Speaker 1: Welcome to Can't Flee Reckless, the production of iHeart Radio
Speaker 1: and The Black Effect, And just like that, we're back
Speaker 1: with another carefully reckless episode. Welcome back, y'all. I want
Speaker 1: to say thank y'all so much for hanging in there
Speaker 1: with me. I'll be talking my shit and helping y'all
Speaker 1: with y'all mess. But I don't need no degree to
Speaker 1: do this right, right, So we're gonna jump straight into this.
Speaker 1: This is a very very juicy story and it's very
Speaker 1: interesting because I had went on Breakfast Club like a
Speaker 1: week ago, and you know, I do just fix my
Speaker 1: mess also on Breakfast Club as well on BT y'all
Speaker 1: need to catch that whenever I'm up there. And it
Speaker 1: was a very interesting story because I reported on something
Speaker 1: and actually I did rumor report and one of my
Speaker 1: fans said that that is what made her comfortable enough
Speaker 1: to come and tell us her story.
Speaker 2: So I will share it.
Speaker 1: And she did say for obvious reasons, she's not going
Speaker 1: to send a voice not in obviously our voice is
Speaker 1: very unique and her man may listen to my podcast.
Speaker 1: So here we go, Hey, Jess, So after hearing your
Speaker 1: recent fix my Mess on the Breakfast Club, I am
Speaker 1: not ashamed to come to you with my story anymore.
Speaker 1: I've been married to my husband for four years, and
Speaker 1: when we first got together, I did tell him that
Speaker 1: I was bisexual. Okay, At first, he did not really
Speaker 1: care as much because we both wanted each other so bad.
Speaker 2: He felt as if he could be everything that I needed.
Speaker 1: All as time went on, sex got just a little boring,
Speaker 1: hence why I'm bisexual. Okay. So she is one of
Speaker 1: those people, Okay, I got you. You one of those
Speaker 1: that you know sex can get born with just a man,
Speaker 1: So you want a man.
Speaker 2: And a woman. Oh yeah, okay, miss greedy.
Speaker 1: Not taking anything away from my husband, I think I
Speaker 1: was just kind of missing that other part of what
Speaker 1: I'm used to.
Speaker 2: Oh, okay, all the bisexualness. Okay.
Speaker 1: So I went to him and asked him if we
Speaker 1: could introduce having threesomes every once in a while, just
Speaker 1: to keep the spark in our sex life, because I
Speaker 1: would never cheat on him. Never, and you put never
Speaker 1: in all caps. So I believe you, girl, I believe you.
Speaker 1: At first, he was like, hell no, but he also
Speaker 1: didn't want me to start creeping around on him. While
Speaker 1: not wanting to lose me at the same time. So
Speaker 1: he eventually agreed to a threesome every other month. Okay,
Speaker 1: that's a bit goddamn much. At first, I wasn't really
Speaker 1: happy with that because that is not enough for me.
Speaker 1: How the fuck goddamn girl? But I said, shit, I'll
Speaker 1: take it because I didn't want to lose my husband either.
Speaker 1: Good girl should now to take what you can get.
Speaker 1: I beg it's gonna be shoesy and shit, and I
Speaker 1: figured if he's compromising for me, I damn sure can
Speaker 1: compromise for him.
Speaker 2: Yes, spoken like a true wife. That is good.
Speaker 1: You're supposed to compromise and a marriage, y'all. So boom,
Speaker 1: we did it. The first time was great. I can
Speaker 1: tell he was just there to make me happy because
Speaker 1: he wasn't really into her. Okay, so the first time
Speaker 1: was great for you, boo. Okay, yeah, but he was
Speaker 1: there to just make you happy. Okay, he wasn't really
Speaker 1: into her. Months down the line, out of nowhere, I
Speaker 1: swear Jess, he had started really giving it to her
Speaker 1: this time, and for a minute I had to stand
Speaker 1: back and sidey them both. Okay, I would have done
Speaker 1: the same thing he usually would finished with me, but
Speaker 1: this time he finished with her?
Speaker 2: Did he shoot the damn club up? Like what you
Speaker 2: mean he'd be finishing with you? So what?
