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Speaker 1: Hey, welcome back to Bachelor Happy Hours, Golden Hour, Kathy, what.

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Speaker 2: A good day it's gonna be.

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Speaker 3: Oh my gosh, we have a great guest day. But Susan,

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Speaker 3: are you kidding me? We are exhausted. We've got to

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Speaker 3: talk about all things Joan and Chalk. The finale it

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Speaker 3: was I don't even fabulous, I mean fried. Of course,

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Speaker 3: I felt so bad for Goud. Okay, well let's start.

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Speaker 3: Let's start at the top here. I mean, she looked beautiful,

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Speaker 3: The guys were all there, we were sitting with all

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Speaker 3: of them. It was super fun to listen to the thing.

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Speaker 3: But how much courage did it take for Joan to

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Speaker 3: go and knock on guy's door and say.

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Speaker 1: It broke my heart?

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Speaker 3: I thought I was so brave of her.

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Speaker 1: Though, well, she had to do because to me, that's

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Speaker 1: part of the game. Okay, go on the show to

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Speaker 1: find love, which I truly believe it. But somebody's gotta

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Speaker 1: have their heartbroken. The one of the last two.

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Speaker 3: It's just yeah.

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Speaker 1: I remember when Leslie was crying her eyes out and

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Speaker 1: pre Joan to say it and do it rather than

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Speaker 3: I respected Joan for doing that. It had to be.

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Speaker 3: It would have been really hard for Guy because you know,

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Speaker 3: he said he was going to get down on a

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Speaker 3: knee and propose to her, and when she would in

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Speaker 3: his room, he didn't get it at first. I mean,

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Speaker 3: I'm thinking if you and I had been sitting there

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Speaker 3: and that knocked him to the door. We know, you know,

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Speaker 3: a knock on the door when it's close to the

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Speaker 3: to the end of show is never a good thing,

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Speaker 3: like don't answer your door. Don't answer you rather go

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Speaker 3: down with the ring in your hand and then say no, no,

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Speaker 3: I'm me I'm being funny. So but you know what.

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Speaker 3: So I mean, it was such a beautiful proposal when

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Speaker 3: she said she loved him.

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Speaker 1: God, I know it was a perfect match. It is

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Speaker 1: leave from the get go. She had eyes for him.

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Speaker 1: It was so obvious. I think she was interested in

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Speaker 1: getting to know Guy.

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Speaker 2: I really do.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, it was no greener the way she kissed.

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Speaker 2: The whole season.

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Speaker 1: But better than all that, the beautiful proposal is us

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Speaker 1: meeting the guys. It was so much fun at the

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Speaker 1: after forty Day threw Wow.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, so the guys are super I think, though, I

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Speaker 3: just have to say something else about about yours with

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Speaker 3: the one that's crying at these things. But I found

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Speaker 3: myself crying when Joan was saying that he wasn't ever

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Speaker 3: going to replace that she was worried about her kids,

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Speaker 3: and I started, I started crying because I love you myself.

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Speaker 3: Oh well, I just thought that that would could have

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Speaker 3: been me, you know, some day. But his kids, I

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Speaker 3: mean their next to us in the hotel room, they're fabulous.

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Speaker 3: His son and daughter, Joan is lovely.

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Speaker 1: She was telling us how much he loves Joan and

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Speaker 1: they're horrible. I mean, that's our family.

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Speaker 2: We canty.

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Speaker 1: The best part, how about when we walked in everybody

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Speaker 1: Susan and Kathy, coth Yan, Susan, oh my god, like

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Speaker 3: That felt so special. Yeah, but you know what isn't

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Speaker 3: huh We still do about us. We don't have a day.

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Speaker 3: It was about Joan and Talk and all I can

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Speaker 3: say is I just am so happy for them. I

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Speaker 3: truly do. Anyone out there, if you don't think this

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Speaker 3: process can work, think again. Look at those two are

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Speaker 3: truly in loving people are on socials are already saying

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Speaker 3: things like, I hope it doesn't it but Gary and Teresa,

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Speaker 3: those people, I mean, you know, there's they have a point.

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Speaker 1: I hope it doesn't too. But I don't believe it's

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Speaker 1: gone to I don't.

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Speaker 3: I saw the magic.

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Speaker 1: I mean, I can I just say, shit happens, Like

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Speaker 1: you can't control everything. Shit happens.

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Speaker 3: Wait can we talk about So Susan and I are

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Speaker 3: sitting there and when Chop ever pulls out the key

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Speaker 3: it's over. I got to say that the feeling of

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Speaker 3: the show was so warm and fuzzy, and everybody was

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Speaker 3: rooting for them. And then afterwards, so we know the stylist, Carrie,

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Speaker 3: who dresses her, He's amazing.

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Speaker 2: She beyond last night stunning, stunning.

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Speaker 3: So then we get to the after party and that.

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Speaker 1: Really placed mind you Wales, This place, people was over

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Speaker 2: It was grand.

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Speaker 1: How about the staircase going up to the private room,

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Speaker 1: Oh my goodness, it was beautiful.

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Speaker 3: Can I just say though? For me it was seeing

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Speaker 3: Chalk and Joanes so abby. She changed her dress sheet

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Speaker 3: on a gorgeous black dressed with beads on sequence. On

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Speaker 3: the top of it was Gorgon swinstones whatever you call it, rhinestones.

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Speaker 3: But she looked so happy. But there were like two

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Speaker 3: it was like a happy It was a coming home party.

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Speaker 3: Gain to see the producers and the It was so

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Speaker 3: much fun. It was a really super party. Wait, but

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Speaker 3: I add something? Can I add something here?

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Speaker 1: I think and you guys, you fans, let us know

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Speaker 1: what you think. I think we should be at every

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Speaker 1: single solitary final ruse because we get to talk to everybody.

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Speaker 1: We get the real stuff, the real juice out of

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Speaker 1: the people that didn't make it, and from the Happy Couple.

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Speaker 2: I think that's a new title.

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Speaker 3: Kay, yeah, the Happy Couple? Ye, our title. No want about.

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Speaker 1: Interviewing the Happy Couple and the people that were on

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Speaker 1: the show. Everybody was warm and welcome to us, and

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Speaker 1: a lot of them follow our podcasts. We had quite

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Speaker 1: a few of them say I want on your podcast,

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Speaker 1: which ladies and jo about.

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Speaker 3: How about the fan that always brings us some bracelet

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Speaker 3: that's got braislet that's saying Golden Hour pod? How sweet

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Speaker 3: is that? Now we have a bracelet to wear in

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Speaker 3: case we forget what we're doing. We just didn't looked

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Speaker 3: out at our wrists Golden Hours podcast.

