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Speaker 1: We're just two unapologetically black women with an opinion who

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Speaker 1: talk back. What's up, y'all?

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Speaker 2: Thank you for tuning in for a new episode of

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Speaker 2: We Talk Back, a show dedicated to you niggas and

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Speaker 2: these hoes. And yes, I did say niggas, okay? This

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Speaker 2: is your co-host, AJ. What's up, girl?

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Speaker 1: Hey, y'all. Hey, everybody. It's Official Tam Bam. I love

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Speaker 1: y'all once again this week. I do. I still love

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Speaker 1: y'all motherfuckers. Niggas and hoes.

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Speaker 2: Because not somebody online trying to comfort me for calling

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Speaker 2: people niggas. Pardon me?

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Speaker 1: Everybody don't like the term niggas, but we do.

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Speaker 2: You know, I do be trying not to use the term, but,

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Speaker 2: you know, it's a slip.

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Speaker 1: It's not a slip for me. I love my niggas.

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Speaker 1: Y'all all my niggas.

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Speaker 2: Okay?

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Speaker 1: Right. As long as I don't put the hard ER

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Speaker 1: on the end, it's a difference to me.

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Speaker 2: Sometimes I put the hard er I hate that don't do.

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Speaker 1: That sometimes I do don't do that that's awful how

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Speaker 1: was your weekend child my weekend was good I went

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Speaker 1: to um my friend's dad's 56th birthday party and the

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Speaker 1: shit was lit it was it wasn't none of his

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Speaker 1: friends though it was just all her friends and then

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Speaker 1: him Uh-uh.

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Speaker 2: That's how he wanted it, too.

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Speaker 1: Yeah. He was on my head, too. I was like,

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Speaker 1: go ahead, Mr. Edward.

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Speaker 2: He was trying to see what that thing do for

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Speaker 2: his birthday. He was going to bless him right quick.

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Speaker 1: But we had a good time. Love her. Love her family.

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Speaker 1: It was lit. That's all I really did. Right.

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Speaker 2: I didn't do much or nothing this weekend, either. I

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Speaker 2: was supposed to go to Atlanta, but I just chilled out.

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Speaker 2: I'm not in a traveling mood. It's like, I don't know.

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Speaker 2: I don't know if it's just me or do other

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Speaker 2: women feel this way, but when my cycle is on,

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Speaker 2: I don't want to do shit. Don't talk to me.

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Speaker 2: I don't want to leave the house. The only thing,

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Speaker 2: I did go out to eat. That's about it. Saturday.

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Speaker 2: That's it.

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Speaker 1: Other than that, I don't do shit. If it's day one,

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Speaker 1: after day two, I can come outside. But day one

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Speaker 1: and two, please don't bother me. Shoot fly, don't bother me.

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Speaker 1: So I really wasn't in the mood. I was like

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Speaker 1: in a little... I don't want to call it a funk.

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Speaker 1: My friend says I shouldn't call it a funk. So

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Speaker 1: I was in a mood, basically. Your pussy was stank.

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Speaker 1: It was a funk. Bitch, bye.

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Speaker 2: Okay? That's one thing you'll never have to worry about.

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Speaker 1: Jerk.

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Speaker 2: Why are you stink coochie shaming on the damn podcast?

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Speaker 1: I don't know.

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Speaker 2: There's a lot of women that are looking really pretty today.

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Speaker 2: They have a nice dress on. They're at work. And

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Speaker 2: they're coochie stank.

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Speaker 1: Yes.

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Speaker 2: They may be having a bad day. And here you

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Speaker 2: are shaming them.

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Speaker 1: Your pussy stank today. That's terrible.

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Speaker 2: Let's move on from that.

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Speaker 1: I'm just joking. I'm just joking.

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Speaker 2: Y'all all my niggas.

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Speaker 1: Whether your pussy stank or not.

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Speaker 2: Girl, stop it. All right.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, you're right.

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Speaker 2: What we got going on in stupid internet news, child? Tamar.

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Speaker 2: Is engaged to.

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Speaker 1: Congratulations.

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Speaker 2: Yes, honey. She got her a white zaddy.

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Speaker 1: Okay.

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Speaker 2: His name is Jeremy Robinson. And he's a lawyer from Atlanta.

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Speaker 2: And I saw it on Gossip in the City. Gossip

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Speaker 1: Initially, right?

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Speaker 2: And then all the other blogs got a hold of it.

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Speaker 2: But now all these different women are coming out to

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Speaker 1: I missed that.

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Speaker 2: Yes, honey. So the baby mama, the baby mama is like,

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Speaker 2: he only, he don't pay this much in child support.

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Speaker 2: This and a third, he's just infatuated with black women.

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Speaker 2: So basically she's trying to say it's like a, like

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Speaker 1: Yeah.

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Speaker 2: And he oftentimes, um, says disparaging things about black women.

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Speaker 2: I don't know how true this stuff is. You know,

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Speaker 2: if he's so bad for the community, why hadn't we

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Speaker 1: Right?

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Speaker 2: Because he looks like he has some shit going on

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Speaker 2: in Atlanta. So he was really out here dogging black

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Speaker 2: already been on the radar prior to Tamar getting with him,

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Speaker 2: but I don't know. And I guess he was recently

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Speaker 2: from what I can see. And yeah, I don't know.

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Speaker 2: I'm happy for her if it's real. He's fine. Nice looking, older,

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Speaker 2: white gentleman. Lil Duvall weighed in on it too. Lil

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Speaker 2: Duvall said, but let us get a white woman. Y'all

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Speaker 2: gonna snap. And my old lady ain't white. He put

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Speaker 2: that in parentheses. His old lady ain't white. it's not

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Speaker 2: that we be snapping the thing is that do you

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Speaker 2: boo what black women don't like when black men you

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Speaker 2: know or get others and it's not always a white

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Speaker 2: woman we just don't like the shit y'all talk about

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Speaker 2: us to justify that relationship if you like white women

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Speaker 2: you like Hispanics you like others just like them you

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Speaker 2: don't have to say well I like them because black

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Speaker 2: you know what happens so yeah well.

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Speaker 1: I just hope it work out for her because I

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Speaker 1: want her to be happy me too I like Tamar Mm-hmm. Yeah.

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Speaker 1: Notorious big daughter Tiana Wallace posted her boyfriend's $ 1 million

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Speaker 1: was stopped by police after parking his 2021 Durango SRT Hellcat.

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Speaker 1: It's SRT. In a busy intersection. Cops also cite his

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Speaker 1: loud exhaust and dark tinted windows as a reason for

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Speaker 1: That is when he allegedly sped off and slammed into

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Speaker 1: Court document shows that Wallace, Notorious B.I.G. 's daughter, put

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Speaker 1: up her $ 1. 5 million home in Brooklyn to secure her

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Speaker 1: boyfriend's bond.

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Speaker 2: No, thank you.

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Speaker 1: Well, okay.

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Speaker 2: Not a boyfriend. Not for a boyfriend. Husband, yes. A boyfriend,

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Speaker 1: I don't think my husband would want me to put

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Speaker 1: up our $ 1. 5 million house to get him out for

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Speaker 1: a hit and run. Yes, he would.

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Speaker 2: And hopefully you'd be married to a man that would

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Speaker 1: Pay it. The man I'm about to marry, he is

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Speaker 1: going to be able to pay it. That's what I'm saying.

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Speaker 1: You remember that girl in Charlotte? She had won all

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Speaker 1: this money. She won the lottery. Millions and millions of

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Speaker 1: going to prison. She kept bonding him out on these

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Speaker 1: million dollar bonds. They only give people those type of

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Speaker 1: You know what I'm saying?

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Speaker 2: So, His bond, it could be excessive. It could very

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Speaker 2: well be excessive. That cash bond system is fucked up.

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Speaker 1: Well, he did hit six people. And I saw the

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Speaker 1: video of him.

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Speaker 2: It looks like he was about to hit a mom

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Speaker 2: with a stroller.

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Speaker 1: Yeah. Yeah.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, I don't know. Some stupid shit like that, you

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Speaker 2: might need to sit down, sir. You might need to

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Speaker 2: sit down until you go back to bond court. Maybe

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Speaker 2: they'll lower it. Because she's going to fuck around and

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Speaker 2: lose her house playing with him. Right. Because he sounds

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Speaker 2: pretty dumb. I would not have.

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Speaker 1: Right, because if you make me lose my house, I'm

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Speaker 1: going to come in the door waving the 4-4. All

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Speaker 1: you heard was, Tammy, don't hit me no more.

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Speaker 2: Right. Shame. Look, so we need y'all to stop talking

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Speaker 2: shit about BBLs because apparently y'all going to the doctor

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Speaker 2: to get more dick, okay? The headline reads that male

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Speaker 2: genitalia enhancements are more popular than ever, and BBLs are

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Speaker 2: dying out, says a cosmetic surgery, excuse me, cosmetic surgery CEO,

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Speaker 2: Angela Kogan, speaks on the latest trends.

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Speaker 1: So, where y'all at? Yes.

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Speaker 2: Get your dick, do your dickos, baby. I'm here for it. Now,

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Speaker 2: I do have a homeboy who just recently, well, last

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Speaker 2: like some... I think this nigga did a lap band

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Speaker 2: surgery or something like that. Like men are out here

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Speaker 2: doing this stuff and I feel like y'all been doing it. Okay.

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Speaker 1: I'm here for it. If they got something to make

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Speaker 1: your dick bigger in this little, go get your dick

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Speaker 1: bigger son.

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Speaker 2: Right. Why not?

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Speaker 1: But stop talking shit about them BBLs.

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Speaker 2: I am sick of the BBLs too now. I ain't

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Speaker 2: gonna lie now. Like women with real ass, like come on,

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Speaker 2: you got to compete with this shit. Now everybody just walk,

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Speaker 2: people are assuming that everybody's just walk around with a

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Speaker 2: fake ass and everybody isn't.

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Speaker 1: There's some people's bodies shaped like that. Yeah. I know.

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Speaker 1: People be like, what doctor did your ass?

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Speaker 2: Dr.

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Speaker 1: Jesus.

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Speaker 2: That is so ignorant to even ask somebody.

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Speaker 1: Ask me that. Right.

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Speaker 2: That is so ignorant.

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Speaker 1: Dr. Jesus. Dr.

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Speaker 2: Grits and cornbread. Because you can tell who got the

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Speaker 2: fake asses.

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Speaker 1: Okay. I'm sorry. It's the thighs. Yes.

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Speaker 2: Y'all look like a Hennessy bottle. A lot of them. Now,

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Speaker 2: some people have some really nice ones.

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Speaker 1: Right.

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Speaker 2: Favorite go-to for really nice BBLs, Iggy Azalea. Her body

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Speaker 2: is nice, okay?

