WEBVTT - The Most Dramatic Crossover Ever 0:00:00.120 --> 0:00:05.160 This is Suckers, Ben and Ashley I almost famous podcast, the. 0:00:05.120 --> 0:00:07.720 Most traumatic podcast ever with iHeartRadio. 0:00:08.680 --> 0:00:09.160 Everybody. 0:00:09.200 --> 0:00:12.639 Welcome to Suckers and a very special episode because it's 0:00:12.640 --> 0:00:15.360 also an almost famous episode, but an even more special 0:00:15.400 --> 0:00:17.599 episode because we have the one and only Chris Harrison 0:00:17.680 --> 0:00:22.280 joining us. What suckers, it's well, let's think about Obviously 0:00:22.320 --> 0:00:23.520 you got lollipops or suckers. 0:00:23.520 --> 0:00:25.200 Some people call them suckers, but. 0:00:25.200 --> 0:00:28.040 Suckers is our podcast with Kaylin and Jared Haban, who 0:00:28.080 --> 0:00:31.400 I'm sure obviously you know. Well we named it that 0:00:31.480 --> 0:00:34.800 because we're suckers for life, and we we well we 0:00:34.880 --> 0:00:36.920 just cann't really think of a better name, so suckers. 0:00:37.440 --> 0:00:40.240 I do have a question about suckers. Yeah, because today 0:00:40.280 --> 0:00:41.760 I saw the promo picture. 0:00:41.880 --> 0:00:44.320 Yeah. Are you happy that I'm blond? 0:00:44.440 --> 0:00:46.159 Mad that you're blond in the promo picture that will 0:00:46.200 --> 0:00:48.200 now live probably for the next ten years. 0:00:48.280 --> 0:00:51.520 Yeah, it's mixed emotions. I don't like the way I look, 0:00:51.600 --> 0:00:54.440 but it's funny and I just smile every time. You're 0:00:54.440 --> 0:00:55.680 still blond here because you have a hat on her, 0:00:55.800 --> 0:00:57.360 I do. Yeah, you'll see me with a hat on 0:00:57.360 --> 0:00:58.400 the entire time here. 0:00:58.560 --> 0:01:00.680 Well, it's kind of growing out though. You almost have 0:01:00.720 --> 0:01:02.200 like a little leopard print thing going. 0:01:02.200 --> 0:01:04.920 Yeah, no, it's not good. And what's it like. 0:01:04.920 --> 0:01:08.839 When you're so handsome that you can just do anything 0:01:08.920 --> 0:01:12.120 and not care like a normal person can't do that. 0:01:12.200 --> 0:01:14.000 I'll tell you what, because you'll look like a buffoon 0:01:14.080 --> 0:01:15.560 if it was. If you do it, you're like, I 0:01:15.560 --> 0:01:18.520 don't care. I'm so effing handsome, it doesn't matter. 0:01:18.560 --> 0:01:19.280 You're too sweet. Chris. 0:01:19.319 --> 0:01:20.800 If you asked me that question ten years ago, i'd 0:01:20.840 --> 0:01:23.120 have an honest answer for you. But I've since gone 0:01:23.160 --> 0:01:25.280 well past that. I've getten a lot of weight. You 0:01:25.319 --> 0:01:27.640 know you're married, you don't, Yeah, exactly, Yeah, yeah, yeah. 0:01:27.760 --> 0:01:29.640 I actually got to say though, it's my first time 0:01:29.720 --> 0:01:32.600 seeing Chris probably in three or four years. You literally 0:01:32.600 --> 0:01:34.360 you look twenty years younger than the last time I 0:01:34.360 --> 0:01:34.679 saw you. 0:01:34.720 --> 0:01:36.880 It's because I'm married. You're married to a younger woman. 0:01:36.959 --> 0:01:39.160 I had to really get a lot of work done. 0:01:39.319 --> 0:01:41.080 Stress you look less. 0:01:41.880 --> 0:01:45.000 Yeah, I lost. I lost about a thousand people in 0:01:45.000 --> 0:01:45.399 my life. 0:01:45.520 --> 0:01:48.720 It kind of Chris Chirs looks so young. 0:01:48.760 --> 0:01:50.360 They were trying to flag me down in the airport, 0:01:50.400 --> 0:01:52.120 and I just walked by them because I didn't even recognize. 