1 00:00:05,120 --> 00:00:07,480 Speaker 1: Hey, this is Annie and Samantha, and welcome to stuff when 2 00:00:07,480 --> 00:00:09,479 Speaker 1: never told your prediction of iHeartRadio. 3 00:00:18,680 --> 00:00:23,079 Speaker 2: And welcome to another edition of happy Hour, or as 4 00:00:23,120 --> 00:00:24,200 Speaker 2: I would like to call. 5 00:00:24,079 --> 00:00:27,120 Speaker 3: It, be wine. Yeah, it's one of the those. 6 00:00:27,200 --> 00:00:29,520 Speaker 2: So if you need to get some wine, go for 7 00:00:29,600 --> 00:00:31,960 Speaker 2: it as an adult, of course, only as an adult. 8 00:00:32,240 --> 00:00:33,200 Speaker 3: Yes, it is happy hour. 9 00:00:33,280 --> 00:00:37,400 Speaker 2: So if you are participating in the wine bit or 10 00:00:37,520 --> 00:00:41,479 Speaker 2: any other happy hour thing, do so responsibly. We trust 11 00:00:41,520 --> 00:00:46,519 Speaker 2: you to make good decisions. Yes, yes, Also if we 12 00:00:46,560 --> 00:00:48,040 Speaker 2: talk about any specific. 13 00:00:47,640 --> 00:00:50,320 Speaker 3: Company, movie, anything. 14 00:00:50,240 --> 00:00:57,560 Speaker 2: Currently not a sponsor, which is a shame. Yep, yep, okay, yep, yep, Annie, 15 00:00:57,600 --> 00:00:59,040 Speaker 2: are you sipping on anything? 16 00:01:00,080 --> 00:01:02,600 Speaker 1: Well, you gave me a warning that this was a wine. 17 00:01:02,640 --> 00:01:04,200 Speaker 1: I gave you a heads up. I gave you a 18 00:01:04,200 --> 00:01:07,200 Speaker 1: heads up. This time I did get some wine. I'm 19 00:01:07,240 --> 00:01:11,160 Speaker 1: still kind of I had I had quite a life day, everybody, 20 00:01:11,240 --> 00:01:13,760 Speaker 1: So I'm still okay. 21 00:01:13,880 --> 00:01:16,479 Speaker 2: The ready that sounded is like I have had quite 22 00:01:16,560 --> 00:01:19,720 Speaker 2: a life as if you're like done, have so much 23 00:01:20,000 --> 00:01:20,720 Speaker 2: life day. 24 00:01:21,200 --> 00:01:24,479 Speaker 1: Life day, the Star Wars holiday that I talked about 25 00:01:25,000 --> 00:01:27,600 Speaker 1: on the previous Happy Hours. So but I feel I 26 00:01:27,600 --> 00:01:30,560 Speaker 1: feel good and I'm I'm happy to see you. 27 00:01:30,640 --> 00:01:32,479 Speaker 3: Sam yes, happy to see you as well. 28 00:01:32,520 --> 00:01:35,080 Speaker 2: We started in about your weekend and I was like, 29 00:01:35,440 --> 00:01:37,440 Speaker 2: let's go ahead and jump into the happy hour because essentially, 30 00:01:37,520 --> 00:01:42,080 Speaker 2: I'm just going to be complaining about adulting because it's 31 00:01:42,120 --> 00:01:46,559 Speaker 2: already stressful, and y'all know, if you're familiar with our show, 32 00:01:46,800 --> 00:01:49,760 Speaker 2: familiar with us. When it comes to the holidays, I 33 00:01:49,840 --> 00:01:53,240 Speaker 2: despise it, and usually around this time I start coming 34 00:01:53,280 --> 00:01:55,320 Speaker 2: in about why I don't like it or what the 35 00:01:55,360 --> 00:01:58,560 Speaker 2: anxiety is. I'm going to bypass all that and just 36 00:01:58,560 --> 00:02:02,560 Speaker 2: say that's one of the addeds to everything. Yes, holidays 37 00:02:02,560 --> 00:02:05,320 Speaker 2: are horrible and I can't stand them, and it's coming 38 00:02:05,520 --> 00:02:09,240 Speaker 2: very quickly actually, but it's okay because I feel like 39 00:02:09,440 --> 00:02:12,919 Speaker 2: things have gotten easier. Last year and the year before last, 40 00:02:12,919 --> 00:02:14,840 Speaker 2: I've been doing the gung ho I'm going to figure 41 00:02:14,840 --> 00:02:17,000 Speaker 2: out how I'm gonna like it, and all the things 42 00:02:17,000 --> 00:02:20,359 Speaker 2: I'm tried, Like, yeah, I still don't like it. So 43 00:02:20,560 --> 00:02:23,919 Speaker 2: this year I'm just giving up, like it's fine. Everything 44 00:02:24,000 --> 00:02:28,240 Speaker 2: is fine. I'm see the family, hope everybody's on their 45 00:02:28,280 --> 00:02:31,680 Speaker 2: best behavior, enjoy the times that we get to spend together. 46 00:02:31,720 --> 00:02:35,440 Speaker 2: Because I don't know if I've shared much about my family, 47 00:02:35,560 --> 00:02:37,320 Speaker 2: like as my parents get older. I know, we talked 48 00:02:37,320 --> 00:02:40,720 Speaker 2: about that and how odd it is and the sensation 49 00:02:40,840 --> 00:02:42,480 Speaker 2: of knowing that we're coming to a point that we 50 00:02:42,520 --> 00:02:46,720 Speaker 2: are taking care of our parents because they are regressing, 51 00:02:47,080 --> 00:02:52,080 Speaker 2: and whether there's their health or it's their mental capacities 52 00:02:52,080 --> 00:02:54,080 Speaker 2: and all of those things. So there's so many things 53 00:02:54,120 --> 00:02:57,520 Speaker 2: in that conversation, and I feel like the last two 54 00:02:57,560 --> 00:03:02,280 Speaker 2: years I've really seen an escalation of them aging, and 55 00:03:02,360 --> 00:03:05,320 Speaker 2: not because they're doing anything wrong, not necessarily dimension noune 56 00:03:05,360 --> 00:03:08,440 Speaker 2: of that, which I'm fortunate to see, but because they 57 00:03:08,480 --> 00:03:10,520 Speaker 2: are getting older so they're able to do less, but 58 00:03:10,639 --> 00:03:12,400 Speaker 2: at the same time they try to push like they 59 00:03:12,440 --> 00:03:14,959 Speaker 2: can still do that those same things, and they can't, 60 00:03:15,320 --> 00:03:17,040 Speaker 2: so it's physically harming them. 61 00:03:17,360 --> 00:03:19,359 Speaker 3: So a lot of those things. So I'm gonna try 62 00:03:19,400 --> 00:03:23,680 Speaker 3: my best to enjoy and not regret. 63 00:03:25,120 --> 00:03:28,000 Speaker 2: Any of any losing time with them, spending time and 64 00:03:28,040 --> 00:03:31,280 Speaker 2: hopefully making good memories because you know, for all of 65 00:03:31,320 --> 00:03:34,480 Speaker 2: the craziness that has happened, all of the disagreements that 66 00:03:34,480 --> 00:03:36,520 Speaker 2: we have had, all the things that I still don't 67 00:03:36,560 --> 00:03:38,640 Speaker 2: want to talk to them about or be around them about, 68 00:03:38,760 --> 00:03:41,360 Speaker 2: like I have definitely any you know, the behind the 69 00:03:41,400 --> 00:03:45,160 Speaker 2: scenes had that conversation of like, Okay, they're doing these 70 00:03:45,200 --> 00:03:48,200 Speaker 2: conspiracy talks and I can't handle this. I don't have 71 00:03:48,240 --> 00:03:52,160 Speaker 2: the mental bandwidth to argue with them about why they 72 00:03:52,160 --> 00:03:55,520 Speaker 2: are completely wrong about this. But like, outside of that, 73 00:03:55,720 --> 00:04:00,920 Speaker 2: trying to be able because they love me beyond measure, 74 00:04:00,920 --> 00:04:03,280 Speaker 2: and I love them beyond measure. They have taken good 75 00:04:03,280 --> 00:04:05,800 Speaker 2: care of me and in all of the ways, and 76 00:04:05,840 --> 00:04:08,280 Speaker 2: I'm very grateful to have them as my family. 