Speaker 1: Welcome to We Talk Back Podcast, the production of iHeartRadio
Speaker 1: and the Black Effect Network.
Speaker 2: So you're just two unapologetically black women with an opinion
Speaker 2: who talks.
Speaker 1: Thank you for tuning in for a new episode and
Speaker 1: We Talked Back and show dedicated to you dreamers and
Speaker 1: chasers and lovers. Okay, this is your co host, AJ Holiday.
Speaker 2: What's up?
Speaker 1: Tam Bam?
Speaker 2: Its official Tam Bam. I love y'all. I love you Aj.
Speaker 2: How you doing? Love you? Mar?
Speaker 1: I'm well stayed out the heat? Okay, what the hell
Speaker 1: happened to spring?
Speaker 2: It wasn't no spring. We went straight from winter to summer,
Speaker 2: straight from like straight the hell?
Speaker 1: What is happening? It's so hot outside. I'm trying to
Speaker 1: stay cool, but I am going to go on a walk. Man, y'all.
Speaker 1: I feel like I've been eating the horses lately. What
Speaker 1: you mean, girl? All type of shit? Just eating like
Speaker 1: and I know I need to just need to get
Speaker 1: out the fucking house. That's really the problem. Yeah, bitch,
Speaker 1: get out the goddamn house. But I started rewatching the
Speaker 1: Game of Thrones again.
Speaker 2: Oh actually that like when it was cold, I started
Speaker 2: from the beginning.
Speaker 1: Look, I had to google how much hours. Uh is
Speaker 1: it to watch the full Game of Thrones? Y'all's sixty
Speaker 1: four point four hours?
Speaker 2: That's not that bad one.
Speaker 1: I think I'm on season four right now.
Speaker 2: Like, what's your favorite what's your favorite scene or episode
Speaker 2: or moment in the show.
Speaker 1: Let me see what is my favorite?
Speaker 2: Why are you thinking? I'll tell you mine?
Speaker 1: No, the very end, actually the very end where the
Speaker 1: youngest sister what's her name, Aria, Aria? Well, Aria killed
Speaker 1: the killed the Walkers, then King. Yeah, that was my favorite.
Speaker 1: Park Is who was expecting her low ass to come
Speaker 1: do She's that? She actually has my favorite storyline.
Speaker 2: Yeah, she's my favorite. One of my favorite characters, John Snow.
Speaker 2: I love John Snow. My one of my favorite moments
Speaker 2: in the show was when we found out how hold
Speaker 2: Door got his name, Hold the Door, Hold the Door,
Speaker 2: Hold Door, Hold Door Holder.
Speaker 1: I was blown away.
Speaker 2: I was like, stupid bitch, when I tell you, I
Speaker 2: was so into that show, Like I remember, like when this.
Speaker 1: Time goodass writing.
Speaker 2: When that final season came on, y'all that night, the
Speaker 2: first episode of the final season, I swear to god,
Speaker 2: I was marching around my living room in my draws
Speaker 2: with a pot lid like well of my big pot
Speaker 2: lids like it.
Speaker 1: Was a shield, and I was like, I love that show.
Speaker 1: They don't even make shows like this for real no more.
Speaker 1: This is why rewatching it because I don't watch that
Speaker 1: much TV anyway, and I just wanted to watch something good.
Speaker 1: So this is my first time rewatching it because when
Speaker 1: I watched it before, I binge watched seasons one through
Speaker 1: seven just so I can watch the season finale with
Speaker 1: everybody else. I didn't watch it at all prior to
Speaker 1: uh coming out. Yeah, so yeah, I love Gaming Thrones
Speaker 1: me too, me too. The House of Dragons is about
Speaker 1: to come back on soon too. I've seen that, y'all.
Speaker 1: Y'all know they was trying to cancel that the new
Speaker 1: season really so they are, Yeah, they didn't, they weren't
Speaker 1: gonna come out. But I feel like they're telling the
Speaker 1: truth with that game with the House of the Dragon,
Speaker 1: because notice there are black people in the House of
Speaker 1: the Dragon, a lot of them, and they were in
Speaker 1: power the richest, the Sea Snake, he had the biggest army,
Speaker 1: in the most ships. But we also get to see
Speaker 1: how these niggas cannot resist them white ladies. It's a
Speaker 1: lot of fuck we got where we're at right now.
Speaker 1: It was too much true history being being shown.
Speaker 2: So that's what I think about Lovecraft Lovecraft Country. I
Speaker 2: love that show and I've me too after one season.
Speaker 1: Me too, gir. I be d M and the girl
Speaker 1: who wrote that show because I want to write with her.
Speaker 1: Did she be ignoring me? Damn? One days now I'm
Speaker 1: gonna put my ship out and then they're gonna be
Speaker 1: on my nuts. That's what's gonna happen.
Speaker 2: That's how it works.
Speaker 1: Okay, Jordan Peele, niggatta be messaging you two?
Speaker 2: What did you do over the weekend?
Speaker 1: I ain't doing shit. I started watching the Game of
Speaker 1: Thrones on Saturday.
Speaker 2: So.
Speaker 1: Oh, actually, my mom's birthday, Uh, another famous Gemini Okay,
Speaker 1: her birthday is on Thursday. So my oldest sister and
Speaker 1: her kids came into town, so we all hung on.
Speaker 2: Happy birthday. Mama.
Speaker 1: Talk loud. I don't know why. When all the family
Speaker 1: get together, everybody just talks extra loud. It so it's
Speaker 1: extra loud and extra Gichi sounds like and I'll just
Speaker 1: be like, can we talk lower? Why are we yelling
Speaker 1: and everybody fighting to be heard? Yes?
Speaker 2: I listen. When I got off on Saturday. I did
Speaker 2: not leave my house until today. I did not come
Speaker 2: out the house at all. That's good, that's good. Just
Speaker 2: mm I stay. I pretty much spent the whole Sunday
Speaker 2: in bed, and that was it. I don't even think
Speaker 2: I watched much any TV.
Speaker 1: I just kind of.
Speaker 2: Squirreled and read and masturbated.
Speaker 1: That was it.
Speaker 2: Oh my god, that was it. That was my Sunday.
Speaker 1: He was in there selutting yourself out, y'all. Gemini season
Speaker 1: started yesterday. So I did take me a nice spiritual
Speaker 1: bath to kick the shits off. Okay, and we're coming
Speaker 1: up on a full moon. If y'all want that that recipe,
Speaker 1: so y'all can have a nice prosperous summer. Let me know.
Speaker 2: Oh oh, I was.
Speaker 1: Going to actually record it and show the whole process,
Speaker 1: and I'm like, nah, man, everybody ain't privy to this magic.
Speaker 2: Yeah, well send some juju my way. I don't need
Speaker 2: no more recipes though, I'm scared of this ship with them.
Speaker 2: Ricky just riaky. The last thing I was trying to recipe.
Speaker 2: Mm hmm. Look, damn, you see how God be for me?
Speaker 1: Intention I might I might have fucked up the intentions
Speaker 1: of your ship. You ain't supposed to show it to me.
Speaker 1: That's what happened.
Speaker 2: Well as you showed it to me, it's okay because
Speaker 2: I don't need that in no way that God did
Speaker 2: not want that for me. All right, let's get in this.
Speaker 1: We only got one sent for the week, y'all. God
Speaker 1: damn ditty, dumb diddy dumb. Okay, y'all, I was inside
Speaker 1: of y'all. Ever been to one of those ben places
Speaker 1: like they have like all of this return ship or
Speaker 1: discontinue shit from like the Walmart and Target and all
Speaker 1: these different places, but they like big ben sit. It's
Speaker 1: like a big ass swap me and people are in
Speaker 1: there like picking through shit.
Speaker 2: It.
Speaker 1: That's where I was, okay when the fucking video dropped,
Speaker 1: because it's some little nickknack shit I needed, and I
Speaker 1: knew I could find it in there, like I needed
Speaker 1: like a little vegetable chopper or that type of shit.
Speaker 1: But I literally was digging through a bin and the
Speaker 1: video came out. I sent the video to everybody I
Speaker 1: knew and my cell phone once I saw it, and
Speaker 1: out of the ten people I might have sent it to,
Speaker 1: one of my friends send a message back saying, you
Speaker 1: can't believe what you see. This could be AI. I'm
Speaker 1: at a beIN cussing a nigga out via FaceTime.
Speaker 2: Like how was this Ai? Like y'all just refused to
Speaker 2: believe black women, like you could see it with your
Speaker 2: own eyes and still have doubts.
Speaker 1: That shit is so scary to me and that to
Speaker 1: me is own. That is really the gist of this
Speaker 1: whole thing. Were in trouble we are in because even
Speaker 1: with like Meg the Stallion situation, like people had to
Speaker 1: have seen a Diddy video in order for people to
Speaker 1: have believed her. Yeah, like we and even when they
Speaker 1: have the proof, it'll be conversations like, well, they just
Speaker 1: trying to take down another black man. Do y'all not
Speaker 1: realize that if he didn't do the thing, the video
Speaker 1: wouldn't exist.
