1 00:00:00,200 --> 00:00:03,240 Speaker 1: Buggalu hold on tight. We gotta call you here. It 2 00:00:03,279 --> 00:00:08,880 Speaker 1: is jaw Berryletta. I know subject kind of MANAGETI save 3 00:00:09,039 --> 00:00:14,960 Speaker 1: my marriage, Dear Stephen Shirley. I've known my husband for 4 00:00:15,040 --> 00:00:18,079 Speaker 1: twenty years and we've been married for three years. He 5 00:00:18,239 --> 00:00:21,919 Speaker 1: cheated on me multiple times with multiple women, but I'm 6 00:00:22,000 --> 00:00:25,799 Speaker 1: standing by my wedding vows. I always prayed that the 7 00:00:25,880 --> 00:00:29,520 Speaker 1: Good Lord would see us through his infidelity, and now 8 00:00:29,560 --> 00:00:33,120 Speaker 1: we're rebuilding our marriage. Not many women would be as 9 00:00:33,120 --> 00:00:36,440 Speaker 1: forgiving as I am. Having said all of that, I 10 00:00:36,560 --> 00:00:38,960 Speaker 1: still have plenty of good sense, and I've reached my 11 00:00:39,120 --> 00:00:43,080 Speaker 1: limit on foolishness, So you can only imagine how I 12 00:00:43,200 --> 00:00:47,760 Speaker 1: felt recently when my husband asked me for a threesome. Yes, 13 00:00:47,880 --> 00:00:50,800 Speaker 1: he asked me more than once to have another woman 14 00:00:51,159 --> 00:00:53,800 Speaker 1: join us in the bedroom. He said that it will 15 00:00:53,960 --> 00:00:57,360 Speaker 1: keep him from fantasizing about other women and having the 16 00:00:57,560 --> 00:01:00,920 Speaker 1: urge to cheat. I told him he needs professional help 17 00:01:01,160 --> 00:01:04,080 Speaker 1: and a better relationship with the Lord. He told me 18 00:01:04,160 --> 00:01:06,319 Speaker 1: that I need to obey him like I obey the 19 00:01:06,360 --> 00:01:09,880 Speaker 1: Lord and give him what he wants. Like I said, 20 00:01:10,120 --> 00:01:12,600 Speaker 1: I stand by my vows, and I do submit and 21 00:01:12,640 --> 00:01:16,320 Speaker 1: obey my husband to an extent, but this time he 22 00:01:16,520 --> 00:01:20,600 Speaker 1: has gone too far. The God that I serve would 23 00:01:20,600 --> 00:01:23,480 Speaker 1: not condone this. I don't want to lose my marriage, 24 00:01:23,520 --> 00:01:26,000 Speaker 1: but this man may need more than I can give him. 25 00:01:26,280 --> 00:01:30,240 Speaker 1: Please help me figure this one out. Wow, And as 26 00:01:30,280 --> 00:01:34,600 Speaker 1: we mentioned earlier, Steve will not be responding. Tommy will Jesus, 27 00:01:36,200 --> 00:01:41,040 Speaker 1: You're gonna have to I can, okay? All right, all right? 28 00:01:41,040 --> 00:01:43,000 Speaker 1: Well you know what you ask for us to Please 29 00:01:43,040 --> 00:01:45,800 Speaker 1: help you figure this one out. I think you know, 30 00:01:46,000 --> 00:01:49,360 Speaker 1: in your heart of hearts you already have this figured out. 31 00:01:49,840 --> 00:01:52,480 Speaker 1: You know what the deal is. You just want Steve 32 00:01:52,520 --> 00:01:55,440 Speaker 1: and I to confirm it for you. I mean, you 33 00:01:55,560 --> 00:01:58,920 Speaker 1: have to ask yourself wedding vows aside for a second, 34 00:01:59,200 --> 00:02:03,880 Speaker 1: why are you still taking this cheating and these ridiculous 35 00:02:03,880 --> 00:02:06,960 Speaker 1: requests from your husband? I mean, why are you still 36 00:02:06,960 --> 00:02:10,239 Speaker 1: standing in all of this? Your husband is disrespectful, he's 37 00:02:10,280 --> 00:02:14,400 Speaker 1: selfish and has obviously no regard for you, your marriage 38 00:02:14,520 --> 00:02:17,640 Speaker 1: or your marriage vows. Just because you've known him for 39 00:02:17,639 --> 00:02:20,160 Speaker 1: twenty years and have been hanging in there, it doesn't 40 00:02:20,160 --> 00:02:22,760 Speaker 1: mean you can't put his trifling but in his place. 