77 00:04:08,840 --> 00:04:10,360 Speaker 3: But yeah, like coming back and. 78 00:04:10,320 --> 00:04:13,760 Speaker 2: Forth of like okay, this is this is you starting 79 00:04:13,800 --> 00:04:18,600 Speaker 2: to realize you're losing time in essence with that as 80 00:04:18,640 --> 00:04:21,159 Speaker 2: well as you know, trying to figure the back and forth. 81 00:04:21,279 --> 00:04:22,960 Speaker 2: We talked about what it looks like as a couple 82 00:04:23,480 --> 00:04:26,719 Speaker 2: imbalancing those times, especially when other families are out of state, 83 00:04:27,040 --> 00:04:30,080 Speaker 2: and what that can look like. So it's definitely like 84 00:04:30,160 --> 00:04:34,320 Speaker 2: I'm just gonna go rush forward, not thinking about it. 85 00:04:34,360 --> 00:04:38,000 Speaker 2: This is my new strategy, any and just make it 86 00:04:39,080 --> 00:04:40,440 Speaker 2: out of December. 87 00:04:41,440 --> 00:04:45,240 Speaker 3: Okay, Yeah, that's a new goal. Correct? Is that? 88 00:04:45,320 --> 00:04:48,760 Speaker 2: Would we call that a positive a change or just 89 00:04:48,800 --> 00:04:50,040 Speaker 2: a change? 90 00:04:51,200 --> 00:04:56,120 Speaker 1: I think there are some positives and negatives to the change, yes. 91 00:04:57,800 --> 00:05:00,040 Speaker 3: Fair enough, So that's where we are on that. 92 00:05:00,320 --> 00:05:03,800 Speaker 2: But like I don't know about you and any You've 93 00:05:04,040 --> 00:05:06,840 Speaker 2: done really well in keeping off of social media for 94 00:05:06,880 --> 00:05:10,040 Speaker 2: the most parts, which is really great because I am 95 00:05:10,040 --> 00:05:13,039 Speaker 2: being inundated with everyone talking about how we are about 96 00:05:13,040 --> 00:05:16,479 Speaker 2: to be in one of the biggest depressions the society 97 00:05:16,600 --> 00:05:19,560 Speaker 2: and economically that we have seen in a long time. 98 00:05:21,120 --> 00:05:25,920 Speaker 2: I am petrified and like I've been having dreams about 99 00:05:26,040 --> 00:05:30,960 Speaker 2: things that could be issues, and y'all already know I've 100 00:05:30,960 --> 00:05:34,919 Speaker 2: already had issues and anxiety about the immigration rays that 101 00:05:34,960 --> 00:05:38,480 Speaker 2: a happening, even though technically I am a naturalized citizen 102 00:05:38,560 --> 00:05:41,279 Speaker 2: and have been for thirty years and so it shouldn't 103 00:05:41,320 --> 00:05:43,640 Speaker 2: be an issue. But as we have seen of late, 104 00:05:43,720 --> 00:05:47,640 Speaker 2: it really doesn't matter. Citizens who have been born US 105 00:05:47,680 --> 00:05:51,000 Speaker 2: citizens are being detained as well, and we've talked about that. 106 00:05:51,440 --> 00:05:55,360 Speaker 2: I've been seeing man that was a New York opinion piece, 107 00:05:55,520 --> 00:05:58,359 Speaker 2: New York Times opinion piece, which is shocking because New 108 00:05:58,440 --> 00:05:59,679 Speaker 2: York Times has not done well. 109 00:06:00,360 --> 00:06:02,880 Speaker 3: It's not done well. We haven't even talked about. 110 00:06:02,640 --> 00:06:06,280 Speaker 2: How they're like, oh, the women have ruined the workplace, 111 00:06:06,279 --> 00:06:08,200 Speaker 2: and I'm like, wait, it. 112 00:06:08,279 --> 00:06:11,200 Speaker 1: Was definitely us, uh huh. 113 00:06:11,200 --> 00:06:13,400 Speaker 2: Like there's so many I'm like, I'm gonna assume this 114 00:06:13,520 --> 00:06:15,440 Speaker 2: was rage bait. And there's something else to this, I 115 00:06:15,480 --> 00:06:19,080 Speaker 2: don't know. But anyway, moving back, but they did interview 116 00:06:19,600 --> 00:06:23,719 Speaker 2: three or four people who had been detainees who were 117 00:06:23,760 --> 00:06:27,760 Speaker 2: here as they was a quote unquote through due process legally, 118 00:06:27,839 --> 00:06:29,680 Speaker 2: and I hate that term in general, that they had 119 00:06:29,760 --> 00:06:32,280 Speaker 2: green cars, they had asylum, and they had the visas 120 00:06:32,480 --> 00:06:35,440 Speaker 2: and they just didn't want them here or they profiled 121 00:06:35,440 --> 00:06:41,440 Speaker 2: them and then made up outrageous claims and charges which 122 00:06:41,600 --> 00:06:43,640 Speaker 2: these people who were detained didn't even know about four 123 00:06:43,640 --> 00:06:47,760 Speaker 2: weeks later, and the talk about how one man Specifical 124 00:06:47,760 --> 00:06:50,760 Speaker 2: talked about he was placed in solitary confinement as an 125 00:06:50,839 --> 00:06:56,120 Speaker 2: immigrant detainee who, by the way, again had asylum, but 126 00:06:56,400 --> 00:06:59,839 Speaker 2: because they realized their mistake, they stripped him of that 127 00:07:00,000 --> 00:07:02,440 Speaker 2: asylum and then came back and held him for. 128 00:07:02,440 --> 00:07:04,720 Speaker 3: Like I believe he said, seven weeks. 129 00:07:05,440 --> 00:07:08,840 Speaker 2: But because he was advocating for Muslims in the detention center, 130 00:07:08,920 --> 00:07:11,680 Speaker 2: asking for like prayer times and such, he got placed 131 00:07:11,680 --> 00:07:14,400 Speaker 2: in solitary confinement. And I'm like, wait, this is what 132 00:07:14,480 --> 00:07:18,320 Speaker 2: happens with hardened criminals who incite riots. Well, that's not 133 00:07:18,360 --> 00:07:20,840 Speaker 2: actually true. We know the political political spectrum, and we've 134 00:07:20,840 --> 00:07:23,040 Speaker 2: talked about the behind the scenes in which in order 135 00:07:23,080 --> 00:07:25,280 Speaker 2: to deal with and punish people, they put them in 136 00:07:25,320 --> 00:07:27,960 Speaker 2: solitary confinements. And this is the type of torture that 137 00:07:28,440 --> 00:07:35,240 Speaker 2: has been researched how long, and yet people within the 138 00:07:35,280 --> 00:07:38,280 Speaker 2: punitive system do not want to acknowledge that it is 139 00:07:38,320 --> 00:07:42,280 Speaker 2: an inherent torture strategy that should be illegal. But that's 140 00:07:42,320 --> 00:07:44,920 Speaker 2: a whole different conversation. Again, this is where I go 141 00:07:45,040 --> 00:07:47,720 Speaker 2: with and why and I get real off topic, But 142 00:07:47,840 --> 00:07:50,760 Speaker 2: all that to say is like, what is what is 143 00:07:51,120 --> 00:07:54,320 Speaker 2: what This man who literally is not doing anything, not 144 00:07:54,360 --> 00:07:58,559 Speaker 2: inciting it violence, just speaking out got instead of being heard, 145 00:07:58,760 --> 00:08:01,760 Speaker 2: and because they were annoyed, they just put him in 146 00:08:01,800 --> 00:08:06,000 Speaker 2: solitary confinement as a person being held with legal papers. 147 00:08:06,240 --> 00:08:08,040 Speaker 3: Like, there's so many things to this aspect. 