WEBVTT - Ep 288: Love & Bachata (Ft. LES Chat Podcast) 0:00:02.480 --> 0:00:10.079 Guess what decision we're about to make. Horrible decisions. Come on, 0:00:12.880 --> 0:00:18.079 Harry Blood, this is what's that mean your Monday b 0:00:18.480 --> 0:00:25.800 a k A dot Beach And you know I've been 0:00:25.840 --> 0:00:31.920 to Mexico, so um, I want stars. What else do 0:00:32.000 --> 0:00:35.320 I know? We answer nor own questions? Is my favorite 0:00:35.360 --> 0:00:40.680 kind of insulada um not talking about Sally be but 0:00:40.800 --> 0:00:47.560 you don't know, but I like um boguesso. Guys. Welcome 0:00:47.640 --> 0:00:54.000 to the guys. I'm wheezy, welcome back to another episode 0:00:54.040 --> 0:00:55.800 of Horrible Decisions. I want to give a shout out 0:00:55.840 --> 0:00:58.640 to my girl Jasmine who told me it was Hispanic 0:00:58.680 --> 0:01:03.800 carritage month. And we don't you got no Latinos or 0:01:03.920 --> 0:01:07.680 anybody like Latino community, seriously, and that's the first of all, Beach, 0:01:07.720 --> 0:01:12.160 we are a ni podcast. But also okay, you're right, 0:01:12.400 --> 0:01:15.440 and luckily you know Hispanic because you know, ship's normally 0:01:15.480 --> 0:01:17.800 a full month of something. I was like, we don't 0:01:17.800 --> 0:01:22.080 have December, how this September fifteen, October fift I mean 0:01:22.120 --> 0:01:24.240 it's a whole month, but but no, it's but it's 0:01:24.280 --> 0:01:28.679 like a fiscal weird fiscal here. Um, it's thanks for 0:01:28.760 --> 0:01:35.959 us because we it's the black Effect Network. Yeah, we 0:01:36.040 --> 0:01:39.360 have the leeds Chat podcast in the building. We have 0:01:39.760 --> 0:01:51.040 to say your name first. Dirara Dia. Yeah, they used 0:01:51.080 --> 0:01:54.800 to call me that when I was there, I was 0:01:54.840 --> 0:02:01.480 called a man do like, Yeah, I fucking hate children. 0:02:01.920 --> 0:02:05.320 Really the kids, no, unless they're mine. I don't want 0:02:05.360 --> 0:02:12.959 to me that Jojo Jo it's a diarrhean, so it's 0:02:13.000 --> 0:02:19.160 really Joanna. Yeah, but you guys are we've had a 0:02:19.160 --> 0:02:21.600 couple before in the building. We haven't had a lesbian 0:02:21.600 --> 0:02:24.359 couple year. I don't think you're welcome. We had I had, 0:02:24.600 --> 0:02:27.160 I interviewed my she was my excellent episode. Every the 0:02:27.160 --> 0:02:28.919 ones who wanted to see us after that doesn't count 0:02:29.000 --> 0:02:33.079 those scissors Patreon, We're going to get the no. But yeah, 0:02:33.240 --> 0:02:36.800 how long y'all been together? Almost three years? What are 0:02:36.800 --> 0:02:37.960 you gonna do if you break up and you got 0:02:38.000 --> 0:02:43.360 a podcast? God? Bless oh no, get married? So my god, 0:02:43.600 --> 0:02:46.480 is that the card? Chin? Nobody proposed it. I just 0:02:46.520 --> 0:02:49.960 told you I couldn't afford the podcast alone, let alone? 0:02:49.840 --> 0:02:53.520 YEA Like now real quick? So when when I when 0:02:53.560 --> 0:02:54.960 I saw you guys on the schedule, I was like, 0:02:55.160 --> 0:02:58.400 els pod, But let's can you guys tell me why 0:02:58.400 --> 0:03:01.640 you left out? The b n um for the podcast 0:03:01.760 --> 0:03:04.919 name why it's just less pod and clearly y'all if 0:03:04.919 --> 0:03:08.080 you haven't know, now we're talking a lot of carpet munching, 0:03:08.560 --> 0:03:11.720 uh this episode. So why what made you guys choose 0:03:11.800 --> 0:03:13.600 the name and what made you want to be so 0:03:14.080 --> 0:03:17.440 sexuality forward with your relationship? Is it because y'all are 0:03:17.440 --> 0:03:22.240 a couple like I want to get into that the podcast? No? Well, 0:03:22.280 --> 0:03:24.799 first of all, the being, I just what I does, 0:03:25.000 --> 0:03:28.280 like tay at this point, it's given women is good, 0:03:28.480 --> 0:03:33.480 let's be yeah like no women, No, we just it 0:03:33.560 --> 0:03:35.920 was just a