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Speaker 1: What's up, y'all? Is your girl licks Pete.

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Speaker 2: And and you are tuned in to another episode of

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Speaker 2: Poor Minds. We gotta yes today, we got some guests today.

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Speaker 1: That's our new guest song. That's the remix. I am

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Speaker 1: so freaking excited.

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Speaker 2: Y'all don't understand how long we have been trying to

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Speaker 2: make this happen, like trying.

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Speaker 1: To get each other.

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Speaker 2: You know what, i' would let you to give your

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Speaker 2: own introduction because I know y'all got a little introduction

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Speaker 2: that y'all do.

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Speaker 3: Right.

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Speaker 4: Every time we go on another podcast and they like

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Speaker 4: have these hype ass introductions and a ka's and then

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Speaker 4: it's our turn. I'm like, Hi, I'm Mila, I'm Erica

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Speaker 4: Money Money, We're Erica and Mila or Good Mom's Bad

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Speaker 4: Choices and to work on our intros.

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Speaker 2: Okay, this weekend, that's what we're doing, getting together one, two, three.

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Speaker 2: So yes, they are from the podcast Good Mom's Bad Choices.

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Speaker 2: And we actually came on y'all's pod right. It was

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Speaker 2: during quarantine, so it was like, yeah, it was on Zoom.

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Speaker 2: It was a good episode, but I was just like, no,

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Speaker 2: we have to do something with them, like in person

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Speaker 2: and it seems like every time, like y'all came to

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Speaker 1: Whatever, like we could just not get our schedule right.

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Speaker 2: So I was like, no, we got the girls got

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Speaker 2: to pull up on us, and y'all just came back

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Speaker 2: from Atlanta, right.

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Speaker 1: How was y'alls Atlanta experience? You know, you know how?

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Speaker 1: It was a whirlwind? Whirlwind. We might have went to

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Speaker 1: sex club.

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Speaker 2: We did a lot of ship in a little bit

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Speaker 2: of time. How was the sex club lived there?

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Speaker 1: The one we went to was terrible.

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Speaker 4: We never go to this one, but we had high

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Speaker 4: hopes and we ate a lot of chicken about.

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Speaker 1: Say, a lot of pussy. I said, no, this is

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Speaker 4: Damn, I forgot to do that. But a lot of

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Speaker 4: chicken was eating, a lot of hookah was smoked, and yeah,

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Speaker 4: Natural Hair Show, so we did some work and we

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Speaker 1: I know this.

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Speaker 4: And then I went to New Orleans after we had

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Speaker 4: Look fabric. You don't have to chill them, He's clipping. Yeah,

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Speaker 4: I'm a party girl. But I'm realizing I'll be thirty

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Speaker 5: Might be in the verge of retirement, really.

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Speaker 1: Retired. I don't think so either. I'm gonna be thirty

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Speaker 2: Hell, did you guys just I just turned thirty one FRIDAYA.

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Speaker 4: I don't know this thirty third year. I was like, oh,

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Speaker 1: Yeah, I do. Are you touching her? Hate naps?

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Speaker 2: That's how I know I'm getting all because when you

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Speaker 2: I said, the only time I wake up was when

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Speaker 4: She was like, yeah, babe, don't you hate your best

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Speaker 2: This place called sugar Fish yesterday eat sushi and it

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Speaker 2: No, no, but I like fucking five pounds of those motheruckers.

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Speaker 2: She goes right now, you can't miss her. Okay, So

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Speaker 2: we're gonna get into these topics today. So obviously you

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Speaker 2: Traditional parenting skills, like you raise your kids, how your

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Speaker 1: Good mom's bad choice? The show is called.

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Speaker 2: Well, I was actually surprised because my nephew had wrote

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Speaker 1: How about that that's never been an option? How about

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Speaker 4: How about not excusing and expecting that men are animalistic

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Speaker 5: We feel judged about it.

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Speaker 1: My body this way just doesn't mean that you could

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Speaker 2: It doesn't mean that I want these type of advances

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Speaker 2: They think it's yeah clean by associating, yea.

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Speaker 2: You you surprised that the strength that comes out of

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Speaker 1: But okay, but those early days, I could be convinced.

437
00:20:04,840 --> 00:20:05,199
Speaker 1: You got to.

438
00:20:07,160 --> 00:20:10,480
Speaker 2: I think, well, you know, every time I have say

439
00:20:10,520 --> 00:20:15,159
Speaker 2: to my man, I'm like about that is bad. You're like, no,

440
00:20:16,080 --> 00:20:17,920
Speaker 2: if it doesn't happen, I'm cool.

441
00:20:17,960 --> 00:20:19,280
Speaker 1: But I feel like I could be convinced.

442
00:20:19,320 --> 00:20:21,920
Speaker 2: But I just know so much more now about like

443
00:20:22,400 --> 00:20:24,720
Speaker 2: what it takes, the type of nigga that I would choose,

444
00:20:25,280 --> 00:20:27,840
Speaker 2: Like also knowing that there's always a potential that you

445
00:20:27,840 --> 00:20:30,119
Speaker 2: could be a single parent again, and are you okay

446
00:20:30,160 --> 00:20:31,840
Speaker 2: with that and are you ready to do that again?

447
00:20:31,880 --> 00:20:34,119
Speaker 1: Because that's a real reality.

448
00:20:34,560 --> 00:20:36,639
Speaker 4: But what I will say about waiting till you're older,

449
00:20:36,800 --> 00:20:39,879
Speaker 4: I think you're older. I think that, you know, especially

450
00:20:39,880 --> 00:20:42,439
Speaker 4: because I go my child goes to school with like

451
00:20:42,760 --> 00:20:45,439
Speaker 4: predominantly like white women and like white parents, and I

452
00:20:45,440 --> 00:20:46,960
Speaker 4: see them married and I see them older. But I

453
00:20:46,960 --> 00:20:49,320
Speaker 4: think the perk about waiting till you're older is you're

454
00:20:49,320 --> 00:20:53,720
Speaker 4: more established and you have the funds hopefully, well, I mean, yeah,

455
00:20:53,840 --> 00:20:55,359
Speaker 4: you have the funds to get the nanny.

456
00:20:55,400 --> 00:20:57,199
Speaker 5: You have the funds to bring the nanny on the vacation.

457
00:20:57,440 --> 00:21:00,760
Speaker 4: And that's why they look dandy push their strollers because

458
00:21:00,760 --> 00:21:03,480
Speaker 4: the bitches have someone to drop the baby off. They

459
00:21:03,480 --> 00:21:06,679
Speaker 4: worked hard, they waited, and then they got married to whoever,

460
00:21:06,760 --> 00:21:09,080
Speaker 4: and they're established and then they're like, I'm going to

461
00:21:09,119 --> 00:21:11,240
Speaker 4: do what I need to do on the weekend, whereas, yeah,

462
00:21:11,240 --> 00:21:13,000
Speaker 4: I was younger and I had more energy, but I

463
00:21:13,000 --> 00:21:15,040
Speaker 4: had less help, and you know, now I'm hustling to

464
00:21:15,040 --> 00:21:16,800
Speaker 4: be rich, right and then by the time I get

465
00:21:16,840 --> 00:21:20,600
Speaker 4: a nanny, you're gonna be sixteen and you and nanny.

466
00:21:21,760 --> 00:21:23,160
Speaker 5: I think this perks either way.

467
00:21:23,200 --> 00:21:26,679
Speaker 4: But I think my my natal chart reader told me

468
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Speaker 4: if I do have another kid, it'll probably be in

469
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Speaker 4: my late thirties or reading nine.

470
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Speaker 1: Y'all too woke for me? Cha this la you know

471
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Speaker 1: where bitches, which, Okay, I like a little witch.

472
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Speaker 2: I'm not, but I told y'all, I need to put

473
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Speaker 2: her at in the description because people always ask ask

474
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Speaker 2: me about her because I talk about her so much,

475
00:21:47,680 --> 00:21:49,160
Speaker 2: does my readings all the time.

476
00:21:49,480 --> 00:21:51,720
Speaker 1: So I started like getting like little readings. I'm getting

477
00:21:51,760 --> 00:21:53,480
Speaker 1: a little witch pussy. You know what I'm saying.

478
00:21:53,560 --> 00:21:56,879
Speaker 2: You know you know what I'm saying. So what is

479
00:21:56,920 --> 00:21:58,520
Speaker 2: a natal chart reader like.

480
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Speaker 1: Nail chart reading.

481
00:22:00,240 --> 00:22:02,480
Speaker 5: It's just like an in depth astrology reading.

482
00:22:02,560 --> 00:22:04,840
Speaker 4: It's based on your birthday, where you were born, and

483
00:22:04,920 --> 00:22:08,080
Speaker 4: just basically it's like a snapshot, a snapshot of where

484
00:22:08,119 --> 00:22:10,240
Speaker 4: the stars look like the consolations at the time that

485
00:22:10,320 --> 00:22:12,560
Speaker 4: you were born. Okay, So it like breaks down to

486
00:22:12,640 --> 00:22:14,760
Speaker 4: like you know where your houses are and your love

487
00:22:14,920 --> 00:22:16,200
Speaker 4: and all the other ship and then you know, it

488
00:22:16,200 --> 00:22:17,520
Speaker 4: just breaks down where you are in your life at

489
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Speaker 4: this cycle, this age.

490
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Speaker 2: You know, just like that all the things are trying

491
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Speaker 2: to work through this lifetime the things you were struggling

492
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Speaker 2: with in your past lifetime. Because a lot of times

493
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Speaker 2: people and you know, I know some people are listening

494
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Speaker 2: right now because I don't know where your audience is,

495
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Speaker 2: but a lot of Christians.

496
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Speaker 1: You know, if you know that today today there was

497
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Speaker 1: today there was.

498
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Speaker 2: A girl and I was like, I was showing her

499
00:22:36,400 --> 00:22:38,160
Speaker 2: beauty blender and I was like, we have a zodiac bleunder.

500
00:22:38,200 --> 00:22:46,760
Speaker 2: She's like, nah, we can't. Jesus, what's the other one?

501
00:22:48,680 --> 00:22:54,479
Speaker 2: People be so scared. Yeah, And I feel like, I mean,

502
00:22:54,520 --> 00:22:56,560
Speaker 2: we're both Christians, and I mean we go to times,

503
00:22:56,560 --> 00:22:57,040
Speaker 2: but we I.

504
00:22:57,000 --> 00:22:59,000
Speaker 1: Mean, don't have to choose. You don't have to choose.

505
00:23:00,320 --> 00:23:04,280
Speaker 2: I was in church and I was like, I was

506
00:23:04,320 --> 00:23:06,359
Speaker 2: in church one time. We've been friends for seven years.

507
00:23:06,400 --> 00:23:07,439
Speaker 2: The first time we ever went.

508
00:23:07,359 --> 00:23:08,400
Speaker 1: And I was praising the Lord.

509
00:23:08,440 --> 00:23:11,040
Speaker 2: I said God, And it wasn't even and it wasn't

510
00:23:11,040 --> 00:23:15,080
Speaker 2: even our choice, not all. But wait, but let me

511
00:23:15,119 --> 00:23:16,520
Speaker 2: tell you all the church that chance to us to

512
00:23:16,600 --> 00:23:20,000
Speaker 2: that God was apreciated. He was like, Jesus is in us. Pause,

513
00:23:24,680 --> 00:23:25,680
Speaker 2: he lives in us?

514
00:23:25,840 --> 00:23:31,280
Speaker 1: Paul men did everyone laugh? Nobody laugh? That was just like, amen,

515
00:23:32,040 --> 00:23:34,679
Speaker 1: we was up there not pause. I said, he do

516
00:23:34,840 --> 00:23:41,440
Speaker 1: live in me. Oh god, So you said.

517
00:23:41,160 --> 00:23:43,920
Speaker 2: Something about you now, knowing that you're older, what type

518
00:23:43,960 --> 00:23:46,040
Speaker 2: of man you would like to have your next kid.

519
00:23:46,240 --> 00:23:48,239
Speaker 2: So we wanted to talk about that, like choosing your

520
00:23:48,280 --> 00:23:50,359
Speaker 2: baby dad, because I was like, that's part.

521
00:23:50,200 --> 00:23:52,040
Speaker 1: Of the reason why I don't have a kid. Careful good.

522
00:23:52,960 --> 00:23:57,280
Speaker 1: She's like good everybody.

523
00:23:56,840 --> 00:23:58,480
Speaker 2: To be honest, I think that's the only reason I

524
00:23:58,520 --> 00:24:02,080
Speaker 2: don't have time. I thought that I wanted to choice.

525
00:24:02,359 --> 00:24:06,080
Speaker 2: We almost fell out behind her first choice. We almost

526
00:24:06,080 --> 00:24:09,960
Speaker 2: fell out behind her first choice. Okay, we did because

527
00:24:09,960 --> 00:24:13,560
Speaker 2: the man was and I was like, I will die

528
00:24:14,680 --> 00:24:16,320
Speaker 2: before you get pregnant by him.

529
00:24:16,320 --> 00:24:17,879
Speaker 1: Like I was standing my ground.

530
00:24:17,920 --> 00:24:19,359
Speaker 2: I said, I don't give a fun If you hate me,

531
00:24:19,440 --> 00:24:21,119
Speaker 2: you're not having a fucking baby.

532
00:24:22,320 --> 00:24:22,560
Speaker 1: I mean.

533
00:24:22,600 --> 00:24:26,080
Speaker 2: She never got pregnant, thank god, because her mind, like

534
00:24:26,160 --> 00:24:28,520
Speaker 2: hers a real friend, would always be in the back

535
00:24:28,560 --> 00:24:30,399
Speaker 2: on my mind. I will be like, no, don't mean

536
00:24:31,440 --> 00:24:32,120
Speaker 2: because it was me.

537
00:24:32,160 --> 00:24:38,399
Speaker 4: Like, meanwhile, I got pregnantic, like I support whatever you do.

538
00:24:40,520 --> 00:24:40,800
Speaker 1: Energy.

539
00:24:41,880 --> 00:24:44,600
Speaker 2: I was like, are you out and she was like,

540
00:24:44,920 --> 00:24:47,760
Speaker 2: are the options? So you got pregnant first?

541
00:24:48,200 --> 00:24:48,240
Speaker 3: No?

542
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Speaker 1: This is this is didn't make me think this is

543
00:25:00,320 --> 00:25:02,040
Speaker 1: for Patreon This is for the people.

544
00:25:02,080 --> 00:25:05,840
Speaker 4: Everybody needs to know that you should utilize your rights,

545
00:25:06,080 --> 00:25:07,120
Speaker 4: fact choices.

546
00:25:07,119 --> 00:25:10,399
Speaker 2: They look, they know, I have a group of people

547
00:25:10,440 --> 00:25:11,640
Speaker 2: that I love in the upper room.

548
00:25:11,760 --> 00:25:15,800
Speaker 1: Shout out to my keys, and honestly just a group

549
00:25:15,840 --> 00:25:16,080
Speaker 1: of them.

550
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Speaker 2: They waiting on me at the dot and your friends

551
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Speaker 2: are not getting digged down, so they have a little

552
00:25:20,320 --> 00:25:25,520
Speaker 2: more clear clarity, right right, right, So do y'all feel like,

553
00:25:25,600 --> 00:25:26,919
Speaker 2: I mean, we're not going to get into, you know,

554
00:25:26,960 --> 00:25:29,520
Speaker 2: the baby daddy situation, but I want to like, what

555
00:25:29,600 --> 00:25:31,000
Speaker 2: process did y'all use.

556
00:25:30,880 --> 00:25:34,320
Speaker 1: So, you know, choose y'all's first baby daddy. Not much.

557
00:25:34,640 --> 00:25:36,520
Speaker 4: I mean, you know, the truth is, before you have

558
00:25:36,600 --> 00:25:40,480
Speaker 4: a baby, you don't really realize the depth and the

559
00:25:40,520 --> 00:25:43,120
Speaker 4: importance of the checklist. You know, you do a checklist,

560
00:25:43,160 --> 00:25:44,679
Speaker 4: but you don't you don't have a kid yet, so

561
00:25:44,680 --> 00:25:46,800
Speaker 4: you don't really know the conversations to have with yourself

562
00:25:46,880 --> 00:25:48,040
Speaker 4: or that person because you're young.

563
00:25:48,800 --> 00:25:51,000
Speaker 5: Usually I was, and I was dumb, you know, and

564
00:25:51,160 --> 00:25:51,760
Speaker 5: this is somebody.

565
00:25:52,480 --> 00:25:55,080
Speaker 4: My baby is by my high school sweetheart, you know,

566
00:25:55,880 --> 00:25:58,200
Speaker 4: for like fourteen years.

567
00:25:58,480 --> 00:26:01,160
Speaker 1: Yeah, puppy love true popular.

568
00:26:01,880 --> 00:26:03,720
Speaker 5: So there were things that I knew, but I was like.

569
00:26:03,640 --> 00:26:05,440
Speaker 1: Oh, I've known him so long I know his family.

570
00:26:06,000 --> 00:26:07,080
Speaker 2: You know that doesn't mean shit.

571
00:26:07,240 --> 00:26:10,200
Speaker 4: You know there's a lot of things like finances, spiritual beliefs,

572
00:26:10,200 --> 00:26:12,080
Speaker 4: how you raise your kid, how do you respect me?

573
00:26:12,359 --> 00:26:15,000
Speaker 5: How like if this doesn't work, this goddamn.

574
00:26:17,680 --> 00:26:18,160
Speaker 1: A little bit.

575
00:26:19,040 --> 00:26:24,280
Speaker 2: Maybe not okay, but I think even now to this day,

576
00:26:24,600 --> 00:26:27,320
Speaker 2: knowing the ship that I know, I would still be frightened.

577
00:26:27,359 --> 00:26:29,040
Speaker 4: I would be scared as fun. The list would have

578
00:26:29,119 --> 00:26:30,560
Speaker 4: to be like I have to like pass it through

579
00:26:30,560 --> 00:26:31,760
Speaker 4: all my friends. Did I miss anything?

580
00:26:31,800 --> 00:26:32,199
Speaker 1: Look at it?

581
00:26:32,520 --> 00:26:34,240
Speaker 4: Look at this, nigga, I have an interview, like I am,

582
00:26:34,280 --> 00:26:37,480
Speaker 4: I am I. We call it pts BD post traumatic

583
00:26:37,480 --> 00:26:39,320
Speaker 4: baby Daddy disorder p.

584
00:26:39,640 --> 00:26:41,560
Speaker 1: That's a good one. Yeah, d it's a real thing.

585
00:26:41,600 --> 00:26:43,920
Speaker 4: It's a real thing because we have it. And once

586
00:26:43,960 --> 00:26:46,800
Speaker 4: you step like you know, as women, that's our as

587
00:26:46,880 --> 00:26:49,399
Speaker 4: black women. If it's specifically, like our number one thing

588
00:26:49,480 --> 00:26:51,880
Speaker 4: not to be is single black mom. Right, you don't

589
00:26:51,880 --> 00:26:54,240
Speaker 4: want to be a baby mama like that everyone has

590
00:26:54,280 --> 00:26:56,000
Speaker 4: this fairy tale ending and you want to be a

591
00:26:56,000 --> 00:26:58,119
Speaker 4: baby mama that is with the daddy and it's cute y,

592
00:26:58,960 --> 00:27:03,360
Speaker 4: that's my baby daddy. Yeah, he's around changing diapers and ship.

593
00:27:03,480 --> 00:27:08,919
Speaker 4: You know, so there's there's a long triple, the long triple,

594
00:27:08,920 --> 00:27:14,199
Speaker 4: the length checklist that I would would really contract, like notarized.

595
00:27:18,080 --> 00:27:20,800
Speaker 2: Yeah, I mean I honestly, I never really wanted kids

596
00:27:20,840 --> 00:27:22,960
Speaker 2: from the from the jump, and I was pretty clear

597
00:27:23,000 --> 00:27:25,520
Speaker 2: about that in my relationship. And then somewhere along the

598
00:27:25,520 --> 00:27:27,080
Speaker 2: line I started to shift. Me and my partner were

599
00:27:27,119 --> 00:27:30,200
Speaker 2: together for almost seven years and we had a really

600
00:27:30,200 --> 00:27:32,480
Speaker 2: great relationship for a long time, and then you know,

601
00:27:32,520 --> 00:27:36,080
Speaker 2: things shifted. But I really didn't There were no there

602
00:27:36,080 --> 00:27:37,760
Speaker 2: weren't a lot of check marks. I really didn't even

603
00:27:37,840 --> 00:27:39,600
Speaker 2: know how he was with children, to be honest, now

604
00:27:39,600 --> 00:27:41,200
Speaker 2: that I'm actually reflecting on it, like.

605
00:27:41,359 --> 00:27:43,080
Speaker 1: How many times I actually see that nigga with a kid?

606
00:27:43,440 --> 00:27:45,840
Speaker 2: But I think also, like, as women, we see a

607
00:27:45,880 --> 00:27:48,600
Speaker 2: nigga pick up a baby, a crying baby, and and

608
00:27:48,800 --> 00:27:52,360
Speaker 2: like and the baby stops crying, We're like, oh my god.

609
00:27:53,080 --> 00:27:56,400
Speaker 2: BRO said that because honestly, I was on the phone

610
00:27:56,440 --> 00:27:58,199
Speaker 2: with my man the other day he picked up like

611
00:27:58,520 --> 00:28:00,200
Speaker 2: he had I guess it was his like brothers. I

612
00:28:00,240 --> 00:28:01,320
Speaker 2: don't know who was over there, but he had a

613
00:28:01,320 --> 00:28:03,200
Speaker 2: baby in his arms and he kissed her. I was saying, Oh,

614
00:28:04,800 --> 00:28:09,440
Speaker 2: I love him, though, But I'm glad you said had

615
00:28:09,520 --> 00:28:11,800
Speaker 2: no sign because I think that we as women, we

616
00:28:11,840 --> 00:28:15,119
Speaker 2: fall into that trap often. Yes, with their nephews or

617
00:28:15,119 --> 00:28:20,080
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Speaker 2: first like their first kid? Or like, yeah, okay, I used.

