Speaker 1: Hell, we suck at being newlywged Kylen Miller Key and
Speaker 1: Jared haven An iHeartRadio podcast. All right, welcome back to
Speaker 1: help I Suck at Dating, Kaylin Dean myself here. We
Speaker 1: have a very special guest, a close friend of all
Speaker 1: three of us here on the podcast. She currently lives
Speaker 1: in Los Angeles, California, with another friend of ours and
Speaker 1: they sleep in the same bed. It's kind of weird,
Speaker 1: but I get it because they're engaged. It is Natalie Joy.
Speaker 1: Ladies and gentlemen, Hello, Natalie, how are you hello? What
Speaker 1: an intro? I try sometimes I try so you are
Speaker 1: obviously recording at your house right now. I can tell
Speaker 1: about that gold wall. What do you think about that
Speaker 1: gold wall? When you first saw it? Were you intimidated
Speaker 1: by it? Did you like it? Were you like we
Speaker 1: need to change this whole thing? Or do you love it?
Speaker 1: You know, with the that the previous owner had, it
Speaker 1: was intimidating and a lot. But I feel like since
Speaker 1: I've come in, and when Nick first moved in, he
Speaker 1: got it was very bachelor patty, so like then once
Speaker 1: I came in, I really homed it up yea, and
Speaker 1: feel like it's survibe. He thinks it's for the packers,
Speaker 1: so like, that's well. I see the green plant next
Speaker 1: to it as well, so I get it. Green and gold.
Speaker 1: That's nice. Yeah, we have a green chair too, so
Speaker 1: he's really pushing for it. All right, I get it.
Speaker 1: So how are you? Obviously everybody knows that you are
Speaker 1: currently engaged to Nick Vill do your friend of ours?
Speaker 1: Is it still weird to say engaged? Like do you
Speaker 1: still call Nick your boyfriend? Or or have you progressed
Speaker 1: to like, okay, no, I know he's my fiance. I've progressed,
Speaker 1: but it took me a minute. I would be like, oh,
Speaker 1: me and my boy my fiance Nick, and then he was.
Speaker 1: We'd call each other and it was really disgusting, like gross,
Speaker 1: and we'd be like, hey, fiance. So we got past that. Dan,
Speaker 1: did you do that with Klein? Sure? Don't. I just say, nope,
Speaker 1: just calling my girlfriend until further notice. Dean Klin is like,
Speaker 1: what's up, bro? Exactly? Uh No. We talked about this
Speaker 1: actually occasionally because it is weird to say fiance. It
Speaker 1: just feels like a bit pretentious. I don't know what
Speaker 1: it is about it, but I guess as long as
Speaker 1: you own it and You're just like, yeah, she's my fiance,
Speaker 1: but like it's just you know, until it's a lot
Speaker 1: of questions, Yeah, like when's the wedding, when she get engaged,
Speaker 1: and just a lot of questions that you're like, no, no,
Speaker 1: I'm just addressing the person in my life, right like
Speaker 1: a boyfriend. You don't get that exactly. Yeah, that's so true,
Speaker 1: but you're my girlfriend until September. So sorry, suck it,
Speaker 1: suck it, sucker, Natalie. Are you going to be Natalie Viall?
Speaker 1: I will be yes, w yes. You know, we cannot
Speaker 1: change Nick's last name to his mother's maiden like some
Speaker 1: friends of ours. So yeah, which his mother's maiden is Parker,
Speaker 1: So Nick and Natalie Parker is like, yes, I love that.
Speaker 1: Why not Nick Joy? Nick Joy sounds pretty nice? You know,
Speaker 1: I don't think he would go for that. Do you
Speaker 1: think he would? Yeah? Come on, he's a progressive women's
Speaker 1: rights activist. I feel like he would be interested in
Speaker 1: you're not taking his wife's last name. No, you're so right.
Speaker 1: I need to actually bring that back. It might make
Speaker 1: great content, so like he could be down for it.
Speaker 1: It's true if you take a content approach at them,
Speaker 1: he'll definitely consider it a lot harder. He's in baby,
Speaker 1: He's run that by him all, you know, Natalie. So
Speaker 1: I haven't talked to you guys actually in a while
Speaker 1: since the engagement. I saw the post on Instagram. It
Speaker 1: looked lovely. Can you guys walk us through? And I
Speaker 1: know Jared was there, but could you walk us through
Speaker 1: the whole night from your perspective, because I'm sure for
Speaker 1: you it must have been a whirlwind. Yeah, it was nuts.
Speaker 1: He for like, well, he was building out his studio
Speaker 1: the same time that he was planning this engagement. I
Speaker 1: found out, So he's gone a lot. He was at
Speaker 1: the studio a lot and was constantly on the phone,
Speaker 1: stepping out to take calls and doing all of this
Speaker 1: stuff that I assumed was to do with the studio video.
Speaker 1: And then like a week before he sent me a
Speaker 1: flyer that I now know his publicist made on canvas
Speaker 1: for a Tom Hanks movie premiere and was like, she
Speaker 1: thinks we should go to this. I was like, okay, cool, whatever,
Speaker 1: and she was like you should probably get like hair
Speaker 1: and makeup. But I'm like, okay, like interesting, you never
Speaker 1: told me to do that. So let's say I bet
Speaker 1: He's never said that to you, never in his life.
