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Speaker 4: Thank you, nephew. Subject.

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Speaker 1: I'm tired of yelling at my husband. Dear Stephen Shirley.

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Speaker 1: I'm married to a big baby that acts like he

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Speaker 1: can't do anything without me. I even went on his

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Speaker 1: last job interview and sat in the lobby for moral support.

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Speaker 1: I never liked a whimpy man, and he hasn't always

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Speaker 1: been like this. He lost his confidence when he started

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Speaker 1: having problems with the rectile dysfunction. It took away his

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Speaker 1: swagger and ruined our sex life. I adjusted and never

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Speaker 1: blamed him or made jokes about it. He used to

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Speaker 1: drink a lot, and that's why he couldn't have sex

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Speaker 1: with me. Over time, it became the norm. So now

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Speaker 1: that we're not having sex, I tend to treat him

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Speaker 1: like he's just a roommate. He ordered dinner for us

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Speaker 1: last week and he left without my order in the bag.

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Speaker 1: I had to yell at him to go back to

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Speaker 1: get my food. He put gas in my car, and

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Speaker 1: he left my gas cap at the service station.

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Speaker 4: A week later, I.

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Speaker 1: Noticed I had no gas cap when I went to

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Speaker 1: put more gas in my car. He says, I overreact

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Speaker 1: to simple things, but this is big. We were at

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Speaker 1: our son's school for classroom check in and he was

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Speaker 1: over to the side telling one of the other moms

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Speaker 1: that our son is still wetting the bed because he's

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Speaker 1: really anxious about something. I let him have it when

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Speaker 1: we got in the car. He will never talk to

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Speaker 1: strangers again about our son if I have anything to

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Speaker 1: do with it. I'm so tired of yelling at him,

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Speaker 1: but he just won't do right. I almost want him

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Speaker 1: to start back drinking, because he's a lot more manly

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Speaker 1: when he's had a few dirty martinis. By the way,

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Speaker 1: he didn't get the job even after all of the

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Speaker 1: coaching I gave him. I think I will be better

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Speaker 1: off raising my son by myself. Will that help my

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Speaker 1: husband be more responsible? Well, this is what I have

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Speaker 1: to say to this. You guys have a real problem here,

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Speaker 1: and I don't know why you aren't taking this more

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Speaker 1: seriously because your marriage is in trouble. Your husband needs help,

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Speaker 1: and there is help out there for his ed get

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Speaker 1: him a doctor's appointment, you can go with him like

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Speaker 1: you did for the job interview.

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Speaker 4: And you're right.

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Speaker 1: He shouldn't be talking to strangers about your son's business.

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Speaker 1: And you're yelling needs to stop too, because you should

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Speaker 1: be tired of that. It's not helping. You're reacting to

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Speaker 1: his mistakes out of frustration. But if you two don't

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Speaker 1: take this the time to get real serious about this

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Speaker 1: and try to fix these problems, yes, I will be.

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Speaker 4: You will be.

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Speaker 1: I believe you will be raising your son by yourself,

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Speaker 1: like you say, because you already have one foot out

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Speaker 1: of the door because of all this.

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Speaker 5: Steve, can I ask you a couple of questions, Shirley. Yeah,

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Speaker 5: you said that he has this problem and there's something

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Speaker 5: he can do about this erectile dysfunction. What what do

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Speaker 5: you think that is?

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Speaker 4: You can go to the dot. I mean I see

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Speaker 4: commercials about it all the time.

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Speaker 1: Whatever you guys do to get it back right, take pills,

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Speaker 1: you know, whatever you have to do. Don't you aren't

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Speaker 1: there pills out there for that?

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Speaker 4: Aren't They aren't there pills out there for that?

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Speaker 5: They playing some t you. They got stuff you can

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Speaker 5: put under your tongue. They got you can chew. They

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Speaker 5: got nasal spray. Wow, I got a nasal spray out there.

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Speaker 5: Shoot two shots up in your nose. Ears be hot

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Speaker 5: at hell though.

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Speaker 4: Okay, they got the honey.

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Speaker 2: Well I heard about that. They got honey. They got

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Speaker 2: a honey. You take that honey off Thursday. Let me

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Speaker 2: tell you money. You got this tea? Yeah, they got

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Speaker 2: a tea? Doog? You could?

