Speaker 1: Hey there again, everybody, Amy and TJ here coming to
Speaker 1: you from a studio in a cold New York City
Speaker 1: where we are just a couple of days away from Christmas.
Speaker 2: That's right, it's beginning to fill a lot like Christmas.
Speaker 2: It's been brit Oh. See if you could see TG
Speaker 2: right now, he's shaking his head at me and his
Speaker 2: eyes were kind of closed. But I think you were
Speaker 2: rolling them too.
Speaker 1: I think you could see the listener right now. They
Speaker 1: were doing the exact same thing once they heard you
Speaker 1: say it's beginning to look a lot like Christmas.
Speaker 2: Oh, I love that song. I'm going to be sad
Speaker 2: when the Christmas music stops.
Speaker 1: Then I'll have the biggest smile on my face. But hey,
Speaker 1: we are back here. This is our second episode this week,
Speaker 1: our second brand new episode. We told you last episode,
Speaker 1: and in fact, we were going to start doing two
Speaker 1: episodes a week at least for the rest of this year,
Speaker 1: and part of that was getting the last one at least,
Speaker 1: was answering your questions. Again, we haven't seen it's ahead
Speaker 1: of time, and in the entest we got so many
Speaker 1: questions that we wanted to get to as many as possible,
Speaker 1: as mean as we could, so instead of just doing
Speaker 1: one episode of it, we're doing too.
Speaker 2: All right, you ready to go, Let's do it round two.
Speaker 3: Andy Lee asks TJ. You mentioned receiving a threat in
Speaker 3: the first episode, which sort of implies that you were
Speaker 3: the target of the photos released. Will you continue this discussion.
Speaker 1: I've said all I am going to say about it.
Speaker 1: It happened, Oh you were threatened, and it seems that
Speaker 1: someone made good on that threat, and that's it, and
Speaker 1: I'm can do about it now. And they're sitting here
Speaker 1: in this place, and look, don't don't have any ill
Speaker 1: will or who harbor any negative feelings about it. People
Speaker 1: have their motivations and nothing we could do. But if
Speaker 1: whatever happened needed to happen to land us in this place,
Speaker 1: you have to look at it in that way, and
Speaker 1: we are where we want to be, need to be,
Speaker 1: and should be. And if that was a catalyst for it, fine,
Speaker 1: certainly wish no ill will towards anybody else.
Speaker 3: So Holly asks, my question is why didn't you guys
Speaker 3: both speak out right away? It bothered me that you
Speaker 3: didn't go hard at the allegations right from the start.
Speaker 2: Well, Holly, it bothered us too. And I think maybe
Speaker 2: it would have been better had we done that, But
Speaker 2: what we were trying to do was keep our jobs.
Speaker 2: We did have press releases ready to go that we
Speaker 2: had written that day, and even through that initial first day,
Speaker 2: first couple of days, obviously we went back on the air.
Speaker 2: Even when we were temporarily allegedly temporarily taken off the
Speaker 2: air to let things cool down, we were still hopeful
Speaker 2: for that entire.
Speaker 4: Was it six weeks, eight weeks that.
Speaker 2: We would be going back to work. I mean, we
Speaker 2: knew that as the days and weeks went on, it
Speaker 2: was getting less and less likely. Our hearts, our guts,
Speaker 2: our minds, everything about us wanted to speak out. But
Speaker 2: once we didn't speak out the initial first few days,
Speaker 2: at what point do you then it got really hard?
Speaker 2: And this wasn't in my wheelhouse or in yours. I'm
Speaker 2: not a I'm not a I've never had to do
Speaker 2: press on myself or be a publicist for myself. I'd
Speaker 2: never been in a situation like this, So I was
Speaker 2: trying to follow what other people were telling me. The
Speaker 2: right thing to do was.
Speaker 1: We've been holding on as as you were talking, Andy,
Speaker 1: I looked, I pulled up a draft. We've been talking
Speaker 1: about this for a while. It's there, but there's a
Speaker 1: draft email in my inbox right now. In my draft
Speaker 1: box from November thirtieth, twenty twenty two. That draft is
Speaker 1: say that is the exact day that it.
Speaker 2: Was released or the pictures were released.
Speaker 1: That stuff was released. This draft was never sent as
Speaker 1: an email because of what she just described. This is
Speaker 1: so wild. I'm reading it two different statements. We decided
Speaker 1: not to really statement together. Instead, it was going to
Speaker 1: be two separate She would have hers, I would have mine.
Speaker 1: And the email as I look in bold letters and
Speaker 1: underlined capital letters, it says Amy and it quotes my
Speaker 1: divorce is nearly finalized after we decided to separate. CJ
Speaker 1: and I have been friends for years, and our relationship
Speaker 1: has evolved only in recent weeks. I asked for privacy
Speaker 1: for my family as we continue to heal. In quote
Speaker 1: that was Robot's statement that was never released. Under that
Speaker 1: bold letters, capital letters, TJ underlined this was mine. After
Speaker 1: month long separation. I'm in the final stage of my divorce,
Speaker 1: a process that has been difficult in my family, and
Speaker 1: for their sake, had hoped to keep private. I have
Speaker 1: leaned on my closest friend during this painful stretch, and
Speaker 1: very recently that friendship became more out of respect for
Speaker 1: my family. I am requesting privacy at this time. That
Speaker 1: never saw the light of day, and it's never been
Speaker 1: heard until this moment. Andy and I see the look
Speaker 1: on your face, and maybe some people will have that
Speaker 1: same reaction. But we asked, we were ready to go,
Speaker 1: and we got the breaks put on that, and we
Speaker 1: could have moved. I guess we could have done if
Speaker 1: we want, but we were trying.
