Speaker 1: Help We Suck At Being Newlyweds with Dean Angler, Kaylen
Speaker 1: Miller Keys, and Jared Haven.
Speaker 2: An iHeartRadio podcast. Hello everyone, and welcome back to an
Speaker 2: all new episode of Help We Suck At Being Newlyweds.
Speaker 2: I am one of your hosts, Kayleen Miller Keys, joined
Speaker 2: by Jared Han and Dean the Angelic Unclert.
Speaker 3: Not just one of the hosts, the best hosts, the.
Speaker 2: Best host No, no, I'm just the I'm just here
Speaker 2: to make sure you guys don't talk about poop.
Speaker 1: You know, we're just living.
Speaker 3: You're doing a really bad job because we still talk
Speaker 3: about it every single day. Well, Kaylen, what are we
Speaker 3: talking about today? Will you just lead this whole escapade?
Speaker 3: I guess I don't want to apologize real quick. I'm
Speaker 3: in an airport lounge, so if you hear any noises,
Speaker 3: just just ignore them.
Speaker 1: What's the airline?
Speaker 3: I don't want to be judged for this, but it's Spirit.
Speaker 1: Not to be a dick. Spirit has a lounge.
Speaker 3: Oh no, no, no, I'm in the Centurion Lounge, which is
Speaker 3: actually funny enough at Denver Airport, and the Centurion Lounge
Speaker 3: is right above the gate that I'm flying out of.
Speaker 3: Which is like in an hour and fifteen minutes, so
Speaker 3: I might need to get out of here early, by
Speaker 3: the way. But but no, it's not the Spirit Lounge.
Speaker 3: I'm sure the Spirit Lounge would be amazing. I actually
Speaker 3: really do like Spirit as an airline, but yeah, not
Speaker 3: this time.
Speaker 1: What did I fly? I Flow Allegiant.
Speaker 3: Yeah, they're very similar. I like it because I travel
Speaker 3: light and with other airlines, you know, Southwest is different
Speaker 3: because Southwest is very nice as well. I love them,
Speaker 3: but you're paying for certain upgrades like baggage or drinks
Speaker 3: or food, and I'm like, I don't want any that
Speaker 3: stuff anyways. Let me just pay for my ticket and
Speaker 3: then I'll pay for whatever I want in addition to that.
Speaker 4: You know, Caitlyn, would you consider yourself a light traveler
Speaker 4: or do you travel heavy?
Speaker 3: No?
Speaker 2: I've become light because of Dean. We were in Italy
Speaker 2: for a month and I only packed a carry on
Speaker 2: suitcase and a little small bag.
Speaker 3: Yeah, we got to get that into just one small
Speaker 3: bag that you can on your back.
Speaker 2: I was in France and my friend Okay lost her
Speaker 2: luggage because she checked a bag, and on her way
Speaker 2: back to America, they chipped her back to Spain. She
Speaker 2: was on a flight from Spain and they just took
Speaker 2: it right back to Spain instead of bringing it to Florida.
Speaker 2: So just to emphasize, you should never check a bag.
Speaker 3: Sometimes sometimes it's necessary, though I get it, sometimes it's necessary.
Speaker 4: But Ashley is the complete opposite of a light traveler.
Speaker 4: And it makes me so mad because we always have
Speaker 4: to get to the airport early because she's checking a bag,
Speaker 4: and she just we could be going for two days
Speaker 4: and she has to check a bag. She has to
Speaker 4: check a bag, and now she blames it on Dawson,
Speaker 4: which is completely irrelevant because she always checked a bag
Speaker 4: before Dawson. And she's one of these people that she'll
Speaker 4: check a bag and then she'll take a huge Duffel
Speaker 4: bag with her or two, she'll have two bags. Sometimes
Speaker 4: she'll get away with three, which is completely ridiculous, but
Speaker 4: sometimes she does. And of course we get on and
Speaker 4: of course there's no overhead bin space, and of course
Speaker 4: it's just chaotic, and then we have to go get
Speaker 4: her luggage.
Speaker 1: Afterwards.
Speaker 4: I'm like, can you please just bring a backpack and
Speaker 4: a small bag. Let's get on the plane, let's get off,
Speaker 4: get into the car, and get on our way. But no,
Speaker 4: it's a whole thing and it's annoying.
Speaker 3: What about when you when you guys went to Italy
Speaker 3: for your honeymoon, and like, what did she travel with then?
Speaker 3: Because in Italy there's like a lot of narrow, steep
Speaker 3: streets with like cobblestones and stuff, So how did she
Speaker 3: get around there?
Speaker 4: Well, Italy was a little different because it was our honeymoon,
Speaker 4: so of course we were there for of course we
Speaker 4: were there for two two and a half weeks. You
Speaker 4: gotta check it back, makes sense, But it was uh yeah, dude,
Speaker 4: it sucked just dragging these staircase they excuse me, these
Speaker 4: suitcases upstaircases and on these cobblestone roads, and you try
Speaker 4: not to look like a tourist, but of course we're
Speaker 4: walking in and I have, like my iHeart Italians.
Speaker 3: Shut on.
Speaker 4: I didn't have that, but I might as well, carrying
Speaker 4: a map, trying to get to the hotel, lugging these
Speaker 4: suitcases behind us on cobblestone roads, mostly probably arguing with
Speaker 4: Ashley because at this time, at this point, I'm tired,
Speaker 4: I'm exhausted, I just want to sleep. Trying to find
Speaker 4: the hotel It's amazing how traveling is just the least
Speaker 4: amount of fun until.
Speaker 1: You get to the destination. Maybe maybe it's different for
Speaker 1: you guys.
Speaker 3: But well, yeah, no, I mean except for when we
Speaker 3: flew them all these we like we're first class or
Speaker 3: something like that. That's nice. And I think you guys
Speaker 3: were first class on your flight, weren't you, Jared, We.
Speaker 4: Were first class on the way to ITAA, Yeah, which
Speaker 4: was really nice.
Speaker 2: That's what we're trying to do for our honeymoon because
Speaker 2: I feel like you're flying on your honeymoon, you want
Speaker 2: to be first class, but first class tickets are like
Speaker 2: ten grand one way.
Speaker 3: Yeahsane, it's not worth it, but it is nice when
Speaker 3: you get the lay down beds and you wake up,
Speaker 3: or you get to the destination fully arrested, not fully arrested,
Speaker 3: but like more than you would be otherwise.
Speaker 1: Are you saying where you're going on your honeymoon?
Speaker 2: We don't even know yet what we're going to South Africa.
Speaker 3: I mean we've talked about it, but we haven't done
Speaker 3: anything about it, so we still don't technically know where
Speaker 3: we're going.
Speaker 2: Okay, we're going to South Africa unless we change our minds.
Speaker 1: Unless hello, boy has a change of mind.
Speaker 3: Yeah, no, I mean that's where I want to go.
Speaker 3: But you also wanted to go to Maldives. You wanted
Speaker 3: to go.
Speaker 2: No, no, Dean, Okay, that's a bad memory. Just let
Speaker 2: me talk. Dean has bad memory and forgets like half
Speaker 2: the things that he says. He was like, hey, I've
Speaker 2: been thinking I like kind of want to go back
Speaker 2: to the Maldives. And I'm like, okay, that's like the
Speaker 2: epitome of a perfect honeymoon destination, so should we just
Speaker 2: go back there? And we talked about it, and then
Speaker 2: I bring it up to him like a month later.
Speaker 2: I'm like, hey, got us a hotel for the Maldives.
Speaker 2: And he's like, what, I don't want to go to
Speaker 2: the Maldives.
Speaker 3: It's not that I don't want to go to the Maldives.
Speaker 3: We've already been there.
Speaker 2: But you were the one who put it in my head.
Speaker 2: I was never thinking we'd go to the Malies Fair honeymoon,
Speaker 2: and you forgot you said that, and then you were like,
Speaker 2: you're crazy.
