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Speaker 2: Hey, guys, is Shagara Ebine here? And I hope all

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Speaker 2: let's do a little housekeeping. Okay, first of all, what

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Speaker 2: did we think about this year spooky series? I feel

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Speaker 2: in the show notes be low. Now, on this week's episode,

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Speaker 2: we're going to finish up our conversation from part one

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Speaker 2: with our New York stripper story. So in part two,

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Speaker 2: my guest opens up about whether she ever felt pressure

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Speaker 2: also give a hot take on bbls, and my guests

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Speaker 2: also shares her experience of being outed and how she

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Speaker 2: told her family she was a shripper. So, y'all, this

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Speaker 2: part two starts. Now, Well, I feel like you're pretty

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Speaker 2: confident and you know who you are. So have you

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Speaker 2: ever felt pressure and like wanting to change your body

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Speaker 2: because of this industry?

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Speaker 3: Oh? Yeah, I think like when I first got in

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Speaker 3: getting like my lips done just to start, like and

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Speaker 3: Like I'm kind of just like like there's like this

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Speaker 4: All be all for me, like I want, Like I'm

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Speaker 3: No like journalists or reporter producer taked up with a

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Speaker 3: But also too, there is nothing that like excuse me,

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Speaker 3: proves that like having surgery increases your earnings, Like there

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Speaker 2: That BBOs are loky, not even.

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Speaker 3: In like that they're not exactly and like especially like

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Speaker 2: But I mean, no, it's a real thing, like which

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Speaker 2: I think is I have a theory on BBL guys.

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Speaker 2: I was having a conversation with a friend and we

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Speaker 2: were talking about luxury right, and we were saying, how

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Speaker 2: back in the day, because I used to before I

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Speaker 2: got into this industry, I used to work in high

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Speaker 2: these luxury uh uh brands, luxury was so hard for

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Speaker 2: often as many people were their luxury now. So I

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Speaker 2: compare luxury to bbls because back in the day, plastic

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Speaker 2: surgery used to be something that only the rich can do.

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Speaker 2: Only things that people like with you know, who had

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Speaker 2: no long concident a thing of status. So that's why

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Speaker 2: things that, Yeah.

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Speaker 4: That's exactly it, Like it's a trend, like.

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Speaker 2: And it's a trend and don't.

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Speaker 3: Last, Like it truly is dependent on how the consumer

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Speaker 3: like it's it's it's inaccessibility, like right activity.

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Speaker 2: Like certain things like you couldn't I remember one time

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Speaker 2: why are we making all this money? And I'm like

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Speaker 2: everybody had Gucci, even with Chanel, Like it's not like

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Speaker 2: it's expensive as hell. Everybody has it. Like nothing is

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Speaker 3: Right exactly?

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Speaker 2: And also too, I couldn't be bls Yeah exactly.

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Speaker 3: That's the other thing too. I learned that girls were

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Speaker 2: Yes, yeah, and like this like it's an investment.

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Speaker 3: Well that's what I'm saying, but like what is the investment?

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Speaker 3: Like you got to pay your body off and you

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Speaker 3: Are you breaking even? I don't know, maybe you need

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Speaker 4: To like more money in the club, because like.

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Speaker 2: I think that if you do it a certain way

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Speaker 2: and if you position yourself, I think that you could

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Speaker 2: I mean, if you if you get the right trick,

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Speaker 3: And that's what I'm saying. It depends on the trick,

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Speaker 4: Like I look like this and she looks like that.

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Speaker 3: But it's like, I think the most empowering thing in

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Speaker 3: forgot my makeup, I forgot some lashes, and like still

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Speaker 3: you truly have to get into your game and you're like,

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Speaker 3: these customers are not just here for what I look like,

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Speaker 3: They're here for the overall experience.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, that's how you make them feel.

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Speaker 4: Yes, And like the way you look is a part

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Speaker 3: And like I say this again as a black woman,

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Speaker 3: like you know that does experience anti black racism in

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Speaker 4: And I'm it's I think leaning into your strengths.

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Speaker 3: Like and especially let's be real, like when these customers

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Speaker 2: Like I'm making you giggle.

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Speaker 3: Yhy exactly, y'all, I'm gonna lack you out of your

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Speaker 3: just don't give a better chance to talk or anything.

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Speaker 3: Just go right, and they're they're they're gonna be like

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Speaker 3: because it's the first experience they had and after they

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Speaker 3: talk to people and stuff like that. Not every time, obviously,

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Speaker 3: but like there are times where, like you know, a

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Speaker 3: customer will be like, wait, come back here, and then

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Speaker 3: you talk to them and they're like why like nobody.

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Speaker 3: I hate to say this too, but like they'll be

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Speaker 3: like nobody speaks English, like nobody, like you know, is

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Speaker 3: able to like communicate, You're smart, like and yeah, I

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Speaker 2: Now, you're right, You're right. So wait, so does your

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Speaker 4: Oh my god, yes, and what do you think about this?

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Speaker 3: You said, what what do they think?

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Speaker 2: Yeah?

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Speaker 3: And I was telling my dad today, like cause you know,

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Speaker 3: eventually I would like a post studio is a part

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Speaker 3: of my portfolio. One of these days, I found a

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Speaker 3: I'm a dancer, like I told him maybe a year

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Speaker 4: But I don't even like when niggas look at me

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Speaker 2: What's up y'all, It's Shagar Mna here and be sure

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Speaker 2: to follow me on Instagram and TikTok at pretty Private

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Speaker 2: podcast and don't forget to subscribe to my YouTube channel

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Speaker 2: at the Professional Homegirl. Now let's get back to the show. So,

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Speaker 2: has someone ever outed you as a stripper?

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Speaker 3: Yes? Child of Oh my god. There's one particular what

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Speaker 3: ragny podcast about like a time that he had with

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Speaker 3: but yeah, that that that that did happen essentially what

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Speaker 4: And also I'm sorry, but like in the club, like

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Speaker 3: The club doesn't really matter, Like I just want to

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Speaker 3: Long as it makes sense you're paying sure, like, but yeah,

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Speaker 3: All right, well, I'm just gonna play some music and

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Speaker 3: At this point, we got an hour left, like we

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Speaker 4: And I like literally was like, oh, like puts titties away,

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Speaker 4: I'm with like this particular company, And they.

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Speaker 2: Goddamn, because they was talking about the experience and a

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Speaker 3: Was like is this you talking about? Right? They had

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Speaker 4: So they didn't like explicitly say my name and.

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Speaker 3: My name at the club isn't my real name, right,

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Speaker 3: but you know, there's only about three dancers that are

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Speaker 4: And then the host of the show reached out to me,

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Speaker 3: And then the host of the show had told me, oh,

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Speaker 4: And then there was talk about like, oh that.

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Speaker 4: Bro, it's really a small world, like not even just

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Speaker 4: And then yeah, long, like there there was talk.

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Speaker 3: what are you doing tonight? Are you going to work?

