. You're like my friends, right uncle, whereas

1127
00:51:13,520 --> 00:51:14,480
Speaker 3: my dad was.

1128
00:51:14,440 --> 00:51:17,400
Speaker 4: Reckless, right, And You're like, yeah, my dad would just

1129
00:51:17,440 --> 00:51:21,520
Speaker 4: bring around you know what I mean? And like you,

1130
00:51:21,880 --> 00:51:24,040
Speaker 4: I would. I would be the one because I could talk.

1131
00:51:24,480 --> 00:51:25,920
Speaker 4: I would be the one fucking.

1132
00:51:26,880 --> 00:51:33,800
Speaker 3: Where actually and the girl who's Ashley? I remember?

1133
00:51:33,840 --> 00:51:37,680
Speaker 4: I remember purpose. I remember distinctly one of his girlfriends.

1134
00:51:37,800 --> 00:51:41,080
Speaker 3: What was her name? Her name's like Eureka or crazy shit.

1135
00:51:41,560 --> 00:51:43,520
Speaker 3: And I remember her me being in the car and

1136
00:51:43,560 --> 00:51:47,080
Speaker 3: she was like, I'm your favorite, aren't I No? Tell

1137
00:51:47,120 --> 00:51:50,120
Speaker 3: me I'm your favorite? Like your dad loves me right?

1138
00:51:50,160 --> 00:51:52,279
Speaker 4: What a psycho? Like you love me too?

1139
00:51:52,320 --> 00:51:55,160
Speaker 3: And I was like, oh, I'll never forget that because

1140
00:51:55,160 --> 00:51:55,919
Speaker 3: I was like, oh.

1141
00:51:55,880 --> 00:51:58,239
Speaker 4: My god, stuck in this car. It just scared me

1142
00:51:58,680 --> 00:52:02,800
Speaker 4: one thousand more percent over her being around another bitch

1143
00:52:02,840 --> 00:52:05,000
Speaker 4: with her dad, Like I will cut a bit exactly.

1144
00:52:05,120 --> 00:52:07,120
Speaker 3: That's why. That's I'm telling you. That's like where my

1145
00:52:07,200 --> 00:52:11,160
Speaker 3: nafe go. I can't I love me, you love me.

1146
00:52:11,239 --> 00:52:14,160
Speaker 3: I'm your dad, your dad's favorite, You're I'm your favorite.

1147
00:52:14,239 --> 00:52:16,960
Speaker 3: Like it was like those type of like brain launcheries.

1148
00:52:17,000 --> 00:52:19,120
Speaker 3: He was so weird and I'll never forget it because I

1149
00:52:19,200 --> 00:52:22,919
Speaker 3: was old enough to be like this is this is crazy, right, Dad?

1150
00:52:22,920 --> 00:52:25,680
Speaker 4: Eureka's nice. And if you didn't know already by her name,

1151
00:52:26,000 --> 00:52:28,120
Speaker 4: let me rea that four.

1152
00:52:27,960 --> 00:52:29,959
Speaker 3: Year old retell you one more time.

1153
00:52:30,320 --> 00:52:34,120
Speaker 4: Yeah m m yeah.

1154
00:52:34,160 --> 00:52:40,600
Speaker 3: But anyway, so obviously we're just rambling. I'm like, we're

1155
00:52:40,640 --> 00:52:42,359
Speaker 3: not I don't know, we like on topic or something.

1156
00:52:42,400 --> 00:52:43,680
Speaker 3: I think you're still talking about dating.

1157
00:52:46,040 --> 00:52:49,680
Speaker 4: I'm trying to think, okay, So yeah, so anyway, I'm

1158
00:52:49,760 --> 00:52:55,120
Speaker 4: dating in LA. We're single moms. Dating in La is

1159
00:52:55,280 --> 00:53:00,279
Speaker 4: very slim pickens. Most of the men are borderline gay.

1160
00:53:01,440 --> 00:53:08,319
Speaker 4: It's true, but so are you? Yes, but I say it,

1161
00:53:08,440 --> 00:53:12,640
Speaker 4: I tell, I'll coladly tell anyone I'm borderline gay. I

1162
00:53:12,840 --> 00:53:15,960
Speaker 4: have sometimes I pussy, but I'm never going to be

1163
00:53:16,000 --> 00:53:17,480
Speaker 4: in a relationship with another woman.

1164
00:53:17,680 --> 00:53:20,240
Speaker 3: But the problem with the borderline gay men that I.

1165
00:53:20,160 --> 00:53:22,520
Speaker 4: Was referring to in LA is that like it's like

1166
00:53:22,680 --> 00:53:25,080
Speaker 4: beyond metro sexual and they don't even know or think.

1167
00:53:25,200 --> 00:53:26,959
Speaker 4: And then it's not even just gay, I mean gay

1168
00:53:27,000 --> 00:53:29,960
Speaker 4: like bitch assness, because I ain't no bitch ass person,

1169
00:53:30,160 --> 00:53:32,520
Speaker 4: but like the guys have a lot of bit chassness,

1170
00:53:32,520 --> 00:53:35,279
Speaker 4: which is like making you gay and not in the

1171
00:53:35,400 --> 00:53:40,080
Speaker 4: good way. Right now, I get it, And like, yeah, no,

1172
00:53:41,640 --> 00:53:44,239
Speaker 4: Erica is in style, but like black girls are not

1173
00:53:44,280 --> 00:53:47,040
Speaker 4: in style, but there's a lot of mixed girls.

