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Speaker 1: Hi.

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Speaker 2: I am Kate Hudson and my name is Oliver Hudson.

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Speaker 3: We wanted to do something that highlighted our.

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Speaker 2: Relationship and what it's like to be siblings. We are

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Speaker 2: a sibling. Railvalry.

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Speaker 3: No, no, sibling. You don't do that with your mouth.

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Speaker 4: Revelry.

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Speaker 3: That's good.

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Speaker 5: No, no, Oliver, right, I just had I don't you're

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Speaker 5: not okay.

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Speaker 4: I had a little eggs this morning and I felt nauseous.

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Speaker 4: But I went on a run and I almost threw up.

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Speaker 4: And then I had a pitch meeting, and then I

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Speaker 4: had just had an egg salad on a piece of toast,

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Speaker 4: and I think I feel okay, pretty good.

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Speaker 3: It's a lot of eggs.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, well, well you know what they say.

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Speaker 3: No, I don't.

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Speaker 2: Well, let me tell you an egg a day means that.

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Speaker 3: Your cholesterol gets really high.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, Andrew, Yeah, No, I'm okay. Cabo took it out

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Speaker 4: of me. But no, you know, you were worried about

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Speaker 4: a lot of things. I will say that I think

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Speaker 4: that this. Yes, I did in bide, but I think

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Speaker 4: this was food.

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Speaker 3: Hold On, Mom is calling. She's worried about you.

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Speaker 2: Hold on, No, she's not.

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Speaker 3: She's so worried about.

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Speaker 5: You, mommy, we're podcasting. Oh okay, mom, just for the

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Speaker 5: sake of all of our listeners, are you worried about

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Speaker 5: your son?

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Speaker 3: You're firstborn? Oh no, she's not.

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Speaker 5: Oh no, no, she said, oh yeah, Oh yeah, well I'm,

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Speaker 5: you know.

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Speaker 3: Worried about everybody problem.

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Speaker 4: She should worry about more about my career than my health.

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Speaker 5: No, no, she's not worried about you. She just loves you,

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Speaker 5: is what she's really saying.

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Speaker 3: I do.

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Speaker 5: I love you.

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Speaker 3: Okay, okay, bye, see you later, goodbye.

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Speaker 2: Okay, bye bye. Where are you going to see?

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Speaker 6: Uh?

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Speaker 5: Just to see an early screening of song Sung Blue.

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Speaker 5: That's right, yeah, and mom wants to come, so come watch. Yeah,

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Speaker 5: I was gonna come to good Yeah.

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Speaker 3: Nervous. I always get nervous before I see him.

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Speaker 2: I know. I'm sure it'll be awesome.

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Speaker 3: I'm excited and nervous and it'll be fun.

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Speaker 2: It'll be great. Okay, let's get because waiting.

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Speaker 5: Margeous, beautiful, kind, sweet movie wife of yours.

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Speaker 3: At one point, Kimberly.

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Speaker 5: Williams and Ashley Oh yeah, I'm very talented, and Ashley

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Speaker 5: Williams her sissy in our waiting room, in our zoom room.

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Speaker 2: Should we open up the door. We haven't done that.

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Speaker 7: We haven't.

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Speaker 2: We haven't opened up the door in a long time.

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Speaker 5: All right, let's let him in, right go Allie.

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Speaker 6: How you guys?

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Speaker 7: Hi?

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Speaker 8: How are you guys?

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Speaker 4: We're good. I'm good, Kate's good. We're not together right now.

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Speaker 4: We should be. But I just got back from Cabo

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Speaker 4: and I need some recovery.

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Speaker 5: But he's feeling a little bit lazy. He went off

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Speaker 5: the wagon. He'd been sober for a whole month and

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Speaker 5: then his and then he was getting, you know, geared

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Speaker 5: up to go to Cabo for a golf weekend.

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Speaker 4: I didn't fall off the wagon, though, I leapt off

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Speaker 4: the wagon.

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Speaker 8: Actually, I were just talking about that because I was

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Speaker 8: listening to your brothers Osborne podcast where you were like

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Speaker 8: bragging that you were off or on the wagon for

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Speaker 8: ten days or something, just wondering if it's stuck.

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Speaker 3: And now we know Oliver was.

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Speaker 2: I got it.

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Speaker 5: I got a picture at like eight thirty in the morning,

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Speaker 5: and I was like, this is this is just bad.

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Speaker 5: And so I called Joe Buck, who he was with,

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Speaker 5: and I was like, Joe, don't do this to my brother.

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Speaker 2: No.

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Speaker 3: He's like, it's too late.

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Speaker 4: Late, sister just called me and said, you need to

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Speaker 4: look after him and Joe he gave it about thirty

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Speaker 4: eight seconds of trying to look after me. I'm like, Joe, dude,

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Speaker 4: We're okay.

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Speaker 2: I'm okay, I'm okay. I'll survived.

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Speaker 3: He's okay, he survived. We're back. Now. Where are you?

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Speaker 3: Where are you guys? Are you both in Nashville or

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Speaker 3: are you separate?

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Speaker 8: We're separate too.

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Speaker 3: I'm sad.

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Speaker 8: I'm in Nashville and Ash is in la.

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Speaker 3: Oh wait, where are you from? Originally New York? Oh,

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Speaker 3: you're in New York, born and raised New York, in

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Speaker 3: the city.

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Speaker 7: No, in New York, but it's not it's you know.

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Speaker 7: What I always say is I was born in Yonkers,

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Speaker 7: which is sort of true.

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Speaker 6: It was called Bronkers, which is like just it was

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Speaker 6: like Bronxville.

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Speaker 7: Yonkers is just north of the Bronx basically, And then

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Speaker 7: we moved up to Westchester County.

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Speaker 8: Well in Westchester, isn't it? But it's not the nicest

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Speaker 8: part of Westchester, But I'm proud of it.

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Speaker 6: It's like the armpit of Westchester.

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Speaker 8: It is.

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Speaker 6: It is.

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Speaker 3: It's kind of nice to be in the armpit.

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Speaker 4: And were you the Were you the only siblings or

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Speaker 4: were there more?

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Speaker 7: Yo?

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Speaker 8: We have a middle brother, Jay, who's awesome.

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Speaker 3: Oh it's like the opposite of me. It's the opposite

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Speaker 3: of me. But he's the boy.

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Speaker 5: So it's like, so he has his own thing, which

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Speaker 5: is good because I'm the middle of boys.

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Speaker 8: Okay, Well, Jay sandwich between these two like actresses. How

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Speaker 8: annoying is that for Jay? So he became a firefighter

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Speaker 8: and like became a hero, and then he got tired

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Speaker 8: of that and now he's a bee keeper. So he's

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Speaker 8: like got his zen on and he's amazing. He's so cool,

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Speaker 8: but he doesn't get to do fun things like this enough.

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Speaker 3: Where does he live?

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Speaker 2: That's fucking cool.

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Speaker 3: It's really cool.

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Speaker 8: He lives in Tennessee. He lives five minutes down the road.

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Speaker 8: So I actually should have invited him over.

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Speaker 3: That would have been from the asshole. Yeah, that was

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Speaker 3: really right.

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Speaker 5: Now you could we could have been all three of you,

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Speaker 5: because it's easy if it's a boy and two girls,

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Speaker 5: because then you can like decipher. If it's three girls,

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Speaker 5: it's hard because you can't really tell who's talking. Yeah,

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Speaker 5: and how close are you guys? Like what is the

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Speaker 5: what is the age difference of everybody.

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Speaker 3: We're seven years.

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Speaker 8: Apart, and then ja'son middle child and ash I've always

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Speaker 8: been obsessed with We've always been really really close. Like

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Speaker 8: when my parents brought Ashley home from the hospital, I

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Speaker 8: think my first though was that she smelled bad, but

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Speaker 8: that I goed over it. Yeah, I mean that's just

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Speaker 8: comes with Ashley.

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Speaker 2: How was that age friends? Growing up?

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Speaker 4: And you know when did you actually sort of get

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Speaker 4: close or were you always close?

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Speaker 8: Do you want to talk about what I did to you?

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Speaker 7: Oh?

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Speaker 6: My god? Yes, so my Yeah, you're totally right. Like

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Speaker 6: everything that you need to know about me is just

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Speaker 6: I'm the third born.

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Speaker 7: So my entire ethos in life is like can I

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Speaker 7: play my coming?

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Speaker 6: It's either can I play? Or are you mad at me? Directions? Yeah,

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Speaker 6: I was like I was just obsessed with my sister

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Speaker 7: I just wanted to like be her, like it and

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Speaker 7: like making it weird, you know. And but Kim came

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Speaker 7: up with this genius game which was called Fetch Kim.

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Speaker 6: Do you want to tell them the rules of.

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Speaker 8: Yeah, I mean it's like the game that we're all

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Speaker 8: familiar with. We lived in this three story house on

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Speaker 8: a hill, so I had a tennis ball, and I

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Speaker 8: was like feeling independent and I adored Ashley, but she

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Speaker 8: really wanted a lot of attention. So I came up

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Speaker 8: with this game where if I took the tennis ball

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Speaker 8: and I threw it out of my third story window,

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Speaker 8: it would fly out of the house and down the hill.

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Speaker 8: And I just turned to ash and I go fetch.

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Speaker 3: And it bought.

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Speaker 8: It bought me like a good fifteen minutes sometimes, and

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Speaker 8: she loved it.

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Speaker 2: Oh my god, that is amazing. That is funny. Does

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Speaker 2: your parents know about this?

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Speaker 8: Yeah, they suppose the seventies they were like, yeah, that

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Speaker 8: sounds fun.

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Speaker 4: They're like cool, man, Like, that's so like progressive, it

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Speaker 8: And then there was the time ash that I was

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Speaker 8: walking you in the stroller and again we were up

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Speaker 8: on a hill on this like steep road, and my

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Speaker 8: dad remembers looking out the window and I Ashley was like,

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Speaker 8: I'm taking her for a walk, and there she is

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Speaker 8: in the stroller and I got distracted and let go

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Speaker 8: of the stroller and my father watched the stroller just

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Speaker 8: rolling down the road to another there was another road,

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Speaker 8: and it was terrifying and she could have done no,

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Speaker 8: oh no, much. She did not stray. Look at her.

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Speaker 8: She's fine, she's fine, she's still here.

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Speaker 3: Oh my god, that would be so oh my god,

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Speaker 3: that would I just would die. I would die of

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Speaker 3: a heart attack if that.

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Speaker 8: Oh my god, the stroller just tipped over, I think right, Ah.

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Speaker 6: Stroller's vault.

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Speaker 8: Yeah, cheap thing.

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Speaker 5: Do you feel like Jay since being sort of smack

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Speaker 5: dab in the middle of both of you, was he

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Speaker 5: sort of like off in his own world and you

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Speaker 5: guys you were like babying the baby our brother.

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Speaker 7: Yeah, Honestly, like what Kim said earlier is really true,

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Speaker 7: which is like we were really loud, and I think

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Speaker 7: Jay was always trying to negotiate his own space, like

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Speaker 7: you know, where does where does he fit? It's a

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Speaker 7: it's a middle kid thing, I think relevant. You know,

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Speaker 7: he's like a little cat. But I remember being like

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Speaker 7: really jealous of you guys, Kim, because every time, like

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Speaker 7: you were talking, like what are they talking about?

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Speaker 6: Why?

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Speaker 7: You know?

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Speaker 6: That was hard?

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Speaker 8: It's hard with three.

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Speaker 3: And how many years older is uh Jay? From you?

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Speaker 6: He's four years older than me?

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Speaker 3: Yeah, okay, three years younger than me. Oh so they

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Speaker 3: spread them out pretty good.

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Speaker 8: They Yeah, an accident I was, there were Yeah, there

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Speaker 8: were two accidents there.

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Speaker 6: You might have been an accident. Him.

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Speaker 8: I was, I was an accident and you were an accident.

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Speaker 8: Jay was totally planned.

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Speaker 6: Oh he was.

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Speaker 3: That was my understanding.

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Speaker 8: Why did they tell you that I knew again, it

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Speaker 8: was the seventies. They told me way too much.

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Speaker 4: That's a funny concept that all the kids were accidents.

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Speaker 8: There's no problem telling them. What did your parents do?

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Speaker 3: What kind of journalism was it? Like political or our dead?

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Speaker 6: Actually, as a Pulitzer, it was it was hard.

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Speaker 7: Yeah, it was like revealing secrets and miss I don't

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Speaker 8: He was covering the IRA he was, yeah, the war

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Speaker 8: But they both started in journalism.

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Speaker 8: Yeah, I varied a lot because I was the firstborn.

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Speaker 7: I think we're also like really different people, and I

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Speaker 7: We need to like they they felt like they weren't

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Speaker 8: I remember, that's how you got the most total Yeah,

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Speaker 8: I'd be like, Ashley's naked again. I remember you just

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Speaker 3: Yeah, that's true. There's awesome kids.

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Speaker 6: Like some kids.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, you like.

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Speaker 6: Look in my eyes, like.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, Ronnie. Ronnie's really into mooning right now. I'm for

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Speaker 2: But like she's really moon the days.

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Speaker 3: Some kids love to be naked, you know, It's just

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Speaker 5: Yeah, it's definitely freeing it's definitely freeing.

