1 00:00:02,720 --> 00:00:05,880 Speaker 1: Hi. This is Laura Vandercamp. I'm a mother of five, 2 00:00:06,160 --> 00:00:10,240 Speaker 1: an author, journalist, and speaker. And this is Sarah Hartunger. 3 00:00:10,480 --> 00:00:13,480 Speaker 1: I'm a mother of three, a practicing physician and blogger. 4 00:00:13,480 --> 00:00:15,800 Speaker 1: On the side, we are two working parents who love 5 00:00:15,840 --> 00:00:19,320 Speaker 1: our careers and our families. Welcome to best of both worlds. 6 00:00:19,600 --> 00:00:22,400 Speaker 1: Here we talk about how real women manage work, family, 7 00:00:22,560 --> 00:00:25,800 Speaker 1: and time for fun, from figuring out childcare to mapping 8 00:00:25,800 --> 00:00:28,360 Speaker 1: out long term career goals. We want you to get 9 00:00:28,400 --> 00:00:34,000 Speaker 1: the most out of life. Welcome the best of both worlds. 10 00:00:34,159 --> 00:00:37,279 Speaker 1: This is Laura. This is episode two hundred and eighty two, 11 00:00:37,520 --> 00:00:41,800 Speaker 1: airing at the very end of twenty twenty two. This 12 00:00:42,080 --> 00:00:44,680 Speaker 1: episode is going to be all about twenty twenty three, 13 00:00:44,960 --> 00:00:48,640 Speaker 1: what our goals are for twenty twenty three, and longtime 14 00:00:48,680 --> 00:00:51,160 Speaker 1: best of both worlds. Listeners know that we have been 15 00:00:51,159 --> 00:00:55,640 Speaker 1: doing these goals episodes since twenty seventeen, looking forward to 16 00:00:55,680 --> 00:00:58,560 Speaker 1: twenty eighteen. We're saying, what are our twenty eighteen goals 17 00:00:58,600 --> 00:01:03,600 Speaker 1: going to be annual tradition. We certainly enjoy doing that. Sarah, 18 00:01:03,640 --> 00:01:06,080 Speaker 1: what what is the I know you love goals? I 19 00:01:06,120 --> 00:01:08,840 Speaker 1: mean you you love to listen to goals podcasts and 20 00:01:09,000 --> 00:01:12,520 Speaker 1: read goals list. What is the appeal for you? Because 21 00:01:13,319 --> 00:01:17,399 Speaker 1: life is short and I want to do cool stuff. 22 00:01:17,440 --> 00:01:20,120 Speaker 1: I don't know that that's like so silly, but I 23 00:01:20,120 --> 00:01:23,200 Speaker 1: don't know. I just we do so many things unintentionally, 24 00:01:23,640 --> 00:01:28,240 Speaker 1: and yet life is so limited. So I think there's 25 00:01:28,319 --> 00:01:30,639 Speaker 1: just so much value in taking time to think about 26 00:01:30,640 --> 00:01:33,479 Speaker 1: what we want to do with every slice of time 27 00:01:33,560 --> 00:01:37,280 Speaker 1: that is expected, not necessarily guaranteed to be given to us. 28 00:01:37,319 --> 00:01:39,240 Speaker 1: But if we think of the next three hundred and 29 00:01:39,280 --> 00:01:42,040 Speaker 1: sixty five days as potentially a gift that we are 30 00:01:42,080 --> 00:01:43,760 Speaker 1: given that we can't take for granted, I want to 31 00:01:43,760 --> 00:01:45,840 Speaker 1: think about how I want to use them in the 32 00:01:45,840 --> 00:01:49,200 Speaker 1: best way possible. So that's why I enjoy sitting goals. 33 00:01:49,920 --> 00:01:52,320 Speaker 1: But why New Year's goals in particular? So when is 34 00:01:52,320 --> 00:01:55,680 Speaker 1: a holder? And yeah, I like the arbitrariness of it. 35 00:01:55,720 --> 00:01:57,760 Speaker 1: I mean, I don't know, it's like a fresh year, 36 00:01:57,920 --> 00:02:01,960 Speaker 1: fresh month, fresh fresh day. Let's hold on, Like why not? 37 00:02:04,280 --> 00:02:08,519 Speaker 1: Why not? Why not set good goals for the year. Yeah, 38 00:02:08,560 --> 00:02:11,200 Speaker 1: we've enjoyed thinking about this. I mean, just a few things. 39 00:02:11,240 --> 00:02:13,679 Speaker 1: As people are thinking about their goals framework for the 40 00:02:13,800 --> 00:02:16,920 Speaker 1: upcoming year. Sarah has a great phrase that goals are 41 00:02:16,919 --> 00:02:20,000 Speaker 1: here to help us, not harm us. Right, So if 42 00:02:20,000 --> 00:02:24,440 Speaker 1: something makes you feel bad about yourself and otherwise like 43 00:02:24,480 --> 00:02:26,320 Speaker 1: you are a failure, perhaps that is just a goal 44 00:02:26,360 --> 00:02:27,840 Speaker 1: you need to not deal with for a while and 45 00:02:27,880 --> 00:02:30,920 Speaker 1: put that somewhere else and not have that going on 46 00:02:31,040 --> 00:02:36,320 Speaker 1: in your brain. Specific and reasonable goals often tend to 47 00:02:36,400 --> 00:02:41,440 Speaker 1: be the most doable. Another thing is to put the 48 00:02:41,480 --> 00:02:45,160 Speaker 1: goals somewhere that you can check in on them during 49 00:02:45,200 --> 00:02:47,560 Speaker 1: the year. So recently, when Sarah and I did our 50 00:02:47,639 --> 00:02:50,960 Speaker 1: Year in review episode, we went back and listened to 51 00:02:51,120 --> 00:02:55,160 Speaker 1: our Goals twenty twenty two episode from last year to 52 00:02:55,320 --> 00:02:57,760 Speaker 1: see what we had said, and I think we had 53 00:02:57,880 --> 00:02:59,640 Speaker 1: tried to check in through the year. We did a 54 00:02:59,639 --> 00:03:02,639 Speaker 1: mid year goal update as well, and that just helps, 55 00:03:02,680 --> 00:03:04,960 Speaker 1: like with remembering, like what did you actually want to do? 56 00:03:05,080 --> 00:03:07,160 Speaker 1: I mean, because if you don't look at it, it's 57 00:03:07,280 --> 00:03:09,200 Speaker 1: kind of hard to remember some of them. I mean, 58 00:03:09,200 --> 00:03:11,519 Speaker 1: some are big enough that you probably will remember. I mean, 59 00:03:11,520 --> 00:03:14,320 Speaker 1: we both were planning on moving this year, and we 60 00:03:14,360 --> 00:03:17,840 Speaker 1: didn't forget to move, But there are many other things 61 00:03:17,880 --> 00:03:20,680 Speaker 1: that could be a bit more unclear, Like you know, 62 00:03:21,840 --> 00:03:25,920 Speaker 1: I forget and buy earrings. Buy earrings? Yes, and you're like, 63 00:03:25,919 --> 00:03:27,440 Speaker 1: did I ever get around to buying earings? You may 64 00:03:27,480 --> 00:03:29,320 Speaker 1: not even have remembered that that was a goal until 65 00:03:29,360 --> 00:03:32,760 Speaker 1: you looked at it on the list. So making it 66 00:03:32,760 --> 00:03:35,760 Speaker 1: somewhere you can see, and when possible, putting actual dates 67 00:03:35,760 --> 00:03:38,119 Speaker 1: and events on the calendar is also helpful for making 68 00:03:38,160 --> 00:03:40,560 Speaker 1: sure they happen. Yeah, I recommend looking at your annual 69 00:03:40,560 --> 00:03:43,880 Speaker 1: goals list at least every quarter quintile if you use 70 00:03:44,240 --> 00:03:48,280 Speaker 1: those units of measurement, because any less frequent than that 71 00:03:48,560 --> 00:03:51,240 Speaker 1: and it's unlikely that you're going to be able to 72 00:03:51,240 --> 00:03:53,720 Speaker 1: make meaningful progress on things, mostly because they just won't 73 00:03:53,720 --> 00:03:55,760 Speaker 1: be top of mind. So I would set that as 74 00:03:55,800 --> 00:03:59,240 Speaker 1: a minimum excellent. Well, with that in mind, since this 75 00:03:59,320 --> 00:04:02,000 Speaker 1: may wind up as a lengthy episode, we're really into 76 00:04:02,000 --> 00:04:05,800 Speaker 1: goal setting this year, we'll go ahead and dive right in. So, Sarah, 77 00:04:05,840 --> 00:04:08,680 Speaker 1: we're going to start with the category of work. And 78 00:04:08,680 --> 00:04:10,440 Speaker 1: I think you have sort of work as in your 79 00:04:10,440 --> 00:04:12,400 Speaker 1: clinical work, and then you have worked now as in 80 