1 00:00:01,360 --> 00:00:04,320 Speaker 1: Well, now it is time for today's Strawberry Letter, and 2 00:00:04,440 --> 00:00:08,080 Speaker 1: if you need advice on relationships, work, sex, parenting, and more, 3 00:00:08,440 --> 00:00:11,640 Speaker 1: please submit your Strawberry Letter to Steve RVFM dot com. 4 00:00:11,800 --> 00:00:14,160 Speaker 1: All you have to do is click submit Strawberry Letter, 5 00:00:14,160 --> 00:00:17,200 Speaker 1: and we could be reading your letter live on the air, 6 00:00:17,560 --> 00:00:20,480 Speaker 1: just like we're gonna read this one right here, right now, 7 00:00:20,840 --> 00:00:23,079 Speaker 1: and you never know, it could be yours. He thills 8 00:00:23,160 --> 00:00:26,479 Speaker 1: letters coming. Yeah, that's right, Shirley, could be yours, ladies, 9 00:00:26,480 --> 00:00:28,400 Speaker 1: and jonen is time for the Strawberry Letter with my 10 00:00:28,440 --> 00:00:32,080 Speaker 1: good friend, Shirley Strawberry. Thank you, my good friend. Junior. 11 00:00:32,240 --> 00:00:37,680 Speaker 1: Subject numbers don't lie. Dear Stephen, Shirley, I'm thirty three 12 00:00:37,760 --> 00:00:41,800 Speaker 1: years old and single. My uncle is like a father 13 00:00:41,920 --> 00:00:44,519 Speaker 1: to me, and he helped my mother raise me. He 14 00:00:44,800 --> 00:00:48,240 Speaker 1: is a sweetheart of a man, and he loves the Lord. 15 00:00:48,720 --> 00:00:51,760 Speaker 1: He's active in his church and he will help anyone 16 00:00:52,040 --> 00:00:55,080 Speaker 1: that needs him. He's worked all of his life and 17 00:00:55,160 --> 00:00:58,720 Speaker 1: he's got a little fortune saved up. He's fifty eight 18 00:00:59,000 --> 00:01:02,120 Speaker 1: and he has never been married, so he was anxious 19 00:01:02,160 --> 00:01:05,400 Speaker 1: to settle down. The lady he's been seeing is not 20 00:01:05,560 --> 00:01:10,000 Speaker 1: marriage material, and everyone in town knows it. The lady 21 00:01:10,200 --> 00:01:12,280 Speaker 1: used to run with my mother back when my mother 22 00:01:12,360 --> 00:01:16,000 Speaker 1: was abusing alcohol and running the streets. She's known this 23 00:01:16,040 --> 00:01:18,880 Speaker 1: woman for over thirty years, and she told me that 24 00:01:18,959 --> 00:01:21,240 Speaker 1: this woman had a fling with my father while she 25 00:01:21,360 --> 00:01:24,440 Speaker 1: was pregnant with me. I try to be cordial with 26 00:01:24,520 --> 00:01:27,000 Speaker 1: the woman because my uncle asked me to mind my 27 00:01:27,040 --> 00:01:31,040 Speaker 1: manners around her. There's a rumor that my mom's pastor 28 00:01:31,240 --> 00:01:34,640 Speaker 1: used to mess with this woman too. This is way 29 00:01:34,680 --> 00:01:37,920 Speaker 1: too many bodies from my uncle. My uncle asked my 30 00:01:37,959 --> 00:01:40,080 Speaker 1: mom and I to meet him at a jewelry store, 31 00:01:40,240 --> 00:01:42,760 Speaker 1: and my mom instantly knew that he was about to 32 00:01:42,800 --> 00:01:46,119 Speaker 1: get an engagement ring. He got a very nice ring, 33 00:01:46,400 --> 00:01:49,960 Speaker 1: and I stayed silent. The next day, I called him 34 00:01:50,200 --> 00:01:52,120 Speaker 1: and said that the lady has been with a lot 35 00:01:52,160 --> 00:01:54,960 Speaker 1: of men in our town. My mother was in the 36 00:01:55,000 --> 00:01:59,480 Speaker 1: background telling my uncle that he's being used and numbers 37 00:01:59,560 --> 00:02:03,880 Speaker 1: don't He said he'd take everything into account and talk 38 00:02:03,960 --> 00:02:06,320 Speaker 1: with the woman before he asked her to marry him. 39 00:02:06,880 --> 00:02:10,840 Speaker 1: A week later, they got married down at the courthouse 40 00:02:11,040 --> 00:02:15,519 Speaker 1: and no one from our family was invited. We tried 41 00:02:15,560 --> 00:02:19,000 Speaker 1: calling him and he blocked all of us. I was 42 00:02:19,040 --> 00:02:22,080 Speaker 1: only trying to help him how could my father figure 43 00:02:22,200 --> 00:02:26,680 Speaker 1: shut me out and pick her. Well, that's not a 44 00:02:26,680 --> 00:02:31,320 Speaker 1: hard question, because haven't you heard the term stay out 45 00:02:31,320 --> 00:02:35,239 Speaker 1: of grown folks business. Well, you know that's what you've 46 00:02:35,240 --> 00:02:38,720 Speaker 1: done here. You've gotten in some grown folks business that 47 00:02:38,840 --> 00:02:43,760 Speaker 1: you had no business being in. Period. He did it 48 00:02:44,120 --> 00:02:47,960 Speaker 1: because he loves this woman, or he can have sex 49 00:02:48,000 --> 00:02:51,960 Speaker 1: with her, and whatever the reason, it's none of your concern. Okay, 50 00:02:52,000 --> 00:02:55,400 Speaker 1: he didn't pick her over you. This is not a competition. 51 00:02:55,680 --> 00:02:58,120 Speaker 1: He picked the woman he wanted to spend his life 52 00:02:58,120 --> 00:03:03,120 Speaker 1: with you and your mom overstep. You're meddling, you're being messy, 53 00:03:03,320 --> 00:03:06,760 Speaker 1: don't you think if everyone in town knows about this woman, 54 00:03:07,520 --> 00:03:10,920 Speaker 1: so does your uncle who's fifty eight and and you know, 55 00:03:11,080 --> 00:03:15,320 Speaker 1: been out there. He knows what's going on, and that's 56 00:03:15,320 --> 00:03:19,119 Speaker 1: who he's marrying. He doesn't care, he doesn't care. That's 57 00:03:19,160 --> 00:03:21,960 Speaker 1: who he's going to marry. She is who he wants. 58 00:03:22,120 --> 00:03:25,040 Speaker 1: Get used to saying that and feeling that and knowing that, 59 00:03:25,160 --> 00:03:27,720 Speaker 1: because he's done it already. Anyway, he's a grown man 60 00:03:27,919 --> 00:03:31,160 Speaker 1: with a few coins. He's worked hard for his money 61 00:03:31,320 --> 00:03:33,839 Speaker 1: and now he wants what he wants, and he wants her. 62 00:03:34,400 --> 00:03:36,920 Speaker 1: And what's it to you if he marries her. He's 63 00:03:36,960 --> 00:03:40,800 Speaker 1: not asking for your approval anyway. What are you afraid 64 00:03:40,840 --> 00:03:43,480 Speaker 1: he might give away his so called fortune because I 65 00:03:43,600 --> 00:03:45,560 Speaker 1: see you mentioned that in a letter he's got some 66 00:03:45,680 --> 00:03:50,280 Speaker 1: coins and there won't be anything left for you. Well, 67 00:03:50,320 --> 00:03:52,560 Speaker 1: there is a chance of that if he and he 68 00:03:52,680 --> 00:03:55,160 Speaker 1: is married to her and things will go to her now, 69 00:03:55,600 --> 00:03:59,119 Speaker 1: but you'll be fine. You can't miss what you never had. 70 00:03:59,480 --> 00:04:02,200 Speaker 1: So it's time now for you to concentrate on your 71 00:04:02,280 --> 00:04:07,040 Speaker 1: own life and leave your uncle alone and his new bride. 