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Speaker 1: Bernice. But even when she shake it, you can see

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Speaker 1: that little flap on the bottom.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, it'd be like a little bridge down there. Yeah,

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Speaker 2: it's like a little.

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Speaker 1: Bridge on the bottom where the meat don't connect where

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Speaker 1: it's supposed to in real life.

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Speaker 2: That's a damn thing it look good don't move though

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Speaker 2: don't move.

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Speaker 1: But Bernice Bernice got that bomb ass body.

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Speaker 2: Too she just looks amazing yeah she has a nice

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Speaker 2: body who else got a nice BBL that I can

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Speaker 2: like yeah I would go to whoever doctor did that

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Speaker 2: It's pointless.

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Speaker 2: I'm not I'm not gonna do that to like you

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Speaker 2: Yes. I think when I've kept certain things to myself,

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Speaker 1: happen because they're jealous.

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00:21:10,359 --> 00:21:12,340
Speaker 2: I feel like that in a certain situation right now.

443
00:21:12,820 --> 00:21:17,060
Speaker 2: Even if you accidentally tell the wrong motherfucker, shit might

444
00:21:17,080 --> 00:21:17,600
Speaker 2: go left.

445
00:21:18,080 --> 00:21:18,439
Speaker 1: Yeah.

446
00:21:18,780 --> 00:21:21,360
Speaker 2: So keep your goals. Sometimes, you know, tell the people

447
00:21:21,380 --> 00:21:25,270
Speaker 2: that really need to know. Tell the people that you

448
00:21:25,330 --> 00:21:28,490
Speaker 2: know are 100% for you. Those are the people you tell.

449
00:21:28,550 --> 00:21:30,990
Speaker 2: Everybody else don't fucking matter. Like, don't put the shit

450
00:21:31,010 --> 00:21:31,710
Speaker 2: on social media.

451
00:21:33,030 --> 00:21:36,070
Speaker 1: Or to tell the people that can make the goal happen. Exactly.

452
00:21:37,310 --> 00:21:37,970
Speaker 2: There's that part.

453
00:21:37,990 --> 00:21:38,070
Speaker 1: Yeah.

454
00:21:38,730 --> 00:21:39,110
Speaker 2: Okay?

455
00:21:39,670 --> 00:21:39,870
Speaker 1: Yeah.

456
00:21:40,430 --> 00:21:44,300
Speaker 2: I wouldn't put everything that you're planning or doing online

457
00:21:44,580 --> 00:21:47,120
Speaker 2: because now you actually summoning the fucking energy of all

458
00:21:47,180 --> 00:21:49,459
Speaker 2: these different people. Some people that fuck with you, some

459
00:21:49,480 --> 00:21:50,879
Speaker 2: people that don't. Right.

460
00:21:50,900 --> 00:21:53,149
Speaker 1: And it'll be a bitch that don't like you screenshot it,

461
00:21:53,180 --> 00:21:54,680
Speaker 1: put it in her group chat. Now she got a

462
00:21:54,720 --> 00:22:00,610
Speaker 1: whole slew of bitches manifesting some bad shit for your goal. Exactly.

463
00:22:02,710 --> 00:22:05,150
Speaker 2: Look, the next one is when you want to gossip.

464
00:22:05,740 --> 00:22:08,300
Speaker 2: I like it. I be liking the gossip.

465
00:22:08,780 --> 00:22:10,770
Speaker 1: Me too. I enjoy this. Fuck this list.

466
00:22:13,530 --> 00:22:15,470
Speaker 2: So shut the fuck up when you want to gossip.

467
00:22:15,550 --> 00:22:18,550
Speaker 2: But God, come on. Who doesn't gossip? And I'm not

468
00:22:18,630 --> 00:22:21,610
Speaker 2: one of those keep my name out your mouth type bitches.

469
00:22:21,770 --> 00:22:22,109
Speaker 1: Okay.

470
00:22:22,230 --> 00:22:24,090
Speaker 2: I talk about you. You talk about me. We talk

471
00:22:24,109 --> 00:22:24,540
Speaker 2: about we.

472
00:22:24,560 --> 00:22:25,340
Speaker 1: Like, it's fine.

473
00:22:26,619 --> 00:22:27,000
Speaker 2: It's true.

474
00:22:27,060 --> 00:22:29,340
Speaker 1: I mean, that's a terrible waste of good energy, right?

475
00:22:29,359 --> 00:22:32,000
Speaker 1: To be slandering people and gossiping. But it is so

476
00:22:32,060 --> 00:22:34,649
Speaker 1: much fun. Like, I love to screenshot a bitch and

477
00:22:34,670 --> 00:22:37,150
Speaker 1: put it in my group chat. I really do. Look,

478
00:22:37,230 --> 00:22:41,710
Speaker 1: I'm the bitch from the last post. Don't post your

479
00:22:41,760 --> 00:22:44,439
Speaker 1: shit to me. I manifest bad energy toward it with

480
00:22:44,480 --> 00:22:45,359
Speaker 1: my friends if I don't want to.

481
00:22:45,440 --> 00:22:46,000
Speaker 2: I'm not.

482
00:22:46,020 --> 00:22:46,400
Speaker 1: Uh-uh.

483
00:22:46,440 --> 00:22:49,000
Speaker 2: You going to manifest bad energy to somebody's shit?

484
00:22:49,340 --> 00:22:51,359
Speaker 1: By accident, because I'm going to screenshot it and put

485
00:22:51,380 --> 00:22:52,080
Speaker 1: it in my group chat.

486
00:22:52,100 --> 00:22:53,680
Speaker 2: Like, girl, look at this bitch.

487
00:22:54,000 --> 00:22:56,600
Speaker 1: Talking about she's selling clothes. Look at these outfits.

488
00:22:58,359 --> 00:22:59,180
Speaker 2: You know what I'm saying?

489
00:22:59,220 --> 00:23:04,460
Speaker 1: Like, I be like that. That's fucked up, Tammy. All right,

490
00:23:04,500 --> 00:23:06,420
Speaker 1: so I'm going to work on that, y'all. I'm just

491
00:23:06,440 --> 00:23:08,300
Speaker 1: being honest. That's something I would do.

492
00:23:08,320 --> 00:23:10,480
Speaker 2: All right, so it says, when you want to say

493
00:23:10,550 --> 00:23:13,649
Speaker 2: something negative about someone behind their back, don't.

494
00:23:14,450 --> 00:23:15,050
Speaker 1: Just don't.

495
00:23:15,530 --> 00:23:17,850
Speaker 2: There's almost never a good reason to do this. It

496
00:23:17,869 --> 00:23:23,200
Speaker 2: makes you look petty, childish, and mean-spirited. And it might

497
00:23:23,280 --> 00:23:26,379
Speaker 2: get back to the person you're slandering. I say almost

498
00:23:26,460 --> 00:23:31,240
Speaker 2: never because sometimes someone might do something truly terrible and

499
00:23:31,280 --> 00:23:33,680
Speaker 2: you might need to discuss it to decide what course

500
00:23:33,720 --> 00:23:36,370
Speaker 2: of action to take. But this is rare. So now

501
00:23:36,390 --> 00:23:38,930
Speaker 2: I understand that too. Sometimes you got to talk shit

502
00:23:38,990 --> 00:23:42,669
Speaker 2: out so it's really not gossiping about somebody, especially if

503
00:23:42,730 --> 00:23:45,810
Speaker 2: you're in the gossip. If I'm in the gossip and

504
00:23:45,869 --> 00:23:48,590
Speaker 2: I'm asking somebody about something to get their opinion on,

505
00:23:49,130 --> 00:23:51,590
Speaker 2: a situation that's really not gossiping. Like I can't help

506
00:23:51,630 --> 00:23:53,020
Speaker 2: but gossip about you at this point.

507
00:23:53,560 --> 00:23:58,300
Speaker 1: Sorry. Yeah. I don't like that one. I'm going to

508
00:23:58,320 --> 00:24:01,720
Speaker 1: work on it though. Cause I know I'll be gossiping. Yeah.

509
00:24:01,740 --> 00:24:05,280
Speaker 2: Gossiping is fun. I mean, you obviously don't have any friends.

510
00:24:05,480 --> 00:24:07,850
Speaker 2: If you don't gossip, you don't have any friends. Right.

511
00:24:07,890 --> 00:24:12,510
Speaker 1: You ain't got nobody to talk to, bitch. But you

512
00:24:12,530 --> 00:24:15,210
Speaker 1: know what? I have like, I have had people come

513
00:24:15,270 --> 00:24:17,790
Speaker 1: talk to me, like coming to me to like talk

514
00:24:17,810 --> 00:24:20,270
Speaker 1: shit about somebody that I actually like and I will

515
00:24:20,290 --> 00:24:20,850
Speaker 1: shut it down.

516
00:24:21,190 --> 00:24:24,470
Speaker 2: Yeah, me too. Don't ever come to me to talk

517
00:24:24,490 --> 00:24:27,490
Speaker 2: shit about, even talk shit about my friend or something

518
00:24:27,510 --> 00:24:27,810
Speaker 2: like that.

519
00:24:27,830 --> 00:24:30,830
Speaker 1: I will shut that down real quick. Yeah.

520
00:24:31,330 --> 00:24:33,930
Speaker 2: You know who I, I've had to cuss a few

521
00:24:33,990 --> 00:24:38,350
Speaker 2: people out over Charlamagne ass. Like imagine you calling me

522
00:24:38,430 --> 00:24:40,810
Speaker 2: thinking I'm going to talk to you about my fucking friend.

523
00:24:40,850 --> 00:24:42,340
Speaker 2: Like this is my friend in real life for a

524
00:24:42,380 --> 00:24:45,140
Speaker 2: long time. And I wouldn't do it to you. But

525
00:24:45,540 --> 00:24:47,720
Speaker 2: how do you feel that comfortable to come to me?

526
00:24:47,760 --> 00:24:50,990
Speaker 2: I've never talked to you about this person. So why

527
00:24:51,090 --> 00:24:51,989
Speaker 2: do you feel like you could?

528
00:24:52,010 --> 00:24:55,210
Speaker 1: Because because I think it's because he's such a public figure.

529
00:24:55,290 --> 00:24:57,409
Speaker 1: People feel like they can just say what they want.

530
00:24:57,750 --> 00:24:58,570
Speaker 1: Shit is crazy.

531
00:24:58,790 --> 00:25:00,260
Speaker 2: No, absolutely.

532
00:25:00,280 --> 00:25:01,719
Speaker 1: I would shut that shit down quick, too.

533
00:25:02,350 --> 00:25:05,230
Speaker 2: Yeah, so you coming to me because now you want

534
00:25:05,250 --> 00:25:07,730
Speaker 2: to go to the next person is acting like you

535
00:25:07,770 --> 00:25:11,940
Speaker 2: got some inside person. You don't have an inside person

536
00:25:11,980 --> 00:25:13,500
Speaker 2: over here when it comes to people I love.

