WEBVTT - INTERVIEW: Dr. Phil On Problems With The Border, Blaming The Administration, Addressing America’s Issues + More 0:00:00.440 --> 0:00:04.880 Wake that answer up in the morning. The Breakfast Club Morning. 0:00:04.920 --> 0:00:08.520 Everybody is the j en Vy Jesse Larius Charlamage, the guy. 0:00:08.520 --> 0:00:10.319 We are the Breakfast Club. We got a special guest 0:00:10.360 --> 0:00:12.600 in the building, the legend doctor Phil. 0:00:13.080 --> 0:00:15.920 Welcome. Good morning. How is everybody. How you feeling. 0:00:16.000 --> 0:00:16.960 Let's Black and Holly favored. 0:00:16.960 --> 0:00:18.000 How are you? I'm doing good. 0:00:18.640 --> 0:00:20.320 You got a new book out. We've got issues. 0:00:20.360 --> 0:00:23.280 How you can stand strong for America's soul in sanity? 0:00:23.320 --> 0:00:25.439 I was I think I was watching the watching Fox 0:00:25.480 --> 0:00:26.880 News one night and I saw you go down to 0:00:26.920 --> 0:00:27.360 the border. 0:00:27.800 --> 0:00:30.760 I did. I went down to the border. That's a 0:00:31.520 --> 0:00:38.839 that's a really unusual situation down there. I've and I've 0:00:38.880 --> 0:00:40.280 heard so much about it, but I want to go 0:00:40.320 --> 0:00:45.760 see it for myself, and uh, it's it's not what 0:00:45.840 --> 0:00:50.560 you think when you go down there. You know, first off, 0:00:50.600 --> 0:00:54.920 they tell everybody that there's this big tension between Texas 0:00:55.000 --> 0:00:59.360 and the national folks. That's not true at all. I mean, 0:00:59.400 --> 0:01:05.400 they're having together, they're working together, and they're their number 0:01:05.400 --> 0:01:10.320 one priority is keeping everybody safe. Coming across that river 0:01:10.480 --> 0:01:15.520 is deep and it's the current is really strong, and 0:01:16.360 --> 0:01:18.720 they're worried to death. People are going to drown and 0:01:18.760 --> 0:01:24.240 some do out there. So these are you know, they're 0:01:24.319 --> 0:01:27.039 just like they're they're just people with a job. You know, 0:01:27.120 --> 0:01:28.800 there's down there trying to do their job. 0:01:30.160 --> 0:01:32.240 So what's the biggest issue, you'd think, like, what's the 0:01:32.280 --> 0:01:34.039 problem with the with the with the actual boarder. 0:01:34.640 --> 0:01:37.399 I think the biggest problem is we don't know who's 0:01:37.440 --> 0:01:42.479 coming in and and I and I got to be 0:01:42.720 --> 0:01:47.800 real clear, I am very pro immigration. We need people 0:01:49.200 --> 0:01:52.760 in America. This first, this country wouldn't exist without immigrants, 0:01:53.440 --> 0:01:56.200 and we need immigrants. Our birth rate right now is 0:01:56.240 --> 0:01:59.400 one point six. We need two point one just to 0:01:59.560 --> 0:02:05.560 sustain our current infrastructure. We need people in America or 0:02:05.600 --> 0:02:09.440 we can't pay for everything we need for jobs and 0:02:11.160 --> 0:02:15.160 creativity and just the numbers to support the system. We 0:02:15.240 --> 0:02:19.959 need immigrants. But we do need to know who's coming 0:02:20.000 --> 0:02:26.519 in because I think in just the last month, they 0:02:28.360 --> 0:02:32.360 picked up seventeen that are currently on the terrorist watch list, 0:02:33.760 --> 0:02:40.000 and they're not These are not all Mexican citizens that 0:02:40.040 --> 0:02:45.120 are coming They're coming in from Syria, Libya, China. How 0:02:45.160 --> 0:02:48.640 are they winding up at the southern border, And even 0:02:48.680 --> 0:02:52.959 all of those aren't bad. Between twenty ten and twenty 0:02:53.040 --> 0:03:01.760 twenty they had maybe a couple of hundred or you know, 0:03:01.840 --> 0:03:05.560 several hundred Chinese come across the border in that time, 0:03:05.560 --> 0:03:09.919 eleven hundred, twelve hundred. In the first eleven months of 0:03:10.000 --> 0:03:17.280 twenty twenty three, it was thirty three thousand. Why, you know, 0:03:16.840 --> 0:03:21.560 you really wonder why, and are these people