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Speaker 2: Jacob is on the phone today for our first Date
Speaker 2: follow up and he's getting ghosted by Avas. So in
Speaker 2: a few minutes we're gonna call her and see if
Speaker 2: she'll tell us why she's ghosting him and maybe get
Speaker 2: him another date. But first, Jacob, how long has it
Speaker 2: been since you heard from Ava?
Speaker 3: Oh? Man, it's been at least a couple of weeks.
Speaker 4: Okay. Have you tried to reach out to her during
Speaker 4: that time, because it's kind of.
Speaker 5: A while, right, Yeah.
Speaker 3: I tried to play it cool. In fact, I think
Speaker 3: last pack I Center, I was like, well, we met
Speaker 3: at a coffee shop, and the last thing I said
Speaker 3: her hey, i'll see you, I'll see it, I'll see
Speaker 3: you back in, you know, at our spot, and then
Speaker 3: she didn't respawn. So I'm pretty sure she's a ghost
Speaker 3: and me I haven't called because I felt like that
Speaker 3: was a step too far. But I'm running out of options.
Speaker 4: So did y'all actually have a first first date?
Speaker 6: Like, was it at the coffee shop or did y'all
Speaker 6: just like randomly meet at the coffee shop?
Speaker 1: Yes?
Speaker 3: So there's actually like this coffee shop kind of just
Speaker 3: in the neighborhood. It's not too far and I go
Speaker 3: there all the time. And that's actually the first place
Speaker 3: where I met her, because I ended up seeing her
Speaker 3: like three times in one week. So this one day
Speaker 3: we kind of started doing a little small talk and
Speaker 3: then we actually were like, well, hey, let's meet here
Speaker 3: on purpose one, you know, next time. So that was
Speaker 3: like maybe our first date, but it wasn't really like
Speaker 3: a full date. It was more like a little casual.
Speaker 4: Thing, okay, And then did you guys do something after that?
Speaker 3: Yeah, we actually did. We really were enjoying the conversation
Speaker 3: with each other. So I invited her to like come
Speaker 3: to my house because we both like reality TV shows.
Speaker 3: So I was like, oh, well, I've never seen Love
Speaker 3: is Blind. She hadn't seen it either, so let's oh,
Speaker 3: let's go to my house to have some popcorn and
Speaker 3: some snacks and we can just binge the whole show together.
Speaker 3: She was a little, you know, a little hesitant on
Speaker 3: the going to my house thing, so I'm hoping that's
Speaker 3: not what pushed her away, but it did take a
Speaker 3: little convincing, but she did actually come over.
Speaker 6: I was gonna say a bold move for her first
Speaker 6: date to invite some of your house Okay.
Speaker 4: I like the confidence and how.
Speaker 3: That goes normally. So it actually ended up going really
Speaker 3: well because when she came over, I had all her
Speaker 3: favorite snacks. I was ready to go, you know, I like,
Speaker 3: I know she loves platforms, so I had popcorn. She
Speaker 3: likes hershey, so I had Hershey. We just had a
Speaker 3: bunch of snacks you could sit and watch this show.
Speaker 3: And we ended up having a lot of fun, you know,
Speaker 3: clowning on people and group for the people that we
Speaker 3: really thought were gonna you know, really fine love. And
Speaker 3: we even drank a little wine too and got to
Speaker 3: know each other.
Speaker 4: So did was there like a connection with the two
Speaker 4: of you?
Speaker 3: I felt like it was a connection. I mean it
Speaker 3: was the best date I've ever had, hands down, and like,
Speaker 3: I'm really hoping that we can have more.
Speaker 6: Okay, So what do you think could have gone wrong? Like,
Speaker 6: why would you be getting ghosted?
Speaker 3: Oh man? Okay, So I think we would take a
Speaker 3: break in between the different episodes, and it was between
Speaker 3: I think maybe episode two and three. You know, we
Speaker 3: just kind of took a little time to get to
Speaker 3: know each other. Right, we just kind of talking and whatever.
Speaker 3: And halfway through that, I just.
Speaker 7: I told her.
Speaker 3: I was like, this is the best date I've ever
Speaker 3: been on, and I'm really glad that I didn't have
Speaker 3: to spend a lot of money.
Speaker 1: Yeah.
Speaker 4: See, I was the thing.