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00:21:41,880 --> 00:21:46,880
Speaker 3: Like let's like like there was yeah, like and from

438
00:21:46,920 --> 00:21:52,879
Speaker 3: there again Like for me personally, I really it's just no, Like.

439
00:21:53,359 --> 00:21:56,320
Speaker 2: Yeah, and that's so crazy because what are the odds

440
00:21:56,440 --> 00:21:59,280
Speaker 2: of this person having their platform and they having this

441
00:21:59,400 --> 00:22:01,879
Speaker 2: conversation about their experience and the next thing, you know,

442
00:22:02,040 --> 00:22:03,800
Speaker 2: people are hearing you talk about someing, Hey this is you?

443
00:22:03,960 --> 00:22:05,399
Speaker 2: Like that is so crazy to me.

444
00:22:06,280 --> 00:22:09,159
Speaker 4: Yeah, And like they've named.

445
00:22:08,960 --> 00:22:12,120
Speaker 3: The club, like and there's multiple locations of the club,

446
00:22:12,240 --> 00:22:15,560
Speaker 3: but like they specifically said like it's location.

447
00:22:15,760 --> 00:22:18,920
Speaker 2: Oh that's scary.

448
00:22:19,560 --> 00:22:22,359
Speaker 3: It was about a paywall, like who knows, but like

449
00:22:24,040 --> 00:22:27,080
Speaker 3: it's still like a weird feeling, like the hyper surveillance

450
00:22:27,160 --> 00:22:29,760
Speaker 3: of it all right, Yeah, I don't know.

451
00:22:30,359 --> 00:22:32,040
Speaker 4: So what do you do without it?

452
00:22:32,640 --> 00:22:32,800
Speaker 3: Yeah?

453
00:22:32,840 --> 00:22:34,320
Speaker 2: Because I'm just like because now you think they about

454
00:22:34,359 --> 00:22:36,359
Speaker 2: your safety, So like what do you do to ensure

455
00:22:36,400 --> 00:22:39,320
Speaker 2: that you're gonna that you're you're safe? Because even though

456
00:22:39,359 --> 00:22:41,399
Speaker 2: your siblings and your father and everybody have to have

457
00:22:41,520 --> 00:22:44,160
Speaker 2: your location, but like you know, you're a critique woman.

458
00:22:44,240 --> 00:22:46,600
Speaker 2: And then like when you have people come on or

459
00:22:46,840 --> 00:22:48,639
Speaker 2: you don't know who's who and they're talking about, oh

460
00:22:48,640 --> 00:22:50,200
Speaker 2: I met this girl at this so and the location

461
00:22:50,320 --> 00:22:53,280
Speaker 2: isn't it? Like like what do you do in those situations?

462
00:22:54,040 --> 00:22:57,840
Speaker 3: I feel like yeah, I mean one, all my social

463
00:22:57,880 --> 00:23:02,400
Speaker 3: media is are private just yeah, like anything like even if.

464
00:23:02,280 --> 00:23:04,399
Speaker 4: There's like a moment where like okay, a customer is like.

465
00:23:04,440 --> 00:23:07,840
Speaker 3: Asking for like my number, I'll be like, oh, I've

466
00:23:07,840 --> 00:23:09,639
Speaker 3: given my social media, you have to pay for that.

467
00:23:09,920 --> 00:23:14,119
Speaker 4: But even still, like you know, I'm determining who's allowed

468
00:23:14,160 --> 00:23:14,960
Speaker 4: to come in and who's not.

469
00:23:15,080 --> 00:23:19,640
Speaker 3: So there's that right. Also just like when I come

470
00:23:19,680 --> 00:23:21,520
Speaker 3: home from work, like I'm not gonna lie. Sometimes I

471
00:23:21,600 --> 00:23:24,000
Speaker 3: take the train, sometimes I drive, Like it just depends

472
00:23:24,040 --> 00:23:26,520
Speaker 3: on how I feel. Sometimes I uber like it just

473
00:23:26,800 --> 00:23:30,040
Speaker 3: I don't know, depends. But like I will like put

474
00:23:30,160 --> 00:23:33,359
Speaker 3: my money in like a separate area like that is

475
00:23:33,480 --> 00:23:36,600
Speaker 3: not like a wallet that in case someone does try

476
00:23:36,680 --> 00:23:39,800
Speaker 3: to like yeah like that like here you have the

477
00:23:39,840 --> 00:23:42,080
Speaker 3: wallet with the little ten dollars on it, like my

478
00:23:42,200 --> 00:23:44,080
Speaker 3: money is really here or.

479
00:23:44,800 --> 00:23:45,399
Speaker 1: Yeah, I like it.

480
00:23:45,800 --> 00:23:47,840
Speaker 2: I love New York. The way we think is like

481
00:23:49,040 --> 00:23:51,520
Speaker 2: because I be doing that too, Like I put my

482
00:23:51,600 --> 00:23:53,760
Speaker 2: phone somewhere else, just get somebody shore I steal my bag.

483
00:23:53,800 --> 00:23:55,760
Speaker 2: It's like nope, a.

484
00:23:55,800 --> 00:23:59,440
Speaker 3: Little dummy iPhone six here child like take it. Yeah,

485
00:24:01,200 --> 00:24:03,119
Speaker 3: but yeah, or even at home, like I have a

486
00:24:03,200 --> 00:24:05,720
Speaker 3: safe like with like you know, a code and a

487
00:24:05,800 --> 00:24:08,080
Speaker 3: lock on it. And when I do drive, I have

488
00:24:08,160 --> 00:24:11,440
Speaker 3: a safe there as well, like but even still my seat,

489
00:24:11,520 --> 00:24:14,639
Speaker 3: I'm not even on, I'm off, like and if I'm driving,

490
00:24:14,800 --> 00:24:17,920
Speaker 3: like I'm making sure that nobody's following me. I'll say

491
00:24:18,520 --> 00:24:21,760
Speaker 3: four or five times before the host is clear. And

492
00:24:21,840 --> 00:24:24,880
Speaker 3: if someone is following, I just take them somewhere where

493
00:24:24,880 --> 00:24:27,720
Speaker 3: they don't feel safe, like whether that is the precinct

494
00:24:27,960 --> 00:24:30,639
Speaker 3: or a very hot, spicy block, I don't know, but

495
00:24:31,320 --> 00:24:33,480
Speaker 3: you know, a little guessing game surprise, right.

496
00:24:35,200 --> 00:24:36,800
Speaker 2: Have you ever been in a situation like that where

497
00:24:36,800 --> 00:24:38,000
Speaker 2: you feel like the customer.

498
00:24:37,800 --> 00:24:43,879
Speaker 3: Was like never really no good? And also bear mates

499
00:24:43,920 --> 00:24:49,640
Speaker 3: bro like yeah, forty feet of protection man like bear

500
00:24:49,760 --> 00:24:51,840
Speaker 3: mace a tager.

501
00:24:53,000 --> 00:25:00,440
Speaker 4: Like like, I mean it's there, like I I see it,

502
00:25:00,520 --> 00:25:01,920
Speaker 4: though if you get that close that I have to

503
00:25:02,040 --> 00:25:02,280
Speaker 4: use it.