trying to 0:03:21.919 --> 0:03:28.639 escape the Chinese government and all of the problems they 0:03:28.680 --> 0:03:35.240 have being under a communist regime, or are they Chinese 0:03:35.920 --> 0:03:40.760 operatives that are trying to get into this country to 0:03:40.920 --> 0:03:45.280 create problems. I think it's some of both. But how 0:03:45.280 --> 0:03:48.880 are they getting out of China? You just don't wake 0:03:48.960 --> 0:03:51.600 up in China and say, you know, think I'll take 0:03:51.640 --> 0:03:55.120 a flyer, think I'll take a trip and leave like 0:03:55.160 --> 0:03:57.400 you do in America. That's not how it works in China. 0:03:57.440 --> 0:04:00.240 You got to it's a big deal to get out 0:04:00.240 --> 0:04:03.960 of China. And if you've got family there, you got 0:04:03.960 --> 0:04:06.040 a real problem if you just up and leave. So 0:04:07.160 --> 0:04:12.160 big questions about people coming across the border, who they 0:04:12.200 --> 0:04:17.359 are and who they aren't, and and the border guards 0:04:17.400 --> 0:04:20.880 down there aren't trying to close the border, they're trying 0:04:20.920 --> 0:04:24.000 to control the border. And that was a big revelation 0:04:24.160 --> 0:04:24.359 to me. 0:04:24.560 --> 0:04:26.280 Now I seen you when you were down the border. 0:04:26.320 --> 0:04:27.919 You were saying that you know that fair was that 0:04:27.920 --> 0:04:29.680 there was a lot of drug smugglers coming in, and 0:04:29.720 --> 0:04:31.840 there was a lot of sex trafficking and sex workers 0:04:31.839 --> 0:04:34.200 coming in, and that was one of the biggest fears. 0:04:36.800 --> 0:04:42.880 I'm often I'm seldom without words. And I asked Brandon Judd, 0:04:42.880 --> 0:04:47.200 who's the head of the union for nationally for the 0:04:47.240 --> 0:04:49.440 border guards. He was the former border guard, he's now 0:04:49.760 --> 0:04:54.799 head of the union. I asked him straight up, these 0:04:54.920 --> 0:04:58.640 children that are coming in, they have addresses written on 0:04:58.720 --> 0:05:02.039 their arms, the phone number written on their arms. And 0:05:02.080 --> 0:05:06.840 I say, so we're contacting those people right and saying 0:05:09.680 --> 0:05:12.960 child's coming in with this number. Do you know this child? Yes, 0:05:13.000 --> 0:05:17.440 we do. Are you prepared to take this child? Yes? 0:05:17.480 --> 0:05:20.719 We are. I said, what are we doing to check 0:05:20.800 --> 0:05:25.240 these people out? I said, are we? Is it possible 0:05:26.400 --> 0:05:32.240 that we are using our resources and tax dollars to 0:05:32.440 --> 0:05:39.520 traffic young children into prostitution, if the sex trade selling 0:05:39.560 --> 0:05:44.800 these children or putting them into sweat chops or whatever. 0:05:45.920 --> 0:05:49.880 And he said, oh, it's not possible. We are, Wow, 0:05:50.600 --> 0:05:54.640 we are. And I said, whoa, whoa, whoa, whoa. You 0:05:54.680 --> 0:05:57.840 know there's a camera right here over my shoulder. Right, 0:05:59.279 --> 0:06:05.359 you're telling me we're spending United States citizens tax dollars 0:06:06.680 --> 0:06:16.040 to traffic young children into known sex trade or or sweatshops. 0:06:17.120 --> 0:06:21.320 He said absolutely. I said, why have you Why are 0:06:21.320 --> 0:06:24.240 you not talking about this? Why are people not talking 0:06:24.240 --> 0:06:28.839 about this? And he said, because people aren't asking me 0:06:28.960 --> 0:06:33.000 these direct questions like you're asking. And I'm grateful for 0:06:33.040 --> 0:06:34.360 it is all. 0:06:36.120 --> 0:06:36.800 To be able to do that. 0:06:37.400 --> 0:06:44.560 No, of course not. But they're saying, we're overwhelmed down here. 0:06:44.600 --> 0:06:50.520 We were sending them on and I said, this is outrageous. 0:06:51.520 --> 0:06:54.120 That take the money out of it, that we're funding it. 0:06:54.839 --> 0:07:00.840 Just the fact that we're trafficking these young children and 0:07:00.960 --> 0:07:07.080 it doesn't make a difference to me whether they're Mexican origin, Syrian, whatever. 