1174
00:53:47,840 --> 00:53:50,200
Speaker 3: You don't hear a lot that's not true. Not no, it's

1175
00:53:50,080 --> 00:53:52,400
Speaker 3: the starting the way you was starting to shift.

1176
00:53:53,680 --> 00:53:58,839
Speaker 5: Wakanda didn't come down to LA with the memo yet. Look,

1177
00:53:59,040 --> 00:54:04,960
Speaker 5: Wakanza life is a ship no more.

1178
00:54:05,120 --> 00:54:08,360
Speaker 4: Kim k Condom may not have ship on kimk okay

1179
00:54:08,440 --> 00:54:11,840
Speaker 4: because that's these guys. First of all, the amount of

1180
00:54:11,840 --> 00:54:14,680
Speaker 4: fake asses I see and fake everything I see in

1181
00:54:14,800 --> 00:54:18,520
Speaker 4: LA or like black women attributes on non black women

1182
00:54:18,760 --> 00:54:22,440
Speaker 4: is trying to strange and like the light skin makeup

1183
00:54:22,480 --> 00:54:24,879
Speaker 4: I see young girls I'm like on dark skinned girls

1184
00:54:24,880 --> 00:54:28,719
Speaker 4: and trying to be like yeah, just like yeah, Tea

1185
00:54:28,800 --> 00:54:29,600
Speaker 4: Zone is white.

1186
00:54:29,880 --> 00:54:31,240
Speaker 3: It's not even like blending.

1187
00:54:31,719 --> 00:54:32,600
Speaker 4: I know, I don't know.

1188
00:54:32,680 --> 00:54:36,399
Speaker 3: I just I'm trying to be darker honestly, like make

1189
00:54:36,440 --> 00:54:40,239
Speaker 3: me darker, please, Whereas like I just feel like light

1190
00:54:40,239 --> 00:54:44,440
Speaker 3: skinned women. I'm a light skinned woman. Check out our

1191
00:54:44,480 --> 00:54:46,160
Speaker 3: Instagram friends.

1192
00:54:45,960 --> 00:54:50,000
Speaker 4: Wal advise, wait, good mom, you need to stop shouting

1193
00:54:50,000 --> 00:54:52,960
Speaker 4: out the Instagram that you don't know the Instagram mom's

1194
00:54:53,040 --> 00:54:54,360
Speaker 4: underscore bad choices.

1195
00:54:54,719 --> 00:54:58,960
Speaker 3: Thank you. I feel like we are like oversaturating.

1196
00:54:59,600 --> 00:55:02,480
Speaker 4: We've wor saturated, like there's a lot of mixed children

1197
00:55:02,560 --> 00:55:03,040
Speaker 4: out here.

1198
00:55:04,440 --> 00:55:07,120
Speaker 3: We're just not special anymore. Like that's why when I

1199
00:55:07,360 --> 00:55:09,120
Speaker 3: was like, I've always wanted light eyes because I felt

1200
00:55:09,120 --> 00:55:11,960
Speaker 3: like it gave me like an extra edge over through

1201
00:55:12,000 --> 00:55:15,720
Speaker 3: regular skin powerparts. If I just had the light eyes.

1202
00:55:15,680 --> 00:55:16,920
Speaker 4: Erica, you are special.

1203
00:55:17,200 --> 00:55:19,799
Speaker 3: I'm I don't like to do what I do, but

1204
00:55:20,040 --> 00:55:21,279
Speaker 3: I'm no I could have.

1205
00:55:22,520 --> 00:55:22,960
Speaker 4: I could have.

1206
00:55:23,560 --> 00:55:25,480
Speaker 3: Yeah, you're right though, because you were saying how like

1207
00:55:26,080 --> 00:55:29,160
Speaker 3: you never get hit on by like black guys, where

1208
00:55:29,360 --> 00:55:31,520
Speaker 3: I only get hit on by black men and never

1209
00:55:31,600 --> 00:55:32,840
Speaker 3: really get hit on by white.

1210
00:55:32,600 --> 00:55:36,440
Speaker 4: Men unless they're fat or really old, like I think

1211
00:55:36,480 --> 00:55:38,680
Speaker 4: I miss have an old soul because, like I'm telling,

1212
00:55:38,800 --> 00:55:41,279
Speaker 4: like sixty, I get hit on like sixty year old

1213
00:55:41,320 --> 00:55:43,439
Speaker 4: guys and fat guys a lot and white like yeah,

1214
00:55:43,600 --> 00:55:45,239
Speaker 4: never black guys. If I get hit on by a

1215
00:55:45,280 --> 00:55:47,240
Speaker 4: black guy in the club, I'm shocked.

1216
00:55:47,920 --> 00:55:49,120
Speaker 3: And he's probably twenty three.

1217
00:55:49,760 --> 00:55:52,879
Speaker 4: And I'm like, I'm all the empty your auntie. I've

1218
00:55:52,920 --> 00:55:53,960
Speaker 4: never hit on by white men.