Speaker 2: To keep our jobs.
Speaker 1: Yeah. So to answer the question that is that is why, gosh.
Speaker 3: It's so hard? Adria asks, why does Tea Chase still
Speaker 3: not follow Amy on Instagram?
Speaker 2: You know what, I would like to hear this. I
Speaker 2: have tried and it hasn't. It hasn't worked.
Speaker 1: You know what, I'm going to stick with the theme
Speaker 1: of looking up drafts in my why love this? I
Speaker 1: am not kidding you all.
Speaker 2: This This is are you going to get into who
Speaker 2: you do follows?
Speaker 4: It seems creepy, but then it's not.
Speaker 1: I follow one person on Instagram and there's a reason, Simon,
Speaker 1: and she was the daughter of a really good friend
Speaker 1: I had back in my scene in days. But she
Speaker 1: helped me. My friend helped me set up my Instagram account.
Speaker 1: I'm like, how do you do that? And how do
Speaker 1: you follow somebody? So initially just said just follow my
Speaker 1: daughter as an example, right, it's kids like eleven years
Speaker 1: old too, But at the time she was little, but
Speaker 1: they had an Instagram account for her. She said, just
Speaker 1: follow her. It was just to set it up, and
Speaker 1: so I never started following anybody else. So now it's
Speaker 1: just funny to me. So I don't want to follow
Speaker 1: anybody because it would break the tradition of having just
Speaker 1: that one person I follow.
Speaker 2: But if you were going to follow one other person,
Speaker 2: who would it be?
Speaker 1: Probably my sister.
Speaker 4: I walked round.
Speaker 1: But again I'm thinking about this, Andy, because I have drafts.
Speaker 1: So I have a draft email I keep that says
Speaker 1: Christmas in the subject line, and I have certain people
Speaker 1: listed for potential Christmas gifts, and I have your your
Speaker 1: thing here and it's a bunch of stuff listed.
Speaker 2: But follow Amy on Insta that would be a Christmas gift.
Speaker 2: I can't wait to see what happens December twenty fifth.
Speaker 1: Obviously, I'm not going to do it now that this
Speaker 1: is out, Now that they were doing this, okay, but
Speaker 1: it's actually listed. It's funny to ask the question that
Speaker 1: it is actually that big of a thing between us,
Speaker 1: and it bothers her feet like just empty, Yeah, kind of.
Speaker 2: I don't understand how that works.
Speaker 1: I just I don't sit and scan through social media
Speaker 1: and look through.
Speaker 2: And it's oh, is there judgment there in your eyes?
Speaker 1: No, it's not judgment. That's just a difference you and
Speaker 1: I do two We Yeah.
Speaker 2: I like to scroll through Instagram.
Speaker 1: Yes, So the point it really one of my favorite. Look,
Speaker 1: the phone can bring you closer to somebody one thousand
Speaker 1: miles away and take you farther away from the person
Speaker 1: sitting in the next room with you. That's her. I'm
Speaker 1: sitting right there with her, and she she can't do
Speaker 1: two things at one time. That's not saying not to
Speaker 1: be offensive there, I'm saying, you focus on this one thing.
Speaker 1: I can't get you to focus on something else. So
Speaker 1: I know to step away, let her have her moment,
Speaker 1: let her do her wordle. What's the new one?
Speaker 2: Well, I like wordle. It's all the New York Times games.
Speaker 2: We do connections, connections, yes, I love and then the
Speaker 2: mini crossword and so I actually I actually have a
Speaker 2: group of girls, my daughters are on to. It's we
Speaker 2: call it girdle girls who do wordle.
Speaker 1: He's laughing because things it's clever.
Speaker 2: Girdle next Chaine and every day we all send each
Speaker 2: other the results of and he makes so much fun
Speaker 2: of me. But I am sharpening my brain. And you know,
Speaker 2: I am fifty. As you pointed out, I got a
Speaker 2: few years on you, So I got to keep that
Speaker 2: mind sharp.
Speaker 1: You're sharpening your brain. I'm sharpening the knives for what's
Speaker 1: coming at us. But you play your.
Speaker 3: Games all right, kay? Asks when did doctor jen find
Speaker 3: out about your relationship? The three of you had great
Speaker 3: chemistry on the show. And did she ever suspect anything?
Speaker 1: Now, I will say doctor Ashton is somebody that I told.
Speaker 1: She might be one of the first I think I
Speaker 1: told her about the divorce. She is one I think
Speaker 1: I told about the divorce before I even told my parents.
Speaker 2: We were going to her wedding. Yeah, and there was
Speaker 2: gonna be questions why did I not bring my ex?
Speaker 2: Why did he not bring his ax? And so we
Speaker 2: were going to her wedding. It was the night before
Speaker 2: the New York City Marathon, so This is just what
Speaker 2: a week or two before the tabloids went ahead and
Speaker 2: show these pictures of us together.
Speaker 1: That was a few timeline there. This was only a
Speaker 1: few days before we started being followed because the story
Speaker 1: didn't come out to could remember her wedding like no
Speaker 1: remember fifth or right?
Speaker 2: We went to her wedding together, and so I'm sure
Speaker 2: there might have been some raised eyebrows. But we needed
Speaker 2: to tell her. She already knew that I was getting divorced,
Speaker 2: but you went ahead and told her beforehand, just so
Speaker 2: that it wouldn't be it would be unusual that we would,
Speaker 2: you know, not bring what you would think was your
Speaker 2: spouse to a wedding. So she did find out about that, but.
Speaker 1: We didn't tell her ahead of time about our actual relationship.
Speaker 2: And I don't I don't know that she was suspicious.