0:01:52.120 --> 0:01:54.320 So we we we flew in from Austin, they flew 0:01:54.360 --> 0:01:56.240 in from their home, and so we had this layover 0:01:56.320 --> 0:01:59.600 in Phoenix and so I'm walking through the airport and 0:01:59.640 --> 0:02:02.760 I go, oh, there's Dean and I go, he's walking 0:02:02.800 --> 0:02:10.320 at me with shades on, and Dean Dean Dean by me, like, 0:02:10.720 --> 0:02:15.080 Laura Lauren goes, does does he hate you? Like maybe 0:02:15.080 --> 0:02:15.639 he's mad at me? 0:02:15.680 --> 0:02:15.840 And I. 0:02:17.400 --> 0:02:20.639 Go, honestly, I don't know. Maybe maybe I. 0:02:20.639 --> 0:02:22.200 Didn't recognize you. I was like, who's that a handsome 0:02:22.240 --> 0:02:24.000 thirty year old over there trying to flag me down? 0:02:25.840 --> 0:02:28.040 And then we went through the you know, the what 0:02:28.280 --> 0:02:30.400 you do in an airport where people are yelling your 0:02:30.480 --> 0:02:32.600 name and you just kind of like you ignored it first, 0:02:32.639 --> 0:02:35.240 and you hope it's gonna, you know, go away and. 0:02:35.200 --> 0:02:36.880 Well, and also seems blonde. I don't think I've ever 0:02:36.919 --> 0:02:38.640 seen her blonde. So I don't think i've seen her 0:02:38.639 --> 0:02:39.520 blonde wearing a hat. 0:02:40.040 --> 0:02:42.000 Luckily, Kaylin was sweet to us, and so we talked 0:02:42.000 --> 0:02:42.280 to him. 0:02:42.680 --> 0:02:44.240 She's texting me, was in the bathroom. She's like, hey, 0:02:44.320 --> 0:02:45.640 Chris and Laura are here. Be nice to them. 0:02:46.520 --> 0:02:51.919 Yeah, guys, yeah, I know it's the first time I've 0:02:51.919 --> 0:02:55.600 seen them since they got married, which is we both 0:02:55.880 --> 0:02:57.320 kind of got married close to the same time. 0:02:57.440 --> 0:02:58.959 I would think. So you guys got probably a few 0:02:58.960 --> 0:02:59.680 months before us. 0:03:00.120 --> 0:03:04.000 Yeah, October and November because we had two weddings. Yeah. 0:03:04.120 --> 0:03:05.239 And then when what month? 0:03:05.280 --> 0:03:07.359 Oh we were September, so I guess we were right 0:03:07.360 --> 0:03:08.160 before us. Oh. 0:03:08.200 --> 0:03:10.760 Interesting, And so when when was the wedding day? 0:03:11.160 --> 0:03:12.160 September twenty third? 0:03:12.320 --> 0:03:19.520 It looked amazing? Yes, yes, exactly, check got it? And no, 0:03:19.600 --> 0:03:21.640 it looked incredible. It looked like it and save to yours. 0:03:21.720 --> 0:03:23.840 I mean it's you know, and same to years. Look 0:03:23.840 --> 0:03:24.720 at us, we're all married. 0:03:24.960 --> 0:03:27.840 I mean I'm deep into this thing now, Yeah, you're too. 0:03:27.880 --> 0:03:29.560 Sunk it that, first of all, all three of us 0:03:29.600 --> 0:03:32.640 would be married. Second of all, that you would be 0:03:32.720 --> 0:03:35.559 married the longest, although we had just been married. 0:03:35.360 --> 0:03:39.640 Over two years and three months. Now, I mean, we're 0:03:39.680 --> 0:03:39.960 in it. 0:03:40.440 --> 0:03:41.040 How's that going? 0:03:41.480 --> 0:03:44.720 It is incredible? Is it? It is like the best 0:03:44.760 --> 0:03:45.760 thing ever I have. 0:03:46.360 --> 0:03:49.280 I was actually talking to Jason Tartik, who's also hearing 0:03:49.280 --> 0:03:51.040 this trip, and we're going to be sitting down with 0:03:51.160 --> 0:03:53.280 him a letter date to kind of dig in. But 0:03:53.520 --> 0:03:55.480 he and I flew one on the same flight, and 0:03:55.560 --> 0:03:57.920 I was telling him just about life, and I said, hey, 0:03:58.200 --> 0:04:01.280 here's what I know, because whatever you're going through right now, 0:04:01.360 --> 0:04:02.000 I've been in that. 0:04:02.480 --> 