1219
00:55:54,000 --> 00:55:56,080
Speaker 3: But then again, I'm also like really bad at reading

1220
00:55:56,080 --> 00:55:57,920
Speaker 3: white men. Is what I found is that like I

1221
00:55:57,960 --> 00:55:59,879
Speaker 3: don't know they're hitting on me because I'm so used

1222
00:55:59,880 --> 00:56:03,000
Speaker 3: to aggressive black men like very a lot of eye

1223
00:56:03,000 --> 00:56:06,280
Speaker 3: contact and like come in, mommy, yeah you know, whereas

1224
00:56:06,280 --> 00:56:10,960
Speaker 3: white guys like they like are scared to make eye contact.

1225
00:56:11,760 --> 00:56:14,080
Speaker 4: And I'm like, what the are we friends?

1226
00:56:14,120 --> 00:56:14,600
Speaker 3: Or are we just?

1227
00:56:15,000 --> 00:56:16,520
Speaker 4: Are we going to go to the book club? Like

1228
00:56:16,560 --> 00:56:19,880
Speaker 4: I don't know, I just can't read them. But language,

1229
00:56:19,880 --> 00:56:20,759
Speaker 4: are you speaking right now?

1230
00:56:21,640 --> 00:56:21,879
Speaker 6: Nice?

1231
00:56:22,120 --> 00:56:23,200
Speaker 4: Writing too? Nice?

1232
00:56:24,360 --> 00:56:25,600
Speaker 3: I don't know what's hard out here?

1233
00:56:25,760 --> 00:56:28,600
Speaker 4: It's hard. Yeah. I'm thinking that I'm going to go

1234
00:56:28,600 --> 00:56:31,200
Speaker 4: on vacation with Erica and turn on my tender because

1235
00:56:31,239 --> 00:56:33,720
Speaker 4: clearly this bitch has all the mummy cantel.

1236
00:56:33,840 --> 00:56:36,880
Speaker 3: Let me, like, let me see your profile, right, I

1237
00:56:36,960 --> 00:56:40,759
Speaker 3: need this is the right biotos and actually my tender.

1238
00:56:40,840 --> 00:56:42,600
Speaker 3: Someone told me that my tender is all over the place.

1239
00:56:42,600 --> 00:56:44,360
Speaker 3: But I look like a different person in every photo.

1240
00:56:45,080 --> 00:56:48,040
Speaker 4: I put a picture of me and on Tinder because

1241
00:56:48,040 --> 00:56:49,680
Speaker 4: I wanted them people to know in advance I was

1242
00:56:49,719 --> 00:56:52,080
Speaker 4: a mom because they did have any discrimination. And someone

1243
00:56:52,080 --> 00:56:54,240
Speaker 4: told me that was wrong. I shouldn't put this picture.

1244
00:56:54,239 --> 00:56:56,239
Speaker 3: And I see a lot of people put their parents.

1245
00:56:56,600 --> 00:56:58,479
Speaker 4: Wait, let me show you my protra their parents are

1246
00:56:58,600 --> 00:57:02,480
Speaker 4: I mean the case, It's okay, you like, there's me.

1247
00:57:04,600 --> 00:57:11,160
Speaker 3: Sord hair, but wait, long hair, that's totally different my worries. Okay,

1248
00:57:11,200 --> 00:57:11,480
Speaker 3: there's me.

1249
00:57:11,719 --> 00:57:12,000
Speaker 4: This is me.

1250
00:57:12,120 --> 00:57:15,520
Speaker 3: This is joyful, this is me having good time. I lie,

1251
00:57:16,120 --> 00:57:18,240
Speaker 3: you know, I wear a white eyeliner.

1252
00:57:18,520 --> 00:57:21,840
Speaker 4: I'm edgy, you know. Okay, And then this this is

1253
00:57:21,920 --> 00:57:24,240
Speaker 4: like I go to get her. I like dinner. I

1254
00:57:24,280 --> 00:57:25,960
Speaker 4: like I have expensive taste.

1255
00:57:27,360 --> 00:57:29,480
Speaker 3: Wait, and then there's but I'm also a thought.

1256
00:57:31,440 --> 00:57:34,000
Speaker 4: I gress you guys can really look at this tensure wait,

1257
00:57:34,880 --> 00:57:38,280
Speaker 4: because it is awfully colorful. These babies are found me

1258
00:57:38,480 --> 00:57:39,600
Speaker 4: if you find me. Okay.

1259
00:57:39,760 --> 00:57:41,960
Speaker 3: And then but I'm also white, but I also like

1260
00:57:42,000 --> 00:57:46,360
Speaker 3: to skie. I'm also adventurous and white these activities, so

1261
00:57:46,520 --> 00:57:48,400
Speaker 3: like we can hang like no matter what you are,

1262
00:57:48,480 --> 00:57:51,560
Speaker 3: but I also like corn rows. Wait and then look

1263
00:57:51,560 --> 00:57:53,560
Speaker 3: at my anthem.

1264
00:57:54,160 --> 00:57:56,600
Speaker 4: Her anthem is no scrubs. I didn't even know you

1265
00:57:56,600 --> 00:57:58,480
Speaker 4: could put an anthem on your Tinder page.