504
00:25:02,400 --> 00:25:05,280
Speaker 3: Oh, Like I don't think I was vigilant on my

505
00:25:05,560 --> 00:25:08,520
Speaker 3: end and to make sure that like you know, not

506
00:25:08,600 --> 00:25:10,119
Speaker 3: even trying to vike them blame but like I'm just

507
00:25:10,280 --> 00:25:11,000
Speaker 3: again New York.

508
00:25:11,080 --> 00:25:13,399
Speaker 4: I'm just hyper vigilant about like my safety.

509
00:25:13,480 --> 00:25:16,080
Speaker 2: Yeah, us New York girls like you gotta keep your

510
00:25:16,119 --> 00:25:18,920
Speaker 2: hair on the swovel, like we don't play no games.

511
00:25:19,000 --> 00:25:21,480
Speaker 4: The daytime and the night time whenever, all.

512
00:25:21,440 --> 00:25:26,520
Speaker 2: Day, all night. Okay, So being working in this industry, like,

513
00:25:26,640 --> 00:25:29,200
Speaker 2: how has your experience as a dancer changed how you

514
00:25:29,280 --> 00:25:30,639
Speaker 2: think about love and intimacy?

515
00:25:31,560 --> 00:25:31,679
Speaker 3: Oh?

516
00:25:31,760 --> 00:25:37,120
Speaker 4: Wow, okay, that is so interesting.

517
00:25:38,440 --> 00:25:40,600
Speaker 2: Why you hear that? The only reason why I asked

518
00:25:40,600 --> 00:25:42,720
Speaker 2: because I'm just thinking to myself, like if I was

519
00:25:42,800 --> 00:25:46,520
Speaker 2: to constantly be around men, and like, your approach to this,

520
00:25:47,000 --> 00:25:50,000
Speaker 2: your style is different than most, Like you're not full service.

521
00:25:50,119 --> 00:25:53,440
Speaker 2: So for you, it's basically your personality that's helping you

522
00:25:53,520 --> 00:25:57,480
Speaker 2: with your clientele. And then you actually, you know you're working,

523
00:25:57,560 --> 00:25:59,480
Speaker 2: but you're pretending that you're interested in these people. And

524
00:25:59,760 --> 00:26:02,560
Speaker 2: maybe sometimes she may get a connection with them, but

525
00:26:02,960 --> 00:26:06,119
Speaker 2: I can only imagine how some of these men feel, like,

526
00:26:06,200 --> 00:26:08,639
Speaker 2: oh shit, I'm laughing. She cool this that I'm getting?

527
00:26:08,720 --> 00:26:10,560
Speaker 2: Look one two step, you know what I'm saying.

528
00:26:10,480 --> 00:26:14,320
Speaker 4: Like, yeah, oh my god, I mean okay to that,

529
00:26:14,800 --> 00:26:21,040
Speaker 4: like like in the club, Like I dated like while

530
00:26:21,240 --> 00:26:24,600
Speaker 4: working in the club, and not like particularly like men

531
00:26:24,920 --> 00:26:25,560
Speaker 4: in the club.

532
00:26:25,800 --> 00:26:28,879
Speaker 3: Although I am dating someone that I met in the

533
00:26:28,920 --> 00:26:31,479
Speaker 3: club right now for the first time ever. Like that's crazy.

534
00:26:32,840 --> 00:26:36,639
Speaker 3: But I've dated like civilian men that like don't come

535
00:26:36,720 --> 00:26:40,840
Speaker 3: to the club, and I think I want to know something.

536
00:26:41,280 --> 00:26:44,560
Speaker 3: I think, Okay, when I dated those dudes, like, Okay,

537
00:26:44,680 --> 00:26:47,160
Speaker 3: this dude I'm dating right now, I'm not saying he's

538
00:26:47,200 --> 00:26:49,040
Speaker 3: like a special person or anything, but.

539
00:26:49,080 --> 00:26:51,920
Speaker 2: When it comes to like not too light in love already,

540
00:26:52,359 --> 00:26:56,560
Speaker 2: I know that's so. It is a beautiful thing.

541
00:26:57,320 --> 00:26:59,399
Speaker 3: No, I never wanted to date while I was in

542
00:26:59,440 --> 00:27:01,879
Speaker 3: a shiplub. I never wanted to because, like, bro, I

543
00:27:01,920 --> 00:27:04,359
Speaker 3: don't even want my man going to a strip club,

544
00:27:04,560 --> 00:27:06,720
Speaker 3: Like why like or if they do.

545
00:27:07,520 --> 00:27:10,520
Speaker 4: I can understand if like, Okay, we're together and we're

546
00:27:10,640 --> 00:27:13,880
Speaker 4: like out of New York and like I am, you're

547
00:27:13,920 --> 00:27:14,360
Speaker 4: in Atlanta.

548
00:27:14,359 --> 00:27:17,400
Speaker 3: Okay, we're there for the experience, let's pay the girls whatever,

549
00:27:18,160 --> 00:27:24,159
Speaker 3: But like, no, like, are you comfortable.

550
00:27:23,760 --> 00:27:25,000
Speaker 1: With your partner being in the club.

551
00:27:26,320 --> 00:27:31,920
Speaker 2: M I would say, at this big age, I don't

552
00:27:31,920 --> 00:27:33,920
Speaker 2: think it's a matter of me being comfortable. I'll just

553
00:27:34,000 --> 00:27:35,959
Speaker 2: be like why because you got all of this at

554
00:27:35,960 --> 00:27:38,720
Speaker 2: home type of thing, and why can't I come with you?

555
00:27:39,880 --> 00:27:42,040
Speaker 4: Yeah, Like I don't know.

556
00:27:42,119 --> 00:27:43,680
Speaker 3: I feel like even if you go into the club

557
00:27:43,720 --> 00:27:47,960
Speaker 3: with like the purest of intentions. Brothers, alcohol baddies, like

558
00:27:49,119 --> 00:27:49,840
Speaker 3: like the way.

559
00:27:49,960 --> 00:27:52,200
Speaker 2: I don't know, but like I said, I used to

560
00:27:52,359 --> 00:27:55,800
Speaker 2: really enjoy going to the strip club, Like like I

561
00:27:55,960 --> 00:27:57,480
Speaker 2: was in the strip club so much that I was

562
00:27:57,520 --> 00:27:59,480
Speaker 2: helping this one girl named Jamaica. I doubt if she

563
00:27:59,560 --> 00:28:01,960
Speaker 2: still works there, but I was helping her trying to

564
00:28:02,000 --> 00:28:04,040
Speaker 2: get in school. Like that's how active I was in

565
00:28:04,080 --> 00:28:06,920
Speaker 2: the strip club. Like yeah, like I used to be

566
00:28:07,119 --> 00:28:09,919
Speaker 2: in the club. So and I think the clubs are

567
00:28:09,960 --> 00:28:12,200
Speaker 2: like for me, it's a party, like people used to

568
00:28:12,200 --> 00:28:14,480
Speaker 2: go to the strip clubs to party and hang out whatever.