00:04:12,560 --> 00:04:16,719 Speaker 1: your blog and POJEC tasts and various other courses and 81 00:04:16,760 --> 00:04:19,200 Speaker 1: all that your creative work. So what are your goals 82 00:04:19,200 --> 00:04:21,440 Speaker 1: for twenty twenty two? Here? Yeah, I'm going to combine 83 00:04:21,440 --> 00:04:23,880 Speaker 1: them into the category this year. For the first time 84 00:04:23,960 --> 00:04:26,800 Speaker 1: and a while, I only have one real clinical work goal. 85 00:04:26,839 --> 00:04:28,159 Speaker 1: That's not to say I do not want to be 86 00:04:28,200 --> 00:04:31,400 Speaker 1: an excellent clinician. I just don't really have new stuff 87 00:04:31,440 --> 00:04:33,279 Speaker 1: that I'm working on this year other than the fact 88 00:04:33,320 --> 00:04:35,080 Speaker 1: that I really want to go to an in person 89 00:04:35,080 --> 00:04:38,240 Speaker 1: conference like I wanted to last year and see all 90 00:04:38,240 --> 00:04:42,080 Speaker 1: my old colleagues. And yeah, that's just really a goal 91 00:04:42,080 --> 00:04:43,840 Speaker 1: and something that's really important to me because I want 92 00:04:43,839 --> 00:04:47,120 Speaker 1: to feel connected to the pediatric endochronology community and being 93 00:04:47,160 --> 00:04:49,640 Speaker 1: able to see people who do that elsewhere is a 94 00:04:49,640 --> 00:04:52,520 Speaker 1: big part of that. So definitely my biggest goal from 95 00:04:52,520 --> 00:04:58,160 Speaker 1: a clinical perspective, from the BLP Shoebox, boww whatever empire. 96 00:04:58,760 --> 00:05:02,520 Speaker 1: I want to success run the first cohort of Bestily 97 00:05:02,640 --> 00:05:06,320 Speaker 1: Plans Academy and learn from that and launch future cohorts, 98 00:05:06,360 --> 00:05:10,000 Speaker 1: so hopefully that part of my offerings will grow. I 99 00:05:10,040 --> 00:05:12,359 Speaker 1: want to pitch myself as a guest on some of 100 00:05:12,360 --> 00:05:14,599 Speaker 1: the kind of bigger podcasts that I enjoy listening to, 101 00:05:14,800 --> 00:05:18,360 Speaker 1: understanding that not everyone's going to want me starring other podcasts, 102 00:05:18,400 --> 00:05:20,479 Speaker 1: but hey, even if I ask five people and I 103 00:05:20,520 --> 00:05:23,160 Speaker 1: get one yes, that can be meaningful in terms of 104 00:05:23,279 --> 00:05:26,360 Speaker 1: getting my material out there, and then that was it. 105 00:05:26,400 --> 00:05:30,279 Speaker 1: Those are my three work goals. Excellent, those are awesome. Yeah, 106 00:05:30,279 --> 00:05:33,200 Speaker 1: I should do some more podcast pitching now that you've 107 00:05:33,240 --> 00:05:36,599 Speaker 1: reminded me that I should do that. So my big 108 00:05:36,720 --> 00:05:41,320 Speaker 1: work goal for the year is to sell the back catalog, 109 00:05:41,839 --> 00:05:45,720 Speaker 1: and in the writing book world, back catalog means basically 110 00:05:45,800 --> 00:05:49,359 Speaker 1: your old books, so the new ones at the front 111 00:05:49,400 --> 00:05:51,719 Speaker 1: of the catalog where you looking at a big catalog 112 00:05:51,839 --> 00:05:53,960 Speaker 1: of book offerings, but the ones that would be in 113 00:05:54,000 --> 00:05:57,040 Speaker 1: the back so still in print, but are not, you know, 114 00:05:57,200 --> 00:06:00,400 Speaker 1: actively being sold anymore. Anyway, I've written a lot of books, 115 00:06:00,720 --> 00:06:02,960 Speaker 1: some of which I think are decent, so I want 116 00:06:03,040 --> 00:06:06,279 Speaker 1: to get them out into the world. I got a 117 00:06:06,440 --> 00:06:09,039 Speaker 1: message on Instagram recently from somebody who told me she 118 00:06:09,120 --> 00:06:11,200 Speaker 1: was reading one hundred and sixty eight hours and found 119 00:06:11,240 --> 00:06:13,000 Speaker 1: it very helpful, even though it was written in two 120 00:06:13,000 --> 00:06:15,880 Speaker 1: thousand and nine, and I'm like, hey, that's probably true. 121 00:06:15,880 --> 00:06:19,080 Speaker 1: Maybe other people would have that experience. So I made 122 00:06:19,120 --> 00:06:21,520 Speaker 1: a print up of how many books I had sold 123 00:06:21,640 --> 00:06:24,720 Speaker 1: of the various different titles, and I want to see 124 00:06:24,760 --> 00:06:28,240 Speaker 1: that number for all of those be significantly higher. At 125 00:06:28,240 --> 00:06:31,320 Speaker 1: the end of twenty twenty three, so I need to 126 00:06:31,360 --> 00:06:34,640 Speaker 1: figure out how to do that, how to interest people 127 00:06:34,680 --> 00:06:38,279 Speaker 1: in some older books. And speaking of old things, I 128 00:06:38,360 --> 00:06:42,960 Speaker 1: want to repurpose some of my old content. So I 129 00:06:43,080 --> 00:06:46,680 Speaker 1: have about one thousand Before Breakfast episodes, which are all 130 00:06:46,800 --> 00:06:49,599 Speaker 1: short essays that I could do something with. I have 131 00:06:49,680 --> 00:06:54,839 Speaker 1: something like twenty five hundred blog posts, a few hundred newsletters, 132 00:06:55,360 --> 00:06:58,039 Speaker 1: various other things. I think some of these could be 133 00:06:58,080 --> 00:07:01,640 Speaker 1: given new life in some form. Find new audiences, come 134 00:07:01,640 --> 00:07:05,000 Speaker 1: in different formats, whatever it is, but get new readers 135 00:07:05,040 --> 00:07:09,239 Speaker 1: for those, and finally do some new original time research. 136 00:07:09,279 --> 00:07:11,560 Speaker 1: And I have a pretty good plan to already do 137 00:07:11,640 --> 00:07:14,160 Speaker 1: this as part of my time tracking challenge in January, 138 00:07:14,240 --> 00:07:16,680 Speaker 1: for anyone who winds up signing up for that January 139 00:07:16,760 --> 00:07:19,600 Speaker 1: nine through fifteen. This year, we're all going to be 140 00:07:19,640 --> 00:07:22,080 Speaker 1: tracking our time together, So please join me and maybe 141 00:07:22,080 --> 00:07:24,400 Speaker 1: participate in my research as well. Ooh, I'm going to 142 00:07:24,440 --> 00:07:30,720 Speaker 1: do it. Okay, awesome, all right, our next category of goals. 143 00:07:31,120 --> 00:07:34,600 Speaker 1: I made some random categories this year. I don't know, like, well, okay, 144 00:07:34,800 --> 00:07:36,440 Speaker 1: go to a little off the rails, but that's okay. 145 00:07:37,040 --> 00:07:39,520 Speaker 1: I made a fitness category just because it didn't feel 146 00:07:39,520 --> 00:07:42,120 Speaker 1: totally in the personal category, although that's really where it belongs. 