1266
00:57:58,480 --> 00:58:00,760
Speaker 3: Well, it's just like the bootleg version of because Ryot

1267
00:58:00,800 --> 00:58:05,520
Speaker 3: would have no scrubs. Playing of my photos like, I'm.

1268
00:58:05,480 --> 00:58:09,160
Speaker 4: Like going, do you think I can try out for

1269
00:58:09,240 --> 00:58:11,640
Speaker 4: Riot again with a different Instagram?

1270
00:58:11,920 --> 00:58:12,720
Speaker 3: Let's get this pop?

1271
00:58:12,760 --> 00:58:17,520
Speaker 4: And so I'm really enjoying this podcast in hopes of

1272
00:58:17,600 --> 00:58:25,400
Speaker 4: getting more followers and to meet a man. Amen. Now

1273
00:58:25,400 --> 00:58:29,280
Speaker 4: that you are dating, like well whatever, dating as a

1274
00:58:29,320 --> 00:58:31,800
Speaker 4: mom and I know you're not looking for anything serious

1275
00:58:31,840 --> 00:58:34,240
Speaker 4: because it wouldn't be healthy to jump into one long

1276
00:58:34,320 --> 00:58:36,920
Speaker 4: term relationship for another. But I feel like there's this

1277
00:58:37,200 --> 00:58:40,680
Speaker 4: underlying always saying like, if you're a mom, you should

1278
00:58:40,680 --> 00:58:43,800
Speaker 4: be looking for a husband in stability because that's what

1279
00:58:43,840 --> 00:58:47,680
Speaker 4: you're supposed to do. How like, obviously is that your

1280
00:58:47,760 --> 00:58:51,640
Speaker 4: end goal or no? And when and if so, when

1281
00:58:51,720 --> 00:58:57,040
Speaker 4: do you see that being enforced? It It's like just playing

1282
00:58:57,080 --> 00:58:58,760
Speaker 4: the field right now and if it happens, it happens.

1283
00:58:58,880 --> 00:59:02,680
Speaker 3: My end hole and for my love life, Like I mean,

1284
00:59:02,320 --> 00:59:05,320
Speaker 3: I don't want to be alone my rest of my life.

1285
00:59:05,360 --> 00:59:06,480
Speaker 3: You don't want to be a player for life.

1286
00:59:06,480 --> 00:59:08,280
Speaker 4: But I mean I would like to have another kid,

1287
00:59:08,640 --> 00:59:11,480
Speaker 4: you know what I mean. I'm an absolutely in no rush.

1288
00:59:11,640 --> 00:59:13,120
Speaker 4: And again, I don't want to wait forever.

1289
00:59:13,280 --> 00:59:16,280
Speaker 3: Like my siblings are much younger than me, years younger

1290
00:59:16,280 --> 00:59:18,760
Speaker 3: than me, Like I have a five year old brother. Yeah,

1291
00:59:19,160 --> 00:59:21,440
Speaker 3: so like I don't want that each guy. And then

1292
00:59:21,480 --> 00:59:24,439
Speaker 3: also my first brother was born when I was thirteen, so.

1293
00:59:24,440 --> 00:59:25,000
Speaker 4: I still don't want.

1294
00:59:25,000 --> 00:59:27,200
Speaker 3: I don't want that much of a gain. So I

1295
00:59:27,240 --> 00:59:28,840
Speaker 3: don't want to say I'm in a rush, but like

1296
00:59:29,640 --> 00:59:35,120
Speaker 3: at some point in the semi distant.

1297
00:59:34,640 --> 00:59:37,480
Speaker 4: Future, semi maybe I don't know.

1298
00:59:37,560 --> 00:59:39,880
Speaker 3: I don't know. I have I hope that I can

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Speaker 3: be more open to love and that operate the opportunity

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Speaker 3: of love and like partnership.

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Speaker 4: I'm just not there right now.

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00:59:47,280 --> 00:59:50,400
Speaker 3: And like I'm just so focused on like myself and

1303
00:59:50,560 --> 00:59:56,440
Speaker 3: like being home, having meditation going that I'm.

1304
00:59:56,280 --> 00:59:58,880
Speaker 4: Really not focused on being home. I was, but now

1305
00:59:58,920 --> 01:00:01,720
Speaker 4: I'm more focused on like me and like, oh, well,

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Speaker 4: I want everybody to understand, So let's just be clear

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Speaker 4: when we use the term how it's not like in

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Speaker 4: the typical format you're thinking of of thinking that you

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Speaker 4: know and like the playful, fun, flirtyarty.

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Speaker 3: I'll do what the fuck I want if I want to,

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01:00:17,560 --> 01:00:19,800
Speaker 3: but I don't have to do it all. Yeah, but

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Speaker 3: society isn't going to make me feel bad about a Yeah,

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Speaker 3: so don't take the hope.

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Speaker 4: Don't get all touchy fucking peely about two moms calling

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Speaker 4: themselves homes because we know we're not hose. We're actually

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Speaker 4: very classy women.

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Speaker 3: Check out our instagrams.

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Speaker 4: You can tell our instagrams. We're very classy, very classy.

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Speaker 3: I come from a very very very classic.

