1 00:00:00,160 --> 00:00:02,759 Speaker 1: My best friend just admitted he's in love with my wife, 2 00:00:02,759 --> 00:00:04,040 Speaker 1: and you won't believe what my. 3 00:00:04,040 --> 00:00:06,400 Speaker 2: Wife suggested next threesome. 4 00:00:08,200 --> 00:00:11,360 Speaker 3: I actually want to divorce you because I've always been 5 00:00:11,360 --> 00:00:16,320 Speaker 3: interested in your friend. Oh snaps, you know, I think 6 00:00:16,360 --> 00:00:18,520 Speaker 3: all of those could have been been said. 7 00:00:18,560 --> 00:00:19,360 Speaker 2: Yeah, exactly. 8 00:00:19,360 --> 00:00:21,520 Speaker 1: You know, share, we really got to go harder on 9 00:00:21,560 --> 00:00:22,320 Speaker 1: sharing his caring. 10 00:00:22,520 --> 00:00:23,840 Speaker 2: Yeah, share, share and. 11 00:00:23,840 --> 00:00:27,840 Speaker 3: Still willing to share your wife than yourself. Wow, Yeah, 12 00:00:27,960 --> 00:00:30,560 Speaker 3: talk about it. Yep, this is what I'm going through nowadays. 13 00:00:30,640 --> 00:00:33,279 Speaker 2: Loull love it. Yeah, so frank with it. 14 00:00:33,640 --> 00:00:35,879 Speaker 1: I can't help but laugh at the situation because the 15 00:00:35,880 --> 00:00:38,960 Speaker 1: only other option is described yea, My best friend of 16 00:00:39,040 --> 00:00:42,519 Speaker 1: eight years recently lost his job, so his apartment has 17 00:00:42,560 --> 00:00:45,440 Speaker 1: become too costly to afford. So when he asked me 18 00:00:45,479 --> 00:00:47,320 Speaker 1: to move in with men till the end of the year, 19 00:00:47,479 --> 00:00:49,480 Speaker 1: I agreed. He moved in with us at the start 20 00:00:49,520 --> 00:00:52,120 Speaker 1: of November, and after a few days I noticed the 21 00:00:52,200 --> 00:00:54,920 Speaker 1: two And after a few days I noticed my friend 22 00:00:54,920 --> 00:00:57,720 Speaker 1: and my wife getting closer. But as I considered him 23 00:00:57,720 --> 00:01:00,680 Speaker 1: to be a brother, an affair was the this thing 24 00:01:00,760 --> 00:01:04,120 Speaker 1: from my mind, Oh no, please, kind of don't like 25 00:01:04,319 --> 00:01:07,559 Speaker 1: this going. But as we all know, human depravity has 26 00:01:07,600 --> 00:01:11,039 Speaker 1: no bound. And my wife approached me three days ago 27 00:01:11,240 --> 00:01:14,600 Speaker 1: and said that she and my best friend have fallen 28 00:01:14,640 --> 00:01:19,480 Speaker 1: in love. God, just after what a few weeks? A 29 00:01:19,520 --> 00:01:20,280 Speaker 1: few months? 30 00:01:20,280 --> 00:01:24,160 Speaker 2: Maybe? Dang, God, you must have good taste and friends. 31 00:01:24,400 --> 00:01:27,399 Speaker 1: Apparently I got the my friends are so great that 32 00:01:27,440 --> 00:01:32,880 Speaker 1: but my wife my God, but she said, out of 33 00:01:32,880 --> 00:01:35,840 Speaker 1: respect for me, they have not done anything physical yet. 34 00:01:35,920 --> 00:01:43,479 Speaker 2: Oh gee, thanks you So yeah, it's like we want 35 00:01:43,520 --> 00:01:46,920 Speaker 2: to rip each other's clothes off. Sure, but but honestly, 36 00:01:47,280 --> 00:01:51,120 Speaker 2: it's been such a buzz kill. Get yeah, you just 37 00:01:51,440 --> 00:01:54,160 Speaker 2: you know old cock blog over here. You know, God, 38 00:01:55,320 --> 00:01:59,560 Speaker 2: this whole thing, the old bawl and Chaine, if you 39 00:01:59,600 --> 00:02:02,200 Speaker 2: know what I mean, prevented me from other balls or 40 00:02:02,320 --> 00:02:04,320 Speaker 2: chan than balls, you know, saying. 41 00:02:05,080 --> 00:02:08,160 Speaker 3: So now the two of them want for the three 42 00:02:08,200 --> 00:02:11,840 Speaker 3: of us to start a Polly family, which they think 43 00:02:11,880 --> 00:02:14,680 Speaker 3: will be the best solution in this scenario. 44 00:02:15,440 --> 00:02:16,320 Speaker 2: Wow. 45 00:02:17,160 --> 00:02:20,600 Speaker 3: I mean, I know you guys are homies, but I 46 00:02:20,600 --> 00:02:22,320 Speaker 3: don't know if your homies like that though. 47 00:02:22,520 --> 00:02:27,440 Speaker 2: I mean they say best friends share everything, but everything. Yeah, dude, 48 00:02:28,200 --> 00:02:29,840 Speaker 2: dang that honestly. 49 00:02:29,960 --> 00:02:32,600 Speaker 1: Okay, Actually, quick question for you all, is it better 50 00:02:32,919 --> 00:02:35,399 Speaker 1: for your wife to come and be like at least 51 00:02:35,400 --> 00:02:37,760 Speaker 1: she wants to love him by or is it better 52 00:02:37,800 --> 00:02:41,160 Speaker 1: to be like I want him in on our marriage. 53 00:02:41,240 --> 00:02:43,679 Speaker 3: I mean, at least he's including you. It's at least 54 00:02:43,680 --> 00:02:46,280 Speaker 3: he's a top glass for dodgeball. It's just so I 55 00:02:46,320 --> 00:02:48,720 Speaker 3: feel like it's just such a I guess it is 56 00:02:48,840 --> 00:02:49,799 Speaker 3: logically better. 57 00:02:50,520 --> 00:02:53,880 Speaker 2: Like do they have kids? Not sure yet? I guess. 