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Speaker 3: I were you were you guys all good at school

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Speaker 6: You know, better at school than I was? Kim?

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Speaker 8: Yeah, I was better at it. We have different kinds

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Speaker 7: But yeah, so school was always just really confusing for me,

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Speaker 7: Like I always felt like I couldn't understand what question

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Speaker 5: That's like, that's like me when someone asked me a

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Speaker 3: Like then I'm like I don't, I don't. I'm no

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Speaker 6: And then you're like, wait, how long was I out?

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Speaker 7: Right?

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Speaker 1: Kim was a lot more like metered, you know, yeah, linear, boring,

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Speaker 8: Like when did you fall in love with performing well.

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Speaker 8: When I was like five, I wanted to be an actor.

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Speaker 8: Did you put on shows with me in the living room?

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Speaker 8: Did we do that together?

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Speaker 4: Yeah?

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Speaker 8: So that's when I started. And then we we lived

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Speaker 8: And I was like, oh my gosh, you can do

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Speaker 2: When did did you go to college?

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Speaker 8: I went to Northwestern. He did, Yeah, And then Ash

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Speaker 7: Like specific deciding moment, Kim, which was when you booked

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Speaker 8: Yeah, my big break.

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Speaker 7: As in like basically an extra in this National Dairy

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Speaker 7: My mom was like you're all doing this, so you

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Speaker 8: Yeah, so you were you were very successful.

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Speaker 3: Oh you stop.

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Speaker 6: No, I wasn't please. I was definitely not.

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Speaker 2: You did something she's talking about.

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Speaker 6: I think she might be talking about I Got on

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Speaker 6: School a high school, I was on a soap opera.

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Speaker 3: Yeah.

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Speaker 5: We were watching this new one that's a Tyler Perry

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Speaker 3: You seen this.

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Speaker 4: They're like they I like that. I brought it back.

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Speaker 4: They're like, we're gonna go full fucking so hard. Yeah.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, and it was fun.

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Speaker 3: I was like, I missed the soap opera.

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Speaker 5: But but so when you said that, I got excited

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Speaker 6: There's nothing like the soaps.

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Speaker 7: You guys like it's the craziest, most hilarious.

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Speaker 6: It was so fun.

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Speaker 7: Yeah, but you guys, when I was in fifth grade,

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Speaker 3: I booked you when I was a sophomore.

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Speaker 8: you were visiting Northwestern and my mom and Jay and

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00:22:03,480 --> 00:22:05,639
Speaker 8: Ash were all visiting and we went to see a

455
00:22:05,720 --> 00:22:09,080
Speaker 8: show and those that was before cell phones, so I

456
00:22:09,160 --> 00:22:11,679
Speaker 8: was like running to pay phones to like check in

457
00:22:11,720 --> 00:22:13,919
Speaker 8: with my agent because you knew it was down to

458
00:22:13,920 --> 00:22:17,840
Speaker 8: the wire. Was like me and one other person and

459
00:22:18,040 --> 00:22:21,480
Speaker 8: I checked in at the intermission of this show in Chicago,

460
00:22:22,040 --> 00:22:24,159
Speaker 8: and my agent told me I got it. We all

461
00:22:24,240 --> 00:22:25,960
Speaker 8: were just like what I was.

462
00:22:27,560 --> 00:22:30,480
Speaker 7: And I remember, you go shut up, and the mom

463
00:22:30,520 --> 00:22:32,080
Speaker 7: and I like look at each other and we're like,

464
00:22:32,080 --> 00:22:34,679
Speaker 7: what's happening. I was in fourth grade and we're in

465
00:22:35,520 --> 00:22:37,520
Speaker 7: We're in like the lobby of a hotel theater.

466
00:22:37,960 --> 00:22:38,879
Speaker 3: Yeah, a theater.

467
00:22:39,119 --> 00:22:44,560
Speaker 6: I'm a theater lobby and yeah, and she she goes

468
00:22:44,600 --> 00:22:46,800
Speaker 6: shut up. And did we go back in for the

469
00:22:46,840 --> 00:22:47,399
Speaker 6: rest of the No.

470
00:22:47,840 --> 00:22:49,320
Speaker 8: I don't think we saw the rest of the play

471
00:22:49,359 --> 00:22:51,439
Speaker 8: because they said, we need you to get on a

472
00:22:51,480 --> 00:22:53,120
Speaker 8: plane to la tomorrow.

473
00:22:53,440 --> 00:22:54,280
Speaker 2: Oh wow.

474
00:22:54,480 --> 00:22:56,399
Speaker 8: Yeah, And it was it was so funny because they

475
00:22:56,400 --> 00:22:59,159
Speaker 8: were like, you need to book your own ticket for

476
00:22:59,200 --> 00:23:01,639
Speaker 8: the flight because it was like a Sunday or something,

477
00:23:01,680 --> 00:23:04,359
Speaker 8: and they're like, make it first class and we'll reimburse

478
00:23:04,400 --> 00:23:08,600
Speaker 8: you my like away, I've never fun first class. So

479
00:23:08,640 --> 00:23:10,919
Speaker 8: I had to go back to my dorm room and

480
00:23:11,000 --> 00:23:14,000
Speaker 8: pack up my dorm and I saw you guys were there.

481
00:23:14,640 --> 00:23:16,879
Speaker 8: I thank god you guys were there because it was

482
00:23:16,920 --> 00:23:17,720
Speaker 8: so terrified.

483
00:23:18,280 --> 00:23:19,280
Speaker 2: How old we wait?

484
00:23:19,400 --> 00:23:21,919
Speaker 3: Was that it for you? For college? No?

485
00:23:22,000 --> 00:23:24,199
Speaker 8: I did go back, but I was nineteen. I was

486
00:23:24,200 --> 00:23:26,679
Speaker 8: a sophomore. I was nineteen, so I quit in the

487
00:23:26,720 --> 00:23:29,320
Speaker 8: middle of the year and moved out to LA It

488
00:23:29,400 --> 00:23:31,280
Speaker 8: was so terrifying in.

489
00:23:31,200 --> 00:23:33,359
Speaker 7: The middle of you have like a dance performance that

490
00:23:33,400 --> 00:23:35,800
Speaker 7: you were I had to miss it.

491
00:23:36,119 --> 00:23:39,040
Speaker 8: I know, I was miss I was stressed about my class.

492
00:23:38,840 --> 00:23:42,520
Speaker 7: Was an intense dance team, right, and she were so

493
00:23:42,640 --> 00:23:44,440
Speaker 7: glad that the teacher was going to be mad at you.

494
00:23:44,760 --> 00:23:46,560
Speaker 8: And I still feel bad about that.

495
00:23:47,200 --> 00:23:52,600
Speaker 5: Father Father of the Bride was like, I mean, I

496
00:23:52,600 --> 00:23:56,680
Speaker 5: think for me at my age, that move that movie.

497
00:23:56,520 --> 00:23:59,920
Speaker 3: Was like, yeah, oh my god, it was everything.

498
00:24:00,320 --> 00:24:05,479
Speaker 7: Oh I imagine being ten years old. Yeah, your hero

499
00:24:06,640 --> 00:24:09,719
Speaker 7: is the girl from Father the Bread. Yeah, the person

500
00:24:09,760 --> 00:24:12,240
Speaker 7: that you that has cradled you your like it was

501
00:24:13,000 --> 00:24:16,000
Speaker 7: it was like suddenly she was my idol. Everybody Suddenly

502
00:24:16,040 --> 00:24:18,600
Speaker 7: she was everybody's idol. I was so weirded out.

503
00:24:18,800 --> 00:24:21,080
Speaker 8: I was they were all so weirded out. Yeah, and

504
00:24:21,320 --> 00:24:23,679
Speaker 8: everyone was telling me, like, don't change, don't like they

505
00:24:23,720 --> 00:24:26,800
Speaker 8: all felt like they were gonna lose me for coming back,

506
00:24:26,840 --> 00:24:28,479
Speaker 8: and I remember you guys took me to the airport

507
00:24:28,480 --> 00:24:33,280
Speaker 8: and we were all just sobbing, and you like pressed

508
00:24:33,280 --> 00:24:35,480
Speaker 8: this you had like this little saint. Do you remember

509
00:24:35,560 --> 00:24:37,800
Speaker 8: you had this tiny little saint thing that you gave me,

510
00:24:37,840 --> 00:24:41,880
Speaker 8: Which is weird because neither one of us is very religious.

511
00:24:41,600 --> 00:24:43,960
Speaker 3: You became religious in that moment.

512
00:24:43,800 --> 00:24:44,840
Speaker 2: Like a St. Christopher.

513
00:24:44,960 --> 00:24:46,560
Speaker 8: Yeah, it was like a saint. I don't know, like

514
00:24:46,600 --> 00:24:49,480
Speaker 8: a traveling I remember you gave it to me. Maybe

515
00:24:49,480 --> 00:24:52,199
Speaker 8: it was Jay, but anyway, I just remember like it

516
00:24:52,240 --> 00:24:54,760
Speaker 8: was you. Yeah, yeah, yeah, you said my life and

517
00:24:55,000 --> 00:24:55,959
Speaker 8: I don't have it anymore.

518
00:24:56,000 --> 00:24:59,840
Speaker 4: By the way, Sorry, okay, well hold on going back

519
00:25:00,160 --> 00:25:00,960
Speaker 4: before the show.

520
00:25:01,800 --> 00:25:04,640
Speaker 2: Actually when she left for college, I mean, was that devastating?

521
00:25:04,920 --> 00:25:05,720
Speaker 6: Oh my god.

522
00:25:06,400 --> 00:25:08,040
Speaker 7: I was thinking about this yesterday because I was in

523
00:25:08,119 --> 00:25:10,800
Speaker 7: fourth grade when she went to Northwestern, and I think

524
00:25:10,840 --> 00:25:14,159
Speaker 7: I was thinking about like a little honestly yesterday. I

525
00:25:14,200 --> 00:25:15,840
Speaker 7: was like, why am I like so like I had

526
00:25:15,920 --> 00:25:17,879
Speaker 7: like such a you know, great family, great child, And

527
00:25:17,920 --> 00:25:19,199
Speaker 7: I'm like, you know what it was?

528
00:25:19,240 --> 00:25:21,399
Speaker 6: It was when Kim went to Northwestern. I got so

529
00:25:21,720 --> 00:25:24,600
Speaker 6: fucked up. It was gone.

530
00:25:24,960 --> 00:25:28,879
Speaker 7: She was like my my home base you know, and

531
00:25:28,920 --> 00:25:31,720
Speaker 7: I like the day she left for college, I remember

532
00:25:31,840 --> 00:25:34,880
Speaker 7: just sobbing, Like I went to the payphone and I'm

533
00:25:34,960 --> 00:25:36,879
Speaker 7: you know, I'm in fourth grade and I was just sobbing.

534
00:25:36,920 --> 00:25:38,840
Speaker 6: I had to go to the nurse. I couldn't stop crying.

535
00:25:38,920 --> 00:25:40,800
Speaker 6: I was in college today.

536
00:25:41,359 --> 00:25:45,399
Speaker 7: I was a mess, the biggest sort of the first

537
00:25:45,480 --> 00:25:47,800
Speaker 7: like traumas of my childhood.

538
00:25:48,000 --> 00:25:50,320
Speaker 3: Kimberly, you probably did you even think about it?

539
00:25:51,240 --> 00:25:51,520
Speaker 8: Mess?

540
00:25:52,240 --> 00:25:52,800
Speaker 3: Yeah?

541
00:25:52,840 --> 00:25:57,000
Speaker 5: So I feel that way about Wyatt because with my

542
00:25:57,080 --> 00:26:00,639
Speaker 5: younger brother, I'm like, I didn't even stink, But now

543
00:26:00,800 --> 00:26:02,080
Speaker 5: that we're older, it.

544
00:26:02,040 --> 00:26:04,760
Speaker 3: Was like devastating for him when we all left.

545
00:26:05,080 --> 00:26:07,399
Speaker 8: Yeah, no, I definitely. I mean it was hard for me,

546
00:26:07,480 --> 00:26:09,600
Speaker 8: but I had so much to face and so many

547
00:26:09,600 --> 00:26:12,080
Speaker 8: mountains to climb on my own that that's much more.

548
00:26:11,960 --> 00:26:12,879
Speaker 3: What I was focused on.

549
00:26:12,920 --> 00:26:15,600
Speaker 8: But it's weird, guys, because now I'm about to send

550
00:26:15,880 --> 00:26:19,280
Speaker 8: my oldest stop to college. Just such a strange thing.

551
00:26:19,320 --> 00:26:20,800
Speaker 8: If you guys, you haven't done that, have you?

552
00:26:21,160 --> 00:26:21,320
Speaker 7: Well?

553
00:26:21,400 --> 00:26:27,160
Speaker 5: Yeah, Kate's twenty one ride, Oh my gosh, So how

554
00:26:27,160 --> 00:26:32,080
Speaker 5: did you survive? Well, I'm like twelve in comparison to like,

555
00:26:32,359 --> 00:26:34,400
Speaker 5: you know, like I feel like we grew up together.

