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Speaker 1: literally you have a hide eyed do rag. Yeah, pretty much,

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Speaker 1: If there's anyone who thinks that, or has thought that

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Speaker 1: the Edge at velvet Sedge dot com. Is at our emails,

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Speaker 1: time too. She popped our cherry. But anyway, Emily is

424
00:21:40,080 --> 00:21:43,880
Speaker 1: very progressive sexually, I would say so. But she gives

425
00:21:43,920 --> 00:21:46,440
Speaker 1: a lot of great information and I really like it's

426
00:21:46,600 --> 00:21:49,679
Speaker 1: very informative and if I think it's interesting, she sounds

427
00:21:49,760 --> 00:21:55,160
Speaker 1: mature too, like she doesn't sound reckless. Absolutely. Yeah. We're

428
00:21:55,200 --> 00:21:57,960
Speaker 1: sitting there though, oh god, this is the kicker. We're

429
00:21:58,000 --> 00:22:01,040
Speaker 1: sitting there. It's Mary or from rry Me and Chip

430
00:22:01,400 --> 00:22:03,880
Speaker 1: and we're listening to Sex with Them down the road,

431
00:22:04,280 --> 00:22:07,600
Speaker 1: just casually driving down the road. Something happens. I think

432
00:22:07,600 --> 00:22:10,560
Speaker 1: he paused it, and he goes, oh no, that you

433
00:22:10,560 --> 00:22:13,040
Speaker 1: didn't even pause it. That was the most shocking part,

434
00:22:14,320 --> 00:22:17,960
Speaker 1: literally is just talking over Emily casually dropping the fact

435
00:22:18,160 --> 00:22:21,639
Speaker 1: that he's had multiple orgies. And I think, I go,

436
00:22:23,760 --> 00:22:27,959
Speaker 1: but I'm sorry, did you just say you've had an orgy?

437
00:22:28,080 --> 00:22:30,280
Speaker 1: And you? I think how I said it was have

438
00:22:30,520 --> 00:22:33,200
Speaker 1: either of you all like had any like done grip

439
00:22:33,240 --> 00:22:35,399
Speaker 1: sex or something like that? And we both were like no,

440
00:22:35,720 --> 00:22:38,200
Speaker 1: And I was like, not even a threesome like I've

441
00:22:38,240 --> 00:22:40,080
Speaker 1: only been with one person at a time. I was like,

442
00:22:40,119 --> 00:22:44,480
Speaker 1: oh I have, and you were like hit pause, excuse,

443
00:22:45,520 --> 00:22:48,399
Speaker 1: excuse me, excuse me, sir, excuse you? Did I hear

444
00:22:48,480 --> 00:22:51,440
Speaker 1: that right? Um? And then and then I said you've

445
00:22:51,440 --> 00:22:53,680
Speaker 1: had I said you've had a threesome and you go, no,

446
00:22:54,000 --> 00:22:55,560
Speaker 1: there was like five of us, and I go, you've

447
00:22:55,600 --> 00:22:59,240
Speaker 1: had an orgy, and you go orgyes that's what happened.

448
00:22:59,520 --> 00:23:03,200
Speaker 1: And I literally if I hadn't been sitting down, would

449
00:23:03,240 --> 00:23:06,119
Speaker 1: have had to sit down. I almost passed out, almost

450
00:23:06,119 --> 00:23:07,680
Speaker 1: pee my pants. It was almost it was like all

451
00:23:07,720 --> 00:23:10,200
Speaker 1: of it Peter pants in my car, might have peed

452
00:23:10,240 --> 00:23:12,639
Speaker 1: my pants and like lost about movement. It was like

453
00:23:12,680 --> 00:23:18,119
Speaker 1: it was like all I lost all control. But okay,

454
00:23:18,440 --> 00:23:20,359
Speaker 1: so we're going to just go ahead and need to

455
00:23:20,400 --> 00:23:23,040
Speaker 1: break that down for the YEA. Well, okay, I'm not

456
00:23:23,040 --> 00:23:25,880
Speaker 1: going to go into details because honestly, like a lot

457
00:23:25,880 --> 00:23:29,240
Speaker 1: of the details. And they're having multiple, multiple multiples. The

458
00:23:29,240 --> 00:23:32,160
Speaker 1: first time was it was three people, I mean counting myself,

459
00:23:32,200 --> 00:23:37,520
Speaker 1: So that was a threesome. And I don't know every

460
00:23:37,640 --> 00:23:40,399
Speaker 1: every time it's been strangers too, So it's probably meeting

461
00:23:40,440 --> 00:23:44,320
Speaker 1: these people you've just on the apps like, yeah, this

462
00:23:44,400 --> 00:23:46,960
Speaker 1: was pre grinder, so it might have there was like

463
00:23:47,359 --> 00:23:49,400
Speaker 1: it might have been on like I mean there used

464
00:23:49,400 --> 00:23:51,160
Speaker 1: to be like I don't it could still be a thing,

465
00:23:51,359 --> 00:23:54,679
Speaker 1: gay dot com, a man hunt dot com, these like

466
00:23:54,720 --> 00:23:58,240
Speaker 1: sort of these things were they existed before apps were

467
00:23:58,240 --> 00:24:01,439
Speaker 1: a thing. So or maybe Craigslist. I can't remember, to

468
00:24:01,480 --> 00:24:04,840
Speaker 1: be perfectly honest. Um, but there's also like when I

469
00:24:04,880 --> 00:24:07,760
Speaker 1: lived in New York, I would I didn't frequent it,

470
00:24:07,800 --> 00:24:09,600
Speaker 1: but a couple of times I went to bath houses,

471
00:24:10,480 --> 00:24:13,880
Speaker 1: so is yeah kind of. I mean it's also like,

472
00:24:14,359 --> 00:24:16,480
Speaker 1: I mean they have like a pool in JACUZI are

473
00:24:16,520 --> 00:24:21,000
Speaker 1: you going to have sex? And then would happened? I

474
00:24:21,000 --> 00:24:23,119
Speaker 1: mean I think there might be some people that like

475
00:24:23,200 --> 00:24:26,399
Speaker 1: actually use the facilities in that way but naked, and

476
00:24:26,480 --> 00:24:30,240
Speaker 1: it's like everyone's naked and yeah, so it goes goes

477
00:24:30,359 --> 00:24:33,919
Speaker 1: you know. Um yeah, so the first like that was

478
00:24:33,920 --> 00:24:36,800
Speaker 1: actually my first experience with that, and like and never

479
00:24:36,880 --> 00:24:39,199
Speaker 1: it was never like a group thing. There's just a

480
00:24:39,240 --> 00:24:42,880
Speaker 1: lot of people and like their rooms and stuff. You're

481
00:24:42,960 --> 00:24:47,200
Speaker 1: moving weights that that's so many questions. First of all, Yes,

482
00:24:47,760 --> 00:24:50,600
Speaker 1: when you're like sitting in your house on a Saturday

483
00:24:50,960 --> 00:24:53,520
Speaker 1: and you're like, you know, what I want to do today.

484
00:24:53,800 --> 00:24:56,840
Speaker 1: I really just feel like going to the bath house.

485
00:24:56,960 --> 00:24:59,639
Speaker 1: So like, what's going through your mind? Are you just

486
00:24:59,640 --> 00:25:02,200
Speaker 1: like for the bath harny, I need to have sex?

487
00:25:02,280 --> 00:25:04,359
Speaker 1: Yeah kind of. I mean I don't really want to

488
00:25:04,359 --> 00:25:07,119
Speaker 1: go on a date and like do a really stuff

489
00:25:07,160 --> 00:25:10,560
Speaker 1: I think generally happens. It's more like late at least

490
00:25:10,640 --> 00:25:12,919
Speaker 1: for me. I was never like on Saturday, I'm going

491
00:25:12,960 --> 00:25:14,840
Speaker 1: to the bath house. It would be like, oh my god,

492
00:25:14,840 --> 00:25:17,560
Speaker 1: it's ten thirty, eleven o'clock something, or like I've already

493
00:25:17,560 --> 00:25:20,000
Speaker 1: been out drinking and like the party ends and I'm

494
00:25:20,040 --> 00:25:22,960
Speaker 1: like I'm already I want to do something. Yeah, something

495
00:25:23,000 --> 00:25:30,359
Speaker 1: like that. Um, I think the they're like twenty four hours. Yeah.