0:07:07.760 --> 0:07:11.400 They're showing up unaccompanied and where trafficking come on. That's 0:07:12.680 --> 0:07:16.520 that's heartbreaking to me, absolutely, that we're doing that. 0:07:16.840 --> 0:07:18.200 And that's why I ask. 0:07:18.480 --> 0:07:21.000 Is illegal, because she should in charges be bought up 0:07:21.000 --> 0:07:23.560 on those people who are at the border who are 0:07:23.560 --> 0:07:26.640 allowing those children to get put in the sex traffice. 0:07:26.720 --> 0:07:29.600 Yeah, you'd think so, yeah, And he said a lot 0:07:29.640 --> 0:07:35.400 of these children are getting recycled. You'll see children come through, 0:07:35.640 --> 0:07:39.720 and they'll be with a group to make it look 0:07:39.760 --> 0:07:44.080 like a family, and we'll see that same child cycle 0:07:44.200 --> 0:07:47.480 back through. Here a couple of weeks later, it's the 0:07:47.560 --> 0:07:48.120 same kid. 0:07:48.240 --> 0:07:49.120 What a different family. 0:07:49.240 --> 0:07:52.040 They get through, and then they send them back around 0:07:52.520 --> 0:07:56.680 and put them with another group and they come back 0:07:56.680 --> 0:07:58.680 two or three children come back again. 0:07:58.800 --> 0:08:01.320 Well, let me ask you what you know, of course, 0:08:01.400 --> 0:08:04.880 from your show. For years, you've been fixing people's relationships, 0:08:04.880 --> 0:08:06.280 fixing people's lives. 0:08:06.680 --> 0:08:08.120 What makes you want to fix America? 0:08:09.600 --> 0:08:18.920 We don't. That's a great question all of our I've 0:08:18.960 --> 0:08:24.760 spent twenty one years at CBS doing the show, and 0:08:25.680 --> 0:08:30.560 what made up the composition of the show is what 0:08:30.640 --> 0:08:32.880 we would get most of the time. Now, sometimes we 0:08:32.960 --> 0:08:35.120 do news stories or whatever, but most of the time, 0:08:35.480 --> 0:08:38.240 probably eighty five nine percent of the time would be 0:08:38.320 --> 0:08:43.280 based on the letters we would get, emails that we 0:08:43.320 --> 0:08:50.040 would get from people writing in, and that determined the 0:08:50.080 --> 0:08:52.319 content of the show. I didn't want to guess at 0:08:52.320 --> 0:08:59.200 what people wanted to hear. We looked at what are 0:08:59.679 --> 0:09:03.200 male made up? And so we had choose what was 0:09:03.280 --> 0:09:05.680 the most common sort of thing we were getting asked. 0:09:06.920 --> 0:09:10.280 And that's changed across time. Think about this. I'm a 0:09:10.320 --> 0:09:15.800 little older than you guys, but when I started doctor 0:09:15.840 --> 0:09:19.680 Phil in two thousand and two, the first text message 0:09:19.920 --> 0:09:24.080 had never been sent. Wow, think about how much has changed. 0:09:24.120 --> 0:09:27.079 The first text had never been people weren't doing emails. 0:09:29.160 --> 0:09:33.600 And then about eight to nine it was like big 0:09:33.720 --> 0:09:36.920 C one thirties flew over the country and dropped smartphones 0:09:36.920 --> 0:09:43.520 on everybody. And that changed the world for evermore. And 0:09:43.720 --> 0:09:48.800 it was the biggest change in our lives since the 0:09:48.880 --> 0:09:54.520 Industrial Revolution. Took place way before our generations, but the 0:09:54.600 --> 0:09:57.920 Industrial Revolution changed everything. Right until that time, we were 0:09:57.920 --> 0:10:02.240 an agricultural world. Ninety five percent of the people worked 0:10:02.240 --> 0:10:06.760 on farms. With the Industrial Revolution, that started changing pretty soon. 0:10:06.800 --> 0:10:08.880 It got down to twenty five. Now it's one percent 0:10:10.200 --> 0:10:14.640 our agriculture. Everybody else's mechanized, working in tect and all 0:10:14.679 --> 0:10:19.560 that sort of stuff that changed the world. I think 0:10:20.720 --> 0:10:26.160 smartphones and technology is the biggest change since the Industrial Revolution. 