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Speaker 1: It is time for second date update. Let us get

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Speaker 1: Matt on the line. Matt, how are you hey? Doing okay?

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Speaker 1: How are you doing? Well? We're doing all right. So

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Speaker 1: you've been single for how long now, about two and

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Speaker 1: a half years, and you're looking for a great relationship. Yes,

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Speaker 1: yes I am, and it's been hard to find somebody.

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Speaker 1: It has been. Um. Yeah, I've been on a lot

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Speaker 1: of first dates, but nothing's really gone beyond that. While

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Speaker 1: So you're using what bumble? Yes, yeah, it bumbles the

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Speaker 1: app the choice apt at the moment, and you met

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Speaker 1: someone on bumble I did, and honestly, yeah, she was

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Speaker 1: like everything I was looking for, like beautiful, sweet, funny,

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Speaker 1: But she didn't seem to be interested in me after

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Speaker 1: after the date and I don't honestly know what's going on.

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Speaker 1: So what did you do for the date? Um? We

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Speaker 1: went to the Thirsty Merchant down in the valley village

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Speaker 1: and you know, had drinks. I thought it was a

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Speaker 1: great night, like conversation flowed. And at the end of

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Speaker 1: the night she had to go, Like, you know, I

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Speaker 1: knew she was going. She said she had a thing beforehand,

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Speaker 1: but you know, I really genuinely thought I would see

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Speaker 1: her again, did you text her afterwards? She texted me

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Speaker 1: actually pretty quickly and said that she wasn't interested and

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Speaker 1: wished it, wished me the best. Really, yeah, right after

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Speaker 1: the date, right after the day. It seems harsh today,

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Speaker 1: you know, Susy, that seems a little like harsh. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: the thing but now but now you know, yeah, but

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Speaker 1: he wants to know what he did wrong? Right, Yes, yeah,

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Speaker 1: I I honestly don't get it. Like I thought it

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Speaker 1: was going so well, Like we were both laughing, we

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Speaker 1: were both talking like I don't get maybe an extrame

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Speaker 1: back in her life. And then she's just like, I

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Speaker 1: can't do this. And then you were like you were

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Speaker 1: like the guy right after the X and then she

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Speaker 1: was like, oh I can't. I know friends that have

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Speaker 1: been in that situation before. I was like the false

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Speaker 1: bounce back kind of Yeah, alright, so let's let's try

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Speaker 1: and call her next here, can you hang tight for

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Speaker 1: a second. Yeah, what's her name? What's her name? Her

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Speaker 1: name is Diana? Diana? Okay, so we're in the middle

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Speaker 1: of a second date. Update, Uh, Matt is on bumble

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Speaker 1: met a great girl went out and then afterwards she

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Speaker 1: said she sent a text saying Hey, this is not

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Speaker 1: going to work out, which it seems like harsh in

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Speaker 1: a way. Well, but wouldn't you wait a day? No,

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Speaker 1: you would do that after a date. I've done it before.

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Speaker 1: I feel like it's being direct and so Matt, you

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Speaker 1: know that it's not going to work out. You just

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Speaker 1: want to know what you did wrong? Yeah, because, like

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Speaker 1: I said, I've been on a lot of these dates

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Speaker 1: recently and they've all ended similarly where it's like I

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Speaker 1: thought it went well and yeah, I just want some feedback.

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Speaker 1: So there's a theme to them not wanting to go

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Speaker 1: out again. Yes, yes, I'm I'm a little nervous to

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Speaker 1: make the call. Can you do you? But Matt, think

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Speaker 1: about it. Do you have any idea what might be

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Speaker 1: not happening? Genuinely, I don't have a clue. Like, like

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Speaker 1: I said, conversation is only really well, these are pre

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Speaker 1: attractive people. I'd like to say I'm attractive to like

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Speaker 1: I got I got no idea. Okay, all right, well listen, Matt,

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Speaker 1: we have her on the other line. Be very quiet

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Speaker 1: and let's see what we can find out. Okay, it

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Speaker 1: sounds good to me. Thank you. Here we go. I'm

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Speaker 1: worried about this one, I mean pattern. Hello Diana, Hi, Hi,

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Speaker 1: thank you for coming on with us. It's kiss FM

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Speaker 1: sis any Tanya myself, Ryan, Nice to meet you. Hi,

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Speaker 1: Nice to meet you. So a bit random, but we're

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Speaker 1: calling about a guy named Matt that you met on bumble. Um. Yeah, okay,

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Speaker 1: I think I remember Matt. So you did go out

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Speaker 1: with him? Um? Yeah I went out with him? Um?

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Speaker 1: And how is the date? Um? Like, nothing special? There

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Speaker 1: was no spark mm hmm. So when you say when

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Speaker 1: you say no spark, that's it. There was nothing that

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Speaker 1: like went wrong, Like you didn't have a good time

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Speaker 1: at all during the date. Yeah, it was just another

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Speaker 1: like long line of disappointing dates. It wasn't anything special.

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Speaker 1: What what did you talk about on the date? Oh? Um?