556
00:26:34,560 --> 00:26:41,879
Speaker 5: So I think I'll feel differently with Ronnie, my little one,

557
00:26:42,280 --> 00:26:46,840
Speaker 5: but with Ryder, I was sort of like, yeah, I

558
00:26:46,880 --> 00:26:48,800
Speaker 5: thought I was going to be much more emotional.

559
00:26:49,040 --> 00:26:51,480
Speaker 3: I really wasn't. I was excited for him.

560
00:26:51,320 --> 00:26:54,480
Speaker 5: And then there was just a moment with him when

561
00:26:54,520 --> 00:26:56,680
Speaker 5: I was and I've said this before on the show,

562
00:26:56,720 --> 00:26:59,640
Speaker 5: but like you know, when I was making a coffee

563
00:26:59,640 --> 00:27:03,399
Speaker 5: in the morning and I realized that his energy wasn't

564
00:27:03,760 --> 00:27:04,760
Speaker 5: in the space.

565
00:27:04,440 --> 00:27:06,199
Speaker 2: Anymore, that's really what it is.

566
00:27:06,280 --> 00:27:09,359
Speaker 5: Yeah, it just I just bawled my eyes out of

567
00:27:09,440 --> 00:27:13,040
Speaker 5: the coffee machine because it was like, told it, you

568
00:27:13,200 --> 00:27:17,560
Speaker 5: have this routine, like you you have this little world

569
00:27:17,640 --> 00:27:20,840
Speaker 5: that you've created for you know, so many years, and

570
00:27:20,880 --> 00:27:23,560
Speaker 5: then they're gone and they're not there every morning and

571
00:27:23,760 --> 00:27:28,160
Speaker 5: Rider and the particular is like, yeah, he's the goofy one,

572
00:27:28,240 --> 00:27:30,840
Speaker 5: he's the one who's cracking jokes in the morning, and

573
00:27:31,440 --> 00:27:34,160
Speaker 5: all of a sudden, the room is like much more serious.

574
00:27:34,400 --> 00:27:37,040
Speaker 4: I know, but that the energy thing is real because

575
00:27:37,400 --> 00:27:40,480
Speaker 4: my kid's going to college next year and I'm sort

576
00:27:40,520 --> 00:27:44,040
Speaker 4: of catastrophizing about what that's going to feel like passing

577
00:27:44,080 --> 00:27:45,480
Speaker 4: his room and there's just.

578
00:27:45,560 --> 00:27:46,400
Speaker 2: No one in there.

579
00:27:46,840 --> 00:27:49,960
Speaker 4: It's not like he and we sit down and have

580
00:27:50,040 --> 00:27:53,040
Speaker 4: incredible conversations as a teenager, and he says, Dad, how

581
00:27:53,119 --> 00:27:53,720
Speaker 4: was your day?

582
00:27:53,880 --> 00:27:54,840
Speaker 2: I mean that shit doesn't happen.

583
00:27:54,840 --> 00:27:58,600
Speaker 4: He's a fucking teenager, right, but his energy, just the

584
00:27:58,720 --> 00:28:00,240
Speaker 4: presence alone.

585
00:28:00,760 --> 00:28:04,720
Speaker 2: Is just devastating. It's devastating that that won't be there.

586
00:28:13,720 --> 00:28:16,760
Speaker 3: How are you preparing for it? Is this next year?

587
00:28:17,400 --> 00:28:20,080
Speaker 8: It'll be in the fall. So yeah, it's coming up.

588
00:28:20,119 --> 00:28:22,880
Speaker 8: He's actually got to decide on where he's going in

589
00:28:23,000 --> 00:28:24,199
Speaker 8: like forty eight hours.

590
00:28:24,280 --> 00:28:25,920
Speaker 2: Oh my gosh.

591
00:28:26,480 --> 00:28:28,760
Speaker 5: He did he get into the schools that he wanted

592
00:28:28,800 --> 00:28:29,840
Speaker 5: to get into For.

593
00:28:29,760 --> 00:28:32,520
Speaker 8: The most part, Yeah, he's definitely like the choices he

594
00:28:32,560 --> 00:28:35,760
Speaker 8: has he's very excited about, and he's narrowed down to three.

595
00:28:36,520 --> 00:28:39,000
Speaker 8: So I you know, and it's actually a relief to

596
00:28:39,040 --> 00:28:41,920
Speaker 8: me that I don't have to decide. He can, you know,

597
00:28:42,000 --> 00:28:44,400
Speaker 8: he gets to decide which is a great place to be?

598
00:28:45,160 --> 00:28:47,600
Speaker 3: Are they close to home at all? That he probably

599
00:28:47,640 --> 00:28:48,120
Speaker 3: will not be.

600
00:28:51,040 --> 00:28:52,760
Speaker 6: One of them is a little bit closer than the.

601
00:28:52,720 --> 00:28:54,480
Speaker 3: Other, but not really.

602
00:28:54,560 --> 00:28:56,840
Speaker 8: I mean it's not like I can drive the flight away.

603
00:28:57,280 --> 00:29:00,640
Speaker 4: My wife's like, what about Like Sina Barbara Cla, we

604
00:29:00,680 --> 00:29:05,520
Speaker 4: lived like three minutes from Wild Wild He's like, no way. Yeah,

605
00:29:05,600 --> 00:29:07,480
Speaker 4: he goes, I'm out of state. I'm going out of state,

606
00:29:07,480 --> 00:29:07,840
Speaker 4: and I'm like.

607
00:29:07,960 --> 00:29:11,240
Speaker 8: That's yeah, that's what Hawk said, and I respect that

608
00:29:11,240 --> 00:29:14,160
Speaker 8: that's what I did. But yeah, I mean, I feel

609
00:29:14,160 --> 00:29:16,760
Speaker 8: like it's I've been preparing for the entire year and

610
00:29:16,800 --> 00:29:19,440
Speaker 8: maybe last year or too. It's maybe I've been preparing

611
00:29:19,480 --> 00:29:22,080
Speaker 8: for this my whole life. Actually have this piece of

612
00:29:22,120 --> 00:29:25,360
Speaker 8: scribble from a little piece of paper that note that

613
00:29:25,520 --> 00:29:28,920
Speaker 8: Huk wrote me like when he was like nine, that said,

614
00:29:29,000 --> 00:29:33,200
Speaker 8: all badly misspelled, come visit me in college, you promise,

615
00:29:33,800 --> 00:29:36,000
Speaker 8: And he signed it because that was like when I

616
00:29:36,040 --> 00:29:40,520
Speaker 8: told him college was happening one day, you know, and

617
00:29:40,640 --> 00:29:43,160
Speaker 8: I kept that and I'm gonna I'm gonna take him

618
00:29:43,240 --> 00:29:45,040
Speaker 8: up on I have to visit because I promised when

619
00:29:45,040 --> 00:29:46,120
Speaker 8: he was like eight or nine.

620
00:29:46,680 --> 00:29:46,880
Speaker 5: Uh.

621
00:29:46,960 --> 00:29:48,200
Speaker 3: It's so funny, isn't it.

622
00:29:48,200 --> 00:29:52,640
Speaker 5: The cycle of like, you know, I life, Like I

623
00:29:52,840 --> 00:29:57,160
Speaker 5: sometimes think about even just one hundred years ago, how

624
00:29:57,200 --> 00:29:57,959
Speaker 5: different it was.

625
00:29:58,080 --> 00:30:02,040
Speaker 3: Kids left earlier, and you know, you know, it's like

626
00:30:02,120 --> 00:30:02,880
Speaker 3: now at least we.

627
00:30:02,840 --> 00:30:07,680
Speaker 5: Get an extra probably four years before like fifteen sixteen, Like.

628
00:30:08,320 --> 00:30:12,880
Speaker 3: Kids will like wander out into the world, which when

629
00:30:12,920 --> 00:30:14,959
Speaker 3: you think about that is pretty wild.

630
00:30:15,280 --> 00:30:17,840
Speaker 2: And actually you have a couple kids, right, Yeah.

631
00:30:17,640 --> 00:30:20,120
Speaker 7: I have two kids, but you guys, it's like my

632
00:30:20,280 --> 00:30:24,719
Speaker 7: kids are seven and ten. Yeah, in the like, oh

633
00:30:24,840 --> 00:30:27,600
Speaker 7: my god, I can't believe I have another ten years. Right,

634
00:30:28,280 --> 00:30:32,760
Speaker 7: I'm pretty tired, you know, I'm super psyche like right

635
00:30:32,800 --> 00:30:36,360
Speaker 7: now they're at school and I'm like what you know, Yeah,

636
00:30:36,720 --> 00:30:40,160
Speaker 7: it's just a different and I understand everybody's telling me

637
00:30:40,560 --> 00:30:42,680
Speaker 7: like this, like treasure of these years.

638
00:30:42,680 --> 00:30:44,000
Speaker 6: It goes, you know, by so fast.

639
00:30:44,080 --> 00:30:47,440
Speaker 7: I know when it's going to start going by fast

640
00:30:47,600 --> 00:30:48,160
Speaker 7: because it's.

641
00:30:51,600 --> 00:30:54,800
Speaker 2: When they're when they're leaving, you're like, holy fuck, what happened?

642
00:30:55,040 --> 00:30:57,680
Speaker 4: And then the Apple memories that on the phone that

643
00:30:57,760 --> 00:31:00,920
Speaker 4: they don't help matters much, you know, where they're trying

644
00:31:00,920 --> 00:31:04,160
Speaker 4: to create like nostalgia and they just create pain, devastation.

645
00:31:04,320 --> 00:31:06,280
Speaker 5: You just got to do what I did and spread

646
00:31:06,280 --> 00:31:12,960
Speaker 5: them out over your entire adult life. Yeah, because by

647
00:31:13,000 --> 00:31:15,560
Speaker 5: the time, you know, I could still have another one

648
00:31:15,560 --> 00:31:16,000
Speaker 5: of my wants.

649
00:31:16,040 --> 00:31:18,600
Speaker 3: It's like, by the time one of them has.

650
00:31:18,480 --> 00:31:21,880
Speaker 5: Happened, I'm a grandparent, you know, I'll still have like

651
00:31:21,960 --> 00:31:24,280
Speaker 5: the last one in the house and then I'll have grandkids.

652
00:31:24,280 --> 00:31:28,800
Speaker 3: It's like you just gotta spread them out. That's perfect.

653
00:31:28,840 --> 00:31:32,080
Speaker 8: I bet you guys have the best family like Sunday

654
00:31:32,120 --> 00:31:34,720
Speaker 8: dinner or like you know, family reunions.

655
00:31:34,720 --> 00:31:36,360
Speaker 3: It must be so fun in your family.

656
00:31:37,360 --> 00:31:39,440
Speaker 2: You know, we've actually been together a lot lately.

657
00:31:40,120 --> 00:31:40,760
Speaker 3: Yeah, we have.

658
00:31:41,040 --> 00:31:47,120
Speaker 5: It's actually really nice, and usually it's it's yeah, the

659
00:31:47,200 --> 00:31:51,080
Speaker 5: fires in La really like brought Christmas, and then the

660
00:31:51,120 --> 00:31:53,240
Speaker 5: fires brought us all together.

661
00:31:54,400 --> 00:31:57,160
Speaker 2: So we all live here ten minutes from each other anyway,

662
00:31:57,280 --> 00:31:58,520
Speaker 2: you know, that's.

663
00:31:58,360 --> 00:32:00,560
Speaker 5: Great, but there was something about it that kind of

664
00:32:00,600 --> 00:32:03,640
Speaker 5: like made us all go like, we need to spend

665
00:32:03,640 --> 00:32:05,280
Speaker 5: as much time with each other as possible.

666
00:32:05,320 --> 00:32:07,080
Speaker 3: And but you're.

667
00:32:07,000 --> 00:32:10,120
Speaker 5: Right, like last night, Oliver didn't come because he was

668
00:32:10,200 --> 00:32:13,040
Speaker 5: too you know, he's gonna have a week hangover.

669
00:32:13,160 --> 00:32:15,800
Speaker 2: But Kate, no, it was I ate something bad.

670
00:32:17,720 --> 00:32:22,400
Speaker 5: Sure, but my mom and dad came over with Buddy

671
00:32:22,760 --> 00:32:26,920
Speaker 5: Wyatt and May's kid and Ronnie and then Rio came over,

672
00:32:26,960 --> 00:32:29,040
Speaker 5: and we have this sort of like it's just fun.

673
00:32:29,080 --> 00:32:30,800
Speaker 3: We have these like rotating.

674
00:32:30,320 --> 00:32:34,120
Speaker 5: Houses of kids and it's always one kid somewhere with another.

675
00:32:34,600 --> 00:32:35,760
Speaker 3: One of the families, you know.

676
00:32:37,200 --> 00:32:38,880
Speaker 2: Are like best friends too.

677
00:32:39,120 --> 00:32:41,600
Speaker 3: You know that's great. We have a lot of cousins too.

678
00:32:41,640 --> 00:32:45,760
Speaker 8: We have seven boys between the three siblings, and they're

679
00:32:45,880 --> 00:32:49,400
Speaker 8: all like two years apart, so mine is the oldest,

680
00:32:50,120 --> 00:32:53,440
Speaker 8: and then it goes down to Leo who's the youngest.

681
00:32:53,600 --> 00:32:55,920
Speaker 8: So yeah, they love getting together.