Speaker 2: She never said anything to me, She never asked me
Speaker 2: any questions, so I don't believe she was.
Speaker 1: All right.
Speaker 3: Joy asks do you think if not for the social
Speaker 3: media fodder, would you guys have kept your jobs?
Speaker 2: Yes, yes, without a doubt. It was explained to us
Speaker 2: that it was the distraction, and I don't think it
Speaker 2: was necessarily social media. I think it was the tabloids specifically,
Speaker 2: and it just it's interesting to me that publications that
Speaker 2: are widely viewed as tabloids or not something that you
Speaker 2: can rely upon, could have that big of an impact
Speaker 2: on our careers that we had spent decades creating and establishing.
Speaker 2: That was shocking to me. But that is the reason,
Speaker 2: and I think because social media then people share those stories.
Speaker 2: The two combined, yes, created a perfect storm where we
Speaker 2: lost our jobs. It wasn't because of anything technical, it
Speaker 2: was because of the spectacle.
Speaker 3: Gotcha perfect? Heather asks TJ. Do you find interracial dating
Speaker 3: more challenging? Especially when I heard you speak about only
Speaker 3: hearing two black artists sing at the wedding you both attended.
Speaker 1: You know, that's there's so many stories I could tell
Speaker 1: that would be funny here, but it's actually interesting and
Speaker 1: it becomes disappointing that the conversations we have privately are
Speaker 1: not the ones we can have publicly as a country,
Speaker 1: because there's so much that she says to me that
Speaker 1: if she were to say on social media or in public,
Speaker 1: people would try to cancel or immediately call her this
Speaker 1: or that. When she's just opening herself up to something
Speaker 1: she doesn't know, and she feels safe talking to me
Speaker 1: about it. And then I explained something to her and
Speaker 1: she said, oh, it's been so many times like, oh,
Speaker 1: I didn't get that. I never saw it that way.
Speaker 1: And that's fine, that's perfectly fine. But I just I
Speaker 1: find it. And there's so much about her and her
Speaker 1: life and her background and her We talk cultural and
Speaker 1: we talk about music and things like that. That's one thing,
Speaker 1: and that's funny we can laugh at, but there's so
Speaker 1: much else about our up we were, how we were raised,
Speaker 1: what we're exposed to that are so different that make
Speaker 1: it interesting. It makes it fun, but it's safe. We're
Speaker 1: in a safe place to have those conversations, and so
Speaker 1: I do love it. We talk about race all the time.
Speaker 4: We do, and I think we would like to.
Speaker 2: We'll be thoughtful about it all, but we would like
Speaker 2: to have those conversations because these are conversations that we
Speaker 2: have stop, that we have together that I know that
Speaker 2: if more people could have, it would be it would
Speaker 2: bring people together. You can't know what you don't know.
Speaker 2: I think that's the thing, and that's the place that
Speaker 2: I've come to and I've always believed this, but reinforced
Speaker 2: now after having so many conversations, if we can just
Speaker 2: all come to the table saying I don't know what
Speaker 2: I don't know, and just start there, and that's where
Speaker 2: we started. But we obviously this is nearly a decade
Speaker 2: long friendship that's built into now a a beautiful relationship,
Speaker 2: and we have trust. That's what's lacking in most conversations,
Speaker 2: and rightfully so.
Speaker 1: But you start from that place where I know this
Speaker 1: is a good person. You know, you start from that
Speaker 1: place initially that this person isn't evil, and I've pulled
Speaker 1: her to the side. Hey, you said this, and if
Speaker 1: you've dota this could be taken that way. We do
Speaker 1: that sometimes and so it's the the other part of that,
Speaker 1: And to be completely honest there is that you're I'm
Speaker 1: in the public eye. I'm a black man who has
Speaker 1: been for my entire career embraced by a black viewership,
Speaker 1: a black fan base, the black community in so many ways.
Speaker 1: And I have been as everybody knows, anybody knows me,
Speaker 1: how knows my level of involvement, engagement in organizations or
Speaker 1: communities that have nothing to do with something I'm doing
Speaker 1: on television. That's just who I am. That's how I was.
Speaker 1: I mean, that's what I came up in. This is
Speaker 1: my community. But you look at that, Wait a minute,
Speaker 1: you're so down for your community, then why what you're
Speaker 1: doing over here with this blonde hair, blue eyed white girl.
Speaker 1: And that's just the truth, if you're being honest about it.
Speaker 1: But that sometimes gets in your own head about and
Speaker 1: you think that's out there.
Speaker 2: Man.
Speaker 1: Ain't ain't a black person out there who knocks me
Speaker 1: for loving who I am. If you're being honest about it,
Speaker 1: nobody's like what you love, who you love, and that's okay.
Speaker 1: They're folks in this country who have fought to love
Speaker 1: who they love, who have died for loving who they love.
Speaker 1: So it's not for me. I think that gets in
Speaker 1: my own head sometimes and it shouldn't, But I think
Speaker 1: I think it's doing a disservice to the black folks,
Speaker 1: the black community, to think they they don't accept or appreciate,
Speaker 1: or can understand or even would be supportive that you're
Speaker 1: loving somebody or in a relationship with someone outside of
Speaker 1: your race.
Speaker 2: And I would say that, you know, initially, when the
Speaker 2: news of our relationship came out, when I had my
Speaker 2: work email, I was aghast and this was the minority.