41 00:02:23,080 --> 00:02:25,360 Speaker 1: Let him know how you really really feel, just like 42 00:02:25,400 --> 00:02:27,959 Speaker 1: you told us in the letter. I mean, you're right, 43 00:02:28,080 --> 00:02:30,400 Speaker 1: not many women would be as forgiving as you are. 44 00:02:31,200 --> 00:02:34,720 Speaker 1: So many women are, though, But I you know, this 45 00:02:34,800 --> 00:02:36,800 Speaker 1: is a lot. Twenty years, he's been cheating on you 46 00:02:37,000 --> 00:02:42,240 Speaker 1: with multiple women, and you're still there. I mean, I 47 00:02:42,320 --> 00:02:45,600 Speaker 1: just don't know how much more you think you can take. 48 00:02:45,800 --> 00:02:48,440 Speaker 1: I mean, or are you willing to take? Why are 49 00:02:48,440 --> 00:02:51,120 Speaker 1: you willing to take this? You don't have to. You 50 00:02:51,120 --> 00:02:53,320 Speaker 1: don't have to. There is nothing in the marriage vows 51 00:02:53,320 --> 00:02:55,920 Speaker 1: that say you have to stay here if he's cheating 52 00:02:55,960 --> 00:02:59,440 Speaker 1: on you like this. This is ridiculous, you know. Like 53 00:02:59,480 --> 00:03:01,560 Speaker 1: I said, I think you figured this out on your own. 54 00:03:01,600 --> 00:03:03,359 Speaker 1: You know what to do. You just want Steve and 55 00:03:03,400 --> 00:03:05,919 Speaker 1: I to confirm it. If he continues to do this, 56 00:03:06,360 --> 00:03:08,359 Speaker 1: you gotta get out of this. I think you made 57 00:03:08,360 --> 00:03:11,680 Speaker 1: a good suggestion. He does need professional help and a 58 00:03:11,720 --> 00:03:17,440 Speaker 1: better relationship with the Lord. Having said that, Tommy, you're up. 59 00:03:17,639 --> 00:03:22,160 Speaker 1: Glad you finished with the Lord. Obey me lord like 60 00:03:22,280 --> 00:03:26,960 Speaker 1: you obey the Lord, obey me the same way. What 61 00:03:27,120 --> 00:03:31,080 Speaker 1: do the vials say? What do they say, Anna and obey? 62 00:03:31,160 --> 00:03:33,960 Speaker 1: Don't they say that? Yeah? Huh? A lot of women 63 00:03:34,000 --> 00:03:37,000 Speaker 1: don't keep those in there, though, but they so you 64 00:03:37,000 --> 00:03:38,640 Speaker 1: can't just take out what you want. So let me 65 00:03:38,680 --> 00:03:42,640 Speaker 1: say this to you. Get some old people in this room. 66 00:03:42,880 --> 00:03:45,640 Speaker 1: I didn't ask for it, and ask for it, na, 67 00:03:46,040 --> 00:03:48,480 Speaker 1: I quit flirting with other women. If you do what, 68 00:03:48,960 --> 00:03:53,200 Speaker 1: get some old paper in this room. I'm I apologize 69 00:03:53,240 --> 00:03:56,839 Speaker 1: for the twenty years of disrespecting you in cheating. I'm 70 00:03:56,960 --> 00:03:59,440 Speaker 1: asking you not wow, so I don't have to cheat 71 00:03:59,480 --> 00:04:01,800 Speaker 1: on you. We do this together. You want to do 72 00:04:01,840 --> 00:04:05,640 Speaker 1: stuff together, Let's do stuff together. Get some mob people 73 00:04:06,080 --> 00:04:09,560 Speaker 1: in this room. That's what I want. I'm asking you 74 00:04:09,640 --> 00:04:13,760 Speaker 1: to your face for a manage twice whatever they called it, trio. 75 00:04:14,000 --> 00:04:16,920 Speaker 1: It's what I want. It's one of the threesome. Yes, 76 00:04:17,360 --> 00:04:20,320 Speaker 1: asking you for Oh I hope she listening this morning. 77 00:04:20,360 --> 00:04:24,039 Speaker 1: Another thing. The cheat ain't stops as soon as you 78 00:04:24,200 --> 00:04:27,120 Speaker 1: get somebody in this room. We could do it together. 