682
00:32:55,960 --> 00:32:57,240
Speaker 2: And how long have you been married to Brad?

683
00:32:57,640 --> 00:33:01,640
Speaker 8: Wait, like twenty two years? We can't keep track. The

684
00:33:01,680 --> 00:33:03,360
Speaker 8: other day we couldn't figure out if it was twenty

685
00:33:03,400 --> 00:33:04,120
Speaker 8: three or twenty two.

686
00:33:04,160 --> 00:33:05,000
Speaker 3: I think it's twenty two.

687
00:33:05,080 --> 00:33:05,880
Speaker 6: The number goes up.

688
00:33:06,080 --> 00:33:09,080
Speaker 8: And together were you together for longer? I mean twenty

689
00:33:09,480 --> 00:33:11,680
Speaker 8: not much longer? We were together for like a year

690
00:33:11,720 --> 00:33:14,080
Speaker 8: and a half. Yeah, and then we got married.

691
00:33:14,160 --> 00:33:17,320
Speaker 4: And did he approach you at like some bar and

692
00:33:17,360 --> 00:33:19,000
Speaker 4: be like, we'll so a baby like that?

693
00:33:20,200 --> 00:33:24,120
Speaker 8: What's up y'all? No, the story is actually about Father

694
00:33:24,200 --> 00:33:26,440
Speaker 8: the Bride. He went and saw Father the Bride with

695
00:33:26,480 --> 00:33:31,160
Speaker 8: his girlfriend at the time, and and then it was

696
00:33:31,240 --> 00:33:33,280
Speaker 8: like their movie and they saw it a bunch of

697
00:33:33,320 --> 00:33:35,280
Speaker 8: times while they dated for like a couple of years

698
00:33:35,320 --> 00:33:38,640
Speaker 8: or whatever. And then he moved to Nashville and she

699
00:33:38,800 --> 00:33:42,840
Speaker 8: broke his heart and he wrote these amazing songs about it,

700
00:33:42,960 --> 00:33:45,600
Speaker 8: and and and then had this idea when the Father

701
00:33:45,680 --> 00:33:47,800
Speaker 8: the Bride sequel came out that maybe he and this

702
00:33:47,840 --> 00:33:49,720
Speaker 8: girl would have a sequel. It was really kind of

703
00:33:49,800 --> 00:33:53,720
Speaker 8: cute and romantic and maybe naive, and so he went

704
00:33:53,760 --> 00:33:56,560
Speaker 8: to the same theater where they'd had their first day, thinking,

705
00:33:56,960 --> 00:33:59,400
Speaker 8: if she thinks about it the way I'm thinking about it,

706
00:33:59,480 --> 00:34:03,200
Speaker 8: she'll also show up to the sequel, and so he stayed,

707
00:34:03,240 --> 00:34:05,920
Speaker 8: he saw the movie, she didn't show up. He left

708
00:34:05,920 --> 00:34:07,680
Speaker 8: the movie, went out into the parking lot, and then

709
00:34:07,840 --> 00:34:09,719
Speaker 8: was like, oh shit, was it the seven or was

710
00:34:09,800 --> 00:34:11,680
Speaker 8: it the nine that we went to? I'm not sure?

711
00:34:11,760 --> 00:34:14,320
Speaker 8: So he literally went back and bought a second ticket.

712
00:34:14,600 --> 00:34:15,480
Speaker 3: Oh my god.

713
00:34:15,960 --> 00:34:17,759
Speaker 8: He didn't stay for the second showing, but he did

714
00:34:17,800 --> 00:34:19,680
Speaker 8: have the ticket and he looked for She didn't come,

715
00:34:20,040 --> 00:34:23,120
Speaker 8: and then he wound up going home and writing like

716
00:34:23,320 --> 00:34:26,400
Speaker 8: great songs, and the ticket stub for Father of the

717
00:34:26,400 --> 00:34:29,480
Speaker 8: Bride Too is in his album Mark for Part Two,

718
00:34:29,480 --> 00:34:31,040
Speaker 8: which was the second album.

719
00:34:31,200 --> 00:34:32,720
Speaker 2: That's a great story.

720
00:34:33,000 --> 00:34:35,640
Speaker 4: Yeah, did he go to follow the opening a fellow

721
00:34:35,640 --> 00:34:39,759
Speaker 4: by two just hoping she would randomly fucking show up?

722
00:34:40,000 --> 00:34:41,000
Speaker 2: Or did he invite her?

723
00:34:41,480 --> 00:34:43,239
Speaker 8: It was no, he didn't even tell her about it.

724
00:34:43,280 --> 00:34:45,839
Speaker 8: But it was December twenty eighth, which was the date

725
00:34:45,880 --> 00:34:48,040
Speaker 8: of their first date, so it was like a date

726
00:34:48,120 --> 00:34:50,920
Speaker 8: that they had talked about. It was his mom's birthday coincidentally,

727
00:34:50,960 --> 00:34:53,200
Speaker 8: so that's how he remembered it. And it was something

728
00:34:53,200 --> 00:34:55,839
Speaker 8: that they had always known, was like their first date date.

729
00:34:56,600 --> 00:34:58,960
Speaker 8: And he just thought, well, if she's cause I guess

730
00:34:59,000 --> 00:35:00,480
Speaker 8: she'd been trying to get back to together with him.

731
00:35:00,480 --> 00:35:02,680
Speaker 8: And he thought, well, if she's thinking the same along

732
00:35:02,680 --> 00:35:04,440
Speaker 8: the same lines, if she's romantic like I, and then

733
00:35:04,440 --> 00:35:04,919
Speaker 8: she'll come.

734
00:35:05,280 --> 00:35:05,960
Speaker 3: So she didn't.

735
00:35:06,280 --> 00:35:09,759
Speaker 8: Lucky for me or not, I don't know. So he

736
00:35:09,840 --> 00:35:13,000
Speaker 8: went and he wrote all these like amazing songs from it,

737
00:35:13,120 --> 00:35:15,560
Speaker 8: and like his career launched after that. And then like

738
00:35:15,640 --> 00:35:19,640
Speaker 8: seven years later, he woke up with this idea like, oh,

739
00:35:19,719 --> 00:35:22,240
Speaker 8: I should call that girl who was in Father the Bride,

740
00:35:22,239 --> 00:35:24,200
Speaker 8: and like that's the story he goes with, I'm like,

741
00:35:24,239 --> 00:35:25,560
Speaker 8: maybe he was stalking me.

742
00:35:25,600 --> 00:35:30,799
Speaker 4: Somewhere, yeah, but he's got a random cold call, like

743
00:35:31,080 --> 00:35:32,080
Speaker 4: I got a cold call.

744
00:35:32,640 --> 00:35:34,920
Speaker 8: Yeah, And I had just told my agents that I

745
00:35:34,920 --> 00:35:37,200
Speaker 8: wanted to do a music video. I was interested in

746
00:35:37,239 --> 00:35:39,840
Speaker 8: doing a music video because I'd never done one. I

747
00:35:39,840 --> 00:35:41,600
Speaker 8: thought it'd be fun to be like a Robert Plant

748
00:35:41,600 --> 00:35:44,759
Speaker 8: girl or something. I wasn't expecting a country music video.

749
00:35:44,800 --> 00:35:46,920
Speaker 8: But he literally called like a few days later, and

750
00:35:47,000 --> 00:35:48,680
Speaker 8: I was like, yeah, that sounds fun. So that was

751
00:35:48,760 --> 00:35:54,040
Speaker 8: kind of his pickup line. So you were in his video. Well,

752
00:35:54,080 --> 00:35:56,399
Speaker 8: it was literally a pickup line because by the time,

753
00:35:56,840 --> 00:35:59,360
Speaker 8: like we'd already been dating for like two months, and

754
00:35:59,400 --> 00:36:01,520
Speaker 8: I was like, whatever happened to that video? You said

755
00:36:01,560 --> 00:36:05,200
Speaker 8: you wanted me to do? So I finally did do.

756
00:36:05,160 --> 00:36:07,439
Speaker 3: A video with him, but it took some time.

757
00:36:08,440 --> 00:36:11,280
Speaker 2: That's so cute. Yeah, good story.

758
00:36:12,360 --> 00:36:15,880
Speaker 5: So he really, deep down was always attracted to you,

759
00:36:16,080 --> 00:36:19,120
Speaker 5: even though it sort of projected into the.

760
00:36:19,080 --> 00:36:21,120
Speaker 3: Girl that he saw the movie with, it really was

761
00:36:21,200 --> 00:36:22,480
Speaker 3: you all along. I don't know.

762
00:36:22,600 --> 00:36:25,279
Speaker 8: I guess you have to ask him.

763
00:36:25,640 --> 00:36:31,080
Speaker 5: And now and now three kids later, twenty two years.

764
00:36:30,440 --> 00:36:33,239
Speaker 8: We have two kids, Jay have twenty three. Yeah, we

765
00:36:33,280 --> 00:36:35,640
Speaker 8: have two. Jay has three, and Ash has two.

766
00:36:36,239 --> 00:36:40,000
Speaker 3: Oh okay, okay? And are you and and boy and girl?

767
00:36:40,000 --> 00:36:40,840
Speaker 3: Are two boys?

768
00:36:41,080 --> 00:36:41,920
Speaker 8: I have two boys.

769
00:36:41,960 --> 00:36:45,320
Speaker 3: We all have everyone's there's not one girl.

770
00:36:45,600 --> 00:36:48,080
Speaker 8: No, oh weird, that's wild.

771
00:36:48,480 --> 00:36:48,799
Speaker 3: I know.

772
00:36:49,760 --> 00:36:54,440
Speaker 5: Well, my partner comes from three boys. So it's Fuji Kawa.

773
00:36:54,520 --> 00:36:58,960
Speaker 5: There's three brothers, and he had a girl. His brother

774
00:36:59,040 --> 00:37:01,560
Speaker 5: had two girls, and his brother right now is having

775
00:37:01,600 --> 00:37:02,880
Speaker 5: a girl. There's no voice.

776
00:37:03,040 --> 00:37:04,839
Speaker 3: Oh, my god, we need to hook them up.

777
00:37:04,880 --> 00:37:05,719
Speaker 8: They need to meet up.

778
00:37:06,200 --> 00:37:07,080
Speaker 3: I know exactly.

779
00:37:07,840 --> 00:37:09,760
Speaker 2: Actually, is your husband in the business.

780
00:37:10,440 --> 00:37:13,640
Speaker 6: Yeah, my husband's a producer, is yeah.

781
00:37:13,320 --> 00:37:16,800
Speaker 2: Okay, so he gets the life he does.

782
00:37:17,200 --> 00:37:19,560
Speaker 7: Yeah, I mean it's also I think it's you know,

783
00:37:19,600 --> 00:37:21,560
Speaker 7: we have like a rule that nobody can work out

784
00:37:21,600 --> 00:37:25,239
Speaker 7: of town during the school year, right. I've you know,

785
00:37:25,760 --> 00:37:28,279
Speaker 7: I've been leaving a little bit more during the school year,

786
00:37:28,480 --> 00:37:33,160
Speaker 7: and I think he's annoyed, understandably so because he seems

787
00:37:33,160 --> 00:37:34,759
Speaker 7: to be always the one in charge of the kid.

788
00:37:34,960 --> 00:37:38,200
Speaker 8: Now you're kicking ass. You're doing so well, that's why

789
00:37:38,200 --> 00:37:41,719
Speaker 8: you have to keep leaving town. Yeah, tell him what

790
00:37:41,760 --> 00:37:42,200
Speaker 8: you're doing.

791
00:37:42,840 --> 00:37:44,160
Speaker 3: What are you doing right now?

792
00:37:44,440 --> 00:37:46,320
Speaker 6: Oh my gosh, thanks for asking.

793
00:37:46,560 --> 00:37:50,360
Speaker 7: Well, if I do these movies, these Hallmark Christmas movies

794
00:37:51,200 --> 00:37:57,280
Speaker 7: so fun. So I'm I just got back from Spain

795
00:37:58,040 --> 00:38:02,040
Speaker 7: and I was just doing oh yeah, and now I'm

796
00:38:02,080 --> 00:38:06,680
Speaker 7: gonna go actually to shoot another one in the French Alps.

797
00:38:06,719 --> 00:38:07,880
Speaker 6: They're like sending me a bad.

798
00:38:07,719 --> 00:38:11,120
Speaker 5: Oh my god, that's awesome, so fun. So you know,

799
00:38:11,320 --> 00:38:14,560
Speaker 5: Paul Green, I sure do.

800
00:38:14,800 --> 00:38:15,160
Speaker 3: How do you?

801
00:38:15,239 --> 00:38:16,480
Speaker 2: Yeah, we don't.

802
00:38:16,480 --> 00:38:18,319
Speaker 4: Paul forever and ever he used a model with my

803
00:38:18,360 --> 00:38:20,920
Speaker 4: wife a billion years ago. And then Angie was his

804
00:38:21,040 --> 00:38:24,440
Speaker 4: ex wife and Aaron and best friends, and and.

805
00:38:24,480 --> 00:38:27,239
Speaker 5: Then Angie became my best friend because we were both

806
00:38:27,400 --> 00:38:28,600
Speaker 5: young mommies together.