Speaker 2: It wouldn't be not in to take down because he
Speaker 2: didn't do the thing. Yeah, I mean there is there
Speaker 2: is some.
Speaker 1: We all know. We all know the thing, Like we
Speaker 1: all know that we're going to get exploited and when
Speaker 1: we do the worship, we're going to get exploded, exploited
Speaker 1: even more than the white man, because y'all want to
Speaker 1: compare him to Harvey Weinstein and Jeffrey Epstein. You know,
Speaker 1: y'all want to compare his crime to these white men
Speaker 1: and feel like, oh, they didn't get the public humiliation
Speaker 1: that Diddy is getting. Let's take into consideration that we,
Speaker 1: the black people who consume this shit, we contribute contribute
Speaker 1: to that.
Speaker 2: Dynamic.
Speaker 1: Yeah, we contribute to that because we like negativity. I'm
Speaker 1: saying collectively, because I'm not talking about me collectively. This
Speaker 1: is the type of ship black people want to see.
Speaker 1: And and I don't really be seeing a whole bunch
Speaker 1: of white people wishing on a nigga's downfall. I don't
Speaker 1: really see it. But look in the comments regular people
Speaker 1: every day on the most randommest celebrity or even somebody
Speaker 1: you deem to have more than you. What are you
Speaker 1: doing to them? Y'all raise them up to tear and
Speaker 1: you want to also simultaneously be the ones to tear
Speaker 1: him down.
Speaker 2: I mean, that's how council cultures started. It's just people
Speaker 2: wanting to tear the motherfucker down that's up higher than
Speaker 2: they are, I think.
Speaker 1: But that's not the case with Diddy. Did he tore
Speaker 1: his own his self down? He tore himself down, and
Speaker 1: I feel like it needs to put it needs to
Speaker 1: be public. You know, Sean the youngest son King Combs,
Speaker 1: he should have left that disk track out because the
Speaker 1: fads was like, oh, okay, we dropping we dropping a
Speaker 1: hit this week too.
Speaker 2: Well, maybe he didn't know no better. I'm just because
Speaker 2: was did he capable of hiding this truth? Because all
Speaker 2: these people that he's around are We're all of y'all
Speaker 2: complicit in this behavior, Like because y'all got a problem,
Speaker 2: it's a problem with you too. At that point, if
Speaker 2: everybody around all these yes men and they're like, that's
Speaker 2: just diddy, you know, they that's just diddying him and
Speaker 2: allowing this behavior to go on, and nobody's saying like
Speaker 2: course correct to him. Nobody.
Speaker 1: I believe that the people around him, and also a
Speaker 1: lot of the men in the commons and a lot
Speaker 1: of the women are complicit with this type of behavior.
Speaker 1: And I won't get into how women get duped right
Speaker 1: and to this thing, because I think it starts with religion.
Speaker 1: I think it starts with the church, how women are
Speaker 1: supposed to be and just letting men men it starts
Speaker 1: and get real, it gets real oppressive.
Speaker 2: Yeah, but beating up on women and just it being Okay.
Speaker 1: That's not new, that's not new though. We were once
Speaker 1: property even after slavery. You know what I'm saying, for
Speaker 1: a long time. Your wife, you owned her. You could
Speaker 1: do what you want.
Speaker 2: You could beat her and if she went to the police,
Speaker 2: they wouldn't even do shit.
Speaker 1: You could rape her. So now we're talking about human
Speaker 1: evolution at this point, it'll take thousands of years for
Speaker 1: people to really be sophisticated, Like we're supposed to be
Speaker 1: more sophisticated than animals, but for whatever reason, humans are
Speaker 1: very animalistic.
Speaker 2: Girl, I just seen a video of people having sex
Speaker 2: on a city bus and uh, I think it was Houston.
Speaker 2: I was like, you know what, I just give up
Speaker 2: on this humanity. There was too homeless, Like I don't
Speaker 2: know if they were homeless, but I was just so
Speaker 2: taken aback and the poor people that was just trying
Speaker 2: to get the work on the No ain't no, maybe
Speaker 2: it ain't one thing.
Speaker 1: Maybe she ain't want her. Kucie opened up to the
Speaker 1: elements outside that day, so on the books with everybody else.
Speaker 2: I've seen that video before.
Speaker 1: But dog Diddy and people like him have to be
Speaker 1: ostracized there's no excuse for people like him in our
Speaker 1: community anymore.
Speaker 2: Man, he should say, somebody should have beat his ass
Speaker 2: a long time ago. I feel like, no, there was
Speaker 2: no course correction for many years, and he just felt
Speaker 2: invincible because there's never been any real course correction for
Speaker 2: He's never like, think of all the things that he's
Speaker 2: been in trouble for, and he just kind of slid
Speaker 2: right on through. And he's just been sliding through his
Speaker 2: entire life. And that's why he thought he could just
Speaker 2: get away with just diddy bopping a.
Speaker 1: Bitch, bad boy. He been telling y'all exactly who he was,
Speaker 1: you know. But for whatever reason it has to happen
Speaker 1: to it has to happen directly to a man's mother,
Speaker 1: directly to his dog, are directly to a woman that
Speaker 1: he loves, right in order for him to think is
Speaker 1: wrong a lot of times because we no longer see
Speaker 1: ourselves and other people like I see myself in you.
Speaker 1: I see myself and other black women. I see myself
Speaker 1: and other black men. So that's where the love comes from.
Speaker 1: So even him trying to change his name to love
Speaker 1: is highly disrespectful to me, to the culture. You ain't
Speaker 1: never love nobody but Diddy. And let's be very fucking clear,
Speaker 1: and a lot of black men, y'all want access to whiteness,
Speaker 1: y'all give a fuck, And it's a lot of niggas
Speaker 1: in line to be Diddy. There's a lot of black
Speaker 1: men in line to do the same slimeball shit that
Speaker 1: he did to get a billion dollars. There's no integrity
Speaker 1: along along the way along the world the riches, oftentimes
Speaker 1: it's no integrity involved with it. Yeah, you know what
Speaker 1: I'm saying. I know a few people. I know a
Speaker 1: few men who they operate with integrity all day, every day.
Speaker 1: They're not about to do anything for a fucking dollar.
Speaker 1: But I just seen a video online with some dudes
Speaker 1: podcast and one guy was asking the other would you
Speaker 1: suck dick for a bet? He just got to bet?
Speaker 1: The other nigga was like, absolutely yes. These people already
Speaker 1: know who dick they suck, and they know who in
Speaker 1: the family.
Speaker 2: So it's just wild. Even if the answer is yes,
Speaker 2: which a lot of people are going to. Nobody says
Speaker 2: you have to enjoy it, right, they say, are you
Speaker 2: gonna dick?
Speaker 1: You like it?
Speaker 2: Nobody says you have to enjoy it? But a billion dollars,
Speaker 2: it would be a wise decision to go ahead something
Speaker 2: that did for that billion. But in a hypothetical situation,
Speaker 2: the answer is, always know, unless there's a billion dollars
Speaker 2: on the table in front of you for some dick
Speaker 2: sucking the answers always know, don't ever answer that hypothetically, Yes,
Speaker 2: that's crazy.
Speaker 1: The thing is, it didn't happen unless there's video. That'd
Speaker 1: be a lot of these like they feel like, ain't no,
Speaker 1: don't nobody know, Ain't nobody gonna ever know? So I'm
Speaker 1: gonna beat these bitches up in public. I'm gonna do
Speaker 1: all this slime ball shit. I'm I'm exploit women, I
Speaker 1: exploit men, and ain't no video about it. So it
Speaker 1: never happened until we see.
Speaker 2: It, until you running down the hallway in the hotel
Speaker 2: with a towel on.
Speaker 1: And this is a lot of the comments I saw too,
Speaker 1: people saying, well, he paid the money, why they still
Speaker 1: put the video out? He paid so that this type
Speaker 1: of evidence would not have come out in a deposition
Speaker 1: had he challenged her in the quarterlock and actually challenged
Speaker 1: the civil lawsuit. All of this plus more, it's more evidence.
Speaker 1: This ain't the only video.
Speaker 2: This man was really like out there saying people have
Speaker 2: been trying to I've sat silently while they tried to
Speaker 2: destroy me. It's crazy. That's insanity to me, Like some
Speaker 2: things like when I know how I did some shit
Speaker 2: and somebody might be trying to call it out, I'm
Speaker 2: aa shut the fuck up. I ain't gonna say too
Speaker 2: much more.
Speaker 1: You.
Speaker 2: For you to be called out and then double down
Speaker 2: on your lives is insane. That's insanity.
