1 00:00:01,080 --> 00:00:03,800 Speaker 1: All right, time now for today's Strawberry Letter, and listen. 2 00:00:03,840 --> 00:00:07,280 Speaker 1: If you need advice on relationships, dating, work, sex, parenting 3 00:00:07,280 --> 00:00:11,080 Speaker 1: and more. Please, baby, please submit your Strawberry Letter to 4 00:00:11,160 --> 00:00:15,080 Speaker 1: Steve Harvey FM dot com and click submit Strawberry Letter. 5 00:00:15,360 --> 00:00:17,560 Speaker 1: We could be reading your letter live on the air, 6 00:00:17,640 --> 00:00:20,160 Speaker 1: just like we're gonna read this one right here, right now. 7 00:00:21,000 --> 00:00:23,160 Speaker 1: All right, ladies and gentlemen, it's time for the Strawberry Letter. 8 00:00:23,280 --> 00:00:26,599 Speaker 1: My good friends, Shirley straw Berry. Kay, we might be 9 00:00:26,640 --> 00:00:34,480 Speaker 1: good friends, but you don't tell me everything. All right yesterday, 10 00:00:34,680 --> 00:00:40,040 Speaker 1: you know it, you know it, all right, Love you, kier, 11 00:00:40,240 --> 00:00:44,000 Speaker 1: love you, junior. Subject, somebody's got to break the news 12 00:00:44,040 --> 00:00:46,400 Speaker 1: to her. Dear Stephen, Shirley, I'm a forty one year 13 00:00:46,440 --> 00:00:49,599 Speaker 1: old woman needing advice on how to deal with my 14 00:00:49,720 --> 00:00:54,280 Speaker 1: thirty nine year old friend. As you all know very well, 15 00:00:54,360 --> 00:00:58,760 Speaker 1: we've all been dealing with and being isolated and quarantine. 16 00:00:58,800 --> 00:01:01,800 Speaker 1: And while my friend was in lockdown, she decided she 17 00:01:01,920 --> 00:01:04,720 Speaker 1: wants to be a pop star. She's got laid off 18 00:01:04,760 --> 00:01:07,400 Speaker 1: from work, so she's got a lot of free time, 19 00:01:07,520 --> 00:01:12,240 Speaker 1: and she says it's time to pursue her dreams. She's 20 00:01:12,280 --> 00:01:14,800 Speaker 1: a bit too old to be just starting out, but 21 00:01:14,880 --> 00:01:20,320 Speaker 1: no one can tell her anything. She said she saw Shier, Madonna, 22 00:01:20,440 --> 00:01:24,800 Speaker 1: and Tina Turner performing into their sixties and seventies, so 23 00:01:24,840 --> 00:01:28,880 Speaker 1: there's hope for her. At age thirty eight, she hasn't 24 00:01:30,040 --> 00:01:33,120 Speaker 1: well is she thirty eight or thirty nine? Okay, I'll 25 00:01:33,160 --> 00:01:38,080 Speaker 1: say thirty nine. Yeah, Yeah, she's thirty nine. She hasn't 26 00:01:38,080 --> 00:01:41,000 Speaker 1: had voice lessons and doesn't plan to take any because 27 00:01:41,080 --> 00:01:45,120 Speaker 1: she and because she can use auto tune and creative 28 00:01:45,240 --> 00:01:47,880 Speaker 1: editing to sound like a superstar. I don't want to 29 00:01:47,920 --> 00:01:50,560 Speaker 1: be a dream killer, but she sounds terrible and she's 30 00:01:50,600 --> 00:01:53,000 Speaker 1: not a great dancer. I held my tongue at the 31 00:01:53,080 --> 00:01:56,640 Speaker 1: idea of her realistically thinking she'll be making videos. But 32 00:01:56,720 --> 00:01:59,160 Speaker 1: I feel like I shouldn't give her false hope either. 