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Speaker 2: And good Night on on.

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Speaker 1: Every one of the gentlemen that we spoke to that

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Speaker 1: was there all said what a great experience. We talked

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Speaker 1: about their bonding with each other like we did. And

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Speaker 1: I don't know about you, but every one of them

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Speaker 1: said to me, did you only meet Kathy on the show?

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Speaker 1: And yes, it's true, Yes, it's true, okay to have

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Speaker 3: I think I think we all talked about being part

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Speaker 3: the golden women who were there to meet some of

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Speaker 3: the Golden men. Oh baby, it was like, let's let's

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Speaker 3: spill the tea on that. Edith was having a good

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Speaker 3: old time with Dan. Holy that Dan, if you're listening,

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Speaker 3: you were like a deer in the headlights. We hope

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Speaker 3: I mean, for those of you who don't remember Edith,

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Speaker 3: it was on our season. She is gorgeous, silvery long, beautiful, beautiful.

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Speaker 3: She it's just know and she knows how to work

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Speaker 3: that here and she she was very enjammed to him,

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Speaker 3: with that what golden couples are coming out? You finally

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Speaker 3: got to meet Jack?

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Speaker 2: Oh, yes I did. Jack said he's a character.

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Speaker 3: He's a charter for those of you again out there,

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Speaker 3: Susan and Jack. I don't know, like, I don't think

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Speaker 3: in the sense that you're both bigger than life and fun.

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Speaker 3: But I don't think it's gonna work.

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Speaker 1: And besides, definitely the prid zone. Also, I really like

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Speaker 3: Wait, wait, and when I have a beach invitation? I

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Speaker 2: But there were villain So.

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Speaker 3: When I talked to Guy, I said, how are you doing?

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Speaker 3: You know you hinted herself so well, tonight, I know

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Speaker 3: not that I would know. I wasn't left at the altar.

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Speaker 3: I didn't even barely get a rose. But he started

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Speaker 2: And I could hear Susan's crying. Susan's crying.

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Speaker 3: you know what, I think you were rubbing off on

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Speaker 1: But all in all, the gentlemen were all so real,

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Speaker 3: Yeah they were, and they were super happy to be

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Speaker 2: We were which bedroom they had. Remember that jacket is

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Speaker 3: But the thing is we all shared that. I mean, honestly,

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Speaker 3: it was like a reunion last night of family and friends.

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Speaker 3: The family of the bachelors are the friends, seeing.

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Speaker 4: All the producers and all the things, like we haven't

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Speaker 4: seen them it's quite almost a year.

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Speaker 1: I was so wonderful seeing everybody, and I'm so so

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Speaker 1: happy for the two of them. I really am. Okay,

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Speaker 1: if I had a conversation with Chop right, we had

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Speaker 1: for you know, and so he goes, I know everything

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Speaker 1: about you. He goes, I googled you guys, I want

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Speaker 3: And I was like, oh mymprest, We're going to get

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Speaker 3: them on this podcast. We're going to get Chalk and

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Speaker 3: Joan on this podcast. We are gonna we're going to

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Speaker 3: make them to beyond. Guy wants to be on.

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Speaker 2: Joan and Chops want to be on. Chops kids want

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Speaker 3: You know, we might get a taped with one of

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Speaker 3: these guys. Yeah, you know it's not too late. It's

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Speaker 3: definitely not too late. All I can say is though

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Speaker 3: it's sad. Though for me, every time there's a finale,

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Speaker 3: it brings home the fact that you know, we're moving

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Speaker 2: And our bachelor was there. He was so cute.

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Speaker 1: I didn't know he's sad like that.

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Speaker 2: He has a great voice.

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Speaker 3: It was a great show. Chalk And and Joan, we

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Speaker 2: And we're coming to New York to have dinner with you.

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Speaker 1: Know, and we've got to get to talk to Thomas today.

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Speaker 3: Okay, so let's move on. We got to get talking

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Speaker 3: to Thomas. Maybe you know, have you know some insights

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Speaker 2: Why stay tuned.

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Speaker 5: Already those So today we have a very special and

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Speaker 1: Thomas and Thomas.

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Speaker 2: What's up?

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Speaker 1: Thanks for having me tell me about today?

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Speaker 3: What's the main thing? What is the main thing?

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Speaker 6: The main thing is the main thing?

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Speaker 3: Right, That's what it is and it always has been

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Speaker 3: and always will be.

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Speaker 6: Yes, I'm always.

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Speaker 5: Before we even get rolling, really quick, were no, no, no, Kathy,

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Speaker 6: Okay, I'm on the south, so I'll say, and so

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Speaker 5: You were raised properly, very nice, but really quick there's

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Speaker 5: that we read about you. One of your pet peeves

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Speaker 1: Talk to me.

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Speaker 3: I gotta tell you, Thomas, you probably sat next to

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Speaker 7: I'm I'm just to go with the flow, like very nonchalant,

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Speaker 3: So, yeah, Thomas, have you ever head thirty minute connection?

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Speaker 3: Have you ever had a thirty minute connection?

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Speaker 7: I applied delta, so I'm always trying to do one

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Speaker 3: Yeah.

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Speaker 2: That's funny.

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Speaker 3: Okay, So the other thing that I want to ask

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Speaker 3: some days will bring twenty percent, some days you'll bring

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Speaker 3: or whatever. I want to hear about that.

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Speaker 6: Explain, Yeah, yeah, definitely I said that.

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Speaker 7: Actually when I said that, I said that in my

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Speaker 7: And it's just something that I really resonate with, you know,

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Speaker 7: especially watching my parents. You know, as a child, everyone

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Speaker 7: So if if you have a hard day and you

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Speaker 6: I'm going to fill that cup.

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Speaker 1: I'm going to give intake's intake.

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Speaker 3: That is such I mean, it's it's so it's such

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Speaker 3: an obvious thought, but it's such a great kind of

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Speaker 5: There's a lot of people divorced or widowed, and when

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Speaker 7: They both came to the United States with not a

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Speaker 3: Yes, yes, it is absolutely right.

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Speaker 7: My parents stooped together and you know when everyone else was,

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Speaker 7: look at like an ideal marriage, it's someone that's always

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Speaker 1: We all pray for that.

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Speaker 6: So I.

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Speaker 3: Don't know you that well. I mean we've chatted a

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Speaker 7: Yeah, I've been in therapy for for a while now,

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Speaker 6: You know.