Speaker 1: I ain't never had nobody stumble on me, but I
Speaker 1: definitely not got into physical altercation with somebody I was
Speaker 1: in a relationship with who was trying to stop me
Speaker 1: from leaving. But since I'm a gorilla, I'm gonna get
Speaker 1: the fuck up out of there, regardless.
Speaker 2: Because she is a small little she was a small
Speaker 2: little girl.
Speaker 1: These type of men, they don't want people to know
Speaker 1: who they really are. You know what I'm saying. Diddy
Speaker 1: did not give a fuck. He was in a public place.
Speaker 1: My homeboy, the one who I argued, but he was like,
Speaker 1: how did they even get the footage? I said, this
Speaker 1: nigga is such a narcissist. He doesn't give a fuck.
Speaker 1: Who sees it like he isn't Why would you think
Speaker 1: there's not a cameras in a luxury hotel hallway, Why
Speaker 1: would you think that?
Speaker 2: Why?
Speaker 1: Like, he was so sure he was and that's the
Speaker 1: scary thing. He was so sure he can do this,
Speaker 1: this type of shit to this girl.
Speaker 2: And this is just one instance that we got to see.
Speaker 2: Imagine how much abuse that girl suffered.
Speaker 1: That probably wasn't the last. She probably didn't leave after
Speaker 1: that day twenty sixteen. When did they actually ultimately break up?
Speaker 2: I don't know. And then I just think I think
Speaker 2: Kim suffered all of the women.
Speaker 1: That left twenty eighteen. Well she wait, wait, wait, no,
Speaker 1: she married Alex Fine in twenty nineteen. Okay, yeah, so
Speaker 1: she left him in twenty eighteen. So they were together
Speaker 1: from two thousand and seven to twenty eighteen. So ten
Speaker 1: years of abuse.
Speaker 2: Horror, Yeah, Lorraham Mercy and then having to like watch
Speaker 2: that and know the world is watching you get violated
Speaker 2: like that and you got to relive it, and that
Speaker 2: everybody's talking about it. Everybody's talking about it. Yeah, but
Speaker 2: it's a lot of people who probably like who are
Speaker 2: actually friends with Diddy that are like, oh, that was
Speaker 2: so fucked up that knew Diddy was doing that shit though.
Speaker 2: That's the thing, y'all are just gilt.
Speaker 1: None of the people coming out I don't respect none
Speaker 1: of the people coming out, like the bodyguards and shit
Speaker 1: like that coming out speaking because you you watched all
Speaker 1: of these women get they asked with. You probably watched
Speaker 1: Ken Porter get her asked with.
Speaker 2: Right, You was complicit in it as far as I'm concerned,
Speaker 2: you were. And now now you on a BBC with
Speaker 2: Piper Piper what's his name, Morgan Piper, Piper, Peter Piper
Speaker 2: whatever I'm telling you now, I want to tell my story,
Speaker 2: Like boy, and you're a whole security guard. You probably
Speaker 2: could have whooped Diddy ass, but no, you just sat
Speaker 2: there and let these women get beat.
Speaker 1: I don't know why people think celebrities are exempt from
Speaker 1: being like sociopaths and and goddamn serial killers, like they
Speaker 1: are the least like the least suspecting ones. Like nobody's
Speaker 1: gonna think Diddy is a serial killer, but he just
Speaker 1: might be.
Speaker 2: It is. Listen, there's I won't say his name, but
Speaker 2: this basketball well he retired now player that I dealt with,
Speaker 2: socie a path. I don't know why he's not in
Speaker 2: like in jail or in a mental facilit like people
Speaker 2: because you got a little bit money, you get away
Speaker 2: with a lot of shit and treating people bad. It's
Speaker 2: not uncommon. A whole fucking lunatic shame.
Speaker 1: I mean, but every dog will have their day. Okay.
Speaker 1: So Diddy's baby mama, Justin's mom, Misa, she came out.
Speaker 1: She said, I am heartbroken that Cassie must relived the
Speaker 1: horror to her abuse. And my heart goes out to her.
Speaker 1: I know exactly how she feels, and through my empathy,
Speaker 1: it has triggered my own trauma, so she probably dealt.
Speaker 2: With So basically she's saying, he used to do that
Speaker 2: shit to me too. Mm hm.
Speaker 1: And you know with Kim, I just feel like Kim
Speaker 1: was with Diddy when he was really going to come up,
Speaker 1: when his when his career was really taken off. But
Speaker 1: imagine like the hardships you go through on the come up,
Speaker 1: the bad days when sh it don't work out you
Speaker 1: how you wanted business wise. Imagine like her being a
Speaker 1: punch bag for his bad days.
Speaker 2: And I just imagine what them kids have seen. What
Speaker 2: have they seen you?
Speaker 1: Misa goes on to say. She says, these young people
Speaker 1: were raised by women that want the best for them.
Speaker 1: We put God and education first and have always been
Speaker 1: united in our mutual effort to support their dreams. Two
Speaker 1: of the youngest do not have their mother here, and
Speaker 1: it has been our duty to support them if father
Speaker 1: needs help, and I am praying that he truly does
Speaker 1: the personal work and receives it. But y'all been new this, y'all.
Speaker 1: Women enabled them to the one who just had a
Speaker 1: baby with him, young Miami.
Speaker 2: What about that girl, the Asian girl? Oh, your Miami
Speaker 2: is mighty quiet too.
Speaker 1: Yeah, you pick a fights with JT while this shit going.
Speaker 2: On, right that part. But what about that young Asian
Speaker 2: girl who says she was pregnant for Diddy and Diddy
Speaker 2: stumped her in the stomach that was hard to see while.
Speaker 1: Somebody else was pregnant for him having a baby Hue. Yeah,
Speaker 1: So even these women, you know what I'm saying. We
Speaker 1: saw them on family vacations, all of them, and Cassie
Speaker 1: on a yacht. We've seen it. Y'all knew y'all with
Speaker 1: this monster. But it's the money, it's the resource, it's
Speaker 1: the access, right, So none of you are innocent.
Speaker 2: Listen, let me tell you something. You got some good
Speaker 2: discernment for him, because I remember being like, shit, I'm
Speaker 2: trying to be on a yacht with Diddy. He was like, girl,
Speaker 2: you're trying to be with the devil.
Speaker 1: And I was like, you can't look at his eyes.
Speaker 1: Let me say that. You was like, girl, I'm praying eyes.
Speaker 1: I don't have to be around people to know who
Speaker 1: they are. And I feel like, and I've heard this
Speaker 1: about Diddy before I heard did he always keep on
Speaker 1: sunglasses because he can't really look at people in the eyes.
Speaker 1: He can't. He always he's always looking away when having
Speaker 1: conversations with people. I've heard that personally from people who have,
Speaker 1: you know, been in rooms with Diddy, right, And it's
Speaker 1: because some people can see you. I see you. Let
Speaker 1: me tell you when I hear what you don't say,
Speaker 1: and I see what you don't do, I see people.
Speaker 2: I was at this party last year, I won't say
Speaker 2: who party it was, and I was in the section
Speaker 2: and Diddy literally sat next to me. Remember that party
Speaker 2: I went to with that and I remember the energy
Speaker 2: not feeling good. But I just thought it was because
Speaker 2: Karesha was a cross and it might have been like
Speaker 2: some tension between them at the time. That's what I
Speaker 2: was assuming because I was thinking, like, ain't they together
Speaker 2: while they sitting so far apart. Well, maybe I was
Speaker 2: just feeling some devil energy from that nigga.
Speaker 1: No, absolutely, absolutely, man, Listen, that's why. And every day
Speaker 1: I'm like, God, let me just I Sometimes as women,
Speaker 1: we don't trust our intuition. But as long as you
Speaker 1: got a womb, you got some major discernment. Trust it.
Speaker 2: Well, another one of are black and put this in
Speaker 2: heavy quotation, heroes twice to dust. And you know, I
Speaker 2: just want some of the black men who are leaders
Speaker 2: in our culture to keep their legacy intact, you know, yeah.
Speaker 1: Like I want you know, I don't aspire to you
Speaker 1: know how people be like bragging about not having any
Speaker 1: Black people in their neighborhood, Like I don't got no
Speaker 1: black people in my neighborhood. Like I aspire to live
Speaker 1: in a neighborhood with a bunch of affluent black people, right,
Speaker 1: just a bunch of people doing well, a bunch of
Speaker 1: black people doing well. Okay, it shouldn't just be a
Speaker 1: couple of us, and we can all turn this thing around,
Speaker 1: but we have to. We have to get more communal, right,
Speaker 1: we have to care about each other a little bit more,
Speaker 1: a lot more. Yeah, the comments that I see is
Speaker 1: like it's almost like, y'all don't realize that Diddy is
Speaker 1: where he's at because of because he's shipped on a
Speaker 1: lot of black people. You don't shit on no white
Speaker 1: people to get to where he's at.
Speaker 2: We should have known when when he made them kids
Speaker 2: walk to juniors for that cheesecake, We should have known.