Speaker 1: He's honestly, he does the opposite. He's like, movie premieres,
Speaker 1: don't do not waste your money, don't. But he's like,
Speaker 1: I'll pay for it. I'll do it. I'm like, okay, okay,
Speaker 1: we're Tom Hanks. But he's like, no, we're gonna meet
Speaker 1: Tom Hanks, like we need to do it. I'm like okay,
Speaker 1: And so I get hair and makeup. The makeup artist
Speaker 1: that I was actually gonna use called me maybe thirty
Speaker 1: minutes before she's supposed to be here, and she was like,
Speaker 1: I have food poisoning. I've been throwing up NonStop, like
Speaker 1: I can't come. It's like, okay, at least tell me
Speaker 1: you have someone else you can send, because I am
Speaker 1: literally about to walking out the door. And so she
Speaker 1: thankfully sent me someone else. We met up with Victorian
Speaker 1: greg at a restaurant in Venice and had dinner with them.
Speaker 1: They apparently were also going to the same movie premiere,
Speaker 1: and we get there. Actually it's so funny because I
Speaker 1: brought this up to Nick. I was like, we're in
Speaker 1: the car on the way to Venice. It's like forty
Speaker 1: five minute drive from where we live, and the entire
Speaker 1: time he does not look at his phone, not once,
Speaker 1: and I'm like, this is so unlike him. I'm like,
Speaker 1: this is so weird. Why has he not checked his phone?
Speaker 1: Later on I find out obviously, I was like, phone
Speaker 1: is blowing up with people coming to the house or
Speaker 1: like asking questions, setting up or whatever. But um so,
Speaker 1: then we pull up to this random warehouse in Venice.
Speaker 1: It's like an art gallery. There's a line of people.
Speaker 1: There's a woman with like a clipboard. She's like, Hi,
Speaker 1: I want to be checking everyone in, like checking your IDs,
Speaker 1: and then everyone goes in one by one. It's an
Speaker 1: immersive experience, like everyone goes in before me. There's a
Speaker 1: girl behind. He's got these extras there that are acting
Speaker 1: like they're all going to and they're like, oh, are
Speaker 1: you so excited to meet Tom Hanks? Like very much
Speaker 1: playing into it. And then she goes, oh, no purses
Speaker 1: are allowed in there. Because I was holding my bag,
Speaker 1: I was like, okay, well where's it gonna go? And
Speaker 1: the extra was like, oh she told me that too,
Speaker 1: so they were really playing into it. She took my purse.
Speaker 1: She's like, all right, it's your turn. I walk in
Speaker 1: and see all the handles and the TV and he's
Speaker 1: talking to me, and it's pretty crazy. That's such a
Speaker 1: small detail. That's quite genius. The fact I would never
Speaker 1: have thought about you holding your purse when you walked in.
Speaker 1: I know you would have had to. It would have
Speaker 1: kind of broken up the moment because you would have
Speaker 1: had to hand it to somebody or put it down
Speaker 1: or hold it while he was, you know, putting the
Speaker 1: ring on your finger. Wow, read thought out. You know.
Speaker 1: So did Nick know about the makeup artist, because I
Speaker 1: feel like he would have freaked the hell out if
Speaker 1: he found out, like the makeup artists canceled the thirty
Speaker 1: minutes before it was pros. I think I texted his
Speaker 1: publicist first, who she was like, obviously knew everything that
Speaker 1: was happening. So I texted her and she was like,
Speaker 1: oh my gosh, okay, like we're finding someone. I'm messaging
Speaker 1: everyone that I know. Like she was definitely freaking out too,
Speaker 1: So I don't think I told him afterwards and he
Speaker 1: was like, oh, that's pretty crazy. Well so from what
Speaker 1: we saw on Instagram. So you walk in, then there's
Speaker 1: the video and then Nick comes down the stairs, and
Speaker 1: then after that you guys then go to a separate room.
Speaker 1: I guess, right, or how did that all work? No,
Speaker 1: So I walk in, saw all the candles, the screen
Speaker 1: as him talking to me. It's like a five minute
Speaker 1: video probably, and then at the end of it he's like, now,
Speaker 1: if you'll just look up, and he comes down the
Speaker 1: stairs of this loft and he proposes. And then obviously
Speaker 1: we had a videographer camera there who were two of
Speaker 1: our good friends, and we just stayed in that room
Speaker 1: and they took a bunch of pictures and kept videoing
Speaker 1: it and whatnot. And then we got in the car
Speaker 1: and went back to our house and posted. So we
Speaker 1: had to get the post up before, so Sarah, the
Speaker 1: photographers like editing the photos on then from finish to
Speaker 1: our house. Um, and as soon as we walk in
Speaker 1: we hit post and then walk into the house and
Speaker 1: all of our you know, family and friends, they are
Speaker 1: screaming and nice. Do you remember what Nick said? Did
Speaker 1: he say anything? I know he had the video, but
Speaker 1: did he say anything to you in person? Or when
Speaker 1: he got down on one knee he said, hey, baby,
Speaker 1: said are you ready? Yes? And he said okay, and
Speaker 1: he got down on one knee said wayman or. He said, well,
Speaker 1: you spend the rest of your life with me, and
Speaker 1: I said yes, and he was like, okay, wait, I
Speaker 1: have to ask you to carry me now. So it's cute.