drop it because everything's less beian this, 0:03:36.000 --> 0:03:38.800 lessbian that. And I feel like we're getting into a 0:03:38.840 --> 0:03:42.720 generation where it's not about labels anymore. Everyone te of 0:03:43.520 --> 0:03:47.960 binary no, no, no, okay, now everybody else let's know 0:03:50.320 --> 0:03:53.640 she Thank god there was anything else. I was gonna 0:03:53.680 --> 0:03:57.080 have a real quick they happened to me, and as 0:03:57.120 --> 0:04:00.560 somebody that I do respect people's prono do you are 0:04:00.760 --> 0:04:02.720 say they them? I'm gonna probably just try to call 0:04:02.760 --> 0:04:05.000 you your first name in case I forget. So I 0:04:05.040 --> 0:04:08.520 went into this pet store um in Silver Lake, which 0:04:08.600 --> 0:04:10.560 if no one's heard of Silver Lakes, this area in 0:04:10.640 --> 0:04:13.800 Los Angeles. That's giving Williamsburg. So no, nobody's bitches talking 0:04:13.800 --> 0:04:16.000 to me like that, and I could call that they 0:04:16.040 --> 0:04:21.360 them a beach. So I get to the register and um, honestly, 0:04:21.440 --> 0:04:25.839 they didn't look androgynous, which is generally when someone's there them, 0:04:25.880 --> 0:04:27.799 they've got that look. But I get you can be whatever, 0:04:28.279 --> 0:04:30.640 um what whatever. So I'm leaving. They were helping me 0:04:30.640 --> 0:04:32.159 with shift fro Nina. I was like, all right, ladies, 0:04:32.200 --> 0:04:35.159 thank you. On the way out, this girl stops me 0:04:35.200 --> 0:04:37.880 their works there and goes, oh, they're a non binary 0:04:38.320 --> 0:04:41.480 And I was like, okay, girl, because I'm just shopping 0:04:41.480 --> 0:04:44.480 here like you down having on. She's like, no, no, 0:04:44.520 --> 0:04:45.840 I just know you come in a lot. I wanted 0:04:45.880 --> 0:04:50.400 you to know that they are non binary. I said, okay, girl, 0:04:50.480 --> 0:04:52.960 like I said, and I made sure to call her 0:04:53.000 --> 0:04:55.880 girl again and then she like says something else to me, 0:04:55.880 --> 0:04:58.839 and I'm like, bro, I didn't even say ladies on 0:04:58.880 --> 0:05:00.719 purpose to the bitch like and then she was like 0:05:00.800 --> 0:05:03.520 they them and I'm like, so now you're telling me 0:05:03.560 --> 0:05:05.520 I can't call a vy them person a bitch, because 0:05:05.520 --> 0:05:07.080 I'm gonna call a bitch whoever the I want to 0:05:07.080 --> 0:05:09.440 call a bo i didn't say that on the way 0:05:09.440 --> 0:05:14.680 out in the car that first of all, we should 0:05:14.720 --> 0:05:17.400 talk about that, because with pronouns, would you not have 0:05:17.480 --> 0:05:19.560 felt like that, I'm walking out the store sold the 0:05:19.560 --> 0:05:21.520 way they tried to cancel me already with pronouns. I'm 0:05:21.520 --> 0:05:23.880 not just not gonna talk on this matter. So I 0:05:23.920 --> 0:05:26.960 think that you're pronouns, you should say them obviously if 0:05:27.000 --> 0:05:29.599 you are in conversation with someone, but you checking me 0:05:29.640 --> 0:05:33.480 out the door? What just because I said bye ladies? 0:05:34.600 --> 0:05:38.480 Did I say bye bitches? Now? Dog, I'm tired? Yeah, 0:05:38.720 --> 0:05:41.960 she just got a gross h there's someone not Mari 0:05:42.040 --> 0:05:44.400 Binary listening to this and watching this. She's gonna get 0:05:45.120 --> 0:05:46.839 And I'm not trying to be Andrew Sheltz here because 0:05:46.839 --> 0:05:49.080 I would respect your pronouns, but you ain't gonna tell 0:05:49.120 --> 0:05:51.559 me that she did at the Star Dog. I really 0:05:51.760 --> 0:05:54.400 feel like now you only use pronouns in certain settings. 0:05:55.080 --> 0:06:00.920 Get to sick with us. My intent just saying you 0:06:00.960 --> 0:06:03.400 could call it in a workplace but not a store. Wheezy, 0:06:03.560 --> 0:06:06.480 I thought you were supposed to be progressing. I'm progressing. 