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Speaker 3: Mental health helps mental health. It's such a tabloo subject,

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Speaker 5: I ask, like, if you are going on a date

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Speaker 5: them if they've been in therapy? Is that like an

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Speaker 6: Yeah.

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Speaker 7: I think being able to be emotionally intelligent and being

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Speaker 6: I think that's also really important. So it's hard to

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Speaker 7: Where it's where you're where you're basically sharing yourself, right,

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Speaker 5: Into the next roae now and you want to be

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Speaker 5: You know he's not emotionally available.

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Speaker 3: So wait, I have a question. We're beating round the busher.

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Speaker 3: Tell me about dating since you went off the show

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Speaker 3: or a relationship. Let's go spill it. Uh.

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Speaker 7: Dating, dating has been interesting, it's been funny.

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Speaker 1: I feel like you're getting.

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Speaker 1: No, do you feel you got more attention now that

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Speaker 6: Yeah, I definitely. I definitely. People.

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Speaker 7: I get a lot of pointing and staring, usually get

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Speaker 6: Help her out, whether it's checking people in and things

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Speaker 7: And the overwhelming thing that I get is, hey, you

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Speaker 3: I I got it all the time. People. Two things

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Speaker 3: I get all the time. Wow, you're so pretty in person,

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Speaker 3: and you're not mean at all. You're really nice. Thank

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Speaker 6: It was it was quite interesting.

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Speaker 1: I love it and Paradise.

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Speaker 5: How do you feel if that were happening in your future?

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Speaker 6: I think.

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Speaker 3: Wait a minute, are you single?

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Speaker 6: Yeah, I'm single right now?

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Speaker 5: Are you sure something you're not telling us?

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Speaker 3: Like, I don't know? Are you dating Lexi? I mean,

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Speaker 7: Lexie and I are just friends like you and I

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Speaker 3: Who are you dating, spill Thomas, I'm relentless.

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Speaker 6: No one, no one. I'm not dating anyone right now.

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Speaker 7: So I'm just if if I was singled when Paradise

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Speaker 1: You can see yourself on the beach.

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Speaker 6: If you put me close to water. That's where I rhyme.

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Speaker 6: So that's what you happy.

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Speaker 6: Let's start. I think I think having a relationship with

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Speaker 7: My relationship with my family is as massive. My two

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Speaker 7: brothers are my best friends. My sister is like, you know,

444
00:21:12,000 --> 00:21:13,960
Speaker 7: just that little punk sister that you always have and

445
00:21:14,040 --> 00:21:16,120
Speaker 7: like all the stories and so our relationship as a

446
00:21:16,119 --> 00:21:19,680
Speaker 7: family good. Yeah, it's something that I hold very dear

447
00:21:19,720 --> 00:21:23,880
Speaker 7: to me. So having a good relationship with a family more,

448
00:21:23,920 --> 00:21:26,040
Speaker 7: I think, probably a little bit more outgoing. I consider

449
00:21:26,080 --> 00:21:28,840
Speaker 7: myself kind of shy and reserved, so I think that

450
00:21:29,000 --> 00:21:30,000
Speaker 7: yin and yang balance.

451
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Speaker 1: I like this.

452
00:21:30,960 --> 00:21:34,879
Speaker 5: I like this because Kathy and I are very big personalities,

453
00:21:34,920 --> 00:21:37,800
Speaker 5: as you know, and we people have told us, I'm

454
00:21:37,840 --> 00:21:42,600
Speaker 5: sure have told us that we intimidate people. And you

455
00:21:42,720 --> 00:21:45,000
Speaker 5: need to find somebody the same as you. But I

456
00:21:45,119 --> 00:21:48,439
Speaker 5: like what you're saying because you're not as outgoing. You

457
00:21:48,480 --> 00:21:51,480
Speaker 5: want to find somebody that's more comfortable being outgoing.

458
00:21:51,720 --> 00:21:55,480
Speaker 7: So opposite, if my partner is out front, being wild

459
00:21:55,520 --> 00:21:57,640
Speaker 7: and doing if I can be in the back chair

460
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Speaker 7: and or on.

461
00:21:58,440 --> 00:22:02,560
Speaker 3: I love my husband was Thomas. My husband was very

462
00:22:03,119 --> 00:22:07,120
Speaker 3: reserved one on ones. He was great, but he relied

463
00:22:07,160 --> 00:22:09,159
Speaker 3: on me. He would say it all the time. You know.

464
00:22:09,400 --> 00:22:12,000
Speaker 3: We'd go to a cocktail party or something, some work

465
00:22:12,040 --> 00:22:15,119
Speaker 3: event and he was like, do you know, do your magic, Kathy,

466
00:22:15,160 --> 00:22:18,400
Speaker 3: because he hate So I got it. You know exactly

467
00:22:18,440 --> 00:22:19,040
Speaker 3: what you're saying.

468
00:22:19,400 --> 00:22:22,280
Speaker 7: I'm a professional Irish goodbuyer. So if you don't see

469
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Speaker 7: me and I'm gone.

470
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Speaker 1: It takes too much time.

471
00:22:26,440 --> 00:22:28,560
Speaker 6: If my social battery is on e.

472
00:22:28,840 --> 00:22:33,280
Speaker 3: Yeah, we're done here, peace out, peace out. He's gone.

473
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Speaker 5: All right, So we play this little let's not play,

474
00:22:41,359 --> 00:22:44,560
Speaker 5: but we read these questions from our fans and they

475
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Speaker 5: like to get some advice and we'd like you to

476
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Speaker 5: join us.

477
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Speaker 6: You go with that, I'm excited.

478
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Speaker 1: Yeah, Okay, Kathy, you want to go first?