58 00:02:53,919 --> 00:02:56,840 Speaker 3: I guess we'll find it if they do. But I'm 59 00:02:56,960 --> 00:03:01,320 Speaker 3: honestly less mad that she wants to involve. Yeah, like 60 00:03:01,320 --> 00:03:03,480 Speaker 3: like now now I'm like, oh, like she didn't make 61 00:03:03,520 --> 00:03:08,000 Speaker 3: a move. And also yeah, I'm bore okay with that, 62 00:03:09,240 --> 00:03:11,160 Speaker 3: So like if she's just trying to get Eiffel towered 63 00:03:11,200 --> 00:03:12,640 Speaker 3: and everything, Like, what's the deal? 64 00:03:13,800 --> 00:03:17,239 Speaker 2: Who is better than one? Yeah? Maybe? 65 00:03:17,520 --> 00:03:20,079 Speaker 3: Yeah, you know, and they all they get a king bed, 66 00:03:20,120 --> 00:03:21,919 Speaker 3: they all sleep together California. 67 00:03:22,160 --> 00:03:25,440 Speaker 2: I mean, come on, yeah, that's what we Yeah, maybe 68 00:03:25,520 --> 00:03:29,240 Speaker 2: made in San Francisco. Yeah yeah, come on, let's let's 69 00:03:29,280 --> 00:03:32,920 Speaker 2: make it happen. Yeah, don't be so close minded. You 70 00:03:32,919 --> 00:03:33,840 Speaker 2: know your wife. 71 00:03:33,680 --> 00:03:37,040 Speaker 3: Has oh heyo, she said she loves the both of 72 00:03:37,080 --> 00:03:39,000 Speaker 3: us and doesn't want to lose me and this is 73 00:03:39,040 --> 00:03:41,840 Speaker 3: the true way to live by sharing love. 74 00:03:42,000 --> 00:03:42,400 Speaker 2: Lol. 75 00:03:42,760 --> 00:03:47,200 Speaker 3: We love man, bro let's all live on a commune together. 76 00:03:47,600 --> 00:03:50,880 Speaker 3: Let's suck each other's nipples. Maybe grow a couple of 77 00:03:50,960 --> 00:03:53,240 Speaker 3: egg plants while we're at it. What's wrong with the 78 00:03:53,280 --> 00:03:56,680 Speaker 3: little mips sucking? It's not as long as you're having 79 00:03:56,720 --> 00:04:00,640 Speaker 3: two separate people suck each individual nipple, Like, why do 80 00:04:00,720 --> 00:04:04,280 Speaker 3: you think God gave you too nipples for the of 81 00:04:04,400 --> 00:04:05,200 Speaker 3: two other people? 82 00:04:05,440 --> 00:04:07,160 Speaker 2: Man, we've just discovered so much today. 83 00:04:07,720 --> 00:04:10,120 Speaker 1: My best friend also talked with me and said that 84 00:04:10,200 --> 00:04:12,240 Speaker 1: he's always had a crush on my wife. 85 00:04:12,360 --> 00:04:14,600 Speaker 2: Oh yis it would have been wrong to. 86 00:04:14,600 --> 00:04:17,960 Speaker 1: Deny this crush because he didn't want to be dishonest 87 00:04:18,200 --> 00:04:19,679 Speaker 1: to his true self. 88 00:04:22,160 --> 00:04:26,200 Speaker 2: I think you might be stretching that a little bit. Bro. 89 00:04:26,480 --> 00:04:29,280 Speaker 2: I just like I couldn't help but cheat on your 90 00:04:29,279 --> 00:04:32,400 Speaker 2: wife because I had to be honest. You know, I 91 00:04:32,520 --> 00:04:34,880 Speaker 2: wasn't living my true truth? Brother? 92 00:04:35,000 --> 00:04:39,279 Speaker 3: Yeah, dude, my truth is just slamming down on your wife. 93 00:04:39,440 --> 00:04:39,839 Speaker 2: You know? 94 00:04:40,520 --> 00:04:42,520 Speaker 3: Would you want me to lie to myself by not 95 00:04:42,560 --> 00:04:46,559 Speaker 3: putting my dog in your betroth? Every time you don't 96 00:04:46,680 --> 00:04:49,800 Speaker 3: let a brother nut, you are making sure that you're 97 00:04:49,800 --> 00:04:54,120 Speaker 3: putting yourself in front of my personal freedom wow. 98 00:04:53,760 --> 00:04:58,760 Speaker 2: And my fulfillment wow. And friends don't do that God. 99 00:04:59,160 --> 00:05:01,919 Speaker 1: So my question do I even try to save the 100 00:05:01,960 --> 00:05:05,559 Speaker 1: marriage or should I save my sanity and run? Any 101 00:05:05,640 --> 00:05:08,400 Speaker 1: other advice for me saying we got an update, but 102 00:05:08,600 --> 00:05:10,640 Speaker 1: uh everyone real quick? 103 00:05:10,800 --> 00:05:13,960 Speaker 2: Yeah what guys? What what do you what are you 104 00:05:13,960 --> 00:05:18,200 Speaker 2: gonna do here? Can you please tell me? Low key? 105 00:05:18,760 --> 00:05:21,520 Speaker 3: If this happened to me, I would be like, I 106 00:05:21,520 --> 00:05:24,160 Speaker 3: would be like down to try. It might not work 107 00:05:24,200 --> 00:05:26,200 Speaker 3: for me, but I'm down to give it a go. 108 00:05:27,040 --> 00:05:30,600 Speaker 3: Because they were like every like when things like things 109 00:05:30,680 --> 00:05:33,160 Speaker 3: didn't go too far right, they didn't actually hook up 110 00:05:33,160 --> 00:05:36,440 Speaker 3: with each other. They want to include me. They want 111 00:05:36,520 --> 00:05:39,080 Speaker 3: us to be a happy family. I'm like, you know what, 112 00:05:39,320 --> 00:05:45,039 Speaker 3: this is weird, but life stort. Have poly relationships with 113 00:05:45,160 --> 00:05:46,159 Speaker 3: the people you love. 114 00:05:46,200 --> 00:05:47,600 Speaker 2: You do. Got to give it to them a little. 115 00:05:47,640 --> 00:05:50,200 Speaker 1: They basically they could have gone physical, and you know what, 116 00:05:50,240 --> 00:05:52,640 Speaker 1: at the end of the day, you can't help developing 117 00:05:52,680 --> 00:05:53,520 Speaker 1: feelings for someone. 