1 00:00:00,960 --> 00:00:04,600 Speaker 1: Look Mayer, oh, I see you my own bow and 2 00:00:04,600 --> 00:00:08,560 Speaker 1: look over there is that culture. Yes, goodness wow, Lost 3 00:00:08,600 --> 00:00:14,280 Speaker 1: Cultu ding Dong, Lost Culturista's calling lave Culturista. Still Bowen 4 00:00:14,320 --> 00:00:17,279 Speaker 1: is still on break. But that's okay for today because 5 00:00:17,280 --> 00:00:19,759 Speaker 1: I've actually got two people in the studio, two heads, 6 00:00:20,320 --> 00:00:23,360 Speaker 1: to not only do an episode of Lost Coach, but 7 00:00:23,400 --> 00:00:27,200 Speaker 1: to also answer the question why are you single? I 8 00:00:27,200 --> 00:00:28,720 Speaker 1: think that question is going to be pointed at me, 9 00:00:28,800 --> 00:00:30,720 Speaker 1: and maybe we'll even point it back at them, because 10 00:00:30,720 --> 00:00:32,600 Speaker 1: that's what we do here at Lost Coach. We sort 11 00:00:32,640 --> 00:00:34,760 Speaker 1: of, of course we have conversations, but we point it back 12 00:00:34,800 --> 00:00:36,919 Speaker 1: at you. The readers were going to point it back 13 00:00:36,960 --> 00:00:39,199 Speaker 1: at the guests, and by point it back, I mean 14 00:00:39,280 --> 00:00:42,080 Speaker 1: the question not anything you could point at someone. One 15 00:00:42,120 --> 00:00:44,879 Speaker 1: of my guess is opening their mouth wide sort of 16 00:00:45,040 --> 00:00:49,760 Speaker 1: making a very crass allusion to maybe me pointing my 17 00:00:50,159 --> 00:00:53,440 Speaker 1: panisse over towards him. I had an ex boyfriend who 18 00:00:53,440 --> 00:00:57,960 Speaker 1: called Penis's Penisse, and I didn't like it together. I 19 00:00:58,000 --> 00:01:00,440 Speaker 1: feel like we are we are not currently together. I'm single, 20 00:01:00,920 --> 00:01:02,520 Speaker 1: and like I said, we're gonna get to the bottom 21 00:01:02,520 --> 00:01:06,000 Speaker 1: of that. I saw the show that my guests today 22 00:01:06,040 --> 00:01:10,240 Speaker 1: are producing and hosting, respectively the other day at the 23 00:01:10,280 --> 00:01:13,759 Speaker 1: Illsion here in LA and I had a time. It's 24 00:01:13,800 --> 00:01:16,319 Speaker 1: a wild show. It's what they call what are those 25 00:01:16,360 --> 00:01:20,240 Speaker 1: shows to watch? They're gonna be hitting it hard actually 26 00:01:20,319 --> 00:01:24,240 Speaker 1: tonight at the Bellhouse in Brooklyn. If you are around, 27 00:01:24,560 --> 00:01:26,759 Speaker 1: I do believe the show will be sold the fuck out. 28 00:01:27,120 --> 00:01:31,000 Speaker 1: But you know wick but check, and by check, I mean, 29 00:01:31,080 --> 00:01:32,760 Speaker 1: of course, get on the website. But also you know what, 30 00:01:32,760 --> 00:01:35,160 Speaker 1: if you're in the downtown area of Brooklyn, if you're 31 00:01:35,200 --> 00:01:38,160 Speaker 1: in the Greater Gowanis area, roll through. If you're in 32 00:01:38,200 --> 00:01:41,040 Speaker 1: the Greater Gwanas and that's actually a real culture. If 33 00:01:41,040 --> 00:01:43,720 Speaker 1: you're in the Greater Gowanas area, roll through the Bellhouse. 34 00:01:44,000 --> 00:01:45,959 Speaker 1: You never know what's happening there. You never know what 35 00:01:46,040 --> 00:01:50,440 Speaker 1: amazing comedians, both established and upcoming are gonna be there, 36 00:01:50,560 --> 00:01:53,160 Speaker 1: sort of rolling the dice, seeing hey does this work? 37 00:01:54,480 --> 00:01:56,440 Speaker 1: What I'll tell you what works? Is this show? Why 38 00:01:56,480 --> 00:01:58,280 Speaker 1: are you single? Like I said, I had the best time, 39 00:01:58,680 --> 00:02:00,640 Speaker 1: and I have two guests, both return to the show. 40 00:02:01,440 --> 00:02:03,680 Speaker 1: Many things have changed in both their lives since they 41 00:02:03,760 --> 00:02:07,040 Speaker 1: last were on the show. I mean, we'll get into it, 42 00:02:07,720 --> 00:02:11,080 Speaker 1: but what hasn't changed is the charisma uniqueness, nerve, and 43 00:02:11,160 --> 00:02:15,960 Speaker 1: talent that both of them possessed. They both possess Kant 44 00:02:16,480 --> 00:02:20,720 Speaker 1: and I'm very excited to welcome back to Lost culturistas 45 00:02:21,040 --> 00:02:25,680 Speaker 1: Dave Mazzoni and Marie Faust than everybody wow an introduction. 46 00:02:26,280 --> 00:02:28,760 Speaker 1: Let me tell you something. They said, he's not gonna 47 00:02:28,760 --> 00:02:31,240 Speaker 1: be able to do introt by himself. I said, watch me, bitch, 48 00:02:31,280 --> 00:02:33,200 Speaker 1: I said, watch me try to land the plane every 49 00:02:33,240 --> 00:02:36,240 Speaker 1: time I start speaking into the Hudson. Yeah you did 50 00:02:36,240 --> 00:02:36,800 Speaker 1: you rehearse that? 51 00:02:36,960 --> 00:02:38,800 Speaker 2: No, you just had off the dome. 52 00:02:39,000 --> 00:02:41,240 Speaker 1: That's sort of what makes me a dynamic podcast host. 53 00:02:41,880 --> 00:02:44,399 Speaker 1: That's which is my new line. I'm never really sure 54 00:02:44,400 --> 00:02:46,560 Speaker 1: when I start a sentence if the plane's gonna land. 55 00:02:47,000 --> 00:02:47,200 Speaker 2: Oh. 56 00:02:47,360 --> 00:02:50,519 Speaker 3: As a passenger, we were buckled in and Marie and 57 00:02:50,560 --> 00:02:53,400 Speaker 3: I were saying our final words to one another. But 58 00:02:53,639 --> 00:02:55,800 Speaker 3: it's so nice to have landed in the Hudson. Where 59 00:02:55,840 --> 00:02:58,360 Speaker 3: are the life rafting? Well, we're jumping into the waters 60 00:02:58,400 --> 00:03:00,760 Speaker 3: of Lost culture now, you guys. The show is oh fun. 61 00:03:00,840 --> 00:03:02,960 Speaker 3: We had a blast. I've never done a show at 62 00:03:02,960 --> 00:03:04,959 Speaker 3: Allegian before. Actually you either, Marie. 63 00:03:04,800 --> 00:03:05,519 Speaker 1: Right, uh No. 64 00:03:05,600 --> 00:03:07,000 Speaker 2: When I got there, I was like, oh I have. 65 00:03:07,639 --> 00:03:10,120 Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, yeah, I'm still that person in LA just 66 00:03:10,160 --> 00:03:12,839 Speaker 1: because I performed so much less here live that I'm 67 00:03:12,880 --> 00:03:15,040 Speaker 1: not exactly sure what everything is called like, and I 68 00:03:15,160 --> 00:03:16,880 Speaker 1: also don't know what still exists after. 69 00:03:16,760 --> 00:03:18,959 Speaker 4: Right, I don't know the name of places. Yeah, I'm 70 00:03:18,960 --> 00:03:19,720 Speaker 4: like that with people too. 71 00:03:19,760 --> 00:03:20,040 Speaker 2: I don't know. 72 00:03:20,080 --> 00:03:22,360 Speaker 4: I don't remember your face. I'm definitely not gonna remember 73 00:03:22,400 --> 00:03:24,840 Speaker 4: your name. I have a very bad memory. Blame it 74 00:03:24,880 --> 00:03:25,560 Speaker 4: on the quee. 75 00:03:25,760 --> 00:03:27,960 Speaker 3: I think I do as well, Matt, You're pretty good 76 00:03:27,960 --> 00:03:28,240 Speaker 3: at that. 77 00:03:28,320 --> 00:03:31,160 Speaker 1: I'm okay, but I will say that, like, there are 78 00:03:31,240 --> 00:03:34,000 Speaker 1: times now where, especially like in the age of Instagram, 79 00:03:34,040 --> 00:03:36,160 Speaker 1: where you want to look someone up, like someone that 80 00:03:36,200 --> 00:03:37,840 Speaker 1: you talk to or DM do at a certain point, 81 00:03:37,920 --> 00:03:39,560 Speaker 1: or like maybe someone that you met, and you're like, oh, 82 00:03:39,560 --> 00:03:41,800 Speaker 1: that guy was really cute. What's oh my god, I 83 00:03:41,840 --> 00:03:44,280 Speaker 1: don't know their name right, Like that's a new phenomenon. 84 00:03:44,320 --> 00:03:45,640 Speaker 2: You're like, I think it's just with a C. 85 00:03:46,360 --> 00:03:49,240 Speaker 1: It's for sure, like something in the area of Chris. 86 00:03:49,360 --> 00:03:50,200 Speaker 2: And You're never right. 87 00:03:50,360 --> 00:03:51,040 Speaker 1: You're never right. 88 00:03:51,160 --> 00:03:53,680 Speaker 3: My thing is I've I've introduced myself to people like 89 00:03:54,160 --> 00:03:57,480 Speaker 3: six times over and they're like, we've met before, we've met. 90 00:03:57,640 --> 00:03:59,640 Speaker 1: Well, this is a this is a big controversy It's 91 00:03:59,640 --> 00:04:01,800 Speaker 1: that thing of like if you have met the person, 92 00:04:01,880 --> 00:04:03,880 Speaker 1: are you that person that says we've met? Or do 93 00:04:03,920 --> 00:04:05,040 Speaker 1: you just let it roll off your back? 94 00:04:05,200 --> 00:04:05,400 Speaker 2: Oh? 95 00:04:05,560 --> 00:04:08,480 Speaker 4: Everybody knows that I'm not going to remember them unless 96 00:04:08,520 --> 00:04:11,320 Speaker 4: you did something memorable like did you ship your pants 97 00:04:11,360 --> 00:04:11,880 Speaker 4: in front of me? 98 00:04:12,320 --> 00:04:14,040 Speaker 2: Are you really really fine? 99 00:04:14,320 --> 00:04:14,440 Speaker 4: Like? 100 00:04:14,760 --> 00:04:16,160 Speaker 3: Did you defication sticks? 101 00:04:16,200 --> 00:04:18,960 Speaker 2: Did you pay for the table? Like I don't. I'm 102 00:04:18,960 --> 00:04:19,719 Speaker 2: probably not gonna. 103 00:04:19,520 --> 00:04:22,000 Speaker 1: Remember defecation or did you pay for the table? 104 00:04:22,360 --> 00:04:22,560 Speaker 3: Yeah? 105 00:04:22,600 --> 00:04:24,080 Speaker 1: Did you shit in front of me? Or did you 106 00:04:24,080 --> 00:04:24,640 Speaker 1: cover the check? 107 00:04:26,120 --> 00:04:26,360 Speaker 3: Forever? 108 00:04:27,839 --> 00:04:31,599 Speaker 1: I will straight up remember like people's names from my 109 00:04:31,640 --> 00:04:34,240 Speaker 1: third grade class. It's like I miss my little third 110 00:04:34,279 --> 00:04:37,480 Speaker 1: grade mind that soaked it all up, that could remember things. 111 00:04:37,520 --> 00:04:40,200 Speaker 1: I remember, even some stuff from like school in third grade. 112 00:04:40,240 --> 00:04:42,400 Speaker 1: I don't remember things that happened last And I blame 113 00:04:42,440 --> 00:04:43,080 Speaker 1: it on the weed as well. 114 00:04:43,120 --> 00:04:44,359 Speaker 2: What were we learning in third grade? 115 00:04:44,440 --> 00:04:47,720 Speaker 1: We were learning, you know, sort of arithmetic. We were 116 00:04:47,800 --> 00:04:50,200 Speaker 1: learning sort of you know complex. 117 00:04:49,839 --> 00:04:52,919 Speaker 3: I think whales structure. I think I remember spending some 118 00:04:52,960 --> 00:04:53,880 Speaker 3: time on wales. 119 00:04:53,920 --> 00:04:59,360 Speaker 1: Learn cursive cursive was second grade for me? Okay, cursive script? Wow? 120 00:04:59,800 --> 00:05:02,320 Speaker 1: And that was I remember something. I thought, Well, now 121 00:05:02,320 --> 00:05:04,719 Speaker 1: we're really leveling up, right, now that we all know 122 00:05:04,760 --> 00:05:07,560 Speaker 1: how to write cursive, now the world can really begin. 123 00:05:07,640 --> 00:05:09,480 Speaker 1: I haven't written in cursive there. 124 00:05:09,680 --> 00:05:11,560 Speaker 3: Do you think that could separate current generations? 125 00:05:11,560 --> 00:05:11,760 Speaker 2: Though? 126 00:05:11,839 --> 00:05:14,520 Speaker 3: Like take a millennial and the gen Z and be like, okay, 127 00:05:14,520 --> 00:05:15,600 Speaker 3: someone writing cursive. 128 00:05:15,400 --> 00:05:16,839 Speaker 1: Yeah, give me a show me a Z. 129 00:05:17,600 --> 00:05:19,719 Speaker 2: They're like, cursive, you want me to write curses? 130 00:05:19,800 --> 00:05:20,280 Speaker 3: Oh my god? 131 00:05:20,320 --> 00:05:20,760 Speaker 1: You know what? 132 00:05:20,760 --> 00:05:24,200 Speaker 3: It was like? Fuck ass damn capital G in cursive 133 00:05:24,360 --> 00:05:25,520 Speaker 3: was like a nightmare for me. 134 00:05:25,600 --> 00:05:27,080 Speaker 2: It was like, what is that? 135 00:05:27,240 --> 00:05:29,400 Speaker 3: I think it's like a big circle just it was 136 00:05:29,440 --> 00:05:32,400 Speaker 3: just six flags like prototype. Yeah, I have no idea how. 137 00:05:32,720 --> 00:05:35,400 Speaker 1: The Olympics, Yeah, the only one that it feels like 138 00:05:35,400 --> 00:05:37,560 Speaker 1: they got to the end of the alphabet and we're like, 139 00:05:37,600 --> 00:05:39,440 Speaker 1: now we have to make something up is the Z 140 00:05:39,640 --> 00:05:43,279 Speaker 1: though the lowercase Z is literally a little It's like 141 00:05:43,320 --> 00:05:46,080 Speaker 1: a little tiny, little half circle and then a squiggle squag. 142 00:05:46,600 --> 00:05:49,120 Speaker 1: I don't even know what the zs like. A look 143 00:05:49,200 --> 00:05:52,359 Speaker 1: up thiscursive under lowercase Z. You will be shook for weeks. 144 00:05:52,560 --> 00:05:53,920 Speaker 1: You will be shook for a week. 145 00:05:53,920 --> 00:05:55,919 Speaker 3: You'll be shook for there are two z's in my 146 00:05:56,000 --> 00:05:57,920 Speaker 3: last name, and I do the lower case Z when 147 00:05:57,920 --> 00:05:59,400 Speaker 3: I do my signature, so I actually have a very 148 00:05:59,400 --> 00:06:01,800 Speaker 3: personal relation and ship with the lowercase Z cursive two 149 00:06:02,120 --> 00:06:04,240 Speaker 3: z's one cup, I'm i z z O and I 150 00:06:04,400 --> 00:06:05,520 Speaker 3: to z's one cup. 151 00:06:06,080 --> 00:06:07,400 Speaker 1: It's a for a title of that. 152 00:06:07,600 --> 00:06:09,200 Speaker 3: Okay, yes, well the. 153 00:06:09,720 --> 00:06:12,760 Speaker 1: Something better, I dare you comes something better than two 154 00:06:12,839 --> 00:06:14,920 Speaker 1: zi's one cup. The gatlin has been thrown down. Oh god, 155 00:06:14,920 --> 00:06:17,719 Speaker 1: I never thought about that. You'd be writing two z's 156 00:06:17,839 --> 00:06:19,200 Speaker 1: your entire life and cursive. 157 00:06:19,400 --> 00:06:20,599 Speaker 3: I feel like a little bit when I do it. 158 00:06:20,600 --> 00:06:21,520 Speaker 3: I love my signature. 159 00:06:21,640 --> 00:06:24,200 Speaker 1: It's like that, do you live for the fantasy of 160 00:06:24,200 --> 00:06:26,400 Speaker 1: your own signature? This is a major topic. 161 00:06:26,360 --> 00:06:31,240 Speaker 2: When I practice my signature when I'm not doing something official, gorgeous, stunning. 162 00:06:31,400 --> 00:06:32,200 Speaker 1: Yes, as soon. 163 00:06:32,080 --> 00:06:33,719 Speaker 4: As I have to sign something, I'm like, oh, I 164 00:06:33,760 --> 00:06:37,159 Speaker 4: forgot how to spell the m's not conn for me. 165 00:06:37,279 --> 00:06:38,920 Speaker 3: If I get going, if there's a bunch of things 166 00:06:38,920 --> 00:06:40,640 Speaker 3: to sign in a row, like a lease, like by 167 00:06:40,680 --> 00:06:41,719 Speaker 3: page three, I'm. 168 00:06:41,520 --> 00:06:44,440 Speaker 1: On my ship, I'm a stamp. Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, wow. 169 00:06:44,520 --> 00:06:46,640 Speaker 1: I have to say. One of the things I live 170 00:06:46,680 --> 00:06:49,720 Speaker 1: for about myself is my signature. I live for my signature. 171 00:06:49,720 --> 00:06:53,280 Speaker 1: I inherited my cursive rs from my father. If something 172 00:06:53,320 --> 00:06:55,919 Speaker 1: passed down from generations the way we write our rs, 173 00:06:56,160 --> 00:06:58,880 Speaker 1: and sometimes when I'm like just by myself doodling, I'll 174 00:06:58,920 --> 00:07:02,080 Speaker 1: do my own signature. And then when you come of age, 175 00:07:02,120 --> 00:07:04,560 Speaker 1: you realize every fucking thing you sign is on docu 176 00:07:04,640 --> 00:07:08,479 Speaker 1: sign or electric so you are trying to copy what 177 00:07:08,720 --> 00:07:11,560 Speaker 1: is a cool natural signature on docu sign and you 178 00:07:11,600 --> 00:07:14,920 Speaker 1: feel like a fucking freak, like dragging the mouse around. 179 00:07:15,080 --> 00:07:16,880 Speaker 3: I know you really wish you had a styl. 180 00:07:17,720 --> 00:07:20,080 Speaker 2: Phone sometimes and like sign it with your finger, but oh. 181 00:07:19,960 --> 00:07:22,360 Speaker 1: That's good, Hey, maybe I'll do that. And like here 182 00:07:22,400 --> 00:07:24,080 Speaker 1: I am like all the way down the rabbit hole, 183 00:07:24,200 --> 00:07:26,679 Speaker 1: like in tech, like just trying to sign something. 184 00:07:26,720 --> 00:07:29,080 Speaker 3: But like also at the same time, in like grocery stores, 185 00:07:29,080 --> 00:07:30,800 Speaker 3: when they ask you to like do a little signature, 186 00:07:30,880 --> 00:07:33,400 Speaker 3: I'm always like this is stupid, and I'll always just 187 00:07:33,440 --> 00:07:35,600 Speaker 3: do a line like I won't even do anything. I'll 188 00:07:35,640 --> 00:07:38,400 Speaker 3: just be like, this is dumb that believe it's acceptable. 189 00:07:38,480 --> 00:07:40,440 Speaker 4: You gotta do a giant The first letter has to 190 00:07:40,480 --> 00:07:42,200 Speaker 4: be giant, and then the rest would be like. 191 00:07:42,680 --> 00:07:45,000 Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, yeah, that's how mine is. It's a huge, 192 00:07:45,120 --> 00:07:47,280 Speaker 1: big R that announces itself. 193 00:07:47,480 --> 00:07:49,120 Speaker 2: Is bigger than the M. 194 00:07:49,760 --> 00:07:52,120 Speaker 1: The M is kind of big, and then the att 195 00:07:52,320 --> 00:07:54,040 Speaker 1: is small, and then the R is big and the 196 00:07:54,160 --> 00:07:55,520 Speaker 1: O G E R S is small. 197 00:07:55,840 --> 00:07:58,120 Speaker 2: My M is massive. YEAHS for massive. 198 00:07:58,360 --> 00:08:00,960 Speaker 1: You know the M. We all deal with the letter M. 199 00:08:01,360 --> 00:08:04,520 Speaker 1: I love for first and last name, the M. It's 200 00:08:04,560 --> 00:08:06,360 Speaker 1: a powerful, powerful letter. 201 00:08:06,480 --> 00:08:07,880 Speaker 3: Certainly it's a powerful. 202 00:08:07,600 --> 00:08:14,560 Speaker 1: Sound money M mansion, men, men, men, as we all connect. 203 00:08:15,120 --> 00:08:18,320 Speaker 3: Which brings us back to So. 204 00:08:18,480 --> 00:08:21,440 Speaker 1: Here's the thing, Like, in preparation for this episode, because 205 00:08:21,480 --> 00:08:23,080 Speaker 1: I know this, we're going to be discussing why are 206 00:08:23,080 --> 00:08:25,360 Speaker 1: You Single? The live show, which everyone really should go 207 00:08:25,440 --> 00:08:27,520 Speaker 1: see and keep your eye out. I believe if you're 208 00:08:27,560 --> 00:08:29,320 Speaker 1: not able to go tonight in Brooklyn, they're going to 209 00:08:29,360 --> 00:08:30,640 Speaker 1: be starting up again in September. 210 00:08:30,760 --> 00:08:33,880 Speaker 3: Yes, we'll be at the Bellhouse going forward, probably every couple. 211 00:08:34,000 --> 00:08:35,960 Speaker 1: This is a really really fun show. And I was 212 00:08:35,960 --> 00:08:38,320 Speaker 1: thinking about it and I genuinely tried to ask myself 213 00:08:38,400 --> 00:08:42,240 Speaker 1: why am I single? Then I said the more interesting 214 00:08:42,320 --> 00:08:43,839 Speaker 1: question for right now because I know we're going to 215 00:08:43,880 --> 00:08:45,880 Speaker 1: get into it with me, but two people who are 216 00:08:45,920 --> 00:08:49,479 Speaker 1: curating this show, you have to have like a relationship 217 00:08:49,480 --> 00:08:52,720 Speaker 1: with your own single theom Why are you single? Oh? 218 00:08:52,800 --> 00:08:54,720 Speaker 2: People ask me every day. 219 00:08:54,559 --> 00:08:56,240 Speaker 1: Yeah, well why are you single? 220 00:08:56,480 --> 00:08:59,959 Speaker 4: Yeah? I'm like, why am I single. I'm low key 221 00:09:00,160 --> 00:09:02,719 Speaker 4: like a perfectionist. I think in that I want you 222 00:09:02,800 --> 00:09:07,200 Speaker 4: to look perfect next to me, right, your face. 223 00:09:07,040 --> 00:09:07,600 Speaker 2: Just has to fit. 224 00:09:08,640 --> 00:09:10,080 Speaker 1: So we're living in aesthetics. 225 00:09:10,200 --> 00:09:13,600 Speaker 4: You're absolutely I'm a libra. Okay, it needs to be 226 00:09:13,600 --> 00:09:14,920 Speaker 4: aesthetically pleasing to my eyes. 227 00:09:15,000 --> 00:09:17,600 Speaker 1: I get it. It needs to make sense in like 228 00:09:17,679 --> 00:09:21,280 Speaker 1: a way that you're like, we're appearing as a couple, right. 229 00:09:21,360 --> 00:09:23,920 Speaker 2: I want to walk in with somebody and people gasp. 230 00:09:24,240 --> 00:09:27,160 Speaker 2: They're like, oh, I don't. 231 00:09:27,040 --> 00:09:28,520 Speaker 4: Want you to guess bad, Like I don't want to 232 00:09:28,559 --> 00:09:30,320 Speaker 4: be like that's who she's with. 233 00:09:30,600 --> 00:09:32,720 Speaker 3: So it's visuals first when you're like making a date, 234 00:09:32,840 --> 00:09:34,120 Speaker 3: like that's that's what you're looking for. 235 00:09:34,200 --> 00:09:36,000 Speaker 4: If you're talking to me, I'm looking at your face. 236 00:09:36,000 --> 00:09:37,480 Speaker 4: I'm trying to see if you have all your teeth. 237 00:09:37,800 --> 00:09:40,600 Speaker 4: I'm seeing if the hairline and the beard connect all 238 00:09:40,600 --> 00:09:43,080 Speaker 4: the way, Like, don't come at me with scraggling. 239 00:09:43,120 --> 00:09:46,040 Speaker 3: You always say that, And my hairline and beard don't connect. 240 00:09:46,080 --> 00:09:46,440 Speaker 3: They can't. 241 00:09:46,640 --> 00:09:47,840 Speaker 2: They don't have to connect to each other. 242 00:09:48,000 --> 00:09:49,800 Speaker 1: Oh my god, yes they don't connect. 243 00:09:49,840 --> 00:09:50,280 Speaker 3: They don't. 244 00:09:50,480 --> 00:09:53,000 Speaker 2: No, no, no, no. Your hairline is all one piece. There's 245 00:09:53,000 --> 00:09:53,760 Speaker 2: no gaps in the. 246 00:09:53,760 --> 00:09:55,880 Speaker 1: Forehead, you have a panic attack every time you say that. 247 00:09:55,960 --> 00:09:58,240 Speaker 4: The beard is all one piece. You know how some 248 00:09:58,280 --> 00:09:59,959 Speaker 4: people just they can't they can't be. 249 00:10:00,240 --> 00:10:03,080 Speaker 1: They can't connect. If you can't connect, we can't we 250 00:10:03,120 --> 00:10:05,480 Speaker 1: can't connect. All right, So do you think maybe your 251 00:10:05,480 --> 00:10:08,080 Speaker 1: preoccupation with aesthetics is really why you're single? 252 00:10:08,280 --> 00:10:09,559 Speaker 2: No, because. 253 00:10:10,760 --> 00:10:12,839 Speaker 3: Denial of that right there. 254 00:10:13,000 --> 00:10:16,120 Speaker 4: No, because hot to me is not hot to everybody else. 255 00:10:16,240 --> 00:10:18,440 Speaker 4: I see, right, you're hot is not my hot. 256 00:10:18,640 --> 00:10:19,679 Speaker 1: No, that's certain. 257 00:10:20,520 --> 00:10:22,439 Speaker 4: You just got to look good to me, but also 258 00:10:22,640 --> 00:10:24,280 Speaker 4: like be able to put a little outfit together. 259 00:10:24,400 --> 00:10:27,160 Speaker 1: When's the last time there was a relationship that was hot, 260 00:10:27,400 --> 00:10:29,880 Speaker 1: that was like, you know, one that you fondly remember. 261 00:10:30,160 --> 00:10:33,000 Speaker 2: We said, when we say relationship. 262 00:10:32,200 --> 00:10:36,080 Speaker 1: Okay, I'm talking about something that's more than a situationship. 263 00:10:36,120 --> 00:10:38,040 Speaker 1: It was not just fucking. It was a relationship where 264 00:10:38,080 --> 00:10:40,839 Speaker 1: you were like a little bit more invested in this 265 00:10:40,880 --> 00:10:42,120 Speaker 1: person than everyone. 266 00:10:41,840 --> 00:10:42,920 Speaker 2: Felt like that. 267 00:10:43,120 --> 00:10:44,920 Speaker 4: The beginning of this year, I started out. I met 268 00:10:44,920 --> 00:10:49,040 Speaker 4: this guy on New Year's Eve and we started strong. 269 00:10:49,160 --> 00:10:51,559 Speaker 2: Was like, oh, this is cute. This guy. He was 270 00:10:51,640 --> 00:10:53,800 Speaker 2: kind of like a certified love a boy. It was giving, Drake, 271 00:10:54,280 --> 00:10:54,800 Speaker 2: it was giving. 272 00:10:55,320 --> 00:10:58,480 Speaker 4: He was very like, I don't know like a motive. 273 00:10:58,640 --> 00:11:00,960 Speaker 4: He was very like communicative. 274 00:11:00,960 --> 00:11:01,959 Speaker 2: It was a little bit annoying. 275 00:11:02,000 --> 00:11:03,840 Speaker 4: I was like, why are you telling me this all 276 00:11:03,960 --> 00:11:04,360 Speaker 4: up top? 277 00:11:04,480 --> 00:11:07,679 Speaker 1: So the transparency was popping off immediately, clear. 278 00:11:07,600 --> 00:11:08,360 Speaker 2: Crystal clear. 279 00:11:08,679 --> 00:11:09,280 Speaker 3: I love that. 280 00:11:09,440 --> 00:11:11,120 Speaker 2: Yeah. And then he was a little too clear because 281 00:11:11,120 --> 00:11:12,480 Speaker 2: he told me he had him in paying his rent 282 00:11:12,480 --> 00:11:12,920 Speaker 2: and I was like. 283 00:11:13,000 --> 00:11:15,199 Speaker 1: Oh, yeah, you should have stopped that. 284 00:11:15,360 --> 00:11:16,120 Speaker 2: You gotta go. 285 00:11:16,640 --> 00:11:20,440 Speaker 1: Yeah. So basically, like, how long was that a situation? 286 00:11:20,720 --> 00:11:21,720 Speaker 2: Oh like three months? 287 00:11:21,800 --> 00:11:22,480 Speaker 1: So three months? 288 00:11:22,559 --> 00:11:23,680 Speaker 2: Yeah, may he rest in peace. 289 00:11:24,440 --> 00:11:26,280 Speaker 1: You've had a proper boy to you, and I actually 290 00:11:26,280 --> 00:11:26,959 Speaker 1: don't know if this is about you. 291 00:11:27,040 --> 00:11:30,000 Speaker 2: I've had a boyfriend before. I've had a boyfriend before, and. 292 00:11:29,920 --> 00:11:33,840 Speaker 3: That was when what year is it? Twenty twenty three, baby. 293 00:11:33,640 --> 00:11:37,440 Speaker 4: The year of our Lord. I had a boyfriend like 294 00:11:37,679 --> 00:11:41,960 Speaker 4: ten years ago. Wow, okay, so we're together for three years? 295 00:11:42,200 --> 00:11:42,560 Speaker 3: Uh huh. 296 00:11:42,559 --> 00:11:45,760 Speaker 1: So you're someone who prefers to be able to do 297 00:11:45,800 --> 00:11:46,600 Speaker 1: whatever the fuck you want? 298 00:11:46,880 --> 00:11:49,400 Speaker 4: Sure, yeah, sure, but now I want to like have 299 00:11:49,440 --> 00:11:52,800 Speaker 4: a person that I travel the world with and do wild. 300 00:11:52,480 --> 00:11:53,960 Speaker 2: And kinky and crazy cool things with. 301 00:11:54,200 --> 00:11:57,000 Speaker 4: Yeah, and it's my person, Like I'm not like I 302 00:11:57,000 --> 00:11:58,920 Speaker 4: don't want to be out looking around to see. 303 00:11:58,760 --> 00:12:01,160 Speaker 1: Who's in my thing. I don't want to look anymore. 304 00:12:01,200 --> 00:12:04,000 Speaker 2: I do that now and I never used to do that. 305 00:12:04,320 --> 00:12:05,880 Speaker 4: I used to just go out and beat you with 306 00:12:05,920 --> 00:12:07,679 Speaker 4: my girls, and it was like somebody would come over 307 00:12:07,720 --> 00:12:10,800 Speaker 4: and it was like I'm with the girls, and now 308 00:12:10,800 --> 00:12:13,840 Speaker 4: I'm like where are all? Like why is nobody coming 309 00:12:13,840 --> 00:12:15,680 Speaker 4: to talk to me? Why is nobody sending drinks to 310 00:12:15,720 --> 00:12:18,880 Speaker 4: the table? Like what's going on? And you know, I 311 00:12:18,920 --> 00:12:20,240 Speaker 4: blame dating apps. 312 00:12:20,760 --> 00:12:23,320 Speaker 1: You think that it like made the culture more difficult 313 00:12:23,320 --> 00:12:23,920 Speaker 1: to navigate. 