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Speaker 1: First Date follow Up powered by the Advocates Injury Attorneys

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Speaker 1: online at advocatesla dot com.

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Speaker 2: Jenna is on the phone today for our first date

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Speaker 2: follow up, and she's getting ghosted by a dude named Luca.

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Speaker 2: So in a few minutes we'll call him and see

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Speaker 2: if he'll tell us why he's ghostinger and maybe get

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Speaker 2: her another date. But first, Jenna, how long has it

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Speaker 2: been since you heard from Luca?

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Speaker 3: Uh, it has been a week. I haven't heard anything

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Speaker 3: in a week.

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Speaker 4: Okay, that's usually the spot where everybody starts to panic

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Speaker 4: a little bit. How many times did you reach out

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Speaker 4: to him in that time?

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Speaker 3: Probably like once a day, you know.

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Speaker 5: I just usually sent him photos of my dog because

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Speaker 5: he that's how we met. Our dog totally hit it off,

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Speaker 5: and at first I was getting like a little bit

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Speaker 5: of feedback and now just nothing.

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Speaker 6: Okay, Well let's talk about the date then.

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Speaker 5: Well we met at the dog park, well actually our

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Speaker 5: dogs met first. His golden doodle literally tackled my pug

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Speaker 5: beans and it felt meant to be. And we ended

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Speaker 5: up grabbing coffee after and I got a lavender oat

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Speaker 5: milk latte obviously, and then the he got like black

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Speaker 5: drip coffee. So I was like, okay, edgy.

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Speaker 3: Yeah.

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Speaker 5: And then so we sat on this cute patio outside

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Speaker 5: and we just talked for like two hours about astrology,

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Speaker 5: about oat milk conspiracies, about his tattoo that he swears

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Speaker 5: is the moon but it totally is.

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Speaker 6: Okay, he has tattoo he says isn't the moon, but

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Speaker 5: Yeah, he was trying to say it was like some

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Speaker 5: other I don't even like, some other edgy kind of

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Speaker 5: niche thing, but I was like, that's literally a moon.

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Speaker 4: When people are like that's an artist hooke, and You're like, oh,

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Speaker 4: the tattoo on my neck he is a lotus flower.

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Speaker 6: But so yeah, okay.

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Speaker 5: And at one point he literally watched me parallel park

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Speaker 5: and he didn't even he didn't even judge.

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Speaker 3: So I feel like that's intimacy.

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Speaker 6: Oh yeah, I mean in a way, okay, and you

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Speaker 6: feel comfortable.

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Speaker 5: Yeah, absolutely, it felt so comfortable and so natural.

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Speaker 6: Well, then what could have gone wrong?

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Speaker 5: I I truly don't know. At one point he wiped

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Speaker 5: oat milk foam off of my nose.

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Speaker 3: With his finger and he licked it. It just made

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Speaker 3: me feel like he was really.

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Speaker 5: Into me, Like I don't know how else to interpret that,

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Speaker 5: Like it feels like he's he's into me.

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Speaker 3: He was into it.

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Speaker 6: I didn't lick it off your nose.

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Speaker 5: No, he he wiped it off of his finger and

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Speaker 5: then licked it off of his finger, which still I'm like,

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Speaker 5: I think too.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, for sure, i'd be a little weird now if

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Speaker 2: you li liked it straight off the night.

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Speaker 5: And yeah, he said at one point of the day,

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Speaker 5: he said, you're really call me to be around, Like

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Speaker 5: that's not the friend zone, Like that's future wife in

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Speaker 5: a linen dress. Energy.

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Speaker 2: Okay, so what do you think the thing is? Well,

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Speaker 2: why do you think you're getting ghosted?

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Speaker 5: Well? Okay, so when he when he wipes the oat

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Speaker 5: milk off of my nose, I leaned.

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Speaker 3: In to kiss his nose. I just licked into he

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Speaker 3: licks the foam off off my nose or with his finger.

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Speaker 5: I just thought it was only right to balance it

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Speaker 5: with like a romantic, like little nose peck.