496
00:25:30,440 --> 00:25:33,840
Speaker 1: I mean I have a funny story. Oh no, these

497
00:25:33,880 --> 00:25:36,360
Speaker 1: are all men. I have a funny story. My friend

498
00:25:36,359 --> 00:25:37,840
Speaker 1: of mine, I won't say his name, but like he

499
00:25:37,920 --> 00:25:41,359
Speaker 1: was in l A visiting a friend and they like

500
00:25:41,760 --> 00:25:44,320
Speaker 1: had rented a car and like he was staying with

501
00:25:44,359 --> 00:25:48,159
Speaker 1: her and they like went out her friend. He was

502
00:25:48,240 --> 00:25:52,720
Speaker 1: visiting a friend, and they had gone out to dinner

503
00:25:52,760 --> 00:25:55,240
Speaker 1: and gone out to bars and like come home and

504
00:25:55,400 --> 00:25:56,800
Speaker 1: she was going to bed, and he was like, I'm

505
00:25:56,840 --> 00:25:59,320
Speaker 1: kind of harny, I'm gonna find a bath house, and

506
00:25:59,320 --> 00:26:01,720
Speaker 1: he took the rental car and he went into this

507
00:26:01,800 --> 00:26:04,080
Speaker 1: bath house. Well, he left a light on in the car,

508
00:26:04,119 --> 00:26:06,200
Speaker 1: and when he went to leave, the car was dead,

509
00:26:06,480 --> 00:26:08,280
Speaker 1: and he was like, I can't call my friend and

510
00:26:08,320 --> 00:26:09,919
Speaker 1: wake her up. I kind of snuck out and went

511
00:26:09,960 --> 00:26:11,600
Speaker 1: to the bath house. So he said fuck it and

512
00:26:11,640 --> 00:26:15,440
Speaker 1: just went back in. And he stayed all night to

513
00:26:15,640 --> 00:26:19,720
Speaker 1: what until like he could call his friend and be like, hey,

514
00:26:19,960 --> 00:26:22,040
Speaker 1: so I need you to come pick me up. So

515
00:26:22,080 --> 00:26:24,520
Speaker 1: how much sex did he have? You know, he didn't

516
00:26:24,560 --> 00:26:27,840
Speaker 1: really go into those details, but probably a lot. It's like, Okay,

517
00:26:27,880 --> 00:26:30,480
Speaker 1: this is also fascinating to me, Like you're being I mean,

518
00:26:30,480 --> 00:26:32,639
Speaker 1: we're on a podcast and you're telling the world, and

519
00:26:32,680 --> 00:26:35,960
Speaker 1: so I do understand maybe being a little more discreet,

520
00:26:36,080 --> 00:26:38,080
Speaker 1: but you're acting like people do this and then they

521
00:26:38,119 --> 00:26:40,679
Speaker 1: act toscreet and I'm like, you literally just went to

522
00:26:40,760 --> 00:26:44,440
Speaker 1: a fucking public bath house and had sex, and now

523
00:26:44,600 --> 00:26:46,719
Speaker 1: is the time to be discreet when you tell this story?

524
00:26:46,960 --> 00:26:48,679
Speaker 1: I mean, I like, to me, it was like I

525
00:26:48,680 --> 00:26:50,679
Speaker 1: didn't feel like I needed to ask the details. Like,

526
00:26:50,760 --> 00:26:53,240
Speaker 1: to me, this story, the details are where the meat is.

527
00:26:53,359 --> 00:26:55,840
Speaker 1: I don't know. I mean because I can imagine what

528
00:26:55,880 --> 00:26:59,000
Speaker 1: the situation was, you know. I think the funny part

529
00:26:59,040 --> 00:27:00,920
Speaker 1: of the story is that like he was like fun Now,

530
00:27:01,280 --> 00:27:03,480
Speaker 1: now I'm busted. I have to like call my friend

531
00:27:03,520 --> 00:27:07,680
Speaker 1: to pick me up in the bathroom. Where are you?

532
00:27:08,880 --> 00:27:14,080
Speaker 1: Just here's the ATTRACTI We'll talk about it later. So um,

533
00:27:14,080 --> 00:27:16,040
Speaker 1: but yeah, so the bath house stuff was when I

534
00:27:16,080 --> 00:27:18,520
Speaker 1: lived in New York and then in l A was

535
00:27:18,560 --> 00:27:24,240
Speaker 1: where I had some the like sex, multiple partners sex

536
00:27:24,720 --> 00:27:27,440
Speaker 1: things like I think those things are called origins. Well,

537
00:27:27,560 --> 00:27:29,760
Speaker 1: they're only called orgies if it's over four, which is

538
00:27:29,800 --> 00:27:31,280
Speaker 1: what I found in some of the reading that I

539
00:27:31,320 --> 00:27:35,240
Speaker 1: did today. You would call threesomes or foursomes, and anything

540
00:27:35,240 --> 00:27:37,920
Speaker 1: over four you call an orgie. So the first one

541
00:27:38,000 --> 00:27:41,480
Speaker 1: was three, so that was a threesome. And then I

542
00:27:41,560 --> 00:27:44,920
Speaker 1: had a couple of like fivesoms and it wasn't me hosting.

543
00:27:45,080 --> 00:27:48,399
Speaker 1: I went to them. Yeah, so one might have been six,

544
00:27:48,440 --> 00:27:53,640
Speaker 1: I can't remember. So when you go to these threesomes

545
00:27:53,640 --> 00:27:56,920
Speaker 1: and these two orgies are however, many of the actually

546
00:27:57,280 --> 00:28:00,199
Speaker 1: once you I don't know, six or nine maybe just

547
00:28:00,760 --> 00:28:07,240
Speaker 1: look at But um, so when you go to these

548
00:28:07,440 --> 00:28:10,160
Speaker 1: how were you finding out about these parties. I think

549
00:28:10,200 --> 00:28:13,880
Speaker 1: they my guess is probably Craigslist or something. How does

550
00:28:13,920 --> 00:28:17,399
Speaker 1: that ad go? Or or like you like hit on

551
00:28:17,560 --> 00:28:19,520
Speaker 1: somebody on one of these I'm gonna just call it

552
00:28:19,520 --> 00:28:22,320
Speaker 1: an app because that's what people today understand. You like,

553
00:28:23,680 --> 00:28:25,600
Speaker 1: match with somebody one of these apps and they're like, hey,

554
00:28:25,640 --> 00:28:27,440
Speaker 1: do you want to get together? I already have someone

555
00:28:27,520 --> 00:28:30,600
Speaker 1: coming over, you know, like they'll mentioned that they've already

556
00:28:30,600 --> 00:28:33,120
Speaker 1: matched with somebody. Are you into that? And you're like, yeah, sure,

557
00:28:33,320 --> 00:28:35,879
Speaker 1: well it's actually four people. Okay, I'll be right over you.

558
00:28:36,800 --> 00:28:38,800
Speaker 1: That's why I asked you about what does the ad

559
00:28:38,800 --> 00:28:41,240
Speaker 1: look like? Though? Is it like is like men seeking?

560
00:28:43,480 --> 00:28:48,320
Speaker 1: It would be like I would say something about multiples,

561
00:28:48,360 --> 00:28:51,640
Speaker 1: you know, like I've never typed one up myself, so

562
00:28:51,720 --> 00:28:54,840
Speaker 1: I don't really remember. But yeah, it's like, look it's

563
00:28:55,200 --> 00:28:57,400
Speaker 1: I will tell you, Like I know, I'm probably sound

564
00:28:57,440 --> 00:29:01,240
Speaker 1: brave just even telling the world, but it who cares?

565
00:29:01,280 --> 00:29:06,280
Speaker 1: But um, it is um it's not something that like

566
00:29:07,640 --> 00:29:10,040
Speaker 1: I would I do that often and it's a like it.

567
00:29:10,280 --> 00:29:13,400
Speaker 1: I think I did it to prove to myself you

568
00:29:13,440 --> 00:29:15,560
Speaker 1: could do that I could because there it is, there

569
00:29:15,600 --> 00:29:20,800
Speaker 1: is something like you were walking into. Um, you like,

570
00:29:20,880 --> 00:29:23,720
Speaker 1: and I have a massive fear of rejection. So it's

571
00:29:23,760 --> 00:29:27,040
Speaker 1: one thing to like that the fear of rejection like

572
00:29:27,120 --> 00:29:29,000
Speaker 1: causes me to like not want to go on dates

573
00:29:29,120 --> 00:29:31,200
Speaker 1: because or like go out to bars and try and

574
00:29:31,200 --> 00:29:34,000
Speaker 1: meet people like So it's me putting myself into a

575
00:29:34,000 --> 00:29:36,400
Speaker 1: situation where more than one person could be like I'm

576
00:29:36,400 --> 00:29:38,120
Speaker 1: not I don't want to hook up with you, you

577
00:29:38,120 --> 00:29:39,720
Speaker 1: know what I mean. So it's like I think part

578
00:29:39,800 --> 00:29:43,320
Speaker 1: of it was just to break down some barrier. Ye

579
00:29:43,640 --> 00:29:48,239
Speaker 1: part that's fascinating. Um but and this is you know,

580
00:29:48,320 --> 00:29:53,000
Speaker 1: not related to me, but they there's also swingers parties,

581
00:29:53,040 --> 00:29:55,960
Speaker 1: like these sorts of things happened with couples too. Well,

582
00:29:56,000 --> 00:29:59,959
Speaker 1: they have clubs even, I mean, and in the research

583
00:30:00,000 --> 00:30:03,040
Speaker 1: what I was doing today, like there's orgies come in

584
00:30:03,080 --> 00:30:05,400
Speaker 1: like all shapes and sizes. They're there are ones that

585
00:30:05,520 --> 00:30:10,440
Speaker 1: like are very specific like fetish orgies or furries or

586
00:30:10,480 --> 00:30:12,680
Speaker 1: all of these things where it's like people that have

587
00:30:12,720 --> 00:30:17,040
Speaker 1: a common interest and then so that's what you bond

588
00:30:17,080 --> 00:30:20,360
Speaker 1: over and it's not necessarily about like, well, I think

589
00:30:20,480 --> 00:30:24,040
Speaker 1: there's something that's a little bit more. What I learned

590
00:30:24,120 --> 00:30:26,560
Speaker 1: is that I could relax into it a little bit

591
00:30:26,560 --> 00:30:29,080
Speaker 1: more because it was all about just having sex. You know,

