Speaker 1: Second date. If we're being completely honest, I think everyone
Speaker 1: here has ghosted someone at least once. Oh yeah, because
Speaker 1: it's hard to have that conversation that you're not super
Speaker 1: into somebody. Yeah, and sometimes you're not invested enough to
Speaker 1: even bother with it. But I don't know. Let me
Speaker 1: ask you this. Have you ever unintentionally ghosted someone mid date? What? Oh? No? Oh? No? Oh,
Speaker 1: so it's intentional? Do you have? You have Alzheimer's, You
Speaker 1: forget where you are and you well, let me explain.
Speaker 1: One of our listeners wrote in. He said he unintentionally
Speaker 1: left his date hanging for about fifteen minutes, and when
Speaker 1: he got back he had to deal with the consequences.
Speaker 1: So let's talk to him about it. Joseph, Welcome to
Speaker 1: the show. Hi, guys, thanks for having it. Okay, Well,
Speaker 1: fifteen minutes doesn't sound that bad. I guess it was
Speaker 1: more like maybe twice men. Okay, Well, why don't we
Speaker 1: start at the beginning. Why don't you tell us about
Speaker 1: the girl? What's her name? Okay? Her name is Tyra? Tyra? Okay?
Speaker 1: And how did you meet met her on a dating app? Okay?
Speaker 1: And you know, I don't really know what it is
Speaker 1: but I don't match with a lot of people on
Speaker 1: these dating apps. Okay, but I matched with Tyra, So
Speaker 1: I was really excited about that. That's awesome, cool, that's
Speaker 1: great news. Man. So was there anything special that stood
Speaker 1: out about Tyra or just that she responded and that's okay.
Speaker 1: She didn't even have a profile pick man, just one
Speaker 1: of those like gray silhouettes she responding. I was really
Speaker 1: surprised and I got a message. Okay, okay, okay, that's good.
Speaker 1: You can get you say you were obviously really excited
Speaker 1: about this date. Yeah, very much as calling you back totally.
Speaker 1: So what did you guys end up doing? Well? We
Speaker 1: we went out for dinner and drinks, and I was
Speaker 1: a little nervous. What was it like when you first
Speaker 1: showed up at the restaurant? Well, I was a half
Speaker 1: hour late. Oh why, that's really late. Yeah, we're not judging.
Speaker 1: It's not a judgmental way. It's like, oh no, what happens.
Speaker 1: I'm kind of judging. That's pretty bad. I'm feel really bad.
Speaker 1: I wanted to go home to change, but I guess
Speaker 1: I didn't manage my time and you were late I
Speaker 1: got there. I mean, were you able to give her
Speaker 1: a heads up or was she upset about it? She
Speaker 1: was nice. Actually, I think I wasn't able to give
Speaker 1: her heads up, but she was very nice when I
Speaker 1: got there. Oh so I thought that was a good save. Yeah,
Speaker 1: no offense. She has every right to be a little like,
Speaker 1: excuse me, Yeah right, I'm not mad, but I think
Speaker 1: it's disrespectful. It's like saying that someone's time is you know,
Speaker 1: not as it's not worth as much as your every
Speaker 1: day Yeah. I think obviously the clothes that you chose
Speaker 1: were very important, and that's probably why she was so happy.
Speaker 1: She was like, wow, I'd be mad if you didn't
Speaker 1: look so damn fly. Right, wear that shirt? That's right.
Speaker 1: So I actually did look damn fly that night. Okay,
Speaker 1: all right, Jesus, that's the confidence. So how did that
Speaker 1: dinner go? I went good? When good? We talked about
Speaker 1: normal stuff, and we were talking about life and family
Speaker 1: and where we see ourselves in five years. You guys
Speaker 1: got deep. Yeah, and that's good that you had like
Speaker 1: a chemistry because you were able to keep conversation going,
Speaker 1: and that you're comfortable with each other like sharing like
Speaker 1: that type of vulnerable information. Absolutely all this is sounding
Speaker 1: really good. But take us to the moment where you
Speaker 1: left for fifteen or twenty minutes. Okay. After we talked,
Speaker 1: the later brought the check and I went to pay,
Speaker 1: and I realized I forgot my wallet in my car. Okay, okay,
Speaker 1: Well he's obviously not very organized. Not as an insult,
Speaker 1: I'm not either, but like, you're late. You don't manage
Speaker 1: your time, right, you just changed your pants and the
Speaker 1: other pants I understand. Man, So well, why did it
Speaker 1: take you fifteen minutes to run out and get your wallet? Well,
Speaker 1: I didn't realize my car was further away than I saw.