569
00:28:14,600 --> 00:28:17,359
Speaker 2: So I want to be uncomfortable. But I feel like

570
00:28:17,440 --> 00:28:19,920
Speaker 2: if my guy was to continuously keep going to the

571
00:28:19,920 --> 00:28:22,119
Speaker 2: strip club, then it will raise red flags for me

572
00:28:22,240 --> 00:28:24,560
Speaker 2: cause it's like because I mean, like the men I

573
00:28:24,640 --> 00:28:26,520
Speaker 2: they don't really go to the strip club. They don't

574
00:28:26,520 --> 00:28:28,159
Speaker 2: even go to clubs like that. Les I want to

575
00:28:28,200 --> 00:28:30,520
Speaker 2: go out and it's more so like lounges and stuff.

576
00:28:30,600 --> 00:28:34,040
Speaker 3: So yeah, part like bro, even in that episode of

577
00:28:34,119 --> 00:28:36,520
Speaker 3: like Married to Medicine, they have code length like we're

578
00:28:36,520 --> 00:28:38,560
Speaker 3: gonna go get some wings, which means like we're going

579
00:28:38,600 --> 00:28:38,960
Speaker 3: to to the.

580
00:28:38,920 --> 00:28:42,800
Speaker 2: Strip Club, right, hate that and I don't even eat

581
00:28:42,880 --> 00:28:44,920
Speaker 2: chicken no more. So that's another reason why I don't

582
00:28:44,920 --> 00:28:46,160
Speaker 2: go to the club because they have the best hot

583
00:28:46,240 --> 00:28:49,280
Speaker 2: wings y'all, Oh my god, the best wings.

584
00:28:50,000 --> 00:28:53,480
Speaker 3: But yeah, no, like okay, I feel like there have

585
00:28:53,560 --> 00:28:56,080
Speaker 3: been times like once, like I dated like a basketball

586
00:28:56,160 --> 00:28:59,360
Speaker 3: player once and like he was playing like professional ball

587
00:28:59,440 --> 00:29:04,160
Speaker 3: but like national or whatever, and like I don't know.

588
00:29:04,280 --> 00:29:06,400
Speaker 3: One time we were talking and he was like, I

589
00:29:06,560 --> 00:29:09,480
Speaker 3: play ball, you work in the club, like it makes sense.

590
00:29:09,600 --> 00:29:12,880
Speaker 4: And I was like huh, like what does that mean?

591
00:29:13,200 --> 00:29:15,200
Speaker 3: Like why do you like me?

592
00:29:15,440 --> 00:29:17,560
Speaker 4: Like that's not what you're trying to hear, so play.

593
00:29:18,160 --> 00:29:21,840
Speaker 3: And then I dated this other dude that had like.

594
00:29:22,200 --> 00:29:25,160
Speaker 4: Or has like a really well known like music platform

595
00:29:25,360 --> 00:29:29,560
Speaker 4: or whatever, and like like you know what, nig no

596
00:29:29,960 --> 00:29:33,080
Speaker 4: he he take record.

597
00:29:35,560 --> 00:29:37,440
Speaker 2: Like he has like that.

598
00:29:37,560 --> 00:29:41,560
Speaker 3: Show on the radar, like the music platform where the

599
00:29:41,640 --> 00:29:43,800
Speaker 3: niggas come on and they do the freestyles or whatever.

600
00:29:44,320 --> 00:29:48,480
Speaker 2: Oh yeah, you posted you posted on him on your page,

601
00:29:49,440 --> 00:29:51,520
Speaker 2: did I? Well, not him, but you gave him a

602
00:29:51,560 --> 00:29:53,120
Speaker 2: shadow I started post on Instagram.

603
00:29:53,800 --> 00:29:55,880
Speaker 3: I hope not. Oh yes, I saw.

604
00:29:56,160 --> 00:29:59,680
Speaker 2: Oh my god, listen when I get in my research

605
00:29:59,800 --> 00:30:01,400
Speaker 2: band that's crazy.

606
00:30:01,560 --> 00:30:06,160
Speaker 4: Yeah, oh well maybe about okay exactly, I'm.

607
00:30:06,040 --> 00:30:08,840
Speaker 2: Gonna beat some of that out, so they put yeah,

608
00:30:10,280 --> 00:30:11,720
Speaker 2: but yeah, And then I.

609
00:30:11,840 --> 00:30:14,920
Speaker 3: Just found it interesting that like suddenly, like when he's

610
00:30:15,000 --> 00:30:17,720
Speaker 3: talking to these rappers and stuff like that, like the

611
00:30:17,840 --> 00:30:20,360
Speaker 3: topic of like dating strippers is coming up and like

612
00:30:20,480 --> 00:30:23,160
Speaker 3: stuff like that, and I'm like, huh, like and not

613
00:30:23,400 --> 00:30:25,840
Speaker 3: just that, like where I went to school is also

614
00:30:25,960 --> 00:30:29,960
Speaker 3: coming up, and like I think, like I think every

615
00:30:30,040 --> 00:30:32,240
Speaker 3: man wants to like date a stripper or at least

616
00:30:32,320 --> 00:30:34,800
Speaker 3: have the story of, like, oh I dated a stripper

617
00:30:34,880 --> 00:30:37,800
Speaker 3: back in my day because it just gives them like cold.

618
00:30:37,640 --> 00:30:39,600
Speaker 2: Because in their mind it puts them at a level

619
00:30:39,640 --> 00:30:42,480
Speaker 2: of the men that they want to be like exactly.

620
00:30:42,760 --> 00:30:47,280
Speaker 3: Yeah, for sure, cultural like relevance or something.

621
00:30:47,600 --> 00:30:51,000
Speaker 2: But like yeah, matter of fact, like I didn't like Nika,

622
00:30:51,040 --> 00:30:51,600
Speaker 2: shut up.

623
00:30:52,240 --> 00:30:54,400
Speaker 3: No, Like it still doesn't work, like.

624
00:30:56,880 --> 00:30:59,760
Speaker 4: But yeah, I think so.

625
00:31:00,080 --> 00:31:02,479
Speaker 3: Yeah. But I'll say, like this particular dude, even though

626
00:31:02,480 --> 00:31:05,520
Speaker 3: I met him in the club, like and we've only

627
00:31:05,560 --> 00:31:08,320
Speaker 3: been dating for like five months or whatever, I made

628
00:31:08,400 --> 00:31:11,040
Speaker 3: very clear like I don't want to date like or whatever.

629
00:31:11,400 --> 00:31:15,120
Speaker 3: But he's been a gentleman. But this is the first

630
00:31:15,160 --> 00:31:17,600
Speaker 3: time that I've had a dude say like how long

631
00:31:17,680 --> 00:31:19,160
Speaker 3: are you gonna be in the club. It's like I

632
00:31:19,240 --> 00:31:21,520
Speaker 3: don't want you in the club, And like it makes

633
00:31:21,560 --> 00:31:23,880
Speaker 3: me think about like the last situations that I've had

634
00:31:23,960 --> 00:31:26,360
Speaker 3: where like those dudes were like okay with me being

635
00:31:26,360 --> 00:31:28,640
Speaker 3: in the club, and I'm wondering, like was it because

636
00:31:28,680 --> 00:31:31,720
Speaker 3: they didn't like me the same way that I like them,

637
00:31:31,800 --> 00:31:34,440
Speaker 3: and like like maybe like they knew it was like

638
00:31:34,480 --> 00:31:38,200
Speaker 3: a temporary thing or whatever, and like they didn't care enough.