Speaker 1: That is cute. Can are you wearing the rank and
Speaker 1: you hold it up to the camera for us? Oh?
Speaker 1: You gotta okay, I gotta click. Oh, very pretty beautiful,
Speaker 1: very pretty well. But it's great, he did great. Have
Speaker 1: you started wedding planning? Have you jumped into it? Are
Speaker 1: you like taking the time? We have started, like the
Speaker 1: talking about it. We've started figuring out a guest list
Speaker 1: and if we want big or small. We've talked about
Speaker 1: kind of where um, and we think we might have
Speaker 1: our where figured out, um, but we don't know where
Speaker 1: as in like you picked out a venue or you
Speaker 1: just know kind of the city in place you're gonna
Speaker 1: get married. I mean, it's still in the works, but
Speaker 1: I think we're gonna do like my family's farmhouse, um,
Speaker 1: and just kind of like bring it back to the
Speaker 1: south and it we can have as many people as
Speaker 1: we want there and kind of do whatever we want.
Speaker 1: So I was going to ask you that was gonna
Speaker 1: be big because you're from the South, and I feel
Speaker 1: like Southern girls like good ways. But also we just
Speaker 1: have massive families, like he's one of eleven, I'm one
Speaker 1: of seven. Like there's just it's gonna be hard to
Speaker 1: have a small wedding, but I think we might try
Speaker 1: for under one hundred for sure. So do you feel
Speaker 1: do you feel like you're at a disadvantage in the
Speaker 1: relationship right now because Nick's been engaged so many times
Speaker 1: and this is your first time. Well, I feel like
Speaker 1: this is the first time, he said, out of all
Speaker 1: the times he's been engaged, that he's ever talked about
Speaker 1: a wedding. So that was my follow up question. I
Speaker 1: bet you he's further along with this engagement than he
Speaker 1: ever has in the past. That's that's very good. That's
Speaker 1: a very good sign. We're happy to hear that. Yeah,
Speaker 1: and I was just messing. I think I think he
Speaker 1: probably would make that same joke very often. But my
Speaker 1: next I mean, it's great that he pulled out all
Speaker 1: the stops for the proposal, because next time I propose
Speaker 1: to someone, I'm definitely gonna havel ask it as you
Speaker 1: should for sure. Michael turned out for a second and
Speaker 1: I came, oh, I know it is next time I
Speaker 1: propose to some one, it's gonna be just ok I
Speaker 1: get it for sure. It was last week we had
Speaker 1: Serena on and she said, Joe's very involved. Do you
Speaker 1: think Nick will be pretty involved? Yeah? I think there'll
Speaker 1: be a lot of places where he's like, I don't really,
Speaker 1: I don't know, you just do I don't know, But
Speaker 1: I do think he will have at least for sure
Speaker 1: one hundred percent the guest list so particular about he's coming.
Speaker 1: He already told me he's like, I'm excited to ask
Speaker 1: people and can't come, Like, Okay, I feel like Nick
Speaker 1: will be a good groom Zella. He'll he'll care for
Speaker 1: the important things and he'll definitely like take a firm
Speaker 1: stance on it. I feel like a groom zilla percent
Speaker 1: will be Yeah, do you see yourself being a bridezill
Speaker 1: at all? No? I mean, I guess it's like not really.
Speaker 1: I'm a pretty chill person, and I guess if it
Speaker 1: just but I also am feel like I'm a virgo.
Speaker 1: I am a virgo, and so I feel like I
Speaker 1: just feel like I am virgo. So no, but I'm
Speaker 1: very I do have a way that I like things
Speaker 1: so I maybe in that aspect of like how I
Speaker 1: don't know table settings. Look, it was fun, but I
Speaker 1: feel like I could be particular about stuff like that.
Speaker 1: But I feel I think that's good though, because that's
Speaker 1: how I've been. I'm very decisive and I'm like, this
Speaker 1: is what I want, and I think it makes it
Speaker 1: a lot easier, not necessarily like bridezilla esque, just like
Speaker 1: it gets done quicker and how you want. Maybe that
Speaker 1: is a bride sail. Maybe I'm a bridezil. I don't know.
Speaker 1: My biggest advice for both of you, having helped play
Speaker 1: a wedding and been pretty involved, is that just make
Speaker 1: sure that you do what you want to do. Don't
Speaker 1: be afraid to ask people, not only for help, but
Speaker 1: like a good example that we always say is Ashley
Speaker 1: and I. We were a little bit of bride I
Speaker 1: guess and groom Zilla's but like the band, the band
Speaker 1: was wonderful and they really catered to us, which was
Speaker 1: great because we gave them a set list and we said, hey, listen,
Speaker 1: we would love for you guys to play it our wedding,
Speaker 1: but these are the songs that we want played within
Speaker 1: like the hour and a half and if you could
Speaker 1: do it, great and if you can't, then thank you
Speaker 1: so much, but we're gonna go with somebody else. And
Speaker 1: they were like, yeah, no problem, will learn them good
Speaker 1: to go. And it was great because it was all
Speaker 1: the music we wanted to hear, and music obviously plays
Speaker 1: a big factor into it. And so just like stuff
Speaker 1: like that, like we asked, you know, a lot of
Speaker 1: these people especially for you guys. I mean, all these
Speaker 1: vendors are going to cater to you. So it's like,
Speaker 1: you know, what you guys want, They're gonna want to
Speaker 1: make sure that they do to the best of their ability.
