Speaker 1: Talk. We're just too unapologetically black women with an opinion
Speaker 1: who talks back. What's up, y'all? Thank you for tuning
Speaker 1: in for a new episode that we talk Back. I
Speaker 1: show dedicated to you niggas and these holes, and I yes,
Speaker 1: I did say niggas. Okay this year co host a
Speaker 1: J What's up with Girl? Hey, y'all, Hey, everybody is official,
Speaker 1: tam bam. I love y'all once again this week. I do.
Speaker 1: I still love y'all. Motherfucker niggas in hose because not
Speaker 1: somebody online trying to come from me for calling people
Speaker 1: on niggas. Pardon me. Everybody don't like the term niggas,
Speaker 1: but we do. You know, I do be trying not
Speaker 1: to use the term, but you know it's a slip.
Speaker 1: It's not a slip for me. I love my niggas,
Speaker 1: y'all all, My niggas, okay, right, I don't just I
Speaker 1: don't put the hard R on the end. It's a
Speaker 1: difference to me. Sometimes I put the hardy ard. I
Speaker 1: hate that. Don't do that. Sometimes I do. Don't do that.
Speaker 1: How was your weekend? Your? My weekend was good. I
Speaker 1: went to um my friend's dad's fifty six birthday party,
Speaker 1: and the ship was lit. It was it wasn't none
Speaker 1: of his friends that it was just all her friends
Speaker 1: and then him. Uh that's how he wanted it too. Yeah,
Speaker 1: he was on my head too. I was like, go
Speaker 1: on head, Mr Edward, he trying to see what that
Speaker 1: thing do for his first birthday. He was gonna bless
Speaker 1: him right quick. But we had a good time. Love her,
Speaker 1: love her family. It's a good it was lit. That's
Speaker 1: all I really did right much this weekend. Either I
Speaker 1: was supposed to go to Atlanta, but I just chilled out.
Speaker 1: I'm not in a traveling mood. It's like I don't know.
Speaker 1: I don't know if it's just me or do other
Speaker 1: women feel this way? But mice I goes on. I
Speaker 1: don't want to do ship, don't talk, don't lead the house.
Speaker 1: The only thing I did go out to eat. That's
Speaker 1: about it. Saturday, that's it. If it's day after day two,
Speaker 1: I can come outside. But they wanted to please don't
Speaker 1: bother me. She fly, don't bother me. So I was
Speaker 1: liking a little. I don't want to call it a funk.
Speaker 1: My friend says I shouldn't call it a funk, So
Speaker 1: I was in a mood basically your pussy with think
Speaker 1: it was a funk bitch by Okay, one thing you
Speaker 1: don't have to never have to worry about, jerk. Why
Speaker 1: are you stink coochie shaming on the on the Damn Podcast.
Speaker 1: I don't know. There's a lot of women that are
Speaker 1: looking really pretty today. They have a nice dress on
Speaker 1: there at work and there, yes, and they may be
Speaker 1: having a bad day and here you are shaming them
Speaker 1: pussy staying today. That's terrible. Let's move on from now.
Speaker 1: I'm just I'm just joking y'all, all my niggas, whether
Speaker 1: your pussy stay or not? Girl, all right, yeah, you're right.
Speaker 1: When we got going on a stupid internet, dudes shot
Speaker 1: say mar Is engaged two Yeah, Sonny, she got her
Speaker 1: u uh a white zaddie Okay. His name is Jeremy
Speaker 1: Robinson and he's a lawyer from Atlanta. And I saw
Speaker 1: it on Gossip in the City, Gossip of the City
Speaker 1: blog initially writing and all the other blogs got to
Speaker 1: help hold of it. But now all these different women
Speaker 1: are coming out the world works on his ass, all
Speaker 1: these different black women, including uh, the mother of one
Speaker 1: of his kids. Did you see that headline. I missed that. Yeah, Sonny,
Speaker 1: so the baby mama. The baby mama is like he
Speaker 1: only he don't pay this much in child support. This
Speaker 1: in the third he's just infatuated with black women. So
Speaker 1: basically she's trying to say it's like a like a
Speaker 1: fetish thing for him. Yeah, and he oftentimes um says
Speaker 1: disparaging things about black women. I don't know how true
Speaker 1: this stuff is, Um, You know, if he's so so
Speaker 1: bad for the community, while it hadn't we heard about
Speaker 1: him sooner, right, because he looks like he has some
Speaker 1: ship going on in Atlanta, so he was really out
Speaker 1: here dog and black women out I feel like I
Speaker 1: hope he would have already been on the radar prior
Speaker 1: to say margetting with him. But I don't know. And
Speaker 1: I guess he was recently engaged to another woman. She
Speaker 1: didn't look black, though she looked like she may have
Speaker 1: been like Hispanic or maybe even Asian. I don't know,
Speaker 1: but he's an habitual proposer for what I can see,
Speaker 1: and uh, yeah, I don't know. I'm happy for her
Speaker 1: if it's real. He's fine, nice looking older white gentlemen.
Speaker 1: Um Low Duval waiting on it too. Lot Duval said,
Speaker 1: but let us get a white woman, y'all gonna snap.
Speaker 1: And my old lady ain't white. He put that in
Speaker 1: like and uh parenthes his own. His old lady ain't white.
Speaker 1: It's not that we'd be snapping. The thing is is
Speaker 1: that do you boom what what black women don't like
Speaker 1: when black men, you know, or get others. And it's
Speaker 1: not always a white woman. We just don't like the
Speaker 1: ship y'all talk about us to justify that relationship. If
Speaker 1: you like white women, you like his fans, like others,
Speaker 1: just like them. You don't have to say, well I
Speaker 1: like them because black women such as such as such,
Speaker 1: and that's oftentimes you know what happens. So yeah, well,
Speaker 1: I just hope it worked out for her because I
Speaker 1: want her to be happy me too, like m hmm yeah.
Speaker 1: Notorious Big daughter Tianna Wallace posted her boyfriend's one million
Speaker 1: dollar ball and after he was arrested in a hit
Speaker 1: and run. Uh Tayshawn Baldwin was stopped by police after
Speaker 1: parking his twye d Raino SRT hell Cat It's s
Speaker 1: RT in a busy intersection. Cops also cite his loud
Speaker 1: exhaust and dark tenant windows as a reason for the stop.
Speaker 1: Mm hmm, sound like profiling to me. After cops ring
Speaker 1: his information, they found out his license was suspended. They
Speaker 1: then ordered to him to stop out of the step
Speaker 1: out of the vehicle. That is when he allegedly sped
Speaker 1: off and slammed into a group of pedestrians. Three people
Speaker 1: sustained serious injuries as a result of the hit and run.
Speaker 1: Among the amongst the injured is a mom who was
Speaker 1: pushing her two year old daughter in a stroller, and
Speaker 1: a food delivery man. Baldwin was arrested six days after
Speaker 1: the incident when he surrendered to cops. Court documents shows
Speaker 1: that Wallace Notorious Biggs daughter put up her one point
Speaker 1: five million dollar home in Brooklyn to secure her boyfriend's bond.