Speaker 1: Men who does that?
Speaker 2: Who who does that?
Speaker 1: And those those people were kids? Yeah, those were kids,
Speaker 1: young young people, and you don't you don't need to
Speaker 1: go through that he did. He even't go through that
Speaker 1: to get to where he was, and look.
Speaker 2: At not none of them had no real success after that,
Speaker 2: non of cheesecake.
Speaker 1: I want to address one more thing before we end signs.
Speaker 1: So I only follow like two gossip blogs. Okay, I
Speaker 1: unfollowed the majority of them because I don't need that
Speaker 1: type of drama in my life often, right, but I
Speaker 1: like to get a little taste of it sometimes. But
Speaker 1: one blog, Gossip in the City, which is probably one
Speaker 1: of the worst blogs to be fucking following.
Speaker 2: But she'd be telling the truth.
Speaker 1: She be she'd be knowing to know. Okay, she actually
Speaker 1: went through these comments and pulled out like screenshots of women.
Speaker 1: This is what is the psychology. There's something, it's something.
Speaker 1: I've been saying this and I mean it, and it
Speaker 1: might be some people might take offense to it. But
Speaker 1: black women love abuse Stockholm syndrome. It's like, are you
Speaker 1: drawn to this? Do you think it's okay? Like everybody
Speaker 1: should not be forgiven, we should not forget some things.
Speaker 2: But he hasn't even done anything to deserve any forgiveness yet,
Speaker 2: you know, like.
Speaker 1: Yeah, so people. So one of the comments, it's crazy
Speaker 1: how people judge people. Is not a person on here
Speaker 1: ain't sinned. Yeah, you're right, you're right, but my sins
Speaker 1: do not affect other people. I be cussing and fucking.
Speaker 1: That's all I do. I don't do nothing major kill nobody.
Speaker 1: I hurt nobody, like I swear, I want the best
Speaker 1: for my people. I'm not gonna shit on nobody to
Speaker 1: get the fuck where I'm going at, Like I have integrity. Okay,
Speaker 1: life goes on. We should have been okay, this merchant
Speaker 1: is that life goes on. We should have been said
Speaker 1: something another woman. Everybody made mistakes. You don't need You
Speaker 1: don't need our forgiveness. You need cassies and gods. Trust me,
Speaker 1: they still gonna buy your music like everybody else's that
Speaker 1: do stuff. And we forgive and we forgive given bad boy.
Speaker 1: It's just what it is, no taking away from the
Speaker 1: soundtrack that saved a lot.
Speaker 2: Of our lives.
Speaker 1: Who I ain't never like that ain't the music I
Speaker 1: listened to to save my life, right, it's just a
Speaker 1: whole slew of of patty cake and ass women. Man,
Speaker 1: pick me, pick me, pick me, pick me.
Speaker 2: Yeah, because I mean, all right, the music, the music
Speaker 2: that he's involved with, you know, is a big part
Speaker 2: of the soundtrack to my life. Right. But that don't
Speaker 2: they don't excuse him for his behavior, and he that
Speaker 2: you know what, that kind of pandering makes me think
Speaker 2: of when that white girl shot that black man in
Speaker 2: his apartment and they was a court and they was
Speaker 2: hugging her and crying, passing her the Bible or stuff
Speaker 2: like that. It pissed me off so bad, And so
Speaker 2: does this like damn like y'all absolving him already. He
Speaker 2: need to go to Tibet. He needs to be sitting
Speaker 2: in a become a monk. He need to do all
Speaker 2: kind of shit before I can say, did he is
Speaker 2: a change man? And believe it?
Speaker 1: You so saw what doctor Umar said, Know what he's saying.
Speaker 1: Doctor Umar said, he probably just gonna go straight to
Speaker 1: the pulpit.
Speaker 2: Now, oh and be a pastor.
Speaker 1: Now. Yes, I cannot like.
Speaker 2: A lot of I couldn't imagine who his flock would be,
Speaker 2: these same people that's pandering in the comments. Yes, yes, yes.
Speaker 1: When you when you keep searching for something outside yourself,
Speaker 1: there's always going to be a thing, a person that's
Speaker 1: gonna be able to have control of you. When you
Speaker 1: don't have self control yourself. You don't. You don't. You're
Speaker 1: stood steadily searching for some ship outside of you instead
Speaker 1: of going with not.
Speaker 2: The Church of Love, always the church.
Speaker 1: Naming this niggas church, not you naming this niggas church,
Speaker 1: Church of Love.
Speaker 2: We need you, we need you to. Did he bop
Speaker 2: to the collection plate?
Speaker 1: Ain't no way, ain't no way.
Speaker 2: He's got a lot of inner work, self work to do.
Speaker 2: I think his best bet would be to go to
Speaker 2: Thailand with Russell and start doing some other girl.
Speaker 1: Oh and it looks like he was out of the
Speaker 1: country in that video. Okay, it looks like he was
Speaker 1: out of the country in the video. The only comment
Speaker 1: I had was I didn't hear an apology to Cassie,
Speaker 1: but apparently did a lawsuit. He couldn't. He probably can't
Speaker 1: mention her name at this plane.
Speaker 2: Nothing about that apology was sincere. No, did you see
Speaker 2: Daisie Banks? Did you see what Daisie Banks did?
Speaker 1: He did?
Speaker 2: Oh, it's too soon, it's joyce. But let me tell
Speaker 2: you why it's okay to make because nobody took that.
Speaker 2: Nobody with good sense took that apology. Series. Nobody saw
Speaker 2: that and was like, Oh, this is a man who
Speaker 2: is bearing his soul to us right now, and he
Speaker 2: is being vulnerable and honest. No, nobody saw that. If
Speaker 2: you saw that and felt that, then you just believe
Speaker 2: the sky's green because you just believe anything. It's clear
Speaker 2: that he was up against the wall and he felt
Speaker 2: compelled to say anything to save any inkling of what
Speaker 2: might seem like integrity. But we can see through that shit.
Speaker 1: Yeah, I just found the doctor Umar post. He said,
Speaker 1: I'm not going to give too much energy, as we
Speaker 1: have far more important issues to address than what happened
Speaker 1: ten years ago. However, this isn't the end for Diddy.
Speaker 1: TD Jakes will help him set up his own megachurch.
Speaker 1: We will be saved and baptized, No excuse me. He
Speaker 1: will be saved and baptized and will probably make more
Speaker 1: money as a pulpit pimp than he has ever made
Speaker 1: as a mogul. Puffy will rise from the ashes born again. Damn,
Speaker 1: I'm not forgiving. That ain't for me.
Speaker 2: No, That's what I always tell people. God forgives. I
Speaker 2: don't because that ain't That's not my job.
Speaker 1: Because once you do it, I know it's in you.
Speaker 2: You can do it again.
Speaker 1: I no longer like m absolutely not, because there's things.
Speaker 1: I don't have those things in me, so it would
Speaker 1: never happen. So did he has this thing in him?
Speaker 1: And you can kind of see him morphing. It's so
Speaker 1: crazy when the people take their energy away from something.
Speaker 1: How it started looking different? He looked different.
Speaker 2: He looks sick. That's the look of stress. Get well,
Speaker 2: did he?
Speaker 1: But listening them?
Speaker 2: Karma coins are real. You can't live like that and
Speaker 2: expect nothing but goodness all the days of your life.
Speaker 2: That's not how it works. Baby. Them Karma crows on
Speaker 2: real and it just worked.
Speaker 1: Too long on this realm. It's like doing me bad
Speaker 1: shit get you a lot of places.
Speaker 2: But listen, look how like it didn't. It didn't. The
Speaker 2: karma didn't hit him slowly in increments, but when it came, baby,
Speaker 2: it came absolutely in a major way, the same way
Speaker 2: you was winning in a major way. This Carmera, bust
Speaker 2: your ass.
Speaker 1: Listen, we're gonna take a quick break in and we're
Speaker 1: gonna come back to I mean topic, this topic. This
Speaker 1: week we were talking at ig versus me, I G
Speaker 1: versus your relationship. Right, you're posting up niggas. A nah niggas?
Speaker 1: Do I look like a bitch that post niggas? You know?
Speaker 1: Not me?
Speaker 2: That's what Glow Reala said.
Speaker 1: Oh you still her name? Right?
Speaker 2: You always call her? Yes? This be like Gorilla Glow
Speaker 2: gorilla glue.
Speaker 1: Right back, y'all, we're back. And this week we wanted
Speaker 1: to have a discussion about you know, posting your significant
Speaker 1: other on social media because I send time a post
Speaker 1: online where this girl posted her engagement. Right, this is
Speaker 1: their very first time posting his nan online and immediately
Speaker 1: shortly thereafter a bit you was hitting her up like, yeah,
Speaker 1: that's my man. I'm and my man too, So it
Speaker 1: brings up the question should you even post your significant other?