479
00:22:51,800 --> 00:22:56,320
Speaker 3: Okay? Sean asks, Hi, Kathy and Susan. I have a

480
00:22:56,480 --> 00:22:59,480
Speaker 3: serious dilemma that I really need help with. My best

481
00:22:59,480 --> 00:23:03,240
Speaker 3: friend Mike recently started dating this girl Cat. As soon

482
00:23:03,280 --> 00:23:05,560
Speaker 3: as I met Kat, I knew I had a huge

483
00:23:05,800 --> 00:23:08,639
Speaker 3: crush on her. At first, I was just happy for

484
00:23:08,760 --> 00:23:12,800
Speaker 3: Michael because she's hot, and then because she's funny, and

485
00:23:12,840 --> 00:23:15,880
Speaker 3: then because she's really smart. I'm sure you see where

486
00:23:15,920 --> 00:23:19,840
Speaker 3: this is going. I started getting really anxious about it

487
00:23:19,960 --> 00:23:22,480
Speaker 3: this past week after I had a dream about her

488
00:23:22,520 --> 00:23:26,000
Speaker 3: breaking things off with Michael for me. Now I can't

489
00:23:26,040 --> 00:23:31,160
Speaker 3: stop thinking about her, and things have gotten worse. Michael's

490
00:23:31,160 --> 00:23:33,680
Speaker 3: Birthday's coming up and he's been planning a big trip

491
00:23:33,720 --> 00:23:36,639
Speaker 3: to Miami for it, so yesterday he threw us all

492
00:23:36,640 --> 00:23:39,080
Speaker 3: in a group chat. I expected there to be a

493
00:23:39,119 --> 00:23:42,080
Speaker 3: few phone numbers I didn't recognize, but I had all

494
00:23:42,119 --> 00:23:46,160
Speaker 3: of them saved, including Cats. I was really confused since

495
00:23:46,200 --> 00:23:48,760
Speaker 3: I had never texted her in the few weeks I've

496
00:23:48,800 --> 00:23:52,280
Speaker 3: known she even exists. When I went to text her

497
00:23:52,320 --> 00:23:55,320
Speaker 3: individually to make sure it was her number, I saw

498
00:23:55,359 --> 00:23:59,800
Speaker 3: her full contact name, cat name of our local bar.

499
00:24:00,520 --> 00:24:03,840
Speaker 3: Then it all clicked. I met her during a night out,

500
00:24:04,119 --> 00:24:06,480
Speaker 3: got her number, and made out with her at the ball.

501
00:24:07,160 --> 00:24:09,760
Speaker 3: When I looked at the timestamp of when we texted

502
00:24:09,760 --> 00:24:14,480
Speaker 3: to exchange phone numbers, I confirmed there was definitely overlap

503
00:24:14,560 --> 00:24:17,800
Speaker 3: with that night and her and Michael dating. Now I

504
00:24:17,840 --> 00:24:20,520
Speaker 3: have no idea what to do. I don't really have

505
00:24:20,600 --> 00:24:23,280
Speaker 3: the best memory of that night. It was so late

506
00:24:23,359 --> 00:24:26,439
Speaker 3: and we were really drunk. I asked my friends about

507
00:24:26,440 --> 00:24:29,480
Speaker 3: it who were with me that night. They aren't mutual

508
00:24:29,520 --> 00:24:32,760
Speaker 3: friends with Michael, and all they said was we were

509
00:24:32,800 --> 00:24:35,280
Speaker 3: talking for a long time and made out a bunch.

510
00:24:35,560 --> 00:24:37,840
Speaker 3: Then she went home and I went back to my friends.

511
00:24:38,280 --> 00:24:40,919
Speaker 3: As if being around her wasn't difficult enough with my

512
00:24:41,000 --> 00:24:44,040
Speaker 3: feelings towards her, now this is even worse. How am

513
00:24:44,040 --> 00:24:46,320
Speaker 3: I going to spend an entire week in the same

514
00:24:46,400 --> 00:24:50,040
Speaker 3: house as her with my best friend who's her brand

515
00:24:50,080 --> 00:24:54,239
Speaker 3: new boyfriend. I have no idea how to navigate this

516
00:24:54,320 --> 00:24:58,040
Speaker 3: situation and would love any and all advice. Thank you

517
00:24:58,119 --> 00:25:01,199
Speaker 3: so much. Okay, Thomas, I to hear your opinion, but

518
00:25:01,240 --> 00:25:05,480
Speaker 3: you're no. Before you answer, you know what, you know what?

519
00:25:05,560 --> 00:25:09,040
Speaker 3: The entire problem stems from being drunk?

520
00:25:11,320 --> 00:25:16,960
Speaker 7: Okay, tom Oh, I think this is I'm gonna go

521
00:25:17,040 --> 00:25:19,399
Speaker 7: super easy because I'm gonna put this with me and

522
00:25:19,440 --> 00:25:20,240
Speaker 7: my best friends.

523
00:25:20,280 --> 00:25:21,720
Speaker 6: And I have my best friend.

524
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Speaker 7: I would go straight to him and be like, hey, look,

525
00:25:24,000 --> 00:25:28,080
Speaker 7: this is what happened, this is how it happened, and

526
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Speaker 7: how do you feel And if he felt a certain

527
00:25:31,240 --> 00:25:33,160
Speaker 7: way about it, I would move based off of how

528
00:25:33,320 --> 00:25:35,400
Speaker 7: he told me to move, you know. That's how That's

529
00:25:35,400 --> 00:25:37,680
Speaker 7: how I am with my friends. I'm pretty loyal with

530
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Speaker 7: with my friends. I have four guys that I've known

531
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Speaker 7: for seventeen years and those are my only friends. And

532
00:25:42,680 --> 00:25:45,280
Speaker 7: so if I asked them, hey, look, this is what happened.

533
00:25:45,280 --> 00:25:47,760
Speaker 7: If they said no, no worries, like we just started dating,

534
00:25:47,760 --> 00:25:49,359
Speaker 7: it's not a big of a deal, or if they're like, hey,

535
00:25:49,720 --> 00:25:51,439
Speaker 7: I don't want my friends ever.

536
00:25:51,320 --> 00:25:53,439
Speaker 5: Going to give you a heads up? Yeah, but I

537
00:25:53,440 --> 00:25:55,480
Speaker 5: didn't even think of it that way. I think he's

538
00:25:55,520 --> 00:25:57,160
Speaker 5: struggling because he has a crush.

539
00:25:56,960 --> 00:26:02,639
Speaker 3: That's what. But also again, you know, getting drunk and

540
00:26:02,680 --> 00:26:05,520
Speaker 3: making out not rememory what happened never a good recipe.

541
00:26:05,760 --> 00:26:07,360
Speaker 1: But how it's already done.

542
00:26:07,480 --> 00:26:12,640
Speaker 3: It's done, But it's he has a crush, but it's

543
00:26:12,680 --> 00:26:16,160
Speaker 3: a brand new boyfriend. So if your friend came to you,

544
00:26:16,240 --> 00:26:19,360
Speaker 3: Thomas and said, hey, hey, bro, I got to tell

545
00:26:19,359 --> 00:26:21,119
Speaker 3: you I was making out with her. I've got a

546
00:26:21,119 --> 00:26:23,719
Speaker 3: crush on her. But I realize you guys are dating,

547
00:26:23,840 --> 00:26:26,159
Speaker 3: you know, happy to step back? I mean, what are

548
00:26:26,160 --> 00:26:26,840
Speaker 3: you going to say?