Speaker 1: No thank you, well okay, not a boyfriend. Not for
Speaker 1: a boyfriend. Husband, Yes, a boyfriend, not so much. That's
Speaker 1: just thing. My husband would want me to put up
Speaker 1: our one point million, one point five million dollar house
Speaker 1: to give him out for a hitting, Yes he would,
Speaker 1: And hopefully you'd be married to a man that you
Speaker 1: know would be able to um pay it. I don't know, Mary,
Speaker 1: he's gonna be able to pay it. That's what I'm saying. Like, Okay,
Speaker 1: you remember that girl in Charlotte, she had one like
Speaker 1: all his money and um, she won a lottery, like
Speaker 1: millions and millions of dollars in a lottery. Her boyfriend,
Speaker 1: her boyfriend, her baby daddy kept going to prison. She
Speaker 1: kept bonding him out on these million dollar bonds. They
Speaker 1: only give people those type of bonds who didn't know
Speaker 1: got the mean, got do it, you know what I'm saying.
Speaker 1: So his bond it could be excessive. It could very
Speaker 1: well be excessive. They could like that cash bond system
Speaker 1: is fucked up. Well, he didn't hit six people, and
Speaker 1: I saw the video of him, like looks like he
Speaker 1: was about to hit a mom with stroller. Yeah yeah, yeah,
Speaker 1: I don't know. That sounds like some stupid ship like that.
Speaker 1: You might need to sit down, sir. You might need
Speaker 1: to sit down. So you go back to bondcourt and
Speaker 1: maybe the lorred because she's gonna lose her house playing
Speaker 1: with him, right, because he sounds pretty dumb. So I
Speaker 1: would not have right because if you make me lose
Speaker 1: my house, I'm gonna come in the door waving the
Speaker 1: full four tammy. Don't hit me no mode, right, shame ship. Look,
Speaker 1: so we need y'all to stop talking to you about
Speaker 1: b b ls because apparently y'all going to the doctor
Speaker 1: to get more dick. Okay um. The headline reads that, uh,
Speaker 1: male genitalia enhancements are more popular than ever and b
Speaker 1: b l s are dying out, says a cosmetic surgery Um,
Speaker 1: excuse me, Cosmetic surgery CEO Angela Cogan speaks on the
Speaker 1: latest trends. So get your dick, do your dick, house baby,
Speaker 1: I'm here for now. I do have a homeboy who
Speaker 1: just recently, well last year he had got the abs
Speaker 1: and like some cuts in his arms, and just recently
Speaker 1: he went and got like some I think this nd
Speaker 1: a lap band surgery or something like that. Like men
Speaker 1: are out here doing this stuff, and I feel like
Speaker 1: y'all been doing it. Okay here for if they got
Speaker 1: something to make your bigger and this little do get
Speaker 1: your dick bigger, right, why not stop talking to you
Speaker 1: about them b b I am sick of to bbls
Speaker 1: to now. I ain't gonna lie now like women were
Speaker 1: real ass, like, come on, you gotta compete with this ship. Now.
Speaker 1: Everybody just walking people are assuming that everybody's just walking
Speaker 1: around with a fake ass, and everybody isn't there's something
Speaker 1: body shaped like that. Yeah, I know, people be like,
Speaker 1: what doctor did your ass? Doctor Jesus. That's so you
Speaker 1: don't even ask somebody that is so ignorant R. Jesus,
Speaker 1: Dr Grisome cornbread, because you can tell who got the
Speaker 1: fake asses? Okay, I'm just yes, y'all look like a
Speaker 1: Hennessy bottle. A lot of them. Now, some people have
Speaker 1: some really nice ones, and favorite go too for really
Speaker 1: nice bbls. Eggy Azelia, her body is nice, okay, um
Speaker 1: burne even when but even when she shakes it, you
Speaker 1: can see that little flap on the bottom. Yeah, it
Speaker 1: would be like a little bridge down there. Yeah, it's
Speaker 1: like a little bridge on the bottom where the meat
Speaker 1: don't connect where you're supposed to in real life. It
Speaker 1: looks good. Don't move though, don't But Bernie, Bernie's got
Speaker 1: that ball mass body too. It's yeah, she has a
Speaker 1: nice body. Um, who else got a nice PPL that
Speaker 1: I can like? Yeah? I would go to whoever doctor
Speaker 1: did that ship that's about it. Mm hmmm mmmm. See
Speaker 1: what they didn't do is they didn't figure out how
Speaker 1: to give you, uh, like some people need some people
Speaker 1: need hips and thighs, so you just add in the butt,
Speaker 1: but you know what about everything else and it's something yeah,
Speaker 1: exactly exactly. Um. So yeah, guys, get your dicks. They're
Speaker 1: going they're going for a good right these days out here.
Speaker 1: Get your man a dick for Christmas and then getting
Speaker 1: one of those little gal cock three thousands. It looked
Speaker 1: like a dick washed to me. It don't even look
Speaker 1: like no, it's like giving head, like with all that
Speaker 1: solution in there. I saw it on Amber Roses Instagram page.
Speaker 1: Oh it's a machine. It's like a yeah, and it's
Speaker 1: like it looked like a dick washed to me because
Speaker 1: it's all suggy and like, I guess that was supposed
Speaker 1: to sit but it looks like soap. Okay, so it's
Speaker 1: a dick wash. You just took your dick in there
Speaker 1: and and it washes it for you. Get one of
Speaker 1: those for the new dick, all right. So I saw
Speaker 1: this on the internet. Husband paid for him and his
Speaker 1: friend to sit in first class, but pay for his
Speaker 1: wife to sit in economy. So apparently this man goes
Speaker 1: on vacations every year out of the country with his bestie,
Speaker 1: and his wife is never allowed to go. And this
Speaker 1: particularly year, he invites his wife to join him and
Speaker 1: his bestie on the trip, and she realizes that he
Speaker 1: has booked two first class tickets for him and his
Speaker 1: best friend and her seat is for economy and when
Speaker 1: she uh confronts him about it, he says, uh, that
Speaker 1: he paid for your ticket. Isn't that enough? Like, and
Speaker 1: he feels like, Oh, you're ungrateful because I finally invite
Speaker 1: you and this is the things I get. And then
Speaker 1: the best friend goes on to confront her about it
Speaker 1: and says that she acts so entitled and that's why
Speaker 1: he never wanted her to come along. Imagine me being
Speaker 1: entitled to my husband, right, Why are you so entitled
Speaker 1: to my husband? That part they're clearly your wife is
Speaker 1: your savage, and that's that's his man exactly. The wife
Speaker 1: is the beard. So I saw that article, I saw
Speaker 1: that headline, and I wish they would have used like
Speaker 1: two white dudes for the illustration. But anyway, because mama,
Speaker 1: they said, she said she dropped her kids off to
Speaker 1: her mama. We know they're in Europe somewhere, Okay, it
Speaker 1: ain't no fucking way you. That's stupid. That is the
Speaker 1: ultra dumb bit story. First of all, why is your
Speaker 1: man going on You ain't going on on vacation, but
Speaker 1: he's going on vacation with his friend every year, right
Speaker 1: that you're not allowed so that people do take boys strips, okay,
Speaker 1: but not just you and one man and then y'all
Speaker 1: go every year and I don't go nowhere. No. Yeah,
Speaker 1: she said she never goes on vacation. This is the
Speaker 1: first vacation she's been invited on. I thought she was
Speaker 1: saying that's the first vacation she's been invited on, like
Speaker 1: their little vacation that they go on. So she hasn't
Speaker 1: been on vacation at all in the marriage. That's not
Speaker 1: how I read that. It says my husband and I
Speaker 1: haven't been on a trip out of the country for years,
Speaker 1: while he goes every year with his best friend. That's
Speaker 1: a that's the divorce. I really would like to know
Speaker 1: where they're located, because I know it's not the United States.