537
00:25:13,600 --> 00:25:19,280
Speaker 1: Fuck you. And I'll fight you. How about that? Like, look,

538
00:25:19,300 --> 00:25:21,000
Speaker 1: you thought we was friends. Now I'm about to come

539
00:25:21,040 --> 00:25:21,900
Speaker 1: beat your ass.

540
00:25:21,940 --> 00:25:23,070
Speaker 2: Now we ain't friends no more.

541
00:25:23,090 --> 00:25:26,850
Speaker 1: All right, next one. When the deal isn't quite done,

542
00:25:27,410 --> 00:25:30,490
Speaker 1: look to that old adage, about count your chickens before

543
00:25:30,530 --> 00:25:32,689
Speaker 1: they hatch. If you're making a deal of some kind,

544
00:25:33,030 --> 00:25:36,290
Speaker 1: never announce until everyone has signed on every dotted line

545
00:25:36,350 --> 00:25:39,430
Speaker 1: and everything is airtight. You'll feel stupid if things fall apart.

546
00:25:39,770 --> 00:25:41,189
Speaker 1: It's kind of similar to the last one.

547
00:25:41,710 --> 00:25:43,640
Speaker 2: It's kind of similar to the one with big goals.

548
00:25:44,100 --> 00:25:44,340
Speaker 1: Right.

549
00:25:44,359 --> 00:25:47,360
Speaker 2: So all of that goes together. Just keep anything you're

550
00:25:47,480 --> 00:25:52,040
Speaker 2: actually working on, trying to do it. If it doesn't

551
00:25:52,100 --> 00:25:54,860
Speaker 2: involve the people you're telling, why do they need to know?

552
00:25:55,940 --> 00:25:58,800
Speaker 1: Right. And that day reminds me of me making plans

553
00:25:58,840 --> 00:26:01,280
Speaker 1: to go to Europe next month because I thought I

554
00:26:01,300 --> 00:26:04,580
Speaker 1: was about to get me a festival check. You're so

555
00:26:04,600 --> 00:26:05,379
Speaker 1: fucking stupid.

556
00:26:05,400 --> 00:26:06,320
Speaker 2: You make me sick.

557
00:26:07,420 --> 00:26:11,920
Speaker 1: You make me so sick. I was picking out outfits,

558
00:26:12,010 --> 00:26:14,450
Speaker 1: places I was going to take pictures in my outfits.

559
00:26:14,470 --> 00:26:17,570
Speaker 1: I ain't going nowhere. You're so stupid. I'm going to

560
00:26:17,590 --> 00:26:18,130
Speaker 1: be right home.

561
00:26:20,560 --> 00:26:22,560
Speaker 2: Yeah, but shit, even when the deal is done, it

562
00:26:22,600 --> 00:26:24,340
Speaker 2: might not be done until it actually happens.

563
00:26:24,700 --> 00:26:24,960
Speaker 1: Right.

564
00:26:24,980 --> 00:26:28,340
Speaker 2: So, yeah. Right. The only thing about that, I mean,

565
00:26:28,760 --> 00:26:34,200
Speaker 2: you have to, you have to like prep for those things.

566
00:26:34,260 --> 00:26:37,720
Speaker 2: So we planning and prepping, planning, advertising, all that good stuff.

567
00:26:38,460 --> 00:26:42,840
Speaker 2: Sometimes stuff fall through. When you're mad, you should shut

568
00:26:42,880 --> 00:26:43,359
Speaker 2: the fuck up.

569
00:26:44,280 --> 00:26:45,520
Speaker 1: That's the hardest one for me.

570
00:26:45,960 --> 00:26:46,160
Speaker 2: Yeah.

571
00:26:46,859 --> 00:26:48,060
Speaker 1: Lord, work on me, Jesus.

572
00:26:48,100 --> 00:26:51,040
Speaker 2: You ain't through with me yet, Father. Please help me

573
00:26:51,060 --> 00:26:54,120
Speaker 2: with that. It says, when someone annoys you, don't respond

574
00:26:54,160 --> 00:26:58,679
Speaker 2: right away. As you are likely to blow up and

575
00:26:58,760 --> 00:27:01,650
Speaker 2: or say something you will regret. And you can't take

576
00:27:01,710 --> 00:27:05,530
Speaker 2: it back. Even if you apologize, people will not forget. Hey,

577
00:27:06,270 --> 00:27:09,310
Speaker 2: so best bet is don't fucking talk to me if

578
00:27:09,369 --> 00:27:09,990
Speaker 2: I'm mad then.

579
00:27:10,950 --> 00:27:13,980
Speaker 1: Don't talk to me if you mad. That's only, that's

580
00:27:14,000 --> 00:27:18,580
Speaker 1: only that. That's not, see, you supposed to make this

581
00:27:18,619 --> 00:27:21,240
Speaker 1: about you, not like, don't talk to me if you mad,

582
00:27:21,290 --> 00:27:23,150
Speaker 1: don't talk to me if I mad. How about you

583
00:27:23,190 --> 00:27:26,230
Speaker 1: don't say nothing when you're mad? That's what they're saying.

584
00:27:28,430 --> 00:27:32,510
Speaker 2: Okay. So how did, how does that one work?

585
00:27:32,609 --> 00:27:32,949
Speaker 1: Okay.

586
00:27:33,050 --> 00:27:36,040
Speaker 2: Because right now I'm mad, right? Like say for instance,

587
00:27:36,119 --> 00:27:38,320
Speaker 2: I'm mad. I'm in a relationship with a guy. I'm

588
00:27:38,340 --> 00:27:40,700
Speaker 2: mad at him right now. I don't say nothing, right?

589
00:27:41,180 --> 00:27:41,340
Speaker 1: Mm-hmm.

590
00:27:41,609 --> 00:27:43,609
Speaker 2: Are we saying that when I finally get to a

591
00:27:43,630 --> 00:27:45,870
Speaker 2: place where I'm not mad and I want to have

592
00:27:45,890 --> 00:27:48,850
Speaker 2: a conversation with him about it, you don't think the

593
00:27:48,910 --> 00:27:51,450
Speaker 2: conversation going to cause me to get fucking mad again?

594
00:27:51,470 --> 00:27:52,950
Speaker 2: Like it is.

595
00:27:53,430 --> 00:27:56,689
Speaker 1: Well, it depends. It depends on what your goal in

596
00:27:56,710 --> 00:28:01,110
Speaker 1: the conversation. Are you, are you, so what I saw, like,

597
00:28:02,070 --> 00:28:05,620
Speaker 1: instead of trying to attack each other to win, you

598
00:28:05,640 --> 00:28:08,520
Speaker 1: decide that the issue is not each other, it's the problem. Right.

599
00:28:08,540 --> 00:28:12,300
Speaker 1: And y'all are attacking that together to resolve it. So

600
00:28:12,320 --> 00:28:13,940
Speaker 1: if you look at it that way, when you're mad,

601
00:28:13,980 --> 00:28:17,580
Speaker 1: you won't be, you'll try to take the anger out.

602
00:28:19,660 --> 00:28:21,520
Speaker 1: And take that, put your anger at the problem and

603
00:28:21,540 --> 00:28:24,790
Speaker 1: not the person. I guess.

604
00:28:24,810 --> 00:28:26,090
Speaker 2: Did you learn that in therapy?

605
00:28:26,630 --> 00:28:27,250
Speaker 1: Yeah, I did.

606
00:28:27,570 --> 00:28:32,590
Speaker 2: Great job, therapist. Who taught you that? That's a hard

607
00:28:32,690 --> 00:28:34,870
Speaker 2: one though, man. Because when you're mad, like one thing

608
00:28:34,930 --> 00:28:36,590
Speaker 2: I don't do when I'm mad, I don't say the

609
00:28:36,630 --> 00:28:39,230
Speaker 2: worst shit to win the argument. So I'm going to

610
00:28:39,260 --> 00:28:40,840
Speaker 2: be talking shit, but I ain't going to say like

611
00:28:40,880 --> 00:28:43,180
Speaker 2: the worst shit. To win the argument.

612
00:28:43,200 --> 00:28:45,790
Speaker 1: I will. I used to do that. I haven't been

613
00:28:45,830 --> 00:28:48,270
Speaker 1: with nobody in a long time to ever have that

614
00:28:48,310 --> 00:28:50,990
Speaker 1: type of time going on. I haven't been that close

615
00:28:51,010 --> 00:28:53,250
Speaker 1: with anybody where I could just go for the guzzling

616
00:28:53,290 --> 00:28:56,070
Speaker 1: like that. But I used to. I have.

617
00:28:56,550 --> 00:28:59,630
Speaker 2: Yeah, because I still want you to love and like

618
00:28:59,670 --> 00:29:02,030
Speaker 2: me later. It's certain shit somebody can say to me

619
00:29:02,050 --> 00:29:03,230
Speaker 2: and I'm not fucking with you no more.

620
00:29:03,850 --> 00:29:06,010
Speaker 1: Period. But yeah. But I used to not care at

621
00:29:06,050 --> 00:29:08,310
Speaker 1: that point. It was like, you said something to hurt me.

622
00:29:08,370 --> 00:29:10,450
Speaker 1: Now here's something to hurt you. How you like the mapples?

623
00:29:10,980 --> 00:29:15,270
Speaker 1: That's how I used to feel. That's what I'm saying.

624
00:29:15,310 --> 00:29:18,370
Speaker 2: Like the mean things, that's just a mean person thing

625
00:29:18,410 --> 00:29:20,830
Speaker 2: to say crazy shit to each other when you fucking mad.

626
00:29:20,990 --> 00:29:22,690
Speaker 2: It's just a mean person thing. It's not a man

627
00:29:22,750 --> 00:29:25,170
Speaker 2: or a woman thing. It's just a mean person thing.

628
00:29:25,450 --> 00:29:27,750
Speaker 2: In that moment, we can be really mean.

629
00:29:27,610 --> 00:29:29,209
Speaker 1: To each other. But my last boyfriend, he used to

630
00:29:29,230 --> 00:29:31,110
Speaker 1: bring that out of me. He used to tell me like,

631
00:29:31,390 --> 00:29:34,590
Speaker 1: shut your dick sucking lips. That's what he used to

632
00:29:34,630 --> 00:29:34,950
Speaker 1: tell me.

633
00:29:35,030 --> 00:29:42,650
Speaker 2: I would have been like, thanks for the compliment. Look,

634
00:29:42,670 --> 00:29:44,350
Speaker 2: the next one is when you're drunk.

635
00:29:44,990 --> 00:29:47,450
Speaker 1: Come on. That's a good one.