314 00:12:24,200 --> 00:12:26,040 Speaker 4: I think dating apps and I think the pandemic has 315 00:12:26,040 --> 00:12:28,440 Speaker 4: made it like scarier to talk to people in real life. 316 00:12:28,480 --> 00:12:30,400 Speaker 2: I think you're right, and it's like just come talk 317 00:12:30,480 --> 00:12:30,720 Speaker 2: to me. 318 00:12:31,160 --> 00:12:34,040 Speaker 1: Yeah yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah yeah. I actually don't know 319 00:12:34,800 --> 00:12:39,040 Speaker 1: what it's like really to just show up someplace. Well, 320 00:12:39,040 --> 00:12:41,360 Speaker 1: actually you know what. It happens more than I say, 321 00:12:41,440 --> 00:12:44,400 Speaker 1: but like it's now a thing, like it's not the 322 00:12:44,559 --> 00:12:47,600 Speaker 1: first way you'd think about going to meet someone is 323 00:12:47,640 --> 00:12:50,360 Speaker 1: like just going someplace and hanging out and then you meet. 324 00:12:50,480 --> 00:12:53,240 Speaker 1: Like there is this thing now of like you would 325 00:12:53,240 --> 00:12:55,800 Speaker 1: talk to someone on DM you plan to be at 326 00:12:55,800 --> 00:12:57,760 Speaker 1: the same place, like, oh, I'm gonna be here with 327 00:12:57,800 --> 00:12:59,520 Speaker 1: my friends, You're gonna be with your friends, or you 328 00:12:59,640 --> 00:13:02,920 Speaker 1: just like use the DMS as a hookup app, which happens. 329 00:13:02,559 --> 00:13:04,520 Speaker 3: More and more, you know what I mean, talk about it. 330 00:13:04,920 --> 00:13:06,680 Speaker 3: I haven't been single for particularly long, and all I 331 00:13:06,720 --> 00:13:09,000 Speaker 3: see is people using Instagram. It's like people are pre 332 00:13:09,040 --> 00:13:11,280 Speaker 3: screening and being like, well, oh, you're in this friendship 333 00:13:11,280 --> 00:13:12,920 Speaker 3: group and I can see that based on I can 334 00:13:12,960 --> 00:13:14,560 Speaker 3: pre stock you and say, oh, you fit into my 335 00:13:14,600 --> 00:13:17,720 Speaker 3: life already, Like there's no spontaneity with like, oh my god, 336 00:13:17,800 --> 00:13:20,000 Speaker 3: you're friends with my friends. I had no idea. It's 337 00:13:20,040 --> 00:13:23,600 Speaker 3: like very quickly, especially through Instagram, you're just finding out 338 00:13:23,640 --> 00:13:27,359 Speaker 3: like exactly that person's thing, and you could get background. 339 00:13:27,000 --> 00:13:28,920 Speaker 4: Check and we're checking tagged photos because we want to 340 00:13:28,920 --> 00:13:31,280 Speaker 4: see what you really look like without the Paris filter. 341 00:13:31,400 --> 00:13:33,120 Speaker 1: Oh yes. You know what I did the other day, 342 00:13:33,120 --> 00:13:36,880 Speaker 1: which was mortifying someone that I used to have a 343 00:13:36,920 --> 00:13:39,240 Speaker 1: thing with. I went into there and this is how 344 00:13:39,280 --> 00:13:41,280 Speaker 1: you know, Twitter's got to go. It's just got to go. 345 00:13:41,640 --> 00:13:42,839 Speaker 1: I've never done this before. 346 00:13:42,880 --> 00:13:43,120 Speaker 3: I went. 347 00:13:44,440 --> 00:13:48,080 Speaker 1: I went into their Twitter likes and that's when I 348 00:13:48,120 --> 00:13:51,000 Speaker 1: was like, what are you doing? I was like, why 349 00:13:51,160 --> 00:13:52,560 Speaker 1: have you fallen so far? And I want you to 350 00:13:52,559 --> 00:13:54,920 Speaker 1: know I feel horrible about myself the entire time I'm 351 00:13:54,920 --> 00:13:57,880 Speaker 1: doing something like this, but looking at their Twitter likes 352 00:13:57,880 --> 00:14:01,480 Speaker 1: and seeing what they've liked, I was just like, oh no, no, no, no, no, 353 00:14:01,720 --> 00:14:03,800 Speaker 1: I need to touch grass. I need to get the 354 00:14:03,840 --> 00:14:07,360 Speaker 1: fuck off my phone. And that's why I'm like more 355 00:14:07,559 --> 00:14:11,320 Speaker 1: inclined to like go out and have that be the 356 00:14:11,400 --> 00:14:14,960 Speaker 1: way I meet someone. But it's also like my energy 357 00:14:15,000 --> 00:14:17,200 Speaker 1: for that is so low. But also maybe that's just 358 00:14:17,200 --> 00:14:19,160 Speaker 1: because like that's right now. 359 00:14:19,360 --> 00:14:22,560 Speaker 3: I keep pushing myself. I'm relatively newly single, like it's 360 00:14:22,560 --> 00:14:24,320 Speaker 3: been like a year and a half almost two years, 361 00:14:24,360 --> 00:14:27,120 Speaker 3: and like I feel like I am the kind of 362 00:14:27,120 --> 00:14:30,720 Speaker 3: personality that will go up to people even though really yeah, 363 00:14:30,760 --> 00:14:34,040 Speaker 3: like I think people find it refreshing. Yeah, Like all 364 00:14:34,040 --> 00:14:36,080 Speaker 3: of the people that I've like bagged if you will, 365 00:14:36,160 --> 00:14:37,880 Speaker 3: or like people that I've gotten to know better have 366 00:14:38,000 --> 00:14:41,120 Speaker 3: been because I was very unafraid to be like so 367 00:14:41,520 --> 00:14:43,200 Speaker 3: like where are your friends? Who are you here? With 368 00:14:43,280 --> 00:14:44,880 Speaker 3: a lot of people are like, uh what, Yeah, you 369 00:14:46,160 --> 00:14:47,880 Speaker 3: just seem sort of like a different. 370 00:14:47,600 --> 00:14:49,440 Speaker 2: Breason what you're saying. You're coming up and being like 371 00:14:49,520 --> 00:14:51,280 Speaker 2: what where are your friends? Where are you are? 372 00:14:51,720 --> 00:14:53,880 Speaker 3: Actually I'm just thinking about this pride interaction that I 373 00:14:53,960 --> 00:14:55,680 Speaker 3: just had where it was really like I saw this 374 00:14:55,720 --> 00:14:58,200 Speaker 3: guy from across the dance floor. He looked at me 375 00:14:58,240 --> 00:15:00,920 Speaker 3: and gave me this big, bright smile with these really 376 00:15:00,920 --> 00:15:04,080 Speaker 3: cute dimples and like literally waved me over. And in 377 00:15:04,080 --> 00:15:05,840 Speaker 3: that moment, I was like, I either ditch all my 378 00:15:05,880 --> 00:15:08,120 Speaker 3: friends and just go say hi to this person, or 379 00:15:08,200 --> 00:15:09,960 Speaker 3: like I don't know what, like wait for him to 380 00:15:10,080 --> 00:15:12,120 Speaker 3: come into my friendship group. I was like, I'm leaving. 381 00:15:12,240 --> 00:15:14,640 Speaker 3: I like sped away from my whole group and the 382 00:15:14,680 --> 00:15:16,680 Speaker 3: two of us like just got to know each other. 383 00:15:16,720 --> 00:15:18,560 Speaker 3: It was great. I mean, there was drugs involved. 384 00:15:18,280 --> 00:15:21,240 Speaker 4: But that's the sprinkle on top. 385 00:15:21,400 --> 00:15:21,720 Speaker 2: Yeah. 386 00:15:21,720 --> 00:15:23,560 Speaker 3: Well, I mean in that particular instance, it was pride. 387 00:15:23,560 --> 00:15:25,640 Speaker 3: But I don't know. I guess I'm finding that, like 388 00:15:25,680 --> 00:15:29,040 Speaker 3: I'm not so afraid to go up to people, but 389 00:15:29,320 --> 00:15:31,800 Speaker 3: there is a mixed bag of responses that you get. 390 00:15:31,840 --> 00:15:34,040 Speaker 3: Like some people, it's like it does not compute when 391 00:15:34,120 --> 00:15:36,120 Speaker 3: you come over and make a big swing of like 392 00:15:36,640 --> 00:15:39,280 Speaker 3: so where are you from. Also, I've been finding that 393 00:15:39,320 --> 00:15:41,560 Speaker 3: as even as like a sort of a bottom sexually 394 00:15:41,920 --> 00:15:43,960 Speaker 3: for like most of the time I'm making like top 395 00:15:44,040 --> 00:15:44,680 Speaker 3: swing moves. 396 00:15:44,920 --> 00:15:46,840 Speaker 1: Yeah, that is a top swing move and to even 397 00:15:46,880 --> 00:15:50,280 Speaker 1: engage in any way like first, I feel like it's like, oh, 398 00:15:50,360 --> 00:15:52,600 Speaker 1: I don't even And that's maybe me speaking from where 399 00:15:52,640 --> 00:15:55,880 Speaker 1: I'm like as someone who prefers to be approached like 400 00:15:55,960 --> 00:15:58,360 Speaker 1: cause if you give me a signal go, I will 401 00:15:58,440 --> 00:16:01,360 Speaker 1: really give it back. But I am never gonna make 402 00:16:01,720 --> 00:16:03,320 Speaker 1: It's not that I'm never gonna make a first move. 403 00:16:03,400 --> 00:16:06,160 Speaker 1: I rarely make a first move. But if you if 404 00:16:06,200 --> 00:16:08,240 Speaker 1: there is a vibe there and you make a move, 405 00:16:08,480 --> 00:16:11,760 Speaker 1: I respond, and then I feel like I can sort 406 00:16:11,760 --> 00:16:14,400 Speaker 1: of run things once things are very clear. But I 407 00:16:14,440 --> 00:16:16,840 Speaker 1: need things to be very clear. What's the signal to 408 00:16:16,880 --> 00:16:20,080 Speaker 1: go for me? And this is my love language too, 409 00:16:20,680 --> 00:16:24,000 Speaker 1: physical touch. If we're talking and it's a vibe and 410 00:16:24,040 --> 00:16:27,200 Speaker 1: you put your hand on me in any way and 411 00:16:27,240 --> 00:16:30,280 Speaker 1: I'm into it, it's a go there. And that's kind 412 00:16:30,280 --> 00:16:33,280 Speaker 1: of how I am in relationships too. Like I'm recently 413 00:16:33,360 --> 00:16:36,000 Speaker 1: was dating someone. We were talking about love languages because 414 00:16:36,040 --> 00:16:38,840 Speaker 1: we don't have the same one, and mine is very 415 00:16:38,880 --> 00:16:40,960 Speaker 1: like when I'm in a relationship with someone like mine 416 00:16:41,000 --> 00:16:44,080 Speaker 1: is physical touch, Like I like to be very affectionate 417 00:16:44,600 --> 00:16:47,720 Speaker 1: and this person is like not like that. And so 418 00:16:47,840 --> 00:16:51,360 Speaker 1: it's been a little bit interesting getting it started, but 419 00:16:51,560 --> 00:16:54,520 Speaker 1: like that's me Like if you make it clear in 420 00:16:54,560 --> 00:16:57,240 Speaker 1: a way that's very clear. And I'm not saying just 421 00:16:57,240 --> 00:17:00,960 Speaker 1: come up and touch me to anyone listening to this podcast, am, but. 422 00:17:01,160 --> 00:17:04,399 Speaker 4: They're just gonna start caressing your face right hands to 423 00:17:04,440 --> 00:17:05,080 Speaker 4: the lower back. 424 00:17:05,160 --> 00:17:07,399 Speaker 3: Like I get what it what it represents, and I 425 00:17:07,400 --> 00:17:10,160 Speaker 3: get like that it sucks. But like for me, if 426 00:17:10,160 --> 00:17:12,399 Speaker 3: we lock eye contact and ibat my eyes at you twice, 427 00:17:12,600 --> 00:17:13,320 Speaker 3: you can touch me. 428 00:17:14,080 --> 00:17:15,400 Speaker 2: Let me see the ibat bat your eyes. 429 00:17:16,800 --> 00:17:19,320 Speaker 1: Dave's Dave's new line has been he's had a couple 430 00:17:19,359 --> 00:17:21,680 Speaker 1: of new lines. Like one thing that he's been saying 431 00:17:21,760 --> 00:17:23,399 Speaker 1: and this is not the line I'm talking about. But 432 00:17:23,640 --> 00:17:25,840 Speaker 1: he'll text me about game show which we host together, 433 00:17:26,320 --> 00:17:28,199 Speaker 1: and he'll be like, hey, I was noodling on this 434 00:17:28,320 --> 00:17:32,000 Speaker 1: idea and he's like, I'm still noodling. I'm just noodling. Well, 435 00:17:32,000 --> 00:17:33,680 Speaker 1: I was noodling before and I was just like. 436 00:17:34,960 --> 00:17:37,320 Speaker 3: This, and I invite the readers to defend me because 437 00:17:37,320 --> 00:17:40,080 Speaker 3: this is noodling on something. It's like something my kindergarten 438 00:17:40,080 --> 00:17:41,600 Speaker 3: teacher said, but use your noodle. 439 00:17:41,960 --> 00:17:43,760 Speaker 1: But like, I don't know, it's just so funny to 440 00:17:43,800 --> 00:17:46,199 Speaker 1: hear you repeatedly use it, and it was like I 441 00:17:46,240 --> 00:17:48,720 Speaker 1: hadn't said anything about it. He just kept saying noodling, 442 00:17:48,960 --> 00:17:51,080 Speaker 1: And then I was I was kind of finally like, 443 00:17:51,359 --> 00:17:53,639 Speaker 1: you really are just a noodler, aren't you. You're just 444 00:17:53,680 --> 00:17:55,840 Speaker 1: a little noodle hendo. 445 00:17:56,200 --> 00:17:58,240 Speaker 2: Now when you use it, I'm gonna be like, I'm 446 00:17:58,280 --> 00:17:58,880 Speaker 2: gonna like it. 447 00:17:59,080 --> 00:18:02,040 Speaker 1: Yeah, I know. But the other thing he's been saying 448 00:18:02,240 --> 00:18:04,600 Speaker 1: is he is I'm a kiddy and if you pet me, 449 00:18:04,720 --> 00:18:07,479 Speaker 1: I will per. That's what it has been saying. That's 450 00:18:07,520 --> 00:18:10,240 Speaker 1: my Real Housewives turn around. I'm I'm a little kiddy 451 00:18:10,320 --> 00:18:12,400 Speaker 1: and if you pet me, I will per. 452 00:18:13,240 --> 00:18:15,560 Speaker 3: It's you know what I mean. It's like in certain points, 453 00:18:15,600 --> 00:18:18,000 Speaker 3: or at least in this chapter, like my model right 454 00:18:18,000 --> 00:18:21,600 Speaker 3: now is no boyfriends till twenty twenty five, Like I'm 455 00:18:21,680 --> 00:18:23,280 Speaker 3: tapped out. I was in a seven and a half 456 00:18:23,359 --> 00:18:26,480 Speaker 3: year relationship and it broke We broke up about a 457 00:18:26,520 --> 00:18:29,960 Speaker 3: year and a half ago. It's been a really wonderful 458 00:18:29,960 --> 00:18:33,320 Speaker 3: but really difficult journey back to my own self confidence 459 00:18:33,640 --> 00:18:36,120 Speaker 3: and also like getting back into touch with a person 460 00:18:36,160 --> 00:18:38,679 Speaker 3: who hasn't been single and like closer to a decade 461 00:18:38,720 --> 00:18:40,360 Speaker 3: than yeah, yeah, like twenty. 462 00:18:40,119 --> 00:18:42,920 Speaker 1: Three years old. Single at thirty two is so different 463 00:18:42,960 --> 00:18:44,720 Speaker 1: than being single at twenty four to twenty five. 464 00:18:44,800 --> 00:18:48,639 Speaker 3: Like I met him in a completely different period of 465 00:18:48,640 --> 00:18:50,480 Speaker 3: my life. I had a completely different set of needs, 466 00:18:50,480 --> 00:18:53,720 Speaker 3: and my needs changed. And when I tried to readdress 467 00:18:53,720 --> 00:18:56,399 Speaker 3: and refocus, you know, yeah, the whole the thing came 468 00:18:56,440 --> 00:18:56,920 Speaker 3: crashing down. 469 00:18:57,040 --> 00:18:58,800 Speaker 2: I heard completely different set of knees. 470 00:18:59,320 --> 00:19:02,480 Speaker 1: Oh need, I got to compell you a new set 471 00:19:02,480 --> 00:19:05,960 Speaker 1: of knees to be on the Marie. 472 00:19:05,640 --> 00:19:07,560 Speaker 3: Told me yesterday at the pool that my knees looked 473 00:19:07,640 --> 00:19:09,000 Speaker 3: very clean and looked like I'd never been on. 474 00:19:09,320 --> 00:19:11,480 Speaker 1: I was sitting right there. I was like, and it 475 00:19:11,560 --> 00:19:13,240 Speaker 1: came out of nowhere, and I was just. 476 00:19:13,160 --> 00:19:20,640 Speaker 3: Like, okay, was no scars. No, I have a yoga mat. 477 00:19:21,520 --> 00:19:22,840 Speaker 1: He's on his knees all the time. 478 00:19:25,359 --> 00:19:27,560 Speaker 3: My father listens to every episode of this podcast. 479 00:19:29,800 --> 00:19:34,480 Speaker 1: Hi, Big Dave, your son's on his fucking knees constantly. 480 00:19:34,600 --> 00:19:36,439 Speaker 3: He's picking tomatoes right now. He'll never hear this. 481 00:19:37,119 --> 00:19:39,840 Speaker 1: Are you ever honest with your parents or anyone in 482 00:19:39,880 --> 00:19:42,400 Speaker 1: your life that's like an older person that you're supposed 483 00:19:42,400 --> 00:19:44,440 Speaker 1: to like, you know, have like that degree of removal 484 00:19:44,480 --> 00:19:47,000 Speaker 1: with about what a whoror you have been because I 485 00:19:47,200 --> 00:19:51,000 Speaker 1: I I recently my mother. She said the most iconic thing, 486 00:19:51,080 --> 00:19:53,240 Speaker 1: like three years ago, Like I mentioned that I have 487 00:19:53,280 --> 00:19:55,439 Speaker 1: a friend that I used to hook up with, Like, 488 00:19:55,720 --> 00:19:57,679 Speaker 1: oh yeah, like he's in my friend group, but we 489 00:19:57,760 --> 00:19:59,760 Speaker 1: used to hook up. Not a big deal. And she 490 00:19:59,880 --> 00:20:02,560 Speaker 1: just goes to me, Matthew, are you a slut? 491 00:20:04,920 --> 00:20:06,399 Speaker 3: Did you answer honestly, bitch? 492 00:20:06,640 --> 00:20:09,720 Speaker 1: And I was like, Mom, I'm not talking to you 493 00:20:09,760 --> 00:20:11,840 Speaker 1: about that, So I didn't say no. 494 00:20:12,359 --> 00:20:14,760 Speaker 3: Yeah, But in the script I'm writing, you take a long, 495 00:20:14,800 --> 00:20:16,880 Speaker 3: hard look in the mirror, and then maybe we cut 496 00:20:16,920 --> 00:20:18,480 Speaker 3: and we don't know whether or not you answer her. 497 00:20:18,600 --> 00:20:20,040 Speaker 1: You were just on the phone with your mother when 498 00:20:20,080 --> 00:20:22,160 Speaker 1: you were rolling up. I wonder what were you chatting about? 499 00:20:22,320 --> 00:20:25,359 Speaker 4: Well, I was talking her. No, not horrid because my mom. 500 00:20:25,760 --> 00:20:28,359 Speaker 4: Mom doesn't ask me anything about anything that I'm doing. 501 00:20:28,480 --> 00:20:29,680 Speaker 1: Okay, that's it. 502 00:20:30,040 --> 00:20:31,920 Speaker 2: She's like, you're not asking me for money? 503 00:20:32,240 --> 00:20:32,480 Speaker 3: Great? 504 00:20:32,560 --> 00:20:35,280 Speaker 2: Great? Love it list it great. 505 00:20:35,760 --> 00:20:38,159 Speaker 4: My aunt, who is my mom's younger sister, anytime I 506 00:20:38,160 --> 00:20:39,760 Speaker 4: speak to her, she's like, do you have a man yet? 507 00:20:40,080 --> 00:20:42,240 Speaker 2: You got to have these babies. You gotta get married. 508 00:20:42,240 --> 00:20:45,040 Speaker 1: Oh you in that regard. 509 00:20:45,040 --> 00:20:45,720 Speaker 2: She's on me in that. 510 00:20:45,800 --> 00:20:47,679 Speaker 4: But then like I'll tell her about guys that are 511 00:20:47,720 --> 00:20:49,480 Speaker 4: bums or guys that I'm like, he didn't know what 512 00:20:49,560 --> 00:20:50,760 Speaker 4: he wanted to be when he grew up, so he's 513 00:20:50,800 --> 00:20:53,280 Speaker 4: dead to us. And she's like, well, maybe you gotta 514 00:20:53,320 --> 00:20:58,400 Speaker 4: start dating, you know, not black guys. And I'm like, oh, yeah, 515 00:20:58,640 --> 00:21:02,080 Speaker 4: I see that I've done that. And she's like, yeah, girl, 516 00:21:02,080 --> 00:21:05,320 Speaker 4: maybe get you a nice well to do beije man. 517 00:21:05,440 --> 00:21:08,359 Speaker 3: And I'm like, yeah, I would love to identify as 518 00:21:08,400 --> 00:21:09,480 Speaker 3: a well to do beige man. 519 00:21:09,600 --> 00:21:12,600 Speaker 1: Let's do be well to do bag. 520 00:21:12,760 --> 00:21:14,359 Speaker 3: Oh my god, Like how do I apply? 521 00:21:15,800 --> 00:21:16,080 Speaker 2: I think? 522 00:21:16,320 --> 00:21:17,480 Speaker 3: Do you want a relationship? 523 00:21:18,000 --> 00:21:19,440 Speaker 2: I would like to be in a relationship? 524 00:21:19,520 --> 00:21:21,320 Speaker 1: Yeah, you're saying you want someone to trap. I don't 525 00:21:21,520 --> 00:21:22,440 Speaker 1: do things well I don't want. 526 00:21:22,520 --> 00:21:25,000 Speaker 4: But also, it's twenty twenty three. Summer twenty twenty three 527 00:21:25,080 --> 00:21:26,960 Speaker 4: feels different. It just feels like this is a summer 528 00:21:27,000 --> 00:21:28,240 Speaker 4: to do any and everything. 529 00:21:28,600 --> 00:21:28,959 Speaker 1: M hm. 530 00:21:29,640 --> 00:21:32,359 Speaker 2: So I'm leaning into that because I'm trying to live 531 00:21:32,359 --> 00:21:33,000 Speaker 2: my very best. 532 00:21:33,240 --> 00:21:36,040 Speaker 1: And also like here's the deal, not just swing back 533 00:21:36,080 --> 00:21:37,959 Speaker 1: in like a weird way, but like you do have 534 00:21:38,040 --> 00:21:40,639 Speaker 1: this new project and watching it, I can see it 535 00:21:41,119 --> 00:21:43,320 Speaker 1: leveling up in a way, like there's so much it's 536 00:21:43,359 --> 00:21:46,160 Speaker 1: so clear, like it throws back to like singled Out, 537 00:21:46,240 --> 00:21:48,560 Speaker 1: It throws back to like because there feels like there's 538 00:21:48,560 --> 00:21:51,520 Speaker 1: like a fun community on stage where it's like, you know, 539 00:21:51,640 --> 00:21:54,040 Speaker 1: Dave is like the producer behind like almost like like 540 00:21:54,040 --> 00:21:56,440 Speaker 1: a DJ board. You have a special guest the other day. 541 00:21:56,480 --> 00:21:59,399 Speaker 1: We all know it was your bestie Sydney Washington, and 542 00:21:59,400 --> 00:22:02,000 Speaker 1: then you had fun contestants. It really felt like a 543 00:22:02,040 --> 00:22:05,320 Speaker 1: throwback to like those like really fun dating shows of 544 00:22:05,320 --> 00:22:07,879 Speaker 1: like MTV or like you know, like it. 545 00:22:07,760 --> 00:22:09,280 Speaker 3: Was like like messy on purpose. 546 00:22:09,400 --> 00:22:12,679 Speaker 1: Yes, absolutely, and so like what I saw there was 547 00:22:12,720 --> 00:22:14,800 Speaker 1: like something that could be something I could see on 548 00:22:14,840 --> 00:22:17,160 Speaker 1: TV very easily. And so I'm like, you know what, 549 00:22:17,480 --> 00:22:20,520 Speaker 1: while you were on your upswing, don't invite anybody new 550 00:22:20,560 --> 00:22:26,159 Speaker 1: in because the egos of especially men, straight men. I mean, 551 00:22:26,160 --> 00:22:28,560 Speaker 1: we're seeing it right now with Kiki Palmer. Oh my god, 552 00:22:28,800 --> 00:22:32,280 Speaker 1: like this, oh my god, Like I think I think 553 00:22:32,320 --> 00:22:35,520 Speaker 1: it's completely done because they stopped following each other on 554 00:22:35,560 --> 00:22:39,000 Speaker 1: Instagram because he dared shame her for what she was wearing, 555 00:22:39,040 --> 00:22:41,639 Speaker 1: the mother of his children. And this is what I'm saying. 556 00:22:41,920 --> 00:22:44,159 Speaker 1: These guys who are in it and they're getting a 557 00:22:44,200 --> 00:22:48,199 Speaker 1: free ride. Everyone especially women who are like really on 558 00:22:48,280 --> 00:22:52,000 Speaker 1: the up and up. Don't allow these people who are 559 00:22:52,080 --> 00:22:54,040 Speaker 1: like you see it. You just see it all the time, 560 00:22:54,080 --> 00:22:57,440 Speaker 1: where like people talk crazy to their partners, like when 561 00:22:57,440 --> 00:22:59,399 Speaker 1: they start to have some success or they start to 562 00:22:59,440 --> 00:23:01,879 Speaker 1: like look extra good or do extra good, like the 563 00:23:02,040 --> 00:23:04,520 Speaker 1: ego jumps out and it's so disappointing. So I almost 564 00:23:04,560 --> 00:23:06,679 Speaker 1: feel like, you know what, continue to get yours and 565 00:23:06,800 --> 00:23:10,199 Speaker 1: establish what you are and then when someone is like 566 00:23:10,400 --> 00:23:13,080 Speaker 1: really down for that or able to handle that, then 567 00:23:13,240 --> 00:23:17,800 Speaker 1: link up. I think, Matt Creeds, I. 568 00:23:17,680 --> 00:23:21,680 Speaker 4: Gotta go well, no, because like I just I feel 569 00:23:21,720 --> 00:23:25,040 Speaker 4: like for me, I I know that the universe wants 570 00:23:25,080 --> 00:23:29,040 Speaker 4: me to win, and I feel like that's all aspects 571 00:23:29,040 --> 00:23:32,040 Speaker 4: of my life, my personal life, my career, everything that 572 00:23:32,040 --> 00:23:34,760 Speaker 4: I'm supposed to sell and book and create, I'll do it. 573 00:23:35,240 --> 00:23:36,679 Speaker 4: Which is why I think I'm able to kind of 574 00:23:36,720 --> 00:23:38,840 Speaker 4: just be like chill about everything because I'm not worried 575 00:23:38,840 --> 00:23:40,840 Speaker 4: about it. Yeah, and I think the same thing about 576 00:23:41,240 --> 00:23:44,240 Speaker 4: like my dating life. Yep, Like the universe doesn't want 577 00:23:44,280 --> 00:23:48,000 Speaker 4: me to be with a loser. No, absolutely not. Not 578 00:23:48,000 --> 00:23:50,360 Speaker 4: somebody who's gonna be like that. You're a mom first 579 00:23:50,359 --> 00:23:53,640 Speaker 4: of all, No, go home and watch Kieky's child because 580 00:23:53,680 --> 00:23:54,720 Speaker 4: that's your only job. 581 00:23:54,760 --> 00:23:57,960 Speaker 1: See yeah, I mean, can you imagine knowing the platform 582 00:23:58,080 --> 00:24:00,280 Speaker 1: that like you and her have and you have by 583 00:24:00,320 --> 00:24:02,680 Speaker 1: the way, because of her right and that you were 584 00:24:02,680 --> 00:24:05,320 Speaker 1: gonna go out and like that to me just shows 585 00:24:05,400 --> 00:24:09,679 Speaker 1: like a true lack of respect and understanding that if 586 00:24:09,720 --> 00:24:12,560 Speaker 1: he's willing to do that publicly, what is happening privately? 587 00:24:12,800 --> 00:24:15,760 Speaker 1: And we're talking about Kiki Palmer, the big Boss, the star, 588 00:24:16,280 --> 00:24:19,239 Speaker 1: the even number one and friend of the pod, And like, 589 00:24:19,440 --> 00:24:23,040 Speaker 1: I just can't imagine someone like her who star shines 590 00:24:23,160 --> 00:24:26,160 Speaker 1: so bright and is obviously such a force of positivity, 591 00:24:26,520 --> 00:24:29,479 Speaker 1: who everyone seems to love, like I think is on 592 00:24:29,520 --> 00:24:32,440 Speaker 1: her way to legend status. It's like, you're gonna talk 593 00:24:32,480 --> 00:24:35,000 Speaker 1: to her crazy? That just makes me sad, Like, wow, 594 00:24:35,160 --> 00:24:38,639 Speaker 1: even the best of us will attach to someone because 595 00:24:38,680 --> 00:24:40,560 Speaker 1: matters of the heart, they're very crazy. 596 00:24:40,600 --> 00:24:43,040 Speaker 4: So the crazy because I thought he was like a 597 00:24:43,040 --> 00:24:45,320 Speaker 4: football player or a baseball player or something. 