Speaker 2: But there were some really hateful, awful emails that included
Speaker 2: death threats, specific death threats, because I was with a
Speaker 2: black man and I had never experienced that before. And
Speaker 2: it was just a little taste of just some of
Speaker 2: what I have never or could never or had never
Speaker 2: experienced before. And it was eye opening, to say the
Speaker 2: very least. And I would just say that despite obviously
Speaker 2: all the things we've learned about each other and respected
Speaker 2: about each other, despite the color of our skin or
Speaker 2: our cultural backgrounds, we have so much more in common,
Speaker 2: you know, we have so many shared values how we
Speaker 2: were raised. Actually there were a lot of things that
Speaker 2: were the same. That when you have shared values and
Speaker 2: you have shared modes of operation and you care about
Speaker 2: the same things, the other stuff you will figure out.
Speaker 2: But if you have that that bass and we do
Speaker 2: have that shared that shared base, you can build on
Speaker 2: that from there. And it's a beautiful thing.
Speaker 1: But sure, Crosby, Steals, Nash and Young was playing in
Speaker 1: the background at your house, and maybe I was listening
Speaker 1: to a little more line Richie, But.
Speaker 2: Whatever, I love Lionel Richie, what are you talking about?
Speaker 1: This is the thing how many black people have been
Speaker 1: to your house? No, I love Lionel Richie. Come on
Speaker 1: if that's your black Cridentel?
Speaker 4: Are you Sidney per right? All right?
Speaker 1: Oh Mama, Robock, Papa roback. Guess who's coming to Dinna?
Speaker 3: Alright, Martin, we have to forgive us Marta. Sue asks,
Speaker 3: do you feel more comfortable in the podcast chair or
Speaker 3: the broadcast chair?
Speaker 1: Podcast?
Speaker 2: Podcast is amazing? We've never gotten to actually just be us.
Speaker 2: Maybe people for us in the broadcasting chair, where we
Speaker 2: were more buttoned up and reading.
Speaker 4: Please someone a script?
Speaker 2: But no, this is fun. I love this.
Speaker 3: Kate asks what is your favorite part about running, both
Speaker 3: separately and together? Kate's doing her first half marathon. Congrats Katy,
Speaker 3: and she'd love to hear more about your experience. What's
Speaker 3: a running playlist must have? What's something that the two
Speaker 3: of you want to do together that maybe you haven't.
Speaker 2: Yeah, well, Kate, I this is right up my alley.
Speaker 2: I'm so excited you're gonna run a half marathon. It's
Speaker 2: amazing to challenge yourself and I love running for a
Speaker 2: lot of reasons. First of all, it's such a euphemism
Speaker 2: for life. You know, when you're struggling, and you're not
Speaker 2: going to have great runs all the time when you're training.
Speaker 2: But it's it's just this notion that you keep going anyway.
Speaker 2: When your body tells you to stop, when you're brain
Speaker 2: tells you to stop, you just keep putting one foot
Speaker 2: in front of the other. And there's something that I
Speaker 2: carry with me when I'm going through other tough times.
Speaker 2: I remember, Hey, you're in the middle of a tough run.
Speaker 2: You just keep going. It's as simple as that. And
Speaker 2: so you're you learn that your body and your mind
Speaker 2: are stronger than you think. You realize that you actually
Speaker 2: can control urges to stop or to like when pain happens.
Speaker 2: And I love the idea of getting on the other
Speaker 2: side of pain because it's progress, it's accomplishment. And I
Speaker 2: love music, but I'm a big fan of I'm not
Speaker 2: just saying this because we have a podcast. I love podcasts,
Speaker 2: and I love listening to books because after a while,
Speaker 2: when you're training, the music kind of gets old. So
Speaker 2: I save that for race day a lot of times.
Speaker 2: But I love listening to a good murder mystery. I
Speaker 2: love listening to I mean Oprah's Super Soul Conversations has
Speaker 2: gotten me through a lot of long runs. I love.
Speaker 1: Are you promoting Oprah's podcast?
Speaker 2: Well, that was the first podcast that I fell in
Speaker 2: love with.
Speaker 1: I know, but that is.
Speaker 2: Actually what got me into listening to podcasts.
Speaker 1: We're trying to build an audience and we're directing them
Speaker 1: to AM.
Speaker 4: I would suggests.
Speaker 2: Running, but it's just it's it's such a beautiful way
Speaker 2: to see what you're capable.
Speaker 1: Of, and congratulations hate on doing it. It's gonna feel
Speaker 1: great when you get to that to the finish line.
Speaker 1: It's uh and again I'm I've been always work out,
Speaker 1: but Robot was the one that got me into being
Speaker 1: an actual runner. I would run, but just for some
Speaker 1: aerobic exercise, but I would. She's the one really responsible
Speaker 1: for me becoming a runner. And to now when I
Speaker 1: miss a day of running, it feels weird, like we've
Speaker 1: gotten to that point to where we feel like the
Speaker 1: day can't start or we haven't done something unless we run.
Speaker 1: So congratulations to what you do. As far as what
Speaker 1: you listen to, I am a hype music guy. Either
Speaker 1: it is needs to be hip hop or hype music,
Speaker 1: or it needs to be something like like just to
Speaker 1: have some kind of great Crescendo has a great like
Speaker 1: it gets your move on once crazy as it sounds
Speaker 1: is wait for it from Hamilton no Way like some
Speaker 1: of that just gets you going like that. I love
Speaker 1: those two things and the other thing I listened to
Speaker 1: a lot on some of our long training runs. I
Speaker 1: listen to a lot of comedy specials, so I listen
Speaker 1: to a lot of stand up whether that's Chris Rock
Speaker 1: and of course Dave Chappelle my favorites, but Dion Cole
Speaker 1: I just discovered not too long ago, who I love,
Speaker 1: So those are my things. I listened to the.
Speaker 2: Keep It Going. I love TJ's playlists when he does
Speaker 2: send them to me. He does, and they're very sweet.