Speaker 1: Okay, I don't need to all right, I know what
Speaker 1: finished me now, man let me get out of that context.
Speaker 1: So of course I let time go past, and I
Speaker 1: didn't say anything, why what the fuck? Because I had
Speaker 1: just figured he was starting to like it, and this
Speaker 1: is something that I wanted, So I didn't want to
Speaker 1: ruin anything. Okay, But the last time was the final straw.
Speaker 2: Oh shit. He had started showing her a little too much.
Speaker 1: Intimate attention for me while we were in the act,
Speaker 1: and I felt kind of left out. So of course,
Speaker 1: after we finished, I started investigating myself and I started snooping,
Speaker 1: and I discovered that them two had started fucking around
Speaker 1: without me. Oh, Jess, you're never going to believe when
Speaker 1: I found this out. The night before you went on
Speaker 1: Breakfast Club and reported that Manetta in Neo's story, which
Speaker 1: wasn't very similar, but still the whole threesome thing got me.
Speaker 1: I still haven't even told him that I know yet.
Speaker 2: Oh shit, okay, so you're telling me you giving me
Speaker 2: the exclusive?
Speaker 3: You giving me the exclusive?
Speaker 2: Oh my god?
Speaker 3: Okay, Oh my god.
Speaker 2: That's nice, y'all. I'm like, okay, I love y'all so much.
Speaker 1: Okay, all right, I still haven't even told him that
Speaker 1: I know yet. The thing is, I love my husband
Speaker 1: so very much and will literally do anything for him.
Speaker 1: But jess what should I do right now? Because I'd
Speaker 1: hate to have to kill this nigga? Damn to death,
Speaker 1: d's part right? Fix my mess?
Speaker 2: Babe, this bad?
Speaker 1: She said, to death. Do what's part right? Yeah, but
Speaker 1: you can't be the one killing them. That's not way.
Speaker 1: Why y'all say those voves. It is not that, Oh
Speaker 1: my god, I'm supposed to just die natural causes. Bitch,
Speaker 1: you can't kill you, all right, Okay, that's what that
Speaker 1: vow means. All right, all jokes that decide now. First
Speaker 1: and foremost, I want to say, I'm happy that you
Speaker 1: decided to come to me with this story.
Speaker 2: I'm happy that you are not ashamed.
Speaker 1: And let's just say this, no one should feel ashamed
Speaker 1: of something that they that they are going through, or
Speaker 1: that they've went through in a marriage and a friendship,
Speaker 1: with family, with coworkers at work. I mean, these are
Speaker 1: all just living situations. And what I mean by living
Speaker 1: is we live life. We go through things every day,
Speaker 1: every week, every month, every year of our lives, like
Speaker 1: we all go through things. So don't ever be ashamed
Speaker 1: of any story, you know, unless you be fucking animals.
Speaker 1: And that's one thing I will never fucking I will
Speaker 1: never understand that. Don't be fucking no animals. If you do,
Speaker 1: I ain't trying to fix your mess. Motherfucker. You better
Speaker 1: not come in here telling me that you fuck with
Speaker 1: no animals. But no, back to my girl, Back to
Speaker 1: my girl, all right? Who you ain't gonna like what
Speaker 1: I'm gonna say, but you kind of already can figure
Speaker 1: what I'm gonna say, because you saw what I said
Speaker 1: about the shit, you know, when Manyetta had reported her
Speaker 1: story and I re reported it on Breakfast Club, and
Speaker 1: that wasn't just fixed my mess, that was rumor report
Speaker 1: bull And it's totally fine.
Speaker 2: It's all the same.
Speaker 1: You can't open the door to threesomes to a man
Speaker 1: who didn't want anything to do with it at first,
Speaker 1: and then you done pulled his arm and he went
Speaker 1: through the door with you, and then now he has rules.
Speaker 2: Now you sighed eyeing.
Speaker 1: Him because he started sleeping with the girl outside of
Speaker 1: you you know what I'm saying outside the threesome deal
Speaker 1: that y'all had, if y'all ain't never had no goddamn
Speaker 1: contract I'm talking about written and signed, notarized and all
Speaker 1: that shit.