592
00:30:29,080 --> 00:30:32,600
Speaker 1: we're hooking up, Like it wasn't about being accepted. It

593
00:30:32,680 --> 00:30:35,840
Speaker 1: was about this exchange that like everyone was sharing and

594
00:30:35,840 --> 00:30:38,040
Speaker 1: then you go about your way. And by the way,

595
00:30:38,080 --> 00:30:41,000
Speaker 1: like I don't think anyone should be reckless about trying

596
00:30:41,000 --> 00:30:44,560
Speaker 1: these things. You should always make sure that like it's consensual,

597
00:30:44,800 --> 00:30:48,080
Speaker 1: you use condoms, like you should always be safe because

598
00:30:48,120 --> 00:30:50,440
Speaker 1: obviously these people are strangers. I'll talk about like did

599
00:30:50,440 --> 00:30:53,240
Speaker 1: you get when's the last time you got tested? Well,

600
00:30:53,280 --> 00:30:56,640
Speaker 1: I mean no, I mean I think I do think

601
00:30:56,680 --> 00:30:59,800
Speaker 1: that like if I because it it's also been years,

602
00:31:00,080 --> 00:31:03,160
Speaker 1: so this isn't that fresh. But I feel like they're

603
00:31:03,240 --> 00:31:06,400
Speaker 1: that's probably part of the situation, like everyone is HIV

604
00:31:06,520 --> 00:31:09,920
Speaker 1: negative or whatever you know, or STD negative. Um, and

605
00:31:09,960 --> 00:31:11,760
Speaker 1: that was I mean I knew that should be true

606
00:31:11,800 --> 00:31:13,840
Speaker 1: about myself, and you just kind of hope that like

607
00:31:13,880 --> 00:31:19,680
Speaker 1: people aren't lying. Um that book, but that's like somebody,

608
00:31:20,240 --> 00:31:24,080
Speaker 1: you know, it's like um, and two, you walk like

609
00:31:24,160 --> 00:31:27,640
Speaker 1: you can read a room you walk in and you're like, uh,

610
00:31:27,960 --> 00:31:29,680
Speaker 1: you told me there was one time you left because

611
00:31:29,720 --> 00:31:32,800
Speaker 1: they were doing drugs. Yeah, they were doing drugs. They

612
00:31:32,840 --> 00:31:35,920
Speaker 1: were they were smoking math and they were they were

613
00:31:35,920 --> 00:31:38,360
Speaker 1: smoking math and I was like this, these people that

614
00:31:38,400 --> 00:31:41,080
Speaker 1: do that, and like, no judgment, like, but it's not

615
00:31:41,120 --> 00:31:43,400
Speaker 1: your scene. I've done my fair share of bad things

616
00:31:43,400 --> 00:31:47,120
Speaker 1: in my life, but like that is a really reckless drug,

617
00:31:47,160 --> 00:31:50,720
Speaker 1: and people like the promiscuity that happens as a result

618
00:31:50,760 --> 00:31:53,960
Speaker 1: of doing that drug is really reckless often, so I'm like, yeah,

619
00:31:53,960 --> 00:31:56,320
Speaker 1: this isn't really my scene. Plus I don't need to

620
00:31:56,320 --> 00:31:58,560
Speaker 1: be tempted to try it, so I was just like

621
00:31:58,600 --> 00:32:02,400
Speaker 1: I'm out. But like the first time I did like

622
00:32:02,560 --> 00:32:05,240
Speaker 1: an orgy, I guess with the five or six, it

623
00:32:05,280 --> 00:32:09,200
Speaker 1: wasn't a nice hotel, like, so that's sort of also

624
00:32:09,360 --> 00:32:12,400
Speaker 1: like there was a barrier of entry, like I didn't

625
00:32:12,440 --> 00:32:15,240
Speaker 1: think I was gonna get murdered or like that actually,

626
00:32:16,400 --> 00:32:19,120
Speaker 1: and it made me think like yeah that somebody, like

627
00:32:19,360 --> 00:32:21,520
Speaker 1: someone had to pay for this nice room, you know,

628
00:32:21,720 --> 00:32:32,320
Speaker 1: so they're even fascinated. So we have another friend in

629
00:32:32,360 --> 00:32:35,440
Speaker 1: the gay community who I texted. I was like, I'm

630
00:32:35,480 --> 00:32:38,320
Speaker 1: sorry he was texting me while you're telling me the story,

631
00:32:38,320 --> 00:32:40,040
Speaker 1: and I was like, I'm sorry, I can't focus on

632
00:32:40,040 --> 00:32:41,840
Speaker 1: this right now because Chips tell him about the orgies

633
00:32:41,960 --> 00:32:43,720
Speaker 1: that he had and he goes Oh. When he was

634
00:32:43,760 --> 00:32:45,080
Speaker 1: in l A. He was like, I'm surprised I never

635
00:32:45,120 --> 00:32:47,280
Speaker 1: saw each other at a party. So it's a very

636
00:32:47,400 --> 00:32:50,400
Speaker 1: common thing amost the gay community. Well that was funny

637
00:32:50,440 --> 00:32:53,320
Speaker 1: because in my reading it was like things. There was

638
00:32:53,360 --> 00:32:54,760
Speaker 1: like a list of like things you need, you need

639
00:32:54,800 --> 00:32:58,240
Speaker 1: to be prepared to, like run into an X a friend,

640
00:32:58,720 --> 00:33:03,600
Speaker 1: run into your current partners X like a coworker. What

641
00:33:03,680 --> 00:33:05,760
Speaker 1: if you read into your current partners or what if

642
00:33:05,800 --> 00:33:09,720
Speaker 1: you like your cousin was there? Write what I mean,

643
00:33:09,960 --> 00:33:13,520
Speaker 1: You're sorry, we can't you stay on that side of

644
00:33:13,560 --> 00:33:16,520
Speaker 1: the room. All right, but now you yeah, like you're

645
00:33:16,520 --> 00:33:19,240
Speaker 1: a fourth cousin now yeah. But you know, the other

646
00:33:19,280 --> 00:33:23,600
Speaker 1: thing that's so fascinating is that UM group sex is

647
00:33:23,600 --> 00:33:26,920
Speaker 1: the number one thing googled on all porn sites. So

648
00:33:26,960 --> 00:33:30,080
Speaker 1: it's like a fantasy, and it's a very common fantasy

649
00:33:30,200 --> 00:33:33,880
Speaker 1: for most human beings. And it's but like basically what

650
00:33:33,920 --> 00:33:36,680
Speaker 1: I read today is like almost every man has a

651
00:33:36,680 --> 00:33:40,560
Speaker 1: fantasy of having sex with two women. Yeah, of course,

652
00:33:40,960 --> 00:33:43,560
Speaker 1: but a lot of women don't have that fantasy. Well

653
00:33:43,600 --> 00:33:45,280
Speaker 1: here's the thing is, I actually don't know that it's

654
00:33:45,320 --> 00:33:48,080
Speaker 1: about not having the fantasy of that, like I'll just

655
00:33:48,080 --> 00:33:50,440
Speaker 1: speak to my own experience. I actually find it all

656
00:33:50,480 --> 00:33:53,240
Speaker 1: fascinating and interesting and I'm like curious and all that stuff.

657
00:33:53,520 --> 00:33:57,360
Speaker 1: If it involved my partner, oh fuck, no funny because

658
00:33:57,360 --> 00:34:00,680
Speaker 1: I saw some articles today. There's one on Cosmo that says,

659
00:34:00,760 --> 00:34:02,360
Speaker 1: I plan an orgy with my best friend. It was

660
00:34:02,400 --> 00:34:05,040
Speaker 1: the most liberating experience of my life. That's from two

661
00:34:05,040 --> 00:34:10,319
Speaker 1: thousand and seventeen. There was an article advice, I don't know,

662
00:34:10,440 --> 00:34:14,880
Speaker 1: do you have a cat suddenly lesbian? That's what I

663
00:34:14,920 --> 00:34:17,480
Speaker 1: get for calling myself a lesbian. Suddenly my cat allergies

664
00:34:17,480 --> 00:34:22,320
Speaker 1: are so we're this is I love lesbian and I

665
00:34:22,400 --> 00:34:26,400
Speaker 1: am one. We're not trying to come to lesbian. So

666
00:34:27,040 --> 00:34:32,279
Speaker 1: uh oh. There was one advice that said, um, it

667
00:34:32,400 --> 00:34:34,919
Speaker 1: was an article that someone wrote called this like having

668
00:34:34,960 --> 00:34:37,239
Speaker 1: an orgy saved my marriage or something like, I mean,

669
00:34:37,320 --> 00:34:39,400
Speaker 1: I can see all of it. I think it's I

670
00:34:39,440 --> 00:34:42,719
Speaker 1: think it's hard in our relationship because like I mean,

671
00:34:42,760 --> 00:34:45,839
Speaker 1: like literally I've had the conversation with partners and they're

672
00:34:45,840 --> 00:34:47,960
Speaker 1: like I could not see a dick come near you

673
00:34:48,120 --> 00:34:50,279
Speaker 1: without losing my mind. And I'm like so right, Like

674
00:34:50,320 --> 00:34:53,239
Speaker 1: it's like you can't expect me to be okay with

675
00:34:53,400 --> 00:34:56,560
Speaker 1: that on the flip side, Like, but but the thing

676
00:34:56,680 --> 00:34:58,799
Speaker 1: is is it's not like, oh I'm so grossed out

677
00:34:58,800 --> 00:35:01,640
Speaker 1: by a girl that level in that scenario. It's just

678
00:35:01,760 --> 00:35:05,719
Speaker 1: like it's something about a territorial But don't you think

679
00:35:05,760 --> 00:35:08,879
Speaker 1: that there is something about like finally giving into that

680
00:35:09,000 --> 00:35:12,200
Speaker 1: fear and then learning that it's not that big a deal.