118 00:05:53,920 --> 00:05:56,640 Speaker 2: I guess. I guess you could say, like, hey, don't. 119 00:05:56,480 --> 00:05:59,400 Speaker 3: Put yourself in the situations where you're gonna give a feelings. 120 00:05:59,640 --> 00:06:02,080 Speaker 2: Yeah, I mean I think that. Don't let it. I 121 00:06:02,080 --> 00:06:03,960 Speaker 2: mean they talked about it like they did. Let it 122 00:06:04,120 --> 00:06:05,920 Speaker 2: progress to a degree. 123 00:06:05,560 --> 00:06:08,320 Speaker 3: For sure, for sure, But It's also like, I don't know, 124 00:06:08,440 --> 00:06:10,800 Speaker 3: I am gets messy, did you do anything physical? 125 00:06:11,279 --> 00:06:13,960 Speaker 2: And you know life? So I guess given the scenario, 126 00:06:14,000 --> 00:06:15,120 Speaker 2: this is a it's. 127 00:06:14,920 --> 00:06:18,880 Speaker 1: A better It's definitely a better outcome than them actually cheating. 128 00:06:19,000 --> 00:06:20,680 Speaker 3: Yeah, I feel like this is gonna be a very 129 00:06:20,720 --> 00:06:24,479 Speaker 3: controversial take that we just ready for us to be 130 00:06:24,600 --> 00:06:32,159 Speaker 3: torn apart roast. I'm I'm pro poly bro, we have 131 00:06:32,279 --> 00:06:37,159 Speaker 3: we have the divorce chance? Where's the poly chance? Sounds 132 00:06:37,160 --> 00:06:41,640 Speaker 3: like we're cheering for some white girl. I'm imagining them 133 00:06:41,680 --> 00:06:46,160 Speaker 3: and a what's the guy from Jersey Shore, Polly DJ 134 00:06:46,279 --> 00:06:48,000 Speaker 3: PO PO D? 135 00:06:50,800 --> 00:06:53,880 Speaker 2: Well, there is Polly and D's involved. That's true. 136 00:06:55,240 --> 00:06:58,599 Speaker 1: Okay, so let's let's let's get into this updates, shall we. 137 00:06:58,720 --> 00:07:00,960 Speaker 1: I forgot the password to my origine, so I'm gonna 138 00:07:00,960 --> 00:07:04,000 Speaker 1: copy this here. For the first update, my friend moved 139 00:07:04,040 --> 00:07:06,440 Speaker 1: out on Monday, and I was not the house when 140 00:07:06,480 --> 00:07:08,080 Speaker 1: he moved out, so I don't know what he and 141 00:07:08,120 --> 00:07:11,120 Speaker 1: my wife talked about. And my brother has formally asked 142 00:07:11,200 --> 00:07:13,360 Speaker 1: us to vacate the house by the end of the month. 143 00:07:13,400 --> 00:07:14,960 Speaker 1: For a second I thought was gonna be my brother 144 00:07:15,000 --> 00:07:15,880 Speaker 1: has formally. 145 00:07:15,560 --> 00:07:23,680 Speaker 3: Asked us to join Yeah, A fourth members wait. 146 00:07:23,160 --> 00:07:26,000 Speaker 2: So so the brother is like, all of you get out. 147 00:07:26,120 --> 00:07:31,440 Speaker 3: The brother I guess, I guess is their landlord. And 148 00:07:31,480 --> 00:07:33,880 Speaker 3: since I have not paid any rent for the time 149 00:07:33,920 --> 00:07:36,760 Speaker 3: I've been living here, I don't have any squatting rites. 150 00:07:36,920 --> 00:07:39,480 Speaker 2: What is this? What is happening right now? 151 00:07:39,680 --> 00:07:42,240 Speaker 1: His best friend and wife won a three way marriage. 152 00:07:42,400 --> 00:07:44,680 Speaker 1: His brother, he lives at his brother house, hasn't paid 153 00:07:44,720 --> 00:07:45,400 Speaker 1: him any rent. 154 00:07:45,440 --> 00:07:48,000 Speaker 2: So his own brother is evicting him. That life is 155 00:07:48,040 --> 00:07:50,320 Speaker 2: in shamble. Oh my, this is a tornado. 156 00:07:50,760 --> 00:07:54,000 Speaker 1: So I told my wife that we will be homeless 157 00:07:54,400 --> 00:07:56,520 Speaker 1: by the end of the month and she should make 158 00:07:56,520 --> 00:07:59,679 Speaker 1: her own arrangements. She says that we should do marriage 159 00:07:59,720 --> 00:08:03,880 Speaker 1: count and she values our marriage more than any poly relationship, 160 00:08:04,000 --> 00:08:07,000 Speaker 1: and she was never gonna go ahead without my consent. 161 00:08:07,280 --> 00:08:11,800 Speaker 2: Okay, okay, I guess I don't know. Man, Like it 162 00:08:11,840 --> 00:08:15,560 Speaker 2: seems like she's been mixed signals over here. 163 00:08:15,760 --> 00:08:19,320 Speaker 3: It's all right, but like it's seeing dude, people are 164 00:08:19,320 --> 00:08:22,160 Speaker 3: gonna get so roasted. But like, at least she's being 165 00:08:22,320 --> 00:08:25,440 Speaker 3: open with him about what she wants and she's not 166 00:08:25,640 --> 00:08:28,160 Speaker 3: crossing any physical balundees. 167 00:08:28,520 --> 00:08:30,760 Speaker 2: Like, yeah, you kind of have to give that to her. 168 00:08:30,920 --> 00:08:31,800 Speaker 2: You kind of have to. 169 00:08:32,040 --> 00:08:34,960 Speaker 3: And dude, people, I'm gonna get eviscerated. I know, I 170 00:08:35,000 --> 00:08:39,960 Speaker 3: know you're already typing angry comments right now, but like respects, 171 00:08:40,000 --> 00:08:40,880 Speaker 3: you know respect. 