675
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Speaker 4: To have I don't have a baby. Nobody who don't

676
00:31:13,000 --> 00:31:15,480
Speaker 4: have a baby, you know, like the first of everything. Now,

677
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Speaker 4: I would be very I would I would not be

678
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Speaker 4: opposed to that just because I can harder. It's harder,

679
00:31:19,840 --> 00:31:22,600
Speaker 4: but I can actually see and ask questions about the

680
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Speaker 4: way that you father, because I'll go to if I've

681
00:31:25,280 --> 00:31:26,600
Speaker 4: been on days with niggas who have kids and the

682
00:31:26,640 --> 00:31:29,160
Speaker 4: mix words a kid lives, what days are yours?

683
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Speaker 2: The last thing you can do is go on a

684
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Speaker 2: day with a guy he has a kid with a

685
00:31:31,880 --> 00:31:33,280
Speaker 2: one bedroom apartment where you.

686
00:31:33,520 --> 00:31:37,200
Speaker 1: Because there he's not prioritized, especially.

687
00:31:36,960 --> 00:31:38,680
Speaker 2: With like not even a corner for the kid, like

688
00:31:39,640 --> 00:31:44,080
Speaker 2: niggas not a corner or something?

689
00:31:45,080 --> 00:31:46,520
Speaker 5: Did juicepot ship?

690
00:31:46,600 --> 00:31:49,600
Speaker 1: I don't see that now? Kid chip one thing? Kid proved?

691
00:31:50,280 --> 00:31:51,800
Speaker 1: So what is on y'alls checklist? Now?

692
00:31:51,840 --> 00:31:54,600
Speaker 2: Like if y'all were dealing with somebody now, like what

693
00:31:54,800 --> 00:31:57,160
Speaker 2: has to be? Like what are the deal breakers to

694
00:31:57,200 --> 00:31:59,680
Speaker 2: have a child again? Because I need to put this

695
00:31:59,720 --> 00:32:01,440
Speaker 2: on my list because I know I'm missing a lot

696
00:32:01,440 --> 00:32:01,800
Speaker 2: of shit.

697
00:32:02,240 --> 00:32:04,040
Speaker 1: You know what's on my list? He got money?

698
00:32:04,200 --> 00:32:06,640
Speaker 2: He finds money is important. Money is important, But like,

699
00:32:06,720 --> 00:32:09,120
Speaker 2: are you stingy with your money? And are we friends?

700
00:32:09,440 --> 00:32:10,200
Speaker 2: Are we friends?

701
00:32:10,240 --> 00:32:12,560
Speaker 4: Because if this ship doesn't work out, and we both

702
00:32:12,560 --> 00:32:15,560
Speaker 4: have to acknowledge that it could not because we're fucking

703
00:32:15,640 --> 00:32:18,000
Speaker 4: human and emotion don't work out. Everything's not forever. Most

704
00:32:18,000 --> 00:32:20,520
Speaker 4: shit is not forever? But are you gonna respect me?

705
00:32:20,560 --> 00:32:22,480
Speaker 4: Are gonna be able to have real conversations? Are you

706
00:32:22,520 --> 00:32:25,080
Speaker 4: gonna like show up for me and the kid? Am

707
00:32:25,120 --> 00:32:26,760
Speaker 4: I gonna You're gonna be like battling me to come

708
00:32:26,800 --> 00:32:28,240
Speaker 4: get the kid because you think I'm the mom and

709
00:32:28,280 --> 00:32:30,840
Speaker 4: I have all the responsibility because you're your nigga. Those

710
00:32:30,880 --> 00:32:35,880
Speaker 4: are very important things. Finances, stinginess, are you responsible? Do

711
00:32:35,920 --> 00:32:38,960
Speaker 4: you respect me? How do we get along even without

712
00:32:39,040 --> 00:32:40,240
Speaker 4: dick and pussy involved?

713
00:32:40,320 --> 00:32:43,280
Speaker 2: I agree because finances are important, But finances don't raise

714
00:32:43,320 --> 00:32:47,000
Speaker 2: the child, No, because unfortunately a lot of people think.

715
00:32:46,840 --> 00:32:49,640
Speaker 1: That, oh yeah, yeah, I know who.

716
00:32:51,000 --> 00:32:53,120
Speaker 2: No, it's true, And I think also, like how family

717
00:32:53,240 --> 00:32:54,440
Speaker 2: centered are you for me?

718
00:32:54,600 --> 00:32:55,440
Speaker 1: Is really important?

719
00:32:55,560 --> 00:32:58,400
Speaker 2: Like if you don't have listen and granted, like everyone's

720
00:32:58,440 --> 00:33:01,520
Speaker 2: family situation is different him, you don't. I do believe

721
00:33:01,520 --> 00:33:04,480
Speaker 2: we choose our parents, but like, sometimes your family situation

722
00:33:04,560 --> 00:33:06,000
Speaker 2: is fucked up, so you don't have a relationship with

723
00:33:06,000 --> 00:33:07,800
Speaker 2: your family? And have you created do you have another

724
00:33:07,960 --> 00:33:10,520
Speaker 2: group of people that are your family? Like how important

725
00:33:10,600 --> 00:33:12,560
Speaker 2: is that to you? Because if it's not, then I

726
00:33:12,560 --> 00:33:14,000
Speaker 2: don't know how this is going to be that important

727
00:33:14,040 --> 00:33:14,360
Speaker 2: to you.

728
00:33:14,520 --> 00:33:15,960
Speaker 1: That makes sense though, because I feel like.

729
00:33:15,880 --> 00:33:18,480
Speaker 2: People who are like, oh, I'm one deep and don't

730
00:33:18,480 --> 00:33:20,000
Speaker 2: nobody fuck with me, so I don't fuck with them.

731
00:33:20,040 --> 00:33:22,120
Speaker 2: You can feel like that way about anybody. I don't

732
00:33:22,160 --> 00:33:24,680
Speaker 2: know your whole family. Yeah, like if you don't want

733
00:33:24,680 --> 00:33:26,760
Speaker 2: to be your new whole family, right, that's cute.

734
00:33:26,760 --> 00:33:28,239
Speaker 1: That's my attracted me. It used to be like, oh,

735
00:33:28,280 --> 00:33:34,480
Speaker 1: maybe I'll be your family. Take me. It's given me.

736
00:33:35,440 --> 00:33:39,880
Speaker 1: I was your love. That's me.

737
00:33:41,320 --> 00:33:43,760
Speaker 2: That's what you just say. You feel like you choose

738
00:33:43,800 --> 00:33:44,520
Speaker 2: your parents.

739
00:33:44,840 --> 00:33:50,320
Speaker 1: I do. Yeah, I love my mom, but she.

740
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Speaker 4: God mother fool but not in the sense that they're

741
00:33:53,240 --> 00:33:57,480
Speaker 4: perfect people. But sometimes our souls will wherever we linger

742
00:33:57,680 --> 00:34:00,320
Speaker 4: before we get here. I think we choose our parents

743
00:34:00,320 --> 00:34:02,400
Speaker 4: in the sense that there are lessons that we're supposed

744
00:34:02,440 --> 00:34:04,160
Speaker 4: to teach them, and there are lessons that they're supposed

745
00:34:04,160 --> 00:34:05,719
Speaker 4: to teach us. And there's just life lessons that are

746
00:34:05,720 --> 00:34:08,319
Speaker 4: supposed to happen as an exchange, right, And I think

747
00:34:08,360 --> 00:34:10,680
Speaker 4: sometimes and sometimes people don't have parents and have shitty parents,

748
00:34:10,680 --> 00:34:12,080
Speaker 4: and that sound shitty, like what the fuck are you

749
00:34:12,160 --> 00:34:15,040
Speaker 4: talking about? Your parent was an ain't shit person, absolutely,

750
00:34:15,080 --> 00:34:16,880
Speaker 4: but even the ain't shit things that have happened to

751
00:34:16,960 --> 00:34:18,480
Speaker 4: us even the bad things that have happened.

752
00:34:18,200 --> 00:34:20,560
Speaker 5: To us all kind of like contribute.

753
00:34:20,040 --> 00:34:23,040
Speaker 4: To mold who I can agree with that if you

754
00:34:23,120 --> 00:34:25,359
Speaker 4: choose to dwell in it or if you choose to

755
00:34:25,360 --> 00:34:27,279
Speaker 4: to like rise up out of it. There are all

756
00:34:27,360 --> 00:34:30,400
Speaker 4: things that are like very specific to our personalities in

757
00:34:30,440 --> 00:34:33,120
Speaker 4: our lives that create the people that we are, and

758
00:34:33,440 --> 00:34:36,120
Speaker 4: like the lessons we give other people. And I think

759
00:34:36,120 --> 00:34:38,160
Speaker 4: people miss that and like you know, take it out

760
00:34:38,200 --> 00:34:41,080
Speaker 4: of context. But I think, like who are Like I

761
00:34:41,440 --> 00:34:43,840
Speaker 4: believe I hope the Christons don't come for me, but

762
00:34:43,960 --> 00:34:46,600
Speaker 4: like that we probably live multiple lives. This is probably

763
00:34:46,640 --> 00:34:50,080
Speaker 4: not the first time being here, and you know, some things, yeah,

764
00:34:50,080 --> 00:34:52,279
Speaker 4: if you feel intuitive to you And I think sometimes

765
00:34:52,719 --> 00:34:54,239
Speaker 4: this is the lesson that you're supposed to get in

766
00:34:54,320 --> 00:34:56,280
Speaker 4: this lifetime and only these parents can give.

767
00:34:56,120 --> 00:34:56,480
Speaker 1: Them to you.

768
00:34:56,960 --> 00:34:59,399
Speaker 2: I can agree with that though, because I literally give

769
00:34:59,440 --> 00:35:01,759
Speaker 2: my mom all the credit my personality.

770
00:35:01,840 --> 00:35:04,959
Speaker 1: Like growing up, I was like the wild child.

771
00:35:05,080 --> 00:35:07,160
Speaker 2: I was loud, always getting in front of everybody, but

772
00:35:07,200 --> 00:35:09,240
Speaker 2: my mom would encourage that she like watch.

773
00:35:09,080 --> 00:35:12,040
Speaker 1: My baby baby no head.

774
00:35:12,160 --> 00:35:15,520
Speaker 2: Like my mom encouraged me to like act out like

775
00:35:16,080 --> 00:35:19,120
Speaker 2: I remember this specific story. Like my aunt she used

776
00:35:19,160 --> 00:35:20,759
Speaker 2: to get so mad because I would dance in front

777
00:35:20,760 --> 00:35:23,839
Speaker 2: of the TV and she was like Annie Tevis sitting out.

778
00:35:23,920 --> 00:35:26,160
Speaker 2: She was like, no, I love that, Like my baby

779
00:35:26,160 --> 00:35:29,080
Speaker 2: gonna y'all gonna watch my baby perform that program.

780
00:35:29,200 --> 00:35:31,239
Speaker 1: Yeah, like my mom was so so I I can

781
00:35:31,280 --> 00:35:32,640
Speaker 1: agree with that. I can agree with that.

782
00:35:32,920 --> 00:35:35,320
Speaker 2: Yeah, I mean I only said that because my situation,

783
00:35:35,440 --> 00:35:38,400
Speaker 2: like with my biological parents, was not like an ideal situation.

784
00:35:38,840 --> 00:35:40,480
Speaker 2: But of course, like you know, I've talked about on

785
00:35:40,520 --> 00:35:42,759
Speaker 2: the show, I'm adopting and stuff and so, but I

786
00:35:42,800 --> 00:35:45,239
Speaker 2: still feel like without me going through the things that

787
00:35:45,280 --> 00:35:47,680
Speaker 2: I went through with my biological parents, I wouldn't be

788
00:35:47,760 --> 00:35:49,680
Speaker 2: the person that I am today or probably as far

789
00:35:49,760 --> 00:35:51,399
Speaker 2: as long as I am, And you wouldn't have found

790
00:35:51,440 --> 00:35:54,200
Speaker 2: the parents that you have now, you know, Yeah, that's true.

791
00:35:54,239 --> 00:35:59,279
Speaker 2: Everything happens for Today is my mom's birthday. Hey Mom,

792
00:35:59,360 --> 00:35:59,840
Speaker 2: shout out to.

793
00:36:03,800 --> 00:36:07,959
Speaker 4: And we haven't always had the greatest relationship, mostly because

794
00:36:07,960 --> 00:36:10,319
Speaker 4: I thought, like growing up that she was like really

795
00:36:10,360 --> 00:36:12,520
Speaker 4: not true to herself and didn't know herself and poured

796
00:36:12,520 --> 00:36:14,359
Speaker 4: a lot into my dad who didn't do the same.

797
00:36:15,080 --> 00:36:16,879
Speaker 5: And today she told me she was you know, she's

798
00:36:16,960 --> 00:36:17,439
Speaker 5: We've come.

799
00:36:17,360 --> 00:36:18,919
Speaker 4: A long time, Like a long way in the last

800
00:36:18,920 --> 00:36:21,680
Speaker 4: like two years, which I didn't see that happening. And

801
00:36:21,719 --> 00:36:23,200
Speaker 4: she was like, you know, I just want to I

802
00:36:23,200 --> 00:36:25,359
Speaker 4: feel like I'm healing and I'm grateful. She's like, oh,

803
00:36:25,400 --> 00:36:29,560
Speaker 4: gratitude and like religious and spiritual, and I'm like and

804
00:36:29,640 --> 00:36:32,040
Speaker 4: I found myself like are you are you for real?

805
00:36:32,440 --> 00:36:34,239
Speaker 4: But then she was like, you know, I really want

806
00:36:34,239 --> 00:36:36,360
Speaker 4: to thank you for like you've shown, like your journey

807
00:36:36,360 --> 00:36:37,200
Speaker 4: has shown me a lot.

808
00:36:37,320 --> 00:36:37,520
Speaker 1: You know.

809
00:36:37,600 --> 00:36:39,040
Speaker 4: I know it wasn't easy to walk away from your

810
00:36:39,080 --> 00:36:41,560
Speaker 4: baby daddy, but I never walked away, and I feel

811
00:36:41,600 --> 00:36:43,799
Speaker 4: like grateful for you for showing me.

812
00:36:43,840 --> 00:36:46,640
Speaker 1: And I was like, what a.

813
00:36:46,960 --> 00:36:51,120
Speaker 2: Beautiful thing that your that your parents can share with you,

814
00:36:52,280 --> 00:36:55,319
Speaker 2: because a lot of parents, especially black parents, it's not

815
00:36:55,440 --> 00:36:58,160
Speaker 2: gonna do that. They'd be like, what's the saying that

816
00:36:58,160 --> 00:37:03,960
Speaker 2: they always say, I brought you? I hate that because

817
00:37:04,719 --> 00:37:08,359
Speaker 2: you ain't taking me out you. I wish I would

818
00:37:08,360 --> 00:37:09,840
Speaker 2: have known that when I was yon, but girl, you

819
00:37:09,880 --> 00:37:14,439
Speaker 2: ain't gonna do ship. I used to be seeing like girl,

820
00:37:14,480 --> 00:37:17,120
Speaker 2: okay and get my ass beat in the superiod because

821
00:37:17,960 --> 00:37:23,200
Speaker 2: don't play. So before we move on, let me ask

822
00:37:23,280 --> 00:37:25,120
Speaker 2: y'all this real quick. This this is just a question

823
00:37:25,160 --> 00:37:28,000
Speaker 2: because my sister has two sons, she's the only girl

824
00:37:28,000 --> 00:37:28,759
Speaker 2: in the house, but.

825
00:37:28,960 --> 00:37:31,640
Speaker 1: She don't spank her Kids'll do y'all spank your kids? No, yes,

826
00:37:31,760 --> 00:37:34,680
Speaker 1: I'm with gentle parenting, but I'll slap that ask. Okay, Okay,

827
00:37:34,800 --> 00:37:35,719
Speaker 1: that is just a question.

828
00:37:35,800 --> 00:37:38,680
Speaker 2: Because my nephew, my oldest one, he doesn't need discipline.

829
00:37:39,080 --> 00:37:41,480
Speaker 2: He's an angel, my angel baby like he is a

830
00:37:41,680 --> 00:37:44,680
Speaker 2: but that little one. You feel like I need to

831
00:37:44,680 --> 00:37:46,439
Speaker 2: whoop him right now. I don't even know what he's doing.

832
00:37:47,080 --> 00:37:48,680
Speaker 2: But also don't really work.

833
00:37:48,800 --> 00:37:49,680
Speaker 1: Okay.

834
00:37:50,160 --> 00:37:53,600
Speaker 2: Anytime I've whooped, I've ended up injured, like my hand

835
00:37:53,880 --> 00:37:57,000
Speaker 2: was fucked up. Okay, So I mean I'm I'm with

836
00:37:57,120 --> 00:38:00,759
Speaker 2: the gentle parenting, but I'm a scorpio. So if looks

837
00:38:00,800 --> 00:38:04,480
Speaker 2: could kill my daughter knows Okay, And I've realized, like

838
00:38:04,800 --> 00:38:08,680
Speaker 2: I don't like the hitting and shit like sometimes it's necessary,

839
00:38:08,760 --> 00:38:11,080
Speaker 2: sometimes I need to get real scared for one second,

840
00:38:11,320 --> 00:38:12,239
Speaker 2: m But I don't.

841
00:38:12,320 --> 00:38:14,680
Speaker 1: I don't think that that's something that needs to be consistent.

842
00:38:14,760 --> 00:38:15,520
Speaker 1: It doesn't right.

843
00:38:15,760 --> 00:38:18,200
Speaker 2: Well, I feel like because my sister, like she's such

844
00:38:18,280 --> 00:38:22,360
Speaker 2: like a loving person and she's really soft, but her

845
00:38:22,760 --> 00:38:23,759
Speaker 2: her partner, her.

846
00:38:23,680 --> 00:38:25,279
Speaker 1: Baby daddy fiance whatever.

847
00:38:25,320 --> 00:38:26,640
Speaker 2: I don't know what it is, but he used to

848
00:38:26,680 --> 00:38:28,120
Speaker 2: be my best friend, like we know the chance to

849
00:38:28,160 --> 00:38:31,040
Speaker 2: say it was since we were fifteen. But he's more

850
00:38:31,080 --> 00:38:33,920
Speaker 2: like the stern parent. But he doesn't really spank than me.

851
00:38:34,000 --> 00:38:36,000
Speaker 2: That he's more of like give him that look and

852
00:38:36,040 --> 00:38:38,600
Speaker 2: they know he means business. Because I think that's gonna

853
00:38:38,600 --> 00:38:41,520
Speaker 2: be my parenting style if I ever have kids, because

854
00:38:41,840 --> 00:38:43,279
Speaker 2: I'm thinking, like when I got a spank and it

855
00:38:43,320 --> 00:38:45,560
Speaker 2: didn't do nothing but piss me off, that's not about

856
00:38:45,560 --> 00:38:48,160
Speaker 2: the say I got growing up because I was bad,

857
00:38:48,719 --> 00:38:52,520
Speaker 2: and it's bad. My seven year old already already try

858
00:38:52,560 --> 00:38:55,920
Speaker 2: to exactly it ain't myke y'all will be like, well

859
00:38:56,000 --> 00:38:57,799
Speaker 2: resist and then I'm like do I have to beat

860
00:38:57,800 --> 00:38:59,960
Speaker 2: the ship and then I'll go to jail.

861
00:39:00,400 --> 00:39:02,600
Speaker 4: So I just it just triggers me in a way

862
00:39:02,640 --> 00:39:04,960
Speaker 4: that I'm like, you're not even that big and you should.

863
00:39:04,760 --> 00:39:07,680
Speaker 1: Keep out to that girl. Yeah, that's how it was

864
00:39:07,760 --> 00:39:07,960
Speaker 1: for me.

865
00:39:08,040 --> 00:39:09,839
Speaker 2: I used to get so many whoopings and I still

866
00:39:09,880 --> 00:39:12,480
Speaker 2: would go back to school and be bad. It's fucked

867
00:39:12,520 --> 00:39:14,560
Speaker 2: like you didn't stop anything. I feel like it changes

868
00:39:14,640 --> 00:39:17,279
Speaker 2: things in that moment while you getting a whoopings because

869
00:39:17,280 --> 00:39:17,879
Speaker 2: that ship hurts.

870
00:39:17,960 --> 00:39:19,359
Speaker 1: You're like, oh no, I'm not gonna do it again.

871
00:39:19,400 --> 00:39:19,840
Speaker 1: But then when it.

872
00:39:19,880 --> 00:39:22,840
Speaker 2: Were off, you like see me, and I just realized

873
00:39:22,880 --> 00:39:24,520
Speaker 2: how bad I was. So, Like, we had a two

874
00:39:24,600 --> 00:39:26,080
Speaker 2: story house. It was a really big house, and we

875
00:39:26,160 --> 00:39:29,399
Speaker 2: had intercoms. So like my mom like when she needed

876
00:39:29,440 --> 00:39:30,960
Speaker 2: us to come downstairs and when she needed like, we

877
00:39:31,000 --> 00:39:36,040
Speaker 2: would talk on the intercoms. So I remember one time, okay,

878
00:39:37,360 --> 00:39:41,560
Speaker 2: I my house was Yeah, my house was the house

879
00:39:41,600 --> 00:39:43,600
Speaker 2: and speaking of I do have to ask you something again.

880
00:39:43,800 --> 00:39:46,279
Speaker 2: But anyway, so we was talking on the intercoms and

881
00:39:46,400 --> 00:39:47,920
Speaker 2: every time she would spank me, I would get on

882
00:39:47,960 --> 00:39:48,960
Speaker 2: the intercom and cry.

883
00:39:48,960 --> 00:39:55,960
Speaker 1: Like here shut. She would turn it down like I

884
00:39:56,080 --> 00:39:58,560
Speaker 1: used to get on the intercoms and cry literally like

885
00:39:58,880 --> 00:39:59,520
Speaker 1: because I want to.