Speaker 3: I never said it's just the epitome of a of
Speaker 3: a honeymoon.
Speaker 2: No, no, no, no, You're just You're like totally ignoring the
Speaker 2: fact that you said you said that and then you didn't.
Speaker 3: I do kind of remember you saying that because the
Speaker 3: way that you got me on board with the idea
Speaker 3: of going to the Maldives, which is your idea, by
Speaker 3: the way, not mine, because because you said no, Kaitlin,
Speaker 3: you brought it up and I just I simply agreed
Speaker 3: with you. You said that we could go to Sri
Speaker 3: Lanka afterwards, which has been on my list for a
Speaker 3: long time now, so that was what kind of peaked
Speaker 3: my interest. But I do think it's a long way
Speaker 3: to go for a place that we've already been to, you.
Speaker 4: Know, so we're going to South Africa probably, But you
Speaker 4: booked the hotel for the Maldives. Can you just cancel
Speaker 4: that thing? It feels like a whope, hotel for the
Speaker 4: Maldives is not he.
Speaker 3: Didn't bok it.
Speaker 2: No, I didn't book it. I just found what, yeah,
Speaker 2: like a trade deal.
Speaker 3: I gotta say too. And back to the luggage thing.
Speaker 3: When we were in Japan, I wore the same pair
Speaker 3: of shorts every single day and I probably only wear
Speaker 3: wore three different shirts. I'm going to just start bringing
Speaker 3: backpacks with me from now on, wherever I go, Like
Speaker 3: we're going to ball in two weeks, I'm literally just
Speaker 3: going to bring this little backpack with me and I'm
Speaker 3: just gonna test it out and see what it's like.
Speaker 4: The problem is it all depends on what kaaln breaks,
Speaker 4: because sure you could pack light, but if she's checking the.
Speaker 1: Bag, you're weighing in line anyway.
Speaker 3: Yeah, no, you're absolutely right. And in Japan, for instance,
Speaker 3: I was stuck her heavy bag around because the hotel
Speaker 3: I booked was half a mile from the train station
Speaker 3: and it was late and it was a lot of blocking,
Speaker 3: and so then I was like, just give me your bag.
Speaker 3: I'm just gonna do it for us anyway. So this way,
Speaker 3: at least, if I do that, I'm not bringing my
Speaker 3: back in her bag. So it'll all even out, I
Speaker 3: think eventually. But yeah, we'll see how that goes.
Speaker 4: There was a guy in uh there was a guy
Speaker 4: in Italy who carried our bags for us. When so
Speaker 4: we brought our bags down the stairs at this hotel
Speaker 4: that we were staying in, and it was probably about
Speaker 4: one hundred and twenty steps. It was a long way
Speaker 4: and they were wide steps too. It like these were
Speaker 4: one of those steps where you had to put step
Speaker 4: two or three times before, Yeah, before you can get
Speaker 4: to the next step.
Speaker 1: Dude.
Speaker 4: So this guy he looked like Ivan Drago, except a
Speaker 4: little bit skinnier, and he took both of our check
Speaker 4: in bags that were probably about fifty pounds, put one
Speaker 4: on each shoulder, and carried them one hundred and twenty steps.
Speaker 4: We watched the entire thing in awe, and I was like,
Speaker 4: I'm very escalated right now, but also I'm not tired.
Speaker 1: So thank you.
Speaker 3: Yeah, that's great, that's why they have them there. I
Speaker 3: gotta say one of my biggest pet peeves in life
Speaker 3: is sets of stairs where you have to step twice
Speaker 3: on the same stair and so every downstep that you're
Speaker 3: using the same foot, and especially on long staircases like that,
Speaker 3: every downstep I have to like step down with my
Speaker 3: right leg and then I'm like, oh, my left leg
Speaker 3: could step down a couple times when my lef leg's
Speaker 3: getting a little jealous, maybe my right legs getting a
Speaker 3: little tired. It makes me so rationally frustrated. I don't
Speaker 3: even know. I have no idea.
Speaker 1: Why why do they build staircases like that?
Speaker 3: Yeah, just double the amount of stairs, No, no, No, just
Speaker 3: build their staircase with a regular with stair and then
Speaker 3: do like a flat walkway up near the top.
Speaker 4: Yeah, makes no sense to me. They maybe it's too
Speaker 4: It's like a marketing ploy. So you're like, you only
Speaker 4: have to go down sixty steps, but then they don't
Speaker 4: tell you that the sixty step is actually gonna take
Speaker 4: you three hundred actual steps.
Speaker 1: Right, No, that's your it makes sense.
Speaker 3: Probably onto something, right, you're onto something there. Well, great
Speaker 3: episodes so far, you guys kill What else are we
Speaker 3: going to have about today?
Speaker 2: Well, I want to talk about wingwalking that you did
Speaker 2: last week? And did you watch vander Pump last night?
Speaker 3: Oh? I haven't, but I did watch the finale or no,
Speaker 3: I watched Scammed of All and I watched the first
Speaker 3: episode of the reunion with you. I'll watched on my flight. Yeah,
Speaker 3: any juicy details you want to spill?
Speaker 1: Yeah, I mean, can you tease?
Speaker 2: It wasn't that great? Yeah?
Speaker 3: I was.
Speaker 2: So it's a three part reunion and the second part
Speaker 2: was last night.
Speaker 1: How long is each part?
Speaker 2: An hour? They're really dragging it out, So the last
Speaker 2: one is next week and they said the last five
Speaker 2: minutes are insane. They're like spilling something nobody knows what
Speaker 2: it is, and they are giving the cast members the decision.
Speaker 2: They're like, wait until you hear what this is, what
Speaker 2: this like big bomber dropping is until you decide if
Speaker 2: you want to film next season. So I'm like dying
Speaker 2: to know. And last yeah, last night, they didn't really
Speaker 2: give anything away. It was like Raquel, the one who
Speaker 2: cheated on her best friends with her best friend's boyfriend,
Speaker 2: she sent this other girl a seasoned assist they were
Speaker 2: going to court, and so that she dropped that last episode,
Speaker 2: And honestly, that's like all we really got.
Speaker 3: We didn't get much, not a season desist, the restraining order.
Speaker 2: A training order. Yeah, sorry, sorry restraining order. And then
Speaker 2: Scandaval kind of like lost his freaking mind and was
Speaker 2: like yelling at producers and telling them to f off,
Speaker 2: and we just like saw a different side of him
Speaker 2: that I feel like we've seen, but like, I think
Speaker 2: he didn't expect for them to air what they aired
Speaker 2: last night.
Speaker 4: Has vander Pump always been this way or is it
Speaker 4: now just gotten to a point where it's so dramatic
Speaker 4: because of what happened between Raquel Tom and then whatever
Speaker 4: the other girl's name is Arianna.
Speaker 2: Yeah, but yes and no, I think TikTok and social
Speaker 2: media has definitely put it like making this bigger than
Speaker 2: it normally would be.
Speaker 4: I've never heard because Vanda Plunt has been on for
Speaker 4: so long and of course rules, but I feel like
Speaker 4: it's it's it's, for lack of a better word, climaxing
Speaker 4: right now.
Speaker 1: I mean it's speaking.
Speaker 2: I also just realized I said Macon. I meant to
Speaker 2: say maked.
Speaker 3: I noticed you said Macon, and I was like, that was.
Speaker 2: My brain's not working. But no, okay, So Vanderpump, it's
Speaker 2: been going on for ten years. Watched it in COVID
Speaker 2: for the first time, and this there's like a pattern
Speaker 2: of this. So this girl Stoss used to be honest,
Speaker 2: she cheated on or was cheated on by her best friend.
Speaker 2: So like this is like a pattern of behavior. This
Speaker 2: has happened so many times. But I think they've been
Speaker 2: together for almost a decade and it was her best friend,
Speaker 2: so it happened before. I think it's like the fact
Speaker 2: that they were together for ten years.