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Speaker 5: You could just like you know, if you go to dinner,

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Speaker 5: you just put it in a company bag like you

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Speaker 5: having a cup of tea.

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Speaker 2: You're just a teapad and lawd have mercy.

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Speaker 1: I can't even believe we're talking about this, but yeah,

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Speaker 1: you said you had another.

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Speaker 5: That's what the strawberry letter is about. So you sent

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Speaker 5: the man to the doctor. We can get his head

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Speaker 5: down to the gas station.

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Speaker 4: Let me you go to get it done.

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Speaker 5: Hey, listen to me. Stay out the gas stations because

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Speaker 5: I got a partner. It's some horror stories down at

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Speaker 5: the black Rhino, black head, all of it. See the

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Speaker 5: thing about the stuff at the gas station, fellas, that

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Speaker 5: you can get is not regulated like some of.

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Speaker 2: The proofs till you might work. Some of them might not.

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Speaker 2: Some of them had just straight gunpowder in it.

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Speaker 5: Take on their damn pills and your whole life change.

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Speaker 5: So be careful down there at them gas stations. Dog,

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Speaker 5: That's all I got to tell you. Oh and also

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Speaker 5: let me give you another tip on it. Mexico.

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Speaker 2: You can go down there.

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Speaker 5: You get the whole body of that stuff about twenty dollars.

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Speaker 5: I got a partner to go down there, right, I

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Speaker 5: got he right, I got a partner to go down

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Speaker 5: there and make runs.

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Speaker 4: You gotta make a run.

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Speaker 5: Yeah, he quit selling dope, Okay, to talk to.

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Speaker 2: Him, it was a better choice.

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Speaker 5: Plus, you know, they started legalizing weed, so that kind

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Speaker 5: of messed him up a little bit too.

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Speaker 2: So he said, man, I got a change.

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Speaker 5: Wow. Yeah, he found out by Seattles and Vaga down

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Speaker 5: there in Mexico. For twenty dollars he gone down there, dollar,

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Speaker 5: he said, who got about two thousand dollars?

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Speaker 1: Anyway, all right, you back to the litter.

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Speaker 5: That's the problem with me, and we never share information.

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Speaker 5: And the reason I wanted to take the first half

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Speaker 5: of my letter was to just debunk some of these

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Speaker 5: myths and stuff and help me in now half the

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Speaker 5: time and the money. Go see your doctor said, But

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Speaker 5: stay out the gas stations, all right. I tell you

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Speaker 5: right now, if you have a China Town in your neighborhood.

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Speaker 2: Go get your hands down there. All right.

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Speaker 1: We'll have part two Steve's response to the Strawberry Letter

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Speaker 1: three minutes after. Yeah, the subject is I'm tired of

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Speaker 1: yelling at my husband.

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Speaker 4: We'll get back into it right after this.

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Speaker 1: You're listening morning show, all right, Come on, Steve, let's

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Speaker 1: recap first today's Strawberry letter.

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Speaker 2: Well, we didn't recap.

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Speaker 5: We just went over the things that a man need

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Speaker 5: to do because this ed thing, he rectile dysfunction, is

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Speaker 5: sweeping the country and men are having problems earlier in life.

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Speaker 5: And I just wanted to help you. Stay out them

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Speaker 5: gas stations, buying black Aad and black Rhino, because you

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Speaker 5: can get yourself in trouble. There are some new capsules

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Speaker 5: out there, but to stay out them drugs, stay out

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Speaker 5: them gas stations, dog get your self some real help,

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Speaker 5: all right, anyway, now here's a problem. This woman is

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Speaker 5: tired of yelling at her husband and all his problems.

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Speaker 5: She says stem for when he starts suffering from ED

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Speaker 5: and then she thought that that made him feel less,

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Speaker 5: and so she's been yelling at him. Let me give

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Speaker 5: you an example. He lost his swagger. He used to

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Speaker 5: drink a lot, and he couldn't have sex with me.

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Speaker 5: Over time, it became the norm, so now we're not

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Speaker 5: having sex. I tend to treat him like he's just

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Speaker 5: a roommate. He ordered dinner for us last week. He

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Speaker 5: left my order in the bag and didn't have it

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Speaker 5: get my food. He put gas in my car, left

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Speaker 5: my gas cap at the service station. A week later.