172 00:08:40,840 --> 00:08:43,920 Speaker 1: I stand with you. We'll go down together. Okay, all right, 173 00:08:44,040 --> 00:08:48,520 Speaker 1: cheers cheers to are brandless cups no free sponsors. Also, 174 00:08:48,760 --> 00:08:51,719 Speaker 1: she's gone no contact with my friend and now we 175 00:08:51,760 --> 00:08:56,120 Speaker 1: should focus on repairing our marriage, to which he says lol. Sorry, 176 00:08:56,240 --> 00:08:59,160 Speaker 1: couldn't stop myself from lolling while writing this. I am 177 00:08:59,200 --> 00:09:02,120 Speaker 1: staying in the guest and enjoying some nice takeout food, 178 00:09:02,200 --> 00:09:05,480 Speaker 1: not very healthy, but very tasty. Nonetheless, she has been 179 00:09:05,520 --> 00:09:08,040 Speaker 1: trying to be more attentive and loving towards me, but 180 00:09:08,160 --> 00:09:11,360 Speaker 1: I am just counting my days. Anyways, that's my update. 181 00:09:11,480 --> 00:09:13,960 Speaker 1: Hopefully I didn't leave anything out as I'm a bit 182 00:09:14,080 --> 00:09:17,640 Speaker 1: high right now. Thanks for all the support. 183 00:09:17,720 --> 00:09:20,480 Speaker 2: Okay, like like take us home? 184 00:09:20,559 --> 00:09:22,640 Speaker 3: Okay, I want to know what everyone else thinks first, 185 00:09:24,040 --> 00:09:27,560 Speaker 3: What would you do in this situation? I I'm not like, 186 00:09:28,080 --> 00:09:33,640 Speaker 3: I'm honestly not mad, completely mad at how the Yeah 187 00:09:33,960 --> 00:09:36,760 Speaker 3: wife approached it. I hear you, I'm not could have 188 00:09:36,800 --> 00:09:39,600 Speaker 3: been way worse. It could have been worse. It could 189 00:09:39,640 --> 00:09:41,600 Speaker 3: have like I got maybe I'm just so programmed to 190 00:09:41,640 --> 00:09:43,720 Speaker 3: expect terrible things, right right, right. 191 00:09:43,679 --> 00:09:46,559 Speaker 1: We're like less than the worst case scenario is actually 192 00:09:46,760 --> 00:09:47,320 Speaker 1: not so bad. 193 00:09:47,400 --> 00:09:49,840 Speaker 3: But like, all right, let's say let's say you let's 194 00:09:49,840 --> 00:09:53,920 Speaker 3: say you accidentally do develop feelings for someone and like 195 00:09:54,000 --> 00:09:56,160 Speaker 3: you're like, I feel like you should go to your 196 00:09:56,200 --> 00:09:58,080 Speaker 3: partner about that, Like, hey, I'm not really sure to 197 00:09:58,080 --> 00:10:01,080 Speaker 3: resolve this. I love you more than anything else, which 198 00:10:01,120 --> 00:10:04,400 Speaker 3: is kind of what she said, But I like, like, 199 00:10:04,600 --> 00:10:08,440 Speaker 3: is this something you're even even open to? It would 200 00:10:08,480 --> 00:10:11,320 Speaker 3: definitely be like, but the thing is in asking that 201 00:10:11,400 --> 00:10:14,000 Speaker 3: if they say no, it would be very hard for 202 00:10:14,040 --> 00:10:18,520 Speaker 3: you to keep the relationship with that third person. Yeah, yeah, 203 00:10:18,600 --> 00:10:21,520 Speaker 3: so you're you're risking You're risking a platonic relationship with 204 00:10:21,520 --> 00:10:24,520 Speaker 3: that person to bring out a romantic one. 205 00:10:24,640 --> 00:10:28,160 Speaker 1: Also, I'm just kind of like if if it seems 206 00:10:28,160 --> 00:10:31,000 Speaker 1: like she at least at the end said that she 207 00:10:31,200 --> 00:10:35,079 Speaker 1: prioritized the marriage over the poly thing, So I'm almost like, why, 208 00:10:35,200 --> 00:10:36,679 Speaker 1: I don't know, why did you even risk it if 209 00:10:36,720 --> 00:10:39,720 Speaker 1: you really didn't feel that strongly she broke it off. 210 00:10:39,800 --> 00:10:43,480 Speaker 2: Well, maybe she was, like she wanted to try. I guess, 211 00:10:43,559 --> 00:10:46,920 Speaker 2: So I guess. So I don't know I don't. I don't. 212 00:10:47,800 --> 00:10:51,960 Speaker 3: I think I think it's like my mind is too open, 213 00:10:52,280 --> 00:10:54,880 Speaker 3: Like I don't. I don't see it as I don't 214 00:10:54,880 --> 00:10:57,520 Speaker 3: see it as terrible. I think I you asked for 215 00:10:57,559 --> 00:10:59,280 Speaker 3: a poly relationship. 216 00:10:58,960 --> 00:11:03,880 Speaker 2: Let's do it right now? You me table now and 217 00:11:04,040 --> 00:11:05,079 Speaker 2: you you you. 218 00:11:05,559 --> 00:11:08,680 Speaker 3: Me like okay, Like like let's say you're in you're, you're, you're, 219 00:11:08,760 --> 00:11:11,360 Speaker 3: we're both in relationships, right, Yeah, let's say we wanted 220 00:11:11,600 --> 00:11:14,920 Speaker 3: a a poly Yeah. No, it's it's it's tricky because 221 00:11:14,960 --> 00:11:17,320 Speaker 3: you kind of have to like, like there's an there's 222 00:11:17,360 --> 00:11:20,360 Speaker 3: a little bit of emotional cheating that has to go on, Yeah, 223 00:11:20,400 --> 00:11:23,120 Speaker 3: for that to correct if you're opening yourself up to 224 00:11:23,559 --> 00:11:27,559 Speaker 3: like I guess, like, yeah, you're because a certain to 225 00:11:27,559 --> 00:11:30,040 Speaker 3: to fall in love with a new person, a certain 226 00:11:30,080 --> 00:11:32,439 Speaker 3: part of you has to be open to that. 227 00:11:32,679 --> 00:11:34,600 Speaker 2: You can be in love with more than one person. 