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Speaker 1: My girlfriend wants to be friends with her ex boyfriend,

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Speaker 1: but he says he still loves her.

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Speaker 2: There you go.

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Speaker 1: So my twenty one male girlfriend twenty one female of

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Speaker 1: six months has been friends with her ex boyfriend twenty

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Speaker 1: eight since we have been together. We are all at university.

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Speaker 1: Me and my girlfriend lived with each other and four

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Speaker 1: other people. We work great in pretty much every aspect

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Speaker 1: of our lives. Other than when there is any situation.

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Speaker 2: That involves him.

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Speaker 1: We usually have great communication, but whenever it comes to this,

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Speaker 1: we always argue and things get Two months ago, he

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Speaker 1: told her, when he was wasted on a night out

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Speaker 1: that he still loved her and wanted her back. Guys,

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Speaker 1: do we ask to cut the X out?

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Speaker 3: I think it's that to cut I think.

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Speaker 2: When he's confessing love.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, I think that that crosses a boundary.

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Speaker 1: Asked to cut cut it out, let us know in

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Speaker 1: the poll. So they went and spoke while And they

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Speaker 1: went and spoke while I went home.

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Speaker 2: Interesting, Oh wow, save for w's in the chaft, for rope,

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Speaker 2: for trusting his partner. That's true. That's a lot of trust,

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Speaker 2: a lot of trust.

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Speaker 1: She later arrived home in tears, and I knew he

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Speaker 1: had been with what what when she fell asleep. I

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Speaker 1: made the awful mistake of looking at her phone Because

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Speaker 1: of that, It's something I regret deeply, as she has

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Speaker 1: lost a lot of trust in me. The next day,

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Speaker 1: he asked her to forget about last night as he

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Speaker 1: was wasted. After speaking with her mom, my girlfriend decided

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Speaker 1: not to mention it to me as he was wasted.

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Speaker 1: I'm fine with this decision.

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Speaker 2: Okay, okay, Actually what so I know we did she did?

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Speaker 3: No, no, no, no, no. I think my understanding of what

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Speaker 3: happened is that he confessed his love to her while

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Speaker 3: he was drunk, and then oh he Ope's girlfriend and oh,

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Speaker 3: PE's girlfriend's mom were like, you don't have to tell him.

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Speaker 3: You don't have to tell op. He was drunk, the

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Speaker 3: boyfriend was drunk, and so they didn't tell Oh, he's

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Speaker 3: only finding out about this now because you stupid like

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Speaker 3: later after the fact, which I think is whack. I

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Speaker 3: think it's whack. I think you should tell your partners, definitely,

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Speaker 3: stuff like that.

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Speaker 2: Absolutely dumper, dumper. Okay.

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Speaker 1: So it's like we know that the mom has said

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Speaker 1: you don't need to tell him, So it's like there's

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Speaker 1: a lot of evidence, a lot of evidence towards that she.

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Speaker 3: Hooked up with him.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, okay, not I don't know if she hooked up

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Speaker 2: with you. Yeah. I shouldn't say hooked up with him,

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Speaker 2: but that something more happened then breaking of us, speaking

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Speaker 2: of yes happened, Yes, broken.

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Speaker 1: So two weeks later, on a night out, he said

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Speaker 1: it again and tried to convince her to come back

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Speaker 1: with him to his house after a night out.

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Speaker 2: She of course turned him down.

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Speaker 1: Okay, And after that she decided to tell me about it.

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Speaker 1: I was very uncomfortable with the situation. He then texted

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Speaker 1: her asking if he could talk to her about it.

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Speaker 1: So they met up for coffee with my knowledge and

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Speaker 1: seemingly his okay. During this conversation, he told her how

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Speaker 1: sorry he was for everything that had happened in their

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Speaker 1: relationship and how much he wanted her back and how

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Speaker 1: things would be different.

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Speaker 3: Cut the axe out.

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Speaker 2: I'm always gonna be Yeah. I think if an ex

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Speaker 2: is asking if anyone is, you know, confessing love and

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Speaker 2: trying to get you know, your partner back in their life,

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Speaker 2: that is not a friendship that you have to be

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Speaker 1: And at that point it's fair to be like Hey, yeah,

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Speaker 1: he's making me uncomfortable, and you like, move on from

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Speaker 1: this person, because it is like if you truly don't

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Speaker 1: want to be with him, it's like, this is not

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Speaker 1: going to be a conducive No.

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Speaker 2: It's not a good friendship.

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Speaker 1: No.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, it's just him asking you out over and over

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Speaker 2: and you saying no, because why are you keeping him around?

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Speaker 3: At that point, maybe she wants the validation conspiracy theory, yeah.

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Speaker 2: Big one.

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Speaker 1: Well, he said if she didn't choose him that they

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Speaker 1: couldn't be friends anymore.

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Speaker 2: Oh my gosh.

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Speaker 3: He then gave her a lovely necklace. I love how

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Speaker 3: you know he is, like, I hate this guy. But

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Speaker 3: the necklace was so it was so.