Speaker 2: You can't say a damn thing. I'm so sorry, like.
Speaker 1: I just and now mind you, No, this is not
Speaker 1: professional help.
Speaker 2: This is experienced.
Speaker 1: Help, a person with experience. No, I've never been in
Speaker 1: a situation where I would ever even have a threesome.
Speaker 1: You know why, because then I will be looking for
Speaker 1: somebody to fix my mess, just like you. You know
Speaker 1: that's not good. That's not good when you open the
Speaker 1: door to share yourself or to share your mate, share
Speaker 1: your significant other. This is your husband. This ain't your
Speaker 1: fucking boyfriend either. This is your husband. You met him,
Speaker 1: you told him you was bisexual.
Speaker 2: You know.
Speaker 1: Now, we could say that was a red flag for
Speaker 1: him all day, but it's really not. That's just him
Speaker 1: accepting you for being who you are. He could have
Speaker 1: said no, I ain't fucking with you and just went
Speaker 1: the other way. That would have been his preference. You know,
Speaker 1: I'm not gonna say that. He just would have been
Speaker 1: a judging, a judging person just for leaving you right
Speaker 1: there right, you know, right then in there. But obviously,
Speaker 1: like you said, y'all both wanted each other so much,
Speaker 1: he probably really did think that he could be everything
Speaker 1: that you needed. You know what I'm saying, then, a
Speaker 1: lot of people, I want you to I want y'all
Speaker 1: to understand this now.
Speaker 2: This is not something that I'm just saying.
Speaker 1: This is something that I see and that I know
Speaker 1: a lot of bisexual people are going to agree with
Speaker 1: me because this is serious. A lot of men don't
Speaker 1: even take y'all serious. A lot of men don't take
Speaker 1: bisexual women serious because I hear a lot of men say,
Speaker 1: like all bitches is gay, or a lot of women
Speaker 1: is gay. Everybody like a little women. I mean, it's
Speaker 1: like whatever, But y'all really still come back to that
Speaker 1: dick though, Like I got a lot of homeboys and brothers,
Speaker 1: and we see it in the media, we see it
Speaker 1: all the time. Nobody like that's the most lenient department
Speaker 1: of the LGBT. Nobody really likes to take the women
Speaker 1: serious because they feel like y'all just playing around.
Speaker 2: Bisexual is a serious thing. It's a very serious sexuality.
Speaker 1: And I just don't think I'm not gonna say he
Speaker 1: didn't take it serious enough, but I think yeah, he
Speaker 1: probably thought that it would change, that he could change
Speaker 1: who you were, meeting all your needs. But he can't
Speaker 1: be a woman, you know, he can only be your man.
Speaker 1: So he's only fulfilling half of your fantasy or no shit,
Speaker 1: I'm sorry, you gotta be careful with because it ain't
Speaker 1: a fantasy. He's only fulfilling half of what you're used to.
Speaker 1: Like you said, I'll say it just like you said it,
Speaker 1: I do apologize. It's not a fantasy. It's your life
Speaker 1: and it's very real. So he's fulfilling only half of
Speaker 1: your fantasy. Okay, fuck out decided again, that's some bullshit that.
Speaker 1: Now think about the fucking ludicrous song. You know, see
Speaker 1: what's your fantast to say? Remember that fuck man my bed,
Speaker 1: all right, so that's what it luted.
Speaker 2: Don't see me? I like that song. So yeah, he
Speaker 2: was only fulfilling half of what you were used to.
Speaker 1: So now so you were feeling like it was something missing,
Speaker 1: and you went on ahead and you asked him, now
Speaker 1: listen the first time is said no, you should have
Speaker 1: taken that and said, okay, husband, that's it. No, let
Speaker 1: me find another way to compromise that. Let's see if
Speaker 1: we can compromise another way.
Speaker 2: Bring some toys.
Speaker 1: In the fact, I don't know if toys don't really
Speaker 1: get you popping off like this shit. I know, ain't
Speaker 1: nothing wrong with the little rose. You could grab the
Speaker 1: rose and put it on the highest power. Because let
Speaker 1: me tell you that that that one speed is better
Speaker 1: than any human beings tongue.