148 00:08:08,040 --> 00:08:10,040 Speaker 2: And these are people who are now out and can 149 00:08:10,080 --> 00:08:13,120 Speaker 2: tell their stories and had lawyers and people who could 150 00:08:13,120 --> 00:08:17,440 Speaker 2: advocate for them, So imagine what else is happening there? 151 00:08:17,520 --> 00:08:21,960 Speaker 2: Like the story was intense, So my social media is 152 00:08:22,040 --> 00:08:26,160 Speaker 2: covered in that, which is something that I can't look 153 00:08:26,160 --> 00:08:29,080 Speaker 2: away from, nobody should look away from. We should be 154 00:08:29,120 --> 00:08:31,520 Speaker 2: talking about right now, especially with what's happening again in 155 00:08:31,600 --> 00:08:35,240 Speaker 2: Charlotte in Chicago, in New York, in Portland, all the places, 156 00:08:35,400 --> 00:08:39,800 Speaker 2: and apparently the most seville cities in the country. Atlanta 157 00:08:40,240 --> 00:08:44,320 Speaker 2: has been allowing access to ICE and federal agents to 158 00:08:44,480 --> 00:08:48,800 Speaker 2: these deep state like if you want to go conspiracy theory, 159 00:08:49,679 --> 00:08:51,640 Speaker 2: this is where you're like, yeah, I might actually jump 160 00:08:51,679 --> 00:08:53,760 Speaker 2: on board with this one, because we are we have 161 00:08:53,960 --> 00:08:57,640 Speaker 2: been held as the highest surveillanced city with all of 162 00:08:57,640 --> 00:09:01,120 Speaker 2: the cameras that are here, and apparently there were several 163 00:09:01,200 --> 00:09:04,240 Speaker 2: reports showing that they were using these cameras which were 164 00:09:04,320 --> 00:09:07,719 Speaker 2: only supposed to be for traffic stops or actual accident situations, 165 00:09:07,840 --> 00:09:11,280 Speaker 2: are being used by federal law enforcement and ICE and 166 00:09:11,400 --> 00:09:16,240 Speaker 2: Immigrations Border Control people to go and find people for 167 00:09:16,280 --> 00:09:19,760 Speaker 2: no reason, Like they just find random things and things 168 00:09:19,800 --> 00:09:24,199 Speaker 2: that are pulled up maybe incorrect, may have all these information, but. 169 00:09:24,160 --> 00:09:24,840 Speaker 3: They don't care. 170 00:09:25,720 --> 00:09:28,079 Speaker 2: So that's all of that is what I'm seeing onlin 171 00:09:28,360 --> 00:09:30,920 Speaker 2: for you page again, as well as the fact that 172 00:09:30,960 --> 00:09:34,240 Speaker 2: the economics status in the US is not pretty and 173 00:09:34,320 --> 00:09:36,640 Speaker 2: you know who gets it first are all of the 174 00:09:36,760 --> 00:09:40,160 Speaker 2: any lower middle class and lower are going to be 175 00:09:40,160 --> 00:09:43,000 Speaker 2: people who's going to feel this harder than anybody else 176 00:09:43,000 --> 00:09:45,960 Speaker 2: because everybody else gets the bell out and we know 177 00:09:46,120 --> 00:09:51,880 Speaker 2: this specific administration has been prepping for that, So I 178 00:09:51,920 --> 00:09:55,080 Speaker 2: don't know. Have you seen any of this conversation about 179 00:09:55,080 --> 00:09:57,920 Speaker 2: how like the big wigs are throwing are selling all 180 00:09:57,960 --> 00:10:01,600 Speaker 2: of these stocks immediately as of the last week or. 181 00:10:01,520 --> 00:10:06,080 Speaker 1: So, I have, I have, But I'm going to be 182 00:10:06,120 --> 00:10:09,280 Speaker 1: real honest with you. The stock market is not my 183 00:10:11,160 --> 00:10:15,240 Speaker 1: I just know they're saying like this is strange, Like 184 00:10:15,280 --> 00:10:17,199 Speaker 1: I don't really know what it means. Yes, I have 185 00:10:17,240 --> 00:10:17,640 Speaker 1: seen that. 186 00:10:17,600 --> 00:10:19,079 Speaker 3: You're not the only one. I definitely don't need that. 187 00:10:19,160 --> 00:10:21,240 Speaker 2: But what I do know, and what I do see 188 00:10:21,400 --> 00:10:25,160 Speaker 2: is that our retirement, which we have no choice on it. 189 00:10:25,200 --> 00:10:29,640 Speaker 3: And y'all know I have gone off many times. 190 00:10:29,400 --> 00:10:32,000 Speaker 2: Because I'm so annoyed by the situation, Like why are 191 00:10:32,080 --> 00:10:34,640 Speaker 2: y'all taking my money and putting it in companies I 192 00:10:34,640 --> 00:10:37,040 Speaker 2: don't care about and not giving me a choice, and 193 00:10:37,120 --> 00:10:39,960 Speaker 2: yet you won't let me take my money even though 194 00:10:40,000 --> 00:10:41,760 Speaker 2: it's not my choice, and is my money? 195 00:10:42,360 --> 00:10:43,240 Speaker 3: Is my money? Dam it? 196 00:10:44,200 --> 00:10:48,760 Speaker 1: Yeah, we have to basically invest in stock options. That's 197 00:10:48,800 --> 00:10:51,240 Speaker 1: not See again, I don't know much real stock. This 198 00:10:51,320 --> 00:10:55,000 Speaker 1: is the problem. But you like have to put and 199 00:10:55,040 --> 00:10:58,360 Speaker 1: you can choose like a high risk, medium risk, low risk, 200 00:10:59,679 --> 00:11:03,960 Speaker 1: and you have the option to pay extra for someone 201 00:11:04,360 --> 00:11:07,959 Speaker 1: someone something to be like, you should sell this one 202 00:11:07,960 --> 00:11:10,280 Speaker 1: because you're not gonna you're not gonna be paying attention 203 00:11:10,640 --> 00:11:13,760 Speaker 1: to it, right, But yeah, we don't have an option 204 00:11:13,840 --> 00:11:14,760 Speaker 1: of opting out. 205 00:11:14,559 --> 00:11:17,560 Speaker 2: Of that, No, Like, why can't I just take the 206 00:11:17,600 --> 00:11:19,920 Speaker 2: savings with the match, thank you very much if we 207 00:11:20,000 --> 00:11:22,160 Speaker 2: get it, which for the longest times we didn't, you know, 208 00:11:22,240 --> 00:11:24,079 Speaker 2: and that I understand, Like. 209 00:11:24,080 --> 00:11:26,960 Speaker 3: This is definitely privileged conversation. 210 00:11:27,559 --> 00:11:29,640 Speaker 2: But the small amount of savings, which by the way, 211 00:11:31,440 --> 00:11:34,480 Speaker 2: will definitely be working at a trader Joe's after like 212 00:11:35,200 --> 00:11:37,520 Speaker 2: retirement age probably, so can't wait to see you there. 