147 00:07:42,160 --> 00:07:44,560 Speaker 1: But as we talked about in last week's episode, I 148 00:07:44,600 --> 00:07:46,760 Speaker 1: want to make this a big running year. So I'm 149 00:07:46,800 --> 00:07:49,720 Speaker 1: just going to say I'm gonna want to make fortys prs, 150 00:07:49,920 --> 00:07:53,360 Speaker 1: so that means like personal records since I turned forty 151 00:07:53,840 --> 00:07:56,440 Speaker 1: and I'm currently forty two and i'll turn forty three 152 00:07:56,480 --> 00:08:00,360 Speaker 1: and hopefully in twenty twenty three, So it's gonna be 153 00:08:00,360 --> 00:08:02,120 Speaker 1: that hard to make prs because I just haven't trained 154 00:08:02,120 --> 00:08:04,360 Speaker 1: that much in my forties. So in a half marathon, 155 00:08:04,480 --> 00:08:07,120 Speaker 1: in the five k, and potentially a marathon, which also 156 00:08:07,120 --> 00:08:09,280 Speaker 1: would be easy because it would be my only marathon 157 00:08:09,320 --> 00:08:12,520 Speaker 1: in my forties, so I have a guaranteed pr no 158 00:08:12,560 --> 00:08:15,680 Speaker 1: matter what happens. I do want to make you some 159 00:08:15,680 --> 00:08:19,000 Speaker 1: some directed coaching and planning on doing some kind of 160 00:08:19,200 --> 00:08:23,240 Speaker 1: virtual coaching, although I may get my fast friend to 161 00:08:23,320 --> 00:08:26,200 Speaker 1: coach me maybe we'll see. And then I'm going to 162 00:08:26,280 --> 00:08:29,679 Speaker 1: do the nutrition group coaching with our last guests, probably 163 00:08:29,680 --> 00:08:32,760 Speaker 1: in the spring. I'm going to keep running weekly with 164 00:08:32,840 --> 00:08:35,240 Speaker 1: my faster friends, so it's fun to have like a 165 00:08:35,280 --> 00:08:38,199 Speaker 1: little bit of social running time. And I want to 166 00:08:38,240 --> 00:08:41,040 Speaker 1: try super shoes, which my husband has already bought and 167 00:08:41,080 --> 00:08:45,720 Speaker 1: I'm already super jealous, and yeah, you need to buy 168 00:08:45,720 --> 00:08:48,440 Speaker 1: those I do. Okay, I do. And then strength training. 169 00:08:48,480 --> 00:08:50,760 Speaker 1: I want to keep up twice a week at least 170 00:08:50,840 --> 00:08:53,079 Speaker 1: because I think it's just a very important adjunct to running, 171 00:08:53,080 --> 00:08:55,600 Speaker 1: and I don't want to scrap it in favor of 172 00:08:55,640 --> 00:08:57,880 Speaker 1: more miles because I don't think that's a worthwhile trade off. 173 00:08:58,200 --> 00:09:00,679 Speaker 1: And this isn't really for fitness, but more just like 174 00:09:00,720 --> 00:09:03,880 Speaker 1: an activity I miss and want to do in some form. 175 00:09:04,080 --> 00:09:06,600 Speaker 1: I just want to go to in person yoga at 176 00:09:06,679 --> 00:09:09,640 Speaker 1: least once or twice and just see if I still 177 00:09:09,720 --> 00:09:12,200 Speaker 1: enjoy it all Right, once or twice in the course 178 00:09:12,200 --> 00:09:13,960 Speaker 1: of the year, that seems like it should be doable. 179 00:09:13,960 --> 00:09:15,800 Speaker 1: But I think that's something that you need to like 180 00:09:15,880 --> 00:09:18,880 Speaker 1: write down and remember, because otherwise you probably won't just 181 00:09:18,960 --> 00:09:21,079 Speaker 1: randomly go to a yoga class. So yes, well, I 182 00:09:21,080 --> 00:09:23,640 Speaker 1: will see this list on a seasonal basis, so I 183 00:09:23,679 --> 00:09:25,720 Speaker 1: don't think I'll forget it. Okay, did I do it 184 00:09:25,760 --> 00:09:28,480 Speaker 1: this time? No? I did not? All right, maybe next time. Yeah. Well, 185 00:09:28,559 --> 00:09:30,840 Speaker 1: my goal is basically just to keep running three times 186 00:09:30,880 --> 00:09:34,240 Speaker 1: a week again, I run with Josper. At some point, 187 00:09:34,760 --> 00:09:38,120 Speaker 1: I do want to have some sort of strength training goal, 188 00:09:38,280 --> 00:09:41,760 Speaker 1: but I cannot come up with one that feels motivating 189 00:09:41,800 --> 00:09:44,640 Speaker 1: to me, so I got to work on that. I guess, 190 00:09:44,679 --> 00:09:47,760 Speaker 1: I don't know. I welcome suggestions of something people have 191 00:09:47,840 --> 00:09:52,400 Speaker 1: done that would be helpful, maybe you know, designed to 192 00:09:53,679 --> 00:09:58,199 Speaker 1: help with some like core strength, get rid of back pain, 193 00:09:58,320 --> 00:10:01,920 Speaker 1: which I occasionally have, but I don't know. As quid, 194 00:10:02,000 --> 00:10:03,880 Speaker 1: I mean, I could do something as like a little 195 00:10:03,880 --> 00:10:06,560 Speaker 1: bit every day as part of my morning rituals, or 196 00:10:06,640 --> 00:10:09,040 Speaker 1: I could do a goal like three times a week. 197 00:10:09,120 --> 00:10:10,559 Speaker 1: You know, I don't think I'll stick with that though, 198 00:10:10,640 --> 00:10:12,800 Speaker 1: So maybe it's like twice a week that I would 199 00:10:12,800 --> 00:10:15,960 Speaker 1: do some more formal strength work. I don't know, but 200 00:10:16,280 --> 00:10:19,120 Speaker 1: neither of those feel necessarily completely motivational to me, so 201 00:10:19,160 --> 00:10:20,920 Speaker 1: we'll see. I wonder if you would enjoy one of 202 00:10:20,920 --> 00:10:23,640 Speaker 1: those like push up or squat challenges like that they 203 00:10:23,679 --> 00:10:26,440 Speaker 1: have on apps where you you know, you're trying to 204 00:10:26,440 --> 00:10:28,319 Speaker 1: get up to X number in a row, but they 205 00:10:28,400 --> 00:10:31,160 Speaker 1: kind of like prescribe you a certain amount per day, 206 00:10:31,640 --> 00:10:33,920 Speaker 1: but they're really quick, Like it would be like ten 207 00:10:33,960 --> 00:10:37,120 Speaker 1: squats or something like that, so it would fit well 208 00:10:37,160 --> 00:10:41,920 Speaker 1: into your quick mourning rituals. Yeah, my bite sized morning 209 00:10:42,000 --> 00:10:44,640 Speaker 1: routines yeah, well, we'll see. That's my idea for you, 210 00:10:44,720 --> 00:10:47,800 Speaker 1: stay tuned people. I'll hit some strength goal. If I 211 00:10:47,800 --> 00:10:51,440 Speaker 1: don't set it, I will do some strength training in 212 00:10:51,480 --> 00:10:55,280 Speaker 1: twenty twenty. Okay, well that's that's something. Yay, all right. 213 00:10:55,600 --> 00:10:59,080 Speaker 1: How about home in the category of home, Yeah, so 214 00:10:59,480 --> 00:11:01,760 Speaker 1: I think two years in a row, I wanted to 215 00:11:01,840 --> 00:11:05,400 Speaker 1: do the Organized three sixty five hundred day program. Well, 216 00:11:05,640 --> 00:11:09,000 Speaker 1: Organized three hundred and sixty five has kind of restructured 217 00:11:09,040 --> 00:11:13,440 Speaker 1: their programming, and I think their new structure is going 218 00:11:13,480 --> 00:11:16,679 Speaker 1: to be even better and more flexible for me. So 219 00:11:16,920 --> 00:11:19,320 Speaker 1: I don't have a specific like one hundred days of 220 00:11:19,480 --> 00:11:22,080 Speaker 1: organizing that I want to get through, but I want 221 00:11:22,120 --> 00:11:25,480 Speaker 1: to use the Organized three sixty five framework to get 222 00:11:25,520 --> 00:11:28,280 Speaker 1: to the point where I can go to any room 223 00:11:28,360 --> 00:11:32,120 Speaker 1: in the house and feel like I've just given some 224 00:11:32,240 --> 00:11:34,520 Speaker 1: thought to what's in there. I'm not saying everything has 225 00:11:34,559 --> 00:11:37,880 Speaker 1: to be perfect. I'm just saying like that we don't 226 00:11:37,920 --> 00:11:41,040 Speaker 1: have random stuff piled up in various corners, and that 227 00:11:41,040 --> 00:11:43,839 Speaker 1: does include the garage, which my husband has actually done 228 00:11:43,840 --> 00:11:46,120 Speaker 1: a wonderful job starting to clear out. So I think 229 00:11:46,160 --> 00:11:49,960 Speaker 1: this goal is more doable currently than it has been previously. 