639
00:31:38,120 --> 00:31:43,360
Speaker 2: To like you know, yeah, the illusion that you gave

640
00:31:43,480 --> 00:31:45,120
Speaker 2: them prison, Yeah, yeah.

641
00:31:45,640 --> 00:31:47,560
Speaker 3: And also dating dudes in the club, like you have

642
00:31:47,720 --> 00:31:50,480
Speaker 3: to like be clear, like who I am here is

643
00:31:50,600 --> 00:31:53,320
Speaker 3: not who I am like outside of here, Like I

644
00:31:54,240 --> 00:31:57,480
Speaker 3: like I'm a loser, like I read I go kayaking

645
00:31:57,560 --> 00:32:03,080
Speaker 3: with my dad like like I like, yeah, like we're

646
00:32:03,120 --> 00:32:05,880
Speaker 3: gonna be talking about like black them theory outside hearing,

647
00:32:05,960 --> 00:32:07,280
Speaker 3: like workers' rights not.

648
00:32:07,560 --> 00:32:10,480
Speaker 2: Like but that's a real thing though, because I don't

649
00:32:10,520 --> 00:32:13,680
Speaker 2: know if you remember this, but the Trina she was

650
00:32:13,720 --> 00:32:15,600
Speaker 2: saying how when she used to date these men, they

651
00:32:15,640 --> 00:32:17,760
Speaker 2: would want the rapper Trina. She was like that is

652
00:32:17,920 --> 00:32:19,840
Speaker 2: not me, Like that's part of me, but like who

653
00:32:19,960 --> 00:32:24,000
Speaker 2: I am at the court, you're gonna be highly disappointed, exactly.

654
00:32:24,160 --> 00:32:26,240
Speaker 4: And also, wasn't Trina a dancer at one point?

655
00:32:26,480 --> 00:32:28,440
Speaker 3: Like wasn't she a stripper once upon a time?

656
00:32:29,600 --> 00:32:33,800
Speaker 2: I want to say yes, yeah, interested, I want to

657
00:32:33,840 --> 00:32:37,760
Speaker 2: say yeah, yeah, but I want to say also, most

658
00:32:38,160 --> 00:32:40,720
Speaker 2: well not this day and age rappers, but most rappers,

659
00:32:40,880 --> 00:32:43,760
Speaker 2: most feomale rappers were shippers, come from the industry.

660
00:32:44,440 --> 00:32:48,520
Speaker 4: Eve dream Doll, she was like a bartender, but yeah,

661
00:32:50,440 --> 00:32:53,800
Speaker 4: like it was a Chinese kitty as well. It was

662
00:32:53,840 --> 00:32:54,840
Speaker 4: a little star tender.

663
00:32:56,400 --> 00:32:58,480
Speaker 2: Yeah yeah, but.

664
00:32:59,480 --> 00:33:03,080
Speaker 3: Yeah, but yeah, dating is like yeah, exactly, exactly, not

665
00:33:03,480 --> 00:33:06,680
Speaker 3: like you just have to remember, like if you're in

666
00:33:06,800 --> 00:33:08,600
Speaker 3: the club, you're like, hey, hell are you still here?

667
00:33:08,720 --> 00:33:11,680
Speaker 3: This is the fantasy? Or if they start to think something,

668
00:33:12,280 --> 00:33:15,280
Speaker 3: charge them for like something else, like snap them back

669
00:33:15,320 --> 00:33:19,280
Speaker 3: to reality. Yeah, because yeah, I don't feel like texting

670
00:33:19,360 --> 00:33:23,240
Speaker 3: nobody once I leave home, Like I don't why normal?

671
00:33:23,560 --> 00:33:26,000
Speaker 3: But yeah, there's not.

672
00:33:31,640 --> 00:33:34,080
Speaker 2: Has strippen like has it impact that your mental health?

673
00:33:34,080 --> 00:33:36,160
Speaker 2: Because I feel like, I mean, I want to say,

674
00:33:36,160 --> 00:33:37,880
Speaker 2: I feel like you got a good hit on your show.

675
00:33:37,920 --> 00:33:41,080
Speaker 2: It's like you're not like, I know you said that

676
00:33:41,160 --> 00:33:43,800
Speaker 2: you wanted to retire this year, but you also felt

677
00:33:43,920 --> 00:33:45,880
Speaker 2: like maybe you're not where you want.

678
00:33:45,760 --> 00:33:46,160
Speaker 3: To be at.

679
00:33:46,240 --> 00:33:48,880
Speaker 2: But I don't know, I feel like I just speaking

680
00:33:48,920 --> 00:33:50,520
Speaker 2: to you and get to know more about you, Like

681
00:33:50,600 --> 00:33:52,880
Speaker 2: I feel like your mental health hasn't really.

682
00:33:52,840 --> 00:33:57,920
Speaker 4: Like yeah, I feel like it's I think again.

683
00:33:57,920 --> 00:34:00,200
Speaker 3: I know, I think. Yeah.

684
00:34:00,200 --> 00:34:02,360
Speaker 4: I come from like a privileged background, like you know,

685
00:34:02,920 --> 00:34:05,920
Speaker 4: I went to like a private college, Like you know,

686
00:34:07,000 --> 00:34:07,440
Speaker 4: this is.

687
00:34:07,640 --> 00:34:09,440
Speaker 3: Kind of like survival work.

688
00:34:09,719 --> 00:34:13,839
Speaker 2: But you know I could like just go and get

689
00:34:14,000 --> 00:34:16,280
Speaker 2: like a little like cause you really have to shrip?

690
00:34:17,280 --> 00:34:20,839
Speaker 3: Do I really have to strip? Like no, no, I'm

691
00:34:20,840 --> 00:34:25,799
Speaker 3: gonna be honest, no, But the thought of like going

692
00:34:25,880 --> 00:34:28,200
Speaker 3: back to like a twenty dollars an hour job and

693
00:34:28,360 --> 00:34:33,320
Speaker 3: like getting like overworked and underpaid, I'm like, like I

694
00:34:33,480 --> 00:34:36,200
Speaker 3: definitely don't want to do that. I'll do it like again,

695
00:34:36,320 --> 00:34:39,759
Speaker 3: like my timeline is my timeline, Like if I have to,

696
00:34:39,920 --> 00:34:42,160
Speaker 3: I'll do it, or I'll probably do that and still

697
00:34:42,200 --> 00:34:47,279
Speaker 3: stay at the club. Yeah, But overall, like I think

698
00:34:47,360 --> 00:34:49,720
Speaker 3: in the beginning, when I was at the wrong clubs,

699
00:34:49,960 --> 00:34:52,840
Speaker 3: it was like I was feeling very incapable and I

700
00:34:52,960 --> 00:34:54,920
Speaker 3: was feeling like what the hell, what is going on?