Speaker 2: And in terms of what we want to do next,
Speaker 2: I think we're kind of into the New York City
Speaker 2: marathon thing. I've done three, you've done two. I can't
Speaker 2: imagine we wouldn't do it again. But I'm actually a
Speaker 2: huge fan of half marathons. They're perfect, so I want
Speaker 2: to do I want to do the Paris half Marathon.
Speaker 2: I kind of want to look at creating vacations around you.
Speaker 2: You get your run in and then you have fun.
Speaker 2: So I always have this run to fun kind of mentality.
Speaker 2: So incorporating that into a vacation actually is even better.
Speaker 2: You feel like you've earned the fund that's going to
Speaker 2: ensue after you're done.
Speaker 1: For sure.
Speaker 3: I recommend doing the Miami Half.
Speaker 1: The Miami Half.
Speaker 3: Three years ago.
Speaker 2: Hot, No, because.
Speaker 3: You do it in the morning. They do it in January.
Speaker 2: Oh, I'd be into that.
Speaker 1: Christ perfect.
Speaker 3: It's beautiful, great weather, and then you have the beach,
Speaker 3: all right. Perfect. So Julie is asking, she loves the podcast.
Speaker 3: She's asking, what motivates you to run in marathons? How
Speaker 3: do you train? And what diet tips might you have
Speaker 3: for someone who's over fifty.
Speaker 2: So I got into marathoning. And by the way, I
Speaker 2: want to say this, I had never run more than
Speaker 2: a ten k before the age of forty, and it
Speaker 2: was only after my breast cancer journey where I had
Speaker 2: felt like my body failed me. I didn't trust my
Speaker 2: body anymore. There's a lot of mental things that go
Speaker 2: on with you when you go through something like that
Speaker 2: and you're worried about recurrence, You're worried about if it
Speaker 2: comes back. And so I just really had a difficult
Speaker 2: relationship with my body and my health, and it was
Speaker 2: actually the Shape Women's half marathon. They asked me to
Speaker 2: be the Grand Marshal, and I thought, oh my god,
Speaker 2: I could never run a half marathon. My dad was
Speaker 2: a marathon er, so I had someone who I looked
Speaker 2: up to. But I remember always saying to him, how
Speaker 2: do you do that? And he started running marathons in
Speaker 2: his fifties. But it was that little spark, that little challenge,
Speaker 2: and so I agreed to run a half marathon. But
Speaker 2: I actually asked if I could do a relay with
Speaker 2: my best friend, Sarah Haines, and so she said, I said,
Speaker 2: I'll do seven miles. I'll meet you at six. We'll
Speaker 2: run a mile together, and then you take us through
Speaker 2: the rest. What happened was I got to mile seven
Speaker 2: and I was feeling so good. I said, I'm just
Speaker 2: going to keep running. So I just kept running and
Speaker 2: I was hyperventilating over the finish line and barely made it.
Speaker 2: But I made it, and I thought, you know what,
Speaker 2: I did it, But it was really painful, and unnecessarily
Speaker 2: so because I didn't train. So I started training, and
Speaker 2: that's when I started doing half marathons. And once I
Speaker 2: did enough, I thought the New York City Marathon asked me, Hey,
Speaker 2: would you consider it? And sure enough, I said, okay.
Speaker 2: So it's five months. We do the Hall Higden method.
Speaker 2: I print out Novice one and I just check off
Speaker 2: every training run and you just do it week to
Speaker 2: week to week to week for five months and you
Speaker 2: trust the training and it works. And so I've got
Speaker 2: five marathons under my belt now, and everyone's different based
Speaker 2: on the weather and the course. And I've had good
Speaker 2: ones and tough ones and fun ones, but it's challenging
Speaker 2: every single time.
Speaker 1: The motivation from Julie's question there for me is now
Speaker 1: just it's just a part of my life. I'm a runner,
Speaker 1: and so my motivation now is yes, I guess health,
Speaker 1: but I'm just in it.
Speaker 2: You become a runner, you become get kind of addicted
Speaker 2: to it.
Speaker 1: It don't there's nothing else I got. I mean ten
Speaker 1: pairs of Nike Alpha Flies in my closet right now, yep,
Speaker 1: that I use every single pair. I mean, it just
Speaker 1: becomes a part and on. Once you get that bug,
Speaker 1: you do not need motivation. You do not need anybody
Speaker 1: to tell you to get up. I mean it's thirty
Speaker 1: degree mornings. We have gotten up before and run. We've
Speaker 1: had things to do during the day and say, well,
Speaker 1: we got to get the run in, and we're up
Speaker 1: at three am to knock the run out, so we
Speaker 1: can go do something else during the day with schedule wise,
Speaker 1: that's just how it goes the training. Yes, the hall
Speaker 1: HIGGN diet is the other thing she asked about with you.
Speaker 2: Yeah, well that's always a tough one for me because
Speaker 2: I don't really like to do carbs, but it's kind
Speaker 2: of a must.
Speaker 4: And so it's kind of fun.
Speaker 2: I eat things I wouldn't normally eat because I'm training,
Speaker 2: and you always make fun of me. You're like, oh,
Speaker 2: don't let me guess you'll have it because you're training,
Speaker 2: Like French fries, probably shouldn't eat.
Speaker 1: It's a total excuse. Yes, I will start with the
Speaker 1: double cheeseburger, man, now the slab of ribs for my main.
Speaker 1: Thank you, it's okay, I'm training.
Speaker 2: That is to me, that is one of the biggest
Speaker 2: benefits of running or training for marathon, as you get
Speaker 2: to eat all this stuff you would normally not eat.
Speaker 2: I'm not advocated eating bad things like French fries, but
Speaker 2: it's it's fun.