230 00:11:50,440 --> 00:11:52,920 Speaker 1: Because Number one I'm more motivated and that we actually 231 00:11:52,960 --> 00:11:55,720 Speaker 1: own our home and like we're not going anywhere anytime soon, 232 00:11:55,960 --> 00:11:58,560 Speaker 1: I don't think. And number two, the kids are just 233 00:11:58,760 --> 00:12:01,000 Speaker 1: a little bit older to the point of I could 234 00:12:01,000 --> 00:12:02,679 Speaker 1: be in the garage or be in a different room 235 00:12:02,800 --> 00:12:06,600 Speaker 1: organizing and not feel like I'm like needed somewhere else 236 00:12:06,720 --> 00:12:11,000 Speaker 1: every two seconds, like during the afternoons when they're reading 237 00:12:11,080 --> 00:12:14,160 Speaker 1: or on screens or whatever. So yeah, I think that 238 00:12:14,200 --> 00:12:16,840 Speaker 1: part is key, right, because it's just so hard to, like, 239 00:12:17,640 --> 00:12:20,199 Speaker 1: if you're taking time that you don't have kids with 240 00:12:20,240 --> 00:12:22,160 Speaker 1: you when they're little to like do this stuff. It 241 00:12:22,200 --> 00:12:25,120 Speaker 1: just feels sort of defeating, like you're doing chores with 242 00:12:25,240 --> 00:12:27,360 Speaker 1: the time you don't have the kids. But then it's 243 00:12:27,360 --> 00:12:30,640 Speaker 1: like once they're old enough to entertain themselves, you get 244 00:12:31,320 --> 00:12:34,480 Speaker 1: open time on like weekends and evenings again, and so 245 00:12:34,600 --> 00:12:37,200 Speaker 1: you can do some of this stuff. Yes, like once 246 00:12:37,280 --> 00:12:40,360 Speaker 1: every minutes, not like precious, because there's really only thirty 247 00:12:40,400 --> 00:12:42,160 Speaker 1: seven minutes that you're not watching a kid in the 248 00:12:42,320 --> 00:12:45,160 Speaker 1: entire day. You can do more things like this. And 249 00:12:45,200 --> 00:12:47,960 Speaker 1: Lisa Woodruff does say she's a founder of Organized through 250 00:12:48,000 --> 00:12:50,079 Speaker 1: sixty five. This is all non sponsored, by the way, 251 00:12:50,120 --> 00:12:54,200 Speaker 1: although they are a sponsor of our podcast or have 252 00:12:54,320 --> 00:12:57,800 Speaker 1: been that when your youngest child turns five, that is 253 00:12:57,800 --> 00:13:00,600 Speaker 1: a golden window of opportunity of your life able to 254 00:13:00,880 --> 00:13:03,640 Speaker 1: just fit more in. So we'll see if that's true. 255 00:13:04,440 --> 00:13:07,440 Speaker 1: And speaking of things you want to fit in, my 256 00:13:07,600 --> 00:13:11,199 Speaker 1: other home slash organizing goal is I would like to 257 00:13:11,200 --> 00:13:13,280 Speaker 1: get my car washed. And I'm not saying like, oh, 258 00:13:13,280 --> 00:13:15,160 Speaker 1: I want to get it washed once a month or 259 00:13:15,240 --> 00:13:17,560 Speaker 1: something like no, no, no, Like I just want to 260 00:13:17,559 --> 00:13:20,640 Speaker 1: get it washed period. So like, theoretically this could happen 261 00:13:20,679 --> 00:13:24,560 Speaker 1: like tomorrow, but it won't. It won't, So I want 262 00:13:24,600 --> 00:13:26,520 Speaker 1: to I want to get like the deluxe wash where 263 00:13:26,520 --> 00:13:29,880 Speaker 1: they come vacuum out every crumb and every whatever from 264 00:13:29,920 --> 00:13:35,040 Speaker 1: the interior and that'll be good. I can't wait. All right, Well, 265 00:13:35,120 --> 00:13:36,800 Speaker 1: let's take a quick ad break and we will be 266 00:13:36,920 --> 00:13:39,439 Speaker 1: right back to talk a little bit more about Sarah's 267 00:13:39,440 --> 00:13:54,040 Speaker 1: home goals and get to mine. All right, Well, we 268 00:13:54,080 --> 00:13:57,400 Speaker 1: are back, and I was incorrect. Sarah doesn't have additional 269 00:13:57,440 --> 00:13:59,560 Speaker 1: goals in this category because we moved the ones she 270 00:13:59,640 --> 00:14:03,800 Speaker 1: had to other categories. So my only home goal, I think, 271 00:14:03,880 --> 00:14:07,640 Speaker 1: is to get all the boxes put away. Seems like 272 00:14:07,679 --> 00:14:09,520 Speaker 1: in the second year of living in this house, that 273 00:14:09,559 --> 00:14:12,920 Speaker 1: should be possible maybe, although the areas where there are 274 00:14:12,960 --> 00:14:16,360 Speaker 1: still boxes are some pretty you know, intense boxes like 275 00:14:16,440 --> 00:14:19,800 Speaker 1: basement and storage rooms, so we shall see how much 276 00:14:19,880 --> 00:14:22,960 Speaker 1: that winds up happening. But I did clear out the 277 00:14:23,040 --> 00:14:25,760 Speaker 1: guest room where there had been like two dozen boxes 278 00:14:25,800 --> 00:14:27,600 Speaker 1: over the course of the year, so it might happen. 279 00:14:27,680 --> 00:14:31,160 Speaker 1: We'll see. I think it'll happen. I think it'll happen. Okay, 280 00:14:31,760 --> 00:14:34,800 Speaker 1: other hobbies and purely fun and frivolous things. So what 281 00:14:34,840 --> 00:14:39,320 Speaker 1: do you have in this category, Sarah? Yes, So for reading, 282 00:14:40,080 --> 00:14:44,520 Speaker 1: I kind of created this reading plan, which is to 283 00:14:44,920 --> 00:14:48,080 Speaker 1: at least aim to read about ten percent of a 284 00:14:49,120 --> 00:14:53,640 Speaker 1: novel and one fourteenth of a non fiction book each day. 285 00:14:54,040 --> 00:14:56,040 Speaker 1: The one fourteenth came from the idea that then you 286 00:14:56,080 --> 00:14:58,200 Speaker 1: could finish a book like in two weeks, so you'd 287 00:14:58,200 --> 00:15:00,560 Speaker 1: finish a book every two weeks, or about two nonfiction 288 00:15:00,640 --> 00:15:03,320 Speaker 1: books per month. It would average out too, and then 289 00:15:03,920 --> 00:15:07,320 Speaker 1: something like thirty six novels a year, so that would 290 00:15:07,320 --> 00:15:09,840 Speaker 1: add up to sixty, which is more than I usually read. 291 00:15:09,880 --> 00:15:12,640 Speaker 1: I usually hover in the mid forties, from forty to 292 00:15:12,680 --> 00:15:17,120 Speaker 1: fifty basically, And people are horrified at the amount of 293 00:15:17,120 --> 00:15:20,040 Speaker 1: structure But what they don't always appreciate is that when 294 00:15:20,040 --> 00:15:22,200 Speaker 1: I set goals like this, I am not there to 295 00:15:22,240 --> 00:15:25,760 Speaker 1: beat myself up when I don't meet them. I'm totally cool. 296 00:15:25,880 --> 00:15:29,160 Speaker 1: If I don't meet them, They're just it's just a 297 00:15:29,160 --> 00:15:32,360 Speaker 1: benchmark to shoot for, And I'm very kind to myself 298 00:15:32,400 --> 00:15:34,640 Speaker 1: when it comes to goals I set for myself that 299 00:15:34,680 --> 00:15:37,240 Speaker 1: I know are completely frivolous. So for me, this is fun. 300 00:15:37,560 --> 00:15:40,600 Speaker 1: For others, they may think this is terrible. So only 301 00:15:40,640 --> 00:15:42,880 Speaker 1: do it if you would think that was fun. You say, 302 00:15:42,920 --> 00:15:48,440 Speaker 1: A gentle application. A gentle application, hey, gentle application for music. 303 00:15:48,600 --> 00:15:50,920 Speaker 1: I want to go to at least three concerts, and 304 00:15:50,960 --> 00:15:54,320 Speaker 1: I already have two concerts booked, I believe, and I 305 00:15:54,360 --> 00:15:58,920 Speaker 1: do not have Taylor Swift concert booked because I just 306 00:15:59,000 --> 00:16:01,360 Speaker 1: didn't get tickets yet. And every time I go to 307 00:16:01,720 --> 00:16:05,720 Speaker 1: the ticket broker sites like the Secondhand, it's just like 308 00:16:06,680 --> 00:16:09,800 Speaker 1: shocking how high the ticket prices are. So we will 309 00:16:09,800 --> 00:16:12,520 Speaker 1: see if maybe they arc and come back down, whether 310 00:16:12,800 --> 00:16:16,720 Speaker 1: this will become reality for me. But even if I 311 00:16:16,720 --> 00:16:18,400 Speaker 1: can't see Taylor, I want to go to at least 312 00:16:18,480 --> 00:16:21,680 Speaker 1: three concerts, and then I do want to kind of 313 00:16:21,720 --> 00:16:24,440 Speaker 1: revisit my prior music related goal and try to pick 314 00:16:24,480 --> 00:16:27,400 Speaker 1: one album to play in full each week. Now, I 315 00:16:27,440 --> 00:16:30,880 Speaker 1: am a very regular listener to the podcast All Songs Considered, 316 00:16:30,920 --> 00:16:33,360 Speaker 1: and they do a Friday roundup called New Music Friday, 317 00:16:33,400 --> 00:16:36,320 Speaker 1: as well as often in like a weekly mix, and 318 00:16:36,400 --> 00:16:38,720 Speaker 1: so I do listen to that, and I think it 319 00:16:38,720 --> 00:16:40,680 Speaker 1: would be fun to just pick one artist that I've 320 00:16:40,680 --> 00:16:42,840 Speaker 1: heard from that podcast and just play the whole album. 