79 00:04:27,360 --> 00:04:29,120 Speaker 1: So it's okay to cheat as long as you're in 80 00:04:29,160 --> 00:04:33,880 Speaker 1: the bed together. This is fun. This is this is 81 00:04:34,360 --> 00:04:37,720 Speaker 1: this is answer. Yeah, yeah, what kind of you want? 82 00:04:38,680 --> 00:04:41,280 Speaker 1: What you want me to say to him? Oh? He wronged. 83 00:04:41,520 --> 00:04:44,200 Speaker 1: He shouldn't be asking you. He's down the question. Steve 84 00:04:44,360 --> 00:04:47,520 Speaker 1: is wrong for letting you do this. No, this is 85 00:04:47,520 --> 00:04:49,640 Speaker 1: a beautiful thing. We got to get it all out 86 00:04:49,680 --> 00:04:52,520 Speaker 1: in the open. You understand that that's how naked gets 87 00:04:52,560 --> 00:04:55,479 Speaker 1: better when you get it out in the open. You 88 00:04:55,520 --> 00:04:58,039 Speaker 1: ain't felt naked till you out there, comfortable with yourself 89 00:04:58,160 --> 00:05:01,200 Speaker 1: and see out there with you get together, and we're 90 00:05:01,200 --> 00:05:05,279 Speaker 1: inviting friends over. Come on over to the High. You understand, 91 00:05:05,760 --> 00:05:08,840 Speaker 1: Come on to High. We're gonna have food, We're gonna 92 00:05:08,839 --> 00:05:12,080 Speaker 1: have all drinks. We're gonna be naked, y'all. U's gonna 93 00:05:12,080 --> 00:05:15,480 Speaker 1: be in there together having what button naked fun? I've 94 00:05:15,520 --> 00:05:18,000 Speaker 1: never been button naked, not having fun? Tell me that. 95 00:05:18,960 --> 00:05:20,760 Speaker 1: But if but she don't know what if she don't 96 00:05:20,800 --> 00:05:23,480 Speaker 1: try it? If she wants this to work. She loved 97 00:05:23,480 --> 00:05:26,920 Speaker 1: a man, she don't want to leave to your body. 98 00:05:26,960 --> 00:05:29,600 Speaker 1: What did she say? I'm standing by my wedding bows. Yes, 99 00:05:29,680 --> 00:05:32,800 Speaker 1: you are standing by your man, baby, standing by your 100 00:05:32,800 --> 00:05:40,720 Speaker 1: man naked along with other people naked do it together? Naked? Wow? Okay, Well, 101 00:05:41,040 --> 00:05:44,960 Speaker 1: don't let naked fool you. What do you mean? Naked? 102 00:05:45,240 --> 00:05:49,680 Speaker 1: Is what n I'm trying to say something profile naked. Yeah, 103 00:05:49,720 --> 00:05:52,599 Speaker 1: we'll be back hopefully, see if you can help. Yeah, 104 00:05:52,680 --> 00:05:55,400 Speaker 1: I'll be talking on the next half of this with me. 105 00:05:57,480 --> 00:06:00,960 Speaker 1: Of this strawberry letter, the subjects count of anice save 106 00:06:01,120 --> 00:06:05,720 Speaker 1: my marriage please. First of all, it's a ridiculous statement 107 00:06:05,839 --> 00:06:09,200 Speaker 1: for this woman to make. She's been with this husband 108 00:06:09,279 --> 00:06:11,680 Speaker 1: for twenty years. They've been married three He's cheated on 109 00:06:11,800 --> 00:06:16,000 Speaker 1: her multiple times with multiple women. You are she's standing 110 00:06:16,080 --> 00:06:18,960 Speaker 1: by her wedding vows. She's prayed that the Good Lord 111 00:06:19,000 --> 00:06:23,400 Speaker 1: would see us through this infidelity. Now they're rebuilding their marriage, 112 00:06:23,720 --> 00:06:26,200 Speaker 1: and she realizes that not many women would be as 113 00:06:26,279 --> 00:06:31,160 Speaker 1: forgiven as I am. Having said that, and she still 114 00:06:31,240 --> 00:06:35,080 Speaker 1: got plenty good sense, she has reached her limit of foolishness, 115 00:06:35,839 --> 00:06:39,839 Speaker 1: so can only imagine how we felt when he recently 116 00:06:41,720 --> 00:06:46,800 Speaker 1: asked her for a threesome. He asked this lady more 117 00:06:46,880 --> 00:06:51,480 Speaker 1: than once to have another woman join us in the bedroom. 