0:04:04.960 He's on the beaches of Normandy right now. Yeah, he's 0:04:05.000 --> 0:04:08.440 taking incoming fire. It's like the world is coming at 0:04:08.520 --> 0:04:11.240 him like he's drinking out of a fire hydrant. It's 0:04:11.240 --> 0:04:11.600 a lot. 0:04:11.680 --> 0:04:13.200 It's a lot, and it's going to be an interesting 0:04:13.200 --> 0:04:15.120 conversation with him. But I told him because I remember 0:04:15.120 --> 0:04:16.760 when I was in that season, I was like, you 0:04:16.800 --> 0:04:19.400 know what, I don't know if marriage is actually going 0:04:19.480 --> 0:04:21.600 to be that great. Like I really started to get 0:04:21.640 --> 0:04:24.080 in my mind, like every relationship I've had is like 0:04:24.160 --> 0:04:27.239 hurt me deeply, terribly. 0:04:27.320 --> 0:04:30.280 We need to dig into it. Yeah, but like being 0:04:30.279 --> 0:04:32.839 married to Jessica is like it takes stress out of 0:04:32.839 --> 0:04:33.200 my life. 0:04:33.240 --> 0:04:35.000 You called her jess or Jessica both. 0:04:35.120 --> 0:04:37.000 Yeah, just depending on where we're at and what we're doing. 0:04:37.000 --> 0:04:38.640 I did that, I guess with Laura. 0:04:39.000 --> 0:04:41.000 But uh yeah, it's the best. Like she is a 0:04:41.000 --> 0:04:44.800 great partner. I my life is a lot better. I'm 0:04:44.920 --> 0:04:51.000 very happy. But she's really incredible, Like she's very sweet. 0:04:51.120 --> 0:04:52.840 You know, her and Kaylin are good friends. Her and 0:04:52.880 --> 0:04:55.680 Laura are good friends, Like they're just they want to 0:04:55.680 --> 0:04:58.200 make our lives better, which is really wild to have 0:04:58.240 --> 0:04:59.000 that in somebody. 0:04:59.120 --> 0:05:01.200 Y'all spend a lot time apart, a. 0:05:01.080 --> 0:05:03.440 Ton of time apart do Yeah, a lot of time? 0:05:03.600 --> 0:05:06.080 Is that just work and just your lives are going 0:05:06.080 --> 0:05:06.760 different directions? 0:05:06.839 --> 0:05:09.800 Yeah, I mean she's she has I think probably the 0:05:09.800 --> 0:05:15.080 most successful esthetician clinic in Denver. Like she is very busy, 0:05:15.120 --> 0:05:18.799 and so she's down there Monday or Tuesday through Friday, 0:05:18.800 --> 0:05:21.919 sometimes Saturday and Sundays. I travel probably once a week 0:05:22.040 --> 0:05:25.440 to do something for generous or something for iHeart or something. 0:05:25.440 --> 0:05:29.600 And it's actually great because she grew up in a 0:05:29.640 --> 0:05:31.880 household her where her dad traveled two or three days 0:05:31.880 --> 0:05:34.160 a week, and then when day he came home, everybody 0:05:34.200 --> 0:05:36.360 was super excited to see him. And so when we 0:05:36.400 --> 0:05:38.640 get together, like both very excited, but we never get 0:05:38.640 --> 0:05:40.760 sick of each other. It's it's like when we're in 0:05:40.800 --> 0:05:44.480 bed watching a movie together, it's like our vacation. 0:05:44.560 --> 0:05:48.839 Because you're you're like that too, right, because you're you're 0:05:48.880 --> 0:05:53.240 off going, yeah, kill him in Jarrow or I don't know, 0:05:53.400 --> 0:05:54.119 living in a tree. 0:05:54.400 --> 0:05:57.880 Yeah, But Ben's got his successful nonprofit Jess as her 0:05:57.920 --> 0:06:00.960 successful esthetician clinic. Kaylen and I are both unemployed, so 0:06:00.960 --> 0:06:02.400 we spend a lot of time together. 