Speaker 1: Yeah, I've said this on the podcast before.
Speaker 4: Ashley made the analogy that it would be like Sean
Speaker 4: Lowe cheating on Catherine with like Andy Dorfmann, you know,
Speaker 4: like big players and be like, oh my god.
Speaker 3: Right.
Speaker 2: Also, speaking of Andy, she just got married, Yes.
Speaker 4: Your day.
Speaker 1: I think that's why she is on the mine Cora.
Speaker 4: Congrats Dandy, not to make accusations of cheating with Andy Dorman.
Speaker 3: Already beautiful wedding, I'm sure, Yeah, it was beautiful. Yeah,
Speaker 3: I'll watch it on the flight, So don't you worry.
Speaker 3: I'll get home and I'll be all caught up.
Speaker 2: Next week is the week that you know, it all
Speaker 2: comes up.
Speaker 3: And the next week comes soon end, and they're gonna
Speaker 3: be like, but actually we got twenty minutes of behind
Speaker 3: the scenes footage your gun. I want to watch next
Speaker 3: week on vander Pump Rules.
Speaker 1: So what do you think this big bomb is at
Speaker 1: the end, Kaitlin.
Speaker 2: That's what I'm wondering. And I saw something on Instagram
Speaker 2: today of like someone saying keep this synonymous whatever, and
Speaker 2: she said that she thinks Raquel has been sleeping with
Speaker 2: Tom since she was engaged to not that you know
Speaker 2: these people, but James, and she broke up her engagement
Speaker 2: with James, and Tom was supposed to break up with Arianna,
Speaker 2: but he never did, and that just doesn't seem like
Speaker 2: people would quit the show over it. So I don't
Speaker 2: think that's it.
Speaker 3: That can't be true. There's no way. I mean, maybe
Speaker 3: it is. That would be incredibly like out of this world, though,
Speaker 3: I feel like, right, because they've all just been saying
Speaker 3: seven months or however long it's been.
Speaker 2: Yeah, but I think that Lisa vander Pump, that's like
Speaker 2: the only thing that would make people not do the
Speaker 2: show again is if Lisa knew this whole time.
Speaker 3: Yeah, that's true, that's true.
Speaker 1: Do you think people would really not do the show again?
Speaker 2: No, No, they'd be upset, but they'd still do it,
Speaker 2: of course, Like their paychecks are massive.
Speaker 4: Yeah, I mean unless they're at a point now where
Speaker 4: they don't care about money, which I can't imagine they
Speaker 4: do they're at that point at least.
Speaker 3: No, no, no, if Tom Brady still cares about money, These
Speaker 3: people still care about money, I know.
Speaker 1: It's very sad.
Speaker 4: Though he posted, there was an interview on Sports Illustrated
Speaker 4: where he was like, nope, guys, I'm done, I'm not playing.
Speaker 3: But hey, part owner of the Las Vegas Raiders.
Speaker 1: Yeah, go Raiders go to Vegas? Really?
Speaker 2: Yeah, I now, wait, Tom Brady.
Speaker 3: Yeah, he just did like a couple of weeks ago.
Speaker 3: I think he announced it.
Speaker 2: Yeah, So does that mean you're a Raiders fan?
Speaker 4: No, but of course I'll like now I have a
Speaker 4: rooting interest in the Raiders because now I want Tom
Speaker 4: to succeed. So i'm i'm, I'm Now I can watch
Speaker 4: Raiders games with like an investment level, which is pretty cool. Uh,
Speaker 4: it's so funny poor Buccaneers, Like I could care. I
Speaker 4: could give a rats as the Buccaneers anymore. What if
Speaker 4: the big bomb she's not like pregnant with his kid?
Speaker 3: Would that be?
Speaker 2: They speculated that too. It's just like, what would people
Speaker 2: quit the show over? Like, they wouldn't quit the show
Speaker 2: over that they already know that they've been sleeping together.
Speaker 2: So I don't know. Lisa vander Pump is the only
Speaker 2: thing that I think would make people like that upset.
Speaker 1: Why would people be pissed off if she knew, Well.
Speaker 2: She's supposed to be like this mother figure, she's supposed
Speaker 2: to be like this mentor to them, and it is
Speaker 2: just imagine this. I don't know. I guess that's a
Speaker 2: good question.
Speaker 3: No, I agree with you, Kyle, and I think that
Speaker 3: if it were to be true and Lisa was like
Speaker 3: harboring this information and not sharing it with anyone, like,
Speaker 3: you know, even I think in the first reunion episode,
Speaker 3: I can't remember who it was, but she was mad.
Speaker 3: I think it was Tom for saying that she was
Speaker 3: mad at someone for not for saying that he was
Speaker 3: or her was happy to get out of her wake,
Speaker 3: you know what I mean. And so like they kind
Speaker 3: of look at this person as like the person that's
Speaker 3: kind of helped them establish themselves, and then now you
Speaker 3: know they've leaned so heavily on her, and then for
Speaker 3: this information come out, and again I'll speculation. Obviously we
Speaker 3: have no idea, but I could see that that really
Speaker 3: is a bigger bomb, of course than a pregnancy, I think.
Speaker 2: Yeah. And so Lisa has invested a lot of money
Speaker 2: into Tom Tom, which is named after obviously both Tom's
Speaker 2: and then I don't know if she invested, but she
Speaker 2: was like had a hand in their second restaurant. So
Speaker 2: she has invested quite a bit in terms of money
Speaker 2: and time. So it would make sense for her to
Speaker 2: hide that if she didn't want it to come out.
Speaker 4: And one of the Toms named after Tom Tom's is
Speaker 4: the Tom that is being a douchebag?
Speaker 2: Yeah, well both Toms suck, but.
Speaker 3: I just looked it up. So on on the Scammed
Speaker 3: of All episode.
Speaker 2: It's scanned aval. He keeps saying scam. It's scanned of all.
Speaker 3: Oh, well, scammed ofval makes way more sense. What is
Speaker 3: a scaned of all? Well, his name is Sandoval, right,
Speaker 3: I understand that, But what is a scan? A scan?
Speaker 3: Is a scan? Is nothing?
Speaker 2: A scam can be down myself, but I'm pretty sure
Speaker 2: it's scanned of all. It's scann of all.
Speaker 3: It should be scammed a scandaval doesn't make sense. Adding
Speaker 3: the sea doesn't make that.
Speaker 2: See what used in the chat?
Speaker 3: Oh okay, well now I sound like an idiot. Can
Speaker 3: we set it all that out? Anyways, in that episode
Speaker 3: they were talking about their Yelp rating. The other time
Speaker 3: they didn't do the bad things, maybe other bad things,
Speaker 3: but they had a four point nine star review on Yelp,
Speaker 3: and now I just checked it down to three point five.
Speaker 3: So he's not good for them.
Speaker 2: Not to keep talking about this. I could talk about
Speaker 2: it for hours, but Dean and I went to a
Speaker 2: friend's house and we got into the most heated debate.
Speaker 2: I think there were like six of us talking about Scanned,
Speaker 2: of all, and the men had a different opinion than
Speaker 2: the woman, and it was just.
Speaker 3: What was the debate? I kind of don't really remember.
Speaker 2: I don't want to say with the first half because
Speaker 2: I totally and I don't want to say it publicly.
Speaker 3: Okay, I think I was. I think I remember now,
Speaker 3: and I remember saying it because I was like looking
Speaker 3: over at you and you were like getting all crazy
Speaker 3: at me, and I was like, I'm just kidding.
Speaker 2: You're looking for a reaction, and I gave it to
Speaker 2: you fully. But you guys like Schwartz, and Schwartz is
Speaker 2: a terrible I won't say it's a terrible person. On
Speaker 2: which one's one that you think is handsome?
Speaker 3: Oh yeah, yeah, he is handsome, that's what he has just.