681
00:35:12,600 --> 00:35:14,680
Speaker 1: I could see that for certain people. I have my

682
00:35:14,719 --> 00:35:17,359
Speaker 1: own trauma and like weird experiences that I wouldn't work

683
00:35:17,400 --> 00:35:20,680
Speaker 1: for me. I don't I don't necessarily think groups sex

684
00:35:20,760 --> 00:35:22,800
Speaker 1: or threesomes would not work for me. It's just I

685
00:35:22,840 --> 00:35:26,680
Speaker 1: couldn't do it with with your partner. Yeah, yeah, I would. Look,

686
00:35:27,120 --> 00:35:29,480
Speaker 1: I will tell you, like, there there is a dynamic

687
00:35:29,560 --> 00:35:31,920
Speaker 1: that you worry about where when you're in these situations,

688
00:35:31,960 --> 00:35:33,440
Speaker 1: like you don't want to be the one that like

689
00:35:33,560 --> 00:35:36,879
Speaker 1: nobody's paying attention to, or you don't want to even

690
00:35:36,920 --> 00:35:39,799
Speaker 1: feel that like oh you're only att and everyone else

691
00:35:39,880 --> 00:35:43,319
Speaker 1: is at the thing, and you have to kind of

692
00:35:43,400 --> 00:35:46,520
Speaker 1: like zone out and just have fun and do what

693
00:35:46,560 --> 00:35:48,400
Speaker 1: you want to do and make sure that everything that

694
00:35:48,480 --> 00:35:51,120
Speaker 1: you're doing and that like you're doing to people and

695
00:35:51,120 --> 00:35:54,040
Speaker 1: that you're receiving from people feels consensual, Like yeah, and

696
00:35:54,480 --> 00:35:57,000
Speaker 1: as as long as that's the case, you just have

697
00:35:57,040 --> 00:35:59,080
Speaker 1: to let your guard down and just exist. And you

698
00:35:59,120 --> 00:36:00,960
Speaker 1: can also tap out whenever you're ready. You put your

699
00:36:00,960 --> 00:36:03,160
Speaker 1: clothes back on and you say have fun, you guys,

700
00:36:03,640 --> 00:36:07,120
Speaker 1: And um, So I think I forget where I was

701
00:36:07,160 --> 00:36:10,000
Speaker 1: even going with this, But like I do think that

702
00:36:10,080 --> 00:36:12,680
Speaker 1: you're talking about the freedom of stuff. Yes, there is

703
00:36:12,719 --> 00:36:15,759
Speaker 1: a freedom to it. So I think for me, I

704
00:36:15,840 --> 00:36:18,759
Speaker 1: have like if there was one ounce of like my

705
00:36:18,880 --> 00:36:24,000
Speaker 1: partner feeling like it wasn't like they weren't giving to

706
00:36:24,040 --> 00:36:26,520
Speaker 1: me and to the other person, then I'd be like, wait,

707
00:36:26,600 --> 00:36:28,840
Speaker 1: what's going on here? Think they were sent to the

708
00:36:28,880 --> 00:36:31,040
Speaker 1: other person? You'd be like, But on the on the

709
00:36:31,080 --> 00:36:35,240
Speaker 1: flip side, it's like, well, if you if your partner

710
00:36:35,360 --> 00:36:38,440
Speaker 1: wants to explore, it's kind of better to let them

711
00:36:38,480 --> 00:36:44,239
Speaker 1: explore under your supervision, right, I guess a circumstance, like,

712
00:36:44,360 --> 00:36:47,200
Speaker 1: I actually think gay men are probably the most open

713
00:36:47,280 --> 00:36:50,960
Speaker 1: to that of any relationship that I have ever spoken to.

714
00:36:51,800 --> 00:36:53,839
Speaker 1: I don't know that like other Like I know there's

715
00:36:53,840 --> 00:36:57,319
Speaker 1: definitely heterosexual people who do it all the time. I

716
00:36:57,360 --> 00:37:00,600
Speaker 1: don't know. I just like personally because of my own

717
00:37:00,640 --> 00:37:03,640
Speaker 1: experiences in life. Couldn't do it. I don't know that

718
00:37:03,640 --> 00:37:06,279
Speaker 1: I could either with a partner, and I've never experienced it.

719
00:37:06,760 --> 00:37:09,480
Speaker 1: And I don't even think that in my experience with

720
00:37:09,560 --> 00:37:13,600
Speaker 1: these situations that there was anybody that was partnered. Yeah,

721
00:37:13,680 --> 00:37:16,719
Speaker 1: and then that So it's funny. I was reading on

722
00:37:16,760 --> 00:37:19,680
Speaker 1: psychology today and like, you know, this goes way back

723
00:37:19,680 --> 00:37:22,560
Speaker 1: to like Greek mythology. It's it's a whole. I mean,

724
00:37:22,840 --> 00:37:28,239
Speaker 1: this is not new, this is historic and and so.

725
00:37:28,320 --> 00:37:31,520
Speaker 1: And it was also a form of release from the

726
00:37:31,800 --> 00:37:34,560
Speaker 1: tough like everyday life and all of a sudden, So

727
00:37:34,600 --> 00:37:37,120
Speaker 1: it says the orgy permitted people to escape from their

728
00:37:37,239 --> 00:37:41,440
Speaker 1: artificial and restricted social roles in regress into a more

729
00:37:41,480 --> 00:37:44,560
Speaker 1: authentic state of nature, which modern psychologists have come to

730
00:37:44,560 --> 00:37:47,880
Speaker 1: associate with Freudy and I d or unconscious. And I

731
00:37:47,920 --> 00:37:50,640
Speaker 1: thought that was so interesting because we put these and

732
00:37:50,680 --> 00:37:52,719
Speaker 1: I still think we do this and I'm actually doing

733
00:37:52,760 --> 00:37:55,000
Speaker 1: it right now, but we put these labels on how

734
00:37:55,040 --> 00:37:56,520
Speaker 1: things should be right, like you should be in a

735
00:37:56,560 --> 00:37:59,600
Speaker 1: monogamous relationship, you should be a husband, you should be

736
00:37:59,640 --> 00:38:02,120
Speaker 1: a white if you should be a partner, you should

737
00:38:02,120 --> 00:38:04,000
Speaker 1: be whatever it is and whatever that looks like. And

738
00:38:04,000 --> 00:38:06,960
Speaker 1: we've put all of these like social norms on things,

739
00:38:07,360 --> 00:38:10,160
Speaker 1: and in reality, like we are human beings with these

740
00:38:10,200 --> 00:38:13,200
Speaker 1: like sexual desires and these like needs and all these things.

741
00:38:13,600 --> 00:38:15,879
Speaker 1: And so these orgies back in the day, if they

742
00:38:15,880 --> 00:38:20,279
Speaker 1: were secret or whatever, we're okay because they had these

743
00:38:20,320 --> 00:38:23,360
Speaker 1: like tight, tight, tight restrictions about the roles they played

744
00:38:23,400 --> 00:38:25,439
Speaker 1: in the society, and they would go and they would

745
00:38:25,440 --> 00:38:28,640
Speaker 1: be able to release and not have to be that role. Honest,

746
00:38:28,960 --> 00:38:31,600
Speaker 1: like all of those things that prevent us from like

747
00:38:31,760 --> 00:38:36,839
Speaker 1: sort of just being human are const their constructs of humanity.

748
00:38:37,400 --> 00:38:41,239
Speaker 1: Like these things weren't They didn't always exist. They were

749
00:38:41,280 --> 00:38:44,520
Speaker 1: things that like we put in place to create social order.

750
00:38:45,840 --> 00:38:48,640
Speaker 1: I read a thing today that was like um, I

751
00:38:48,640 --> 00:38:51,800
Speaker 1: feel like. It was on Moist Buddha's um Instagram page

752
00:38:51,840 --> 00:38:54,360
Speaker 1: and it said it was like a screenshot of someone's

753
00:38:54,360 --> 00:38:56,920
Speaker 1: tweet that was like human short could have had a

754
00:38:56,920 --> 00:38:59,880
Speaker 1: lot of fun eating eating fruit and creating art, but

755
00:39:00,000 --> 00:39:03,800
Speaker 1: we had to go create things like taxes and something

756
00:39:03,840 --> 00:39:07,240
Speaker 1: else like and it was like so true, Like where

757
00:39:07,239 --> 00:39:10,839
Speaker 1: where in the history of humanity? Oh, it was like

758
00:39:10,960 --> 00:39:13,600
Speaker 1: we had we had to create taxes and credit scores,

759
00:39:13,680 --> 00:39:16,800
Speaker 1: is what it said. Where do we make that turn

760
00:39:16,920 --> 00:39:19,960
Speaker 1: where it was like we weren't about just like painting

761
00:39:19,960 --> 00:39:21,960
Speaker 1: things on the side of rocks and eating fruit, like

762
00:39:22,000 --> 00:39:24,840
Speaker 1: because that sounds awesome. It was some number three on

763
00:39:24,840 --> 00:39:26,920
Speaker 1: the Instagram was like I'm about to go achieve the

764
00:39:27,040 --> 00:39:30,200
Speaker 1: S and you're not going to paint on it, And

765
00:39:30,440 --> 00:39:33,799
Speaker 1: that's exactly right. It was like somebody had to be

766
00:39:33,800 --> 00:39:35,799
Speaker 1: better than the rest or something. We can't just like

767
00:39:35,960 --> 00:39:39,439
Speaker 1: exist anyway. It's just the human nature. But I find

768
00:39:39,440 --> 00:39:42,920
Speaker 1: it fascinating. I literally can't process that you've done this

769
00:39:43,040 --> 00:39:45,680
Speaker 1: multiple times. I mean I was shock because I'm also

770
00:39:45,760 --> 00:39:49,719
Speaker 1: not that sexually like promiscuous. I mean, let's talk about that.