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Speaker 2: It was gold that had a picture of him inside.

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Speaker 2: It played a little song when it opened.

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Speaker 3: They found it at the bottom of marry On. His

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Speaker 3: trench with the Titanic was super old.

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Speaker 1: When she came home, she was incredibly upset by the

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Speaker 1: situation and was in tears for a very long time.

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Speaker 1: I chose not to prow or ask any questions about

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Speaker 1: what he said or did, but just cuddled and comforted her.

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Speaker 1: She later called up her mom to talk through it,

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Speaker 1: and then after that she told me what happened. I

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Speaker 1: tried to be as understanding as I could that night,

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Speaker 1: as I knew she was upset by it.

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Speaker 2: The next day we spoke about it.

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Speaker 1: She still wanted them to be able to be friends,

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Speaker 1: but I was very against it.

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Speaker 2: Red flags maybe uncomfortable. Not only is ope against it,

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Speaker 2: but also the guy is saying, ultimatum, either you get

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Speaker 2: with me or we can't be friends. Yeah, at least

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Speaker 2: he has some morals. I'm saying, you can either be

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Speaker 2: with me or be you know, or we can't be Oh.

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Speaker 2: He isn't even given an ultimatum.

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Speaker 1: He's just like I just am uncomfortable with him, you know, Like, oh,

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Speaker 1: I never trusted his intentions and being friends with her

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Speaker 1: in the past, so I most certainly didn't now if

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Speaker 1: he wanted to become friends. Uh. We then went on

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Speaker 1: Christmas break. During this time, he messaged her a couple

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Speaker 1: of times and they spoke briefly, and he didn't bring

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Speaker 1: up his feelings. He's waiting, dude, He's like a little sitting.

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Speaker 1: He's like every time every time he doesn't like absolutely

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Speaker 1: gush and confesses love, it's like, oh, well, he didn't

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Speaker 1: like absolutely confesses love that time.

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Speaker 2: It's like she's holding it in.

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Speaker 1: Then suddenly did oh, and then suddenly did and asked

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Speaker 2: Later you came out, just came out. You love me back? Now? Now?

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Speaker 2: Now are we there yet? Are married yet? Are we

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Speaker 2: married yet? God?

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Speaker 1: Later later after that, she told him no and was

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Speaker 1: trying to avoid the conversation.

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Speaker 2: He got mad at her. Why does she even want

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Speaker 2: to be friends with him? This is annoying.

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Speaker 1: They didn't speak much after that much after that, then

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Speaker 1: the occasional message or two. During this time, he removed

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Speaker 1: her and added her back multiple times on social media.

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Speaker 1: The day that we arrived back to university, he messaged

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Speaker 1: her and asked if he could come and chat. I

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Speaker 1: was home, so she was comfortable, saying, Yet, oh my god,

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Speaker 1: this guy guys. I know, I know this is like

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Speaker 1: really hard to guess, but can we possibly fathom what

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Speaker 1: happens next?

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Speaker 2: Can we guess? Okay, I'm actually going to say that.

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Speaker 2: He doesn't say that he loves her, Sam.

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Speaker 3: I think he gives her another ultimatum. I think, oh, third,

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Speaker 3: all right, I understand that you can't just love me.

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Speaker 3: I will settle for being play bing.

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Speaker 2: Let's multiply love both of them allow well. He then

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Speaker 2: poured out his love again. Who could have seen that coming?

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Speaker 1: And of course she said no, I was able to

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Speaker 1: hear the conversation with her knowledge. He walked off and

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Speaker 1: they haven't spoken till Oh my god. They are both

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Speaker 1: in rowing club together, so they have to see each

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Speaker 1: other sometimes and would be seeing each other tomorrow for

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Speaker 1: a race.

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Speaker 2: What did they say in rowing? Row? They so row?

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Speaker 2: They have like the cox and says something.

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Speaker 3: I think it says row.

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Speaker 2: Okay, he's like, he's like, I love you. They go

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Speaker 2: like this? Do they with the with the drums?

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Speaker 3: Oh, that's like a Viking ship. I don't think any

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Speaker 3: of us know, but really quick, I would like to

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Speaker 3: uh shout out this guy for just having, you know,

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Speaker 3: like iron will and persistent. If he applied that to

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Speaker 3: something non creepy and terrible, he would maybe be a

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Speaker 3: very successful dude. Unwavering patient, unwavering patience and confidence. Yeah,

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Speaker 3: maybe ador to door salesman. Maybe like a mormonary, one

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Speaker 3: of those salesman at least.

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Speaker 2: Oh the twenty eight year old huh no, no, no,

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Speaker 2: I love you. Oh sorry you're saying.

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Speaker 3: Oh yeah, the the the guy, I love you guy,

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Speaker 3: the persistence is crazy.