549
00:26:27,720 --> 00:26:29,120
Speaker 6: Yeah, there's not much you can't really say.

550
00:26:30,000 --> 00:26:32,080
Speaker 7: If he's got a crush on her, and if I'm

551
00:26:32,119 --> 00:26:36,800
Speaker 7: okay with him liking me or my girlfriend, then that would.

552
00:26:36,640 --> 00:26:39,000
Speaker 6: Be something in service like my security.

553
00:26:39,080 --> 00:26:41,440
Speaker 7: Right if you how do you feel, especially if it's new,

554
00:26:41,760 --> 00:26:44,800
Speaker 7: are you willing to make that feel uncomfortable? Or if

555
00:26:44,840 --> 00:26:47,320
Speaker 7: you feel secure in your relationship, then that's something not

556
00:26:47,400 --> 00:26:48,359
Speaker 7: to worry about, you know.

557
00:26:48,440 --> 00:26:53,080
Speaker 5: And also if he if he contacted her first prior

558
00:26:53,119 --> 00:26:57,120
Speaker 5: to his buddy, that wouldn't look good either. Right then

559
00:26:57,160 --> 00:26:59,479
Speaker 5: he looks like he's going behind. He's got to confront

560
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Speaker 5: the two him. I like what you said first, that

561
00:27:02,160 --> 00:27:05,080
Speaker 5: he should go to his best friend. But as far

562
00:27:05,119 --> 00:27:07,800
Speaker 5: as I think what I took out of this, he's asking,

563
00:27:07,880 --> 00:27:09,679
Speaker 5: how am I going to be in this house? I

564
00:27:09,720 --> 00:27:12,840
Speaker 5: got the hots for my best friend's girlfriend, but you're

565
00:27:12,880 --> 00:27:15,320
Speaker 5: not a good formula. And add liquor to that and

566
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Speaker 5: we got problem.

567
00:27:16,880 --> 00:27:19,000
Speaker 6: Here's what I'm at home.

568
00:27:19,560 --> 00:27:20,360
Speaker 2: I might not go.

569
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Speaker 3: I came down with a sudden case of the flu

570
00:27:23,560 --> 00:27:27,400
Speaker 3: complicated by COVID. But here's what. But I have one

571
00:27:27,400 --> 00:27:30,560
Speaker 3: more question on this. If she was so hot and

572
00:27:30,680 --> 00:27:33,560
Speaker 3: he outer number, and then why didn't he call her?

573
00:27:34,000 --> 00:27:35,320
Speaker 3: That's my next question?

574
00:27:35,440 --> 00:27:36,560
Speaker 1: What was his name again?

575
00:27:36,880 --> 00:27:40,359
Speaker 3: What is sean? Sewn? Sean? Why did you call her?

576
00:27:40,400 --> 00:27:42,679
Speaker 3: If she was that hot and she was in you,

577
00:27:42,960 --> 00:27:46,560
Speaker 3: so you are you a serial bar hopping back up

578
00:27:46,640 --> 00:27:47,800
Speaker 3: girls kind of guy?

579
00:27:48,359 --> 00:27:53,359
Speaker 5: Just right, mind, But that sounds like the dating apps

580
00:27:53,440 --> 00:27:56,040
Speaker 5: out of sight, out of my next one swipe next.

581
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Speaker 1: That's what problem is, all right, don't you agree?

582
00:27:59,840 --> 00:28:00,200
Speaker 7: I know?

583
00:28:01,200 --> 00:28:01,560
Speaker 3: All right?

584
00:28:01,600 --> 00:28:06,080
Speaker 5: This one's from Kelly, Hi, Kathy, and Susan. I need

585
00:28:06,119 --> 00:28:10,080
Speaker 5: an outside opinion on this, so I really hope you

586
00:28:10,160 --> 00:28:10,520
Speaker 5: see this.

587
00:28:10,800 --> 00:28:11,240
Speaker 1: Okay.

588
00:28:12,040 --> 00:28:16,280
Speaker 5: I'm planning my wedding and am dead set on having

589
00:28:16,440 --> 00:28:20,760
Speaker 5: it my dream venue. She wants it at her dream place.

590
00:28:21,160 --> 00:28:24,119
Speaker 5: Nothing else compares to this place. It's so beautiful and

591
00:28:24,160 --> 00:28:26,119
Speaker 5: I fell in love with it as soon as I

592
00:28:26,160 --> 00:28:30,200
Speaker 5: set my eyes on it. For content, It's just about

593
00:28:30,240 --> 00:28:33,000
Speaker 5: an hour away from where I live, so the drive

594
00:28:33,119 --> 00:28:36,520
Speaker 5: is totally doable. However, the only day they have available

595
00:28:36,680 --> 00:28:39,440
Speaker 5: is a Wednesday. As soon as we found out, my

596
00:28:39,520 --> 00:28:43,880
Speaker 5: fiance said, oh, man, well do you want to tour

597
00:28:43,960 --> 00:28:47,040
Speaker 5: the place I showed you yesterday? I was so shocked

598
00:28:47,080 --> 00:28:49,880
Speaker 5: that he wouldn't even consider it. I told him that

599
00:28:49,960 --> 00:28:52,480
Speaker 5: I still wanted to go with that venue, and that

600
00:28:52,560 --> 00:28:56,440
Speaker 5: a Wednesday isn't a big deal. It's not like he

601
00:28:56,760 --> 00:29:01,360
Speaker 5: or I are working that week. I expected my friends

602
00:29:01,400 --> 00:29:03,960
Speaker 5: to be more supportive of me. But when I told

603
00:29:04,000 --> 00:29:07,040
Speaker 5: them how the conversation went down, they were just quiet

604
00:29:07,080 --> 00:29:11,920
Speaker 5: at first. Now I've gotten two yes RSVPs from my

605
00:29:12,240 --> 00:29:17,080
Speaker 5: immediate circle, changed to a maybe maybe on the wedding invitation.

606
00:29:17,600 --> 00:29:21,320
Speaker 5: Our wedding isn't even for another year. It is ridiculous

607
00:29:21,320 --> 00:29:24,480
Speaker 5: of me. I'm glad she's saying it to ask my

608
00:29:24,560 --> 00:29:27,640
Speaker 5: friends and family to go to my wedding on a Wednesday.