Speaker 2: Been such a horrible person to his wife. His wife's
Speaker 2: also messed up or ex wife. But it's like, and
Speaker 2: granted you haven't watched a show and we talked about this,
Speaker 2: but it's just been consuming our lives.
Speaker 1: Who's lives, our lives.
Speaker 2: It was consuming the hours at the party last weekend.
Speaker 3: Yeah, yeah, I well again, I was just I was
Speaker 3: just trying to be funny, silly, goofy guy, trying to
Speaker 3: make people laugh like I usually do, and I was
Speaker 3: I was doing pretty good.
Speaker 2: No, you were making everyone angry enraged.
Speaker 3: Yeah, but then I would like throwing a couple jokes
Speaker 3: and make them laugh and be like, oh, actually, pretty
Speaker 3: funny guy.
Speaker 1: Yeah, sure, I want to know what you said.
Speaker 3: I don't even remember, and I don't think I want
Speaker 3: to remember. It sounds like, so that's a good thing.
Speaker 3: Do you remember falling in love with the guy. He
Speaker 3: was the funniest guy I've ever seen in my entire
Speaker 3: entire life. No, Trevor, oh so obsessivate. He would like
Speaker 3: he would like, go somewhere. I was just like falling
Speaker 3: around like little puppy dog, like schenging out with me.
Speaker 3: You're so funny and makes me laugh so much.
Speaker 4: Right now, dude actually gets upset at me when I'm
Speaker 4: when I like fall in love with the guys, Jared
Speaker 4: relax because like, I'll joke around with my buddy Chad
Speaker 4: and uh, because we're we you know, we're very close.
Speaker 4: And one of my friends, Crystal was like, you guys
Speaker 4: are like boy toys, so we always call each other
Speaker 4: boy toys. Now, like, it's my boy toy right there,
Speaker 4: and it actually gets so weirded out, Like Ashley, I'm joking.
Speaker 1: Relax.
Speaker 4: She's like, no, it's just weird when you call them
Speaker 4: your boy toy. I'm like, it's not a sexual thing.
Speaker 4: I'm joking. I'm I'm I'm being sarcastic. Like and then
Speaker 4: so now I just say to even piss her off more. Yeah,
Speaker 4: I'm like to get a reaction. Yeah, different, I just
Speaker 4: missed my I wish my you know, boy toy was
Speaker 4: right here sitting in between us.
Speaker 1: She's just like, Jared, that's so weird. I'm like, oh,
Speaker 1: shut up.
Speaker 3: It's a good thing, you know, to develop friendships this
Speaker 3: late in life for us, it's not an easy thing
Speaker 3: to do. So when you find someone you like, hold
Speaker 3: on tight.
Speaker 1: Yeah exactly, I know. What are you gonna do?
Speaker 4: Well, we do have a great episode, obviously, we're talking
Speaker 4: about vander Propper rules. We could talk about all that
Speaker 4: all day and all night. We do have some emails.
Speaker 4: We haven't done emails in Qui. It's some time here
Speaker 4: and help we suck at being newlyweds. Have we done
Speaker 4: emails since the rebranding of the podcast, or was that
Speaker 4: like a suck we have Oh okay, all right, never mind,
Speaker 4: I thought this was like a.
Speaker 2: You weren't there that episode?
Speaker 4: Oh okay, So now all three of us are here
Speaker 4: for the email episode of Help We Suck At Being Newlyweds.
Speaker 4: We have an email from Brooke, Victoria Alyssa, unfortunately none
Speaker 4: from anonymous, our favorite Nick viol We're gonna get to
Speaker 4: those emails, though, but first we're gonna take a quick break.
Speaker 4: Welcome back to Help We Suck At Being Newlyweds. Dude,
Speaker 4: I it's I must be allergies. I can't breathe through
Speaker 4: my nose, so talking while trying to breathe through my
Speaker 4: mouth is just so annoying right now.
Speaker 3: Worse than that, do you get tired? I feel like
Speaker 3: you run out of breath.
Speaker 4: I'm I'm exhausted, and then I can like, I'm I
Speaker 4: keep turning my head because I'm like, oh, yeah, guys,
Speaker 4: good topic. Yeah No, what's next? What do you guys
Speaker 4: want to talk about? Because I'm like, it's like so annoying.
Speaker 4: It's annoying, and I feel like my voice is changing. Anyway,
Speaker 4: we have some emails.
Speaker 2: Should we talk about Dean's wing walking?
Speaker 1: Oh? My God, I totally forgot about Yes.
Speaker 3: Wow, Caitlyn, it's good to know that someone on this
Speaker 3: podcast cares about me and my life and the things
Speaker 3: I do.
Speaker 2: Yeah, but before we talk about you, I'm still not
Speaker 2: over that the fact that I said making and maked
Speaker 2: I meant to say made. And my brain just isn't
Speaker 2: working today, and I want everyone to know I'm not stupid.
Speaker 2: It's just a slow day for me.
Speaker 3: I can't remember this exact context you said it in,
Speaker 3: but you said I don't want to remember, no, And
Speaker 3: then I was like trying to think of like it
Speaker 3: made sense, Like no one really noticed except for us, obviously.
Speaker 2: Except for everyone that's trying to break it down.
Speaker 3: I was like, oh, she was trying to say this,
Speaker 3: which basically is what she said. You just like said
Speaker 3: it in Yeah.
Speaker 2: Anyways, I haven't been able to let it go since
Speaker 2: I said it.
Speaker 4: You know what's the fun The funny thing is is
Speaker 4: that Dean and I say stupid shit on this podcast,
Speaker 4: probably on average every ninety seven seconds. Caylin says a
Speaker 4: dumb thing for the first time in the history of
Speaker 4: her host of this podcast, and now she's like.
Speaker 2: It's consuming me.
Speaker 1: It's consuming me.
Speaker 4: I can't let it go, and I need to let
Speaker 4: everybody know that I'm not as dumb as Diana Jared.
Speaker 2: But you know, you know, when you listen to a
Speaker 2: podcast and someone says something, you're like, that's not a word.
Speaker 2: I like, focus on that, And now I'm focused on myself. Anyways,
Speaker 2: it's not important. I just feel silly. But I do
Speaker 2: want to talk about your wing walking.
Speaker 3: Oh, let's talk about it. What do you want to
Speaker 3: know about it?
Speaker 2: Tell us everything, walk us through the wingwalk.
Speaker 1: Were you tethered to the plane at all times?
Speaker 3: Yes, there is a static line on. I know it's
Speaker 3: not as exciting as it maybe could have seemed. I
Speaker 3: think I edited the video well enough to where you
Speaker 3: couldn't see the line. God and I even asked when
Speaker 3: we were like, because you do a couple of run
Speaker 3: throughs before you go up there, I was like, Hey,
Speaker 3: that static line would suck to fall on like it.
Speaker 3: You would survive, but you would be mangled, you know,
Speaker 3: like you do some broken zones and stuff, but you
Speaker 3: wouldn't die. You would just have a couple of broken bones.
Speaker 4: So, like say, hypothetically, when you're climbing to the wing,
Speaker 4: because you're tether to it you do slip off the plane?
Speaker 4: How far would you fall? Yeah, Like, how loose is
Speaker 4: this rope?
Speaker 3: It's maybe like four or five feet long, So you
Speaker 3: wouldn't be like, you wouldn't be too far below the plane.
Speaker 3: I would imagine you could pull yourself back up. I
Speaker 3: have no idea.
Speaker 2: Did they go through that in your safety brief, like
Speaker 2: here's what happens if you fall?