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Speaker 2: Rest she loves you? Yeah, yeah, true, My gosh. So

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Speaker 2: he messages no concur to meet up. It's ridiculous. He

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Speaker 2: said he wanted to be able to be friends and

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Speaker 2: hang out. I don't believe him, and asked if they

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Speaker 2: could just start by going to the library together and

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Speaker 2: just hanging out. It's the draft. So she said yes

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Speaker 2: to that.

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Speaker 3: No, she did not, she said yes.

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Speaker 2: She said yes, I took her straight to the erotic fiction. Now.

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Speaker 1: This makes me extremely uncomfortable and caused a big argument

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Speaker 1: between us, right she says, I don't trust her. She

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Speaker 1: says that I don't trust her, but I really don't

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Speaker 1: trust him. In their relationship, he sometimes wouldn't take no

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Speaker 1: I don't understand why she would want to be friends

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Speaker 1: she says although she understands, she still wants to be

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Speaker 1: his feelings and will never accept his advances. But they

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Speaker 1: have been good friends for a long time and she

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Speaker 1: doesn't want to throw it away. Just a little quick reminder.

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Speaker 1: He's twenty eight, she's twenty one. They've been friends for

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Speaker 1: a long time.

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Speaker 2: Oh no, six months? Wait? Am I wrong? You could

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Speaker 3: Chat?

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Speaker 2: Yeah, I op p yeah, but I thought I might

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Speaker 2: be wrong. But I know that they've been friends at

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Speaker 2: We don't know how far back we have.

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Speaker 1: They go back chat, do some digging, and let us

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Speaker 1: says there's something there.

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Speaker 2: Let the math math.

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Speaker 1: It hurts when she says, I don't trust her, and

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Speaker 1: I can see how it might seem that way, and

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Speaker 1: I think this stems from me looking at her.

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Speaker 2: Phone two months back.

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Speaker 1: But I just can't stand him and feel disgusted whenever

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Speaker 1: because he only wants to go to the library now,

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Speaker 1: that is just not something I should stress out about.

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Speaker 1: And I'm overreacting to the possibility of them just just

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Speaker 1: hanging out again, real simple, It's fine.

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Speaker 2: She's she said.

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Speaker 1: If he does make it clear he isn't okay to

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Speaker 1: be friends again, then she will stop hanging out again.

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Speaker 1: I love this girl with all my heart, and no

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Speaker 1: I want to marry her and spend the rest of

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Speaker 1: only thing we ever argue about. We are going to

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Speaker 1: be reading the answers of this post. That would greatly

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Speaker 3: talk about like relationships.

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Speaker 2: She figured out that they had been dating.

444
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Speaker 3: Yeah, I think if you are friends with your ex,

445
00:23:52,680 --> 00:23:55,159
Speaker 3: you should disclose it pretty early in the relationship.

446
00:23:55,280 --> 00:23:57,840
Speaker 2: I agree. He said that they had met in school

447
00:23:57,920 --> 00:24:00,920
Speaker 2: and had similar ideals and ambitions. I dated for nine

448
00:24:00,960 --> 00:24:02,600
Speaker 2: months and broke up a year and a half ago.

449
00:24:03,240 --> 00:24:05,440
Speaker 2: I asked him why they've broken up, and he said

450
00:24:05,480 --> 00:24:08,600
Speaker 2: the relationship was awful and they worked much better as friends.

451
00:24:09,080 --> 00:24:11,840
Speaker 2: They started their business after they broke up, and things

452
00:24:11,880 --> 00:24:14,119
Speaker 2: have apparently been going super well between them.

453
00:24:14,560 --> 00:24:15,840
Speaker 3: They started a business together.

454
00:24:16,160 --> 00:24:19,080
Speaker 2: Yeah, after they broke up. Whoa, that's what I was saying.

455
00:24:19,119 --> 00:24:22,040
Speaker 2: They worked together and they are friends together, and he

456
00:24:22,440 --> 00:24:27,040
Speaker 2: didn't like say anything. Yeah. I started to get kind

457
00:24:27,119 --> 00:24:30,000
Speaker 2: of suspicious about her though, when time passed and I

458
00:24:30,160 --> 00:24:33,720
Speaker 2: still hadn't met her. I met his friends and family

459
00:24:33,840 --> 00:24:37,200
Speaker 2: pretty soon after we started dating, but I didn't meet Jenna.

460
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Speaker 3: Really quick question to all of you, question for chat.

461
00:24:42,400 --> 00:24:46,840
Speaker 3: If you are friends with your ex, at what point

462
00:24:47,320 --> 00:24:50,360
Speaker 3: should it be disclosed? First date, second date, third date,

463
00:24:50,440 --> 00:24:52,280
Speaker 3: fourth date, fit date, sixth date?

464
00:24:53,520 --> 00:24:58,720
Speaker 2: I think whenever? Then how good of friends you are?

465
00:24:58,800 --> 00:24:59,040
Speaker 2: I think?