213 00:11:37,679 --> 00:11:39,040 Speaker 3: Hopefully I'll get unionized by then. 214 00:11:39,800 --> 00:11:43,480 Speaker 2: All of that does say but in that conversation, like 215 00:11:43,480 --> 00:11:44,840 Speaker 2: why can't I just put it in a high yield 216 00:11:44,880 --> 00:11:46,920 Speaker 2: se savings account, because this is back and forth of 217 00:11:46,960 --> 00:11:49,840 Speaker 2: me losing money of when I watch this and I'm 218 00:11:49,840 --> 00:11:55,400 Speaker 2: like what and this tour my family apart almost because 219 00:11:55,400 --> 00:11:58,400 Speaker 2: of that happening in the early two thousands and my 220 00:11:58,520 --> 00:12:03,240 Speaker 2: dad losing hundreds of thousands of dollars being like ten 221 00:12:03,320 --> 00:12:05,360 Speaker 2: years away from retirement. But at the same time he 222 00:12:05,400 --> 00:12:08,040 Speaker 2: also lost his job because the first people to go 223 00:12:08,080 --> 00:12:10,160 Speaker 2: were those who have had the highest salaries but the 224 00:12:10,200 --> 00:12:13,440 Speaker 2: lowest education. And so even though he'd been there for years, 225 00:12:13,920 --> 00:12:15,640 Speaker 2: and of course if you're coming close to retirement, they 226 00:12:15,679 --> 00:12:19,360 Speaker 2: don't have to pay that wonderful. So he lost his 227 00:12:19,480 --> 00:12:22,040 Speaker 2: job and he had to go on unemployment. He lost 228 00:12:22,160 --> 00:12:25,800 Speaker 2: so much with that, and that's like where and I'm 229 00:12:25,840 --> 00:12:28,640 Speaker 2: nowhere near where he was on that because you know, 230 00:12:29,640 --> 00:12:32,080 Speaker 2: eighties were nice when they were figuring this stuff out. 231 00:12:33,720 --> 00:12:36,880 Speaker 2: The eighties treated and retirees a little better. And as 232 00:12:36,880 --> 00:12:39,640 Speaker 2: we know, as we come to and we I say, 233 00:12:39,800 --> 00:12:44,160 Speaker 2: like again, forties, thirties, come to our retirement age, we 234 00:12:44,200 --> 00:12:46,800 Speaker 2: already know Social Security's gone, even though we've been paying 235 00:12:46,880 --> 00:12:49,760 Speaker 2: so much into it. It's almost reminds me of a 236 00:12:49,760 --> 00:12:52,160 Speaker 2: Ponzi scheme, now that I understand what a Ponzi scheme is. 237 00:12:52,200 --> 00:12:54,280 Speaker 2: It was like, is that not what's happening with the 238 00:12:54,320 --> 00:12:55,640 Speaker 2: Social Security administration? 239 00:12:57,760 --> 00:12:58,679 Speaker 3: Is that not? What that is? 240 00:12:59,080 --> 00:13:02,520 Speaker 2: You're just taking our mind need to pay the boomers now, 241 00:13:03,200 --> 00:13:04,559 Speaker 2: but you don't have enough for us to give it 242 00:13:04,600 --> 00:13:05,200 Speaker 2: back to us. 243 00:13:05,559 --> 00:13:06,920 Speaker 3: I don't't understod. 244 00:13:08,040 --> 00:13:09,880 Speaker 1: No, doesn't make sense. 245 00:13:21,120 --> 00:13:24,640 Speaker 2: This is adulting thing is very odd, and I have 246 00:13:24,800 --> 00:13:27,640 Speaker 2: been a little more anxious because also owning a house 247 00:13:28,480 --> 00:13:30,880 Speaker 2: but having to buy the new car, all of these things. 248 00:13:30,920 --> 00:13:36,720 Speaker 2: It's like, what happens if, worst case scenario, our show 249 00:13:36,800 --> 00:13:41,840 Speaker 2: becomes a little too left leaning for the administration and 250 00:13:41,920 --> 00:13:45,320 Speaker 2: for some reason we pop up on someone's radar and 251 00:13:45,640 --> 00:13:48,240 Speaker 2: we don't have the backing to stay. You know what 252 00:13:48,280 --> 00:13:53,640 Speaker 2: I'm saying, like losing because like, can you hear the 253 00:13:53,640 --> 00:13:58,839 Speaker 2: panic of my voice? Yes, we already got Like everybody 254 00:13:59,240 --> 00:14:02,080 Speaker 2: in the Cuntry Tree had such a setback in the 255 00:14:02,160 --> 00:14:06,640 Speaker 2: last three two years, especially if they're like as things 256 00:14:06,640 --> 00:14:09,840 Speaker 2: were specifically changing, well, last year was like, oh no, 257 00:14:10,760 --> 00:14:17,480 Speaker 2: we're in chaos because of things abruptly changing, yeah, and 258 00:14:17,559 --> 00:14:22,360 Speaker 2: the things being set up for multi billionaires to gain 259 00:14:22,400 --> 00:14:24,760 Speaker 2: more power because to them, this is all a game, 260 00:14:25,360 --> 00:14:27,640 Speaker 2: the buying and the selling of stocks, because they have 261 00:14:28,000 --> 00:14:32,320 Speaker 2: the like extra millions of dollars to play this game 262 00:14:32,920 --> 00:14:36,760 Speaker 2: on the backs of people who can't, who just pray 263 00:14:36,840 --> 00:14:39,560 Speaker 2: that they don't lose thousands and thousands of dollars of 264 00:14:39,640 --> 00:14:43,720 Speaker 2: their retirement so that one day they could assist along 265 00:14:43,720 --> 00:14:47,600 Speaker 2: with your part time job at Trader Joe's bartending whatever 266 00:14:47,760 --> 00:14:51,720 Speaker 2: that we can find in twenty years. It's an odd 267 00:14:51,720 --> 00:14:53,960 Speaker 2: place and again like I was thinking about this too, 268 00:14:54,800 --> 00:15:00,480 Speaker 2: and I speak about having children my parents, I think 269 00:15:00,720 --> 00:15:03,840 Speaker 2: really kind of like they suffered, don't get me wrong, 270 00:15:04,600 --> 00:15:06,600 Speaker 2: and they had a lot of setbacks, but we had 271 00:15:06,720 --> 00:15:09,320 Speaker 2: already left all of us. They had an emptyness at 272 00:15:09,360 --> 00:15:11,360 Speaker 2: this point. I was in college. They didn't pay for 273 00:15:11,400 --> 00:15:13,840 Speaker 2: my college, so it was all like not that they 274 00:15:13,840 --> 00:15:16,360 Speaker 2: were free and clear, but a little less than having 275 00:15:16,400 --> 00:15:20,560 Speaker 2: like four toddlers or four teenagers being there. I cannot 276 00:15:20,640 --> 00:15:27,240 Speaker 2: imagine if you're a single parent with kids and trying 277 00:15:27,240 --> 00:15:30,160 Speaker 2: to figure out what do we do? And it's because 278 00:15:30,200 --> 00:15:33,760 Speaker 2: nothing is going backwards. It's not like rent is going down. 279 00:15:33,920 --> 00:15:39,440 Speaker 2: They don't care. Our interest rates are going up. They 280 00:15:39,440 --> 00:15:42,080 Speaker 2: supposedly felt like pushed it back. 281 00:15:42,440 --> 00:15:45,960 Speaker 3: Who to who? For whom? Who? Who? What? 282 00:15:46,560 --> 00:15:47,920 Speaker 2: Like I was looking at was trying to see when 283 00:15:47,920 --> 00:15:49,280 Speaker 2: they were like, oh yeah, they kept it. I was 284 00:15:49,320 --> 00:15:51,000 Speaker 2: like they kept it. 285 00:15:51,000 --> 00:15:54,760 Speaker 3: It was like so high already? Who kept what? Who's 286 00:15:54,800 --> 00:15:56,040 Speaker 3: this helping nobody? 287 00:15:57,600 --> 00:15:59,720 Speaker 2: Because if they couldn't buy the house before they kept it, 288 00:15:59,720 --> 00:16:01,600 Speaker 2: they like can't now because it's cat there. 289 00:16:01,640 --> 00:16:05,000 Speaker 3: So what There's so many in this conversation that I'm like, 290 00:16:05,160 --> 00:16:08,280 Speaker 3: where are we? Like, how are they doing this? 291 00:16:08,360 --> 00:16:12,440 Speaker 2: On purpose, And this is another conspiracy theory to make 292 00:16:12,640 --> 00:16:18,200 Speaker 2: everything seem less significant, whether it's the Epstein files finally 293 00:16:18,200 --> 00:16:19,360 Speaker 2: being released. 294 00:16:19,480 --> 00:16:21,120 Speaker 3: And the odd like. 295 00:16:23,040 --> 00:16:27,240 Speaker 2: Wordplay that the officials are doing in order to make 296 00:16:27,480 --> 00:16:30,120 Speaker 2: everything seemingly not so bad when you're. 297 00:16:29,920 --> 00:16:33,520 Speaker 3: Like what. 298 00:16:35,160 --> 00:16:40,200 Speaker 2: Or is it because they know if we're in a panic, 299 00:16:40,280 --> 00:16:42,440 Speaker 2: we're not going to pay as close to attention to 300 00:16:42,640 --> 00:16:45,000 Speaker 2: all of the law, like really scary things that are 301 00:16:45,040 --> 00:16:47,040 Speaker 2: happening around the world. 