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Speaker 1: the line, and I felt for the guy. We all did. Yeah.

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Speaker 1: So he has a book called Eight Rules of Love,

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Speaker 1: and he has questions you should ask on a first

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Speaker 1: we did a different thing. We did like a thirty

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Speaker 1: he mentioned during his show, not from the book. But

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Speaker 1: they are all these questions that seem very surface level.

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Speaker 1: You think, oh, yeah, I already know that about everybody

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Speaker 1: and my partner, I've been this person for so many years.

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Speaker 1: But you really get into these really nuance conversations. So

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Speaker 1: let me throw one out there and maybe you can

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Speaker 1: or your best friends. The Sparker conversation. So here's one

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Speaker 1: from his book. If your younger self met you, now,

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Speaker 1: what would make them happy and what would make them

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Speaker 1: I really like Jay shetty. That question just instantly gave

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Speaker 1: me anxiety me too, Um, wow, who wants to go first?

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Speaker 1: Younger self? What would make them happy? Make them happy?

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Speaker 1: Maybe like something that you've accomplished in your life that

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Speaker 1: we never thought you said, Okay, I can answer it. Okay,

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Speaker 1: this job here at this station, doun what would make

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Speaker 1: a day without thinking about being chubby. That's really interesting

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Speaker 1: I'm always being judged or I'm gonna get are playing

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Speaker 1: all right, Tanya, don't have time. Well, yeah, we do,

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Speaker 1: I mean, Like, I'm on my way. That's not your story.

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Speaker 1: Oh my gosh, I'm gonna I'm gonna read the Monk's book, this, this, this,

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Speaker 1: gonna read that. Well, guess what, guys, Yeah, ebbs and

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Speaker 1: We're gonna pay a bill. Next, you're going Orange County Kiss.

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Speaker 1: Have a very good guys. I love you, guys, come here,

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