Speaker 1: And you also see people like covering your baby faces
Speaker 1: up and shit like that, But.
Speaker 2: That's because the internet is cruel. It's a cruel plate.
Speaker 2: It is. Man. You don't want people talking about your
Speaker 2: kid and saying nasty things to your child. You know,
Speaker 2: like you didn't take that, but I can't take it here.
Speaker 2: It depends on the day. Yeah too, me too, because
Speaker 2: there's somebody talk about mine it.
Speaker 1: You and I got that if you don't put that
Speaker 1: little fiber shit on there and get over it.
Speaker 2: So I'd be putting eyest on this.
Speaker 1: Sh I seen some shit on it. I sent you
Speaker 1: something other day. I was like, you be doing this
Speaker 1: that little black on people hand on the side.
Speaker 2: Yeah.
Speaker 1: Like I might not have like a whole good head
Speaker 1: of hair, but one thing about it.
Speaker 2: A bitch keeps some edges. My edges being they straight,
Speaker 2: they okay, but they a little thin.
Speaker 1: Why. I just seen this video with this girl put
Speaker 1: a Jerry co on her edges and her hair came out.
Speaker 1: I did that before, girl, you had a whole Jerry
Speaker 1: curl on your whole hair. I tried to put a
Speaker 1: Jerry Curl on my edges, and I didn't do the
Speaker 1: full process we you know, doing a Jerry curl like
Speaker 1: that Gina Curl. Shit they got Now it's like a
Speaker 1: lot of different steps, bitch. I just literally wiped them
Speaker 1: edges clean off my damn head.
Speaker 2: You're lucky that grew back. Okay, So back to social media.
Speaker 2: Do you post your person? Okay? The last time I
Speaker 2: posted a mail.
Speaker 1: Was when I was engaged, and it wasn't even like
Speaker 1: me just really posting the picture and we was like
Speaker 1: out eating and I'm like ringing the picture because I
Speaker 1: had one of my good friends at the time we
Speaker 1: were no longer friends, but she told me that if
Speaker 1: I don't post my engagement, it's not real. And I'm like, girl,
Speaker 1: like what? But luckily I didn't because here I am,
Speaker 1: I'm not married to this nigga, and I would have
Speaker 1: posted his ass online like he wanted me to, and
Speaker 1: you know, show my engagement all this shit, only to
Speaker 1: not get married. I have seen that over and over again.
Speaker 1: I can count bitch's bodies based on the people be
Speaker 1: they be posting on their social media. So I prefer
Speaker 1: not to, like I feel like I don't like my
Speaker 1: life online.
Speaker 2: Yeah, I don't like it. I don't post anybody, but
Speaker 2: that's because I ain't had nobody in a cloud. I'm like,
Speaker 2: way if I get a nigga out of my postal,
Speaker 2: I don't know, I don't know. I gotta wait till
Speaker 2: I get there. But I just wouldn't want nobody coming
Speaker 2: up talking about my man, my man and my man
Speaker 2: so like. I would be afraid to post them. But
Speaker 2: if it's so one you trust, be able to post
Speaker 2: at least a little bit, like maybe vacation pigs or
Speaker 2: But do.
Speaker 1: You think people post for validation and confirmation for their relationships?
Speaker 2: Absolutely? I think it's a combination of things. Some is
Speaker 2: just fun, we look good, let me post it, And some.
Speaker 1: Of it is validation. You know, I want to validate
Speaker 1: this thing.
Speaker 2: I just hate people who switch niggas every two months
Speaker 2: and have a different nigga.
Speaker 1: Like, and you ain't tell us, you ain't give us
Speaker 1: no update on the last nigga, Like, we need to
Speaker 1: know what happened to that relationship.
Speaker 2: Exactly because I'm totally invested. I've been watching y'all e
Speaker 2: ice cream go on dates. We're matching outfits and shit,
Speaker 2: And now he's.
Speaker 1: Just just gone like, no, we need an update, and
Speaker 1: don't be telling us to mind out business either, because
Speaker 1: you put.
Speaker 2: Us in it. Can you put us in a group
Speaker 2: chat exactly, so tell us what happens.
Speaker 1: So I'm not putting people in my group chat. I'm
Speaker 1: not creating a group chat.
Speaker 2: He got a new nigga every two months, and she
Speaker 2: posts pictures. I take pictures with all my niggas, right,
Speaker 2: but they see the phone. Nobody ever sees them. Nobody
Speaker 2: ever sees them.
Speaker 1: I think the last two people I posted on social media,
Speaker 1: the men initiated it. It wasn't me. I never need
Speaker 1: validation from other people for shit. I'm not posting people one.
Speaker 1: I don't want a bitch hitting me up and about
Speaker 1: my man. And I remember my ex ex boyfriend who's
Speaker 1: the current. I posted him on social media once before,
Speaker 1: and the bitch came on my page and only liked him.
Speaker 1: She only liked the picture of this nigga. So now like,
Speaker 1: I feel like that was she was signaling to me, right,
Speaker 1: that's a signal I did it. So I automatically was like,
Speaker 1: who's this bitch? Because why would she come on my
Speaker 1: page and only like a picture of my man on
Speaker 1: my baby.
Speaker 2: My ex boyfriend, y'all, he got this girl pregnant and
Speaker 2: on the baby shower pictures. I wouldn't have liked all
Speaker 2: the baby shower pictures like with him, Like no, all
Speaker 2: of them were her by herself or her and her
Speaker 2: friends or heard her mama with him. See fuckers, Patty,
Speaker 2: I just feed the black man.
Speaker 1: I ain't doing it.
Speaker 2: I'm praying for this. That's why I was like, man,
Speaker 2: I'm playing for me.
Speaker 1: I ain't doing it. So I never initiate that type
Speaker 1: of thing. And I feel like once a man posts me,
Speaker 1: I felt pressure to post him. M h. You know
Speaker 1: what I'm saying, Like I would get a question like
Speaker 1: you hiding? And you know I am a fraternizer a
Speaker 1: little bit, so am I hiding?
Speaker 2: Niggas? I feel like a lot of people, especially men,
Speaker 2: don't post their girlfriend ever, like until like Mother's Day
Speaker 2: or some shit like that, and then and then it
Speaker 2: come down after mother's.
Speaker 1: Post a bit on the story that twenty four hours
Speaker 1: that bitch going. I feel like, so my another relationship, well,
Speaker 1: actually the same relationship. I only had a couple of relationships.
Speaker 1: It'd be the same people in heavy rotation, so he
Speaker 1: deleted all our pictures off of his social media. So
Speaker 1: my thing, you started this, right, because I was never
Speaker 1: posting men on my social media. You started this. I
Speaker 1: posted you, you posted me, right. We posting whatever pictures
Speaker 1: we have periodically. So one day I go on his
Speaker 1: social media and at the time, like he was rapping
Speaker 1: and just outside right. Okay, this was years ago, and
Speaker 1: all of a sudden, all my pictures are going, like
Speaker 1: all our pictures were going fight no fight. He just
Speaker 1: randomly went on there and removed all the pictures, and
Speaker 1: his explanation was, I don't want people knowing who my
Speaker 1: bitch is, so you don't want a motherfucker reaching out
Speaker 1: to me. That's what That's how I took it. So
Speaker 1: I'm like, okay, so that's what we're doing.
Speaker 2: Let me go delete you.
Speaker 1: Off my page too. But it hurt my feelings and
Speaker 1: the process of deleting the pictures. I just got off
Speaker 1: of social media. So I was off of social media
Speaker 1: from twenty twelve like twenty sixteen because of that situation. Really, yes,
Speaker 1: I din't get back on it to that. Nigga went
Speaker 1: the jail. I got back on Instagram and Nigga lost
Speaker 1: my lost handle.
Speaker 2: That's how I lost that aj holiday. That's why I'm two.
Speaker 1: Point zero because I got off of social media for
Speaker 1: a nigga, Right where am I like? Because you like
Speaker 1: deleting memories. You didn't even save these pictures to your phone,
Speaker 1: Like you're deleting memories at this point, So if that's
Speaker 1: what we're doing, like, I'm not about to be the
Speaker 1: only person. Imagine you acting like you don't only want popping, right,
Speaker 1: and you're deleting my shit? So now when people still
Speaker 1: know we together, So when you go to my page,
Speaker 1: I'm not wanting pitches who just your man page blink.
Speaker 1: No pictures of you when they come to my pages,
Speaker 1: all our pictures, absolutely not. They're having a lot of time, lok,
Speaker 1: don't tip me because I'm sating that out.
Speaker 2: And now niggas have girlfriend. I'm like, look at this, nigga.
Speaker 2: We had to do all this to take and work
Speaker 2: to find out that.
Speaker 1: You're a liar.
Speaker 2: Girl. I remember I was talking to this guy and.
Speaker 1: I found him on It might have been my spaces
Speaker 1: at the time, my Space and Facebook at the time.