Speaker 2: I'm telling you that one that God like that one,
Speaker 2: that's the one that's the last one right before it
Speaker 2: go off. And if you would have had that girl,
Speaker 2: what what you wouldn't need a husband or wife.
Speaker 1: But we ain't gonna we're not gonna promote that. Hold up,
Speaker 1: Hold up, I know this shit getting good. But listen
Speaker 1: to just a couple seconds of a commercial. If you
Speaker 1: love me, you'll listen, all right. The man said no.
Speaker 1: He said no the first time. Like I said, you
Speaker 1: should have let that shit go right there.
Speaker 2: You ask them again. Now you didn't tell me you
Speaker 2: asked them again.
Speaker 1: But I know if he said hell no, he ain't
Speaker 1: turn around and say hell yeah. You had to keep
Speaker 1: asking him. And because you said eventually he agreed. So
Speaker 1: I know that you you like that's why I said,
Speaker 1: That's why I made that reference. You pulled his arm
Speaker 1: through the door, and he didn't want to lose you.
Speaker 1: And he also you told me that you would never
Speaker 1: cheat on him. Now you told me you would never
Speaker 1: cheat on him, But he probably wanted to please you
Speaker 1: so bad that he'd rather you not creep around.
Speaker 2: Exactly what you said.
Speaker 1: He didn't want you to creep around, and he didn't
Speaker 1: want you to be feeling like you are missing something.
Speaker 1: And I already ain't. I already ain't tolerating this threesome shit.
Speaker 2: You know.
Speaker 1: I let me, let me try to give her something,
Speaker 1: let me let me try to compromise with her. And
Speaker 1: then he turns around and tell tell you that y'all
Speaker 1: can have threesomes every other month. That's still not enough
Speaker 1: for you. That's still not enough. How much pussy and
Speaker 1: dick can you get?
Speaker 3: Girl?
Speaker 1: How much until you yeah, well youa vagina would be
Speaker 1: sore and I know your mouth would be fucking sore.
Speaker 1: That's two things you eating. That's crazy like how I
Speaker 1: want listen. I'm more interested in how often could you
Speaker 1: do it? If every other month wasn't enough for you?
Speaker 1: You must be an elite bisexual, A professional bisexual up there.
Speaker 1: All right, girl, you need the train shit all right,
Speaker 1: high as sex drive goddamn.
Speaker 2: All right.
Speaker 1: But again, I'm not judging you. I'm just telling you,
Speaker 1: Oh girl, I ain't judging you. I'm just telling you
Speaker 1: that man didn't want to do the shit, and then
Speaker 1: you suckered him into doing it. You persuaded him, you
Speaker 1: convinced him. Okay, he didn't want to leave you, you
Speaker 1: said the first time y'all did it. He wasn't into her.
Speaker 1: Well duh, Gina, you know what I'm saying. He wasn't
Speaker 1: into that. He's not into that. He was just trying
Speaker 1: to make you happy. I'm glad that you did see that.
Speaker 1: So then you know what sacrifice and compromise is. He
Speaker 1: was probably extremely uncomfortable, probably was trying to walk on eggs.
Speaker 1: Chelsey probably was like, shit, I kind of feel like
Speaker 1: I'm cheating in front of my wife, Like you know
Speaker 1: what I'm saying. So it could have been a lot
Speaker 1: of things going through his mind, anything going through his mine.
Speaker 1: And you over there looking at her like, oh, I'm
Speaker 1: about to sop her up like a baby butter biscuit.
Speaker 1: You know, it's different with y'all, it's two different mindsets
Speaker 1: at this first threesome right boom, I didn't wonder what
Speaker 1: the fuck the girl was doing.
Speaker 2: Was the girl saying like, come on touch me, daddy?
Speaker 3: Like?
Speaker 1: What was she saying like, let me see you dig, daddy,
Speaker 1: like you know in my crashawn voice, y'all let me
Speaker 1: see your ding daddy, Like what was she saying? What
Speaker 1: was her standpoint? But did she notice that he wasn't
Speaker 1: really into her? And then like and then obviously it's
Speaker 1: the same girl. Y'all used the same girl, you know.