321 00:16:43,120 --> 00:16:46,200 Speaker 1: So we'll see how that goes. And when would you 322 00:16:46,240 --> 00:16:48,440 Speaker 1: be listening to this music? Like what? I listen to 323 00:16:48,440 --> 00:16:50,400 Speaker 1: a lot of music when I drive home from work. 324 00:16:50,520 --> 00:16:52,760 Speaker 1: I usually do podcasts on the way to work, and 325 00:16:52,800 --> 00:16:55,280 Speaker 1: I do music on the way home from work. And 326 00:16:55,360 --> 00:16:57,200 Speaker 1: sometimes I do music when I'm just like cleaning up 327 00:16:57,240 --> 00:16:59,680 Speaker 1: at home or the kids are hanging out, and I 328 00:16:59,720 --> 00:17:02,000 Speaker 1: just want to like cultivate a more peaceful atmosphere. So 329 00:17:02,040 --> 00:17:05,320 Speaker 1: I do play music regularly. It's just that lately I've 330 00:17:05,359 --> 00:17:08,399 Speaker 1: just been playing like Christmas music and Taylor Swift, and 331 00:17:09,240 --> 00:17:12,040 Speaker 1: I want to play other things too, be a little 332 00:17:12,080 --> 00:17:14,960 Speaker 1: bit more diverse than the choices that are available to 333 00:17:15,000 --> 00:17:17,439 Speaker 1: me exactly. And I appreciate, you know, more of the 334 00:17:17,440 --> 00:17:20,120 Speaker 1: wonderful artists that put their work out there and then 335 00:17:20,240 --> 00:17:23,520 Speaker 1: in terms of other frivolous, not furlish, but like sort 336 00:17:23,520 --> 00:17:25,280 Speaker 1: of the arts, I want to go to at least 337 00:17:25,320 --> 00:17:29,120 Speaker 1: two movies in the theaters, two live plays, one art museum, 338 00:17:29,200 --> 00:17:31,440 Speaker 1: and one ballet. I think that would be a great 339 00:17:31,560 --> 00:17:34,600 Speaker 1: menu to shoot for for the next year and doable. 340 00:17:35,080 --> 00:17:38,800 Speaker 1: And then finally, I recognize this goes against what many 341 00:17:38,840 --> 00:17:41,720 Speaker 1: people are, you know, perhaps trying to do with their habits, 342 00:17:41,880 --> 00:17:43,480 Speaker 1: but I want to sit down and watch a TV 343 00:17:43,520 --> 00:17:46,440 Speaker 1: show once a week, either with Josh or with myself, 344 00:17:46,440 --> 00:17:49,199 Speaker 1: but like fully watch that show. That might mean that 345 00:17:49,200 --> 00:17:52,080 Speaker 1: that's a night that I excuse myself from my novel reading. 346 00:17:52,200 --> 00:17:53,919 Speaker 1: I think that would be a few you won't get 347 00:17:53,960 --> 00:17:57,919 Speaker 1: one tenth of your novel done that night, correct, But 348 00:17:58,040 --> 00:18:00,639 Speaker 1: I just like miss getting into certain shows. And I 349 00:18:00,640 --> 00:18:02,879 Speaker 1: have watched very little TV this year, But then the 350 00:18:02,920 --> 00:18:05,760 Speaker 1: TV that I have watched was like great. Like I 351 00:18:05,760 --> 00:18:08,240 Speaker 1: don't believe in like haphazardly, you know, turning some station 352 00:18:08,359 --> 00:18:10,760 Speaker 1: on and just like watching the news or something, but 353 00:18:11,240 --> 00:18:13,520 Speaker 1: like having a series that you really love and look 354 00:18:13,600 --> 00:18:15,840 Speaker 1: forward to. Maybe watching an episode of each week can 355 00:18:15,880 --> 00:18:18,680 Speaker 1: be a lot of fun, either solo or as a couple. 356 00:18:18,760 --> 00:18:21,000 Speaker 1: So I just want to get back to that. All right, 357 00:18:21,119 --> 00:18:25,120 Speaker 1: sounds good, all right, well, in my fun and frivolous 358 00:18:25,119 --> 00:18:27,920 Speaker 1: category again, some of these not so frivolous, but some 359 00:18:28,040 --> 00:18:32,320 Speaker 1: more so. My reading project for twenty twenty three, what 360 00:18:32,359 --> 00:18:34,040 Speaker 1: I want to do is read all the works of 361 00:18:34,119 --> 00:18:37,919 Speaker 1: Jane Austen. So there are six novels that she is 362 00:18:37,960 --> 00:18:42,560 Speaker 1: sort of known for. Two are actually posthumous, but there's 363 00:18:42,600 --> 00:18:46,840 Speaker 1: also her Juvenilia, which is not as well known. But 364 00:18:46,920 --> 00:18:48,720 Speaker 1: I figure if I'm going to read all the works, 365 00:18:48,840 --> 00:18:50,560 Speaker 1: I'm going to go through to the ones that is 366 00:18:50,600 --> 00:18:53,200 Speaker 1: before the six novels that she's known for as well. 367 00:18:53,240 --> 00:18:55,199 Speaker 1: I have my eye on a particular box set that 368 00:18:55,240 --> 00:18:59,639 Speaker 1: includes at least some of her early works in the Juvenilia, 369 00:18:59,640 --> 00:19:02,679 Speaker 1: the Love Friendship novel, and then I figure I can 370 00:19:02,720 --> 00:19:06,160 Speaker 1: find the rest through like Project Gutenberg, of her writings 371 00:19:06,160 --> 00:19:09,760 Speaker 1: that were not particularly published in novel form in there. 372 00:19:09,760 --> 00:19:13,159 Speaker 1: But then there's the six of them and it comes 373 00:19:13,240 --> 00:19:17,240 Speaker 1: out I think about to three thousand pages in the 374 00:19:17,359 --> 00:19:19,720 Speaker 1: version I'm looking at, so that would see just about 375 00:19:19,760 --> 00:19:23,000 Speaker 1: ten pages per day in the course of the year. 376 00:19:23,080 --> 00:19:27,240 Speaker 1: To leave some space for the also non canonical Jane 377 00:19:27,280 --> 00:19:31,200 Speaker 1: Austen writing from Project Gutenberg or something so that would 378 00:19:31,200 --> 00:19:34,879 Speaker 1: be the plan, and ten pages would probably be pretty doable. 379 00:19:34,880 --> 00:19:38,280 Speaker 1: I think that's because the font won't be the Shakespeare 380 00:19:38,680 --> 00:19:42,560 Speaker 1: size anthology font. It'll be slightly bigger, so it probably 381 00:19:42,560 --> 00:19:45,120 Speaker 1: won't take more than again in fifteen minutes a day 382 00:19:45,960 --> 00:19:48,440 Speaker 1: to get through. But my goal from my reading projects, 383 00:19:48,440 --> 00:19:50,400 Speaker 1: it's always to read something I haven't read a whole 384 00:19:50,440 --> 00:19:52,760 Speaker 1: lot of before, and I haven't actually read that much 385 00:19:52,880 --> 00:19:56,040 Speaker 1: Jane Austen before, which seems crazy, but I haven't. And 386 00:19:56,080 --> 00:19:59,720 Speaker 1: then also that it would be worth doing, meaning that 387 00:20:00,320 --> 00:20:03,040 Speaker 1: it sort of stood the test of time, right, that 388 00:20:03,560 --> 00:20:06,080 Speaker 1: people know these works and they have been around for 389 00:20:06,119 --> 00:20:10,080 Speaker 1: a very long time. So that's my goal. There a 390 00:20:10,119 --> 00:20:12,920 Speaker 1: couple more. I'm going to write my sonnets this year, 391 00:20:12,920 --> 00:20:14,439 Speaker 1: and I've said this a lot of times before. I'm like, 392 00:20:14,440 --> 00:20:16,560 Speaker 1: I'm going to write like a collection of seasonal sonnets 393 00:20:17,040 --> 00:20:20,720 Speaker 1: this year. It is my daily writing project. And what 394 00:20:20,800 --> 00:20:25,199 Speaker 1: I'm going to do is write two lines aniambic pentameter 395 00:20:25,760 --> 00:20:29,640 Speaker 1: per day, which gives me one sonnet per week. Right, 396 00:20:29,760 --> 00:20:33,720 Speaker 1: so there are fourteen lines and that is to two 397 00:20:33,720 --> 00:20:36,840 Speaker 1: lines a day. That should give me fifty two in 398 00:20:36,920 --> 00:20:39,440 Speaker 1: a year. So I probably need to brainstorm on some topics, 399 00:20:39,480 --> 00:20:41,040 Speaker 1: because the funny part about it is that three of 400 00:20:41,080 --> 00:20:43,119 Speaker 1: the days are going to be kind of easy, and 401 00:20:43,160 --> 00:20:46,280 Speaker 1: then the others they have to match the rhyming scheme. 