771
00:39:50,080 --> 00:39:52,799
Speaker 1: I mean back in the day you acted. I love

772
00:39:52,880 --> 00:39:54,440
Speaker 1: that you tried to act like I never really had

773
00:39:54,480 --> 00:39:57,520
Speaker 1: a slutty face. Oh really, but you had fucking orgies

774
00:39:57,680 --> 00:40:00,160
Speaker 1: Like what well, you know what's funny is it's like

775
00:40:00,480 --> 00:40:02,960
Speaker 1: because I like, I guess I in my mind, like

776
00:40:02,960 --> 00:40:04,680
Speaker 1: when I said I didn't have a slutty face, Like

777
00:40:04,719 --> 00:40:07,399
Speaker 1: it wasn't like a consistent thing. Like I have gay

778
00:40:07,440 --> 00:40:09,560
Speaker 1: friends that were like they would do that ship every weekend,

779
00:40:09,800 --> 00:40:12,040
Speaker 1: you know, or they were like they would fuck a

780
00:40:12,040 --> 00:40:15,799
Speaker 1: new person every weekend. I never did that like every night. Yeah,

781
00:40:15,880 --> 00:40:18,719
Speaker 1: I mean should like so in comparison, yeah, I was

782
00:40:18,840 --> 00:40:21,520
Speaker 1: like I was pretty vanilla. But I guess in comparison

783
00:40:21,560 --> 00:40:23,879
Speaker 1: to like my girlfriends, I'm a big old how well,

784
00:40:24,080 --> 00:40:26,239
Speaker 1: clearly because you were like, you've never had group sex

785
00:40:26,280 --> 00:40:29,160
Speaker 1: at all, and we were like no, I was like,

786
00:40:29,480 --> 00:40:32,520
Speaker 1: neither of I just people, listen to your podcast. Nothing

787
00:40:32,560 --> 00:40:35,560
Speaker 1: to see here, like just one of the time over here.

788
00:40:35,760 --> 00:40:38,080
Speaker 1: I don't know, so I want to read there's actually

789
00:40:38,200 --> 00:40:41,759
Speaker 1: I was kind of surprised. There is on masterclass dot com,

790
00:40:41,800 --> 00:40:44,400
Speaker 1: you know that where you like learn from the pros.

791
00:40:44,480 --> 00:40:47,239
Speaker 1: There was an article also sex with Emily just did one,

792
00:40:47,320 --> 00:40:50,399
Speaker 1: by the way, so I'm just gonna read. They list

793
00:40:50,719 --> 00:40:53,160
Speaker 1: eight tips for attending an orgy. The first one is

794
00:40:53,200 --> 00:40:56,920
Speaker 1: always get verbal consent, the clear verbal consenting. That's that's

795
00:40:56,920 --> 00:41:00,120
Speaker 1: a good rule for sex in general. Number two, do

796
00:41:00,200 --> 00:41:04,399
Speaker 1: some background research. So it's like there's no basic facts

797
00:41:04,400 --> 00:41:07,279
Speaker 1: about the orgies, organizers, the rules, blah blah blah. I mean,

798
00:41:07,400 --> 00:41:10,319
Speaker 1: granted I didn't necessarily do that, but I did look

799
00:41:10,360 --> 00:41:14,120
Speaker 1: for indicators, like I wasn't going to a motel. I

800
00:41:14,239 --> 00:41:16,680
Speaker 1: was going to a really fancy hotel, you know, So

801
00:41:16,719 --> 00:41:19,680
Speaker 1: it's like it differentiates it set your boundaries in advance

802
00:41:20,239 --> 00:41:22,320
Speaker 1: because like some of these things are like B D

803
00:41:22,520 --> 00:41:27,000
Speaker 1: s M things where it's like payments involved you're really interested. Yeah,

804
00:41:27,040 --> 00:41:28,719
Speaker 1: so if you're like, don't tie me up, like I

805
00:41:28,760 --> 00:41:33,000
Speaker 1: don't ever want to feel like I'm in harmswet. Yeah. Um,

806
00:41:33,080 --> 00:41:35,480
Speaker 1: communication is key, which I think we talked about that

807
00:41:35,520 --> 00:41:39,120
Speaker 1: all the time. Be patient because they're like these are

808
00:41:39,120 --> 00:41:42,800
Speaker 1: all just like sex lessons. And totally avoid getting too intoxicated,

809
00:41:42,840 --> 00:41:46,200
Speaker 1: which is great because I think you you don't want

810
00:41:46,239 --> 00:41:48,560
Speaker 1: to be taking advantage of and if your inhibitions are

811
00:41:48,640 --> 00:41:52,160
Speaker 1: too low, it's like not good. The next thing you know,

812
00:41:52,200 --> 00:41:53,640
Speaker 1: you got a light bulb in one of your holes.

813
00:41:53,680 --> 00:41:56,520
Speaker 1: You know, the next thing you know, you're olympic. Um,

814
00:41:56,760 --> 00:41:59,200
Speaker 1: keep an open mind about your sex partners. So it's

815
00:41:59,239 --> 00:42:03,480
Speaker 1: like you think that these are like because you don't

816
00:42:03,480 --> 00:42:05,360
Speaker 1: really get to choose who all the people are, it

817
00:42:05,440 --> 00:42:08,000
Speaker 1: might be a good time for you to like mess

818
00:42:08,040 --> 00:42:10,680
Speaker 1: with somebody that like normally wouldn't be your type. Well

819
00:42:10,680 --> 00:42:16,160
Speaker 1: that's right, um. And then the last one is I

820
00:42:16,239 --> 00:42:20,520
Speaker 1: know that rejection is standard and it says don't take

821
00:42:20,560 --> 00:42:23,440
Speaker 1: rejection personally and make sure that you're polite when rejecting

822
00:42:23,440 --> 00:42:26,360
Speaker 1: someone else's advances. I know that you'll have plenty of

823
00:42:26,400 --> 00:42:29,240
Speaker 1: other chances to engage in sex acts with other partners. Okay,

824
00:42:29,320 --> 00:42:32,320
Speaker 1: this is this is like exactly. I mean you brought

825
00:42:32,320 --> 00:42:35,279
Speaker 1: this up obviously, but like it's so hard for me

826
00:42:35,360 --> 00:42:37,600
Speaker 1: to picture that in some way of just walking into

827
00:42:37,680 --> 00:42:39,960
Speaker 1: a place of the room of people, because like I

828
00:42:40,000 --> 00:42:43,400
Speaker 1: am such a chemistry person, like I'm I'm definitely not

829
00:42:43,480 --> 00:42:48,000
Speaker 1: just like oh, I could have sex with anyone right Well,

830
00:42:48,160 --> 00:42:51,840
Speaker 1: usually it's um. I mean, in my experience, it was

831
00:42:51,880 --> 00:42:54,680
Speaker 1: never like you walk in and it's already in motion,

832
00:42:54,840 --> 00:42:57,960
Speaker 1: Like it's like, hey, everybody show up by this hour,

833
00:42:58,800 --> 00:43:01,239
Speaker 1: and so like you chat for a second and you

834
00:43:01,280 --> 00:43:04,280
Speaker 1: have a cocktail, and then somebody starts making out, somebody

835
00:43:04,280 --> 00:43:06,240
Speaker 1: else starts making out, and the next you know, clothes

836
00:43:06,239 --> 00:43:08,480
Speaker 1: are off. So it's not like you walk into this

837
00:43:08,480 --> 00:43:11,080
Speaker 1: thing where everyone, like the record stops and everyone looks

838
00:43:11,120 --> 00:43:12,680
Speaker 1: back and they're like, oh, there's another person here. I

839
00:43:12,680 --> 00:43:14,320
Speaker 1: just feel like there might be some people who touched

840
00:43:14,320 --> 00:43:16,440
Speaker 1: me that I would be like, oh, you know, like

841
00:43:16,960 --> 00:43:19,960
Speaker 1: wet panties, like you said earlier today, and then some

842
00:43:20,000 --> 00:43:24,560
Speaker 1: people are like yeah, and I think maybe it's different

843
00:43:24,600 --> 00:43:29,879
Speaker 1: for girls. Though, yeah, it's different for girls. That gives

844
00:43:29,880 --> 00:43:37,160
Speaker 1: a whole new meaning to that song. Um, okay, we

845
00:43:37,320 --> 00:43:38,759
Speaker 1: need to move on from this topic because I know

846
00:43:38,800 --> 00:43:42,520
Speaker 1: you need to go. Unfortunately, Chip has a show, Go Figure,

847
00:43:43,120 --> 00:43:45,080
Speaker 1: He's back in action. Chip has a show. He reads

848
00:43:45,160 --> 00:43:47,120
Speaker 1: jet skis. He's going to be in a hot tub tomorrow.