Speaker 1: I want to know where they at, what's the culture
Speaker 1: and how the hell is that? Okay, Like, could you
Speaker 1: imagine that plane isn't the plane ain't taken off. It
Speaker 1: ain't never taken off for years. That plane ain't never plane.
Speaker 1: That plane is grounded to destroy the whole plane. They man,
Speaker 1: I had them beds and shop in first class. I'm
Speaker 1: sucking all of that up, like, are y'all crazy? Are
Speaker 1: you crazy? Clean up plane with him at his nigger
Speaker 1: stupid internet news. Black woman is on the runway destroying
Speaker 1: a United Airways plane. Facts, y'all. Ain't none of y'all going.
Speaker 1: Nobody going if I can't go? Yes, Because so she
Speaker 1: ends up saying she doesn't want to go, and now
Speaker 1: this guy is telling her how selfish she is. Like,
Speaker 1: imagine your home boy hitting the wife up. I wish
Speaker 1: I was married to a man and his homeboy hit
Speaker 1: me up, trying to check me on some ship in
Speaker 1: my marriage? Are you dumb? Especially something like that, like
Speaker 1: is this your man? That's his man? Yeah, that's his
Speaker 1: man all day long. It's given my man and my man,
Speaker 1: my man. She just needs to make a decision at
Speaker 1: this point, because yeah, that is dad, honey bun. Anyway,
Speaker 1: y'all listen, We're gonna go to commercial right quick, and
Speaker 1: when we come back, we want to get into our
Speaker 1: main topic, y'all. We talk about you know, talking back
Speaker 1: all the time. You know, the show is we talked back,
Speaker 1: But when should you shut the funk up? We'll be back, okay,
Speaker 1: So listen, Like I said, the show is, we talked back.
Speaker 1: We have an opinion we have to say. But we
Speaker 1: are grown adult women, right, so we we we know
Speaker 1: that you have to use discernment sometimes and and judgment.
Speaker 1: You know, it's not always a pro for it to
Speaker 1: say to have an opinion or some ship. And it's
Speaker 1: okay not to have an opinion. It's okay to not
Speaker 1: say anything sometimes. Yeah, especially in relationships with your friends, family,
Speaker 1: co workers, all that good ship. So we want to
Speaker 1: get into it, y'all, when should you shut the funk up? Now?
Speaker 1: You know? But you're always gonna have an opinion, but
Speaker 1: she don't have to speak it out loud. That's what
Speaker 1: I'm saying, right, You're always going to have an opinion. Now,
Speaker 1: now I can't have my eyes can't have an opinion either, No,
Speaker 1: keep your keep your eyes straight, because usually the damn
Speaker 1: eyes gonna tell the whole ship. I don't even gotta
Speaker 1: say nothing like right, so listen, so we uh, we
Speaker 1: actually find an article on this because I'm like, okay,
Speaker 1: so we know in situations when you should not. I
Speaker 1: guess it's kind of like you gotta be in the moment, right,
Speaker 1: But we found an article that kind of gives, uh,
Speaker 1: some examples of when you should shut the funk up,
Speaker 1: all right, So we just want to go through them
Speaker 1: with you, guys. So the first one is when you
Speaker 1: want to correct someone, particularly when that's someone is a
Speaker 1: new acquaintance or superior. There are times when you need
Speaker 1: to correct people, like if someone says, Bob costs the
Speaker 1: company a million dollars and you're Bob and that's not true.
Speaker 1: So that's true, right. But say someone says, as everyone knows,
Speaker 1: we only use ten percent of our brains, which is
Speaker 1: one of the those non factual facts that people spew
Speaker 1: all the time, we actually use our entire brain. If
Speaker 1: you correct them, you might embarrass them and you're not
Speaker 1: actually going to gain anything. They might not believe you,
Speaker 1: and you can wind up in a dumb argument about it,
Speaker 1: taking out your phone and finding sources to prove your
Speaker 1: writing until you shut them down. Sure, you have demonstrated
Speaker 1: your superior knowledge, but a lot of people will actually
Speaker 1: hate that. Okay, let's talk about it, because I feel
Speaker 1: like I've gotten in to so many debates with people
Speaker 1: and people will say things like it's absolute, and this
Speaker 1: could be a time I could just shut the funk
Speaker 1: but just not have the discussion. But I wouldn't say that.
Speaker 1: This would be in a like in a corporate setting,
Speaker 1: because when I worked, I mean, you know how to
Speaker 1: I know how and when half the time I'm not
Speaker 1: gonna say anything, you know, because I have had a
Speaker 1: boss tell me I know you think uh, I know
Speaker 1: you think I'm stupid Ashley. She said that to me,
Speaker 1: and I had minimal exchanges with her, and most of
Speaker 1: them work like via email, and she was a new
Speaker 1: a new manager, something like damn is this bit? And
Speaker 1: she watching my Instagram messages not Instagram but my UM
Speaker 1: like the internal messaging system, like because I did call
Speaker 1: her a stupid at some point, but not like I
Speaker 1: never act acted that way towards her right, So whatever
Speaker 1: she could have been projected, I don't give a fun anyway.
Speaker 1: But I feel like when you're in debates with people
Speaker 1: about information and stuff like that, I feel like I'm
Speaker 1: always the one to have to prove it to them
Speaker 1: because people will say things like absolute and be period
Speaker 1: like that's what it is, but they are not gonna
Speaker 1: come with any real facts about it. It's just like
Speaker 1: better believe me because I said it, but I can
Speaker 1: give you proof. We see. That's the thing. That's what
Speaker 1: we're talking out Like, just don't do that. It's pointless.
Speaker 1: It's a pointless waste of time, and it just makes
Speaker 1: you look bad when you go when you do all
Speaker 1: of that. How though, like, how so people just want
Speaker 1: to just go out here aimlessly. Some people do, and
Speaker 1: sometimes you just let me tell you. I'll let you
Speaker 1: have it, and I'll let you just run your mouth
Speaker 1: and just talk talk talk, and then I'd be like okay, smiling,
Speaker 1: nod and then going about my day. It's just a
Speaker 1: waste of time to correct people I hate, like I
Speaker 1: hate a well actually motherfucker, like well actually I know
Speaker 1: somebody like that. Well actually everything and and bitch don't
Speaker 1: even know what she's talking about. I was like, oh,
Speaker 1: look that's a daddy lawng like, well, actually that is
Speaker 1: a recluse spighter and this indigenoss stuff. You're a shut
Speaker 1: up up. You don't even know if you're right right,
Speaker 1: You're just saying something just to say it. I don't
Speaker 1: do that to people. I don't just be saying to
Speaker 1: say it. And I'm also not about to engage in
Speaker 1: just with anybody and trying to correct them. I'm not
Speaker 1: I'm not going to do that to like, you know,
Speaker 1: in a business setting or something like that, I wouldn't
Speaker 1: do it. But like somebody that I'm normally like going
Speaker 1: back and forth with about some ship, maybe maybe not
Speaker 1: if I feel like it the next one. When you
Speaker 1: have set a big goal, this is a good one,
Speaker 1: might right. You might think that announcing your attentions to
Speaker 1: others will increase your chances of achieving your goals. The
Speaker 1: research suggests the opposite is true. N y U psychology
Speaker 1: professor Peter gold With surfound in four different studies that
Speaker 1: people who kept their attentions to themselves were more likely
Speaker 1: to achieve them than those who made them public. Another
Speaker 1: reason for not trumpeting your big plans is that if
Speaker 1: you don't follow through, you'll be seeing as flaky. Yes,
Speaker 1: I think, um, when I've kept certain things in myself,
Speaker 1: they manifest it quicker. When you start telling people about ship.