302 00:16:47,240 --> 00:16:48,320 Speaker 3: Is that what's happening? 303 00:16:48,400 --> 00:16:51,200 Speaker 2: Like if we're so caught up in our own misery 304 00:16:51,480 --> 00:16:54,960 Speaker 2: and our own fears and anxiety, then we're less likely 305 00:16:55,000 --> 00:16:57,280 Speaker 2: to look around about like advocating for others. 306 00:16:57,360 --> 00:16:58,720 Speaker 3: Is that what they're trying to do? 307 00:16:59,000 --> 00:17:10,240 Speaker 2: Like my conspiracy has like, oh, this seems purposeful, but 308 00:17:10,520 --> 00:17:12,520 Speaker 2: at the same time you get some good news talking 309 00:17:12,560 --> 00:17:16,679 Speaker 2: about But that means other people are realizing this administration 310 00:17:17,119 --> 00:17:18,080 Speaker 2: is not doing well. 311 00:17:20,080 --> 00:17:20,919 Speaker 3: So I have seen that. 312 00:17:21,040 --> 00:17:29,560 Speaker 2: I'm like, yeah, but not to my detriment, damn it. 313 00:17:26,720 --> 00:17:27,600 Speaker 3: To our detriment. 314 00:17:28,040 --> 00:17:31,200 Speaker 2: So yes, this is a whole like back and forth, 315 00:17:31,280 --> 00:17:35,680 Speaker 2: and I've definitely had some Russell sleep with this conversation. 316 00:17:36,040 --> 00:17:41,320 Speaker 3: I feel like, is there a way to prep for 317 00:17:41,440 --> 00:17:41,919 Speaker 3: any of this? 318 00:17:43,480 --> 00:17:46,600 Speaker 2: I have been excited to see as bad as things 319 00:17:46,600 --> 00:17:49,119 Speaker 2: that happened have happened in Charlotte, actually in all of 320 00:17:49,119 --> 00:17:51,880 Speaker 2: North Carolina, because I did see that Asheville was attacked too, 321 00:17:51,920 --> 00:17:53,600 Speaker 2: because we know they are These are two of the 322 00:17:53,640 --> 00:17:58,159 Speaker 2: more liberal leaning cities within North Carolina, so that it 323 00:17:58,240 --> 00:18:01,040 Speaker 2: makes it for obvious reasons about why he would send 324 00:18:01,040 --> 00:18:04,199 Speaker 2: them down there. But all of that to say is like, 325 00:18:05,040 --> 00:18:09,080 Speaker 2: it's really hardening to see all of those protesting people 326 00:18:09,080 --> 00:18:11,199 Speaker 2: who are coming out and advocating, the people who are 327 00:18:11,200 --> 00:18:13,960 Speaker 2: coming out, recording and making sure they're knowing what's happening. 328 00:18:14,600 --> 00:18:17,720 Speaker 2: There's now a legendary tale in the making of a 329 00:18:17,720 --> 00:18:22,440 Speaker 2: woman in her moomo walking out on her yard with 330 00:18:22,520 --> 00:18:25,919 Speaker 2: her with her gun, protecting her property and her people. 331 00:18:26,520 --> 00:18:29,560 Speaker 3: So you know, like legends are being created. Who knew? 332 00:18:32,000 --> 00:18:34,840 Speaker 2: So stories like that make you feel like, Okay, maybe 333 00:18:34,840 --> 00:18:37,520 Speaker 2: it's not all bad and we know this is that 334 00:18:37,600 --> 00:18:40,960 Speaker 2: back and forth again and like understanding what we're seeing. 335 00:18:41,600 --> 00:18:48,320 Speaker 2: The overwhelming over anxious bit are the maybe I don't know, 336 00:18:48,400 --> 00:18:49,840 Speaker 2: is it the worst of the worst, I don't know, 337 00:18:49,960 --> 00:18:53,480 Speaker 2: but are there to get that clickbait to get you 338 00:18:53,560 --> 00:18:55,560 Speaker 2: to listen, to get you to panic. A little bit, 339 00:18:56,000 --> 00:18:58,880 Speaker 2: and that if we pause in reality, there's a lot 340 00:18:58,920 --> 00:19:02,760 Speaker 2: of us in this same step and knowing things like 341 00:19:02,800 --> 00:19:06,600 Speaker 2: this have happened before and people have survived, but also 342 00:19:06,720 --> 00:19:10,120 Speaker 2: in understanding that people die in these situations. Like there's 343 00:19:10,160 --> 00:19:14,639 Speaker 2: just like back and forth that I cannot stop and 344 00:19:14,760 --> 00:19:20,880 Speaker 2: trying to prepare my mentality, my emotions and my physical 345 00:19:20,920 --> 00:19:24,119 Speaker 2: self to what is happening right now, like all right, 346 00:19:24,160 --> 00:19:26,080 Speaker 2: but this is what is good, but this is still 347 00:19:26,080 --> 00:19:28,520 Speaker 2: can happen. This is the these are the things that 348 00:19:28,640 --> 00:19:30,600 Speaker 2: rise up, and these are the things that unfortunately is 349 00:19:30,600 --> 00:19:33,159 Speaker 2: gonna happen. And I don't want to sit here and 350 00:19:33,200 --> 00:19:35,879 Speaker 2: pretend it's not and pretend it's not so bad, and 351 00:19:35,920 --> 00:19:37,320 Speaker 2: when in actuality it is. 352 00:19:37,240 --> 00:19:37,760 Speaker 3: It is bad. 353 00:19:39,560 --> 00:19:50,000 Speaker 4: Adulting feels like that, yeah, and I just said yeah, 354 00:19:50,040 --> 00:19:54,080 Speaker 4: like before we recorded me referencing this next month December 355 00:19:54,119 --> 00:19:54,919 Speaker 4: as February. 356 00:19:55,280 --> 00:19:56,520 Speaker 3: Adulting also feels like that. 357 00:19:57,440 --> 00:20:05,040 Speaker 1: It tests, it tests. I think it's a time personally, 358 00:20:05,080 --> 00:20:08,119 Speaker 1: I think a lot of the adulting that I thought 359 00:20:08,200 --> 00:20:12,000 Speaker 1: adulting was is gone. For that's not an option for me, 360 00:20:14,080 --> 00:20:17,760 Speaker 1: not like not a comfortable option I would really have 361 00:20:17,920 --> 00:20:23,520 Speaker 1: to and it's just yeah, it's gone, and I'm perfectly, 362 00:20:23,680 --> 00:20:27,480 Speaker 1: Like I'm well often better off than a lot of others, right, 363 00:20:27,840 --> 00:20:30,360 Speaker 1: I know that, and that that should say something. It's 364 00:20:30,400 --> 00:20:33,000 Speaker 1: like that's gone for me, man. 365 00:20:35,200 --> 00:20:40,520 Speaker 3: But yeah, we have to take a deep side. 366 00:20:40,480 --> 00:20:44,400 Speaker 2: I think we have to do another Meditation episode come back. 367 00:20:45,359 --> 00:20:48,199 Speaker 2: But no, like there's so much again, like I said, 368 00:20:48,600 --> 00:20:51,080 Speaker 2: it is interesting when you start thinking about your parents 369 00:20:51,160 --> 00:20:55,479 Speaker 2: versus you, and like you see the numbers about like 370 00:20:55,600 --> 00:20:59,920 Speaker 2: what has changed, whether there's financial stuff, the median salary, 371 00:21:00,080 --> 00:21:03,080 Speaker 2: the median cost of homes, all these things, and how 372 00:21:03,320 --> 00:21:06,639 Speaker 2: vastly it has changed. But also like again, my parents 373 00:21:06,720 --> 00:21:10,320 Speaker 2: had four kids, I have zero, and I have a dog, 374 00:21:10,359 --> 00:21:12,280 Speaker 2: and I still panic about my dog. You know, like 375 00:21:12,359 --> 00:21:14,959 Speaker 2: there's this level of trying to figure all of that 376 00:21:15,080 --> 00:21:17,320 Speaker 2: out and how they did it, but understanding they had 377 00:21:17,359 --> 00:21:20,520 Speaker 2: a little more Like being able to get a job 378 00:21:20,760 --> 00:21:23,360 Speaker 2: and then climb your way to get six figure salary 379 00:21:23,880 --> 00:21:26,399 Speaker 2: was once upon a time able you were able to 380 00:21:26,400 --> 00:21:27,119 Speaker 2: do that. 381 00:21:27,119 --> 00:21:28,440 Speaker 3: That no longer exists. 