Speaker 3: I was really glad that I didn't have to break
Speaker 3: the bank for us to have a good time. And
Speaker 3: then she started to get off digity and kind of
Speaker 3: wanted to leave. After that next episode, I was like,
Speaker 3: I was joking pretty much, but I'm hoping she doesn't
Speaker 3: think I'm cheap.
Speaker 7: Okay, yeah, well we'll see. We can figure it out
Speaker 7: for you.
Speaker 2: We'll play a song, come back, and then call her
Speaker 2: in Stifi's house why she's going, and maybe get to
Speaker 2: another date. Okay, thanks, Yeah, all right, plus, don't come back.
Speaker 2: Get your first day follow up next. Right in the
Speaker 2: middle of your first day follow up if you're just
Speaker 2: joining us, Jacob is on the phone and he's getting
Speaker 2: ghosted by Ava. It's been a couple of weeks since
Speaker 2: he heard from her, and we're about to call her
Speaker 2: and ask her why she's ghosting him and see if
Speaker 2: we can get him another date. But before we do that,
Speaker 2: Jacob why don't you catch us up on your situation?
Speaker 7: Okay?
Speaker 3: So I met Ava at the coffee shop up the street.
Speaker 3: We both like reality TV, so she came over to
Speaker 3: my house so we could binge watch Love Is Blind.
Speaker 3: But I told her I was real happy we had
Speaker 3: a date that wasn't expensive. And now I think she
Speaker 3: might think I'm cheat.
Speaker 4: I'm just trying to think about how that would go.
Speaker 4: Oh man, this is the best day ever. I'm so
Speaker 4: glad I didn't spend any money. Yeah special. Do you
Speaker 4: feel as the person that's on that date? No offense.
Speaker 6: I'm just trying to like you might be onto something. Yeah,
Speaker 6: it might be the reason you're getting ghosted. Are you
Speaker 6: for us to call her?
Speaker 7: All? Right? Here we go, Hello him, I speak to Ava. Please,
Speaker 7: this is her? Hi Ava, how are you?
Speaker 2: My name is Jewbel. I'm calling from a radio show.
Speaker 2: It's called the Jebil Show.
Speaker 4: Hi Ava, I'm Nina also on the show. Hi, and
Speaker 4: I'm Victoria.
Speaker 7: Oh wow, how are you?
Speaker 3: Oh?
Speaker 1: Hi, I'm doing good.
Speaker 7: You ever listened to the show before?
Speaker 3: Yeah?
Speaker 7: Okay cool.
Speaker 2: We do a segment on the show called the First
Speaker 2: Day follow Up, where if you go out on a
Speaker 2: date with somebody and you end up ghosting them, they
Speaker 2: can email us to get you on the phone and
Speaker 2: ask why you're ghosting them.
Speaker 7: Do you know who would email us?
Speaker 1: The only person that I've been on a day recently
Speaker 1: was this one guy.
Speaker 7: But and what was his name?
Speaker 4: Jacob?
Speaker 7: Okay, Well guess what?
Speaker 4: Guess what was.
Speaker 2: Told us about your date says that you're ghosting him,
Speaker 2: and he has no idea why would you mind telling us?
Speaker 1: Oh? Goodness, like, I have really bad luck when it
Speaker 1: comes to men. You know, our date was kind of cool.
Speaker 1: It was cute and stuff. Uh, I just have really
Speaker 1: bad luck when it comes to guys. So so you know,
Speaker 1: I started liking him a little bit, and uh we
Speaker 1: were watching some of the shows and you know, caught
Speaker 1: feelings a little bit, and you know, I just felt
Speaker 1: like it's probably easier for me to just stop talking
Speaker 1: to him.
Speaker 4: What happened?
Speaker 1: Everything was good.
Speaker 4: We were watching uh I.
Speaker 1: Think it was called Love is Blind and yeah, so
Speaker 1: you know it was nice and cute at first, but
Speaker 1: you know they go to start talking about what they
Speaker 1: do and don't like in certain people. Now now I'm
Speaker 1: looking at uh makeup, like, okay, well, qualities I don't
Speaker 1: like about him now, but then I like him, but
Speaker 1: I don't really know where it's going.
Speaker 6: Okay, was there something specific that you didn't like about him?
Speaker 1: There was like a situation to where where he did
Speaker 1: invite me over to his house. It was the first
Speaker 1: date which I went out on a limb to do.
Speaker 1: Everything was cute, everything was you know, fun and stuff
Speaker 1: like that. It just started playing around a little bit
Speaker 1: too much, and I think that he just tried too hard.
