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Speaker 1: Right now, it's time for today's Strawberry Letter. People, and

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Speaker 1: if you need some advice on relationships, dating, work, sex, parenting,

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Speaker 1: all right. Let's go then, neck, let's go. Buckle up,

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Speaker 1: hold on tight. We got it for you. Here it is.

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Speaker 1: It is the Strawberry Letter subject. I don't do black

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Speaker 1: or broke, Dear Stephen Shirley. I have a loving heart

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Speaker 1: and always try to help others. That being said, the

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Speaker 1: other day, I was in the discount store buying toiletries

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Speaker 1: to make packets for the homeless. I keep at least

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Speaker 1: five packets in my car at all times, and I

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Speaker 1: give them out when I see the need. So I

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Speaker 1: was in the checkout line and there was a couple

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Speaker 1: in front of me. I overheard the lady asked the

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Speaker 1: clerk how much was tax on a seven ninety nine

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Speaker 1: shirt seven dollars and ninety nine cent Shirton. The cashier

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Speaker 1: told her sixty nine cents. The man and woman started

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Speaker 1: looking everywhere for the change. I eased over to the

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Speaker 1: man and I tried to slip two dollars in his hand.

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Speaker 1: Sounds like a good gesture, right. Well, No, I couldn't

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Speaker 1: believe the sugar honey iced tea that happened next. The

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Speaker 1: half of that was with the half of that was

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Speaker 1: with this man loudly accused me of pushing up on

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Speaker 1: her man. I told her that I was just trying

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Speaker 1: to help them out. She told me she didn't care

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Speaker 1: and that she didn't appreciate me in her man's face.

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Speaker 1: I apologized and told her that I should have given

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Speaker 1: it to her, but the man was closest to me.

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Speaker 1: The man was thanking me and apologizing, which made her

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Speaker 1: go off even more. She was so upset that she

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Speaker 1: left without buying the shirt, but kept my two dollars. Well,

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Speaker 1: I was so mad, I yelled, look, you call a

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Speaker 1: green Eden insecure EBT card carrying half of I'm married

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Speaker 1: to a white man. I don't do black or broke.

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Speaker 1: I don't want your broke, but man, like I said,

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Speaker 1: that's what the letter said. Like I said, I have

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Speaker 1: a loving, caring heart, and I love black people. I

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Speaker 1: truly hate people with this kind of mentality. What's wrong

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Speaker 1: with our people? I know I could have handled this differently.

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Speaker 1: How should I have responded, Well, well, it's sure and

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Speaker 1: I can't wait to hear yours. Thank you, Steve. Well,

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Speaker 1: it just doesn't sound like you love black people to me,

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Speaker 1: it doesn't sound like that at all. Sounds like you

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Speaker 1: hate them. And I definitely question the part about you know,

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Speaker 1: all this love you have in your heart, especially for

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Speaker 1: these people you called Cola green, eating insecure ebt car

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Speaker 1: carrying what you called her that. I think you were wrong.

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Speaker 1: I mean, I just don't think you slip another woman's

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Speaker 1: man money. It's just not a good look, good intentions

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Speaker 1: or not. Uh, it just wasn't a good look. Any

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Speaker 1: other woman would have been upset with you too, because

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Speaker 1: when she's looks over and sees you slipping some money

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Speaker 1: what she thought? You're pushing up on her man? And

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Speaker 1: you know you threw it out there like that because

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Speaker 1: you're married to a white man. I mean, you just

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Speaker 1: won't convince me that you like black people with this attitude.

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Speaker 1: I mean, how should you have responded? You ask if

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Speaker 1: you really wanted to help, you could have offered to

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Speaker 1: give the two of them the two dollars I've seen

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Speaker 1: that happen many times in the grossery store. If people

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Speaker 1: come up short, the person behind them might say, oh,

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Speaker 1: don't worry about it, I got it, or I'll pay

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Speaker 1: for it. Or you could have simply given it to

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Speaker 1: give it to her, or given it to her discreetly.

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Speaker 1: I just don't think you would have reacted. I think

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Speaker 1: that you so proudly speak of. Steve, there's my answer. Well,

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Speaker 1: pretty good, surely. Oh here's a deal. This is lettuce

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Speaker 1: kind of. She opens a letter by saying I have

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Speaker 1: a loving heart and always try to help people. Then

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Speaker 1: she start telling you what type of loving heart she has,

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Speaker 1: Now this is her loving heart, her loving hearts for

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Speaker 1: homeless people, and she keep five packs. She in the

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Speaker 1: checkout line, lady behind a shirt. They asked how much

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Speaker 1: is taxes? They don't have the money. So you see

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Speaker 1: some people in need and you try to help you

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Speaker 1: slip the guy two dollars. She see it and go off.

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Speaker 1: Now you were wrong for sliding this man the money.

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Speaker 1: You know that, okay, But and you think it was

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Speaker 1: a good gesture. I understand technically what you're doing is right.