807
00:38:28,680 --> 00:38:31,200
Speaker 3: We had like kids and we were like early twenty.

808
00:38:31,400 --> 00:38:33,560
Speaker 4: We became like a Hallmark king and he was in

809
00:38:33,640 --> 00:38:37,560
Speaker 4: every Christmas movie. And you know that he's so kind,

810
00:38:37,640 --> 00:38:39,879
Speaker 4: He's the sweetest, kindest man.

811
00:38:40,080 --> 00:38:41,000
Speaker 3: He's a great.

812
00:38:42,760 --> 00:38:43,520
Speaker 6: He We do that.

813
00:38:43,600 --> 00:38:45,680
Speaker 7: Kim and I do this big fundraiser for the Alzheimer's

814
00:38:45,719 --> 00:38:49,880
Speaker 7: Association every year, and Kim he performed this year and

815
00:38:50,040 --> 00:38:50,440
Speaker 7: last year.

816
00:38:50,480 --> 00:38:53,240
Speaker 6: I think, yeah, the dance party, which was really cool.

817
00:38:53,520 --> 00:38:57,160
Speaker 4: But yeah, I'm sure he played like Hallelujah and then

818
00:38:57,200 --> 00:38:59,920
Speaker 4: he probably played like he loves it.

819
00:39:00,120 --> 00:39:02,680
Speaker 6: And what he did he did the monster mash because

820
00:39:02,680 --> 00:39:07,160
Speaker 6: it was Helen. Oh good, like you murdered it.

821
00:39:07,480 --> 00:39:12,040
Speaker 4: That's cute. Goddamn it. You're doing Hallmark movies and cool

822
00:39:12,040 --> 00:39:14,560
Speaker 4: ass places. I did one Hallmark movie and it was

823
00:39:14,600 --> 00:39:15,960
Speaker 4: in fucking Winnipeg.

824
00:39:16,680 --> 00:39:20,120
Speaker 2: So yeah, it's just.

825
00:39:21,800 --> 00:39:24,720
Speaker 7: Well, to be clear, I've done Hallmark movies in Canada

826
00:39:24,760 --> 00:39:26,560
Speaker 7: for you know, for the last ten years.

827
00:39:26,960 --> 00:39:30,160
Speaker 2: Yeah. Yeah, but like the Swiss French Alps or whatever.

828
00:39:30,200 --> 00:39:32,960
Speaker 3: It's like, how many holiday movies do they do a year?

829
00:39:33,719 --> 00:39:37,319
Speaker 6: They do one hundred original movies a year.

830
00:39:38,360 --> 00:39:44,840
Speaker 7: Wown Hamewark is It's insane, incredible, well run machine.

831
00:39:44,880 --> 00:39:47,600
Speaker 4: I just finished what netflixuse. Netflix is in that holiday

832
00:39:47,600 --> 00:39:49,640
Speaker 4: space now too. I just did one, just finished one

833
00:39:49,680 --> 00:39:51,040
Speaker 4: with the at least the Silverstone.

834
00:39:51,360 --> 00:39:52,399
Speaker 8: Is it a Christmas one?

835
00:39:52,920 --> 00:39:56,160
Speaker 2: Yep? And I was in Canada again, Toronto in the winter.

836
00:39:56,640 --> 00:39:58,640
Speaker 8: That's when we shot Christmas Chronicles.

837
00:39:58,800 --> 00:40:01,600
Speaker 3: No, I know, we didn't even get into that. I

838
00:40:02,000 --> 00:40:02,880
Speaker 3: got to get into.

839
00:40:03,600 --> 00:40:05,399
Speaker 2: I played Kim's dead husband, my.

840
00:40:05,400 --> 00:40:07,760
Speaker 8: Dead husband, and we had a lovely time together.

841
00:40:07,920 --> 00:40:08,560
Speaker 2: We did.

842
00:40:10,160 --> 00:40:12,720
Speaker 8: Are You Being Dead? We have really a good time.

843
00:40:12,600 --> 00:40:16,080
Speaker 4: My face and like Christmas ornament, like whatever our name is,

844
00:40:16,080 --> 00:40:17,520
Speaker 4: like never die whatever.

845
00:40:17,640 --> 00:40:18,400
Speaker 2: I don't even remember.

846
00:40:22,960 --> 00:40:25,160
Speaker 4: By the way, how much do you get recognized for that?

847
00:40:25,280 --> 00:40:29,160
Speaker 4: That movie is just so iconic in the Christmas game?

848
00:40:29,520 --> 00:40:31,000
Speaker 3: So good love it.

849
00:40:31,160 --> 00:40:34,239
Speaker 8: It's It's really good, it really is.

850
00:40:34,520 --> 00:40:37,719
Speaker 2: It really was fun. So it's just a cool, fun movie.

851
00:40:38,160 --> 00:40:40,160
Speaker 8: So when does your latest one come out?

852
00:40:40,600 --> 00:40:44,239
Speaker 2: I think November. Fun. Yeah, it was fun, it was good,

853
00:40:44,239 --> 00:40:45,759
Speaker 2: it was sweet, it was cute, you know.

854
00:40:45,960 --> 00:40:49,319
Speaker 3: But now you're both hosting Oh my god, gosh, yea,

855
00:40:50,280 --> 00:40:55,799
Speaker 3: I have all of that right here hot all the information.

856
00:40:56,400 --> 00:40:58,640
Speaker 6: We're hosting dating shows.

857
00:40:59,120 --> 00:41:01,000
Speaker 3: On different on network.

858
00:41:01,080 --> 00:41:04,640
Speaker 5: Completely sure, Wait a minute, what I need to break

859
00:41:04,640 --> 00:41:04,920
Speaker 5: this down?

860
00:41:04,960 --> 00:41:05,680
Speaker 3: Is it so fun?

861
00:41:06,120 --> 00:41:07,640
Speaker 6: It's yes, stupid.

862
00:41:08,280 --> 00:41:12,600
Speaker 7: Well, what happened was I was doing this dating show basically,

863
00:41:12,640 --> 00:41:14,719
Speaker 7: like so, I work at Hallmark. I'm like one of

864
00:41:14,719 --> 00:41:17,760
Speaker 7: their people, and they told me that they were starting

865
00:41:17,800 --> 00:41:21,600
Speaker 7: like a reality you know, branch, and I immediately started

866
00:41:22,040 --> 00:41:26,080
Speaker 7: pitching them reality show ideas, which they promptly rejected.

867
00:41:26,080 --> 00:41:27,319
Speaker 6: They were like nine in a row.

868
00:41:27,360 --> 00:41:29,359
Speaker 7: And when I say pitching, like I came up with

869
00:41:29,440 --> 00:41:32,000
Speaker 7: like decks, like they were really very well thought out,

870
00:41:32,320 --> 00:41:34,440
Speaker 7: like me dressing up as a fan and going on

871
00:41:34,480 --> 00:41:37,560
Speaker 7: the Christmas cruise and then revealing taking my like mask

872
00:41:37,600 --> 00:41:40,440
Speaker 7: off and revealing that it's me, Like that was like

873
00:41:40,480 --> 00:41:43,120
Speaker 7: a documentary idea I had. Anyway, they didn't like any

874
00:41:43,160 --> 00:41:45,600
Speaker 7: of those ideas, but then they called me because they

875
00:41:45,600 --> 00:41:48,880
Speaker 7: got to know me through my pitching, and asked if

876
00:41:48,920 --> 00:41:49,960
Speaker 7: I would host a dating show.

877
00:41:49,960 --> 00:41:52,640
Speaker 6: When I was like, of course. So I called Kim

878
00:41:52,800 --> 00:41:53,560
Speaker 6: like week.

879
00:41:53,480 --> 00:41:56,279
Speaker 7: One of hosting this dating show, and I'm like, you

880
00:41:56,320 --> 00:41:58,000
Speaker 7: need to get yourself.

881
00:41:57,680 --> 00:41:58,480
Speaker 6: A dating show.

882
00:42:00,600 --> 00:42:05,759
Speaker 7: I was like, down right, RESTful, those are off the hook,

883
00:42:06,360 --> 00:42:08,960
Speaker 7: and you don't have to memorize lines. You could just

884
00:42:09,000 --> 00:42:13,960
Speaker 7: be a weirdo and so fun whatever you want. Yeah, okay,

885
00:42:14,080 --> 00:42:16,360
Speaker 7: And literally, Kim, was it like four days later you

886
00:42:16,440 --> 00:42:17,680
Speaker 7: got Yeah.

887
00:42:18,040 --> 00:42:20,680
Speaker 8: But that was just coincidental, Like I didn't even call

888
00:42:20,680 --> 00:42:22,600
Speaker 8: my people, but it just so happened that like a

889
00:42:22,640 --> 00:42:24,439
Speaker 8: week later they called me and they said, there's this show.

890
00:42:24,440 --> 00:42:26,520
Speaker 8: It's called Farmer Wants a Wife. It's in their third

891
00:42:26,600 --> 00:42:29,040
Speaker 8: season and they're looking for a new host. And I

892
00:42:29,080 --> 00:42:31,279
Speaker 8: was like, I just heard that. That's the best gag

893
00:42:31,360 --> 00:42:32,760
Speaker 8: in town. I'll take it.

894
00:42:34,160 --> 00:42:34,440
Speaker 5: Fun.

895
00:42:34,600 --> 00:42:36,200
Speaker 3: Are you enjoying it? Yes?

896
00:42:36,239 --> 00:42:38,560
Speaker 8: It was so fun. I mean it's it is so different.

897
00:42:38,560 --> 00:42:41,360
Speaker 8: But it's really great to just show up and be me, Like,

898
00:42:41,440 --> 00:42:43,680
Speaker 8: I mean, you guys must feel that doing this podcast

899
00:42:43,760 --> 00:42:46,200
Speaker 8: you get to just hang and be yourselves, isn't it really?

900
00:42:46,320 --> 00:42:47,600
Speaker 3: Yeah, it's nice.

901
00:42:47,640 --> 00:42:50,799
Speaker 4: But it's funny you say that because I will make

902
00:42:50,880 --> 00:42:54,799
Speaker 4: my billions doing something that's just myself, Like I need

903
00:42:54,800 --> 00:42:58,200
Speaker 4: a game show, I need to talk show, I need dating.

904
00:42:58,040 --> 00:43:04,000
Speaker 2: Millions, billions. There's going to be to be Well, I'm

905
00:43:04,000 --> 00:43:04,640
Speaker 2: gonna parlay.

906
00:43:04,760 --> 00:43:08,719
Speaker 4: I'm gonna parlay this whole thing into you know, I mean,

907
00:43:09,040 --> 00:43:11,879
Speaker 4: you can't even imagine what I've got planned. You can't

908
00:43:11,880 --> 00:43:14,759
Speaker 4: even imagine the branding, Ashley. I want to know what

909
00:43:14,800 --> 00:43:15,920
Speaker 4: your dating show is?

910
00:43:16,000 --> 00:43:16,839
Speaker 2: What? What is it?

911
00:43:17,400 --> 00:43:20,160
Speaker 7: Yeah, I'm doing a dating show for Hallmark called small

912
00:43:20,239 --> 00:43:25,120
Speaker 7: Town Setup, like town townspeople getting together to set up

913
00:43:25,200 --> 00:43:27,160
Speaker 7: like a single person in the town.

914
00:43:27,239 --> 00:43:28,040
Speaker 2: It's okay, got it?

915
00:43:28,080 --> 00:43:31,600
Speaker 5: So cute and it's so silly, And yours is similar

916
00:43:31,640 --> 00:43:33,000
Speaker 5: to right because it's like a farmer.

917
00:43:33,480 --> 00:43:38,120
Speaker 8: Yeah, mine is in the title, so farmer wife, I kind.

918
00:43:37,960 --> 00:43:38,480
Speaker 2: Of got it.

919
00:43:39,000 --> 00:43:42,360
Speaker 8: Yeah, and the wives want a farmer, so it works

920
00:43:42,360 --> 00:43:44,760
Speaker 8: like they have to say yes. There's no like rose ceremony,

921
00:43:44,800 --> 00:43:46,680
Speaker 8: there's no wedding at the end, it's just are they

922
00:43:46,719 --> 00:43:49,759
Speaker 8: still interested? And it's really good television. And I could

923
00:43:49,840 --> 00:43:52,439
Speaker 8: relate to it because we grew up in New York

924
00:43:52,480 --> 00:43:54,239
Speaker 8: and here I am on a farm. I've got like

925
00:43:54,280 --> 00:43:59,160
Speaker 8: horses in the backyard and lots of you know, so nice.

926
00:43:59,600 --> 00:44:03,680
Speaker 5: Yeah, I love horses and lots of poop. I like

927
00:44:03,760 --> 00:44:06,439
Speaker 5: muddy boots on a porch. I don't have that right now.

928
00:44:06,520 --> 00:44:09,360
Speaker 4: I feel like it's you gotta make sure it's horse poop,

929
00:44:09,560 --> 00:44:11,560
Speaker 4: because you can't just say you like horses and lots

930
00:44:11,600 --> 00:44:11,960
Speaker 4: of poop.

931
00:44:12,320 --> 00:44:14,719
Speaker 8: We have all the poop here though, I mean we

932
00:44:14,760 --> 00:44:15,920
Speaker 8: have all different kinds.