Speaker 4: So it kind of a turn off.
Speaker 1: How So, I'm not you know, I like touchy philly
Speaker 1: and stuff like that, but I don't really like someone to,
Speaker 1: you know, just jump your bone. I'm a fifty fifty
Speaker 1: kiss type of person.
Speaker 4: That mean, did he tried to jump your bone?
Speaker 3: Well?
Speaker 1: I think that, uh, when we were eating popcorn, that
Speaker 1: he was trying to hide something from me with the bowl.
Speaker 5: WHOA, yeah, good for you, Like, not in that way,
Speaker 5: but that he was very happy.
Speaker 4: It's kind of power. Yeah, I had that power over men.
Speaker 1: But you know, it was my first time over there
Speaker 1: and we were just supposed to be watching TV, yeah
Speaker 1: and stuff like that. So then it's like, oh, you're
Speaker 1: like that right now, and you're hiding it with the
Speaker 1: bowl of popcorn that I'm not taking my hand in.
Speaker 4: That is weird. That's very weird. Okay, Like did he
Speaker 4: like it?
Speaker 1: I mean I was some so is now I stood up?
Speaker 1: I don't know.
Speaker 6: I mean just like you're trying to get into plotcorn
Speaker 6: and it's just like, okay.
Speaker 1: I don't know what to say with with that situation.
Speaker 4: So yeah, I don't know either, Like do you want
Speaker 4: like would you have wanted him to tell you?
Speaker 7: Or is it?
Speaker 6: Yeah? I mean that as a guy, I don't know
Speaker 6: what I would do either. Just try to hide it
Speaker 6: like you did. You can't always control it, right, Jubil No.
Speaker 2: Sometimes as a mind of its own, you know.
Speaker 5: Uh.
Speaker 4: I don't think you hit it really well though, I
Speaker 4: don't know. It was a pretty big situation that could
Speaker 4: be that good.
Speaker 7: So that's why you're not calling him back.
Speaker 6: Oh my gosh, Well, thank you for being honest.
Speaker 7: And Jacob is on the phone listening and wants to
Speaker 7: talk to you.
Speaker 3: Jacob Jacob, oh man, I'm so sorry about that. I mean,
Speaker 3: I'm sorry. I was trying so hard.
Speaker 4: That was the best word I can tell.
Speaker 3: Yeah, I didn't want to make things weird or awkward.
Speaker 3: That's why I was trying to like maybe make it
Speaker 3: not as obvious. I probably made it way worse. I
Speaker 3: just I really really like you and I love having
Speaker 3: a conversation. Tell that.
Speaker 1: I was asking you why the popcorn kept falling on
Speaker 1: the floor, and you were like, oh, I don't know.
Speaker 3: Oh I didn't know.
Speaker 1: What was going on down there.
Speaker 4: You know, then you didn't.
Speaker 1: You didn't tell me what was going on, so it
Speaker 1: kind of freaking out a little bit. So it was
Speaker 1: just like, Okay, is he getting like that because we're
Speaker 1: watching these.
Speaker 4: Ladies on TV or.
Speaker 1: Me?
Speaker 4: No?
Speaker 3: Really, it's definitely the beautiful lady I had in my house.
Speaker 6: You know.
Speaker 3: Look, I'm really sorry, and I hope that's not I
Speaker 3: hope that won't keep us from being able to go
Speaker 3: back back out. I just really like you. Maybe I'll
Speaker 3: I'll do something where we're not sitting down next time.
Speaker 4: Can you give him some advice?
Speaker 6: Table, because I understand that this is awkward, but I
Speaker 6: don't know how Jacob comes back from this clearly like
Speaker 6: it's like it's kind of a compliment to you, Ava,
Speaker 6: but it's also like what happened I don't know.
Speaker 2: Yeah, tape, I'm not sure Abe would you like to
Speaker 2: go on another date with Jacob, we'll pay for it
Speaker 2: and give him another shot. He doesn't sound like he's creepy,
Speaker 2: and it sounds like he really likes you.
Speaker 4: Yeah, is he?
Speaker 1: If he's able to double tape it down, I might
Speaker 1: be willing to go on a tape with him again.
Speaker 3: Gosh, well I'm heading the staples.
Speaker 7: All right?
Speaker 2: Well cool, congratulations, Shake, have you got another date?
Speaker 7: Thank you, Haba, how fun? Thank you?
Speaker 3: Thank you
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