Speaker 1: So that would be my advice because I feel like
Speaker 1: so many people kind of sacrifice some of the things
Speaker 1: that they want because like, you know, I don't know
Speaker 1: that's my best advice. I don't know if I said
Speaker 1: that properly, but there we go. That makes sense. That
Speaker 1: definitely makes sense. We ran in we are at a
Speaker 1: Miranda Kerr event and she was like, I'll give you
Speaker 1: one piece of advice for wedding planning, and she was like,
Speaker 1: go smaller and only worry about yourselves. She was like,
Speaker 1: be in the moment with each other, like don't worry
Speaker 1: about how we need to go say hello to them,
Speaker 1: we need to say we need to just like don't
Speaker 1: even worry about that, like just be in the moment
Speaker 1: with each other. And so that's why I feel like
Speaker 1: we definitely might go smaller and just I don't know,
Speaker 1: not worry about it. Yeah, it's gonna be hard you
Speaker 1: guys go small though, because, like you said, you're it's
Speaker 1: going to add up so freaking fast, because you obviously
Speaker 1: need to invite your entire family. You come from the South,
Speaker 1: so you have a lot of people I feel like
Speaker 1: to get together. And then Nick obviously comes from a
Speaker 1: very big family. And Nick also has his Bachelor so
Speaker 1: he has his personal friends and family, but he also
Speaker 1: has Bachelor that he's going to invite like a lot
Speaker 1: of people from. So man, yeah, it's gonna be tough
Speaker 1: for you guys. He's got his like before Bachelor life,
Speaker 1: Bachelor life after Bachelor life. Yeah, and all of my
Speaker 1: families in the South, so I can't not invite people
Speaker 1: who live in the state, you know. I mean, you
Speaker 1: guys had probably what I'd say, I guess fifth fifty
Speaker 1: people at your engagement party. I don't know if that's
Speaker 1: a good Yeah, probably, Yeah, so think of it. So
Speaker 1: that was just your engagement party, so you can only
Speaker 1: double that. There's no and that was just my mom,
Speaker 1: Like none of my siblings came. Yeah. M So do
Speaker 1: you have a plan for like a date for the
Speaker 1: wedding yet or is that still being considered. It's still
Speaker 1: kind of being considered. I would love a fall wedding,
Speaker 1: I think, just because if it is going to be
Speaker 1: in the South, it's like the prettiest time, um and
Speaker 1: like mosquitoes are kind of gone, you know, I gotta
Speaker 1: worry about the gnats aren't out. So I think Fall
Speaker 1: for sure. But if we end up doing it somewhere else,
Speaker 1: like if we do it in California, then it's like
Speaker 1: the weather is nice, I mean not including now, but
Speaker 1: is typically nice all year round. So I don't know,
Speaker 1: but probably Sorry, have you got no wedding planner yet? No? Okay.
Speaker 1: That was the first thing I did because I got
Speaker 1: so overwhelmed. I was like, there's so much that I
Speaker 1: don't know, Like you have your Pinterest all pinned and everything,
Speaker 1: and then you're like, oh, there's so many logistics. So yeah,
Speaker 1: that was the first thing I did, and it helped
Speaker 1: a lot. How soon did you get one? Well, I
Speaker 1: really like to plan. It's just like, I really enjoying this.
Speaker 1: So the second we got engaged, I started looking at
Speaker 1: wedding dresses and then I think I hired the wedding
Speaker 1: planner like two or three weeks later. Oh okay, yeah,
Speaker 1: I'm definitely EN's most excited about planning the wedding instead
Speaker 1: of actually getting married. Yeah, I'm oh my gosh, no,
Speaker 1: I'm excited to marry you and get and live in Denver,
Speaker 1: Colorado or asking a uniform. Hopefully we're going there next
Speaker 1: week today Denver. My brother is a strong man competitions. Yeah,
Speaker 1: that's fun. I remember when I when I was a kid,
Speaker 1: I used to watch the crap out of those strongman
Speaker 1: competition Metric's World's Strongest Man. I used to watch every
Speaker 1: single week, and yeah, they're nuts. They're incredibly strong. So
Speaker 1: good LuxI really that's gonna be awesome. I know it's crazy. Um,
Speaker 1: if you guys, so, if you guys do a fall wedding,
Speaker 1: if that's what you end up going with in the
Speaker 1: South at your family farm, would you try and turn
Speaker 1: around quickly for this coming fall or would you wait
Speaker 1: until next fall? That's the thing. The next fall feels
Speaker 1: so far away that it's like, can totally do it
Speaker 1: this year, But then you think about everything you have
Speaker 1: to plan and get together, and then it's saved the Date.