72 00:04:07,160 --> 00:04:10,440 Speaker 1: Leave them alone. He doesn't want to hear it. That's 73 00:04:10,480 --> 00:04:16,599 Speaker 1: why he blocked you. Okay, let us go, Steve, Well, 74 00:04:16,880 --> 00:04:19,200 Speaker 1: that is pretty simple for me. The thirty three year 75 00:04:19,200 --> 00:04:22,760 Speaker 1: old now the number the tyler the letter is numbers 76 00:04:22,800 --> 00:04:27,719 Speaker 1: don't lie. Now it's thirty three year old single lady, 77 00:04:27,960 --> 00:04:32,240 Speaker 1: which means she got time for this. Oh got an uncle, 78 00:04:32,320 --> 00:04:35,440 Speaker 1: that's her father to her. You know, mother helped her, 79 00:04:35,880 --> 00:04:39,320 Speaker 1: helped her mother raise him. Here's a deal. He's a 80 00:04:39,400 --> 00:04:41,760 Speaker 1: sweetheart of a man and he loves the Lord. He's 81 00:04:41,800 --> 00:04:45,760 Speaker 1: active in the church and will help anybody that needs him. Well, 82 00:04:47,279 --> 00:04:50,039 Speaker 1: people that loves the Lord and active in the church, 83 00:04:51,160 --> 00:04:55,200 Speaker 1: always willing to help somebody sometimes, you know, then they 84 00:04:55,279 --> 00:05:00,040 Speaker 1: just won't that wild thing. You know, they won't. You 85 00:05:00,080 --> 00:05:03,680 Speaker 1: know we've been we've been serving the Lord. Yes, we 86 00:05:03,839 --> 00:05:10,960 Speaker 1: active in the church. You know, willis Saturday night in 87 00:05:10,960 --> 00:05:17,440 Speaker 1: the church's clothes. Okay. And Dukepop, I'm gonna call him Dupop. 88 00:05:19,080 --> 00:05:24,440 Speaker 1: Dupop wants a wild thing, so Dukepop. And then you 89 00:05:24,480 --> 00:05:28,280 Speaker 1: said he's worked all his life, he's got a little 90 00:05:28,320 --> 00:05:31,719 Speaker 1: fortune saved up, saved up. He's never been married. So 91 00:05:31,839 --> 00:05:39,400 Speaker 1: he was anxious to settle down. He fifty eight? When 92 00:05:39,480 --> 00:05:43,600 Speaker 1: did he get anxious to settle down? He damned this 93 00:05:44,120 --> 00:05:50,479 Speaker 1: sixty Now he anxious to settle down. You probably don't 94 00:05:50,480 --> 00:05:55,320 Speaker 1: know a lot about your uncle because your uncle ain't 95 00:05:55,360 --> 00:05:59,280 Speaker 1: been single the whole fifty eight years. Your uncle had 96 00:05:59,360 --> 00:06:03,080 Speaker 1: done something. Now you call him a sweetheart of a 97 00:06:03,160 --> 00:06:05,320 Speaker 1: man all you won't. And I probably think he is 98 00:06:05,360 --> 00:06:09,640 Speaker 1: a nice guy, especially to you and your mother. But 99 00:06:09,760 --> 00:06:13,120 Speaker 1: do pop it out there doing something, and he doing 100 00:06:13,160 --> 00:06:16,760 Speaker 1: some things with a little wire girl too, and little 101 00:06:16,760 --> 00:06:20,040 Speaker 1: wire girl putting it on him. And he wants to 102 00:06:20,040 --> 00:06:23,440 Speaker 1: marry this girl. Y'all got a problem