Speaker 1: It's like you you don't know who's really for you. Yeah,
Speaker 1: you don't really know who's for you so and they
Speaker 1: may not like intentionally do it, but I feel like
Speaker 1: people can definitely stop some ship for you, maybe manifested,
Speaker 1: subconsciously manifested not to happen because they're jealous. I feel
Speaker 1: like that in a certain situation right now, even if
Speaker 1: you accidentally tell the wrong motherfucker ship left. Yeah, So
Speaker 1: keep keep your goal. Sometimes, you know, telling people that
Speaker 1: I really need to know. Tell the people that, um,
Speaker 1: you know are for you, those people you tell everybody
Speaker 1: else don't matter, Like, don't put social media or to
Speaker 1: tell the people that can make the goal happen. Exactly.
Speaker 1: M there's that part, Okay, Yeah, I wouldn't put everything
Speaker 1: that you're planning are doing online because now you actually
Speaker 1: summon in the fucking energy of all these different people,
Speaker 1: some people that with you, some people that don't. Sorry,
Speaker 1: need to be a bit that don't like you. Screenshot
Speaker 1: and put in her group chat. Now she got a
Speaker 1: whole slew a bitches manifested some bad ship for your goal. Exactly. Look.
Speaker 1: The next one is when you want to gossip. I
Speaker 1: like it. I'd be liking to gossip me too. I
Speaker 1: enjoyed this this list, So shut the funk up when
Speaker 1: you want to gossip. But god, come on, who doesn't gossip?
Speaker 1: And I'm I'm not one of those keep my name
Speaker 1: out your mouth type bitches. Okay, I talked about you,
Speaker 1: you talk about me, We talk about we like it's fine.
Speaker 1: It's true. I mean, that's the terrible waste of good energy,
Speaker 1: right to be slandering people and gossiping, but it is
Speaker 1: so much fun. Like I love the screenshot a bit
Speaker 1: and put it in my great chair, I really do.
Speaker 1: I look, I'm the bitch from the last post. I'm like,
Speaker 1: don't don't post your ship to me. I'm my manifest
Speaker 1: bad energy toward it with my friends. If I don't,
Speaker 1: I'm not ain't gonna manifest bad energy to somebody ship
Speaker 1: by accident because I'm a screenshot and put it in
Speaker 1: my group chair, like, girl, look at this the bitch
Speaker 1: tell me how she's stealing clothes. Look at these outfits.
Speaker 1: I'm saying, like, I'd be like, that's fun though, telling
Speaker 1: me all right, so I'm gonna work on that, y'all.
Speaker 1: I'm just being honest. That's something I would do, right.
Speaker 1: So it says when you want to say something negative
Speaker 1: about someone behind their back. Don't just don't. There's almost
Speaker 1: never a good reason to do this. It makes you
Speaker 1: look petty, childish and mean spirited, and it might get
Speaker 1: back to the person you're slandering. I say almost never,
Speaker 1: because sometimes someone might be might do something truly terrible,
Speaker 1: and you might need to discuss it to decide what
Speaker 1: course of action to take. But this is rare, so
Speaker 1: now I understand that too, Like, sometimes you gotta talk
Speaker 1: it out, so it's really not gossiping about somebody, especially
Speaker 1: if you're in the gossip. If I'm in the gossip
Speaker 1: and I'm asking somebody about something to get their opinion
Speaker 1: on a situation, that's really not gossip. And like I
Speaker 1: can't help but gossip about you at this point. Sorry, Yeah,
Speaker 1: I don't like that one. I'm gonna work on it though,
Speaker 1: because I know I'm you gossip. Yeah, gossip and is fun.
Speaker 1: I mean, you obviously don't have any friends. If you
Speaker 1: don't gossip, you don't have any friends. You ain't got
Speaker 1: nobody talked to big, But you know what I have,
Speaker 1: Like I have had people come to talk to me,
Speaker 1: like coming to me to like talk about somebody that
Speaker 1: I actually like, and I will shut it down. Yeah,
Speaker 1: me too. Don't don't ever come to me to talk
Speaker 1: to it about even talk to it about my friend
Speaker 1: or something like that real quick. Yeah, I've you know who,
Speaker 1: I've had to cuss a few people out over. Charlomagne asked, like,
Speaker 1: imagine you calling me thinking I'm gonna talk to you
Speaker 1: about my friend, Like this is my friend in real
Speaker 1: life for a long time, and I wouldn't do it
Speaker 1: to you. But how do you feel that comfortable to
Speaker 1: come to me? I know I've never talked to you
Speaker 1: about this person, So why do you feel like you could?
Speaker 1: Because because he I think it's because he's such a
Speaker 1: public figure. People feel like they can just say what
Speaker 1: they want. She is crazy, No that I would shut
Speaker 1: that down quick to Yeah, so like you you coming
Speaker 1: to me because now you're want to go to the
Speaker 1: next person is acting like you got like some inside
Speaker 1: yeah person, You don't have an inside person over here.
Speaker 1: And when it comes to people, I love fuck you
Speaker 1: and I'll fight you. How about that? Like, look, you
Speaker 1: thought we was freezed, now about to come beat your
Speaker 1: and now we're friends some more, al right, next one,
Speaker 1: when the deal isn't quite done, look to that old
Speaker 1: adage about counting your chickens before they hatch. If you're
Speaker 1: making a deal of some kind never announced until everyone
Speaker 1: has signed on every dotted line and everything is airtight,
Speaker 1: you feel stupid if things fall apart. That's kind of
Speaker 1: similar to the last one. It's kind of similar to
Speaker 1: the one with big goals. So all of that goes together.
Speaker 1: Just keep anything you actually working on trying to do it.
Speaker 1: If if, if it doesn't involve the people you're telling,
Speaker 1: like why why do they need to know? Right? And
Speaker 1: that that reminds me of me making plans to go
Speaker 1: to Europe next month because I thought I was about
Speaker 1: to get me a festival check. Stupid, you make me sick.
Speaker 1: It made me so sick. Good eyes, speaking our outfits places,
Speaker 1: I was gonna take pictures in my outfits. I ain't
Speaker 1: going nowhere. It's so stupid. I'll be right home. Yeah.