886
00:40:00,440 --> 00:40:03,319
Speaker 2: So I am very dramatic. Okay, so let me ask

887
00:40:03,360 --> 00:40:05,160
Speaker 2: you this before we move on. I'm sorry, y'all. I've

888
00:40:05,160 --> 00:40:06,279
Speaker 2: been waiting for this long time.

889
00:40:06,400 --> 00:40:06,640
Speaker 1: Okay.

890
00:40:06,719 --> 00:40:09,160
Speaker 2: So you did say that your daughter goes to in

891
00:40:09,880 --> 00:40:13,920
Speaker 2: all Caucasian school. Does your daughter go to like or

892
00:40:14,040 --> 00:40:16,279
Speaker 2: is it like more mixed? Well, her school is a

893
00:40:16,280 --> 00:40:19,480
Speaker 2: little is more diverse, Oka, but it's very but it's

894
00:40:19,600 --> 00:40:22,239
Speaker 2: very Yeah, it's a very rich school, okay, because I

895
00:40:22,440 --> 00:40:24,799
Speaker 2: went to like an all white school growing up all

896
00:40:24,880 --> 00:40:26,680
Speaker 2: white neighbor Texas in Texas.

897
00:40:26,800 --> 00:40:29,160
Speaker 1: Yeah, I grew up in a very small town called Orange, Texas.

898
00:40:29,280 --> 00:40:33,040
Speaker 2: So I just felt like when I graduated high school

899
00:40:33,120 --> 00:40:35,120
Speaker 2: and I got to college and I started hanging around like,

900
00:40:35,200 --> 00:40:37,520
Speaker 2: you know, people that looked like me and dressed like

901
00:40:37,640 --> 00:40:40,120
Speaker 2: me and talk like me, I felt like I missed

902
00:40:40,160 --> 00:40:43,719
Speaker 2: out on so much, and I was very I kind

903
00:40:43,760 --> 00:40:45,520
Speaker 2: of was mad at my mom, like in my early

904
00:40:45,640 --> 00:40:48,560
Speaker 2: like from like eighteen to twenty twenty one, I was like, girl,

905
00:40:48,600 --> 00:40:48,920
Speaker 2: why you.

906
00:40:48,960 --> 00:40:49,719
Speaker 1: Made me go here?

907
00:40:50,040 --> 00:40:52,200
Speaker 2: It's little out here, Like I resented her for a

908
00:40:52,320 --> 00:40:55,000
Speaker 2: while because she felt like, you know, she was doing

909
00:40:55,080 --> 00:40:57,680
Speaker 2: better for me by like I guess, you know, putting

910
00:40:57,719 --> 00:40:59,920
Speaker 2: me at a better school. But I felt like I

911
00:41:00,080 --> 00:41:03,960
Speaker 2: missed out on so much. Like, so, do you feel

912
00:41:04,040 --> 00:41:08,719
Speaker 2: like she's in a better situation I she went to

913
00:41:08,840 --> 00:41:09,960
Speaker 2: she's at the school that I was at.

914
00:41:10,080 --> 00:41:11,279
Speaker 1: Okay, Okay, when I was.

915
00:41:11,320 --> 00:41:14,560
Speaker 4: In elementary school. So it's kind of like damn ancient change.

916
00:41:15,280 --> 00:41:18,080
Speaker 4: But also both my parents went to HBCUs and so

917
00:41:18,960 --> 00:41:20,880
Speaker 4: all growing up. First of all, I didn't see like,

918
00:41:20,960 --> 00:41:22,880
Speaker 4: not even even in school, and outside of school, there

919
00:41:22,920 --> 00:41:24,719
Speaker 4: weren't many black people. We were from We're both from

920
00:41:24,760 --> 00:41:26,920
Speaker 4: the valley, so I was always like a sprinkle of

921
00:41:27,000 --> 00:41:29,200
Speaker 4: black people. And I always saw my parents like had

922
00:41:29,280 --> 00:41:30,719
Speaker 4: nod the people in the mall that were black.

923
00:41:31,560 --> 00:41:31,759
Speaker 1: Yeah.

924
00:41:31,960 --> 00:41:33,239
Speaker 5: So like I just grew up smiling at all the

925
00:41:33,239 --> 00:41:33,680
Speaker 5: black people.

926
00:41:34,680 --> 00:41:36,879
Speaker 2: Yeah. But then I went to Clark because I knew.

927
00:41:36,920 --> 00:41:38,120
Speaker 2: I was like I told even.

928
00:41:40,480 --> 00:41:42,520
Speaker 4: I already knew what was happening. And my aunt usaid

929
00:41:42,560 --> 00:41:44,200
Speaker 4: tell me like, bitch, okay, wait you get out of there.

930
00:41:44,200 --> 00:41:44,799
Speaker 1: And I was like me too.

931
00:41:45,080 --> 00:41:46,400
Speaker 4: And I was at I was in high school, like

932
00:41:46,400 --> 00:41:48,880
Speaker 4: I'm about to go to a black school after this period,

933
00:41:49,000 --> 00:41:50,560
Speaker 4: You're like looking at me crazy. I was like caro,

934
00:41:50,600 --> 00:41:52,160
Speaker 4: I wait to get the fuck out of here. But

935
00:41:52,280 --> 00:41:54,080
Speaker 4: when I got to Atlanta and I got to Clark,

936
00:41:54,120 --> 00:41:57,520
Speaker 4: I was like fucking culture shocked than the motherfucker.

937
00:41:57,640 --> 00:41:59,640
Speaker 1: I was like how I was. I was on the

938
00:41:59,680 --> 00:42:02,959
Speaker 1: phone like they're all type dancing, listening to music loud.

939
00:42:03,000 --> 00:42:04,879
Speaker 2: I don't know what they're doing out there.

940
00:42:05,160 --> 00:42:07,640
Speaker 1: I don't know why. I don't know. So I was

941
00:42:08,239 --> 00:42:10,160
Speaker 1: my see, I was opposite. I was like, I'm going

942
00:42:10,200 --> 00:42:12,319
Speaker 1: to TSU and I was like I was.

943
00:42:12,400 --> 00:42:14,160
Speaker 2: Happy girl, What is she doing?

944
00:42:14,200 --> 00:42:16,720
Speaker 5: I was like, yeah, I was happier than a motherfucker.

945
00:42:16,840 --> 00:42:18,440
Speaker 4: And I wild out as soon as I got to

946
00:42:18,480 --> 00:42:20,120
Speaker 4: Atlanta because I was like, niggas were talking to me.

947
00:42:20,160 --> 00:42:21,839
Speaker 1: I was like, you said, I'm fine. Yeah, That's why

948
00:42:21,920 --> 00:42:24,120
Speaker 1: I was like, I'm the finest girl in the school.

949
00:42:24,320 --> 00:42:26,120
Speaker 1: That's how I used to feel like.

950
00:42:26,280 --> 00:42:29,920
Speaker 2: It's black schools my whole life until I got to

951
00:42:30,040 --> 00:42:32,319
Speaker 2: high school. I went to private school, though. I went

952
00:42:32,360 --> 00:42:34,520
Speaker 2: to a private all black school from like three K

953
00:42:34,680 --> 00:42:37,400
Speaker 2: through eighth grade, right and then once I got to

954
00:42:37,480 --> 00:42:38,880
Speaker 2: high school, I was like, I have to go to

955
00:42:38,960 --> 00:42:40,880
Speaker 2: a diverse school. So I went to public school and

956
00:42:41,000 --> 00:42:43,000
Speaker 2: my school was really really diverse, and it was a

957
00:42:43,040 --> 00:42:45,040
Speaker 2: culture shock for me. But I feel like it's important

958
00:42:45,480 --> 00:42:47,560
Speaker 2: because I feel like I grew up around all black people.

959
00:42:47,920 --> 00:42:49,840
Speaker 1: So I went to all white schools.

960
00:42:49,920 --> 00:42:53,360
Speaker 2: I went to a very, very white like private school

961
00:42:53,880 --> 00:42:56,200
Speaker 2: and the moment I remember it was an all girls,

962
00:42:56,760 --> 00:42:58,080
Speaker 2: it was an all girls school and they were all

963
00:42:58,120 --> 00:43:00,759
Speaker 2: white and we I don't know, I think that we

964
00:43:00,840 --> 00:43:03,720
Speaker 2: got invited to like this. It's like it's called Loyola

965
00:43:04,560 --> 00:43:06,320
Speaker 2: and to all boys school and there's actually like a

966
00:43:06,400 --> 00:43:09,440
Speaker 2: lot more black kids there and they they bust in

967
00:43:09,480 --> 00:43:11,000
Speaker 2: a lot of the inner city kids. So there's a

968
00:43:11,000 --> 00:43:12,880
Speaker 2: lot of niggles from Inglewood, South Central that went to

969
00:43:12,920 --> 00:43:15,800
Speaker 2: that school. And the moment I met them, it was

970
00:43:16,040 --> 00:43:20,200
Speaker 2: I was like, I was having my mom drive me

971
00:43:20,239 --> 00:43:22,920
Speaker 2: all the way to Lax to Inglewood every weekend.

972
00:43:23,480 --> 00:43:23,680
Speaker 1: I have.

973
00:43:23,880 --> 00:43:26,279
Speaker 2: I literally didn't have any friends, like I would hang

974
00:43:26,320 --> 00:43:28,120
Speaker 2: out in the valley, but I was going to la

975
00:43:28,200 --> 00:43:30,759
Speaker 2: as much as I could because I saw I was like,

976
00:43:30,840 --> 00:43:31,239
Speaker 2: oh my god.

977
00:43:31,280 --> 00:43:35,480
Speaker 1: Wait. Because also because just like you, I had a

978
00:43:35,560 --> 00:43:38,560
Speaker 1: mature body and it wasn't popular at my school and

979
00:43:38,719 --> 00:43:41,440
Speaker 1: I was like, no one's flirting with me. Yeah, these

980
00:43:41,480 --> 00:43:43,960
Speaker 1: boys were like, oh, she's fine. Right.

981
00:43:45,000 --> 00:43:49,719
Speaker 2: So I definitely like gravitated towards that and I but

982
00:43:49,800 --> 00:43:51,920
Speaker 2: I had to fight to get there, right, you know,

983
00:43:52,040 --> 00:43:53,560
Speaker 2: because like she said, we grew up in a very

984
00:43:53,600 --> 00:43:55,359
Speaker 2: We grew up in verry white spaces. And that's why

985
00:43:55,440 --> 00:43:58,120
Speaker 2: even with my daughter, I knew that if she was

986
00:43:58,200 --> 00:43:59,640
Speaker 2: going to go to private school, I had to find

987
00:43:59,680 --> 00:44:03,160
Speaker 2: them diverse private school I could find, and I did,

988
00:44:03,239 --> 00:44:07,160
Speaker 2: and I paid top dollar for that. But there's black kids.

989
00:44:07,320 --> 00:44:09,920
Speaker 2: There's so many black kids in her in her class,

990
00:44:10,239 --> 00:44:13,160
Speaker 2: more than I've ever seen in a privacy and last

991
00:44:13,239 --> 00:44:16,520
Speaker 2: year teacher was black. Yeah, and so that was really

992
00:44:16,600 --> 00:44:18,800
Speaker 2: important to me because I know how it affected me.

993
00:44:19,480 --> 00:44:22,280
Speaker 2: I had body issues because of it, because I felt fat,

994
00:44:22,400 --> 00:44:26,040
Speaker 2: I felt big, like I just felt undesirable. I felt

995
00:44:26,120 --> 00:44:28,680
Speaker 2: like why why can't There's just there was just a difference.

996
00:44:28,719 --> 00:44:30,959
Speaker 2: So I couldn't even explain. And I couldn't even explain

997
00:44:30,960 --> 00:44:32,720
Speaker 2: it to my mother because she's not black exactly.

998
00:44:32,840 --> 00:44:36,439
Speaker 1: Oh your mom's not black, She's Mexican. Okay, Okay. I thought, well, see,

999
00:44:36,440 --> 00:44:38,400
Speaker 1: I don't like to try to identify people because you know,

1000
00:44:38,400 --> 00:44:39,239
Speaker 1: i'd be Google is stough.

1001
00:44:39,280 --> 00:44:47,400
Speaker 2: So you know, fine, girl, I found a lot. But

1002
00:44:47,600 --> 00:44:50,759
Speaker 2: y'all know I am not missing. I am but off camera.

1003
00:44:51,160 --> 00:44:52,719
Speaker 2: But when I saw your mom, I was like, oh,

1004
00:44:52,800 --> 00:44:53,239
Speaker 2: this is her mom.

1005
00:44:53,239 --> 00:44:54,920
Speaker 1: And I was like, oh she she did.

1006
00:44:56,080 --> 00:44:59,279
Speaker 2: Oh I got the clicking. But I was like, okay,

1007
00:44:59,320 --> 00:45:00,839
Speaker 2: I don't know if he I'm mom is, but your

1008
00:45:00,880 --> 00:45:04,799
Speaker 2: mom is Mexican. Okay, my dad black? Okay, your dad

1009
00:45:04,880 --> 00:45:07,319
Speaker 2: is black. Okay, Okay, got you. But I didn't grow

1010
00:45:07,400 --> 00:45:10,120
Speaker 2: up with him, so I mean I had doses of him,

1011
00:45:10,800 --> 00:45:14,040
Speaker 2: but like, yeah, so I really had to I had

1012
00:45:14,080 --> 00:45:14,839
Speaker 2: to find my way.

1013
00:45:14,920 --> 00:45:17,520
Speaker 1: I had to find figure it out myself. She didn't.

1014
00:45:17,719 --> 00:45:20,360
Speaker 1: She didn't have the answers for me right exactly, and.

1015
00:45:20,480 --> 00:45:22,480
Speaker 2: And like and like you, she thought she was doing

1016
00:45:22,520 --> 00:45:24,919
Speaker 2: me such a service right, bringing me to the best

1017
00:45:24,920 --> 00:45:26,600
Speaker 2: schools and providing the best lifestyle.

1018
00:45:26,640 --> 00:45:28,239
Speaker 1: And she did, and granted she really did.

1019
00:45:28,719 --> 00:45:31,360
Speaker 2: However, there were definitely times where there's definitely things that

1020
00:45:31,400 --> 00:45:33,359
Speaker 2: I've had to work through as an adult where I'm like, damn,

1021
00:45:33,520 --> 00:45:35,960
Speaker 2: like I'm like this because I didn't see myself right.

1022
00:45:36,080 --> 00:45:39,120
Speaker 2: And so now having a daughter who is is a

1023
00:45:39,200 --> 00:45:41,120
Speaker 2: black child, she's darker than me, you know what I mean,

1024
00:45:41,200 --> 00:45:43,200
Speaker 2: I'm like, she has to see herself.

1025
00:45:43,320 --> 00:45:45,239
Speaker 1: She has I don't want that for her.

1026
00:45:45,560 --> 00:45:47,920
Speaker 2: I really need her to see herself and be empowered

1027
00:45:48,000 --> 00:45:51,359
Speaker 2: by her hair, by her melanie all the shape right

1028
00:45:51,520 --> 00:45:52,600
Speaker 2: now and know those things.

1029
00:45:53,160 --> 00:45:55,800
Speaker 1: And yeah, that's that's really really important.

1030
00:45:55,400 --> 00:45:57,239
Speaker 2: To me, because I mean I feel like with me,

1031
00:45:57,680 --> 00:45:59,839
Speaker 2: like I said, I went to all white school till

1032
00:45:59,840 --> 00:46:03,120
Speaker 2: I graduated. I moved to Houston, I started having you know,

1033
00:46:03,280 --> 00:46:05,120
Speaker 2: like I started hanging out you know with like black

1034
00:46:05,239 --> 00:46:07,959
Speaker 2: my black friends and things like that. But I still

1035
00:46:08,080 --> 00:46:09,759
Speaker 2: felt like I was out of place because I didn't

1036
00:46:09,800 --> 00:46:12,520
Speaker 2: know how to act honestly, like it really was, because

1037
00:46:12,600 --> 00:46:14,600
Speaker 2: like when I would I had one, I had like

1038
00:46:14,719 --> 00:46:16,280
Speaker 2: maybe two or three friends, like my friend.

1039
00:46:16,200 --> 00:46:17,040
Speaker 1: Gin shout out to Gin.

1040
00:46:17,160 --> 00:46:19,200
Speaker 2: She never made me feel like I was less than

1041
00:46:19,360 --> 00:46:20,719
Speaker 2: I was out of place because there was a lot

1042
00:46:20,760 --> 00:46:23,279
Speaker 2: of times sometimes black people make me feel like, girl,

1043
00:46:23,360 --> 00:46:25,480
Speaker 2: where where the fuck are you from? Like you don't

1044
00:46:25,480 --> 00:46:26,799
Speaker 2: need to be around us, like they used to call

1045
00:46:26,880 --> 00:46:28,760
Speaker 2: me aureo, Like really.

1046
00:46:28,719 --> 00:46:35,560
Speaker 1: Yes, it was very like, yeah, why you talk like

1047
00:46:35,680 --> 00:46:37,600
Speaker 1: that English? Yeah that's what I'm saying.

1048
00:46:37,640 --> 00:46:39,200
Speaker 2: So when I met when I met her, I actually

1049
00:46:39,239 --> 00:46:41,319
Speaker 2: met her in high school, but like we started hanging

1050
00:46:41,360 --> 00:46:43,960
Speaker 2: out and I felt I felt good. But it's like

1051
00:46:44,000 --> 00:46:47,680
Speaker 2: when I met Drea, it was like cause she she's

1052
00:46:47,880 --> 00:46:51,200
Speaker 2: very but she also was just like instead of her

1053
00:46:51,239 --> 00:46:53,040
Speaker 2: being like you don't know what this is or you're

1054
00:46:53,040 --> 00:46:55,120
Speaker 2: a weirdo. This is what you listened to, she was like, oh, bitch,

1055
00:46:55,160 --> 00:47:00,200
Speaker 2: I used to listen to that too. Maybe I to

1056
00:47:00,239 --> 00:47:01,799
Speaker 2: wear these bad like I didn't have a lot of money,

1057
00:47:01,800 --> 00:47:03,879
Speaker 2: I used to wear like these badass She was like, bitch,

1058
00:47:04,160 --> 00:47:06,400
Speaker 2: put your hair up in a bun and slick your edges.

1059
00:47:06,640 --> 00:47:08,440
Speaker 2: And she didn't make me feel like bad about she

1060
00:47:08,520 --> 00:47:10,279
Speaker 2: was like, bitch, take this off your head and do

1061
00:47:10,400 --> 00:47:13,600
Speaker 2: your fucking hair. You have beautiful hair. Like the first

1062
00:47:13,640 --> 00:47:15,759
Speaker 2: time I really heard somebody really be like, your hair

1063
00:47:15,840 --> 00:47:18,440
Speaker 2: is fucking fire was when I moved to Atlanta, you

1064
00:47:18,480 --> 00:47:20,600
Speaker 2: know what I'm saying. So I was just like, okay,

1065
00:47:20,880 --> 00:47:23,000
Speaker 2: like maybe I have a little fun, but that's what

1066
00:47:23,120 --> 00:47:25,600
Speaker 2: it's important to have friends around you that look like

1067
00:47:25,719 --> 00:47:27,880
Speaker 2: you and that know how to tell you, like I

1068
00:47:28,000 --> 00:47:30,160
Speaker 2: know how to do your hair, like let me help you. Yeah,

1069
00:47:30,200 --> 00:47:31,560
Speaker 2: I mean, and I feel like, I don't know, I'm

1070
00:47:31,560 --> 00:47:33,279
Speaker 2: a little different because like I've even had some of

1071
00:47:33,360 --> 00:47:34,960
Speaker 2: my friends be like, you'll be trying to act like

1072
00:47:35,000 --> 00:47:37,960
Speaker 2: you struggled. You literally went to private school your whole life,

1073
00:47:38,000 --> 00:47:41,280
Speaker 2: even though it was a black school, right, a private school,

1074
00:47:41,320 --> 00:47:42,520
Speaker 2: like your parents was paying.

1075
00:47:42,320 --> 00:47:43,560
Speaker 1: To wishing for you to go to school.

1076
00:47:43,880 --> 00:47:45,799
Speaker 2: But I feel like I was just exposed to different things,

1077
00:47:45,840 --> 00:47:47,600
Speaker 2: Like I definitely in middle school and she I used

1078
00:47:47,600 --> 00:47:48,240
Speaker 2: to be listening.

1079
00:47:48,000 --> 00:47:52,239
Speaker 1: To you now I ain't know.

1080
00:47:52,840 --> 00:47:55,480
Speaker 2: Well, yeah, so when me ax met, I think it

1081
00:47:55,560 --> 00:47:58,560
Speaker 2: was a lot of stuff about me that she wasn't expected. Right,

1082
00:47:58,719 --> 00:48:02,279
Speaker 2: it definitely was, But I don't know, like I think

1083
00:48:02,360 --> 00:48:04,600
Speaker 2: it does that the kind of the same thing for

1084
00:48:04,680 --> 00:48:07,399
Speaker 2: people who go to black schools as it does for y'all.

1085
00:48:07,400 --> 00:48:10,120
Speaker 2: Because when I went to my high school, I definitely

1086
00:48:10,200 --> 00:48:12,680
Speaker 2: felt like out of place, Like it was crazy and

1087
00:48:12,760 --> 00:48:14,759
Speaker 2: it was awkward, and I feel like my parents thought

1088
00:48:14,800 --> 00:48:17,520
Speaker 2: that they were like doing a good thing by keeping

1089
00:48:17,560 --> 00:48:19,799
Speaker 2: me around my people. But then when I finally got

1090
00:48:19,840 --> 00:48:21,680
Speaker 2: to high school and I was around white people more

1091
00:48:22,239 --> 00:48:26,239
Speaker 2: in different cultures like Asian people and Latino people, it

1092
00:48:26,400 --> 00:48:28,200
Speaker 2: was really like a culture shop because it was some

1093
00:48:28,280 --> 00:48:30,160
Speaker 2: ship I was not used to, and I felt very

1094
00:48:30,239 --> 00:48:33,080
Speaker 2: much out of place. Because also the high school that

1095
00:48:33,160 --> 00:48:35,440
Speaker 2: I went to in Houston is in River Oaks, which

1096
00:48:35,480 --> 00:48:38,000
Speaker 2: is like the richest neighborhood in the fucking city.