33 00:01:59,840 --> 00:02:02,240 Speaker 1: She is so sweet and a good mother of her 34 00:02:02,240 --> 00:02:06,240 Speaker 1: two girls, but she will never be a performer, let 35 00:02:06,280 --> 00:02:10,320 Speaker 1: alone a famous one at age thirty eight or thirty nine. 36 00:02:11,160 --> 00:02:14,080 Speaker 1: She's been posting videos of her self singing and dancing 37 00:02:14,080 --> 00:02:17,680 Speaker 1: on Instagram, reels, and YouTube. She writes her own songs, 38 00:02:17,760 --> 00:02:22,240 Speaker 1: and the lyrics are nasty, because she says that's what 39 00:02:22,400 --> 00:02:26,960 Speaker 1: sells now. Most of the comments are terrible and hurtful, 40 00:02:27,480 --> 00:02:31,919 Speaker 1: but she just wants But she just says they're haters 41 00:02:32,000 --> 00:02:35,520 Speaker 1: and can't steal her joy. Her husband wants to do 42 00:02:35,560 --> 00:02:38,560 Speaker 1: a virtual intervention with her, but I don't think teaming 43 00:02:38,680 --> 00:02:40,880 Speaker 1: up on her is the way to go. Her daughters 44 00:02:40,919 --> 00:02:43,880 Speaker 1: are very embarrassed, but they support her. Do you think 45 00:02:43,919 --> 00:02:47,079 Speaker 1: she has a chance. I need your honest opinion. I mean, 46 00:02:47,360 --> 00:02:50,960 Speaker 1: who knows. Okay, whether she has a chance or not, 47 00:02:51,280 --> 00:02:53,880 Speaker 1: it's highly unlikely. I'll be truthful with you, but I 48 00:02:53,919 --> 00:02:58,000 Speaker 1: do believe that anything is possible. But anything is possible 49 00:02:58,040 --> 00:03:01,239 Speaker 1: if you have, you know, sort of talent. You got 50 00:03:01,240 --> 00:03:04,200 Speaker 1: to have a little bit of talent, and good talent 51 00:03:04,320 --> 00:03:07,800 Speaker 1: at that. If you want to stay her friend, though, 52 00:03:09,280 --> 00:03:11,480 Speaker 1: I say, tell her the truth like you've been doing. 53 00:03:11,600 --> 00:03:14,200 Speaker 1: Don't hold your tongue. If she asks you, tell her 54 00:03:14,280 --> 00:03:17,399 Speaker 1: the truth. If she doesn't, just let her be her. 55 00:03:17,480 --> 00:03:21,320 Speaker 1: I mean, you're right about everything you've said. She's older, 56 00:03:21,480 --> 00:03:24,360 Speaker 1: just starting out at thirty eight. I mean Tina Turner, 57 00:03:24,520 --> 00:03:28,240 Speaker 1: Sharon Madonna. Yeah, they've performed in their sixties, but they 58 00:03:28,240 --> 00:03:31,919 Speaker 1: were famous in their twenties. Okay, so they've just had 59 00:03:31,960 --> 00:03:35,440 Speaker 1: a long career. They didn't just jump in at sixty 60 00:03:36,240 --> 00:03:39,360 Speaker 1: so auto tune. You know that it's not for everyone. 61 00:03:39,400 --> 00:03:43,040 Speaker 1: You gotta have something to give auto tunes to play 62 00:03:43,080 --> 00:03:47,640 Speaker 1: with and make better. And you know, singing and dancing 63 00:03:47,720 --> 00:03:49,920 Speaker 1: lessons that would be good. Why don't you encourage her 64 00:03:49,960 --> 00:03:52,840 Speaker 1: to do some singing and dancing lessons. She doesn't want 65 00:03:52,880 --> 00:03:55,320 Speaker 1: to do that, but you're right, you just can't, you know, 66 00:03:55,520 --> 00:03:57,640 Speaker 1: kill her dreams. She'll be mad at you. She'll be 67 00:03:57,680 --> 00:04:01,559 Speaker 1: mad at you. Her husband doesn't like her, daughters are embarrassed. 