701
00:34:55,120 --> 00:34:58,520
Speaker 3: My money is plateauing? Like it doesn't make sense, and

702
00:34:58,600 --> 00:35:01,360
Speaker 3: there was a lot of like comparison going on. But

703
00:35:01,800 --> 00:35:04,879
Speaker 3: I think when you zoom out and you're like, look

704
00:35:05,000 --> 00:35:07,799
Speaker 3: like you don't know who's doing what for how much

705
00:35:08,320 --> 00:35:13,839
Speaker 3: like inside the club and outside the club truly, Yeah,

706
00:35:14,080 --> 00:35:16,239
Speaker 3: and like the same way that like in the real world,

707
00:35:16,320 --> 00:35:18,239
Speaker 3: you don't know like what people have done or what

708
00:35:18,360 --> 00:35:20,640
Speaker 3: they haven't done to get to where they've been, Like

709
00:35:20,800 --> 00:35:24,480
Speaker 3: that's their journey and that's where they are. Like you are,

710
00:35:24,680 --> 00:35:27,160
Speaker 3: like your person, the way you look and stuff like

711
00:35:27,239 --> 00:35:30,800
Speaker 3: that is specific to you. Like that's just what it is.

712
00:35:31,120 --> 00:35:33,960
Speaker 3: And like also though, I think it's really important to

713
00:35:34,040 --> 00:35:36,759
Speaker 3: do things outside of the club that affirm who you are,

714
00:35:36,920 --> 00:35:39,400
Speaker 3: what your existence is, and like not.

715
00:35:39,520 --> 00:35:42,240
Speaker 2: Associate so it doesn't affect your identity.

716
00:35:42,960 --> 00:35:47,160
Speaker 3: Yeah, and like not to associate how much money or

717
00:35:47,239 --> 00:35:50,000
Speaker 3: how little money you made the night before with like

718
00:35:50,080 --> 00:35:53,920
Speaker 3: your value, like I've had I'm not I'm gonna be honest,

719
00:35:53,960 --> 00:35:56,360
Speaker 3: even the night that I made that little five thousand

720
00:35:56,440 --> 00:35:58,920
Speaker 3: plus or whatever, like I still was like this was

721
00:35:59,000 --> 00:36:05,680
Speaker 3: not enough is enough? Like so yeah, I think having

722
00:36:05,719 --> 00:36:08,400
Speaker 3: a community though, definitely helps, like because this is very

723
00:36:08,480 --> 00:36:11,279
Speaker 3: isolating work, Like when I'm coming home from work after

724
00:36:11,440 --> 00:36:13,400
Speaker 3: hours and stuff like that. It's just me. Most of

725
00:36:13,440 --> 00:36:18,000
Speaker 3: my friends were completely opposite schedules, like and I have

726
00:36:18,239 --> 00:36:20,719
Speaker 3: like lost friends throughout the process, even like my black

727
00:36:20,760 --> 00:36:25,399
Speaker 3: friend theorists, you know, scholar friends from college that they

728
00:36:25,680 --> 00:36:28,960
Speaker 3: just don't get it, like or they don't see that.

729
00:36:29,239 --> 00:36:32,080
Speaker 3: They still think it's like work done under the male gaze,

730
00:36:32,120 --> 00:36:36,360
Speaker 3: which like some of that is true, yes, but also

731
00:36:36,840 --> 00:36:39,520
Speaker 3: they don't realize that, like we do have agency in

732
00:36:39,600 --> 00:36:42,760
Speaker 3: this work, or at least I have agency in my work.

733
00:36:42,920 --> 00:36:47,600
Speaker 3: And I yeah, I choose what like I want to

734
00:36:48,280 --> 00:36:51,040
Speaker 3: pass and what doesn't pass, Like my boundaries are my boundaries?

735
00:36:51,200 --> 00:36:56,240
Speaker 3: Like yeah, so yeah, I think also like bro like moving, stretching,

736
00:36:56,440 --> 00:36:58,040
Speaker 3: like so much in mental health too, is like are

737
00:36:58,080 --> 00:36:59,480
Speaker 3: you showering? Are you eating?

738
00:36:59,640 --> 00:37:03,840
Speaker 4: Are you yeah yourself like delf care, Yeah exactly, so

739
00:37:04,000 --> 00:37:06,680
Speaker 4: like if you're able or for me, I found that

740
00:37:06,920 --> 00:37:07,640
Speaker 4: that helps.

741
00:37:07,800 --> 00:37:11,320
Speaker 3: Going on hot girl walks helps, like and just reminding

742
00:37:11,360 --> 00:37:13,440
Speaker 3: myself like there's a world outside of this and like

743
00:37:13,680 --> 00:37:17,879
Speaker 3: that's the reality of like work too, like your work,

744
00:37:18,040 --> 00:37:20,919
Speaker 3: like Tony Morrison said, like you go to work, you're

745
00:37:20,960 --> 00:37:21,640
Speaker 3: you so awoke.

746
00:37:21,760 --> 00:37:28,600
Speaker 2: I love woke a woke girl. I won't see you

747
00:37:28,719 --> 00:37:31,120
Speaker 2: in there with your customers. Now do you know who

748
00:37:31,160 --> 00:37:32,320
Speaker 2: Tony Morrison.

749
00:37:32,040 --> 00:37:34,880
Speaker 4: Is exactly like?

750
00:37:36,280 --> 00:37:38,200
Speaker 3: But yeah, no, you go to work, you do what

751
00:37:38,239 --> 00:37:40,399
Speaker 3: you need to do, you come home like your work

752
00:37:40,480 --> 00:37:43,360
Speaker 3: is not your identity, Like it's safest that way, and

753
00:37:43,600 --> 00:37:46,640
Speaker 3: like you shouldn't make it your identity. Like I don't know.

754
00:37:46,880 --> 00:37:48,680
Speaker 2: So where is it going to take you to leave?

755
00:37:48,840 --> 00:37:50,799
Speaker 2: Is it a good job once it comes your way?

756
00:37:51,600 --> 00:37:54,799
Speaker 3: Yeah? Like I definitely want to. I mean okay, yeah

757
00:37:54,840 --> 00:37:56,520
Speaker 3: once by a time I was like I do not

758
00:37:56,640 --> 00:37:58,320
Speaker 3: want to work, No, damn nine to five. But like

759
00:37:58,480 --> 00:38:03,440
Speaker 3: at this point, like you know, but not know, like

760
00:38:03,520 --> 00:38:06,799
Speaker 3: fifty five thousand, like or even sixty thousand, Like I'll

761
00:38:06,920 --> 00:38:08,359
Speaker 3: do it, but I'll probably still be in the club.