1097
00:48:38,560 --> 00:48:41,320
Speaker 1: So I just, I don't know, it was crazy. You

1098
00:48:41,360 --> 00:48:45,239
Speaker 1: said that harsh in the fucking city. You mean, I'm

1099
00:48:49,360 --> 00:48:53,520
Speaker 1: I'm ski you know what I'm thinking about.

1100
00:48:53,560 --> 00:48:55,960
Speaker 2: I'm thinking about all of us as like teenagers, like

1101
00:48:56,600 --> 00:49:01,239
Speaker 2: navigating these spaces. It's like, it's scary to be that young,

1102
00:49:02,000 --> 00:49:05,480
Speaker 2: that young, And I'm telling you I say that all

1103
00:49:05,520 --> 00:49:07,640
Speaker 2: the time, I was like, I cannot believe I was

1104
00:49:07,800 --> 00:49:11,360
Speaker 2: that young, dealing with like identity issues and not feeling

1105
00:49:11,520 --> 00:49:14,080
Speaker 2: wanted And because that's the age that you're supposed to

1106
00:49:14,120 --> 00:49:16,760
Speaker 2: get love and things are supposed to be easy.

1107
00:49:17,000 --> 00:49:19,319
Speaker 1: It's just crazy to me, it's so true.

1108
00:49:19,360 --> 00:49:21,319
Speaker 4: And you know, even you guys asking me this right now,

1109
00:49:21,400 --> 00:49:23,840
Speaker 4: it's like it's such a norm for me. And like

1110
00:49:23,880 --> 00:49:25,400
Speaker 4: I said, my daughter goes to the school I went

1111
00:49:25,440 --> 00:49:27,200
Speaker 4: to and I and of course I'm like, your hair

1112
00:49:27,280 --> 00:49:29,279
Speaker 4: is beautiful, You're beautiful, but like, and you know, we

1113
00:49:29,360 --> 00:49:31,719
Speaker 4: have black conversations in our household because we can't help it.

1114
00:49:31,800 --> 00:49:33,759
Speaker 4: You know, lots of shit happens, and I have to

1115
00:49:33,800 --> 00:49:36,399
Speaker 4: be real about it. But I remember, like very young,

1116
00:49:36,520 --> 00:49:39,960
Speaker 4: having like this realization that I was different than all

1117
00:49:40,040 --> 00:49:41,680
Speaker 4: my friends, Like I couldn't jump in the pool.

1118
00:49:41,680 --> 00:49:42,600
Speaker 5: My hair is about to puff up.

1119
00:49:42,600 --> 00:49:44,080
Speaker 4: Oh fact, you know what I'm saying, like wanting to

1120
00:49:44,120 --> 00:49:46,520
Speaker 4: get my hair relaxed, Like fuck no, my mom's like

1121
00:49:46,520 --> 00:49:48,960
Speaker 4: she could get a relax their like and like you know,

1122
00:49:49,080 --> 00:49:53,560
Speaker 4: all these like these things that I didn't recognize affected me.

1123
00:49:53,640 --> 00:49:55,759
Speaker 4: And luckily, like I have parents who are super pro black,

1124
00:49:55,840 --> 00:49:57,160
Speaker 4: Like my middle name is Asada and.

1125
00:49:57,200 --> 00:50:00,880
Speaker 6: Shit like, no, that's right, I'm a taco Like no,

1126
00:50:01,080 --> 00:50:07,160
Speaker 6: not that baby, I'm like not like a black panther bitch,

1127
00:50:10,680 --> 00:50:12,400
Speaker 6: you know, having to answer that, like the all the

1128
00:50:12,440 --> 00:50:15,120
Speaker 6: black questions for your white friends and ship, and I

1129
00:50:15,680 --> 00:50:18,440
Speaker 6: just like, I I don't know how I'm going to

1130
00:50:19,080 --> 00:50:19,680
Speaker 6: fucking like.

1131
00:50:19,800 --> 00:50:21,640
Speaker 4: I mean, I do know I'm gonna help Luna through that,

1132
00:50:21,880 --> 00:50:24,920
Speaker 4: but also everything outside of our household is going to

1133
00:50:24,960 --> 00:50:26,960
Speaker 4: tell you that like white is more beautiful, that like

1134
00:50:27,080 --> 00:50:29,480
Speaker 4: everything that doesn't look like you was is this and that,

1135
00:50:29,640 --> 00:50:31,560
Speaker 4: and like we're gonna have to go through the struggles. Unluckily,

1136
00:50:32,080 --> 00:50:34,160
Speaker 4: even even when I met Erica, like me and Erica

1137
00:50:34,200 --> 00:50:36,719
Speaker 4: have only been friends, like what fucking seven years, eight years,

1138
00:50:36,840 --> 00:50:40,800
Speaker 4: seven years, and I didn't realize, like I've moved to

1139
00:50:40,840 --> 00:50:42,640
Speaker 4: Atlanta and got super black and then moved back with

1140
00:50:42,719 --> 00:50:44,560
Speaker 4: my white friends, and I was like, this is the

1141
00:50:44,600 --> 00:50:46,719
Speaker 4: whitest shit ever. You're like, what are you talking about?

1142
00:50:46,760 --> 00:50:47,800
Speaker 4: I was like, you guys, I was like, there's not

1143
00:50:47,880 --> 00:50:49,799
Speaker 4: one black person here but me. They're like, why did

1144
00:50:49,880 --> 00:50:53,680
Speaker 4: you even notice that? I'm like, I don't see color? Yeah, help,

1145
00:50:53,719 --> 00:50:56,440
Speaker 4: but I don't see color.

1146
00:50:57,640 --> 00:50:58,560
Speaker 1: I was, no, they don't.

1147
00:50:58,600 --> 00:51:01,799
Speaker 2: They don't have to, but yeah it should, like it's

1148
00:51:01,800 --> 00:51:04,520
Speaker 2: okay to recognize the differences and make people feel comfortable,

1149
00:51:04,600 --> 00:51:06,520
Speaker 2: like y'all keep saying, I don't see color, And then

1150
00:51:06,560 --> 00:51:09,120
Speaker 2: they rapping songs and saying nigg in front of me, bitch,

1151
00:51:09,160 --> 00:51:10,160
Speaker 2: you better see color.

1152
00:51:10,440 --> 00:51:13,160
Speaker 1: I'm sitting right here, like you know what I'm saying. Yeah.

1153
00:51:13,160 --> 00:51:15,000
Speaker 5: I think both experiences are very important.

1154
00:51:15,080 --> 00:51:15,920
Speaker 1: I know I can.

1155
00:51:16,080 --> 00:51:18,320
Speaker 4: I can, I can like adapt in a lot of

1156
00:51:18,400 --> 00:51:20,600
Speaker 4: situations because I've been around a lot of different type

1157
00:51:20,600 --> 00:51:22,800
Speaker 4: of people. But like, even in my adulthood, when I

1158
00:51:22,880 --> 00:51:25,600
Speaker 4: met Erica as an adult, I was like, oh god,

1159
00:51:28,200 --> 00:51:28,719
Speaker 4: that's how it was.

1160
00:51:28,760 --> 00:51:29,759
Speaker 1: How I met my friend Jean.

1161
00:51:30,040 --> 00:51:31,120
Speaker 4: Even when I first met her, I'm like, I know

1162
00:51:31,239 --> 00:51:32,880
Speaker 4: she's mixed. Can I say certain things from her?

1163
00:51:33,000 --> 00:51:33,239
Speaker 2: And like?

1164
00:51:34,120 --> 00:51:35,839
Speaker 5: But then I'm like, Okay, she's okay, she's black.

1165
00:51:37,880 --> 00:51:40,040
Speaker 2: I thought you were one hundred percent. So you know,

1166
00:51:40,080 --> 00:51:41,719
Speaker 2: I'll google both of y'alls. I'm black as fuck.

1167
00:51:42,080 --> 00:51:46,680
Speaker 1: I don't everybody. I said, hold on, now she tricked me.

1168
00:51:47,160 --> 00:51:47,880
Speaker 1: Now she tricked me.

1169
00:51:48,960 --> 00:51:50,520
Speaker 5: But you know, I think I think it's important.

1170
00:51:50,880 --> 00:51:52,880
Speaker 4: It's good to have these conversations and to know that

1171
00:51:52,960 --> 00:51:55,880
Speaker 4: we've all had different experiences. Maybe you started black, then

1172
00:51:55,920 --> 00:51:58,120
Speaker 4: you went diverse, maybe it's all white, it went black,

1173
00:51:58,480 --> 00:52:00,799
Speaker 4: but that we all have come here and that these

1174
00:52:00,880 --> 00:52:04,600
Speaker 4: conversations are necessary and these like sisterhoods are necessary because

1175
00:52:04,600 --> 00:52:07,440
Speaker 4: we do have a unique experience as black women. It's different,

1176
00:52:07,560 --> 00:52:09,360
Speaker 4: and it's very different, and we and and like, you know,

1177
00:52:09,480 --> 00:52:11,719
Speaker 4: let's not forget like the black woman is the most

1178
00:52:11,760 --> 00:52:15,400
Speaker 4: disrespected person in the world, and so it is important

1179
00:52:15,440 --> 00:52:17,320
Speaker 4: to see yourself. It's important to come together and have

1180
00:52:17,440 --> 00:52:20,400
Speaker 4: conversations like this to remember like we're bomb were beautiful,

1181
00:52:20,440 --> 00:52:21,120
Speaker 4: we're intelligent.

1182
00:52:21,239 --> 00:52:23,799
Speaker 5: You know, we're very the highest, the highest are.

1183
00:52:23,760 --> 00:52:24,480
Speaker 1: The salts of the earth.

1184
00:52:24,680 --> 00:52:26,440
Speaker 2: We are because a lot of times, even what we

1185
00:52:26,520 --> 00:52:27,839
Speaker 2: do for a living, I think a lot of people

1186
00:52:27,880 --> 00:52:29,640
Speaker 2: think it's just easy. It's easy to hook up a

1187
00:52:29,719 --> 00:52:32,640
Speaker 2: mic and be funny and be relatable and educate people

1188
00:52:32,760 --> 00:52:35,360
Speaker 2: like know this like to get to where y'all have gotten,

1189
00:52:35,640 --> 00:52:37,160
Speaker 2: and to get to where we have gotten, you have

1190
00:52:37,320 --> 00:52:39,799
Speaker 2: to be smart. You have to be a business woman.

1191
00:52:39,840 --> 00:52:42,080
Speaker 2: You have to walk in these rooms and let people

1192
00:52:42,120 --> 00:52:44,080
Speaker 2: know I'm not a joke. I'm about my money. Yes,

1193
00:52:44,160 --> 00:52:46,319
Speaker 2: I get on the camera and do it.

1194
00:52:47,920 --> 00:52:52,320
Speaker 1: And do it right. They always try to, like, you know,

1195
00:52:52,760 --> 00:52:54,640
Speaker 1: knock us down. So oh this is just no.

1196
00:52:54,840 --> 00:52:57,680
Speaker 2: This is especially when you're attractive in these spaces. They

1197
00:52:57,719 --> 00:52:59,440
Speaker 2: want to believe, oh you fuck somebody.

1198
00:52:59,280 --> 00:53:01,319
Speaker 1: To get here. The thing there's the thing is then

1199
00:53:01,440 --> 00:53:03,600
Speaker 1: do it. And I'm still gonna. I'm still gonna help you.

1200
00:53:03,800 --> 00:53:05,840
Speaker 2: I'm still gonna because like that's the thing too, is

1201
00:53:05,920 --> 00:53:07,920
Speaker 2: like we were we always are fed this crab in

1202
00:53:07,960 --> 00:53:11,400
Speaker 2: a barrel type of situation. Luckily, in this space of podcasting,

1203
00:53:11,600 --> 00:53:13,480
Speaker 2: we have a very blessed to like meet a lot

1204
00:53:13,520 --> 00:53:16,719
Speaker 2: of helpful women in the space. But that's not the

1205
00:53:16,800 --> 00:53:19,279
Speaker 2: norm and and a lot of it a lot of

1206
00:53:19,320 --> 00:53:21,719
Speaker 2: other places, and so people judge and they think, yeah,

1207
00:53:21,880 --> 00:53:23,600
Speaker 2: like yeah, you can sit down and be cute to

1208
00:53:23,680 --> 00:53:25,719
Speaker 2: do our makeup and talk and then we turn the

1209
00:53:25,760 --> 00:53:28,959
Speaker 2: camera off and then it's no big there's a whole

1210
00:53:29,040 --> 00:53:32,279
Speaker 2: marketing plan, but oh god, they don't talk about that.

1211
00:53:32,480 --> 00:53:35,440
Speaker 1: The marketing. I gotta come up with the ideas for

1212
00:53:35,520 --> 00:53:37,560
Speaker 1: the tour. I gotta come up with the merch ideas.

1213
00:53:37,600 --> 00:53:39,040
Speaker 2: I gotta come up and the tour got to be

1214
00:53:39,080 --> 00:53:42,799
Speaker 2: completely different from this they want to hold the same.

1215
00:53:44,440 --> 00:53:46,200
Speaker 1: And then you gotta do Patreon. You gotta come up

1216
00:53:46,200 --> 00:53:48,920
Speaker 1: with new concept. That Literally was thinking about this ship

1217
00:53:48,960 --> 00:53:49,400
Speaker 1: all the way here.

1218
00:53:49,400 --> 00:53:49,879
Speaker 2: I don't know why.

1219
00:53:49,920 --> 00:53:51,960
Speaker 4: Maybe God was giving me like an intuitive I was

1220
00:53:52,080 --> 00:53:53,719
Speaker 4: like thinking about this I don't know why. I was like,

1221
00:53:53,760 --> 00:53:55,400
Speaker 4: no one's challenging me. I was like, we are so

1222
00:53:55,600 --> 00:53:59,000
Speaker 4: fucking smart. I was like, black women are so smart.

1223
00:53:59,000 --> 00:53:59,359
Speaker 2: What the fun?

1224
00:53:59,480 --> 00:54:00,319
Speaker 5: I was like, we are smart.

1225
00:54:00,520 --> 00:54:05,040
Speaker 2: You're not tastemakers. Nothing is popping unless black women like it.

1226
00:54:05,600 --> 00:54:05,920
Speaker 1: Nothing.

1227
00:54:06,480 --> 00:54:08,160
Speaker 2: I say that all the time. We are literally the

1228
00:54:08,280 --> 00:54:11,360
Speaker 2: taste makers. If black women like it, it's gonna go

1229
00:54:11,600 --> 00:54:14,640
Speaker 2: crazy when I think about something like look a out,

1230
00:54:14,680 --> 00:54:17,480
Speaker 2: something simple like banana powder. When all like Kim Kardashian

1231
00:54:17,560 --> 00:54:20,440
Speaker 2: posted banana powder, then the black women started doing videos

1232
00:54:20,480 --> 00:54:22,520
Speaker 2: on it to how to make it link everybody want

1233
00:54:22,520 --> 00:54:25,000
Speaker 2: to buy banana you know what I'm saying.

1234
00:54:25,080 --> 00:54:27,000
Speaker 1: But it was It wasn't because Kim was using it.

1235
00:54:27,120 --> 00:54:29,239
Speaker 2: Was because you saw how other black women were using

1236
00:54:29,280 --> 00:54:32,239
Speaker 2: it on our darker skin everything. I don't care what

1237
00:54:32,400 --> 00:54:35,320
Speaker 2: the fuck it is. When black women start doing something

1238
00:54:35,760 --> 00:54:36,400
Speaker 2: you want to do it.

1239
00:54:36,480 --> 00:54:39,200
Speaker 1: We carrate this shit. We we curate everything. What's up,

1240
00:54:39,280 --> 00:54:41,960
Speaker 1: y'all is your girl XP and it's Sugarls Ray and

1241
00:54:42,040 --> 00:54:42,319
Speaker 1: the call.

1242
00:54:42,680 --> 00:54:44,800
Speaker 2: Y'all know it's hot out side, so it's time to

1243
00:54:44,840 --> 00:54:45,719
Speaker 2: get summertime.

1244
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Speaker 1: Fine, Yes, it is.

1245
00:54:47,680 --> 00:54:51,320
Speaker 2: In fact, they're delivers one hundred percent never frozen prepared

1246
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Speaker 2: meals to your door steps so you don't have to

1247
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Speaker 2: cook anything.

1248
00:54:54,640 --> 00:54:58,600
Speaker 1: Yes, they heat up in two minutes, much quicker than delivery.

1249
00:54:58,880 --> 00:55:01,840
Speaker 2: And they have all your meal options and preferences that

1250
00:55:01,960 --> 00:55:02,279
Speaker 2: you want.

1251
00:55:02,360 --> 00:55:04,800
Speaker 1: So if you want vegan, veggie.

1252
00:55:04,719 --> 00:55:09,560
Speaker 2: Keto, lo calorie, cold press, juices, smoothies, whatever you want, they.

1253
00:55:09,520 --> 00:55:10,560
Speaker 1: Have the options for you.

1254
00:55:10,920 --> 00:55:12,480
Speaker 2: Yes, And you know, I'm trying to lose a little

1255
00:55:12,520 --> 00:55:14,799
Speaker 2: bit of way before we start that going on tour.

1256
00:55:15,320 --> 00:55:18,040
Speaker 2: So recently this week I made the Peruvian shrimp Bowl

1257
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Speaker 2: seventy five dot com slash poor Minds one twenty. Thinking

1263
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Speaker 2: about y'all, because I know that's a lot period.

1264
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Speaker 1: Okay, So we're gonna move on, and now we're gonna get.

1265
00:55:47,760 --> 00:55:54,080
Speaker 2: Into the Bay Bowl by the Bowl by bow Bowl.

1266
00:55:54,880 --> 00:56:05,480
Speaker 1: All right, I'm gonna be saying that Egyptian period.

1267
00:56:06,160 --> 00:56:08,520
Speaker 2: So we wanted to talk about how to have a

1268
00:56:08,640 --> 00:56:12,640
Speaker 2: sex life with children, because I know that a lot

1269
00:56:12,719 --> 00:56:15,480
Speaker 2: of people that are married they say that, like it's

1270
00:56:15,600 --> 00:56:18,239
Speaker 2: hard to have a six life when you have kids.

1271
00:56:18,760 --> 00:56:20,520
Speaker 1: So, y'all are single women? Well, I don't know if

1272
00:56:20,560 --> 00:56:22,719
Speaker 1: y'all I am okay?

1273
00:56:24,320 --> 00:56:26,600
Speaker 2: Was sing?

1274
00:56:28,400 --> 00:56:28,800
Speaker 1: I know you?

1275
00:56:28,920 --> 00:56:29,400
Speaker 2: I know you.

1276
00:56:30,360 --> 00:56:34,200
Speaker 1: You go from I'm single, I'm not singing, you're not well.

1277
00:56:34,480 --> 00:56:36,279
Speaker 1: I told you I did my research on both, y'all.

1278
00:56:36,320 --> 00:56:39,880
Speaker 1: Don't think you say don't she just got proposed to online?

1279
00:56:40,000 --> 00:56:40,640
Speaker 5: Can you stop?

1280
00:56:42,560 --> 00:56:47,239
Speaker 1: You know that you know that I told you. I look,

1281
00:56:47,719 --> 00:56:52,719
Speaker 1: I don't play. Did you say I did life? Not

1282
00:56:52,880 --> 00:56:55,560
Speaker 1: only on live? I only don't camera.

1283
00:56:56,920 --> 00:56:58,239
Speaker 5: There's not a ring on this finger.

1284
00:56:58,600 --> 00:57:02,160
Speaker 4: Okay, I have a really, I have a lover. We're

1285
00:57:02,239 --> 00:57:06,120
Speaker 4: non monogamous, so I y'all both freaky. We're freaking and free.

1286
00:57:06,600 --> 00:57:10,439
Speaker 4: We're freaking free people, freaky and free. I'm freaking and free.

1287
00:57:10,600 --> 00:57:13,560
Speaker 4: So yeah, I'm not single, but I am free.

1288
00:57:13,760 --> 00:57:15,560
Speaker 1: You love him down, I do love him. I know

1289
00:57:15,680 --> 00:57:18,120
Speaker 1: you love it. He is so amazing.

1290
00:57:18,520 --> 00:57:22,120
Speaker 4: He's cool as fuck and and he's chill as fuck,

1291
00:57:22,200 --> 00:57:24,120
Speaker 4: and we communicate really well and we have a lot

1292
00:57:24,160 --> 00:57:27,040
Speaker 4: of fun, and he's supportive and like, you know, real bigod.

1293
00:57:27,680 --> 00:57:30,240
Speaker 2: I know that he actually came on the show like

1294
00:57:30,280 --> 00:57:32,320
Speaker 2: a long time ago, and it was so crazy because

1295
00:57:32,360 --> 00:57:34,720
Speaker 2: I didn't know that he was like so good.

1296
00:57:35,360 --> 00:57:36,920
Speaker 1: I was like, oh, I'm nervous. I don't know if

1297
00:57:36,920 --> 00:57:37,320
Speaker 1: he's gonna do.

1298
00:57:37,440 --> 00:57:41,560
Speaker 2: He was like talk, I'll say, no, he's amazing, Like

1299
00:57:41,680 --> 00:57:44,080
Speaker 2: he is amazing character.

1300
00:57:44,400 --> 00:57:45,640
Speaker 1: I love that. I love that for you.

1301
00:57:45,800 --> 00:57:50,360
Speaker 2: I said, oh, this is some t I can't wait

1302
00:57:50,400 --> 00:57:54,040
Speaker 2: to see this Pad. Look y'all know, Pad is hot.

1303
00:57:55,960 --> 00:58:00,240
Speaker 2: I'm scared nothing, Nope, But I was okay. So because

1304
00:58:00,280 --> 00:58:03,880
Speaker 2: like I said, whenever my sister had her first child,

1305
00:58:04,200 --> 00:58:05,560
Speaker 2: I was like living in the house with her.

