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Speaker 2: Hello beautiful, this is Jackie.
Speaker 3: I want to start off by saying thank you so
Speaker 3: much for creating the safe Space and just being so vulnerable,
Speaker 3: open and honest with your podcast. You hit home on
Speaker 3: so many levels and a lot of the times I'm
Speaker 3: literally in tears listening to your words and just the
Speaker 3: amount of ways that I can relate to you.
Speaker 4: It's out of this world.
Speaker 3: Like I've literally thought, like I wish I could call
Speaker 3: her up and like just you know, lay it all
Speaker 3: out and have a moment of vent, you know, with
Speaker 3: someone that I feel can relate and you've done that now,
Speaker 3: Like you literally gave me the space to be able
Speaker 3: to leave you a voicemail which I'm so happy and
Speaker 3: congratulations on your engagement. I am so happy for all
Speaker 3: the new changes coming in your life. You diserve them
Speaker 3: and embrace them. You're so beautiful and with your last episode,
Speaker 3: I just wanted to ask. I know you know therapy
Speaker 3: is really important, which I have requested, but any more
Speaker 3: tips you can give on not projecting your current or
Speaker 3: your past PTSD traumas to your partner. Anything you can
Speaker 3: give me an advice would help. I appreciate you and
Speaker 3: take care and hopefully we can meet soon.
Speaker 1: Jack You just made me smile so much. You guys
Speaker 1: make me so freaking happy. Like you have no idea,
Speaker 1: So Jackie, thank you, thank you for listening, thank you
Speaker 1: for your words. Just thank you. My eyes are watery. Okay,
Speaker 1: So that's good that you are looking for therapy for counseling,
Speaker 1: that's awesome. Any advice that I can give you, well,
Speaker 1: let me tell you. I have things and yeah, I
Speaker 1: guess you could say PTSD from like past relationships that
Speaker 1: I have been so intentional with not bringing them into
Speaker 1: my current relationship. But by the way, thank you so
Speaker 1: much for congratulating me on my engagement. The best advice
Speaker 1: I can give you is just being aware is like
Speaker 1: the first and the most important step, and stopping yourself
Speaker 1: in your tracks, like when you are about to say
Speaker 1: something or act a certain way because of your past traumas,
Speaker 1: for you to just literally stop yourself in your tracks
Speaker 1: and be like, wait, hold on, let me change what
Speaker 1: I'm saying, let me start over, apologize, always being vulnerable
Speaker 1: and open and willing to just say, hey, I'm so sorry,
Speaker 1: And that's what I've done, because there are times when
Speaker 1: with Emilio, I will do something and I'm not proud
Speaker 1: of it, but in the moment, it's like the ego
Speaker 1: wants to take over. So I'll just step away and
Speaker 1: then I'll come back and I'll just say, Emilio, I'm sorry.
Speaker 1: I shouldn't have said that, I shouldn't have acted that way,
Speaker 1: because honestly, like as much work as we do every
Speaker 1: single day, like some things are just gonna happen, but
Speaker 1: you have to be aware of it and be humble
Speaker 1: enough to apologize and excuse yourself. So don't beat yourself
Speaker 1: up about it either. I think your partner will really
Speaker 1: appreciate that. And another thing Jackie is knowing that not
Speaker 1: every person that we encounter is the same and shouldn't
Speaker 1: be the same person with every person you encounter. If
Speaker 1: that makes sense, like you should come in and say
Speaker 1: I'm going to start with a clean slate and it's okay,
Speaker 1: like to even be in a relationship for a year
Speaker 1: and just tell your partner, you know what, we have
Speaker 1: both made mistakes, we have both heard each other's feelings.
Speaker 1: Can we just start on a clean slate again. I've
Speaker 1: done that where it's like, okay, you know what, I'm
Speaker 1: not going to bring anything up that happened in the
Speaker 1: past or what you did to me or anything. Let's
Speaker 1: just start over. And that always helps as well. It's
Speaker 1: just kind of like a reset sort of thing. So
Speaker 1: that's another thing as well. Therapy is definitely going to help.
Speaker 1: So I can't wait for you to start that. But
Speaker 1: that is the best advice I can give you now.
Speaker 1: And of course, like reading books on healing you know yourself,
Speaker 1: Like I always said, meditation and prayer because when I
Speaker 1: meditate and start my day with prayer, I just feel
Speaker 1: like I'm in a better mood. Like, I just am
Speaker 1: more at peace and I don't bark as much for
Speaker 1: the lack of a better word. But I hope that helps, Jackie.
