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Speaker 1: Welcome back to Bachelor Happy Hours Golden Hour. Hey, thank

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Speaker 1: we have some eight questions today that we'll get to

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Speaker 1: with our very beautiful special guests.

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Speaker 2: Okay, Susan. Before our guests arrive, we have got to

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Speaker 2: talk about Jones Fantasy Sweets. I mean, for me, it

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Speaker 2: was the best episode of the season. What did you think?

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Speaker 3: Oh, I couldn't agree with you?

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Speaker 4: More.

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Speaker 1: I actually was so tuned in. You know what, a

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Speaker 1: lot of people give Pascal a hard time. He just

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Speaker 1: showed the world how sweet he really is, and he's

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Speaker 1: just not ready.

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Speaker 3: I think she's more attracted to Chalk than anybody. What

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Speaker 2: I think she's most attracted to Chalk. But at the

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Speaker 2: end when she was crying with Pascal, I don't know.

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Speaker 2: Let's I want to just start at the beginning though,

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Speaker 2: because first of all, Tahiti, I'm so jealous.

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Speaker 3: But then did you see that?

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Speaker 4: Well?

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Speaker 2: Please, we got to put that on our bucket lists.

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Speaker 2: And okay. She said that she could imagine a future

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Speaker 2: with all three. Here's how she described Guy. She said,

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Speaker 2: similar lifestyle, handsome. I can imagine a life of him. Pascal,

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Speaker 2: she said, he lives life big. He has a sex

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Speaker 2: life swagger. But he's the most guarded, she said. And

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Speaker 2: then Chalk, she said, was safe and sexy. Here we

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Speaker 2: go again about her guilt with John. You know, her

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Speaker 2: heart as a red flag.

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Speaker 1: So I think she's struggling, very very secure for life

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Speaker 1: long with Chalk. Yes, like her husband had, you know,

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Speaker 1: treated her like a princess.

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Speaker 3: I think Chuck will do the same thing.

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Speaker 2: I agree Okay, what did you think about our bestie Nancy?

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Speaker 2: Oh my god, didn't she look amazing? She looked amazing,

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Speaker 2: Very good advice. I talked to Nancy last night after

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Speaker 2: the show. I said, nance you always always do it right?

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Speaker 2: She said, yeah, Kathy, it was just simple advice. I

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Speaker 2: just said, follow your heart. I said, but Nancy, sometimes

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Speaker 2: the simplest advice is the best advice. And she's but

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Speaker 2: she said, Joan was struggling.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, well, she cried a little bit. She was.

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Speaker 1: She had none of us. I mean, I think personally

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Speaker 2: There for her.

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Speaker 1: I'm with some advice, you know, sometimes not that it's like,

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Speaker 1: you know, I ask you all the time, what do

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Speaker 1: I do with? And no matter what you say to me,

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Speaker 1: I'm going to make my own mind up. Right, Hearing

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Speaker 1: other people's views sometimes gives you clarity on things that

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Speaker 1: you're not looking at.

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Speaker 2: Well, Susan, especially when it's my advice, you should always listen.

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Speaker 3: Oh god, does she have some too?

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Speaker 2: So it's right, damn right. I don't know, Guy got

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Speaker 2: my heart went out to guy like I think, you know,

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Speaker 2: he may not be the guy that's you know, roughing

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Speaker 2: it up and and hiking the Himalayas. But that guy

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Speaker 2: is ready? Is it was so clear that I mean,

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Speaker 2: I did think differently about Pascal, but but sticking with

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Speaker 3: And Lake Tahoe is not a bad place to be,

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Speaker 2: I'd like to go again. Hello guy.

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Speaker 3: So it was a show. It was a really good show.