849
00:43:47,360 --> 00:43:50,759
Speaker 1: So we're literally back conection and back and maybe I

850
00:43:50,800 --> 00:43:53,319
Speaker 1: should have an orgy torow. I wasn't gonna say other

851
00:43:53,360 --> 00:43:55,120
Speaker 1: than I'll be there. I just want to watch. Can

852
00:43:55,120 --> 00:43:56,560
Speaker 1: I do that? Can I be a full year? That

853
00:43:56,760 --> 00:44:00,360
Speaker 1: is weird to me? That is that's strang draw the

854
00:44:00,400 --> 00:44:03,359
Speaker 1: line there only because of fascination. Like I just been like,

855
00:44:03,360 --> 00:44:04,560
Speaker 1: oh my god, I don't want to see a Chip

856
00:44:04,560 --> 00:44:06,319
Speaker 1: happen tomorrow. And I'm like, oh, I gotta be gone

857
00:44:06,320 --> 00:44:08,279
Speaker 1: by eight. You're like, what is I have to be?

858
00:44:08,440 --> 00:44:10,360
Speaker 1: I have to be at my house by because you

859
00:44:10,400 --> 00:44:14,440
Speaker 1: have started. That's a cut off. And then I'll be

860
00:44:14,440 --> 00:44:16,520
Speaker 1: in your window filming for the listeners. I've got too

861
00:44:16,520 --> 00:44:19,720
Speaker 1: many windows in my house. I can do it. They're okay.

862
00:44:19,760 --> 00:44:23,919
Speaker 1: So you know what's so funny is that last week

863
00:44:23,960 --> 00:44:26,040
Speaker 1: I think we kind of gave some ship because no

864
00:44:26,040 --> 00:44:28,000
Speaker 1: one's emailing us anymore. And all of a sudden, I

865
00:44:28,000 --> 00:44:29,759
Speaker 1: opened the email today and I was like, oh, I

866
00:44:29,760 --> 00:44:34,560
Speaker 1: didn't even expect it. Oh my god. We have emails Christmas.

867
00:44:34,719 --> 00:44:36,319
Speaker 1: But I'm gonna try to go through a couple of

868
00:44:36,320 --> 00:44:38,640
Speaker 1: them and we'll say the rest, but keep them coming.

869
00:44:38,719 --> 00:44:42,080
Speaker 1: These actually make our days so much. Um. This one's

870
00:44:42,120 --> 00:44:44,399
Speaker 1: from Lindsay. She said, Hi, Kelly and Chip. I thought

871
00:44:44,600 --> 00:44:50,480
Speaker 1: Friday flousy would be a little uh she's doing. I

872
00:44:50,520 --> 00:44:53,240
Speaker 1: thought Friday floozy would be a little kinder to Kelly's

873
00:44:53,239 --> 00:44:55,160
Speaker 1: ears rather than slet of a week. Oh my god, Lindsay,

874
00:44:55,200 --> 00:44:57,040
Speaker 1: that's such a good idea. I love that. There is

875
00:44:57,160 --> 00:44:59,560
Speaker 1: nothing I love more than a good walk of shame story,

876
00:44:59,600 --> 00:45:01,640
Speaker 1: and all that my entire twenties sometimes feels like it

877
00:45:01,719 --> 00:45:03,719
Speaker 1: was a one giant walk of shame. Here a couple

878
00:45:03,719 --> 00:45:08,080
Speaker 1: of my favorite Oh my god, here, what's her name again? Lindsay, Lindsay.

879
00:45:08,160 --> 00:45:13,440
Speaker 1: Lindsay is our Friday flues. Lindsay is our Friday. One night,

880
00:45:13,560 --> 00:45:15,239
Speaker 1: I ran into this really cute guy at a bar.

881
00:45:15,560 --> 00:45:18,520
Speaker 1: After way too many drinks. We walked back to his house.

882
00:45:18,680 --> 00:45:22,600
Speaker 1: She hasn't quotes I'm really nervous. Okay. What he failed

883
00:45:22,600 --> 00:45:24,920
Speaker 1: to mention was that he lived with his parents. But

884
00:45:25,040 --> 00:45:27,359
Speaker 1: I didn't need to worry about that because he had

885
00:45:27,560 --> 00:45:31,719
Speaker 1: pinched a tent, pitched, pitched, sorry, pitched a tint in

886
00:45:31,800 --> 00:45:34,520
Speaker 1: his front yard. Wow. I wish I could say I

887
00:45:34,560 --> 00:45:38,960
Speaker 1: called a cab. Literally, I wish I could say I

888
00:45:39,000 --> 00:45:41,440
Speaker 1: called a cab and went home. Sadly, I stayed and

889
00:45:41,440 --> 00:45:42,960
Speaker 1: we hooked up. I mean, I probably wouldn't know the

890
00:45:43,000 --> 00:45:46,399
Speaker 1: same him in a tent on his parents front lawn.

891
00:45:46,560 --> 00:45:49,520
Speaker 1: What are you in the backyard? You're already by the backyard.

892
00:45:49,840 --> 00:45:52,280
Speaker 1: Who pitches a tent in the front yard? We walked

893
00:45:52,360 --> 00:45:54,879
Speaker 1: back to his house? Did she say front? I'm sorry,

894
00:45:54,960 --> 00:45:58,000
Speaker 1: Oh yeah, all caps front yard. Like the neighbors are

895
00:45:58,040 --> 00:46:00,399
Speaker 1: like out walking their dog before bed. They're like, if

896
00:46:00,400 --> 00:46:02,640
Speaker 1: you see the tent a rocking, don't come a knocking.

897
00:46:03,280 --> 00:46:05,279
Speaker 1: Like the neighbor's dog like stops to ship in the

898
00:46:05,280 --> 00:46:08,799
Speaker 1: front yard, like what dog was percepted? Like the dog

899
00:46:08,920 --> 00:46:10,960
Speaker 1: ran up and they're like nothing's going on here and

900
00:46:11,000 --> 00:46:16,800
Speaker 1: she's Lindsay's like he's naked. Um Okay, Sadly I stayed

901
00:46:16,800 --> 00:46:19,600
Speaker 1: and we hooked up. The kicker was when I woke

902
00:46:19,680 --> 00:46:21,439
Speaker 1: up the next morning, I tried to sneak out without

903
00:46:21,480 --> 00:46:23,319
Speaker 1: waking him, but I had no clue where I was.

904
00:46:23,440 --> 00:46:25,880
Speaker 1: I mean, I don't blame her. My roommate drove us

905
00:46:25,960 --> 00:46:28,920
Speaker 1: around the general neighborhood while I texted her landmarks that

906
00:46:28,920 --> 00:46:31,279
Speaker 1: I could see from the tent. She eventually found me

907
00:46:31,320 --> 00:46:33,200
Speaker 1: and I was able to sneak away without waking him.

908
00:46:33,320 --> 00:46:36,040
Speaker 1: Wow that this was clearly before you could drop a pen.

909
00:46:37,239 --> 00:46:40,600
Speaker 1: What probably Yeah, she probably had a flip fund. I

910
00:46:40,640 --> 00:46:42,960
Speaker 1: thought it was going to be like as I crawled

911
00:46:42,960 --> 00:46:45,960
Speaker 1: out of the tent his father walked outside. His parents

912
00:46:45,960 --> 00:46:50,239
Speaker 1: were gonna be yeah, added the church. On another night,

913
00:46:50,400 --> 00:46:52,040
Speaker 1: I went out with a girlfriend and I ended up

914
00:46:52,080 --> 00:46:54,520
Speaker 1: running into these guys that had met once before through

915
00:46:54,560 --> 00:46:58,319
Speaker 1: friends after too many drinks. See a pattern here, That's

916
00:46:58,480 --> 00:47:00,560
Speaker 1: that's what she said. I'm not saying that. No judgment

917
00:47:00,640 --> 00:47:03,000
Speaker 1: here on the edge. I ended up going home with

918
00:47:03,000 --> 00:47:05,080
Speaker 1: one of the guys. I don't remember much about the night,

919
00:47:05,120 --> 00:47:07,160
Speaker 1: but I was horrified when I woke up the next morning.

920
00:47:07,320 --> 00:47:09,319
Speaker 1: When I opened my eyes, I looked down to see

921
00:47:09,320 --> 00:47:13,920
Speaker 1: my hand around my waist. Wait to see a hand

922
00:47:14,000 --> 00:47:20,080
Speaker 1: around my waist, A hand that was missing two fingers. Somehow,

923
00:47:20,320 --> 00:47:23,000
Speaker 1: am I drunken stupord I had totally missed this very

924
00:47:23,040 --> 00:47:27,360
Speaker 1: important detail. Not that there's anything wrong with missing body parts.