Speaker 1: It was about a half a mile away. Unfortunately, Oh
Speaker 1: my god, my god. Yeah. I told her I'm not leaving.
Speaker 1: I'll be right back. But when I got back, she
Speaker 1: was gone. Oh, She's like, this is the second time
Speaker 1: you left me? Hang and did she pay the bill too?
Speaker 1: Or did you no? The waiter was there, and he
Speaker 1: was he looked at me like, what are you doing? Yeah?
Speaker 1: Pretty much? Okay? Man, So how long ago was this?
Speaker 1: That was about a week ago, okay? And what kind
Speaker 1: of contact have you had with her since? Not? Absolutely not.
Speaker 1: She hasn't texted me or she hadn't called I even
Speaker 1: went back onto the dating site and I try to
Speaker 1: send her a message that way, and she didn't answer
Speaker 1: that either. Yeah, hoping you actually help me. Yeah, yeah,
Speaker 1: we're definitely gonna help. But before we do, what outfit
Speaker 1: are you wearing right now? I'm wearing black doctors and
Speaker 1: a T shirt. All right, Look at that's interesting because
Speaker 1: I'm not wearing any pants. I was going to say something,
Speaker 1: so I just think it's these are important details that
Speaker 1: we need to know before we call. You don't have
Speaker 1: your wallet though, Oh no I do, jose You just
Speaker 1: can't see it anything. So you know what, Let's play
Speaker 1: a song. We'll come back, get my wallet out for
Speaker 1: you said, I'm vibrating. Anyway, we're gonna we'll come back
Speaker 1: and we'll call TI or try and get your second
Speaker 1: date out date. Okay, that's really gross, but thank you.
Speaker 1: I can't hold on. Bad news, guys, I've been looking.
Speaker 1: I can't reach my wallet. Oh my god, I need
Speaker 1: someone with smaller hands. Election Yeah, when we're down to
Speaker 1: this employee. But more bad news, one of our listeners, Joseph,
Speaker 1: isn't getting a call back after his dinner day. He
Speaker 1: showed up thirty minutes late. And after the meal, he
Speaker 1: realized he forgot his wallet in the car had to
Speaker 1: run and go grab it, but he parked half a
Speaker 1: mile away from the restaurant, so by the time he
Speaker 1: got back his date, Tyra had already bounced, and he's
Speaker 1: tried apologizing to her via text in the app, but
Speaker 1: has not been able to reach her since. And I'm
Speaker 1: just hoping that he hasn't ghosted us since we started
Speaker 1: the second date up that Joseph, are you still there? Yeah?
Speaker 1: I'm here, Okay, good, I'm just like I said, this
Speaker 1: is the only person I matched with. I mean, we
Speaker 1: had a couple of mishaps with being lighted and the wallet,
Speaker 1: but I would like to see her again. Okay, you
Speaker 1: think everything has been great? No, I think what he's
Speaker 1: saying is that there's a lot of pressure on this
Speaker 1: one because this is his one match. This has to work. Okay, Well,
Speaker 1: if this doesn't work out, do you have her home address? No,
Speaker 1: there's other ways, That's all I'm saying. I'm not a creep, Broka,
Speaker 1: I'm just saying options, That's all I'm saying. Anyway, We're
Speaker 1: going to give Tyra call and see if she answers.
Speaker 1: You ready, to do this man. Yeah, yeah, we're rooting
Speaker 1: for you. And what what size are your hands? Okay, well,
Speaker 1: we'll worry about that later. Let's just let's call Tyra first. Hello. Hey,
Speaker 1: I'm looking to speak with Tyra. It's a she. How
Speaker 1: are you? How are you? Tyra? You are so polite. Um.
Speaker 1: My name is Jeff from the radio show broken Jeffrey
Speaker 1: in the Morning. Wait you men to say it again.
Speaker 1: My name is Jeff and I work on a morning
Speaker 1: radio show called Brooke and Jeffrey in the Morning. So
Speaker 1: we're out here too. Oh okay, hell to do you?
