WEBVTT - Can I feel pregnant when my wife is?

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<v Speaker 1>it sounds authoritative, and I'm feeling pretty authoritative today because

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<v Speaker 1>I've got a really weird question for you, and I

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<v Speaker 1>already know the answer. Can I, assuming I'm a man,

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<v Speaker 1>feel pregnant when my wife is? The answer is a

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<v Speaker 1>resounding yes, at least from anecdotal evidence. M we're talking

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<v Speaker 1>about couveid or kuvad syndrome, first described by Hippocrates. I

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<v Speaker 1>believe in three correct that's right, And if you don't

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<v Speaker 1>feel like whipping out your French, you could also call

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<v Speaker 1>it false pregnancy or sympathetic pregnancy. And essentially what happens

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<v Speaker 1>is a man develops studos SISIs, which is a swollen belly.

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<v Speaker 1>This phantom belly is that he's actually carrying a child.

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<v Speaker 1>And now I've heard about men succumbing to their pregnant

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<v Speaker 1>wives cravings and them also wanting chocolate shakes and French

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<v Speaker 1>fries at three in the morning. But who doesn't, well, naturally,

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<v Speaker 1>I do every day. But when you get that phantom belly,

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<v Speaker 1>I think you're going a step too far. You're really

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<v Speaker 1>stealing your wife's thunder, don't you think. Yeah, And that's

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<v Speaker 1>one of the theories behind Cuvey syndrome is that the

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<v Speaker 1>man has developed a rivalry with his wife. He wants

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<v Speaker 1>in on the attention, the action, the you know, just

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<v Speaker 1>the glamour of being pregnant. And it's worth mentioning to

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<v Speaker 1>no men choose to develop phantom pregnancy any more than

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<v Speaker 1>they choose to develop man breasts. This is a psycho

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<v Speaker 1>somatic condition and it's brought on by this emotional attachment

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<v Speaker 1>or maybe confusion with all these changes that are happening.

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<v Speaker 1>And it's also very important to mention too that this

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<v Speaker 1>isn't something exclusive of two men. It happens to women

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<v Speaker 1>who maybe I had a miscarriage in the past, or

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<v Speaker 1>they've lost a child and they have this extreme emotional

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<v Speaker 1>need to actually bear a child again. And there's actually

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<v Speaker 1>a pretty famous case of this. Have you heard of

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<v Speaker 1>bloody Mary. I have actually the woman where if you

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<v Speaker 1>stand in the mirror and you say your name how

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<v Speaker 1>many times fast? I'm not going to tell you because

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<v Speaker 1>you're gonna try to do it. I don't want to.

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<v Speaker 1>I don't want to lose her on how stuff work.

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<v Speaker 1>But yes, I have heard of bloody Mary. Well, apparently

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<v Speaker 1>one of the reasons she was so bloody reputedly is

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<v Speaker 1>because she had this syndrome. She either had a lot

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<v Speaker 1>of bad runs with miscarriages or she couldn't actually bear

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<v Speaker 1>her children, and so she took her aggression out in

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<v Speaker 1>a pretty violent way. And when women get this condition,

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<v Speaker 1>a lot of times it results in more serious consequences

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<v Speaker 1>than men, because when men have it, I think they

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<v Speaker 1>know innately they're not going to actually give birth to

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<v Speaker 1>a child. When all of a sudden done, it goes away.

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<v Speaker 1>After the woman gives birth, things get back to normal.

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<v Speaker 1>But for women at the into the gestation period, they

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<v Speaker 1>expect to see a baby. Lisa Montgomery was a woman

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<v Speaker 1>who had a pretty extreme case of Vot syndrome. In

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<v Speaker 1>December two thousand four, she actually murdered a woman who

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<v Speaker 1>was pregnant. She cut open her womb and removed her

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<v Speaker 1>unborn child because she felt very proprietor proprietarily that was

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<v Speaker 1>her baby. She should have that baby. That was a

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<v Speaker 1>bad day for everyone. Indeed, my big problem with sympathetic

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<v Speaker 1>pregnancy is this. You know, obviously with Lisa Montgomery cases,

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<v Speaker 1>that's that's pretty serious stuff. But specifically with men, it's psychosomatic,

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<v Speaker 1>and it is across the board. In every case. This

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<v Speaker 1>isn't a physical malady. It's it's basically a mental disorder

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<v Speaker 1>and a certain to a certain degree. Um, and it

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<v Speaker 1>is psychosomatic. It's it's the mind playing tricks on the body. Um.

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<v Speaker 1>That seems logical enough, But the thing is the medical

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<v Speaker 1>community hasn't really established a clear link yet, although I

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<v Speaker 1>think they're hot on the trail with a let to

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<v Speaker 1>lights and hormones. So what do you think about psychosomatic conditions?

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<v Speaker 1>Should people with them be pitied? Should they basically just

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<v Speaker 1>be smacked around and and and told to get over themselves? Well?

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<v Speaker 1>I'm not really sure because I know psychiatrists. But it

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<v Speaker 1>does make for pretty great TV. Did you see the

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<v Speaker 1>episode of Grey's Anatomy with the man who had this? No? No,

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<v Speaker 1>I didn't, but I did watch a law and order

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<v Speaker 1>SVU where a homeless woman had had several children taken

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<v Speaker 1>by the state and she developed Couved syndrome. It was

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<v Speaker 1>it made for moving television. I'll tell you that the

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<v Speaker 1>good news is because this is in the media and

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<v Speaker 1>more people know about it, there are ways for people

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<v Speaker 1>to get help. You can get counsel, you can go

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<v Speaker 1>see psychiatrists. There are ways that you could sit down

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<v Speaker 1>with your wife and talk about the feelings that you're

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<v Speaker 1>having and see if maybe you can reach a level

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<v Speaker 1>ground where she understands what you're going through and she's

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<v Speaker 1>equally as sympathetic to your condition as you are to hers,

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<v Speaker 1>all the while you're fetching her pickles and ice crect. Yes, well, clearly,

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<v Speaker 1>what you're saying is is that this could conceivably be

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<v Speaker 1>worked out just by talking about it, which you know

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<v Speaker 1>indicates it is a psychosomatic condition. It's the mind exerting

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<v Speaker 1>um some sort of authority over the body and causing

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<v Speaker 1>physical symptoms. UM. The bottom line for all this is uh,

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<v Speaker 1>if you do have Kupid syndromes, seek help, see get beast,

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<v Speaker 1>be sensitive to people who happen, and be sure to

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