1306
00:58:05,720 --> 00:58:07,480
Speaker 1: So it's like sometimes you know, little Jackson need to

1307
00:58:07,520 --> 00:58:07,800
Speaker 1: come up.

1308
00:58:08,880 --> 00:58:11,240
Speaker 2: But I'm like thinking about, like what if, like you're

1309
00:58:11,360 --> 00:58:13,880
Speaker 2: just a single mom living by yourself, you have how

1310
00:58:13,920 --> 00:58:16,080
Speaker 2: do y'all have like a sex life and a dating life?

1311
00:58:16,520 --> 00:58:18,360
Speaker 2: Like if your boot or you have a boot that

1312
00:58:18,440 --> 00:58:20,080
Speaker 2: want to come over, your daughter's in the other room, Like,

1313
00:58:20,120 --> 00:58:21,280
Speaker 2: how do y'all have a sex life?

1314
00:58:23,840 --> 00:58:26,480
Speaker 1: Now? Do you got to people? Right?

1315
00:58:26,720 --> 00:58:28,400
Speaker 5: They're not fucking six months those.

1316
00:58:28,840 --> 00:58:31,200
Speaker 2: You know your child's sleeping habit, and you know what

1317
00:58:31,280 --> 00:58:33,240
Speaker 2: you're capable of in your house and you lock the door,

1318
00:58:33,280 --> 00:58:35,720
Speaker 2: your baby come in your bed every fucking few hours,

1319
00:58:35,760 --> 00:58:39,400
Speaker 2: and that's not the lifestyle for you. My baby knocks

1320
00:58:39,400 --> 00:58:41,800
Speaker 2: the fuck out and I could blast music and she

1321
00:58:41,920 --> 00:58:42,680
Speaker 2: ain't gonna wake up.

1322
00:58:43,080 --> 00:58:44,280
Speaker 1: So I'm not gonna lie.

1323
00:58:44,320 --> 00:58:46,280
Speaker 2: I have a confession. I'm not putting my mom's business

1324
00:58:46,320 --> 00:58:49,200
Speaker 2: out there. But when I was younger, like my mom

1325
00:58:49,320 --> 00:58:51,400
Speaker 2: was dating somebody, and like I knew when they would like,

1326
00:58:51,480 --> 00:58:53,400
Speaker 2: go to room, to her room for last time, you

1327
00:58:53,480 --> 00:58:54,200
Speaker 2: just like beat on the door.

1328
00:58:54,360 --> 00:58:55,680
Speaker 1: You are a hater.

1329
00:58:55,920 --> 00:58:59,320
Speaker 2: I was old, y'all know what I did, Like after

1330
00:58:59,400 --> 00:59:00,960
Speaker 2: I found out that she was in there having sex,

1331
00:59:01,040 --> 00:59:02,480
Speaker 2: I set up all my beanie babies.

1332
00:59:02,560 --> 00:59:04,480
Speaker 1: I was like, we have to have a meeting. How

1333
00:59:04,520 --> 00:59:07,560
Speaker 1: are we going to get rid of him? Have a

1334
00:59:07,640 --> 00:59:09,320
Speaker 1: meeting with the beanie baby? Yes, I was like, how

1335
00:59:09,360 --> 00:59:11,200
Speaker 1: are we gonna get rid of him? My sister used

1336
00:59:11,240 --> 00:59:12,200
Speaker 1: to lock him out the house.

1337
00:59:14,000 --> 00:59:16,720
Speaker 2: No, like we gave that nigga hell like, but he

1338
00:59:16,800 --> 00:59:21,240
Speaker 2: still loved my mama pussy good any I mean, But

1339
00:59:21,440 --> 00:59:23,160
Speaker 2: what I'm saying is, I just remember. That's why I

1340
00:59:23,200 --> 00:59:24,680
Speaker 2: wanted to talk about this because we.

1341
00:59:24,760 --> 00:59:25,640
Speaker 1: Got the same birthday.

1342
00:59:27,120 --> 00:59:28,920
Speaker 2: But I know, like me and my sister used to

1343
00:59:29,000 --> 00:59:31,520
Speaker 2: give him fucking hell just because we felt like, no,

1344
00:59:31,720 --> 00:59:34,120
Speaker 2: this is our mom, Like, you don't need to touch her,

1345
00:59:34,520 --> 00:59:36,280
Speaker 2: look at her like she is my mother.

1346
00:59:37,200 --> 00:59:40,400
Speaker 1: So are y'all's daughter's a little more understanding my.

1347
00:59:40,520 --> 00:59:45,040
Speaker 2: Daughter's territorial Okay, But it's all about the intro of

1348
00:59:45,320 --> 00:59:48,600
Speaker 2: the man and the energy he brings to her. If

1349
00:59:48,640 --> 00:59:52,720
Speaker 2: he tries to be too like possessive of me up front,

1350
00:59:53,240 --> 00:59:56,160
Speaker 2: it right, he got to make sure he's friends with

1351
00:59:56,240 --> 00:59:59,480
Speaker 2: her first, because she's the one. What you should do though, right,

1352
00:59:59,560 --> 01:00:02,560
Speaker 2: But niggas don't know a lot of times men they

1353
01:00:02,600 --> 01:00:05,200
Speaker 2: get it's a confusing space for them, like meeting a

1354
01:00:05,320 --> 01:00:08,840
Speaker 2: child liking their mother, like not knowing how to navigate,

1355
01:00:08,920 --> 01:00:11,520
Speaker 2: especially if you've never navigated that space before. Like, I

1356
01:00:11,600 --> 01:00:14,440
Speaker 2: don't envy that experience. I know that it's complicated and

1357
01:00:14,480 --> 01:00:17,720
Speaker 2: it's difficult. But I think for me as a single parent,

1358
01:00:17,880 --> 01:00:22,120
Speaker 2: like I lean heavily on my tribe and my community,

1359
01:00:22,400 --> 01:00:25,200
Speaker 2: my people, like can you take my baby tonight because

1360
01:00:25,280 --> 01:00:29,880
Speaker 2: I gotta do some or if I if they are unavailable,

1361
01:00:30,160 --> 01:00:32,520
Speaker 2: then I have to make sure my child is asleep

1362
01:00:32,600 --> 01:00:33,960
Speaker 2: and rested. And I know this is not a popular

1363
01:00:33,960 --> 01:00:38,240
Speaker 2: opinion because I talked about this on Shambooty's on Shambooty's podcast,

1364
01:00:38,600 --> 01:00:41,040
Speaker 2: and I talked about that, you know, but my baby

1365
01:00:41,080 --> 01:00:43,040
Speaker 2: goes to sleep, I do my thing if necessary, and

1366
01:00:43,080 --> 01:00:44,960
Speaker 2: they were like, I would never rap sex with my

1367
01:00:45,120 --> 01:00:51,440
Speaker 2: child in the house. I'm also, what the do you

1368
01:00:51,480 --> 01:00:56,360
Speaker 2: think married people do? Jess used to, yeah, exactly what

1369
01:00:57,920 --> 01:00:59,440
Speaker 2: Because I'm not married.

1370
01:01:00,080 --> 01:01:02,240
Speaker 5: I'm like, I need to sacrifice my my mind?

1371
01:01:02,280 --> 01:01:04,120
Speaker 1: How am I going to find how?

1372
01:01:04,320 --> 01:01:07,960
Speaker 2: How how do you how will I ever really nurture

1373
01:01:08,000 --> 01:01:11,680
Speaker 2: a relationship truly? Because as single parents, it is like

1374
01:01:11,840 --> 01:01:13,439
Speaker 2: there's a lot of it is on us. We don't

1375
01:01:13,520 --> 01:01:15,800
Speaker 2: have a lot of time to ourselves. How am I.

1376
01:01:15,800 --> 01:01:18,600
Speaker 1: Supposed to nurture that relationship if sometimes my child's gonna

1377
01:01:18,600 --> 01:01:19,960
Speaker 1: have to be there, right, I mean?

1378
01:01:20,080 --> 01:01:22,520
Speaker 4: And this also like goes to the conversation we just

1379
01:01:22,600 --> 01:01:25,760
Speaker 4: had about men, you know, the people assuming that men

1380
01:01:25,800 --> 01:01:29,200
Speaker 4: are predators and like there's this huge assumption about like women,

1381
01:01:29,920 --> 01:01:34,200
Speaker 4: single moms being targets. Targets are also just like oblivious,

1382
01:01:34,720 --> 01:01:36,160
Speaker 4: you know, Like I was like, oh, you know, mom,

1383
01:01:36,880 --> 01:01:38,840
Speaker 4: be careful. I'm like, what do you mean be careful?

1384
01:01:38,880 --> 01:01:40,040
Speaker 4: Like you think I'm must be? Like I'm gonna be

1385
01:01:40,040 --> 01:01:41,920
Speaker 4: back in eight hours, watch my child. I don't know

1386
01:01:42,360 --> 01:01:46,360
Speaker 4: right now, you'll all right, I'm gonna be back, like.

1387
01:01:48,160 --> 01:01:49,360
Speaker 1: You know, and people.

1388
01:01:53,120 --> 01:01:56,120
Speaker 4: There's a huge stigma because there's a huge unfortunately, there's

1389
01:01:56,160 --> 01:02:01,400
Speaker 4: a huge group of people who have been violated by parents, parents,

1390
01:02:02,040 --> 01:02:05,760
Speaker 4: boyfriends or girlfriends, right and both, but mostly boyfriends, uncle

1391
01:02:07,040 --> 01:02:08,840
Speaker 4: uncle Like, no, I don't, I don't, I don't do

1392
01:02:08,880 --> 01:02:11,720
Speaker 4: the uncle ship. Yeah, I tell my kid is smart.

1393
01:02:11,920 --> 01:02:14,000
Speaker 4: And you know, honestly, I'm my whole thing is like

1394
01:02:14,080 --> 01:02:14,640
Speaker 4: court us.

1395
01:02:15,960 --> 01:02:17,840
Speaker 1: If you don't fuck what you neither do I you know,

1396
01:02:18,920 --> 01:02:22,360
Speaker 1: has your daughter met the new Orlando? Yeah? Yeah, you

1397
01:02:22,440 --> 01:02:23,160
Speaker 1: said his name.

1398
01:02:25,000 --> 01:02:27,320
Speaker 2: Man for sure.

1399
01:02:27,840 --> 01:02:29,720
Speaker 1: And she kind of gives Orlando a hard time. I

1400
01:02:29,960 --> 01:02:36,880
Speaker 1: love it, she said, Orlando like a lot of these Okay,

1401
01:02:37,080 --> 01:02:38,000
Speaker 1: so she's met him.

1402
01:02:38,440 --> 01:02:40,960
Speaker 4: Yeah, yeah, And you know, we have very Me and

1403
01:02:41,080 --> 01:02:43,959
Speaker 4: my daughter are very close and we have very transparent conversations.

1404
01:02:44,360 --> 01:02:46,560
Speaker 4: And she's like, you know, me and Orlando don't have

1405
01:02:46,680 --> 01:02:49,960
Speaker 4: like a monogamous relationship, and it's it's it's a different

1406
01:02:50,040 --> 01:02:51,280
Speaker 4: space to navigate that with her.

1407
01:02:51,400 --> 01:02:53,640
Speaker 2: But I was on you know, he lives in a

1408
01:02:53,640 --> 01:02:55,320
Speaker 2: different states, so it's a lot of face times. She'll

1409
01:02:55,320 --> 01:02:56,440
Speaker 2: talk to him look at this, look at that.

1410
01:02:56,560 --> 01:02:56,800
Speaker 1: Whatever.

1411
01:02:56,960 --> 01:02:57,600
Speaker 5: But we're friends.

1412
01:02:58,000 --> 01:03:00,120
Speaker 4: And I think I was on Stories one time and

1413
01:03:00,200 --> 01:03:02,120
Speaker 4: he had like his hand around another girl and she

1414
01:03:02,200 --> 01:03:02,880
Speaker 4: saw the story of me.

1415
01:03:02,960 --> 01:03:03,480
Speaker 5: She's like, who's that.

1416
01:03:04,520 --> 01:03:06,600
Speaker 1: I was like, I don't know.

1417
01:03:06,720 --> 01:03:08,160
Speaker 5: She was like, I had that was your boyfriend.

1418
01:03:08,200 --> 01:03:08,760
Speaker 1: I was like it is.

1419
01:03:08,960 --> 01:03:10,200
Speaker 5: She was like, how many boyfriends do you have?

1420
01:03:10,440 --> 01:03:12,560
Speaker 4: I was like as many as I need and I want.

1421
01:03:14,000 --> 01:03:16,240
Speaker 4: She was like, oh, she's cute. I was like, yeah,

1422
01:03:16,320 --> 01:03:19,400
Speaker 4: she was cute. I just kept going, you know what

1423
01:03:19,480 --> 01:03:21,760
Speaker 4: I'm saying. But it's just like there's these little seeds

1424
01:03:21,800 --> 01:03:23,600
Speaker 4: you can plant and your children that are like you

1425
01:03:23,640 --> 01:03:26,360
Speaker 4: can make suit a big deal or you can't. But also, yeah,

1426
01:03:26,360 --> 01:03:29,000
Speaker 4: I've dated, and like always say this publicly, like I'm

1427
01:03:29,080 --> 01:03:31,680
Speaker 4: very God granted me the gift of being a single mom.

1428
01:03:31,760 --> 01:03:33,600
Speaker 1: You know, it didn't always look that way.

1429
01:03:33,760 --> 01:03:36,360
Speaker 4: It seemed like a sad thing, but in reality, I'm

1430
01:03:36,400 --> 01:03:37,960
Speaker 4: more myself, I'm more in touch, and I have the

1431
01:03:38,000 --> 01:03:40,240
Speaker 4: opportunity to drop my kid off and have life, which

1432
01:03:40,280 --> 01:03:43,200
Speaker 4: is very necessary for me right now. And I think,

1433
01:03:43,440 --> 01:03:46,520
Speaker 4: like I think it's important as women that we let

1434
01:03:46,600 --> 01:03:48,600
Speaker 4: our daughters know that you know, this is not a

1435
01:03:48,680 --> 01:03:54,240
Speaker 4: fairy tale. It takes some fucking bedding, right, you know,

1436
01:03:54,320 --> 01:03:55,920
Speaker 4: niggas don't just show up and be the one you

1437
01:03:55,960 --> 01:03:57,800
Speaker 4: know you gotta And then she'll get on me like

1438
01:03:57,840 --> 01:03:59,000
Speaker 4: what happened is sounds.

1439
01:03:58,680 --> 01:04:01,080
Speaker 1: That one his dog. I'd be like he gone and

1440
01:04:01,280 --> 01:04:01,720
Speaker 1: his dog?

1441
01:04:02,120 --> 01:04:04,760
Speaker 5: Like can I remember one.

1442
01:04:04,720 --> 01:04:06,640
Speaker 2: Time my mom had a guy and like she didn't

1443
01:04:06,680 --> 01:04:08,160
Speaker 2: really like him at all, but he used to cook

1444
01:04:08,200 --> 01:04:13,680
Speaker 2: his ass. He I remember, literally they had they had

1445
01:04:13,760 --> 01:04:16,120
Speaker 2: only dated for a short while for months.

1446
01:04:16,400 --> 01:04:18,200
Speaker 1: I was asking for him for years and literally like

1447
01:04:18,280 --> 01:04:19,919
Speaker 1: she called me like three years ago, like he died

1448
01:04:21,680 --> 01:04:24,080
Speaker 1: like the best beans ever. I said, Oh, I'm not

1449
01:04:24,320 --> 01:04:26,760
Speaker 1: David with the beans, nasty side.

1450
01:04:27,960 --> 01:04:34,880
Speaker 2: I love it, bro beans, black beans, beans, I love

1451
01:04:35,000 --> 01:04:37,800
Speaker 2: beings like these are so good. But I feel like

1452
01:04:37,920 --> 01:04:39,840
Speaker 2: that's why I feel in love with beans. And when

1453
01:04:39,840 --> 01:04:41,440
Speaker 2: she told me he died, I cried.

1454
01:04:42,960 --> 01:04:43,440
Speaker 1: Those beans.

1455
01:04:44,600 --> 01:04:47,240
Speaker 2: But I do think that's important to like share with

1456
01:04:47,440 --> 01:04:49,800
Speaker 2: your daughters and your kids anyway, just to show.

1457
01:04:49,840 --> 01:04:50,600
Speaker 1: I'm like, you know, it's a.

1458
01:04:50,640 --> 01:04:54,760
Speaker 2: Balance about white and Mommy's not perfect. But mommy's not perfect.

1459
01:04:54,920 --> 01:04:57,520
Speaker 2: I grew up my whole life thinking my mom was perfect.

1460
01:04:57,840 --> 01:04:59,480
Speaker 2: So the first time I saw her do something, I

1461
01:04:59,600 --> 01:05:02,800
Speaker 2: was like, right, I mean, you know what I'm saying.

1462
01:05:02,920 --> 01:05:05,080
Speaker 2: So it was so crazy to me, But I think

1463
01:05:05,120 --> 01:05:08,120
Speaker 2: it's important to show your kids like, yeah, I getting

1464
01:05:08,160 --> 01:05:14,160
Speaker 2: hit from the bab, but real life is going to

1465
01:05:14,360 --> 01:05:16,760
Speaker 2: kick their ass, right, real life is going to kick

1466
01:05:16,760 --> 01:05:18,720
Speaker 2: their ass when they think that a nigga's going to

1467
01:05:18,800 --> 01:05:20,960
Speaker 2: ride in on a horse and just save everything and

1468
01:05:21,120 --> 01:05:24,480
Speaker 2: just mommy suddenly has the dream nigga that she never

1469
01:05:25,000 --> 01:05:26,200
Speaker 2: he just rolled up out.

1470
01:05:26,040 --> 01:05:28,480
Speaker 1: Of nowhere, Like, you know, what's important for your kids

1471
01:05:28,520 --> 01:05:30,120
Speaker 1: to see that friendship is important.

1472
01:05:30,320 --> 01:05:31,960
Speaker 5: That is important.

1473
01:05:32,480 --> 01:05:34,400
Speaker 2: This person needs to show up for you, right, and

1474
01:05:34,480 --> 01:05:37,040
Speaker 2: then they start getting they start getting the things, they

1475
01:05:37,080 --> 01:05:40,000
Speaker 2: start getting these uh you know, add on to the

1476
01:05:40,080 --> 01:05:43,000
Speaker 2: relationship and so like you know, I think that a

1477
01:05:43,040 --> 01:05:45,760
Speaker 2: lot of a lot of parents or single parents especially,

1478
01:05:45,880 --> 01:05:46,360
Speaker 2: they feel like.

1479
01:05:46,760 --> 01:05:47,560
Speaker 1: Oh no, I can't.

1480
01:05:47,640 --> 01:05:50,040
Speaker 2: I can't introduce my child to you know, this person

1481
01:05:50,080 --> 01:05:51,560
Speaker 2: that I'm seeing for at least two years.

1482
01:05:52,240 --> 01:05:55,840
Speaker 4: But how weird is it that you be secreted for

1483
01:05:55,840 --> 01:05:57,360
Speaker 4: two years and then you show up a nigga kissing

1484
01:05:57,360 --> 01:06:00,440
Speaker 4: you on the mouths.

1485
01:05:59,080 --> 01:06:02,640
Speaker 1: This is married because if you haven't for two years,

1486
01:06:03,160 --> 01:06:07,320
Speaker 1: I am step momy mom? Are you?

1487
01:06:08,480 --> 01:06:11,000
Speaker 2: I Just like, kids are smart, They're so smart and

1488
01:06:11,040 --> 01:06:14,720
Speaker 2: they're so intuitive. They're really little people. They are treat

1489
01:06:14,840 --> 01:06:17,360
Speaker 2: them like they're little people. Respect Like back in the day,

1490
01:06:17,800 --> 01:06:19,560
Speaker 2: parents used to try to treat us like we ain't

1491
01:06:19,560 --> 01:06:20,400
Speaker 2: know what the fun was going on.

1492
01:06:20,480 --> 01:06:22,200
Speaker 1: It's like, girl, I know what the fight from the

1493
01:06:22,240 --> 01:06:24,160
Speaker 1: source there where the purists.

1494
01:06:24,720 --> 01:06:29,040
Speaker 4: God, they're just they were disrespectful garage coming back smelling

1495
01:06:29,080 --> 01:06:30,320
Speaker 4: like incense, like we don't know.

1496
01:06:30,960 --> 01:06:32,480
Speaker 1: I remember my mom told me that she used to

1497
01:06:32,480 --> 01:06:35,480
Speaker 1: smoke weed. I was shocked for like four weeks. I

1498
01:06:35,640 --> 01:06:40,120
Speaker 1: was like, my mom smokes as an adult like I

1499
01:06:40,200 --> 01:06:41,840
Speaker 1: was in high school. But she told you.

1500
01:06:42,080 --> 01:06:45,120
Speaker 2: But I was so shocked because like I used to

1501
01:06:45,280 --> 01:06:47,080
Speaker 2: like sneak and drink my mom's alcohol.

1502
01:06:47,320 --> 01:06:49,320
Speaker 1: And I was like yeah, and so like when my

1503
01:06:49,440 --> 01:06:51,160
Speaker 1: mom like found out, she was like, why are you

1504
01:06:51,280 --> 01:06:53,480
Speaker 1: doing this? Like she wasn't tripping, but she was just shot.

1505
01:06:53,800 --> 01:06:55,400
Speaker 1: But I was like, literally, I'm a MENI you like

1506
01:06:55,480 --> 01:06:57,760
Speaker 1: my mom likes to drink. I love it like my mom,

1507
01:06:58,520 --> 01:07:00,840
Speaker 1: Like my mom is lit, Like I like Dred will

1508
01:07:00,880 --> 01:07:11,720
Speaker 1: post a assic yeah it matter what Like I posted,

1509
01:07:12,040 --> 01:07:13,880
Speaker 1: I supposed a video of Dre like lifting her leg

1510
01:07:14,000 --> 01:07:17,720
Speaker 1: up yesterday. My mom was like, she christy. I thought

1511
01:07:17,760 --> 01:07:24,600
Speaker 1: that video. I said, my mom is just like, yeah,

1512
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Speaker 2: Look, if it was to be, we're gonna be a

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Speaker 2: bye a bowl bow bow about Bow Bow. I'm just

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Speaker 2: watch can we I just have to take a second

1553
01:09:32,200 --> 01:09:35,560
Speaker 2: today to do a long a and I do. I

1554
01:09:35,720 --> 01:09:37,120
Speaker 2: was just saying, I love this episode.