636
00:29:47,750 --> 00:29:49,830
Speaker 2: Now I'm usually pretty like crunk when I'm drunk, but

637
00:29:49,850 --> 00:29:52,670
Speaker 2: I'm not a mean drunk though. So I'm always having

638
00:29:52,690 --> 00:29:56,170
Speaker 2: like fun. Got my microphone. I travel with a mic.

639
00:29:56,430 --> 00:29:57,090
Speaker 1: Like I be.

640
00:29:57,250 --> 00:29:58,030
Speaker 2: Fun when I'm drunk.

641
00:29:58,620 --> 00:30:00,960
Speaker 1: You might be annoying, too, though. No.

642
00:30:01,560 --> 00:30:04,640
Speaker 2: I've never had somebody tell me I'm annoying when I'm drunk.

643
00:30:05,460 --> 00:30:07,440
Speaker 1: It doesn't have to be like you say mean shit

644
00:30:07,460 --> 00:30:09,260
Speaker 1: when you're drunk. It also could be like you just

645
00:30:09,320 --> 00:30:12,440
Speaker 1: word vomit, just telling shit. Did I tell you that?

646
00:30:12,480 --> 00:30:15,120
Speaker 1: Did I say that? Or calling a nigga that you

647
00:30:15,180 --> 00:30:17,120
Speaker 1: used to like that you don't even really like no more. Like,

648
00:30:17,140 --> 00:30:23,620
Speaker 1: what you doing right now, John? You home? I want

649
00:30:23,640 --> 00:30:26,140
Speaker 1: to pull up. Like, shut up. Don't call that nigga.

650
00:30:26,710 --> 00:30:27,790
Speaker 1: You don't even like him.

651
00:30:29,820 --> 00:30:31,640
Speaker 2: All right, so it says it's really hard to keep

652
00:30:31,680 --> 00:30:36,040
Speaker 2: your mouth shut when you're drunk, but alcohol lowers inhibitions,

653
00:30:36,320 --> 00:30:42,160
Speaker 2: and you're far more likely to say something inappropriate when inebriated.

654
00:30:43,610 --> 00:30:43,910
Speaker 2: It's true.

655
00:30:44,030 --> 00:30:47,110
Speaker 1: Yeah, because let me tell you, the elevators went out

656
00:30:47,130 --> 00:30:49,250
Speaker 1: in my building. It was all kind of firemen downstairs,

657
00:30:49,290 --> 00:30:51,970
Speaker 1: and it was Saturday, late Saturday, and I walked into

658
00:30:52,010 --> 00:30:54,990
Speaker 1: the lobby, and I just was so inappropriate with them firemen.

659
00:30:55,020 --> 00:30:58,350
Speaker 1: I was like, ugh. I love a man in uniform.

660
00:30:58,370 --> 00:31:01,070
Speaker 1: You're going to save my day. You're going to save

661
00:31:01,110 --> 00:31:05,850
Speaker 1: my day. And they was looking like, bitch, it is late. Like, bitch, ew.

662
00:31:07,330 --> 00:31:09,820
Speaker 2: No, they probably was looking like, bitch, shut the fuck up.

663
00:31:10,400 --> 00:31:13,480
Speaker 1: Yeah, they was. And everybody in the lobby was laughing.

664
00:31:13,500 --> 00:31:15,940
Speaker 1: That was just inappropriate. And then I was embarrassed the

665
00:31:15,980 --> 00:31:18,040
Speaker 1: next day. Like, damn, concierge saw that.

666
00:31:18,860 --> 00:31:20,690
Speaker 2: They got you on camera downstairs.

667
00:31:20,710 --> 00:31:21,930
Speaker 1: I got like a little slut.

668
00:31:22,030 --> 00:31:23,310
Speaker 2: Yeah.

669
00:31:25,390 --> 00:31:29,730
Speaker 1: Like a drunk slut. I wasn't about to do nothing

670
00:31:29,750 --> 00:31:31,630
Speaker 1: with them, man. I just was drunk and trying to

671
00:31:31,650 --> 00:31:32,850
Speaker 1: be funny. Yeah.

672
00:31:33,190 --> 00:31:36,190
Speaker 2: I'm not a crazy drunk, though. I have some friends

673
00:31:36,210 --> 00:31:38,230
Speaker 2: that are crazy drunks, and if you're not drunk while

674
00:31:38,260 --> 00:31:39,580
Speaker 2: they're drunk, it's just not fun.

675
00:31:39,620 --> 00:31:40,520
Speaker 1: Like, bitch, ugh.

676
00:31:41,100 --> 00:31:42,900
Speaker 2: You just be disgusted with them. Like, I got to

677
00:31:42,940 --> 00:31:45,640
Speaker 2: be drunk to deal with you while you're drunk. I

678
00:31:45,680 --> 00:31:47,520
Speaker 2: know those people. I'm not one of them people.

679
00:31:47,580 --> 00:31:48,540
Speaker 1: I don't think I'm like that.

680
00:31:48,560 --> 00:31:50,400
Speaker 2: Yeah, I'd be having fun.

681
00:31:50,920 --> 00:31:51,660
Speaker 1: Yeah, good time.

682
00:31:51,680 --> 00:31:52,220
Speaker 2: Mm-hmm.

683
00:31:53,390 --> 00:31:55,610
Speaker 1: But I did. It was embarrassing that night. I will

684
00:31:55,710 --> 00:31:56,090
Speaker 1: not lie.

685
00:31:57,790 --> 00:32:01,620
Speaker 2: All right. So the next one says, when you're about

686
00:32:01,680 --> 00:32:04,940
Speaker 2: to ask a question that isn't really a question, let's

687
00:32:04,960 --> 00:32:07,500
Speaker 2: give that some context. So it says, if you're sitting

688
00:32:07,560 --> 00:32:10,300
Speaker 2: in a meeting that's about to wrap up and you

689
00:32:10,320 --> 00:32:13,000
Speaker 2: find yourself raising your hand to say something like, so

690
00:32:13,160 --> 00:32:18,180
Speaker 2: we're going to use our core competencies, competency, reach out,

691
00:32:18,560 --> 00:32:21,180
Speaker 2: ride the swim lane and move the needle until we

692
00:32:21,400 --> 00:32:26,310
Speaker 2: swift excuse me, until we shift the paradigm, don't. You're

693
00:32:26,370 --> 00:32:31,070
Speaker 2: not asking an actual question. You're spewing corporate jargon so

694
00:32:31,110 --> 00:32:33,890
Speaker 2: that people will know you're in the bathroom. I was

695
00:32:33,910 --> 00:32:35,650
Speaker 2: about to say you're in the bathroom, so people will

696
00:32:35,690 --> 00:32:39,950
Speaker 2: know you're in the room. And they will hate you

697
00:32:40,010 --> 00:32:42,890
Speaker 2: for it because they want to end the meeting and

698
00:32:42,950 --> 00:32:45,709
Speaker 2: get back to their jobs. I remember people like that. Like,

699
00:32:45,730 --> 00:32:47,430
Speaker 2: you're just trying to be fucking noticed. Just shut the

700
00:32:47,470 --> 00:32:49,630
Speaker 2: fuck up so we can go back. Or actually, if

701
00:32:49,690 --> 00:32:51,110
Speaker 2: it's the end of the day, so I can log

702
00:32:51,190 --> 00:32:52,490
Speaker 2: off and go to Target.

703
00:32:52,510 --> 00:32:54,820
Speaker 1: Right, because while we're in the meeting, I'm going to

704
00:32:54,840 --> 00:32:57,780
Speaker 1: start sending everybody but you the Viola Davis meme of

705
00:32:57,800 --> 00:33:00,440
Speaker 1: her getting her purse and walking out. I'm sending everybody that.

706
00:33:01,660 --> 00:33:06,500
Speaker 2: Everybody, like, doing gifs and shit about you. Right. Because

707
00:33:06,520 --> 00:33:08,280
Speaker 2: now you're just doing some shit for attention.

708
00:33:08,300 --> 00:33:13,120
Speaker 1: And here goes this brown noser again doing too much.

709
00:33:13,280 --> 00:33:15,420
Speaker 2: Yep. So that's a good time to shut the fuck up.

710
00:33:16,310 --> 00:33:19,510
Speaker 1: All right, here's a good one. When you're about to complain.

711
00:33:19,530 --> 00:33:22,010
Speaker 2: It's hot.

712
00:33:22,150 --> 00:33:25,350
Speaker 1: You have too much work. Something smells. The project is stupid.

713
00:33:25,790 --> 00:33:28,520
Speaker 1: All true, probably, but keep it to yourself. Nobody likes

714
00:33:28,580 --> 00:33:29,020
Speaker 1: a whiner.

715
00:33:31,040 --> 00:33:33,660
Speaker 2: This shit is for fucking work, isn't it? But anyway,

716
00:33:33,720 --> 00:33:36,320
Speaker 2: we can apply it to real life. So I feel

717
00:33:36,380 --> 00:33:42,140
Speaker 2: like complaining should be like the 11th commandment. Thou shall

718
00:33:42,220 --> 00:33:43,280
Speaker 2: not complain.

719
00:33:44,600 --> 00:33:45,290
Speaker 1: It's hard.

720
00:33:46,260 --> 00:33:47,960
Speaker 2: But you have so many other things that you can

721
00:33:47,980 --> 00:33:54,290
Speaker 2: be and should be grateful for that this thing is minuscule.

722
00:33:54,930 --> 00:33:57,250
Speaker 2: Why are you complaining? It be like little shit people

723
00:33:57,270 --> 00:33:57,950
Speaker 2: be complaining about.

724
00:33:57,970 --> 00:34:01,830
Speaker 1: I hate when people doing free shit and complaining about

725
00:34:01,910 --> 00:34:05,430
Speaker 1: free shit. This nigga took you on a free vacation.

726
00:34:05,490 --> 00:34:08,930
Speaker 1: You complaining about, oh, I need salt.

727
00:34:10,250 --> 00:34:13,089
Speaker 2: Bitch, I know you ain't talking. I know you done

728
00:34:13,110 --> 00:34:14,570
Speaker 2: complained on a free vacation before.

729
00:34:15,890 --> 00:34:18,839
Speaker 1: I don't complain. I'm so easy to get along with

730
00:34:18,940 --> 00:34:21,259
Speaker 1: on free. When we doing free shit, if it's free

731
00:34:21,320 --> 00:34:27,220
Speaker 1: for me, I'm pleasant. I'm pleasant. I rarely send food

732
00:34:27,260 --> 00:34:28,029
Speaker 1: back when I.

733
00:34:28,090 --> 00:34:31,690
Speaker 2: Ain't paying for it. Even when I'm paying for it.