466
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Speaker 1: And it's a at your hypothetical, it's like friends that

467
00:25:02,080 --> 00:25:03,800
Speaker 1: you ex that you like interact with, because there's like

468
00:25:03,840 --> 00:25:06,000
Speaker 1: different between friendly and like actually hang out.

469
00:25:05,840 --> 00:25:08,320
Speaker 3: Actually together, like you maybe got ice cream last week?

470
00:25:08,400 --> 00:25:10,600
Speaker 2: I am you would be you should be sorry you.

471
00:25:11,000 --> 00:25:12,879
Speaker 2: I was just gonna say you should be, like I

472
00:25:13,000 --> 00:25:15,400
Speaker 2: got ice cream last week with my ex? Who's my friend?

473
00:25:16,960 --> 00:25:18,119
Speaker 3: At what point? First date?

474
00:25:18,200 --> 00:25:21,720
Speaker 2: Second date, third date, fourth d I think whenever? If

475
00:25:21,800 --> 00:25:25,399
Speaker 2: you bring them up in conversation, then you should make it.

476
00:25:25,800 --> 00:25:26,720
Speaker 3: Did they just never come up?

477
00:25:27,359 --> 00:25:32,480
Speaker 2: Then then that's well you have to you would bring

478
00:25:32,520 --> 00:25:32,760
Speaker 2: it up.

479
00:25:32,800 --> 00:25:36,240
Speaker 1: Okay, here here's here's my either like probably like third

480
00:25:36,320 --> 00:25:39,560
Speaker 1: or fourth date, or if you had an interaction with them,

481
00:25:39,720 --> 00:25:43,560
Speaker 1: whichever comes first. So it's like, oh, last week, like

482
00:25:43,760 --> 00:25:45,159
Speaker 1: oh we had we all we all hung out, like

483
00:25:45,280 --> 00:25:48,040
Speaker 1: actually hung up with my ex, like kind of slice

484
00:25:48,080 --> 00:25:50,320
Speaker 1: I know, I am like, we are still friendly, but

485
00:25:50,400 --> 00:25:52,720
Speaker 1: there's yeah, so such a weird first date.

486
00:25:52,840 --> 00:25:54,600
Speaker 2: You're like, by the way, I hung out with my

487
00:25:55,400 --> 00:25:56,040
Speaker 2: first date.

488
00:25:56,280 --> 00:26:00,920
Speaker 3: Maybe before the first date, you're saying when you're messaging

489
00:26:01,040 --> 00:26:07,040
Speaker 3: someone before, by the way, yeah, this is how I

490
00:26:07,160 --> 00:26:10,159
Speaker 3: haven't gone back. I think Dixie Blue Steele says, when

491
00:26:10,240 --> 00:26:14,480
Speaker 3: you become an exclusive, victorious ap when it's official, I

492
00:26:14,640 --> 00:26:18,879
Speaker 3: think that is. I think that that seems right to me.

493
00:26:19,080 --> 00:26:19,280
Speaker 2: Yeah.

494
00:26:19,800 --> 00:26:22,200
Speaker 3: I think it's like, hey, it's like, oh, I want

495
00:26:22,240 --> 00:26:24,920
Speaker 3: to go steady and they're like, by the way, just

496
00:26:25,000 --> 00:26:27,640
Speaker 3: so you know, I'm friends with my ex, or if.

497
00:26:27,560 --> 00:26:31,159
Speaker 2: You hung out with him, or maybe I might have

498
00:26:31,240 --> 00:26:31,960
Speaker 2: said it earlier.

499
00:26:32,440 --> 00:26:35,520
Speaker 3: Yeah, yeah, do you remember? Husband Do says, what if

500
00:26:35,560 --> 00:26:38,200
Speaker 3: it never comes up? Also, Sam, the first date, I'm

501
00:26:38,200 --> 00:26:39,800
Speaker 3: friends with all my exes.

502
00:26:40,960 --> 00:26:41,640
Speaker 2: Here's my book.

503
00:26:42,359 --> 00:26:45,240
Speaker 3: I did say on the date yesterday that I am

504
00:26:45,359 --> 00:26:48,840
Speaker 3: friends with my ex. Oh boy, she wants to go

505
00:26:48,920 --> 00:26:52,760
Speaker 3: on a second day. She literally texted me saying lovely date.

506
00:26:53,480 --> 00:26:57,120
Speaker 3: So bang corect Son.