598 00:24:45,480 --> 00:24:48,119 Speaker 1: I mean, I have no idea who he even was, 599 00:24:48,200 --> 00:24:50,680 Speaker 1: to be honest with you, I knew that she kind 600 00:24:50,720 --> 00:24:52,920 Speaker 1: of kept it more low key, right, and I don't 601 00:24:52,920 --> 00:24:54,840 Speaker 1: think anyone really knew who. 602 00:24:55,320 --> 00:24:56,520 Speaker 3: I know very little about it. 603 00:24:56,560 --> 00:24:58,639 Speaker 1: To be honest, Well, all I know is that like 604 00:24:58,800 --> 00:25:00,399 Speaker 1: after she had the child, it was more of a 605 00:25:00,440 --> 00:25:03,600 Speaker 1: public thing, and then like we all kind of knew 606 00:25:03,600 --> 00:25:05,680 Speaker 1: who he was, and then he said this crazy thing 607 00:25:05,720 --> 00:25:08,240 Speaker 1: and now everybody knows who he is because he came 608 00:25:08,280 --> 00:25:10,080 Speaker 1: out and said that. It's like, Wow, you really defined 609 00:25:10,119 --> 00:25:13,040 Speaker 1: yourself in the public eye, and now you've been unfollowed, 610 00:25:13,440 --> 00:25:14,040 Speaker 1: cut off. 611 00:25:14,119 --> 00:25:16,600 Speaker 4: Well, I heard in the pool yesterday where Dave's knees 612 00:25:16,640 --> 00:25:19,119 Speaker 4: were oute. I heard in the pool yesterday that he 613 00:25:19,320 --> 00:25:22,240 Speaker 4: was cheating or he was with somebody else and had 614 00:25:22,240 --> 00:25:25,480 Speaker 4: her have an abortion or something before that because Kiki 615 00:25:25,600 --> 00:25:26,120 Speaker 4: was having a bit. 616 00:25:26,240 --> 00:25:28,399 Speaker 3: Like the moral of the story to me is exactly 617 00:25:28,440 --> 00:25:30,159 Speaker 3: what you said. Matches that you just never know what 618 00:25:30,160 --> 00:25:32,840 Speaker 3: people are dealing with. You never know, You just never 619 00:25:32,880 --> 00:25:35,479 Speaker 3: ever know. And that's why you really can't rely on 620 00:25:35,600 --> 00:25:38,679 Speaker 3: like what things appear like. You have to go off gut. Yeah, 621 00:25:38,760 --> 00:25:41,480 Speaker 3: you can't be working towards something better. It's not there yet. 622 00:25:41,560 --> 00:25:44,040 Speaker 3: There's cracks. We're disagreeing here. You have to acknowledge those 623 00:25:44,040 --> 00:25:46,919 Speaker 3: disagreements because for a very long time you can let 624 00:25:47,000 --> 00:25:49,879 Speaker 3: things go on until they just spiral out of your control. 625 00:25:49,920 --> 00:25:52,200 Speaker 3: I guess what I'm saying, is I learned it. Your 626 00:25:52,240 --> 00:25:56,639 Speaker 3: gut is always correct with this stuff, and it's just unfortunate. 627 00:25:56,760 --> 00:25:59,280 Speaker 4: God what your gut not with your butt? I'm telling you. 628 00:26:00,000 --> 00:26:02,960 Speaker 4: Red flags are there, and we sometimes will ignore them. 629 00:26:02,960 --> 00:26:05,760 Speaker 4: But sometimes I see things as red flags that aren't 630 00:26:05,800 --> 00:26:06,800 Speaker 4: necessarily red flags. 631 00:26:06,880 --> 00:26:09,280 Speaker 3: Like this kind of started the show. But yeah, the 632 00:26:09,320 --> 00:26:11,359 Speaker 3: red flags are, we pass them out to the audience. 633 00:26:11,480 --> 00:26:13,240 Speaker 1: Yeah, that was a really fun element. So everyone in 634 00:26:13,280 --> 00:26:15,280 Speaker 1: the audience gets a little red flag. And whenever there's 635 00:26:15,320 --> 00:26:17,639 Speaker 1: red flag behavior on stage from a contestant or whoever 636 00:26:17,680 --> 00:26:20,760 Speaker 1: the fuck is talking like you yourself, we're getting red 637 00:26:20,800 --> 00:26:22,239 Speaker 1: flag waves quite a bit. 638 00:26:22,440 --> 00:26:23,280 Speaker 2: I didn't really don't know. 639 00:26:23,359 --> 00:26:26,080 Speaker 3: The show was about celebrating the red flags that we 640 00:26:26,119 --> 00:26:28,560 Speaker 3: all possessed, because red flag to us is kind of 641 00:26:28,600 --> 00:26:31,760 Speaker 3: like it's something that just raises awareness as you're getting 642 00:26:31,800 --> 00:26:35,200 Speaker 3: to know somebody. It doesn't necessarily mean bad or good. Initially, 643 00:26:35,280 --> 00:26:38,159 Speaker 3: it doesn't mean bail. No, it doesn't mean bail, but 644 00:26:38,200 --> 00:26:40,000 Speaker 3: it means, like, you know, when you hear I've got 645 00:26:40,000 --> 00:26:41,960 Speaker 3: to go home tonight because I'm staying at my mother's, 646 00:26:42,440 --> 00:26:44,880 Speaker 3: the antennas are up. The antennas means get the keys 647 00:26:44,880 --> 00:26:48,120 Speaker 3: at least put in your hand. She could be sick exactly. 648 00:26:48,160 --> 00:26:49,800 Speaker 3: He could be in for the weekend and have a 649 00:26:49,840 --> 00:26:51,000 Speaker 3: beautiful home somewhere else. 650 00:26:51,160 --> 00:26:52,920 Speaker 2: Is just is your mom staying with you? 651 00:26:54,000 --> 00:26:55,840 Speaker 4: I mean yeah, Like people will come to the show 652 00:26:55,840 --> 00:26:58,040 Speaker 4: and they'll say things like, I live in New Jersey. 653 00:26:58,119 --> 00:26:59,080 Speaker 2: That's a red flag for me. 654 00:27:00,440 --> 00:27:02,639 Speaker 3: Yeah, but you know how BIG's the house and like, 655 00:27:02,760 --> 00:27:04,479 Speaker 3: don't care. 656 00:27:04,760 --> 00:27:07,720 Speaker 1: They could be living in the good part of who knows? 657 00:27:07,520 --> 00:27:09,760 Speaker 2: What's the goop out of New Jersey is New York. 658 00:27:11,600 --> 00:27:12,480 Speaker 1: North New Jersey. 659 00:27:12,520 --> 00:27:14,960 Speaker 3: It's no lie. But I mean, honestly, I've been to 660 00:27:15,040 --> 00:27:17,320 Speaker 3: some pools and we hawking and absolutely given it. 661 00:27:17,920 --> 00:27:18,480 Speaker 2: We hawking. 662 00:27:18,720 --> 00:27:20,680 Speaker 4: I don't even want to talk about wee hawking. I 663 00:27:20,720 --> 00:27:22,119 Speaker 4: don't want to know how to say. We ain't talking 664 00:27:22,160 --> 00:27:24,240 Speaker 4: about wee hawk We ain't talking about But also in 665 00:27:24,280 --> 00:27:27,159 Speaker 4: the show, we bring three contestants. They volunteer themselves. They 666 00:27:27,160 --> 00:27:30,320 Speaker 4: fill out this very long questionnaire that ask them questions 667 00:27:30,320 --> 00:27:32,399 Speaker 4: about their dating life, their sex life, what they think 668 00:27:32,440 --> 00:27:35,560 Speaker 4: their own personal red flags are, because we all have them. 669 00:27:35,600 --> 00:27:37,600 Speaker 1: Okay, so let's go through the show. You guys are 670 00:27:37,600 --> 00:27:39,080 Speaker 1: going to go through the show with me. We're going 671 00:27:39,119 --> 00:27:40,960 Speaker 1: to play a version of the show. 672 00:27:41,040 --> 00:27:41,920 Speaker 3: Okay, we'll figure it out. 673 00:27:42,119 --> 00:27:44,480 Speaker 1: And by we're gonna do that, I mean that we're 674 00:27:44,480 --> 00:27:45,360 Speaker 1: going to figure it out. 675 00:27:46,160 --> 00:27:48,119 Speaker 3: So let's so for the first couple of things that 676 00:27:48,200 --> 00:27:51,080 Speaker 3: we would typically interview our contestants and they have them 677 00:27:51,080 --> 00:27:53,400 Speaker 3: fill out a questionnaire and we ask them a few 678 00:27:53,800 --> 00:27:56,040 Speaker 3: key questions. So I guess, why don't we ask some 679 00:27:56,080 --> 00:27:58,040 Speaker 3: of the questions from the questionnaire to Matt and see 680 00:27:58,040 --> 00:27:58,800 Speaker 3: what his response is. 681 00:27:59,119 --> 00:28:00,679 Speaker 2: Let me pull up the the sheet. 682 00:28:00,920 --> 00:28:03,640 Speaker 1: This is basically like when someone is like, you're looking 683 00:28:03,640 --> 00:28:05,399 Speaker 1: for like a contestant for the show. You're not looking 684 00:28:05,400 --> 00:28:07,640 Speaker 1: for someone that's like, hey, hey, we can get them 685 00:28:07,680 --> 00:28:08,520 Speaker 1: to like you. 686 00:28:08,480 --> 00:28:10,879 Speaker 3: Know, No, we want honesty. We want people who are 687 00:28:10,960 --> 00:28:12,160 Speaker 3: digamic you're of. 688 00:28:12,080 --> 00:28:15,840 Speaker 4: Them personalities, more people who are cool with oversharing. 689 00:28:15,960 --> 00:28:17,600 Speaker 1: Oh, peop, don't worry, I have a podcast. 690 00:28:18,040 --> 00:28:20,919 Speaker 2: Some people are well. 691 00:28:20,800 --> 00:28:22,480 Speaker 1: It's funny that you were because I was at the 692 00:28:22,520 --> 00:28:25,000 Speaker 1: show and you were like, what's a red flag about you? Like, 693 00:28:25,040 --> 00:28:27,080 Speaker 1: that's one of the questions you One of the questions 694 00:28:27,119 --> 00:28:27,760 Speaker 1: you asked is what. 695 00:28:27,680 --> 00:28:29,479 Speaker 3: Do you think your own one of your own personal 696 00:28:29,520 --> 00:28:29,840 Speaker 3: red show? 697 00:28:29,880 --> 00:28:31,640 Speaker 1: And when I was sitting there thinking about it, because 698 00:28:31,640 --> 00:28:33,399 Speaker 1: of course everyone in the audience. And this is why 699 00:28:33,440 --> 00:28:35,000 Speaker 1: I would say go to the show and engage with 700 00:28:35,040 --> 00:28:37,160 Speaker 1: the show, is because it actually gets you to assess 701 00:28:37,240 --> 00:28:39,959 Speaker 1: your own behavior. Is Like, I think that one of 702 00:28:40,000 --> 00:28:43,240 Speaker 1: my biggest red flags is probably the fact that I'm 703 00:28:43,280 --> 00:28:46,520 Speaker 1: someone that externalizes a lot of information about my life. 704 00:28:46,560 --> 00:28:50,200 Speaker 1: It's like been a problem actually in my last two relationships, 705 00:28:50,240 --> 00:28:52,440 Speaker 1: actually all of my relationships has been an issue. 706 00:28:52,520 --> 00:28:54,920 Speaker 3: You overshare, just the podcast and just the visibility of 707 00:28:54,960 --> 00:28:55,440 Speaker 3: you as a person. 708 00:28:55,880 --> 00:28:58,080 Speaker 1: Just like I am someone who not only just on 709 00:28:58,160 --> 00:29:00,720 Speaker 1: this podcast, but certainly on this podcast, but like to 710 00:29:00,880 --> 00:29:04,600 Speaker 1: my friends, I talk about everything that I'm going through. 711 00:29:04,880 --> 00:29:07,320 Speaker 1: So like, if you're dating me, it's not like I'm 712 00:29:07,320 --> 00:29:09,320 Speaker 1: going to put you on blast publicly. In fact, I 713 00:29:09,360 --> 00:29:11,480 Speaker 1: think I've learned and been a lot better about that. 714 00:29:11,800 --> 00:29:13,960 Speaker 1: Like I'll talk about, like in vague terms, what I'm 715 00:29:13,960 --> 00:29:16,280 Speaker 1: going through, but I won't be like, you know, this week, 716 00:29:16,360 --> 00:29:18,440 Speaker 1: Henry did this like I did when I first started 717 00:29:18,440 --> 00:29:22,320 Speaker 1: the podcast, but like I was, and I was like 718 00:29:22,360 --> 00:29:24,240 Speaker 1: I had to learn. I'm like, you know, you're using 719 00:29:25,040 --> 00:29:29,880 Speaker 1: You're using poor Henry and Jared. Henry and Jared, like 720 00:29:29,960 --> 00:29:33,720 Speaker 1: I would I would say first last, first last, and 721 00:29:33,840 --> 00:29:36,640 Speaker 1: whatever it was happening, and I had learned from both 722 00:29:36,680 --> 00:29:39,280 Speaker 1: those relationships and my last relationship he really did not 723 00:29:39,560 --> 00:29:42,840 Speaker 1: want and I've never you know, said anything specific about 724 00:29:42,920 --> 00:29:45,680 Speaker 1: him really. But the thing is like, I also went 725 00:29:45,720 --> 00:29:49,480 Speaker 1: through a pretty rough time in the aftermath of that breakup, 726 00:29:49,560 --> 00:29:51,840 Speaker 1: and it's what I'm going through. So it's like a 727 00:29:52,000 --> 00:29:54,000 Speaker 1: walk you have to do about, like, you know, this 728 00:29:54,040 --> 00:29:56,680 Speaker 1: is the way I connect with people that are my guests, 729 00:29:56,680 --> 00:29:59,400 Speaker 1: my friends, like the community of people that listen to 730 00:29:59,440 --> 00:30:01,680 Speaker 1: this podcast. But then it's also like it gets to 731 00:30:01,720 --> 00:30:04,520 Speaker 1: a certain point where you have to decide, like, oh, 732 00:30:04,600 --> 00:30:06,960 Speaker 1: certain things are going to be more important than that. 733 00:30:07,280 --> 00:30:10,080 Speaker 1: But I am a talker, and I think my red 734 00:30:10,120 --> 00:30:13,360 Speaker 1: flag is our business is a little bit like my 735 00:30:13,520 --> 00:30:16,600 Speaker 1: friend's business. It's a little bit like, you know, something 736 00:30:16,640 --> 00:30:19,280 Speaker 1: I have to work through because I'm a big externalizer 737 00:30:19,440 --> 00:30:24,400 Speaker 1: that and probably you know, just overall clinginess beach. It's 738 00:30:24,560 --> 00:30:27,520 Speaker 1: when I'm really really obsessed, when I'm really really really 739 00:30:27,960 --> 00:30:30,320 Speaker 1: loving someone, I think I do need a lot of 740 00:30:30,360 --> 00:30:31,240 Speaker 1: validation back. 741 00:30:31,440 --> 00:30:33,840 Speaker 4: Okay, So is it like you need that text first 742 00:30:33,840 --> 00:30:36,040 Speaker 4: thing in the morning and you need that text last 743 00:30:36,040 --> 00:30:36,560 Speaker 4: thing at night. 744 00:30:36,720 --> 00:30:39,440 Speaker 1: I think that if I text you and you are 745 00:30:39,480 --> 00:30:42,360 Speaker 1: my boyfriend, and it takes you hours and hours to 746 00:30:42,400 --> 00:30:45,120 Speaker 1: get back to me. We're going to have a serious 747 00:30:45,160 --> 00:30:47,320 Speaker 1: problem and I need to know, like I need to 748 00:30:47,400 --> 00:30:47,920 Speaker 1: know why. 749 00:30:48,160 --> 00:30:49,120 Speaker 3: I mean, that's that's real. 750 00:30:49,240 --> 00:30:50,720 Speaker 1: I mean, I can appreciate. 751 00:30:51,920 --> 00:30:52,520 Speaker 2: Too much time. 752 00:30:52,600 --> 00:30:55,120 Speaker 3: Yeah, just like, and I'm just reflecting on my own behavior. 753 00:30:55,160 --> 00:30:57,040 Speaker 3: I'm kind of that guy right now. I'm kind of 754 00:30:57,080 --> 00:30:59,360 Speaker 3: I think that's well, you're not in a relationship, no, no, 755 00:30:59,440 --> 00:31:01,760 Speaker 3: but I'm like you in the street. I'm in the streets, 756 00:31:01,800 --> 00:31:04,040 Speaker 3: and like, I actually, something I'm realizing about myself is 757 00:31:04,040 --> 00:31:06,000 Speaker 3: that I don't know how to really be like an asshole. 758 00:31:06,400 --> 00:31:08,360 Speaker 3: I don't know how to leave people on red right 759 00:31:08,440 --> 00:31:10,360 Speaker 3: right right. I like give people too much. And I 760 00:31:10,360 --> 00:31:12,280 Speaker 3: think that's one of my red flags right now is that, like, 761 00:31:12,480 --> 00:31:15,240 Speaker 3: I'm actually not as interested as you might it's not 762 00:31:15,280 --> 00:31:18,240 Speaker 3: as interested as I might seem because I am protecting 763 00:31:18,240 --> 00:31:20,200 Speaker 3: myself a lot. I mean, I was just in a 764 00:31:20,320 --> 00:31:23,440 Speaker 3: very very long, very serious relationship. I came out of 765 00:31:23,440 --> 00:31:26,080 Speaker 3: it very bruised, and I have my guard up hard. 766 00:31:26,480 --> 00:31:29,320 Speaker 3: But I'm horny. So I'm just kind of like. 767 00:31:29,320 --> 00:31:32,240 Speaker 1: But also I think that that's fine to say. And 768 00:31:32,360 --> 00:31:34,640 Speaker 1: here's what I would say to anyone out there. This 769 00:31:34,720 --> 00:31:37,400 Speaker 1: is a sentence that has gotten me really through it, 770 00:31:37,880 --> 00:31:46,280 Speaker 1: which is expectations are a recipe for resentment. Like if 771 00:31:46,280 --> 00:31:50,840 Speaker 1: you have no expectations, you can't have any resentments. So expectations, 772 00:31:51,120 --> 00:31:54,040 Speaker 1: don't have them. Just like take people at face value 773 00:31:54,360 --> 00:31:57,080 Speaker 1: and don't color in the lines too much because that 774 00:31:57,280 --> 00:31:58,600 Speaker 1: is when you will be disappointed. 775 00:31:58,720 --> 00:31:59,680 Speaker 2: But also be honest. 776 00:32:00,160 --> 00:32:03,280 Speaker 4: Yes, if you don't really like somebody that much, don't 777 00:32:03,720 --> 00:32:05,959 Speaker 4: lead them on, right. 778 00:32:06,440 --> 00:32:08,880 Speaker 3: Yeah, It's just a delicate balance. And I guess like 779 00:32:08,920 --> 00:32:10,520 Speaker 3: something I'm realizing as a red flag for me is 780 00:32:10,560 --> 00:32:14,239 Speaker 3: that I'm talking about my past relationship still or like 781 00:32:14,440 --> 00:32:16,280 Speaker 3: I can feel it still massaging the way that I 782 00:32:16,320 --> 00:32:20,120 Speaker 3: behave and like influencing like how I approach new relationships. 783 00:32:20,120 --> 00:32:21,040 Speaker 1: Well you have trauma. 784 00:32:21,480 --> 00:32:22,440 Speaker 3: Yeah, I'm just still me. 785 00:32:22,560 --> 00:32:24,760 Speaker 2: Are you in therapy talking to somebody? 786 00:32:24,840 --> 00:32:27,560 Speaker 3: I do have a therapist. She's amazing. I'm in and out. 787 00:32:27,560 --> 00:32:30,200 Speaker 3: I just like have a weird relationship around the whole thing. 788 00:32:30,280 --> 00:32:32,000 Speaker 3: I thought I had a really strong sense of self 789 00:32:32,000 --> 00:32:34,480 Speaker 3: and was like really heavily gas lit into a lot 790 00:32:34,480 --> 00:32:37,320 Speaker 3: of behaviors, Like I was on antidepressants at one point, 791 00:32:37,360 --> 00:32:39,640 Speaker 3: Like there was things that I was doing that didn't 792 00:32:39,680 --> 00:32:43,360 Speaker 3: align with my true heart felt and it wasn't until 793 00:32:43,400 --> 00:32:45,480 Speaker 3: the ceiling fell down on top of me that I 794 00:32:45,520 --> 00:32:48,400 Speaker 3: realized that. So now at this phase, I'm just like 795 00:32:48,640 --> 00:32:52,120 Speaker 3: a lot more reserved and very upfront about not wanting 796 00:32:52,120 --> 00:32:53,040 Speaker 3: anything too serious. 797 00:32:53,160 --> 00:32:54,120 Speaker 1: Yeah, well then they can't. 798 00:32:54,000 --> 00:32:55,600 Speaker 2: Be mad, Listen. I'm an honest person. 799 00:32:56,280 --> 00:32:59,760 Speaker 4: I'm also an outward facing you know, I'm a comedian. 800 00:33:00,120 --> 00:33:03,520 Speaker 4: Have I do videos about dates? Not every date I 801 00:33:03,520 --> 00:33:05,240 Speaker 4: go on gets the video. Only the ones that are 802 00:33:05,240 --> 00:33:07,800 Speaker 4: really funny are really bad. Yeah, But guys that I 803 00:33:07,840 --> 00:33:10,400 Speaker 4: go to rock, guys that I go on dates with, 804 00:33:10,760 --> 00:33:13,120 Speaker 4: assume I'm going to talk about them, and it's like, well, 805 00:33:13,400 --> 00:33:17,520 Speaker 4: it's be on your best behavior. Please don't wear basketball 806 00:33:17,520 --> 00:33:20,640 Speaker 4: shorts to this date. But I'm not talking about everybody. 807 00:33:20,640 --> 00:33:23,040 Speaker 4: I'm not using names. I don't have to talk about everybody. 808 00:33:23,240 --> 00:33:24,960 Speaker 4: I can go into the vault and tell a story 809 00:33:24,960 --> 00:33:27,120 Speaker 4: about something that happened five years ago and people are like, 810 00:33:27,360 --> 00:33:30,280 Speaker 4: that must have just happened today, and it's like no, no, no, no. 811 00:33:30,600 --> 00:33:41,280 Speaker 3: Yeah, I have a question for you. So one of 812 00:33:41,280 --> 00:33:43,440 Speaker 3: the questions from the questionnaire is what is the worst 813 00:33:43,520 --> 00:33:47,000 Speaker 3: date You've ever been on? Yes, worst date? And now 814 00:33:47,280 --> 00:33:49,880 Speaker 3: this actually might. Does this mean you have to expose 815 00:33:49,880 --> 00:33:51,760 Speaker 3: somebody that we just talked about not exposing. 816 00:33:52,600 --> 00:33:55,640 Speaker 1: Okay, name them, Mickey Mouse. Here's what I'm gonna say. Okay, 817 00:33:55,800 --> 00:33:57,680 Speaker 1: I haven't been on too many bad dates that were 818 00:33:57,720 --> 00:33:59,680 Speaker 1: memorable because I've been. If I've been on bad days, 819 00:33:59,680 --> 00:34:02,000 Speaker 1: they're just been boring, you know what I mean. Like, 820 00:34:02,400 --> 00:34:06,320 Speaker 1: what I'll say is that one time I went on 821 00:34:07,320 --> 00:34:10,759 Speaker 1: a date where it was at his house and it 822 00:34:10,840 --> 00:34:14,040 Speaker 1: was very explicit that like this was like gonna be 823 00:34:14,040 --> 00:34:15,719 Speaker 1: a fun thing and it was gonna be like a 824 00:34:15,760 --> 00:34:17,160 Speaker 1: sex thing, you know what I mean, Like it was 825 00:34:17,160 --> 00:34:19,480 Speaker 1: gonna be like sushi and sex kind of which was 826 00:34:19,560 --> 00:34:21,600 Speaker 1: very hot for me. I love that the guy was 827 00:34:21,760 --> 00:34:24,759 Speaker 1: so fucking hot and I was into the vibe. So 828 00:34:24,800 --> 00:34:27,920 Speaker 1: I get there and it wasn't that it was a 829 00:34:27,960 --> 00:34:31,600 Speaker 1: bad date. It was lovely, but it was memorable because 830 00:34:32,239 --> 00:34:35,240 Speaker 1: he told me pretty immediately that he was not over 831 00:34:35,280 --> 00:34:38,040 Speaker 1: his ex, and that was so different than the energy 832 00:34:38,040 --> 00:34:39,920 Speaker 1: that I had been getting, which was like so excited 833 00:34:39,920 --> 00:34:42,400 Speaker 1: that I was coming and so kind of horny. And 834 00:34:42,440 --> 00:34:45,760 Speaker 1: then it was not only was he not over his ex, 835 00:34:46,160 --> 00:34:48,279 Speaker 1: but he played me a song that he wrote for 836 00:34:48,320 --> 00:34:52,239 Speaker 1: his ex, guitar. Like we just like talked about the 837 00:34:52,440 --> 00:34:54,520 Speaker 1: X so much, and I was just like at a 838 00:34:54,520 --> 00:34:57,400 Speaker 1: certain point, it's just like, oh, you are a sweet person, 839 00:34:57,440 --> 00:34:59,239 Speaker 1: but you have something to deal with, you know what 840 00:34:59,280 --> 00:34:59,600 Speaker 1: I mean? 841 00:34:59,840 --> 00:35:01,280 Speaker 2: They just broken up, was it? 842 00:35:01,280 --> 00:35:03,600 Speaker 1: It was pretty fresh? And I think a lot of 843 00:35:03,600 --> 00:35:06,680 Speaker 1: the reason why I was there was because I had 844 00:35:06,680 --> 00:35:09,560 Speaker 1: hooked up with his ex years prior, and I think 845 00:35:09,600 --> 00:35:11,640 Speaker 1: he was so wrapped up in the thing of the 846 00:35:11,880 --> 00:35:15,359 Speaker 1: X that like it was just very clear that like 847 00:35:15,560 --> 00:35:17,560 Speaker 1: this night was not about like me and him, It 848 00:35:17,680 --> 00:35:20,480 Speaker 1: was about like him and someone else. And I was 849 00:35:20,600 --> 00:35:23,720 Speaker 1: there as like a sort of a guinea pig trial 850 00:35:23,760 --> 00:35:26,279 Speaker 1: of like can I even date someone new? Sure, like 851 00:35:26,280 --> 00:35:29,759 Speaker 1: like safe, familiar, but also like and he was so 852 00:35:29,800 --> 00:35:31,640 Speaker 1: sweet and so great, but it was just like a 853 00:35:31,680 --> 00:35:34,799 Speaker 1: thing of I'm not going to be here as a 854 00:35:34,880 --> 00:35:36,920 Speaker 1: way for you to test yourself if you're ready. 855 00:35:37,120 --> 00:35:37,279 Speaker 2: Now. 856 00:35:38,680 --> 00:35:41,600 Speaker 1: There was sushi. There was no sex, which was disappointed. 857 00:35:42,160 --> 00:35:44,440 Speaker 3: Are you talking basic rolls or was there like a specialty? 858 00:35:44,560 --> 00:35:46,319 Speaker 1: It was like sugarfish, you know what I mean. Like 859 00:35:46,360 --> 00:35:49,200 Speaker 1: it was like we gotta we gotta blue, you know. 860 00:35:49,239 --> 00:35:50,839 Speaker 1: We went to Poundtown in a certain way. 861 00:35:51,160 --> 00:35:54,400 Speaker 3: Pund I played Poundtown for Matt last night and he's upset. 862 00:35:54,000 --> 00:36:01,640 Speaker 1: Poundtown greater than Brown Yes, snow Sex, which was actually fine, 863 00:36:01,680 --> 00:36:05,080 Speaker 1: And I remember I left being like, listen, I'm gonna go. 864 00:36:05,120 --> 00:36:06,880 Speaker 1: It's like one thirty in the morning, because I stayed 865 00:36:06,880 --> 00:36:09,319 Speaker 1: for too long. And then he was like, oh, I'm 866 00:36:09,320 --> 00:36:12,120 Speaker 1: so upset, Like I was so excited that you were coming, 867 00:36:12,200 --> 00:36:13,919 Speaker 1: Like I feel like I've been such a bad date, 868 00:36:14,080 --> 00:36:16,000 Speaker 1: and like I feel like it was irresponsible for me 869 00:36:16,080 --> 00:36:18,120 Speaker 1: to ask you out. And I was like, look, I've. 870 00:36:18,000 --> 00:36:20,239 Speaker 3: Had it well for this communication. 871 00:36:20,360 --> 00:36:22,960 Speaker 1: Honestly, well it kind of got there because, like I said, 872 00:36:23,000 --> 00:36:25,359 Speaker 1: he was a very sweet, nice guy. But the thing 873 00:36:25,480 --> 00:36:27,200 Speaker 1: is like by the end, I was like, look, I 874 00:36:27,239 --> 00:36:28,880 Speaker 1: had a really nice time getting to know you. This 875 00:36:29,000 --> 00:36:32,359 Speaker 1: was fun, and I would just say that if we're 876 00:36:32,360 --> 00:36:34,680 Speaker 1: going to hang out again, make sure that you've got 877 00:36:34,680 --> 00:36:36,839 Speaker 1: this figured out, make sure we go to Poundtown. Yeah, 878 00:36:36,840 --> 00:36:39,080 Speaker 1: and then I'd like to go to Pound Sound, Poundown, 879 00:36:39,160 --> 00:36:41,759 Speaker 1: you know, at some point ultimately, But at one point 880 00:36:41,840 --> 00:36:43,160 Speaker 1: during it, I was like, do you want to just 881 00:36:43,200 --> 00:36:44,640 Speaker 1: like look up but it doesn't have to be like 882 00:36:44,640 --> 00:36:48,279 Speaker 1: a deep thing. And then he was like he was 883 00:36:48,440 --> 00:36:48,799 Speaker 1: he was. 884 00:36:48,840 --> 00:36:51,239 Speaker 3: Even I'm enduring him, like blubbering, being like, I don't know. 885 00:36:51,680 --> 00:36:54,200 Speaker 1: He never cried, He never cried. He was just like ugh. 886 00:36:54,360 --> 00:36:55,600 Speaker 1: And then he said he's like, I just got a 887 00:36:55,640 --> 00:36:57,200 Speaker 1: text from my ex. Can we just kind of like 888 00:36:57,520 --> 00:36:59,120 Speaker 1: hang out and watch TV? I was like, of course, 889 00:36:59,160 --> 00:37:00,400 Speaker 1: did they break Okay? 890 00:37:00,560 --> 00:37:02,640 Speaker 4: Was the breakup on a Tuesday and you were there. 891 00:37:02,560 --> 00:37:03,080 Speaker 2: On a Thursday? 