734
00:34:32,950 --> 00:34:37,870
Speaker 1: Yeah, especially now since businesses are short staff and costs up.

735
00:34:38,390 --> 00:34:41,020
Speaker 1: I rarely, rarely... It gotta be really bad for me

736
00:34:41,060 --> 00:34:43,150
Speaker 1: to send it back. Yeah. I....

737
00:34:44,680 --> 00:34:50,020
Speaker 2: I try not to complain, but if I complain on you,

738
00:34:50,700 --> 00:34:53,120
Speaker 2: it was really bad. Because I'm like one of those

739
00:34:53,140 --> 00:34:55,299
Speaker 2: people who just silently go away. I just be like, no,

740
00:34:55,320 --> 00:34:56,779
Speaker 2: I ain't fucking with that no more. And I'm going

741
00:34:56,800 --> 00:34:58,700
Speaker 2: to tell other people. I'm going to gossip about your business.

742
00:34:59,280 --> 00:35:02,520
Speaker 2: But I'm not going to like fuck your day up

743
00:35:02,560 --> 00:35:05,140
Speaker 2: about it. So if I fuck your day up about

744
00:35:05,160 --> 00:35:09,069
Speaker 2: some shit, it is really bad. And it's like, why

745
00:35:09,090 --> 00:35:11,290
Speaker 2: are you playing with me at this point? If I

746
00:35:11,330 --> 00:35:13,520
Speaker 2: really complain about some shit. And I guess that also

747
00:35:13,560 --> 00:35:18,219
Speaker 2: goes into relationships. My ex, one of my exes, he

748
00:35:18,239 --> 00:35:21,050
Speaker 2: would always complain about my hair being on the floor

749
00:35:21,090 --> 00:35:24,150
Speaker 2: and shit like that. Nigga, your beard hair is all

750
00:35:24,210 --> 00:35:26,649
Speaker 2: on the floor like pubic hair. You know what I do?

751
00:35:26,770 --> 00:35:28,810
Speaker 2: I come in the bathroom, I just sweep the whole bathroom.

752
00:35:29,370 --> 00:35:32,730
Speaker 2: I don't pinpoint what's yours and what's mine. You just

753
00:35:32,790 --> 00:35:34,610
Speaker 2: clean up behind each other because that's what you do

754
00:35:34,680 --> 00:35:38,740
Speaker 2: in relationships. But for whatever reason, oftentimes people only see

755
00:35:38,820 --> 00:35:41,100
Speaker 2: what the other person is doing. They don't see their

756
00:35:41,140 --> 00:35:43,430
Speaker 2: little quirks and shit that get on everybody else's nerves.

757
00:35:43,910 --> 00:35:45,910
Speaker 2: I have a high tolerance for bullshit. So I don't

758
00:35:45,930 --> 00:35:50,430
Speaker 2: be complaining like in relationships specifically about shit the other

759
00:35:50,450 --> 00:35:54,419
Speaker 2: person does. Not like regular little things like that. Personality shit,

760
00:35:54,520 --> 00:35:55,180
Speaker 2: I'm complaining about.

761
00:35:56,280 --> 00:35:59,279
Speaker 1: I used to get, like my ex-boyfriend, I used to

762
00:35:59,320 --> 00:36:01,140
Speaker 1: get mad when he would leave the toilet seat up

763
00:36:01,180 --> 00:36:03,200
Speaker 1: because I would fall in. And then I had picked

764
00:36:03,260 --> 00:36:04,790
Speaker 1: up some weight and then I ain't fall in. I

765
00:36:04,810 --> 00:36:05,649
Speaker 1: was even more mad.

766
00:36:07,790 --> 00:36:10,430
Speaker 2: Bitch, put that toilet seat down.

767
00:36:10,750 --> 00:36:14,170
Speaker 1: Your ass done got fatter. I ain't even fall in

768
00:36:14,190 --> 00:36:15,969
Speaker 1: this time. I'm real mad at you.

769
00:36:16,010 --> 00:36:18,669
Speaker 2: That's some legitimate shit to complain about, all right? Leaving

770
00:36:18,690 --> 00:36:20,650
Speaker 2: that toilet seat up. Don't nobody want to sit on

771
00:36:20,670 --> 00:36:21,650
Speaker 2: that dried up pee.

772
00:36:22,390 --> 00:36:22,650
Speaker 1: Right.

773
00:36:22,830 --> 00:36:24,989
Speaker 2: You piss on the toilet seat and you ain't cleaning it.

774
00:36:25,530 --> 00:36:25,830
Speaker 1: Right.

775
00:36:26,330 --> 00:36:30,009
Speaker 2: Now, that's a legit complaint. My dad used to be like,

776
00:36:30,050 --> 00:36:32,370
Speaker 2: did you lift the toilet seat up when you was done?

777
00:36:32,630 --> 00:36:34,850
Speaker 2: That's how he used to get us. Yeah, but it

778
00:36:34,870 --> 00:36:35,450
Speaker 2: don't go up.

779
00:36:35,510 --> 00:36:37,290
Speaker 1: It go down. Exactly.

780
00:36:37,390 --> 00:36:39,210
Speaker 2: But he was like, daddy, why you ain't put the

781
00:36:39,250 --> 00:36:41,009
Speaker 2: toilet seat down? He'd be like, why you ain't put

782
00:36:41,050 --> 00:36:41,310
Speaker 2: it up?

783
00:36:44,230 --> 00:36:44,530
Speaker 1: Nigga.

784
00:36:45,050 --> 00:36:45,470
Speaker 2: Nigga.

785
00:36:46,190 --> 00:36:48,770
Speaker 1: Right. And then my ex used to complain about, all right,

786
00:36:48,870 --> 00:36:51,180
Speaker 1: I have this thing where I don't tighten the lids properly.

787
00:36:51,870 --> 00:36:54,410
Speaker 1: on seasonings. When I put them back in the cabinet,

788
00:36:54,489 --> 00:36:56,810
Speaker 1: like if I'm seasoning food as I'm cooking, I put

789
00:36:56,830 --> 00:36:58,469
Speaker 1: the lid on it and then I put it up

790
00:36:58,590 --> 00:37:01,310
Speaker 1: and I never tighten, screw it tight. He used to

791
00:37:01,350 --> 00:37:04,110
Speaker 1: get mad that the screws were never tight on the seasoning.

792
00:37:04,510 --> 00:37:06,550
Speaker 2: Yeah, because you picked it up and now you dropped

793
00:37:06,590 --> 00:37:07,570
Speaker 2: it and it's wasting.

794
00:37:07,810 --> 00:37:11,820
Speaker 1: It spilled, right? But, and I get it. And I

795
00:37:11,940 --> 00:37:14,140
Speaker 1: was like, okay, I'll make a conscious effort to start

796
00:37:14,160 --> 00:37:17,100
Speaker 1: tightening them. But how about you start cooking some shit

797
00:37:17,160 --> 00:37:20,040
Speaker 1: in here sometimes instead of me having to cook all

798
00:37:20,080 --> 00:37:22,140
Speaker 1: the time. And then you can make sure they're tight

799
00:37:22,160 --> 00:37:24,759
Speaker 1: when you cook it because you don't ever cook.

800
00:37:24,980 --> 00:37:27,950
Speaker 2: Was that your response when he gave you some critique

801
00:37:27,989 --> 00:37:31,190
Speaker 2: on something? Is the response of something you don't like

802
00:37:31,230 --> 00:37:31,509
Speaker 2: of him?

803
00:37:32,210 --> 00:37:32,690
Speaker 1: Yeah, that was.

804
00:37:32,710 --> 00:37:35,469
Speaker 2: That's some bullshit. Just take it and be like, okay, baby,

805
00:37:35,950 --> 00:37:36,490
Speaker 2: I'll remember.

806
00:37:36,510 --> 00:37:41,899
Speaker 1: Period. Right, because instead of attacking the person, attack the problem.

807
00:37:42,880 --> 00:37:44,560
Speaker 1: I learned it. I told you I just learned that

808
00:37:44,600 --> 00:37:46,419
Speaker 1: in therapy, girl. Yeah, see?

809
00:37:46,500 --> 00:37:48,640
Speaker 2: See how that works, y'all? Y'all see how that works?

810
00:37:49,330 --> 00:37:51,529
Speaker 2: So I'm trying to nitpick with your damn partner all

811
00:37:51,550 --> 00:37:51,970
Speaker 2: the time.

812
00:37:52,710 --> 00:37:53,810
Speaker 1: And that's just in anything.

813
00:37:53,830 --> 00:37:55,150
Speaker 2: Huh?

814
00:37:55,830 --> 00:37:58,160
Speaker 1: Because he like, can you just tighten the lids on

815
00:37:58,180 --> 00:38:00,540
Speaker 1: the damn season? Can you just shut the fuck up

816
00:38:00,620 --> 00:38:03,880
Speaker 1: and eat the food I prepared for you? Why are

817
00:38:03,900 --> 00:38:05,140
Speaker 1: you in my cabinet anyway?

818
00:38:05,940 --> 00:38:06,799
Speaker 2: You don't cook.

819
00:38:06,820 --> 00:38:08,919
Speaker 1: Don't cook shit in here ever.

820
00:38:08,940 --> 00:38:15,830
Speaker 2: Let's see. When someone else is being a jerk. Why

821
00:38:15,870 --> 00:38:17,270
Speaker 2: can't I shut the fuck up? Yeah.

822
00:38:17,290 --> 00:38:17,390
Speaker 1: Yeah.

823
00:38:18,000 --> 00:38:20,820
Speaker 2: When someone else is being stupid, rude, belligerent, or an

824
00:38:20,940 --> 00:38:23,660
Speaker 2: idiot in some way or the other, lit them. Don't

825
00:38:23,700 --> 00:38:28,140
Speaker 2: call them out, get mad, or insult, or embarrass them. First,

826
00:38:28,200 --> 00:38:31,160
Speaker 2: they could just be having a bad day or not

827
00:38:31,219 --> 00:38:34,250
Speaker 2: know how to handle themselves in whatever situation they're in.

828
00:38:34,890 --> 00:38:39,589
Speaker 2: Be kind. I guess. I guess everybody's allowed to have

829
00:38:39,630 --> 00:38:44,390
Speaker 2: a bad day. And maybe it's an opportunity to ask them, hey,

830
00:38:44,410 --> 00:38:44,830
Speaker 2: you okay?

831
00:38:46,239 --> 00:38:46,419
Speaker 1: Right.

832
00:38:46,719 --> 00:38:48,080
Speaker 2: As opposed to, you know.

833
00:38:48,700 --> 00:38:50,100
Speaker 1: Being a jerk back. Yeah.

834
00:38:50,440 --> 00:38:52,239
Speaker 2: Being nasty back to them. Because when we say shut

835
00:38:52,260 --> 00:38:53,440
Speaker 2: the fuck up, it's like.