0:06:02.600 --> 0:06:05.120 But you do know, Yeah, one of the things, honestly, 0:06:05.160 --> 0:06:07.200 one of the things I really appreciated about Kaylen and 0:06:07.240 --> 0:06:09.279 I can't remember where I ran into her and we 0:06:09.320 --> 0:06:13.640 had this conversation. God, what was it? But anyway, what 0:06:13.760 --> 0:06:16.120 I loved is she was talking about you in such 0:06:16.120 --> 0:06:20.359 a glowing way and how she really seems to correct 0:06:20.360 --> 0:06:21.800 me if I'm wrong. This might be a total lie, 0:06:21.800 --> 0:06:25.200 but she really seems to appreciate who you are. And 0:06:25.240 --> 0:06:28.120 I could seem someone marrying you for the excitement of it, 0:06:28.160 --> 0:06:30.000 but then wanting to change you. 0:06:30.240 --> 0:06:31.760 Yeah. Well I'll tell you what you want to know. 0:06:31.800 --> 0:06:34.320 What our last big fight was about changing you. Yeah. 0:06:34.760 --> 0:06:37.400 She has been getting very mad at me because I 0:06:37.560 --> 0:06:39.000 tend to pick my nose in public. 0:06:40.760 --> 0:06:43.880 Like I'm talking mad, like mad, I'm going to take 0:06:45.400 --> 0:06:47.200 I don't see the problem here, Like I think she's 0:06:47.240 --> 0:06:47.799 a good partner. 0:06:47.880 --> 0:06:49.040 I know I should back up my bro. 0:06:49.120 --> 0:06:53.040 Here when you say she's not trying to change me, Oh, 0:06:53.080 --> 0:06:54.240 she's trying to change me. 0:06:54.640 --> 0:06:56.480 So that's a big deal. The nose picking. 0:06:56.520 --> 0:06:57.960 Well, I'll tell you, why is this a hill? 0:06:57.960 --> 0:06:59.560 You're gonna die if you have a book in your 0:06:59.560 --> 0:07:01.720 nose and you can't get it through the traditional means 0:07:01.720 --> 0:07:03.960 of a tissue, kleenex or whatever. 0:07:03.800 --> 0:07:05.599 You need to pick it. What if I'm out in public, 0:07:05.640 --> 0:07:07.000 I'm not going to wait until I'm in private to 0:07:07.040 --> 0:07:07.320 pick it. 0:07:07.880 --> 0:07:11.400 Disagree, I don't want to look underneath your car seat. 0:07:11.640 --> 0:07:13.760 Oh no, I had a buddy who's a nose picker 0:07:13.800 --> 0:07:18.400 in the car and underneath. Yeah, so when she brings 0:07:18.480 --> 0:07:21.040 us up to you, because this is like, this is 0:07:21.040 --> 0:07:22.840 a very good thing for her to bring up for 0:07:22.920 --> 0:07:24.280 you to you. 0:07:25.600 --> 0:07:27.480 Were you embarrassed initially like defensive? 0:07:27.520 --> 0:07:29.640 Like no, no, like or were you just like I 0:07:29.760 --> 0:07:31.920 want to keep doing this because I enjoy it one 0:07:31.960 --> 0:07:33.560 thousand percent the ladder of that. 0:07:33.640 --> 0:07:36.560 I say, Hey, I'm picking my nose, Like I'm sorry, 0:07:36.600 --> 0:07:38.320 it's just a fact of being with me. 0:07:38.480 --> 0:07:40.760 Like you have to accept it. And it's funny. 0:07:40.800 --> 0:07:43.160 Like I said, we actually had a legitimate argument about 0:07:43.160 --> 0:07:44.520 me picking my nose in public. 0:07:44.760 --> 0:07:47.720 That's amazing though, that you actually stood up for yourself, Like. 0:07:48.600 --> 0:07:51.520 Damn it, damn it, woman, this is me. 0:07:51.680 --> 0:08:00.400 Yeah, it's not exactly you know, you're chewing loudly, are like, 0:08:00.440 --> 0:08:02.400 I don't love that you eat corn nuts in bed 0:08:02.560 --> 0:08:04.480 or something. I don't know, but it's like I'm gonna 0:08:04.480 --> 0:08:05.080 pick my nose. 0:08:05.320 --> 0:08:07.480 Yeah, well it's funny. Actually, I think I can share 0:08:07.520 --> 0:08:09.680 this without getting in too much trouble. She goes to 0:08:09.760 --> 0:08:12.640 therapy often, which I think is great for everyone. And 0:08:12.680 --> 0:08:14.280 she said she told me the story that she brought 0:08:14.280 --> 0:08:16.320 it up with her therapist, the whole nose picking fight, 0:08:16.600 --> 0:08:20.720 and her therapist goes, I think that you're you you 0:08:20.880 --> 0:08:22.920 just are a little envious of his care free lifestyle. 