892 00:37:03,080 --> 00:37:05,480 Speaker 1: I think it was. Well, then, then this is the 893 00:37:05,520 --> 00:37:08,440 Speaker 1: best part. So a few days after the date, he 894 00:37:08,600 --> 00:37:11,279 Speaker 1: calls me and says, I just wanted you to know 895 00:37:11,360 --> 00:37:14,120 Speaker 1: that we got back together and then they were back 896 00:37:14,160 --> 00:37:18,440 Speaker 1: together for like literally like a few years. A few years, 897 00:37:18,480 --> 00:37:18,759 Speaker 1: you do. 898 00:37:18,960 --> 00:37:21,440 Speaker 3: But I'm not going to say no, no, no, definitely not now. 899 00:37:21,400 --> 00:37:23,360 Speaker 1: But like, and the thing is like, it was not 900 00:37:23,840 --> 00:37:26,760 Speaker 1: a bad date at all, but it was the most 901 00:37:26,800 --> 00:37:29,879 Speaker 1: memorable way a date went left for me. And what 902 00:37:29,960 --> 00:37:33,359 Speaker 1: I learned from it was just like the second it 903 00:37:33,400 --> 00:37:36,160 Speaker 1: looks like a date is going in a certain direction, 904 00:37:36,520 --> 00:37:38,400 Speaker 1: you can just go, like I probably should have just 905 00:37:38,480 --> 00:37:39,160 Speaker 1: gone home. 906 00:37:39,280 --> 00:37:41,000 Speaker 3: You don't owe it to them to like complete the 907 00:37:41,400 --> 00:37:43,600 Speaker 3: complete the whole. I don't think I needed to be 908 00:37:43,640 --> 00:37:46,960 Speaker 3: there from eight pm to one thirty. No, you're not 909 00:37:47,000 --> 00:37:49,440 Speaker 3: going to this is the one way ticket to hell. 910 00:37:49,600 --> 00:37:51,879 Speaker 1: And the thing is just like just because the expectation 911 00:37:52,080 --> 00:37:54,120 Speaker 1: had been set that we were going to like fucking 912 00:37:54,200 --> 00:37:56,520 Speaker 1: it was like a thing that he was like excited about, 913 00:37:56,800 --> 00:37:59,520 Speaker 1: and for it to turn that way, I was kind 914 00:37:59,560 --> 00:38:01,520 Speaker 1: of just like sitting there waiting in an dissipation the 915 00:38:01,520 --> 00:38:03,279 Speaker 1: whole time, like when is this going to turn into 916 00:38:03,280 --> 00:38:05,759 Speaker 1: the other thing? And it never did. And like I said, 917 00:38:05,800 --> 00:38:08,439 Speaker 1: I had a lovely time hanging out. We're actually friends now, 918 00:38:08,640 --> 00:38:10,080 Speaker 1: but it's the kind of thing where I'm just like 919 00:38:10,360 --> 00:38:13,080 Speaker 1: that was a memorable way when the guitar came out. 920 00:38:13,120 --> 00:38:14,440 Speaker 1: That's when you knew someone was in. 921 00:38:14,560 --> 00:38:16,680 Speaker 2: When they pulled a guitar out. 922 00:38:16,840 --> 00:38:19,439 Speaker 3: Right, Babe, I really can't do that. Like I wrote 923 00:38:19,440 --> 00:38:21,000 Speaker 3: a song for you is like full crunch. For me, 924 00:38:21,040 --> 00:38:23,080 Speaker 3: it's full stop calling it oberg gotta go. I don't 925 00:38:23,120 --> 00:38:23,759 Speaker 3: want to hear music. 926 00:38:24,960 --> 00:38:26,800 Speaker 1: Here's what I say. It wasn't about me. It was 927 00:38:26,840 --> 00:38:30,440 Speaker 1: about the X, which are my God. Now, that's what 928 00:38:30,440 --> 00:38:31,960 Speaker 1: I'm saying. It's like for you to show me a 929 00:38:31,960 --> 00:38:34,799 Speaker 1: song you wrote about your ex, I'm like, okay, well 930 00:38:34,800 --> 00:38:35,760 Speaker 1: why am I here? 931 00:38:35,880 --> 00:38:37,279 Speaker 3: Well this is the red flag I was speaking to 932 00:38:37,320 --> 00:38:39,680 Speaker 3: about myself. But I'm not here I'm just it's something 933 00:38:39,719 --> 00:38:41,520 Speaker 3: that I talk about or like, I think a personal 934 00:38:41,600 --> 00:38:43,200 Speaker 3: red flag is. They might be like, how'd your previous 935 00:38:43,200 --> 00:38:45,399 Speaker 3: relationship end? And it's like, oh, you're like how much 936 00:38:45,440 --> 00:38:45,960 Speaker 3: times you have? 937 00:38:46,040 --> 00:38:46,520 Speaker 1: Six years? 938 00:38:46,840 --> 00:38:49,440 Speaker 3: We opened up our relationship and it's like those things 939 00:38:49,440 --> 00:38:52,000 Speaker 3: to me feel like red flags. It involves a very 940 00:38:52,040 --> 00:38:54,719 Speaker 3: long walkthrough of that situation, which is way too much 941 00:38:54,719 --> 00:38:57,279 Speaker 3: to do on a first, second, third, or twentieth date. 942 00:38:57,520 --> 00:38:59,400 Speaker 3: I think the farther I get away from it. This 943 00:38:59,440 --> 00:39:01,439 Speaker 3: is why nobo friends till twenty twenty five. The farther 944 00:39:01,440 --> 00:39:03,080 Speaker 3: get away from it, the less it's a part of me, 945 00:39:03,960 --> 00:39:06,480 Speaker 3: and the less that I'm worried about being this guy 946 00:39:06,520 --> 00:39:07,080 Speaker 3: that you went on a. 947 00:39:07,040 --> 00:39:09,160 Speaker 1: Data And I think that's why I haven't been dating 948 00:39:09,200 --> 00:39:11,600 Speaker 1: a lot. Well, I have been dating more lately, but 949 00:39:11,760 --> 00:39:14,520 Speaker 1: like it took a few months because I was so 950 00:39:15,640 --> 00:39:18,520 Speaker 1: wrapped up in what that was. And the second you 951 00:39:19,000 --> 00:39:22,279 Speaker 1: are talking about someone else to someone who you know 952 00:39:22,440 --> 00:39:25,880 Speaker 1: is there for like a dating purpose. That is, you 953 00:39:25,920 --> 00:39:28,320 Speaker 1: can just hear yourself being You hear. 954 00:39:28,160 --> 00:39:30,080 Speaker 2: Yourself, but you can't stop yourself. 955 00:39:30,120 --> 00:39:30,759 Speaker 1: No, you can't stop. 956 00:39:30,800 --> 00:39:33,759 Speaker 3: It's very relatable. That's why you need to rent an 957 00:39:33,800 --> 00:39:36,719 Speaker 3: apartment in Poundtown. Yeah, I'm currently I have a two 958 00:39:36,760 --> 00:39:40,120 Speaker 3: bedroom condo in Poundtown. Yeah, I mean. Which is another 959 00:39:40,120 --> 00:39:42,160 Speaker 3: good question from our questionnaire. So, by the way, all 960 00:39:42,200 --> 00:39:44,400 Speaker 3: of the contestants are asked ahead of time to submit. 961 00:39:44,520 --> 00:39:47,800 Speaker 3: The link is in Marie's bio. If you do you 962 00:39:47,840 --> 00:39:49,359 Speaker 3: want to fill out this quiz, you should fill out 963 00:39:49,360 --> 00:39:50,920 Speaker 3: this quiz if you live in New York or LA. 964 00:39:51,080 --> 00:39:52,279 Speaker 3: We do the show all the time and we would 965 00:39:52,280 --> 00:39:53,280 Speaker 3: love to have you as a contestant. 966 00:39:53,320 --> 00:39:56,120 Speaker 4: Here's the question that's on the thing. What's your biggest strength, 967 00:39:56,120 --> 00:39:57,280 Speaker 4: like what you bring into the table? 968 00:39:57,280 --> 00:39:57,480 Speaker 2: Bach. 969 00:39:57,800 --> 00:40:01,239 Speaker 1: I think that when I care about someone, I care 970 00:40:01,280 --> 00:40:02,479 Speaker 1: about them a lot. 971 00:40:02,680 --> 00:40:02,919 Speaker 2: Okay. 972 00:40:02,920 --> 00:40:05,120 Speaker 1: And also I'm a lot of fun I want to 973 00:40:05,120 --> 00:40:09,359 Speaker 1: have sex pretty much all the time. And I have 974 00:40:09,960 --> 00:40:16,080 Speaker 1: really nice, sweet, funny people around me. And I am 975 00:40:16,239 --> 00:40:20,760 Speaker 1: extremely communicative. So like I would say, like my overall 976 00:40:20,840 --> 00:40:25,040 Speaker 1: personality and a relationship, like I'm a big lover. Okay, 977 00:40:26,719 --> 00:40:28,799 Speaker 1: my family is great. I just mean, like the people 978 00:40:28,880 --> 00:40:30,759 Speaker 1: around me are good. Like I have a really good 979 00:40:30,800 --> 00:40:33,520 Speaker 1: sense of people and like judge a character, and like 980 00:40:33,640 --> 00:40:36,440 Speaker 1: if I'm close to someone, it means that they're also 981 00:40:36,520 --> 00:40:37,279 Speaker 1: worth getting to know. 982 00:40:37,640 --> 00:40:40,440 Speaker 4: Okay, Okay, here's what we want to know. If you 983 00:40:40,480 --> 00:40:42,440 Speaker 4: could date anybody dead or alive, who would you date? 984 00:40:42,760 --> 00:40:45,200 Speaker 1: If I could date anybody dead or alive, what I date? 985 00:40:45,840 --> 00:40:49,680 Speaker 1: That is an interesting question. I think that like, probably 986 00:40:49,920 --> 00:40:54,279 Speaker 1: right now, I would date someone who was and you're 987 00:40:54,320 --> 00:40:55,440 Speaker 1: asking like a famous person. 988 00:40:55,640 --> 00:40:57,840 Speaker 2: If you say the name and everyone's like who, that 989 00:40:57,920 --> 00:40:58,719 Speaker 2: doesn't really help me. 990 00:40:58,880 --> 00:40:59,200 Speaker 3: Yeah, I know. 991 00:40:59,239 --> 00:41:02,400 Speaker 1: So basically like I'm now at type I'm now at 992 00:41:02,400 --> 00:41:04,359 Speaker 1: this place where it's like I don't want to date 993 00:41:04,400 --> 00:41:06,799 Speaker 1: someone who's in the who does the same thing as 994 00:41:06,880 --> 00:41:11,000 Speaker 1: me at all. No actors or like other comedians certainly, 995 00:41:11,200 --> 00:41:15,040 Speaker 1: or like maybe not even someone that's like creative. Primarily, 996 00:41:15,680 --> 00:41:19,080 Speaker 1: I really want someone who gets it, but like does 997 00:41:19,120 --> 00:41:21,520 Speaker 1: something totally different. Like I would actually love to date 998 00:41:21,560 --> 00:41:25,080 Speaker 1: someone that was in like architecture. 999 00:41:25,239 --> 00:41:27,920 Speaker 2: I would let me a little architect. 1000 00:41:28,080 --> 00:41:29,080 Speaker 3: Yeah, like Stanley Tucci. 1001 00:41:29,400 --> 00:41:32,359 Speaker 1: Yeah, like Stanley Tucci in one of his gay roles, 1002 00:41:32,360 --> 00:41:33,120 Speaker 1: will be fabulous. 1003 00:41:33,239 --> 00:41:33,440 Speaker 3: You know. 1004 00:41:33,640 --> 00:41:36,440 Speaker 1: I also like have been dabbling with the idea of 1005 00:41:36,480 --> 00:41:39,640 Speaker 1: like dating an older guy because in porn I've been 1006 00:41:39,680 --> 00:41:40,120 Speaker 1: into it. 1007 00:41:41,440 --> 00:41:42,879 Speaker 3: Gener will never collapse because of it? 1008 00:41:42,960 --> 00:41:43,640 Speaker 2: How much older? 1009 00:41:44,040 --> 00:41:46,040 Speaker 1: Yeah, ten fifteen years. 1010 00:41:47,480 --> 00:41:48,520 Speaker 2: Everything still works, I think. 1011 00:41:49,400 --> 00:41:51,680 Speaker 1: But also maybe That's not something I would want all 1012 00:41:51,719 --> 00:41:54,080 Speaker 1: the time. I think, honestly, if I'm being really honest 1013 00:41:54,120 --> 00:41:58,200 Speaker 1: with myself, I want someone who probably is just a 1014 00:41:58,360 --> 00:42:02,560 Speaker 1: very figured out person who brings a level of like 1015 00:42:02,640 --> 00:42:06,160 Speaker 1: comfort to the table, who looks like, I don't know, 1016 00:42:07,040 --> 00:42:11,040 Speaker 1: the guy from uh No one, the guy from nine 1017 00:42:11,040 --> 00:42:11,960 Speaker 1: one one lone star. 1018 00:42:13,120 --> 00:42:13,680 Speaker 2: Here let me go. 1019 00:42:14,160 --> 00:42:15,120 Speaker 3: Yeah, you get on that. 1020 00:42:15,520 --> 00:42:17,120 Speaker 1: I have one of the gays from nine one one 1021 00:42:17,120 --> 00:42:19,439 Speaker 1: loan Star. Oh. 1022 00:42:19,480 --> 00:42:22,440 Speaker 3: I would love to date Roblo, some one of those 1023 00:42:23,120 --> 00:42:25,239 Speaker 3: demographic Yeah, like him at a bar coming up to you. 1024 00:42:25,239 --> 00:42:26,000 Speaker 3: Hey there, little one. 1025 00:42:26,200 --> 00:42:29,680 Speaker 1: Oh, so that's daddy. I was talking about the people 1026 00:42:29,680 --> 00:42:32,560 Speaker 1: who play like his sons. His son is in a 1027 00:42:32,560 --> 00:42:35,080 Speaker 1: gay relationship and both of them like they're like I 1028 00:42:35,120 --> 00:42:38,680 Speaker 1: guess they go by Tarlos, like because one of the 1029 00:42:38,800 --> 00:42:41,680 Speaker 1: I don't know, like that's one of those guys. But 1030 00:42:41,800 --> 00:42:44,440 Speaker 1: Roblo back in the day and Roblo now like Robo 1031 00:42:44,640 --> 00:42:50,239 Speaker 1: ten years ago. Perfect, Oh Parks and rec Roblo. Yeah, 1032 00:42:50,239 --> 00:42:50,600 Speaker 1: when you. 1033 00:42:50,560 --> 00:42:52,560 Speaker 3: Come in, you just be like this man is perfect. 1034 00:42:52,680 --> 00:42:54,080 Speaker 1: Yes, absolutely. 1035 00:42:54,239 --> 00:42:56,719 Speaker 3: I have another one another question for you from the questionnaire. 1036 00:42:56,960 --> 00:43:00,680 Speaker 3: What's sexual kink that you save for the one that 1037 00:43:00,760 --> 00:43:04,560 Speaker 3: you save or him he doesn't see it until you're 1038 00:43:04,560 --> 00:43:06,200 Speaker 3: ready for him to see it, and then you let 1039 00:43:06,239 --> 00:43:07,280 Speaker 3: it out. I might know the answer. 1040 00:43:07,840 --> 00:43:11,080 Speaker 1: Okay, this is a safe space. I am really Now 1041 00:43:11,080 --> 00:43:13,800 Speaker 1: it's it's group sex for me. Now sex I like 1042 00:43:13,920 --> 00:43:16,319 Speaker 1: sex with other people, like multiple people. Like it's fun 1043 00:43:16,440 --> 00:43:19,759 Speaker 1: and it's like an actually an interesting exercise in like 1044 00:43:20,040 --> 00:43:23,319 Speaker 1: how safe you feel with your partner. And it's something 1045 00:43:23,360 --> 00:43:26,560 Speaker 1: I will never do again until I know I've got 1046 00:43:26,680 --> 00:43:29,400 Speaker 1: the one and we've signed that, we've signed the emotional contract. 1047 00:43:29,440 --> 00:43:32,319 Speaker 1: That makes sense. That's papao be mine. I don't really 1048 00:43:32,400 --> 00:43:34,600 Speaker 1: identify as like a kinky person. 1049 00:43:35,080 --> 00:43:37,040 Speaker 3: I actually we can remove the word kink, I guess, 1050 00:43:37,160 --> 00:43:39,440 Speaker 3: but like it's like something that you wait and you 1051 00:43:39,480 --> 00:43:40,680 Speaker 3: hope that they like that you like. 1052 00:43:40,880 --> 00:43:43,279 Speaker 1: This is interesting because for me, it's like when it's 1053 00:43:43,320 --> 00:43:45,680 Speaker 1: the one, when it's someone I really care about, And 1054 00:43:45,719 --> 00:43:47,600 Speaker 1: this maybe makes me like un cool for the question, 1055 00:43:47,719 --> 00:43:50,400 Speaker 1: but like it transitions out of sex into more like 1056 00:43:50,560 --> 00:43:54,000 Speaker 1: love making and like when things get very very intimate, 1057 00:43:54,080 --> 00:43:57,319 Speaker 1: like I can be like very very like romantic and 1058 00:43:57,360 --> 00:43:59,520 Speaker 1: intimate and like I'm that kind of person that's like 1059 00:43:59,520 --> 00:44:02,839 Speaker 1: it's giving eye contact. Yeah, yeah, I actually get off 1060 00:44:02,840 --> 00:44:05,160 Speaker 1: when people say I love you, you know what I mean. 1061 00:44:05,280 --> 00:44:09,400 Speaker 1: Like it's like I can see that. I'm like, it 1062 00:44:09,440 --> 00:44:11,879 Speaker 1: doesn't mean we can't, like you know, have like rough sex, 1063 00:44:11,920 --> 00:44:13,680 Speaker 1: So it doesn't mean that I can't go there. But 1064 00:44:13,719 --> 00:44:16,000 Speaker 1: it's like I'm not a person that when I get 1065 00:44:16,040 --> 00:44:19,200 Speaker 1: more comfortable, it gets like dirtier and nastier. Like when 1066 00:44:19,239 --> 00:44:22,879 Speaker 1: I get more comfortable, it gets like sweeter, even more 1067 00:44:22,920 --> 00:44:24,840 Speaker 1: connected and gooey. 1068 00:44:25,120 --> 00:44:25,719 Speaker 2: I like that. 1069 00:44:25,800 --> 00:44:28,480 Speaker 1: Okay, man's cool. But I mean, like, you know, but 1070 00:44:28,560 --> 00:44:30,720 Speaker 1: like I'm not anti kink, like when I'm out here, 1071 00:44:30,760 --> 00:44:33,520 Speaker 1: like it's it's just interesting who I am sexually with 1072 00:44:33,640 --> 00:44:36,719 Speaker 1: someone I don't really know, and who I am with 1073 00:44:36,760 --> 00:44:39,720 Speaker 1: someone that I do really know, Like I actually need 1074 00:44:40,440 --> 00:44:43,279 Speaker 1: the reciprocody of like, hey, I'm here and I really 1075 00:44:43,320 --> 00:44:44,960 Speaker 1: care about you, you know what I mean. Otherwise why 1076 00:44:44,960 --> 00:44:45,880 Speaker 1: do we keep doing it? 1077 00:44:45,880 --> 00:44:46,279 Speaker 2: It's hotter. 1078 00:44:46,520 --> 00:44:48,280 Speaker 4: But also when you're with somebody that you care about, 1079 00:44:48,400 --> 00:44:50,280 Speaker 4: especially if you guys have been together for a while, 1080 00:44:50,400 --> 00:44:52,719 Speaker 4: it just it is better because you guys know which 1081 00:44:52,719 --> 00:44:53,640 Speaker 4: other's bodies. 1082 00:44:53,800 --> 00:44:56,160 Speaker 2: It's just like it's work less work. 1083 00:44:56,520 --> 00:45:00,359 Speaker 1: When someone is like really into you and you don't 1084 00:45:00,560 --> 00:45:02,520 Speaker 1: need to like elevate it to a place of like, 1085 00:45:02,880 --> 00:45:05,319 Speaker 1: how do I keep this interesting? Like I don't know, 1086 00:45:05,360 --> 00:45:07,959 Speaker 1: Like I just I feel like I've had situations where, 1087 00:45:08,000 --> 00:45:11,080 Speaker 1: like two two and a half months in new kinks 1088 00:45:11,120 --> 00:45:14,640 Speaker 1: get introduced, like new ideas get introduced, and you're like, oh, 1089 00:45:14,800 --> 00:45:17,120 Speaker 1: I didn't really necessarily need it to go there. And 1090 00:45:17,160 --> 00:45:19,239 Speaker 1: there's that thing you go through where you're like, do 1091 00:45:19,320 --> 00:45:21,160 Speaker 1: I have to try this? Do I have to like 1092 00:45:21,560 --> 00:45:24,239 Speaker 1: be okay with this in order to keep him interested? 1093 00:45:24,360 --> 00:45:27,040 Speaker 1: Like is this something that he needs? And that's where 1094 00:45:27,040 --> 00:45:30,040 Speaker 1: it starts to get interesting, like because I'm not really 1095 00:45:30,080 --> 00:45:32,719 Speaker 1: someone that wants to get like slapped, you know what 1096 00:45:32,800 --> 00:45:35,759 Speaker 1: I mean. I'm not really someone that likes to get like, yeah, 1097 00:45:36,080 --> 00:45:38,960 Speaker 1: you're not here for a harder end of the spectrum. 1098 00:45:39,120 --> 00:45:43,319 Speaker 1: I don't really want to be peed on else. I 1099 00:45:43,360 --> 00:45:43,839 Speaker 1: don't see. 1100 00:45:43,920 --> 00:45:45,680 Speaker 3: I've done a lot of things because somebody else has 1101 00:45:45,719 --> 00:45:48,399 Speaker 3: requested me too. Yeah, and if they really want it. 1102 00:45:48,640 --> 00:45:50,839 Speaker 3: I think I'm a people pleaser in that way. Where 1103 00:45:50,880 --> 00:45:52,319 Speaker 3: as long as it's not like, as long as it 1104 00:45:52,320 --> 00:45:54,640 Speaker 3: doesn't involve heavy clean up, I'm down. 1105 00:45:55,120 --> 00:45:57,359 Speaker 1: Yeah for the most part. Why what about you? What? 1106 00:45:57,600 --> 00:46:01,560 Speaker 3: P Yeah, Ma's got a Marie Murrie. He's actually I 1107 00:46:01,600 --> 00:46:04,360 Speaker 3: don't want to say, No, the girl them feet, you 1108 00:46:04,800 --> 00:46:07,240 Speaker 3: be tossing them out to men, they go straight in mouths. 1109 00:46:07,440 --> 00:46:09,400 Speaker 4: No, I mean I don't. I'm not tossing my feet out. 1110 00:46:09,400 --> 00:46:11,080 Speaker 4: You know, I don't have a wiki feet or anything 1111 00:46:11,120 --> 00:46:12,920 Speaker 4: like that. Don't google Maurice's fee. 1112 00:46:13,840 --> 00:46:15,799 Speaker 1: But I bet there is a wiki feed for you. 1113 00:46:15,840 --> 00:46:17,880 Speaker 2: There's not. I'm there. Oh maybe there is. 1114 00:46:18,320 --> 00:46:19,200 Speaker 3: There is. 1115 00:46:19,360 --> 00:46:21,239 Speaker 1: There's one for me. If there's one for Matt, there's 1116 00:46:21,239 --> 00:46:21,920 Speaker 1: got to be one for you. 1117 00:46:22,160 --> 00:46:26,480 Speaker 2: There's no one. I'm gonna google it when I leave. No, 1118 00:46:26,640 --> 00:46:28,480 Speaker 2: but yeah, I'll put my feet in somebody's mouth. 1119 00:46:28,560 --> 00:46:31,040 Speaker 1: Sure, I mean, but you're not putting anyone's foot in 1120 00:46:31,120 --> 00:46:31,800 Speaker 1: your mouth. 1121 00:46:32,200 --> 00:46:34,560 Speaker 2: A man's foot with the hairy big toe. 1122 00:46:34,800 --> 00:46:35,360 Speaker 1: No. 1123 00:46:35,760 --> 00:46:36,759 Speaker 3: Yeah, I've done it. 1124 00:46:37,080 --> 00:46:42,600 Speaker 1: I mean I've tried it. Okay. I was hooking up 1125 00:46:42,600 --> 00:46:46,080 Speaker 1: with someone during the pandemic, and I think, like, you know, 1126 00:46:46,160 --> 00:46:48,319 Speaker 1: just to try to like see what was up, like 1127 00:46:48,360 --> 00:46:50,160 Speaker 1: I did, put the foot in my mouth. And it 1128 00:46:50,239 --> 00:46:53,200 Speaker 1: was so funny because we locked eyes and we both 1129 00:46:53,239 --> 00:46:55,480 Speaker 1: in that moment realized it was not for us. It 1130 00:46:55,560 --> 00:46:58,080 Speaker 1: was like, we don't do feet. I don't think. I 1131 00:46:58,080 --> 00:46:59,600 Speaker 1: don't think we do feed together. I don't think we 1132 00:46:59,640 --> 00:47:01,319 Speaker 1: do feed a part. I think you and I we 1133 00:47:01,440 --> 00:47:07,000 Speaker 1: don't do fee. That's something nice. Yes, it's nice when 1134 00:47:07,000 --> 00:47:07,839 Speaker 1: you can align like that. 1135 00:47:07,960 --> 00:47:10,440 Speaker 3: I'm also really attracted to like the spontaneous stuff right now, 1136 00:47:10,440 --> 00:47:12,440 Speaker 3: the sort of like no strings attached. I mean, I've 1137 00:47:12,440 --> 00:47:16,440 Speaker 3: had like a few hookups on vacations, like vacation I did, 1138 00:47:16,560 --> 00:47:18,640 Speaker 3: like I had, I hooked up with a kayak innstructor 1139 00:47:18,719 --> 00:47:22,920 Speaker 3: in part in the closet like that love this story. 1140 00:47:23,040 --> 00:47:25,440 Speaker 3: That was amazing. I was like when I went for 1141 00:47:25,520 --> 00:47:28,600 Speaker 3: a wedding too, I was in in Mexico and I 1142 00:47:28,640 --> 00:47:32,279 Speaker 3: it was in like a broom closet, a proper Mexico, Yeah, 1143 00:47:32,360 --> 00:47:34,319 Speaker 3: a broom closet. And then he left me a no, 1144 00:47:34,600 --> 00:47:36,879 Speaker 3: asked me like to order a bagel to my room 1145 00:47:37,120 --> 00:47:39,160 Speaker 3: for room service, and then he came to my room. 1146 00:47:39,080 --> 00:47:40,400 Speaker 1: With a bagel. Did he bring the bagel? 1147 00:47:40,680 --> 00:47:41,120 Speaker 3: He didn't bring? 1148 00:47:41,400 --> 00:47:43,600 Speaker 1: Oh, come on, did he eat the bag He ate 1149 00:47:43,640 --> 00:47:55,880 Speaker 1: the bag period? Was everything was copy seed, no honey. 1150 00:47:56,000 --> 00:48:00,719 Speaker 3: No honeyplane, squeaky clean period. No. It's like that's something 1151 00:48:00,760 --> 00:48:02,879 Speaker 3: that I guess is something that I'm enjoying right now. 1152 00:48:02,880 --> 00:48:06,200 Speaker 3: It's like sort of spontaneous like connections, especially on vacation 1153 00:48:06,280 --> 00:48:07,879 Speaker 3: I'm just like, you just know you're never gonna see 1154 00:48:07,920 --> 00:48:09,680 Speaker 3: them again. It's just like this could never be. So 1155 00:48:09,680 --> 00:48:11,239 Speaker 3: it's just like you get a piece of me. 1156 00:48:11,400 --> 00:48:13,879 Speaker 4: And also it's like a good story to drop into 1157 00:48:13,920 --> 00:48:16,239 Speaker 4: the group. Chat me tell you what I. 1158 00:48:16,360 --> 00:48:18,160 Speaker 2: Just did it westin sex. 1159 00:48:19,080 --> 00:48:21,960 Speaker 1: This is what I'll say. On vacations, I do become 1160 00:48:22,120 --> 00:48:24,600 Speaker 1: like I go through the gamma radiation and become like 1161 00:48:24,640 --> 00:48:27,200 Speaker 1: a hulk version of myself in terms of being a whore. 1162 00:48:27,680 --> 00:48:30,160 Speaker 1: Like when I go on vacation, it's like carte blanche. 1163 00:48:30,200 --> 00:48:32,279 Speaker 1: I turn into a different person, Like I put like 1164 00:48:32,320 --> 00:48:36,080 Speaker 1: a vacation hat on and I click in and I'm thinking, now, 1165 00:48:36,120 --> 00:48:38,759 Speaker 1: like maybe that is a little bit of a kink. 1166 00:48:38,800 --> 00:48:41,680 Speaker 1: That's like not super sure. It's like hooking up with 1167 00:48:41,680 --> 00:48:47,239 Speaker 1: people that I probably shouldn't. 1168 00:48:45,000 --> 00:48:46,360 Speaker 3: Dedicated to this. Do you have sniffies? 1169 00:48:47,080 --> 00:48:50,759 Speaker 1: It's not necessarily like anything I'm doing sexually, it's who 1170 00:48:50,880 --> 00:48:53,200 Speaker 1: I'm doing it with. Like I'm a little attracted to 1171 00:48:53,280 --> 00:48:56,160 Speaker 1: this idea of like, oh, I shouldn't hook up with 1172 00:48:56,200 --> 00:48:59,160 Speaker 1: my teacher, I shouldn't hook up with my boss, So 1173 00:48:59,239 --> 00:49:03,320 Speaker 1: maybe role play honestly, and I famously I started a 1174 00:49:03,400 --> 00:49:05,560 Speaker 1: role pay recently and the guy told me I think 1175 00:49:05,600 --> 00:49:06,880 Speaker 1: you might be too good at improv. 1176 00:49:07,200 --> 00:49:09,000 Speaker 2: Oh you said yes, And. 1177 00:49:09,560 --> 00:49:12,400 Speaker 1: He wanted to do a scenario that was like coach player, 1178 00:49:12,960 --> 00:49:14,360 Speaker 1: And so we had a date. We were in the 1179 00:49:14,360 --> 00:49:16,600 Speaker 1: car going back to my hotel and I literally just 1180 00:49:16,640 --> 00:49:20,319 Speaker 1: go he no. He said, he's like, you did really 1181 00:49:20,320 --> 00:49:22,359 Speaker 1: well in practice today, and I was like, oh my god, 1182 00:49:22,360 --> 00:49:22,799 Speaker 1: we're doing it. 1183 00:49:22,800 --> 00:49:24,640 Speaker 3: We're doing it, We're doing it practice. 1184 00:49:24,800 --> 00:49:29,200 Speaker 1: So I said, yeah, I give my all on the 1185 00:49:29,200 --> 00:49:32,640 Speaker 1: field because you know, things have been really hard at home. 1186 00:49:32,800 --> 00:49:33,600 Speaker 2: Oh my god. 1187 00:49:33,800 --> 00:49:37,960 Speaker 1: And then he goes, yeah really, and I go yeah, 1188 00:49:38,000 --> 00:49:40,279 Speaker 1: and I think that when I look at you, I 1189 00:49:40,320 --> 00:49:42,440 Speaker 1: see you as a father figure and I really want 1190 00:49:42,440 --> 00:49:45,160 Speaker 1: to impress you. And then he goes, I think you 1191 00:49:45,239 --> 00:49:46,400 Speaker 1: might be too good at improv. 1192 00:49:46,560 --> 00:49:46,719 Speaker 4: Yeah. 1193 00:49:46,880 --> 00:49:51,040 Speaker 3: Yeah, you're creating like sort of like a home Like 1194 00:49:51,640 --> 00:49:53,080 Speaker 3: wait a minute, yeah, a little bit too. 1195 00:49:54,280 --> 00:49:56,400 Speaker 1: I was just saying, like it's tough with my father. 1196 00:49:56,440 --> 00:49:59,080 Speaker 1: I'm closeted at home. I want daddy, can you be daddy. 1197 00:49:59,360 --> 00:49:59,840 Speaker 2: That's to. 1198 00:50:01,800 --> 00:50:04,000 Speaker 4: Things have been real hard at home means two things, 1199 00:50:04,760 --> 00:50:06,600 Speaker 4: or it could be like he maybe you know. 1200 00:50:07,040 --> 00:50:08,719 Speaker 1: I'm just saying, like, you know, my dad, like I 1201 00:50:08,760 --> 00:50:11,080 Speaker 1: think I said, like, you know, I just my dad 1202 00:50:11,120 --> 00:50:13,720 Speaker 1: and I. It's a tough relationship, looking for a father figure. 1203 00:50:13,880 --> 00:50:15,960 Speaker 2: I care, I'm crying. 1204 00:50:16,360 --> 00:50:18,680 Speaker 3: I'm sure like he like goes to get loop turns around, 1205 00:50:18,719 --> 00:50:21,600 Speaker 3: MAT's in full wig, Matt has on shoulders. 1206 00:50:22,360 --> 00:50:23,320 Speaker 1: I'm also not realizing. 1207 00:50:23,360 --> 00:50:23,520 Speaker 3: You know. 1208 00:50:23,520 --> 00:50:25,600 Speaker 1: Another one of my kinks is I kind of like 1209 00:50:26,040 --> 00:50:28,880 Speaker 1: I kind of like armbits you Like, you don't have 1210 00:50:28,880 --> 00:50:31,600 Speaker 1: to whisper that. That's like kind of like a man's smell, 1211 00:50:32,320 --> 00:50:33,879 Speaker 1: or do you need right after. 1212 00:50:33,880 --> 00:50:35,600 Speaker 2: Like a workout man smell. 