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Speaker 1: It is time now for today's Strawberry Letter, and if

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Speaker 1: Subject my brother's ex wife on the car. Got it

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Speaker 1: all right? Dear Stephen Shirley, I've been separated for three

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Speaker 1: months and I'm getting divorced. My husband and I had

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Speaker 1: a very happy marriage until three months ago. He was

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Speaker 1: brother is twenty eight, and he rushed into marriage after

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Speaker 1: he got a woman pregnant. It was obvious that his

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Speaker 1: wife was not the marrying type. She's twenty five and

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Speaker 1: all she does is smoked weed and drink. One night,

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Speaker 1: she went home drunk and tried to fight my brother,

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Speaker 1: so He put her out and divorced her a few

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Speaker 1: months later. She resurfaced three months ago asking if she

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Speaker 1: could stay with my husband and I while she looked

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Speaker 1: for a job close to the baby's daycare. We agreed

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Speaker 1: to one week. This girl ate our food and used

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Speaker 1: he didn't like her attitude, so he avoided her. That's alive.

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Speaker 1: Just five days after she got to our house, she

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Speaker 1: ruined my life. She was out smoking weed on the

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Speaker 1: heard noises coming from the card port, so I went

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Speaker 1: to see if it was my husband. It was him

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Speaker 1: and my brother's wife who had her bent over his car,

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Speaker 1: and when they heard me, they started pulling up their pants.

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Speaker 1: I told them both to leave. I was so shocked.

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Speaker 1: I was so shocked that she would do that to me.

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Speaker 1: My husband moved out and served me with divorce papers. Recently,

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Speaker 1: he said it is all his fault and he could

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Speaker 1: never look me in the eyes after what he did. Now,

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Speaker 1: my only problem is that my brother wants his family

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Speaker 1: back together and he wants to remarry his ex wife.

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Speaker 1: How can he want her back? I've lost my husband

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Speaker 1: and if my brother remarries this woman, I won't ever

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Speaker 1: speak to him again. Would I'd be wrong to cut

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Speaker 1: my little brother off. You know what I gotta tell you.

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Speaker 1: You have every right to handle this situation however you

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Speaker 1: see fit. I clearly understand why you're angry. I understand

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Speaker 1: why you feel betrayed by your brother, by his ex wife,

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Speaker 1: by all of this situation, but him getting ready to

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Speaker 1: remarry this weed smoking trifle Innefa who broke up your marriage. Wow,

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Speaker 1: that's a lot. That's a lot, So handle it however

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Speaker 1: you need to handle it. I mean, you're thinking, how

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Speaker 1: can he do this to you? I get it. Either

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Speaker 1: he's still in love with her, or has forgiven her

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Speaker 1: for having sex with his brother in law, your husband,

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Speaker 1: which I don't know how he could, or he's just

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Speaker 1: some of the blame for all this has to go

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Speaker 1: to you and your husband for letting her come back.

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Speaker 1: You knew what kind of person she was. Letting her

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Speaker 1: just knew how she caused the breakup of her own marriage.

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Speaker 1: Then you double back and invite devil in your house

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Speaker 1: again after your brother divorced her. I mean, why would

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Speaker 1: you do that. Her coming back to live with you

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Speaker 1: should have never happened at that point. I'm sure your

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Speaker 1: but I don't know what the damage is done now.

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Speaker 1: So there's enough hurt and pain to go around for

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Speaker 1: everyone in this entire family. So no, I definitely get

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Speaker 1: it if you're mad at your little brother for taking

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Speaker 1: forgive him so you can move on. That's his life.

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Speaker 1: You know. Your husband, on the other hand, cannot look

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Speaker 1: this letter did you say you were taking him back,

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Speaker 1: because what he did was just a foul Steve, I

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Speaker 1: see what's happening in the letter. My brother's ex wife

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Speaker 1: on the car. Here. The problem, the real problem in

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Speaker 1: on the person that owes you their loyalty in this letter,

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Speaker 1: It ain't enough in this letter about your husband. You

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Speaker 1: how could she do this to me and your brother?

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Speaker 1: And if he should I cut him off? If they remarried? What? What?

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Speaker 1: What you need to get your priorities lined up here?