68 00:04:02,600 --> 00:04:04,920 Speaker 1: Maybe that's what you're going to have to do. As 69 00:04:04,960 --> 00:04:08,000 Speaker 1: a team, get together and tell her, because if you 70 00:04:08,120 --> 00:04:10,040 Speaker 1: tell her, she'll be mad. If her husband tells her, 71 00:04:10,080 --> 00:04:12,640 Speaker 1: old lord, they might get a divorce. But as a 72 00:04:12,640 --> 00:04:16,000 Speaker 1: team daughter's husband, you sit her down and tell her. 73 00:04:16,240 --> 00:04:19,480 Speaker 1: You know, maybe let her just do it for fun karaoke, Steve, 74 00:04:22,040 --> 00:04:25,360 Speaker 1: somebody's got to break the news to her. I'm assuming 75 00:04:25,520 --> 00:04:30,239 Speaker 1: that's why you wrote me. I am here to break 76 00:04:30,279 --> 00:04:34,719 Speaker 1: the news to her. Let's start why I usually never do. 77 00:04:35,000 --> 00:04:39,200 Speaker 1: Let's start with the last line of the letter. Do 78 00:04:39,320 --> 00:04:44,640 Speaker 1: you think she has a chance? I need your honest opinion. 79 00:04:44,880 --> 00:04:50,480 Speaker 1: Come on, cool, Do I think she has a chance? Hell? No, 80 00:04:51,600 --> 00:04:55,760 Speaker 1: I knew it. Hell no, she ain't got a shot 81 00:04:55,800 --> 00:05:00,839 Speaker 1: in here. She ain't got a snowball chance in Arizona 82 00:05:01,200 --> 00:05:04,039 Speaker 1: in the afternoon on one hundred and twelve degree weather. 83 00:05:04,680 --> 00:05:09,960 Speaker 1: How how first of all, she wanted to be a 84 00:05:10,000 --> 00:05:12,880 Speaker 1: pop star? Look, but see, how does she come to this? 85 00:05:14,520 --> 00:05:18,840 Speaker 1: You got a thirty nine year old friend and everybody 86 00:05:18,960 --> 00:05:21,960 Speaker 1: been in quarantine. You know, quarantine was rough, we all 87 00:05:22,000 --> 00:05:25,719 Speaker 1: got it. But while she was in lockdown, she decided 88 00:05:25,839 --> 00:05:29,640 Speaker 1: she wanted to be a pop star. We ain't made 89 00:05:29,720 --> 00:05:35,200 Speaker 1: a pop star in how many years? I don't remember 90 00:05:35,240 --> 00:05:41,000 Speaker 1: the last pop star we've made. That name is outdated. 91 00:05:42,040 --> 00:05:50,960 Speaker 1: Her dream is outdated pop star lady? When I come back, okay, 92 00:05:51,000 --> 00:05:53,960 Speaker 1: here we go. All right. See, once you got laid 93 00:05:54,040 --> 00:05:58,000 Speaker 1: off from work and you had free time to pursue 94 00:05:58,040 --> 00:06:01,280 Speaker 1: your dreams, when did you start have in this dream? 95 00:06:01,440 --> 00:06:04,520 Speaker 1: You already thirty eight? Don't nobody high? No old ass 96 00:06:04,600 --> 00:06:09,640 Speaker 1: pop star and thirty eight is old for a pop star. Yeah, 97 00:06:09,839 --> 00:06:12,760 Speaker 1: Shelly said it right. You're talking about Sham Donna, Tina Turner. 98 00:06:12,920 --> 00:06:16,840 Speaker 1: They were performing early in life, doing this a new this, 99 00:06:17,000 --> 00:06:19,640 Speaker 1: a new day. Now we got Instagram everything about behind 100 00:06:19,720 --> 00:06:25,120 Speaker 1: your old ass, and then you see the bere to Mark. 101 00:06:25,200 --> 00:06:27,359 Speaker 1: You don't want to. You don't want to take no 102 00:06:27,520 --> 00:06:32,600 Speaker 1: singing and dance. Listen, what the hell do pop stars do? 103 00:06:32,640 --> 00:06:35,760 Speaker 1: They take singing and dancing? No, they sing and they dance. 