402 00:20:46,600 --> 00:20:49,560 Speaker 1: So I'll have to I'll have to think about how 403 00:20:49,560 --> 00:20:51,879 Speaker 1: that goes, like which days I want to do the 404 00:20:52,000 --> 00:20:56,359 Speaker 1: harder versus the not. But my very unartistic brain was like, well, 405 00:20:56,400 --> 00:20:58,800 Speaker 1: you could like make a template and then just fill it. 406 00:20:58,960 --> 00:21:03,720 Speaker 1: That's wrong. Then I do plan to go to Taylor 407 00:21:03,800 --> 00:21:06,359 Speaker 1: Swift this year, but I won't rub it in. You know. 408 00:21:06,400 --> 00:21:09,120 Speaker 1: The irony is since you had access to the like fan, 409 00:21:09,480 --> 00:21:11,680 Speaker 1: you could have bought my tickets. I'm just saying I 410 00:21:11,720 --> 00:21:14,720 Speaker 1: didn't think of it. Then I didn't ask. Yeah, it's true, 411 00:21:15,359 --> 00:21:18,800 Speaker 1: Well anyway, too late now, and then well you know, 412 00:21:18,960 --> 00:21:21,359 Speaker 1: come to yeah, come to Philly to do it. But 413 00:21:21,880 --> 00:21:24,160 Speaker 1: and then I want to put singing in the three 414 00:21:24,200 --> 00:21:28,359 Speaker 1: times a week category. So the upside of this is 415 00:21:28,359 --> 00:21:30,959 Speaker 1: it makes me track it, right. So I'm already usually 416 00:21:30,960 --> 00:21:34,359 Speaker 1: singing twice a week at least with choir rehearsal and church, 417 00:21:34,400 --> 00:21:37,040 Speaker 1: and often I do practice the music at some other 418 00:21:37,119 --> 00:21:39,520 Speaker 1: point too, But I want to add one more sort 419 00:21:39,560 --> 00:21:42,400 Speaker 1: of focused practice session and maybe I will actually look 420 00:21:42,440 --> 00:21:45,200 Speaker 1: up some videos on like voice you know, lesson techniques 421 00:21:45,200 --> 00:21:49,280 Speaker 1: and all that, and hopefully improve in that category. Cool. 422 00:21:49,840 --> 00:21:51,879 Speaker 1: I love it, and don't worry. I did not expect 423 00:21:51,920 --> 00:21:53,480 Speaker 1: you to get me tailors with tickets and I'm going 424 00:21:53,560 --> 00:21:55,320 Speaker 1: to go, so don't worry. It's all going to work out, 425 00:21:55,720 --> 00:21:59,800 Speaker 1: all right, kids and family. I would like to establish 426 00:22:00,119 --> 00:22:03,119 Speaker 1: library Saturday. My kids actually really do enjoy going to 427 00:22:03,160 --> 00:22:05,600 Speaker 1: the library and browsing around and picking stuff out. And 428 00:22:06,680 --> 00:22:09,560 Speaker 1: now I'm hoping by the end of twenty twenty three, 429 00:22:09,760 --> 00:22:12,160 Speaker 1: everyone will be able to read a book on their own. 430 00:22:12,240 --> 00:22:14,760 Speaker 1: Maybe it's a little optimistic. Genie will be in kindergarten. 431 00:22:15,160 --> 00:22:17,520 Speaker 1: I feel like she's she's been like an early reader, 432 00:22:17,560 --> 00:22:19,680 Speaker 1: but then kind of installed out at those three letter 433 00:22:19,760 --> 00:22:23,359 Speaker 1: words because she doesn't like to put too much effort 434 00:22:23,480 --> 00:22:26,760 Speaker 1: into things sometimes. So we'll see how that goes. But 435 00:22:26,880 --> 00:22:30,200 Speaker 1: Library Saturday will hopefully encourage the habit. And I think 436 00:22:30,280 --> 00:22:32,600 Speaker 1: it would be super easy to just go from gymnastics 437 00:22:32,600 --> 00:22:34,440 Speaker 1: straight to the library to home, so that could be 438 00:22:34,480 --> 00:22:37,679 Speaker 1: our routine. And then I feel like I always have 439 00:22:37,880 --> 00:22:42,359 Speaker 1: some family routine that is struggling, Like first it was 440 00:22:42,400 --> 00:22:44,399 Speaker 1: bedtime and then it was mornings, and then it was 441 00:22:44,480 --> 00:22:46,440 Speaker 1: whatever you know, And I'm sure bedtime will come back around, 442 00:22:46,440 --> 00:22:48,639 Speaker 1: but right now, the routine I'd like to focus on 443 00:22:48,680 --> 00:22:51,120 Speaker 1: for next year is how to best help with homework 444 00:22:51,200 --> 00:22:54,440 Speaker 1: because I don't want to be overly involved, but I 445 00:22:54,440 --> 00:22:57,480 Speaker 1: feel like I have to be available and I don't know, 446 00:22:57,520 --> 00:23:00,200 Speaker 1: it's a challenge, So that's something I'm going to work 447 00:23:00,400 --> 00:23:02,919 Speaker 1: next year. I do want to make sure each kid 448 00:23:02,960 --> 00:23:05,840 Speaker 1: in the family gets one on one trip. My guess 449 00:23:05,880 --> 00:23:07,760 Speaker 1: is that Josh is going to take Cameron on like 450 00:23:07,760 --> 00:23:09,720 Speaker 1: a snowboarding trip again, and I'm going to take each 451 00:23:09,800 --> 00:23:11,639 Speaker 1: girl on their own trip, but we'll see how that 452 00:23:11,720 --> 00:23:15,000 Speaker 1: shakes out. I want to see my niece Miriam and 453 00:23:15,040 --> 00:23:19,120 Speaker 1: my sister at least twice, and my parents at least twice. Now, 454 00:23:19,160 --> 00:23:21,240 Speaker 1: one of those maybe could be overlapping see them both 455 00:23:21,280 --> 00:23:23,639 Speaker 1: at the same time. We'll see, but I feel like 456 00:23:23,640 --> 00:23:26,719 Speaker 1: I haven't seen either of those enough, so I'm going 457 00:23:26,760 --> 00:23:30,200 Speaker 1: to try to increase that. And then finally, I want 458 00:23:30,200 --> 00:23:33,480 Speaker 1: to up my packing game for vacations, not to the 459 00:23:33,520 --> 00:23:36,120 Speaker 1: point of you, Laura, where I have like one backpack 460 00:23:36,160 --> 00:23:39,520 Speaker 1: for each person, because I just don't see that happening, 461 00:23:39,600 --> 00:23:43,040 Speaker 1: but to just be more organized and think through what 462 00:23:43,119 --> 00:23:44,879 Speaker 1: my kids will wear the way I think through what 463 00:23:44,960 --> 00:23:48,120 Speaker 1: I wear, and maybe try some packing cubes, which seem 464 00:23:48,160 --> 00:23:50,600 Speaker 1: to be all the rage these days. Got to get 465 00:23:50,600 --> 00:23:54,520 Speaker 1: the packing cubes, Yes, exactly. So let's see in my 466 00:23:55,280 --> 00:23:59,240 Speaker 1: kid's family relationships category. So I want to put a 467 00:23:59,280 --> 00:24:02,760 Speaker 1: couple time in my you know, three times a week 468 00:24:03,000 --> 00:24:04,720 Speaker 1: is a habit thing. And you know, when I first 469 00:24:04,720 --> 00:24:06,359 Speaker 1: read that dime, I'm like, no, no, okay, that is 470 00:24:06,400 --> 00:24:10,159 Speaker 1: not what I mean. Not that that would be a 471 00:24:10,240 --> 00:24:15,280 Speaker 1: terrible knowledge, that's a terrible call, but more i' meant 472 00:24:15,359 --> 00:24:18,639 Speaker 1: time focused solely on each other with no kids, so 473 00:24:18,960 --> 00:24:23,560 Speaker 1: like eating lunch together when working