228 00:11:34,640 --> 00:11:38,760 Speaker 1: And and also you are actually if you do ask 229 00:11:38,840 --> 00:11:42,400 Speaker 1: for a poly relationship, you are by default prioritizing attempting 230 00:11:42,440 --> 00:11:44,840 Speaker 1: the poly relationship over the existing relationship. 231 00:11:44,920 --> 00:11:48,120 Speaker 3: Right by default, unless you don't think it would like 232 00:11:48,120 --> 00:11:51,520 Speaker 3: like an asking you're not actually risking anything. You're just like, right, 233 00:11:51,760 --> 00:11:53,959 Speaker 3: you're just testing it out, like would you be interested. 234 00:11:55,360 --> 00:11:59,360 Speaker 3: It's risky though, very risky, risky business. Yeah, I guess, 235 00:11:59,480 --> 00:12:02,360 Speaker 3: and asking yeah you are like you're you're jeopard You 236 00:12:02,800 --> 00:12:08,479 Speaker 3: are jeopardizing that relationship, especially if your partners never expressed 237 00:12:08,520 --> 00:12:11,080 Speaker 3: an interest in that. Okay, let's I want to I 238 00:12:11,120 --> 00:12:14,000 Speaker 3: want to get this as your closer. The wife a 239 00:12:14,080 --> 00:12:16,320 Speaker 3: whole or not a whole? Draw the line for us, 240 00:12:16,600 --> 00:12:20,920 Speaker 3: draw the you have to pick. Oh, it's like it's 241 00:12:20,960 --> 00:12:23,240 Speaker 3: like a whole in the first half, not able in 242 00:12:23,280 --> 00:12:26,320 Speaker 3: the second half. So I think the fact that like 243 00:12:26,400 --> 00:12:29,400 Speaker 3: I think she allowed herself to be open to falling 244 00:12:29,440 --> 00:12:32,360 Speaker 3: in love with this person and kind of emotionally cheated 245 00:12:32,640 --> 00:12:35,600 Speaker 3: even though she didn't physically cheat. But then like, I don't, 246 00:12:35,640 --> 00:12:37,360 Speaker 3: I don't think it's as bad as it could have been. 247 00:12:37,800 --> 00:12:39,560 Speaker 3: So a little bit of an ale, a little bit 248 00:12:39,559 --> 00:12:42,559 Speaker 3: of an a whole, but she was pretty honesty throughout 249 00:12:42,559 --> 00:12:44,720 Speaker 3: the whole process. And it's not I don't. I don't 250 00:12:44,720 --> 00:12:46,600 Speaker 3: think she was looking to try to fall in love 251 00:12:46,640 --> 00:12:49,480 Speaker 3: with this guy. I think, like I mean, in spending 252 00:12:49,520 --> 00:12:51,240 Speaker 3: a lot of time with someone that just can happen. 253 00:12:51,520 --> 00:12:51,920 Speaker 2: I don't know. 254 00:12:52,000 --> 00:12:55,200 Speaker 3: It's it's tough, it would it would suck for it 255 00:12:55,240 --> 00:12:57,400 Speaker 3: to happen if like you weren't, if you didn't want 256 00:12:57,400 --> 00:12:59,080 Speaker 3: to have a poly relationship like it would it would 257 00:12:59,080 --> 00:13:00,320 Speaker 3: suck to have to have, do you? 258 00:13:00,360 --> 00:13:02,040 Speaker 2: But life sucks seven times? 259 00:13:02,080 --> 00:13:03,840 Speaker 1: I guess I'm going to go a whole a whole 260 00:13:04,080 --> 00:13:07,199 Speaker 1: if I'm drawing the line. I think that ultimately I 261 00:13:07,600 --> 00:13:10,439 Speaker 1: agree with you on many many areas. But I do 262 00:13:10,480 --> 00:13:14,840 Speaker 1: think that ultimately she decided to prioritize the attempt of 263 00:13:14,840 --> 00:13:18,600 Speaker 1: the poly relationship over the existing one by asking for it, 264 00:13:18,960 --> 00:13:22,960 Speaker 1: and and also assuming one one knows their partner. You know, 265 00:13:23,000 --> 00:13:25,199 Speaker 1: obviously she didn't know. There's no way to know for sure, 266 00:13:25,280 --> 00:13:27,760 Speaker 1: right unless unless you ask. But I bet she had 267 00:13:27,880 --> 00:13:30,520 Speaker 1: some sort of sense of how it might go. 268 00:13:30,920 --> 00:13:31,840 Speaker 2: Well she could have. 269 00:13:31,920 --> 00:13:34,719 Speaker 3: I guess she could have poised the idea of like 270 00:13:35,240 --> 00:13:36,679 Speaker 3: would you ever consider Like. 271 00:13:36,960 --> 00:13:39,200 Speaker 1: Yeah, she could have done that before bringing up the 272 00:13:39,360 --> 00:13:40,880 Speaker 1: because best friend. 273 00:13:40,640 --> 00:13:43,240 Speaker 2: Is hurtful the best friend you're like, oh. 274 00:13:42,920 --> 00:13:46,880 Speaker 1: God, you know, versus like ambiguously, would you ever consider 275 00:13:47,360 --> 00:13:48,640 Speaker 1: a relationship? 276 00:13:48,679 --> 00:13:51,840 Speaker 3: Because I guess, like my when when she first talked 277 00:13:51,880 --> 00:13:54,599 Speaker 3: about it, it felt like it felt like op was 278 00:13:54,640 --> 00:13:57,520 Speaker 3: an afterthought and felt like, oh, I might emotionally achieving 279 00:13:57,559 --> 00:13:59,960 Speaker 3: exactly you wanted to be part of, like this love 280 00:14:00,240 --> 00:14:01,160 Speaker 3: fest that we've created. 281 00:14:01,400 --> 00:14:03,080 Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, exact. That felt kind of bad. 282 00:14:03,160 --> 00:14:05,880 Speaker 3: Yeah yeah, but like I feel like she actually like 283 00:14:05,880 --> 00:14:09,920 Speaker 3: like it felt like she did like after making that decision, 284 00:14:10,000 --> 00:14:13,000 Speaker 3: she did all the right things after that point, which 285 00:14:13,080 --> 00:14:14,800 Speaker 3: is why I would say not completely after. 