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Speaker 1: Am I the a hole?

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Speaker 2: Someone told my ex's fiance that she's still in love

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Speaker 2: with me.

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Speaker 1: That's a messy Yes, it is. So.

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Speaker 2: One of my best friends, Carla, is getting married soon.

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Speaker 2: It's only meant to be a small backyard type of wedding,

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Speaker 2: but we've been planning it for a few months now,

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Speaker 2: and originally it was supposed to be on my property.

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Speaker 1: They wanted to use my.

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Speaker 2: Property because it's private, it has lots of open space

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Speaker 2: for the reception, a nice view, and the house could

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Speaker 2: be used to get ready and whatnot. Of course I

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Speaker 2: said yes, and she and her fiance Rick were very

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Speaker 2: happy about this.

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Speaker 1: The thing is, Carla and I do have.

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Speaker 3: A history, a history, a history, a Mexial history.

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Speaker 2: It's frisky, a frisky one, hot, steamy, like a bowl

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Speaker 2: of fresh ramen. So we went on and off in college,

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Speaker 2: but eventually decided to stay friends. Then I met my wife,

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Speaker 2: we got married, Carla met Rick, and now here they are.

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Speaker 2: So they've kind of moved on and agreed, hey, well.

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Speaker 3: They have their own relationship.

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Speaker 2: Every own relationships will stay in our lives as friends,

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Speaker 2: right cool. Now, My wife knows that I went out

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Speaker 2: with Carla back in college and she didn't care. Carla

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Speaker 2: still went to our wedding and everything. I never knew

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Speaker 2: if Rick, her fiance, was told or not. It's not

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Speaker 2: my relationship, therefore not my business to say anything, so

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Speaker 2: I never did.

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Speaker 1: Fair. The thing is Rick found out recently and not

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Speaker 1: in the best of ways.

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Speaker 3: Oh God, who doesn't tell, Like, I feel like that's

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Speaker 3: something that you tell.

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Speaker 2: Very yeah, that is if they're involved in your life

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Speaker 2: like that, Like, hey, yeah, just so you know, like

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Speaker 2: we have a history.

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Speaker 3: Like my ex girlfriend Sophie, who I dated for like

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Speaker 3: a year, is coming back to LA for a few

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Speaker 3: days and wants to get dinner with all the friends

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Speaker 3: and like immediately when I knew that, and like, like

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Speaker 3: Arianna knew a little bit, but I'm like, hey, like

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Speaker 3: Sophie's coming back. Yeah, and then I had to tell

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Speaker 3: Sophie about Arianna, and then I knew about each other.

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Speaker 3: You do it first contact, first contact, or before.

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Speaker 1: Exactly, like you just want to get it out of

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Speaker 1: the way one hundred percent.

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Speaker 3: Like, and it's awkward and it's weird, but it's the

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Speaker 3: right thing to do.

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Speaker 2: It's the right thing to do, and doing it upfront

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Speaker 2: is best for everyone, right, it makes it less awkward

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Speaker 2: and weird.

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Speaker 3: The earlier you do it, the more you wait, the

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Speaker 3: more the awkwardness.

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Speaker 2: Exactly, No, he says, I'm not sure how exactly he

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Speaker 2: found out, but from what I heard from friends, one

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Speaker 2: mutual friend told him no idea why that we used

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Speaker 2: to date. And not only that, but apparently Carla said

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Speaker 2: a couple years ago that she was still in love

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Speaker 2: with me while she had started dating Rick, her now fiance.

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Speaker 3: What.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, oh that Rick. I feel bad for Rick man.

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Speaker 1: I know rickcount here going. You know, everyone wants op

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Speaker 1: over here.

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Speaker 2: I don't have actual confirmation that that is exactly what

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Speaker 2: he was told, but he thinks that's what went down.

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Speaker 1: Okay.

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Speaker 2: All that Carla has told me is that Rick was

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Speaker 2: told about our past and he's now very angry at

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Speaker 2: her for never saying anything.

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Speaker 3: And honestly, that's probably because you still have feelings for

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Speaker 3: that person if you're that cagey about it, Because if

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Speaker 3: you're not, then it's not even a worry.

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Speaker 2: That's yeah, oh this happened like it's it's nothing anymore.

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Speaker 1: It's chill. You know, there's nothing you should be worried about.

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Speaker 3: And if you're intentionally not saying something, maybe there is

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Speaker 3: something you should be worried about.

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Speaker 1: Now.