Speaker 1: And maybe you can send me another question regarding a
Speaker 1: certain situation or a certain act, and then I can
Speaker 1: give you more advice. But I hope that helps. Okay,
Speaker 1: thank you so much. The man Unava so a big, big,
Speaker 1: big hug. Thank you. You made me really happy. The
Speaker 1: next question comes from an anonymous listener.
Speaker 4: Question is how did you deal with Johnny coming out?
Speaker 4: I know that when I came out to my family,
Speaker 4: they're very religious, and I know that you did talk
Speaker 4: about your mom. You don't know if she would have
Speaker 4: accepted it right away, but do you think that she
Speaker 4: would agree with Johnny at the end? Like, do you
Speaker 4: think that she would accept him?
Speaker 2: Hi?
Speaker 1: Okay, Well, it was very tough because my family had
Speaker 1: a lot of opinions and a lot of things to
Speaker 1: say about it. But I just knew that I had
Speaker 1: to stand by Johnny and support him. We all had
Speaker 1: gone through so much with like losing our mom, that
Speaker 1: I'm like, I have to have his back, and I
Speaker 1: have also had my share of you know, I guess
Speaker 1: you could say like experiences, you know, where I had
Speaker 1: a girlfriend as well, and so I was very familiar
Speaker 1: with that. So that's why I was so compassionate with Johnny.
Speaker 1: You know, I can't say that all my family members
Speaker 1: except Johnny one hundred percent, But I think the fact
Speaker 1: that I was there with him one hundred and ten percent,
Speaker 1: one hundred and twenty percent, I think it's helped him
Speaker 1: just live his true self. As far as my mom,
Speaker 1: it's hard to say whether she would accept him or
Speaker 1: not from what I know. You know, my mom would
Speaker 1: have had a hard time with it, but eventually she
Speaker 1: loved her kids so much that she would just she'd
Speaker 1: be okay with it. Sometime would have to pass, and
Speaker 1: then she would just say, you know what, if that's
Speaker 1: what you want to do, if that's how you want
Speaker 1: to live your life, then I love you and I'm
Speaker 1: going to walk you through it, like I know my mother.
Speaker 1: My mom would have been a little resistant in the beginning,
Speaker 1: but just give you a little bit of time and
Speaker 1: then she'd come around, because that's just what you do
Speaker 1: when you love your kids. It's like you want the
Speaker 1: best for them and you don't want to make their
Speaker 1: life harder. Thank you for your question, by the way. Okay,
Speaker 1: So the next question comes from Haiti.
Speaker 2: I had a quick question.
Speaker 5: I love you, by the way. So I recently started
Speaker 5: a business. It's called Electric Smile. It's a teeth pointing
Speaker 5: bit business. Sometimes I feel like so cringey when I
Speaker 5: post or post about myself. I'm learning to accept that
Speaker 5: that's what you have to do when you're starting a business.
Speaker 5: But how do you get over that and how do
Speaker 5: you get over the fear of just doubting yourself when
Speaker 5: you start a business.
Speaker 1: Haiti, what a great question, and look at you. I
Speaker 1: love that starting your business. I love anything that's teeth
Speaker 1: whiting girl. So if you want to send me one,
Speaker 1: I got you. Okay. Well, it just takes time. I
Speaker 1: think with social media and everyone having an opinion and
Speaker 1: having something to say, and I get it, like it
Speaker 1: causes a little bit of anxiety. Every time before I
Speaker 1: post something, I'm like, okay, God give me the stream
Speaker 1: that just let me speak from the heart. I pray
Speaker 1: for everything. I'm always talking to God all day long. Okay.
Speaker 1: So that's just a little suggestion, a little advice. But
Speaker 1: I think it's just going to take time and for
Speaker 1: you to really just say, you know what, like, I
Speaker 1: have this platform, i have this business mind, and I'm
Speaker 1: grateful that God in the universe allowed me to do this.
Speaker 1: Give yourself more grace, to be honest words, I just
Speaker 1: give yourself more grace. It's gonna take a little bit
Speaker 1: of time and for you just you have to just
Speaker 1: love yourself a little more. I get it. Sometimes I'm
Speaker 1: like I see stuff or right hear myself and I'm like, damn,
Speaker 1: I'm gonna do this better. But now I've learned. Instead
Speaker 1: of just saying, oh my god, I hate this about
Speaker 1: myself and I don't know how I sound, I'm like, Okay,
Speaker 1: next time, I'm gonna do this in a different way.