286 00:14:15,120 --> 00:14:16,720 Speaker 2: But I don't know, what do you guys think we have? 287 00:14:16,880 --> 00:14:19,000 Speaker 3: We have not the a whole and a whole guys, 288 00:14:19,120 --> 00:14:20,800 Speaker 3: you are going to be the deciding factor. 289 00:14:20,880 --> 00:14:21,920 Speaker 2: I'm gonna get so fake. 290 00:14:22,120 --> 00:14:25,840 Speaker 3: Everyone's gonna hate me. Everyone's gonna freaking roast me and 291 00:14:26,760 --> 00:14:30,360 Speaker 3: such a freaking weird loser. Oh god, I'm not excited 292 00:14:30,400 --> 00:14:31,120 Speaker 3: for these comments. 293 00:14:31,280 --> 00:14:34,480 Speaker 1: Roast Sam decided a little it be a little nice, 294 00:14:34,800 --> 00:14:37,480 Speaker 1: A little nice to Sam, see you next time. 295 00:14:37,600 --> 00:14:40,360 Speaker 3: I thought this tender girl was the love of my life, 296 00:14:40,480 --> 00:14:45,080 Speaker 3: but turns out she was scamming me for fifty thousand dollars. 297 00:14:45,280 --> 00:14:48,240 Speaker 3: Fifty thousand dollars like I've heard of, you know, not 298 00:14:48,320 --> 00:14:49,680 Speaker 3: wanting to pay on the first date. 299 00:14:49,760 --> 00:14:52,800 Speaker 2: But that's just that's just insane. 300 00:14:53,160 --> 00:14:56,640 Speaker 3: Yeah, actually know they should split it. Yeah yeah, he 301 00:14:56,760 --> 00:15:00,360 Speaker 3: scams her out of twenty five thousand dollars, she scams him, 302 00:15:00,600 --> 00:15:03,320 Speaker 3: and that's what we call a quality. I used to 303 00:15:03,400 --> 00:15:06,160 Speaker 3: be able to smell a scam for a mile away, 304 00:15:06,520 --> 00:15:10,480 Speaker 3: like a dung farmer smelling dung on a fresh Saturday afternoon. 305 00:15:10,560 --> 00:15:13,560 Speaker 3: But I have been left embarrassed and ashamed, like I 306 00:15:13,760 --> 00:15:15,600 Speaker 3: was when I went to bed at four years old. 307 00:15:16,200 --> 00:15:19,000 Speaker 3: I fell for something that was clearly dodgy, and I 308 00:15:19,240 --> 00:15:22,160 Speaker 3: sadly was blinded by my own greed. One of the 309 00:15:22,160 --> 00:15:23,440 Speaker 3: original sins, John, come on. 310 00:15:23,760 --> 00:15:27,160 Speaker 1: Seriously, like this guy, don't care about this stuff already 311 00:15:27,160 --> 00:15:30,160 Speaker 1: these Benjamins, I will slap your face. 312 00:15:30,400 --> 00:15:32,760 Speaker 3: Wow, that was a big slap, daddy. I'm actually this 313 00:15:32,800 --> 00:15:35,840 Speaker 3: girl on tender It is cute Chattese girl name and 314 00:15:36,760 --> 00:15:39,800 Speaker 3: Red Flag number one. What Chinese girl is named Anne? 315 00:15:39,960 --> 00:15:42,840 Speaker 3: We spoke for a week, then moved to WhatsApp, where 316 00:15:42,840 --> 00:15:45,400 Speaker 3: she was using a Hong Kong phone number. 317 00:15:45,480 --> 00:15:46,760 Speaker 2: Red Flag number two is it? 318 00:15:46,800 --> 00:15:49,160 Speaker 1: I mean, Hong Kong and China are obviously they're like 319 00:15:49,320 --> 00:15:51,400 Speaker 1: diametrically posed, but. 320 00:15:51,360 --> 00:15:54,200 Speaker 2: They're like, but this man is not in China. Oh oh, 321 00:15:54,240 --> 00:15:57,400 Speaker 2: but she's She's in the States, texting with a Hong 322 00:15:57,480 --> 00:15:58,920 Speaker 2: Kong number. Apparently. 323 00:16:00,480 --> 00:16:02,800 Speaker 3: I questioned the number and she said she had just 324 00:16:02,920 --> 00:16:05,200 Speaker 3: traveled back to Shanghai. But as a student in my 325 00:16:05,400 --> 00:16:08,240 Speaker 3: area and was just turning in a month. She's a student, 326 00:16:08,320 --> 00:16:10,120 Speaker 3: so legit Red flag number three. 327 00:16:10,400 --> 00:16:12,480 Speaker 2: At this point I was certain she was fake. 328 00:16:12,560 --> 00:16:14,360 Speaker 3: Oh really, because you kept talking to her like a 329 00:16:14,400 --> 00:16:17,880 Speaker 3: little simp boy, like a little daddy simp boy steppling 330 00:16:17,920 --> 00:16:19,080 Speaker 3: on the TV. Me some fiction. 331 00:16:20,520 --> 00:16:20,600 Speaker 2: No. 332 00:16:20,920 --> 00:16:23,320 Speaker 3: But over the next week she would speak about her 333 00:16:23,400 --> 00:16:26,240 Speaker 3: day as normal, just like hey, just going around, going 334 00:16:26,280 --> 00:16:29,840 Speaker 3: to school, learning about math. She would send me pictures 335 00:16:29,840 --> 00:16:32,480 Speaker 3: and videos of her going out to places, and would 336 00:16:32,480 --> 00:16:36,120 Speaker 3: send voice messages as if we were close, which slowly 337 00:16:36,560 --> 00:16:37,440 Speaker 3: gained my trust. 338 00:16:37,760 --> 00:16:41,600 Speaker 2: The hooks are in, the hooks are in, the hookup. 