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Speaker 1: Your real problem is your husband. He the only one

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Speaker 1: took a vout to you, your brother, stupid, the girl trash?

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Speaker 1: What you expect from stupidity? And what do you expect

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Speaker 1: Trash type people are gonna do trash things. The only

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Speaker 1: can't look at you or not because of what he did.

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Speaker 1: He know that. All right, let me try to walk

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Speaker 1: you through the signats right here. It's really nothing to do.

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Speaker 1: I'm separated for three months. I'm getting divorced. Your husband

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Speaker 1: and I we had a very happy marriage to three

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Speaker 1: months ago. He was a family member. He allowed two

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Speaker 1: My youngest brother twenty eighty rushed in and the Mary

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Speaker 1: Gotti one with pregnant. The obvious wife wasn't to marry

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Speaker 1: and type twenty five. All she do with smoke, weed

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Speaker 1: her a few months later. Now here's a part where Shirley,

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Speaker 1: I understand she resurfaced three months ago asking if she

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Speaker 1: for a job close to the baby's daycare. We agreed

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Speaker 1: to one week. I understood that. That's okay. That wasn't

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Speaker 1: inviting the devil back in. That was just your husband

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Speaker 1: has proven he's a family man, but proved to you

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Speaker 1: really really a family man. See the problem is your husband.

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Speaker 1: Hold that thoughts, Steve. Okay, we'll be back with part

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Speaker 1: two of your response, coming up at twenty three minutes

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Speaker 1: after today's strawberry letter subject my brother's ex wife on

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Speaker 1: the car. We'll get back into it right after this.

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Speaker 1: You're listening, all right? Come on, Steve, Let's recap today's

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Speaker 1: strawberry letter, the subject my brother's ex wife on the car.

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Speaker 1: Listen to me this whole thing, lady, this letter, about

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Speaker 1: this woman, about your brother, whether you should accept your

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Speaker 1: brother bag, How could she do this to me? All

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Speaker 1: of this. Your focus should be purely on your hook.

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Speaker 1: Now some ramifications or some fallout behind it. But your

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Speaker 1: husband bought all this. See you say it in your letter.

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Speaker 1: You and your husband had a really happy marriage. He

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Speaker 1: Rush didn't and married. He got a girl pregnant. Obviously

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Speaker 1: she wasn't a man type. She twenty five. All she

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Speaker 1: way moted this than that. Yo. See, your brother stupid,

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Speaker 1: So he ain't smart enough to divorce you just because

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Speaker 1: no no no no. Something happened while she was out

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Speaker 1: months ago asking if she could stay with my husband

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Speaker 1: agreed to one week. That's being nice, your far. You

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Speaker 1: You said that this girl ate our food, used my

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Speaker 1: while you smoking weed while you high. Yeah yeah, yeeah,

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Speaker 1: you can't remember a manner. My husband claimed he didn't

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Speaker 1: Five days after she got to our house, she ruined

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Speaker 1: stuff missing in this ladder right hill. Oh oh lord,

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Speaker 1: oh lord, girl see this anyway, let's just leave that alone.

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Speaker 1: I was so shocked that she would do that to me.

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Speaker 1: But do that to you? You shocked at her? Your

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Speaker 1: sentence was he had huh been over his car? He

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Speaker 1: I was so shocked she would do that to me.

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Speaker 1: You you didn't? You do you? You forgot about the

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Speaker 1: served me with divorce Paper's reason. He said it was

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Speaker 1: that's your problem? You got your priorities wrong. Your marriage

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Speaker 1: he's stupid and I've lost my husband and if my

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Speaker 1: to him again. That's a decision you're making. Would I

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Speaker 1: be wrong to cut my brother? Cut your brother off?

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Speaker 1: You cut your husband off. He's stupid. My question is

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Speaker 1: that is the question for me. What is this alcoholic,

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Speaker 1: want her back? After your brother know he'd been she'd

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Speaker 1: What is she doing doing some things? And I'm just

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Speaker 1: for this Wow, this damn letter right here, maificent feats

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Speaker 1: of wondermit m. But that's all she can do though.

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Speaker 1: She can't think. She can't save money, she can't raise kids,

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Speaker 1: she don't know how to baby, They can't act, She

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Speaker 1: had no thought to the future. But lord lord, Lord lord,

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