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Speaker 3: In the moment, it.

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Speaker 5: Felt really romantic. But but the way he reacted was

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Speaker 6: Really, so what did he do?

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Speaker 3: We laughed about it, what about how stilly it was?

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Speaker 3: I thought I was embarrassed, but I thought we were

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Speaker 3: back on track. But maybe he's still thinking about it.

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Speaker 3: I hope not.

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Speaker 6: I'm thinking about it. Okay, Son, you think maybe it

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Speaker 6: was the nose kiss that did it.

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Speaker 5: That's the only thing I can think of, because other

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Speaker 5: than that, we really vibed.

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Speaker 3: We really did.

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Speaker 6: Did you use tongue on?

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Speaker 3: No?

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Speaker 6: No French kiss? Okay, that goes too far. I feel

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Speaker 6: better about that then, Okay, all right, we'll see if

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Speaker 6: we can figure it out for you.

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Speaker 2: We'll play a song come back, and then call him

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Speaker 2: and see if he'll tell us why he's ghosting you

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Speaker 2: and maybe get you a second date. Okay, okay, all right,

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Speaker 2: we'll get your first day follow up, next.

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Speaker 1: First date follow up powered by the Advocates Injury Attorneys

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Speaker 2: Right in the middle of your first day follow up

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Speaker 2: and if you're just joining us, Jenna is on the

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Speaker 2: phone and she's getting ghosted by a guy named Lucas.

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Speaker 2: So we're about to call him and see if he'll

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Speaker 2: tell us why he's ghosting her and maybe get her

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Speaker 2: a second date if she still wants one. But before

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Speaker 2: we do that, Jenna, why don't you break down your

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Speaker 2: date for us again?

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Speaker 6: Real quick.

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Speaker 5: Well, our dog's got to meet cute in the park.

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Speaker 5: We hit off the absolutely vibe. So we went to

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Speaker 5: get coffee and talked for like two hours about everything

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Speaker 5: under the sun, really, and he the craziest part is

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Speaker 5: that he like, I had oatmelt foam on my nose

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Speaker 5: and he wiped it off with his finger and licked it.

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Speaker 5: And I think I'm getting ghosted. So I'm just confused because.

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Speaker 4: That would be like, I'm into you moment, I'm not

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Speaker 4: licking foam off of my finger if I don't like

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Speaker 4: you exactly.

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Speaker 2: And you think you might be getting ghosted because at

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Speaker 2: the end of the day, you kissed his nose to

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Speaker 2: balance the nose action.

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Speaker 3: At the there was one awkward moment.

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Speaker 5: I was trying to roll with the whole like kissing

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Speaker 5: the nose thing, and so I kissed his nose and

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Speaker 5: it was awkward, but we laughed it off, led it off,

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Speaker 5: and so I'm hoping it I'm hoping it's not that.

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Speaker 3: But that's the only thing.

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Speaker 6: I can what bass his nose action like that's flaws.

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Speaker 2: Not a lot of dates, first dates, I have no

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Speaker 2: All right, you're ready for us to call him? Yeah, Okay,

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Speaker 2: here we go. Hell, hi, man, I speak to Luca.

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Speaker 6: Please. This is this Hey Luca, how are you? This

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Speaker 6: is a radio show. It's called The Jebel Show. Hi Luca.

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Speaker 6: I'm Nina. Hi, I'm and my name is Jebel. How

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Speaker 6: are you? What's up?

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Speaker 7: I'm alright?

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Speaker 6: So the three you guys, Yeah you listened to the

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Speaker 6: show ever?

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Speaker 5: Yeah?

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Speaker 8: Yeah, I've listened to you guys before. I mean, it's

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Speaker 8: just kind of weird that you guys are calling me.

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Speaker 6: Sure.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, well we're calling you today because we got an

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Speaker 2: email about you from somebody.

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Speaker 7: Okay, a good email or like a bed like what

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Speaker 7: kind of email?

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Speaker 2: Yeah, it's a great email. Actually, But we do a

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Speaker 2: segment called the First Aid follow Up. That's where if

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Speaker 2: you go out on a date with somebody and then

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Speaker 2: you end up ghosting them, that person can email us

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Speaker 2: us to get you on.