Speaker 1: But even when the deal is done, it might not
Speaker 1: be done until it actually happens. So yeah. Um. The
Speaker 1: only thing about that, I mean you you have to, um,
Speaker 1: you have to like prep for those things. So we're
Speaker 1: planning and prep and planning, advertising, all that good stuff.
Speaker 1: Sometimes stuff all through. Um, when you're mad, you should
Speaker 1: shut the funk up. That's the hardest one for me.
Speaker 1: Little work on me, Jesus, you ain't through with me yet.
Speaker 1: So it says when someone when it says when someone
Speaker 1: annoys you, don't respond right away as you like, excuse me,
Speaker 1: as you are likely to blow up and or say
Speaker 1: something you will regret and you can't take it back.
Speaker 1: Even if you apologize, people will not forget. Hey, So
Speaker 1: best better is don't talk to me if I'm mad,
Speaker 1: then don't talk to me if you're mad. That's only
Speaker 1: that's only that, that's not I see it. You're supposed
Speaker 1: to make this about you, not like, don't talk to
Speaker 1: me if you man. Don't talk to me if I'm mad?
Speaker 1: How about you don't say nothing when you're mad? That's
Speaker 1: what they're saying. Okay, so how did how does that
Speaker 1: one work? Okay? Because right now I'm mad? Right Like, say,
Speaker 1: for instance, I'm mad, I'm in a relationship with a guy.
Speaker 1: I'm mad at him. Right now, I don't say nothing? Right?
Speaker 1: Are we saying that when I finally get to a
Speaker 1: place where I'm not mad and I want to have
Speaker 1: a conversation with him about it? You don't think the
Speaker 1: conversation gonna cause me to get fucking mad again? Like
Speaker 1: it is, Well, it depends. It depends on what your
Speaker 1: goal in the conversation are you are you so what
Speaker 1: I saw? Like instead of trying to attack each other
Speaker 1: to win, you decide that the issue is not each other,
Speaker 1: it's the problem. Y'all are attacking that together to resolve it.
Speaker 1: So if you look at it that way when you're mad,
Speaker 1: you won't be You'll try to take the anger out
Speaker 1: and take that put your anger at the problem and
Speaker 1: not the person. I guess did you learn that in therapy?
Speaker 1: Job therapist still taught you that. That's a hard one, though, man,
Speaker 1: because when you're mad, like one thing I don't do
Speaker 1: when I'm mad, I don't say the worst ship to
Speaker 1: win the argument. So I'm I'm gonna be talking ship,
Speaker 1: but I ain't gonna say like the worst ship. I
Speaker 1: used to do that, I haven't. I haven't been with
Speaker 1: nobody in a long time to ever like have that
Speaker 1: type of time going on, Like I haven't been that
Speaker 1: close with anybody where I could just go for the
Speaker 1: guzzler like that, but I used to I have. Because
Speaker 1: I'm your anger. I still want you to love and
Speaker 1: like me later, like it's certain ships. Somebody can say
Speaker 1: to me and I'm not working with you no more period. Yeah,
Speaker 1: but I used to not care at that point, Like
Speaker 1: it was like you said something to hurt me, now
Speaker 1: here's something to hurt you. How you like the mapples?
Speaker 1: That's how I used to feel. That's what I'm saying,
Speaker 1: Like like the mean things, that's just a mean person
Speaker 1: thing to say. Crazy ship to each other when you
Speaker 1: fucking mad, it's just a mean person thing. It's not
Speaker 1: a man or a woman thing. It's just a mean
Speaker 1: person thing. In that moment, we can really mean to
Speaker 1: each other. But my last boyfriend used to bring that
Speaker 1: out of me. He used to tell me, like, shut
Speaker 1: your dick sucking lips. That's what he used to tell me.
Speaker 1: I would have been like, thanks for the compliment. Look.
Speaker 1: The next one is when you're drunk on That's a
Speaker 1: good one. Now, I'm usually pretty like crunk when I'm drunk,
Speaker 1: but I'm not a mean drunk though, So I'm always
Speaker 1: having like fun. I got my microphone, I travel with
Speaker 1: a mike, Like i'd be fun when I'm drunk. You
Speaker 1: might be annoying too. No, I've never to tell me
Speaker 1: I'm annoying when I'm drunk. It doesn't have to be
Speaker 1: like you say meanship when you're drunk. It also could
Speaker 1: be like you just worried about me just telling ship,
Speaker 1: and did I tell you that? Did I say that?
Speaker 1: Or calling the nigga that you used to like that
Speaker 1: you don't even really like nowhere, like what you're doing
Speaker 1: right now, John, you home, I don't put up like
Speaker 1: shut up, don't call it nigga. You don't even like him.
Speaker 1: All right, So it says it's really hard to keep
Speaker 1: your mouth shut when you're drunk, but alcohol u Lord's inhibitions,
Speaker 1: and you're far more likely to say something inappropriate when inebriated.
Speaker 1: It's true. Yeah, yeah, because let me tell you. The
Speaker 1: elevators went out in my building. It was all kind
Speaker 1: of fired me downstairs. And it was Saturday, late Saturday,
Speaker 1: and I walked into the lobby and I just was
Speaker 1: so inappropriate with the firement. I was like, I love
Speaker 1: a man in uniform. You're gonna save my day. I'm
Speaker 1: gonna say my day like this. And they was looking
Speaker 1: like bitch is late, like bitch, you know, they probably
Speaker 1: was like a bit shut the funk up. Yeah there was,
Speaker 1: and everybody the lobby was laughing. I was just inappropriate,
Speaker 1: and then I was I was embarrassed the next day, like, damn,
Speaker 1: concierge saw that they got you on camera downstairs, and
Speaker 1: I got like a little slut, acting like a drunk slut.
Speaker 1: I was about to do nothing with him. Man, I
Speaker 1: just was drunk, trying to be funny. Yeah, I'm not
Speaker 1: a crazy drunk though. I know. I have some friends
Speaker 1: that are crazy drunks, and if you're not drunk while
Speaker 1: they drunk, it's just not fun. Like bitch, you just
Speaker 1: be disgusted with them, like I gotta be drunk to
Speaker 1: deal with you while you drunk. I know those people.
Speaker 1: I'm not one of them people. I don't think I'm
Speaker 1: like that. Yeah, i'd be having fun, yeah, a good time,
Speaker 1: but I did. It was embarrassing that night. I will
Speaker 1: not lie, all Right's The next one says, when you're
Speaker 1: about to ask a question that isn't really a question,
Speaker 1: Let's give that some context. So it says, if you're
Speaker 1: sitting in a meeting that's about to wrap up, and
Speaker 1: you find yourself raising your hand and say something like,
Speaker 1: so we're going to use our core competencies. Competency, reach out,
Speaker 1: ride the swim lane, and move the needle until we swift,
Speaker 1: excuse me, until we shift the paradigm. Don't you're not
Speaker 1: asking an actual question. You're spewing corporate jargon so that
Speaker 1: people will know you're in the bath I was about
Speaker 1: to say, and you're in the bathroom, so people will
Speaker 1: know you're in the room, and they will hate you
Speaker 1: for it because they want to end the meeting and
Speaker 1: get back to their jobs. I remember people like that, Like,
Speaker 1: you're just trying to be fucking noticed. Just shut the
Speaker 1: funk ups so you can go back, or actually, if
Speaker 1: it's the end of the day, so I can log
Speaker 1: off and go to target. Right, because why are we
Speaker 1: in the meeting. I'm gonna start sitting everybody but you
Speaker 1: the viral of Davis meeting her, getting her person walking out.