with it. And 103 00:06:23,520 --> 00:06:25,400 Speaker 1: when I come back, I give you the rest of it. 104 00:06:25,440 --> 00:06:28,560 Speaker 1: Ain't gonna be much anohing. You ain't gonna like when 105 00:06:28,560 --> 00:06:31,240 Speaker 1: I'm about to say, I'm gonna get out of what 106 00:06:31,400 --> 00:06:34,920 Speaker 1: Sherley said. It really ain't your damn business. We'll be 107 00:06:35,000 --> 00:06:38,600 Speaker 1: back to find out that it ain't your damn business 108 00:06:38,839 --> 00:06:43,440 Speaker 1: right after this. That's right at twenty three minutes after 109 00:06:43,480 --> 00:06:46,919 Speaker 1: the hour A, Part two of Steve's response is coming 110 00:06:47,040 --> 00:06:51,000 Speaker 1: up to today's strawberry letter, Numbers Don't Lie. Right after that. 111 00:06:51,920 --> 00:06:55,840 Speaker 1: You're listening to Steve Harvey Morning Show. Come on, Steve, 112 00:06:55,920 --> 00:07:01,039 Speaker 1: Let's recap today strawberry letter. The subject is numbers Don't Lie. Well, 113 00:07:01,080 --> 00:07:03,919 Speaker 1: it's thirty three year old single lady who's obviously single 114 00:07:03,960 --> 00:07:06,440 Speaker 1: because she got time for this. Her uncle's like a 115 00:07:06,520 --> 00:07:10,400 Speaker 1: father to helped her mother raised her. He's a sweetheart 116 00:07:10,480 --> 00:07:12,480 Speaker 1: of a man. He loves the Lord. He's active in 117 00:07:12,560 --> 00:07:14,560 Speaker 1: the church, and he will help anyone that needs him. 118 00:07:14,800 --> 00:07:17,480 Speaker 1: Like I said before the break, he's been loving the 119 00:07:17,560 --> 00:07:19,960 Speaker 1: Lord a long time and been active in the church. 120 00:07:21,200 --> 00:07:25,600 Speaker 1: Do Pop wants a wild thing? Because church ain't open 121 00:07:25,640 --> 00:07:28,760 Speaker 1: on Saturday night. Before he go to church, Pop'm gonna 122 00:07:28,800 --> 00:07:31,920 Speaker 1: do something wild. He'd worked all his life, he got 123 00:07:31,960 --> 00:07:34,240 Speaker 1: a little fortune saved up he's fifty eight. He's never 124 00:07:34,280 --> 00:07:37,880 Speaker 1: been married, so he's anxious to settle down. I don't 125 00:07:37,920 --> 00:07:40,600 Speaker 1: know how you think anxious to settle down starts at 126 00:07:40,640 --> 00:07:45,160 Speaker 1: fifty eight, but it don't. He's really late. The lady 127 00:07:45,200 --> 00:07:48,320 Speaker 1: he's been seeing is not marriage material, and everybody in 128 00:07:48,400 --> 00:07:50,360 Speaker 1: town knows. And I want you to bear that in 129 00:07:50,440 --> 00:07:53,360 Speaker 1: mine because I'm gonna give that information back to you. Short. 130 00:07:54,400 --> 00:07:56,920 Speaker 1: The lady used to run with my mother back when 131 00:07:56,960 --> 00:08:00,760 Speaker 1: my mother was abusing alcohol and running the streets. She's 132 00:08:00,800 --> 00:08:02,880 Speaker 1: known this woman for thirty years. And she told me 133 00:08:02,960 --> 00:08:06,480 Speaker 1: that this woman had a fleeing with my father while 134 00:08:06,560 --> 00:08:13,200 Speaker 1: she was pregnant with me. Okay, and didn't you say 135 00:08:13,240 --> 00:08:17,600 Speaker 1: that was thirty years ago? Didn't not you say