0:06:06.520 --> 0:06:07.960 What you want me to do? Turn around with my 0:06:08.040 --> 0:06:12.200 receive and be like my bad day, my bad y'all. 0:06:12.240 --> 0:06:14.840 Basically you know what you would say for them and there, yeah, 0:06:15.080 --> 0:06:18.360 you can't. You gotta make it like you do. You 0:06:18.360 --> 0:06:22.160 guys have any non binary friends? Actually we don't. You 0:06:22.200 --> 0:06:25.640 guys Puerto Rican Dominican. I'm Dominican and Puerto Rican. Okay, 0:06:31.320 --> 0:06:36.200 not from dying because I knowed you well real quick, 0:06:36.200 --> 0:06:38.920 I'm about to get talking now. You actually look like 0:06:39.080 --> 0:06:41.560 one of the hookah girls up in Dykeman. I'm only 0:06:41.600 --> 0:06:44.320 gonna say this because you're so beautiful, and y'all trying 0:06:44.320 --> 0:06:47.320 to give me a compliment and it wasn't he Now 0:06:47.600 --> 0:06:49.920 now I'm gonna like stereotype the funk out of you 0:06:50.360 --> 0:06:52.400 because you're beautiful. So I was like, you know, you 0:06:52.480 --> 0:06:54.200 look like you would be a bottle service girl up 0:06:54.200 --> 0:07:02.080 in Dykeman. You know she got a bottle service fresh giving. No, 0:07:02.400 --> 0:07:04.960 so they will come up and be like maybe, I'm 0:07:05.040 --> 0:07:07.680 so sorry because honestly, I taught you did not even 0:07:07.760 --> 0:07:11.800 what strawberry we put the blue berries in there. I'm 0:07:11.880 --> 0:07:14.000 so sorry because I thought you like blueberries. You got 0:07:14.040 --> 0:07:18.280 a blue shirt on one you like that. Well, let's 0:07:18.480 --> 0:07:20.440 you know what, you only got no non binary friends? 0:07:20.960 --> 0:07:25.480 Because I'm done. No, I'm gonna. I don't saying I 0:07:25.560 --> 0:07:28.880 feel like, you know, black people and Latino people just 0:07:28.920 --> 0:07:31.520 don't let you have it. But black people be trying. 0:07:31.760 --> 0:07:33.800 But all of my friends a Dominican in Puerto Rican, 0:07:33.840 --> 0:07:36.840 they be they'd be off. They don't really catch all 0:07:36.920 --> 0:07:38.480 too quick. They'd be like, what are you talking about? 0:07:43.960 --> 0:07:51.000 Like I gotta be like, imagine your dad's I'm trying 0:07:51.040 --> 0:07:54.080 to understand that one of you is non binary? What 0:07:54.280 --> 0:07:58.480 hopping you already? Like the women will hopping body? Why 0:07:58.600 --> 0:08:03.920 not act not like that? You guys started this podcast. 0:08:04.080 --> 0:08:05.440 What are the things that you talked about on the 0:08:05.440 --> 0:08:09.840 show besides so? So we talked about we talked about dating, 0:08:09.880 --> 0:08:12.840 we talk about friendships, we talked about coming out, we 0:08:12.920 --> 0:08:16.840 talked about literally everything. And we now we built like 0:08:16.920 --> 0:08:20.240 this community where people ask us questions. So we started 0:08:20.280 --> 0:08:23.080 this new thing called family Meeting where we answer questions 0:08:23.960 --> 0:08:26.720 and we got crazy asked questions. Like one of them 0:08:26.720 --> 0:08:29.680 that went viral on TikTok was this couple married for 0:08:29.760 --> 0:08:34.480 five years um and her wife got pregnant by a man. 0:08:34.960 --> 0:08:37.280 So she asked us, do you think I should stay 0:08:37.320 --> 0:08:39.920 with her until the baby is born? And we were 0:08:40.000 --> 0:08:44.640 like no, like get out of their asap. Speaking of 0:08:44.840 --> 0:08:46.640 I want to shout out to my friend. There was 0:08:46.679 --> 0:08:49.600 a caller on her show, and I want to know 0:08:49.679 --> 0:08:52.480 y'all thoughts on this. We're not in the homemail portion yet, 0:08:52.520 --> 0:08:55.000 but she brought this up and I was like, bitch, stop. 0:08:55.600 --> 0:08:58.560 So there was a lesbian couple that wanted to have 0:08:58.880 --> 0:09:04.360 a baby the traditional way, so through interstus well through 0:09:04.400 --> 0:09:07.760 intercourse and through somebody. They knew it was their neighbor, 0:09:08.720 --> 0:09:11.600 and the neighbor was fucking both of them because both 0:09:11.640 --> 0:09:13.960 of them could carry, so he was just sucking both 0:09:13.960 --> 0:09:16.640 of them for about six months. So he wrote in 0:09:16.720 --> 0:09:19.360 and was like, I have not told them I'm snipped. 