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Speaker 1: And I cannot wait for men tell all because that

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Speaker 2: Wait, I have a question. She said that, uh chalk,

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Speaker 1: And the whole entire show, she gives little pecks, little pecks,

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Speaker 1: you know. At some point, Joan, forgive me, because I

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Speaker 2: Kiss, and then when I see her with Chuck, I'm like,

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Speaker 2: think that's why I empathize with him, like I'm louder

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Speaker 2: he didn't want to hurt her, and he said, all

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Speaker 2: and all that, what good is it alone? What good

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Speaker 2: is it alone? But he wasn't ready or he's either

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Speaker 3: It is affecting him.

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Speaker 1: But Kathy, I'm a firm believer when the right person comes,

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Speaker 1: your guard does go down.

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Speaker 2: Yeah.

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Speaker 1: It was just not the right person for him, that's all.

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Speaker 2: So wait, I did you hear him when he ever

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Speaker 2: said he he's not a fighter, he's a lover. And

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Speaker 2: then Joan told him how much she reminded him of John.

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Speaker 2: And then at the end when he said, I mean

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Speaker 2: I wrote it on my notes and capsus, and he said,

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Speaker 2: I know what love is, and I care about you

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Speaker 2: as a friend, but I don't have a spark. I

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Speaker 2: just it was like a stab. And you know, we

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Speaker 2: do know Joan and that had to hurt because she's

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Speaker 2: there to pick her.

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Speaker 3: God, you've been on dating sites.

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Speaker 1: I mean, my cousin Don, who's dying to get on

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Speaker 1: our podcast and we're going to devote one whole podcast

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Speaker 3: I promise we need.

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Speaker 2: To do that.

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Speaker 3: We have so much experience, and.

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Speaker 1: Her and I both were the ones that I'm sorry,

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Speaker 1: there's no spark or whatever.

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Speaker 3: Until just last.

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Speaker 1: Year she went on this blank date and he said, yeah,

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Speaker 1: I just didn't feel it, and she's like, what, Like

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Speaker 1: he was straight up to her face. She goes, he

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Speaker 1: could have just texted you know, I love it. But

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Speaker 1: I get it when he said those words, and he

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Speaker 1: was very kind to Joan about it, but being honest.

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Speaker 2: And I think it took a lot for him, you know,

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Speaker 2: those things. I really do so so, Pascal, I take

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Speaker 2: back most of what I said about you. I think

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Speaker 2: that you probably have a you know, I think everybody

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Speaker 2: has a big heart. It's just finding it sometimes, you.

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Speaker 3: Know, Pascal like I said, you a DM Are you

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Speaker 3: gonna call me? I mean, did you really.

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Speaker 2: Come on? Toss up?

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Speaker 4: Did you?

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Speaker 3: But you know what, Kathy, let's let's chut just for

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Speaker 3: a second, Joan.

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Speaker 1: Joan was, she's a softer delivery person than you and I.

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Speaker 3: But what I want everybody to.

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Speaker 1: Realize and talk is cheap. But you can decide for

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Speaker 1: yourself to know us. There's a different side to us.

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Speaker 1: I like humor, I like being obnoxiously loud and authentically me.

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Speaker 3: But for men to look at us like we both said,

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Speaker 3: we're a lot.

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Speaker 2: And maybe we're not always a lot, Susan, we have.

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Speaker 1: You know, my sister goes on one hundred cruises and

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Speaker 1: one of the ones that I went on with her,

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Speaker 1: her best friend was going and she said, oh.

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Speaker 3: I can't wait.

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Speaker 2: Your sister is going to be so fun.

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Speaker 3: And my sister Lisa turned around and said, Susan, she's boring.

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Speaker 2: She goes to beds with everybody thinks I'm this bigger

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Speaker 2: than life, you know, stay up all night kind of girl.

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Speaker 2: But well, I mean we can do that too. That's

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Speaker 2: the point. We have a job anymore. Oh, come on,

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Speaker 2: I'll get you in the mood. You can do it.