Speaker 2: I'm like, you engaged. All he text me back was
Speaker 2: motherfucking my space. That's all.
Speaker 1: He never talked to him again.
Speaker 2: I got a guy in my DMS asking me to
Speaker 2: meet him in Miami. Right, First of all, I don't
Speaker 2: know you, right, so inviting me to Miami. I think
Speaker 2: it's insane. We're complete strangers.
Speaker 1: We haven't had any.
Speaker 2: Real conversation, just a little back and forth about politics.
Speaker 2: And then he asked me to come with him to Miami.
Speaker 2: So now I go to look at your page because
Speaker 2: I really haven't gone to the prior to that, I'm
Speaker 2: talking about two days prior, he was celebrating his person
Speaker 2: for being such a good mother. How I love it was,
Speaker 2: and I was like, you just celebrated your girl for
Speaker 2: being a good person, and how I love you. He's like, yeah,
Speaker 2: are you coming to Miami? Yo?
Speaker 1: No, absolutely, I really don't hate them, but god, man,
Speaker 1: why just do that?
Speaker 2: Then you are safe. Listen if you message me again,
Speaker 2: I'm a screenshot.
Speaker 1: This is to be to your visit because what they are,
Speaker 1: what they're doing is depending on your integrity not to
Speaker 1: put their ass on blasts like this is what happens.
Speaker 1: Wh y'all run into crazy bitches and they hit your
Speaker 1: girlfriend up, they hit your wife up, they hit your
Speaker 1: baby mama up because you just be out here doing
Speaker 1: the most and just expecting people to just fall in line.
Speaker 2: No, you can't just be being deceitful.
Speaker 1: Tell people what's up so they know what time it is.
Speaker 2: Did you see that? I don't know if this is
Speaker 2: real or not, but it was a man and him
Speaker 2: and his girl took pictures and they were dressed in
Speaker 2: green and he had on the suit with the green tie.
Speaker 2: She had on the green dress, and she had her
Speaker 2: hand perch on his shoulder and they look so regal.
Speaker 2: And then the same nigga had on some tight.
Speaker 1: Ag that's real? What's that dude? Messy something on Instagram?
Speaker 2: And with a man wrapped around him? Like girl, every
Speaker 2: time that.
Speaker 1: Dude come across my timeline, I'm just like, because.
Speaker 2: That was a real situation. That was Ai be yes
Speaker 2: and he is super sassy, Like, at what point did.
Speaker 1: You get engaged in him? Like how you thought that
Speaker 1: was gonna work? You have a kid, he has a son,
Speaker 1: He has a son, he'd be posting.
Speaker 2: His son child is so upset. And the Sun was
Speaker 2: like vugan on a video. Really yes, well, I mean
Speaker 2: that's okay if the Sun wants to Vogue. I don't
Speaker 2: have no problem with that. I just have a problem
Speaker 2: with just being deceitful like either girl, you want no.
Speaker 1: Problem with him ring Vulgan when the kid had no
Speaker 1: problem with nobody's.
Speaker 2: Sexuality, we had, we talked, bag.
Speaker 1: I got a problem with the kids, Volgan.
Speaker 2: Whatever they want to do, ain't know.
Speaker 1: We at we talk bag. I'm gonna tell y'all goddamn truth.
Speaker 1: I don't support that ship. Let them kids be kids.
Speaker 1: Why is your kid walking around acting like you let
Speaker 1: him choose?
Speaker 2: I feel like that is a choice.
Speaker 1: He's a kid though he's like five or six years old.
Speaker 1: He doesn't know. He just sees his dad.
Speaker 2: How do you know that's where he's how he got
Speaker 2: that from? Because, girl, his daddy.
Speaker 1: Got a b b L.
Speaker 2: His daddy got a BBM. Yes, that dude ass is
Speaker 2: not really that fat like he has daddy.
Speaker 1: I'm thinking that a sticker, I'm thinking that, nigga. Yeah,
Speaker 1: I don't like it. I don't like it.
Speaker 2: I'm not about to pacify y'all niggas. Listen, all right,
Speaker 2: back to the boyfriend.
Speaker 1: You can have new times. Man, we almost gonna see
Speaker 1: what we want nowadays. All right, It ain't no cancel
Speaker 1: culture no more.
Speaker 2: I have the pros and cons to consider. The post
Speaker 2: posting your partner on social media all right, It says,
Speaker 2: when you share your relationship with the world, it can
Speaker 2: help strengthen your bond with each other. Seeing all of
Speaker 2: the positive comments and likes from friends and family can
Speaker 2: make you feel appreciated and love. It can also be
Speaker 2: a great way to show your partner how much you
Speaker 2: love them. Of course, it's important to maintain a healthy
Speaker 2: balance between sharing your relationship online and maintaining some privacy,
Speaker 2: but if you use social media in a positive way,
Speaker 2: it can be a great tool for keeping your relationship strong.
Speaker 1: The only way I would put myself my relationship on
Speaker 1: social media is if we get the check off of it, like,
Speaker 1: then I'll do it. Other than that, like your homegirl Lexi,
Speaker 1: like everybody loves to see her and this dude pop
Speaker 1: up every once in a while in her videos, Like yeah,
Speaker 1: like that's great content. Other than that, what is the purpose? He?
Speaker 1: Ain't nobody visiting my page while I'm putting this nigga
Speaker 1: on there.
Speaker 2: I mean, you're family and friends.
Speaker 1: Girls. Fucking people know so much fun, so happy, and
Speaker 1: they know what's really going on in our relationship. Well,
Speaker 1: maybe you are heavy beating him up.
Speaker 2: Sometimes everything is good, you know, sometimes relationships are good. No,
Speaker 2: I don't really be beating up my partner. But no,
Speaker 2: I'm not posting stuff for family either. The first come,
Speaker 2: it can cause jealousy and envy from other people. Now
Speaker 2: that is a big one, because I have a friend
Speaker 2: right now who's going through an issue with some friends.
Speaker 1: In her life. She has a good life, she lives
Speaker 1: a good life.
Speaker 2: She got beautiful kids, beautiful family. Everything is lit, and
Speaker 2: she's so pretty, and like some of her friends seem
Speaker 2: to be envious of her right now.
Speaker 1: And are they posting stuff? Are they like commenting on stuff?
Speaker 1: Like not not commenting?
Speaker 2: I mean the only reason they really know what's going
Speaker 2: on is because of what she posts. And it's looking
Speaker 2: it's looking lit, you know, it looks lit. So how
Speaker 2: you know they're jealous? Like she had a conversation with me,
Speaker 2: Oh it was said to someone who will say something
Speaker 2: else and it's like someone that she loves, or it's hurtful.
Speaker 1: You know, she's hurt to hear these things.
Speaker 2: I tol hers. You know, maybe you should have a
Speaker 2: conversation about it and I told her I would pray
Speaker 2: about it, but that jealousy and envy is a real thing.
Speaker 2: Sometimes I tell my friends, ooh girl, I'm jealous right
Speaker 2: when there's something good.
Speaker 1: But it's not just not real jealous, not like you're
Speaker 1: happy for them.
Speaker 2: Yeah, like in a hangful way. No, like because when
Speaker 2: my friend got that big ass white chanel, I was like,
Speaker 2: I'm jealous. I really was jealous, but not jealous where
Speaker 2: I don't want her to have it, you know, right,
Speaker 2: I just want one too.
Speaker 1: Yeah, And see, when things aren't going right in your relationship,
Speaker 1: you might need to take a look at what you
Speaker 1: be posting. Take a look at who's around you. It's
Speaker 1: a lot of people like side eye and you just
Speaker 1: hoping your shit fall apart. So if you have like
Speaker 1: a big platform you're posting your relationship, not everybody's gonna
Speaker 1: like that, so that there's going to be negative energy
Speaker 1: that comes towards that union as well from people who
Speaker 1: know you personally and now.
Speaker 2: From the public.
Speaker 1: So I feel like, if it's a relationship you actually
Speaker 1: want to keep, you might want to do it different.
Speaker 2: Okay, hold that thought one second. Let's pay some bills.
Speaker 2: So I was talking to this guy. This girl who's
Speaker 2: like a big social media girl. Y'all know her, but
Speaker 2: I ain't gonna tell y'all who she is. Messy, messy boots.
Speaker 2: So they were dating. They went on a trip to
Speaker 2: like Thailand or somewhere right, and she posted a picture
Speaker 2: of them together and all the comments were like, oh,
Speaker 2: y'all look so good, y'all look so great, Oh that's dope,
Speaker 2: And it was like one or two that was like
Speaker 2: why are you with this old ass nigga? Or like
Speaker 2: just something two thirty eight for last comments like saying
Speaker 2: something bad. You see why with this old ass nigga?
Speaker 2: Excuse me? Why are you with him? Basically, and she
Speaker 2: the ruined them.