Speaker 1: I don't know if that matters or not, or if
Speaker 1: it would have been different if y'all would have alternated
Speaker 1: different bitches out, But I I it's it's the same girl,
Speaker 1: you know. So you gave him a chance to get
Speaker 1: familiar with someone else. He got to know her, you know,
Speaker 1: because you didn't say how long this, this this threesome
Speaker 1: streak lasted with you, with you and your husband, But
Speaker 1: you said months down the line, And if he was
Speaker 1: giving you one every other month, I would say maybe,
Speaker 1: y'all in the head four or five, I would say that.
Speaker 1: But you're gonna let me know that once you update me,
Speaker 1: because baby you're gonna have to hit me back and
Speaker 1: let me know what's going on.
Speaker 2: You don't need to tell a man yet. Girls A
Speaker 2: little sneaky as all right.
Speaker 1: You didn't say anything the first time you saw that
Speaker 1: he was really giving it to her. A couple months
Speaker 1: down the line, you said, you saw that.
Speaker 2: That was unusual to you.
Speaker 1: You like, he's usually off to the side, you know,
Speaker 1: he usually finished with me. This time he finished with her.
Speaker 1: I stood back, I gave them the side. I why why, Deborah,
Speaker 1: Why did you do that? This is the position you
Speaker 1: put him in. You know, this is the position that like, literally,
Speaker 1: I don't give up what he was sucking it from
Speaker 1: the back. This is the position that you put him in.
Speaker 1: You know, you ain't say nothing again. The last time
Speaker 1: was the last time, you said that. That's what really
Speaker 1: broke the camel's back. That was the last straw again.
Speaker 1: You said you felt left out, You felt like hold up,
Speaker 1: like what's going on? So that prompted you to go snooping.
Speaker 1: You said, you opened up an investigation of your own.
Speaker 1: You went through the phone and found out that he
Speaker 1: was messing with her by himself, that they were obviously
Speaker 1: having sex without you. This is when a threesome becomes
Speaker 1: a twosome and not the original two. Okay, now this
Speaker 1: is what I want to know. Do you know the girl?
Speaker 1: How well do you know the girl?
Speaker 2: Is she a friend?
Speaker 1: Is this somebody that you've had threesomes with before outside
Speaker 1: of your husband or before your husband, not outside of
Speaker 1: your husband, because you said you never never cheated so
Speaker 1: before your husband.
Speaker 2: Is this somebody? Is this like a like like a
Speaker 2: regular for you?
Speaker 3: Like?
Speaker 2: Is this like one of your honeys? Like? Is this
Speaker 2: you know? I got that term from my little sister.
Speaker 2: Is she your honey?
Speaker 1: Like?
Speaker 2: Is she want to your friends?
Speaker 1: We just need to know, you know what I'm saying
Speaker 1: because I want to know what you said to her
Speaker 1: because you haven't told your husband yet.
Speaker 2: Do you even plan on confronting her? You know?
Speaker 1: I guess that would depend on the relationship you two
Speaker 1: have outside of you and your husband obviously, And you
Speaker 1: said you found out the night before I went on
Speaker 1: Breakfast Club and reported the Manietta and Neo's story.
Speaker 2: That's crazy. That is definitely a coincidence.
Speaker 1: I'm glad that you came to me with it, But
Speaker 1: baby girl, you was dead wrong out the gate. You
Speaker 1: were dead wrong out of the gate, and I know
Speaker 1: a lot of people are probably going to disagree with me,
Speaker 1: and I guarantee you the people that are disagreeing with
Speaker 1: me are other bisexual people. But that's that's wrong, not
Speaker 1: the fact that you're bisexual, the fact that you introduced
Speaker 1: threesomism to your husband, who told you no, not once.
Speaker 1: I don't know how many times he told you, know,
Speaker 1: but he told you no more than once. You just
Speaker 1: told you told me he told you no once. He
Speaker 1: told Joe asked no more than once, and he eventually
Speaker 1: did it. He bit the bullet and fucking did it
Speaker 1: for you. And then he was trying not to be
Speaker 1: into it. And then he got acclimated to this girl,
Speaker 1: sexually acclimated to this girl. He started learning her body.