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Speaker 4: Don't get any ideas just because we're using the term.

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Speaker 4: How Okay, it's the most fancy how you've ever seen.

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Speaker 3: It's show I've ever seen. But yeah, I don't know,

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01:00:51,640 --> 01:00:54,160
Speaker 3: like I think, I do want kids. I want one more,

1324
01:00:54,280 --> 01:00:56,760
Speaker 3: one more max if I only had her.

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Speaker 4: I don't think if any max, one more men maximum,

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Speaker 4: like no more than I want. Yeah, you can't do

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01:01:03,280 --> 01:01:09,520
Speaker 4: like half we two we're great. I want.

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Speaker 3: I think because I was as an only child for

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01:01:13,440 --> 01:01:15,520
Speaker 3: so long, like I always wish I had a sibling

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Speaker 3: that was closer in age to me, you know, like

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Speaker 3: and I want I want that for her if I can,

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Speaker 3: if I buy that, I'm not forcing it though, you know, But.

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Speaker 4: What about you? Yeah, I mean I definitely want more kids.

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Speaker 4: I used to think I wanted like between three and five.

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Speaker 4: I've actually started thinking now, like what if I didn't

1336
01:01:34,520 --> 01:01:36,560
Speaker 4: have any markets? But Lena is like I want to

1337
01:01:36,560 --> 01:01:39,240
Speaker 4: brand that. I want to systemic shut up, get a job.

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01:01:41,000 --> 01:01:45,919
Speaker 4: But I do like as allergic to commitment. I feel

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01:01:45,960 --> 01:01:48,760
Speaker 4: like I am, I do really want someone who's like,

1340
01:01:48,960 --> 01:01:52,640
Speaker 4: you know, gonna help stay around. But I think now

1341
01:01:52,680 --> 01:01:56,920
Speaker 4: I am super fucking not scared. But like there's this

1342
01:01:56,920 --> 01:02:00,960
Speaker 4: whole thing like when nobody wants a lot of baby daddy.

1343
01:02:01,160 --> 01:02:04,480
Speaker 4: Erica she did it. She did a bad motherfucking job.

1344
01:02:04,520 --> 01:02:06,560
Speaker 4: I did doing it. She does it real well too.

1345
01:02:06,960 --> 01:02:10,120
Speaker 4: There's always Erica for the hope. So yeah, I mean

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Speaker 4: it doesn't matter. But I guess I have to get

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01:02:12,520 --> 01:02:14,720
Speaker 4: out of that social you know. I just want to

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01:02:14,720 --> 01:02:16,480
Speaker 4: make the right decision when I do it next, and

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01:02:16,520 --> 01:02:18,840
Speaker 4: when I am with the next person, it's going to

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01:02:18,880 --> 01:02:22,320
Speaker 4: be because you got your your the bomb dot motherfucking calm,

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01:02:22,920 --> 01:02:25,040
Speaker 4: and that's that. And then I'll lay down if you're rich,

1352
01:02:25,080 --> 01:02:26,400
Speaker 4: and I I have a bunch of fabies.

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01:02:27,000 --> 01:02:30,920
Speaker 3: I think, like I think really the way or the

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01:02:30,960 --> 01:02:32,800
Speaker 3: hopefully I think, I have no idea.

1355
01:02:32,960 --> 01:02:34,600
Speaker 4: I'm totally making this up, but I would.

1356
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Speaker 3: Assume the way to find that partner is like you

1357
01:02:37,720 --> 01:02:38,760
Speaker 3: have to find that.

1358
01:02:38,680 --> 01:02:40,760
Speaker 4: Within yourself first, you know what I mean?

1359
01:02:41,040 --> 01:02:44,080
Speaker 3: And yeah, and I'm not there yet and that's and

1360
01:02:44,120 --> 01:02:46,080
Speaker 3: I'm okay with that, And that's why I'm not looking

1361
01:02:46,080 --> 01:02:48,360
Speaker 3: for anything at all. You know, Like, I know I'm

1362
01:02:48,360 --> 01:02:51,000
Speaker 3: not a hunt. I know I don't fully one percent.

1363
01:02:50,800 --> 01:02:51,720
Speaker 4: Love myself all the way.

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01:02:51,840 --> 01:02:55,000
Speaker 3: Yeah, I know that, Like, and until that happens.

1365
01:02:54,480 --> 01:02:56,320
Speaker 4: Like you can't really give that. It can't be like

1366
01:02:56,320 --> 01:02:57,040
Speaker 4: a half of person.

1367
01:02:57,080 --> 01:03:00,200
Speaker 3: How can I love someone else more than I love myself?

1368
01:03:00,240 --> 01:03:02,480
Speaker 3: And that's what I've done in all my relationships. So

1369
01:03:02,760 --> 01:03:05,760
Speaker 3: I'm not doing that again. It hasn't worked. You're going

1370
01:03:05,840 --> 01:03:08,680
Speaker 3: to try something new, Yeah, And I feel like loving

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01:03:08,680 --> 01:03:11,439
Speaker 3: yourself is obviously, like that's the shit.