0:09:22.440 --> 0:09:26.200 And so the conversation was the advice on how he 0:09:26.200 --> 0:09:28.600 should let them know that he's been sucking this lesbian 0:09:28.640 --> 0:09:32.160 couple who wants to procreate, but he is not. Look 0:09:32.160 --> 0:09:37.640 at everyone's face. You would allegedly all turn into a 0:09:37.720 --> 0:09:42.000 kill on here, but yeah, like fuck, look everyone's face 0:09:42.040 --> 0:09:45.840 just dropped and I don't even know. I mean, if 0:09:45.880 --> 0:09:49.440 you snipped, he's not not for doing that. Like they 0:09:49.480 --> 0:09:51.560 came to him because there was a relationship and he 0:09:51.600 --> 0:09:54.719 hadn't let them know that he snipped his balls. And 0:09:54.840 --> 0:09:57.560 was just sucking both of them and they had the balls. 0:09:57.760 --> 0:10:00.840 Oh here we go, all right, so let's put it 0:10:00.880 --> 0:10:04.960 out there. I know people say, no, way, you're really gay, 0:10:05.000 --> 0:10:08.520 because we always assume that someone that's more feminine got 0:10:08.520 --> 0:10:11.199 to be by or maybe she's just with you right now. 0:10:11.360 --> 0:10:13.640 Like my ex used to get hello pissed when people 0:10:13.640 --> 0:10:15.800 would do that to us. And I'm curious. But you know, 0:10:16.640 --> 0:10:18.960 so I'm sure someone said it to you, right, How 0:10:18.960 --> 0:10:21.120 does it make you feel when men do that and 0:10:21.240 --> 0:10:26.959 you're around, Like, who when they say they say that 0:10:27.280 --> 0:10:31.480 to me because they're It's crazy because now I feel 0:10:31.520 --> 0:10:33.560 like men are getting to the point where they're not 0:10:33.640 --> 0:10:37.080 even pursuing the feminine women. They pusuing a masculine one 0:10:37.080 --> 0:10:39.319 because I kind of looked like you on a normal day, 0:10:39.400 --> 0:10:44.720 and they still do. They still want to, right, but 0:10:44.760 --> 0:10:48.720 ID but no I say that because like I feel like, 0:10:48.760 --> 0:10:50.720 if you guys are together and they would only do 0:10:50.760 --> 0:10:53.040 it to her, like, what what is your rebuttal when 0:10:53.040 --> 0:10:55.160 someone's trying to like, let me see you kiss her? 0:10:55.440 --> 0:10:58.000 Your guys be scared of her? I swear to god. 0:10:58.520 --> 0:11:00.600 We went to Hawaii and we were at the club 0:11:00.640 --> 0:11:03.240 and some guy was coming up to me, and I 0:11:03.320 --> 0:11:05.000 was I have a girlfriend. She's standing there right there, 0:11:05.000 --> 0:11:07.120 and he was like, oh, my bad, my boy, I 0:11:07.200 --> 0:11:11.079 saw you. He was like like you're my bad bro, 0:11:11.200 --> 0:11:15.720 like y'all y'all beautiful, and I'm like, thank you all right, 0:11:15.960 --> 0:11:18.360 Like I don't I don't take offense to it because 0:11:18.360 --> 0:11:22.440 I don't look good and good too. So what happens 0:11:22.480 --> 0:11:26.160 to you when straight girls are like, oh I can 0:11:26.240 --> 0:11:31.720 with this type, I'd be ready to go to fight bitches. 0:11:31.840 --> 0:11:33.679 I swear to God, this why I don't go to 0:11:33.760 --> 0:11:36.960 lesbian parties. The last one was called copa Cabana and 0:11:37.040 --> 0:11:40.200 bitches be fighting. They do like they really be fighting. 0:11:40.440 --> 0:11:42.320 The X was ready to fight when she came to 0:11:42.360 --> 0:11:44.719 the Miami show. We had do you do you? Are 0:11:44.720 --> 0:11:46.880 you guys open to you guys bring women in? Is 0:11:46.920 --> 0:11:49.320 it just you are y'all monogamous? And what do those 0:11:49.320 --> 0:11:52.199 conversations look like? It's looking like it's just being her 0:11:53.520 --> 0:11:58.520 what you guys came on the show. We don't have sex. 0:11:58.559 --> 0:12:00.800 So I'm not only that you little brought us liquor. 