339 00:16:41,400 --> 00:16:45,520 Speaker 3: Probably won't happen. Opie's dreams not realized. I tried to 340 00:16:45,600 --> 00:16:47,920 Speaker 3: reverse image search all the pictures she was sending me, 341 00:16:48,000 --> 00:16:51,360 Speaker 3: which smart, smart? Ope, smart, yes, But none of the 342 00:16:51,560 --> 00:16:53,680 Speaker 3: images came up. So I'm like, oh, maybe this is 343 00:16:53,680 --> 00:16:55,760 Speaker 3: a real girl. Maybe maybe this is this is the 344 00:16:55,800 --> 00:16:58,520 Speaker 3: love of my life. On Tinder around week three, she 345 00:16:58,640 --> 00:17:03,280 Speaker 3: casually brought up those little called crypto. 346 00:17:03,920 --> 00:17:05,720 Speaker 2: Have you out of it? Have you out of this 347 00:17:05,760 --> 00:17:09,480 Speaker 2: thing called bitcoin? It's really underground. You wouldn't understand that 348 00:17:09,560 --> 00:17:13,040 Speaker 2: crypto heads would get it. Yeah, we call them the crypts. 349 00:17:13,520 --> 00:17:17,359 Speaker 2: The crypts with the t crypts. 350 00:17:17,720 --> 00:17:22,240 Speaker 3: Catually brought up cryptocurrency. Now, I was already very interested 351 00:17:22,280 --> 00:17:24,680 Speaker 3: in crypto. Some might even call them a crypts. 352 00:17:25,359 --> 00:17:26,000 Speaker 2: Yeah. 353 00:17:26,040 --> 00:17:29,320 Speaker 3: For a while, she had an incredible amount of knowledge 354 00:17:29,359 --> 00:17:31,840 Speaker 3: on the subject. She mentioned that she sold all her bitcoin, 355 00:17:31,880 --> 00:17:33,400 Speaker 3: which was worth roughly. 356 00:17:33,320 --> 00:17:36,600 Speaker 2: One million dollars wow. 357 00:17:36,240 --> 00:17:40,680 Speaker 3: And it invested in ICO for cryptocurrency which was called PBM. 358 00:17:40,840 --> 00:17:44,880 Speaker 3: I tried to search for PBM everywhere, but it didn't exist. 359 00:17:45,160 --> 00:17:45,480 Speaker 2: Hmmm. 360 00:17:46,119 --> 00:17:51,040 Speaker 3: The only thing that came up was was porn bunt munchers. Yeah, 361 00:17:51,560 --> 00:17:55,119 Speaker 3: let me invest in some born butt munchers. I questioned 362 00:17:55,160 --> 00:17:57,320 Speaker 3: her about it, as she said that it was an 363 00:17:57,359 --> 00:18:00,560 Speaker 3: exclusive ICO which is going to be in his only 364 00:18:00,600 --> 00:18:04,840 Speaker 3: cryptocurrency which is currently only being shared among big Chinese 365 00:18:04,880 --> 00:18:08,239 Speaker 3: companies such as Ali Baba, ten Cent, Union Pay, and 366 00:18:08,359 --> 00:18:11,880 Speaker 3: jing Dong. All the big wigs are in on it, 367 00:18:11,960 --> 00:18:14,800 Speaker 3: so big money floating around in these parts. She only 368 00:18:14,800 --> 00:18:18,000 Speaker 3: add access to it because her uncle works for Ali Baba, 369 00:18:18,080 --> 00:18:19,520 Speaker 3: and also sent me a. 370 00:18:19,359 --> 00:18:21,560 Speaker 2: Forded article which confirmed all of this. 371 00:18:21,760 --> 00:18:23,920 Speaker 3: She says she can give me access to it if 372 00:18:23,960 --> 00:18:26,680 Speaker 3: I click the link she sent me with an invitation 373 00:18:26,800 --> 00:18:28,480 Speaker 3: code to be given access to the platform. 374 00:18:28,880 --> 00:18:29,560 Speaker 2: Yeah. 375 00:18:29,600 --> 00:18:34,960 Speaker 3: The platform was called BFF dot cash Legit Best Friend 376 00:18:35,000 --> 00:18:38,520 Speaker 3: Forever Cash. It's just like OPI is ignoring all the 377 00:18:38,560 --> 00:18:41,240 Speaker 3: red flags and he's investing in all the wrong places. 378 00:18:41,240 --> 00:18:44,199 Speaker 3: So my man's he's looking at BFF dot cash. Come on, 379 00:18:44,240 --> 00:18:46,800 Speaker 3: where's your market research man? And he looks online, but 380 00:18:46,800 --> 00:18:50,520 Speaker 3: you can't find BFF dot cash anywhere other than this link. 381 00:18:50,720 --> 00:18:55,920 Speaker 3: My man registers anyway, There's no info about this company anywhere, 382 00:18:55,960 --> 00:18:57,760 Speaker 3: but he registers. But the thing is, it looks like 383 00:18:57,800 --> 00:18:59,480 Speaker 3: a lot of work has gone in to make this 384 00:18:59,560 --> 00:19:02,240 Speaker 3: site look as real as possible, so I trusted it. 385 00:19:02,320 --> 00:19:05,800 Speaker 3: The brand of the platform was called eq Exchange, and 386 00:19:05,800 --> 00:19:07,760 Speaker 3: it gave you a wallet which allowed you to invest 387 00:19:07,800 --> 00:19:10,919 Speaker 3: in other major cryptocurrencies such as Bitcoin and ethereum. And 388 00:19:11,000 --> 00:19:14,840 Speaker 3: it had an accurate price index. Wow, so accurate. This 389 00:19:15,359 --> 00:19:19,000 Speaker 3: is major red flag five. You could only deposit by 390 00:19:19,040 --> 00:19:22,320 Speaker 3: withdrawing crypto from another crypto wallet, which in my case 391 00:19:22,400 --> 00:19:26,400 Speaker 3: was Binance, and sent a screenshot of the successful withdrawal. 392 00:19:26,520 --> 00:19:28,119 Speaker 3: I didn't know how to do this, and to no 393 00:19:28,240 --> 00:19:30,000 Speaker 3: surprise to me, now she was able to give me 394 00:19:30,119 --> 00:19:32,199 Speaker 3: exact instructions on how to do it. 395 00:19:32,280 --> 00:19:33,639 Speaker 2: Oh honey, make sure to give. 396 00:19:33,520 --> 00:19:36,240 Speaker 3: Me your social Security node, yes, and give me your 397 00:19:36,359 --> 00:19:38,119 Speaker 3: your mother's maiden name, that's. 398 00:19:38,040 --> 00:19:40,440 Speaker 1: Right, your birthday so I can get you a birthday 399 00:19:40,440 --> 00:19:45,400 Speaker 1: present because I'm such a sweet girlfriendus kidding, I'm taking 400 00:19:45,440 --> 00:19:46,280 Speaker 1: your moody. 