1555
01:09:37,240 --> 01:09:39,800
Speaker 1: I love y'all. This has been so much fun. Like

1556
01:09:39,880 --> 01:09:41,960
Speaker 1: I love what we have girl songs. I drain my

1557
01:09:42,040 --> 01:09:48,000
Speaker 1: own friends. Okay, So the box of the Week is

1558
01:09:48,160 --> 01:09:49,719
Speaker 1: by Zay Friends.

1559
01:09:49,800 --> 01:09:53,280
Speaker 2: It's called Choosie. So it's so crazy because when people

1560
01:09:53,360 --> 01:09:55,040
Speaker 2: put me on music, I don't like to tell them

1561
01:09:55,120 --> 01:09:56,840
Speaker 2: because I like to be like the music curator.

1562
01:09:57,640 --> 01:09:59,320
Speaker 1: I thought sound so I like to be.

1563
01:09:59,479 --> 01:10:01,360
Speaker 2: But honestly, I told this guy like I was in

1564
01:10:01,400 --> 01:10:05,240
Speaker 2: an uber probably like like three months ago, and he

1565
01:10:05,400 --> 01:10:06,880
Speaker 2: just kept playing like hit after hit.

1566
01:10:06,960 --> 01:10:09,840
Speaker 1: I was like damn, I was just damning everything. Yeah.

1567
01:10:09,920 --> 01:10:13,400
Speaker 2: So it was a song called Choosie by Jay Friends.

1568
01:10:13,439 --> 01:10:15,840
Speaker 2: And he's actually really fucking cute. He's an R and

1569
01:10:16,000 --> 01:10:16,879
Speaker 2: B singer.

1570
01:10:18,760 --> 01:10:20,439
Speaker 1: Yeah, I think I heard him before. Yeah.

1571
01:10:20,479 --> 01:10:23,559
Speaker 2: So his EP is called pretty Girls Never Listening period

1572
01:10:23,600 --> 01:10:26,479
Speaker 2: because and I just feel like it was just a

1573
01:10:26,600 --> 01:10:27,240
Speaker 2: really good song.

1574
01:10:27,320 --> 01:10:29,360
Speaker 1: He's really cute. I like his vibe. So it was

1575
01:10:29,400 --> 01:10:31,240
Speaker 1: a good song and I like it. So shout out

1576
01:10:31,240 --> 01:10:35,320
Speaker 1: to Jay France. Choosy. That's my bop of the week.

1577
01:10:35,479 --> 01:10:38,360
Speaker 1: What you got a little drell? Now? Your album just

1578
01:10:38,479 --> 01:10:42,080
Speaker 1: came out, Oh I haven't heard it yet. Came out.

1579
01:10:42,120 --> 01:10:43,479
Speaker 1: So he got a song called wait for You with

1580
01:10:43,920 --> 01:10:46,240
Speaker 1: and Tim is my girl.

1581
01:10:46,439 --> 01:10:48,920
Speaker 2: I meet him was when I meet Tim, She's something.

1582
01:10:48,960 --> 01:10:50,400
Speaker 2: I'm a weird because I'm gonna hug her for like

1583
01:10:50,439 --> 01:10:50,920
Speaker 2: thirty minutes.

1584
01:10:51,160 --> 01:10:56,080
Speaker 1: I love him. Eric does not like I. One time

1585
01:10:56,080 --> 01:10:57,960
Speaker 1: I played it too much in Costa Rica and she

1586
01:10:58,120 --> 01:10:59,599
Speaker 1: was like, can you stop what you was playing?

1587
01:10:59,640 --> 01:10:59,800
Speaker 2: Free?

1588
01:11:01,000 --> 01:11:02,720
Speaker 4: We probably were hanging out with each other too long too,

1589
01:11:02,720 --> 01:11:05,000
Speaker 4: and I kept playing her. She's like her voice is getting.

1590
01:11:06,720 --> 01:11:12,040
Speaker 1: Who hates? She sounds like a girl that you cannot

1591
01:11:12,160 --> 01:11:14,160
Speaker 1: fine does hate?

1592
01:11:14,160 --> 01:11:16,960
Speaker 2: It's a strong word. I actually really like her. I

1593
01:11:17,000 --> 01:11:19,439
Speaker 2: didn't know it was her for a long time. I

1594
01:11:19,520 --> 01:11:24,360
Speaker 2: didn't her voice sounds. But it's the whining over time

1595
01:11:24,640 --> 01:11:25,519
Speaker 2: that starts to hear it.

1596
01:11:26,479 --> 01:11:32,120
Speaker 1: That's a whine that this is only her opinion, you know. Right,

1597
01:11:32,520 --> 01:11:34,720
Speaker 1: There's a wine and I like, there's a wine and

1598
01:11:34,800 --> 01:11:38,320
Speaker 1: it works about works fine to it, but it's the

1599
01:11:38,479 --> 01:11:43,040
Speaker 1: finest fun and fire. Fine. So upset because I'm like

1600
01:11:43,560 --> 01:11:45,240
Speaker 1: I'm upset. So we're gonna talk about this.

1601
01:11:45,880 --> 01:11:47,879
Speaker 5: We have to bring to pull this backup.

1602
01:11:50,280 --> 01:11:55,040
Speaker 1: For the lost let's not. Let's just be honest.

1603
01:11:55,720 --> 01:11:57,960
Speaker 2: That's fine, and you know it's a surprise. Like when

1604
01:11:57,960 --> 01:11:59,559
Speaker 2: you see her, she's fine. You're like, oh ship, okay,

1605
01:11:59,600 --> 01:12:00,559
Speaker 2: great ship.

1606
01:12:00,439 --> 01:12:00,920
Speaker 1: You're a woman.

1607
01:12:01,000 --> 01:12:03,320
Speaker 2: That's what people saying. No, because they hear me, they

1608
01:12:03,400 --> 01:12:05,519
Speaker 2: be like zero is galling and they'd be like, oh,

1609
01:12:05,560 --> 01:12:06,200
Speaker 2: this is lex P.

1610
01:12:06,720 --> 01:12:09,040
Speaker 1: I sound like a man. I do, especially when my

1611
01:12:09,120 --> 01:12:11,840
Speaker 1: voice is horse. The other day, Cat was like zero.

1612
01:12:12,120 --> 01:12:14,000
Speaker 2: No. When Cat was in the like we were in

1613
01:12:14,080 --> 01:12:17,479
Speaker 2: the meeting or doing something. Cat was like, Cat was like, damn,

1614
01:12:17,600 --> 01:12:18,320
Speaker 2: lex you okay.

1615
01:12:18,320 --> 01:12:22,120
Speaker 1: I was like, I'm straight, I'm good. I was like, yeah,

1616
01:12:22,160 --> 01:12:25,400
Speaker 1: I'm good. Okay, So what's your You got a second bout?

1617
01:12:26,680 --> 01:12:27,000
Speaker 2: You know?

1618
01:12:27,600 --> 01:12:32,040
Speaker 1: You know the love? I have a little baby, me too, bro.

1619
01:12:32,320 --> 01:12:35,519
Speaker 1: She loves a little baby. So a little baby. Got

1620
01:12:35,560 --> 01:12:38,719
Speaker 1: a new song to the actually just dropped today called Frozy.

1621
01:12:39,000 --> 01:12:43,519
Speaker 1: I was listening to it this morning. You like it, okay,

1622
01:12:45,120 --> 01:12:45,680
Speaker 1: but not like.

1623
01:12:47,880 --> 01:12:53,280
Speaker 2: I saw him at Yeah, it was good, but at

1624
01:12:53,320 --> 01:12:56,240
Speaker 2: some point in the in the performance was like, be

1625
01:12:56,400 --> 01:12:57,280
Speaker 2: kind of fine.

1626
01:12:57,560 --> 01:13:03,519
Speaker 1: Thank you. Not he's cute. See him on stage first,

1627
01:13:04,760 --> 01:13:07,920
Speaker 1: he got a little sweat first, there's too many fine

1628
01:13:07,920 --> 01:13:09,880
Speaker 1: about her, there's too many babies. I was like, is

1629
01:13:09,920 --> 01:13:10,760
Speaker 1: this the one with Danny l.

1630
01:13:10,960 --> 01:13:15,479
Speaker 2: She was like, no, the baby and the Babby's little

1631
01:13:15,520 --> 01:13:18,800
Speaker 2: baby is my baby? Is the baby blue face baby

1632
01:13:18,840 --> 01:13:22,280
Speaker 2: blue fan? I don't know baby blue from pretty No, no,

1633
01:13:22,400 --> 01:13:27,960
Speaker 2: little baby Blue, that's a blue face. He fine, though

1634
01:13:28,439 --> 01:13:29,559
Speaker 2: she was talking about.

1635
01:13:31,360 --> 01:13:36,800
Speaker 1: I also face remember baby blue from Pretty Blue Face

1636
01:13:36,840 --> 01:13:41,200
Speaker 1: and cut like that. But he didn't give his girl.

1637
01:13:44,520 --> 01:13:48,599
Speaker 1: I guess he said, no, it's him. You love that girl,

1638
01:13:48,880 --> 01:13:53,479
Speaker 1: love her exactly the worst. You don't want to to

1639
01:13:54,280 --> 01:13:57,120
Speaker 1: didn't she write her name and want to get on yours?

1640
01:13:57,520 --> 01:14:02,800
Speaker 1: What she can't have? That wasn't really nice. We have

1641
01:14:02,920 --> 01:14:06,840
Speaker 1: to talk about that. Atlanta. They look good, okay, so

1642
01:14:06,960 --> 01:14:12,360
Speaker 1: what you literally went to Columbia like two weeks ago. Wait? No,

1643
01:14:12,520 --> 01:14:14,360
Speaker 1: Erica was like, we're on your story. She's like, did

1644
01:14:14,400 --> 01:14:16,559
Speaker 1: she get your teeth? I was like, I think she did.

1645
01:14:17,120 --> 01:14:18,320
Speaker 1: I was like, she went to Columbia. I said, think

1646
01:14:18,360 --> 01:14:21,000
Speaker 1: we need to go to Columbia. Wait.

1647
01:14:21,080 --> 01:14:22,560
Speaker 4: First, all the way we came back from Atlanta and

1648
01:14:23,040 --> 01:14:24,680
Speaker 4: she came later than me, and I was drunk in

1649
01:14:24,720 --> 01:14:26,920
Speaker 4: the club and I was like, I was like, Erica,

1650
01:14:27,240 --> 01:14:27,560
Speaker 4: She's like what.

1651
01:14:27,840 --> 01:14:29,240
Speaker 5: I was like, I think we need jewelry.

1652
01:14:29,600 --> 01:14:29,920
Speaker 1: She's like what.

1653
01:14:30,080 --> 01:14:32,840
Speaker 2: I was like, everybody in Atlanta has jewelry, and she's like,

1654
01:14:33,120 --> 01:14:33,679
Speaker 2: we need a change.

1655
01:14:33,800 --> 01:14:35,960
Speaker 1: I was like, we need diamonds. She was like, Okay,

1656
01:14:36,200 --> 01:14:38,280
Speaker 1: after this check, we're gonna get We're gonna get jewelry.

1657
01:14:40,479 --> 01:14:43,719
Speaker 1: I still mean that. I know. I just got her diamonds.

1658
01:14:43,840 --> 01:14:49,360
Speaker 1: Oh my god, you see this. We're gonna buy each

1659
01:14:49,360 --> 01:14:52,120
Speaker 1: other diamonds. We're gonna buy each other diamonds. This is

1660
01:14:52,160 --> 01:14:54,800
Speaker 1: my These are our wives. Yeah, this is my. Like

1661
01:14:54,960 --> 01:14:56,960
Speaker 1: I know when I want a good good gift money,

1662
01:14:57,160 --> 01:14:59,920
Speaker 1: meaning she do. That's how Hi.

1663
01:15:00,400 --> 01:15:03,519
Speaker 5: I know the nigga was that's somebody was talking about him.

1664
01:15:04,439 --> 01:15:08,400
Speaker 1: I'm I've been going to Louis for him. Want him?

1665
01:15:09,720 --> 01:15:11,479
Speaker 1: That was the same price as these I'm not man,

1666
01:15:11,840 --> 01:15:12,360
Speaker 1: That's what I'm saying.

1667
01:15:12,400 --> 01:15:14,479
Speaker 2: I spend the same amount of money, Like I don't

1668
01:15:14,520 --> 01:15:19,600
Speaker 2: spend more on you. I spend I love him down, but.

1669
01:15:19,640 --> 01:15:20,559
Speaker 5: He's not your favorite daddy.

1670
01:15:20,920 --> 01:15:25,120
Speaker 1: No, maybe I'm just kidding. I'm okay, So what'll bob y'all?

1671
01:15:25,360 --> 01:15:27,880
Speaker 4: Okay, I don't really know the spot, but Erica played it.

1672
01:15:27,920 --> 01:15:29,080
Speaker 4: I think it was a snippet I don't know if

1673
01:15:29,080 --> 01:15:31,439
Speaker 4: it's out yet, but I liked it and it was music.

1674
01:15:31,600 --> 01:15:33,439
Speaker 4: It was choppers let me out.

1675
01:15:33,800 --> 01:15:36,479
Speaker 2: Okay, I heard that out yet because I'm like, yeah,

1676
01:15:36,720 --> 01:15:38,560
Speaker 2: it's on Apple Music. It was.

1677
01:15:40,960 --> 01:15:43,240
Speaker 1: And I kind of like him. He has good music,

1678
01:15:43,400 --> 01:15:44,120
Speaker 1: he's he's.

1679
01:15:44,160 --> 01:15:47,240
Speaker 4: He's he's a vegan and him the spirit the spiritual

1680
01:15:47,280 --> 01:15:48,080
Speaker 4: nigga with the herbs.

1681
01:15:48,479 --> 01:15:50,320
Speaker 2: I'm like, oh, the political win. She'd be like, yeah,

1682
01:15:50,400 --> 01:15:54,120
Speaker 2: he was the political one. Baby, little baby is the

1683
01:15:54,520 --> 01:15:58,960
Speaker 2: one given herbs to grow your booty. I thought it

1684
01:15:58,960 --> 01:16:03,080
Speaker 2: was the same nigga. No, and is like he's gonna

1685
01:16:03,240 --> 01:16:04,479
Speaker 2: he's gonna cure a dowarphism.

1686
01:16:04,640 --> 01:16:04,800
Speaker 1: Yeah.

1687
01:16:05,160 --> 01:16:08,160
Speaker 2: He's like, if you're a midget, drink this tea and

1688
01:16:08,240 --> 01:16:10,240
Speaker 2: you're not gonna be short. And the little baby is

1689
01:16:10,280 --> 01:16:11,160
Speaker 2: the is the political one?

1690
01:16:11,240 --> 01:16:14,479
Speaker 1: Yeah? Is that is that the one who was letting

1691
01:16:14,520 --> 01:16:14,880
Speaker 1: Danny l.

1692
01:16:16,560 --> 01:16:17,200
Speaker 2: One? Yeah?

1693
01:16:17,320 --> 01:16:21,040
Speaker 1: The baby is the one that has the one song

1694
01:16:21,200 --> 01:16:22,120
Speaker 1: protest and y'all.

1695
01:16:24,280 --> 01:16:25,320
Speaker 2: He said that to me, and I was like, the

1696
01:16:25,360 --> 01:16:29,000
Speaker 2: political that's why don't you don't do him?

1697
01:16:31,200 --> 01:16:32,800
Speaker 1: Can you tell me? This is a bunch of like

1698
01:16:32,920 --> 01:16:34,760
Speaker 1: kind of olderish, but.

1699
01:16:34,800 --> 01:16:39,960
Speaker 2: We're aunties as you can see trying out. Okay, watso Erica.

1700
01:16:40,479 --> 01:16:44,040
Speaker 2: Mine is baby Tait mean, I like Babysay.

1701
01:16:44,240 --> 01:16:45,400
Speaker 1: She can really fucking round.

1702
01:16:45,680 --> 01:16:48,679
Speaker 5: I also have another Tannerrell Mama Saturn.

1703
01:16:49,040 --> 01:16:49,640
Speaker 1: What's who's that?

1704
01:16:50,560 --> 01:16:51,559
Speaker 5: I don't know if I'm saying it right.

1705
01:16:53,080 --> 01:16:56,120
Speaker 4: She's this fine chocolate black woman and she's sexy and

1706
01:16:56,200 --> 01:16:58,360
Speaker 4: she was a play may and she has sexy ass

1707
01:16:58,520 --> 01:16:59,200
Speaker 4: like stripper music.

1708
01:16:59,200 --> 01:17:01,360
Speaker 5: If you want to like dance for your niggad, turn

1709
01:17:01,439 --> 01:17:01,720
Speaker 5: that ship.

1710
01:17:02,000 --> 01:17:07,920
Speaker 1: I want to be Okay, this is what we're gonna do.

1711
01:17:08,000 --> 01:17:08,599
Speaker 1: This is our plan.

1712
01:17:08,920 --> 01:17:12,680
Speaker 2: We're gonna have the first Playboy Bunny podcast. Shoot, the

1713
01:17:12,760 --> 01:17:14,760
Speaker 2: first the first podcast.

1714
01:17:15,320 --> 01:17:18,000
Speaker 1: Have done that. Let you do it. Let's go.

1715
01:17:18,080 --> 01:17:23,800
Speaker 2: We're gonna find run Hello, get them up, dona do

1716
01:17:23,880 --> 01:17:26,320
Speaker 2: a Playboy Bunny shoot. The first podcast is on a

1717
01:17:26,360 --> 01:17:28,840
Speaker 2: Playboy Bunny Shoot. Y'all saw it here first.

1718
01:17:28,880 --> 01:17:30,479
Speaker 1: So if any of them other bitches do it, they're

1719
01:17:30,520 --> 01:17:34,120
Speaker 1: not bad enough. They gotta come to us first and

1720
01:17:34,200 --> 01:17:35,880
Speaker 1: will show titties. This is exactly.

1721
01:17:37,840 --> 01:17:38,000
Speaker 2: Talking.

1722
01:17:38,640 --> 01:17:41,160
Speaker 4: They're not gonna be here, so whatever, titt Let me

1723
01:17:41,200 --> 01:17:43,000
Speaker 4: tell you something. This has been my childhood dream. Don't

1724
01:17:43,000 --> 01:17:44,960
Speaker 4: ask me aboy being in Playboys my childhood dream. But

1725
01:17:44,960 --> 01:17:46,960
Speaker 4: if I'm gonna show titties. It's gonna be on Playboy

1726
01:17:47,240 --> 01:17:49,120
Speaker 4: or an HBO nigga. I mean other than when I

1727
01:17:49,160 --> 01:17:50,480
Speaker 4: slip up on Instagram.

1728
01:17:51,640 --> 01:17:52,920
Speaker 1: Because you be naked as far.

1729
01:17:53,479 --> 01:17:56,080
Speaker 2: I'm a naked but you have such a not like

1730
01:17:56,160 --> 01:17:59,920
Speaker 2: your body is so curvy. It really is because I

1731
01:18:00,080 --> 01:18:01,639
Speaker 2: think people language, people.

1732
01:18:01,520 --> 01:18:03,760
Speaker 1: Think like to be curvy, you have to be like

1733
01:18:04,479 --> 01:18:06,479
Speaker 1: like our side like they but like, you have a

1734
01:18:06,560 --> 01:18:11,880
Speaker 1: really curvy body. And well, I just said, okay, calling

1735
01:18:11,960 --> 01:18:15,479
Speaker 1: me a pony, she said, I'm not. I know. I said,

1736
01:18:15,520 --> 01:18:19,439
Speaker 1: I'm a stallion. You're a pony. But you're very curvy.

1737
01:18:21,680 --> 01:18:26,360
Speaker 2: But she's fine as fun. It's like a little baby.

1738
01:18:26,439 --> 01:18:28,479
Speaker 2: She's like a baby from Texas.

1739
01:18:28,520 --> 01:18:29,680
Speaker 1: You know what a stallion is.

1740
01:18:30,400 --> 01:18:32,920
Speaker 2: But you're very curvy, and like a lot of times

1741
01:18:32,960 --> 01:18:35,560
Speaker 2: people feel like like patitue women. They're like, oh no,

1742
01:18:35,840 --> 01:18:38,519
Speaker 2: you're not up and down. It's a little pop back there.

1743
01:18:38,560 --> 01:18:39,360
Speaker 1: I seen some.

1744
01:18:41,720 --> 01:18:43,320
Speaker 5: Listen, I can I can shake this ass.

1745
01:18:43,520 --> 01:18:46,160
Speaker 1: I know you can't. I can tell I can see anything.

1746
01:18:46,200 --> 01:18:49,320
Speaker 1: When she was a stripper for one day, a couple

1747
01:18:49,320 --> 01:18:51,160
Speaker 1: of days, I was a shipper for a couple of days.

1748
01:18:51,640 --> 01:18:54,479
Speaker 1: It was a weekend. It's not what we're talking about

1749
01:18:54,479 --> 01:18:57,280
Speaker 1: on our podcast stripped for a weekend. I had so

1750
01:18:57,439 --> 01:18:57,840
Speaker 1: much fun.

1751
01:18:58,200 --> 01:19:01,040
Speaker 2: I had the Dallas Cowboys and there going at it

1752
01:19:01,240 --> 01:19:03,160
Speaker 2: is a little hot, but yeah, I had the Dallas

1753
01:19:03,240 --> 01:19:05,240
Speaker 2: Cowboys in there. They were throwing that check on me.