Speaker 3: I asked them, and I was like, hey, how many
Speaker 3: people have needed the tether there? Like, how many incidents
Speaker 3: have you had? Like We've had zero people fall on this,
Speaker 3: So it's like, you it's there for a safety reason obviously, Yeah,
Speaker 3: but yeah, I was thinking, because you go up, it's like,
Speaker 3: so you're in the seat and the anchor point is
Speaker 3: like kind of above you to the left, but then
Speaker 3: when you're on the wing, it's below you into the
Speaker 3: left like a good four or five feet, And so
Speaker 3: if you were to fall, you would fall five feet
Speaker 3: to the anchor point and then five feet further like
Speaker 3: bouncing off the airplane the sharp wings and stuff. So
Speaker 3: I just imagine you I would be like I would
Speaker 3: You probably could get a concussion and get knocked out
Speaker 3: or whatever, but thankfully it was not necessary for this,
Speaker 3: but yeah, you just do a couple of practice runs.
Speaker 3: And then I showed up an hour late and so shocking.
Speaker 2: Yeah, wait, what do you mean practice runs?
Speaker 3: Like the planes on the ground, And they're like, this
Speaker 3: is how you climb up and this is where you go,
Speaker 3: this is what you do, this is the sequence of
Speaker 3: events you need to do to get up up there
Speaker 3: safely and effectively. And there's only one plane and there
Speaker 3: was six of us, and so you know, it's like
Speaker 3: forty minutes between each person to go, and so I
Speaker 3: got there an hour late, and they were like, we
Speaker 3: were trying to decide the order, and I was like,
Speaker 3: I want to go first, and everyone's like, yeah, we
Speaker 3: all want to go first. You were shut up, so
Speaker 3: you should go last. And I was like, oh, I
Speaker 3: wish I could argue that logic, but I can't. So
Speaker 3: I just had to sit there all day and watch
Speaker 3: these people go up and come down. And it wasn't
Speaker 3: that bad. I guess you're waiting, but it was a blast.
Speaker 3: I think if anyone has the chance to do it,
Speaker 3: they should definitely do it. It's it's just kind of expensive.
Speaker 3: Them swiping my card kind of killed me a little bit,
Speaker 3: but it was.
Speaker 1: To give us a ballpark. I want you to gas first, Yeah,
Speaker 1: how you how long are you up in the air?
Speaker 3: Maybe thirty minutes? On the wing? For like fifteen or
Speaker 3: twenty minutes.
Speaker 4: I can't imagine. It's too expensive. I mean two thousand dollars.
Speaker 3: Oh okay, you must be guessing way too high because
Speaker 3: you know that it's it's expensive.
Speaker 4: Oh okay, that's why I was like, I can't wait.
Speaker 4: So how it killed your I don't know. Eight hundred dollars.
Speaker 3: Yeah, I say exactly how much it was. Eight hundred dollars,
Speaker 3: which for a thirty minute it's basically like for a
Speaker 3: thirty minute roller coaster ride.
Speaker 4: You know, it's way more intense than a roller coaster
Speaker 4: ride and way less what's the word. Like, you're not
Speaker 4: able to do it as much as you're able to
Speaker 4: do a roller coaster. So I get why you'd have
Speaker 4: to pay decent amount money, especially for all the safety features.
Speaker 4: Plus the pilot per hour probably costs you a lot
Speaker 4: of money.
Speaker 3: Yeah, the pilot, the training you're there all day, the fuel,
Speaker 3: the way on the plane, the fuel. They gave me
Speaker 3: a nice little SD cards, so I got to keep that.
Speaker 3: That's like a fifty dollars that's nice to they give you,
Speaker 3: like a hat or anything.
Speaker 4: That would be a nice little added bonus, you know
Speaker 4: they should have, but they yeah, nice a little piece
Speaker 4: of merch a shirt. I survived wing walking.
Speaker 3: But yeah it was fun. I mean you could just
Speaker 3: crawl up there and you put your feet in these
Speaker 3: little stirrups and then you give the guy the thumbs
Speaker 3: up and then he just starts going crazy. He starts
Speaker 3: doing flips and barrel rolls and hammer heads or what
Speaker 3: they're called, where you fly straight up and then like
Speaker 3: banks over the side and then you go straight down
Speaker 3: towards the ground.
Speaker 2: Would you do it again?
Speaker 3: I would do it. I would for sure if it
Speaker 3: was free. There's two things you can do. So you
Speaker 3: can go up on the plane, like on the wing
Speaker 3: like I did, and then there's a sec like an
Speaker 3: alteration where you can go out like towards the tip
Speaker 3: of the wing, and then like between the two wings
Speaker 3: you can like hang in the wires there like you're
Speaker 3: on your stomach so you're like flying through like Superman.
Speaker 1: Yeah, it'd be cool.
Speaker 3: It looks so cool and I like just test her
Speaker 3: in at once just to see what it was like.
Speaker 3: And it feels so cool. I can only imagine what
Speaker 3: it feel like while you're actually flying. But that was
Speaker 3: like an extra four five hundred dollars and I was like,
Speaker 3: that just doesn't just I mean, But then I was like, oh,
Speaker 3: I'm probably gonna do this once, like I should just
Speaker 3: splurge to do it. But then, like I was, I
Speaker 3: felt so bad about spending hud dollars on it. I
Speaker 3: was like, I can't spend any more money on this,
Speaker 3: so I just did the one.
Speaker 4: But your feet are the only thing locked in. You
Speaker 4: have like a waistband that you put on, okay, and
Speaker 4: it was scarier there. He's like on like the third loop,
Speaker 4: I think he went like bigger or slower.
Speaker 3: Or something like that.
Speaker 1: Did you get a little air?
Speaker 3: I felt my feet come out of the stirrups and
Speaker 3: like my hands were out like this, like you know,
Speaker 3: like a like a cross the whole time. And that
Speaker 3: was the one time where I like wrapped behind me
Speaker 3: and tried to grab on because I was scared of
Speaker 3: I was gonna fly out, which I wouldn't have. I
Speaker 3: kind of panicked a little bit. But but people of
Speaker 3: like all shapes and sizes were there. There was a
Speaker 3: girl who was like five foot two, and then the
Speaker 3: guy who was like six three, two hundred and ten pounds,
Speaker 3: like a bigger guy. So it's definitely like anyone can
Speaker 3: do it, you know. It's it was cool and exciting
Speaker 3: and very very awesome. But it's not like you have
Speaker 3: to be a certain caliber of adrenaline junkie to do it.
Speaker 4: You know, would you say, what what has more adreneraline adrenaline? Uh,
Speaker 4: skydiving or win walk wing walking?
Speaker 3: Skydiving by a million percent.
Speaker 2: Because you're in control of your shoot or why.
Speaker 3: Every time I'm on the airplane skydiving like about to
Speaker 3: jump out. Every single time, I've got one hundred jumps,
Speaker 3: so really not that many, but a lot more than
Speaker 3: most people. Every single time I'm riding up in the
Speaker 3: airplane and I'm like, I'm gonna I'm going to die,
Speaker 3: this is the end of my life. And then you
Speaker 3: just jump out of the airplane. And you have to
Speaker 3: really have to make the decision at some point to
Speaker 3: be like I don't care, Like not that I don't
Speaker 3: care that I'm going to die, obviously, because I don't
Speaker 3: want to die, but you have to, like, there really
Speaker 3: is a bigger mountain to overcome to push yourself out
Speaker 3: of the airplane than there is to get on top
Speaker 3: of the wing. So definitely skydiving. And then one of
Speaker 3: the guys, actually the big talk guy, had like five thousands,
Speaker 3: five thousand skydives and I asked him too, I was like,
Speaker 3: how does it compare? And he goes, bro not even close. So,
Speaker 3: h Klin, you've skydived. You could definitely do the wingwalking.
Speaker 2: I'm good, I think, yeah, I'm good on that.
Speaker 4: How many how many jumps do you have to have
Speaker 4: in order to skydive on your because Caylen, I'm assuming
Speaker 4: you'll you'd have to get attached to somebody.
Speaker 2: Yeah, I'm attached zero jumps.
Speaker 3: Your very first jump ever in your entire life could
Speaker 3: be fully solo.
Speaker 4: There's I don't think that's legal, no way.
Speaker 2: But you have like three people next to.