1213 00:50:35,719 --> 00:50:37,480 Speaker 1: I don't know about all that, but you just win 1214 00:50:37,560 --> 00:50:40,799 Speaker 1: out for the day, just like you don't necessarily if 1215 00:50:40,840 --> 00:50:43,040 Speaker 1: I'm really into it, you don't necessarily have to be 1216 00:50:43,080 --> 00:50:46,920 Speaker 1: like squeaky clean like deodorant like have you can have showered, 1217 00:50:47,120 --> 00:50:49,440 Speaker 1: like the hole should be clean. But like if I'm 1218 00:50:49,480 --> 00:50:52,319 Speaker 1: smelling armpit and it smells like man, that's actually good. 1219 00:50:52,560 --> 00:50:55,760 Speaker 4: Well, I think if you like the way someone smells naturally, 1220 00:50:55,880 --> 00:50:56,720 Speaker 4: I think that means. 1221 00:50:56,520 --> 00:50:57,239 Speaker 2: You really like it. 1222 00:50:57,239 --> 00:51:00,520 Speaker 4: It's on because some people I've I've been with I 1223 00:51:00,560 --> 00:51:02,680 Speaker 4: didn't like how they slew or they didn't smell like anything, 1224 00:51:02,719 --> 00:51:04,040 Speaker 4: and that was like weird to me. 1225 00:51:04,200 --> 00:51:06,200 Speaker 2: Like smell is I don't. 1226 00:51:06,000 --> 00:51:07,919 Speaker 3: Know, you can smell like Lei labo and I'm not mad. 1227 00:51:08,680 --> 00:51:11,040 Speaker 4: I like them to smell good. Yeah, because smelling good 1228 00:51:11,040 --> 00:51:11,440 Speaker 4: is sexy. 1229 00:51:11,520 --> 00:51:13,120 Speaker 1: Wait, but you were talking about this to the show. 1230 00:51:13,160 --> 00:51:15,439 Speaker 4: It's like, if you're ugly but you smell good, you're cute. 1231 00:51:15,760 --> 00:51:18,000 Speaker 4: If you're cute but you smell good, you're hot. If 1232 00:51:18,040 --> 00:51:20,839 Speaker 4: you're hot and you smell good, you woho, that's the map. 1233 00:51:20,920 --> 00:51:22,919 Speaker 1: Oh my god, wait, I gotta write that down. 1234 00:51:23,120 --> 00:51:24,279 Speaker 2: Yeah, write down, write it down. 1235 00:51:24,320 --> 00:51:25,000 Speaker 3: That's amazing. 1236 00:51:25,560 --> 00:51:27,640 Speaker 2: I've done the work. A square plus B squared equals you. 1237 00:51:27,719 --> 00:51:30,759 Speaker 1: Oh yeah, okay, all right, So I would say that's 1238 00:51:30,760 --> 00:51:33,520 Speaker 1: my thing. It's like I have like an intimacy kink 1239 00:51:33,560 --> 00:51:36,640 Speaker 1: with people that I'm really interested in and then potentially 1240 00:51:36,640 --> 00:51:37,480 Speaker 1: some role play. 1241 00:51:37,640 --> 00:51:39,520 Speaker 3: So after we get to know our contestants for a 1242 00:51:39,520 --> 00:51:41,719 Speaker 3: little while, Marie like basically roast them, we do a 1243 00:51:41,719 --> 00:51:43,359 Speaker 3: deep dive on their social media. As we ask them 1244 00:51:43,400 --> 00:51:46,120 Speaker 3: to surrender over their profiles, they send us screenshots from 1245 00:51:46,200 --> 00:51:48,840 Speaker 3: all the apps. So many apps these days, so many 1246 00:51:48,880 --> 00:51:52,080 Speaker 3: apps like field we hear about farmers only. 1247 00:51:52,840 --> 00:51:55,120 Speaker 1: Oh you mean like apps like dating apps, the first 1248 00:51:55,120 --> 00:51:55,960 Speaker 1: specific things. 1249 00:51:56,440 --> 00:51:58,879 Speaker 3: Yeah, yeah, yeah, there's so many specialized on We saw 1250 00:51:58,960 --> 00:52:01,520 Speaker 3: what was it farmers. It's like for people who are 1251 00:52:01,560 --> 00:52:03,960 Speaker 3: interested in people who are interested in agriculture as wild. 1252 00:52:04,200 --> 00:52:06,920 Speaker 2: I didn't even know there was that many farmers in America. 1253 00:52:07,000 --> 00:52:09,520 Speaker 3: Yeah, there's communities all over the place in the dating world, 1254 00:52:09,520 --> 00:52:11,759 Speaker 3: but we ask after we get to know them a 1255 00:52:11,760 --> 00:52:13,239 Speaker 3: little bit, then we start to put them against one 1256 00:52:13,280 --> 00:52:15,239 Speaker 3: another because we are looking for the person with the 1257 00:52:15,320 --> 00:52:17,360 Speaker 3: least amount of red flags. Oh okay to be crowned 1258 00:52:17,360 --> 00:52:17,760 Speaker 3: a winner. 1259 00:52:17,920 --> 00:52:20,040 Speaker 4: Right, And we're not saying that you have no red flag, 1260 00:52:20,160 --> 00:52:22,680 Speaker 4: you do, You just have less than the two people 1261 00:52:22,760 --> 00:52:23,200 Speaker 4: see the. 1262 00:52:23,080 --> 00:52:27,440 Speaker 1: Most eligible out of the bunch. I get it. So basically, 1263 00:52:27,480 --> 00:52:30,560 Speaker 1: like it's a thing of the audience sort of dictates 1264 00:52:30,560 --> 00:52:32,880 Speaker 1: and energy in the room of like we're not feeling 1265 00:52:32,960 --> 00:52:35,880 Speaker 1: this person because and it was interesting, like when people 1266 00:52:35,920 --> 00:52:38,600 Speaker 1: just start talking and you give them a space to talk, 1267 00:52:38,800 --> 00:52:40,000 Speaker 1: they will sell you a crazy thing. 1268 00:52:40,120 --> 00:52:42,520 Speaker 3: Oh absolutely, And that's what we're looking for in the 1269 00:52:42,520 --> 00:52:44,359 Speaker 3: applications when when we get them in is like. 1270 00:52:44,360 --> 00:52:45,360 Speaker 2: We love a little crazy. 1271 00:52:45,440 --> 00:52:46,560 Speaker 3: This person's ready to talk. 1272 00:52:46,640 --> 00:52:48,600 Speaker 4: We love a little crazy. David and I will be 1273 00:52:48,640 --> 00:52:50,359 Speaker 4: looking through them and we'll be like, okay, she. 1274 00:52:51,000 --> 00:52:55,359 Speaker 3: Yeah, jeep. Last show on our show in New York, 1275 00:52:55,400 --> 00:52:57,280 Speaker 3: we had a contest name Jeep, who was like giving 1276 00:52:57,320 --> 00:52:59,560 Speaker 3: us all these crazy answers about guys that she went 1277 00:52:59,640 --> 00:53:01,319 Speaker 3: on and boys that I'd like, try to take our 1278 00:53:01,320 --> 00:53:04,160 Speaker 3: crazy places. We were like this girl spills. But the 1279 00:53:04,239 --> 00:53:06,919 Speaker 3: next chapter is that we go through questions that Marie 1280 00:53:06,920 --> 00:53:09,720 Speaker 3: asked or Instagram that are a little bit larger scope 1281 00:53:09,760 --> 00:53:12,200 Speaker 3: and just we need an answer from you. So I 1282 00:53:12,239 --> 00:53:15,319 Speaker 3: have one now. One would be how long have you 1283 00:53:15,360 --> 00:53:16,160 Speaker 3: traveled for sex? 1284 00:53:16,840 --> 00:53:17,040 Speaker 1: Far? 1285 00:53:17,320 --> 00:53:19,680 Speaker 2: How far far this you've traveled for hmm? 1286 00:53:19,840 --> 00:53:25,520 Speaker 1: Okay, actually, I oh my god. I flew tickets a year. 1287 00:53:25,560 --> 00:53:30,880 Speaker 1: I flew from New York to LA like in twenty eighteen. 1288 00:53:31,719 --> 00:53:36,200 Speaker 1: I was coming for a week and it was should 1289 00:53:36,239 --> 00:53:36,959 Speaker 1: I say his name? 1290 00:53:37,400 --> 00:53:37,760 Speaker 2: Sure? 1291 00:53:37,880 --> 00:53:40,480 Speaker 3: I think it would be contradictory to the beginning of 1292 00:53:40,520 --> 00:53:42,600 Speaker 3: this podcast when you said how much you've grown from 1293 00:53:42,600 --> 00:53:44,680 Speaker 3: doing that, But yeah, say yes, put this man's name 1294 00:53:44,680 --> 00:53:47,520 Speaker 3: on and if you have to believe it right, I 1295 00:53:47,520 --> 00:53:47,759 Speaker 3: don't know. 1296 00:53:48,280 --> 00:53:50,360 Speaker 1: There was I'm just gonna do it. I feel messy, 1297 00:53:50,480 --> 00:53:51,400 Speaker 1: so the show's about do it. 1298 00:53:51,680 --> 00:53:51,879 Speaker 2: Yeah. 1299 00:53:51,920 --> 00:53:57,279 Speaker 1: This was in twenty eighteen and I was I'm gonna 1300 00:53:57,320 --> 00:53:59,759 Speaker 1: say it. I was walking up with Lewis Ertel and 1301 00:53:59,800 --> 00:54:02,719 Speaker 1: I flew I flew across the country to hook up 1302 00:54:02,760 --> 00:54:06,560 Speaker 1: with Lewis, and then I remember I flew New York 1303 00:54:06,600 --> 00:54:10,880 Speaker 1: to LA and then I remember it like didn't really 1304 00:54:11,200 --> 00:54:14,120 Speaker 1: work out, like I think you realized we were more friends. 1305 00:54:14,320 --> 00:54:16,680 Speaker 1: But I did fly from New York to LA to 1306 00:54:16,719 --> 00:54:19,719 Speaker 1: stay for a week, to hopefully fuck Lewis vertel for 1307 00:54:19,760 --> 00:54:20,719 Speaker 1: a week, and. 1308 00:54:20,640 --> 00:54:23,480 Speaker 3: Then Lewis for tells his sweetheart, sorry, that was now 1309 00:54:23,520 --> 00:54:26,640 Speaker 3: we're good friends, but like this was you were friendship. 1310 00:54:26,680 --> 00:54:27,120 Speaker 3: You didn't know? 1311 00:54:27,280 --> 00:54:27,520 Speaker 1: Ah? 1312 00:54:27,600 --> 00:54:28,880 Speaker 2: Okay, I googled him, got it? 1313 00:54:28,960 --> 00:54:29,359 Speaker 1: See it? 1314 00:54:29,520 --> 00:54:30,279 Speaker 3: Yes, keep it. 1315 00:54:30,480 --> 00:54:33,040 Speaker 1: We first hooked up like years and years and years 1316 00:54:33,440 --> 00:54:35,600 Speaker 1: prior and then like it was one of those things 1317 00:54:35,600 --> 00:54:37,279 Speaker 1: where we didn't really know each other, but there was 1318 00:54:37,320 --> 00:54:40,680 Speaker 1: like an intense connection. I thought I was like in love, 1319 00:54:41,000 --> 00:54:42,239 Speaker 1: and so I came back and I was like, but 1320 00:54:42,360 --> 00:54:44,600 Speaker 1: that's your thing, man, you love hard, girl, you go. 1321 00:54:44,840 --> 00:54:47,959 Speaker 1: And I also decide who people are before I really 1322 00:54:48,000 --> 00:54:50,240 Speaker 1: get to know them, and like, I love who Lewis 1323 00:54:50,280 --> 00:54:53,040 Speaker 1: is now, but he was not who I thought I was. 1324 00:54:53,160 --> 00:54:55,040 Speaker 1: You know what I'm saying. It's like when you put 1325 00:54:55,080 --> 00:54:59,640 Speaker 1: in all the effort beforehand and you're like you really 1326 00:54:59,760 --> 00:55:01,520 Speaker 1: think it's one thing, and you build it up in 1327 00:55:01,560 --> 00:55:03,480 Speaker 1: your head and all of a sudden the castle is 1328 00:55:03,480 --> 00:55:05,440 Speaker 1: built and you walk in and you're like, oh, this 1329 00:55:05,520 --> 00:55:07,200 Speaker 1: is just a sound stage. You know, there's nothing, there's 1330 00:55:07,239 --> 00:55:09,640 Speaker 1: nobody in the there's no one in on the grounds. 1331 00:55:09,719 --> 00:55:09,959 Speaker 2: Yeah. 1332 00:55:10,120 --> 00:55:12,960 Speaker 4: Yeah, But I think the mind is very powerful, right. 1333 00:55:13,080 --> 00:55:15,759 Speaker 4: We we build things that we want to build, We 1334 00:55:15,800 --> 00:55:18,479 Speaker 4: see things we want to see. Sometimes you can blur 1335 00:55:18,600 --> 00:55:21,200 Speaker 4: things out that are there that you should be looking at. 1336 00:55:21,360 --> 00:55:22,879 Speaker 1: That's what it is. But the answer to your question 1337 00:55:22,960 --> 00:55:24,680 Speaker 1: is three thousand miles for a friend of the show, 1338 00:55:24,760 --> 00:55:27,760 Speaker 1: Lewis for a time well the most popular answers online. 1339 00:55:27,560 --> 00:55:31,239 Speaker 1: The fourth most popular answer was international. These people have 1340 00:55:31,400 --> 00:55:32,400 Speaker 1: crossed countries. 1341 00:55:32,680 --> 00:55:35,680 Speaker 2: Yeah that was flying from Australia. 1342 00:55:36,680 --> 00:55:37,959 Speaker 3: Responses, Yeah, it was wild. 1343 00:55:38,000 --> 00:55:40,920 Speaker 1: I think about it. I really do. I definitely certainly, 1344 00:55:41,000 --> 00:55:43,000 Speaker 1: like someone will get in the DMS and I'll be 1345 00:55:43,000 --> 00:55:44,719 Speaker 1: like where are you and they'll be like London, and 1346 00:55:44,760 --> 00:55:49,120 Speaker 1: I'll be like, oh, I'm almost there. I'm almost there. 1347 00:55:49,160 --> 00:55:51,799 Speaker 1: I can almost justify like me traveling the way I 1348 00:55:51,840 --> 00:55:53,920 Speaker 1: like to travel comfortably, like you go all the way. 1349 00:55:53,920 --> 00:55:54,920 Speaker 1: They're beautiful and. 1350 00:55:54,880 --> 00:55:55,759 Speaker 2: I love to see you. 1351 00:55:55,840 --> 00:55:58,160 Speaker 1: So three thousand miles currently is that I'm. 1352 00:55:58,080 --> 00:56:00,040 Speaker 3: Trying to convince the boy I met over prior to 1353 00:56:00,080 --> 00:56:01,520 Speaker 3: go see Taylor Swift in Europe with me. 1354 00:56:02,040 --> 00:56:03,520 Speaker 1: My god, wait go with me? 1355 00:56:04,120 --> 00:56:06,640 Speaker 3: I want to Oh my god, I don't go with that, Okay, 1356 00:56:06,760 --> 00:56:08,200 Speaker 3: I want to go to like Paris because I didn't 1357 00:56:08,239 --> 00:56:08,799 Speaker 3: see her when she was. 1358 00:56:08,800 --> 00:56:12,759 Speaker 1: In Paris, not till next It's like she just extended. 1359 00:56:13,160 --> 00:56:15,600 Speaker 1: Yeah she was. I'm guessing you're not a big Swift 1360 00:56:15,640 --> 00:56:17,839 Speaker 1: ye wouldn't. 1361 00:56:17,480 --> 00:56:19,000 Speaker 3: That be the most amazing thing to learn here? 1362 00:56:19,600 --> 00:56:21,560 Speaker 2: I did just watch her Tiny Desk the other day. 1363 00:56:21,640 --> 00:56:23,520 Speaker 1: Oh my god. Wait, her tiny Desk is great. 1364 00:56:23,760 --> 00:56:26,279 Speaker 4: I mean, she didn't have nobody back there with her. 1365 00:56:26,320 --> 00:56:29,520 Speaker 4: It was just her girl and her guitar and her piano. 1366 00:56:29,239 --> 00:56:30,720 Speaker 1: And she sounded fucking great. 1367 00:56:30,800 --> 00:56:33,080 Speaker 3: Oh look at you like being all like, oh about it? 1368 00:56:33,120 --> 00:56:35,279 Speaker 1: I love I watched a couple of times. 1369 00:56:35,440 --> 00:56:38,719 Speaker 3: Yeah, I love that Tinysk is incredible. I have to 1370 00:56:38,719 --> 00:56:42,279 Speaker 3: watch MOONI still Moon is fantastic. I can't wait to 1371 00:56:42,320 --> 00:56:44,040 Speaker 3: watch it. When we saw them in New York, they 1372 00:56:44,080 --> 00:56:45,400 Speaker 3: were just about to go film it, and I just 1373 00:56:45,480 --> 00:56:46,680 Speaker 3: know it's going to be fantastic. 1374 00:56:46,719 --> 00:56:48,200 Speaker 1: What did I recently watch? I think there's an old 1375 00:56:48,280 --> 00:56:52,040 Speaker 1: Jazmine Sullivan one too, which is like yeah, yeah, there's 1376 00:56:52,120 --> 00:56:56,440 Speaker 1: Oh Usher's tiny desk, tiny desk is amazing. You remind me, 1377 00:56:56,560 --> 00:56:59,280 Speaker 1: let me tell you something. There's so much narrative about Usher. 1378 00:56:59,800 --> 00:57:03,359 Speaker 1: You forget. His voice is like, I mean, of course 1379 00:57:03,360 --> 00:57:05,400 Speaker 1: it's an instrument, it's a voice, but like it is 1380 00:57:05,480 --> 00:57:09,240 Speaker 1: so it's like a finally tuned instrument at all times, 1381 00:57:09,280 --> 00:57:11,520 Speaker 1: Like he just finds the notes and he's. 1382 00:57:11,360 --> 00:57:13,880 Speaker 4: Been doing this for so long and his face looks 1383 00:57:13,920 --> 00:57:15,399 Speaker 4: almost exactly to see. 1384 00:57:15,400 --> 00:57:17,640 Speaker 3: Here was my first crush. I knew I was gay 1385 00:57:17,800 --> 00:57:20,320 Speaker 3: when I saw Usher's abs. That was like the moment 1386 00:57:20,400 --> 00:57:23,760 Speaker 3: he was formative for sure. Might might be piece of 1387 00:57:23,800 --> 00:57:24,800 Speaker 3: formative culture for me. 1388 00:57:26,640 --> 00:57:31,000 Speaker 1: She like, sid, oh yeah, I mean you also forget 1389 00:57:31,000 --> 00:57:33,840 Speaker 1: how good some of the songs on Confessions were like, 1390 00:57:35,440 --> 00:57:41,840 Speaker 1: oh Bern is so good too? Are you feeling it even? 1391 00:57:43,280 --> 00:57:44,600 Speaker 3: Been a long time coming? 1392 00:57:45,160 --> 00:57:48,400 Speaker 1: The man fell apart? 1393 00:57:48,520 --> 00:58:00,200 Speaker 3: But I don't think it's wown this relationship. Baby, I 1394 00:58:00,240 --> 00:58:05,680 Speaker 3: ain't baby, because there's so many wow. 1395 00:58:05,800 --> 00:58:14,120 Speaker 1: I think, let it yet, you gotta let it go. 1396 00:58:14,720 --> 00:58:17,440 Speaker 2: Nobody ain't used to. 1397 00:58:17,800 --> 00:58:27,040 Speaker 1: You know, let it go? You know, wait and ever 1398 00:58:27,240 --> 00:58:27,760 Speaker 1: so good? 1399 00:58:27,880 --> 00:58:30,960 Speaker 3: Wait, it is so good listening on two points or 1400 00:58:30,960 --> 00:58:33,200 Speaker 3: its one point five? Are gonna have a really fun experience. 1401 00:58:34,320 --> 00:58:36,840 Speaker 4: I'm gonna let me add that to my karaoke playlist. 1402 00:58:37,200 --> 00:58:40,200 Speaker 1: Don't forget about well, no one will ever forget about yeah, 1403 00:58:40,200 --> 00:58:42,040 Speaker 1: because that was in a capable will always be a classic. 1404 00:58:42,200 --> 00:58:45,520 Speaker 1: My Qession's part two with him and the show, Yeah 1405 00:58:46,800 --> 00:58:47,320 Speaker 1: my Boo is. 1406 00:58:47,320 --> 00:58:49,520 Speaker 3: Another really good karaoke song for like with you Andy Body. 1407 00:58:49,800 --> 00:58:57,800 Speaker 4: Yeah yeah, but Confession's part it's our song. Yeah, Oh 1408 00:58:57,840 --> 00:58:59,880 Speaker 4: my god, go back and listen to that album. 1409 00:59:00,000 --> 00:59:00,680 Speaker 3: I might do that in the car. 1410 00:59:11,720 --> 00:59:13,680 Speaker 1: Okay. So that's how long I've traveled for sex. 1411 00:59:14,160 --> 00:59:15,880 Speaker 2: I think same for me. I was in a lot. 1412 00:59:15,960 --> 00:59:17,240 Speaker 2: Well it was the guy that that I was with, 1413 00:59:17,480 --> 00:59:18,920 Speaker 2: that boyfriend, new boyfriend that I. 1414 00:59:18,880 --> 00:59:23,880 Speaker 4: Had many I don't travel, I host, yeahs want people in. 1415 00:59:23,840 --> 00:59:26,520 Speaker 1: My house nowadays, I don't travel, I travel, I have. 1416 00:59:26,640 --> 00:59:28,120 Speaker 3: I keep a nice home. And if you don't know 1417 00:59:28,160 --> 00:59:29,919 Speaker 3: how to handle your stuff in my home, I love 1418 00:59:29,960 --> 00:59:32,200 Speaker 3: being able to throw you out. So I don't like 1419 00:59:32,360 --> 00:59:35,320 Speaker 3: go into unknown territory. That is exactly right. And the 1420 00:59:35,360 --> 00:59:38,760 Speaker 3: thing is I hate hate hate because. 1421 00:59:38,560 --> 00:59:40,920 Speaker 1: You never do know. Like recently, I did a grinder 1422 00:59:40,960 --> 00:59:43,920 Speaker 1: hook up and I traveled like forty five minutes for 1423 00:59:44,000 --> 00:59:46,320 Speaker 1: what I was positive was going to be a fire hookup. 1424 00:59:46,760 --> 00:59:51,280 Speaker 1: The guy was prothetic, pathetic. Oh my god, it was horrible. 1425 00:59:51,320 --> 00:59:53,200 Speaker 1: It was just saying like a really hot but no 1426 00:59:53,320 --> 00:59:55,480 Speaker 1: sexual energy. Well I get there and the first thing 1427 00:59:55,480 --> 00:59:57,920 Speaker 1: he says is, hey, I actually like I have a 1428 00:59:57,920 --> 01:00:00,120 Speaker 1: bruised grib so we can only do it missionary and 1429 01:00:00,200 --> 01:00:02,480 Speaker 1: I'm really cooked out and my dick doesn't work, but 1430 01:00:02,520 --> 01:00:03,600 Speaker 1: I definitely I. 1431 01:00:03,600 --> 01:00:05,720 Speaker 4: Want to do this was just what you could have 1432 01:00:05,760 --> 01:00:07,960 Speaker 4: said this to me before I paid for the oobs, babe. 1433 01:00:08,040 --> 01:00:10,880 Speaker 4: Well no, he was before I came over. 1434 01:00:10,920 --> 01:00:13,200 Speaker 1: And then I'll tell you what the really stupid fucking 1435 01:00:13,240 --> 01:00:15,480 Speaker 1: part of it was was after we had sex for 1436 01:00:15,520 --> 01:00:17,920 Speaker 1: like twenty minutes, is a boring sex that he was 1437 01:00:17,920 --> 01:00:20,560 Speaker 1: like not even he also we had barely made out. 1438 01:00:20,600 --> 01:00:22,720 Speaker 1: He did he didn't want me to eat grinder. 1439 01:00:22,760 --> 01:00:24,880 Speaker 3: I don't actually want to kiss always. It's like kissing 1440 01:00:24,920 --> 01:00:27,120 Speaker 3: is actually like for me, it's like comes after sex. 1441 01:00:27,160 --> 01:00:30,240 Speaker 3: Isn't that fucked? It's like blowjobs are like hi, I 1442 01:00:30,280 --> 01:00:32,960 Speaker 3: love making it, Like making out is like sure, but 1443 01:00:33,080 --> 01:00:36,320 Speaker 3: like kisses, eye contact sex kisses, that's like. 1444 01:00:36,520 --> 01:00:38,840 Speaker 1: See that is my cake. I have an intimacy cake. 1445 01:00:39,720 --> 01:00:41,840 Speaker 1: But he might be right afterwards he goes to me, 1446 01:00:41,920 --> 01:00:44,040 Speaker 1: can you follow me on Instagram? My friend will freak 1447 01:00:44,080 --> 01:00:46,520 Speaker 1: out and I was like, oh, this is what I hate, 1448 01:00:46,760 --> 01:00:48,760 Speaker 1: and this has now happened. This has now happened to me, 1449 01:00:48,840 --> 01:00:50,760 Speaker 1: Like and this is like whatever ghost to talk about, 1450 01:00:50,800 --> 01:00:53,000 Speaker 1: but this has happened to me like between five and 1451 01:00:53,480 --> 01:00:57,000 Speaker 1: seven times. Like someone will say after that they knew 1452 01:00:57,000 --> 01:01:00,360 Speaker 1: who I was, and I'm like, yeah, I guess that's 1453 01:01:00,400 --> 01:01:02,840 Speaker 1: like a weird thing for you to navigate, but like, 1454 01:01:02,920 --> 01:01:06,120 Speaker 1: I guess I would have rather known that. And now 1455 01:01:06,200 --> 01:01:08,560 Speaker 1: I think I'll do grinder less just because people are 1456 01:01:08,640 --> 01:01:09,680 Speaker 1: fucking crazy on you. 1457 01:01:09,880 --> 01:01:12,040 Speaker 3: Hear that readers identify yourself before you try to fuck 1458 01:01:12,120 --> 01:01:12,760 Speaker 3: mat on Grinder? 1459 01:01:12,920 --> 01:01:14,880 Speaker 1: Yeah, don't we Well what I love is like when 1460 01:01:14,880 --> 01:01:16,640 Speaker 1: they say I don't think so honey if this is 1461 01:01:16,680 --> 01:01:18,240 Speaker 1: not you, ha ha ha. And then they sent a 1462 01:01:18,280 --> 01:01:19,200 Speaker 1: picture of whole. 1463 01:01:19,720 --> 01:01:24,440 Speaker 3: I'm like, oh God, that's fucking hilarious. I actually love that. 1464 01:01:24,440 --> 01:01:25,400 Speaker 1: Grinder is a zoo. 1465 01:01:25,560 --> 01:01:27,360 Speaker 3: It is a zoo. I had one guy tried to 1466 01:01:27,360 --> 01:01:29,800 Speaker 3: take a selfie after sex. I pulled a hat trick 1467 01:01:29,840 --> 01:01:34,160 Speaker 3: at the Moxie Hotel, like a I had three interactions 1468 01:01:34,640 --> 01:01:37,560 Speaker 3: one hotel. Yeah, it was a really wild night. And 1469 01:01:37,960 --> 01:01:39,800 Speaker 3: one of the guys. The first guy tried to take 1470 01:01:39,800 --> 01:01:43,440 Speaker 3: a selfie with me. Afterwards, I was like, I'm visiting 1471 01:01:43,480 --> 01:01:48,360 Speaker 3: the city. It was an absolutely not situation. And I 1472 01:01:48,360 --> 01:01:49,760 Speaker 3: went down to the lobby and then I got a 1473 01:01:49,760 --> 01:01:51,640 Speaker 3: text from somebody else who was in the same hotel, 1474 01:01:51,680 --> 01:01:54,160 Speaker 3: and I did a quick like I like fixed my hair, 1475 01:01:54,200 --> 01:01:56,080 Speaker 3: gone right in the elevator, I went straight back up. 1476 01:01:56,120 --> 01:01:57,760 Speaker 2: You said, zomni zoo. 1477 01:01:58,120 --> 01:02:00,000 Speaker 3: Yeah, of course being safe, but at the same time 1478 01:02:00,080 --> 01:02:04,120 Speaker 3: time like giving into that like horn devil, random kink 1479 01:02:04,200 --> 01:02:06,280 Speaker 3: that exists me. It's like no strings attached. Who are 1480 01:02:06,360 --> 01:02:08,200 Speaker 3: you Let's just try it with safety. 1481 01:02:08,400 --> 01:02:09,680 Speaker 2: You know what my kink is And I don't know 1482 01:02:09,720 --> 01:02:10,680 Speaker 2: if it's a kink or not. 1483 01:02:10,800 --> 01:02:13,720 Speaker 4: I just it's really hot when people tell me how 1484 01:02:13,800 --> 01:02:18,400 Speaker 4: much they like me during sex, Like tell me how 1485 01:02:18,440 --> 01:02:20,360 Speaker 4: good it is, tell me what it feels like, tell 1486 01:02:20,400 --> 01:02:24,600 Speaker 4: me just like I think it's like a praise kid. 1487 01:02:24,720 --> 01:02:26,280 Speaker 1: Yeah, Like, don't be like I. 1488 01:02:26,200 --> 01:02:28,160 Speaker 4: Love your pocket, Like no, I don't want to hook 1489 01:02:28,200 --> 01:02:31,000 Speaker 4: up with people who've seen me performed, but just like 1490 01:02:31,160 --> 01:02:33,040 Speaker 4: in the moment, just be like, oh my god, your 1491 01:02:33,080 --> 01:02:36,000 Speaker 4: eyebrows are like even your cat I like, your teeth 1492 01:02:36,000 --> 01:02:36,360 Speaker 4: are so what. 1493 01:02:38,000 --> 01:02:42,720 Speaker 1: Eyebrows. Even I'm not I'm not that I love. 1494 01:02:44,520 --> 01:02:48,840 Speaker 4: Mary Kay Ashley. They're exactly the same. No, no, no, no, 1495 01:02:48,880 --> 01:02:50,959 Speaker 4: But I'm just saying, like, like, just. 1496 01:02:52,800 --> 01:02:54,680 Speaker 2: That's so so. 1497 01:02:54,800 --> 01:02:55,479 Speaker 3: Do you like some people? 1498 01:02:56,440 --> 01:02:59,360 Speaker 1: I say baby a lot and someone like in a 1499 01:02:59,400 --> 01:03:04,919 Speaker 1: baby voice. No, I can't stand baby. No never baby voice, 1500 01:03:05,000 --> 01:03:07,880 Speaker 1: never ever ever, But like I say that. And recently 1501 01:03:07,920 --> 01:03:10,040 Speaker 1: someone had a problem with me saying the word baby 1502 01:03:10,080 --> 01:03:12,000 Speaker 1: during sex. He's like, it's like too much, and I 1503 01:03:12,040 --> 01:03:14,480 Speaker 1: was like okay, and so I was just like, all right. 1504 01:03:16,320 --> 01:03:20,280 Speaker 3: Baby feels dude, I can fuck with bro. Not gonna lie. 1505 01:03:20,480 --> 01:03:22,600 Speaker 1: I was called little Bro one time and I shot 1506 01:03:22,800 --> 01:03:29,000 Speaker 1: my come to god, little Bro, little Bro. The readers 1507 01:03:29,000 --> 01:03:31,640 Speaker 1: know my story about, you know, big Bro on Fire Island. 1508 01:03:32,000 --> 01:03:34,600 Speaker 1: He called me little Bro during sex and they were 1509 01:03:34,640 --> 01:03:37,440 Speaker 1: fucking outside, like in the backyard of his house, and 1510 01:03:37,520 --> 01:03:40,560 Speaker 1: I swear to god, it was seconds after he called 1511 01:03:40,600 --> 01:03:42,880 Speaker 1: me a little bro that I was like, break my ear. 1512 01:03:43,000 --> 01:03:45,440 Speaker 1: It was like that scene and scary movie where he 1513 01:03:45,480 --> 01:03:47,920 Speaker 1: finally comes and he's like it's like an avalanche. 1514 01:03:48,840 --> 01:03:54,240 Speaker 3: I was like, I like baby, I think that that's 1515 01:03:54,280 --> 01:03:56,600 Speaker 3: it can be romantic. Also, I like to like I'm 1516 01:03:56,600 --> 01:03:58,160 Speaker 3: good at cooking and like I love to host, like 1517 01:03:58,200 --> 01:03:59,720 Speaker 3: I said, so like in the morning, like I'll make 1518 01:03:59,720 --> 01:04:01,560 Speaker 3: a little egg, I'll make like I'll do something like 1519 01:04:01,600 --> 01:04:02,920 Speaker 3: really casual and cute on the. 1520 01:04:03,440 --> 01:04:05,560 Speaker 4: Are you are you sticking out of the bed early 1521 01:04:05,640 --> 01:04:07,000 Speaker 4: to do that or you guys like. 1522 01:04:07,320 --> 01:04:09,640 Speaker 3: No, I'm making it look effortless. I'm getting up in 1523 01:04:09,640 --> 01:04:10,080 Speaker 3: the morning. 