933
00:44:24,680 --> 00:44:28,920
Speaker 5: Speaking of poop, yeah, I was my friends were staying

934
00:44:28,920 --> 00:44:31,600
Speaker 5: at my house in the in the desert. I looked

935
00:44:31,600 --> 00:44:35,200
Speaker 5: out onto at the window out on the second story

936
00:44:35,280 --> 00:44:40,319
Speaker 5: and on my roof is this pile of what I

937
00:44:40,360 --> 00:44:41,600
Speaker 5: think is bobcat.

938
00:44:41,760 --> 00:44:44,759
Speaker 2: Yeah, it is, That's what that is.

939
00:44:46,880 --> 00:44:49,920
Speaker 3: It's like and it's like just pooping in one spot.

940
00:44:50,200 --> 00:44:52,680
Speaker 2: Oh wow, it's like it's a cat. It's I mean,

941
00:44:52,719 --> 00:44:54,920
Speaker 2: it has its literalates essentially, it's it's litter box.

942
00:44:54,960 --> 00:44:57,399
Speaker 3: I mean it's it's But but what do I do?

943
00:44:58,080 --> 00:44:58,840
Speaker 2: Just let it poop?

944
00:44:59,680 --> 00:45:03,000
Speaker 5: Let it poop therein my roof?

945
00:45:03,160 --> 00:45:06,440
Speaker 2: Who cares? Just have like a little like poop section

946
00:45:06,600 --> 00:45:07,200
Speaker 2: on it.

947
00:45:08,280 --> 00:45:10,200
Speaker 3: You better watch out.

948
00:45:10,000 --> 00:45:12,480
Speaker 8: You better watch out for your little doggie though. You

949
00:45:12,480 --> 00:45:13,759
Speaker 8: don't want your dog to just be.

950
00:45:13,840 --> 00:45:17,000
Speaker 2: Like yeah, no, no, an appetizer.

951
00:45:17,280 --> 00:45:20,319
Speaker 3: I know he's like a teeny I've got. You also

952
00:45:20,360 --> 00:45:20,719
Speaker 3: have like a.

953
00:45:20,680 --> 00:45:23,359
Speaker 5: Doberman and an Ausie, so I don't let them out

954
00:45:23,400 --> 00:45:24,640
Speaker 5: without the big dogs.

955
00:45:25,000 --> 00:45:27,799
Speaker 3: Okay, But I love that you guys.

956
00:45:27,800 --> 00:45:30,880
Speaker 5: When I was reading about everything about you both, you

957
00:45:30,920 --> 00:45:33,799
Speaker 5: guys are very open and vulnerable about the things that

958
00:45:33,800 --> 00:45:35,839
Speaker 5: are going on in your life, which I always love

959
00:45:35,920 --> 00:45:37,840
Speaker 5: and appreciate because I think it's important.

960
00:45:37,840 --> 00:45:39,839
Speaker 3: But you know, like Kimberly when you.

961
00:45:39,800 --> 00:45:44,040
Speaker 5: Lost your voice, Ashlely, you had a miscarriage, and you

962
00:45:44,200 --> 00:45:47,120
Speaker 5: talk openly about those things, like what was that? Like,

963
00:45:47,200 --> 00:45:50,399
Speaker 5: what are these things that you're super comfortable with being

964
00:45:50,440 --> 00:45:52,160
Speaker 5: open or is it something that you have to like

965
00:45:52,280 --> 00:45:54,720
Speaker 5: ask yourself and like go through the process.

966
00:45:54,320 --> 00:45:56,000
Speaker 3: Of being like, Okay, I have to come out with it.

967
00:45:56,880 --> 00:45:58,560
Speaker 8: That's such a great question.

968
00:46:00,560 --> 00:46:01,200
Speaker 3: For myself.

969
00:46:01,280 --> 00:46:05,200
Speaker 8: I feel like it's definitely something I've wrestled with, but

970
00:46:05,360 --> 00:46:08,319
Speaker 8: ultimately it's such a relief to be honest and tell

971
00:46:08,360 --> 00:46:12,239
Speaker 8: the truth. It's so much more preferable to hiding it

972
00:46:12,320 --> 00:46:15,680
Speaker 8: and feeling like I don't want anyone to know. That's exhausting.

973
00:46:15,719 --> 00:46:17,960
Speaker 8: And we've been through that so many times, like with

974
00:46:18,040 --> 00:46:20,239
Speaker 8: our mom who had Alzheimer's and told us not to

975
00:46:20,280 --> 00:46:22,839
Speaker 8: talk about it, so for years we didn't, and then

976
00:46:22,840 --> 00:46:25,360
Speaker 8: when we finally could, when she wasn't like aware anymore

977
00:46:25,400 --> 00:46:28,360
Speaker 8: that we were taking we were going to talk about it,

978
00:46:28,400 --> 00:46:30,840
Speaker 8: we like, haven't shut up about it, you know. And

979
00:46:30,880 --> 00:46:33,000
Speaker 8: then with my voice, I felt like when I was

980
00:46:33,000 --> 00:46:34,520
Speaker 8: in the middle of it, it was really hard for me,

981
00:46:34,600 --> 00:46:35,839
Speaker 8: to be honest, because I didn't know.

982
00:46:35,760 --> 00:46:37,200
Speaker 3: If it was going to last for the rest of

983
00:46:37,200 --> 00:46:37,640
Speaker 3: my life.

984
00:46:37,680 --> 00:46:40,280
Speaker 8: You know, those kind of health scares could be really

985
00:46:40,719 --> 00:46:45,080
Speaker 8: scary and challenging, and I was just terrified. But once

986
00:46:45,280 --> 00:46:49,840
Speaker 8: I found the answer and had the surgery and like

987
00:46:49,960 --> 00:46:52,120
Speaker 8: came through it, then I really wanted to talk about

988
00:46:52,120 --> 00:46:54,040
Speaker 8: it because I wanted other people to know that they're

989
00:46:54,040 --> 00:46:56,480
Speaker 8: not alone, and you know, this is what I've learned.

990
00:46:56,520 --> 00:47:00,120
Speaker 8: And I was so happy to have a voice. But

991
00:47:00,200 --> 00:47:03,319
Speaker 8: I just was excited to use it, you know, and Ash,

992
00:47:03,360 --> 00:47:05,279
Speaker 8: what about you with the miscarriage.

993
00:47:05,400 --> 00:47:08,320
Speaker 7: I was just going to say, like I remember because

994
00:47:08,360 --> 00:47:10,719
Speaker 7: I was, you know, we were We're Kim and I

995
00:47:10,760 --> 00:47:16,319
Speaker 7: talk every day. So during her voice journey, I was

996
00:47:16,560 --> 00:47:19,560
Speaker 7: it was like an active part of every conversation we had,

997
00:47:19,719 --> 00:47:24,520
Speaker 7: you know, and helping her navigate a party or like

998
00:47:24,560 --> 00:47:26,160
Speaker 7: at one point she had to go to the White House,

999
00:47:26,239 --> 00:47:27,799
Speaker 7: like we were like what do we do? Like she

1000
00:47:27,840 --> 00:47:30,080
Speaker 7: can't she'd lost her voice, and she was like going

1001
00:47:30,080 --> 00:47:32,759
Speaker 7: to the White House and sitting next to I can't Jill.

1002
00:47:32,880 --> 00:47:34,480
Speaker 6: Was it like Jill Biden or something.

1003
00:47:35,120 --> 00:47:39,359
Speaker 7: Like navigating all those crazy things but but also having

1004
00:47:39,360 --> 00:47:43,520
Speaker 7: to stay super private about it. And I remember, Kimmy,

1005
00:47:43,560 --> 00:47:48,200
Speaker 7: when you came out of surgery, we I think you

1006
00:47:48,239 --> 00:47:50,440
Speaker 7: sent me a text message and you were like, I

1007
00:47:50,520 --> 00:47:53,320
Speaker 7: just wrote this and it was ultimately what you posted

1008
00:47:53,360 --> 00:47:55,560
Speaker 7: on Instagram, but you like sent me and you were

1009
00:47:55,560 --> 00:47:58,080
Speaker 7: like any changes, and I was like, no, this is amazing.

1010
00:47:58,239 --> 00:47:59,960
Speaker 7: But it was like a big moment where you decided

1011
00:47:59,960 --> 00:48:03,480
Speaker 7: to like come out and it was basically the morning

1012
00:48:03,520 --> 00:48:08,080
Speaker 7: that you were in the hospital after your surgery, right yeah.

1013
00:48:08,120 --> 00:48:10,840
Speaker 8: And it felt like such a relief. It felt so vulnerable,

1014
00:48:10,880 --> 00:48:13,359
Speaker 8: and I had no idea I'd forgotten. Really like when

1015
00:48:13,400 --> 00:48:17,160
Speaker 8: people show up authentically, I think, I think the general

1016
00:48:17,200 --> 00:48:20,560
Speaker 8: public really responds. And that's what happened is I just

1017
00:48:20,840 --> 00:48:23,839
Speaker 8: poured my heart out into this and then I turned

1018
00:48:23,880 --> 00:48:26,520
Speaker 8: my phone off when I went and like meditated, which

1019
00:48:26,600 --> 00:48:29,040
Speaker 8: is my new thing since being through with the Voice journey,

1020
00:48:29,080 --> 00:48:32,399
Speaker 8: I have been meditating. And I came back like I've

1021
00:48:32,480 --> 00:48:34,120
Speaker 8: kind of forgot about it. And I came back an

1022
00:48:34,120 --> 00:48:36,359
Speaker 8: hour later and I saw that it had blown up

1023
00:48:36,840 --> 00:48:39,279
Speaker 8: and people had really responded to it in like a

1024
00:48:39,280 --> 00:48:41,640
Speaker 8: way that I hadn't. I hadn't had a reaction like

1025
00:48:41,680 --> 00:48:45,040
Speaker 8: that in years. And then I felt like oh gosh,

1026
00:48:45,120 --> 00:48:47,160
Speaker 8: what have I done. There's no putting that Genie back

1027
00:48:47,160 --> 00:48:49,759
Speaker 8: in the bottle, but I'm still like so glad that

1028
00:48:49,840 --> 00:48:50,160
Speaker 8: I did.

1029
00:48:50,760 --> 00:48:54,120
Speaker 4: What was your hesitation, you know from the beginning, you

1030
00:48:54,120 --> 00:48:58,480
Speaker 4: know why, just just just pure privacy or was there

1031
00:48:58,520 --> 00:48:59,919
Speaker 4: a fear there of some kind?

1032
00:49:00,080 --> 00:49:01,759
Speaker 8: Yeah, there was a lot of fear. It was very

1033
00:49:01,760 --> 00:49:02,880
Speaker 8: embarrassing to me.

1034
00:49:03,080 --> 00:49:03,520
Speaker 3: I don't know.

1035
00:49:03,600 --> 00:49:06,480
Speaker 8: I think it's hard to explain, but I guess I

1036
00:49:06,560 --> 00:49:08,920
Speaker 8: felt sort of invisible for two years. I felt like

1037
00:49:08,920 --> 00:49:11,640
Speaker 8: a ghost. I felt I felt like it was my fault.

1038
00:49:11,760 --> 00:49:12,520
Speaker 3: For some time.

1039
00:49:12,680 --> 00:49:15,160
Speaker 8: I just had a lot of stuff. There was actually

1040
00:49:15,200 --> 00:49:18,560
Speaker 8: like some guilt around the stuff talking about my mom

1041
00:49:18,640 --> 00:49:21,000
Speaker 8: and Alzheimer's. I think like there was an emotional component

1042
00:49:21,080 --> 00:49:24,200
Speaker 8: and like all this stuff that I had been feeling about,

1043
00:49:24,239 --> 00:49:27,480
Speaker 8: like oh I can't talk about something was kind of

1044
00:49:27,520 --> 00:49:29,920
Speaker 8: like taught by our mom in some way like that,

1045
00:49:30,080 --> 00:49:32,040
Speaker 8: you know, so that like coming through the end of

1046
00:49:32,040 --> 00:49:34,719
Speaker 8: her Alzheimer's journey and deciding we were going to talk

1047
00:49:34,719 --> 00:49:35,280
Speaker 8: about it.

1048
00:49:35,480 --> 00:49:36,840
Speaker 3: I felt a lot of guilt about that.

1049
00:49:37,320 --> 00:49:41,000
Speaker 8: So that was just part of my understanding all of

1050
00:49:41,080 --> 00:49:42,960
Speaker 8: like how I use my voice, how I show up?

1051
00:49:43,000 --> 00:49:44,839
Speaker 3: What was my internal voice is?

1052
00:49:44,960 --> 00:49:45,200
Speaker 6: You know?

1053
00:49:45,280 --> 00:49:48,000
Speaker 8: What I really learned in trying to find my external voice,

1054
00:49:48,680 --> 00:49:51,520
Speaker 8: and so it just felt like it was all a

1055
00:49:51,680 --> 00:49:55,399
Speaker 8: very vulnerable thing because it was so real that.

1056
00:49:55,360 --> 00:49:56,840
Speaker 3: It was scary to share.

1057
00:49:57,320 --> 00:49:59,239
Speaker 5: How is that navigating? And this is for both of

1058
00:49:59,239 --> 00:50:03,000
Speaker 5: you with your with the hubbies, like are they comfortable with.