0:10:26.880 --> 0:10:29.920 And why think about you're walking around with an iPad 0:10:30.000 --> 0:10:34.079 or a phone in your hand that has more computing 0:10:34.200 --> 0:10:37.480 power than we had when we put the Man on 0:10:37.559 --> 0:10:42.120 the Moon in your hand. I mean, think about that, 0:10:42.280 --> 0:10:45.199 the memory, the speed, the computing power, the number of 0:10:45.280 --> 0:10:47.520 operations you can do per second, you think it has 0:10:47.559 --> 0:10:50.840 been for better or worse. I think it's better, I mean, 0:10:52.160 --> 0:10:58.240 but the unintended consequences of it at that same time, 0:10:59.280 --> 0:11:01.439 just think about it. Nobody was going through life this way, 0:11:01.600 --> 0:11:04.839 you know, head up, looking around, and in eight or nine, 0:11:04.880 --> 0:11:07.480 all of a sudden, everybody's head went down looking at 0:11:07.480 --> 0:11:10.160 the screen. Walk around now, look out on the streets 0:11:10.160 --> 0:11:13.080 of New York. Everybody's heads like this. You know how 0:11:13.120 --> 0:11:14.960 many times people check their phones every day? 0:11:15.559 --> 0:11:16.040 Too much? 0:11:16.880 --> 0:11:19.439 Three hundred and fifty two times a day on average, 0:11:19.480 --> 0:11:23.600 That includes old people, not just kids, on average, three 0:11:23.720 --> 0:11:27.480 hundred and fifty two times a day. Now you're figure 0:11:27.520 --> 0:11:32.600 you sleep eight hours, so that's sixteen during sixteen hours. 0:11:32.600 --> 0:11:34.760 They checked their phone three hund and fifty two times 0:11:35.640 --> 0:11:40.600 during that those waking hours. And at the same time 0:11:40.679 --> 0:11:44.760 that those cell phones came out, we saw the biggest 0:11:44.840 --> 0:11:52.120 spikes in depression, anxiety, and loneliness with young people since 0:11:52.240 --> 0:11:57.360 records started getting kept. And why because they stopped living 0:11:57.400 --> 0:12:03.199 their lives and started watching people live their lives, and 0:12:03.280 --> 0:12:07.199 they started comparing their life to the life they were 0:12:07.200 --> 0:12:09.320 watching being lived on that phone. And the problem was 0:12:09.400 --> 0:12:10.880 the life they were watching was a fiction. 0:12:11.160 --> 0:12:11.800 Yeah, we watched. 0:12:11.960 --> 0:12:14.480 They spend so much time watching everybody's highlight reel and 0:12:14.600 --> 0:12:17.120 comparing their real life to a highlight reel, and. 0:12:17.080 --> 0:12:20.920 That highlight reel istake most of the time. I've had 0:12:20.960 --> 0:12:25.120 these influencers on the show and they say, I post 0:12:25.160 --> 0:12:29.680 this reel up and I'm putting on these great clothes 0:12:29.760 --> 0:12:32.720 and all that say so excited going to the NBA 0:12:32.800 --> 0:12:35.720 All Star Game tonight, got floors, seats on the floor 0:12:36.320 --> 0:12:39.679 and all this stuff. Says, soon as that video's over, 0:12:40.240 --> 0:12:43.360 I carefully take those clothes off because they have to 0:12:43.400 --> 0:12:47.240 go back. I don't own them, I have to return them. 0:12:47.280 --> 0:12:49.680 I couldn't afford to buy those clothes. And then I 0:12:49.720 --> 0:12:52.000 put my sweats on and put my happy ass on 0:12:52.040 --> 0:12:55.280 the couch. I don't have tickets to the NBA All 0:12:55.360 --> 0:13:00.280 Star Games. I'm just doing that, you know, to get followers. 0:13:00.480 --> 0:13:04.520 They're just like everybody else. But all these other people 0:13:04.600 --> 0:13:07.920 are watching this and saying, God, what a loser am I. 0:13:07.920 --> 0:13:10.120 I'm not going to any game. I don't have clothes 0:13:10.240 --> 0:13:13.439 like that, And so by comparison, their self esteem and 0:13:13.480 --> 0:13:16.840 their self worth goes down, and they say it's terrible. 0:13:17.280 --> 0:13:19.920 I think small phones have ruined the sanity of America, 0:13:19.960 --> 0:13:23.040 and I don't think that. I think in the long run, 0:13:23.040 --> 0:13:26.280 we're going to realize it wasn't what we thought. It 0:13:26.320 --> 0:13:27.520 wasn't as good as we thought it was. 0:13:27.800 --> 0:13:30.680 Yeah, I think the downsides are huge. 0:13:30.840 --> 0:13:33.160 I don't think it's the phones. It's social media more 0:13:33.200 --> 0:13:34.199 so than anything. 