Speaker 1: He said, she allowed that to ruin the negative.
Speaker 2: The two or three nigga. It was like four hundred
Speaker 2: positive comments and two or three negative comments, and she
Speaker 2: allowed that to ruin. Why do Why don't he felt
Speaker 2: about the picture how she was treating him like it
Speaker 2: was just.
Speaker 1: So does she really like him? Because I mean, you
Speaker 1: got four hundred positive comments and then these two people
Speaker 1: call you out by having his granddaddy d and now
Speaker 1: you feel some type of way, So do you really
Speaker 1: like him?
Speaker 2: Are you just influenced by what people say. Great leading, right, Like, yeah,
Speaker 2: that affects you because I mean I think about it.
Speaker 2: When we get comments, we love to do ones, but
Speaker 2: with a negative one we do focus.
Speaker 1: More on day. You want to check that person immediately. Now,
Speaker 1: I just block my block lives so fucking long, Like,
Speaker 1: I just block them because I feel like that hurts
Speaker 1: them more, like not to have access no more, because
Speaker 1: so many these people wouldn't have access to you otherwise, right,
Speaker 1: So why you think you could just wake up and
Speaker 1: say what the fuck you want to say? Yeah, they
Speaker 1: go study your page and then they come back and
Speaker 1: make a nasty ass comment. So no, you don't get
Speaker 1: to do that. So I just block them, comment goes away,
Speaker 1: nobody else sees it, and you don't have access to
Speaker 1: do the dumb shit no more.
Speaker 2: No, I'll go to your page and look at all
Speaker 2: your shit and a lot and I'm about to code
Speaker 2: with the clap back for real. Cuz calling people kids ugly?
Speaker 2: You you had hair last year, That's what happened.
Speaker 1: I said, not do that from your page. Now why
Speaker 1: are you taking people from the podcast page log into
Speaker 1: your ship and comment on this Nigga's son?
Speaker 2: No, you definitely call him. You didn't call a kid ugly.
Speaker 1: You went on the dudes page. You called his ass ugly.
Speaker 2: Yeah, I'm gonna start doing that, man, I'm gonna start.
Speaker 1: Why are you coming over here calling me?
Speaker 2: What you said something? I really be looking people up though,
Speaker 2: I definitely be using ben verified looking up people use
Speaker 2: the id little age fam Oh, here I come, motherfucker,
Speaker 2: here I come, bitch. No nigga was like, we like
Speaker 2: two refrigerators. That's the one that got me, Like, what
Speaker 2: are you looking at? What are you seeing?
Speaker 1: And what type of bitches do you really have access to?
Speaker 1: Because it ain't us the hell? Yeah, so you have
Speaker 1: to you know, these people aren't well, They aren't well,
Speaker 1: life ain't going well for them, and then they just
Speaker 1: get to hide behind the cell phone of the computer
Speaker 1: and say mean, heyful things, which is why I would
Speaker 1: like to keep my relationship private. They was talking about.
Speaker 2: Just Jazz is just Jazz? Right? Who had the baby?
Speaker 1: For?
Speaker 2: What's the football player?
Speaker 1: So Charlotte no One cam Newton and you know she's
Speaker 1: posting pictures of the baby, but of course the baby's
Speaker 1: face is covered up. Just don't post her.
Speaker 2: You know, people be acting like this.
Speaker 1: The kids are like a thing, you know what I'm saying,
Speaker 1: Like nanaa booboo, y'all can't like you know, people want
Speaker 1: to see that damn baby.
Speaker 2: Just don't post a baby. Yeah, I feel you're.
Speaker 1: Using a baby as a prop at this point in
Speaker 1: your picture because you're we could see your face and
Speaker 1: you smiling with your bathing suit on, and we can't
Speaker 1: see the baby.
Speaker 2: I just feel like people are concerned with what people
Speaker 2: will say about their child and they're scared. Look why
Speaker 2: am I ask?
Speaker 1: When his daughter was first born, his sister was telling
Speaker 1: people like, I'm the reason why he hasn't.
Speaker 2: Posted a baby. Little did they know this?
Speaker 1: Nigga said he was waiting for her her features to
Speaker 1: come in. Like it was him not thinking his baby
Speaker 1: was cute enough to post. It was not me right, Okay,
Speaker 1: this nigga was not posting his baby.
Speaker 2: They have nothing to do with me.
Speaker 1: And his sister was like, he don't even post your
Speaker 1: daughter because of this bitch Like, no, it's not me right,
Speaker 1: your brother is Yeah, he waited for her to come
Speaker 1: into her looks and I don't have you to do
Speaker 1: with me.
Speaker 2: And that's because people are me.
Speaker 1: People be me or like I don't know, I have a.
Speaker 2: You posted your baby, people under the picture talking about
Speaker 2: that's a cute outfit. Baby, come to yours.
Speaker 1: I got a friend who only posts her baby with filters,
Speaker 1: and I just I'm so weirded out by that shit,
Speaker 1: Like it's already re weird that people be really like, yes, girl, bitch,
Speaker 1: that's not your real friend face first of all, and
Speaker 1: now you got the filter on a baby face. And
Speaker 1: she doesn't like for anybody to post a picture of
Speaker 1: her baby's regular face.
Speaker 2: It's crazy that I listen, I don't babies are awful
Speaker 2: is when it comes to don't filter the baby, but
Speaker 2: I do, Like I'm so obsessed with filters now, I'm like,
Speaker 2: where's my filter in a picture? Like why is there
Speaker 2: my real face? The filters are the worst.
Speaker 1: I remember when I.
Speaker 2: Used to just like my regular face, and now it's
Speaker 2: like you need a filter, yeah.
Speaker 1: Because everybody else is filtered up. So now you're gonna
Speaker 1: just come on in and there with this basic ass
Speaker 1: fucking face.
Speaker 2: Have you seen like from.
Speaker 1: Cartoon face and everything from the met Gallas they're posting
Speaker 1: these like close up pictures like they posted Cardi b Yeah,
Speaker 1: like the you could see the real skin, skin with
Speaker 1: tone and the real skin texture. This is this is
Speaker 1: how people look. I saw JT had a video and
Speaker 1: somebody call her ugly, like, oh these filters really like
Speaker 1: everybody uses filters, right, JT is beautiful with without the filter.
Speaker 1: Of course, you know you assumoos your face out and
Speaker 1: all that shit. Like, but imagine somebody just saying you
Speaker 1: like you just ugly because you don't have a Meanwhile,
Speaker 1: you home looking like a basic bitch.
Speaker 2: That's the thing, because you filtered up and all your
Speaker 2: pictures on social media where people see you in real life, like,
Speaker 2: that is not the same. Who is that? Who's that guy?
Speaker 1: Right?
Speaker 2: That's about cartoon face. This is my real face, your person.
Speaker 2: You get cartoon don't lie and real face and person.
Speaker 1: Girlan people are sick. We live in a six society
Speaker 1: at this point. So what's some other pros and con bro.
Speaker 2: It can make you feel more connected to your partner.
Speaker 2: Social media can help you feel more connected to your
Speaker 2: partner even when you're not physically together. Seeing their posts
Speaker 2: and updates can give you a sense of what they're
Speaker 2: doing and how they're feeling. This can be a great
Speaker 2: way to stay in touch when you're apart. Of course,
Speaker 2: it is important to balance this digital connection with real
Speaker 2: life interaction. You don't want to spend more time staring
Speaker 2: at your phone than you do talking to your partner.
Speaker 2: But used in moderations, social media can be a great
Speaker 2: way to stay connected.
Speaker 1: To the one you love. Yeah, but then you know,
Speaker 1: I'm pretty sure men are sick. They just want to
Speaker 1: be at the restaurant Andy when it's go ahead and
Speaker 1: eat their food. But you gotta take a picture to
Speaker 1: food first. You gotta take a picure of him first,
Speaker 1: and all this shit before you even post a picture.
Speaker 1: It just takes away something.
Speaker 2: It just takes away like the that's the con. It
Speaker 2: can be overwhelming. I like, I don't like hanging out
Speaker 2: with all.
Speaker 1: Right, So the super content creators, all right, we supposed
Speaker 1: to like be all right.
Speaker 2: If y'all go to our social media, it's nonexistent. It's trash.
Speaker 2: We gotta do better about like participating and creating content.
Speaker 1: But it's just it's too much. It's too much. Man.
Speaker 2: I have friends who like, I love him to death,
Speaker 2: But everything is a movie. Everything is an opportunity to.
Speaker 1: Create con you're not even enjoying the moment it no
Speaker 1: longer becomes fun.
Speaker 2: It's like I'm spending too much time trying to curate
Speaker 2: the experience for your social media following that I'm not
Speaker 2: having won.