401 00:19:46,720 --> 00:19:50,080 Speaker 3: I only deposited one thousand dollars US right to start, 402 00:19:50,119 --> 00:19:53,080 Speaker 3: because what's a couple g's you know we got We 403 00:19:53,160 --> 00:19:56,040 Speaker 3: got these floating around the same prop money. And then 404 00:19:56,080 --> 00:19:58,479 Speaker 3: I would try to withdraw back to binance just to 405 00:19:58,520 --> 00:20:01,280 Speaker 3: test it, and it transferred me into my Binance wallet 406 00:20:01,280 --> 00:20:02,240 Speaker 3: within twenty minutes. 407 00:20:02,560 --> 00:20:03,560 Speaker 2: Oh, I keep going. 408 00:20:03,640 --> 00:20:06,439 Speaker 3: I guess this gained my trust in the platform, and 409 00:20:06,480 --> 00:20:08,360 Speaker 3: I put the money into the ICO and it would 410 00:20:08,400 --> 00:20:12,200 Speaker 3: get me around three hundred PBM as a value was 411 00:20:12,240 --> 00:20:15,480 Speaker 3: around three USDT. The next couple of days, she was 412 00:20:15,520 --> 00:20:19,280 Speaker 3: boasting how she bought one million PBM when it first 413 00:20:19,359 --> 00:20:22,040 Speaker 3: launched a month earlier at the price of point zero 414 00:20:22,160 --> 00:20:25,280 Speaker 3: zero two USDT, and how I should buy more because 415 00:20:25,280 --> 00:20:28,919 Speaker 3: the value is increasing quickly before the ICO ends on 416 00:20:29,040 --> 00:20:31,720 Speaker 3: the twenty fourth of May twenty twenty one. Over the 417 00:20:31,760 --> 00:20:34,160 Speaker 3: next week, I got a little carried away, let's just say, 418 00:20:34,359 --> 00:20:37,000 Speaker 3: uh oh, And I ended up investing. 419 00:20:36,760 --> 00:20:40,960 Speaker 2: Fifty thousand dollars them. I know. 420 00:20:41,240 --> 00:20:43,640 Speaker 3: We kept talking for another week and talking about how 421 00:20:43,760 --> 00:20:45,720 Speaker 3: rich we were going to be, the private island we 422 00:20:45,720 --> 00:20:47,840 Speaker 3: were going to go off, how I would canoodle with 423 00:20:47,920 --> 00:20:52,040 Speaker 3: our nude bodies and the nude water, just bathing in 424 00:20:52,080 --> 00:20:54,159 Speaker 3: the Bahamas with that big ass body. 425 00:20:54,280 --> 00:20:54,800 Speaker 2: Oh yeah. 426 00:20:54,800 --> 00:20:57,359 Speaker 3: But then she started becoming a little bit more aggressive 427 00:20:57,560 --> 00:20:59,720 Speaker 3: about how I should invest more money, about how I 428 00:20:59,720 --> 00:21:02,160 Speaker 3: should max out all my credit cards, how actually get 429 00:21:02,160 --> 00:21:04,600 Speaker 3: a bank loan, how I should you use my family's money, 430 00:21:04,680 --> 00:21:07,720 Speaker 3: And then it finally smacked me out of my spell. 431 00:21:07,760 --> 00:21:11,280 Speaker 3: And then I realized I can't withdraw from this ico, 432 00:21:11,520 --> 00:21:12,600 Speaker 3: can't get my money out. 433 00:21:12,800 --> 00:21:13,960 Speaker 2: That's not good. 434 00:21:14,119 --> 00:21:16,919 Speaker 3: I panic, and I search everywhere about possible scams and 435 00:21:17,000 --> 00:21:19,880 Speaker 3: these details, but I couldn't find anything for ages until 436 00:21:19,880 --> 00:21:24,400 Speaker 3: I came across a translated Bulgarian article that matches everything. 437 00:21:24,640 --> 00:21:26,520 Speaker 2: Uh oh, I'm devastated. 438 00:21:26,560 --> 00:21:29,160 Speaker 3: I don't question her straight away, but instead I try 439 00:21:29,200 --> 00:21:32,480 Speaker 3: to scam her back by convincing her to transfer fifty 440 00:21:32,520 --> 00:21:36,520 Speaker 3: thousand USDT to my BFF dot cash wallet. She refused 441 00:21:36,520 --> 00:21:39,320 Speaker 3: to do it on finance and then I take it 442 00:21:39,359 --> 00:21:42,880 Speaker 3: for myself, but they quickly realized and froze my accounts. 443 00:21:42,920 --> 00:21:45,040 Speaker 3: I played dumb to her for a while, but eventually 444 00:21:45,080 --> 00:21:48,200 Speaker 3: she blocked me. And now I'm here fifty thousand dollars poor. 445 00:21:48,440 --> 00:21:50,280 Speaker 3: I know I will get the If you're dumb enough 446 00:21:50,280 --> 00:21:52,280 Speaker 3: to fall for it, then you deserve to lose your money, 447 00:21:52,320 --> 00:21:53,879 Speaker 3: which is true. But I really need to get this 448 00:21:53,960 --> 00:21:56,720 Speaker 3: out there for anyone about to go through the same situation. 449 00:21:56,920 --> 00:22:01,119 Speaker 2: I guess the moral of the story is pleet delete tender. 450 00:22:01,200 --> 00:22:03,879 Speaker 2: Guys join an Amish community. 451 00:22:03,720 --> 00:22:05,920 Speaker 3: You know what they do in the Amish country. They're 452 00:22:06,000 --> 00:22:09,719 Speaker 3: Sally down the street. Your families grew up together. You know, 453 00:22:09,840 --> 00:22:12,960 Speaker 3: Sally Bam married to Sally Done.