Speaker 1: Use an excuse. It's tougher for me because I usually
Speaker 1: I don't eat a lot of meat, and I usually
Speaker 1: don't eat meat, so it's tough when you were doing fourteen, sixteen,
Speaker 1: eighteen twenty mile training runs. You need some carbs and
Speaker 1: you need some protein. So I have to change my
Speaker 1: diet a little bit. Well I did this time. First
Speaker 1: time I didn't, and I think I struggled a little bit.
Speaker 1: But this time I got some protein in me and whatnot.
Speaker 1: But yeah, you just got to keep your carbs up
Speaker 1: and keep your energy.
Speaker 3: Yet, truly asks will amy convert back to being a
Speaker 3: Razorbacks fan?
Speaker 1: Ah say back.
Speaker 2: To yep, Well I was never Yeah, so Georgia Bulldogs
Speaker 2: will always be my number one. I can't not say that.
Speaker 2: But I will always root now for the Razorbacks if
Speaker 2: they're not playing Georgia, how about that? How about you
Speaker 2: can we reverse that?
Speaker 1: There's no you know what, this just happened. Just happened
Speaker 1: on our way here, I said, I need something to
Speaker 1: put my red bull land to come here at our place.
Speaker 1: Open the cabinet and looking down looking for a cup,
Speaker 1: pull pull it out there about to put it in.
Speaker 1: I turn it around, it says Georgia on it. I
Speaker 1: said nope, and I put it back. I put the
Speaker 1: cup back, and I refuse to even drink my red
Speaker 1: bull out of a Georgia Bulldogs.
Speaker 2: Why is that?
Speaker 1: Because I'm a razorback? Would you to go home?
Speaker 2: Would you root for the Bulldogs?
Speaker 1: I root for you, I root for making you happy.
Speaker 2: You were also rooting for Alabama.
Speaker 1: Well, I had reasons for that, as I'm still with you.
Speaker 1: Well as a football fan. No, no, no, no, as a
Speaker 1: football fan, we shouldn't get into them. But I still
Speaker 1: think Georgia should be in the top four.
Speaker 2: Yeah, by the way, yeah they should, but I three, I.
Speaker 1: Think Alabama should as well. But I think it made
Speaker 1: it more interesting to have Alabama.
Speaker 2: When they got Your interest was my devastation.
Speaker 1: But you know I did not make fun. I did
Speaker 1: not choke issue because I know how this goes to
Speaker 1: lose a game and we sell Alabama. And we sat
Speaker 1: and we watched that game together, and I was as
Speaker 1: supportive as I could be.
Speaker 2: You did stay quiet.
Speaker 1: That's support, Andy.
Speaker 4: Sometimes silence is support.
Speaker 3: Silence is golden amy. Deborah asks, how did breast cancer
Speaker 3: change your life for the better?
Speaker 2: Oh my god, Deborah, In every single way, I I
Speaker 2: think it actually prepared me for this past year, because
Speaker 2: I think until it happens to you, or until someone
Speaker 2: close to you goes through something serious where death is
Speaker 2: on the table, it's that watershed moment where you realize
Speaker 2: that tomorrow is not a given and all we have
Speaker 2: is right now, and when you start to actually fear
Speaker 2: for your life in a real way, you start realizing
Speaker 2: that we'll do that in five years, we'll do that
Speaker 2: in ten years, like that's just a pipe dream. And
Speaker 2: I actually really didn't even let myself plan a future
Speaker 2: or think about a future, and that's a good thing.
Speaker 2: You start living your life the way you envisioned it,
Speaker 2: and you don't apologize time is the greatest commodity. So
Speaker 2: I learned to say no in a way that I
Speaker 2: hadn't before. I learned to prioritize who I spent time with,
Speaker 2: how I spent my time, and what I wanted to accomplish.
Speaker 2: And I stopped letting my job define me. And that
Speaker 2: was a huge part of my transition in I used
Speaker 2: to brag about not taking my vacation days. I thought
Speaker 2: that was something to be proud of. I left two
Speaker 2: weeks on the table. I only took five days. What
Speaker 2: an idiot was I? You know, like no job. Like
Speaker 2: when you're on your deathbed, You're not gonna say, man,
Speaker 2: I wish I would have worked more. You're never gonna
Speaker 2: say that. You're gonna say I wish I would have
Speaker 2: loved more. I would have laughed more. I would have
Speaker 2: traveled more. I would have taken my time as what
Speaker 2: it actually is, a gift, And so yes, it changed.
Speaker 2: It reprioritized my entire life, and it forced me to
Speaker 2: put the people I wanted to spend time with first
Speaker 2: and foremost, and for that I am grateful. It was
Speaker 2: a gift. It still continues to be a gift, and
Speaker 2: it guides me every day.
Speaker 3: And and Christa asks, how are your relationship with each
Speaker 3: other's kids.
Speaker 2: Evolving? Is what I would say. And we had relationships
Speaker 2: with each other's kids when we were just friends. And
Speaker 2: so as tough as it's been for so many people
Speaker 2: in our lives, it's the most difficult for them because
Speaker 2: now they're having to look at us in a different
Speaker 2: way with one another, and we are. We have been
Speaker 2: very thoughtful, and we've taken things very slowly and we're
Speaker 2: being very patient. But things are good. They're peaceful and
Speaker 2: we want to continue to build on that.
Speaker 1: And again, my little one here, Sabine is ten years old.
Speaker 1: She's known Robot since she was one. Yeah, literally since
Speaker 1: she was one, and now she's knowing roboc in a
Speaker 1: different way, in a different role. But it's been the greatest.
Speaker 1: And again they are Sabine again. All that's Sabine always, guys,
Speaker 1: She's ten years old and always are just open. Roboq
Speaker 1: is here, We're hanging in. Do you want to do this?