that 136 00:08:17,680 --> 00:08:22,000 Speaker 1: was thirty years ago? Wasn't she running with your mama? 137 00:08:23,960 --> 00:08:27,840 Speaker 1: Did your mama? Girl? Now, all of a sudden, your 138 00:08:27,840 --> 00:08:30,520 Speaker 1: mama good enough to be mama, but the other lady 139 00:08:30,520 --> 00:08:33,720 Speaker 1: ain't good enough to be white? Make up your mind now? 140 00:08:35,080 --> 00:08:41,840 Speaker 1: You do know people change? Didn't your mother change? Oh? 141 00:08:41,880 --> 00:08:46,680 Speaker 1: But this lady can't change. She used to run with 142 00:08:46,800 --> 00:08:49,880 Speaker 1: your mother back when your mama was abusing alcohol and 143 00:08:50,000 --> 00:08:54,360 Speaker 1: running in the streets. She's known this woman for thirty years. 144 00:08:54,400 --> 00:08:56,080 Speaker 1: Told me that this woman had to flee with my 145 00:08:56,160 --> 00:08:59,360 Speaker 1: father while she was pregnant with me. That's what your 146 00:08:59,400 --> 00:09:07,840 Speaker 1: mama told. Okay, So so when don't y'all out there 147 00:09:08,120 --> 00:09:14,120 Speaker 1: running the streets of abusing alcohol. Okay, I try to 148 00:09:14,120 --> 00:09:16,560 Speaker 1: be cording with the woman because my uncle asked me 149 00:09:16,600 --> 00:09:20,680 Speaker 1: to mind my manners around her. There's a rumor that 150 00:09:20,760 --> 00:09:24,560 Speaker 1: my mom's pastor used to mess with this woman too. 151 00:09:25,840 --> 00:09:28,600 Speaker 1: That's way too many bodies from my uncle. Wait a minute, 152 00:09:29,840 --> 00:09:35,320 Speaker 1: so now a rumor is that your mother's pastor used 153 00:09:35,320 --> 00:09:39,160 Speaker 1: to mess with this woman too. Excuse me, you don't 154 00:09:39,200 --> 00:09:45,000 Speaker 1: see nothing wrong with the pastor though, So you're gonna 155 00:09:45,000 --> 00:09:48,800 Speaker 1: skip over your mama's pastor and go right back to 156 00:09:48,920 --> 00:09:54,000 Speaker 1: hubby and wrong. This is way too many bodies for 157 00:09:54,160 --> 00:09:56,559 Speaker 1: my uncle. My uncle asked my MoMA not to medium 158 00:09:56,559 --> 00:09:58,360 Speaker 1: out of jewry store my mom missing. He knew he 159 00:09:58,400 --> 00:10:00,800 Speaker 1: was gonna get an engagement read he got a very 160 00:10:00,880 --> 00:10:03,840 Speaker 1: nice ring, and I stayed side. Next day I called 161 00:10:03,880 --> 00:10:05,880 Speaker 1: him and said that the lady has been with a 162 00:10:05,880 --> 00:10:08,720 Speaker 1: lot of men in our time. You know nothing about 163 00:10:10,480 --> 00:10:14,959 Speaker 1: You're operating off rumor and something your drunk mama said 164 00:10:15,120 --> 00:10:18,480 Speaker 1: happened thirty some years ago. No, while she was drunk 165 00:10:18,520 --> 00:10:21,720 Speaker 1: and pregnant with you, her drunk friend slept with her husband. 