Speaker 1: Actually you do? Did I run something? Well? No, I
Speaker 1: don't think you won. Why did everyone ask that? Yea, yeah, no,
Speaker 1: that's all right. But we were hoping to talk to
Speaker 1: you because we're trying to do a second date update
Speaker 1: right now. Oh boy? Okay, yeah, so you know how
Speaker 1: those work. We've had somebody to reach out about you
Speaker 1: after they went on a date with you. Can I
Speaker 1: know who it is? Well, his name is Joseph. You
Speaker 1: remember Joseph? Oh? Anybody? But sorry? Oh no, obviously Joseph
Speaker 1: has reached out and he told us about the time
Speaker 1: that you guys spend together and we know that there
Speaker 1: were a few issues about the date. What did you think?
Speaker 1: How did it go for you? Well, I really don't
Speaker 1: want this on the radio if I have a choice,
Speaker 1: But can I just say dude has issues more issues
Speaker 1: than Sports Illustrated Oh forever. I mean that he's bad
Speaker 1: with time management, Like he told us that he was
Speaker 1: like thirty minutes late showing up and more like forty
Speaker 1: But okay, oh, I can't believe you hung around. Well,
Speaker 1: you know what, it's not a big deal because I'm
Speaker 1: not good with time either. I just happened to be,
Speaker 1: you know, one time that day because I was excited. Yeah, like,
Speaker 1: I'm on time for dates too, but I'm not on
Speaker 1: anything else. He was really complimentary. He said that you
Speaker 1: were super kind about it when you when he finally
Speaker 1: did show up, Oh yeah, I mean it happens. Stuff happened,
Speaker 1: and he was telling us that he had a really
Speaker 1: great time having dinner with you and that you guys
Speaker 1: had a really nice conversation together and had a lot
Speaker 1: in common. No, because I'm like, oh, it's just so cringey, guys. Okay,
Speaker 1: so the time thing was a big deal, but not
Speaker 1: a big deal. But I was a little angry, but
Speaker 1: I could get over there. Yeah right, So which part
Speaker 1: was cringey to you? So crazy? What the hell is
Speaker 1: going on? Part was we started eating and this mofo
Speaker 1: is a carpet? What do you mean? A copycat? Have
Speaker 1: you ever heard of mirroring? I felt like I was
Speaker 1: being mirror Like mirroring like when when you try to
Speaker 1: behave like the other person. Okay, that's part of like attraction,
Speaker 1: Like people do that to try and build attraction with
Speaker 1: each other. Yeah, oh really, I ordered whine. Do you
Speaker 1: order the exact same white wine? So I'm like okay,
Speaker 1: And you know, like me, I'm greedy, so if you
Speaker 1: get something different, I want to take your stuff the
Speaker 1: same thing as me. What is fun about that? But sometimes,
Speaker 1: like maybe he's like nervous. Right, let's let's give it
Speaker 1: the benefit of the doubt. Here, he's nervous. You hear
Speaker 1: somebody say something, You're like, oh, actually that sounds good
Speaker 1: to me too. I'll take that too. But every single thing,
Speaker 1: come on, guys, Yeah okay. So first of all was
Speaker 1: the wine, and I'm like okay. Then I ordered lasagna
Speaker 1: and he ordered lazaka. Oh he did mention that he
Speaker 1: got lasagna and it was really good. But he said
Speaker 1: that he was really into it, and he didn't mention
Speaker 1: that he was just copying you. Yeah, okay, but I
Speaker 1: really really really wanted the lasagna, so I pretended, and
Speaker 1: then after he ordered it, I said, well, maybe I'll
Speaker 1: get the shrimp and he said, oh, let's take a
Speaker 1: look at that. Let's take a look at that. No,
Speaker 1: So I ended up going back to the lasign here
Speaker 1: because I'm like, Okay, he's just gonna go where I go,
Speaker 1: so and I will get what I really want. I mean,
Speaker 1: I mean, I got the Willie's. It was so creepy.
Speaker 1: I mean, there's that really a reason not to call
Speaker 1: somebody back, though, But I don't want to live like that,
Speaker 1: like hol on, how does this stance go? I know?