Speaker 1: He started yeah, yeah, and that can happen. Y'all only
Speaker 1: had sex maybe four or five times? I don't know,
Speaker 1: correct me. That's why I need a update. I know
Speaker 1: y'all y'all had sex more than four times. I mean,
Speaker 1: I know y'all had sex more than three times, so
Speaker 1: it had to be four and at the most five.
Speaker 2: I know that.
Speaker 1: And then when you write me back, I know you're
Speaker 1: gonna tell me that I was right. But you can
Speaker 1: learn a person's body and that and that, and those
Speaker 1: small amounts of sessions, yes you can.
Speaker 2: You know what I mean.
Speaker 1: They wasn't quickies. I know, three somes wasn't no mother
Speaker 1: fucking quikies. Y'all set this up. This was a whole
Speaker 1: goddamn this was a whole production without the cameras. So
Speaker 1: I know, y'all were having sex for quite a while.
Speaker 1: I mean, it's three people having a nut. So come on,
Speaker 1: we know how this works, okay, And I watched a
Speaker 1: lot of threesome points, so I know it ain't no
Speaker 1: quick wainm bam, Thank you, ma'am. You know, unless are
Speaker 1: everybody ready, you know, unless everybody got something to do.
Speaker 1: He learned her body. That's what he did. He became
Speaker 1: attracted to her, That's what he did. He started wanting
Speaker 1: to know more about her. That's what happens when someone
Speaker 1: is introduced intimately to somebody repeatedly, even in friendships.
Speaker 2: Think about it. When you go to school.
Speaker 1: You can go to school and say I ain't gonna
Speaker 1: fuck with nobody in there all day, Like I don't care,
Speaker 1: I'm gonna go to the school. I ain't fucking with nobody.
Speaker 1: You get there, you got the same homeroom every morning.
Speaker 1: Maybe a class is switched, the class is very the
Speaker 1: period is very okay, But that same homeroom every day
Speaker 1: is the same, same time, same teacher, unless, of course,
Speaker 1: there is a substitute. But it's the same every day.
Speaker 1: The same students are in the homeroom class. You know,
Speaker 1: they may switch with the other classes that you take,
Speaker 1: the other majors, you know, the other but everybody's homeroom
Speaker 1: is always the same. You go to school five days
Speaker 1: a week, you ain't gonna talk to somebody every day.
Speaker 1: But if you're with the same people every day for
Speaker 1: a long period of time, you are going to talk
Speaker 1: to someone. You're going to get to know someone. Even
Speaker 1: the unusual kids in a class, the ones that the
Speaker 1: introverts in the class, the ones that don't ever want
Speaker 1: to fucking talk to nobody, the ones that are the
Speaker 1: main fucking kids, the bullies that everybody finds at least
Speaker 1: one person that they start being cool with that they
Speaker 1: start getting to know, same as your husband did with
Speaker 1: this girl, And now your husband has a mistress whole
Speaker 1: time because of you, because of you. No, you didn't
Speaker 1: have a gun up to his head. Yeah, he could
Speaker 1: have kept saying no, but you could. You would have
Speaker 1: kept aving, you would have kept asking, and he did
Speaker 1: what any wholesome husband would have done, tried to keep
Speaker 1: his wife. A lot of people gonna disagree, but it's
Speaker 1: all right, y'all. Don't like the truth. A lot of
Speaker 1: people don't like the motherfucking truth. That's why a lot
Speaker 1: of people don't like Jess hilarious right now, okay, as
Speaker 1: they really don't like the fucking truth. And the truth
Speaker 1: is you should have never projected your wide range of
Speaker 1: sexuality onto your man.
Speaker 2: That's what you don't do. That's what you don't do.
Speaker 1: You could be by all day, up and down, but
Speaker 1: do that shit by yourself. That's what you should have
Speaker 1: been asking your husband. Look, do you think I can
Speaker 1: go have a girl of my own every other month?
Speaker 1: Can I go sleep with a girl?
Speaker 2: But you want to? Oh no, you can't say that
Speaker 2: because you want it both of them at the same time?