1754
01:19:05,520 --> 01:19:09,240
Speaker 2: Nobody is musky. I was saying, I'm like, you gotta chat.

1755
01:19:13,280 --> 01:19:17,280
Speaker 2: But yeah, I definitely dance for a weekend. Uh for

1756
01:19:17,400 --> 01:19:19,640
Speaker 2: the cowboys, and I made a lot of money. I

1757
01:19:19,720 --> 01:19:21,080
Speaker 2: know some of the cowboys that used to play for

1758
01:19:21,160 --> 01:19:21,880
Speaker 2: TIMMS to be like that.

1759
01:19:21,960 --> 01:19:24,919
Speaker 1: Bitch got a podcast. She was shaking them titties.

1760
01:19:25,560 --> 01:19:28,919
Speaker 2: That was this is gonna bring us to our favorite segments.

1761
01:19:29,880 --> 01:19:33,120
Speaker 2: Were going to get into pour your heart out. You know,

1762
01:19:33,160 --> 01:19:34,840
Speaker 2: if you have any questions, you want to let us

1763
01:19:34,960 --> 01:19:37,080
Speaker 2: know how you poked your life. You know, we like

1764
01:19:37,160 --> 01:19:40,360
Speaker 2: to some or to ask us some questions. Send them

1765
01:19:40,400 --> 01:19:42,560
Speaker 2: to ask K P O U R A I N D.

1766
01:19:42,840 --> 01:19:46,439
Speaker 2: S at gmail dot com. So do you want to

1767
01:19:46,479 --> 01:19:47,080
Speaker 2: read the first question?

1768
01:19:48,360 --> 01:19:50,840
Speaker 1: Go ahead? Okay, go ahead, go ahead.

1769
01:19:52,560 --> 01:19:58,080
Speaker 2: It took me a lot to get through. Okay it

1770
01:19:58,280 --> 01:20:01,240
Speaker 2: is hey, ladies. A few months ago, I intended a

1771
01:20:01,360 --> 01:20:04,040
Speaker 2: friend's wedding. I'm newly single, so I'm definitely on my

1772
01:20:04,120 --> 01:20:07,640
Speaker 2: hot girl shit. After the wedding. We all stayed hold on.

1773
01:20:07,800 --> 01:20:10,200
Speaker 2: We all stayed up drinking and hanging out. This one

1774
01:20:10,280 --> 01:20:12,040
Speaker 2: dude and I hit it off, and I'm like, bingo,

1775
01:20:12,200 --> 01:20:14,719
Speaker 2: he's the one for the night. After hours of flirting

1776
01:20:14,760 --> 01:20:17,200
Speaker 2: and about thirty minutes of rubbing and touching in someone

1777
01:20:17,240 --> 01:20:19,439
Speaker 2: else's room, he told me to get up and I

1778
01:20:19,560 --> 01:20:22,439
Speaker 2: followed him to his room. When we got to his room,

1779
01:20:22,520 --> 01:20:24,320
Speaker 2: he said he needed to get his stuff together for

1780
01:20:24,400 --> 01:20:25,599
Speaker 2: his flight in a few hours.

1781
01:20:25,920 --> 01:20:27,560
Speaker 1: I laid on the couch while he did that.

1782
01:20:28,080 --> 01:20:30,880
Speaker 2: After thirty minutes later, he woke me up and told

1783
01:20:30,920 --> 01:20:33,679
Speaker 2: me to sit on his lap again, kissing, touching, rubbing.

1784
01:20:34,080 --> 01:20:36,320
Speaker 2: He's moaning, so I'm like, damn, I ain't even put

1785
01:20:36,360 --> 01:20:38,599
Speaker 2: the pussy on him yet. This is gonna be good.

1786
01:20:39,000 --> 01:20:40,800
Speaker 2: He told me to get up. I got off his

1787
01:20:40,960 --> 01:20:43,439
Speaker 2: lap and sat on the chair with my hand out

1788
01:20:43,560 --> 01:20:45,799
Speaker 2: so he could leave me to the bed. He basically

1789
01:20:45,880 --> 01:20:47,479
Speaker 2: hit me with a soul What you about to do?

1790
01:20:49,120 --> 01:20:50,280
Speaker 1: I was so confused.

1791
01:20:50,640 --> 01:20:52,560
Speaker 2: One of my friends thinks he might have nutted on

1792
01:20:52,680 --> 01:20:55,639
Speaker 2: himself during the kissing, but I don't know what to think.

1793
01:20:56,439 --> 01:20:58,360
Speaker 2: I hold on way, she said, I found out he

1794
01:20:58,400 --> 01:21:01,000
Speaker 2: hasn't really been with anyone new in a while, and

1795
01:21:01,080 --> 01:21:04,000
Speaker 2: I'm not the aggressive or initiator. The first time that

1796
01:21:04,040 --> 01:21:06,639
Speaker 2: I have sticks with someone, he definitely busted in. Y'all

1797
01:21:06,680 --> 01:21:08,920
Speaker 2: have to rely that what you about to do? Wait,

1798
01:21:09,200 --> 01:21:11,280
Speaker 2: does that mean he wants more? Know what you're about

1799
01:21:11,280 --> 01:21:13,519
Speaker 2: to do is like you need to get out? Yeah,

1800
01:21:13,560 --> 01:21:15,519
Speaker 2: like what you're about to do get like we're about

1801
01:21:15,520 --> 01:21:18,719
Speaker 2: to go. Oh, he definitely busted. That's how I feel

1802
01:21:18,720 --> 01:21:20,599
Speaker 2: because if he hasn't hasn't had sex.

1803
01:21:20,439 --> 01:21:20,800
Speaker 1: In a while.

1804
01:21:21,040 --> 01:21:24,080
Speaker 2: Y'all gotta realize sometimes niggas are very sensitive. Anything turns

1805
01:21:24,160 --> 01:21:27,000
Speaker 2: them on. I've definitely had a nigga like busting none

1806
01:21:27,000 --> 01:21:30,040
Speaker 2: in an awkward situation. I was either busted nuts or

1807
01:21:30,080 --> 01:21:32,920
Speaker 2: he has a lazy dick, or he's gay. That was

1808
01:21:32,920 --> 01:21:34,679
Speaker 2: what I was gonna say, But that's not a popular opinion.

1809
01:21:34,720 --> 01:21:36,599
Speaker 2: I was going to say, maybe he's gay, but that's

1810
01:21:36,640 --> 01:21:40,240
Speaker 2: not a popular opinion because of But yeah, if he

1811
01:21:40,320 --> 01:21:41,880
Speaker 2: was gay, it wouldn't even got there here to be like,

1812
01:21:43,120 --> 01:21:46,479
Speaker 2: because niggas really the gay ones they want to like,

1813
01:21:46,520 --> 01:21:47,160
Speaker 2: they want to want to.

1814
01:21:49,360 --> 01:21:52,240
Speaker 1: So they'll like do the thing. But when it gets

1815
01:21:52,320 --> 01:21:53,080
Speaker 1: to the thing.

1816
01:21:53,120 --> 01:21:55,880
Speaker 4: That But you know, even I have gay friends who

1817
01:21:56,160 --> 01:21:58,360
Speaker 4: who could their deck could get hard for a bit.

1818
01:21:58,360 --> 01:22:01,200
Speaker 1: Like it's a warm it's a warm, wet hole. I

1819
01:22:01,240 --> 01:22:02,840
Speaker 1: don't so, I don't know.

1820
01:22:02,920 --> 01:22:05,360
Speaker 4: I would in my mind because if the nigga doesn't

1821
01:22:05,360 --> 01:22:07,519
Speaker 4: want me, I'm like, you're gay. But that's not that's

1822
01:22:07,600 --> 01:22:08,960
Speaker 4: not really well I feel.

1823
01:22:09,200 --> 01:22:11,320
Speaker 2: Or maybe he could liked, he could maybe have a girl,

1824
01:22:11,360 --> 01:22:13,640
Speaker 2: and maybe conscious got to him like I can't do.

1825
01:22:14,320 --> 01:22:16,240
Speaker 2: Maybe he respects himself it could be better. Or his

1826
01:22:16,320 --> 01:22:17,040
Speaker 2: dick doesn't get hurt.

1827
01:22:17,080 --> 01:22:18,200
Speaker 5: Maybe he respects himself.

1828
01:22:18,280 --> 01:22:23,080
Speaker 1: Yeah, maybe, but it's not respect. It's not respect himself.

1829
01:22:23,160 --> 01:22:28,400
Speaker 2: So I'm not gonna say that it's blue shoes period. Right, Yeah, okay,

1830
01:22:28,439 --> 01:22:30,960
Speaker 2: So we're gonna go to question two. It says, hey, y'all,

1831
01:22:31,360 --> 01:22:33,960
Speaker 2: I'm obsessed with this show and your Patreon, and I

1832
01:22:34,040 --> 01:22:35,640
Speaker 2: just want to say thank you for blessing us with

1833
01:22:35,760 --> 01:22:38,280
Speaker 2: this because it has helped me out a lot. I

1834
01:22:38,439 --> 01:22:40,120
Speaker 2: know you both went to college, and I wanted to

1835
01:22:40,200 --> 01:22:42,720
Speaker 2: ask how y'all's experience was because my first year is

1836
01:22:42,760 --> 01:22:44,880
Speaker 2: coming to an end and I can't help but feel

1837
01:22:44,920 --> 01:22:47,680
Speaker 2: disappointed with myself because I wasn't on top of my

1838
01:22:47,760 --> 01:22:50,320
Speaker 2: schoolwork as I should have been. I'm probably going to

1839
01:22:50,400 --> 01:22:52,719
Speaker 2: fill some classes, but I've been living my best life

1840
01:22:52,800 --> 01:22:56,240
Speaker 2: At the same time, I also haven't been consistent with business.

1841
01:22:56,520 --> 01:22:58,280
Speaker 2: I'm trying to start and I really want to be

1842
01:22:58,360 --> 01:23:01,240
Speaker 2: successful by twenty four to twenty f I do want

1843
01:23:01,280 --> 01:23:03,680
Speaker 2: to finish school, but it's been hard to get myself.

1844
01:23:03,400 --> 01:23:04,080
Speaker 1: To do the work.

1845
01:23:04,439 --> 01:23:06,720
Speaker 2: Y'all are so beautiful and keep doing what you're doing.

1846
01:23:07,080 --> 01:23:10,800
Speaker 2: I love y'all and thank you. Okay, so wait, wait,

1847
01:23:10,840 --> 01:23:14,000
Speaker 2: what's the question? Basically, she she's not doing good in school?

1848
01:23:14,080 --> 01:23:15,040
Speaker 5: Did you guys finish school?

1849
01:23:15,479 --> 01:23:17,519
Speaker 2: I did, But let me tell y'all, not a lot

1850
01:23:17,560 --> 01:23:20,160
Speaker 2: of people, notice I haven't shared this a lot. Y'all know,

1851
01:23:20,240 --> 01:23:21,679
Speaker 2: we keep it real and I don't give a fuck.

1852
01:23:22,120 --> 01:23:25,479
Speaker 2: I when I graduated college, I first went to HCC

1853
01:23:26,160 --> 01:23:28,320
Speaker 2: to get mom what's the basics?

1854
01:23:28,320 --> 01:23:30,400
Speaker 1: After that? Whatever? Went for two years? Yeah? I went

1855
01:23:30,439 --> 01:23:32,320
Speaker 1: for two years? Did I transferred to you?

1856
01:23:32,479 --> 01:23:34,360
Speaker 2: Of H? I flunked out of you of H. I

1857
01:23:34,479 --> 01:23:36,640
Speaker 2: flunked out because I was partying, I was fucking, I

1858
01:23:36,760 --> 01:23:39,160
Speaker 2: was doing it and and I flunked out of you

1859
01:23:39,280 --> 01:23:40,680
Speaker 2: of AH. And I took off a school for like

1860
01:23:40,760 --> 01:23:43,839
Speaker 2: two three years, and then I went back to TSU

1861
01:23:44,000 --> 01:23:47,400
Speaker 2: and I got my degree. Girl, take your time. Don't

1862
01:23:47,439 --> 01:23:50,280
Speaker 2: be so hard on yourself like you have to. I

1863
01:23:50,320 --> 01:23:52,719
Speaker 2: don't want to wake up anymore like I used to feel.

1864
01:23:52,760 --> 01:23:54,040
Speaker 2: I used to dread going.

1865
01:23:54,040 --> 01:23:56,519
Speaker 1: Do this and do that. Do what makes you happy.

1866
01:23:56,880 --> 01:23:57,599
Speaker 1: Take your time.

1867
01:23:58,240 --> 01:24:02,280
Speaker 2: Stop putting y'allselves on a time back. So, first year

1868
01:24:02,400 --> 01:24:05,240
Speaker 2: of college, I definitely felt like three classes. Mama was

1869
01:24:05,320 --> 01:24:07,920
Speaker 2: mad as fuz. I mean, I felt three classes. I

1870
01:24:08,000 --> 01:24:10,680
Speaker 2: had to retake them because I was partying, I was

1871
01:24:10,720 --> 01:24:14,040
Speaker 2: turning up. I still graduated. So and then also, I

1872
01:24:14,080 --> 01:24:17,120
Speaker 2: don't know why y'all put y'allselves on a timeline. As

1873
01:24:17,160 --> 01:24:20,280
Speaker 2: far as age twenty four, I heard across of tweet yesterday,

1874
01:24:20,320 --> 01:24:21,920
Speaker 2: and it's so funny that she said this because it

1875
01:24:21,960 --> 01:24:23,600
Speaker 2: was a tweet that I saw yesterday on Twitter, and

1876
01:24:23,680 --> 01:24:25,479
Speaker 2: he said, I swear I'm not trying to be twenty

1877
01:24:25,520 --> 01:24:28,200
Speaker 2: seven still figuring out, like I'm trying.

1878
01:24:27,960 --> 01:24:31,320
Speaker 1: To figure that shit out right now today, twenty seven.

1879
01:24:31,400 --> 01:24:34,880
Speaker 1: I need to be living comfortably. And I and I.

1880
01:24:40,280 --> 01:24:42,880
Speaker 2: And I literally retweeted the tweet and I said, it's

1881
01:24:42,920 --> 01:24:45,560
Speaker 2: gonna kick y'all ass when y'all realized twenty seven is

1882
01:24:45,640 --> 01:24:47,600
Speaker 2: not old and most of y'all still won't have it

1883
01:24:47,680 --> 01:24:50,960
Speaker 2: figured out by the end. No, I'm just now low

1884
01:24:51,040 --> 01:24:54,120
Speaker 2: key a little bit, and I'm thirty two, y'all thirty one,

1885
01:24:54,200 --> 01:24:56,600
Speaker 2: And it's like Instagram for.

1886
01:24:58,600 --> 01:25:00,759
Speaker 4: And even if you saw you had it all together

1887
01:25:00,920 --> 01:25:03,479
Speaker 4: and you figure it out by twenty seven, you'll wake

1888
01:25:03,600 --> 01:25:05,160
Speaker 4: up at twenty eight and be like, don't even like

1889
01:25:05,240 --> 01:25:07,599
Speaker 4: it here, you really your.

1890
01:25:07,560 --> 01:25:10,320
Speaker 1: Ship might go to shambles again, because that's how life go.

1891
01:25:10,920 --> 01:25:11,719
Speaker 2: Shit happens.

1892
01:25:11,760 --> 01:25:14,479
Speaker 4: It's a journey, and there's there's there's always gonna be

1893
01:25:14,600 --> 01:25:17,280
Speaker 4: goals to hit, and you will regularly not hit them.

1894
01:25:17,760 --> 01:25:20,000
Speaker 4: And like I lived in Atlanta when I turned fucking

1895
01:25:20,080 --> 01:25:22,800
Speaker 4: eighteen until I was like twenty four, and I was

1896
01:25:24,000 --> 01:25:26,679
Speaker 4: I was in the streets and I was making money,

1897
01:25:26,760 --> 01:25:29,120
Speaker 4: but I did not finish school. And then I finally

1898
01:25:29,200 --> 01:25:31,080
Speaker 4: went home and I got an estetution license and I

1899
01:25:31,120 --> 01:25:32,920
Speaker 4: did that trade and that was great, and then I'm

1900
01:25:33,120 --> 01:25:34,080
Speaker 4: a fucking podcaster.

1901
01:25:34,720 --> 01:25:36,519
Speaker 5: So I just feel like, you know, what we have.

1902
01:25:36,600 --> 01:25:38,680
Speaker 4: We put these limits and these rules in ourselves, but

1903
01:25:38,800 --> 01:25:40,360
Speaker 4: like the twenties are for hoeing.

1904
01:25:40,800 --> 01:25:43,080
Speaker 1: Facts, and like I never knew what I was going

1905
01:25:43,160 --> 01:25:44,920
Speaker 1: to be doing this. I didn't know what I was

1906
01:25:45,120 --> 01:25:48,040
Speaker 1: to do. Like we just figured this out, like Challon

1907
01:25:48,120 --> 01:25:49,160
Speaker 1: did everything under the sun.

1908
01:25:49,200 --> 01:25:53,519
Speaker 2: I'm like Mila, I fucking went to lash classy chash

1909
01:25:53,760 --> 01:25:56,840
Speaker 2: with a bartender. I went to real estate school. I

1910
01:25:56,960 --> 01:26:00,240
Speaker 2: have a bachelor's degree in mass communication. Like I just

1911
01:26:00,400 --> 01:26:01,800
Speaker 2: never knew what the fuck I wanted to do.

1912
01:26:02,000 --> 01:26:03,120
Speaker 1: And look lashes popping.

1913
01:26:03,720 --> 01:26:05,360
Speaker 2: Really, I mean, I don't know much real estate, but

1914
01:26:05,720 --> 01:26:11,600
Speaker 2: we hear, we hear, West Hollywood marketing is great. Like

1915
01:26:12,600 --> 01:26:15,200
Speaker 2: you're used, you end up, you end up using all

1916
01:26:15,320 --> 01:26:20,280
Speaker 2: these things. And in school right now, yeah, yeah, not

1917
01:26:20,439 --> 01:26:23,240
Speaker 2: like college, but like others, not like college.

1918
01:26:23,280 --> 01:26:24,519
Speaker 1: That wasn't our kind of college.

1919
01:26:24,560 --> 01:26:25,040
Speaker 2: It is college.

1920
01:26:25,080 --> 01:26:26,760
Speaker 4: It's a different type of college. But you know what

1921
01:26:26,800 --> 01:26:31,400
Speaker 4: I'll say, like utilize trades. I'm a huge advocate for trades.

1922
01:26:31,720 --> 01:26:35,320
Speaker 4: I think being black, like educated black and your parents

1923
01:26:35,400 --> 01:26:36,920
Speaker 4: are like, you have to go to school, you have

1924
01:26:37,000 --> 01:26:38,080
Speaker 4: to go to school, you have to get a job,

1925
01:26:38,080 --> 01:26:39,439
Speaker 4: and then you have a career. That was but like

1926
01:26:39,520 --> 01:26:41,439
Speaker 4: that's really not how shit works out. And like a

1927
01:26:41,479 --> 01:26:44,400
Speaker 4: lot of these entrepreneurs, all these billionaires didn't go to school.

1928
01:26:44,560 --> 01:26:48,040
Speaker 4: Fucking presidents had a see average that is not like

1929
01:26:48,120 --> 01:26:49,920
Speaker 4: I think it's this time that we're wreaking up and

1930
01:26:49,960 --> 01:26:55,240
Speaker 4: that we're realizing that this uh standard of accreditation is

1931
01:26:55,320 --> 01:26:57,080
Speaker 4: not really what it is. You have to look within

1932
01:26:57,200 --> 01:26:59,200
Speaker 4: and know what you're good at and speak to that

1933
01:26:59,360 --> 01:27:01,760
Speaker 4: and explore. And it looks different for everybody. It may

1934
01:27:01,840 --> 01:27:04,240
Speaker 4: not be may not be getting a college education. And

1935
01:27:04,280 --> 01:27:06,360
Speaker 4: if you can do that, do that at some point.

1936
01:27:06,400 --> 01:27:08,120
Speaker 4: Maybe I don't know, I'll get it. I'll be fifty

1937
01:27:08,160 --> 01:27:10,800
Speaker 4: and get a fucking college education and graduate. Maybe not,

1938
01:27:11,040 --> 01:27:13,400
Speaker 4: But like I think that you need to kind of

1939
01:27:13,479 --> 01:27:15,120
Speaker 4: like figure out what it works for you and then

1940
01:27:15,200 --> 01:27:17,720
Speaker 4: explore all the options because it doesn't look one way

1941
01:27:17,760 --> 01:27:18,360
Speaker 4: and that's cool.

1942
01:27:18,479 --> 01:27:21,240
Speaker 2: And yeah, I feel like life is showing us right now,

1943
01:27:21,360 --> 01:27:23,599
Speaker 2: like you don't need a college degree to be success.

1944
01:27:23,960 --> 01:27:25,680
Speaker 1: Yeah. Well I'll say this.

1945
01:27:26,320 --> 01:27:29,200
Speaker 2: I love the fact that I learned how to shoot

1946
01:27:29,360 --> 01:27:31,360
Speaker 2: and edit things, and because I feel like in our

1947
01:27:31,439 --> 01:27:34,320
Speaker 2: beginning stages, if I didn't know how to like make

1948
01:27:34,439 --> 01:27:37,080
Speaker 2: those little you know, how we used to edit our videos,

1949
01:27:37,680 --> 01:27:40,840
Speaker 2: that's something but I'm saying like that, but yeah, but

1950
01:27:40,920 --> 01:27:42,759
Speaker 2: that's what I'm saying. It's little things that I learned

1951
01:27:42,800 --> 01:27:45,080
Speaker 2: in college that I'm so glad, like even like how

1952
01:27:45,160 --> 01:27:48,400
Speaker 2: I speak, like if I want to go do something professional, right, now, like,

1953
01:27:48,439 --> 01:27:50,960
Speaker 2: if I want to go and do a professional fucking

1954
01:27:51,760 --> 01:27:54,680
Speaker 2: h newscast, like, I can do that because I know

1955
01:27:54,720 --> 01:27:57,000
Speaker 2: how to speak, because I learned that in Yeah. So

1956
01:27:57,080 --> 01:27:59,200
Speaker 2: there's a lot of skills that I have that I

1957
01:27:59,320 --> 01:28:01,320
Speaker 2: learned in college that I'm very grateful.