0:13:34.480 --> 0:13:40.200 Yeah, it's definitely social media. People don't know. But to 0:13:40.200 --> 0:13:44.320 answer your question, why am I focused on America? The 0:13:44.440 --> 0:13:48.760 question started changing, the questions started changing. People start saying, 0:13:49.600 --> 0:13:54.240 you know, my kids. When I turned sixteen, when I 0:13:54.440 --> 0:13:58.480 was three hundred and fifty five days, twenty three hours 0:13:58.520 --> 0:14:00.960 and fifty nine minutes old, I was standing at the 0:14:01.040 --> 0:14:04.320 DMV to get my driver's license. Right. I wanted that 0:14:04.400 --> 0:14:06.679 license because it's freedom. You're right, you can get out 0:14:06.679 --> 0:14:11.800 and go. And my first car, my older sister gave me. 0:14:13.040 --> 0:14:18.080 It was a Saratoga. It was a Plymouth or Chrysler Saratoga. 0:14:18.120 --> 0:14:21.160 I forget what it was. It would only go She 0:14:21.200 --> 0:14:22.840 gave it to me because it would only go thirty 0:14:22.880 --> 0:14:26.360 eight miles an hour. At thirty nine, it started shaking 0:14:26.440 --> 0:14:28.600 so bad because the front end was gone. But I 0:14:28.680 --> 0:14:32.160 was so glad to get it because it was freedom right. 0:14:33.400 --> 0:14:35.440 They don't even get their driver's license when they turned 0:14:35.440 --> 0:14:39.200 sixteen anymore, I don't care. They date later, they start 0:14:39.280 --> 0:14:42.840 having sex later, they engage with the world later. On average, 0:14:42.880 --> 0:14:47.080 they have less than one good friend because they live 0:14:47.920 --> 0:14:50.960 for followers and clicks and all that. So they're not 0:14:51.080 --> 0:14:55.560 developing emotionally, and you know, they're depressed, anxious, and lonely. 0:14:55.640 --> 0:14:59.160 So the downside is really bad. So the questions started changing. 0:14:59.400 --> 0:15:05.040 I had to start dealing with cyber bullying, cyber predators 0:15:06.240 --> 0:15:09.000 pretending to be a fourteen year old guy getting a 0:15:09.000 --> 0:15:10.720 fourteen year old girl to come out of her bedroom 0:15:10.720 --> 0:15:12.480 window and meet them at midnight, and they got there 0:15:12.520 --> 0:15:15.760 and it was a forty five year old pedophile that 0:15:15.880 --> 0:15:20.560 abducted them and took off. You know, all of these 0:15:20.680 --> 0:15:24.240 the questions started changing, and they've continued to change now 0:15:24.280 --> 0:15:29.920 where kids are concerned about parents are concerned what are 0:15:29.920 --> 0:15:33.960 their kids getting exposed to at school? Are they getting 0:15:34.680 --> 0:15:37.920 groomed on the internet. You know, they think they're back 0:15:37.920 --> 0:15:40.240 there playing a video game. They don't realize those video 0:15:40.280 --> 0:15:43.400 games are Internet capable, and so they're in chat rooms 0:15:43.440 --> 0:15:47.760 while they're playing the game. You know, things like that, 0:15:47.920 --> 0:15:53.000 And then all of these issues that are now pounding 0:15:53.040 --> 0:15:57.480 on families because I think, I think families in America 0:15:57.600 --> 0:16:01.040 are under attack, and I think I think the family 0:16:01.120 --> 0:16:05.440 unit is the backbone of America, and if that's under attack, 0:16:05.560 --> 0:16:09.320 then America gets weakened. And somebody's got to stand up 0:16:09.320 --> 0:16:12.080 and call this stuff out. And those are the questions 0:16:12.080 --> 0:16:14.720 I'm getting. And I didn't want to write another book. 0:16:15.080 --> 0:16:18.800 You know, you've written books, and I felt into a 0:16:18.880 --> 0:16:19.320 lot of work. 0:16:19.400 --> 0:16:21.200 Yeah, I got another one coming out soon. 0:16:21.320 --> 0:16:23.240 Yeah, And how much work is it? 0:16:23.880 --> 0:16:25.520 See? This one took me five six years. 