Speaker 3: You, yeah, like controlling your body because you don't have
Speaker 3: body control at that point. You might some people do, surely,
Speaker 3: but and then like they don't pull their parachute until
Speaker 3: they've seen you pull your parachute. So like, let's say
Speaker 3: you can't find your parachute or something, or you're in
Speaker 3: a free fall and you can't get out of it,
Speaker 3: they'll like rip your They'll rip your parachute out for you,
Speaker 3: and then they'll just pull theirs out a little bit lower,
Speaker 3: you know what I mean?
Speaker 2: What if you get detached from the people, that's crazy.
Speaker 3: They're such professionals. They would know how to contort their
Speaker 3: body noise to catch you. Like if you're if you're
Speaker 3: like sparrel rolling and like flipping through the sky, you're
Speaker 3: going to move a lot slower than someone that's like
Speaker 3: head down die bombing at you, so they can get
Speaker 3: to you way faster than you could.
Speaker 1: But also your moving object.
Speaker 4: I mean, that's very as you're free falling towards the ground.
Speaker 4: I mean, I get that these people are professionals, but
Speaker 4: you're telling me if I'm doing spins in three sixties
Speaker 4: because I can't control my body as I'm screaming and
Speaker 4: flaring around like Dawson getting his diaper change, you're telling
Speaker 4: me that as I'm careening towards the ground, there's somebody
Speaker 4: who's gonna be able to.
Speaker 1: Grab my parachute and release it for me mid air.
Speaker 3: One hundred percent, they would come in super hot. They'd
Speaker 3: probably smack you pretty hard, but they would they would
Speaker 3: grab your body first.
Speaker 1: Oh great, so I'm also gonna get a concussion in this.
Speaker 3: Thing, but you're gonna lift, and I think the most
Speaker 3: important thing that like grab obviously your body kind of
Speaker 3: probably try to like level you out, I would imagine,
Speaker 3: and then rip your parachute. And at that point too,
Speaker 3: since you're just learning your parachute so big, like two
Speaker 3: or three times bigger than it will be once you
Speaker 3: get good at it, that like you could literally just
Speaker 3: not even touch anything and land safely on the ground.
Speaker 3: So it's pretty safe.
Speaker 4: I'm not saying you guys should do this, but I
Speaker 4: think also would make a great video if you guys
Speaker 4: jumped out and then Dean was the one who.
Speaker 1: Had to pull your parachute.
Speaker 2: Kalb, I'm good, But you should go with my grandparents.
Speaker 2: Haven't you been talking to them about that for a while?
Speaker 3: I should go with your grandparents. I was just texting
Speaker 3: Tom earlier. Did they actually oh sky diving?
Speaker 2: Yeah? My grandparents haven't been in like twenty or thirty years,
Speaker 2: but they keep telling Deane they want to go with them.
Speaker 4: Yeah, I mean, not to be morbid, are you nervous
Speaker 4: about them dying, Kaylen.
Speaker 2: No, my grandpa is like he's eighty, but he is
Speaker 2: more like a sixty five seventy year old.
Speaker 3: He's a young eighty as got a young soul, which
Speaker 3: is good.
Speaker 1: Even a young eighty, i'd be nervous about.
Speaker 3: I remember seeing some articles, like a couple of months ago,
Speaker 3: the oldest person ever Scott I was like ninety eight
Speaker 3: or something like that. Damn, I can't I can't remember
Speaker 3: if that's true or not. But yeah, I just wish
Speaker 3: Justice never moved away. He's the reason I would always
Speaker 3: go skydving before. And now he's gone, and so I
Speaker 3: don't jump really bunch anymore. It's gone forever. But yeah,
Speaker 3: that was my wingwalking experience. Kaylin, thank you so much
Speaker 3: for bringing up. I really appreciate it.
Speaker 1: I hate you both. So before your plane board, do
Speaker 1: you want to answer some of these emails?
Speaker 3: Yeah, I've got a good I got ten minutes, fifteen minutes.
Speaker 2: There's a question about alistair, so we could talk about that.
Speaker 3: Yeah, let's read that one first from Brook. I'll let
Speaker 3: you guys read it because there's a lot going on
Speaker 3: around here.
Speaker 2: Yeah, Kaylen, you can read it all right, so from
Speaker 2: Brook Hi, guys, I have a question for Dean and Kaylin.
Speaker 2: You guys mentioned on a recent episode that Alistair is
Speaker 2: a total nightmare and people don't feel comfortable staying in
Speaker 2: your home. Can you give me more details on what
Speaker 2: he does that's so bad as long as you feel
Speaker 2: comfortable sharing. I'm writing from Chicago as a rescuer of
Speaker 2: two small naughty dogs who both see a canine behavioral
Speaker 2: therapist their prescribed daily prozac and also Xanax for when
Speaker 2: life gets too hard. I'd love to commiserate with you,
Speaker 2: well wonderful, because having a misbehaved dog is awful. Like
Speaker 2: Pappy was an angel, He would never have like bitten anyone.
Speaker 2: We could like walk them off leash. He was just
Speaker 2: so perfect little yeah yeah, well at the end, at
Speaker 2: the end when he had dementia. But Alistair is so
Speaker 2: sweet to us, like he's he's just like so cuddly
Speaker 2: and loving, and to anyone else, he's just so protective
Speaker 2: and he'll like bite or nip or he likes to
Speaker 2: go after dogs on walks, so we have to like
Speaker 2: keep him separated, and anytime he's around a person, I'm like,
Speaker 2: don't get near him. Don't pet him. I don't care
Speaker 2: if you're a dog person, like, he will bite you.
Speaker 2: And we had we got him trained. We worked with
Speaker 2: a trainer for a few months, and the trainer gave
Speaker 2: up on him. He told us to give him back
Speaker 2: to the pound. Wow, just so messed.
Speaker 3: Up, I told him and never text us again. Yeah, yeah,
Speaker 3: I was mad. We were friends too, and we were like,
Speaker 3: we got a tattoo together once and then he texted
Speaker 3: me that and I was like, just don't even ever
Speaker 3: bother showing your face around here again.
Speaker 2: I do think we've gotten it down to a science
Speaker 2: where it's like we have him on leash during walks,
Speaker 2: we'll like separate him if there's like a dog on
Speaker 2: the other side of the sidewalk, we'll like, you know,
Speaker 2: make sure there's a safe distance. We tell everyone not
Speaker 2: to pet him, like I think that's just the way
Speaker 2: he will be. He also has like four teeth left,
Speaker 2: so once he has no teeth, it'll be nice too,
Speaker 2: but only gums.
Speaker 3: So he I've diagnosed him. And I read this email
Speaker 3: before coming to the airport because I wanted to answer it. Well,
Speaker 3: so he has leash aggression, which like whenever he's on
Speaker 3: the leash and he sees another dog, he'll be pulling
Speaker 3: on the leash, lunging at the dog, barking all those things.
Speaker 3: And then if you bring him up to the other dog,
Speaker 3: he'll like spite and an attack and all that kind
Speaker 3: of stuff. He also has submission aggression, where if you
Speaker 3: are over at our house, he'll like kind of keep
Speaker 3: his distance, but occasionally will come up to you and
Speaker 3: like lay on his back and show his belly, like
Speaker 3: offering you to pet him. And then the second you
Speaker 3: lean into pet him, hill bite your hand. So what
Speaker 3: I've noticed with him is I just took him on
Speaker 3: a week long, two week long trip to Idaho and
Speaker 3: Colorado when Kylen was in Europe, and didn't have him
Speaker 3: Mono leashed once. And Kylen's probably gonna die hearing this.
Speaker 3: Didn't have Mona leashed once at the campsite. When he
Speaker 3: thrives outdoors. You know how happy he gets when he's outside,
Speaker 3: didn't have a mono leash, and there's like a lot
Speaker 3: of people around, a lot of dogs. He would run up,
Speaker 3: get excited, run up, maybe bark a couple of times,
Speaker 3: sniff the dog, let the dog sniff him, and then
Speaker 3: just like kind of saunter back over.