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Speaker 2: Let's go. No, wait, one more thing I want to

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Speaker 2: say though to me, which was so telling. She she talked,

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Speaker 2: two things I want to say first. First, one is funny.

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Speaker 2: So my daughter came over and watching me last night.

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Speaker 2: And when what was it chalk who was she sitting

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Speaker 2: having or no Pascal? Who did she have the picnic

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Speaker 2: it was chalk Kate. My daughter looks at me and

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Speaker 2: she goes, mom, I said, what she goes, what is

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Speaker 2: wrong with those people there?

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Speaker 4: Old?

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Speaker 2: Why are they making them sit on the ground, really

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Speaker 2: out laughing. She said, really they got up there game

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Speaker 2: for these older people. Do you remember?

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Speaker 1: I don't recall which episode it was, but somebody had

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Speaker 1: a roll like on all fours to get up and

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Speaker 1: they zoomed it.

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Speaker 3: I go, if I were the person I killed that?

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Speaker 1: I really all right, cat, We really should get to

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Speaker 1: get going today.

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Speaker 2: Let's do it. Please welcome Bachelor Nation star, the absolutely

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Speaker 2: stunningly gorgeous Jess Jerrod. Are you happy to be here, Jess,

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Speaker 2: because we're so happy to have you.

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Speaker 5: Hi, dazz Hi guys, I am welcome you here.

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Speaker 2: Did I your last name correctly?

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Speaker 4: Yes? You did?

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Speaker 3: Yeah, very good?

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Speaker 2: Well, you know I try. So I have a question.

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Speaker 2: You are how old I am?

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Speaker 4: Twenty five?

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Speaker 2: Do you remember being back?

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Speaker 3: I do?

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Speaker 2: When is your birthday? I know you're February February?

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Speaker 4: What February sixteenth?

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Speaker 3: So does that make you places?

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Speaker 4: Is that the cutoff for I'm an aquarius? Honestly, Ever

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Speaker 4: since I was a kid, I would always tell people.

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Speaker 4: I would say I am two days after Valentine's Day

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Speaker 4: because I am full of sweets and love what I've

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Speaker 4: been saying since I'm like, I can remember.

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Speaker 2: You know that is a good line. Unfortunately, my birthdays

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Speaker 2: in May, so you know something about flowers May flowers.

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Speaker 2: But you know what?

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Speaker 4: All right?

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Speaker 2: So I want to know. I know that you your

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Speaker 2: still roommates with Kylie.

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Speaker 3: I'm assuming how's that going?

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Speaker 2: And you're king at San Diego? How's it going?

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Speaker 4: It's so good. Me and Kylie are absolutely loving it.

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Speaker 4: No, no, well, I'm from Florida, so this is a

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Speaker 2: Are you a Gator. Are you Florida Gator?

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Speaker 1: Thing in my opinion, not La or any other people.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, so I need some nice Southern Ish people, and

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Speaker 2: So let me ask you, are you dating at all?

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Speaker 4: Not At the moment, I think I'm too picky for

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Speaker 1: Do you think anything's changed in your opinion of dating

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Speaker 4: For sure? I mean Bachelor was two years ago, Paradise

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Speaker 2: You know, I'm going to interrupt on that. What is

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Speaker 3: What's your read?

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Speaker 4: I think what I've learned my most recent situation, I

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Speaker 4: I think I would let that person tell me something

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Speaker 2: In short, show me, don't tell me.

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Speaker 2: Smart Yes. So if you you know who I'd like

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Speaker 2: So think about the beach. What would you do differently

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Speaker 2: in Paradise? If I think if anything? Yeah? Maybe nothing?

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Speaker 4: Yeah, if anything? I think, I mean I think, no

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Speaker 1: You already have that figured out? You mean in your

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Speaker 4: Yeah, you kind of like romanticize who could possibly be there?

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Speaker 3: And then not at our age, Jess, hoping for somebody.

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Speaker 2: We're just hoping for someone upright and breathing.