1524 01:04:10,440 --> 01:04:12,360 Speaker 1: And he wonders why people are like, oh, he really 1525 01:04:12,440 --> 01:04:15,160 Speaker 1: likes me. It's like you made him a full fucking well, it's. 1526 01:04:15,040 --> 01:04:18,800 Speaker 2: Good you made a California breakfast. 1527 01:04:18,840 --> 01:04:20,640 Speaker 3: But you're right, Matt, that is actually something that I'm 1528 01:04:20,640 --> 01:04:22,240 Speaker 3: trying to manage, just like how quickly I roll out 1529 01:04:22,280 --> 01:04:23,920 Speaker 3: the red carpet for boys that I don't really know 1530 01:04:23,960 --> 01:04:25,960 Speaker 3: that well because I've been taking advantage of before. And 1531 01:04:26,000 --> 01:04:28,120 Speaker 3: it's like, you got to protect all the good pieces 1532 01:04:28,120 --> 01:04:29,480 Speaker 3: of you because if you make it look real good 1533 01:04:29,520 --> 01:04:30,800 Speaker 3: over there, I don't know, they're going to tell you 1534 01:04:30,880 --> 01:04:32,840 Speaker 3: what they need to tell you. To get your phone. 1535 01:04:33,320 --> 01:04:34,920 Speaker 4: I like when guys come to my house and then 1536 01:04:34,960 --> 01:04:36,800 Speaker 4: they cook for me in the morning, it's like, well, 1537 01:04:36,800 --> 01:04:39,600 Speaker 4: what do you have. I'm gonna rent to the store 1538 01:04:39,600 --> 01:04:41,960 Speaker 4: real quick. I'm like, this happens, that's true. 1539 01:04:42,040 --> 01:04:42,440 Speaker 1: Queendom. 1540 01:04:42,520 --> 01:04:45,720 Speaker 2: That's happened to me before you. Wow, yeah that was nice. 1541 01:04:45,760 --> 01:04:47,120 Speaker 3: Also, you don't got to cook too if you just 1542 01:04:47,160 --> 01:04:49,560 Speaker 3: want to seamless like some mister chow for the evening, 1543 01:04:49,640 --> 01:04:51,560 Speaker 3: like it doesn't matter. Like I also love a guy 1544 01:04:51,560 --> 01:04:53,920 Speaker 3: who like just kind of takes control. Sure, just like 1545 01:04:53,640 --> 01:04:55,240 Speaker 3: its order something. 1546 01:04:54,920 --> 01:04:57,720 Speaker 4: Really hot about you being in my kitchen cooking for 1547 01:04:57,800 --> 01:04:59,000 Speaker 4: me and you know, I'm like this, I'm going to 1548 01:04:59,040 --> 01:05:00,560 Speaker 4: send and pitches to the group chat like girl, look 1549 01:05:00,560 --> 01:05:03,640 Speaker 4: at his butt sea making eggs? 1550 01:05:04,800 --> 01:05:08,080 Speaker 1: Is it for you? What's the hottest thing on a guy? 1551 01:05:08,160 --> 01:05:09,840 Speaker 4: I like a guy with a nice but that I 1552 01:05:09,840 --> 01:05:12,480 Speaker 4: can like, you know, do you? But I like shoulders, 1553 01:05:12,640 --> 01:05:14,919 Speaker 4: back chest. I need it to be like, oh my god, 1554 01:05:14,920 --> 01:05:17,000 Speaker 4: this is a man. I need you to be shaped 1555 01:05:17,080 --> 01:05:19,760 Speaker 4: kind of like, you know, a little marvelly, you know, little. 1556 01:05:19,520 --> 01:05:21,120 Speaker 1: Like yeah, okay, I get that. 1557 01:05:21,280 --> 01:05:22,520 Speaker 2: It's a grown ass man. 1558 01:05:22,640 --> 01:05:26,920 Speaker 1: It's so weird for me, like I could be into anyone. 1559 01:05:27,280 --> 01:05:30,320 Speaker 1: It's just an energy thing. It's I don't have a type. 1560 01:05:31,000 --> 01:05:33,080 Speaker 4: I do also think a hot for me is also 1561 01:05:33,240 --> 01:05:35,760 Speaker 4: guys that like know who they are and what they want, 1562 01:05:36,840 --> 01:05:39,200 Speaker 4: Like just somebody who's like, yeah, I do this, I. 1563 01:05:39,160 --> 01:05:41,480 Speaker 1: Do this charisma I'm going to build I don't know. 1564 01:05:41,520 --> 01:05:43,960 Speaker 4: I'm an architect and I'm going to do system chapel 1565 01:05:43,960 --> 01:05:46,400 Speaker 4: two whatever, like whatever it is that you do, You're 1566 01:05:46,480 --> 01:05:48,720 Speaker 4: just like that is who you are, and you are 1567 01:05:48,920 --> 01:05:50,240 Speaker 4: very confident. Yeah. 1568 01:05:50,280 --> 01:05:54,640 Speaker 1: Oh yeah, confidence will get you chexy sexy. Yeah, And 1569 01:05:54,680 --> 01:05:56,479 Speaker 1: that's the thing is, It's like that's my thing about 1570 01:05:56,520 --> 01:05:59,440 Speaker 1: like being approached and like when someone comes in and 1571 01:05:59,480 --> 01:06:02,880 Speaker 1: it's just like undeniable, like I'll fall for that, yeah, 1572 01:06:02,920 --> 01:06:03,360 Speaker 1: and I have. 1573 01:06:03,600 --> 01:06:05,520 Speaker 3: And I guess a piece of that for me right 1574 01:06:05,560 --> 01:06:07,240 Speaker 3: now is like falling back in love with myself and 1575 01:06:07,280 --> 01:06:09,960 Speaker 3: reconnecting to my star power and reallocating all that energy 1576 01:06:10,000 --> 01:06:12,720 Speaker 3: that I was putting into previous relationships back to myself 1577 01:06:12,920 --> 01:06:15,640 Speaker 3: has made me feel this sort of like confidence. And 1578 01:06:15,680 --> 01:06:17,720 Speaker 3: it's like when I go over and make a first 1579 01:06:17,720 --> 01:06:21,000 Speaker 3: swing and like approach somebody else, I feel like I'm 1580 01:06:21,040 --> 01:06:24,360 Speaker 3: getting off on my own confidence even before the conversation 1581 01:06:24,560 --> 01:06:24,880 Speaker 3: set it. 1582 01:06:24,960 --> 01:06:28,640 Speaker 1: Okay, it's like you feel like you could talk to 1583 01:06:28,680 --> 01:06:31,760 Speaker 1: anyone just because you literally are doing it. 1584 01:06:31,880 --> 01:06:33,760 Speaker 3: Yeah, yeah, you know what, why not? Like if anything, 1585 01:06:33,840 --> 01:06:35,760 Speaker 3: if they spin it into like a pleasant conversation, they're 1586 01:06:35,760 --> 01:06:37,840 Speaker 3: not into it. It becomes like a friendly conversation. I 1587 01:06:37,880 --> 01:06:39,520 Speaker 3: know how to handle that, and also I have a 1588 01:06:39,520 --> 01:06:40,960 Speaker 3: good read on those types of things when it's time 1589 01:06:40,960 --> 01:06:42,480 Speaker 3: to step away when that it's not going the way 1590 01:06:42,480 --> 01:06:44,240 Speaker 3: that I thought. And like I think, every time I 1591 01:06:44,320 --> 01:06:47,240 Speaker 3: do it in this post breakup world, every time I've 1592 01:06:47,240 --> 01:06:49,840 Speaker 3: done it, it's gone well in some capacity. So like 1593 01:06:49,880 --> 01:06:51,600 Speaker 3: I'm like sort of high on that confidence and like 1594 01:06:51,640 --> 01:06:52,840 Speaker 3: trying to keep that ball rolling. 1595 01:06:53,040 --> 01:06:53,280 Speaker 2: Yeah. 1596 01:06:53,320 --> 01:06:54,920 Speaker 4: I made a list of the people that I hooked 1597 01:06:54,960 --> 01:06:56,840 Speaker 4: up with that I dealt with lash. I have one too, 1598 01:06:57,120 --> 01:06:58,800 Speaker 4: and I saw you the other day. 1599 01:06:58,880 --> 01:07:00,680 Speaker 1: I couldn't believe how long mine was. When I did 1600 01:07:00,720 --> 01:07:03,440 Speaker 1: this recently, I'm like, WHOA. I called my mom back. 1601 01:07:03,480 --> 01:07:06,520 Speaker 1: I was like, I am a slut. I was with 1602 01:07:06,560 --> 01:07:08,600 Speaker 1: my sister on vacation and she told me her number 1603 01:07:08,640 --> 01:07:10,760 Speaker 1: and then I told her my number, and I think 1604 01:07:10,760 --> 01:07:11,680 Speaker 1: she had an asthma attack. 1605 01:07:11,800 --> 01:07:14,840 Speaker 3: Yeah, yeah, yeah, she flew home and she was like, I. 1606 01:07:16,840 --> 01:07:17,440 Speaker 2: Gotta go. 1607 01:07:18,160 --> 01:07:20,040 Speaker 4: But half of the people that I talked to last 1608 01:07:20,080 --> 01:07:22,920 Speaker 4: year is because I approached them and I initiated a conversation. 1609 01:07:23,840 --> 01:07:26,080 Speaker 2: But I've also been told that I'm intimidating and that's cool. 1610 01:07:26,160 --> 01:07:27,800 Speaker 1: Yeah, you were talking about this at the show well 1611 01:07:27,840 --> 01:07:28,560 Speaker 1: because it keeps. 1612 01:07:28,440 --> 01:07:29,640 Speaker 2: Away some of the refraf. 1613 01:07:30,320 --> 01:07:32,920 Speaker 4: But like when a guy is confident enough to approach me, 1614 01:07:33,120 --> 01:07:36,600 Speaker 4: that's sexy because it's like some people are scared, but 1615 01:07:36,640 --> 01:07:38,320 Speaker 4: look a big boy. 1616 01:07:38,640 --> 01:07:41,680 Speaker 1: But here's the thing they get in their mind that 1617 01:07:41,720 --> 01:07:45,080 Speaker 1: they are like when they see you, like up on stage, 1618 01:07:45,120 --> 01:07:46,960 Speaker 1: when they see you like out there doing your thing, 1619 01:07:47,080 --> 01:07:51,560 Speaker 1: confident on the internet, like projecting like you know, Marie Fauston, 1620 01:07:52,120 --> 01:07:54,520 Speaker 1: and they're like, I'm gonna go up to that and 1621 01:07:54,560 --> 01:07:57,920 Speaker 1: I'm gonna like pursue Marie. It's this thing of like 1622 01:07:58,560 --> 01:08:01,320 Speaker 1: they by nature of like what we do and who 1623 01:08:01,360 --> 01:08:04,880 Speaker 1: we are, they have colored in the lines already, and 1624 01:08:04,960 --> 01:08:08,240 Speaker 1: it is like weirdly about them being like I'm gonna 1625 01:08:08,240 --> 01:08:12,640 Speaker 1: get that, and then about acquiring you. It's about acquiring 1626 01:08:12,960 --> 01:08:16,880 Speaker 1: and I've you know, it's a thing. And so then 1627 01:08:16,920 --> 01:08:19,800 Speaker 1: all of a sudden, when you're a real person and 1628 01:08:19,840 --> 01:08:22,559 Speaker 1: they're a real person, and that element of the chase 1629 01:08:22,640 --> 01:08:24,880 Speaker 1: and that element of that thing of like, you know 1630 01:08:24,920 --> 01:08:27,120 Speaker 1: who i'd like to date, you know who i'd like 1631 01:08:27,200 --> 01:08:29,280 Speaker 1: to see myself with this person, then all of a 1632 01:08:29,320 --> 01:08:32,040 Speaker 1: sudden they stop performing which they are whether they know 1633 01:08:32,120 --> 01:08:37,880 Speaker 1: it or not, and they're just the boy, They're just them, 1634 01:08:37,920 --> 01:08:40,240 Speaker 1: And all of a sudden, you're like how much of 1635 01:08:40,280 --> 01:08:44,679 Speaker 1: this was actually about us and me and us together 1636 01:08:44,760 --> 01:08:47,800 Speaker 1: and how much of it was about your ego? You 1637 01:08:47,840 --> 01:08:50,599 Speaker 1: want to show up and be like Marie Fauston, Yeah, 1638 01:08:50,479 --> 01:08:51,080 Speaker 1: why it's. 1639 01:08:50,960 --> 01:08:51,840 Speaker 2: Given, she's all that. 1640 01:08:52,040 --> 01:08:53,800 Speaker 4: Remember when he was like there was like that bit 1641 01:08:53,880 --> 01:08:56,360 Speaker 4: and he was like, yeah, I could get anybody to 1642 01:08:56,439 --> 01:08:59,880 Speaker 4: be popular whatever, pick one or pick one, but it's 1643 01:08:59,880 --> 01:09:01,719 Speaker 4: like they pick a specific person. 1644 01:09:02,360 --> 01:09:04,519 Speaker 3: Well, I hope it doesn't happen to me. That sounds horrible. 1645 01:09:04,800 --> 01:09:07,280 Speaker 1: Well, it's just a thing where it's like when you 1646 01:09:07,360 --> 01:09:11,200 Speaker 1: are someone who like decides to to be someone that 1647 01:09:11,280 --> 01:09:14,679 Speaker 1: could be known at all, Like then there's this element 1648 01:09:14,760 --> 01:09:17,679 Speaker 1: of like, okay, dating has changed now, it's different now, 1649 01:09:17,960 --> 01:09:21,920 Speaker 1: especially like especially in the gay community. I've kind of 1650 01:09:21,960 --> 01:09:24,880 Speaker 1: accepted now that like if I'm if I'm in the 1651 01:09:24,920 --> 01:09:28,839 Speaker 1: gay scene in Brooklyn or LA, like likely at this point, 1652 01:09:28,920 --> 01:09:34,160 Speaker 1: like they may have some idea of like what so. 1653 01:09:34,360 --> 01:09:36,400 Speaker 3: And then they also comes this element of like, okay, 1654 01:09:36,439 --> 01:09:38,080 Speaker 3: so now they're coming over to talk to just talk 1655 01:09:38,120 --> 01:09:40,280 Speaker 3: to you as a stranger, but they know they have 1656 01:09:40,360 --> 01:09:42,840 Speaker 3: hours and hours and hours of your personality that they 1657 01:09:42,880 --> 01:09:44,680 Speaker 3: are already, so it's like, is anything authentic or are 1658 01:09:44,720 --> 01:09:46,360 Speaker 3: they just coming up winded up with what they know 1659 01:09:46,439 --> 01:09:47,479 Speaker 3: you already would respond? 1660 01:09:47,560 --> 01:09:49,080 Speaker 1: People have said it on like the third date. I 1661 01:09:49,080 --> 01:09:51,080 Speaker 1: feel like I finally have to come forward and say, like, 1662 01:09:51,160 --> 01:09:52,840 Speaker 1: I do this that the other thing, this is what 1663 01:09:52,920 --> 01:09:54,600 Speaker 1: I know, this is what and I'm just like, ugh, 1664 01:09:54,720 --> 01:09:55,719 Speaker 1: now it is hard. 1665 01:09:55,520 --> 01:09:58,559 Speaker 4: To so yucky to me when I hear that, tuto, 1666 01:09:58,640 --> 01:10:00,640 Speaker 4: it's like, oh, you watched. 1667 01:10:00,360 --> 01:10:02,559 Speaker 1: My video, It's not to me if they're honest, it's 1668 01:10:02,600 --> 01:10:04,439 Speaker 1: not to me. If they're honest, it's a little icky 1669 01:10:04,439 --> 01:10:04,680 Speaker 1: to me. 1670 01:10:04,800 --> 01:10:06,520 Speaker 2: I think it's but I think it's because. 1671 01:10:06,240 --> 01:10:10,439 Speaker 4: I date men, you know, like as as a tiny, 1672 01:10:10,560 --> 01:10:13,640 Speaker 4: kidnappable person. It's just like I don't like when it 1673 01:10:13,640 --> 01:10:14,920 Speaker 4: feels like you know more about me than I know 1674 01:10:14,960 --> 01:10:17,080 Speaker 4: about you, right, so please please. 1675 01:10:17,200 --> 01:10:19,639 Speaker 3: This is why I'm keeping my gay fame very tight. 1676 01:10:20,520 --> 01:10:23,960 Speaker 3: I'm managing, you know, just how quickly. I don't want 1677 01:10:23,960 --> 01:10:25,760 Speaker 3: to be big. It's why I want to date someone 1678 01:10:25,800 --> 01:10:27,920 Speaker 3: that doesn't. It's not in the industry and maybe maybe 1679 01:10:27,920 --> 01:10:30,600 Speaker 3: it has a very little understanding of social media that 1680 01:10:30,640 --> 01:10:34,360 Speaker 3: would be nice. I'm sorry, No, social media is not 1681 01:10:34,400 --> 01:10:36,280 Speaker 3: sexy to me. If you have no social media at all, 1682 01:10:36,280 --> 01:10:38,679 Speaker 3: you have a fenced out you're lying or you're cut 1683 01:10:38,680 --> 01:10:40,639 Speaker 3: off from like an entire money market. That it really 1684 01:10:40,680 --> 01:10:43,120 Speaker 3: depends on what job you work in, because for most careers, 1685 01:10:43,160 --> 01:10:45,040 Speaker 3: I feel like if you're off social media, you're missing 1686 01:10:45,080 --> 01:10:45,679 Speaker 3: out on money. 1687 01:10:45,800 --> 01:10:47,559 Speaker 4: Well, maybe you have a social media but it's just 1688 01:10:47,640 --> 01:10:50,320 Speaker 4: like pictures of windows that you like, won't building. 1689 01:10:50,360 --> 01:10:52,320 Speaker 1: I can't do a boy that's like, oh no, I 1690 01:10:52,400 --> 01:10:54,040 Speaker 1: don't only do like online. 1691 01:10:54,280 --> 01:10:55,080 Speaker 3: I can't do that. 1692 01:10:55,120 --> 01:10:56,920 Speaker 1: I'm gonna the online of it all. I'm gonna get 1693 01:10:56,920 --> 01:10:58,880 Speaker 1: into it, and I don't think so honey in a bit, 1694 01:10:58,920 --> 01:11:03,120 Speaker 1: but like there's a certain pivot happening from Twitter or away 1695 01:11:03,120 --> 01:11:06,519 Speaker 1: to something else, and I have questions about it, all right, 1696 01:11:06,600 --> 01:11:09,400 Speaker 1: So that's that was that question. What else there's a 1697 01:11:09,479 --> 01:11:12,040 Speaker 1: question about like how long sex should last? Yes, what 1698 01:11:12,120 --> 01:11:14,840 Speaker 1: is the ideal amount of time for sex? Now? So 1699 01:11:14,920 --> 01:11:19,800 Speaker 1: basically I was really shocked that so many people think 1700 01:11:19,880 --> 01:11:21,160 Speaker 1: sex should be so short. 1701 01:11:21,800 --> 01:11:24,519 Speaker 3: Surprise to the number one answer is twenty minutes. 1702 01:11:25,120 --> 01:11:27,760 Speaker 1: I felt thirty minutes, and then people were like, then 1703 01:11:27,880 --> 01:11:29,920 Speaker 1: someone on stage, I think Courtney who won the show, 1704 01:11:30,000 --> 01:11:33,519 Speaker 1: was like five minutes of for play fifteen minutes of sex. 1705 01:11:33,560 --> 01:11:36,719 Speaker 1: I'm like, five minutes of foreplay, that's not enough time. 1706 01:11:37,120 --> 01:11:39,040 Speaker 1: I like for play. I like a lot of. 1707 01:11:39,320 --> 01:11:42,040 Speaker 2: I like the build up. I like that. 1708 01:11:42,200 --> 01:11:44,519 Speaker 4: I mean, if you do for play right, you can 1709 01:11:44,600 --> 01:11:47,240 Speaker 4: kind of like weave it throughout like a day. You 1710 01:11:47,280 --> 01:11:50,160 Speaker 4: know what I'm saying, Like, yeah, yeah, we're ling up 1711 01:11:50,160 --> 01:11:50,439 Speaker 4: to it. 1712 01:11:50,560 --> 01:11:53,160 Speaker 3: We make out in the bathroom restaurant, and we stopped. 1713 01:11:53,200 --> 01:11:57,200 Speaker 1: The bathroom restaurant at closet. Yeah, my girl is up 1714 01:11:57,240 --> 01:11:58,439 Speaker 1: in the public, in. 1715 01:11:58,439 --> 01:12:02,880 Speaker 3: The public, like I don't know, just like I can't 1716 01:12:02,960 --> 01:12:06,000 Speaker 3: want you dance floor. I've been doing crazy shit. 1717 01:12:06,400 --> 01:12:08,760 Speaker 4: No, but that's that to me is all four play, 1718 01:12:08,840 --> 01:12:11,000 Speaker 4: like leading up to and then you know, when we 1719 01:12:11,080 --> 01:12:13,240 Speaker 4: get to it, it should also be more four play. 1720 01:12:13,320 --> 01:12:17,479 Speaker 4: But I'm also like a round, you know. I'm like, 1721 01:12:17,560 --> 01:12:21,320 Speaker 4: let's hook up, let me do what I do, and 1722 01:12:21,360 --> 01:12:22,959 Speaker 4: then let's take a break. 1723 01:12:22,800 --> 01:12:24,639 Speaker 3: Let's have some water, let's smoke. 1724 01:12:25,600 --> 01:12:29,000 Speaker 1: Oh, I know for sure. I mean, I love three 1725 01:12:29,040 --> 01:12:29,439 Speaker 1: of us. 1726 01:12:29,320 --> 01:12:32,000 Speaker 3: Are weed people. Yeah, that's amazing. 1727 01:12:32,120 --> 01:12:35,439 Speaker 1: Dave was actually very formative and my I brought I 1728 01:12:35,520 --> 01:12:36,160 Speaker 1: was the main flower. 1729 01:12:36,160 --> 01:12:37,920 Speaker 3: I brought it. I brought it in and gave it to. 1730 01:12:38,080 --> 01:12:41,240 Speaker 1: Well, actually it was Dave and Sooty. Sooty smoked me 1731 01:12:41,240 --> 01:12:42,759 Speaker 1: out for the first time, and then when I started 1732 01:12:42,760 --> 01:12:45,400 Speaker 1: hanging out with Dave Moore, we were high pretty much constantly. 1733 01:12:45,479 --> 01:12:46,800 Speaker 3: Yeah, we watched All the Man. 1734 01:12:47,000 --> 01:12:49,519 Speaker 2: It's a beautiful way to like the world. 1735 01:12:50,000 --> 01:12:52,880 Speaker 4: Yeah, watching TV high, having sex high, eating food high. 1736 01:12:52,920 --> 01:12:53,640 Speaker 2: It's beautiful. 1737 01:12:53,760 --> 01:12:56,800 Speaker 3: Yeah it is. Eating food high really is beautiful. I remember, like, 1738 01:12:56,920 --> 01:12:58,200 Speaker 3: is that a deal breaker for you if they don't 1739 01:12:58,200 --> 01:13:00,000 Speaker 3: smoke weed. No, that's not a deal breaker for me 1740 01:13:00,000 --> 01:13:00,280 Speaker 3: at all. 1741 01:13:00,360 --> 01:13:02,920 Speaker 1: But I will say it's also just like and I 1742 01:13:03,040 --> 01:13:06,960 Speaker 1: hate that it really helps. But when someone tells me like, oh, yeah, 1743 01:13:07,000 --> 01:13:09,639 Speaker 1: I smoke weed, or like I would be into smoking together, 1744 01:13:09,720 --> 01:13:12,160 Speaker 1: I'm always like, yeah, like you can be cozy. Yeah. 1745 01:13:12,200 --> 01:13:13,840 Speaker 1: And but the thing is, like I do wouldn't want 1746 01:13:13,840 --> 01:13:16,360 Speaker 1: anyone to think like I need that. Like I also 1747 01:13:16,439 --> 01:13:19,120 Speaker 1: don't need you to drink. I don't need you to 1748 01:13:19,200 --> 01:13:21,599 Speaker 1: need to go out a lot. I don't need you 1749 01:13:21,680 --> 01:13:24,320 Speaker 1: to you know, smoke weed. I don't need you to party. 1750 01:13:24,320 --> 01:13:25,960 Speaker 1: I don't need you to do anything. What I need 1751 01:13:26,000 --> 01:13:28,760 Speaker 1: you to do is love me. That's it. Yeah, and 1752 01:13:28,880 --> 01:13:30,880 Speaker 1: have a good relationship with me and just communicate with 1753 01:13:30,920 --> 01:13:33,360 Speaker 1: me about what it is because guess what, Like I 1754 01:13:33,360 --> 01:13:35,040 Speaker 1: don't need to be out all the fucking time. I 1755 01:13:35,040 --> 01:13:37,160 Speaker 1: don't need to smoke every single day. I don't you 1756 01:13:37,200 --> 01:13:38,439 Speaker 1: know what I mean, Like I don't need to be 1757 01:13:38,600 --> 01:13:40,400 Speaker 1: a balance. I don't need to even have a drink 1758 01:13:40,439 --> 01:13:42,599 Speaker 1: at dinner, Like it can be a balance. Like I'll 1759 01:13:42,600 --> 01:13:44,320 Speaker 1: do what I do, you do what you do. It's 1760 01:13:44,400 --> 01:13:47,439 Speaker 1: just like not everything has to like eat itself, but 1761 01:13:47,640 --> 01:13:48,160 Speaker 1: it helps. 1762 01:13:48,400 --> 01:13:50,519 Speaker 3: But like through all this conversation, where I think we're 1763 01:13:50,560 --> 01:13:53,280 Speaker 3: realizing is that, like you know, there are it's like, 1764 01:13:53,439 --> 01:13:55,880 Speaker 3: well this is a no. But also actually if it's 1765 01:13:55,960 --> 01:13:58,040 Speaker 3: kind of like this, then it's okay, Like you don't 1766 01:13:58,080 --> 01:13:59,760 Speaker 3: have to smoke weed, but also you can't be like 1767 01:13:59,800 --> 01:14:03,080 Speaker 3: this drugs or you know the red flags Like initially 1768 01:14:03,080 --> 01:14:04,479 Speaker 3: when you like list them out and you're like no 1769 01:14:04,600 --> 01:14:07,160 Speaker 3: this know this, there's actually a lot more disclaimers and 1770 01:14:07,200 --> 01:14:09,760 Speaker 3: a lot more like shades of gray in those than 1771 01:14:09,800 --> 01:14:11,960 Speaker 3: you realize. And that's why I think dating is hard, 1772 01:14:12,040 --> 01:14:14,360 Speaker 3: is because when you go on an app, it's like 1773 01:14:14,800 --> 01:14:18,759 Speaker 3: yes or no, there's no gray area, and it's like, actually, 1774 01:14:18,760 --> 01:14:21,719 Speaker 3: sometimes what we find is that contestants on our show 1775 01:14:21,800 --> 01:14:23,800 Speaker 3: with lots of red flags, we end up falling in 1776 01:14:23,840 --> 01:14:25,760 Speaker 3: love with them. Everybody on the show. It's it's really 1777 01:14:25,800 --> 01:14:28,639 Speaker 3: a celebration of straight people who put themselves out there 1778 01:14:28,960 --> 01:14:30,639 Speaker 3: and who are fucking straight people. 1779 01:14:30,640 --> 01:14:32,559 Speaker 2: We've plenty of gaze on the show. 1780 01:14:33,200 --> 01:14:34,400 Speaker 1: You got your shows confused? 1781 01:14:34,760 --> 01:14:36,080 Speaker 3: You got my show's confused. I look at that. 1782 01:14:36,200 --> 01:14:37,400 Speaker 1: You got your show? Was me confused? 1783 01:14:37,400 --> 01:14:41,559 Speaker 3: It's really Dave started doing he started doing the Quibi 1784 01:14:41,600 --> 01:14:44,320 Speaker 3: press tour. I'm sorry, I just keep trying to reshuffle. 1785 01:14:44,840 --> 01:14:47,120 Speaker 3: It's single people, is what I mean? That, Like you 1786 01:14:47,160 --> 01:14:49,880 Speaker 3: know that are have shades to them and like you, 1787 01:14:50,080 --> 01:14:50,559 Speaker 3: I just want to. 1788 01:14:50,520 --> 01:14:51,320 Speaker 2: Be with somebody fun. 1789 01:14:51,680 --> 01:14:54,080 Speaker 4: Yeah, take yourself too seriously and know how to use 1790 01:14:54,120 --> 01:14:54,599 Speaker 4: your words. 1791 01:14:54,960 --> 01:14:55,519 Speaker 1: Yeah you know. 1792 01:14:55,840 --> 01:14:57,360 Speaker 4: I mean I've also been with people who I feel 1793 01:14:57,360 --> 01:14:58,719 Speaker 4: like maybe smoke too much. 1794 01:14:58,760 --> 01:14:59,879 Speaker 1: Oh yeah, for sure. 1795 01:15:00,160 --> 01:15:03,120 Speaker 4: Just like you got, everything you gotta do is high. 1796 01:15:03,560 --> 01:15:06,559 Speaker 4: It's waken, bake, and go to bed. You also dream high. 1797 01:15:06,600 --> 01:15:08,080 Speaker 3: I can judge that because I was there at a 1798 01:15:08,120 --> 01:15:09,760 Speaker 3: certain point in my life in the pandemic. I was 1799 01:15:09,800 --> 01:15:11,280 Speaker 3: high for like one calendar. 1800 01:15:10,960 --> 01:15:13,680 Speaker 4: That the pandemic doesn't count, like we were supposed to 1801 01:15:13,720 --> 01:15:16,000 Speaker 4: just be like sober the whole pandemic. 1802 01:15:16,760 --> 01:15:17,920 Speaker 2: We're all dogging the. 1803 01:15:17,840 --> 01:15:20,600 Speaker 1: World certainly not no, no, no, no, definitely not. 1804 01:15:20,640 --> 01:15:23,120 Speaker 2: People were doing drunk zoom happy hours. 1805 01:15:23,320 --> 01:15:23,559 Speaker 1: Yeah. 1806 01:15:23,560 --> 01:15:25,479 Speaker 2: I mean, you know not I said the. 1807 01:15:25,439 --> 01:15:29,120 Speaker 4: Cat, but people were doing that every Thursday or frid 1808 01:15:29,240 --> 01:15:29,639 Speaker 4: or whatever. 1809 01:15:29,920 --> 01:15:31,920 Speaker 1: Yeah, I mean it was just what it was. I mean, 1810 01:15:31,960 --> 01:15:34,280 Speaker 1: you just got through the way you got through exactly. Well, 1811 01:15:34,320 --> 01:15:36,120 Speaker 1: you have no you have no opponents today, Matt, So 1812 01:15:36,160 --> 01:15:38,160 Speaker 1: you win. I know, I kind of win. I guess 1813 01:15:38,200 --> 01:15:39,559 Speaker 1: I was. The last thing I was going to say 1814 01:15:39,760 --> 01:15:41,760 Speaker 1: was like one thing I love and you know that 1815 01:15:41,800 --> 01:15:44,240 Speaker 1: here at last colchesis we love a one minute countdown. 1816 01:15:44,600 --> 01:15:47,479 Speaker 1: What I loved was when you said you have to 1817 01:15:47,600 --> 01:15:50,920 Speaker 1: sell yourself for a relationship in one minute, and it 1818 01:15:50,960 --> 01:15:54,519 Speaker 1: was very funny, but also the three contestants like in 1819 01:15:54,600 --> 01:15:57,880 Speaker 1: one minute, all felt like they were very genuinely like, 1820 01:15:58,400 --> 01:16:00,920 Speaker 1: this is like what I offer for in a relationship. 