Speaker 2: Or did you? You gotta let me know? Could it?
Speaker 1: Do you? Do you regret it? That's what I want
Speaker 1: to know. Do you regret introducing threesomes to your husband?
Speaker 1: Do you regret making him say yes after no so
Speaker 1: many times? Do you because you can't. I should do
Speaker 1: something like that and then give him rules, just like
Speaker 1: back when I did Couple's Retreat when Michael Blaxon's fiance Ryder.
Speaker 1: But they actually had a contract like it was in
Speaker 1: writing and it was notarized and both signed by both parties.
Speaker 1: You are allowed to have one side bitch a month.
Speaker 1: Some of the most craziest shit I've ever heard in
Speaker 1: my life. But it's real, it's real, and it happens
Speaker 1: something that's a lot of people's preference. Now, while Ryder
Speaker 1: was saying it wasn't her preference, she just wanted to
Speaker 1: do what would make her husband happy because she didn't
Speaker 1: want to have to deal with him sleeping around on her.
Speaker 2: So as long as she know.
Speaker 1: It's good, but it's still not good because it still
Speaker 1: fucked her up mentally. It hurts her if you go
Speaker 1: back and watch season one of that shit, Fuck who
Speaker 1: I was with, Fuck my situation.
Speaker 2: Her situation was the worst.
Speaker 1: I felt bad for her to a certain extent because
Speaker 1: she actually bought this to him. She actually did open
Speaker 1: the door for it. Now he already already was with it.
Speaker 1: This is something that my blackson always and he's talked
Speaker 1: about it. So I'm not only here telling his business.
Speaker 1: Shit is all over the world. But Ryder just compromised
Speaker 1: and was like, okay, she gave him wiggle room.
Speaker 2: She did convey to us. Yeah, I like women, but
Speaker 2: I don't want to have to. I don't.
Speaker 1: I don't need that to keep the spark of my marriage.
Speaker 1: I want my husband. I'm okay with just my husband.
Speaker 1: He's not okay with just me. So that's why I
Speaker 1: introduced just giving, you know, giving him, you know, a
Speaker 1: contract stating that he can have a side bitch that that,
Speaker 1: you know, one per month, you know, when he's on
Speaker 1: the road and I'm doing my thing, you know.
Speaker 2: I you know, it to each their own.
Speaker 1: If you love me, you'll listen to this commercial and
Speaker 1: then we'll be right back. Now, you're sitting at home
Speaker 1: right now, try to figure out do you have to
Speaker 1: kill your husband because he's cheating on you. But you
Speaker 1: gave him all the rope to do so, you gave
Speaker 1: him all the tools to do so. You gave him
Speaker 1: every reason to cheat. You let him explore another woman's body.
Speaker 2: You know what I'm saying.
Speaker 1: You literally introduced him to another woman's body. Even with
Speaker 1: you for four years, he know what yours is like,
Speaker 1: but introducing him to another woman's body, it gives him
Speaker 1: a sense of novelty. Now gives him a sense of freshness.
Speaker 1: Not saying you stale, but it's something new. Something new
Speaker 1: is always better than something old or older. I need
Speaker 1: you to understand that when you want these threesomes, bull
Speaker 1: I'm not telling you not to be bisexual. I'm telling
Speaker 1: you to get a fucking divorce. If this is what
Speaker 1: you're gonna need to do, you understand what I'm saying.
Speaker 1: I don't want you to think I'm coming at your sexuality. Listen,
Speaker 1: it's not me. I can't tell people how to live
Speaker 1: their life, and I don't want nobody telling me how
Speaker 1: to live mine. But you come into me advice, and
Speaker 1: I'm telling you that's not that. I want to make
Speaker 1: it clear that it's not the fact that you're bisexual.
Speaker 2: It's the fact that.
Speaker 1: You married a man who felt like that would change
Speaker 1: when he married you. You introduced threesomes, and he got
Speaker 1: a little happy, went a little far and started fucking
Speaker 1: with this girl without you, And then now you feel
Speaker 1: portrayed so when you tell him, you know, he's gonna
Speaker 1: say that, right, He's gonna say everything that I'm saying
Speaker 1: to you. So I'm kind of happy that you didn't
Speaker 1: that you didn't tell him yet, because maybe listening to
Speaker 1: it first from another woman will help you understand it
Speaker 1: better when.