0:12:00.800 --> 0:12:04.360 I'm drinking because I so how it was like it 0:12:04.400 --> 0:12:07.319 depends on money, like shots, I got it that's like, oh, 0:12:07.400 --> 0:12:12.720 we gotta be on vacation and lyddy like with other 0:12:12.760 --> 0:12:16.200 paths or y'all want to go. I have miles, Come on, 0:12:17.440 --> 0:12:23.360 I have miles any more. I mean we're looking for 0:12:23.400 --> 0:12:31.439 a sugar, not that that's this one. Oh yeah, I 0:12:31.480 --> 0:12:34.840 don't even say, because it's true. She's on the nut, 0:12:35.040 --> 0:12:37.240 you know what, that's what we make money for, bro 0:12:37.600 --> 0:12:41.000 not to I'm not tricking it. Ain't trick it if 0:12:41.000 --> 0:12:45.200 you got it. For one, I really don't think spending 0:12:45.240 --> 0:12:49.920 my money on like not even I'm companionship, right because 0:12:49.960 --> 0:12:52.839 like I'm gonna get pussy your dick anyway, you know 0:12:52.880 --> 0:12:54.720 what I'm saying. But like I do like treating people 0:12:54.720 --> 0:12:56.280 to ship. That would you do that for a man? 0:12:57.559 --> 0:12:59.440 I don't do it for anybody, not more women I've 0:12:59.520 --> 0:13:03.079 dated though, because I kind of like the courting of women, 0:13:03.320 --> 0:13:05.360 even when it's myself, right, like when men courted me. 0:13:05.440 --> 0:13:08.080 But like I like like splurging on men for things, 0:13:08.120 --> 0:13:13.199 but like generally with women. Like so when threesomes, you 0:13:13.200 --> 0:13:14.760 guys have never had one, so you feel like you've 0:13:14.760 --> 0:13:16.800 got to be on vacation. Do you guys have a type? 0:13:16.840 --> 0:13:19.680 Have you guys? I thought about you know. What's funny, 0:13:19.720 --> 0:13:22.920 we don't and we both dated like different type of women, 0:13:23.000 --> 0:13:27.839 like stud she's dated, So it really depends on the person. 0:13:28.040 --> 0:13:31.240 It's interesting that was a issue with my ex, Like 0:13:31.760 --> 0:13:33.439 we didn't seem to have the same type. So when 0:13:33.440 --> 0:13:35.080 we would go to sex clus when we go out, 0:13:35.800 --> 0:13:37.880 the woman that he would look at was never the 0:13:37.920 --> 0:13:40.040 woman I was looking at, and vice versa, and so 0:13:40.120 --> 0:13:42.240 I was just like, you go have your phone on man, 0:13:42.360 --> 0:13:46.120 my fine, and well, um, but you guys clearly are 0:13:46.280 --> 0:13:50.720 into that. So have you guys discussed then what you like, 0:13:50.960 --> 0:13:54.080 what you like and how that could come together? Now? 0:13:55.200 --> 0:14:02.600 Why why why like here? Because that way, I think 0:14:02.640 --> 0:14:05.120 it's mostly because we're still kind of fresh, and I 0:14:05.240 --> 0:14:07.760 think that coming from the situations we came from and 0:14:07.840 --> 0:14:10.320 the experience that we had in the past, that we're 0:14:10.440 --> 0:14:13.240 like trying to move intentionally together in the right ways. 0:14:13.559 --> 0:14:17.680 So we don't like, you know, that's so beautiful violent 0:14:17.800 --> 0:14:20.000 strings in here. That was still beautiful, But it's true though, 0:14:20.160 --> 0:14:23.400 Like Mandy and I, Um, we're talking in the episodes 0:14:23.440 --> 0:14:24.960 next week where we talked about our growth, and one 0:14:25.000 --> 0:14:27.880 of the things I said was that I don't think 0:14:28.360 --> 0:14:30.240 like I can have a threesome again until I'm really 0:14:30.280 --> 0:14:33.840 comfortable with somebody, like and obviously you're comfortable in two years, 0:14:33.960 --> 0:14:37.520 but like really like this is it because that ship 0:14:37.640 --> 0:14:40.600 has so many other dynamics And honestly, women are just 0:14:40.840 --> 0:14:43.960 like a lot, and I've never had a threesome with 0:14:44.240 --> 0:14:47.240 all women. But what I do know is sometimes