925
00:47:27,400 --> 00:47:29,319
Speaker 1: I was just it was just a shock to wake

926
00:47:29,440 --> 00:47:32,040
Speaker 1: up to once again. I tried to sneak out without

927
00:47:32,080 --> 00:47:34,960
Speaker 1: waking him, but I couldn't buy my pants anywhere. I

928
00:47:35,040 --> 00:47:38,120
Speaker 1: ended up grabbing some dirty basketball shorts off his floor

929
00:47:38,200 --> 00:47:40,880
Speaker 1: and running out the door, leaving my behind, my hands

930
00:47:40,880 --> 00:47:43,160
Speaker 1: and my my pants and my pride. I'm sorry, I'm

931
00:47:43,160 --> 00:47:47,560
Speaker 1: flapping again. It would normally be one in the pink,

932
00:47:47,600 --> 00:47:51,520
Speaker 1: two in the stink or whatever, like there's only one

933
00:47:51,520 --> 00:47:54,239
Speaker 1: in the one and one of the other one you

934
00:47:54,320 --> 00:47:59,920
Speaker 1: can do the shocker with. Why not? Because that was

935
00:48:00,040 --> 00:48:01,920
Speaker 1: like this, I thought, in the pink one and the

936
00:48:01,920 --> 00:48:03,960
Speaker 1: stink is like this, we're going to have to put

937
00:48:04,000 --> 00:48:10,200
Speaker 1: a picture. Doesn't use the thumb. So it's like check

938
00:48:10,800 --> 00:48:12,719
Speaker 1: as we learn you might actually you have to. You

939
00:48:12,760 --> 00:48:15,440
Speaker 1: have to sometimes you have to like improvise when you

940
00:48:15,440 --> 00:48:19,360
Speaker 1: don't have when you only have three fingers. Okay, well anyway, So,

941
00:48:19,920 --> 00:48:22,600
Speaker 1: although although these stories are fun to look back on

942
00:48:22,880 --> 00:48:27,960
Speaker 1: and laugh at, there's a piece of advice I could give. Oh,

943
00:48:28,239 --> 00:48:31,839
Speaker 1: she's giving. I was like, don't ask. I could give

944
00:48:31,880 --> 00:48:33,920
Speaker 1: the next generation of twenties some things. It would be

945
00:48:34,000 --> 00:48:37,840
Speaker 1: don't drink and drive and don't drink and don't drink

946
00:48:37,880 --> 00:48:41,800
Speaker 1: and that should be a shirt that should love you guys.

947
00:48:41,880 --> 00:48:49,880
Speaker 1: Oh my god, so floozy. Who's gonna be next week's Friday? Fluzy?

948
00:48:50,040 --> 00:48:52,680
Speaker 1: We hear from you. We're not done yet, though, but

949
00:48:52,760 --> 00:48:55,560
Speaker 1: this is still the same Friday. Okay, same Friday. Different,

950
00:48:56,840 --> 00:48:59,719
Speaker 1: there we go. This one comes from Brittany. She said,

951
00:49:00,000 --> 00:49:01,759
Speaker 1: I've been listening to you both for over a year now,

952
00:49:01,800 --> 00:49:03,000
Speaker 1: and I just want to pick up the phone and

953
00:49:03,000 --> 00:49:05,000
Speaker 1: text you both when you are done and say let's

954
00:49:05,000 --> 00:49:07,520
Speaker 1: go hang out. My god, we love that. I know.

955
00:49:08,000 --> 00:49:11,080
Speaker 1: I personally think every episode is hilarious and brings so

956
00:49:11,160 --> 00:49:13,800
Speaker 1: much personality to the table. I wish that you guys

957
00:49:13,800 --> 00:49:19,760
Speaker 1: would videotape every episode, but we do. Uh sorry, we do, Britty,

958
00:49:20,000 --> 00:49:22,480
Speaker 1: Actually we do. We're doing that right now because that

959
00:49:22,480 --> 00:49:25,040
Speaker 1: would be awesome. We'll just send it to you. Personally,

960
00:49:26,080 --> 00:49:27,840
Speaker 1: I love to listen when I'm in the car heading

961
00:49:27,840 --> 00:49:31,640
Speaker 1: to my stressful healthcare job. Keep this is the thing,

962
00:49:31,680 --> 00:49:34,040
Speaker 1: I imagine. I think this is the thing I like

963
00:49:34,120 --> 00:49:37,440
Speaker 1: people are driving to normal jobs on a Friday morning,

964
00:49:37,840 --> 00:49:41,560
Speaker 1: listening to this ship. What are you guys doing? What?

965
00:49:43,080 --> 00:49:45,440
Speaker 1: They are normal jobs that they love, normal jobs that

966
00:49:45,520 --> 00:49:49,239
Speaker 1: they love, listening to Chips talk about his origy. They're like,

967
00:49:49,480 --> 00:49:52,120
Speaker 1: they're calling in sick. You're pulling up to the garage

968
00:49:52,200 --> 00:49:56,000
Speaker 1: being like, not today's satan, and they're going home and masturbating.

969
00:49:56,640 --> 00:49:59,000
Speaker 1: Do you think they're masturbating to your origin? They're going

970
00:49:59,040 --> 00:50:01,000
Speaker 1: home and trying an orgy. Are like getting on man hunt.

971
00:50:01,000 --> 00:50:04,000
Speaker 1: They're like, okay, I literally thought you were like I

972
00:50:04,080 --> 00:50:06,520
Speaker 1: just turned everyone away. I'm like, they're like, fuck it.

973
00:50:06,640 --> 00:50:07,759
Speaker 1: I don't need to I don't need to be at

974
00:50:07,760 --> 00:50:09,120
Speaker 1: work today. I don't need to go. I get some

975
00:50:09,280 --> 00:50:12,000
Speaker 1: You're acting like your inspiration for these people, Yo, the

976
00:50:12,200 --> 00:50:17,720
Speaker 1: inspiration I had a glass nasal. I can't even say half. Okay,

977
00:50:17,840 --> 00:50:24,400
Speaker 1: let's read these emails. Okay, keep bringing the funny. I'm sorry,

978
00:50:24,400 --> 00:50:27,359
Speaker 1: I wannt to know. Let me give myself together. If

979
00:50:27,400 --> 00:50:29,040
Speaker 1: you guys would have just seen him try to sing

980
00:50:29,600 --> 00:50:38,359
Speaker 1: yore the meaning in my life, yo, speration harmonize. Also

981
00:50:38,440 --> 00:50:40,640
Speaker 1: he put his ear his hand to his ear, and

982
00:50:40,640 --> 00:50:42,920
Speaker 1: also you missed the first line of your the meaning

983
00:50:42,960 --> 00:50:46,160
Speaker 1: to my life, yeah, I know, and then the meaning

984
00:50:46,360 --> 00:50:53,360
Speaker 1: to my life Yo, Inspition Chicago. Also, you like pulled

985
00:50:53,400 --> 00:50:58,399
Speaker 1: them mic away like you're fucking whinny Eastern. I cannot God,

986
00:50:59,560 --> 00:51:01,719
Speaker 1: we're back. Keep bringing the funny and all the things

987
00:51:01,800 --> 00:51:03,680
Speaker 1: you talk about. They're awesome even when you might not

988
00:51:03,760 --> 00:51:08,680
Speaker 1: be prepared. I love the thought of replacing Karen with Susan,

989
00:51:08,719 --> 00:51:10,560
Speaker 1: and I can't wait for sled A Pelluza with Chip.

990
00:51:10,600 --> 00:51:12,600
Speaker 1: I think we're there, guys, by the way, I think

991
00:51:12,719 --> 00:51:16,320
Speaker 1: JIP's already think he's lying to all of that, and

992
00:51:16,440 --> 00:51:22,400
Speaker 1: I retired. I feel betrayed a little bit here, Sorr. Okay,

993
00:51:22,880 --> 00:51:25,000
Speaker 1: I'm like a I'm like an onion. There's so many

994
00:51:25,080 --> 00:51:29,839
Speaker 1: layers apparently, and five people have already been figured it out.

995
00:51:30,200 --> 00:51:33,520
Speaker 1: And listen, lady, she says in quote, Thank you, Brittany.

996
00:51:33,640 --> 00:51:36,040
Speaker 1: I really appreciate that it's okay to drink a little

997
00:51:36,120 --> 00:51:37,960
Speaker 1: or a lot of tequila just because you can. I

998
00:51:38,000 --> 00:51:39,640
Speaker 1: love you both, and I'm so honored to call you

999
00:51:39,680 --> 00:51:46,759
Speaker 1: my besties. Thank you, Brittany. G nothing dislocated job, Brittany.

1000
00:51:47,600 --> 00:51:50,680
Speaker 1: We love all the Brittany's. Oh my god, okay, last one.

1001
00:51:51,239 --> 00:51:53,600
Speaker 1: We have more like I love you guys for sending these.

1002
00:51:53,600 --> 00:51:55,879
Speaker 1: Thank you so much. Keep them coming to the edge

1003
00:51:55,960 --> 00:51:57,680
Speaker 1: at Velvet's Edge dot com. This is the last one

1004
00:51:57,760 --> 00:51:59,520
Speaker 1: I can read tonight because Chip is looking at me like,

1005
00:51:59,560 --> 00:52:01,480
Speaker 1: I gotta go I gotta go home. You better get

1006
00:52:01,480 --> 00:52:05,120
Speaker 1: out of my bathing suit. Oh my god, jet skis Hi,

1007
00:52:05,280 --> 00:52:07,040
Speaker 1: Kelly and Chip. First, I just want to say I

1008
00:52:07,080 --> 00:52:08,960
Speaker 1: love the podcast. You guys are so hilarious and I

1009
00:52:09,040 --> 00:52:10,839
Speaker 1: was just super authentic, which can be hard to come

1010
00:52:10,840 --> 00:52:16,640
Speaker 1: by these days. She says. Hashtag bite me, sus I

1011
00:52:16,719 --> 00:52:20,319
Speaker 1: love how much people hate Susan. I'm married. I mean,

1012
00:52:20,320 --> 00:52:22,680
Speaker 1: but Susan, we love you and we accept all people here.