Speaker 2: Hey?
Speaker 1: Robot is da da da. And lately the past few
Speaker 1: months she is volunteered. She's like, oh, Robot is there?
Speaker 1: Can I come by? Oh? You and Robot are doing
Speaker 1: what can I get a piece of that? Oh? Y'all
Speaker 1: going to see a horror movie? I'm in like voluntarily,
Speaker 1: Like this is her having a desire to do these things.
Speaker 1: And I have never ever, she has never hung out
Speaker 1: with us without absolutely giving the okay or in most
Speaker 1: cases now requesting. Now it's like, really we owe some
Speaker 1: private time. I'm kidding.
Speaker 4: Like last night she popped in. It was so fun.
Speaker 1: God, she popped in last night and we just ended up.
Speaker 2: On she was reading our horoscopes and we were just
Speaker 2: cutting up.
Speaker 4: So she's so.
Speaker 1: Yeah, Sabin is absolutely great and she is doing is
Speaker 1: I'm so proud to see her these days and how
Speaker 1: she's doing, and how she's mature and how she handles
Speaker 1: so many things. But she is. Uh, it's really really
Speaker 1: been I think you would agree. One of the most
Speaker 1: touching things here recently is to see how she's doing
Speaker 1: and how she wants to be a part and included
Speaker 1: and enjoys the time with us. So she's great.
Speaker 3: And Anna asks, if you could give yourself advice or
Speaker 3: tell yourself something from one year ago, what would it be?
Speaker 1: Watch out for that Roebuck. No, that is all I
Speaker 1: get this question every once in a while over the years.
Speaker 1: It's hard. I always would say that it is so
Speaker 1: difficult to think that I would give myself advice going
Speaker 1: back to something, because that would exchange, that would change
Speaker 1: the experience of my life. And there were so many
Speaker 1: things I needed to figure out I needed to learn
Speaker 1: on my own. I didn't need a warning necessarily about
Speaker 1: I had to actually go through it to get to
Speaker 1: where I am. So I'm as I sit here still
Speaker 1: in all those things, we say, oh, maybe we should
Speaker 1: have done this, Maybe we should have done that. It
Speaker 1: is so hard to sit here, happy and healthy and
Speaker 1: think I wish something in my life would have been different,
Speaker 1: like you never ever and I am sorry for it.
Speaker 1: That There's no time in my life that I ever
Speaker 1: wanted to do harm to somebody, that I wanted to
Speaker 1: hurt somebody, but I have, and I've hurt people who
Speaker 1: I love, who are family members, And I have said
Speaker 1: plenty of I'm sorries in life, and I think everybody
Speaker 1: has that experience. But short of that, you just have
Speaker 1: to go through it. And I don't want to warn
Speaker 1: seventeen year old TJ not to do this, because then
Speaker 1: he might have been a little too cautious and might
Speaker 1: not have done this, and might just it's hard to
Speaker 1: say that I would tell myself a heads up or
Speaker 1: a warning or anything like that.
Speaker 2: Humility is hard earned. Oftentimes it's through the tough times
Speaker 2: that you learn that, and it's an important lesson, probably
Speaker 2: one of the most important lessons you learn in life.
Speaker 2: But I think if I had to say anything to
Speaker 2: myself a year ago, I just would have said to
Speaker 2: I would have reminded myself there's more love than hate,
Speaker 2: there's more support than discord, and there were times when
Speaker 2: you saw the headlines or you felt this I like
Speaker 2: to call it the vocal minority, and you start to
Speaker 2: feel the pressure that everyone is thinking this, everyone is
Speaker 2: saying these things, and I just would have wanted to
Speaker 2: remind myself there is more love than hate, there is
Speaker 2: more support than not. There were moments when I didn't
Speaker 2: believe that, and I know that's true now. I would
Speaker 2: have liked to have reminded myself that.
Speaker 3: A year later, Bianca asks, what are your next professional goals?
Speaker 3: And do you have any New Year's resolutions?
Speaker 1: No, on the resolutions, I'm not a fan of those,
Speaker 1: so I'd never make them. Because if I want to
Speaker 1: do something different and want to change life, let's do
Speaker 1: it on December fifteenth. Why don't I need to wait?
Speaker 1: That's just my mindset of it. We have this arbitrary
Speaker 1: day like, oh, now I'm going to make changes, and
Speaker 1: I just I have never been a fan. I don't
Speaker 1: knock anybody else else for that, but absolutely don't have
Speaker 1: any resolutions. As far as what was it professional professional goals?
Speaker 1: Professional goals to have not just a hit but an
Speaker 1: all time hit podcast? How about that? Andy? That is
Speaker 1: what the goal is at this point. This is a
Speaker 1: new venture or new medium, and we are loving it.
Speaker 1: And so this is where we start now. Television is
Speaker 1: what we know and what we do what we used to.
Speaker 1: But it would be very hard to go back, especially
Speaker 1: from this now from a podcast and go into a
Speaker 1: more scripted scenario, to go into something. Well, you can
Speaker 1: do this, but you can't do this. You could say this,
Speaker 1: but you can't say that. You could say this much,
Speaker 1: but you can't say that. It'd be hard to do.
Speaker 1: So right now, I'm loving what we are.
Speaker 2: Yeah, my professional goal is to continue to be able well,
Speaker 2: to be able to pay my bills broadcasting with the
Speaker 2: person I have the most fun with professionally, which is you,
Speaker 2: by the way, And yeah, to pay my bills. I
Speaker 2: want to be able to do this for a living
Speaker 2: and not have to worry about anything else and that
Speaker 2: so that would be having a hit podcast.