Speaker 1: I'm sitting right there, everybody like doing jefts and ships
Speaker 1: about you, right, because now you're just doing some ship
Speaker 1: for attention. Right here, it goes this brown noser again
Speaker 1: doing too much. Yeah, so that's a good time to
Speaker 1: shut the funk up. All right, here's a good one
Speaker 1: when you're about to complain it's hot, you have too
Speaker 1: much work, something smells, the project is stupid. All true, probably,
Speaker 1: but keep it to yourself. Nobody likes a whiner. Um,
Speaker 1: this ship is for fucking work, isn't it. But anyway
Speaker 1: we can apply it to real life. So I feel like, uh,
Speaker 1: complaining should be like the eleventh commandment, thou shalt not complain.
Speaker 1: It's hard, but you have so many other things that
Speaker 1: you should be, can be, and should be grateful for,
Speaker 1: um that this thing is. It's it's minuscule. Why are
Speaker 1: you complaining? It'd be like low ship people be complaining
Speaker 1: about all right. I hate when people own't doing free
Speaker 1: ship and complaining about free ship, like you're on a
Speaker 1: this nigga took you on a free vacation. You complaining.
Speaker 1: I need salts. I know you ain't talking. I know
Speaker 1: you're not complaining on a free vacation before. I don't complain.
Speaker 1: I'm so easy to get along with on free when
Speaker 1: we're doing free ship, if it's free from me, I'm pleasant.
Speaker 1: I'm pleasant. I rarely send food back when I'm all right,
Speaker 1: even yeah, especially now, since like businesses are like short
Speaker 1: staff and cross this up, I rarely rarely if it
Speaker 1: got to be really bad for me to send it back. Yeah,
Speaker 1: I um, I try not to complain, but if I
Speaker 1: complain on you, it was really bad because I'm like
Speaker 1: one of those people who just silently go away. I'm
Speaker 1: just like, now I funk with that no more, and
Speaker 1: I'm gonna tell other people. I'm a gossip about your business.
Speaker 1: But but I'm not going to like funk your day
Speaker 1: up about it. So if I funk your day up
Speaker 1: about some ship, it is really bad and it's like,
Speaker 1: why are you playing with me? At this point? If
Speaker 1: I really complain about some ship, and I guess that
Speaker 1: also goes into relationships. Um My ex, one of my exes,
Speaker 1: he would always complain about like my hair being on
Speaker 1: the floor and ship like that. Nigga, your beard hair
Speaker 1: is all on the floor like pubic hair. You know
Speaker 1: what I do. I come in the bathroom, I just
Speaker 1: sweep the whole bathroom. I don't like pinpoint what's yours
Speaker 1: and what's mine, Like you just clean up behind each
Speaker 1: other because that's what you're doing relationships. But for whatever reason,
Speaker 1: oftentimes people only see what the other person is doing.
Speaker 1: They don't see their little quirks and ship that get
Speaker 1: on everybody else nerves. I have a high tolerance hero bocehous.
Speaker 1: I'll be complaining, like in relationships, specifically about ship. The
Speaker 1: other person does not like regular little things like that
Speaker 1: personality ship I'm complaining about um. I used to get
Speaker 1: like my ex boyfriend I used to get married when
Speaker 1: he and leave the toilet seat up because I would falling.
Speaker 1: And then I had picked up some weight and then
Speaker 1: I ain't falling. I was even more to you, I
Speaker 1: asked her, got fatter? I ain't even fall in this time.
Speaker 1: I'm real mad at you. That's something like gentimen ship.
Speaker 1: To complain about it, right, leaving that toilet seat up,
Speaker 1: Don't nobody want to sit on that dried up pe right?
Speaker 1: You pissed on the tilest seat and you ain't cleaning
Speaker 1: it right now? That's that. That's a legit complaint. My
Speaker 1: dad used to be like, did you lift the toilet
Speaker 1: seat up when you was done? That's how he used
Speaker 1: to get us. Yeah, but it don't go up and
Speaker 1: go down exactly. But he would like, like, Daddy, why
Speaker 1: do you put the toilet seat down? He'd be like,
Speaker 1: why you ain't put it up? Nigga, nigga right. And
Speaker 1: then my ex used to complain about, alright, I have
Speaker 1: this thing where I don't tighten the lids on seasonings
Speaker 1: when I put them back in the cabinet, Like if
Speaker 1: I'm seasoning food as I'm cooking, I put the lid
Speaker 1: on it and then I put it up, and I
Speaker 1: never tightened screw it tight. He used to get mad
Speaker 1: that the screws were never tight on the season and yeah,
Speaker 1: because you're being picked it up and now you dropped
Speaker 1: it in his waist, is spill spill? Right? But and
Speaker 1: I get it, and I will I was like, okay,
Speaker 1: I'll make a conscious effort to start tighten him. But
Speaker 1: how about you start cooking some ship in here sometimes
Speaker 1: instead of me having to cook all the time, and
Speaker 1: then you can make sure they're tight when you cook
Speaker 1: it because you don't ever cook. Is that was that?
Speaker 1: Your response when he gave you some critique on something
Speaker 1: is to respond of something you don't like of him.
Speaker 1: That's some bullshit. Just take it and be like, okay, baby,
Speaker 1: I'll remember right, because because instead of that started to
Speaker 1: arsent attack the problem. M I learned it. I learned,
Speaker 1: I told you, I just learned that A therapy girl. Yeah,
Speaker 1: see see how that works, y'all. Y'all, see how that works.
Speaker 1: Stop trying to netpick with your damn partner all the time.
Speaker 1: And that's just in't anything, huh, because he can you
Speaker 1: just tighten the lids on the damn season? Can you
Speaker 1: just shut the funk up? Eat the food I prepare
Speaker 1: for you? Why are you in my cabinet anyway? You
Speaker 1: don't cook any I don't cook shot in here. Ever,
Speaker 1: Let's see when someone else is being a jerk, shut up. Yeah,
Speaker 1: when someone else is being stupid, rude, belligerent, or an
Speaker 1: idiot in some way or the other, lit them, don't
Speaker 1: call them out, get mad or insult or embarrass them. First.
Speaker 1: They could just be having a bad day or not
Speaker 1: know how to handle themselves in whatever situation they're in.
Speaker 1: Be kind, I guess. I guess everybody is allowed to
Speaker 1: have a bad day, and maybe it's an opportunity to
Speaker 1: ask them, hey, you okay, as opposed to you know,
Speaker 1: being a jerk back, Yeah, being nasty back to them.
Speaker 1: Because when we say shut the funk up, it's like negative. Right.
Speaker 1: If you come in with something positive, yeah, absolutely say
Speaker 1: whatever is. But if you're coming with some negative ship,
Speaker 1: then shut the funk up in that situation. So this
Speaker 1: person is clearly having a bad day, or we're assuming
Speaker 1: maybe they could possibly be having a bad day if
Speaker 1: they're being a jerk, asked him, if they're having a
Speaker 1: bad day, as opposed to matching their jerk. Yeah, but
Speaker 1: y'all know, y'all be like I reciprocate all energy I
Speaker 1: know I do, or I just won't say anything to you.
