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Speaker 3: Let's get into it.

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Speaker 1: IV a hole for telling my husband that Christianity is

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Speaker 1: garbage and I won't let it infect our family life.

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Speaker 3: See now, that is a statement.

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Speaker 2: That's a freaking statement.

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Speaker 3: State mint.

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Speaker 1: All right, let's see what the state of that statement

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Speaker 1: is in this story. My husband and I live in

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Speaker 1: the US northeast to where I am from. John moved here,

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Speaker 1: that's her husband, for work, several years ago from the

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Speaker 1: deep south of the US, which is where he grew up.

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Speaker 1: He was raised with Christian holidays, but never attending church. Coincidentally,

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Speaker 1: shortly before everything hit, John's parents and his childhood best

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Speaker 1: friend Dan and his wife decided to move here as well.

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Speaker 1: I imagine everything hit is like covid ah right. The past

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Speaker 1: weekend was the first that us three couples have gathered

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Speaker 1: together since any of us have moved here. We had

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Speaker 1: a distance picnic at our house. John sat down two

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Speaker 1: to three minutes after I did, as he was settling

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Speaker 1: Dan and my father in law immediately started to jokingly

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Speaker 1: rip on him for being whipped and doing my job

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Speaker 1: allowed to just catch up with the other two men.

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Speaker 4: You know, Sam, I think this is a moment where

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Speaker 4: we need to point to your shirts because that's points

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Speaker 4: to his hat. Is a bra moment, ra moment. What goodness, gracious.

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Speaker 1: This isn't you know America, This isn't the nuclear family.

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Speaker 1: This is b you know, this is ridiculous.

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Speaker 4: The crazy thing to me is he's like, you're raising

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Speaker 2: Are you attend to your children?

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Speaker 3: Freaking whip boy?

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Speaker 1: Yeah, dude, the job of parenting is on both parents. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: freaking ridiculous. But it gets worse.

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Speaker 3: Oh it always does.

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Speaker 2: I Ope.

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Speaker 1: It was trying to politely deflect when it turned to

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Speaker 1: and serving him before serving myself. So not only is

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Speaker 3: Wait, and is this a friend saying this?

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Speaker 1: I think the conversation the conversation just turned to this.

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Speaker 1: I see they're all joking about it, okay, And she

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Speaker 1: puts this in like and she puts this in parentheses.

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Speaker 1: If I had thought a certain dish would run out

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Speaker 1: not like right now, when he's just lollygagging around.

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Speaker 3: Right, she's not waiting on him hand and foot.

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Speaker 1: No, no, she's not a maid. Yeah, exactly, Dan and

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Speaker 1: father in law. So Dan is the friend. And then

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Speaker 1: the father in law continued to brag about how their

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Speaker 3: God, bless my outside shores. Like, what like work?

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Speaker 4: Yeah?

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Speaker 1: Bro, they live in apartments the outside Josh, you're right

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Speaker 1: righting the grass, my father.

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Speaker 2: They were calling.

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Speaker 4: Work, like we bring home the brids. How sad work?

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Speaker 4: You stay here inside?

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Speaker 1: This is ridiculous, funny. So the wives handle the inside shores,

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Speaker 1: Wow, the whole day was kind of wrecked from the start,

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Speaker 1: and I was frustrated when John left with Dan and

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Speaker 4: That is just so like, I just hate when people

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Speaker 4: like flip it back, like, oh, it's like mother effort,

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Speaker 1: Like, yeah, you're the one in the wrong, And now

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Speaker 3: Oh.

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Speaker 1: He brought up how a traditional division of labor is

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Speaker 3: Yo, b good gravy.

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Speaker 2: Are you just saying Southern culture is sexist?

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Speaker 3: Bro?

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Speaker 4: But it's just so hilarious that he's like, you're offending

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Speaker 1: Oh man, you're offending my culture's right to subjugate you.

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Speaker 2: Ridiculous. That is not an argument, oh man.

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Speaker 1: He said he's been building up a lot of resentment

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Speaker 1: the past few months that I make him do half

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Speaker 1: but honest and told him, Southern culture is garbage. It's bigotry.

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Speaker 1: I lived in John's home state for eight years, and

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Speaker 1: I saw how Southern hospitality is reserved only for those

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Speaker 2: Deviate from the norm.

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Speaker 1: Be queer, non Christian, be queer non Christian, a person

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Speaker 1: of color, a liberal, and a non traditional woman, and

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Speaker 1: they turn on you viciously. Does every single person act

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Speaker 1: like that? No, But it's the culture. John is livid

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Speaker 1: and says his culture is just as valid as any

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Speaker 1: the bigot by not compromising with him here and incorporating

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Speaker 1: I would if his culture was Islam or Asian or

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Speaker 1: what's not.

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Speaker 3: Or Asian.

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Speaker 1: See this is like, oh man, this is I understand

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Speaker 1: the comparison.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, there's yeah, there there it's an interesting argument.

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Speaker 2: I understand the comparison.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, However, I do not agree that culture is a

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Speaker 4: Right, Like that's that's one hundred percent. It's like if

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Speaker 4: there's Southern culture where it's like come home for the holidays,

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Speaker 4: as long as the parents are like cool and everything,

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Speaker 4: it's like, okay, cool, Like that's that's not hurting anybody.

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Speaker 3: You know what I mean. But as soon as you

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Speaker 3: as soon as you start doing something.

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Speaker 4: That like infringes on someone else's freedom, yeah, and infringes

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Speaker 4: on someone else. Basically, that's where it's like, okay, like

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Speaker 4: you can't just get out of jail free with the

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Speaker 4: culture card. And that's keep any any other culture, religion, whatever.

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Speaker 4: Like that's that's consistent throughout.

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Speaker 1: Like both parties have to agree to it, right exactly,

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Speaker 1: Like like you know, if if OP agreed to this circumstance,

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Speaker 4: And that's the way she wants to live her life. Fine, yeah,

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Speaker 4: but like it's it's it's not that you can't.

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Speaker 1: Tell her to do something she doesn't want to do

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Speaker 1: because it's your culture exactly.

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Speaker 2: A whole or not the A whole?

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Speaker 3: Well, you know, I know your boy is not the

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Speaker 4: A whole. Definitely, definitely her husband is and freak. I

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