Speaker 1: I feel like Save the Date should have been sent
Speaker 1: out a month ago, so like, now you know, I
Speaker 1: don't know, it'll probably most likely be next fall, but
Speaker 1: which is sad. Yeah, like it's just hard to I mean,
Speaker 1: I guess girls in the South they're together when four
Speaker 1: months or something, so I could probably do it. I
Speaker 1: really put my heads true. Well, I remember Nick saying
Speaker 1: he wanted a fast engagement. I know we both do.
Speaker 1: We both do, but maybe since we're going to go smaller,
Speaker 1: it might be easier to plant. I need to get
Speaker 1: a wedding planner. I need to talk to someone because
Speaker 1: Nick and I need a wedding plan Nothing about the
Speaker 1: wedding are just like talking about this and we're not
Speaker 1: helping each other. So no, I was wedding planners is
Speaker 1: going to be very helpful. I was not down for
Speaker 1: the idea of a wedding planner. At first. We had
Speaker 1: our friend Troy, and I mean, if he wants Troy, Troy,
Speaker 1: there's nobody better in the world. And plus Troy is
Speaker 1: he's gonna make it so much fun planning, you know,
Speaker 1: because he really just became a part of our family. It. Yeah,
Speaker 1: so if you guys, I couldn't recommend a better wedding
Speaker 1: planner than Troy Williams. But we so, you know, because
Speaker 1: it is expensive to get a wedding planner, and you're like,
Speaker 1: and I remember just being like Ashley, we can just
Speaker 1: plan ourselves with like, I love Troy, but you know,
Speaker 1: we should probably save the money and put it into
Speaker 1: the wedding. And I could not have been more wrong.
Speaker 1: If we didn't have Troy, we would have been One
Speaker 1: it wouldn't have been as enjoyable, and two it just
Speaker 1: wouldn't have been nearly nearly as memorable as it was,
Speaker 1: because there's so many logistics, not only leading up with
Speaker 1: the day of, because you don't, like you said, you
Speaker 1: don't want to worry about those things, like Miranda gave
Speaker 1: you good device. You should not be worrying about anything
Speaker 1: except you and Nick. And you know obviously you your
Speaker 1: mom or anybody else who's very close with you. You You
Speaker 1: want to make sure that they're having a good time.
Speaker 1: And so like a wedding planner's job is to make
Speaker 1: sure that they cater to everybody else, so you can
Speaker 1: just focus on yourself and enjoy every aspect of the
Speaker 1: wedding because of the day really only is about YouTube. Yeah,
Speaker 1: he said your wedding like the best he's ever been to.
Speaker 1: So doesn't he end up saving you a bunch of
Speaker 1: money too? Like you buy, you pay however much for
Speaker 1: the wedding planner, and then they end up getting you
Speaker 1: discounts on other things or something like that. That's just yeah.
Speaker 1: It's also like us use a utilizing you know, the
Speaker 1: our social and the name recognition as we will should
Speaker 1: because anybody who doesn't try to save money, I don't
Speaker 1: know what to tell you. To tell you, Yeah, well
Speaker 1: we're saving as much money as we can and we're
Speaker 1: still spending way too much of it expensive. All right? Yeah?
Speaker 1: Um oh, I had a question. I can't remember what
Speaker 1: it is now. I've got a question, fun stuff. Have
Speaker 1: you tried on any wedding dresses yet? No? I went
Speaker 1: to Paris right after we got engaged with some girlfriends,
Speaker 1: and I was like, this will be so fun to
Speaker 1: do in Paris, like to try on some wedding dresses
Speaker 1: and then It was like two days after we got engaged,
Speaker 1: and it was freezing cold, and I was there for
Speaker 1: eight days and I was missed. I was like, I
Speaker 1: need to get home, like I'm missing so much. This
Speaker 1: is a planned trip, like I don't need to be here.
Speaker 1: And so I didn't do anything. I just wanted to
Speaker 1: get home. But I've looked at some places in California
Speaker 1: to go to. So yeah, I remember what my question was,
Speaker 1: are you guys, especially both coming from big families, thinking
Speaker 1: about having a big family of your own. Yes, I
Speaker 1: would love. I tell Nic all the time. I want
Speaker 1: like a little army. I want a little tribe. And
Speaker 1: but I my mom has always said, I mean my
Speaker 1: mom had four, my dad had seven. So my mom
Speaker 1: is always like, if you can't fit him in one
Speaker 1: car like you're doing, that's like you got to stop.