1958
01:28:01,000 --> 01:28:04,720
Speaker 1: For to me that you know how to finish.

1959
01:28:06,960 --> 01:28:10,679
Speaker 2: Next question question, Hey, lex Andrea, I fucking love this show.

1960
01:28:10,800 --> 01:28:13,240
Speaker 2: I'm a fat hole in her late twenties and niggas

1961
01:28:13,320 --> 01:28:16,120
Speaker 2: never asked me out. I'm a little on the shy side,

1962
01:28:16,120 --> 01:28:18,000
Speaker 2: but I do think I'm decent looking and keep my

1963
01:28:18,080 --> 01:28:22,799
Speaker 2: appearance together from my size, I'm also a really kind human.

1964
01:28:23,040 --> 01:28:25,439
Speaker 2: I don't understand why niggas won't ask me out. I

1965
01:28:25,520 --> 01:28:27,880
Speaker 2: would love to be winded dying by a nice bd B,

1966
01:28:28,040 --> 01:28:29,439
Speaker 2: but I don't know what. Okay, Well, first of all,

1967
01:28:29,439 --> 01:28:31,800
Speaker 2: you gotta stop talking about yourself like, yeah, you're a

1968
01:28:31,920 --> 01:28:34,040
Speaker 2: fine because I used to do that too.

1969
01:28:34,320 --> 01:28:35,960
Speaker 1: You gotta stop, and the nigga niggas know.

1970
01:28:36,120 --> 01:28:37,960
Speaker 2: Niggas know that you talk about yourself like this, and

1971
01:28:38,040 --> 01:28:41,840
Speaker 2: that's why, nig why would you call yourself You're not fat?

1972
01:28:41,880 --> 01:28:47,559
Speaker 1: Hell, you're just a hoe. No, and and fad hose

1973
01:28:47,600 --> 01:28:48,599
Speaker 1: get loved all the time.

1974
01:28:49,360 --> 01:28:56,160
Speaker 2: Skinny hose get lost.

1975
01:28:54,840 --> 01:28:57,280
Speaker 1: When you find it's all about confidence.

1976
01:28:57,320 --> 01:28:59,160
Speaker 2: If you walk in the wrong like I'm the baddest

1977
01:28:59,200 --> 01:29:01,519
Speaker 2: bitch in here, they see that here and I don't

1978
01:29:01,560 --> 01:29:02,599
Speaker 2: care what size you are.

1979
01:29:02,640 --> 01:29:04,400
Speaker 1: If you walk in the room with your head up like,

1980
01:29:05,360 --> 01:29:07,360
Speaker 1: they're gonna be like. I want that one period. I

1981
01:29:07,400 --> 01:29:08,760
Speaker 1: don't care who walks in behind her.

1982
01:29:08,760 --> 01:29:10,960
Speaker 2: I want that one because people feel like they can't

1983
01:29:11,040 --> 01:29:13,720
Speaker 2: have her. So it's all about your confidence, girl, So

1984
01:29:13,800 --> 01:29:16,400
Speaker 2: get your confidence. Stop calling yourself a fat house. Ye

1985
01:29:16,880 --> 01:29:18,040
Speaker 2: talk to talk to yourself good.

1986
01:29:18,040 --> 01:29:19,719
Speaker 5: Look, you're just a f You ain't no fat.

1987
01:29:19,600 --> 01:29:22,920
Speaker 1: House, and talk good to yourself. M okay.

1988
01:29:23,080 --> 01:29:26,800
Speaker 2: Last question question four. Hey, ladies, I have been my

1989
01:29:26,920 --> 01:29:29,040
Speaker 2: part I have been with my partner going on two

1990
01:29:29,160 --> 01:29:31,920
Speaker 2: years now. The first year he forgot my birthday and

1991
01:29:32,040 --> 01:29:34,920
Speaker 2: didn't give me anything until I mentioned it. I was

1992
01:29:35,080 --> 01:29:37,840
Speaker 2: extremely hurt and I was hoping that this year would

1993
01:29:37,840 --> 01:29:40,960
Speaker 2: be different. My birthday recently passed and he let me

1994
01:29:41,080 --> 01:29:45,800
Speaker 2: down again. He got me a card. Yeah no, oh,

1995
01:29:46,720 --> 01:29:49,800
Speaker 2: he showed you who he was girl. He got me

1996
01:29:49,880 --> 01:29:52,040
Speaker 2: a card with one hundred dollars in it. And the

1997
01:29:52,120 --> 01:29:55,040
Speaker 2: crazy part is that he got it the night before

1998
01:29:55,160 --> 01:29:58,240
Speaker 2: my actual birthday. A card is such a thoughtless and

1999
01:29:58,360 --> 01:30:01,719
Speaker 2: uncaring gift, especially since I've gone all out for his birthday.

2000
01:30:02,120 --> 01:30:04,840
Speaker 2: To add insult to injury, we did not go out

2001
01:30:04,880 --> 01:30:07,920
Speaker 2: to dinner or anything special. I wanted this birthday just

2002
01:30:08,000 --> 01:30:11,480
Speaker 2: to feel special. But I just feel ignored and unappreciated.

2003
01:30:11,760 --> 01:30:12,680
Speaker 2: Am I ungrateful?

2004
01:30:13,080 --> 01:30:16,000
Speaker 1: Oh? He's trash him?

2005
01:30:16,200 --> 01:30:21,519
Speaker 2: First of all, when you love someone, the best feeling

2006
01:30:21,680 --> 01:30:24,800
Speaker 2: is to make them feel good, especially on their special day.

2007
01:30:25,439 --> 01:30:28,280
Speaker 1: The least that you can do if you don't even

2008
01:30:28,360 --> 01:30:28,840
Speaker 1: have money.

2009
01:30:28,920 --> 01:30:32,840
Speaker 2: You should have woke up to breakfast flowers cost ten

2010
01:30:32,960 --> 01:30:35,000
Speaker 2: dollars from Krogers. I don't give a fuck what your

2011
01:30:35,040 --> 01:30:37,200
Speaker 2: budget is. You could have took that hundred dollars and

2012
01:30:37,360 --> 01:30:39,880
Speaker 2: did so much for her because I hate gonna be

2013
01:30:39,920 --> 01:30:42,400
Speaker 2: and be like, because I'm not gonna lie me. Ain't

2014
01:30:42,400 --> 01:30:44,400
Speaker 2: nothing one hundred dollars you can get for me. But

2015
01:30:45,080 --> 01:30:47,760
Speaker 2: it's some it's some things out there that are accessible

2016
01:30:47,840 --> 01:30:50,240
Speaker 2: for people. So you can take one hundred dollars and

2017
01:30:50,320 --> 01:30:52,120
Speaker 2: make a whole day of experience.

2018
01:30:52,479 --> 01:30:57,040
Speaker 1: But you got to care. Now, it's about being Yeah,

2019
01:30:57,560 --> 01:31:00,920
Speaker 1: like a massage one hundred. I love putting one hundred

2020
01:31:00,960 --> 01:31:04,400
Speaker 1: dollars in an envelope and thinking that figure it out,

2021
01:31:04,880 --> 01:31:07,439
Speaker 1: Roll me a blunt, get some canvas and some wine.

2022
01:31:07,840 --> 01:31:09,280
Speaker 1: Let's pay you know, let's.

2023
01:31:12,200 --> 01:31:14,680
Speaker 4: You know what you knew the first year that it

2024
01:31:15,200 --> 01:31:17,200
Speaker 4: wasn't the thing, and then you ignored your intuition and

2025
01:31:17,280 --> 01:31:17,800
Speaker 4: you say you.

2026
01:31:17,840 --> 01:31:21,080
Speaker 2: Had went three hundred and sixty five days again, And

2027
01:31:21,920 --> 01:31:24,519
Speaker 2: if he could have reminded himself like, let me make sure,

2028
01:31:25,080 --> 01:31:27,679
Speaker 2: because she she he knew the first year you weren't

2029
01:31:27,720 --> 01:31:30,599
Speaker 2: happy and the second year if he did the same

2030
01:31:30,680 --> 01:31:33,360
Speaker 2: thing twice, I think this is a testament that if

2031
01:31:33,400 --> 01:31:35,960
Speaker 2: you wrote this letter into these ladies, you already know

2032
01:31:36,000 --> 01:31:37,960
Speaker 2: what's up. I feel like you teach people how to

2033
01:31:38,040 --> 01:31:40,800
Speaker 2: treat you too, though, Like I feel like she was

2034
01:31:40,880 --> 01:31:42,599
Speaker 2: okay with it the first year, right.

2035
01:31:42,600 --> 01:31:44,160
Speaker 1: So he was like, I'm not gonna lie.

2036
01:31:44,439 --> 01:31:48,240
Speaker 2: I literally my little boot text me Saturday when we

2037
01:31:48,320 --> 01:31:50,439
Speaker 2: had the pop up shop and he was like, oh

2038
01:31:50,520 --> 01:31:52,080
Speaker 2: my gosh, do you have a show today? Because I

2039
01:31:52,160 --> 01:31:53,880
Speaker 2: wanted to make sure I sent you something, did something

2040
01:31:53,960 --> 01:31:55,720
Speaker 2: right like, because he was like, oh my gosh, I've

2041
01:31:55,720 --> 01:31:56,920
Speaker 2: been running around. I was like, no, it's just a

2042
01:31:56,920 --> 01:31:59,560
Speaker 2: pop up shop. Because he knows, don't play with me

2043
01:31:59,560 --> 01:32:01,599
Speaker 2: when I have a live show. I need to pull

2044
01:32:01,720 --> 01:32:03,560
Speaker 2: up and there needs to be flowers waiting for me,

2045
01:32:03,960 --> 01:32:06,479
Speaker 2: or you need to be there here this Orlando Hello,

2046
01:32:07,920 --> 01:32:09,760
Speaker 2: A live show is a big deal. I don't care

2047
01:32:09,760 --> 01:32:12,080
Speaker 2: if I've been on tour for eight years. I still

2048
01:32:12,120 --> 01:32:14,559
Speaker 2: make special maybe every time.

2049
01:32:15,479 --> 01:32:15,959
Speaker 1: Exactly.

2050
01:32:16,080 --> 01:32:20,720
Speaker 4: I'm biased because I'm not a good gift gif It

2051
01:32:20,840 --> 01:32:22,960
Speaker 4: raised me that way, So sometimes I'll do like thoughtful ship,

2052
01:32:23,000 --> 01:32:24,160
Speaker 4: like I'll paint you a picture Like.

2053
01:32:25,000 --> 01:32:29,120
Speaker 1: Okay, Pa, you just said I'm painting you are thoughtful.

2054
01:32:30,640 --> 01:32:33,040
Speaker 1: I'll make a scrap book of us. That a big

2055
01:32:33,120 --> 01:32:33,960
Speaker 1: deal though, I don't.

2056
01:32:34,800 --> 01:32:36,800
Speaker 4: Gift giver, but yeah, I think there's there's things that

2057
01:32:36,840 --> 01:32:38,960
Speaker 4: you can let someone know you're thoughtful in different ways,

2058
01:32:38,960 --> 01:32:40,200
Speaker 4: and it doesn't have to be monetary.

2059
01:32:41,320 --> 01:32:44,360
Speaker 1: So yeah, leave. Look she's like, I want to look.

2060
01:32:44,400 --> 01:32:46,200
Speaker 1: You like to give some I don't.

2061
01:32:46,320 --> 01:32:51,040
Speaker 2: I can tell I like gifts. I don't give gifts, right, Okay,

2062
01:32:51,320 --> 01:32:55,519
Speaker 2: I enjoy them. Look, she's like, pull up with that barking.

2063
01:32:56,080 --> 01:32:58,360
Speaker 1: I want to rollax and diamond earrings, but I'm not

2064
01:32:58,400 --> 01:32:59,920
Speaker 1: going to give that to you. Look a roller?

2065
01:33:01,280 --> 01:33:01,880
Speaker 5: What's your nigga?

2066
01:33:04,240 --> 01:33:05,920
Speaker 2: You know you need friends?

2067
01:33:07,360 --> 01:33:07,880
Speaker 1: Definitely ain't.

2068
01:33:09,200 --> 01:33:09,880
Speaker 2: Can we buy each other?

2069
01:33:09,960 --> 01:33:15,080
Speaker 1: Relex No, that's right, we are quite there. She just

2070
01:33:15,120 --> 01:33:18,479
Speaker 1: bought me some earrings. I already know I'm about bust

2071
01:33:18,560 --> 01:33:19,080
Speaker 1: me down.

2072
01:33:19,240 --> 01:33:23,120
Speaker 2: I can't wait, don't you? And all your friends are rich.

2073
01:33:23,439 --> 01:33:27,160
Speaker 2: I love it here because Killa my friends shout out

2074
01:33:27,160 --> 01:33:28,800
Speaker 2: to Killa from maing this podcast.

2075
01:33:29,280 --> 01:33:31,000
Speaker 1: Yeah, Yo, gift that you're gonna have to give me

2076
01:33:31,120 --> 01:33:34,000
Speaker 1: this year. Yeah, I see you winning.

2077
01:33:34,240 --> 01:33:37,000
Speaker 2: So tell everybody where they can find y'all, at what

2078
01:33:37,120 --> 01:33:39,320
Speaker 2: y'all got coming up, everything that y'all working on.

2079
01:33:39,800 --> 01:33:40,200
Speaker 1: Everything.

2080
01:33:40,640 --> 01:33:42,280
Speaker 4: Well, we're working a lot of things over here, but

2081
01:33:42,400 --> 01:33:44,600
Speaker 4: I want you guys to know that we've talked a

2082
01:33:44,640 --> 01:33:49,800
Speaker 4: lot about like camaraderie amongst women's sisterhood, uh, you know,

2083
01:33:50,120 --> 01:33:53,439
Speaker 4: just black women giving each other permission and finding themselves.

2084
01:33:53,960 --> 01:33:56,160
Speaker 5: Eric and I have a not a podcast.

2085
01:33:56,200 --> 01:33:59,120
Speaker 4: We have a podcast, but we have a retreat in

2086
01:33:59,240 --> 01:34:02,479
Speaker 4: Costa Rica coming up on July thirty first and August tenth.

2087
01:34:02,600 --> 01:34:03,320
Speaker 5: It's for women.

2088
01:34:03,920 --> 01:34:10,559
Speaker 4: It's fun, there's weed, there's healing, there's beach outings, there's tribe.

2089
01:34:10,720 --> 01:34:12,960
Speaker 4: And I know that a lot of women don't find

2090
01:34:13,000 --> 01:34:15,519
Speaker 4: it easy to make friends in adulthood, and that's why

2091
01:34:15,560 --> 01:34:18,200
Speaker 4: me and Erica are friends. But we've created this experience

2092
01:34:18,320 --> 01:34:21,200
Speaker 4: so that black women, all women have the opportunity to

2093
01:34:21,240 --> 01:34:23,839
Speaker 4: meet other women that are non judgmental and like minded.

2094
01:34:24,160 --> 01:34:28,160
Speaker 4: We've curated a beautiful seven day vacation in the Caribbean

2095
01:34:28,240 --> 01:34:29,960
Speaker 4: side of Costa Rica, all inclusive.

2096
01:34:30,160 --> 01:34:33,439
Speaker 2: That's the Black Side description. Yeah, make sure you follow

2097
01:34:33,560 --> 01:34:36,640
Speaker 2: the good vibratory and come because Costa Rica is.

2098
01:34:36,760 --> 01:34:37,439
Speaker 1: Magic, y'all.

2099
01:34:38,360 --> 01:34:40,720
Speaker 5: Yeah, please come, you guys.

2100
01:34:41,160 --> 01:34:46,840
Speaker 1: So we have Sexual Essentials hosting week two. They have girls.

2101
01:34:46,960 --> 01:34:51,160
Speaker 2: Yeah, Maya's hosting week two. Trap Yoga bas is doing

2102
01:34:51,160 --> 01:34:54,000
Speaker 2: a workshop week one. So these are guests and friends

2103
01:34:54,040 --> 01:34:55,960
Speaker 2: of the show. So we're just really excited to bring

2104
01:34:56,120 --> 01:34:59,920
Speaker 2: our guests to the jungle to y'all. Make sure you

2105
01:35:00,000 --> 01:35:02,559
Speaker 2: follow us on Instagram at Good Mom's Underscore, Bad Choices.

2106
01:35:02,640 --> 01:35:03,599
Speaker 2: Our Patreon is lit.

2107
01:35:03,680 --> 01:35:06,479
Speaker 4: Also, we have really lit merch for Cannon Moms, so

2108
01:35:06,560 --> 01:35:08,200
Speaker 4: we got a lot of weed merch and cool ship

2109
01:35:08,280 --> 01:35:08,599
Speaker 4: over there.

2110
01:35:08,800 --> 01:35:09,519
Speaker 5: Come check us out.

2111
01:35:09,720 --> 01:35:14,760
Speaker 1: If y'all never want to see my tds, you want

2112
01:35:14,800 --> 01:35:18,479
Speaker 1: to see it because they're all hove. Are gonna be like.

2113
01:35:20,439 --> 01:35:28,000
Speaker 2: Hi. Cover that Jamila has to convince her titties or camouflage,

2114
01:35:28,040 --> 01:35:33,240
Speaker 2: so you barely saw that. My biggest Pepperoni nipples though

2115
01:35:33,720 --> 01:35:34,080
Speaker 2: I can't.

2116
01:35:36,760 --> 01:35:37,720
Speaker 5: I'll take one for the team.

2117
01:35:39,200 --> 01:35:41,240
Speaker 2: Well, thank y'all so much for coming. Like I said,

2118
01:35:41,280 --> 01:35:43,799
Speaker 2: were on the West coast in l A with it. Honestly,

2119
01:35:43,840 --> 01:35:46,960
Speaker 2: it would have gone longer people, But I know y'all

2120
01:35:46,960 --> 01:35:49,080
Speaker 2: got a place to do this again. Yes, we have

2121
01:35:49,320 --> 01:35:49,920
Speaker 2: to do this again.

2122
01:35:50,000 --> 01:35:57,760
Speaker 1: This is seen literally the whole live show we just

2123
01:35:57,800 --> 01:35:59,040
Speaker 1: posted on Patreon. My nipples.

2124
01:36:00,280 --> 01:36:02,519
Speaker 2: You know what I'm saying. But yeah, so we're gonna

2125
01:36:02,520 --> 01:36:04,400
Speaker 2: do a show with La, so we gotta collapse.

2126
01:36:06,800 --> 01:36:12,040
Speaker 1: Let's open for you so I can, okay everybody the lyrics.

2127
01:36:12,080 --> 01:36:14,040
Speaker 1: We're about to close this out with a good one. Okay,

2128
01:36:15,760 --> 01:36:19,800
Speaker 1: ready she was ready? No holding like you want to,

2129
01:36:20,120 --> 01:36:23,559
Speaker 1: Alex Ellick, How did you get that out that quick? Exactly? Okay,

2130
01:36:23,600 --> 01:36:24,800
Speaker 1: it's so hey, I got it, I got it, I

2131
01:36:24,840 --> 01:36:27,360
Speaker 1: got it, bro, No, I got it. Okay ready, that's

2132
01:36:27,400 --> 01:36:29,800
Speaker 1: my bro. Okay. So first of all, it starts with

2133
01:36:29,880 --> 01:36:33,080
Speaker 1: the who's gonna see the first burn? Me? Okay, she

2134
01:36:33,240 --> 01:36:37,360
Speaker 1: got it? You all ready, y'all? Ready, let's go. What's

2135
01:36:37,400 --> 01:36:44,320
Speaker 1: it gone up? Because I can't pretend what they going up?

2136
01:36:45,760 --> 01:36:59,439
Speaker 7: More friendly? Like got a right to lose control, let go.

2137
01:37:03,439 --> 01:37:08,000
Speaker 7: I often to myself that week could be more than

2138
01:37:08,400 --> 01:37:08,800
Speaker 7: just friend.

2139
01:37:09,479 --> 01:37:13,120
Speaker 2: I know you think that if we move too soon.

2140
01:37:13,280 --> 01:37:20,479
Speaker 1: That it would all allanimmasery. When you're not around.

2141
01:37:22,000 --> 01:37:26,440
Speaker 4: And No'm satisfied to taking those bows.

2142
01:37:26,240 --> 01:37:33,800
Speaker 3: There be some love making, heart breaking, so shaking, make

2143
01:37:33,920 --> 01:37:38,679
Speaker 3: it hart, shake it, want it, don't.

2144
01:37:38,920 --> 01:37:47,880
Speaker 1: Y because I can't. Don't you wannay more? The phrase

2145
01:37:50,280 --> 01:37:57,360
Speaker 1: don't let go. Let have the right to lose control.

2146
01:37:58,280 --> 01:38:03,200
Speaker 1: Do let go. We gonna We're gonna fast forward home.

2147
01:38:04,000 --> 01:38:09,000
Speaker 1: Running in and out my life has got me so confused.

2148
01:38:09,720 --> 01:38:14,680
Speaker 3: You gotta make it, Agrivis, somebody's gotta show.

2149
01:38:15,600 --> 01:38:19,160
Speaker 1: We can make it. If we try, for the sake

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Speaker 1: of you, get a week and make it rise, there'll

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Speaker 1: be sun that this was the best one that we've

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Speaker 1: ever done. That was the best one thing. Girls Running

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Speaker 1: in and out my life mixtake for it's got to choose.

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Speaker 1: We have to bring that back.

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Speaker 2: I want to mix same little mom's poor choice. I

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Speaker 2: got it, Okay, I'm playing with next take out the

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Speaker 2: truck at the next live show. We're gonna sell them.

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Speaker 2: Thank y'all so much for tuning in. Were on the

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Speaker 2: West coast. Were in l A now all day and

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Speaker 2: we'll see y'all next week.

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Speaker 1: Bye