104 00:06:36,080 --> 00:06:40,800 Speaker 1: You can't do either one of them. All right, we'll 105 00:06:40,839 --> 00:06:44,000 Speaker 1: come back training, All right, Steve. We'll have part two 106 00:06:44,000 --> 00:06:47,360 Speaker 1: of your Response to your Lovely Response at twenty three 107 00:06:47,400 --> 00:06:50,400 Speaker 1: minutes after the hour subject Somebody's got to break the 108 00:06:50,400 --> 00:06:55,800 Speaker 1: news to her. We'll be back right after this. You're listening, 109 00:06:56,800 --> 00:06:59,520 Speaker 1: all right, Come on, Steve, let's recap today's Strawberry letter, 110 00:06:59,560 --> 00:07:06,160 Speaker 1: the seven. Somebody has got to break the news to her. Yeah, well, lady, lady, 111 00:07:06,360 --> 00:07:08,880 Speaker 1: you know, she forty one. She got this girlfriend as 112 00:07:08,880 --> 00:07:11,600 Speaker 1: thirty nine, she hadn't been in quarantine. So while she 113 00:07:11,640 --> 00:07:14,160 Speaker 1: was in quarantine, she decided she want to be a 114 00:07:14,200 --> 00:07:17,960 Speaker 1: pop star, and she got laid off from work, so 115 00:07:18,160 --> 00:07:20,760 Speaker 1: she got a lot of free time, and she finally 116 00:07:20,800 --> 00:07:24,320 Speaker 1: said it's time to pursue her dreams. And so, well, 117 00:07:24,320 --> 00:07:26,280 Speaker 1: I guess one of her dreams, you know, was be 118 00:07:26,320 --> 00:07:28,360 Speaker 1: a pop star. Now, the lady thinks she's a bit 119 00:07:28,400 --> 00:07:31,559 Speaker 1: too old to just start out, but can't nobody telling nothing? 120 00:07:32,080 --> 00:07:35,000 Speaker 1: She said she saw sham mcdonnatine to turn to performing 121 00:07:35,080 --> 00:07:37,640 Speaker 1: in the sixties and seventies. So that's hope for her. 122 00:07:37,720 --> 00:07:42,920 Speaker 1: They performing in the sixties and seventies. They didn't start 123 00:07:43,360 --> 00:07:45,920 Speaker 1: in the sixties and seventies. And I'm just gonna tell 124 00:07:45,960 --> 00:07:47,800 Speaker 1: you something. You know, somebody got to break it to her. 125 00:07:47,960 --> 00:07:51,440 Speaker 1: That's what Uncle Steve is here for. Yeah, the question 126 00:07:51,560 --> 00:07:53,240 Speaker 1: is do you think she has a chance? That was 127 00:07:53,280 --> 00:07:55,600 Speaker 1: the last line in the answer. My answer, hell noll 128 00:07:56,120 --> 00:08:01,080 Speaker 1: when you seeing them higher old ass pop stars can't 129 00:08:01,120 --> 00:08:05,280 Speaker 1: be thirty eight and come out with nothing. First of all, 130 00:08:06,160 --> 00:08:08,480 Speaker 1: part of year old people ben quit going to the 131 00:08:08,520 --> 00:08:12,600 Speaker 1: stove buying stuff. Let's just go in your age group, 132 00:08:13,240 --> 00:08:16,200 Speaker 1: stay out to sixty club because I don't even I don't. 133 00:08:16,480 --> 00:08:20,560 Speaker 1: I just found out record stores was closed, so I 134 00:08:20,720 --> 00:08:22,000 Speaker 1: know