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Speaker 1: Where do I even begin? Um? Well, like he asked

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Speaker 1: me out for drinks, and um, it was. It was

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Speaker 1: the weirdest thing ever. He doesn't drink, so I don't

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Speaker 1: know why he asked me out for drinks. And then

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Speaker 1: you know, we started talking and he just he started

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Speaker 1: asking me questions that he wanted to answer himself, Like

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Speaker 1: he asked me, do you like to work out? And

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Speaker 1: I'm like sometimes and he goes into this whole speech

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Speaker 1: about the importance of fitness and his daily routine. So

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Speaker 1: he talked about himself a lot, exactly exactly anything he

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Speaker 1: asked me. It was something that he wanted to talk about,

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Speaker 1: whether it was fitness, whether it was his job, which

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Speaker 1: is ridiculous. So, um, Diana, he's on the line with

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Speaker 1: us right now, Matt is here with us, and he

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Speaker 1: really wanted to know what he did wrong. Matt, does

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Speaker 1: that make sense to you? Uh that? Hey, Diana? Yeah,

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Speaker 1: that's that kind of checks out. Do you talk about

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Speaker 1: yourself a lot? That? I don't think I do? But well, well,

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Speaker 1: look this is a really experience. Now, yeah, I don't

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Speaker 1: know this is this is good, this is good, like

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Speaker 1: but it's not. It's not great. It's it's actually not great.

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Speaker 1: So walk me through it. You bring up fitness and

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Speaker 1: then you say, what, uh that you know, I have

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Speaker 1: this study routine going on at the CrossFit near me,

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Speaker 1: and um, it's like it's kind of like, you know,

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Speaker 1: my way of saying, Hey, I'm passionate about this. What

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Speaker 1: else are you passionate about? Um? Did he ask you that, Diana?

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Speaker 1: Did he did he ask you that question? Oh? Yes,

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Speaker 1: he asked me that question, and then he went all

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Speaker 1: in about how he does this crossfin how he eats healthy,

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Speaker 1: and how this is the most important thing because if

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Speaker 1: you don't do that, then there's all these repercussions. Oh,

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Speaker 1: it's like the shake from Love is blind? Who kept

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Speaker 1: asking girls that the guys shake from love is blind?

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Speaker 1: Remember he like went viral last season. Didn't watch because

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Speaker 1: he was asking anybody about their fitness that you're like shake. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: So I guess here's the thing it is. I think, right,

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Speaker 1: I think a date should have a healthy balance of

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Speaker 1: conversation where you ask questions and then you talk about

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Speaker 1: yourself and then ask more questions. And so it sounds

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Speaker 1: like you Matt talked about you a little too much, right,

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Speaker 1: fair sounds like it, Yeah, because you said this happens

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Speaker 1: all the time. Yeah, the fallout happens all the time.

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Speaker 1: So uh yeah, I guess I must be doing this.

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Speaker 1: Uh yeah, it sounds like a pattern. Alright, Well, let's

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Speaker 1: thank Diana. Diana, thank you for being candid with us.

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Speaker 1: And to Matt, yeah, sure you're not a have a

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Speaker 1: guy like you're cute. You just have to listen to people. Okay,

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Speaker 1: like makes a date about the girl Okay, I want

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Speaker 1: to talk. I don't want you to be talking the

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Speaker 1: whole time. So good luck, thank you, thank you, all right,

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Speaker 1: thank you, Diana, thank you, Matt, bye bye. Right. I

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Speaker 1: feel like we know people like that, right, that can't

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Speaker 1: help themselves but just talk about themselves. I mean, I

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Speaker 1: probably done it. You don't talk about yourself and not

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Speaker 1: not like sometimes right exactly, Sometimes I talked too much.

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Speaker 1: Sometimes I find myself too. I feel that's all of

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Speaker 1: our problems. I think, I think because I feel like

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Speaker 1: we feel like if I'm if it's a quiet date

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Speaker 1: and Nick it's quiet, I feel like I have to

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Speaker 1: fill dead air anything yet, right, and it's like my job.

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Speaker 1: So if I don't, then, but it's like a gut thing,

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Speaker 1: you know what I mean, tany. I also feel like

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Speaker 1: you have been out with that guy for sure, Right,

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Speaker 1: you've been out with guys like that. Yeah. But you

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Speaker 1: know what I think is the interesting thing that I

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Speaker 1: that we're not really honing it on, is it's all

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Speaker 1: about fitness. It's like he wants to make sure that

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Speaker 1: the girl that he's with is just as into fitness

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Speaker 1: as he is, which is a little weird. That's not weird.

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Speaker 1: I think so, because it's like, what is he scared?

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Speaker 1: Like you know what I mean, Like he needs to

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Speaker 1: make it a point to say he just he knows.

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Speaker 1: I think he's good looking, so I think he knows

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Speaker 1: he is. So he likes to talk about that, you know,

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Speaker 1: and wants his partner to do the same. There's a way,

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Speaker 1: there's a way to word it so it's not so intense,

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Speaker 1: but I understand trying to have the same you know,

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Speaker 1: interests as someone you're trying to date. Correct, So did

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Speaker 1: we help? I guess we help. Yeah, I think so.

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Speaker 1: I think he learns pretty good