from home, walking max 474 00:24:23,640 --> 00:24:27,560 Speaker 1: together at night, going to the gym together, something like that. 475 00:24:28,080 --> 00:24:29,520 Speaker 1: And of course you know if we have a date 476 00:24:29,600 --> 00:24:31,480 Speaker 1: night then that would be one as well. But by 477 00:24:31,560 --> 00:24:34,080 Speaker 1: putting it in my three times a week is a 478 00:24:34,119 --> 00:24:36,840 Speaker 1: habit category, then I track it right as part of 479 00:24:36,880 --> 00:24:41,640 Speaker 1: my tranquility by Tuesday scorecards. So that and singing are 480 00:24:41,680 --> 00:24:43,879 Speaker 1: going into the things I'm tracking as well. And you know, 481 00:24:43,920 --> 00:24:45,800 Speaker 1: I think it'd be good. It's good to try to 482 00:24:45,840 --> 00:24:48,240 Speaker 1: spend a little bit more time together, especially as the 483 00:24:48,320 --> 00:24:51,520 Speaker 1: kids get older and don't need us as much every 484 00:24:51,520 --> 00:24:54,520 Speaker 1: single second. I am going to aim to get together 485 00:24:54,600 --> 00:24:57,119 Speaker 1: with friends twice a month. I'm getting better at this. 486 00:24:57,280 --> 00:24:59,760 Speaker 1: I like to think, you know, it's just about making 487 00:25:00,280 --> 00:25:03,159 Speaker 1: for it right, same as anything else. And just do 488 00:25:03,280 --> 00:25:07,399 Speaker 1: more big kid activities when we have Henry with a sitter. 489 00:25:08,520 --> 00:25:11,280 Speaker 1: You know, I'm doing some big kid travel, which is exciting. 490 00:25:11,560 --> 00:25:14,560 Speaker 1: Could obviously do more, do some more individual days, and 491 00:25:14,600 --> 00:25:17,720 Speaker 1: then really come up with some more non screen activities 492 00:25:17,800 --> 00:25:21,200 Speaker 1: with Alex because that is what he will do all 493 00:25:21,400 --> 00:25:25,159 Speaker 1: day and then he's quiet and not getting into trouble, 494 00:25:25,359 --> 00:25:27,840 Speaker 1: whereas when he's not on it then he often is. 495 00:25:28,520 --> 00:25:30,960 Speaker 1: But you can't just do that all the time. And 496 00:25:31,000 --> 00:25:33,680 Speaker 1: we've had him in a lot of activities, which is great, 497 00:25:34,080 --> 00:25:36,119 Speaker 1: but he's going to be in fewer come you know, 498 00:25:36,240 --> 00:25:38,560 Speaker 1: the next bid in January, and I'm not sure that 499 00:25:38,600 --> 00:25:40,280 Speaker 1: I want to add more driving to my life. So 500 00:25:40,520 --> 00:25:41,680 Speaker 1: just you know, I got to sort of just sort 501 00:25:41,720 --> 00:25:43,359 Speaker 1: of this out what he's what he's going to do. 502 00:25:43,520 --> 00:25:46,320 Speaker 1: But anyway, that's what I've got there. I feel like 503 00:25:46,359 --> 00:25:50,280 Speaker 1: he needs a twenty twenty three reading project maybe. I mean, 504 00:25:50,400 --> 00:25:52,800 Speaker 1: while he's read all the dog Man books, the uh 505 00:25:53,040 --> 00:25:56,040 Speaker 1: you know, Diary of a windy kitty. But yeah, well 506 00:25:56,040 --> 00:25:58,840 Speaker 1: maybe find him a new series there. All right, how 507 00:25:58,840 --> 00:26:03,120 Speaker 1: about your financial goals. I'm hoping that since this will 508 00:26:03,160 --> 00:26:05,720 Speaker 1: be my first year being completely part time for the 509 00:26:05,760 --> 00:26:08,879 Speaker 1: whole year, that I can earn the equivalent of my 510 00:26:09,640 --> 00:26:12,840 Speaker 1: forty percent that I'm not working at my clinical job 511 00:26:13,000 --> 00:26:15,000 Speaker 1: through my other stuff. I think I'm on track to 512 00:26:15,000 --> 00:26:16,639 Speaker 1: be able to meet that milestone, and I think it 513 00:26:16,680 --> 00:26:20,400 Speaker 1: would be a fun and gratifying one. I still want 514 00:26:20,400 --> 00:26:22,639 Speaker 1: to have a savings goal somewhere in that fifteen to 515 00:26:22,640 --> 00:26:27,959 Speaker 1: twenty percent range, and then I need to finish estate planning. 516 00:26:28,000 --> 00:26:31,720 Speaker 1: We started this so many years ago and haven't finished. 517 00:26:31,760 --> 00:26:34,080 Speaker 1: And then our excuse was, well, we didn't own our 518 00:26:34,160 --> 00:26:36,639 Speaker 1: house and that's going to complicate matters. But now we 519 00:26:36,720 --> 00:26:41,000 Speaker 1: do and it needs to happen. So hopefully this year, 520 00:26:41,920 --> 00:26:45,000 Speaker 1: this year, this is the year. Sounds super confident. You 521 00:26:45,000 --> 00:26:47,359 Speaker 1: can tell yeah, well, you're either going to do it 522 00:26:47,440 --> 00:26:48,679 Speaker 1: or you're not. I'm not sure of the point of 523 00:26:48,720 --> 00:26:51,040 Speaker 1: setting a goal if you don't actually intend to do it, 524 00:26:51,119 --> 00:26:54,400 Speaker 1: but you know we're going to do it, You're going 525 00:26:54,440 --> 00:26:56,280 Speaker 1: to do it, Okay. I don't know if I have 526 00:26:56,320 --> 00:26:58,359 Speaker 1: a financial goal per se it would be nice to 527 00:26:58,640 --> 00:27:02,119 Speaker 1: match or exceed my twenty twenty two income in twenty 528 00:27:02,200 --> 00:27:04,679 Speaker 1: twenty three. It's it's somewhat random at any given year. 529 00:27:04,720 --> 00:27:06,679 Speaker 1: I mean, you'll find this out as you're working for 530 00:27:06,720 --> 00:27:09,639 Speaker 1: yourself that it is a lot less predictable than if 531 00:27:09,680 --> 00:27:12,240 Speaker 1: you are getting a salary. But I think the most 532 00:27:12,240 --> 00:27:15,720 Speaker 1: straightforward way would be doe more with marketing my speaking. 533 00:27:16,359 --> 00:27:19,400 Speaker 1: That that would be a category that could go up 534 00:27:19,640 --> 00:27:24,240 Speaker 1: pretty easily just by booking more events. And in order 535 00:27:24,320 --> 00:27:27,240 Speaker 1: to do that, I just need to do some more marketing, 536 00:27:27,680 --> 00:27:30,120 Speaker 1: so that will be I guess part of the goal 537 00:27:30,200 --> 00:27:34,280 Speaker 1: for that. All right. How about travel? Yeah, we have 538 00:27:34,440 --> 00:27:36,960 Speaker 1: so much awesome travel plan for next year, so I 539 00:27:36,960 --> 00:27:40,679 Speaker 1: don't have them as goals per se because they're like 540 00:27:41,040 --> 00:27:43,520 Speaker 1: already booked for the most part. But things that I 541 00:27:43,600 --> 00:27:46,240 Speaker 1: haven't like already booked that I want to do is 542 00:27:46,280 --> 00:27:48,040 Speaker 1: I want to somehow figure out how I can see 543 00:27:48,040 --> 00:27:49,920 Speaker 1: some fall leaves. I feel like this is going to 544 00:27:49,960 --> 00:27:52,440 Speaker 1: be my year, and then I do want to make 545 00:27:52,440 --> 00:27:55,879 Speaker 1: sure I get to see my college bfs and we 546 00:27:55,920 --> 00:27:58,720 Speaker 1: are in the works process of planning something for October, 547 00:27:58,800 --> 00:28:01,840 Speaker 1: so maybe it could like check off both goals in 548 00:28:01,880 --> 00:28:05,440 Speaker 1: one trip. Yeah, go see the leaves and see them, 549 00:28:05,600 --> 00:28:09,000 Speaker 1: so it would be fun exactly. Yeah, Okay, we're not 550 00:28:09,040 --> 00:28:11,680 Speaker 1: doing stuff that's already booked. I guess my travel one thing, 551 00:28:11,960 --> 00:28:14,919 Speaker 1: we're trying to do a road trip over spring break, 552 00:28:15,600 --> 00:28:17,159 Speaker 1: so I want to make sure that that is a 553 00:28:17,359 --> 00:28:20,000 Speaker 1: good road trip, right like it's you know, we're