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Speaker 5: But carry on, I mean, honestly, same for me.

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Speaker 4: It's rough out here.

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Speaker 2: Oh you're saying that you're going to finish you by yourself.

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Speaker 2: I need to go get a box of Kleenex because

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Speaker 2: I'm going to burst the Seriously, Jess, come on, you

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Speaker 2: are absolutely your articulate you're stunningly beautiful.

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Speaker 3: What the hell?

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Speaker 1: No, wait, I want to know if she would change anything,

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Speaker 4: Yes, I would be more thank you.

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Speaker 1: So Kathy and I were saying this earlier to one another,

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Speaker 3: Now as you age, they're not.

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Speaker 1: Everybody including us, aren't as good looking as we were once.

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Speaker 4: Romance one hundred percent. I feel like, and you guys

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Speaker 5: Just being more.

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Speaker 3: You're just start now the rest of your life.

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Speaker 4: So grateful. I'm grateful that I have, you know, everything

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Speaker 3: And you're living in California, you have to I mean yeah.

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Speaker 4: And so I think one hundred percent I agree that

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Speaker 4: And I think that's the long lasting thing, not looks.

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Speaker 4: And for sure, when I'm gonna, you know, find my person.

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Speaker 3: I want to make it sure.

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Speaker 1: Isn't it also about how a person makes you feel

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Speaker 2: So waitam, can I ask you? You don't have to

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Speaker 4: I you know, it's been so much time. I don't

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Speaker 2: Yeah, Okay, all right, Well we want to move on.

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Speaker 2: We have a topic of the day that we do.

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Speaker 2: We want you to join in with us. Okay and

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Speaker 2: give this your thoughts. All right. We've seen some conversation

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Speaker 3: Do you think.

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Speaker 2: Dating apps are the best or worst thing to happen

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Speaker 4: So I've never had a dating app before?

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Speaker 2: You've never been on a dating app?

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Speaker 4: No?

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Speaker 2: Okay, now I'm going to get the clear xbox.

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Speaker 1: It's just twenty five if she doesn't need to go

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Speaker 3: But god, yeah, no.

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Speaker 4: I definitely see there's I think there's good. I know

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Speaker 4: But you know, I think for me personally, I want

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Speaker 4: I think it just depends. It's you know, I like

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Speaker 5: Compatible, yes, yes, Wow?

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Speaker 3: What do you think, Kathy?

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Speaker 2: You know you and I've talked about this dating apps

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Speaker 1: Been successful for either one of us, and so I

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Speaker 4: Yeah.

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Speaker 2: My daughter, who is as pretty as you are, Jess,

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Speaker 2: That men on dating naps you're on a date with

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Speaker 2: window shopping? Like this one's great, but what else is

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Speaker 2: it's just not been successful. What about you, susan.

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Speaker 1: Oh, I've had all kinds of situations on I had

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Speaker 1: It was like, we don't go hanging nightclubs anymore. You

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Speaker 2: What a great idea. Yeah, Jess, you like the organic

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Speaker 2: way of meeting guys? Yes, perfect season. We're going we're

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Speaker 1: don't think they're all bad. I know that when I

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Speaker 1: I mean, I don't know. I don't say do away

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Speaker 4: you know what you want and you're not going to

444
00:21:24,480 --> 00:21:26,480
Speaker 4: you know, get and tolerate anything I think it's okay

445
00:21:26,520 --> 00:21:28,679
Speaker 4: because then you can weave through the ones that you know,

446
00:21:29,240 --> 00:21:32,280
Speaker 4: don't really don't, don't plan on staying you know? Yes, yes,

447
00:21:32,359 --> 00:21:33,280
Speaker 4: a thing serious.

448
00:21:33,640 --> 00:21:35,480
Speaker 1: All right, we have a new game, and this one's

449
00:21:35,560 --> 00:21:37,399
Speaker 1: Red Flag or Red Rose.