1372
01:03:11,560 --> 01:03:13,880
Speaker 4: Why would I not want to? Yeah? And you know,

1373
01:03:13,880 --> 01:03:16,480
Speaker 4: and now that I'm like coming like thirty is rapidly approaching,

1374
01:03:16,560 --> 01:03:20,240
Speaker 4: I'm really super very much in that space where I'm

1375
01:03:20,320 --> 01:03:23,960
Speaker 4: totally realizing like, oh, but she thought she loved herself,

1376
01:03:23,960 --> 01:03:26,720
Speaker 4: but there's all these decisions you're making that seem otherwise,

1377
01:03:27,160 --> 01:03:30,680
Speaker 4: and even being in a non and like an unhealthy relationship,

1378
01:03:30,720 --> 01:03:33,400
Speaker 4: even if it is with the father of my child, Like,

1379
01:03:33,720 --> 01:03:36,880
Speaker 4: those are like prime examples of not loving myself. And

1380
01:03:37,600 --> 01:03:40,200
Speaker 4: I realize now how important is to be in a

1381
01:03:40,240 --> 01:03:43,160
Speaker 4: relationship to work on those things first. But then I

1382
01:03:43,200 --> 01:03:46,720
Speaker 4: also have I think I struggle with loving myself and

1383
01:03:46,760 --> 01:03:49,760
Speaker 4: taking the time to really do that and like mend myself,

1384
01:03:49,800 --> 01:03:53,520
Speaker 4: but then also getting distracted with just like oh, look

1385
01:03:53,520 --> 01:03:55,280
Speaker 4: at him, well look at that. This is fun people

1386
01:03:55,280 --> 01:03:57,000
Speaker 4: wanting my energy and then beginning it to them, and

1387
01:03:57,040 --> 01:03:58,520
Speaker 4: then I'm not working with me.

1388
01:03:58,600 --> 01:04:00,760
Speaker 3: Yeah, I'm not working myself. I'm just hoe for you

1389
01:04:00,800 --> 01:04:02,600
Speaker 3: showing you're doing the same thing you were doing in

1390
01:04:02,640 --> 01:04:04,520
Speaker 3: a relationship and not a relationship. Yeah, and just with

1391
01:04:04,560 --> 01:04:06,480
Speaker 3: multiple people that I don't ever really see.

1392
01:04:06,280 --> 01:04:08,320
Speaker 4: Myself being in a relationship with. So it also is

1393
01:04:08,440 --> 01:04:10,520
Speaker 4: like equally as much of a waste of time. So

1394
01:04:10,560 --> 01:04:12,520
Speaker 4: it's just like it's actually I have to really focus

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01:04:12,600 --> 01:04:14,120
Speaker 4: on loving myself. Yeah.

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01:04:14,280 --> 01:04:16,880
Speaker 3: No, honestly, I it's so crazy you said that because

1397
01:04:16,880 --> 01:04:19,600
Speaker 3: I was having that conversation today at dinner saying that, Like,

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01:04:19,960 --> 01:04:22,080
Speaker 3: I think when I first became single, which wasn't that

1399
01:04:22,120 --> 01:04:24,080
Speaker 3: long ago without but I was like going really hard

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01:04:24,120 --> 01:04:27,240
Speaker 3: with like going out and dating guys because I was

1401
01:04:27,280 --> 01:04:31,080
Speaker 3: so I had so much energy, Like I had so

1402
01:04:31,160 --> 01:04:33,960
Speaker 3: much extra energy to be given because it wasn't being

1403
01:04:33,960 --> 01:04:36,600
Speaker 3: given to my partner anymore. And so I felt like, well,

1404
01:04:36,640 --> 01:04:37,960
Speaker 3: what do I do with all this? What do I

1405
01:04:37,960 --> 01:04:40,000
Speaker 3: do with all this? And I like, duh, put it

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01:04:40,040 --> 01:04:42,440
Speaker 3: back in me yourself, right? Do that? I was like

1407
01:04:42,520 --> 01:04:45,640
Speaker 3: looking for like distractions to not work on myself, right,

1408
01:04:46,160 --> 01:04:48,320
Speaker 3: And so that's what I think dating can do sometimes.

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01:04:48,360 --> 01:04:50,200
Speaker 3: That's why I like, actually right now, I'm kind of

1410
01:04:50,280 --> 01:04:51,080
Speaker 3: like been low key.

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01:04:51,680 --> 01:04:53,960
Speaker 4: It's been like a month, but like I's haven't been

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01:04:54,000 --> 01:04:57,320
Speaker 4: to any EXPERIENCIS trips lately. They just find on Tender going.

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01:04:57,160 --> 01:04:58,320
Speaker 3: To Vegas this weekend.

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01:04:58,920 --> 01:05:01,480
Speaker 4: So I tender. When I was in Vegas, what was

1415
01:05:01,480 --> 01:05:04,440
Speaker 4: I thinking? Yeah, what were you figuring?

1416
01:05:05,440 --> 01:05:07,960
Speaker 3: I mean maybe might I might? I might swipe swipe,

1417
01:05:08,080 --> 01:05:09,480
Speaker 3: you know, I feel like Vegas, you mustn't eat a

1418
01:05:09,480 --> 01:05:10,480
Speaker 3: swipe there.