507
00:26:58,080 --> 00:27:02,040
Speaker 2: Okay, there's more story though, true true, please Dovia, Ah,

508
00:27:03,160 --> 00:27:05,720
Speaker 2: but I don't know where we are. But I didn't

509
00:27:05,720 --> 00:27:08,280
Speaker 2: mean I went to numerous social events that I'd expect

510
00:27:08,320 --> 00:27:10,600
Speaker 2: her to be at but she was never there. There

511
00:27:10,640 --> 00:27:13,760
Speaker 2: were a number of occasions when our paths almost crossed

512
00:27:13,840 --> 00:27:15,320
Speaker 2: and I really thought I was going to meet her,

513
00:27:15,440 --> 00:27:18,080
Speaker 2: but I never did. For example, I went to their

514
00:27:18,119 --> 00:27:20,240
Speaker 2: office a few times to meet Jeff after work and

515
00:27:20,359 --> 00:27:22,880
Speaker 2: Jenna was already gone. Where Sometimes I'd come to meet

516
00:27:22,960 --> 00:27:24,920
Speaker 2: him and he'd come outside to meet me so I

517
00:27:24,960 --> 00:27:29,560
Speaker 2: wouldn't have to go inside. Things started to get really

518
00:27:29,680 --> 00:27:33,360
Speaker 2: weird about three months ago. Jeff and Jenna were having

519
00:27:33,400 --> 00:27:35,920
Speaker 2: an open house night. One evening, Jeff came over to

520
00:27:35,960 --> 00:27:37,960
Speaker 2: my place after work and we had a few hours

521
00:27:38,000 --> 00:27:40,359
Speaker 2: to kill before it was time to go, so we

522
00:27:40,480 --> 00:27:42,719
Speaker 2: went out for dinner and then walked to the office.

523
00:27:43,119 --> 00:27:45,440
Speaker 2: I was kind of expecting that i'd come in and

524
00:27:45,560 --> 00:27:48,200
Speaker 2: help them set up, but when we were a block away,

525
00:27:48,359 --> 00:27:50,720
Speaker 2: he started asking me if I had lots of work

526
00:27:50,760 --> 00:27:53,399
Speaker 2: to do, and saying there was a really nice coffee

527
00:27:53,400 --> 00:27:56,800
Speaker 2: shop nearby. He actually walked me to the coffee shop

528
00:27:57,119 --> 00:27:59,680
Speaker 2: and sat me down, then left to go ready to

529
00:27:59,720 --> 00:28:02,520
Speaker 2: get ready with Jenna. He told me to come to

530
00:28:02,560 --> 00:28:05,160
Speaker 2: the office in an hour and a half. About half

531
00:28:05,200 --> 00:28:07,600
Speaker 2: an hour before I left for the office, I texted

532
00:28:07,680 --> 00:28:10,480
Speaker 2: Jeff and said I hoped everything was going well and

533
00:28:10,640 --> 00:28:13,240
Speaker 2: asked if there was anything I could do. He replied

534
00:28:13,320 --> 00:28:15,960
Speaker 2: and said something's come up for Jenna and she can't

535
00:28:16,040 --> 00:28:20,120
Speaker 2: be here tonight. I was getting really suspicious at this point.

536
00:28:20,560 --> 00:28:22,760
Speaker 2: I went to the office half an hour later, and

537
00:28:22,960 --> 00:28:26,800
Speaker 2: sure enough, Jenna wasn't there. People kept asking about her

538
00:28:26,920 --> 00:28:29,960
Speaker 2: all night, and Jeff told them she'd had a family emergency.

539
00:28:30,720 --> 00:28:32,679
Speaker 2: When we walked back to the car later that night,

540
00:28:32,840 --> 00:28:35,959
Speaker 2: he told me what happened while he and Jenna were

541
00:28:36,000 --> 00:28:38,720
Speaker 2: getting ready. She had had a panic attack and said

542
00:28:38,760 --> 00:28:41,040
Speaker 2: she was scared to meet me. She said she wouldn't

543
00:28:41,040 --> 00:28:43,000
Speaker 2: be able to handle it and either had to leave

544
00:28:43,200 --> 00:28:45,400
Speaker 2: or he had to tell me not to come. He

545
00:28:45,560 --> 00:28:48,520
Speaker 2: told her to leave, so she did. Since then, a

546
00:28:48,600 --> 00:28:51,040
Speaker 2: couple more weird things have happened, and I still haven't

547
00:28:51,080 --> 00:28:54,080
Speaker 2: met Jenna. Once, when I was hanging out with Jeff,

548
00:28:54,120 --> 00:28:55,880
Speaker 2: we went to the office so we could grab something.

549
00:28:56,160 --> 00:28:58,520
Speaker 2: When we were almost there, he looked at his phone

550
00:28:58,560 --> 00:29:01,600
Speaker 2: and said, Jenna's still there. Let's just go for a walk.

551
00:29:03,760 --> 00:29:05,800
Speaker 2: So we walked around the block for half an hour

552
00:29:05,880 --> 00:29:09,560
Speaker 2: and then came back when she was gone. After that happened,

553
00:29:09,680 --> 00:29:12,560
Speaker 2: I told Jeff. I felt really uncomfortable with the situation.

554
00:29:13,440 --> 00:29:15,520
Speaker 2: I could respect that they were friends who had dated,

555
00:29:15,960 --> 00:29:18,800
Speaker 2: but the way she was acting about me was very suspicious.

556
00:29:19,480 --> 00:29:21,920
Speaker 2: He apologized and said he had actually been really mad

557
00:29:22,000 --> 00:29:24,760
Speaker 2: at her, but wasn't sure what to do. He also

558
00:29:24,840 --> 00:29:27,640
Speaker 2: told me a couple other weird stories about things she'd done.