836
00:38:55,190 --> 00:38:56,830
Speaker 1: Negative. Right.

837
00:38:56,890 --> 00:38:59,529
Speaker 2: If you come in with something positive, yeah, absolutely say

838
00:38:59,570 --> 00:39:01,989
Speaker 2: whatever it is. But if you come in with some

839
00:39:02,050 --> 00:39:03,509
Speaker 2: negative shit, then shut the fuck up.

840
00:39:05,489 --> 00:39:06,779
Speaker 1: Basically. Which I mean, I'm confused.

841
00:39:07,320 --> 00:39:09,640
Speaker 2: In that situation. So this person is clearly having a

842
00:39:09,660 --> 00:39:13,610
Speaker 2: bad day. Or we're assuming maybe they could possibly be

843
00:39:13,630 --> 00:39:15,370
Speaker 2: having a bad day if they being a jerk. Ask

844
00:39:15,390 --> 00:39:17,359
Speaker 2: them if they're having a bad day as opposed to

845
00:39:17,500 --> 00:39:18,360
Speaker 2: matching their jerk.

846
00:39:19,000 --> 00:39:19,780
Speaker 1: Matching their energy.

847
00:39:19,820 --> 00:39:20,340
Speaker 2: Yeah.

848
00:39:20,360 --> 00:39:23,180
Speaker 1: But y'all know y'all be like, I reciprocate y'all energy.

849
00:39:23,200 --> 00:39:24,780
Speaker 1: I reciprocate y'all energy.

850
00:39:25,230 --> 00:39:28,010
Speaker 2: I know I do. Or I just won't say anything

851
00:39:28,030 --> 00:39:29,730
Speaker 2: to you. If I could clearly see that you having

852
00:39:29,750 --> 00:39:31,660
Speaker 2: a bad day. day or you acting like a jerk,

853
00:39:32,200 --> 00:39:34,630
Speaker 2: I'll just shut down. I'm not even saying nothing to you.

854
00:39:34,640 --> 00:39:35,980
Speaker 2: And I feel like that was one of the issues

855
00:39:36,020 --> 00:39:38,980
Speaker 2: in my last relationship too, because I didn't feel like he,

856
00:39:39,200 --> 00:39:41,239
Speaker 2: if you were having a bad day and something's going

857
00:39:41,300 --> 00:39:42,980
Speaker 2: on with you and you need my love right now,

858
00:39:43,620 --> 00:39:47,200
Speaker 2: and you need me to be that feminine energy to

859
00:39:47,219 --> 00:39:49,719
Speaker 2: make you feel better, you have to be inviting me.

860
00:39:50,850 --> 00:39:55,739
Speaker 2: Of that. Your energy has to be inviting of that. Otherwise,

861
00:39:55,760 --> 00:39:57,460
Speaker 2: because when I have a bad day, I really want

862
00:39:57,480 --> 00:40:00,360
Speaker 2: to be left alone. So that's how I want to

863
00:40:00,380 --> 00:40:03,760
Speaker 2: be done, right? So I have to match people whatever

864
00:40:03,800 --> 00:40:06,600
Speaker 2: their love languages is. But you have to be inviting

865
00:40:06,820 --> 00:40:08,920
Speaker 2: of the love. If you need a hug right now

866
00:40:08,940 --> 00:40:11,390
Speaker 2: because you had a hard day, you can't just be

867
00:40:11,450 --> 00:40:13,750
Speaker 2: blatantly nasty to me and expect me to give you

868
00:40:13,770 --> 00:40:16,150
Speaker 2: a hug. I'm actually not going to say nothing. So

869
00:40:16,170 --> 00:40:17,890
Speaker 2: that will be a time that I'll shut the fuck up.

870
00:40:18,890 --> 00:40:21,190
Speaker 2: if you just blatantly being nasty to me. I'm not

871
00:40:21,210 --> 00:40:26,110
Speaker 2: gonna argue with you initially. Now, if you keep poking

872
00:40:26,170 --> 00:40:30,430
Speaker 2: a motherfucking bear now, I might kick sweep you. I've

873
00:40:30,650 --> 00:40:32,310
Speaker 2: been in the gym trying to learn how to kick

874
00:40:32,350 --> 00:40:33,689
Speaker 2: sweep niggas mid-argument.

875
00:40:34,770 --> 00:40:40,370
Speaker 1: See, that's counterproductive. Bitch, could you imagine that?

876
00:40:40,530 --> 00:40:42,529
Speaker 2: You'd be at my house or something like that, and

877
00:40:42,590 --> 00:40:44,890
Speaker 2: I'm arguing with my nigga, and you just see me kick,

878
00:40:44,930 --> 00:40:47,010
Speaker 2: sweep him in his head, like bonks off the floor

879
00:40:47,030 --> 00:40:47,930
Speaker 2: a little bit, like, boop, boop.

880
00:40:47,950 --> 00:40:49,810
Speaker 1: Oh my God, that would be... I'd be like, oh

881
00:40:49,840 --> 00:40:52,480
Speaker 1: my God, I'm leaving. I'm leaving right now. I don't

882
00:40:52,500 --> 00:40:54,919
Speaker 1: want no parts of this shit right here. This girl

883
00:40:54,980 --> 00:41:02,340
Speaker 1: is a ninja. I'm like, when people are jerks sometimes,

884
00:41:02,380 --> 00:41:05,739
Speaker 1: especially as people that, you know, I'm... I know, and, like,

885
00:41:05,760 --> 00:41:09,370
Speaker 1: there's something going on. I'll just be, like, overly nice

886
00:41:09,430 --> 00:41:14,130
Speaker 1: just to make them more mad. You ever do that?

887
00:41:14,190 --> 00:41:15,910
Speaker 2: So you ain't shutting the fuck up. You just going

888
00:41:15,930 --> 00:41:16,790
Speaker 2: to be super nice.

889
00:41:17,530 --> 00:41:22,800
Speaker 1: Super nice. Super nice. And make them more angry, like, oh,

890
00:41:22,820 --> 00:41:29,410
Speaker 1: I hate this bitch today. Like almost so nice that

891
00:41:29,450 --> 00:41:31,690
Speaker 1: it comes off fake, you know? Right.

892
00:41:31,850 --> 00:41:34,049
Speaker 2: And that's why they get mad because they know that

893
00:41:34,070 --> 00:41:35,210
Speaker 2: shit ain't fucking genuine.

894
00:41:35,270 --> 00:41:38,830
Speaker 1: So you should probably shut the fuck up. Right. Right.

895
00:41:38,989 --> 00:41:44,370
Speaker 1: My point exactly. Having a bad day, Ashley? Oh, my God.

896
00:41:47,550 --> 00:41:52,200
Speaker 1: Somebody get her some caffeine, guys. She's having a bad day.

897
00:41:52,300 --> 00:41:54,720
Speaker 2: No, clearly you're having a bad day.

898
00:41:56,120 --> 00:41:59,180
Speaker 1: Want to talk about it? No? Okay. Going back to

899
00:41:59,219 --> 00:41:59,680
Speaker 1: my desk.

900
00:42:02,380 --> 00:42:02,880
Speaker 2: Shame.

901
00:42:03,700 --> 00:42:06,880
Speaker 1: Oh, goodness. Do you need a moment?

902
00:42:06,900 --> 00:42:11,190
Speaker 2: All right.

903
00:42:11,969 --> 00:42:14,350
Speaker 1: When you're about to talk to fill in the silence,

904
00:42:14,950 --> 00:42:17,029
Speaker 1: silence can be awkward, but there are a couple of

905
00:42:17,070 --> 00:42:20,230
Speaker 1: reasons you shouldn't necessarily rush to fill it. The first

906
00:42:20,270 --> 00:42:22,029
Speaker 1: is that some people just like to think before they

907
00:42:22,070 --> 00:42:24,650
Speaker 1: speak and aren't as freaked out by pauses as others.

908
00:42:25,090 --> 00:42:27,819
Speaker 1: So when you jump to fill in The void, you're

909
00:42:27,920 --> 00:42:30,680
Speaker 1: actually cutting off their thought process. Way to beat and

910
00:42:30,719 --> 00:42:33,299
Speaker 1: make sure they're not preparing to speak. Another reason is

911
00:42:33,340 --> 00:42:36,210
Speaker 1: that if you're both uncomfortable with silence, sometimes you can

912
00:42:36,250 --> 00:42:38,300
Speaker 1: learn a lot by letting the other person feel it.

913
00:42:38,650 --> 00:42:41,910
Speaker 1: As we often tend to overshare, we want to impress

914
00:42:42,390 --> 00:42:45,170
Speaker 1: and overcome any sort of awkwardness that could be perceived

915
00:42:45,590 --> 00:42:47,810
Speaker 1: as our fault for not holding up our end of

916
00:42:47,850 --> 00:42:52,350
Speaker 1: the conversation. This tactic is particularly useful when conducting interviews

917
00:42:52,550 --> 00:42:53,250
Speaker 1: or during meetings.

918
00:42:53,430 --> 00:42:54,870
Speaker 2: Okay, so that's some job shit.

919
00:42:54,890 --> 00:42:55,250
Speaker 1: So listen.

920
00:42:56,630 --> 00:43:00,130
Speaker 2: Okay, if there's some awkward silence, like on the phone,

921
00:43:00,190 --> 00:43:03,450
Speaker 2: I'm getting off the phone. First of all. I'm not

922
00:43:03,489 --> 00:43:04,930
Speaker 2: filling in shit. I'm like, let me call you back.

923
00:43:05,770 --> 00:43:07,919
Speaker 2: Let me call you back. Let me call you right back. Like,

924
00:43:08,040 --> 00:43:11,160
Speaker 2: I'm getting off the phone. In person, I don't really

925
00:43:11,200 --> 00:43:14,020
Speaker 2: have that problem because maybe I am one of those

926
00:43:14,040 --> 00:43:15,480
Speaker 2: people that will fill in silence.

927
00:43:16,280 --> 00:43:17,259
Speaker 1: You know what I'm saying? I'm filling in with a

928
00:43:17,300 --> 00:43:20,000
Speaker 1: joke real quick. Yes. Real quick with a joke. Exactly.

929
00:43:20,060 --> 00:43:23,770
Speaker 2: Like, I'm good with that. So, if you're somebody that's

930
00:43:23,850 --> 00:43:28,000
Speaker 2: not engaging in a conversation, I just... And if I

931
00:43:28,040 --> 00:43:30,590
Speaker 2: can't talk to you, you really whack.

932
00:43:31,070 --> 00:43:33,710
Speaker 1: That's what I'm saying. It depends on what we're talking about.