going 554 00:28:20,000 --> 00:28:21,879 Speaker 1: fun places. We have fun things planned that we're not 555 00:28:21,920 --> 00:28:24,959 Speaker 1: just sort of like doing it because that's what we 556 00:28:24,960 --> 00:28:27,840 Speaker 1: were going to do. I don't know anyway. Various people 557 00:28:27,840 --> 00:28:29,639 Speaker 1: want to do certain things, and so this is a 558 00:28:29,680 --> 00:28:33,600 Speaker 1: way to accommodate that. And we're also going to spend 559 00:28:33,680 --> 00:28:37,000 Speaker 1: two weeks at the beach in August instead of the 560 00:28:37,000 --> 00:28:41,160 Speaker 1: one we normally do, which it may wind up being 561 00:28:41,200 --> 00:28:44,080 Speaker 1: a bit more than. We need to make sure we 562 00:28:44,160 --> 00:28:47,320 Speaker 1: have like regular childcare for some of the time because 563 00:28:47,600 --> 00:28:50,600 Speaker 1: otherwise it just will have the situation like we had 564 00:28:51,280 --> 00:28:53,360 Speaker 1: seven years ago or eight years ago or whatever it 565 00:28:53,440 --> 00:28:56,640 Speaker 1: was when I was pregnant and had the three kids. 566 00:28:56,640 --> 00:28:58,360 Speaker 1: And I've spoke about this in the past. Is one 567 00:28:58,400 --> 00:29:00,960 Speaker 1: of the low points of my life life being by 568 00:29:01,000 --> 00:29:03,440 Speaker 1: myself with them at the beach for many days and 569 00:29:03,480 --> 00:29:07,960 Speaker 1: the rain and everything else. So hopefully this will be better, 570 00:29:08,080 --> 00:29:11,320 Speaker 1: Like we'll set up some systems that can make sure 571 00:29:11,360 --> 00:29:13,760 Speaker 1: they have the fun of the beach without some of 572 00:29:13,800 --> 00:29:17,240 Speaker 1: the stresses of the beach. So that and yes, I 573 00:29:17,240 --> 00:29:18,719 Speaker 1: want to see the leaves in the fall too. I 574 00:29:18,720 --> 00:29:20,960 Speaker 1: think I would like to go to like Vermont, New 575 00:29:20,960 --> 00:29:24,680 Speaker 1: Hampshire do some sort of cool like see some of 576 00:29:24,680 --> 00:29:28,520 Speaker 1: the famous leaf roots through there. I do recommend the Berkshires, 577 00:29:28,800 --> 00:29:32,840 Speaker 1: They're pretty magical in the fall. Oh my gosh, okay habits. 578 00:29:33,160 --> 00:29:36,920 Speaker 1: So I want to work on my nails. My nails are. 579 00:29:37,400 --> 00:29:39,160 Speaker 1: I bite my nails. So I put this in the 580 00:29:39,200 --> 00:29:41,880 Speaker 1: category of like, I want to stop biting my nails 581 00:29:41,920 --> 00:29:44,640 Speaker 1: the way I wanted to floss, Like I kind of 582 00:29:44,640 --> 00:29:47,640 Speaker 1: want to but have never committed. But I think I'm committing. 583 00:29:47,720 --> 00:29:50,880 Speaker 1: I think I'm tired of the way my nails look 584 00:29:51,280 --> 00:29:54,080 Speaker 1: and feel, and so I just want to figure out 585 00:29:54,160 --> 00:29:56,920 Speaker 1: nail care, either if it's giving myself my own manicures 586 00:29:57,160 --> 00:30:00,040 Speaker 1: or going to get them every couple of weeks. Just 587 00:30:00,120 --> 00:30:02,320 Speaker 1: want to work on my nails, and then I want 588 00:30:02,360 --> 00:30:06,880 Speaker 1: to do more seasonal skincare. So I just finally canceled 589 00:30:06,960 --> 00:30:09,400 Speaker 1: my Lower Beauty Back subscription. It was super fun. I 590 00:30:09,440 --> 00:30:12,120 Speaker 1: really enjoyed it. This is non sponsored. I bought my 591 00:30:12,160 --> 00:30:15,120 Speaker 1: own subscription. But you know, there's a limit to how 592 00:30:15,160 --> 00:30:18,280 Speaker 1: many samples of tiny little things that you start accumulating, 593 00:30:18,280 --> 00:30:20,320 Speaker 1: and then you know, I'll get to really love a 594 00:30:20,400 --> 00:30:22,720 Speaker 1: product and then they'll send me something different and I 595 00:30:22,720 --> 00:30:24,080 Speaker 1: want to go back to that other product. So I'm 596 00:30:24,080 --> 00:30:26,960 Speaker 1: just taking a break from that. And so I want 597 00:30:27,040 --> 00:30:30,200 Speaker 1: to basically just have like kind of skincare to go 598 00:30:30,240 --> 00:30:32,680 Speaker 1: with the summer season and then the cooler season and 599 00:30:33,240 --> 00:30:35,600 Speaker 1: just be consistent and simple about it and use stuff 600 00:30:35,600 --> 00:30:39,080 Speaker 1: that I love. Sounds good, Well, my habit is going 601 00:30:39,240 --> 00:30:40,880 Speaker 1: goal is the going to be to keep washing my 602 00:30:40,960 --> 00:30:43,280 Speaker 1: face every night, which takes a shocking amount of self 603 00:30:43,280 --> 00:30:47,320 Speaker 1: discipline for me, but that is the goal. So yeah, 604 00:30:47,360 --> 00:30:50,880 Speaker 1: this has been our goals episode. Want to put out 605 00:30:50,920 --> 00:30:53,160 Speaker 1: a call for more listener questions. We are looking for 606 00:30:53,200 --> 00:30:55,640 Speaker 1: some more to use and upcoming episodes we'll be doing 607 00:30:55,680 --> 00:30:57,640 Speaker 1: a few more mail bags, so we'll sort of concentrate 608 00:30:57,680 --> 00:30:59,840 Speaker 1: our questions on there. But do you have a love 609 00:30:59,880 --> 00:31:03,640 Speaker 1: of the week for us, Sarah? I do so one 610 00:31:04,480 --> 00:31:07,520 Speaker 1: kind of cosmetic purchase that I am going to rebuy. 611 00:31:07,680 --> 00:31:10,080 Speaker 1: It's always important when when you note that you're either 612 00:31:10,120 --> 00:31:12,920 Speaker 1: trying something or you're like going to reinvest in something, 613 00:31:13,520 --> 00:31:16,440 Speaker 1: not invest but you know what I mean. The Lilabo 614 00:31:16,720 --> 00:31:19,920 Speaker 1: shower gel. I enjoyed a bottle of it that lasted 615 00:31:19,960 --> 00:31:23,520 Speaker 1: me from like May to November, so six months. It 616 00:31:23,600 --> 00:31:26,120 Speaker 1: is the five hundred mL size, so it's pretty big 617 00:31:26,160 --> 00:31:28,160 Speaker 1: and it's not that cheap. But again, six months of 618 00:31:28,240 --> 00:31:31,400 Speaker 1: use is pretty good, and I love the basil scent. 619 00:31:31,960 --> 00:31:34,120 Speaker 1: It's so good every single shower. I never got tired 620 00:31:34,160 --> 00:31:36,560 Speaker 1: of it. So I'm going to treat myself to another 621 00:31:36,600 --> 00:31:41,480 Speaker 1: six months of showering bliss. Sounds awesome. Well, I guess 622 00:31:41,520 --> 00:31:43,440 Speaker 1: my love of the week is my puzzles again. I'm 623 00:31:43,680 --> 00:31:45,840 Speaker 1: back into them. It's good. I'm getting a little bit 624 00:31:45,840 --> 00:31:47,680 Speaker 1: obsessive about them. My goal is to do a few 625 00:31:47,680 --> 00:31:50,480 Speaker 1: more in the new year. Anyway, this has been best 626 00:31:50,480 --> 00:31:53,280 Speaker 1: of both worlds. We've been talking our goals for twenty 627 00:31:53,320 --> 00:31:56,880 Speaker 1: twenty three. We will be back next year with more 628 00:31:57,000 --> 00:32:01,400 Speaker 1: and making work and life fit together. Thanks for listening. 629 00:32:01,640 --> 00:32:04,720 Speaker 1: You can find me Sarah at the shoebox dot com 630 00:32:04,840 --> 00:32:08,640 Speaker 1: or at the Underscore Shoebox on Instagram, and you can 631 00:32:08,640 --> 00:32:12,920 Speaker 1: find me Laura at Laura vandercam dot com. This has 632 00:32:12,960 --> 00:32:16,200 Speaker 1: been the best of both worlds podcasts. Please join us 633 00:32:16,280 --> 00:32:19,640 Speaker 1: next time for more on making work and life work together.