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Speaker 8: This Vegas is Tender, the live versions and I'm going

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01:05:17,040 --> 01:05:21,080
Speaker 8: to j low so you know, so I guess that was.

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Speaker 4: That's a good, really good discussion after all the stories

1422
01:05:25,200 --> 01:05:29,040
Speaker 4: that we've heard that how much like dating can really

1423
01:05:29,240 --> 01:05:32,440
Speaker 4: especially right now in this space, especially with kids. It

1424
01:05:32,520 --> 01:05:37,240
Speaker 4: will check you to you know, check yourself, which is important,

1425
01:05:37,240 --> 01:05:38,960
Speaker 4: which is most important, especially if we want to be

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01:05:39,000 --> 01:05:42,000
Speaker 4: good moms and good humans and good people. You can't

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01:05:42,040 --> 01:05:44,919
Speaker 4: just like fuck around. Also have to love yourself a lot,

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01:05:45,520 --> 01:05:47,400
Speaker 4: and it takes a lot of work.

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01:05:47,400 --> 01:05:49,760
Speaker 3: A lot, especially as mothers. Because we're loving our kids

1430
01:05:49,760 --> 01:05:52,520
Speaker 3: so much, we forget about ourselves a lot, and most

1431
01:05:52,560 --> 01:05:55,160
Speaker 3: people forget about us too. As a fuck about me anymore.

1432
01:05:55,240 --> 01:05:57,520
Speaker 3: My mom does not care about you have your kids.

1433
01:05:57,560 --> 01:05:59,800
Speaker 3: My grandma doesn't say hi to me. But I was like,

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01:05:59,800 --> 01:06:06,120
Speaker 3: we're sorry, Hi, Hello, I'm the baby. Remember. But if

1435
01:06:06,160 --> 01:06:09,400
Speaker 3: you guys have any like, I want you guys to

1436
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Speaker 3: email us like any.

1437
01:06:11,600 --> 01:06:14,040
Speaker 4: Topics they want to talk about. If you have.

1438
01:06:14,040 --> 01:06:16,640
Speaker 3: Any stories you want us to discuss they can. You

1439
01:06:16,680 --> 01:06:21,560
Speaker 3: can remain anonymous or not. We have a segment called.

1440
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Speaker 4: Stories again who in the nicest, classiest way.

1441
01:06:32,320 --> 01:06:34,320
Speaker 3: Yeah, you know, just that time if you got caught

1442
01:06:34,400 --> 01:06:36,439
Speaker 3: up or you did a little too much, little dirt

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01:06:36,480 --> 01:06:40,360
Speaker 3: would be a little extra my horri don't dun dun.

1444
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Speaker 4: Okay, back in the day, I used to work as

1445
01:06:45,840 --> 01:06:52,120
Speaker 4: a cocktail waitress, and I'm like a classic hotel and

1446
01:06:52,520 --> 01:06:53,840
Speaker 4: I was wade to say. I had a lot of

1447
01:06:53,880 --> 01:06:56,560
Speaker 4: good stories being coltail waitress. So I was working and

1448
01:06:56,600 --> 01:07:00,360
Speaker 4: it's like a bet weekend in Atlanta or something, and them,

1449
01:07:01,080 --> 01:07:03,000
Speaker 4: I meant, there was this. There was a couple, two

1450
01:07:03,080 --> 01:07:06,680
Speaker 4: girls and you know, like one of those jobs you

1451
01:07:06,880 --> 01:07:08,440
Speaker 4: like get drunk with the customer. I don't know what

1452
01:07:08,440 --> 01:07:09,880
Speaker 4: the fuck I was doing back then, but I was

1453
01:07:09,920 --> 01:07:13,600
Speaker 4: having I was partying network. Anyway, the girls the couple left,

1454
01:07:13,640 --> 01:07:17,440
Speaker 4: like one of them was Mocha, the other one was Lifer.

1455
01:07:17,600 --> 01:07:19,360
Speaker 4: One of them, Yeah, whatever's the names.

1456
01:07:19,560 --> 01:07:20,240
Speaker 3: There were the names.

1457
01:07:20,240 --> 01:07:24,280
Speaker 4: It was like it was like a story, yes, okay.

1458
01:07:24,480 --> 01:07:26,360
Speaker 4: And one was like a little chocolate family was like,

1459
01:07:26,360 --> 01:07:28,960
Speaker 4: well chocolate and thick and cute and it's like kind

1460
01:07:28,960 --> 01:07:31,880
Speaker 4: of like a soft stud like little Dominican girl, like

1461
01:07:32,240 --> 01:07:33,640
Speaker 4: with a shortcut. She was cute.

1462
01:07:33,840 --> 01:07:34,840
Speaker 3: Anyway, left, I was.