Speaker 2: He my heart is racing hearing this right now.
Speaker 3: So he's so much better off leash and outside. Like
Speaker 3: I was maybe a little concerned at first, but then
Speaker 3: very quickly I realized that he is just like he
Speaker 3: wants to wander, and I think that's what he gets
Speaker 3: angry a is he feels confined when he's on a
Speaker 3: lesion in the harness. One thing I do say, though,
Speaker 3: like if he's off leash and we're walking around, like
Speaker 3: and he runs up to a person and there every
Speaker 3: time they're like, he's so cute, Oh my gosh, he
Speaker 3: looks like a little teddy bear. I'm like, yeah, he's cute,
Speaker 3: but do not pet him. Whatever you do, do not
Speaker 3: pet him.
Speaker 4: Don't you get nervous when he runs up to and
Speaker 4: you have to like scream at this person like.
Speaker 1: Don't bo don't look at him.
Speaker 3: Yeah, I just say, don't pet him. I just say,
Speaker 3: don't pet him no matter what. And the nice thing
Speaker 3: about taking him camping is, Caitlin, I'm sorry, let me finish.
Speaker 3: The nice thing I was taking him camping is most
Speaker 3: dogs that go on these adventures camping and stuff are
Speaker 3: like big athletic dogs and so like, even if he
Speaker 3: did act up, he would get put in his place
Speaker 3: really fast. And I think it could be good for
Speaker 3: him to be, you know, learn a lesson.
Speaker 1: Yeah, he's gonna get punched the face.
Speaker 3: Yeah right, everyone's got a plan to get punched in
Speaker 3: the face.
Speaker 2: I was gonna say two things. The first thing is
Speaker 2: like he'll never just like go out of his way
Speaker 2: and bite someone, which is nice, Like we don't ever
Speaker 2: have to worry about that. We can add people over
Speaker 2: and he'll never bother them. It's a second you touch
Speaker 2: him and he realizes it isn't us that he goes
Speaker 2: to bite. But then if we leave them with the sitter,
Speaker 2: if we leave them with the groomer, like whoever it is,
Speaker 2: he accepts that new person as his owner. And whatever
Speaker 2: dogs they have or animals they have, he like accepts
Speaker 2: them as well. So it's weird.
Speaker 3: Yeah, it's weird. And kudos to Brook for doing like
Speaker 3: the prescription medication thing. Yeah, we've thought about that a
Speaker 3: little bit as well. I personally want to do everything
Speaker 3: we can to avoid it. I'd rather him be fully
Speaker 3: aware and coherent at all times than to subdue him
Speaker 3: with medication. And that's just personal preference. I think like, honestly,
Speaker 3: he probably would be better off with like a little
Speaker 3: bit of his annex every once in a while.
Speaker 2: But he's like such a funny dog, and I feel
Speaker 2: like if we put him on Xanax, his personality would
Speaker 2: be dimmed.
Speaker 3: Yeah, like Pappy for instance, we had to give him
Speaker 3: medication for his seizures and that kind of like dimmed
Speaker 3: the lights a little bit for him. Yeah, but it's tricky,
Speaker 3: like at kudos to Brook for rescuing. I think that's great,
Speaker 3: and I think that you shouldn't let the naughtiness deter
Speaker 3: you from loving them and then doing it again later
Speaker 3: on at some point. But it's definitely a challenge, and
Speaker 3: I do I do agree with you, Kileen. I do
Speaker 3: think that we've kind of figured out the system a
Speaker 3: little bit with Alistair. Yeah, but even like you know,
Speaker 3: I'm outside in our front yard and I'm friends with
Speaker 3: our neighbor who's got two dogs, and they're all off leash,
Speaker 3: and they're getting along. They're not like playing, but they're
Speaker 3: like co existing at least. Yeah, So it's a good sign.
Speaker 2: It's a good sign, all right.
Speaker 4: This The next email comes from Victoria and it says,
Speaker 4: what are your thoughts when you need a friend?
Speaker 3: Excuse me?
Speaker 4: What are your thoughts when you meet a friend or
Speaker 4: co worker of your significant other who is the same
Speaker 4: gender as you and they're not super friendly or care
Speaker 4: to get to know you. Are you not bothered and
Speaker 4: just think it's no big deal? Or does it irk
Speaker 4: you a tiny bit and you get curious if they're
Speaker 4: slightly interested in your significant other?
Speaker 1: Curious on your take? I know it's super situational.
Speaker 3: Thank you, Ah, well, Jared, you're the only one that
Speaker 3: has well, I guess Ashley doesn't really have coworkers, but
Speaker 3: you're the only one here that has a job, So.
Speaker 4: I guess Ashley would be the correct person to ask
Speaker 4: for this. I don't think anybody's ever. It's also we're
Speaker 4: in a unique situation that everybody knows me as Ashley
Speaker 4: and Jared, you know, so it's it's different because we're
Speaker 4: just in a public relationship. Yeah, but I wonder she
Speaker 4: did say, you know, I was gonna say, she did
Speaker 4: say once that there was this girl that came in
Speaker 4: and she's coming a lot, and she had a boyfriend,
Speaker 4: and like it was like it was a group of girls,
Speaker 4: but she was like, I think she wants to have
Speaker 4: an affair with you. I'm like, Ashley, I got news
Speaker 4: for you. I don't think she wants to have an
Speaker 4: affair with me. Like, that's very sweet of you to think,
Speaker 4: but I don't think that's the case. And in fact,
Speaker 4: I'm very confident that's not the case. But she even
Speaker 4: said that, she said it a couple of times. She's
Speaker 4: like that girl, I think she wants to have an
Speaker 4: affair with you. I'm like, that honestly means a lot
Speaker 4: to me because it makes me feel like I'm still attractive.
Speaker 4: But unfortunately, I don't think that's the case.
Speaker 3: Pape. Yeah, it's kind of a unique situation world, and
Speaker 3: because we are all known as being in a relationship
Speaker 3: with each each other, like you know, I've got Kaylen,
Speaker 3: you got Ashley.
Speaker 4: But from past experiences, I mean, we've all had jobs
Speaker 4: where we've worked with other people, So I think, I
Speaker 4: don't know, maybe they just don't like you, maybe they're
Speaker 4: not you know that.
Speaker 3: The situation I can the only situation I can think
Speaker 3: about is when I didn't even meet the guy. I guess,
Speaker 3: but Kylen was on a trip in Florida and you
Speaker 3: met that guy that was like really hitting on you
Speaker 3: super hard.
Speaker 2: Oh god, that was awful. That guy was like a
Speaker 2: rare breed too, and I think that's part of his brand.
Speaker 2: But then there was that time, Yeah, just call him out.
Speaker 3: I don't care. I don't even care if he oh way,
Speaker 3: but I think he's a douche. Chase he was like
Speaker 3: on too hot to handle or something.
Speaker 4: Oh okay, damn it. I thought we were talking about
Speaker 4: Chase from Bachelor. I was like, damn, this is some
Speaker 4: hot tea right here holding too hot to handle.
Speaker 1: Yeah, do you guys mind if we look this up?
Speaker 1: Pretty juicy stuff, Chase.
Speaker 2: Too hot that he's like kind of known as a
Speaker 2: you know that.
Speaker 1: Guy, Chase the more football player. Hold on, I'll show
Speaker 1: you a picture.
Speaker 3: Yeah, yeah, that guy exactly.
Speaker 1: Yeah wait this guy, uh huh. I mean he's got
Speaker 1: more followers than Deans.
Speaker 4: So like, I don't know, Kaylon, Yeah, right's he's got
Speaker 4: a real chance.