1821 01:16:00,960 --> 01:16:03,519 Speaker 1: And it was actually really sweet to hear people like 1822 01:16:04,200 --> 01:16:06,760 Speaker 1: advocate for themselves, rude for themselves. And I felt like, 1823 01:16:07,120 --> 01:16:09,400 Speaker 1: how much in our culture, like and how much in 1824 01:16:09,439 --> 01:16:13,200 Speaker 1: our dating sphere do we really talk about the positives 1825 01:16:13,200 --> 01:16:15,799 Speaker 1: about us and what we can offer. We so often 1826 01:16:16,000 --> 01:16:18,800 Speaker 1: fixate on the things about us that are wrong, that 1827 01:16:18,880 --> 01:16:21,559 Speaker 1: are the reason why we're not in a relationship, and 1828 01:16:21,600 --> 01:16:24,400 Speaker 1: sure that there's like much to like pontificate on about that, 1829 01:16:24,880 --> 01:16:28,040 Speaker 1: but I think that something that we don't do very 1830 01:16:28,040 --> 01:16:31,439 Speaker 1: often is say, hey, here's what I offer, here are 1831 01:16:31,479 --> 01:16:34,200 Speaker 1: my strengths, here's what I think is attractive about me 1832 01:16:34,240 --> 01:16:35,760 Speaker 1: and a partner. Here's what I can offer you. And 1833 01:16:35,800 --> 01:16:37,840 Speaker 1: I thought that was like a really good way for 1834 01:16:37,880 --> 01:16:39,720 Speaker 1: you guys to end the show, because it makes it 1835 01:16:39,840 --> 01:16:43,599 Speaker 1: very positive and it's very genuine, and I think that 1836 01:16:43,600 --> 01:16:46,080 Speaker 1: that's actually a very attractive thing. And so you leave 1837 01:16:46,160 --> 01:16:49,040 Speaker 1: with like this very this idea of these people in 1838 01:16:49,080 --> 01:16:52,240 Speaker 1: this very positive, attractive light, and so I would flip 1839 01:16:52,280 --> 01:16:55,519 Speaker 1: it on you guys. Could you sell yourself in one minute? 1840 01:16:56,880 --> 01:16:59,599 Speaker 4: Yes, Marazily, I feel like Dave's got to go first, 1841 01:16:59,640 --> 01:17:01,120 Speaker 4: because sell myself on that show. 1842 01:17:01,600 --> 01:17:03,120 Speaker 3: She doesn't know the Ti'm sure I can sell myself. 1843 01:17:03,200 --> 01:17:05,760 Speaker 1: Dave, sell yourself in one minute. We are going to 1844 01:17:05,800 --> 01:17:07,040 Speaker 1: do I don't things money, but we're also going to 1845 01:17:07,080 --> 01:17:08,559 Speaker 1: do this, Dave. This is your one minute to sell 1846 01:17:08,600 --> 01:17:11,280 Speaker 1: yourself as someone who should be dated. 1847 01:17:11,520 --> 01:17:11,600 Speaker 2: Go. 1848 01:17:12,479 --> 01:17:15,160 Speaker 3: My name is Dave Mazzoni. I am an Italian American 1849 01:17:15,240 --> 01:17:20,160 Speaker 3: with a heart of gold. I can cook, I enjoy cleaning, 1850 01:17:20,160 --> 01:17:23,000 Speaker 3: But more importantly, I know how to care for you. 1851 01:17:23,760 --> 01:17:26,479 Speaker 3: I have been through a shit ton. I've been in 1852 01:17:26,520 --> 01:17:30,240 Speaker 3: a very long relationship. I have made mistakes. But one 1853 01:17:30,240 --> 01:17:32,360 Speaker 3: thing I know how to do, and the most important 1854 01:17:32,400 --> 01:17:35,120 Speaker 3: thing for me in a relationship is communicate. I will 1855 01:17:35,120 --> 01:17:38,040 Speaker 3: tell you everything, how I'm feeling right now, how I 1856 01:17:38,040 --> 01:17:41,519 Speaker 3: felt yesterday. There is no gray area when it comes 1857 01:17:41,560 --> 01:17:44,679 Speaker 3: to my feelings, even if they're in process. And if 1858 01:17:44,880 --> 01:17:47,560 Speaker 3: you are looking for somebody who knows how to communicate, 1859 01:17:47,720 --> 01:17:53,519 Speaker 3: I'm right there. Also, love sex, also very adventurous with traveling, 1860 01:17:53,800 --> 01:17:58,000 Speaker 3: love to go different places. Also, my parents are really nice. 1861 01:17:58,040 --> 01:18:01,760 Speaker 3: We have like an above ground pool, cute in the suburbs. 1862 01:18:02,560 --> 01:18:04,760 Speaker 3: What else? I just moved to a new apartment in Brooklyn, 1863 01:18:05,880 --> 01:18:08,519 Speaker 3: having big, beautiful lips, and I get my hair faded 1864 01:18:08,600 --> 01:18:10,479 Speaker 3: every two weeks without exception. 1865 01:18:10,760 --> 01:18:17,040 Speaker 1: And that is one minute Dave Mazoni on Instagram. Yeah, 1866 01:18:17,200 --> 01:18:20,519 Speaker 1: come to a two zy, come on, come over to 1867 01:18:20,560 --> 01:18:22,840 Speaker 1: my neighborhood. That was very good. Okay, Marie, now you 1868 01:18:22,840 --> 01:18:24,880 Speaker 1: have to go, Marie, sell yourself in one minute. Your 1869 01:18:24,880 --> 01:18:25,599 Speaker 1: time starts now. 1870 01:18:25,840 --> 01:18:27,599 Speaker 2: How you're doing. First of all, you hear my voice 1871 01:18:27,760 --> 01:18:30,360 Speaker 2: is six. My name is Marie. 1872 01:18:30,479 --> 01:18:34,920 Speaker 4: I am fun I am funny, I am fantastic to 1873 01:18:35,000 --> 01:18:39,760 Speaker 4: look at. I'm a good time right. I read books sometimes, 1874 01:18:39,960 --> 01:18:41,840 Speaker 4: but I'm not. I don't think that I'm better than you. 1875 01:18:42,040 --> 01:18:43,560 Speaker 4: I just want to be with somebody who wants to 1876 01:18:43,600 --> 01:18:45,800 Speaker 4: have a good time. I'm trying to travel. I want 1877 01:18:45,840 --> 01:18:48,040 Speaker 4: to eat, I want to smoke, I want to bang. 1878 01:18:49,000 --> 01:18:51,920 Speaker 4: I want to laugh at people together because I'm really 1879 01:18:51,920 --> 01:18:55,040 Speaker 4: good at stopping and staring and being mindful and being there. 1880 01:18:55,320 --> 01:18:58,479 Speaker 4: Why are you wearing them shoes? I can cook, but 1881 01:18:58,600 --> 01:19:00,880 Speaker 4: I probably won't cook for you. I like to go 1882 01:19:00,920 --> 01:19:03,120 Speaker 4: out to eat. You could order mad things for the 1883 01:19:03,200 --> 01:19:07,000 Speaker 4: table and we'll eat it and have a great term. 1884 01:19:07,040 --> 01:19:13,760 Speaker 4: Sex with me so amazing. And I'm a charming ass, 1885 01:19:13,880 --> 01:19:17,000 Speaker 4: charismatic as beach. So if you're going out, you're introducing 1886 01:19:17,000 --> 01:19:19,639 Speaker 4: me to whoever. You're introducing me to your friends, your family, 1887 01:19:19,680 --> 01:19:22,760 Speaker 4: your pastor they don't love me, You gon't love me, 1888 01:19:23,000 --> 01:19:25,760 Speaker 4: and people are gonna be like, oh my god, you're dating. 1889 01:19:25,560 --> 01:19:28,599 Speaker 1: Her, and that's what man, Oh my god. 1890 01:19:28,920 --> 01:19:31,800 Speaker 3: When you show up with a partner properly, that's the 1891 01:19:31,840 --> 01:19:33,639 Speaker 3: first thing I'm gonna say is, Wow, you got Marie 1892 01:19:33,800 --> 01:19:37,960 Speaker 3: like you got Marie. 1893 01:19:37,439 --> 01:19:40,400 Speaker 1: I can't I see it so well. Okay, now is 1894 01:19:40,439 --> 01:19:43,160 Speaker 1: it your turn? Yes, my turn. Put me on the clock. Matt. 1895 01:19:43,520 --> 01:19:46,200 Speaker 1: It's time for you to sell yourself. Go Okay, I'm 1896 01:19:46,200 --> 01:19:52,160 Speaker 1: Matt Rogers. I'm a blast, and I will share everything 1897 01:19:52,280 --> 01:19:54,800 Speaker 1: I have with you. That's something I would say is 1898 01:19:54,840 --> 01:19:56,720 Speaker 1: if I'm dating you and we are like in a 1899 01:19:56,760 --> 01:19:58,559 Speaker 1: good place, I will make you feel like a king. 1900 01:19:59,240 --> 01:20:02,240 Speaker 1: I am a really good motivator. I also like to 1901 01:20:02,280 --> 01:20:05,040 Speaker 1: have sex all the time. I've even been told that 1902 01:20:05,080 --> 01:20:08,719 Speaker 1: it's an issue sometimes, Like I like to have sex 1903 01:20:08,760 --> 01:20:10,200 Speaker 1: at night. I like to have sex in the morning. 1904 01:20:10,200 --> 01:20:11,400 Speaker 1: I like to have sex in the middle of the 1905 01:20:11,439 --> 01:20:15,200 Speaker 1: day thirty seconds. So basically we can be on your schedule. 1906 01:20:15,320 --> 01:20:17,240 Speaker 1: Just know I kind of like am always sort of 1907 01:20:17,280 --> 01:20:20,519 Speaker 1: available in that regard. I have really fun friends. You'll 1908 01:20:20,560 --> 01:20:22,960 Speaker 1: really like them. And I think that I'm also really 1909 01:20:23,000 --> 01:20:26,840 Speaker 1: good at adapting to your social situation. I can be 1910 01:20:26,880 --> 01:20:29,400 Speaker 1: put in any situation and pretty much socially, but in 1911 01:20:29,400 --> 01:20:32,439 Speaker 1: a second day, I keeep it together. In terms of 1912 01:20:32,439 --> 01:20:35,400 Speaker 1: my body and my mind, I'm always busy. I'm actively 1913 01:20:35,479 --> 01:20:38,280 Speaker 1: activating seconds that I do. I can respect the things 1914 01:20:38,320 --> 01:20:40,040 Speaker 1: that you do too. I'll give you space. I can 1915 01:20:40,040 --> 01:20:44,080 Speaker 1: also be on top of you. So that's why, see. 1916 01:20:43,840 --> 01:20:45,840 Speaker 3: I agree with you Matt that like this moment always 1917 01:20:45,920 --> 01:20:48,360 Speaker 3: ends up being like kind of sentimental. We had a 1918 01:20:48,360 --> 01:20:50,800 Speaker 3: contestant two shows ago that was just like he was 1919 01:20:50,840 --> 01:20:52,920 Speaker 3: one of our straight mail contestants that we are hard 1920 01:20:52,920 --> 01:20:54,400 Speaker 3: to get on the show if you're a straight mail 1921 01:20:54,479 --> 01:20:55,479 Speaker 3: and you want to because you. 1922 01:20:55,479 --> 01:20:57,200 Speaker 1: Were saying it feels like straight men walk into a 1923 01:20:57,200 --> 01:20:59,479 Speaker 1: situation like that, especially where you're the host Marie, and 1924 01:20:59,520 --> 01:20:59,880 Speaker 1: you're like. 1925 01:21:00,240 --> 01:21:02,800 Speaker 2: They just think it's a trap the entire time. 1926 01:21:03,920 --> 01:21:08,479 Speaker 4: Everybody's getting low he roasted, but like it's not. We're 1927 01:21:08,479 --> 01:21:11,080 Speaker 4: not attacking any of the straits because we need the straits. 1928 01:21:11,160 --> 01:21:11,360 Speaker 1: Yeah. 1929 01:21:11,360 --> 01:21:13,519 Speaker 3: Absolutely, But we had a straight I in the cell 1930 01:21:13,560 --> 01:21:16,759 Speaker 3: yourself say I am in therapy. I've been in therapy 1931 01:21:16,880 --> 01:21:21,200 Speaker 3: for years. The audience stood. It was a standing ovation 1932 01:21:21,240 --> 01:21:21,679 Speaker 3: for the strain. 1933 01:21:21,880 --> 01:21:25,040 Speaker 1: That is huge. Yes, that's also one of my things, 1934 01:21:25,120 --> 01:21:27,840 Speaker 1: like if we're dating and I'm thirty three years old, now, 1935 01:21:27,880 --> 01:21:31,160 Speaker 1: if we're dating, you need to be or have been 1936 01:21:31,200 --> 01:21:34,519 Speaker 1: in therapy. And it's so funny because I only started 1937 01:21:34,560 --> 01:21:37,680 Speaker 1: like two years ago, but now it's like, wow, I 1938 01:21:37,720 --> 01:21:39,320 Speaker 1: know it's so important. 1939 01:21:39,560 --> 01:21:42,640 Speaker 4: Well because it's like therapy for me is something that 1940 01:21:42,720 --> 01:21:45,560 Speaker 4: like I never thought that I was gonna do or 1941 01:21:45,680 --> 01:21:46,080 Speaker 4: need to do. 1942 01:21:46,400 --> 01:21:48,559 Speaker 2: You know, I'm a black girl with Caribbean parents. 1943 01:21:48,560 --> 01:21:50,960 Speaker 4: Therapy is like you got to go to church, but 1944 01:21:51,040 --> 01:21:54,080 Speaker 4: I started during the pandemic, and it just changes how 1945 01:21:54,120 --> 01:21:58,400 Speaker 4: you think about how you feel. Yes, And like sometimes 1946 01:21:58,439 --> 01:21:59,800 Speaker 4: I'll be mad about something and I'd be like, well, 1947 01:21:59,840 --> 01:22:01,599 Speaker 4: why am I mad about that? And I'm only asking 1948 01:22:01,640 --> 01:22:04,080 Speaker 4: that because of therapy, And sometimes it's like, oh, I 1949 01:22:04,080 --> 01:22:05,479 Speaker 4: actually don't even really care about this. 1950 01:22:05,880 --> 01:22:06,880 Speaker 2: Take your ass to. 1951 01:22:06,880 --> 01:22:09,439 Speaker 3: The therapy absolutely good, even if you think you have 1952 01:22:09,479 --> 01:22:12,240 Speaker 3: everything figured out, Like I was somebody who especially towards 1953 01:22:12,240 --> 01:22:14,160 Speaker 3: the end of my relationship when that's when I started 1954 01:22:14,160 --> 01:22:16,760 Speaker 3: going to therapy almost like every two days, I was 1955 01:22:16,800 --> 01:22:19,519 Speaker 3: going like, for okay, you WoT good assurance? Well, no, 1956 01:22:19,640 --> 01:22:21,639 Speaker 3: I was paying out of pocket from my brain. And 1957 01:22:21,800 --> 01:22:23,880 Speaker 3: it was really helpful because I was just going to 1958 01:22:23,920 --> 01:22:25,519 Speaker 3: her with like all of this stuff that I was 1959 01:22:25,560 --> 01:22:27,720 Speaker 3: trying to sort and she was like you're correct, Like 1960 01:22:28,000 --> 01:22:30,240 Speaker 3: you are correct. And sometimes when you can't write the ship, 1961 01:22:30,280 --> 01:22:32,559 Speaker 3: you have no idea where north is for whatever reason, 1962 01:22:32,680 --> 01:22:34,439 Speaker 3: it's really nice to have somebody that you trust and 1963 01:22:34,439 --> 01:22:36,519 Speaker 3: that you respect I will say, I think you said 1964 01:22:36,520 --> 01:22:38,920 Speaker 3: this to me or somebody did that therapy. It's like 1965 01:22:38,960 --> 01:22:41,040 Speaker 3: therapy is for everyone, but the barrier for entry is 1966 01:22:41,080 --> 01:22:43,880 Speaker 3: finding a therapist that you respect, that you fuck with. 1967 01:22:44,280 --> 01:22:46,559 Speaker 3: And I found one, and I could not have done 1968 01:22:46,560 --> 01:22:48,439 Speaker 3: that period of my life with that one. 1969 01:22:48,640 --> 01:22:50,680 Speaker 1: Well, you know, this is an interesting way to think 1970 01:22:50,680 --> 01:22:52,400 Speaker 1: about it. It's like when you're talking to your friends 1971 01:22:52,400 --> 01:22:56,040 Speaker 1: about what you're going through, like it's you and the conversation, sure, 1972 01:22:56,080 --> 01:22:58,680 Speaker 1: and you're talking about you, but also they're receiving it 1973 01:22:58,720 --> 01:23:01,240 Speaker 1: as a friend, and so they are gonna filter it 1974 01:23:01,280 --> 01:23:03,280 Speaker 1: in a certain way. They're gonna filter it through certain 1975 01:23:03,280 --> 01:23:05,840 Speaker 1: things like how do I respond as a friend? How 1976 01:23:05,880 --> 01:23:08,920 Speaker 1: do I respond as me who's also gone through something, 1977 01:23:08,920 --> 01:23:11,679 Speaker 1: who's not a therapist. And it's not just my job 1978 01:23:11,720 --> 01:23:13,960 Speaker 1: to listen, like I can have an opinion on this, 1979 01:23:14,080 --> 01:23:16,639 Speaker 1: I can have a take. And that means that it's 1980 01:23:16,680 --> 01:23:19,439 Speaker 1: not always super safe to be talking to your best 1981 01:23:19,479 --> 01:23:24,040 Speaker 1: friends like this about certain things, especially because you are 1982 01:23:24,439 --> 01:23:26,720 Speaker 1: by nature of like the fact that you do want 1983 01:23:26,720 --> 01:23:28,280 Speaker 1: to look a certain way to someone that you care 1984 01:23:28,280 --> 01:23:31,360 Speaker 1: about and respect. You're filtering with a therapist. You don't 1985 01:23:31,360 --> 01:23:32,920 Speaker 1: have to filter at all. 1986 01:23:33,080 --> 01:23:33,880 Speaker 2: You can just don't. 1987 01:23:34,000 --> 01:23:35,720 Speaker 1: You can say whatever the fuck you want to say, 1988 01:23:35,760 --> 01:23:38,240 Speaker 1: and they have a take on it in the regard 1989 01:23:38,320 --> 01:23:42,160 Speaker 1: of their thinking about you. Like it really is just 1990 01:23:42,240 --> 01:23:45,640 Speaker 1: a space to really have a conversation with yourself if 1991 01:23:45,680 --> 01:23:47,679 Speaker 1: your therapist is worth their salt, and they can sort 1992 01:23:47,720 --> 01:23:49,479 Speaker 1: it out what you're saying and they can spit it 1993 01:23:49,520 --> 01:23:51,960 Speaker 1: back to you and be like, do you realize this 1994 01:23:52,040 --> 01:23:53,960 Speaker 1: is something you've said a lot? Do you realize that 1995 01:23:53,960 --> 01:23:57,960 Speaker 1: this is something? Do you what I'm seeing and picking 1996 01:23:58,040 --> 01:24:00,240 Speaker 1: up on is this like you use this word? Like 1997 01:24:00,280 --> 01:24:02,680 Speaker 1: I noticed you look this way when you say this. 1998 01:24:04,080 --> 01:24:05,799 Speaker 2: Shout out to Lydia my therapist. 1999 01:24:06,400 --> 01:24:10,679 Speaker 3: Mind's Maria, Stacy Lydia, Yeah, Maria, Maria. 2000 01:24:10,880 --> 01:24:12,880 Speaker 1: Honestly, those are all really good therapist names. 2001 01:24:12,920 --> 01:24:15,280 Speaker 3: Yeah, she looks like Marisa. Tell me she's really nice. 2002 01:24:16,120 --> 01:24:18,719 Speaker 3: I completely agree. She was like, I went into therapy 2003 01:24:18,800 --> 01:24:20,720 Speaker 3: to talk about like my career, some things that were 2004 01:24:20,720 --> 01:24:23,200 Speaker 3: going on with like my personal career life, and she 2005 01:24:23,320 --> 01:24:24,960 Speaker 3: was like, all you talk about is your relationship. I 2006 01:24:25,000 --> 01:24:26,960 Speaker 3: just want you to know we've had eight sessions. We 2007 01:24:27,040 --> 01:24:29,759 Speaker 3: have not discussed anything you're working on. All we discuss 2008 01:24:29,840 --> 01:24:32,519 Speaker 3: is your relationship. And it was that click moment where 2009 01:24:32,560 --> 01:24:34,920 Speaker 3: I was like, I keep displacing. I don't want to 2010 01:24:34,920 --> 01:24:37,160 Speaker 3: deal with my relationship, so I keep trying to push 2011 01:24:37,280 --> 01:24:40,479 Speaker 3: the problem into other places that are less fixable and 2012 01:24:40,520 --> 01:24:43,320 Speaker 3: that require less of a drastic life change. In that moment, 2013 01:24:43,560 --> 01:24:45,719 Speaker 3: but when she finally was like, this is the issue 2014 01:24:45,760 --> 01:24:47,439 Speaker 3: and you've known it since the moment you walked in 2015 01:24:47,479 --> 01:24:50,080 Speaker 3: the door here, I was like, wow, and that's when 2016 01:24:50,080 --> 01:24:50,719 Speaker 3: my life changed. 2017 01:24:51,040 --> 01:24:52,040 Speaker 1: Wow. 2018 01:24:52,520 --> 01:24:54,080 Speaker 2: Well, I mean I dated this guy. 2019 01:24:54,240 --> 01:24:55,080 Speaker 3: I'm being vulnerable. 2020 01:24:55,240 --> 01:24:56,320 Speaker 2: Yes, I dated this. 2021 01:24:56,200 --> 01:24:58,840 Speaker 4: Guy who needed therapy, and I would tell him he 2022 01:24:58,880 --> 01:25:01,519 Speaker 4: needed to go and he refused go. And finally it 2023 01:25:01,640 --> 01:25:03,040 Speaker 4: was like, well, you know, it's not my job to 2024 01:25:03,040 --> 01:25:04,800 Speaker 4: fix you. I'm not here to do that. I'm not 2025 01:25:04,800 --> 01:25:08,439 Speaker 4: getting paid to do this. And so we stopped talking 2026 01:25:08,600 --> 01:25:11,040 Speaker 4: and he texted me recently and was like, I just 2027 01:25:11,040 --> 01:25:13,639 Speaker 4: wanted to let you know that I have my fifth 2028 01:25:13,680 --> 01:25:17,400 Speaker 4: therapy session tomorrow and thank you for always encouraging me 2029 01:25:17,439 --> 01:25:17,720 Speaker 4: to go. 2030 01:25:17,800 --> 01:25:20,519 Speaker 2: And it was like, it's about time. 2031 01:25:20,680 --> 01:25:21,759 Speaker 1: It's such a game changer. 2032 01:25:22,000 --> 01:25:23,160 Speaker 2: Fortunately you're still dead to me. 2033 01:25:23,240 --> 01:25:25,559 Speaker 3: But I was gonna say, is he fine, Like he 2034 01:25:25,640 --> 01:25:28,840 Speaker 3: listened to you, that's really me, So Bruce, just like, wow, 2035 01:25:28,880 --> 01:25:31,920 Speaker 3: he listened to you, and he made he took action, 2036 01:25:32,520 --> 01:25:33,559 Speaker 3: actually did he did. 2037 01:25:33,439 --> 01:25:36,599 Speaker 2: Something so amazing it took him two years. 2038 01:25:36,640 --> 01:25:39,639 Speaker 1: Oh my god, I need doesn't Doesn't it suck though? 2039 01:25:39,720 --> 01:25:42,480 Speaker 1: When they become the better version of themselves after. 2040 01:25:42,800 --> 01:25:43,840 Speaker 3: Oh, I don't know what that's like. 2041 01:25:45,400 --> 01:25:47,880 Speaker 2: Yeah, allegedly, I mean he could still be you. 2042 01:25:47,840 --> 01:25:49,720 Speaker 3: Know, I don't keep up with the Kardashians as far 2043 01:25:49,760 --> 01:25:52,240 Speaker 3: as my ex goes. But it's actually what to me, 2044 01:25:52,320 --> 01:25:54,760 Speaker 3: the harder part is watching them remain the same, or 2045 01:25:54,800 --> 01:25:57,720 Speaker 3: watching them just stick their heels into the ground and 2046 01:25:57,760 --> 01:26:00,160 Speaker 3: be that person that you were hoping the whole time 2047 01:26:00,160 --> 01:26:02,320 Speaker 3: they weren't. Especially when it was all coming down, it 2048 01:26:02,360 --> 01:26:06,280 Speaker 3: was like I just kept feeling like, hmmm, this can't 2049 01:26:06,280 --> 01:26:09,240 Speaker 3: be it. And when it remains that way years later, 2050 01:26:09,280 --> 01:26:10,439 Speaker 3: it's like you just be like whoa. 2051 01:26:10,800 --> 01:26:14,480 Speaker 1: Yeah, you know, it's like I was showing Dave Vanderpump 2052 01:26:14,560 --> 01:26:18,880 Speaker 1: rules and it was just like something that like Arianomatic 2053 01:26:18,960 --> 01:26:21,280 Speaker 1: said about after all that was she was like, you know, 2054 01:26:21,800 --> 01:26:24,800 Speaker 1: she was answering actually a question on Watch What Happens Live, 2055 01:26:24,840 --> 01:26:27,400 Speaker 1: and the question was, how do you deal with the 2056 01:26:27,439 --> 01:26:31,879 Speaker 1: fact that this person, even though they did something terrible, 2057 01:26:32,479 --> 01:26:36,479 Speaker 1: was someone that you loved for like nine years, eight years, 2058 01:26:36,520 --> 01:26:39,360 Speaker 1: however long they were together, and the answer was, well, 2059 01:26:39,400 --> 01:26:43,320 Speaker 1: you just realize they were not actually that person. And 2060 01:26:43,360 --> 01:26:45,400 Speaker 1: this is what I'm saying is it's like, this is 2061 01:26:45,439 --> 01:26:48,120 Speaker 1: what's scary about dating, is like you can pretend you 2062 01:26:48,200 --> 01:26:51,519 Speaker 1: know someone else, but you don't. You cannot be in 2063 01:26:51,560 --> 01:26:55,439 Speaker 1: their head. And that's where dating is really scary. It's 2064 01:26:55,479 --> 01:26:58,479 Speaker 1: like you were literally putting yourself out there, especially as 2065 01:26:58,520 --> 01:27:01,360 Speaker 1: people who were obviously interest in this topic, like the 2066 01:27:01,360 --> 01:27:03,559 Speaker 1: three of us sitting here because here we are, like 2067 01:27:03,600 --> 01:27:05,400 Speaker 1: here you guys are with this show. It's something you're 2068 01:27:05,439 --> 01:27:07,760 Speaker 1: actively engaging in all the time, which means that we 2069 01:27:07,800 --> 01:27:09,599 Speaker 1: are trying to figure out and wrap our heads around 2070 01:27:09,600 --> 01:27:12,160 Speaker 1: it for ourselves. Probably if you actually were to answer 2071 01:27:12,160 --> 01:27:15,840 Speaker 1: the deep question, yeah sure. And that is what makes 2072 01:27:15,880 --> 01:27:19,880 Speaker 1: it so difficult is because baseline, it's fucking scary because 2073 01:27:19,920 --> 01:27:23,160 Speaker 1: it is the unknown. Other people are always going to 2074 01:27:23,160 --> 01:27:26,639 Speaker 1: be the unknown. Even when you think you know every 2075 01:27:26,640 --> 01:27:30,280 Speaker 1: single fucking thing, you literally can't. And that is what's 2076 01:27:30,320 --> 01:27:32,000 Speaker 1: so scary. And that's I think. 2077 01:27:32,200 --> 01:27:33,760 Speaker 3: Yeah, you have to take people's word for it, you 2078 01:27:33,840 --> 01:27:36,679 Speaker 3: have to believe them for what they say. It's having faith, 2079 01:27:36,800 --> 01:27:39,080 Speaker 3: it's having faith and when you're coming back from a 2080 01:27:39,120 --> 01:27:41,679 Speaker 3: massive trust break. It's like, when you go into these things, 2081 01:27:41,680 --> 01:27:45,160 Speaker 3: it's like, how do you believe somebody? How do you 2082 01:27:45,240 --> 01:27:47,400 Speaker 3: believe what they're telling you and what they're presenting to 2083 01:27:47,479 --> 01:27:49,960 Speaker 3: you is not some especially with our generation, not some 2084 01:27:50,120 --> 01:27:53,479 Speaker 3: manufactured sort of curated persona that they think is going 2085 01:27:53,560 --> 01:27:53,920 Speaker 3: to get you. 2086 01:27:54,080 --> 01:27:54,320 Speaker 1: Yeah. 2087 01:27:54,640 --> 01:27:57,640 Speaker 4: I think you have to go into it believing what 2088 01:27:57,680 --> 01:28:00,800 Speaker 4: they're saying, unless it feels like they're I don't want 2089 01:28:00,800 --> 01:28:02,519 Speaker 4: to date somebody and be like everything they say is 2090 01:28:02,560 --> 01:28:05,160 Speaker 4: false or fake, yeah or not real. You have to 2091 01:28:05,160 --> 01:28:08,240 Speaker 4: believe them to a point, and you have to believe 2092 01:28:08,280 --> 01:28:10,400 Speaker 4: also what they're doing, not just what they're saying. 2093 01:28:10,680 --> 01:28:12,160 Speaker 3: Yeah, I just gonna follow your I mean, I said 2094 01:28:12,200 --> 01:28:13,920 Speaker 3: at the beginning of the podcast, follow your gut, and 2095 01:28:13,960 --> 01:28:15,479 Speaker 3: your gut always knows sure. 2096 01:28:15,600 --> 01:28:18,599 Speaker 4: I've watched multiple episodes of Lonoda SVU where the girl 2097 01:28:18,680 --> 01:28:20,559 Speaker 4: is like, she doesn't want to hold the elevator, but 2098 01:28:20,600 --> 01:28:23,759 Speaker 4: she holds it, and now she did, and it's like, now, girl, 2099 01:28:24,120 --> 01:28:26,280 Speaker 4: you should have just leaned on that button because your 2100 01:28:26,320 --> 01:28:27,479 Speaker 4: gut told you to lean on that. 2101 01:28:27,720 --> 01:28:29,680 Speaker 1: Go with your gut always because you could be dead, 2102 01:28:29,720 --> 01:28:34,160 Speaker 1: because you could culture. I found rule of culture five thousand, 2103 01:28:34,400 --> 01:28:36,720 Speaker 1: lean on that button because you should get dead, and 2104 01:28:36,760 --> 01:28:39,160 Speaker 1: I'm gonna put in parentheses elevator, elevator. 2105 01:28:40,479 --> 01:28:41,000 Speaker 3: Yeah yeah. 2106 01:28:49,360 --> 01:28:51,879 Speaker 1: Speaking of rule culture and things that happen on this podcast, 2107 01:28:51,920 --> 01:28:53,479 Speaker 1: we're now going to do I don't think so, honey. 2108 01:28:53,479 --> 01:28:55,760 Speaker 1: This is the one minute segment that we take to 2109 01:28:55,880 --> 01:28:58,479 Speaker 1: rant against something in pop culture that we absolutely m 2110 01:28:58,560 --> 01:29:01,719 Speaker 1: mmmmmmm don't think so, honey. I am gonna go first, 2111 01:29:01,760 --> 01:29:04,639 Speaker 1: because that's traditionally what happens. I'm gonna ask Dave, my sister, 2112 01:29:04,760 --> 01:29:07,400 Speaker 1: to time me and call out at thirty fifteen and 2113 01:29:07,520 --> 01:29:09,960 Speaker 1: five seconds left, Gorge, I'm ready. 