559
00:29:28,040 --> 00:29:29,680
Speaker 2: He went to a party a few weeks ago. I

560
00:29:29,760 --> 00:29:32,400
Speaker 2: didn't go, and his phone had died that night. When

561
00:29:32,440 --> 00:29:34,560
Speaker 2: he got home and charged his phone, it was full

562
00:29:34,600 --> 00:29:37,400
Speaker 2: of texts from Jenna saying she was outside in her

563
00:29:37,480 --> 00:29:40,600
Speaker 2: car and asked if I was there or not. He

564
00:29:40,720 --> 00:29:44,000
Speaker 2: actually never even ended up going to the party, simply

565
00:29:44,120 --> 00:29:45,920
Speaker 2: because she didn't know if I was there or not.

566
00:29:46,480 --> 00:29:49,560
Speaker 2: Now here's the kicker. Jeff and Jenna are currently on

567
00:29:49,680 --> 00:29:53,040
Speaker 2: a two week long camping trip. They've been planning this

568
00:29:53,120 --> 00:29:55,560
Speaker 2: trip since before I met him, but considering the way

569
00:29:55,640 --> 00:29:58,600
Speaker 2: she's behaved, I feel very uncomfortable about him being on

570
00:29:58,720 --> 00:30:01,760
Speaker 2: this trip. I just looked at her Instagram and she's

571
00:30:01,760 --> 00:30:06,400
Speaker 2: posted five new pictures of him as awesome as Jeff is.

572
00:30:06,640 --> 00:30:09,680
Speaker 2: I'm really fed up with this, and I'm seriously considering

573
00:30:09,760 --> 00:30:13,240
Speaker 2: breaking things off when he gets back. Am I'm being

574
00:30:13,520 --> 00:30:21,720
Speaker 2: unreasonable and there is an updates you work together? What

575
00:30:22,000 --> 00:30:23,360
Speaker 2: are you? What are you talking about?

576
00:30:23,720 --> 00:30:24,720
Speaker 3: They're basically married?

577
00:30:24,880 --> 00:30:27,480
Speaker 2: Yeah, what are we doing here? Dude?

578
00:30:27,880 --> 00:30:30,520
Speaker 3: That would be like we're John and I are basically

579
00:30:30,720 --> 00:30:32,200
Speaker 3: like work husbands.

580
00:30:32,440 --> 00:30:32,640
Speaker 2: Yeah.

581
00:30:32,920 --> 00:30:37,280
Speaker 3: And if we had been romantic in the past, we

582
00:30:37,280 --> 00:30:39,920
Speaker 3: would we would literally be we would be seeing each

583
00:30:39,960 --> 00:30:40,560
Speaker 3: other every day.

584
00:30:40,720 --> 00:30:43,000
Speaker 1: Yeah, and whenever me and Sam are making love I

585
00:30:43,080 --> 00:30:46,520
Speaker 1: mean working, I always here and she's around and it's

586
00:30:46,560 --> 00:30:47,120
Speaker 1: always great.

587
00:30:47,320 --> 00:30:49,800
Speaker 3: Yeah, you're included. I think yeah, I think it would

588
00:30:49,800 --> 00:30:51,440
Speaker 3: be I think it'd be weird. I think it'll be weird.

589
00:30:51,480 --> 00:30:53,800
Speaker 2: I think it would be weird. Weird for her to

590
00:30:54,080 --> 00:30:58,920
Speaker 2: actively avoid OP I think that is strange.

591
00:30:59,120 --> 00:31:03,440
Speaker 1: It is in sand refusing to me and big red

592
00:31:03,480 --> 00:31:07,400
Speaker 1: flag on another red flag on uh boyfriend the boyfriend's part,

593
00:31:07,520 --> 00:31:11,040
Speaker 1: thank you? Why did he sit her down a coffee shop, Oh,

594
00:31:11,080 --> 00:31:13,440
Speaker 1: you'll be here? Why didn't he say, Panna, this is

595
00:31:13,520 --> 00:31:16,160
Speaker 1: like really crazy, but she's like being really weird. She

596
00:31:16,240 --> 00:31:18,160
Speaker 1: like said she got a pin attack. I told her, like, hey, leave,

597
00:31:18,200 --> 00:31:20,120
Speaker 1: I want you to be here. I don't know what's

598
00:31:20,200 --> 00:31:23,840
Speaker 1: going on unless you do know what's going on, and

599
00:31:23,960 --> 00:31:24,680
Speaker 1: it's not good and you.

600
00:31:24,680 --> 00:31:27,280
Speaker 2: Don't want to say that, I don't know. I think

601
00:31:27,320 --> 00:31:30,360
Speaker 2: he's being awfully suspicious. And a two week camping trip

602
00:31:30,480 --> 00:31:32,600
Speaker 2: is a is a big deal.