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Speaker 5: I knowiced I ain't have no gas cap when I

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Speaker 5: went to put gas in my car. He said, I'm

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Speaker 5: overacting the same thing. I yelled at him again. Then

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Speaker 5: we was at our school classroom check in for our kids.

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Speaker 5: He was on the side telling He was on the

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Speaker 5: bed because he anxious about something. You got in the

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Speaker 5: car and cust him out again. I bet he'll never

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Speaker 5: talk to strangers again. I'm so tired of yelling at him,

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Speaker 5: but he just won't do right. I almost want to

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Speaker 5: start back to drinking because he's a lot more manly.

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Speaker 5: By the way, he didn't get the new job or

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Speaker 5: went to the job interview for him. And I think

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Speaker 5: after all this coaching I gave him now, I think

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Speaker 5: I'll be better off raising my son. Will that helped

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Speaker 5: my husband be more responsible? The title of the letter

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Speaker 5: is I'm tired of yelling at my husband. You know

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Speaker 5: why you yelling at him so much? Because he ain't

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Speaker 5: doing nothing to shut you up?

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Speaker 4: Oh okay, man, that's what problem is, all right.

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Speaker 5: See, I got something shut you up. All is here hollering.

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Speaker 5: I'm gonna let you redirect some of this hollow but

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Speaker 5: it ain't gonna be at me. It's gonna be cause

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Speaker 3: See, you got to redirect this dingle where my food

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Speaker 3: at having my gas captain quick talking about our son.

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Speaker 5: I see you the night, baby, yelling because.

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Speaker 2: You gonna quit yelling at me. I'm gonna make you

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Speaker 2: yell cause of me. You're going to the gas they.

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Speaker 5: Homeboy, you have got to get yourself some medical attention

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Speaker 5: and listen to me. Men out there, I don't care

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Speaker 5: how severe your case is. They have a solution, but

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Speaker 5: you have got to get to your urologists. Every man

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Speaker 5: at forty years old should get a urologist to help

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Speaker 5: you handle these changes.

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Speaker 4: Okay, now.

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Speaker 2: Listen to me. If you do want a couple suggestions.

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Speaker 4: Here we go.

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Speaker 2: I ain't doctor related.

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Speaker 5: Got to get down to Chinatown, that's all I could

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Speaker 5: tell you.

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Speaker 4: They got it.

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Speaker 5: You got to get one of them old men. Get

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Speaker 5: one of them old men down there in Chinatown. Pull

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Speaker 5: him to the side.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, what do you say to him?

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Speaker 5: I prefer one that don't speak good English because I

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Speaker 5: need a young dude to translate, because they know my

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Speaker 5: old people know a lot and once you explain it

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Speaker 5: to him, they understand.

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Speaker 2: And let me tell you something.

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Speaker 5: If he go in the back, if he go in

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Speaker 5: the back, come back out with something.

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Speaker 2: Take it.

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Speaker 5: Take it, he said, may show you at home when

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Speaker 5: you take it. Don't do it in because don't take

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Speaker 5: it in the car. If you stay more than fifteen

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Speaker 5: gonna tell your car, because is gonna be like driving

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Speaker 5: the car behind the tree. I'm telling you you have

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Speaker 5: got to be at the house when that little Chinese

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Speaker 5: right now, take it. It's either gonna be in a

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Speaker 5: tea bag or a powder They don't really do pills

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Speaker 5: more herb specialists, powder, tea bag, saff Yeah. Sometimes I'm

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Speaker 5: just trying to done.

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Speaker 4: I just don't know.

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Speaker 5: This is what men don't do, and men got to

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Speaker 5: start doing because women, y'all talk.

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Speaker 2: To each other. Girl, you have this problem, you know

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Speaker 2: what you'll do.

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Speaker 5: Men we get to pride. So I just took up

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Speaker 5: a whole break to help men. Go help yourself. You

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Speaker 5: don't have a China town in your in your city.

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Speaker 5: Drive to the nearest city that got but they got

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Speaker 5: in there. It's in the back.

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Speaker 2: Now take water with it, because if you don't it,

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Speaker 2: it's well your thoughts.

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