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01:07:34,760 --> 01:07:36,440
Speaker 4: Like, I'm gonna get off some she come up to

1464
01:07:36,480 --> 01:07:38,000
Speaker 4: our room. They left me and not like come to

1465
01:07:38,080 --> 01:07:42,360
Speaker 4: our room. Room. Keep in mind, it's like forbidden. You

1466
01:07:42,400 --> 01:07:44,240
Speaker 4: go to your guest room like you could drink all

1467
01:07:44,240 --> 01:07:45,440
Speaker 4: the job and do a lot of shit. You're not

1468
01:07:45,440 --> 01:07:48,440
Speaker 4: supposed to go to the room. My ass goes to

1469
01:07:48,520 --> 01:07:52,360
Speaker 4: the room because you can't tell me nothing. Anyway, we

1470
01:07:52,520 --> 01:07:55,440
Speaker 4: have like we smoke weed. Weld be like drinking. You

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01:07:55,520 --> 01:08:00,800
Speaker 4: have this super hot, sexy three Way. The chick like

1472
01:08:00,840 --> 01:08:04,080
Speaker 4: has this like super soup, this like super exclusive strap

1473
01:08:04,120 --> 01:08:06,160
Speaker 4: one I've never seen it, like comes with shorts that

1474
01:08:06,320 --> 01:08:07,120
Speaker 4: like suction to.

1475
01:08:07,200 --> 01:08:08,760
Speaker 3: It, super exclusive.

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01:08:08,800 --> 01:08:09,040
Speaker 6: Never.

1477
01:08:09,080 --> 01:08:12,000
Speaker 4: I mean I've done some Like I had shorts, yeah,

1478
01:08:12,080 --> 01:08:13,720
Speaker 4: Like it was like these tight shorts and.

1479
01:08:13,680 --> 01:08:15,000
Speaker 3: Then the compression shorts.

1480
01:08:15,080 --> 01:08:17,160
Speaker 4: Yeah, and there's like a circle and just like suction

1481
01:08:17,400 --> 01:08:21,000
Speaker 4: to the short. It was amazing. But I've had none

1482
01:08:21,040 --> 01:08:22,720
Speaker 4: of those straps and Shi had. They must have made

1483
01:08:22,720 --> 01:08:26,479
Speaker 4: a lot of money for that. Anyway, we got we

1484
01:08:26,560 --> 01:08:31,320
Speaker 4: got it pop In midway through the three Way, They're like,

1485
01:08:31,720 --> 01:08:34,479
Speaker 4: I guess I was like a little slut waitress because

1486
01:08:34,520 --> 01:08:39,519
Speaker 4: I'm obviously not in the relationship, but like call it well,

1487
01:08:39,560 --> 01:08:46,040
Speaker 4: I was like sucking, this might be too graphic for

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01:08:46,080 --> 01:08:48,479
Speaker 4: the first to go round. Anyway, in my head, I

1489
01:08:48,560 --> 01:08:53,920
Speaker 4: was like, show me a bitch. I'm like whatever, I guess.

1490
01:08:53,960 --> 01:08:55,240
Speaker 3: I guess I can get what I deserve.

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01:08:56,200 --> 01:08:57,800
Speaker 4: Anyway, I say, there's two beds in there.

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01:08:58,000 --> 01:08:59,960
Speaker 3: My crash another bed. I welcome the next morning, like.

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01:09:00,320 --> 01:09:03,400
Speaker 4: Okay, okay, nice to meeting you guys. I like put

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01:09:03,439 --> 01:09:06,320
Speaker 4: on my jacket and walk downstairs, like please, God, don't

1495
01:09:06,400 --> 01:09:08,639
Speaker 4: let anybody can fucking recognize me from the night before.

1496
01:09:08,760 --> 01:09:11,120
Speaker 4: I'm going to lose my job. I crept out of

1497
01:09:11,160 --> 01:09:13,760
Speaker 4: the side door and I took my ass home perfect.

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Speaker 3: So that was like a good little hory. That's my

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01:09:16,080 --> 01:09:19,040
Speaker 3: first lesbian threesome.

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Speaker 4: I thank you. Wow, that's a good one.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, very high class. Thank you, very high class. I

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01:09:25,600 --> 01:09:30,760
Speaker 3: told you, told you that we're classy moms here, moms here. Yeah,

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Speaker 3: this is our closing. I hope you guys enjoy. You

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01:09:35,560 --> 01:09:39,360
Speaker 3: can email us anything. You can email us, like free things.

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Speaker 3: You can send me stuff.

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Speaker 3: The color black, and and.

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Speaker 4: Our email is Our email is Parental Advisory b no

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Speaker 4: Parental Advisory GMBC at gmail dot com. Again, that's Parental

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Speaker 4: Advisory gm BC at gmail dot com. And our instagram

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Speaker 4: Erica is.

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Speaker 3: Good moms underscore bad choices. Yes hereas we're working on it,

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Speaker 3: we're gonna get better.

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Speaker 4: Okay, Well, well, we.

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Speaker 3: Look forward to hearing from you.

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Speaker 4: Oh good night, damn, it's been six years. Thank you

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Speaker 4: for supporting us all this time and listening and hearing

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Speaker 4: our evolution. We appreciate you so much. And if you

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Speaker 4: want to catch us in Atlanta tomorrow night at City Winery,

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Speaker 4: we're going to be there with Jade Nova and some

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Speaker 4: other special guests. And if you want to hear more

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Speaker 4: of us on our off season, join Patreon for special episodes,

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Speaker 4: bonus episodes, our discord, and our once a month Patreon meetups.

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Speaker 4: Don't forget to click the link in this episode description

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Speaker 4: and we'll see you tomorrow