382 00:21:30,560 --> 00:21:35,439 Speaker 1: Yes, And as we mentioned a couple of times in 383 00:21:35,480 --> 00:21:37,439 Speaker 1: previous episodes and we kind of touched on it in 384 00:21:37,480 --> 00:21:40,520 Speaker 1: a Monday mini you did. But all around the world, 385 00:21:40,800 --> 00:21:44,040 Speaker 1: the birth rate is declining, right, and it's because people 386 00:21:44,119 --> 00:21:51,320 Speaker 1: cannot right afford to raise kids comfortably safely, and they're 387 00:21:51,359 --> 00:21:56,639 Speaker 1: making the educated choice of I can't raise this kid. 388 00:21:58,320 --> 00:22:02,400 Speaker 2: I find it hilarious that some of the talking points 389 00:22:02,440 --> 00:22:05,240 Speaker 2: and incentives were like, but we won't we need more children, 390 00:22:05,400 --> 00:22:07,240 Speaker 2: And I'm like, do you see what's happening? 391 00:22:07,920 --> 00:22:09,480 Speaker 3: Why? 392 00:22:10,200 --> 00:22:10,520 Speaker 1: Why? 393 00:22:11,440 --> 00:22:14,520 Speaker 3: Mm hmmm, this cursed place. 394 00:22:16,880 --> 00:22:20,440 Speaker 1: Well that too, but also the money, I don't have it. 395 00:22:20,640 --> 00:22:25,360 Speaker 3: But all those things, there's so many things, don't get 396 00:22:25,359 --> 00:22:27,440 Speaker 3: me wrong, And some of these babies are really cute. 397 00:22:29,680 --> 00:22:34,399 Speaker 1: Yeah, I mean it does. I always feel kind of 398 00:22:34,520 --> 00:22:37,919 Speaker 1: bad because at a certain point I really came to 399 00:22:38,000 --> 00:22:42,159 Speaker 1: the realization I do not want kids, and so to 400 00:22:42,320 --> 00:22:45,920 Speaker 1: me that that's it's not that it's not a problem 401 00:22:46,000 --> 00:22:51,440 Speaker 1: because in theory it could impact all of us, but 402 00:22:51,640 --> 00:22:55,040 Speaker 1: it's not something that hurts me personally my heart. 403 00:22:55,520 --> 00:22:55,680 Speaker 2: Right. 404 00:22:55,960 --> 00:22:57,639 Speaker 1: But I know people who want to have kids and 405 00:22:57,680 --> 00:22:59,959 Speaker 1: are just like I can't. 406 00:23:00,840 --> 00:23:00,959 Speaker 3: Right. 407 00:23:01,880 --> 00:23:04,119 Speaker 2: There's so many of those conversations of the fact that 408 00:23:04,200 --> 00:23:06,600 Speaker 2: we're like, yes, I you are to be a mother, 409 00:23:06,920 --> 00:23:08,960 Speaker 2: and I want to be able to like do these 410 00:23:08,960 --> 00:23:12,320 Speaker 2: things and hopefully and not selfish reasons, because I feel 411 00:23:12,320 --> 00:23:16,679 Speaker 2: like not everyone, but some of the people that I 412 00:23:16,720 --> 00:23:19,520 Speaker 2: know are selfish reasons, whether it's to save a marriage, 413 00:23:19,800 --> 00:23:23,480 Speaker 2: whether it's you know, wanting to someone to like birth things, 414 00:23:23,480 --> 00:23:24,280 Speaker 2: someone to love you. 415 00:23:26,520 --> 00:23:29,280 Speaker 3: That's not how this works. That's not how this works. 416 00:23:29,680 --> 00:23:33,480 Speaker 1: No, or just the whole Like I think it's kind 417 00:23:33,520 --> 00:23:38,080 Speaker 1: of maybe I'm completely incorrect. I don't know, but I 418 00:23:38,080 --> 00:23:40,480 Speaker 1: feel like there used to be a really strong like 419 00:23:40,640 --> 00:23:43,640 Speaker 1: well the rename will. 420 00:23:43,440 --> 00:23:48,359 Speaker 2: Live on right. 421 00:23:47,200 --> 00:23:48,560 Speaker 1: Which is not even really my name. 422 00:24:01,320 --> 00:24:03,560 Speaker 2: I've seen so many new videos and I want to 423 00:24:03,560 --> 00:24:05,120 Speaker 2: come back and talk about some of these things because 424 00:24:05,119 --> 00:24:07,680 Speaker 2: I found it fascinating. Whether it's a and I saved 425 00:24:07,880 --> 00:24:09,520 Speaker 2: video that I'm going to send to you any but 426 00:24:09,720 --> 00:24:12,879 Speaker 2: the fact new statistics show that the highest rate of 427 00:24:12,920 --> 00:24:17,040 Speaker 2: divorces happening in southern states, in conservative states, and the 428 00:24:17,200 --> 00:24:21,119 Speaker 2: seventy percent women. Yeah, but like some of the highest 429 00:24:21,240 --> 00:24:25,280 Speaker 2: violence of divorce I think was Mississippi and Alabama, and 430 00:24:25,320 --> 00:24:28,520 Speaker 2: it was like conservative technically conservative areas. And it was 431 00:24:28,720 --> 00:24:32,440 Speaker 2: interesting how many men got upset because in that statistics, 432 00:24:32,520 --> 00:24:33,840 Speaker 2: they're like, we talked to a lot of the women 433 00:24:33,840 --> 00:24:36,240 Speaker 2: and ask them why they like they were divorcing, and 434 00:24:36,240 --> 00:24:38,280 Speaker 2: they're like, why did you talk to the men? And 435 00:24:38,600 --> 00:24:40,560 Speaker 2: again people come back was like because the majority of 436 00:24:40,560 --> 00:24:44,200 Speaker 2: people who are filing for divorce in those areas are women, 437 00:24:45,960 --> 00:24:48,280 Speaker 2: how and so they were like, this back and forth 438 00:24:48,320 --> 00:24:50,879 Speaker 2: is quite funny, but that just recently came out, and 439 00:24:50,880 --> 00:24:52,640 Speaker 2: I was like, Oh, we need to come backcause we've 440 00:24:52,640 --> 00:24:55,920 Speaker 2: talked about that divorce raising women have been doing all that, 441 00:24:56,280 --> 00:24:58,800 Speaker 2: as well as the fact that I've seen a few 442 00:24:58,880 --> 00:25:04,320 Speaker 2: men pop up about their dating experiences, and I was like, huh, 443 00:25:04,359 --> 00:25:06,400 Speaker 2: this is popping up on my thing. Okay, I feel 444 00:25:06,440 --> 00:25:07,639 Speaker 2: like this has told me I need to look at 445 00:25:07,640 --> 00:25:09,520 Speaker 2: this one dude. And I can't tell if this is 446 00:25:09,560 --> 00:25:12,800 Speaker 2: real because apparently this one dude had like a lot 447 00:25:12,840 --> 00:25:15,040 Speaker 2: of content about going with me on my date or 448 00:25:15,119 --> 00:25:16,879 Speaker 2: this is what happened on my date things, And I'm like, 449 00:25:17,119 --> 00:25:19,960 Speaker 2: which I thought for a long time, what about twenty 450 00:25:20,000 --> 00:25:21,640 Speaker 2: years ago and I was going on all my little 451 00:25:21,720 --> 00:25:22,959 Speaker 2: dates and I was like, oh, I need to make 452 00:25:23,000 --> 00:25:24,760 Speaker 2: this a serious somehow, Like I need to make these 453 00:25:24,760 --> 00:25:26,000 Speaker 2: short stories because. 