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Speaker 1: How you went about it was wrong, okay. Well you

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Speaker 1: couldn't believe the sugar honey I t to have next. Now,

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Speaker 1: I was reading this letter and I was thinking when

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Speaker 1: the subject says, I don't do black or broke, I

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Speaker 1: thought you were white. But I was wrong. Sugar honey,

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Speaker 1: iced tea is a black statement. The health funk that

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Speaker 1: I know you black. Accuse me of pushing up on

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Speaker 1: appreciate you in your man's face, her man's face. I

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Speaker 1: apologize and told her, now you so far, you're doing

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Speaker 1: the right thing. You apologize. I could understand you're calling

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Speaker 1: her health. I got that you apologize to and you

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Speaker 1: told it. You probably should have given it to her.

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Speaker 1: But the man was closest to you. And then the

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Speaker 1: man he thinks, thinking, sorry, about this and it's sorry,

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Speaker 1: it's going out. Made a moment now without buying the shirt,

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Speaker 1: she kept your two dollars. Now here comes the loving

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Speaker 1: heart right Look, you call it green eating insecure EBT card?

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Speaker 1: Can Heifer? Now let me ask you something, because now

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Speaker 1: I know you black. What made you assume that she

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Speaker 1: loved call it greens? And what made you assume she

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Speaker 1: was has an EBT card? Hang on, Steve, we'll come

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Speaker 1: back for part two of your response at twenty three

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Speaker 1: after the hour. Today's Strawberry Letters, subject I don't do

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Speaker 1: black or broke right after this. You're listening, all right, Steve,

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Speaker 1: Let's recap today's strawberry letter. It's really simple. This woman

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Speaker 1: says she has loving heart. She helps the homeless. She

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Speaker 1: giving my man none. Get out his face. You apologize,

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Speaker 1: you're doing all right. Then you told her you should

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Speaker 1: have given it to her, and then you said I

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Speaker 1: love black people. She kept her two dollars and walked

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Speaker 1: out the store. This is where your love for black

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Speaker 1: people turned, she walked out the door. You man so

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Speaker 1: mad you told her you called green eat insecure, EBT

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Speaker 1: ass man. Now, you just handed the man two dollars.

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Speaker 1: Then you tell the lady, I don't want your broke

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Speaker 1: ass man. Kind of give him. Yeah, you're funny. Give

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Speaker 1: and you're married to a white man. You don't do

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Speaker 1: black or broke. Wow, that's an interesting statement. I really

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Speaker 1: don't have nothing for you, lady, except to Jessica. You

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Speaker 1: your love for black people is limited because it's been

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Speaker 1: prejudiced by your thoughts that black people are insecure. Call

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Speaker 1: with this kind of mentality. What's wrong with our people? Well,

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Speaker 1: the same thing that's wrong with you, because you one

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Speaker 1: you have a white man. Ain't nothing wrong with that,

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Speaker 1: do you, sister? But don't tell or huh, you don't

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Speaker 1: do black or broke? What do you mean you don't

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Speaker 1: you this example, lading. Let's say I helped the homeless,

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Speaker 1: and I got my little fire bags in the car

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Speaker 1: So now I don't help the white people out skipt

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Speaker 1: that's what you say it, I don't do black or

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Speaker 1: say something to you. All of us on this show

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Speaker 1: happened to be black. Ain't now one of us broke?

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Speaker 1: Not now one of us? But she don't do it

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Speaker 1: because we black with us. Lady, you're sad. You're sad

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Speaker 1: the way you have me. Yeah, but you're not gonna

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Speaker 1: get a white man, that'll fix it for you. You're

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Speaker 1: steal the black lady in your stuff. She's better than Yeah.

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Speaker 1: White people carry EBT cards too, a lot of and

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Speaker 1: they could be insecure. They call a green So, yeah,

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Speaker 1: you race on so many levels. I'm talking about John

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Speaker 1: this kind of it's like says, girl, you think white

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Speaker 1: ice cold hunt. Yeah, you're right, it's just it's sad

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Speaker 1: surely thought it was okay, good enough to write a

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Speaker 1: like that. How should I have handled you had wrong?

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Speaker 1: First of all, Yeah, you're handled it wrong. Shouldn't have

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Speaker 1: told us you're gonna do black people because I do?

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Speaker 1: white people, thank you very much. Yes, I don't mind

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Speaker 1: doing white people think it was waiting. I was waiting

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Speaker 1: in some of your best friends of white, some of

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Speaker 1: my best friends whitey And let me tell you, I

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Speaker 1: with white. But she's trying to make it like the lady.

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Speaker 1: Something's wrong with the other lady for going in. You're

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Speaker 1: slipping her man some money, and they went up. I'm sorry,

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Speaker 1: ye walk away from it, right. It's not a good look.

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Speaker 1: You're a strange woman slipping her man some money. Anybody

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Speaker 1: One me the reason she don't do black or broke

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Speaker 1: because she may used to be black and broke. All right, listen,

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Speaker 1: My short thoughts on today Strawberry letter at Steve Harvey

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