you're in the hell. Well, I ain't been in 135 00:08:22,040 --> 00:08:24,000 Speaker 1: no damn record store and it really don't know how 136 00:08:24,000 --> 00:08:27,000 Speaker 1: to download much and nothing no how so you're in 137 00:08:27,040 --> 00:08:30,360 Speaker 1: an age group and then you say, you know she 138 00:08:30,360 --> 00:08:33,600 Speaker 1: she hasn't had voice lessons and don't plan to take 139 00:08:33,640 --> 00:08:37,240 Speaker 1: any because she said she can use auto tuning creative 140 00:08:37,400 --> 00:08:42,160 Speaker 1: editing to sound like a superstar. Are you familiar with 141 00:08:42,360 --> 00:08:48,280 Speaker 1: Milli Vanilli just trying to throw some stuff out there. 142 00:08:48,400 --> 00:08:50,959 Speaker 1: You know you're gonna auto tune so you can sound 143 00:08:51,000 --> 00:08:53,640 Speaker 1: like a superstar. Can I tell you something that I've 144 00:08:53,720 --> 00:08:57,000 Speaker 1: learned about being what people think of as a star. 145 00:08:57,679 --> 00:09:01,640 Speaker 1: Stars are not made in recordings. Stars is made on stage. 146 00:09:02,160 --> 00:09:05,599 Speaker 1: You will not be a star until people are repeatedly 147 00:09:05,760 --> 00:09:09,160 Speaker 1: willing to pay to see you live. Because once they 148 00:09:09,200 --> 00:09:11,040 Speaker 1: see you live and find out you ain't what you 149 00:09:11,200 --> 00:09:16,800 Speaker 1: was on that record, your stardom is over. Now you 150 00:09:16,880 --> 00:09:19,480 Speaker 1: can't sing a dance and you don't want to take 151 00:09:19,559 --> 00:09:22,760 Speaker 1: no lessons because you can use auto tunes in creative 152 00:09:22,920 --> 00:09:28,280 Speaker 1: editing to sound like a superstar superstar sing and dance. Yea. 153 00:09:28,840 --> 00:09:31,920 Speaker 1: Now I ask you, did you know Milli Vanilli? Are 154 00:09:31,920 --> 00:09:34,080 Speaker 1: you familiar with this woman? I don't know if you've 155 00:09:34,080 --> 00:09:40,160 Speaker 1: heard her or not. Beyonce. I'm sure she is. Just 156 00:09:42,520 --> 00:09:47,760 Speaker 1: who is like the biggest star in the world today. Yeah, 157 00:09:48,040 --> 00:09:52,120 Speaker 1: there's not a bigger star in music today than Beyonce. 158 00:09:52,520 --> 00:09:54,520 Speaker 1: To me, I don't know a bigger star than her 159 00:09:54,679 --> 00:09:58,200 Speaker 1: in music, right, I really don't. Now, I know some legends, 160 00:09:58,240 --> 00:10:00,680 Speaker 1: it's still like they're doing it. Ron I. I asked 161 00:10:00,720 --> 00:10:03,760 Speaker 1: your brother, you know I more joy from their music. 162 00:10:03,800 --> 00:10:09,560 Speaker 1: But but Beyonce is a star. Is anything abount you, 163 00:10:09,600 --> 00:10:16,839 Speaker 1: anything about you beyond? Is no just I'm at talking 164 00:10:16,880 --> 00:10:19,160 Speaker 1: to the lady now, not her friend that wrote the 165 00:10:19,240 --> 00:10:23,600 Speaker 1: letter ass cut? Is she familiar with Beyonce? And then 166 00:10:23,640 --> 00:10:30,880 Speaker 1: ass cut? Is anything about her Beyonce? Ish? Okay, Steve, 167 00:10:31,000 --> 00:10:34,240 Speaker 1: let me ask you this. You used to host the 168 00:10:34,280 --> 00:10:38,840 Speaker 1: Apollo for many many years. She will be naked. What 169 00:10:38,880 --> 00:10:41,880 Speaker 1: does that mean? They booed, They booed people clothes off? 170 00:10:44,640 --> 00:10:47,000 Speaker 1: Was gonna ask k Auto to the damn thing at 171 00:10:47,000 --> 00:10:49,160 Speaker 1: the Apolo? Oh no, no, no no, no, no no. And 172 00:10:49,240 --> 00:10:51,760 Speaker 1: one thing about the Apollo. We didn't have no money 173 00:10:51,760 --> 00:10:55,200 Speaker 1: for all those two. He didn't say nothing. You came 174 00:10:55,240 --> 00:10:58,040 Speaker 1: to rehearsal. We told you what your minute forty five 175 00:10:58,120 --> 00:11:00,440 Speaker 1: two minutes was gonna be like. We got you to 176 00:11:00,480 --> 00:11:02,520 Speaker 1: the hook in the song real quick. We did the thing. 177 00:11:02,520 --> 00:11:05,600 Speaker 1: We had the coldest band. Frank was the band leader, 178 00:11:05,679 --> 00:11:08,720 Speaker 1: then Rachel was the band leader. They had two cold bands. 179 00:11:09,200 --> 00:11:16,480 Speaker 1: Your ass come out there. You have eight seconds to 180 00:11:16,720 --> 00:11:19,680 Speaker 1: convince these people that your ass need to be standing back. 181 00:11:20,559 --> 00:11:24,000 Speaker 1: And they hear real good too. Oh, they hear real good. 182 00:11:24,000 --> 00:11:26,280 Speaker 1: And they've they've seen the best of the best and 183 00:11:26,520 --> 00:11:29,240 Speaker 1: have them out. They got talent. The audience is made 184 00:11:29,280 --> 00:11:31,200 Speaker 1: up of people with talent who just couldn't get on 185 00:11:31,360 --> 00:11:35,360 Speaker 1: that night. Now hear your ass, Yeah, they already upset. Yeah, 186 00:11:35,520 --> 00:11:38,560 Speaker 1: eight seconds of when your voice opens, not to intro 187 00:11:38,720 --> 00:11:42,000 Speaker 1: to the song. They listened to your voice for eight 188 00:11:42,040 --> 00:11:48,360 Speaker 1: seconds and they passed judgment right around nine, So they 189 00:11:48,400 --> 00:11:51,640 Speaker 1: start booing at nine. You're saying, it don't take long. 190 00:11:52,120 --> 00:11:54,240 Speaker 1: Now they might hang in o a little bit with you, 191 00:11:54,360 --> 00:11:59,520 Speaker 1: because like, here's the most famous Whitney song. Fine, I 192 00:11:59,520 --> 00:12:06,959 Speaker 1: could have ain't that shood, but everybody can sing that part, 193 00:12:07,000 --> 00:12:19,240 Speaker 1: oh yeah, and will wads love you? And here's on 194 00:12:19,480 --> 00:12:28,880 Speaker 1: our part, boo Shirley. The look on your face, the 195 00:12:29,520 --> 00:12:36,480 Speaker 1: shock that people have when the booing starts, it's alarm me. 196 00:12:37,720 --> 00:12:40,400 Speaker 1: Tell this old lass lady go sit down somewhere and 197 00:12:40,480 --> 00:12:42,440 Speaker 1: nobody fit to bay on ticket to see her old 198 00:12:42,480 --> 00:12:45,120 Speaker 1: lass being no damn star. She's gonna lose her family 199 00:12:45,160 --> 00:12:51,520 Speaker 1: and her husband. Yeah, man, all right, thank you. Steve 200 00:12:53,000 --> 00:12:56,080 Speaker 1: coming up junior in sports talk right after this. You're 201 00:12:56,120 --> 00:12:58,600 Speaker 1: listening to Steve Harvey Morning Show.