Speaker 3: No, he I don't know. It's fine. I don't want
Speaker 3: to dwell on it too long, but he just he
Speaker 3: like was in a boxing match recently and he down
Speaker 3: the guy and he was like punching the guy as
Speaker 3: he was on the ground and it was just the
Speaker 3: worst displayer sportsmanship I've ever seen in my life.
Speaker 2: Oh yeah, but there was also that girl in Mexico
Speaker 2: that didn't quite care that we were in a relationship.
Speaker 2: I feel like they're they're what girl? Honestly, I don't
Speaker 2: even know her name, but I wouldn't say it if
Speaker 2: I did. She was knocking on your van door.
Speaker 1: Oh that was that girl.
Speaker 3: That was that was weird and it was okay.
Speaker 2: I was just about to say to Victoria, I think,
Speaker 2: like my advice is killing with kindness and eventually they
Speaker 2: have to accept you're in a relationship. They can either
Speaker 2: be friends with you or not. And then I was
Speaker 2: thinking about that and it was really hard for me
Speaker 2: to be nice to her. I was still nice to her,
Speaker 2: but it was very hard for.
Speaker 3: Me to be You just pulled an ouncer and like
Speaker 3: avoided her, and then if you did come close, you
Speaker 3: got a little That's funny. I totally forgot about that.
Speaker 1: Did you have to deal?
Speaker 4: I feel because Dean, let's be honest, Dean was a
Speaker 4: a hot commodity.
Speaker 3: You can call me a boy. It's fine.
Speaker 1: No, No, that's not what I'm talking about.
Speaker 4: I'm talking about like a hot commodity, Like, I'm sure
Speaker 4: there was a lot of girls with a bachelor who
Speaker 4: had Dean on their list of like, this is the
Speaker 4: guy that I want to date, this one guy.
Speaker 1: I want amount of.
Speaker 2: Girls myself included that have slid into Dean's DMS. He's like,
Speaker 2: oh that girl DMV, Oh that girl DMV.
Speaker 4: Did you have to like kind of deal with that
Speaker 4: early on when you guys first started dating, like people
Speaker 4: being like, oh damn it, like before it gets too serious,
Speaker 4: I need to see if I can still shoot my
Speaker 4: shot with Dean.
Speaker 2: One in particular that's coming into coming to mind. But
Speaker 2: woo uh yeah, I mean, and I think you know,
Speaker 2: girls probably still slide into your DMS and tell you
Speaker 2: that they'd be better with you than me.
Speaker 3: But no, no, it's just nice, nice people that ask
Speaker 3: for photography tips or band tips or construction tips. Uh.
Speaker 3: They're They're not trying to holler at me. I promise
Speaker 3: you that. But I think in the beginning, sure, yeah,
Speaker 3: of course I guess. But whatever, you got the big
Speaker 3: prize at the end of the day, so congratulations, a
Speaker 3: bigger But yeah, I agree with Kaylin. Kill them with
Speaker 3: kindness and if they're not gonna like you. They're not
Speaker 3: gonna like you. You don't need them to like you. Who
Speaker 3: cares like Sure, it'd be great if they did, But
Speaker 3: if they don't, whatever, it's no skin off your bones.
Speaker 1: M I agree. Who wants to read the last one?
Speaker 2: I'll read it. This one's from Melissa. I have a
Speaker 2: question for all of you. I just got engaged and
Speaker 2: I'm trying to figure out a wedding date. I wanted
Speaker 2: to have a meeting sound good and be within a
Speaker 2: good season. We have several days with meeting behind them,
Speaker 2: but trying to find one those, but trying to find
Speaker 2: when those days land on a weekend could push the
Speaker 2: wedding out way longer than we want. How did you
Speaker 2: all choose your wedding date? Did I have a meeting
Speaker 2: meaning or did you take the opportunity to have another
Speaker 2: meaningful day.
Speaker 3: Well, I'm not the best one to answer this question
Speaker 3: because I want to get married on Tuesday, and Caitlin
Speaker 3: said no, And so we got married in the worst
Speaker 3: during the worst month imaginable.
Speaker 2: Okay, but you're happy with it. And I said, we'll
Speaker 2: get married in October. If you really want to get
Speaker 2: married in October. There was an open date and you said, no, no, no.
Speaker 2: Our wedding location is very dependent on weather, and it'll
Speaker 2: be the best weather in September for Batam.
Speaker 3: Yeah, I'm just trying to make you happy, not trying
Speaker 3: to make you happy. I am succeeding at making you happy.
Speaker 3: But I just figured it was a fight not worth fighting.
Speaker 3: And I, you know, I kind of say it tongue
Speaker 3: in cheek, where, yeah, I don't want to get married September,
Speaker 3: but I don't care that much to that point, to
Speaker 3: that extent where I would go, you know, mess everything up.
Speaker 3: I guess.
Speaker 2: Yeah. But I think like when you pick a date,
Speaker 2: you pick like an open Saturday, because typically with wedding
Speaker 2: venues there's limited availability. So you find, you know, the
Speaker 2: year you want to get married, the month, and then
Speaker 2: you find that Saturday, Friday, Sunday, Tuesday, whatever it is,
Speaker 2: and then that just becomes a meaningful day. I don't
Speaker 2: know if it necessarily has to be meaningful before that.
Speaker 3: All I know is I'm not going to ever celebrate
Speaker 3: our wedding anniversary. Oh gosh, I'm sorry, I'm not. This
Speaker 3: is what you should have known when you chose a
Speaker 3: wedding date in September I'll celebrate our engagement anniversary, but
Speaker 3: not our wedding anniversary.
Speaker 1: What sorry, we all know that's not true.
Speaker 3: Well then what do we do I celebrate every anniversary. No,
Speaker 3: I'm going to pick one, and I picked the one
Speaker 3: on it that's on the date that I appreciate more
Speaker 3: than the silly September.
Speaker 4: You celebrate the wedding anniversary and you let go of
Speaker 4: all the other ones.
Speaker 1: That's why I try to relate it.
Speaker 3: Celebrate the wedding anniversary, sure, but just.
Speaker 2: No by myself.
Speaker 3: You can do something for me on our wedding anniversary.
Speaker 3: I would love that. And I'll do something very self anniversary,
Speaker 3: and you don't have to do anything for me on
Speaker 3: that anniversary. It'll be like birthdays, you know, like.
Speaker 4: Interesting, You're just adding more anniversaries to yourself.
Speaker 3: No, yeah, I see, I could see it how it
Speaker 3: appears that way, But I'm telling you I'm not. I'm
Speaker 3: not celebrating a September holiday ever ever.
Speaker 4: So jesu, Yeah, I agree with Calen. The date just
Speaker 4: becomes meaningful after it happens. I mean, we Ashley and
Speaker 4: I said we never wanted to get married on a Sunday.
Speaker 4: We wanted our wedding on a Saturday, and then we
Speaker 4: saw our wedding venue, Rosecliffe and they were like, well,
Speaker 4: we don't have any Saturdays available for this next year,
Speaker 4: only Sundays. And we're like, okay, well we're getting married
Speaker 4: on Sunday then because we just love the venue so much.
Speaker 4: So yeah, just kind of get a you know, we
Speaker 4: get a year, get a timeframe of the year, see
Speaker 4: what's available, and then the venue you I find is
Speaker 4: much more important than the data.
Speaker 1: So yeah.
Speaker 4: So well, congratulations Alyssa on your engagement and your upcoming wedding.
Speaker 1: That's very exciting.
Speaker 4: Thank you so much for listening to this episode of
Speaker 4: help we Suck at being newlyweds, and thank you so
Speaker 4: much for listening to the podcast in general. Dean, have
Speaker 4: a safe flight, Caitlin, you keep being wonderful. Don't worry
Speaker 4: about that little mishap. It probably will never happen again.
Speaker 2: What a word?
Speaker 3: Oh the making. Yeah sorry, if I might even just
Speaker 3: be cut out this podcast entirely because of the NBA
Speaker 3: nice here, so I apologize, but thank you guys.
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