2114 01:29:10,000 --> 01:29:11,120 Speaker 3: Your time starts now. 2115 01:29:11,200 --> 01:29:14,800 Speaker 1: I don't think so, honey. Threads okay. I understand us 2116 01:29:14,840 --> 01:29:17,960 Speaker 1: moving away and wanting to replace Twitter. I just feel 2117 01:29:18,040 --> 01:29:21,000 Speaker 1: uneasy because while it took Twitter a long time to 2118 01:29:21,120 --> 01:29:24,080 Speaker 1: become a healscape, it did become a healthscape. Why because 2119 01:29:24,080 --> 01:29:27,120 Speaker 1: you were giving people carte blanche a place to put 2120 01:29:27,120 --> 01:29:29,760 Speaker 1: any old opinion. Of course, we want to be able 2121 01:29:29,800 --> 01:29:32,040 Speaker 1: to engage you these other on social media. But suddenly 2122 01:29:32,080 --> 01:29:35,080 Speaker 1: there's this like prevailing thought that like Threads is like 2123 01:29:35,080 --> 01:29:38,040 Speaker 1: a healthier Twitter. I'm like, yeah, for now, Like I'm 2124 01:29:38,040 --> 01:29:39,960 Speaker 1: almost like stop talking about it then, because then the 2125 01:29:40,040 --> 01:29:42,000 Speaker 1: unhealthy people are gonna hear about it, and they're gonna 2126 01:29:42,280 --> 01:29:44,400 Speaker 1: here the threads and they're gonna fucking ruin it. And 2127 01:29:44,439 --> 01:29:46,200 Speaker 1: now I already hear about people starting to be me 2128 01:29:46,240 --> 01:29:48,200 Speaker 1: and on threads, and I'm like, well, what did you think? 2129 01:29:48,320 --> 01:29:50,559 Speaker 1: It was the same setup as Twitter, which became shitty, 2130 01:29:50,840 --> 01:29:52,720 Speaker 1: Threads is gonna become shitty. I don't know if you've 2131 01:29:52,720 --> 01:29:55,000 Speaker 1: seen an Instagram, Like we're all talking about Instagram like 2132 01:29:55,040 --> 01:29:57,080 Speaker 1: it's fucking heaven and and Twitter is hell. 2133 01:29:57,439 --> 01:29:58,280 Speaker 2: It's not in dat. 2134 01:29:58,360 --> 01:30:01,000 Speaker 1: People fucking crazy too. Why wouldn't I strive people crazy? 2135 01:30:01,240 --> 01:30:03,840 Speaker 1: I'm waiting to join threads because I also heard I 2136 01:30:03,880 --> 01:30:06,800 Speaker 1: don't think so honey, that if you join threads and 2137 01:30:06,840 --> 01:30:08,920 Speaker 1: then you want to delete threads, you have to delete 2138 01:30:08,920 --> 01:30:11,240 Speaker 1: your Instagram. I don't think, so honey, of this trap 2139 01:30:13,439 --> 01:30:15,320 Speaker 1: is what I did hear about that. I didn't click 2140 01:30:15,320 --> 01:30:17,280 Speaker 1: the article because it can't be real. I heard that 2141 01:30:17,360 --> 01:30:19,679 Speaker 1: if you get threads, the only way to not get 2142 01:30:19,760 --> 01:30:23,360 Speaker 1: threads is to delete your Instagram. That's what I heard. 2143 01:30:23,400 --> 01:30:24,559 Speaker 2: Oh, I don't think, so honey. 2144 01:30:24,680 --> 01:30:26,519 Speaker 1: I don't think so honey. And I just feel like, 2145 01:30:26,560 --> 01:30:29,160 Speaker 1: you know, my thing is like, yeah, okay, I get it, 2146 01:30:29,200 --> 01:30:31,479 Speaker 1: Like Twitter's done, Like it feels like it's officially kind 2147 01:30:31,520 --> 01:30:33,599 Speaker 1: of done, especially with the Twitter limits. Whatever the fuck 2148 01:30:33,680 --> 01:30:34,080 Speaker 1: is going on? 2149 01:30:34,160 --> 01:30:35,400 Speaker 3: Yeah, Like I'm reading tweets. 2150 01:30:35,400 --> 01:30:37,920 Speaker 1: I don't even My thing is like the move to 2151 01:30:38,000 --> 01:30:40,720 Speaker 1: threads so quickly, it just means it's going to become 2152 01:30:40,760 --> 01:30:41,400 Speaker 1: Twitter faster. 2153 01:30:41,640 --> 01:30:43,439 Speaker 2: That's one hundred percent what it is. Yeah, I mean 2154 01:30:43,479 --> 01:30:43,840 Speaker 2: I haven't. 2155 01:30:44,040 --> 01:30:47,200 Speaker 4: I literally just heard about threads three days ago, so 2156 01:30:47,280 --> 01:30:49,439 Speaker 4: you know, I'm not really I guess people don't. 2157 01:30:49,600 --> 01:30:50,840 Speaker 3: I'm on it. 2158 01:30:50,880 --> 01:30:51,519 Speaker 1: What's the vibe? 2159 01:30:51,720 --> 01:30:54,160 Speaker 3: The vibe is like no one's around yet clean Twitter, 2160 01:30:54,240 --> 01:30:56,439 Speaker 3: like let's just do whatever. But there's bots on there already, 2161 01:30:56,760 --> 01:30:58,320 Speaker 3: and no one really knows how to use it. It's 2162 01:30:58,360 --> 01:30:59,680 Speaker 3: just the thing of every platform. It is the same, 2163 01:30:59,720 --> 01:31:01,600 Speaker 3: like what photos do I put here? What is my 2164 01:31:01,640 --> 01:31:03,800 Speaker 3: persona on this corner of the internet? And most people 2165 01:31:03,800 --> 01:31:05,519 Speaker 3: are just going slut with it, myself included. 2166 01:31:05,560 --> 01:31:08,759 Speaker 4: Honestly, I don't care as. 2167 01:31:08,360 --> 01:31:11,160 Speaker 3: Like toying around with it. I think I'm gonna I 2168 01:31:11,200 --> 01:31:13,640 Speaker 3: don't really use Twitter. I never really liked tweeting. It 2169 01:31:13,720 --> 01:31:15,439 Speaker 3: just felt like really contrived, and also I felt like 2170 01:31:15,439 --> 01:31:17,080 Speaker 3: I was writing jokes that I really liked, and rather 2171 01:31:17,120 --> 01:31:18,960 Speaker 3: than give them out into the universe, I was like, 2172 01:31:19,040 --> 01:31:20,320 Speaker 3: let me write these down and put them into my 2173 01:31:20,360 --> 01:31:22,519 Speaker 3: work instead of just blasting them out into the internet 2174 01:31:22,560 --> 01:31:23,080 Speaker 3: for no reason. 2175 01:31:23,320 --> 01:31:25,559 Speaker 4: I use Twitter just to read what other people are saying, 2176 01:31:25,640 --> 01:31:28,840 Speaker 4: and like it'smportant for people, look do my likes. 2177 01:31:29,040 --> 01:31:31,400 Speaker 1: I mean, I use the Lost Culturista's Twitter with bow 2178 01:31:31,439 --> 01:31:32,599 Speaker 1: and we kind of share it. We don't have our 2179 01:31:32,600 --> 01:31:34,120 Speaker 1: own personal twitters, and it's kind of just like a 2180 01:31:34,160 --> 01:31:37,040 Speaker 1: retweet fest. We're not really tweeting on there. And most 2181 01:31:37,080 --> 01:31:39,000 Speaker 1: of the time if I am tweeting, it's like I 2182 01:31:39,320 --> 01:31:40,760 Speaker 1: have to be conscious of the fact that I'm also 2183 01:31:40,800 --> 01:31:43,719 Speaker 1: speaking from Bowen and I and like he'll sometimes tweet 2184 01:31:43,760 --> 01:31:47,759 Speaker 1: from the account, and I'm like sometimes I'm like, maybe 2185 01:31:48,000 --> 01:31:50,080 Speaker 1: it would be helpful to have our own twitters, just 2186 01:31:50,120 --> 01:31:53,559 Speaker 1: because we do have two very different voices, even though 2187 01:31:53,560 --> 01:31:56,240 Speaker 1: we like both have the podcast, So it really just 2188 01:31:56,240 --> 01:31:58,719 Speaker 1: becomes a retweet fest in neither of us really tweet 2189 01:31:59,200 --> 01:32:01,920 Speaker 1: unless we both have some really good but usually if 2190 01:32:01,960 --> 01:32:04,240 Speaker 1: it's about video games, Bohen has said it, yeah, that 2191 01:32:04,280 --> 01:32:06,080 Speaker 1: makes sense, And if it's some dumb bullshit that's like 2192 01:32:06,120 --> 01:32:11,679 Speaker 1: broken English, it's probably me. Yeah, I think your readers know. Yeah, okay, 2193 01:32:11,720 --> 01:32:14,679 Speaker 1: so Dave Mazzoni also do I don't think so, honey. Yeah, sure, 2194 01:32:14,720 --> 01:32:16,559 Speaker 1: this is Dave's I don't think so honey. His time 2195 01:32:16,560 --> 01:32:17,160 Speaker 1: starts now. 2196 01:32:17,400 --> 01:32:20,960 Speaker 3: I don't think so honey. Instagram Meta jail that I 2197 01:32:21,000 --> 01:32:23,720 Speaker 3: am currently in and I have been in for the 2198 01:32:23,720 --> 01:32:26,639 Speaker 3: past six months. I don't think so, honey. Instagram flagging 2199 01:32:26,680 --> 01:32:28,519 Speaker 3: a post that I put on my close friends that 2200 01:32:28,600 --> 01:32:31,799 Speaker 3: was a very vulnerable photo of my friend Corey naked 2201 01:32:31,960 --> 01:32:34,599 Speaker 3: in two thousand and nine, a nineteen year old, which 2202 01:32:34,640 --> 01:32:38,320 Speaker 3: I captioned underage twink for sale. The AI bot has 2203 01:32:38,360 --> 01:32:41,280 Speaker 3: now put me into a folder of sex traffickers on Meta, 2204 01:32:41,400 --> 01:32:44,080 Speaker 3: and now my content is unable to be shared. I 2205 01:32:44,120 --> 01:32:48,080 Speaker 3: cannot monetize all because my friend Corey, he was on 2206 01:32:48,160 --> 01:32:50,559 Speaker 3: my close friends and it is ruining my life. 2207 01:32:50,600 --> 01:32:53,080 Speaker 1: You shouldn't have an Instagram jail. You should always use. 2208 01:32:53,040 --> 01:32:55,720 Speaker 3: Human people to assess posts before you just group me 2209 01:32:55,760 --> 01:32:57,439 Speaker 3: in with a bunch of people who are stopping my 2210 01:32:57,479 --> 01:33:00,519 Speaker 3: content from reaching the masses. I could be bigger than 2211 01:33:00,560 --> 01:33:03,920 Speaker 3: Anthony by now, but instance I'm in jail. I have 2212 01:33:04,080 --> 01:33:05,800 Speaker 3: sucked dick to try to get out of here, only 2213 01:33:05,840 --> 01:33:07,720 Speaker 3: to find out that this person's sister, who works at 2214 01:33:07,720 --> 01:33:10,919 Speaker 3: Meta is on vacation in Turks and Kinkos with severance 2215 01:33:11,280 --> 01:33:12,320 Speaker 3: because she got fiens. 2216 01:33:12,439 --> 01:33:12,639 Speaker 1: Yeah. 2217 01:33:12,640 --> 01:33:13,880 Speaker 3: I've done a lot of things to try to get 2218 01:33:13,880 --> 01:33:15,559 Speaker 3: out of here, and honestly, I'm tired of asking people 2219 01:33:15,600 --> 01:33:16,920 Speaker 3: if they work at Meta. But please get in my 2220 01:33:17,000 --> 01:33:18,519 Speaker 3: DMS if you do, because I don't think so. Honey. 2221 01:33:18,520 --> 01:33:22,000 Speaker 1: Instagram jail and that's one minute. So you put up 2222 01:33:22,000 --> 01:33:24,679 Speaker 1: a photo of Corey who was nineteen at the time, 2223 01:33:24,720 --> 01:33:26,880 Speaker 1: when he was just posing a little kid in this 2224 01:33:26,920 --> 01:33:31,200 Speaker 1: little like phase, and you labeled it underage twink. 2225 01:33:30,920 --> 01:33:32,880 Speaker 3: For something my close friends, which I thought was a 2226 01:33:32,920 --> 01:33:35,240 Speaker 3: safe space. I thought it was a private place for 2227 01:33:35,360 --> 01:33:37,400 Speaker 3: me in three hundred and fifty gay men across this 2228 01:33:37,479 --> 01:33:41,960 Speaker 3: country to share information, and yet I have been completely banned. 2229 01:33:42,000 --> 01:33:43,960 Speaker 3: Can ben sent emails that I'm on my last leg, 2230 01:33:44,040 --> 01:33:46,960 Speaker 3: can't change my passwords, can't do I'm like, if my 2231 01:33:47,040 --> 01:33:49,439 Speaker 3: phone is lost, Instagram has lost me forever. 2232 01:33:49,520 --> 01:33:51,759 Speaker 1: I literally you know what I'm saying. I'm very sorry 2233 01:33:51,800 --> 01:33:53,479 Speaker 1: that this is happening to you, but at least you 2234 01:33:53,600 --> 01:33:56,640 Speaker 1: know that if there are people who are trying to 2235 01:33:56,800 --> 01:33:59,320 Speaker 1: do crazy shit on Instagram that at least they're on it. 2236 01:33:59,479 --> 01:34:02,559 Speaker 3: I mean, I guess, but like he's like. 2237 01:34:02,560 --> 01:34:04,160 Speaker 1: I want to be bigger than Antony, but like. 2238 01:34:04,200 --> 01:34:06,880 Speaker 3: Come on, like I have content. I want to release readers. 2239 01:34:06,880 --> 01:34:09,240 Speaker 3: If you work at Metta, just like, just flick the switch. 2240 01:34:09,520 --> 01:34:12,280 Speaker 3: I swear to God. Dave swears he'll never traffic again. 2241 01:34:12,400 --> 01:34:15,160 Speaker 3: I swear to God. My friend Corey is safe in Astoria. 2242 01:34:15,240 --> 01:34:18,840 Speaker 3: He's probably reading right now. He's totally fine. God damn it. 2243 01:34:18,960 --> 01:34:23,679 Speaker 1: I'm crying. Well, okay, so Meta and Instagram please help Dave. 2244 01:34:23,800 --> 01:34:25,760 Speaker 3: Yeah, like, let us out of threads and let me 2245 01:34:25,840 --> 01:34:26,360 Speaker 3: out of jail. 2246 01:34:26,479 --> 01:34:29,000 Speaker 1: We need to see that cooking that is happening. 2247 01:34:29,080 --> 01:34:30,280 Speaker 3: Yeah, there's a lot going on. 2248 01:34:30,479 --> 01:34:33,519 Speaker 1: There's a lot going on that we could be having. Hey, 2249 01:34:33,600 --> 01:34:35,280 Speaker 1: Marie Fauston and you're ready for out of think so honey, 2250 01:34:35,320 --> 01:34:37,519 Speaker 1: I'm ready. This is your I don't think so, honey. 2251 01:34:37,600 --> 01:34:38,639 Speaker 1: Marie's time starts now. 2252 01:34:38,880 --> 01:34:39,920 Speaker 2: I don't think so, honey. 2253 01:34:39,960 --> 01:34:46,080 Speaker 4: Flying coach, okay, coach is a scam. Everybody should fly 2254 01:34:46,160 --> 01:34:48,360 Speaker 4: first class. I flew first class for the first time 2255 01:34:48,439 --> 01:34:50,960 Speaker 4: last week, and beach, my life has been changed. 2256 01:34:51,360 --> 01:34:52,439 Speaker 2: The whole plane should. 2257 01:34:52,200 --> 01:34:54,880 Speaker 4: Be first class, and first class seats should be first 2258 01:34:54,960 --> 01:34:58,679 Speaker 4: or class. Okay, if you have a jacket in first class, 2259 01:34:58,680 --> 01:35:00,880 Speaker 4: they hang it up for you. Coach, they throw it 2260 01:35:00,920 --> 01:35:04,320 Speaker 4: out the tiny window. They don't even wake you up 2261 01:35:04,439 --> 01:35:06,960 Speaker 4: when that little golf cart comes by in coach because 2262 01:35:07,000 --> 01:35:08,720 Speaker 4: they don't want to feed you that little bagg of 2263 01:35:08,760 --> 01:35:12,520 Speaker 4: chips that keeps shrinking every year. Oh I agree, there 2264 01:35:12,560 --> 01:35:15,080 Speaker 4: small in first class. That gave me a real fourth, 2265 01:35:15,120 --> 01:35:17,240 Speaker 4: a real spoon. They gave me a tablecloth to put 2266 01:35:17,280 --> 01:35:20,040 Speaker 4: on my table. I said, beach Chip, this is nicer 2267 01:35:20,080 --> 01:35:23,559 Speaker 4: than my home. First class should be for everybody. And 2268 01:35:23,640 --> 01:35:25,559 Speaker 4: I truly feel like if you make us black coach, 2269 01:35:25,600 --> 01:35:26,799 Speaker 4: it's because you hate us. 2270 01:35:26,960 --> 01:35:28,920 Speaker 2: I am trying to live. 2271 01:35:28,840 --> 01:35:32,400 Speaker 4: My best black bougie life and being in coach is 2272 01:35:32,560 --> 01:35:35,040 Speaker 4: just like riding a bus with an ugly child kicking 2273 01:35:35,080 --> 01:35:37,759 Speaker 4: the back of your seat while you're trying to watch Coco. 2274 01:35:38,080 --> 01:35:42,519 Speaker 1: Okay, but one minute, I will say, ever since I 2275 01:35:42,600 --> 01:35:45,080 Speaker 1: have a little bit of money now and since the 2276 01:35:45,080 --> 01:35:47,120 Speaker 1: beginning of this podcast, I did not have any money, 2277 01:35:47,120 --> 01:35:48,639 Speaker 1: and I always roughed it like I broke. 2278 01:35:48,920 --> 01:35:50,120 Speaker 3: It's such a fun Mat. 2279 01:35:50,040 --> 01:35:54,439 Speaker 1: Broke, Matt was me, Matt Mountain, Yes broke, Matt Mountain. 2280 01:35:54,680 --> 01:36:02,720 Speaker 1: And now yes so now so now I have a 2281 01:36:02,720 --> 01:36:04,880 Speaker 1: little bit of money, and one of the things that 2282 01:36:05,040 --> 01:36:08,280 Speaker 1: I treat myself on is when I fly. I do 2283 01:36:08,320 --> 01:36:12,600 Speaker 1: fly first class and the difference is so crazy. 2284 01:36:12,320 --> 01:36:14,800 Speaker 3: Astounding me sitting back and being like, well, okay, I 2285 01:36:14,880 --> 01:36:16,160 Speaker 3: was in the exit row on my way here, and 2286 01:36:16,200 --> 01:36:18,880 Speaker 3: I thought to myself, Wow, comefu, this is nice. 2287 01:36:19,120 --> 01:36:21,920 Speaker 4: Meant going back to the coach after flying first class. 2288 01:36:21,920 --> 01:36:23,559 Speaker 2: I flew coach to LA and I was like. 2289 01:36:23,680 --> 01:36:27,080 Speaker 3: Yeah, what is I don't think so honey, going backwards. 2290 01:36:27,200 --> 01:36:28,920 Speaker 3: So I guess what we're saying here is if you've 2291 01:36:28,960 --> 01:36:31,320 Speaker 3: never flown first class and it's really not there, just 2292 01:36:31,360 --> 01:36:33,400 Speaker 3: stay where you are. Don't let them upgrade you because 2293 01:36:33,400 --> 01:36:34,439 Speaker 3: you'll it'll just be very hard. 2294 01:36:34,280 --> 01:36:35,160 Speaker 2: To come out with your mind. 2295 01:36:35,200 --> 01:36:36,599 Speaker 1: Well, I guess that depends on the airline. 2296 01:36:36,680 --> 01:36:36,880 Speaker 2: Yeah. 2297 01:36:36,880 --> 01:36:39,639 Speaker 3: Also, I have AirPod boxes and those things. I mean, 2298 01:36:39,840 --> 01:36:41,760 Speaker 3: like a bomb could go off and I'm listening to 2299 01:36:41,880 --> 01:36:42,599 Speaker 3: Kelly Clarkson. 2300 01:36:42,600 --> 01:36:43,639 Speaker 1: I'm on the top of the mountain. 2301 01:36:43,760 --> 01:36:46,439 Speaker 2: No bombs on my plane, no snakes on my plane, 2302 01:36:46,479 --> 01:36:47,360 Speaker 2: no bags. 2303 01:36:47,040 --> 01:36:50,519 Speaker 1: On my listen. All I'm saying is it's like when 2304 01:36:50,560 --> 01:36:53,280 Speaker 1: you get that little extra check, how do you treat yourself? 2305 01:36:53,320 --> 01:36:55,439 Speaker 1: It's that one area of life where you're like, I'm 2306 01:36:55,479 --> 01:36:58,960 Speaker 1: choosing to indulge in this area. For me, that's travel. 2307 01:36:59,120 --> 01:36:59,920 Speaker 2: Yeah, that that is. 2308 01:37:00,320 --> 01:37:04,800 Speaker 1: I don't want a situation where I'm traveling uncomfortably. That's 2309 01:37:04,880 --> 01:37:08,000 Speaker 1: just for me. So I will spend more money doing 2310 01:37:08,040 --> 01:37:11,240 Speaker 1: that than I will on like food. I don't really 2311 01:37:11,240 --> 01:37:13,600 Speaker 1: buy groceries. It's just like all these other things, like 2312 01:37:13,760 --> 01:37:15,760 Speaker 1: but travel, I don't fuck around with travel. You also 2313 01:37:15,800 --> 01:37:21,040 Speaker 1: drop money on Broadway. You're keeping Broadway alive. Travel, vacation. 2314 01:37:21,479 --> 01:37:23,559 Speaker 1: I mean when it comes to the economy, I'm a 2315 01:37:23,680 --> 01:37:26,679 Speaker 1: major helper when it comes to traveling and vacation wise. 2316 01:37:26,600 --> 01:37:29,639 Speaker 3: He redistributes that wealth. It goes right back into the economy. 2317 01:37:30,200 --> 01:37:33,840 Speaker 1: Here take it here, call me the eras tour have it. 2318 01:37:33,960 --> 01:37:38,360 Speaker 3: Mulan Rouge Broadway, Oh my god, take this Chicago again. 2319 01:37:39,600 --> 01:37:41,400 Speaker 1: One of my great regrets is I haven't been able 2320 01:37:41,439 --> 01:37:44,479 Speaker 1: to go see Jojo and Rue Jojo and Mulan Ruge. 2321 01:37:44,479 --> 01:37:45,559 Speaker 3: How dare I pick the show that you haven't? 2322 01:37:47,040 --> 01:37:53,000 Speaker 1: Yes, yes, right now? Talk about another bop and a half. 2323 01:37:53,479 --> 01:37:56,080 Speaker 1: But apparently she's like playing Satina and killing it. You 2324 01:37:56,080 --> 01:37:58,040 Speaker 1: know who, just want to go see the show, Luke Marinkovich, 2325 01:37:58,040 --> 01:37:59,800 Speaker 1: because you know who's the male lead of the. 2326 01:37:59,760 --> 01:38:02,320 Speaker 3: Show was Derek Cla Yes, yes, yes, yes, I know this, this. 2327 01:38:02,360 --> 01:38:05,760 Speaker 1: Hot Broadway star who Dave and I years ago did 2328 01:38:05,760 --> 01:38:08,080 Speaker 1: a paintball gun bachelor party with. 2329 01:38:08,280 --> 01:38:10,559 Speaker 3: We went to we played paintball for like four hours 2330 01:38:10,560 --> 01:38:13,479 Speaker 3: in Pennsylvania, out in the woods. It was actually really fun. 2331 01:38:14,200 --> 01:38:15,960 Speaker 3: In the face it was no, you didn't shoo me 2332 01:38:16,000 --> 01:38:16,360 Speaker 3: in the face. 2333 01:38:16,439 --> 01:38:19,519 Speaker 1: You shot me in the ass, a bruised ass, and 2334 01:38:19,600 --> 01:38:20,439 Speaker 1: not in a good way. 2335 01:38:21,360 --> 01:38:23,200 Speaker 2: I too confused his ass with his face. 2336 01:38:23,240 --> 01:38:24,920 Speaker 1: No, but it was like it was like half gay 2337 01:38:24,960 --> 01:38:27,559 Speaker 1: men and half straight men, like all playing paintball together. 2338 01:38:27,600 --> 01:38:30,120 Speaker 1: But the straight men were like Broadway straights. So it's 2339 01:38:30,120 --> 01:38:32,840 Speaker 1: that like sort of frustrating hot straight man that's like 2340 01:38:33,280 --> 01:38:35,519 Speaker 1: down to hang with the gays. No, but they're not. 2341 01:38:36,320 --> 01:38:38,680 Speaker 1: And so this guy, I remember, Derek, We thought he 2342 01:38:38,720 --> 01:38:40,519 Speaker 1: was so hot. He like changed his shirt in front 2343 01:38:40,560 --> 01:38:42,479 Speaker 1: of us, and Dave and I were like teen girls. 2344 01:38:42,520 --> 01:38:46,400 Speaker 3: Really he he wasn't. Still is one of the most 2345 01:38:46,400 --> 01:38:50,080 Speaker 3: beautiful men and also gorgeously tough, and he's. 2346 01:38:49,920 --> 01:38:55,200 Speaker 1: So talented and right now he is starring opposite Jojo 2347 01:38:55,560 --> 01:38:57,080 Speaker 1: Joanna Levesque in the. 2348 01:38:57,320 --> 01:38:59,360 Speaker 3: Second time after this. I would love to do you 2349 01:38:59,400 --> 01:38:59,920 Speaker 3: have a number? 2350 01:39:00,160 --> 01:39:00,320 Speaker 2: What? 2351 01:39:00,520 --> 01:39:03,320 Speaker 3: Yeah, I mean we went on a girl. I get 2352 01:39:03,360 --> 01:39:03,920 Speaker 3: the numbers quick. 2353 01:39:04,040 --> 01:39:07,240 Speaker 1: Dave always gets numbers and he's also you connect with 2354 01:39:07,280 --> 01:39:08,000 Speaker 1: straight man. 2355 01:39:07,920 --> 01:39:08,240 Speaker 2: I do. 2356 01:39:08,560 --> 01:39:10,320 Speaker 3: I do if I can access them. It's like a 2357 01:39:10,320 --> 01:39:11,920 Speaker 3: big turn on for me. I'm like, I don't know, 2358 01:39:11,960 --> 01:39:13,280 Speaker 3: it's like this weird part of me for my past. 2359 01:39:13,280 --> 01:39:16,800 Speaker 3: It's like, yes, you can pass. And that's why I'm 2360 01:39:16,800 --> 01:39:18,679 Speaker 3: gonna go back to therapy right after this. I'm gonna 2361 01:39:18,720 --> 01:39:19,160 Speaker 3: call Maria. 2362 01:39:20,200 --> 01:39:22,280 Speaker 2: Right after this break, We're gonna go call Maria. 2363 01:39:22,400 --> 01:39:23,160 Speaker 3: This is really fun. 2364 01:39:23,200 --> 01:39:23,439 Speaker 2: Girl. 2365 01:39:23,560 --> 01:39:24,920 Speaker 3: I missed Bell, but I'm glad to have you. 2366 01:39:25,080 --> 01:39:27,160 Speaker 1: I know. I'm thank you guys for coming. Like I said, 2367 01:39:27,320 --> 01:39:29,400 Speaker 1: why Are You Single? Is a hot show and it's 2368 01:39:29,479 --> 01:39:31,160 Speaker 1: if you can't see it tonight at the Bell House, 2369 01:39:31,240 --> 01:39:35,200 Speaker 1: you can see it septembermember And also now they're traveling 2370 01:39:35,520 --> 01:39:38,760 Speaker 1: coast to coast like it's me for Dick. Yes, and 2371 01:39:38,800 --> 01:39:41,040 Speaker 1: you want to do festivals show in la You guys 2372 01:39:41,040 --> 01:39:42,840 Speaker 1: should definitely do it in festivals And. 2373 01:39:43,000 --> 01:39:44,760 Speaker 2: I want to do it in London. I feel like 2374 01:39:44,880 --> 01:39:46,240 Speaker 2: the girls will go crazy. 2375 01:39:46,000 --> 01:39:47,360 Speaker 1: And oh for sure. 2376 01:39:47,520 --> 01:39:49,320 Speaker 3: And my favorite part of it is just hearing from 2377 01:39:49,360 --> 01:39:51,439 Speaker 3: all of the people who are submitting themselves like if 2378 01:39:51,560 --> 01:39:53,960 Speaker 3: if you even if you're curious, like submit the questionnaire, 2379 01:39:54,080 --> 01:39:55,960 Speaker 3: let us know what date you can do it, and 2380 01:39:56,040 --> 01:39:57,800 Speaker 3: we would love to have you because getting to know 2381 01:39:57,800 --> 01:39:59,559 Speaker 3: all the single people all across the country has been 2382 01:39:59,600 --> 01:40:01,240 Speaker 3: really one of the most fun parts about that. 2383 01:40:01,320 --> 01:40:04,240 Speaker 2: And we read all the applications and I'm telling. 2384 01:40:03,960 --> 01:40:08,240 Speaker 4: You, reading them is like, wow, it's not just me, No, 2385 01:40:08,960 --> 01:40:09,760 Speaker 4: she's just like me. 2386 01:40:09,960 --> 01:40:12,519 Speaker 1: I mean even we were looking the other day, like 2387 01:40:12,760 --> 01:40:14,760 Speaker 1: at a couple of the answers, like I was there, 2388 01:40:14,960 --> 01:40:16,559 Speaker 1: Dave was reading me a couple of them, and it 2389 01:40:16,600 --> 01:40:18,759 Speaker 1: was just like I had to grab my heart because 2390 01:40:18,800 --> 01:40:21,480 Speaker 1: I was like, oh my god, people are so genuine 2391 01:40:21,479 --> 01:40:23,479 Speaker 1: and sweet when they fill it out. And I just 2392 01:40:23,520 --> 01:40:26,200 Speaker 1: think it's a really great show. It's very positive, but 2393 01:40:26,240 --> 01:40:28,360 Speaker 1: also you drag each other and we know a little 2394 01:40:28,360 --> 01:40:30,959 Speaker 1: bit of something about that on this show. So absolutely 2395 01:40:31,000 --> 01:40:34,360 Speaker 1: I wanted to what did you call it? A signal boost? 2396 01:40:35,360 --> 01:40:37,559 Speaker 1: This is a great show Why Are You Single? And 2397 01:40:37,640 --> 01:40:39,920 Speaker 1: my guests were Dave Mazzoni and Marie faust In two 2398 01:40:40,040 --> 01:40:42,160 Speaker 1: Legends and had a lot of fun. 2399 01:40:42,200 --> 01:40:43,360 Speaker 3: I might come back to this town. 2400 01:40:43,560 --> 01:40:45,120 Speaker 1: Yeah, you might come back to this town. It's pretty 2401 01:40:45,120 --> 01:40:48,559 Speaker 1: fun and We actually are going to end every episode 2402 01:40:48,600 --> 01:40:50,200 Speaker 1: the same way we do with a song, and it's 2403 01:40:50,200 --> 01:40:52,320 Speaker 1: going to be a reprise or something we sang earlier. 2404 01:40:52,920 --> 01:40:54,080 Speaker 1: When you feeling it. 2405 01:40:57,720 --> 01:41:01,720 Speaker 2: Got it good, you don't like used to. 2406 01:41:03,360 --> 01:41:11,480 Speaker 1: Let it burn, Let it you know it's bad for you. 2407 01:41:11,640 --> 01:41:14,400 Speaker 4: He thought of it being with someone that says, you 2408 01:41:14,520 --> 01:41:20,160 Speaker 4: know that it's over, let it burn. 2409 01:41:22,040 --> 01:41:24,200 Speaker 1: So listen if you want more of Bird, listening to 2410 01:41:24,280 --> 01:41:26,519 Speaker 1: Usher's confessions and d m us would let that one 2411 01:41:26,600 --> 01:41:31,759 Speaker 1: lyric g is none of us, the lost lyric. Okay, bye,