454 00:25:25,800 --> 00:25:26,800 Speaker 3: This is ridiculous. 455 00:25:27,240 --> 00:25:29,960 Speaker 2: So like you can go so many like videos on 456 00:25:30,000 --> 00:25:32,400 Speaker 2: those but he's supposedically talked about the fact that he 457 00:25:32,920 --> 00:25:36,360 Speaker 2: got catfished. He's like twenty something years old, and her 458 00:25:36,400 --> 00:25:38,359 Speaker 2: pictures and it implies that she was younger, and then 459 00:25:38,400 --> 00:25:41,600 Speaker 2: when he saw her like, oh no, she's definitely forty five, 460 00:25:41,960 --> 00:25:45,280 Speaker 2: which I was like, oh god, or older, And I 461 00:25:45,320 --> 00:25:48,200 Speaker 2: was like, ooh, I would you date someone twenty years younger? 462 00:25:48,200 --> 00:25:51,280 Speaker 2: But she implied that she wasn't that young and then 463 00:25:51,320 --> 00:25:54,320 Speaker 2: she got arrested because she wanted Helpenio poppers. 464 00:25:54,560 --> 00:25:55,639 Speaker 3: That's a whole different story. 465 00:25:56,080 --> 00:25:59,040 Speaker 2: And then like yeah, and then another guy who came 466 00:25:59,080 --> 00:26:01,840 Speaker 2: on a little too wrong and then got really upset 467 00:26:01,960 --> 00:26:04,760 Speaker 2: and can't pre canceled the date because she wasn't. 468 00:26:04,520 --> 00:26:05,600 Speaker 3: Excited for it. 469 00:26:05,640 --> 00:26:11,320 Speaker 2: So it was like, oh, what is happening here? So 470 00:26:11,400 --> 00:26:16,200 Speaker 2: there's are thoughts about like worlds being interesting right now. 471 00:26:17,680 --> 00:26:21,000 Speaker 1: Yeah, I've been thinking about this a lot too. I 472 00:26:21,040 --> 00:26:26,160 Speaker 1: was I was trying to research some topic that I oh, 473 00:26:26,200 --> 00:26:30,080 Speaker 1: it was about gendered advertising because we're getting into the 474 00:26:30,119 --> 00:26:33,199 Speaker 1: holidays and there's this one ad that plays all the 475 00:26:33,240 --> 00:26:36,840 Speaker 1: time for me and it is so like I cannot 476 00:26:36,920 --> 00:26:41,000 Speaker 1: believe how sexist it is, and so it led me 477 00:26:41,119 --> 00:26:45,800 Speaker 1: to some odd place. But I uh, it just got 478 00:26:45,800 --> 00:26:49,800 Speaker 1: me to thinking about how there is kind of a 479 00:26:49,840 --> 00:26:52,840 Speaker 1: strange thing that's happening right now where there's like, you know, 480 00:26:52,920 --> 00:26:56,439 Speaker 1: the trad wives. But then there are conservative women who 481 00:26:56,480 --> 00:27:00,600 Speaker 1: are kind of I feel like a lot of women 482 00:27:00,600 --> 00:27:02,840 Speaker 1: are just done. To be honest with you, yeah, I 483 00:27:02,880 --> 00:27:06,360 Speaker 1: think that they're just tired, and. 484 00:27:07,440 --> 00:27:11,760 Speaker 2: I think when they realize that these tradwife trends are 485 00:27:11,800 --> 00:27:19,000 Speaker 2: not actually something obtainable unless you are a already you 486 00:27:19,040 --> 00:27:22,280 Speaker 2: have money, b you are a model that fits into 487 00:27:22,440 --> 00:27:31,960 Speaker 2: this stereotype and like have no standards in your relationship 488 00:27:32,600 --> 00:27:36,520 Speaker 2: and then also have staff to make you this way 489 00:27:36,960 --> 00:27:40,240 Speaker 2: that you're not ever going to meet the standard because apparently, 490 00:27:40,359 --> 00:27:45,840 Speaker 2: like the Ballerina formed woman has items, which I want 491 00:27:45,880 --> 00:27:48,080 Speaker 2: to go back and talk about, not the downfall, but 492 00:27:48,160 --> 00:27:51,160 Speaker 2: like the decline of the popularity of like pioneer woman. 493 00:27:51,880 --> 00:27:54,240 Speaker 2: She was interesting because I feel like she may have 494 00:27:54,240 --> 00:27:58,520 Speaker 2: been the beginning, yeah, of tradwives. But that's a whole 495 00:27:58,520 --> 00:28:02,640 Speaker 2: different conversation and people may be like, no, she was great. 496 00:28:02,640 --> 00:28:04,720 Speaker 2: So if listeners, if you all disagree, let me know. 497 00:28:04,760 --> 00:28:08,400 Speaker 2: But I feel like there's something to that level because 498 00:28:08,440 --> 00:28:11,280 Speaker 2: Ballerina Farm now has items and apparently she's got a 499 00:28:11,280 --> 00:28:15,360 Speaker 2: pretty giant like cutting board or would wouldn't board that's 500 00:28:15,359 --> 00:28:18,199 Speaker 2: like hundreds of dollars that people are dying for, right 501 00:28:18,240 --> 00:28:19,360 Speaker 2: now like are cooling out? 502 00:28:19,359 --> 00:28:28,960 Speaker 3: I'm like so, But I've also seen people make fun 503 00:28:29,000 --> 00:28:30,879 Speaker 3: of it, meaning like who's gonna who's gonna pay for this? 504 00:28:30,920 --> 00:28:33,240 Speaker 3: Who's paying for this? But apparently people are. 505 00:28:33,320 --> 00:28:39,680 Speaker 2: Because it does evoke an ideal that she has perpetuated. 506 00:28:40,320 --> 00:28:41,880 Speaker 3: Yeah, that's interesting. 507 00:28:43,640 --> 00:28:46,880 Speaker 1: Yeah, there's I think there's something happening right now that 508 00:28:46,920 --> 00:28:49,160 Speaker 1: we need to come back and talk about. Right there's 509 00:28:49,200 --> 00:28:51,080 Speaker 1: like a schism or something. 510 00:28:52,440 --> 00:28:56,000 Speaker 2: There's a disconnect with that type of lifestyle. With the 511 00:28:56,040 --> 00:29:01,960 Speaker 2: economy downturn, that's like everybody's trying to figure out how 512 00:29:01,960 --> 00:29:05,200 Speaker 2: to stay afloat. And now we're back to by the way, 513 00:29:05,520 --> 00:29:06,760 Speaker 2: the Angel Tree. Have you? 514 00:29:06,840 --> 00:29:07,600 Speaker 3: Do you know what that is? 515 00:29:08,280 --> 00:29:09,160 Speaker 1: I don't so. 516 00:29:09,200 --> 00:29:11,200 Speaker 3: An Angel Tree essentially is. 517 00:29:12,680 --> 00:29:17,840 Speaker 2: Holiday program in which families who are in need and 518 00:29:17,920 --> 00:29:20,280 Speaker 2: must qualify through certain organizations, and it could be a 519 00:29:20,320 --> 00:29:22,400 Speaker 2: faith based It sounds faith based, but I don't know 520 00:29:22,440 --> 00:29:25,800 Speaker 2: for sure. Where they have a list like they say 521 00:29:25,920 --> 00:29:27,920 Speaker 2: these kids and these are the wish lists for Christmas, 522 00:29:28,240 --> 00:29:30,560 Speaker 2: and people can go to the tree, pick out a 523 00:29:30,640 --> 00:29:35,440 Speaker 2: family and buy them things. And the last couple of 524 00:29:35,520 --> 00:29:39,040 Speaker 2: years you have people being like, no, I'm not I 525 00:29:39,080 --> 00:29:42,080 Speaker 2: can't afford to buy these things. Which I will say 526 00:29:42,120 --> 00:29:45,480 Speaker 2: when I worked in children's homes and foster homes like 527 00:29:45,560 --> 00:29:48,600 Speaker 2: group homes, the one thing I did see that is 528 00:29:48,680 --> 00:29:50,960 Speaker 2: the biggest time of year that people are going to 529 00:29:51,040 --> 00:29:56,120 Speaker 2: be somewhat giving, even the church because the church often 530 00:29:56,200 --> 00:29:59,000 Speaker 2: has the group home being associated with that church. 