118 00:06:51,880 --> 00:06:55,080 Speaker 1: He said it will keep him from fantasizing about other 119 00:06:55,160 --> 00:06:59,080 Speaker 1: women and having the urge to cheat. She told him 120 00:06:59,120 --> 00:07:02,279 Speaker 1: he needs professional help and a better relationship with the Lord. 121 00:07:02,960 --> 00:07:06,120 Speaker 1: He told her that I need to obey him like 122 00:07:06,279 --> 00:07:10,400 Speaker 1: I obey the Lord and give him what he wants. Well, 123 00:07:10,600 --> 00:07:13,000 Speaker 1: the lady then said, I stand by my vials, and 124 00:07:13,120 --> 00:07:15,680 Speaker 1: I do submit and obey my husband to an extent, 125 00:07:16,160 --> 00:07:19,160 Speaker 1: But this time he's gone too far. God, I serve 126 00:07:19,240 --> 00:07:22,840 Speaker 1: would not condone this. I don't want to lose my marriage. 127 00:07:22,920 --> 00:07:26,600 Speaker 1: That's a key line here. But this man may need 128 00:07:26,720 --> 00:07:29,280 Speaker 1: more than I can give him. Please help me figure 129 00:07:29,320 --> 00:07:32,080 Speaker 1: this out. It's nothing to figure this out. Listen to me. 130 00:07:32,400 --> 00:07:35,280 Speaker 1: First of all, you're the only one honoring the vials 131 00:07:35,400 --> 00:07:39,160 Speaker 1: in this relationship. You're the only one. He has never 132 00:07:40,880 --> 00:07:43,600 Speaker 1: honored the vials and he's not willing to honor him. Now, 133 00:07:45,120 --> 00:07:48,600 Speaker 1: you don't really have a real marriage. You have something, 134 00:07:49,040 --> 00:07:52,480 Speaker 1: but he's not married to you. You're just married to him. 135 00:07:54,520 --> 00:07:57,120 Speaker 1: Not a cold part about this, dude, is he didn't 136 00:07:57,120 --> 00:08:01,000 Speaker 1: ask you to have a threesol And the reason he 137 00:08:01,200 --> 00:08:04,520 Speaker 1: told you that because it would keep him from fantasizing 138 00:08:04,560 --> 00:08:09,200 Speaker 1: about other women and having the urge to cheat. What 139 00:08:10,240 --> 00:08:12,920 Speaker 1: so you think if you bring another woman in the bedroom, 140 00:08:13,000 --> 00:08:16,520 Speaker 1: it'll stop you from fantasizing about him, and it'll cause 141 00:08:16,640 --> 00:08:20,239 Speaker 1: you not to want to cheat when the whole time 142 00:08:20,440 --> 00:08:24,040 Speaker 1: you in that living out of fantasy and cheating and 143 00:08:24,240 --> 00:08:33,960 Speaker 1: your wife watching. Boy Bye, I mean, for real, are 144 00:08:34,040 --> 00:08:39,880 Speaker 1: you serious, lady? You're not that stupid. You can't be right. 145 00:08:40,720 --> 00:08:42,920 Speaker 1: Here's the problem with the bringing the woman into the 146 00:08:43,040 --> 00:08:48,079 Speaker 1: marriage that's already in trouble. I'm listening. How do you 147 00:08:48,200 --> 00:08:53,679 Speaker 1: fix what's wrong with another wrong? He's not trying to 148 00:08:53,800 --> 00:08:57,320 Speaker 1: fix his marriage. He's trying to get all his urges 149 00:08:57,360 --> 00:09:02,440 Speaker 1: in fantasies, ful Field, and they don't include you. They 150 00:09:02,559 --> 00:09:06,920 Speaker 1: include other women. I can't believe you entertaining this. I 151 00:09:07,320 --> 00:09:09,640 Speaker 1: can't believe you're still married to Why are you married 152 00:09:09,679 --> 00:09:13,800 Speaker 1: to him? It's only be y'all only got twenty years invested. 