Speaker 1: When you can't say, well, you're just gonna need a
Speaker 1: big ass car, then that's it. Like I'll just drive
Speaker 1: a school bus. It is fine. Um, but no, I
Speaker 1: definitely think we're we're three four kind of people. Maybe,
Speaker 1: but we'll definitely see how Like I don't know how
Speaker 1: I carried children. I don't know, no, of course, I
Speaker 1: mean there's a lot that goes into it. Yeah. Yeah,
Speaker 1: I saw Ashley go through hers, so I know. But
Speaker 1: we're you know, we're going to try for another kid
Speaker 1: as well. Um, and so that says a lot about
Speaker 1: Ashley because she's the one who has to carry, and
Speaker 1: she threw for seven months. And you know, it's so
Speaker 1: funny that we talked about pregnancy because it's pregnancy is
Speaker 1: so difficult, and then you have the kid and then
Speaker 1: you're like, oh, okay, now, not only did I just
Speaker 1: get through nine months of having my body just do
Speaker 1: things I never thought were possible and having an awful
Speaker 1: time most of the time. Hopefully you know, you don't
Speaker 1: go through that. But then all of a sudden, it's like, Okay,
Speaker 1: now I have to raise a child. I just I
Speaker 1: give all the credit the world to women. Men. We're lucky,
Speaker 1: the lucky ones, I'd say. I still I'm still bumbed.
Speaker 1: I'll never get to experienced childbirth. I think it's got
Speaker 1: to be one of the best things a person can
Speaker 1: experience in the lifetime. You want to grow a little
Speaker 1: baby inside your belly. I think there is probably nothing
Speaker 1: I'm like, obviously, I'm an adrenaline junkie and I like
Speaker 1: doing things like that. I think there's probably no more
Speaker 1: satisfying adrenaline rush than having a baby. What do I mean,
Speaker 1: like going into labor or having the baby grow inside
Speaker 1: of you, particularly the delivery portion of it. That the
Speaker 1: growth process probably sucks, but I'm just saying that it's
Speaker 1: like one of the like essentially is like the cornerstone
Speaker 1: for life itself, and so for a girl to be
Speaker 1: able to have that experience, you know, it's painful, it
Speaker 1: sucks a lot of the time, but with hindsight, I'm
Speaker 1: sure it's probably one of the most magical experiences you
Speaker 1: could ever experience. And as a guy, I'll never get
Speaker 1: to experience that. It kind of sucks, that's true. Maybe
Speaker 1: one day they'll make it possible for you. Yeah, maybe, Yeah,
Speaker 1: we could only be so lucky. So, Klin, if you
Speaker 1: and Dean ever have the wonderful privilege of having children
Speaker 1: one day, hopefully Dean is not in your face when
Speaker 1: you're in the delivery room saying, do you know how
Speaker 1: lucky you are you experience this? Do you understand it? Luckily?
Speaker 1: What are you feeling right now? I'm saying, man, I
Speaker 1: know it's probably not the right thing to say. But
Speaker 1: I'm telling you, you guys are lucky to be able
Speaker 1: to back. That's all I'm saying. Have you guys ever
Speaker 1: seen there? Is that? Uh, it's like a little cartoon
Speaker 1: clip of they've developed a new technology that you can
Speaker 1: transfer the pain from the mom to the dad when
Speaker 1: they're giving birth. Have you guys ever seen that? Oh no,
Speaker 1: it's stupid, but I want to I want to explain
Speaker 1: it that if no one's ever seen it. Wait, but
Speaker 1: there is a thing where you can like strap on
Speaker 1: to your body to emulate contractions. So while I'm giving birth,
Speaker 1: you should strap to your abdomen, right, Okay, I'll do that. Well,
Speaker 1: that's essentially what the cartoon is. It's like the doctor,
Speaker 1: it's like there's an experimental procedure where you can transfer
Speaker 1: the pain to the father of the baby. And he's
Speaker 1: and they're like, all right, let's do it, transfer fifty
Speaker 1: percent of the pain. And the dad's like sitting there like, hey,
Speaker 1: you know what, this actually isn't so bad. You know,
Speaker 1: turn it up to seventy five and turns up to
Speaker 1: seventy five and the dad's sitting there, he's like, oh,
Speaker 1: you know this isn't bad at all. And then he
Speaker 1: gets a call from his best friend and he goes, dude,
Speaker 1: I'm having the worst pain in my life right now.
Speaker 1: What's going on? And it looks at the doctor and
Speaker 1: you go turn it up two hundred. That's that's a
Speaker 1: stupid joke. But if I could do it, Kyl and
Speaker 1: I would. I want to be there with you though.
Speaker 1: I think this is great. Then we can be in
Speaker 1: pain together and see it will be more connected than
Speaker 1: ever exactly. I think this is great. Yeah, well, I
Speaker 1: mean we're still so far away from having children, so
Speaker 1: I guess ten more years, yeah, ten more years. What's
Speaker 1: your timeline for kids, do you think, Natalie? You know,
Speaker 1: hopefully tomorrow tomorrow. Yeah, let start practicing soon. Okay, I
Speaker 1: don't know, maybe that's an appropriate question to ask, But like,
Speaker 1: let's say now that you guys are engaged, is there
Speaker 1: like any because I think Kaylin and I have talked
Speaker 1: about this before, like a pre wedding child, you know, like,
Speaker 1: what would you do in that case. I'm definitely not
Speaker 1: against that, I feel like now, I mean, I always
Speaker 1: just wanted some sort of commitment of spending our lives together.