762
00:38:08,400 --> 00:38:13,800
Speaker 3: I'm not gonna lie. It could no, but excuse me

763
00:38:14,200 --> 00:38:16,799
Speaker 3: a job with benefits because also, you know, strip club,

764
00:38:16,840 --> 00:38:18,400
Speaker 3: we don't have no benefits. And I know y'all want

765
00:38:18,400 --> 00:38:19,800
Speaker 3: to see us climb up and down the pole and

766
00:38:19,880 --> 00:38:21,640
Speaker 3: do all these crazy things and stuff like that, which

767
00:38:21,920 --> 00:38:24,480
Speaker 3: some of us are willing to do. But again, remember

768
00:38:24,640 --> 00:38:27,040
Speaker 3: this job does not cover healthcare, This job.

769
00:38:26,920 --> 00:38:28,400
Speaker 4: Does not cover paid me.

770
00:38:28,600 --> 00:38:30,040
Speaker 2: But any of that are you saving?

771
00:38:30,800 --> 00:38:34,080
Speaker 3: Am I saving? Absolutely? I love a good brokerage account

772
00:38:34,320 --> 00:38:37,320
Speaker 3: like investing in stocks and bonds.

773
00:38:38,120 --> 00:38:41,839
Speaker 2: And good for you, You're gonna be out real song.

774
00:38:41,920 --> 00:38:46,279
Speaker 3: I feel it fingerscross, like yes, I mean yeah, I'm

775
00:38:46,320 --> 00:38:50,840
Speaker 3: even like I'm looking to change from sliding down the

776
00:38:50,880 --> 00:38:54,000
Speaker 3: stripper pole to sliding down a fired fireder pole, like

777
00:38:54,080 --> 00:38:56,640
Speaker 3: I'm not too big to get like a cute little

778
00:38:56,719 --> 00:38:59,680
Speaker 3: like civil service job. I mean probably I'm not a cop,

779
00:39:00,160 --> 00:39:02,759
Speaker 3: but no shade to the cops, but just probably not

780
00:39:02,960 --> 00:39:07,360
Speaker 3: a cop. Yeah, and funny enough. Actually, I think I

781
00:39:07,400 --> 00:39:08,440
Speaker 3: had a customer.

782
00:39:08,040 --> 00:39:09,360
Speaker 4: That was a cop and he was like one of

783
00:39:09,440 --> 00:39:11,880
Speaker 4: the like I could count on my hand how many.

784
00:39:11,800 --> 00:39:14,160
Speaker 3: Like unsafe like circumstances that I've been in, but like

785
00:39:14,280 --> 00:39:17,920
Speaker 3: that dude was actually very like bold and audacious with

786
00:39:18,160 --> 00:39:20,600
Speaker 3: like his like I did like a little vip room

787
00:39:20,640 --> 00:39:23,759
Speaker 3: with him in the hood clubs, and like immediately he

788
00:39:24,160 --> 00:39:27,279
Speaker 3: was like like very touchy and grabby and stuff like that.

789
00:39:27,600 --> 00:39:29,719
Speaker 3: I was just like, whoa, what is this, honey, And

790
00:39:29,800 --> 00:39:33,040
Speaker 3: he was like, I'm a cop, relaxed, It's okay, showed

791
00:39:33,080 --> 00:39:34,920
Speaker 3: me his badge and everything, and I was just like

792
00:39:35,080 --> 00:39:37,880
Speaker 3: I'm out of here, like you're scaring me one and

793
00:39:38,000 --> 00:39:40,560
Speaker 3: two bruh. Even if I was to say yes and

794
00:39:40,680 --> 00:39:42,360
Speaker 3: be down with whatever the fuck you got going on,

795
00:39:42,680 --> 00:39:46,040
Speaker 3: Like how is this like me versus you? Like, how

796
00:39:46,200 --> 00:39:50,520
Speaker 3: is this supposed to work? Yeah? Oh yeah, there's that,

797
00:39:50,880 --> 00:39:55,120
Speaker 3: but yeah, to get me out the club, yeah, a

798
00:39:55,200 --> 00:39:58,320
Speaker 3: good well paying job like that would help with benefits

799
00:39:58,840 --> 00:40:00,600
Speaker 3: or just I just.

800
00:40:00,640 --> 00:40:03,000
Speaker 4: Get bold enough with like the money I've saved and

801
00:40:03,200 --> 00:40:06,160
Speaker 4: like just launch like whatever.

802
00:40:05,960 --> 00:40:08,239
Speaker 3: It is that I want to do, whether that's like,

803
00:40:08,960 --> 00:40:13,840
Speaker 3: you know, a whole studio or like, you know, figure

804
00:40:13,840 --> 00:40:17,319
Speaker 3: out how to do this whole like media thing, maybe

805
00:40:17,360 --> 00:40:21,319
Speaker 3: a platform or a space for like dancers or all

806
00:40:21,400 --> 00:40:24,719
Speaker 3: the sex workers news related to like I don't know,

807
00:40:25,080 --> 00:40:27,400
Speaker 3: but off the top of my head, I feel like,

808
00:40:28,040 --> 00:40:30,240
Speaker 3: let's just secure a cute little nine to pod first

809
00:40:30,400 --> 00:40:32,799
Speaker 3: and then we can lend the rest.

810
00:40:32,920 --> 00:40:36,719
Speaker 4: But exactly everything else is in motion though, like at

811
00:40:36,760 --> 00:40:37,319
Speaker 4: the same time.

812
00:40:38,480 --> 00:40:40,880
Speaker 2: But I'm we had a conversation, So I'm gonna definitely

813
00:40:40,960 --> 00:40:43,560
Speaker 2: help you with the media aspect because I really want

814
00:40:43,640 --> 00:40:46,520
Speaker 2: you to know, take full charge of it and go

815
00:40:46,719 --> 00:40:48,520
Speaker 2: full thrown away because I feel like you can really

816
00:40:49,160 --> 00:40:52,080
Speaker 2: make an impact with you know, the things that you know,

817
00:40:52,480 --> 00:40:56,160
Speaker 2: the history with certain things, and like your personality and

818
00:40:56,200 --> 00:40:59,080
Speaker 2: things of that nature. So I'm excited for you. Hopefully

819
00:40:59,239 --> 00:40:59,919
Speaker 2: this would be the last.

820
00:41:00,120 --> 00:41:04,759
Speaker 3: Yeah, I feel like I'm putting it out there and

821
00:41:04,880 --> 00:41:06,040
Speaker 3: that just like and.

822
00:41:06,120 --> 00:41:08,319
Speaker 2: You're meeting people along the way that want to help

823
00:41:08,400 --> 00:41:10,719
Speaker 2: you win and help you in certain areas. So I

824
00:41:10,800 --> 00:41:14,080
Speaker 2: think it will be yeah, thank you. That means a lot,

825
00:41:14,600 --> 00:41:16,959
Speaker 2: of course, and last one not least. So it would

826
00:41:16,960 --> 00:41:20,160
Speaker 2: be your advice to give to a new dancer about

827
00:41:20,200 --> 00:41:22,200
Speaker 2: this environment if she wants to get into the club,

828
00:41:22,280 --> 00:41:23,800
Speaker 2: make some extra coins.