609
00:29:27,960 --> 00:29:31,760
Speaker 5: I really think everyone is overreacting, but no one is

610
00:29:31,800 --> 00:29:34,680
Speaker 5: really agreeing with me. I have to give the venue

611
00:29:34,720 --> 00:29:38,080
Speaker 5: an answer, and the deposit is non refundable. Do you

612
00:29:38,200 --> 00:29:41,240
Speaker 5: think my guests will still come? Any advice would be

613
00:29:41,280 --> 00:29:41,960
Speaker 5: so helpful.

614
00:29:42,080 --> 00:29:42,560
Speaker 1: Thank you.

615
00:29:46,000 --> 00:29:48,160
Speaker 3: I think this is a whole much ado about nothing.

616
00:29:48,520 --> 00:29:52,080
Speaker 5: So just for starters. I just did a wedding. I

617
00:29:52,120 --> 00:29:55,640
Speaker 5: performed a ceremony on a Monday night and there were

618
00:29:55,840 --> 00:29:57,200
Speaker 5: a lot of people there.

619
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Speaker 3: What do you think, Thomas he going to a wedding

620
00:29:59,560 --> 00:30:00,280
Speaker 3: on a Weday today?

621
00:30:00,360 --> 00:30:03,120
Speaker 7: It's not as much fun, of course, of course, But

622
00:30:03,320 --> 00:30:06,360
Speaker 7: here the old devil's advocate for the bride.

623
00:30:07,480 --> 00:30:09,760
Speaker 6: Can we do the same venue?

624
00:30:10,200 --> 00:30:12,800
Speaker 7: Push it back, keep the deposit down and say, hey,

625
00:30:12,800 --> 00:30:14,240
Speaker 7: look I really want to be with you guys.

626
00:30:14,480 --> 00:30:17,360
Speaker 6: Can we do a Friday or a Saturday for two years.

627
00:30:17,440 --> 00:30:18,560
Speaker 1: Okay, yeah, okay.

628
00:30:18,760 --> 00:30:21,360
Speaker 3: You're saying, are you saying, Thomas push out the wedding.

629
00:30:21,440 --> 00:30:23,120
Speaker 1: Yeah, so she can get a weekend.

630
00:30:23,680 --> 00:30:25,800
Speaker 7: If you want to have the venue that badly, and

631
00:30:25,840 --> 00:30:28,000
Speaker 7: but you're willing to make a small snack advice a

632
00:30:28,040 --> 00:30:31,719
Speaker 7: little given sake. Hey, fiance, I want the venue. Can

633
00:30:31,760 --> 00:30:33,960
Speaker 7: we move it to eighteen months instead of twelve months away?

634
00:30:35,120 --> 00:30:37,720
Speaker 5: And or she's given people a year's notice who can't

635
00:30:37,760 --> 00:30:38,720
Speaker 5: take off one day?

636
00:30:39,520 --> 00:30:40,560
Speaker 1: You're good friends, you can.

637
00:30:40,800 --> 00:30:43,200
Speaker 3: I think I think you might need to find a

638
00:30:43,200 --> 00:30:43,920
Speaker 3: new friend group.

639
00:30:45,760 --> 00:30:49,240
Speaker 7: My best friend, his wife was eight and a half

640
00:30:49,320 --> 00:30:52,280
Speaker 7: months pregnant, and he flew down to Columbia for my

641
00:30:52,320 --> 00:30:54,240
Speaker 7: brother's wedding and flew back today.

642
00:30:54,800 --> 00:30:55,520
Speaker 3: Or there you go.

643
00:30:55,720 --> 00:30:57,880
Speaker 5: That's what we say, because he's a real friend, a

644
00:30:57,880 --> 00:31:01,120
Speaker 5: real friend, Kelly Luck and you know a lot of

645
00:31:01,160 --> 00:31:02,000
Speaker 5: your stuff will come.

646
00:31:02,320 --> 00:31:03,440
Speaker 3: We're fine, Yeah, we'll come.

647
00:31:03,880 --> 00:31:04,480
Speaker 6: We'll take up.

648
00:31:06,120 --> 00:31:07,520
Speaker 1: As three will be there, we'll.

649
00:31:07,360 --> 00:31:09,840
Speaker 3: Take up Ta Saints. All right, we're gonna move on.

650
00:31:10,040 --> 00:31:14,360
Speaker 3: Carly says Hi, Kathy and Susan. I love your podcast,

651
00:31:14,400 --> 00:31:17,080
Speaker 3: and I really need some advice. I have a group

652
00:31:17,120 --> 00:31:20,040
Speaker 3: of really good friends that I've had since freshman year

653
00:31:20,080 --> 00:31:24,040
Speaker 3: of college. We graduated last year. Recently, my mom came

654
00:31:24,080 --> 00:31:26,720
Speaker 3: to visit me and stayed in my apartment. On one

655
00:31:26,760 --> 00:31:29,200
Speaker 3: of the last nights she was here, my friends and

656
00:31:29,240 --> 00:31:31,720
Speaker 3: I planned a dinner with her so they could all

657
00:31:31,760 --> 00:31:33,960
Speaker 3: meet her. When they all showed up to my apartment

658
00:31:34,000 --> 00:31:37,560
Speaker 3: that night, my three guy friends could not stop staring

659
00:31:37,600 --> 00:31:41,160
Speaker 3: at her. Oh we talked about a Milfair. Okay mom.

660
00:31:41,640 --> 00:31:45,800
Speaker 3: My mom didn't really notice, but I definitely did. Throughout

661
00:31:45,800 --> 00:31:49,320
Speaker 3: the entire dinner, they were complimenting her, trying to charm

662
00:31:49,400 --> 00:31:53,200
Speaker 3: her everything. At first, I was really glad everyone liked

663
00:31:53,240 --> 00:31:55,720
Speaker 3: my mom and made her feel included, But after a

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Speaker 3: while I just started to find it really really annoying.

665
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Speaker 3: I thought would end what she left, But now they

666
00:32:01,840 --> 00:32:05,480
Speaker 3: keep making jokes around me about dating my mom. It's

667
00:32:05,560 --> 00:32:09,000
Speaker 3: nothing distasteful. My mom actually found it all very flattering,

668
00:32:09,280 --> 00:32:11,680
Speaker 3: and all of my friends think it's funny and harmless.

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Speaker 3: I'm just so tired of hearing it constantly. The jokes

670
00:32:14,920 --> 00:32:17,560
Speaker 3: they say around me are like, I don't know your

671
00:32:17,640 --> 00:32:20,840
Speaker 3: mom was an angel, or I'm working on myself so

672
00:32:20,920 --> 00:32:25,480
Speaker 3: I can shoot my shot with my mom's name. Everything

673
00:32:25,520 --> 00:32:27,680
Speaker 3: blew up the other night when we were all going out.