Speaker 1: So whether it's being engaged or being married, Like, I
Speaker 1: don't really care which happens first. I think it could
Speaker 1: be fun to have a bit you're you know, you're
Speaker 1: firstborn at your wedding or you know. I don't know,
Speaker 1: I could be I could be down with that. I
Speaker 1: don't think. We're definitely not not trying. Who knows. Okay,
Speaker 1: so you guys are you guys are sexually active? Very nice? Yes,
Speaker 1: that's dope. Yeah, that's not the best things I've heard
Speaker 1: all day. I don't know what it is. Yeah, we're
Speaker 1: sexually active. I don't know. I would like the conception
Speaker 1: that happened right after this podcast, but I will guess.
Speaker 1: And then yeah, make sure, yeah, you give credit to
Speaker 1: your firstborn, give credit to help we suck at being newlyweds. Yeah, obviously, yes,
Speaker 1: it will be named that. Yeah, because I'm curious, you know,
Speaker 1: And it's a conversation that I'm sure you guys have
Speaker 1: had because you know, Nick is in his early forties.
Speaker 1: I mean, he's twenty seven at heart, and he looks
Speaker 1: twenty seven. But if you guys do have multiple kids,
Speaker 1: you know, I'm sure he wants to be young enough
Speaker 1: to be able to experience things with them, so because
Speaker 1: that's a factor totally. You know. You know, we always
Speaker 1: talking about women's age, but like you know, men's age too,
Speaker 1: So I'm sure that you guys want to start trying
Speaker 1: sooner rather than later, especially if you're thinking about halving
Speaker 1: like three or four kids. Yeah. Absolutely, And I feel
Speaker 1: like I was born to be a mother, so I like,
Speaker 1: I truly that's all I want in life. So whenever
Speaker 1: we're on, whenever happens, I will be so happy, nice.
Speaker 1: And you're still young, right, you're like twenty five, twenty four,
Speaker 1: twenty four, yeah, oh yeah, you got your prime, baby, baby, Yeah,
Speaker 1: so that could happen after this podcast, you know what
Speaker 1: I'm saying, Very nice, very nice. Well, baby, I understand
Speaker 1: like the risk factors of as you get older and
Speaker 1: being pregnant as a woman, But like one of my
Speaker 1: neighbors in Las Vegas is thirty six, and she's like
Speaker 1: the healthiest person I know, and not that I know
Speaker 1: her that well, but she's like, yeah, the doctors say
Speaker 1: that I'm a geriatric pregnancy, high risk of this, this
Speaker 1: and this, and I'm like, I'm thirty six years old.
Speaker 1: It's not even that old, you know, So I think
Speaker 1: it's craziculous. Ashley's going through the same thing right now,
Speaker 1: because we're gonna start like really I mean not that
Speaker 1: like very similar. We would like we don't not try,
Speaker 1: but we're not trying, you know, so because it took
Speaker 1: us about seven months the first time, and you know,
Speaker 1: Ashley would I think technically be a I always forget
Speaker 1: how to say that. Jerry as jeriatric pregnancy, which is insane.
Speaker 1: She's only thirty five, but thirty five apparently is when
Speaker 1: he can start happening. So it's like, you know, it's
Speaker 1: your chances just go up to have more issues, and
Speaker 1: it's like, good god, it's it's crazy. So anyway, well,
Speaker 1: at least you got ten years, Natalie to not be carus.
Speaker 1: It's a long time man. Yea. Well, hey, we're so
Speaker 1: happy for you. We're excited for you. Guys. What else
Speaker 1: is the anything else you want to ask Natalie before
Speaker 1: we say goodbye? Well? Yeah, so you guys are living
Speaker 1: in California. I know we're wrapping up the podcast soon.
Speaker 1: So are you guys staying in California? I know you
Speaker 1: might have the wedding down south near your family, but
Speaker 1: you guys, see yourself spent staying in Californy for quite
Speaker 1: some time. And then also if you could tell our
Speaker 1: audience a little bit of what you do for work,
Speaker 1: because it's pretty interesting. Yeah. I do think we'll probably
Speaker 1: stay in California. This is just where his career is,
Speaker 1: and you know, with what I do, I am able
Speaker 1: to work from anywhere, So I think we'll probably stay here.
Speaker 1: We love this house. I don't think we'll ever sell
Speaker 1: this house else if anything will once we start having children,
Speaker 1: will just kind of keep it as an investment property
Speaker 1: and rent it out or whatnot. But I definitely think
Speaker 1: we'll stay in California, maybe moved to the outskirts and
Speaker 1: just kind of find a little bit more room somewhere. Neighborhoodie. Yeah,
Speaker 1: you know, I would love to have some chickens, so
Speaker 1: like somewhere where we can have some chickens. That's random.
Speaker 1: Why do you want chickens? Because I love chickens. I
Speaker 1: love like going getting your own eggs and just it's
Speaker 1: just a very wholesome. Do you do you eat chickens? Yes?
Speaker 1: Do you think you'd have to stop eating chickens if
Speaker 1: you had chickens as pets? Well, you have them now
Speaker 1: in Georgia, don't you. Yeah, we have them. Yeah, No,
Speaker 1: I don't think it. Oh my gosh, like is gonna
Speaker 1: come off? Might? No? I know. The reason I ask
Speaker 1: is because I love bacon, I love ham and there
Speaker 1: is a friend I forget who it even was. But
Speaker 1: they have a pig in this pig is adorable and
Speaker 1: apparently pigs had the intelligence of a three year old.