166 00:10:22,520 --> 00:10:25,959 Speaker 1: What My mother was in the background telling my uncle 167 00:10:26,000 --> 00:10:29,360 Speaker 1: that he's being used. That numbers don't lie. He said 168 00:10:29,400 --> 00:10:31,760 Speaker 1: he'd take everything into a counter talk with the woman 169 00:10:31,800 --> 00:10:34,200 Speaker 1: before they asked him to marry him. A week later, 170 00:10:34,240 --> 00:10:36,480 Speaker 1: they got married at the courthouse. See when he went 171 00:10:36,559 --> 00:10:38,640 Speaker 1: to talk to him, she puts some more of that 172 00:10:38,760 --> 00:10:43,000 Speaker 1: happy thing on. See, she puts some more of that 173 00:10:43,160 --> 00:10:46,679 Speaker 1: thing on. So right after they got talking, he said, no, 174 00:10:47,280 --> 00:10:50,760 Speaker 1: man her hands to her, Mama, I should appreciate you. 175 00:10:50,880 --> 00:10:54,679 Speaker 1: Clean up to number that he listened to this house, Abigail, 176 00:10:55,240 --> 00:10:58,560 Speaker 1: ab Gail, listen to him talking to Jill Linda and 177 00:10:58,720 --> 00:11:04,240 Speaker 1: Jim Linda to him, were killing Lynda John Linda John. 178 00:11:04,320 --> 00:11:08,959 Speaker 1: Lynda said that, oh and and and my niece of 179 00:11:09,080 --> 00:11:16,040 Speaker 1: Paton John was talking to me about you, and they 180 00:11:16,080 --> 00:11:20,000 Speaker 1: said that you hadn't messed with the pastor Cleophus and 181 00:11:20,040 --> 00:11:25,840 Speaker 1: that you had slept with uh uh uh Abigail's uh 182 00:11:26,679 --> 00:11:33,160 Speaker 1: husband while they was man do that. I didn't do that, 183 00:11:34,360 --> 00:11:37,400 Speaker 1: He said, Well, I've gotta ask you a couple more questions. 184 00:11:38,040 --> 00:11:41,280 Speaker 1: What was you doing with these men back then? I shell? 185 00:11:42,920 --> 00:11:47,400 Speaker 1: Oh when they got through he later they got married 186 00:11:47,440 --> 00:11:50,520 Speaker 1: down at the Cold House, and no one from my 187 00:11:50,720 --> 00:11:54,800 Speaker 1: family was invited because y'all disapproved of the woman. We 188 00:11:54,960 --> 00:11:58,080 Speaker 1: tried calling him. He blocked all of us. I was 189 00:11:58,200 --> 00:12:01,600 Speaker 1: only trying to help him hockey. My father figures, shut 190 00:12:01,640 --> 00:12:05,160 Speaker 1: me out and pick her? What how he picked her? 191 00:12:05,760 --> 00:12:13,040 Speaker 1: Chick her it that Chanice was so easy. Do you 192 00:12:13,240 --> 00:12:19,360 Speaker 1: know what she's doing to you? What's her name? What's 193 00:12:19,360 --> 00:12:29,760 Speaker 1: her name? Uh? Linda is putting some Abigail is her mom? Mom? Yeah? Yeah, 194 00:12:29,800 --> 00:12:32,400 Speaker 1: all of all in the put put this thing on him. 195 00:12:32,480 --> 00:12:35,199 Speaker 1: I'm talking about he can't even see good and he 196 00:12:35,360 --> 00:12:41,960 Speaker 1: just is happy because he was what was his name? Uh? 197 00:12:42,559 --> 00:12:51,040 Speaker 1: The opoletes Greek? Okay, well they named him after the 198 00:12:51,080 --> 00:12:53,920 Speaker 1: one side Clops because that's what they used to call 199 00:12:54,000 --> 00:13:00,720 Speaker 1: him when he was side Clops. He was a lot 200 00:13:00,480 --> 00:13:05,400 Speaker 1: of family. Yeah right. Please leave your comments on Today's 201 00:13:05,480 --> 00:13:08,760 Speaker 1: letter on Instagram and Steve Harvey f M, and please 202 00:13:08,840 --> 00:13:12,000 Speaker 1: check out the Strawberry Letter podcast on demand. 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