0:16:25.680 --> 0:16:29.320 Yeah, that's what I mean. And that's time away from family. 0:16:29.760 --> 0:16:31.440 You got to go get in the room by yourself. 0:16:31.480 --> 0:16:33.640 You got to sit down. They're writing and stuff out. 0:16:34.560 --> 0:16:36.880 This is the longest book I've written. It's one hundred 0:16:36.960 --> 0:16:40.600 thousand words, and you probably write three or four hundred 0:16:40.600 --> 0:16:43.320 thousand to get those hundred thousand. It's a lot of work, 0:16:43.360 --> 0:16:46.320 a lot of solitude, a lot of but I felt 0:16:46.400 --> 0:16:48.880 like I had to write this book. Somebody's got to 0:16:48.920 --> 0:16:50.000 call this stuff out. Yeah. 0:16:50.000 --> 0:16:51.800 In the book, you say, in too many instances, we've 0:16:51.840 --> 0:16:54.800 gotten rid of the most important American trade, self determination 0:16:55.120 --> 0:16:57.920 and replaced it with victimization. We've gotten rid of conversation 0:16:58.000 --> 0:16:59.440 and replaced it with cancelation. 0:17:00.480 --> 0:17:05.960 More on that, Well, this cancel culture should be a 0:17:06.040 --> 0:17:09.560 council culture. You know, if you catch somebody with the 0:17:09.560 --> 0:17:12.760 wrong words in their mouth, if you catch somebody that 0:17:13.600 --> 0:17:17.199 is run a foul or some rule or some guideline 0:17:17.280 --> 0:17:23.720 or something, this cancel culture is on them like a 0:17:23.760 --> 0:17:28.160 pack of dogs. And you find some tweet or some 0:17:28.320 --> 0:17:37.480 posts that somebody did years ago, and maybe they're up 0:17:37.480 --> 0:17:42.080 for a job now, promotion now, or they're they're in entertainment, 0:17:42.119 --> 0:17:45.879 they're going to host something or get a big part 0:17:46.000 --> 0:17:49.160 in a movie or whatever. But it's not just entertainment people, 0:17:49.200 --> 0:17:54.119 it's everybody. HR departments go back and find something and 0:17:54.359 --> 0:17:57.640 drag it up now into the future. You know, when 0:17:57.680 --> 0:18:02.000 you're fifteen, sixteen, ten years old, you're brain didn't through growing. 0:18:02.040 --> 0:18:06.960 You do stupid stuff, you say stupid things, you get drunk. 0:18:07.040 --> 0:18:10.920 I think we should have breathalyzers on social media where 0:18:10.920 --> 0:18:15.600 you got to you blow point eight, You can't you 0:18:15.640 --> 0:18:21.679 can't type, and cancel culture seizes on that and jumps 0:18:21.720 --> 0:18:26.440 on that kind of stuff, and I think that's terrible. 0:18:26.480 --> 0:18:29.440 It reminds me of George Orwell's nineteen eighty four where 0:18:29.480 --> 0:18:33.199 they had language police and new speak and you can 0:18:33.240 --> 0:18:38.840 only use these words. And I've done shows on words 0:18:38.920 --> 0:18:43.080 we can't use anymore. And you see these colleges and 0:18:43.200 --> 0:18:48.919 universities that, like some of these schools now don't have 0:18:49.040 --> 0:18:53.480 admissions office to the school because that suggests somebody is 0:18:53.480 --> 0:18:57.679 going to be rejected, so they now have office of 0:18:57.880 --> 0:18:59.280 enrollment management. 0:19:00.359 --> 0:19:01.440 Think it's too soft now? 0:19:01.600 --> 0:19:04.440 I do. And I think when those kids get out 0:19:04.480 --> 0:19:07.240 of college and get out into the dog eat dog world, 0:19:07.880 --> 0:19:10.840 they're gonna they're gonna cheer them up and spit them. 0:19:10.680 --> 0:19:12.680 Out, but they're not gonna go into the world. They're 0:19:12.680 --> 0:19:15.240 gonna stay in the house and be on AI beyond, 0:19:15.520 --> 0:19:16.280 be in the metaverse. 0:19:16.720 --> 0:19:18.200 Yeah, that's probably right. 0:19:18.600 --> 0:19:19.560 They're gonna create their own. 0:19:19.720 --> 0:19:22.320 Do you think even with parenting now it's it's too soft, right? 