0:08:23.040 --> 0:08:25.400 Is me paraphrasing what the therapist. 0:08:25.720 --> 0:08:30.040 Picking represents a lifestyle? Okay, I get this. Yeah, so 0:08:30.080 --> 0:08:32.319 it's she's not mad about the nose picking. 0:08:32.640 --> 0:08:35.600 She wants she well, and she is, and she'll be 0:08:35.640 --> 0:08:37.280 at the first admit that she's a little like not 0:08:37.400 --> 0:08:39.480 high strung, but she's a pageant girl, you know. So 0:08:39.520 --> 0:08:42.280 they've got to have their all their crap together and 0:08:42.400 --> 0:08:43.800 the opposite of that, I live in I've lived in 0:08:43.800 --> 0:08:45.959 a van for a bunch of years. So, uh, that's 0:08:45.960 --> 0:08:46.800 what the therapist said. 0:08:46.800 --> 0:08:49.839 There. She was like, well, not that you're like envious of. 0:08:49.800 --> 0:08:51.960 The care free lifestyle that he has. But like that's 0:08:52.000 --> 0:08:54.679 just like the disconnect there. Can I follow up with 0:08:54.720 --> 0:08:55.439 the question. 0:08:55.320 --> 0:08:57.520 Yeah, is this about nose picking? Can we move on? 0:08:57.720 --> 0:09:00.520 No a little bit, A little bit here, And I 0:09:00.600 --> 0:09:02.280 want to ask Chris's advice to here. 0:09:04.240 --> 0:09:06.760 In marriage because I have a big nose. Yeah, okay, 0:09:06.840 --> 0:09:07.319 I get it. 0:09:07.800 --> 0:09:11.520 In marriage, like it is beautiful, it is great. 0:09:11.559 --> 0:09:13.080 But one of the things that jess Can I take 0:09:13.400 --> 0:09:16.280 very uh, we make very important in our life is 0:09:16.320 --> 0:09:19.160 to stay attracted to each other, like either that be 0:09:19.280 --> 0:09:21.719 working out, going on dates, dressing up for each other, 0:09:22.000 --> 0:09:24.440 you know, like if one of us is using the restroom, 0:09:24.480 --> 0:09:26.439 like play little music so that the person can't. 0:09:26.280 --> 0:09:27.000 Hear you or whatever. 0:09:27.120 --> 0:09:29.280 Like, there's things that we've tried to do just to 0:09:29.360 --> 0:09:32.319 keep a little bit of the mystery alive. 0:09:32.240 --> 0:09:34.079 And the intimacy going. 0:09:35.040 --> 0:09:38.400 I would say, from Caitlin's perspective, if Jessica was picking 0:09:38.400 --> 0:09:40.920 her nose in public all the time, I think for me, 0:09:40.960 --> 0:09:42.520 it wouldn't be that I care that much of you're 0:09:42.520 --> 0:09:44.199 doing it, other than the fact that it might gross 0:09:44.240 --> 0:09:46.079 me out just enough where I'm like, I don't know 0:09:46.080 --> 0:09:48.960 if I want to have sex with you anymore? Yeah, ever, ever, 0:09:49.800 --> 0:09:52.520 is that I mean, like so is that we're a 0:09:52.559 --> 0:09:53.719 little bit of where this is coming from. 0:09:53.760 --> 0:09:53.840 You. 0:09:54.000 --> 0:09:55.720 Well, of all the things I'm doing, picking my nose 0:09:55.840 --> 0:09:57.880 is like the not the least unattractive or not the 0:09:57.880 --> 0:10:01.320 most unattractive. I guess, like I said, I've age ten 0:10:01.400 --> 0:10:03.640 years and three, so I'm seven years ahead of the 0:10:03.679 --> 0:10:07.359 curve on that. I've gained twenty pounds, lost all muscle tone. 0:10:07.800 --> 0:10:09.800 So yeah, I guess I'm just kind of leaning heavy 0:10:09.840 --> 0:10:12.199 into the I'm going to be unattractive from this point forward, 0:10:12.280 --> 0:10:14.839 you know. But I do agree with what you're saying, and 0:10:15.240 --> 0:10:16.840 one of my resolutions is to get in the gym 0:10:16.840 --> 0:10:19.760 more and get back to like being comfortable with myself again. 