the 0:14:47.360 --> 0:14:51.240 male energy can help a little bit, Like there's like 0:14:51.360 --> 0:14:55.280 this dominance thing of okay, well like who's like but 0:14:55.400 --> 0:14:59.440 sometimes this is like bites. For example, I one of 0:14:59.480 --> 0:15:02.520 your clips, there's a lot of domestic violence and gay relationships, 0:15:02.560 --> 0:15:04.200 and it's because we look at someone like, oh, you're 0:15:04.200 --> 0:15:06.560 a girl, I'm a guy. Whatever. But I do think 0:15:07.320 --> 0:15:09.920 sometimes it's harder to be more assertive with women. Do 0:15:10.000 --> 0:15:14.360 you find that in your relationship? Absolutely? I'm like, oh, baby, 0:15:15.680 --> 0:15:19.720 what's your last fight? About our last fight? God tell him, 0:15:19.800 --> 0:15:24.520 bab that was giving baby. He's talking about the only 0:15:24.600 --> 0:15:27.440 talked about in the best movie is that when it 0:15:27.640 --> 0:15:29.720 was I don't know, she threw water in my face. 0:15:30.280 --> 0:15:37.120 What's not loving hip hop? We're loving but cho let's 0:15:37.160 --> 0:15:44.800 go that's a um. We went to this poppy tour. 0:15:45.040 --> 0:15:48.480 I don't know if you guys ever heard of it. Yeah, 0:15:48.640 --> 0:15:51.360 it's no, no, no, it's basically like a party just 0:15:51.480 --> 0:15:54.640 for girls. Sorry poppy or something like poppy juice. No, 0:15:55.000 --> 0:15:56.720 it's no, no, it's close to that. But it's a 0:15:56.800 --> 0:16:00.120 gay party. No, it was actually just an all them. 0:16:00.160 --> 0:16:02.280 It's not even just a gay women's just all the 0:16:02.560 --> 0:16:05.840 general party. No men. And at the time they were 0:16:05.840 --> 0:16:08.400 doing the tour and it's like a more like Hispanic 0:16:08.480 --> 0:16:12.880 like a bunch of Hispanic females days and ship. But 0:16:12.960 --> 0:16:15.600 they played in Philly. We got tickets, we went, and 0:16:16.720 --> 0:16:22.520 it was a funch your bitches. There a lot of stras, 0:16:22.560 --> 0:16:25.000 but I think that that was like the you know, 0:16:25.480 --> 0:16:30.880 the insecurity right there was like straight bitches because in reality, females, 0:16:31.080 --> 0:16:33.000 I hate to say it, but at least this generation, 0:16:33.160 --> 0:16:34.720 a lot of females don't have respects. I don't know 0:16:34.760 --> 0:16:40.800 if you can't say females, don't you said women, just 0:16:40.880 --> 0:16:44.320 like you said tell them women, females whatever. Okay, you said, 0:16:44.320 --> 0:16:46.800 they don't have respect for who, like, in a sense 0:16:46.840 --> 0:16:49.640 of period of relationship, who you talk to, who you win? 0:16:50.200 --> 0:16:54.280 You don't know. We talked about that dreaming yeah yeah, yeah, 0:16:54.440 --> 0:16:56.360 but but but you're cool, someone be respectful and not 0:16:56.440 --> 0:16:59.080 super fled with her, but you I felt both for y'all, 0:16:59.360 --> 0:17:01.600 but like I'm gonna be respectful and not like you know, 0:17:01.840 --> 0:17:03.280 but you got some bitches that would be like I 0:17:03.320 --> 0:17:05.600 don't want to both y'all want to you wait in 0:17:05.680 --> 0:17:08.560 your face. Someone has said that they haven't said it, 0:17:08.640 --> 0:17:14.439 but there were actually this chicken and shea no, no, Jaica. 0:17:14.960 --> 0:17:18.760 There was something in Jamaica. Okay, So in Jamaica we 0:17:18.800 --> 0:17:21.000 actually happened there. It was like all of Jersey there 0:17:21.040 --> 0:17:23.359 for some random reason and they were we met another 0:17:24.119 --> 0:17:27.480 That's right, all of the Jersey was there and this 0:17:27.800 --> 0:17:29.760 this group was with us. We were getting lit and 0:17:29.800 --> 0:17:31.560 I guess they met this girl and this one guy 0:17:31.600 --> 0:17:33.200 who just got there at the end of our week 0:17:33.400 --> 0:17:35.760 and was like, Yeah, there's other people from Jersey here. 0:17:35.800 --> 0:17:37.840 They lit. It's