Speaker 1: If I could clearly see that you're having a bad
Speaker 1: day or you acting like a jerk, I'll just shut down.
Speaker 1: I'm not even saying nothing to you. And I feel
Speaker 1: like that was one of the issues in my last
Speaker 1: relationship too, because I didn't feel like he if you
Speaker 1: were having a bad day and something's going on with
Speaker 1: you and you need my love right now and you
Speaker 1: need me to be that that feminine energy to make
Speaker 1: you feel better, you have to be inviting of that,
Speaker 1: you know what. Your energy has to be inviting of
Speaker 1: that otherwise because when I have a bad day, I
Speaker 1: really want to be left alone. So that's how I
Speaker 1: want to be done, right, So I have to match
Speaker 1: people whatever their love languages is. So, but you have
Speaker 1: to be inviting of the love if you want to.
Speaker 1: If you need a hug right now because you had
Speaker 1: a hard day, you can't just be blatantly nasty to
Speaker 1: me and expect me to give you a hug. Like,
Speaker 1: I'm actually not gonna say nothing, so that will be
Speaker 1: a time that I'll shut the funk up. If you
Speaker 1: just blatantly being nasty to me, I'm not gonna argue
Speaker 1: with you initially. Now if you keep poking on my
Speaker 1: fucking bear, now, I might kick sweep you. I've been
Speaker 1: I've been in the gym trying to learn how to
Speaker 1: kick sweep niggas mid argument. You see, that's Cara, bitch.
Speaker 1: Could you imagine that you'll be at my house or
Speaker 1: something like that and I'm arguing on my nigga and
Speaker 1: you just see me kick sweeping in his head like
Speaker 1: bunks off the floor a little bit like, oh my god,
Speaker 1: that would be I'm like, oh my god, I'm leaving.
Speaker 1: I'm leaving right now. I don't want no parts of
Speaker 1: this girl. Listen, Ninja. Uh. I'm like when people are
Speaker 1: jerked sometimes, especially as people that you know, I'm I
Speaker 1: know and like it's something going on, I'll just be
Speaker 1: like overly nice just to make them more mad, so
Speaker 1: you ain't shutting the funk up. You're just gonna be
Speaker 1: super nice, super nice, super nice and make them more
Speaker 1: and be like, oh, they hate this bitch today, like
Speaker 1: almost so nice that it comes off fake, you know, right,
Speaker 1: and they're gonna get that's why they're getting mad because
Speaker 1: they know that she ain't sucking genuine So you should
Speaker 1: probably shut the funk up, right right, my point exactly,
Speaker 1: having a bad day, Ashley, Oh my god, somebody get
Speaker 1: her some caffeine. Guys, she's having a bad day. No,
Speaker 1: clearly you're having a bad day. I want to talk
Speaker 1: about it. No, okay, going back to my desk. Shame goodness?
Speaker 1: Do you need a moment all right when you're about
Speaker 1: to talk to feel in the silence. Silence can be awkward,
Speaker 1: but there are a couple of reasons you shouldn't necessarily
Speaker 1: rush to feel it. The first is that some people
Speaker 1: just like to think before they speak and aren't as
Speaker 1: freaked out by pauses as others, So when you jump
Speaker 1: to fill in the void, you're actually cutting off their
Speaker 1: thought process, way to beat and make sure they're not
Speaker 1: preparing to speak. Another reason is that if you're both
Speaker 1: uncomfortable with silence, Sometimes you can learn a lot by
Speaker 1: letting the other person feel it, as we often tend
Speaker 1: to overshare what we want to impress and overcome any
Speaker 1: sort of awkwardness that could be perceived as our fault
Speaker 1: or for not holding up our end of the conversation.
Speaker 1: This tactic is particularly useful when conducting interviews or during meetings. Okay,
Speaker 1: so that's listen job ship, So listen. Okay. If we're
Speaker 1: if it's some awkward silence, like on the phone and
Speaker 1: I'm getting off the phone, I'm not filling in ship,
Speaker 1: let me call you back, Let me call you back,
Speaker 1: let me call you right back like I'm getting off
Speaker 1: the phone. In person, I don't really have that problem
Speaker 1: because maybe I maybe I am one of those people
Speaker 1: that will fill in silence. I'm saying with a joke
Speaker 1: real quick, quick, exactly like I'm good with that. So
Speaker 1: if you're somebody that's not engaging in a conversation, I
Speaker 1: just and I if I can't talk to you, you
Speaker 1: really whack. That's what. It depends on what we're talking about,
Speaker 1: because if we're talking about something heavy, I'll let that
Speaker 1: Paul's ride just so you could like because I remember
Speaker 1: that time I told you, I told it dude like
Speaker 1: his dick was trash. It was a long pause. I
Speaker 1: wanted him to absorb what I was saying. I didn't
Speaker 1: say it me and I said it nice. You know.
Speaker 1: I wasn't like, yo, dick is trash. I was just
Speaker 1: like you let him think too long though, because didn't
Speaker 1: he get a raid after that? Calm down. Clearly are
Speaker 1: having a bad day. Do you need a moment? Somebody
Speaker 1: get them some coffee and stick don't work. So if
Speaker 1: we're gonna have a urologist on next week, y'all to
Speaker 1: talk about rerectile dysfunction. So that's a nice little information. Yeah,
Speaker 1: if anybody has e D call up. We want to hear. Yeah,
Speaker 1: we want to have questions. Mm hmm, because we want
Speaker 1: all dicks to work in two. They gotta change their diets. Man,
Speaker 1: they talk about black women like leading and diabetes. All
Speaker 1: black people, black women, black men, we all have the
Speaker 1: same type of health issues these things. It's not genetics,
Speaker 1: it's the food that we eat, obviously. So everybody just
Speaker 1: needs to change the diets and we'll get into that
Speaker 1: next week. Yeah, so tune in for that. Let's take
Speaker 1: a break, we'll be right back. We're gonna come back
Speaker 1: with our dumb bitch story for this week. Is good.
Speaker 1: You know dumb bitch stories because we've all been a
Speaker 1: dumb bitch at least once or twice. So listen, We're
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Speaker 1: say her name. Um she says. I don't think my
Speaker 1: dumb bit story is that exciting, but I love the
Speaker 1: show and I just wanted to write in. So. I
Speaker 1: started dating this man when I was twenty five. I'm
Speaker 1: twenty nine now. He's eleven years older than me. He
Speaker 1: was really nice, a gentleman, sex was good, et cetera.
Speaker 1: Plus he used to spend those bags. I ended up
Speaker 1: falling in love with him, he said, and show the
Speaker 1: feeling was mutual. But I could never get this man
Speaker 1: to actually say we were together. I used to borderline
Speaker 1: beg the nigga to be with me. I've dated other
Speaker 1: men throughout the years, but I always end up running
Speaker 1: back to him for the comfort and I know he's
Speaker 1: gonna take me to nice places. Fast forward to now.