153 00:09:14,520 --> 00:09:18,120 Speaker 1: My question is why don't you leave so you can 154 00:09:18,200 --> 00:09:22,800 Speaker 1: stop this misery you in and do you want twenty 155 00:09:22,960 --> 00:09:25,599 Speaker 1: more years of this? Because that's all he trying to do. 156 00:09:27,520 --> 00:09:30,599 Speaker 1: He needs to be married to a stripple. Yeah, he 157 00:09:31,000 --> 00:09:32,360 Speaker 1: go down there and just get one of them girls 158 00:09:32,400 --> 00:09:35,880 Speaker 1: down off the pole that he don't mind doing this with. 159 00:09:36,120 --> 00:09:39,679 Speaker 1: And then that look, man, that work with you, right, 160 00:09:40,559 --> 00:09:43,400 Speaker 1: they will work with you. This is so sad yea, 161 00:09:44,440 --> 00:09:47,240 Speaker 1: and I want to apologize for my damn nephews. Thank you, 162 00:09:48,600 --> 00:09:52,719 Speaker 1: I'm so sorry. But meanwhile, around this country, I'm just 163 00:09:52,880 --> 00:09:55,840 Speaker 1: telling me, they're blowing their horn up on this with him, 164 00:09:55,960 --> 00:09:58,199 Speaker 1: can't you. Now? A lot of them can't say it 165 00:09:58,240 --> 00:09:59,520 Speaker 1: at the house, but a bunch of them in their 166 00:09:59,559 --> 00:10:02,560 Speaker 1: car right now. You know what they're doing. Why are 167 00:10:02,600 --> 00:10:05,920 Speaker 1: they blowing their horn? They blowing the horn because I said, 168 00:10:06,440 --> 00:10:08,760 Speaker 1: if you are a brother, that's a man that's riding 169 00:10:08,760 --> 00:10:11,120 Speaker 1: around right now, you would like to have a threesome 170 00:10:11,160 --> 00:10:14,960 Speaker 1: at the high ninety, blow your horn, That's all I said. 171 00:10:15,720 --> 00:10:20,160 Speaker 1: And they are blowing, and that's so crazy. Get your life, 172 00:10:20,240 --> 00:10:26,240 Speaker 1: get some Lord in your life. All right, we'll see. 173 00:10:26,280 --> 00:10:29,480 Speaker 1: We gotta get out of here. Um, you can email 174 00:10:29,559 --> 00:10:34,160 Speaker 1: us or instagram your thoughts on today's Strawberry Letter. Two minutes. Okay, good, 175 00:10:34,400 --> 00:10:37,720 Speaker 1: I didn't know. All right, Well, you can say more, 176 00:10:37,840 --> 00:10:43,240 Speaker 1: Steve if you want. No. Okay, So so let me 177 00:10:43,320 --> 00:10:46,559 Speaker 1: just ask you. So this man, the man, you ain't 178 00:10:46,600 --> 00:10:49,839 Speaker 1: never had that thought in you before marriage, Before marriage, 179 00:10:49,840 --> 00:10:53,199 Speaker 1: you ain't never had that. Yeah, he's told us his experience, 180 00:10:53,280 --> 00:10:57,800 Speaker 1: though Tommy, he didn't know what he was doing. Work 181 00:10:57,840 --> 00:11:02,959 Speaker 1: out for the most confusing thing happens most of the 182 00:11:03,000 --> 00:11:05,880 Speaker 1: damn confusing things. I didn't know how to do it. 183 00:11:05,960 --> 00:11:08,760 Speaker 1: I needed some instruction. I need a manual. When I 184 00:11:08,920 --> 00:11:12,480 Speaker 1: was in there, I didn't know we've been tissing for 185 00:11:12,600 --> 00:11:15,839 Speaker 1: five seconds. I'm gonna kiss helf of five. I was 186 00:11:15,960 --> 00:11:18,319 Speaker 1: back and forth. I was. I was so tired of 187 00:11:18,400 --> 00:11:23,800 Speaker 1: turning over in that bed, exhausted, funniest stories ever too, 188 00:11:24,080 --> 00:11:26,360 Speaker 1: slipping from side to side. I was up there. It 189 00:11:26,559 --> 00:11:29,679 Speaker 1: was exhausted, ain't. I didn't even like one of them 190 00:11:31,320 --> 00:11:34,599 Speaker 1: with the other one tapping me, uncle hold up. But 191 00:11:35,360 --> 00:11:38,679 Speaker 1: let me ask you this hold up before? Did you 192 00:11:38,800 --> 00:11:42,000 Speaker 1: think this was like the greatest thing? Oh you could, dog? 193 00:11:42,320 --> 00:11:49,839 Speaker 1: I thought this was it, the pinnacle you had reached. 194 00:11:51,000 --> 00:11:57,800 Speaker 1: You got there, Oh lord man. Yeah, myself even I 195 00:11:57,920 --> 00:12:01,599 Speaker 1: couldn't do it, just that one. I thought it was 196 00:12:02,240 --> 00:12:04,720 Speaker 1: all right. Steve, we gotta go. 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