WEBVTT - Second Cup: Throw your own party

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<v Speaker 1>Welcome to Before Breakfast, a production of iHeartRadio. Good Morning.

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<v Speaker 1>This is Laura. Welcome to the Before Breakfast podcast. Today's

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<v Speaker 1>tip is to throw your own party. If you have

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<v Speaker 1>something good happening in your life, use it as an

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<v Speaker 1>occasion to bring people together to celebrate special occasions deserve

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<v Speaker 1>to be marked, and the best way to make sure

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<v Speaker 1>something happens is to do it yourself. As a child,

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<v Speaker 1>you may have celebrated your birthday with friends every year.

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<v Speaker 1>As an adult, we tend not to do that, and

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<v Speaker 1>perhaps that's whise. Maybe we don't always feel like celebrating

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<v Speaker 1>forty three trips around the sun. However, one of the

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<v Speaker 1>reasons that adulthood tends to feature a lot of sameness

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<v Speaker 1>day after day, year after year, is that we don't

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<v Speaker 1>mark occasions. There is perhaps a wedding, and then not much.

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<v Speaker 1>And that's too bad, because bringing people together to celebrate

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<v Speaker 1>good things is one of the most pleasurable things we

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<v Speaker 1>can do. And I say that as someone who is

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<v Speaker 1>fairly introverted. There is a world of difference between a

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<v Speaker 1>networking cocktail party where I don't know anyone and a

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<v Speaker 1>gathering at a restaurant with twenty people I do know

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<v Speaker 1>who are all toasting a book release. So for at

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<v Speaker 1>least a few of my books, I've tried to do

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<v Speaker 1>the latter, and it's been great. I remember those nights

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<v Speaker 1>years into the future, which is not something I can

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<v Speaker 1>say about a great many days during those forty three

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<v Speaker 1>trips around the sun. So think about things in your

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<v Speaker 1>life that might be worth celebrating. Maybe you've been promoted,

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<v Speaker 1>maybe you bought a house, maybe you paid off a house.

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<v Speaker 1>Maybe you decided to leave a job and start working

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<v Speaker 1>for yourself. Maybe you and your partner have been to

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<v Speaker 1>gather for fifteen years. Or maybe you see one of

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<v Speaker 1>these things or something similar coming up in your future.

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<v Speaker 1>If so, think about how you might throw yourself a party.

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<v Speaker 1>It doesn't have to be huge or an expensive ordeal.

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<v Speaker 1>Six to eight good friends around a table in a

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<v Speaker 1>restaurant can be a very manageable number. Or you could

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<v Speaker 1>cook something crowd pleasing and gather people at your house.

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<v Speaker 1>A big pot of chili and some good bread can

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<v Speaker 1>be celebratory. Hot dogs on a grill plus corn on

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<v Speaker 1>the cob feels festive and summary. Or do a breakfast

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<v Speaker 1>an egg dish, some fruit and muffins from a nearby

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<v Speaker 1>bakery is perfectly elegant and simple to pull off. You

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<v Speaker 1>can also make the gathering short. One of my favorite

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<v Speaker 1>takeaways from the covid era was the possibility of a

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<v Speaker 1>zoom celebration. Yes, yes, I know it's not perfect, but

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<v Speaker 1>the good ones featured a short tribute and toast, maybe

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<v Speaker 1>a few games cahoots about the person being celebrated, and

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<v Speaker 1>then everyone signs off. Feel free to throw yourself a

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<v Speaker 1>zoom toast if you think that would be easier for

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<v Speaker 1>your far flung friends or local ones with busy schedules.

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<v Speaker 1>But on the other hand, don't feel bad about asking

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<v Speaker 1>people to take an hour or two to come celebrate you.

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<v Speaker 1>Many people enjoy seeing other people but don't necessarily have

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<v Speaker 1>the bandwidth to organize much. If they don't want to come,

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<v Speaker 1>they will say no, but the odds are good that

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<v Speaker 1>they will be happy to have a reason to go

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<v Speaker 1>to something. Think of it this way. Would you feel

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<v Speaker 1>put out if a good friend asked you to come

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<v Speaker 1>raise a glass to celebrate her earning her master's degree.

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<v Speaker 1>If anything, you would probably jump in and ask to

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<v Speaker 1>help organize the event. Now that she has put it

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<v Speaker 1>out into the universe as a possibility, your friends will

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<v Speaker 1>feel the same way about you. I imagine many of

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<v Speaker 1>us see the upside of celebrating milestones, but we might

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<v Speaker 1>also harbor some vague hope that someone else will initiate

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<v Speaker 1>the planning and it could happen. But everyone is busy,

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<v Speaker 1>no matter how much everyone loves you. And I include

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<v Speaker 1>your spouse in this statement, Hinging your happiness on someone

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<v Speaker 1>else's actions is a risky strategy. If you would like

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<v Speaker 1>to celebrate something, plan it yourself. Most likely people will

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<v Speaker 1>assist you in various ways. But if you plan it yourself,

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<v Speaker 1>you know it will happen, and so you'll be able

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<v Speaker 1>to look forward to it. Life is worth celebrating. Life

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<v Speaker 1>is wonderful, and life is ultimately fleeting. So throw yourself

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<v Speaker 1>a party when you've got an occasion that seems to

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<v Speaker 1>call for it. You will probably not be looking back

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<v Speaker 1>on your life someday and saying, well, I wish I

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<v Speaker 1>hadn't gotten friends together to celebrate that new job. I

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<v Speaker 1>wish we hadn't brought people together to toast paying off

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<v Speaker 1>the mortgage. Wasn't it good? We saved our energy? You

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<v Speaker 1>won't be saying that, because really, what are you saving

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<v Speaker 1>your energy? Four In the meantime, this is Laura. Thanks

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<v Speaker 1>for listening and here's to making the most of our time. Hey, everybody,

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