fun. You gotta find them. We're in 0:17:37.920 --> 0:17:39.480 the pool when I hear this girl and the dude 0:17:39.520 --> 0:17:42.199 walking around. Yeah, we got funnies. Other Jersey people did. 0:17:42.920 --> 0:17:45.639 We ended up at the lobby bar and she was 0:17:45.760 --> 0:17:47.399 happy to be behind me talking about something. Yeah, we 0:17:47.400 --> 0:17:49.560 got funnies other Jersey girls. And I turn around, like, 0:17:49.800 --> 0:17:52.000 that's were you looking for us for? Just like oh, 0:17:52.040 --> 0:17:54.800 I heard y'all lit. The entire time we hung out, 0:17:54.920 --> 0:17:56.680 she was like looking at me, giving me the eyes 0:17:56.800 --> 0:18:00.639 like she was not my time? Yeah, what's up? Like? 0:18:01.400 --> 0:18:03.800 And I'm like, you could be fun up on vacation. 0:18:03.960 --> 0:18:08.080 Absolutely not, absolutely not. She didn't give an She was 0:18:08.160 --> 0:18:11.000 literally like she would be right here, her sister was 0:18:11.119 --> 0:18:13.159 right here, me and a girl and the girl's like, 0:18:13.320 --> 0:18:15.840 what's good? Like in front of in front of you, 0:18:16.200 --> 0:18:19.119 in front of her, in front of her. How do 0:18:19.240 --> 0:18:21.920 you how do you check people? Because like my friend 0:18:22.040 --> 0:18:24.440 has told me how she's checked men, how do you 0:18:24.600 --> 0:18:27.280 check women that cross boundaries? Because because they don't think 0:18:27.280 --> 0:18:30.120 they crossed them? Women do not think they boundaries, which 0:18:30.160 --> 0:18:32.399 is actually what we've talked about even going on tour, right, 0:18:32.560 --> 0:18:35.479 Like there's violations that come from men, but like when 0:18:35.520 --> 0:18:38.040 we would be on tour, bitches are grabbing, titties are 0:18:38.119 --> 0:18:40.680 asked and like touching us in ways that men could 0:18:40.720 --> 0:18:43.480 never but women don't feel like it's abountary work where 0:18:43.520 --> 0:18:45.520 they said they think that the women me two eras 0:18:45.600 --> 0:18:48.879 coming and I wanted to know, then, how do you 0:18:49.040 --> 0:18:51.960 check a woman who was violating as a woman. I 0:18:52.000 --> 0:18:55.920 feel like initially it's hard because we automatically assume like 0:18:56.080 --> 0:18:59.239 as women, we have that that right, because it's just like, oh, 0:18:59.280 --> 0:19:01.479 you're a girl, you got what I got, and that's 0:19:01.560 --> 0:19:05.480 kind of like the bond, right, And then I guess 0:19:05.760 --> 0:19:08.200 it's different, especially as a more master then person and 0:19:08.200 --> 0:19:13.160 individual for her being a fan, she's gonna be like, nah, 0:19:13.680 --> 0:19:15.760 that bit's trying you and I'm not working with it. 0:19:15.960 --> 0:19:18.400 And to me, at least, my mentors like, well, I'm 0:19:18.440 --> 0:19:21.040 still I'm still a bit too like im, but I'm 0:19:21.080 --> 0:19:22.880 not thinking about it. And it's as so she trying 0:19:22.880 --> 0:19:25.000 to kick it to me, and that's shawty really trying 0:19:25.040 --> 0:19:27.280 to kick it to me like she bust it moves um, 0:19:27.400 --> 0:19:30.480 which by that time it's already too late. But I 0:19:30.960 --> 0:19:34.160 just but I feel like when you have a girlfriend 0:19:34.240 --> 0:19:36.399 that looks as popping as she does, you gotta be 0:19:36.520 --> 0:19:42.159 okay with people just not feeling as women. Like in 0:19:42.320 --> 0:19:45.800 my relationship with my ex boyfriend, I sometimes would enjoy 0:19:45.840 --> 0:19:48.720 that attention with him. Right for my ex girlfriend, I 0:19:48.800 --> 0:19:52.880 had to do a lot more reassuring also, like maybe 0:19:53.000 --> 0:19:56.280 she was maybe crazier than he was, but it was 0:19:56.359 --> 0:19:57.800 that because she was a woman, Like I don't know, 0:19:58.000 --> 0:20:01.520 but oh yeah, like our first time having sex over years. 