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Speaker 2: It became quite a drama and we didn't hear from

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Speaker 2: her for over a month, a month until now, Oh wait,

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Speaker 2: what's happening? Now we're about to find out. She told

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Speaker 2: me that they're going to couples counseling. So it's it's

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Speaker 2: been pretty rough basically, but the wedding is still on.

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Speaker 2: But Rick suggested that I don't attend, and it sucks,

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Speaker 2: but I totally get why he wouldn't be comfortable with

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Speaker 2: me there. Then I asked the obvious question, where are

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Speaker 2: they going to hold the wedding? Then, to my surprise,

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Speaker 2: she said that she still wanted it to be at

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Speaker 2: our place. So they want to uninvite him from the

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Speaker 2: wedding but hold it at his house.

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Speaker 3: Wait what, Yes, the wedding venue is Opie's house.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, he can't even go to his own house. That's ridiculously, Like, hey.

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Speaker 2: Get out of your own house for like all like week,

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Speaker 2: made like four days.

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Speaker 3: You know, that's silly, silly, you can't. You can't have

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Speaker 3: your cake and eat it exactly.

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Speaker 2: Like, they either need to invite him or completely move,

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Speaker 2: which sucks, like it sucks to move the whole wedding

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Speaker 2: to a new place.

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Speaker 1: But that's just what you got to do. You can't

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Speaker 1: tell someone, oh you just you know, invite him to

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Speaker 1: the wedding.

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Speaker 2: Or yeah, yeah, exactly. That's that's the the other option

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Speaker 2: there of what they should do. So she said that,

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Speaker 2: Rick said so, And in my mind, I'm going he

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Speaker 2: doesn't want the guy who dated his fiance years ago

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Speaker 2: at the wedding, but still wants the wedding at my house,

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Speaker 2: Like it's just not adding up for him.

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Speaker 1: Also, this house must be nice to have, like your Yeah.

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Speaker 2: I mean it sounds like I mean if it has,

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Speaker 2: like he said, a nice view, large enough for the

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Speaker 2: reception and after like he sounds like he's got a.

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Speaker 1: Baller ass path. Uh no, wonder she's still loves give

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Speaker 1: it him checks baby.

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Speaker 2: Now, my wife and I are expecting to just not

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Speaker 2: be at our home that weekend.

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Speaker 1: Like it's just crazy. So here is what I told Carla.

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Speaker 2: No, I told her, no, they're gonna have to find

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Speaker 2: someplace else since we are not going to simply leave

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Speaker 2: our home to them for an entire weekend. And like,

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Speaker 2: not only for the safety reasons, but it just doesn't

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Speaker 2: make sense overall, Rick doesn't want me around because he's

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Speaker 2: not comfortable, but he's comfortable enough to have the wedding

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Speaker 2: at my house.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, Rick is just insecure at this point.

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Speaker 2: You're all over the place, man, like you got you

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Speaker 2: gotta get it together, like I'm look, it sucks that

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Speaker 2: you know you found it all the information the way

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Speaker 2: you did, but like this is not the appropriate response.

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Speaker 2: They really want their wedding here though, and because of that,

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Speaker 2: I've been bugged not only by her, but also Rick

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Speaker 2: and some of their friends who think I'm being a

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Speaker 2: petty a hole by not letting them have their wedding

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Speaker 2: here anymore. So they're just getting all their friends to

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Speaker 2: gang up on them, like ridiculous kind of whack. I

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Speaker 2: honestly don't think that I'm the a hole here. It

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Speaker 2: just does it make sense at all to have us

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Speaker 2: leave our own place for a wedding we're no longer

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Speaker 2: welcome to, and leaving our home totally vulnerable as well,

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Speaker 2: still being accused of sabotaging their wedding, and Rick believes

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Speaker 2: it's the least I can do after everything?

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Speaker 1: Am I the ale? I think? No?

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Speaker 3: Yeah, no, it's a fricked up situation here. But it's

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Speaker 3: not Op's fault. No, it's really Carlo's fault for not

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Speaker 3: telling Rick. That is Rick's fault for being insecure, and

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Speaker 3: then it's both their fault for still wanting to have

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Speaker 3: the wedding even though they feel insecure about Op being there. Literally,

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Speaker 3: Op definitely not the a hole.

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Speaker 2: I agree. I think I think that's case closed. I

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Speaker 2: think that's close.

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Speaker 1: Two wedding stories bar the books.

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Speaker 3: Detective, We've done it again.

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Speaker 1: Yes, before we go subscribe