1059
00:50:04,160 --> 00:50:07,520
Speaker 3: You know, being more outward or do.

1060
00:50:07,400 --> 00:50:12,520
Speaker 5: They sometimes feel like you know, because that's my My

1061
00:50:12,680 --> 00:50:15,239
Speaker 5: biggest thing is that I'm going to say something and

1062
00:50:15,640 --> 00:50:17,040
Speaker 5: then someone else is going.

1063
00:50:17,000 --> 00:50:18,000
Speaker 3: To be up said of me.

1064
00:50:18,200 --> 00:50:18,400
Speaker 2: You know.

1065
00:50:18,800 --> 00:50:20,160
Speaker 3: It's like there's all these moving parts.

1066
00:50:20,200 --> 00:50:22,359
Speaker 5: Whether it's my brother, whether it's my other brother, whether

1067
00:50:22,360 --> 00:50:23,480
Speaker 5: it's my parents, whether it's my.

1068
00:50:23,440 --> 00:50:24,600
Speaker 3: Partner or with my kids.

1069
00:50:24,800 --> 00:50:28,520
Speaker 5: It's like I could talk about anything, and yet I

1070
00:50:28,600 --> 00:50:31,680
Speaker 5: sometimes feel like I'm gonna let someone down if I

1071
00:50:31,719 --> 00:50:33,759
Speaker 5: say something personal.

1072
00:50:34,000 --> 00:50:34,239
Speaker 3: You know.

1073
00:50:34,600 --> 00:50:35,920
Speaker 6: Yeah, I totally relate to that.

1074
00:50:35,960 --> 00:50:39,120
Speaker 7: And it's so funny because earlier, Oliver, you were like,

1075
00:50:39,960 --> 00:50:42,400
Speaker 7: and tell us about your husband, and my husband, Neil

1076
00:50:42,560 --> 00:50:45,279
Speaker 7: is a producer and he's amazing, and then and I

1077
00:50:45,360 --> 00:50:47,800
Speaker 7: was like, well, and you know he he's had to

1078
00:50:47,800 --> 00:50:49,759
Speaker 7: stay home a lot recently. And then I was thinking,

1079
00:50:49,800 --> 00:50:52,399
Speaker 7: after like moved on, I'm like, is the only time

1080
00:50:52,400 --> 00:50:54,359
Speaker 7: I'm going to talk about my incredible husband, the fact

1081
00:50:54,360 --> 00:50:56,160
Speaker 7: that he's the one having to take care of the

1082
00:50:56,239 --> 00:50:59,560
Speaker 7: kids recently. That's not I was like, here's that is

1083
00:50:59,600 --> 00:51:01,160
Speaker 7: he going to be like I can't believe you, Like

1084
00:51:01,160 --> 00:51:02,799
Speaker 7: like that was the one thing you said about.

1085
00:51:02,520 --> 00:51:04,720
Speaker 2: Me, Like like I've done a lot more than this.

1086
00:51:06,719 --> 00:51:09,719
Speaker 7: Because meanwhile, like like the truth is my husband is

1087
00:51:09,840 --> 00:51:14,240
Speaker 7: Kim can attest like the greatest human that the most

1088
00:51:14,400 --> 00:51:19,200
Speaker 7: like selfless, generous, kind and also fiercely protective of our kids.

1089
00:51:19,239 --> 00:51:21,720
Speaker 7: So like we don't post pictures of our kids online

1090
00:51:21,760 --> 00:51:24,680
Speaker 7: around some like we're just super freaked out about doing

1091
00:51:24,760 --> 00:51:28,200
Speaker 7: that without their consent, and like how.

1092
00:51:28,040 --> 00:51:31,279
Speaker 4: Do they I U, I use them to get more

1093
00:51:31,320 --> 00:51:33,520
Speaker 4: followers and potentially make more money on Instagram.

1094
00:51:33,560 --> 00:51:39,840
Speaker 2: So from the opposite, me too, yeah.

1095
00:51:40,120 --> 00:51:42,239
Speaker 7: Like and honestly truly to each his own, but like

1096
00:51:42,239 --> 00:51:45,520
Speaker 7: my husband was really like, you know, fiercely protective of

1097
00:51:45,560 --> 00:51:48,800
Speaker 7: them and and and there is like a privacy element.

1098
00:51:49,000 --> 00:51:51,120
Speaker 7: And at the same time, he is a producer, Like

1099
00:51:51,200 --> 00:51:54,320
Speaker 7: he knows this industry, you know, just as well as anyone,

1100
00:51:54,360 --> 00:51:58,000
Speaker 7: and he knows that the more honest I am, you know, oftentimes,

1101
00:51:58,000 --> 00:51:59,400
Speaker 7: the more people can connect with me.

1102
00:52:00,160 --> 00:52:03,359
Speaker 6: So it's a balance you know it's.

1103
00:52:03,560 --> 00:52:07,839
Speaker 8: Yeah, I feel like I think that that's the same

1104
00:52:07,920 --> 00:52:09,680
Speaker 8: for me. Like you just have to make sure that

1105
00:52:09,840 --> 00:52:12,719
Speaker 8: whatever story I'm telling that that it'll be one that

1106
00:52:12,800 --> 00:52:13,480
Speaker 8: they're okay with.

1107
00:52:13,520 --> 00:52:13,879
Speaker 3: That's hard.

1108
00:52:13,880 --> 00:52:15,880
Speaker 8: It's a fine line. I mean, you guys understand that

1109
00:52:15,880 --> 00:52:17,600
Speaker 8: because you've grown up that public GUYE.

1110
00:52:17,719 --> 00:52:19,759
Speaker 4: Yeah, we don't have a ton of time. But just

1111
00:52:19,800 --> 00:52:23,080
Speaker 4: the Alzheimer with your mother, I mean, I don't think

1112
00:52:23,120 --> 00:52:26,160
Speaker 4: I've ever actually spoken to someone who's dealt with that

1113
00:52:26,400 --> 00:52:30,759
Speaker 4: who I know actually, well, but is there a is

1114
00:52:30,800 --> 00:52:35,560
Speaker 4: there a moment where it turns or is it very gradual?

1115
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Speaker 4: You know, it's a very basic, sort of simplistic question,

1116
00:52:39,480 --> 00:52:43,040
Speaker 4: but is it is it a very gradual decline or

1117
00:52:43,160 --> 00:52:44,800
Speaker 4: is there that moment?

1118
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Speaker 6: Thank you so much for talking about this. I appreciate it.

1119
00:52:47,760 --> 00:52:48,160
Speaker 3: Yeah.

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Speaker 8: I remember a doctor told us once, if you've met

1121
00:52:50,760 --> 00:52:53,759
Speaker 8: one person with Alzheimer's, you've met one person with Alzheimer's,

1122
00:52:54,400 --> 00:52:56,879
Speaker 8: So it can be different for everybody. Our mom had

1123
00:52:56,880 --> 00:53:01,680
Speaker 8: frontotemporal lobe disorder, a primary progressive phasia, which like took

1124
00:53:01,760 --> 00:53:03,719
Speaker 8: five to seven years. They said it would take her

1125
00:53:03,760 --> 00:53:06,160
Speaker 8: five to seven years before she would need full time care.

1126
00:53:06,600 --> 00:53:09,640
Speaker 8: But like I look back, and I do remember it

1127
00:53:09,680 --> 00:53:12,200
Speaker 8: was actually at my wedding that there was a moment

1128
00:53:12,239 --> 00:53:14,040
Speaker 8: where I was like, oh my gosh, what happened to mom?

1129
00:53:14,960 --> 00:53:18,040
Speaker 8: She was really irrational and really upset the day of

1130
00:53:18,080 --> 00:53:22,360
Speaker 8: my wedding because she wasn't in the ceremony, which was

1131
00:53:22,480 --> 00:53:24,800
Speaker 8: very odd, like that was kind of out of character

1132
00:53:24,880 --> 00:53:28,320
Speaker 8: for her. And so that day we gave her something

1133
00:53:28,360 --> 00:53:31,160
Speaker 8: to read in the ceremony because she was like having

1134
00:53:31,160 --> 00:53:34,560
Speaker 8: a total meltdown and she got up to read it

1135
00:53:34,719 --> 00:53:37,799
Speaker 8: and couldn't get through the reading, like kept stumbling and

1136
00:53:37,840 --> 00:53:40,200
Speaker 8: faltering like and that was so unlike her. She was

1137
00:53:40,239 --> 00:53:42,040
Speaker 8: someone that was used to speaking in front of people.

1138
00:53:42,320 --> 00:53:44,640
Speaker 8: And we didn't know for another two years, but when

1139
00:53:44,640 --> 00:53:48,160
Speaker 8: we finally found out, I remembered that moment was like huh,

1140
00:53:48,200 --> 00:53:49,400
Speaker 8: I think that was the beginning.

1141
00:53:50,120 --> 00:53:51,760
Speaker 2: Mmm. Wow.

1142
00:53:51,840 --> 00:53:55,719
Speaker 4: And then once it was diagnosed, you know, then there

1143
00:53:55,800 --> 00:54:00,280
Speaker 4: was the awareness becomes your forefront and so your almost

1144
00:54:00,360 --> 00:54:01,960
Speaker 4: witnessing and watching and waiting.

1145
00:54:02,960 --> 00:54:05,640
Speaker 7: Yeah, it's complicated, like it's you know, they say it's

1146
00:54:05,680 --> 00:54:07,879
Speaker 7: like death by paper cut, and it really is that,

1147
00:54:08,000 --> 00:54:10,319
Speaker 7: Like it's really like these tiny, teeny, tiny little micks

1148
00:54:10,360 --> 00:54:13,120
Speaker 7: like I remember in like it was like two thousand

1149
00:54:13,120 --> 00:54:16,080
Speaker 7: and one, I was like in between auditions in New

1150
00:54:16,160 --> 00:54:18,759
Speaker 7: York City, and I swung into her office down in

1151
00:54:18,840 --> 00:54:21,760
Speaker 7: like Lower Manhattan to like pee and get a free snack,

1152
00:54:21,880 --> 00:54:24,799
Speaker 7: you know. And I walked into her office and she

1153
00:54:24,960 --> 00:54:30,279
Speaker 7: was hunched over the phone book and I walked in

1154
00:54:30,320 --> 00:54:32,279
Speaker 7: and I said hi. She goes, oh, thank god you're here.

1155
00:54:32,320 --> 00:54:35,760
Speaker 7: How do you suppose Chicago? That was like two thousand

1156
00:54:35,760 --> 00:54:39,440
Speaker 7: and one, so that was years before your wedding him, right,

1157
00:54:40,440 --> 00:54:41,520
Speaker 7: And I remember being.

1158
00:54:41,320 --> 00:54:43,840
Speaker 6: Like, she's dotty, she's hilarious.

1159
00:54:43,920 --> 00:54:49,000
Speaker 7: My mother is hilarious, you know, right, And then the

1160
00:54:49,480 --> 00:54:52,600
Speaker 7: weirdest thing is that then thirty seconds later she's like, hey,

1161
00:54:52,640 --> 00:54:56,800
Speaker 7: I made a reservation for lunch, let's go, you know,

1162
00:54:57,560 --> 00:55:00,680
Speaker 7: and like completely normal. Like it's these all these different

1163
00:55:00,719 --> 00:55:02,640
Speaker 7: tracks in your brain and one of them suddenly is

1164
00:55:02,680 --> 00:55:04,399
Speaker 7: like off the rails for a second. And then you're

1165
00:55:04,400 --> 00:55:06,879
Speaker 7: like that was weird. But that's what's crazy about it

1166
00:55:06,920 --> 00:55:08,319
Speaker 7: is that kind of happens to all of us.

1167
00:55:08,239 --> 00:55:12,160
Speaker 3: All day, especially Yeah you don't know, Yeah, I don't know.

1168
00:55:12,239 --> 00:55:13,680
Speaker 3: Sometimes sometimes you're like.

1169
00:55:13,680 --> 00:55:17,879
Speaker 5: Oh my god, I can't remember that name, but they're

1170
00:55:17,920 --> 00:55:19,240
Speaker 5: like I know this person.

1171
00:55:20,719 --> 00:55:22,960
Speaker 6: So all of us have a phasia all day. What's

1172
00:55:23,000 --> 00:55:25,280
Speaker 6: the name name, that's a phasia.

1173
00:55:25,320 --> 00:55:28,440
Speaker 7: But our mother had something called primary progressive aphasia, which

1174
00:55:28,480 --> 00:55:31,600
Speaker 7: was just it it didn't stop like it was all day. Yeah.

1175
00:55:31,640 --> 00:55:34,279
Speaker 8: I think the distinction is if it's interfering with your

1176
00:55:34,360 --> 00:55:36,960
Speaker 8: daily life, then it's something to get checked out. If

1177
00:55:36,960 --> 00:55:39,120
Speaker 8: it's I mean, if it's like, oh, I forget someone's's name,

1178
00:55:39,640 --> 00:55:41,759
Speaker 8: that that's not as big a deal as this is

1179
00:55:41,800 --> 00:55:44,319
Speaker 8: interfering with my work life or my family life. It's

1180
00:55:44,360 --> 00:55:45,680
Speaker 8: starting to change, right.