1013
00:52:22,880 --> 00:52:27,600
Speaker 1: But but just check your attitude. Bit truth comes out

1014
00:52:29,960 --> 00:52:34,960
Speaker 1: him off. Oh my god, bank makes me a bit.

1015
00:52:35,719 --> 00:52:37,719
Speaker 1: I love it. I'm giving this to you every night now.

1016
00:52:38,320 --> 00:52:40,279
Speaker 1: I am married with the kids, so I don't have

1017
00:52:40,360 --> 00:52:42,879
Speaker 1: super insane dating stories for you, but a podcast from

1018
00:52:42,920 --> 00:52:45,200
Speaker 1: a few weeks ago inspired me to tell you, guys

1019
00:52:45,239 --> 00:52:48,160
Speaker 1: this last year, I went on to work leave due

1020
00:52:48,160 --> 00:52:49,839
Speaker 1: to my mental health and a week later my house

1021
00:52:49,840 --> 00:52:52,040
Speaker 1: burned down. Jesus, what's the funk? I hope she wasn't

1022
00:52:52,080 --> 00:52:59,080
Speaker 1: in it. Obviously she's not if she's writing us. Then

1023
00:52:59,120 --> 00:53:02,120
Speaker 1: a month later, I separated from my husband. Most people

1024
00:53:02,160 --> 00:53:03,880
Speaker 1: cramed when I say this because they felt bad, and

1025
00:53:03,920 --> 00:53:05,839
Speaker 1: that's sweet, But really it was the greatest gift ever.

1026
00:53:05,920 --> 00:53:07,759
Speaker 1: I had this belief system that I was supposed to

1027
00:53:07,760 --> 00:53:09,480
Speaker 1: work a career that almost killed me because I was

1028
00:53:09,480 --> 00:53:12,319
Speaker 1: supposed to make six figures to be successful. I bought

1029
00:53:12,320 --> 00:53:14,880
Speaker 1: a home that also came with a California mortgage that

1030
00:53:14,920 --> 00:53:16,799
Speaker 1: made me feel trapped in my job, and I was

1031
00:53:16,840 --> 00:53:19,040
Speaker 1: slowly dying on the inside because I didn't even know

1032
00:53:19,040 --> 00:53:22,480
Speaker 1: how to talk to my husband about how miserable I was. Well,

1033
00:53:22,760 --> 00:53:25,560
Speaker 1: when August rolled around, the universe was like, I gotta

1034
00:53:25,640 --> 00:53:27,600
Speaker 1: let you get rid of all these things holding you back.

1035
00:53:27,640 --> 00:53:31,040
Speaker 1: I love this, Okay, well maybe not, she goes l

1036
00:53:31,040 --> 00:53:32,839
Speaker 1: O L Okay, maybe not l L, but you know

1037
00:53:32,840 --> 00:53:34,920
Speaker 1: what I mean. Fast forward seven months, and you will

1038
00:53:34,960 --> 00:53:37,200
Speaker 1: never believe the life that has unfolded for me. I

1039
00:53:37,239 --> 00:53:40,400
Speaker 1: officially walked away from that job. Best decision ever. My

1040
00:53:40,480 --> 00:53:43,040
Speaker 1: husband and I spent a number of months apart, but

1041
00:53:43,080 --> 00:53:45,880
Speaker 1: eventually found our way back to each other just in

1042
00:53:45,960 --> 00:53:48,920
Speaker 1: time to celebrate our nine year wedding anniversary in April,

1043
00:53:49,160 --> 00:53:52,040
Speaker 1: and yesterday we broke ground to start rebuilding our new house.

1044
00:53:52,280 --> 00:53:54,720
Speaker 1: I found that living up to some standard that society

1045
00:53:54,760 --> 00:53:57,480
Speaker 1: gives us was not just for was not for me,

1046
00:53:57,560 --> 00:54:00,560
Speaker 1: and I started my own business in March of one her.

1047
00:54:00,719 --> 00:54:03,600
Speaker 1: I know, I love this story, handing me a ship

1048
00:54:03,640 --> 00:54:06,120
Speaker 1: ton of lemons and now I got a lifetime of lemonade.

1049
00:54:06,560 --> 00:54:10,440
Speaker 1: Sorry girl, how much she solved that lemonade for ship

1050
00:54:10,440 --> 00:54:12,960
Speaker 1: wants to buy? Sorry, that was a long one, I promised.

1051
00:54:12,960 --> 00:54:14,600
Speaker 1: I made it as short as I could. That actually

1052
00:54:14,680 --> 00:54:18,200
Speaker 1: was not terrible, But I love the story. Both of you.

1053
00:54:18,320 --> 00:54:21,160
Speaker 1: Keep doing you booze fucking love you guys. By the way,

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Speaker 1: living on the veg is my favorite sign off. Y'all

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Speaker 1: have come up with much love Jamie living on the edge.

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Speaker 1: It predated. Also, that story was so inspiring, and thank

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Speaker 1: you because I do feel like we put so much

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Speaker 1: pressure on ourselves, especially just to like have it all

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00:54:39,960 --> 00:54:42,480
Speaker 1: together to buy the big house. Then you have to

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00:54:42,520 --> 00:54:44,200
Speaker 1: keep the job that you hate. Then you have to

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00:54:44,280 --> 00:54:46,799
Speaker 1: like work through your marriage that's not really working, and

1062
00:54:46,800 --> 00:54:48,279
Speaker 1: you can't feel like it's just like all of this.

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Speaker 1: You know, to me, what I hear is like literally

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Speaker 1: all you have is today, you know, it's like if

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Speaker 1: you're living like oh, I have to do this so

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Speaker 1: that I have that, or you can't let go of

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Speaker 1: something because making you. Yeah. I read a quote today

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Speaker 1: Adam Grant is his name. I'm not exactly sure what

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Speaker 1: he does, but Amy Grant. No, it's Adam Grant, and

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Speaker 1: it said something like, um, basically the I'm gonna botch it.

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Speaker 1: But it said something about like, don't be scared of

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Speaker 1: taking a new job that might set you back a

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Speaker 1: couple of years instead of um, staying in something that

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Speaker 1: could set you back twenty And I was like, damn,

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Speaker 1: you know, because there's so many times where I'm like

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Speaker 1: I can't do that, like thank you for everything, for everything,

1077
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Speaker 1: totally like because in twenty years, you don't want to

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Speaker 1: look back and be like I had that opportunity to

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Speaker 1: change this and I never did, so that's even more miserable.

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Speaker 1: Good for you, Jamie, Thank you guys so much for

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Speaker 1: all the emails. Keep them coming. I'll try to get

1082
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Speaker 1: to the rest of them next week. It's the Edge

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Speaker 1: at Velvet's Edge dot com. If you also, if you

1084
00:55:54,320 --> 00:55:56,520
Speaker 1: have any orgy stories, send them to you want to

1085
00:55:56,600 --> 00:55:59,240
Speaker 1: hear them. I don't want to feel so alone and slutty.

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Speaker 1: I need some flozzies. You know. I was about to

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Speaker 1: say you need some Friday fluzzies. Um. Also, yeah, I

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Speaker 1: keep them coming, but also some as your questions, if

1089
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Speaker 1: you have any questions, and you what, guys want us

1090
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Speaker 1: to talk about specific topics. Obviously we'll talk about anything. Clearly,

1091
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Speaker 1: I don't have any fucking secrets. My sister has an

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Speaker 1: android and she doesn't know how to do your and

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Speaker 1: my sister my parents, I mean, they can barely get

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Speaker 1: on the internet. So I'll just say, hey, mom and dad,

1095
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Speaker 1: I'm sorry for the things that I said, but you

1096
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Speaker 1: chose to listen. So hey, Rhonda, I'll tell you this.

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Speaker 1: It's your daughter has never had an orgy, so you

1098
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Speaker 1: can like you should be proud about that. I guess.

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Speaker 1: I mean, but have I not experienced life? Is this

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Speaker 1: my next chapter? You do? I do? Org That doesn't

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Speaker 1: really flow the same way. We'll come on with. Okay,

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Speaker 1: we'll think about it, we'll pray about it and get

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Speaker 1: back to you this Okay. We should probably go on

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Speaker 1: that note. Pick some people off with that statement. It

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Speaker 1: was a joke, guys, It was a joke. Thank you

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Speaker 1: guys so much for the emails. I hope you enjoyed

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Speaker 1: Chips already. Sorry, and we gotta go because this white

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Speaker 1: one is kicking funk. I'm going to write it down

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Speaker 1: this week. If you guys are going, hey, remember when

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Speaker 1: you're going through your Oh right, okay, I gotta know. Hey, Hey,

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Speaker 1: let's start over you guys. Everyone, we're gonna do a

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Speaker 1: take too. Hey, you guys, remember when you're living on

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Speaker 1: the edge, always remember to act casual. Nail that one

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Speaker 1: by by