0:19:22.359 --> 0:19:24.840 We come from an era where it's I know, people say, 0:19:24.920 --> 0:19:27.480 you know, if something happens, your pops or your mom 0:19:27.600 --> 0:19:29.119 encourage you to get it back up there and go 0:19:29.200 --> 0:19:29.680 the next day. 0:19:29.680 --> 0:19:32.040 With now it's like it's more victimization. 0:19:32.880 --> 0:19:37.120 Yeah, And we have these concierge parents. They fill out 0:19:37.160 --> 0:19:41.240 the kids application for school. Uh, if he has a 0:19:41.280 --> 0:19:43.440 con he or she has a conflict with a professor, 0:19:43.520 --> 0:19:48.840 the parents shows up and does the argument, Uh for 0:19:48.960 --> 0:19:53.359 the child. That's not how it works. You know, the 0:19:53.400 --> 0:19:56.880 employer is not gonna think your kid is precious. They're 0:19:56.920 --> 0:20:00.720 not gonna think they're the most precious little in the world. 0:20:01.080 --> 0:20:03.240 They're going to fire their dead ass, get somebody in 0:20:03.280 --> 0:20:05.879 there to do the job. And we're not preparing the 0:20:05.960 --> 0:20:08.120 kid for the next level of life. And we've got 0:20:08.119 --> 0:20:10.399 to do that. We ar getting it is too soft. 0:20:10.880 --> 0:20:13.160 The reason I do agree that parents should be showing 0:20:13.200 --> 0:20:15.679 up to talk to these adults sometimes because to the 0:20:15.720 --> 0:20:18.000 point you're making in this book, Man, there's a lot 0:20:18.040 --> 0:20:21.120 of unstable people out here. There's a lot of unstable adults. 0:20:21.480 --> 0:20:25.120 And sometimes when I'm hearing my daughter, who's fifteen, talk 0:20:25.200 --> 0:20:28.359 to some of these teachers, just the way she's describing 0:20:28.440 --> 0:20:30.080 about describing. 0:20:29.520 --> 0:20:32.760 Them, I'm like, something's not right. So I think I 0:20:32.840 --> 0:20:34.680 need to go talk to this parent. 0:20:34.680 --> 0:20:37.240 And I'm talking to this teacher and I've seen it firsthand, 0:20:37.280 --> 0:20:40.080 looking in these eyes, like, yeah, something's not right there. 0:20:40.440 --> 0:20:45.119 Yeah, you're right. We've got some people that are way 0:20:45.119 --> 0:20:50.560 out of bounds, and parents need to step in, But 0:20:50.640 --> 0:20:54.320 they don't need to smooth out every bump in the childhood. 0:20:54.880 --> 0:20:58.760 Some kids, I think all kids need to fall and 0:20:58.800 --> 0:21:04.560 scrape their knee. Kids need to resolve some issues. You know, 0:21:04.600 --> 0:21:07.359 A kid that's been bullied a little bit, a kid 0:21:07.400 --> 0:21:12.080 that's been experienced some failure, a kid that's been through 0:21:12.119 --> 0:21:16.639 some tough issues is going to be better equipped for 0:21:16.800 --> 0:21:20.520 life than a kid that's never been allowed to experience 0:21:20.520 --> 0:21:23.960 any that. A kid that's been success only journey throughout 0:21:24.000 --> 0:21:29.879 their life. That you know, during the pandemic, these parents 0:21:29.960 --> 0:21:34.520 that went around wiping everything down with these sanitary wipes 0:21:34.560 --> 0:21:37.560 and stuff. Their kids when they got back out in 0:21:37.600 --> 0:21:41.320 the world had terrible coals and flu because their immune 0:21:41.320 --> 0:21:44.680 system got weakened because mom was going around wiping everything 0:21:44.720 --> 0:21:48.680 down so much that their immune system didn't have to work, 0:21:49.280 --> 0:21:51.360 and so they were more vulnerable when they got back 0:21:51.359 --> 0:21:55.080 out there. It's the same way with life. Have you 0:21:55.080 --> 0:22:01.240 guys ever looked into these trigger warnings, any trigger warning, 0:22:01.840 --> 0:22:07.800 like the majority of colleges use trigger warnings. I looked 0:22:07.800 --> 0:22:10.240 at one the other day. They had a trigger warning 0:22:10.400 --> 0:22:20.200 for Romeo and Juliet said, alert suicidality. Well, spoiler alert, come. 0:22:20.040 --> 0:22:22.199 On I wonder if people would even come to that 0:22:22.240 --> 0:22:24.960 conclusion about that movie if you didn't tell them beforehand. 0:22:25.320 --> 0:22:27.280 Yeah, you know what I mean, you probably just watched. 