603
00:31:32,680 --> 00:31:34,959
Speaker 1: I thought they would be like two week business trip, like, okay,

604
00:31:35,200 --> 00:31:36,720
Speaker 1: you know camping trip.

605
00:31:37,440 --> 00:31:40,000
Speaker 2: Hey, hey, take me on a camping trip. Put me

606
00:31:40,080 --> 00:31:41,000
Speaker 2: in your Instagram picture.

607
00:31:41,400 --> 00:31:44,160
Speaker 3: Oh sorry, we only had one sleeping bag and we

608
00:31:44,240 --> 00:31:45,440
Speaker 3: had to stay in the same one.

609
00:31:45,880 --> 00:31:48,640
Speaker 2: I actually know someone's supposed to go on a trip

610
00:31:48,840 --> 00:31:52,720
Speaker 2: with a person that had like seen in the past. Uh,

611
00:31:53,000 --> 00:31:56,200
Speaker 2: and then we're no longer seeing. And then that person

612
00:31:56,560 --> 00:31:58,360
Speaker 2: got into a relationship and was like, no, we can't

613
00:31:58,400 --> 00:31:58,600
Speaker 2: go on.

614
00:31:58,600 --> 00:32:03,440
Speaker 3: This camp Yeah, because camping out in the the wilderness

615
00:32:03,600 --> 00:32:05,400
Speaker 3: all blown, it's intimate.

616
00:32:05,120 --> 00:32:08,320
Speaker 2: Looking at those stars, looking at the stars. Yeah, especially

617
00:32:08,400 --> 00:32:11,120
Speaker 2: if it's like long long form camping, because you in

618
00:32:11,200 --> 00:32:17,200
Speaker 2: your camping like where you're like, because you need a

619
00:32:17,240 --> 00:32:19,280
Speaker 2: poop shovel, and that's pretty intimate.

620
00:32:20,080 --> 00:32:23,200
Speaker 3: Oh poop shovel. You wouldn't use a poop shovel.

621
00:32:23,480 --> 00:32:27,000
Speaker 2: I wouldn't camp no way.

622
00:32:28,480 --> 00:32:30,120
Speaker 3: I just dig with my bare hands.

623
00:32:31,440 --> 00:32:33,360
Speaker 2: Because you have to dig a certain you have to

624
00:32:33,440 --> 00:32:34,240
Speaker 2: dig a certain depth.

625
00:32:34,600 --> 00:32:36,240
Speaker 3: How how how do you know that.

626
00:32:36,800 --> 00:32:45,800
Speaker 2: I have a friend? Damn it? Anthony friends I saw.

627
00:32:49,560 --> 00:32:51,600
Speaker 3: Also, we got we got some We've got some people

628
00:32:51,640 --> 00:32:55,720
Speaker 3: in the Facebook, shouted everyone in Facebook coming in new record, new.

629
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Speaker 2: Records, records work on those of the Yeah.

630
00:33:01,760 --> 00:33:05,080
Speaker 3: Also, if y'all want to spin that wheel, we are

631
00:33:05,560 --> 00:33:08,880
Speaker 3: seventy likes away from spinning that wheel. So maybe uh

632
00:33:09,400 --> 00:33:10,240
Speaker 3: like the stream.

633
00:33:10,160 --> 00:33:13,280
Speaker 2: That's not even freaking through samp for seventy seven?

634
00:33:13,480 --> 00:33:15,320
Speaker 3: All right, seventy seven? Sorry?

635
00:33:16,120 --> 00:33:17,840
Speaker 2: How dare you math in correct? Why would you?

636
00:33:17,840 --> 00:33:19,800
Speaker 3: I apologize? I apologize if.

637
00:33:19,680 --> 00:33:22,160
Speaker 2: You're not going to be accurate? They were math away.

638
00:33:24,320 --> 00:33:26,640
Speaker 3: That's my math away, math chat do the math.

639
00:33:27,360 --> 00:33:30,120
Speaker 2: It's no, I already did it. Okay, let's get into

640
00:33:30,200 --> 00:33:36,000
Speaker 2: this update. I wrote my previous post over a year ago,

641
00:33:37,480 --> 00:33:39,840
Speaker 2: and a lot has happened since then. I wanted to

642
00:33:39,880 --> 00:33:42,080
Speaker 2: give everyone an update since the advice on the sub

643
00:33:42,200 --> 00:33:45,160
Speaker 2: was really helpful. At the time, or a few months

644
00:33:45,200 --> 00:33:49,120
Speaker 2: after I wrote my OPI, nothing much happened. Jeff and

645
00:33:49,160 --> 00:33:52,560
Speaker 2: I continued dating, and he continued being friends slash partners

646
00:33:52,600 --> 00:33:55,480
Speaker 2: with Jenna. I never met her, but everything else in

647
00:33:55,520 --> 00:33:57,760
Speaker 2: our relationship seemed to be going so well that I

648
00:33:57,840 --> 00:34:02,520
Speaker 2: decided I'd try to deal with it. Things got really hard, however,

649
00:34:02,680 --> 00:34:05,360
Speaker 2: when However, when I had to take a work contract

650
00:34:05,440 --> 00:34:08,640
Speaker 2: twelve hours away from home for three months, I hardly

651
00:34:08,680 --> 00:34:11,360
Speaker 2: saw Jeff the whole time, and I looked at Jenna's

652
00:34:11,400 --> 00:34:14,520
Speaker 2: Instagram almost every day to see if she'd posted more

653
00:34:14,600 --> 00:34:17,839
Speaker 2: photos of them together. More often than not, she had.