Speaker 1: In real life exactly So, So when you're on vacation,
Speaker 1: like every month, I'm sick of seeing that god damn
Speaker 1: boat taking them pictures with the drone. You don't be seeing. Yes,
Speaker 1: it's a clear they are Turks and Kekos. Everybody is
Speaker 1: taking a picture and it's goddamn boat. I want to
Speaker 1: get on it.
Speaker 2: If it's clear, sign me up with the blue water. Yeah.
Speaker 1: They done ran that shit in the whole man, I'm
Speaker 1: sick of it. I don't want to see that shit
Speaker 1: no more on my timeline. Okay, this guard the boat.
Speaker 1: I always be like, y'all take the pictures. I'm gonna
Speaker 1: live the life.
Speaker 2: Y'all take the pictures because I can't be bothering.
Speaker 1: Yeah, I'll be hitting up everybody that was there, like,
Speaker 1: can you send me your videos you got because I
Speaker 1: ain't doing it.
Speaker 2: I'm not doing none of that because I'm really the
Speaker 2: entertainment right now.
Speaker 1: I'm not good. Yeah, Like, how do you enjoy your
Speaker 1: vacation when the whole time, you got a whole setup.
Speaker 1: They just gotta get a damn tripod. They got all
Speaker 1: the things they traveling with. But if you're making money
Speaker 1: off of it, that's the only time it makes sense
Speaker 1: to me. I have friends that have nobody following them
Speaker 1: but me, and this is the.
Speaker 2: Type of shit they got going on.
Speaker 1: They page and that's because they enjoy it. You gotta
Speaker 1: enjoy it. At that point, they be talking to themselves
Speaker 1: in the car, like nobody's following you. Is that what
Speaker 1: they say when they say be consistent, just keep doing
Speaker 1: it till you picks up people mat fuck that girl?
Speaker 2: No? All right? So social media could be a great
Speaker 2: way to document your relationship. You can look back on
Speaker 2: all of the special moments that you've shared together and
Speaker 2: see how far you've come. This can be a great
Speaker 2: way to reminisce and feel grateful for what you already have.
Speaker 1: So that's what I was mentioning when he's when my
Speaker 1: ex started like deleting the memories of social media, Like
Speaker 1: do you have that picture on your phone?
Speaker 2: Now?
Speaker 1: It's just gone because you're worrying about what some bitches think?
Speaker 2: Did you have it in yours?
Speaker 1: No? Because they like were pitches that he would have taken,
Speaker 1: you know what I'm saying. So you just delete like
Speaker 1: we were at like wedding stuff like that. They just
Speaker 1: gone because you're concerned about what did somebody else think
Speaker 1: about you having these pitches on your page or whatever.
Speaker 1: You create a second account. That's what he probably should
Speaker 1: have done. Yeah, something he said.
Speaker 2: Here's a con the relationship is either too new or
Speaker 2: unstable to share with the world. What is too new though, Like,
Speaker 2: how do you know, you bitch, that's not your man
Speaker 2: and you posting him on social media? The weirdest thing
Speaker 2: to me is like when women know that they know.
Speaker 1: That's not they man, and they still post somebody else
Speaker 1: man on their social media.
Speaker 2: Them bitches can fight. Obviously. I had that going on
Speaker 2: the first date with this guy. He was like, let's
Speaker 2: take a picture. Okay, we can take a picture. I'm
Speaker 2: not opposed to taking a picture. So we took a
Speaker 2: picture on this first date. We had a good time,
Speaker 2: right and then later on that night I get home
Speaker 2: and I look on Facebook and he posted a picture.
Speaker 2: It tagged his whole family and was like, me and
Speaker 2: my baby out on a lunch date. What I'm talking about?
Speaker 1: Too soon?
Speaker 2: Everybody tag I was I never saw him again. Did
Speaker 2: you say something even about it? Yeah? I was like,
Speaker 2: why did you post me like that? We only went
Speaker 2: on one day. I barely know you to tag your grandmama.
Speaker 2: It's crazy.
Speaker 1: He must be trying to prove something that they must
Speaker 1: have thought something else about him, like look, I got
Speaker 1: a girlfriend right see see, and that's what I got
Speaker 1: out of that. No, I knew this.
Speaker 2: I was cool with this girl.
Speaker 1: I don't fuck with her and don't murdered.
Speaker 2: But she was dating this guy and they were they
Speaker 2: were moving really fast. It was like maybe three weeks
Speaker 2: in and he had her around his son and I
Speaker 2: don't know if he got out the car or something
Speaker 2: or whatever, but she took a picture with the.
Speaker 1: Son in the car and posted in and posted it.
Speaker 2: Yeah.
Speaker 1: The mama was like, I don't know who the fuck
Speaker 1: you are.
Speaker 2: Take this picture of my child down and I'm thinking, like, girl,
Speaker 2: why would you post that? That is if people be psychopaths.
Speaker 1: So's there's some etiquette, right, maybe we should they had
Speaker 1: a list of that, like what is the what is
Speaker 1: the etiquette when posting your relationship on social media? I
Speaker 1: guess this is something you need to discuss with the
Speaker 1: person you with and how comfortable they are with whatever
Speaker 1: it is that you want to do. But I would
Speaker 1: not just be posting somebody's kids on my social media.
Speaker 2: You're tripping. That's insane.
Speaker 1: You're tripping, and you asking to get beat up because
Speaker 1: these mamas be real sensitive about their little snotty nose brats,
Speaker 1: their own kid.
Speaker 2: They covering their faces up with emulji. You think you
Speaker 2: can post it?
Speaker 1: No, that's insane, that's terrible. What's the last last? I
Speaker 1: keep your relationship private, man, That's what I believe. And
Speaker 1: it's not because I'm hiding niggas, okay, and I have
Speaker 1: seen I just don't like you, my business man. I
Speaker 1: like to be able to show people what I want
Speaker 1: them to see because I think there should be a
Speaker 1: differentiation between the social media life and your real life.
Speaker 1: Although I am the same person on the Internet that
Speaker 1: I am in real life, it's just some things I
Speaker 1: want to keep it myself, which would be my relationship.
Speaker 2: I probably would post my kid before I post the man.
Speaker 1: Listen, I am not unless I got married, Like if
Speaker 1: we're married, that's different. But like these boyfriend girlfriend relationships, No,
Speaker 1: I'm not posting them, no more that shit over it.
Speaker 2: I don't feel like I'm I can't say I'm the
Speaker 2: same person. But you only get my highlight real on
Speaker 2: social media. That don't get my like everyday regular shit.
Speaker 1: You don't get that.
Speaker 2: You get parts of the highlight reel and just small
Speaker 2: pieces of it. That's all I got for you, because
Speaker 2: y'all don't see.
Speaker 1: Me with my wig off on social media.
Speaker 2: You not. You're not gonna see me with my wig off.
Speaker 2: You're not going to see in the bonnet. No, you're
Speaker 2: not gonna see.
Speaker 1: Me in my bonnet. Like I'm not doing that, none
Speaker 1: of that, just the highlights. Is this something empowering about
Speaker 1: getting on the internet?
Speaker 2: Like looking like that?
Speaker 1: Like looking like I don't even say looking like yourself
Speaker 1: because I want to always look like my best self.
Speaker 1: So people will get on the internet not looking like
Speaker 1: their best selves because thats what they look like.
Speaker 2: Those are the people who do the best, though, they
Speaker 2: really do. The people who just come as they are
Speaker 2: whatever they are before there, okay doing that.
Speaker 1: Eyeliner lashes, And it doesn't mean I'm insecure. It's just
Speaker 1: like I want to look like I'm going to a
Speaker 1: wedding every fucking day. Okay, I.
Speaker 2: Told you. That's see that, y'all, So we'll talk back.
Speaker 1: We talk back, suggesting you to keep your just keep
Speaker 1: the relationship private, especially if if ship rocky. Yeah, you'll
Speaker 1: want to be looking stupid in the month from now,
Speaker 1: y'all and broke up or you get back together. Like
Speaker 1: now people get to even see your dumbis ship because
Speaker 1: people start posing subliminal ship to their exes.
Speaker 2: And then you end up back with the person.
Speaker 1: So that that's another thing, Like, just keep all your
Speaker 1: ship dumb ship private, and don't it only makes sense
Speaker 1: to be making money.
Speaker 2: Yeah, that's what I like. Post. You're a post wedding pictures.
Speaker 2: That's it, that's it, that's all.
Speaker 1: Yeah, don't post me.
Speaker 2: Don't even post the announcement, just post the half the picture.
Speaker 1: Oh how about people posting your wedding before you do.
Speaker 2: I've seen that too. I don't mind if they're at
Speaker 2: the wedding. How are you gonna stop them for posting
Speaker 2: their experience?
Speaker 1: If I say, don't post my experience, then don't. I
Speaker 1: don't think I want somebody posting my wedding before I
Speaker 1: get to posting on social media. I don't want that.
Speaker 2: People create hashtags for people to post your wedding. I
Speaker 2: probably wouldn't anyway, y'all. All right, y'all.
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