Speaker 2: He tells you, you.
Speaker 1: Know, and hopefully he doesn't blame it all on you,
Speaker 1: because nigga, you could have said, all right, we done
Speaker 1: with this shit at any time, but this is to
Speaker 1: make my wife happy, and this is what you wanted,
Speaker 1: you know, like you said you saw the red flag
Speaker 1: at first, like, oh shit, the first time you mus's
Speaker 1: down the line you're saying when you started, hold up,
Speaker 1: what the fuck I'm side on y'all?
Speaker 2: Back when you had to side on him? You should
Speaker 2: have asked him that night.
Speaker 1: Look look, look, look, look, I know like this is
Speaker 1: what I wanted, but I see like you're really really interested.
Speaker 1: Now is it still safe to do this or are
Speaker 1: you starting to like her? Or whatever? I respect whatever
Speaker 1: you say, because yes, I did introduce this, but we
Speaker 1: have an agreement, like you know, what is it? Do
Speaker 1: you like her to? Should we pick another girl? Or
Speaker 1: should we just stop doing this shit? Totally, but you
Speaker 1: were still thinking about yourself. You were thinking about yourself, Mama.
Speaker 1: After a while, you probably didn't want him to do it,
Speaker 1: but you still wanted to be out here, you know,
Speaker 1: not out here, but you know, fulfilling your other half
Speaker 1: of what you're used to, the other half of what
Speaker 1: you're used to. But I'm gonna need you to update me,
Speaker 1: all right, because listen this and took up my whole episode.
Speaker 1: I love it, and I love you for coming out
Speaker 1: telling me. I want everybody to be comfortable enough to
Speaker 1: come to me. Sometimes you're not gonna like what I say,
Speaker 1: and that's okay. That's just like my son. Sometimes my
Speaker 1: son don't like what I say. My parents don't like
Speaker 1: what I say. Sometimes my boyfriend don't like what I say.
Speaker 1: My little sister they don't like Sometimes I don't like
Speaker 1: what the fuck I say. You know, but the truth hurts.
Speaker 1: The truth is not always supposed to be comfortable. And
Speaker 1: just like that, we come to the end of another
Speaker 1: CAFOL reckless episode. Y'all, that was a good one today.
Speaker 1: That was a good one.
Speaker 2: I hope this actually helps a lot of y'all out
Speaker 2: there learn.
Speaker 1: Maybe if both of y'all don't like threesomes, maybe y'all
Speaker 1: shouldn't know them.
Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, yah, yeah yeah.
Speaker 1: I think if both of y'all don't have a threesome
Speaker 1: history more than five years, I don't think that y'all
Speaker 1: should do it, because then, you know, insecurities build, and
Speaker 1: then it's it's so much.
Speaker 2: I know.
Speaker 1: I know a woman that shot and killed her husband
Speaker 1: because he started having sex with somebody else that they
Speaker 1: were having threesomes with outside of them, outside of you know,
Speaker 1: the threesome.
Speaker 2: He started cheating on her with the girl. She shot
Speaker 2: and killed her husband. You know what I'm saying? Like that.
Speaker 1: I saw that on snapped. Yeah, I watched iDTV. The
Speaker 1: shit shit is real, Shit is real, Shit can get real.
Speaker 1: So we y'all play with people's hearts and y'all bringing
Speaker 1: all this extra shit into you know you love life
Speaker 1: and shit. Man.
Speaker 2: Yeah, marriage is different.
Speaker 1: Marriage is very much different than just run around across
Speaker 1: somebody boyfriend and your girlfriend and shit like that. Not
Speaker 1: saying don't take your relationship serious, but listen, marriage that's different.
Speaker 2: That's different. That's a covenant, that's a contract.
Speaker 1: Legal bind, legal bind, you legally bind it with somebody
Speaker 1: till death do y'all part you been not killing man shit,
Speaker 1: kill all this threesome shit and get back at me
Speaker 1: and in my deepest band boys, peace. Talk to y'all
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