0:10:19.800 --> 0:10:21.679 Like when I was on the Bachelorette the first time. 0:10:21.679 --> 0:10:22.960 When I first met Chris, I was like in the 0:10:22.960 --> 0:10:24.600 best shape of my life. I was thin, I kind 0:10:24.600 --> 0:10:27.160 of had some abs. Those labs are so long gone, 0:10:27.559 --> 0:10:29.160 and I do think. 0:10:28.960 --> 0:10:31.000 That I need to let me just jump in. 0:10:31.080 --> 0:10:32.880 I've never had them. Yeah, but you at least have 0:10:32.920 --> 0:10:35.320 something under there, you know. I don't. I don't think 0:10:35.360 --> 0:10:37.040 I have much of anything. So I do agree I 0:10:37.080 --> 0:10:38.760 didn't need to get back into the lab and start 0:10:38.760 --> 0:10:41.920 making her more attracted to me in certain ways. Maybe yeah, keep. 0:10:41.840 --> 0:10:42.560 Dating, keep dating. 0:10:42.600 --> 0:10:45.319 I mean, I think it is very important. To your point, Ben, 0:10:46.280 --> 0:10:49.800 I always want to date Lauren, but I'm always I 0:10:49.840 --> 0:10:53.640 actually truly always want to. Like I think it's important too, 0:10:53.679 --> 0:10:57.120 but I actually really do want to. It's fun and 0:10:57.120 --> 0:10:59.360 and she's the first person I've loved enough in my 0:10:59.400 --> 0:11:00.560 life where I want to do that. 0:11:00.640 --> 0:11:01.160 I am. 0:11:01.240 --> 0:11:04.600 I agree, Keep keep the mystery alive, keep it, you know. Look, 0:11:04.720 --> 0:11:06.400 I know some of the bloom is off the rose 0:11:06.400 --> 0:11:08.720 your mayor. We've been living together, built a life together. 0:11:08.800 --> 0:11:12.439 It's not all, you know, fantasy suites. But I think 0:11:12.480 --> 0:11:15.200 it's important. I really do. I think that life is important. 0:11:15.880 --> 0:11:17.840 How do you keep it? How do you keep that going? Though? 0:11:17.880 --> 0:11:19.920 It is my question, Like we still go on date 0:11:20.000 --> 0:11:22.160 nights and stuff, you know, And it's it's funny too, 0:11:22.160 --> 0:11:24.400 because it's such a tale of two sides, Like Kaylen 0:11:24.480 --> 0:11:26.880 gets hotter every single day and I get uglier every 0:11:26.920 --> 0:11:28.679 single day, so she is stunning. 0:11:28.720 --> 0:11:29.160 It does. 0:11:30.679 --> 0:11:32.960 Scales are definitely uneven. 0:11:33.000 --> 0:11:33.800 They've always. 0:11:35.720 --> 0:11:38.360 I think it always takes effort, and it's funny even 0:11:38.640 --> 0:11:42.240 the little things about dating, continuing to date, you can 0:11:42.280 --> 0:11:45.079 fall into the trap of the mundane and repetitive of 0:11:45.880 --> 0:11:47.480 we always kind of do the same thing on date 0:11:47.559 --> 0:11:50.200 night now and now date night's not even special, so 0:11:50.280 --> 0:11:52.400 it's always kind of just mixing it up, of doing 0:11:52.440 --> 0:11:56.280 stuff that's different, leaving little notes, little just things that 0:11:56.320 --> 0:11:59.160 are out of the ordinary different. The problem with I 0:11:59.200 --> 0:12:03.040 have with Lauren she is really tough, like she if 0:12:03.080 --> 0:12:06.319 she doesn't like something, she comes from a family of lawyers. 0:12:06.480 --> 0:12:09.000 She will just tell you. Like if I bought her 0:12:09.520 --> 0:12:11.960 this watch one time, this really was hard for me 0:12:12.000 --> 0:12:13.800 to take. It was a very beautiful watch. It was 0:12:13.880 --> 0:12:17.040 very expensive and it was early on and I gave 0:12:17.080 --> 0:12:19.760 it to her and she's like, why would you get 0:12:19.760 --> 0:12:22.640 me a watch? Have you ever seen me wear a watch? 