674
00:32:27,840 --> 00:32:29,800
Speaker 3: I was having a tough day at work and wanted

675
00:32:29,840 --> 00:32:32,120
Speaker 3: to blow off steam with my friends in a Friday

676
00:32:32,160 --> 00:32:35,040
Speaker 3: happy hour. I only got two SIPs of my drinking

677
00:32:35,160 --> 00:32:38,000
Speaker 3: before one of the boys made a joke about my mom.

678
00:32:38,400 --> 00:32:40,520
Speaker 3: I threw my drink at him and yelled something like

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00:32:40,800 --> 00:32:45,960
Speaker 3: would you shut the f up already, along with some

680
00:32:46,080 --> 00:32:49,200
Speaker 3: other choice words I had for him. I went to

681
00:32:49,240 --> 00:32:51,720
Speaker 3: the bathroom to cool down, and after my girlfriend's helped

682
00:32:51,760 --> 00:32:54,440
Speaker 3: me relax, they suggested it might be a good idea

683
00:32:54,520 --> 00:32:58,400
Speaker 3: to apologize. Truthfully, that just made me even more matt.

684
00:32:58,600 --> 00:33:00,760
Speaker 3: I bit my tongue because I knew the girls were

685
00:33:00,800 --> 00:33:02,920
Speaker 3: just trying to make me feel better and help me

686
00:33:02,960 --> 00:33:05,320
Speaker 3: have a good night. When I came back to the table,

687
00:33:05,400 --> 00:33:08,640
Speaker 3: I drank my drink and a couple more and ignored

688
00:33:08,680 --> 00:33:11,040
Speaker 3: the boys the whole night. Now, the boys are upset

689
00:33:11,120 --> 00:33:14,800
Speaker 3: with me and our friend groups divided. They understand my frustration,

690
00:33:15,160 --> 00:33:17,960
Speaker 3: especially because of the dad was having, but they don't

691
00:33:18,000 --> 00:33:21,040
Speaker 3: think the guys did anything wrong. What should I do?

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Speaker 5: Love you guys, we want to hear from you, but

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Speaker 5: I only have one word, jealous jelly.

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Speaker 3: What do you think Thomas, I didn't go there, but

695
00:33:32,680 --> 00:33:35,600
Speaker 3: I went there. I didn't go there. You think she's

696
00:33:35,680 --> 00:33:39,360
Speaker 3: jealous of her hot Oh I don't think so. Yep,

697
00:33:39,480 --> 00:33:40,640
Speaker 3: do you think so, Thomas.

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00:33:40,920 --> 00:33:42,680
Speaker 6: I can see that, but I was going to go.

699
00:33:43,960 --> 00:33:47,760
Speaker 7: I had a similar situation happened with with one of

700
00:33:47,800 --> 00:33:49,760
Speaker 7: our friend group as well, And I think that people

701
00:33:49,800 --> 00:33:52,840
Speaker 7: don't know what's wrong, and so they're told what's wrong,

702
00:33:53,080 --> 00:33:54,240
Speaker 7: especially guys.

703
00:33:55,360 --> 00:33:58,960
Speaker 6: I'll happily admit that as well too. So I think

704
00:33:59,000 --> 00:34:02,000
Speaker 6: she told me to share line with a.

705
00:34:01,800 --> 00:34:05,200
Speaker 7: Beard and the cussing, and so I hope that they

706
00:34:05,280 --> 00:34:08,319
Speaker 7: understand now that it bothers her, and then if they

707
00:34:08,320 --> 00:34:09,840
Speaker 7: do it again, that's not someone that you want to

708
00:34:09,840 --> 00:34:11,440
Speaker 7: be around. Like if you have to tell someone more

709
00:34:11,440 --> 00:34:14,320
Speaker 7: than once, hey, this really isn't what I want to

710
00:34:14,360 --> 00:34:16,560
Speaker 7: be around, then those are people that you cut.

711
00:34:16,440 --> 00:34:16,799
Speaker 6: On your own.

712
00:34:16,800 --> 00:34:19,080
Speaker 5: But like you said, she should have addressed it in

713
00:34:19,120 --> 00:34:21,319
Speaker 5: the beginning. Guys, I don't think it's funny like it

714
00:34:21,360 --> 00:34:21,920
Speaker 5: bothers me.

715
00:34:22,160 --> 00:34:25,400
Speaker 3: Yeah, I see, But I don't think she's jealous of

716
00:34:25,719 --> 00:34:28,799
Speaker 3: I think she and I would feel the same way.

717
00:34:28,840 --> 00:34:31,200
Speaker 3: I think she just feels it's weird, like these are

718
00:34:31,239 --> 00:34:33,440
Speaker 3: my friends. That's why I said, Oh, are we in

719
00:34:33,480 --> 00:34:36,800
Speaker 3: a mill situation here? It's just weird. It's weird, right,

720
00:34:37,000 --> 00:34:37,560
Speaker 3: it's weird.

721
00:34:37,960 --> 00:34:38,440
Speaker 6: It's weird.

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00:34:38,520 --> 00:34:42,239
Speaker 5: I don't think so well, you know what, It's just

723
00:34:42,280 --> 00:34:45,000
Speaker 5: like the last question I had twin boys, and it's

724
00:34:45,040 --> 00:34:48,280
Speaker 5: happened that the boys friends always flirted with me, always

725
00:34:48,280 --> 00:34:50,680
Speaker 5: said stuff about my mom, you know, and Nick would

726
00:34:50,680 --> 00:34:53,279
Speaker 5: be laughing like yeah, right in your dreams, and Chris be.

727
00:34:53,200 --> 00:34:56,959
Speaker 1: Like, we'll put you out talk about things like that.

728
00:34:58,200 --> 00:35:01,520
Speaker 3: So yeah, okay, Well, I she might need to look

729
00:35:01,520 --> 00:35:02,439
Speaker 3: into a new friend group.

730
00:35:02,640 --> 00:35:04,040
Speaker 2: I don't know our good luck, sweeting.

731
00:35:04,120 --> 00:35:06,320
Speaker 3: Hey, listen, sweetie, let me just say to you, Carly,

732
00:35:06,800 --> 00:35:09,439
Speaker 3: be glad your mom is so attractive that it's well

733
00:35:09,520 --> 00:35:13,880
Speaker 3: for you. Jeans that genetic thing. It's a thing, Carly,

734
00:35:13,960 --> 00:35:15,280
Speaker 3: So thank you lucky stars.