829
00:41:24,160 --> 00:41:29,920
Speaker 4: Yes, I think one. No, not every night, it's going

830
00:41:30,000 --> 00:41:30,520
Speaker 4: to be good.

831
00:41:30,880 --> 00:41:33,279
Speaker 3: Like if you think you have to like go in

832
00:41:33,600 --> 00:41:35,560
Speaker 3: or you get to go in there and sit pretty

833
00:41:35,719 --> 00:41:39,359
Speaker 3: and like just get paid, like that is not the case.

834
00:41:40,000 --> 00:41:42,080
Speaker 3: I think that is only the case for like white

835
00:41:42,200 --> 00:41:47,399
Speaker 3: dancers that look like very like you know, conventionally attractive,

836
00:41:48,120 --> 00:41:51,239
Speaker 3: like you know, and I mean truly like blond haired,

837
00:41:51,360 --> 00:41:57,640
Speaker 3: blue eyed, like yeah exactly. I think, figure out what

838
00:41:57,760 --> 00:42:02,000
Speaker 3: your strengths are, whether that truly is dancing or like

839
00:42:02,360 --> 00:42:07,759
Speaker 3: yapping or figure out maybe massages, like whatever the hell

840
00:42:07,960 --> 00:42:12,120
Speaker 3: your like bop is in the club, like just lean

841
00:42:12,200 --> 00:42:16,319
Speaker 3: into that. Find the right club for you as well,

842
00:42:16,600 --> 00:42:18,840
Speaker 3: Like if you feel like your money is looking the

843
00:42:18,920 --> 00:42:21,919
Speaker 3: same and you're not seeing like you know, there should

844
00:42:21,960 --> 00:42:24,200
Speaker 3: be like an increase in like your earnings.

845
00:42:23,760 --> 00:42:26,400
Speaker 4: Over a period of time, track your numbers to like.

846
00:42:27,120 --> 00:42:30,160
Speaker 3: I don't think it's smart to just like come home

847
00:42:30,280 --> 00:42:32,480
Speaker 3: and like not shot down in like a calendar or

848
00:42:32,600 --> 00:42:36,600
Speaker 3: something how much you've made. Yeah, Like so that that

849
00:42:36,680 --> 00:42:38,479
Speaker 3: way you could like look back in the year before

850
00:42:38,480 --> 00:42:40,520
Speaker 3: and be like, oh, this was a slow season last

851
00:42:40,560 --> 00:42:43,560
Speaker 3: week last year as well, Like this checks out. It's

852
00:42:43,640 --> 00:42:51,719
Speaker 3: not me, it's them. I personally think, bro, like take

853
00:42:51,760 --> 00:42:54,960
Speaker 3: a pole class, Like I don't think it's like know

854
00:42:55,080 --> 00:42:58,040
Speaker 3: how to do something on stage. Like there are some

855
00:42:58,200 --> 00:43:00,320
Speaker 3: girls that say, like just get on stage do a

856
00:43:00,360 --> 00:43:03,600
Speaker 3: little one to waste time. I know, Like I think

857
00:43:03,840 --> 00:43:06,279
Speaker 3: that is the one time you're like marketed like for

858
00:43:06,400 --> 00:43:09,080
Speaker 3: the rest of the club and like you do your

859
00:43:09,120 --> 00:43:11,080
Speaker 3: big one, especially in a place like New York where

860
00:43:11,120 --> 00:43:12,920
Speaker 3: like these girls don't do shit on the stage, Like

861
00:43:13,000 --> 00:43:15,479
Speaker 3: they don't perform, they don't dance or anything. You really

862
00:43:15,560 --> 00:43:18,920
Speaker 3: stand out and like, bro, get off the stage and

863
00:43:19,080 --> 00:43:20,879
Speaker 3: go to them customers and be like, did you see

864
00:43:20,920 --> 00:43:21,960
Speaker 3: my stage performance?

865
00:43:22,000 --> 00:43:25,120
Speaker 4: Did you want to lead a love donation for my performance?

866
00:43:25,800 --> 00:43:29,560
Speaker 3: And they will give you something like someone but like

867
00:43:30,360 --> 00:43:33,040
Speaker 3: you can make like an extra little something that way,

868
00:43:33,120 --> 00:43:38,640
Speaker 3: and you go on stage free point something, yes, ask

869
00:43:38,760 --> 00:43:44,920
Speaker 3: for high numbers and meets like get familiar with negotiating, Like, bro,

870
00:43:45,239 --> 00:43:48,239
Speaker 3: start at a thousand, goddamn, Like even if if it

871
00:43:48,440 --> 00:43:52,680
Speaker 3: sounds crazy, do that, Like start at a thousand if

872
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Speaker 3: they're like, oh, like that gives you insight to like

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Speaker 3: what they're looking to spend, and be like, oh, what

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Speaker 3: did you think? Like you think that I deserve like

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Speaker 3: and okay, they give you a number, throw another hundred

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Speaker 3: on there, like and they'll probably meet you like there,

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Speaker 3: that happened on Tuesday? What else? And like again, like

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Speaker 3: you are not how much or how little you money

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Speaker 3: the money you made the night before. That's not the

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Speaker 3: case in the club, that's not the case outside the club,

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Speaker 3: Like none of this is indicative of who you are,

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Speaker 3: and so that's just that. Yeah, dang, well, this is

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Speaker 3: really good.

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Speaker 2: We've been in toat I knew it was gonna too.

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Speaker 3: I cannot believe it's been in an hour forty six minutes,

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Speaker 3: Like that's crazy. I know, I know.

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Speaker 2: I appreciate you for coming on because I was like

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Speaker 2: when we had an initial conversation, I was like, oh

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Speaker 2: my god, I wonder if she would come on the

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Speaker 2: show and just give her experience because I did have

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Speaker 2: an interview with a stripper many years ago when I

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Speaker 2: first started, So the conversations are completely different, which I

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Speaker 2: thoroughly appreciate when we have people come on the show

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Speaker 2: and they talk about the same subject at a different perspective.

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Speaker 2: So I really appreciate you for coming on.

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Speaker 3: Thank you. I'm so glad you get a chance to

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Speaker 3: get some variety too, like the dancing experience.

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Speaker 4: Like I think, yeah, we're not all a monolith, like yeah, yeah.

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Speaker 3: So much, but it's depending on like who you are,

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Speaker 3: where you come from, and like truly like what you're

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Speaker 3: comfortable with.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, well, thank you so much. And to the listeners,

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Speaker 2: I really do hope that you enjoyed this week's episode.

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Speaker 2: And if you have any questions, comments of concerns, so

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Speaker 2: you want to say hey, girl, hey, please make sure

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Speaker 2: to email me at hello at the PSG podcast dot com.

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Speaker 2: And until next time, everyone, it's been okay, later awesome

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Speaker 2: you gonna say it?

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Speaker 3: Bye, oh bye, it's been real.

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Speaker 2: Awesome girls, awesome, y'all.

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Speaker 3: Please.

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