Speaker 1: I hit him up a few months ago, and he's
Speaker 1: back in my life. He's finally ready to settle down
Speaker 1: with me. But I don't feel like that anymore. Um,
Speaker 1: I'm really over the nigga. When we're together, I don't
Speaker 1: want to be touched. We've had sex once recently and
Speaker 1: I wasn't into it at all. I had to fantasize
Speaker 1: about someone else to even attempt to enjoy it. I
Speaker 1: no longer enjoy our conversations. I get irritated quickly. At
Speaker 1: this point. I really just keep him around just out
Speaker 1: of fear of being alone. I guess, Um, I guess
Speaker 1: I'm a lonely dumb bitch. What you said? Ah, So
Speaker 1: that's a lot. The thing is is that, don't do y'all?
Speaker 1: Do we really want men to like us? Because I
Speaker 1: feel like sometimes when they start liking us at the
Speaker 1: at the same capacity, like say, for instance, like you
Speaker 1: chased him in the beginning, right, and then once he
Speaker 1: starts liking you in the same capacity, sometimes women start
Speaker 1: pulling away. Is it because it was the chase you
Speaker 1: were in love with? Or is it because um, it's like, nigga,
Speaker 1: you made me, you made me wait all this time.
Speaker 1: Now I'm not really feeling you like that, because once
Speaker 1: sex is bad, the relationship really is over. If it's
Speaker 1: like disgusting for you to funk on him, it's like done. Yeah,
Speaker 1: just seeing him on his way because I mean he's
Speaker 1: just being mean to the nigga at this point, like
Speaker 1: why are you breathing? Nigga likes you know, like right, yeah,
Speaker 1: just seeing him on his way, I mean, just be alone,
Speaker 1: you find something to feel your time about it besides
Speaker 1: the nigga you don't like, right, yeah, Because she was
Speaker 1: liking him when he was being indifferent. She liked him
Speaker 1: when he wouldn't say yes, we're together, she liked him.
Speaker 1: But now sometimes and like a little chase. That's why
Speaker 1: I'm saying these things. But it is it a chase though,
Speaker 1: if it's the chase that you want, right for some
Speaker 1: women who like the chase, right when you when you
Speaker 1: get the thing, because that's that chase ship is really
Speaker 1: a masculine ship for you to be chasing men. Men
Speaker 1: are the hunters. Men like to conquer, right, So as
Speaker 1: a woman, that's not like a natural thing for us.
Speaker 1: So I like it. I don't know, I guess because
Speaker 1: I just feel like so many men be after me
Speaker 1: all the time that sometimes I want to be like
Speaker 1: the one doing a little the chase a little bit,
Speaker 1: not like crazy. I don't want to be like let
Speaker 1: me take you to dinner, let me ask you to
Speaker 1: marry me, right, No, But I do like when a
Speaker 1: man isn't like just always available at my every whom
Speaker 1: and just give me something to like wonder about a
Speaker 1: little bit, like where you at, you know, like just
Speaker 1: a little bit, not like you're my husband and where
Speaker 1: you at four in the morning, but just give me
Speaker 1: a little like give me a little chase, just a
Speaker 1: little chase. I don't like men that's always available because
Speaker 1: I don't like people are always clocking me. Okay, like
Speaker 1: I don't work a job, but if I did, I
Speaker 1: would never tell a nigga my schedule that type of thing,
Speaker 1: like I don't want you to ever know exactly when
Speaker 1: I'm available. Yeah, Or I don't like when the nigga
Speaker 1: messaged me on Instagram and then turn around and messaged
Speaker 1: me on Facebook the same ship. Don't do that. That's weird,
Speaker 1: that's annoying, Like stop, I feel trapped by you, not
Speaker 1: you feel trapped, but not like you don't think for
Speaker 1: a second that he just want to make sure Listen, hey,
Speaker 1: I'm in the running. You see me like he want
Speaker 1: to make sure you see him? I see you guys,
Speaker 1: see your message in Instagram. You don't have to come
Speaker 1: up here in Facebook. Shame God, damn. I don't know. Girl,
Speaker 1: Leave that man alone if you don't like him anymore,
Speaker 1: or or maybe you need to figure out what it
Speaker 1: was that made you like him in the first place
Speaker 1: and go back to that place so maybe y'all can
Speaker 1: fall in love at each other. Now, why are you
Speaker 1: gonna be like stop coming over there and you're working
Speaker 1: with somebody else? Think, I'm like, damn where Joshua? Exactly? See?
Speaker 1: And that's the weird thing, Like why we like that hurt?
Speaker 1: It's like everybody got a fucking pain body Like everybody
Speaker 1: just want to feel. I don't like I don't like
Speaker 1: that feeling in my chest. I don't like it. I
Speaker 1: can't sleep at night. I don't like it. I don't
Speaker 1: like my chest to hurt. I don't know what's wrong
Speaker 1: with y'll, bitches. I don't like to hurt either. Yeah,
Speaker 1: but just like y'all chest to hurt, y'all do y'all
Speaker 1: like that drama feeling and y'all like to makeup afterwards.
Speaker 1: I don't like to. I don't like that. I just
Speaker 1: like mutual everything, just cool, copastatic, That's what I like. No,
Speaker 1: because sometimes that after fight sex be so good. It's
Speaker 1: not even an after fight. It's like, oh, he answered
Speaker 1: the phone, and now, like even if you're in a
Speaker 1: situation where you can't check a nigga about some ship
Speaker 1: because they ain't really your man m hmm, man like
Speaker 1: y'all not established in an actual relationship yet, but a
Speaker 1: hen answering the phone for you, now you're just going
Speaker 1: crazy in your mind. You may not display it to him,
Speaker 1: but that that gives like some fire, some passion that
Speaker 1: is weird, old fucking behave y'all like it. I don't
Speaker 1: like that, man. I don't like to have to wonder
Speaker 1: about ship. I don't just a little wonder. I don't
Speaker 1: need to like. I don't want you to be too
Speaker 1: predict predictable and too accessible to me. But then it's
Speaker 1: just like another piece of bland chicken for dinner tonight,
Speaker 1: night after night. So if you call a guy and
Speaker 1: he don't answer the phone, that don't bother you, No,
Speaker 1: because I can't answer the phone every time you call,
Speaker 1: I'm out with somebody else. All right, y'all listen. If
Speaker 1: you enjoy this episode, please tune in every Thursday on
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Speaker 1: that that's how you're gonna do my thoughts. Do you
Speaker 1: want a husband or not? I'm talking about I already
Speaker 1: know who my husband is. God damn, I already know
Speaker 1: who he is. Okay, I met him. We're building right now.
Speaker 1: All right. I hear that, y'all. Look y'all hear that. So,
Speaker 1: y'all tam getting married next y'all know I'm getting married
Speaker 1: next year. I don't know about you, but I am.
Speaker 1: I'm I'm getting a husband this year. Child, and I'm
Speaker 1: have a whole baby next year. How about that. I
Speaker 1: don't know about the baby for me, but I'm definitely
Speaker 1: getting married. I hear that. We're gonna see, We're gonna see.
Speaker 1: But anyway, like she said, if y'all light this show ahead,
Speaker 1: do your ship listen. If you enjoyed this episode, please
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Speaker 1: Remember to speak now and never hold your piece girl?
Speaker 1: What the fun was that I can think in real life?
Speaker 1: By y'all, Bye bye