654
00:34:18,520 --> 00:34:21,200
Speaker 2: Since I wasn't physically present, I felt like Jenna was

655
00:34:21,239 --> 00:34:27,239
Speaker 2: his real girlfriend. Oh oh, oh, p so a side

656
00:34:27,280 --> 00:34:31,040
Speaker 2: p oh. Because o pe was away for oh, I

657
00:34:31,160 --> 00:34:35,400
Speaker 2: felt completely worthless and constantly stressed out knowing my boyfriend

658
00:34:35,520 --> 00:34:37,640
Speaker 2: was spending all his time with another woman who I

659
00:34:37,840 --> 00:34:42,239
Speaker 2: already had suspicions about. While I was away for work,

660
00:34:42,440 --> 00:34:45,760
Speaker 2: I decided to break up with Jeck Deaf I broke.

661
00:34:46,520 --> 00:34:48,879
Speaker 2: I broke up with him as soon as I came back,

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00:34:49,000 --> 00:34:51,279
Speaker 2: and I made it very clear that his relationship with

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00:34:51,360 --> 00:34:54,080
Speaker 2: Jenna was intolerable for me. I told him he was

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Speaker 2: going to have a hard time dating anyone who wasn't

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00:34:56,480 --> 00:34:58,160
Speaker 2: her as long as she was still in his life.

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00:34:58,600 --> 00:35:00,600
Speaker 2: He kept saying, you didn't understand why it was such

667
00:35:00,640 --> 00:35:03,560
Speaker 2: a problem. He told me he couldn't control her behavior,

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00:35:03,680 --> 00:35:07,160
Speaker 2: but he promised me he hadn't cheated on me. I

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00:35:07,320 --> 00:35:09,680
Speaker 2: explained to him that by allowing their friendship to continue.

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00:35:09,800 --> 00:35:12,720
Speaker 2: He was condoning her behavior. I told him I didn't

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00:35:12,719 --> 00:35:15,480
Speaker 2: really even care if he had he'd physically cheated or not,

672
00:35:16,080 --> 00:35:19,480
Speaker 2: since he'd already shown disrespect for me and our relationship.

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00:35:19,719 --> 00:35:22,520
Speaker 3: Yeah, babe, I didn't cheat on you. I cheated with

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Speaker 3: you around you.

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00:35:25,920 --> 00:35:28,160
Speaker 2: I didn't speak to him for a few months, and

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00:35:28,280 --> 00:35:30,880
Speaker 2: I went on with my life. I took another contract

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00:35:30,920 --> 00:35:34,200
Speaker 2: out of town and even considered moving permanently to another city.

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00:35:35,120 --> 00:35:40,120
Speaker 2: One night, though, Jeff called an apologize. He said he'd

679
00:35:40,160 --> 00:35:43,840
Speaker 2: been thinking about a relationship a lot and realized he

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00:35:44,200 --> 00:35:47,600
Speaker 2: had been in the wrong. He said his relationship with

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00:35:47,680 --> 00:35:50,560
Speaker 2: Jenna was beginning to feel toxic to him, just beginning

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00:35:50,640 --> 00:35:56,040
Speaker 2: to and he'd made arrange arrangements to dissolve their business partnership.

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Speaker 2: After that, I decided to meet up with him, not

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00:35:58,760 --> 00:36:02,520
Speaker 2: necessarily give him another chain ants, and discussed the situation further.

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00:36:03,080 --> 00:36:05,480
Speaker 2: When we met up, he promised to stop talking to

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00:36:05,600 --> 00:36:10,680
Speaker 2: Jenna and unfollowed her on all social media. Whoa oh

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Speaker 2: a big man.

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Speaker 1: Change.

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Speaker 2: As of now, he has not spoken to her in

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Speaker 2: six months and we've gotten back together.

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Speaker 3: Risky, Oh, pe are you sure we.

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00:36:25,760 --> 00:36:28,399
Speaker 2: Actually ran into her at a concert a few weeks ago,

693
00:36:29,080 --> 00:36:30,880
Speaker 2: and they didn't even say a HI to each other.

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Speaker 2: I feel much more respected and confident in my relationship now.

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Speaker 2: Question was that the first time oh P met Jenna,

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Speaker 2: because we don't know it sounds like that could have

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Speaker 2: been the first time that she met Jenna, which is ridiculous.