Speaker 1: I mean, you listen to our morning show. He listens
Speaker 1: to our morning show. You're on the phone. He's on
Speaker 1: the phone right now and wants to talk to you,
Speaker 1: right No, no, no, no, no, yeah, that's Joseph. You're there, man, Yeah,
Speaker 1: I'm here. Tyram. I'm blown away by all this. I
Speaker 1: had no idea that's how you saw me. No, no, see,
Speaker 1: Tyra was blown away first. Now you're just mirroring your emotions. Correct,
Speaker 1: I'm mirroring your emotions. Are you saying you had no
Speaker 1: idea you were doing that? Bro? No, I had no
Speaker 1: idea I was doing that. I admit I was a
Speaker 1: bit nervous. I wasn't deliberately trying to copy whatever she
Speaker 1: was doing. Yeah, it was my own appreciate that at all. Like,
Speaker 1: you just gotta do what you you know, whatever you want,
Speaker 1: Like you didn't have to get to lasagna, and you
Speaker 1: even looked at something else and you went back to
Speaker 1: the lasagna because that's what I was getting, Joseph, you
Speaker 1: can't do that. Well, I figured you'd like the lasagna
Speaker 1: so much, you know that you could just eat all
Speaker 1: yours and then you could then have some of mine.
Speaker 1: Oweet thought, No, you would have to be there. It's
Speaker 1: not Actually it was too much. I ask you. Is
Speaker 1: that why you left at the end of the day
Speaker 1: without Like, I mean you kind of ghosted him at
Speaker 1: the end, right like I thought you left because he
Speaker 1: left you sitting at the table for twenty minutes by yourself. Well,
Speaker 1: it was everything. It was a whole combo platter. I mean,
Speaker 1: he was late initially. Then it was the mirroring the
Speaker 1: copycat crying, and then you left me again. And then
Speaker 1: I'm sitting there thinking he wasn't going to come back.
Speaker 1: I didn't know why he wouldn't come back, but I
Speaker 1: was like, I am not getting stuck with this bill.
Speaker 1: So I was out. I was coming back. I had
Speaker 1: every intention of pain. I just needed to get my wallet.
Speaker 1: I'm not a copycat. I mean, do you like do
Speaker 1: you like going bowling? I do like going bowling. That
Speaker 1: I don't want to go with you. Oh wait, maybe
Speaker 1: he was going to say he hated bowling, which is
Speaker 1: a totally different opinion. Now I'm scared to say what
Speaker 1: I like because I know he's gonna like it too.
Speaker 1: I don't even want to say what I like. I
Speaker 1: want to ask him first and see if he likes it,
Speaker 1: and then I can tell you what I do. Go ahead, Joseph,
Speaker 1: say something. Say something that you like. I like going skiing,
Speaker 1: I don't like. Okay, this is perfect. Who knew we
Speaker 1: were looking for uncommon ground. I should clarify. I used
Speaker 1: to like skiing, but I'm not too crazy about it
Speaker 1: now that I'm the last like twenty seconds. It's kind
Speaker 1: of it's a coincidence. I do kind of see it now.
Speaker 1: I mean, you don't want to fully commit. I guess
Speaker 1: she doesn't like something. I g I think it was.
Speaker 1: She's saying, it's really attractive for a man to have
Speaker 1: his own likes, his interest, you know, to have his
Speaker 1: own personality, and you should feel really secure in those
Speaker 1: about yourself. Yeah, well, Tyra, I like you. Was cute.
Speaker 1: It was, and that's why Tyra, we really her. He's
Speaker 1: marrying me again because I like me too. You're hard,
Speaker 1: You're a hard one to win over. Well, yeah, everything.
Speaker 1: We would like to send you guys out on another
Speaker 1: date and we'll pay for it. Tirah. I'm a good guy,
Speaker 1: a bit nervous, you know, a little different from you,
Speaker 1: and you know I like to show you that. If
Speaker 1: you let me take you out on another day, I
Speaker 1: would like the phone a friend. Can we be your friend?
Speaker 1: I say, go for it. He's not crazy, he's not
Speaker 1: doing it to be weird. Oh, he's not crazy. But
Speaker 1: I think I'm going to pass. Joseph. I think you're
Speaker 1: a nice guy. I just don't think you know we're
Speaker 1: a compatible low But I wish you luck. That's fair, Joseph.
Speaker 1: I also think that you're a nice guy. Well, I
Speaker 1: want to wish her luck, but she's just gonna say
Speaker 1: I'm copying her hard circle. You're in Brooke and Jeffrey
Speaker 1: in the morning.