0:12:22.679 --> 0:12:25.000 And I said. 0:12:24.000 --> 0:12:26.760 No, that's the point. I said, you've I've never seen 0:12:26.800 --> 0:12:28.800 you with a watch. And I thought, how great, there's 0:12:28.840 --> 0:12:34.120 this beautiful watch. She's like, you know, and I'm like, 0:12:34.400 --> 0:12:38.280 I was crestfallen. Man, I was heartbroken. I've never had 0:12:38.320 --> 0:12:41.920 anybody like reject you know, just fake it, right, But 0:12:42.000 --> 0:12:43.600 she won't. She's like, why would I fake it? 0:12:43.679 --> 0:12:46.720 I said, but what's worse that or her receiving it 0:12:46.720 --> 0:12:48.880 and then just never wearing it for the next however long. 0:12:48.920 --> 0:12:49.200 You know, I. 0:12:50.200 --> 0:12:52.960 Agree, No, I'm happy now I understand. I'm like, I 0:12:52.960 --> 0:12:55.440 would rather just go get something with you, Like when 0:12:55.440 --> 0:12:56.920 we picked out her ring, I'm like, I'm just going 0:12:57.000 --> 0:12:59.000 to go with you and let's build the ring you want. 0:12:59.120 --> 0:13:01.120 I'm like, and that's so I did for our engagement, 0:13:01.160 --> 0:13:03.720 because I learned my lesson is I bought her just 0:13:03.760 --> 0:13:07.000 a very simple solitaire and then I said, this is 0:13:07.040 --> 0:13:10.520 just the centerpiece. You go build the ring around it. 0:13:10.720 --> 0:13:24.120 And that's what we did. We are up here in 0:13:24.760 --> 0:13:25.600 have we told people. 0:13:25.360 --> 0:13:28.640 Where we are Carmel. We do this trip every year. 0:13:28.720 --> 0:13:30.319 We've done it for the past few years at least. 0:13:30.840 --> 0:13:33.400 So one of the benefits of having a podcast with 0:13:33.440 --> 0:13:35.800 iHeart are these trips that we get to do together. 0:13:35.920 --> 0:13:38.840 And over the years we've invited all these people who 0:13:38.960 --> 0:13:43.120 are coming through Bachelor Nation and you know, maybe in 0:13:43.160 --> 0:13:46.359 the headlines or just like the most current lead. 0:13:46.600 --> 0:13:48.040 People, we just really want to hang out. 0:13:48.160 --> 0:13:49.120 But now it's. 0:13:49.080 --> 0:13:51.480 Turned into people that not only are recent but like 0:13:51.520 --> 0:13:53.480 that we just really want to hang out with and 0:13:53.920 --> 0:13:56.199 we catch up on our lives, we get to spend 0:13:56.200 --> 0:14:00.400 some time together. It really becomes a celebration. We have 0:14:00.480 --> 0:14:02.600 to do some fun stuff. We're here this week because 0:14:02.640 --> 0:14:05.120 the AT and T pro am is going on at Pebble, 0:14:05.920 --> 0:14:08.000 uh and it's a really fun week. 0:14:08.040 --> 0:14:09.000 That's very active city. 0:14:09.000 --> 0:14:11.559 It's a cool city and so uh yeah, we'll put 0:14:11.600 --> 0:14:13.240 up some good content for all of our shows. 0:14:13.280 --> 0:14:15.880 We'll be catching up with a lot of people. 0:14:15.880 --> 0:14:17.400 But really this is just people we want to hang 0:14:17.440 --> 0:14:19.080 out with now, Like, let's find an excuse to hang 0:14:19.120 --> 0:14:19.480 out again. 0:14:19.520 --> 0:14:21.520 Like, it's been fun texting with you guys as we've 0:14:21.520 --> 0:14:23.640 been leading up to this, and like Guiney texted me 0:14:23.720 --> 0:14:25.640 last night, He's like, Okay, I'm gonna admit I'm excited. 0:14:25.880 --> 0:14:26.320 Yeah. 0:14:26.320 --> 0:14:29.800 So Guinea's here, Firestone's here, the three of us, Wells 0:14:29.800 --> 0:14:32.440 Adams of course his brother Brett. I just don't know. 0:14:32.480 --> 0:14:35.640 He's like a penny just rub me. Yeah, I just 0:14:35.720 --> 0:14:36.320 keeps showing up. 0:14:36.360 --> 0:14:37.200 Yeah, he's everywhere. 