531 00:30:00,000 --> 00:30:01,680 Speaker 3: And the kids would get so much. 532 00:30:01,760 --> 00:30:04,440 Speaker 2: And I'm glad because they needed things they will need 533 00:30:04,520 --> 00:30:05,880 Speaker 2: like clothes and all that, but they would get so 534 00:30:05,920 --> 00:30:08,400 Speaker 2: much they would run out of things to put on 535 00:30:08,400 --> 00:30:11,520 Speaker 2: their list, so they start putting things like I know, 536 00:30:11,640 --> 00:30:13,320 Speaker 2: for a while it was a trend that the girls 537 00:30:13,360 --> 00:30:16,840 Speaker 2: were trying to get colored contacts, and I was like, no, no, no, 538 00:30:17,000 --> 00:30:19,800 Speaker 2: they don't need Please don't do this. Please don't buy 539 00:30:19,800 --> 00:30:22,520 Speaker 2: them this, because I said, call so many I infections. 540 00:30:22,920 --> 00:30:25,040 Speaker 2: They can't take care of themselves with this, Please don't 541 00:30:25,040 --> 00:30:27,160 Speaker 2: do this, Like I just I was like, oh no. 542 00:30:27,560 --> 00:30:29,200 Speaker 2: And so some of the things are like yeah, okay, 543 00:30:29,200 --> 00:30:32,000 Speaker 2: this is kind of beyond the scope. But they had 544 00:30:32,400 --> 00:30:35,640 Speaker 2: so much because like three charges would sponsor a group home, 545 00:30:35,880 --> 00:30:38,040 Speaker 2: and each sponsor will be like, well, we'll give them 546 00:30:38,080 --> 00:30:40,400 Speaker 2: about a thousand dollars, and I was thinking, like, why 547 00:30:40,400 --> 00:30:42,320 Speaker 2: don't you put it in like scholarships, and of course 548 00:30:42,320 --> 00:30:45,040 Speaker 2: if you're a young teen who never had such a 549 00:30:45,080 --> 00:30:47,560 Speaker 2: great offering, you're going to try to get everything. 550 00:30:48,320 --> 00:30:49,160 Speaker 3: I'll be like, I would like. 551 00:30:49,120 --> 00:30:52,400 Speaker 2: To page ten of the you know Sears Christmas catalog. 552 00:30:52,760 --> 00:30:55,080 Speaker 2: I thank you very much, you know, like stuff like that. 553 00:30:55,120 --> 00:30:58,520 Speaker 2: So I get that, but like this was the only 554 00:30:58,560 --> 00:31:00,360 Speaker 2: time of the year. And of course, like the church 555 00:31:00,400 --> 00:31:02,240 Speaker 2: just needs to get credit for it because it makes 556 00:31:02,280 --> 00:31:04,240 Speaker 2: them feel good. It's not really about giving, it's about 557 00:31:04,280 --> 00:31:05,640 Speaker 2: them feeling good about themselves and how. 558 00:31:05,600 --> 00:31:06,120 Speaker 3: Much they give. 559 00:31:06,320 --> 00:31:08,600 Speaker 2: So this angel tree is kind of in let line. 560 00:31:09,040 --> 00:31:10,719 Speaker 2: But more and more people have been picking up things 561 00:31:10,760 --> 00:31:12,360 Speaker 2: and like, no, these kids don't need this, I can 562 00:31:12,600 --> 00:31:15,120 Speaker 2: I'm not buying them a thirty dollars Like I think 563 00:31:15,120 --> 00:31:18,160 Speaker 2: one list was like they wanted a remote control they 564 00:31:18,240 --> 00:31:20,840 Speaker 2: only wanted two things, like a remote control car, and 565 00:31:20,880 --> 00:31:23,720 Speaker 2: the girl wanted a specific doll that is expensive, but 566 00:31:23,800 --> 00:31:25,880 Speaker 2: I think like the expensive of like less than fifty dollars, 567 00:31:26,200 --> 00:31:28,000 Speaker 2: and she's like, no, I'm not buying them that. So 568 00:31:28,000 --> 00:31:30,800 Speaker 2: she was buying them all off brand stuff and not 569 00:31:30,880 --> 00:31:33,000 Speaker 2: following the list, and then she and then when people 570 00:31:33,040 --> 00:31:35,160 Speaker 2: were like hey, why are you doing that? Either doude 571 00:31:35,200 --> 00:31:37,280 Speaker 2: the list or don't and then she was like, they 572 00:31:37,280 --> 00:31:39,360 Speaker 2: will be grateful if they're not. They don't deserve any 573 00:31:39,360 --> 00:31:41,560 Speaker 2: of this anyway, Like this is the attitude. And I've 574 00:31:41,600 --> 00:31:45,280 Speaker 2: seen these on a couple of these things, and I'm like, what, 575 00:31:48,440 --> 00:31:51,080 Speaker 2: so this is like disconnect of like who they're getting 576 00:31:51,080 --> 00:31:53,600 Speaker 2: mad at and what they're doing for is kind of 577 00:31:53,640 --> 00:31:56,160 Speaker 2: the same level of what I see in this like 578 00:31:56,800 --> 00:31:59,719 Speaker 2: divide in Okay, I can only do these things, so 579 00:31:59,840 --> 00:32:00,960 Speaker 2: you don't deserve these things. 580 00:32:01,000 --> 00:32:01,560 Speaker 3: It's just. 581 00:32:04,080 --> 00:32:06,880 Speaker 2: Really disheartening. But at the same time, the many people 582 00:32:06,880 --> 00:32:10,240 Speaker 2: who came to bed and be like no, why and 583 00:32:10,320 --> 00:32:15,240 Speaker 2: like shaming them p Like, yeah, I think for a 584 00:32:15,280 --> 00:32:18,400 Speaker 2: good reason. So those that was like the say, but 585 00:32:18,440 --> 00:32:22,000 Speaker 2: it's such a weird. All of these things, I feel 586 00:32:22,040 --> 00:32:26,400 Speaker 2: like fall in line in this level of like we're 587 00:32:26,400 --> 00:32:29,520 Speaker 2: all in a bad space. Do we make this bad 588 00:32:29,520 --> 00:32:34,120 Speaker 2: space worse for everybody else? Do we take advantage of 589 00:32:34,120 --> 00:32:38,400 Speaker 2: this bad space so I can profit? Do we understand 590 00:32:38,400 --> 00:32:40,560 Speaker 2: that this is gonna be rough for everyone? So we 591 00:32:40,600 --> 00:32:43,000 Speaker 2: should be kind? Like there's so many things, but like 592 00:32:43,040 --> 00:32:47,160 Speaker 2: it's just like an inner battle that I see in society, like. 593 00:32:51,040 --> 00:32:56,280 Speaker 3: Everything sucks, yeah, but not our listeners. 594 00:32:57,000 --> 00:33:01,760 Speaker 1: No, you all are great, you are fantastic. 595 00:33:04,640 --> 00:33:05,560 Speaker 3: Yeah, there you go. 596 00:33:09,600 --> 00:33:16,240 Speaker 1: Yeah, oh what pressure because the actual Thanksgiving happy hour 597 00:33:16,280 --> 00:33:17,440 Speaker 1: will be mine. 598 00:33:19,040 --> 00:33:19,840 Speaker 3: You can be thankful. 599 00:33:20,400 --> 00:33:23,680 Speaker 1: That's on you. I'll come up with something because yes 600 00:33:23,720 --> 00:33:26,080 Speaker 1: we're all we also are trying to get ahead for 601 00:33:26,200 --> 00:33:30,520 Speaker 1: the holidays. 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