0:20:01.560 --> 0:20:04.280 Because if anyone remembers I dated Scissors when I was 0:20:04.320 --> 0:20:07.040 like two, we were sucking all the time. I came back. 0:20:07.080 --> 0:20:09.720 I had horrible decisions by then. For Thanksgiving flirty with 0:20:09.920 --> 0:20:11.920 one bitch in the club. She was like, you're gonna 0:20:11.960 --> 0:20:14.520 do that ship in my face? Bitch, are you crazy? 0:20:15.000 --> 0:20:16.399 And we were in the bathroom when it was over. 0:20:16.440 --> 0:20:18.200 Then then we got back to the other took that 0:20:18.280 --> 0:20:22.280 pussy right back after us City Walk night. But that ship, 0:20:22.600 --> 0:20:26.040 I do think it's something that you have to manage, right, 0:20:26.160 --> 0:20:28.240 Like how do you guys communicate when you're going out 0:20:28.280 --> 0:20:32.600 together to all women events, Like when something's making you uncomfortable, 0:20:32.600 --> 0:20:34.800 but you want to ruin the night. See, that's the thing. 0:20:34.960 --> 0:20:38.159 So when we went to Poppy Tour, right, yeah, I 0:20:38.440 --> 0:20:41.199 was having a lot of drinks, shot strengths whatever. There 0:20:41.240 --> 0:20:45.040 was a lot of straight girls, and girls knew that 0:20:45.160 --> 0:20:48.000 she's gay because you know, you look more more masculine, 0:20:48.160 --> 0:20:51.000 just like right now, you look more gay? Could I 0:20:51.200 --> 0:20:54.000 be a wrong with you? Even when you said masculine? 0:20:54.320 --> 0:20:58.879 We just had on jade? Right, yeah, you actually the 0:20:59.480 --> 0:21:02.080 yeah wait wait wait wait here we go, here we go. 0:21:03.880 --> 0:21:12.560 So Sam is in feminine she dress. That's science. Technology 0:21:12.600 --> 0:21:17.640 is something that and science sience. I know what you're 0:21:17.680 --> 0:21:20.920 talking about, electromagnetics. I don't know, but anyway, math is 0:21:20.960 --> 0:21:22.960 the last so right, So she's saying she gets hit 0:21:23.040 --> 0:21:26.560 on by women more okay because she looks gay. So 0:21:26.800 --> 0:21:32.520 that night I was like, girl, So I was like, 0:21:33.040 --> 0:21:34.920 I feel like you're not communicating with me because she 0:21:35.040 --> 0:21:36.520 kept like leaving. She was like going to the bar. 0:21:36.640 --> 0:21:38.200 She was like going to the bathroom. I was like, 0:21:38.280 --> 0:21:40.480 are you really going to the bar in the bathroom. 0:21:40.960 --> 0:21:43.879 So we got into like this huge argument in the 0:21:43.960 --> 0:21:47.440 bathroom and I threw my water at her because I 0:21:47.520 --> 0:21:50.040 was so pissed. He thought I was out here scoring bitches. 0:21:50.320 --> 0:21:52.800 But that was only because there was some chick actually 0:21:53.040 --> 0:21:56.200 like that. Eventually came up some girls trying to trying 0:21:56.240 --> 0:21:58.760 to get her Jojo and some other girl to make out. 0:21:59.359 --> 0:22:05.040 Oh I don't remember that. I don't somebody else remember somebody? Baby. 0:22:05.440 --> 0:22:09.200 I was working. I was actually more sober than they were, 0:22:09.840 --> 0:22:12.080 and when I was dipping, I wasn't like leaving. I 0:22:12.160 --> 0:22:14.520 was going to get them water. So I'm like, you know, 0:22:14.720 --> 0:22:17.920 it's why you came because it's a gentleman. No, it 0:22:18.040 --> 0:22:20.639 was like that gentleman made me to be like, babe, 0:22:20.720 --> 0:22:23.119 you and your sister me water, I got you stay here, 0:22:23.200 --> 0:22:25.920 hold our spot. I'm gonna get water. And she's like, 0:22:25.960 --> 0:22:28.200 where the funk you at? And I'm like, I'm getting 0:22:28.240 --> 0:22:30.320 y'all water. Y'all live like listen. But you know what 0:22:30.480 --> 0:22:33.680 was the most embarrassing part. We had listeners there and 0:22:33.760 --> 0:22:39.880 they saw it. He was hanging out with Well, y'all 0:22:39.920 --> 0:22:43.760 haven't had threesome. But would y'all be into because we 0:22:44.080 --> 0:22:49.879 loves sucking fans, would you guys love it? Girls like, 0:22:50.119 --> 0:22:56.600