933
00:43:33,790 --> 00:43:36,190
Speaker 1: Because if we're talking about something heavy, I'll let that

934
00:43:36,230 --> 00:43:39,760
Speaker 1: pause ride just so you can like... Because I remember

935
00:43:39,780 --> 00:43:41,700
Speaker 1: that time I told you I told that dude like

936
00:43:41,880 --> 00:43:45,200
Speaker 1: his dick was trash. It was a long pause. I

937
00:43:45,239 --> 00:43:47,080
Speaker 1: wanted him to absorb what I was saying. I didn't

938
00:43:47,120 --> 00:43:48,820
Speaker 1: say it mean. I said it nice. You know, I

939
00:43:48,840 --> 00:43:50,090
Speaker 1: wasn't like, your dick is trash.

940
00:43:50,150 --> 00:43:52,549
Speaker 2: I was just like, You let him think too long, though,

941
00:43:52,570 --> 00:43:58,870
Speaker 2: because didn't he get irate after that? Calm down.

942
00:43:59,590 --> 00:44:03,830
Speaker 1: Clearly, you're having a bad day. Do you need a moment?

943
00:44:07,270 --> 00:44:12,950
Speaker 1: Somebody get him some coffee. His dick don't work. That

944
00:44:12,969 --> 00:44:13,930
Speaker 1: was a nice one.

945
00:44:13,950 --> 00:44:16,120
Speaker 2: We're going to have a urologist on next week, y'all,

946
00:44:16,160 --> 00:44:19,000
Speaker 2: to talk about erectile dysfunction. So that's a nice little.

947
00:44:21,100 --> 00:44:21,760
Speaker 2: Some information.

948
00:44:21,960 --> 00:44:23,120
Speaker 1: Segway. Yeah.

949
00:44:23,480 --> 00:44:26,299
Speaker 2: If anybody has ED, call up. We want to hear

950
00:44:26,320 --> 00:44:26,700
Speaker 2: from y'all.

951
00:44:26,739 --> 00:44:28,100
Speaker 1: Yeah, because we want to help.

952
00:44:28,120 --> 00:44:29,520
Speaker 2: Yeah, we want to help too.

953
00:44:30,140 --> 00:44:33,970
Speaker 1: Because we want all dicks to work in 2022.

954
00:44:33,969 --> 00:44:36,069
Speaker 2: They got to change their diets, man. They talk about

955
00:44:36,150 --> 00:44:40,030
Speaker 2: black women like leading and diabetes. All black people. Black women,

956
00:44:40,090 --> 00:44:42,370
Speaker 2: black men. We all have the same type of health issues.

957
00:44:43,090 --> 00:44:47,210
Speaker 2: These things is not genetics. It's the food that we eat, obviously.

958
00:44:47,670 --> 00:44:49,710
Speaker 2: So everybody just needs to change the diets.

959
00:44:50,340 --> 00:44:53,160
Speaker 1: And we'll get into that next week. Yeah. So tune

960
00:44:53,239 --> 00:44:55,819
Speaker 1: in for that. Let's take a break. We'll be right back.

961
00:44:55,840 --> 00:44:57,600
Speaker 1: We're going to come back with our dumb bitch story

962
00:44:57,640 --> 00:45:03,509
Speaker 1: for this week. It's good. Dumb bitch story. You are

963
00:45:03,590 --> 00:45:06,250
Speaker 1: so dumb. Because we've all been a dumb bitch at

964
00:45:06,290 --> 00:45:07,410
Speaker 1: least once or twice. All right.

965
00:45:08,230 --> 00:45:12,110
Speaker 2: So listen, we're back. And listen, today's dumb bitch story

966
00:45:12,660 --> 00:45:15,300
Speaker 2: is brought to you by one of our Instagram listeners.

967
00:45:15,320 --> 00:45:18,069
Speaker 2: I won't say her name. She says, I don't think

968
00:45:18,290 --> 00:45:21,890
Speaker 2: my dumb bitch story is that exciting, but I love

969
00:45:21,930 --> 00:45:23,770
Speaker 2: the show and I just wanted to write in. So

970
00:45:23,810 --> 00:45:26,450
Speaker 2: I started dating this man when I was 25. I'm

971
00:45:26,450 --> 00:45:29,239
Speaker 2: 29 now. He's 11 years older than me. He was

972
00:45:29,280 --> 00:45:29,860
Speaker 2: really nice.

973
00:45:29,969 --> 00:45:30,490
Speaker 1: A gentleman.

974
00:45:30,860 --> 00:45:34,100
Speaker 2: Sex was good, etc. Plus, he used to spend those bags.

975
00:45:34,540 --> 00:45:36,860
Speaker 2: I ended up falling in love with him. He said

976
00:45:36,880 --> 00:45:40,100
Speaker 2: and showed the feeling was mutual, but I could never

977
00:45:40,160 --> 00:45:42,800
Speaker 2: get this man to actually say we were together. I

978
00:45:43,320 --> 00:45:45,989
Speaker 2: used to borderline beg the nigga to be with me.

979
00:45:46,560 --> 00:45:49,300
Speaker 2: I've dated other men throughout the years, but I always

980
00:45:49,440 --> 00:45:51,880
Speaker 2: end up running back to him for the comfort. And

981
00:45:51,920 --> 00:45:55,380
Speaker 2: I know he's going to take me to nice places.

982
00:45:55,840 --> 00:45:58,100
Speaker 2: Fast forward to now. I hit him up a few

983
00:45:58,120 --> 00:46:00,359
Speaker 2: months ago and he's back in my life. He's finally

984
00:46:00,430 --> 00:46:02,649
Speaker 2: ready to settle down with me, but I don't feel

985
00:46:02,690 --> 00:46:07,430
Speaker 2: like that anymore. Um, I'm really over the nigga. When

986
00:46:07,450 --> 00:46:10,190
Speaker 2: we're together, I don't want to be touched. We've had

987
00:46:10,270 --> 00:46:13,330
Speaker 2: sex once recently and I wasn't into it at all.

988
00:46:13,750 --> 00:46:16,890
Speaker 2: I had to fantasize about someone else to even attempt

989
00:46:16,930 --> 00:46:21,200
Speaker 2: to enjoy it. I no longer enjoy our conversations. I

990
00:46:21,219 --> 00:46:24,540
Speaker 2: get irritated quickly. At this point, I really just keep

991
00:46:24,580 --> 00:46:27,480
Speaker 2: him around just out of fear of being alone, I guess.

992
00:46:28,980 --> 00:46:32,200
Speaker 2: I guess I'm a lonely dumb bitch. That's what she said.

993
00:46:34,180 --> 00:46:34,279
Speaker 1: Ah!

994
00:46:35,850 --> 00:46:37,630
Speaker 2: So that's a lot. The thing is, is that.

995
00:46:39,650 --> 00:46:42,360
Speaker 2: Do we really want men to like us? Because I

996
00:46:42,380 --> 00:46:45,180
Speaker 2: feel like sometimes when they start liking us at the

997
00:46:45,900 --> 00:46:46,820
Speaker 2: same capacity.

998
00:46:47,000 --> 00:46:48,220
Speaker 1: Say, for instance, you chased.

999
00:46:48,060 --> 00:46:50,100
Speaker 2: Him in the beginning, right? And then once he starts

1000
00:46:50,160 --> 00:46:54,150
Speaker 2: liking you in the same capacity, sometimes women start pulling away.

1001
00:46:54,550 --> 00:46:57,290
Speaker 2: Is it because it was the chase you were in

1002
00:46:57,330 --> 00:47:02,700
Speaker 2: love with? Or is it because... it's like, nigga, you

1003
00:47:02,739 --> 00:47:04,450
Speaker 2: made me wait all this time. Now I'm not really

1004
00:47:04,489 --> 00:47:07,000
Speaker 2: feeling you like that. Because once sex is bad, the

1005
00:47:07,020 --> 00:47:08,239
Speaker 2: relationship really is over.

1006
00:47:09,260 --> 00:47:09,640
Speaker 1: Facts.

1007
00:47:10,260 --> 00:47:12,560
Speaker 2: If it's like disgusting for you to fuck on him,

1008
00:47:12,680 --> 00:47:13,439
Speaker 2: it's like done.

1009
00:47:13,780 --> 00:47:16,660
Speaker 1: Yeah, just sit him on his way. Because, I mean,

1010
00:47:16,700 --> 00:47:19,120
Speaker 1: you're just being mean to the nigga at this point. Like, ugh,

1011
00:47:19,160 --> 00:47:20,140
Speaker 1: why are you breathing, nigga?

1012
00:47:20,160 --> 00:47:20,880
Speaker 2: Like, shh.

1013
00:47:21,040 --> 00:47:25,799
Speaker 1: You know, like. Right. Yeah, just sit him on his way.

1014
00:47:26,520 --> 00:47:28,480
Speaker 1: I mean, just be lonely. Find something to fill your

1015
00:47:28,500 --> 00:47:30,719
Speaker 1: time up with besides a nigga you don't like.

1016
00:47:31,320 --> 00:47:31,600
Speaker 2: Right.

1017
00:47:32,600 --> 00:47:32,839
Speaker 1: Yeah.

1018
00:47:33,300 --> 00:47:37,100
Speaker 2: Because she was liking him when he was being indifferent.

1019
00:47:37,500 --> 00:47:42,840
Speaker 2: She liked him when he wouldn't say, yes, we're together.

1020
00:47:43,739 --> 00:47:47,200
Speaker 2: She liked him. I do like that sometimes. I like

1021
00:47:47,239 --> 00:47:53,600
Speaker 2: a little chase. That's why I'm saying these things. But

1022
00:47:54,260 --> 00:47:56,360
Speaker 2: is it a chase though? If it's the chase that

1023
00:47:56,400 --> 00:47:58,339
Speaker 2: you want, right? For some women who like to chase, right?

1024
00:47:58,980 --> 00:48:01,860
Speaker 2: When you get the thing, because that chase shit is

1025
00:48:01,900 --> 00:48:06,879
Speaker 2: really some masculine shit for you to be chasing. Men

1026
00:48:07,060 --> 00:48:10,720
Speaker 2: are the hunters. Men like to conquer, right? So as

1027
00:48:10,760 --> 00:48:12,930
Speaker 2: a woman, that's not like a natural thing for us.

1028
00:48:14,250 --> 00:48:18,270
Speaker 1: Well, I like it. I don't know. I guess because

1029
00:48:18,310 --> 00:48:20,170
Speaker 1: I just feel like so many men be after me

1030
00:48:20,230 --> 00:48:22,810
Speaker 1: all the time that... Sometimes I want to be like

1031
00:48:22,850 --> 00:48:25,810
Speaker 1: the one doing the chase a little bit. Not like crazy.