Speaker 1: And I'm like, you gotta be kidding me, Like I so,
Speaker 1: I don't know what to do because I think that
Speaker 1: would be harder, Like, yeah, I feel like a pig
Speaker 1: versus like a chicken. Maybe might be a little different,
Speaker 1: but pigs have more personality. Yeah, you can cuddle a pig.
Speaker 1: You can't really cuddle a chicken. No, you don't want
Speaker 1: to cudle a chicken will be painful. Um, all right,
Speaker 1: so you want chickens fresh? My brother has chickens, he said. Okay,
Speaker 1: so quick story about chickens. My brother has chickens. They
Speaker 1: got like twelve of them when they were babies. But
Speaker 1: apparently you can't tell the difference between a chicken and
Speaker 1: a rooster at a young age, and so you just
Speaker 1: buy twelve chickens. Hope they're all chickens, but if they're roosters,
Speaker 1: you have to get some you get rid of them,
Speaker 1: and you would kill them and eat them essentially. So
Speaker 1: he was like terrified to have to do that to
Speaker 1: some chicken that he couldn't have because the roosters can't
Speaker 1: make eggs. And so he had twelve chickens and like
Speaker 1: four of them are roosters, which is actually not bad,
Speaker 1: you know, sixty six percent of them roosters. I'm sorry
Speaker 1: our chickens. And he like went to kill the four roosters.
Speaker 1: And he had like, you know, raised these chickens that
Speaker 1: now for like a couple of months, and he was
Speaker 1: so attached to them he couldn't kill them. So he's
Speaker 1: just like iiked up into the mountains and set the
Speaker 1: set the roosters free into the mouth and got the
Speaker 1: roosters probably got brutally murdered after that and eating alive
Speaker 1: one hundred percent was like they definitely died that day,
Speaker 1: but like at least it wasn't by my hands, you know.
Speaker 1: Or are they're thriving out there? Why they could be? Yeah,
Speaker 1: they could they could be really could be the roosters king.
Speaker 1: They could be running the wild right now. Um, all right,
Speaker 1: so you want to stay in La maybe live out
Speaker 1: in the outskirts, and then tell us a little bit
Speaker 1: about what you do for work. I am a surgical technologist,
Speaker 1: so I assist surgeons in the operating room, which is
Speaker 1: pretty crazy. It's just me and the operating on someone.
Speaker 1: I used to do a lot of like full body
Speaker 1: reconstructive like car crash, gunshot wounds, crazy stuff in Georgia,
Speaker 1: and now I'm with an ocular facial plastic surgeon, so
Speaker 1: it's a lot of like I work, which is still
Speaker 1: really cool. It's a lot of like car crashes, people
Speaker 1: come in with, like we can fix any sort of
Speaker 1: eye problem. It's not like conjunctivitis or anything like that.
Speaker 1: Like it's it's more of the cosmetic part. But he's
Speaker 1: the guy I worked for, is probably the best in
Speaker 1: the world, and and a lot of celebrities come to him.
Speaker 1: So it's a really cool experience to be in in California.
Speaker 1: But I do miss the trauma of it all, I guess.
Speaker 1: And when did you realize that you just blood and
Speaker 1: all all, like guts just does not bother you, and
Speaker 1: you're like, oh, I'm either going to become a serious
Speaker 1: killer or I can go in the operating room probably.
Speaker 1: I mean, I never really was around any of that
Speaker 1: stuff until I got into my clinical rotations and I
Speaker 1: passed out once in a labor and delivery room watching
Speaker 1: a spinal tap in a C section. Oh god. I
Speaker 1: feel like once you pass out, it's like your initiation.
Speaker 1: You're good to go after that, and everything's just draped off.
Speaker 1: You don't really see a body, you just see a
Speaker 1: part and it's I don't know, it's not as bad
Speaker 1: as people think. All right, all right, all right, that's fair.
Speaker 1: I'm not Yeah, I mean I don't. Oh, I don't know,
Speaker 1: Like I'm fine with movies. Yeah. And I guess it's
Speaker 1: different because you're fixing things instead of like, you know,
Speaker 1: you're not hurting someone, you're helping them. So I guess
Speaker 1: maybe my mindset would be different. I don't know. It's
Speaker 1: pretty intense stuff though. Good for you, Good for you.
Speaker 1: We'll stick podcasting. Well, Natalie, it has been such a
Speaker 1: joy to have you on the podcast one. I've been
Speaker 1: waiting for three years to do that. So now I'm
Speaker 1: just gonna hang up. You guys have a good podcast.
Speaker 1: Well see you letter, Natalie. You're awesome. Thank you so
Speaker 1: much for coming on the podcast. We appreciate it and
Speaker 1: we're very excited to meet Help we Suck at being
Speaker 1: newlyweds viall and ten months. Yes, thanks for having me.
Speaker 1: Love you guys, love, best of luck with everything. Thanks
Speaker 1: bye y'all, Bye bye, Natally, Thank you. Help I Suck
Speaker 1: at Being newlyweds? By all, that's gonna do it for
Speaker 1: this week's episode of Help I Suck At Being a newlywed?
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