Speaker 1: I'm giving myself constructive criticism. So I get it. But
Speaker 1: give yourself more love, you know what I mean. Like,
Speaker 1: it's gonna take some time and little by little you'll
Speaker 1: get better and you'll feel more comfortable. But I am
Speaker 1: very proud of you. That's awesome. I'm serious about. If
Speaker 1: you want to send me a little you know, teeth whining, kit,
Speaker 1: I hope that that helps. Haiti the man, by the way,
Speaker 1: I love you too, Okay, okay. Our next question comes
Speaker 1: from Janay ooh.
Speaker 2: Hi, Cheeky's My question for you today is how do
Speaker 2: you deal with not seeing your manifestations come true quick enough?
Speaker 2: How do you stay motivated? How is it that you
Speaker 2: don't get impatient or discouraged on your journey? What is
Speaker 2: it that you do on the daily that really helps
Speaker 2: you stay consistent with being motivated and being inspired? Thank
Speaker 2: you so much, Tikis love.
Speaker 1: You, Hi Janey. Okay, girl, let me just tell you.
Speaker 1: I've talked about my vision boards and how I've been
Speaker 1: like manifesting and envisioning my life for so long. Crazy enough, Johnny,
Speaker 1: my brother is working at my mom's office, and he
Speaker 1: found like a bunch of my personal stuff in the files.
Speaker 1: And I had been writing a book okay on my computer,
Speaker 1: like manifesting that I was going to write a book, wow,
Speaker 1: way back in two thousand and seven, okay, And it
Speaker 1: took till what twenty fourteen for it to manifest. Back
Speaker 1: then in two thousand and seven, I didn't know what
Speaker 1: I was going to write about. I had a whole title.
Speaker 1: I just knew I wanted a book. So with that
Speaker 1: being said, it took seven years for me to see
Speaker 1: it come true. I think you just have to like
Speaker 1: send out to the universe every single day. Literally, that's
Speaker 1: why a vision board works because you look at it
Speaker 1: every day and you're like, Okay, it's going to happen.
Speaker 1: And of course it's not just like, oh, it's going
Speaker 1: to magically fall out of the sky. Like you need
Speaker 1: to do certain things on a daily basis to just
Speaker 1: say and throw good energy towards your goal. But it's
Speaker 1: gonna take a while. Like I had on my vision
Speaker 1: board that I wanted to be on the Latina magazine
Speaker 1: cover for four years and it happened like four years later,
Speaker 1: but it happened.
Speaker 4: You know.
Speaker 1: It's just like literally like it's gonna happen one way
Speaker 1: or another. I don't know, but it's going to happen,
Speaker 1: and God is going to place everything in the right
Speaker 1: place and I'm going to go in like the right
Speaker 1: path and everything's just gonna happen. Like it's literally believing
Speaker 1: every single day and being patient, like and what you
Speaker 1: could do every day is just tell yourself it's coming.
Speaker 1: I feel it. It's almost there, and it's just like
Speaker 1: it's an everyday thing and then before you know it,
Speaker 1: it happens. I know it sounds like oh, That's a
Speaker 1: lot easier said than done, but it works. Manifesting and
Speaker 1: writing down your goals as much as you possibly can.
Speaker 1: Like when you write them down, I don't know what.
Speaker 1: There's so much power behind the pen and the pencil,
Speaker 1: like with you seeing it and writing it and believing it,
Speaker 1: it will happen, Jenney, So just be patient. I know
Speaker 1: you probably have heard that and it's like annoying, but
Speaker 1: I'm literally I'm telling you just be patient and believe
Speaker 1: in yourself and in what you're manifesting. I believe in you,
Speaker 1: and I know whatever it is, it will happen. Because
Speaker 1: your name is Jeanne, and we're like, we're sisters. We're
Speaker 1: soul sisters apparently, so it's gonna happen. Girl, don't even trip. Okay, Jackie,
Speaker 1: my lovely anonymous listener, Haiti and Jeannee, thank you so
Speaker 1: much for submitting your questions. I love being a big
Speaker 1: sister for you guys, and I really hope I helped
Speaker 1: put things into perspective for you all and for the
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