Speaker 4: So I guess we're on the same page. That's a
Speaker 4: good thing, are we though?
Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, it was your professional goal not to go broke.
Speaker 2: I think that's an honest goal, right, but to do
Speaker 2: it with a person who I love doing it with.
Speaker 2: I think that was also during all of this time
Speaker 2: this year where we didn't have a job. We were
Speaker 2: together NonStop, but we actually still study to each other.
Speaker 2: I miss working with you. I miss that we sparred
Speaker 2: a lot, but just just the challenge.
Speaker 4: Just the verbal sparring.
Speaker 2: We had fun with that. Yeah, I missed some of
Speaker 2: that banter. I missed being getting prepared for things and
Speaker 2: going places and covering amazing world events with you, all
Speaker 2: of that. So anyway, I hope that we can try
Speaker 2: to do more of that together. I wouldn't have nearly
Speaker 2: as much fun or feel nearly as much satisfaction doing
Speaker 2: something alone. I think once I've realized how fun it
Speaker 2: is to have that dynamic and that chemistry, I don't
Speaker 2: really want to do anything on my aunuman. I will
Speaker 2: if I have to, but that's my goal to stay
Speaker 2: with him and to pay my bills. Yeah, and in
Speaker 2: terms of Newer's resolutions, sometimes I make them. I haven't
Speaker 2: thought of what mine is for this year. I think
Speaker 2: it's just continuing to to be a better person. I
Speaker 2: think for me it's more internal.
Speaker 1: I just want to can you start that today? I mean,
Speaker 1: why do you have to wait January one?
Speaker 2: It's just maybe like a it's just like a mark
Speaker 2: in the calendar just like a reset basically, so you
Speaker 2: can be.
Speaker 1: A jerk from now until the end of the year.
Speaker 1: But January one, No.
Speaker 2: It's just a reminder that you know. I think you
Speaker 2: said this actually in the last podcast, and I've tried
Speaker 2: to live this for the last several years. But zero judgment.
Speaker 2: I don't want to sit on any throne and cast
Speaker 2: judgment on how anyone else lives their lives. And I've
Speaker 2: been doing that, but I sometimes I think it's just
Speaker 2: nice to have a reminder January one, this is who
Speaker 2: I am, This is who I'm going to be, This
Speaker 2: is how I'm going to live.
Speaker 1: Wait cast judguently anybody else is what do you want to.
Speaker 2: Gossip and talk crap about people?
Speaker 4: All that is. It's such an easy.
Speaker 2: Reflex because it makes you feel better about whatever you've done.
Speaker 2: I think when you make a decision, I'm not going
Speaker 2: to partake or do that anymore. And I'm definitely there,
Speaker 2: and I will remind myself on January one this is
Speaker 2: who I am and how I'm gonna live. But I'm
Speaker 2: doing it now.
Speaker 1: I'm gonna remind you tomorrow.
Speaker 3: Okay, all right, Debbie asks, would you guys get a
Speaker 3: tattoo for each other.
Speaker 1: How do you know we haven't already, Debbie. We'll leave
Speaker 1: it at that. Got a tattoo. That's more of a
Speaker 1: commitment than a marriage. Should we just tell everybody we
Speaker 1: got tattoos, we're married, and we live together.
Speaker 2: Those are his New Year's resolutions. Actually, he didn't want
Speaker 2: to say it. But back to the last question.
Speaker 1: All right.
Speaker 3: The last question comes from Grace. She asks, did you
Speaker 3: guys have any reservations about working together again?
Speaker 2: No? None, whatsoever.
Speaker 1: No, it was the goal, right, It was actually the goal.
Speaker 1: And we even formed partnerships together where our agency together,
Speaker 1: and part of it was to to make sure they
Speaker 1: were looking for opportunities for the two of us. Look,
Speaker 1: there will be some individual opportunities as well, but this
Speaker 1: is great. We do love working together and.
Speaker 2: Hopefully we can do it for a long long time.
Speaker 1: Okay, that's an inside joke. But oh my god, I
Speaker 1: got I got it from a I think I got
Speaker 1: it from a Family Guy episode. But I say this
Speaker 1: to her all the time. Chris Griffin said, if anybody
Speaker 1: watch this Family Guy he had he was dating this
Speaker 1: girl and she was out of his league, and she
Speaker 1: thought he was just being kind of a jerk and
Speaker 1: wanted to be with her because she was popular, and
Speaker 1: he said some line about no, I don't think any
Speaker 1: of that stuff. I think you're nice. I enjoyed time
Speaker 1: with you. I think you're really pretty. I hope we
Speaker 1: get to be together for a long long time. So
Speaker 1: I say this to her all the time about our relationship.
Speaker 1: That's so just to let you in on why we will.
Speaker 2: He says that to me at least once a week.
Speaker 2: I hope we get to be together for.
Speaker 4: A long long time. I thought it was the perfect
Speaker 4: way to answer that question.
Speaker 1: Fantastic, all right is that? Thank you? Thank you for
Speaker 1: that grace.
Speaker 2: So tej I think you have your New Year's resolution.
Speaker 1: Now for yes therapy for us.
Speaker 2: I thought you were going to say to keep working
Speaker 2: with me on this podcast.
Speaker 1: Well, contractually, I don't have it. I don't have a
Speaker 1: choice there who it was making the argument that we
Speaker 1: working together is actually a stronger commitment than actually getting married.
Speaker 2: I think that's true.
Speaker 1: Yeah, so yes, I will be here with you onward.
Speaker 2: I do.
Speaker 1: But you said that enough, Okay, we're out of here.
Speaker 1: We see y. Also, bye bye. Pots.
Speaker 3: The two things