0:14:37.240 --> 0:14:39.040 I'm excited you're here with the group because I feel 0:14:39.040 --> 0:14:40.480 like you're always up here this same of year, but 0:14:40.520 --> 0:14:42.440 we haven't had the chance to all spend time together. 0:14:42.680 --> 0:14:44.880 Yeah, I've been I guess I well, I used to 0:14:44.920 --> 0:14:47.800 play in the AT and T. It's changed so this year. 0:14:47.840 --> 0:14:50.200 It's weird because it's this not to get into golf, 0:14:50.200 --> 0:14:52.440 but it's an elevated event, so it's like half the 0:14:52.480 --> 0:14:55.360 field and half the celebs and all that. So but 0:14:55.360 --> 0:14:57.920 the cool thing is there's some absolute studs up here, 0:14:57.960 --> 0:15:00.080 so it to be fun. It'll be it'll be a 0:15:00.160 --> 0:15:01.960 great time. And I know I've never been able just 0:15:02.000 --> 0:15:02.400 to hang. 0:15:02.280 --> 0:15:02.680 With you guys. 0:15:02.800 --> 0:15:05.680 Yeah, and we're here at the La Petite yeah PLI. 0:15:06.200 --> 0:15:08.440 Yeah, it's hard to find on a map, but it's 0:15:08.480 --> 0:15:09.120 a great hotel, a. 0:15:09.240 --> 0:15:09.880 Very cute hotel. 0:15:09.920 --> 0:15:11.560 Yeah, there's hotel. There's two of them. 0:15:11.640 --> 0:15:11.800 Yeah. 0:15:12.200 --> 0:15:14.360 Yeah, I mistakenly brought us to the Ocean one and 0:15:14.400 --> 0:15:17.080 we're at the the eighth Avenue one. 0:15:17.200 --> 0:15:19.040 But I love this town. This is one of my 0:15:19.080 --> 0:15:22.479 favorite places in the world, just this part of Carmel, Monterey, 0:15:22.880 --> 0:15:23.920 the peninsula out here. 0:15:24.120 --> 0:15:26.600 Is it tough with you traveling to places like this 0:15:26.640 --> 0:15:29.360 because when I for firm experience when I go, like 0:15:29.360 --> 0:15:31.440 when Kaylen and I came here for the first time. Yeah, 0:15:31.520 --> 0:15:33.360 we're walking around and she's like, I want to live 0:15:33.400 --> 0:15:35.160 here more than anything in the entire world because it's 0:15:35.160 --> 0:15:36.720 so beautiful and so great. And I was like, Kayln, 0:15:36.800 --> 0:15:38.760 look at that house. It looks like crap. It's seven 0:15:38.800 --> 0:15:41.920 million dollars, you know, seventeen Yeah, but even like the 0:15:42.160 --> 0:15:43.240 bad ones are seven million. 0:15:43.400 --> 0:15:45.800 No, it's insane here. I've looked at prices here. 0:15:45.880 --> 0:15:48.360 She's never been here. She's coming for the first time. Yeah, 0:15:48.360 --> 0:15:50.360 this will be your first trip. And she's a huge reader. 0:15:51.000 --> 0:15:54.120 Uh, and she loves like little bookstores and cafes and 0:15:54.120 --> 0:15:55.960 good dinners. And so I was like, if you do 0:15:56.000 --> 0:15:57.480 any trip with me this year, this is a trip. 0:15:57.480 --> 0:15:58.920 I really When she come on, I think you're gonna love. 0:15:59.040 --> 0:16:01.360 Well, this is how great this place is. Lauren comes 0:16:01.400 --> 0:16:04.200 with me when I play. She loves it. I mean 0:16:04.200 --> 0:16:06.360 we usually stay at the lodge over there at Spanish 0:16:06.400 --> 0:16:08.640 or wherever. And it's like you walk on pebble Beach. 0:16:08.720 --> 0:16:11.360 It's just this town is great to get lost in. Yeah, 0:16:11.440 --> 0:16:14.600 little little tasting rooms, just stopping at some oysters and 0:16:14.640 --> 0:16:17.720 some chowder, and it's cool. It's everything's kind of cozy here. 0:16:17.760 --> 0:16:19.880