1032
00:48:25,830 --> 00:48:27,569
Speaker 1: I don't want to be like, let me take you

1033
00:48:27,610 --> 00:48:27,950
Speaker 1: to dinner.

1034
00:48:29,410 --> 00:48:30,609
Speaker 2: Let me ask you to marry me.

1035
00:48:31,430 --> 00:48:35,540
Speaker 1: Right. No. What I do like when a man isn't

1036
00:48:35,580 --> 00:48:40,640
Speaker 1: like just always available at my every whim and just

1037
00:48:40,800 --> 00:48:43,020
Speaker 1: give me something to like wonder about a little bit. Like,

1038
00:48:43,080 --> 00:48:45,040
Speaker 1: where you at? You know, like just a little bit.

1039
00:48:45,080 --> 00:48:47,140
Speaker 1: Not like you're my husband and where you at is

1040
00:48:47,200 --> 00:48:50,930
Speaker 1: four in the morning, but. Just give me a little, like,

1041
00:48:51,050 --> 00:48:53,190
Speaker 1: give me a little chase. Just a little chase.

1042
00:48:53,630 --> 00:48:55,750
Speaker 2: I don't like men that's always available because I don't

1043
00:48:55,790 --> 00:48:59,529
Speaker 2: like people always clocking me. Okay? Like, I don't work

1044
00:48:59,570 --> 00:49:01,799
Speaker 2: a job, but if I did, I would never tell

1045
00:49:01,840 --> 00:49:04,480
Speaker 2: a nigga my schedule. That type of thing. Like, I

1046
00:49:04,520 --> 00:49:07,000
Speaker 2: don't want you to ever know exactly when I'm available.

1047
00:49:08,000 --> 00:49:11,000
Speaker 1: Yeah. Or I don't like when a nigga message me

1048
00:49:11,060 --> 00:49:13,400
Speaker 1: on Instagram and then turn around and message me on

1049
00:49:13,440 --> 00:49:16,830
Speaker 1: Facebook the same shit. Don't do that. That's weird.

1050
00:49:17,710 --> 00:49:18,009
Speaker 2: That's weird.

1051
00:49:18,700 --> 00:49:22,490
Speaker 1: That's annoying. I feel trapped by you.

1052
00:49:27,640 --> 00:49:30,750
Speaker 2: Not you feel trapped, but not like you don't think

1053
00:49:30,810 --> 00:49:32,890
Speaker 2: for a second that he just want to make sure.

1054
00:49:33,550 --> 00:49:35,710
Speaker 1: Listen, hey, I'm in the running.

1055
00:49:35,790 --> 00:49:38,370
Speaker 2: You see me? Like, he want to make sure you

1056
00:49:38,410 --> 00:49:40,340
Speaker 2: see him. I see you, nigga.

1057
00:49:40,390 --> 00:49:42,430
Speaker 1: I see your message in Instagram. You don't have to

1058
00:49:42,450 --> 00:49:49,330
Speaker 1: come over here to Facebook. Shame. God damn.

1059
00:49:50,570 --> 00:49:52,969
Speaker 2: I don't know. Girl, leave that man alone if you

1060
00:49:52,989 --> 00:49:56,250
Speaker 2: don't like him anymore. Or maybe you need to figure

1061
00:49:56,350 --> 00:49:58,989
Speaker 2: out what it was that made you like him in

1062
00:49:59,030 --> 00:50:01,489
Speaker 2: the first place and go back to that place. So

1063
00:50:01,530 --> 00:50:03,210
Speaker 2: maybe y'all can fall in love with each other now.

1064
00:50:04,110 --> 00:50:06,270
Speaker 1: Why? She gonna be like, stop coming over there and

1065
00:50:06,750 --> 00:50:08,670
Speaker 1: You fucking with somebody else, then you can be like, damn,

1066
00:50:08,710 --> 00:50:09,580
Speaker 1: where Joshua at?

1067
00:50:09,850 --> 00:50:12,609
Speaker 2: Exactly. See, and that's the weird thing. Why we like

1068
00:50:12,630 --> 00:50:15,610
Speaker 2: that hurt? It's like everybody got a fucking pain body.

1069
00:50:15,739 --> 00:50:19,219
Speaker 2: Everybody just want to feel. I don't like that feeling

1070
00:50:19,260 --> 00:50:21,799
Speaker 2: in my chest. I don't like it. I can't sleep

1071
00:50:21,880 --> 00:50:24,580
Speaker 2: at night. I don't like it. I don't like my

1072
00:50:24,600 --> 00:50:26,500
Speaker 2: chest to hurt. I don't know what's wrong with y'all bitches.

1073
00:50:27,000 --> 00:50:28,299
Speaker 1: I don't like my chest to hurt either.

1074
00:50:28,560 --> 00:50:31,040
Speaker 2: Y'all bitches like y'all chest to hurt. Y'all do.

1075
00:50:31,060 --> 00:50:31,299
Speaker 1: I don't.

1076
00:50:31,810 --> 00:50:34,670
Speaker 2: Y'all like that drama feeling and y'all like the makeup afterwards.

1077
00:50:34,770 --> 00:50:35,230
Speaker 2: I don't like it.

1078
00:50:35,250 --> 00:50:37,069
Speaker 1: Ooh, I like that. See? I do like the makeup.

1079
00:50:37,090 --> 00:50:37,710
Speaker 1: I don't like that.

1080
00:50:37,890 --> 00:50:40,490
Speaker 2: I just like mutual, everything just.

1081
00:50:40,510 --> 00:50:41,680
Speaker 1: Cool, copacetic.

1082
00:50:41,739 --> 00:50:44,060
Speaker 2: That's what I like. No, because sometimes that after fight

1083
00:50:44,100 --> 00:50:47,600
Speaker 2: sex be so good. It's not even an after fight.

1084
00:50:47,660 --> 00:50:51,560
Speaker 2: It's like, oh, he ain't answer the phone. Even if

1085
00:50:51,580 --> 00:50:53,379
Speaker 2: you're in a situation where you can't check a nigga

1086
00:50:53,400 --> 00:50:57,180
Speaker 2: about some shit because they ain't really your man. Y'all

1087
00:50:57,219 --> 00:51:00,400
Speaker 2: not established in an actual relationship yet, but he ain't

1088
00:51:00,480 --> 00:51:03,030
Speaker 2: answering the phone for you. Now you just going crazy

1089
00:51:03,050 --> 00:51:05,140
Speaker 2: in your mind. You may not display it to him,

1090
00:51:05,739 --> 00:51:09,319
Speaker 2: but that gives like some fire, some passion. That is

1091
00:51:09,420 --> 00:51:10,800
Speaker 2: weird old fucking behavior.

1092
00:51:10,860 --> 00:51:12,259
Speaker 1: I like it.

1093
00:51:12,280 --> 00:51:16,460
Speaker 2: I don't like that, man. I don't like to have

1094
00:51:16,500 --> 00:51:18,620
Speaker 2: to wonder about shit. I don't.

1095
00:51:18,989 --> 00:51:21,969
Speaker 1: Just a little wonder. I don't need to like, I

1096
00:51:21,989 --> 00:51:24,930
Speaker 1: don't want you to be too predictable and too accessible

1097
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Speaker 1: to me because then it's just like, Another piece of

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00:51:29,420 --> 00:51:32,290
Speaker 1: bland chicken for dinner tonight. Night after night.

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Speaker 2: So if you call a guy and he don't answer

1100
00:51:34,290 --> 00:51:36,450
Speaker 2: the phone, that don't bother you?

1101
00:51:38,469 --> 00:51:40,330
Speaker 1: No, because I can't answer the phone every time you call.

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00:51:40,450 --> 00:51:43,630
Speaker 1: I'm out with somebody else. All right, y'all.

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00:51:44,050 --> 00:51:47,239
Speaker 2: Listen, if you enjoyed this episode, please tune in every

1104
00:51:47,260 --> 00:51:49,520
Speaker 2: Thursday on the iHeartRadio.

1105
00:51:49,000 --> 00:51:51,320
Speaker 1: App or wherever the fuck you get your podcasts at.

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00:51:54,400 --> 00:51:55,700
Speaker 1: That's how you're going to do my thought.

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00:51:55,719 --> 00:51:58,160
Speaker 2: Do you want a husband or not?

1108
00:51:58,239 --> 00:52:00,839
Speaker 1: This is what we're talking about. I already know who

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00:52:00,880 --> 00:52:01,700
Speaker 1: my husband is.

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Speaker 2: God damn.

1111
00:52:03,880 --> 00:52:09,759
Speaker 1: I already know who he is. Okay. I met him.

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Speaker 1: We're building right now. All right.

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00:52:12,020 --> 00:52:14,700
Speaker 2: I hear that, y'all. Y'all hear that? So y'all, I'm

1114
00:52:14,719 --> 00:52:16,600
Speaker 2: getting married next year. I know I'm getting married next year.

1115
00:52:16,620 --> 00:52:20,060
Speaker 2: I don't know about you, but I'm getting a husband

1116
00:52:20,100 --> 00:52:21,760
Speaker 2: this year, child. And I'm going to have a whole

1117
00:52:21,820 --> 00:52:23,109
Speaker 2: baby next year. How about that?

1118
00:52:24,430 --> 00:52:26,390
Speaker 1: I don't know about the baby for me, but I'm

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00:52:26,430 --> 00:52:29,250
Speaker 1: definitely getting married. I hear that.

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Speaker 2: We gonna see. We gonna see.

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Speaker 1: But anyway, like she said, if y'all like this show,

1122
00:52:36,770 --> 00:52:41,450
Speaker 1: go ahead and do your shit.

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00:52:41,830 --> 00:52:44,240
Speaker 2: Listen, if you enjoyed this episode, please tune in every

1124
00:52:44,260 --> 00:52:46,640
Speaker 2: Thursday on the iHeartRadio app and wherever the fuck you

1125
00:52:46,660 --> 00:52:50,319
Speaker 2: get your podcasts at. This is your co-host AJ Holiday 2.0.

1126
00:52:50,320 --> 00:52:52,940
Speaker 2: Y'all follow me on Instagram. Keep them dumb bitch stories coming.

1127
00:52:53,489 --> 00:52:55,360
Speaker 2: And the white people scared. They ain't fuck with us.

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00:52:55,760 --> 00:52:57,420
Speaker 2: So we don't have no ask a black friends in

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00:52:57,440 --> 00:52:57,739
Speaker 2: a while.

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Speaker 1: All right, y'all. Follow me on Instagram. Official Tam Bam.

1131
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Speaker 1: I love y'all. Remember to speak now.

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Speaker 2: And never hold your peace. Girl, what the fuck was that?

1133
00:53:14,580 --> 00:53:15,660
Speaker 2: I can sing in real life.

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Speaker 1: Bye, y'all. Bye. Bye.