0:22:27.040 --> 0:22:29.119 The movie and get something totally different from it. But 0:22:29.160 --> 0:22:31.920 I think that they're telling people what to feel. 0:22:31.760 --> 0:22:33.040 Or they're protecting their own ass. 0:22:33.160 --> 0:22:36.520 Well, here's the thing. All these trigger warnings they talk about. 0:22:36.920 --> 0:22:39.880 You know, this might have some violence in it, This 0:22:39.960 --> 0:22:42.960 might have something about raping it. This might have something 0:22:43.000 --> 0:22:50.360 about sex or drugs, sex, drugs, drug addicts, addiction, or whatever. 0:22:51.600 --> 0:22:54.879 The truth is, there's been a there is a big 0:22:54.920 --> 0:22:59.159 body of research about this that says trigger warnings do 0:22:59.320 --> 0:23:05.120 not work. In fact, trigger warnings create the anxiety that 0:23:05.160 --> 0:23:08.639 they're trying to keep you away from. Just seeing the 0:23:08.680 --> 0:23:13.560 trigger warning creates the anxiety. Not only do they not work, 0:23:14.040 --> 0:23:20.359 they're a negative. And the fact is there's a there's 0:23:20.440 --> 0:23:25.600 evidence and what we call evidence based treatments that say, 0:23:26.240 --> 0:23:31.120 that's not how you handle that. If somebody is sensitized 0:23:31.160 --> 0:23:34.520 to that sort of thing, what you do? There are 0:23:34.560 --> 0:23:39.359 treatments for that. There's evidence based therapies such as systematic desensitization, 0:23:40.080 --> 0:23:44.959 immersion therapy, dialectical behavior therapy where you teach someone to 0:23:45.040 --> 0:23:48.439 learn to cope with it. You don't put them in 0:23:48.480 --> 0:23:50.720 another room so they can avoid it, because when they 0:23:50.720 --> 0:23:52.040 get out in life, they're not gonna be able to 0:23:52.040 --> 0:23:55.440 avoid it. So you teach them coping skills so when 0:23:55.480 --> 0:23:59.000 it pops up, they know how to handle that. So 0:23:59.520 --> 0:24:02.320 there's a huge body of literature out there that says 0:24:02.320 --> 0:24:07.480 trigger warnings don't work. Those colleges have the same access 0:24:07.560 --> 0:24:10.720 to that literature that I do, which means they know 0:24:11.240 --> 0:24:13.920 they don't work, just like I know they don't work. 0:24:14.080 --> 0:24:18.280 But yet they continue to use them. Why they're virtue signaling. 0:24:19.080 --> 0:24:21.880 They're just trying to show, Hey, we're super sensitive over here, 0:24:21.960 --> 0:24:26.040 so come give us your money. And I think they 0:24:26.200 --> 0:24:30.560 know they're doing the kid wrong, they know they're doing 0:24:30.600 --> 0:24:31.959 the student wrong. They do it anyway. 0:24:32.520 --> 0:24:34.000 I want to go back to the border right because 0:24:34.160 --> 0:24:36.480 you called out the Vice President Kamala Harris and the 0:24:36.520 --> 0:24:39.280 Biden border crisis, and you called it the humanitarian crisis 0:24:39.320 --> 0:24:43.439 unlike anything we've ever seen before. Is it fair to 0:24:43.480 --> 0:24:46.000 blame Justice administration for what's going on? 0:24:46.000 --> 0:24:48.760 To the board, No, And I didn't call them out. 0:24:48.880 --> 0:24:52.879 I said the current administration is doing it about this 0:24:52.960 --> 0:24:59.080 started under the previous administration, it started jumping up. Nobody's 0:24:59.119 --> 0:25:03.879 handled this. The Republicans haven't handled it, the Democrats haven't 0:25:03.880 --> 0:25:08.760 handled it. It's gotten worse now because there was an 0:25:08.920 --> 0:25:12.399 order in place to hold in Mexico. They took that 0:25:12.600 --> 0:25:16.920 down and so they don't stop them in Mexico now. 0:25:17.359 --> 0:25:23.520 So that caused an influx. But this has never been 0:25:23.560 --> 0:25:27.800 a healthy situation. And I'll tell you why. For years. 0:25:28.920 --> 0:25:30.760 If you, let's say, you want to do it right, 0:25:32.720 --> 0:25:37.359 so you process in, you ask for you know, the 0:25:39.720 --> 0:25:43.000