1181
00:55:47,640 --> 00:55:49,560
Speaker 4: But there's been a lot, a lot has been done

1182
00:55:49,680 --> 00:55:54,040
Speaker 4: recently with Alzheimer's, at least from a news standpoint, you know,

1183
00:55:54,120 --> 00:55:58,520
Speaker 4: reading things, hearing things, you know, it seems like there's breakthroughs.

1184
00:55:58,640 --> 00:56:01,439
Speaker 4: If not now, but the few sure could look bright now.

1185
00:56:01,560 --> 00:56:02,960
Speaker 4: I mean, I'm sure you guys have a lot of

1186
00:56:03,000 --> 00:56:03,879
Speaker 4: information on that.

1187
00:56:04,719 --> 00:56:09,160
Speaker 8: Yeah, I'm really hopeful, you know, hopefully funding for research

1188
00:56:09,239 --> 00:56:12,120
Speaker 8: will continue and we can find some of these answers

1189
00:56:12,160 --> 00:56:15,160
Speaker 8: because it does take a lot of money. Yeah, you know,

1190
00:56:15,320 --> 00:56:18,760
Speaker 8: so that that's kind of frustrating it right now because

1191
00:56:18,760 --> 00:56:20,839
Speaker 8: we need we need a lot of research. But there

1192
00:56:20,840 --> 00:56:22,640
Speaker 8: are a lot of irons in the fire, and we've

1193
00:56:22,680 --> 00:56:26,160
Speaker 8: been connected to some fantastic doctors who are doing really

1194
00:56:26,200 --> 00:56:28,960
Speaker 8: phenomenal work. And there you know, there are some medicines

1195
00:56:28,960 --> 00:56:31,440
Speaker 8: there that can slow down the progress, and so I

1196
00:56:31,480 --> 00:56:32,120
Speaker 8: am hopeful.

1197
00:56:41,440 --> 00:56:44,040
Speaker 7: And FYI, the Alzheimer's Association, just to give them a

1198
00:56:44,040 --> 00:56:46,960
Speaker 7: little plug, has the most incredible resources.

1199
00:56:47,000 --> 00:56:48,799
Speaker 6: They have a one eight hundred number. You can google it.

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00:56:48,800 --> 00:56:50,920
Speaker 7: I don't know what it is, but they have somebody

1201
00:56:50,920 --> 00:56:53,680
Speaker 7: twenty four hours a day who will answer the phone

1202
00:56:53,880 --> 00:56:57,240
Speaker 7: locally in your area, can connect you with resources locally

1203
00:56:57,280 --> 00:57:05,000
Speaker 7: in your area, therapists, you know, nurses, support groups, et cetera.

1204
00:57:05,760 --> 00:57:10,000
Speaker 7: Because the prevalence of abuse is incredibly high and it's

1205
00:57:10,040 --> 00:57:15,600
Speaker 7: not interesting of the loyalty as Yeah, and even if

1206
00:57:15,640 --> 00:57:18,520
Speaker 7: it's not abuse, but it's like the caregivers not going

1207
00:57:18,520 --> 00:57:21,040
Speaker 7: to their own doctor's appointments, or the caregivers not getting

1208
00:57:21,120 --> 00:57:24,880
Speaker 7: enough sleep or enough food, like they really need support.

1209
00:57:25,120 --> 00:57:29,280
Speaker 8: So yeah, I agree, Ash, And the hotline number is

1210
00:57:29,360 --> 00:57:31,520
Speaker 8: terrific and they'll connect you with free resources.

1211
00:57:31,560 --> 00:57:34,120
Speaker 2: Well, I imagine just patients in general.

1212
00:57:34,280 --> 00:57:36,360
Speaker 4: I mean, we all have children, you know how our

1213
00:57:36,400 --> 00:57:39,960
Speaker 4: nerves get forget frayed and we go crazy and we

1214
00:57:40,160 --> 00:57:43,640
Speaker 4: have to check ourselves because holy fuck, let me just

1215
00:57:43,680 --> 00:57:44,480
Speaker 4: figure out why.

1216
00:57:44,360 --> 00:57:44,960
Speaker 2: I'm like this.

1217
00:57:45,080 --> 00:57:47,720
Speaker 4: But I can imagine, you know, you have to be

1218
00:57:47,720 --> 00:57:50,960
Speaker 4: pretty patient and sort of go within yourself and start

1219
00:57:50,960 --> 00:57:53,200
Speaker 4: a true meditation, because.

1220
00:57:53,440 --> 00:57:56,040
Speaker 2: You know it can be. I can't imagine how frustrating

1221
00:57:56,080 --> 00:57:56,920
Speaker 2: it can get, you know.

1222
00:57:57,760 --> 00:58:02,680
Speaker 3: Yeah, this was so great. You guys are the sweetest.

1223
00:58:02,400 --> 00:58:04,560
Speaker 2: Many are the best. This is fun, really fun.

1224
00:58:04,840 --> 00:58:08,200
Speaker 5: I'm going to come to Nashville at some point, probably

1225
00:58:08,200 --> 00:58:09,880
Speaker 5: this summer, because I'm going to come meet a bunch

1226
00:58:09,880 --> 00:58:12,000
Speaker 5: of people and write so amazing.

1227
00:58:12,160 --> 00:58:16,040
Speaker 3: Don't come, yeah, reach out hi? Yeah, that'd be great.

1228
00:58:16,480 --> 00:58:16,880
Speaker 2: All right?

1229
00:58:17,400 --> 00:58:21,280
Speaker 4: Two part question you know of your sibling obviously, the

1230
00:58:21,320 --> 00:58:24,160
Speaker 4: first part is if there was one thing that you

1231
00:58:24,200 --> 00:58:27,440
Speaker 4: can emulate from them that you could have for yourself,

1232
00:58:27,880 --> 00:58:31,800
Speaker 4: what would that be? And second part is if there

1233
00:58:31,960 --> 00:58:37,440
Speaker 4: was something that you could alleviate from them, what would

1234
00:58:37,440 --> 00:58:39,840
Speaker 4: you take away to make their life just better a

1235
00:58:39,840 --> 00:58:40,640
Speaker 4: little more smooth?

1236
00:58:41,280 --> 00:58:44,600
Speaker 8: That is the sweetest question. Both of those things are amazing.

1237
00:58:45,800 --> 00:58:50,440
Speaker 8: I think for me, what I love so much and

1238
00:58:51,560 --> 00:58:57,160
Speaker 8: wish I had is Ashley's just full belly laugh. That's

1239
00:58:57,240 --> 00:59:00,840
Speaker 8: just like rings throughout a room and like changes the

1240
00:59:00,880 --> 00:59:03,800
Speaker 8: atmosphere of a room. That's the first part and the

1241
00:59:03,840 --> 00:59:06,400
Speaker 8: second part is actually used to be a doulula, and

1242
00:59:06,440 --> 00:59:09,919
Speaker 8: she has this ability to like talk someone through a

1243
00:59:09,960 --> 00:59:12,520
Speaker 8: panic attack or through a hard moment, And I am

1244
00:59:12,680 --> 00:59:15,640
Speaker 8: so grateful to be the recipient of that. But I

1245
00:59:15,680 --> 00:59:19,160
Speaker 8: wish I had that ability that ash that you have.

1246
00:59:19,720 --> 00:59:22,680
Speaker 8: I wish I could give her like twenty four hour

1247
00:59:23,320 --> 00:59:29,280
Speaker 8: childcare just as needed.

1248
00:59:31,400 --> 00:59:32,360
Speaker 6: That would be really help.

1249
00:59:32,760 --> 00:59:36,960
Speaker 5: Yeah, you and every other mother in the world.

1250
00:59:37,400 --> 00:59:41,240
Speaker 3: It's like, so it's the hardest job ever.

1251
00:59:41,360 --> 00:59:45,760
Speaker 5: I sometimes think to myself, like, you know, I don't

1252
00:59:45,800 --> 00:59:47,160
Speaker 5: think I'd ever want to.

1253
00:59:47,160 --> 00:59:49,520
Speaker 3: Be a stay at home mom just because it's so

1254
00:59:49,720 --> 00:59:51,960
Speaker 3: much work. Like I don't know what I would do.

1255
00:59:51,920 --> 00:59:53,720
Speaker 5: If I didn't have work and all I was doing

1256
00:59:53,800 --> 00:59:56,960
Speaker 5: was the kids. I think I'd go crazy, like I

1257
00:59:57,040 --> 00:59:59,520
Speaker 5: need help. And then you think, of course, because we're

1258
00:59:59,520 --> 01:00:01,320
Speaker 5: not supposed to do it alone. We're supposed to all

1259
01:00:01,320 --> 01:00:03,400
Speaker 5: be doing it together, like all the late all the

1260
01:00:03,600 --> 01:00:05,720
Speaker 5: girls are supposed to come together and help each other

1261
01:00:05,800 --> 01:00:06,920
Speaker 5: raise each other's children.

1262
01:00:07,200 --> 01:00:09,880
Speaker 3: That's like what we're meant to do, right, you know, our.

1263
01:00:09,760 --> 01:00:12,840
Speaker 5: Community is supposed to be there for us, and we've

1264
01:00:12,880 --> 01:00:16,800
Speaker 5: lost sight a little bit of that as you going, Okay, So.

1265
01:00:16,880 --> 01:00:22,200
Speaker 7: For Kim, so I'm gonna say, Kim is so good

1266
01:00:22,360 --> 01:00:27,000
Speaker 7: at honestly looking not I mean definitely at herself, but

1267
01:00:27,160 --> 01:00:31,840
Speaker 7: at me, uh and telling me, like in a really

1268
01:00:31,880 --> 01:00:35,360
Speaker 7: honest way what I could be doing better and how

1269
01:00:35,360 --> 01:00:38,760
Speaker 7: to see a situation from another person's perspective, Like there

1270
01:00:38,800 --> 01:00:42,120
Speaker 7: is a loyalty in that, I swear, But most of

1271
01:00:42,160 --> 01:00:44,200
Speaker 7: the time what she's saying is, well, it sounds like

1272
01:00:44,320 --> 01:00:48,520
Speaker 7: you were kind of a jerk. It helps me see

1273
01:00:49,000 --> 01:00:51,680
Speaker 7: what my shortcomings are. And she does it to herself

1274
01:00:51,720 --> 01:00:53,680
Speaker 7: and she does it for me, and I wish I

1275
01:00:53,680 --> 01:00:55,800
Speaker 7: could do it for myself better.

1276
01:00:55,880 --> 01:00:58,040
Speaker 6: But what I all I need to do when I

1277
01:00:58,040 --> 01:01:00,640
Speaker 6: look at a situation is go, what would she you say?

1278
01:01:01,520 --> 01:01:05,520
Speaker 6: I'm not seeing? Or where am I coming up short here?

1279
01:01:05,680 --> 01:01:09,080
Speaker 6: And it's it's something that I continue.

1280
01:01:08,400 --> 01:01:11,040
Speaker 7: To strive for that I've learned from her, and I'm

1281
01:01:11,160 --> 01:01:13,880
Speaker 7: and I need to strengthen because I'm the first person

1282
01:01:13,920 --> 01:01:16,880
Speaker 7: to be like it was mean, you know, and Kim's.

1283
01:01:16,640 --> 01:01:19,800
Speaker 1: Like, okay, but you did yell first, you know, or

1284
01:01:20,560 --> 01:01:22,320
Speaker 1: that like a very helpful thing.

1285
01:01:24,280 --> 01:01:26,520
Speaker 7: And in terms of alleviating you know, it's interesting we

1286
01:01:26,600 --> 01:01:31,400
Speaker 7: talked a lot about like Kim, who Kim's parents were

1287
01:01:31,600 --> 01:01:34,960
Speaker 7: when she was growing up as opposed to mine. And

1288
01:01:35,040 --> 01:01:37,680
Speaker 7: what I wish I could give her a dose of

1289
01:01:38,040 --> 01:01:42,680
Speaker 7: is the like, screw the rules, touch, touch the table.

1290
01:01:43,000 --> 01:01:49,480
Speaker 7: You know it happens, you know, get messed bit and

1291
01:01:49,520 --> 01:01:52,080
Speaker 7: you'll and you'll see that like we're all still here,

1292
01:01:52,880 --> 01:01:58,120
Speaker 7: loving you, and you know you're not in troubles in

1293
01:01:58,240 --> 01:01:59,360
Speaker 7: charge anymore, you.

1294
01:01:59,320 --> 01:02:01,320
Speaker 2: Know, Touch the goddamn table.

1295
01:02:01,480 --> 01:02:06,080
Speaker 8: All right, I'll go back, all right.

1296
01:02:06,000 --> 01:02:08,960
Speaker 2: We gotta roll. Love you guys, Thank you so much, Thank.

1297
01:02:08,760 --> 01:02:11,320
Speaker 8: You so much, so much, so nice getting to know

1298
01:02:11,440 --> 01:02:12,480
Speaker 8: you you too.

1299
01:02:12,720 --> 01:02:13,920
Speaker 3: Come see us in Nashville.

1300
01:02:14,280 --> 01:02:15,680
Speaker 2: I will best, I will

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01:02:18,000 --> 01:02:18,040
Speaker 1: H