735
00:35:15,280 --> 00:35:18,479
Speaker 5: So one last thing before we end this, I need

736
00:35:18,520 --> 00:35:21,880
Speaker 5: to know exactly how you feel about what if paradise

737
00:35:21,960 --> 00:35:23,160
Speaker 5: happens or it is going to happen.

738
00:35:23,200 --> 00:35:26,480
Speaker 1: What if you're invited? Are you running? I know you

739
00:35:26,520 --> 00:35:29,440
Speaker 1: said if I'm not in a relationship, but I'm going

740
00:35:29,520 --> 00:35:30,239
Speaker 1: to slow jog.

741
00:35:30,360 --> 00:35:35,160
Speaker 7: Would all right, I'm definitely there are definitely some some

742
00:35:35,280 --> 00:35:38,000
Speaker 7: people and you know, Bachchlin nation is awesome.

743
00:35:38,120 --> 00:35:38,319
Speaker 3: You know.

744
00:35:38,320 --> 00:35:41,040
Speaker 6: The people that I've said it is mean, you know,

745
00:35:41,239 --> 00:35:42,600
Speaker 6: and everyone's stunning, you know.

746
00:35:42,640 --> 00:35:45,239
Speaker 7: And so I'm I'm if the opportunity was there and

747
00:35:45,960 --> 00:35:46,680
Speaker 7: they asked me to.

748
00:35:46,640 --> 00:35:49,280
Speaker 5: Come, is there one person that you're kind of hoping

749
00:35:49,360 --> 00:35:52,200
Speaker 5: would be there if you want to go.

750
00:35:52,840 --> 00:35:54,720
Speaker 6: I'm gonna. I'm going to keep that one to myself.

751
00:35:54,760 --> 00:35:56,600
Speaker 5: But if you don't put it out to the universe,

752
00:35:56,640 --> 00:35:59,080
Speaker 5: then it might not happen. Or she might does she know?

753
00:35:59,480 --> 00:36:01,880
Speaker 3: Does she? Whoever it beat? She knows?

754
00:36:01,960 --> 00:36:03,400
Speaker 1: This is your chance, babe.

755
00:36:03,680 --> 00:36:07,160
Speaker 3: Hey, Thomas, listen, we could be your mother, maybe close

756
00:36:07,200 --> 00:36:12,520
Speaker 3: to your grandmother now mother mother, listen. I know. Yeah,

757
00:36:12,760 --> 00:36:15,520
Speaker 3: I'm telling you, Thomas, if you're interested, put it at

758
00:36:15,560 --> 00:36:18,080
Speaker 3: it known, put it out there. What's the worst thing

759
00:36:18,120 --> 00:36:21,280
Speaker 3: can happen Thomas? She says, yeah, no, thanks, You'll survive.

760
00:36:21,880 --> 00:36:23,720
Speaker 6: I'm gonna I'm going to keep that one in my pocket.

761
00:36:23,719 --> 00:36:26,440
Speaker 3: All right, all right, Wait, I have one more question.

762
00:36:26,680 --> 00:36:28,719
Speaker 3: I see a letter. Are you an athlete? Were you

763
00:36:28,800 --> 00:36:29,919
Speaker 3: an athlete? Yeah?

764
00:36:30,320 --> 00:36:32,360
Speaker 6: Yeah, I was. I was a college swimmer and a

765
00:36:32,400 --> 00:36:33,240
Speaker 6: professional swimmer.

766
00:36:33,320 --> 00:36:36,040
Speaker 3: For wow, wow, what's your stroke?

767
00:36:36,760 --> 00:36:37,320
Speaker 6: Backstroke?

768
00:36:37,600 --> 00:36:41,680
Speaker 3: Backstroke? Wow? That doesn't For this episode of Bachelor Happy

769
00:36:41,680 --> 00:36:44,799
Speaker 3: Hours Golden Hour. Thank you so much Thomas for joining us.

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00:36:44,840 --> 00:36:46,960
Speaker 3: We've had a blast talking with you. I'm sorry we

771
00:36:47,000 --> 00:36:49,960
Speaker 3: couldn't dig her name, but we're going to keep on it.

772
00:36:50,080 --> 00:36:51,439
Speaker 3: We are going to keep on that one.

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00:36:51,640 --> 00:36:53,200
Speaker 2: We love you, we really do.

774
00:36:53,280 --> 00:36:55,680
Speaker 5: And I'm going to secretly DM you and find out

775
00:36:55,719 --> 00:36:56,600
Speaker 5: who this woman is.

776
00:36:57,680 --> 00:37:02,000
Speaker 3: That's what we'll do. Shots were going to keep asking

777
00:37:02,040 --> 00:37:02,880
Speaker 3: you into your spill.

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00:37:03,600 --> 00:37:05,879
Speaker 5: Oh God, thank you all out there for joining us.

779
00:37:05,920 --> 00:37:08,480
Speaker 5: I hope you enjoyed his company as much as we did.

780
00:37:08,560 --> 00:37:11,040
Speaker 5: And we're all going to be curious now. And for

781
00:37:11,120 --> 00:37:13,560
Speaker 5: you guys that wrote in those questions, I hope we

782
00:37:13,680 --> 00:37:14,560
Speaker 5: helped a little bit.

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00:37:14,719 --> 00:37:17,560
Speaker 3: Yeah. And you know what, we that we really love

784
00:37:17,600 --> 00:37:20,200
Speaker 3: giving advice. Thomas had some great advice here, so please

785
00:37:20,960 --> 00:37:23,960
Speaker 3: keep somethitting your questions to us. It's very simple. Just

786
00:37:24,000 --> 00:37:27,520
Speaker 3: go to Bachelor nation dot com, slash Golden Hour, or

787
00:37:27,600 --> 00:37:30,600
Speaker 3: hit us up on social at Bachelor Happy Hour.

788
00:37:30,520 --> 00:37:31,719
Speaker 1: And you guys know what to do.

789
00:37:31,880 --> 00:37:35,120
Speaker 5: Right you're listening to Bachelor Happy Hours Golden Hour on

790
00:37:35,160 --> 00:37:36,960
Speaker 5: the iHeartRadio.

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Speaker 1: App or wherever you listen to your podcast.

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00:37:38,200 --> 00:37:38,960
Speaker 2: It's that easy.

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Speaker 3: Until next time, have a great week.

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Speaker 2: Thank you, Thanks Joel