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Speaker 6: The phone and ask why you're ghosting.

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Speaker 5: Then.

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Speaker 2: Okay, so we got an email about you from somebody

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Speaker 2: that you're ghosting.

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Speaker 7: Okay, you know that would be I mean, I got

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Speaker 7: a guess, I got a guess.

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Speaker 6: Take a guess.

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Speaker 7: I mean Jenna the Lavender Latte girl, Yes.

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Speaker 6: Jenna, Yeah, tell us why you're ghosting? Her.

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Speaker 9: I mean she was just she's just kind of weird,

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Speaker 9: you know, like I mean, I mean, be unique sign

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Speaker 9: you know, but like she brought a crystal to the

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Speaker 9: coffee date, like she's like a little amethyst, and sat.

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Speaker 7: On the table set and needed to charge. Then she

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Speaker 7: proceeded to give me like a twelve minute speech about

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Speaker 7: how she and her dog are twin souls.

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Speaker 8: Oh you know, like okay, she asked me if I

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Speaker 8: ever felt emotionally manipulated by her coffee order, you know.

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Speaker 6: Like emostly manipulated by her coffee order. What does that mean? Yeah?

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Speaker 3: Yeah, that was a conversation starter.

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Speaker 6: Lu to you.

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Speaker 8: Yeah yeah great, Yeah, mindsighted, but that's nice.

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Speaker 5: What's up, Jenneral, I was just being authentic, but you

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Speaker 5: literally said that you wanted someone grounded and real, so

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Speaker 5: I should.

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Speaker 7: Have reel you.

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Speaker 8: You asked the barista if the oak milk had been

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Speaker 3: Lot because mercury was acting weird. Energy matters.

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Speaker 8: I mean you also tried to stage the table, you know,

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Speaker 3: I was protecting our connection. I just slightly lightly burned it.

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Speaker 7: Jenne listen, you're super interesting.

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Speaker 8: You're funny, but did you notice that I barely said

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Speaker 5: What?

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Speaker 3: No, Well, we had like a great flow.

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Speaker 8: Listen, you had a monologue, right, I know about your dogs, dreams,

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Speaker 8: your third eye chakra, you're playing abandonment issues.

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Speaker 7: What about me? Did you even know that I'm an engineer?

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Speaker 3: Oh, you're an engineer. That's cool, that's dope.

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Speaker 6: So I guess that's j didn't know. You didn't know that.

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Speaker 3: No, I didn't.

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Speaker 7: Yeah, that's that's because we never got to meet in

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Speaker 8: It was just, I mean, you don't know that I

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Speaker 8: simply don't believe in the chakras and the crystals and

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Speaker 3: You just moved here from where.

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Speaker 6: I don't think that's the point, Jenna.

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Speaker 5: Okay, I'm sorry for being in tune with myself.

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Speaker 8: I'm not trying to knock it all right, Like, you know,

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Speaker 8: I just felt you weren't really open who I am.

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Speaker 8: You know, you were interviewing me for a vibe check,

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Speaker 7: And that's it.

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Speaker 3: I thought that we clicked.

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Speaker 8: I mean, you're not You're not boring all right, I'll

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Speaker 8: give you that.

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Speaker 3: Well, okay, what if.

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Speaker 5: We try again and maybe we do something quieter, like

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Speaker 5: a walk with the dogs and no talking about past lives.

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Speaker 6: Would you like another day with Jenna? Will pay for it?

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Speaker 8: Listen, Jenna, I think you're a lot of things, but

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Speaker 8: just maybe not my thing.

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Speaker 7: Okay, Like you're cool, but I don't think so.

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Speaker 3: Just admit it.

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Speaker 5: You vibed more with my dog than me.

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Speaker 8: Oh yeah, one hundred percent. Your dog is chill like

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Speaker 8: I love the dog.

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Speaker 3: That's because the grounded unlike some people.

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Speaker 3: you will first date, follow up,