450
00:21:37,520 --> 00:21:41,360
Speaker 3: We're all going to play. Okay, okay, I.

451
00:21:41,280 --> 00:21:45,439
Speaker 2: Think it's self explanatory. Here we go. We're all single

452
00:21:45,480 --> 00:21:48,760
Speaker 2: girls here looking for love. So I thought it would

453
00:21:48,800 --> 00:21:52,320
Speaker 2: be fun to play around of dating deal breakers, where

454
00:21:52,359 --> 00:21:55,720
Speaker 2: we would decide if we would where we decide if

455
00:21:55,720 --> 00:21:57,800
Speaker 2: we would either hand a guy a red flag and

456
00:21:57,880 --> 00:22:01,119
Speaker 2: say see you later by, or give the guy a

457
00:22:01,200 --> 00:22:03,439
Speaker 2: pass and give him our red rose to see if

458
00:22:03,440 --> 00:22:04,520
Speaker 2: it could still work.

459
00:22:06,600 --> 00:22:08,360
Speaker 3: Very bachelor of us, isn't it.

460
00:22:09,240 --> 00:22:10,760
Speaker 2: I want to get a red Rose. I don't care

461
00:22:10,800 --> 00:22:12,040
Speaker 2: who gives it to me at this point.

462
00:22:13,240 --> 00:22:15,920
Speaker 1: No, you do, because sometimes you wouldn't want to accept

463
00:22:16,160 --> 00:22:17,360
Speaker 1: whatever oh got.

464
00:22:17,440 --> 00:22:18,440
Speaker 3: All right, here we go.

465
00:22:18,640 --> 00:22:22,479
Speaker 1: Leaves his shoes all over the house instead of putting

466
00:22:22,520 --> 00:22:24,040
Speaker 1: them on the shoe wreck.

467
00:22:25,440 --> 00:22:27,879
Speaker 2: What do you think, Jess, Red flag or red Rose?

468
00:22:29,800 --> 00:22:31,480
Speaker 4: Are these stinky shoes or.

469
00:22:33,720 --> 00:22:36,080
Speaker 1: So just to master coming home and see it, then

470
00:22:36,119 --> 00:22:37,680
Speaker 1: he never puts his shoes away.

471
00:22:38,000 --> 00:22:38,199
Speaker 3: Is that?

472
00:22:38,400 --> 00:22:39,560
Speaker 4: Okay? We'll do a red flag.

473
00:22:39,680 --> 00:22:44,720
Speaker 3: Yeah, how about you, Kathy? Seriously, I would be coming back.

474
00:22:44,760 --> 00:22:46,520
Speaker 2: Wait, I want to make sure I understand you too.

475
00:22:46,600 --> 00:22:48,960
Speaker 2: Now I know why both of you are single. You

476
00:22:49,160 --> 00:22:51,159
Speaker 2: people are going to toss the guy to the curb

477
00:22:51,480 --> 00:22:55,080
Speaker 2: because he doesn't put his shoes on the shoe wreck.

478
00:22:55,600 --> 00:22:59,320
Speaker 4: And every time, and it's like we have guests over.

479
00:22:59,400 --> 00:23:02,240
Speaker 1: That's a little all over the house. Yeah, that would

480
00:23:02,320 --> 00:23:03,600
Speaker 1: be annoying.

481
00:23:03,640 --> 00:23:06,359
Speaker 2: Well, no, for me, it is. It is not a

482
00:23:06,400 --> 00:23:08,840
Speaker 2: red flag. There's so many other things. But okay, I

483
00:23:08,880 --> 00:23:12,440
Speaker 2: respect that. I respect you, all right. Doesn't like the

484
00:23:12,480 --> 00:23:16,200
Speaker 2: same genres of TV shows and movies as.

485
00:23:16,080 --> 00:23:20,560
Speaker 4: You do, that doesn't Yeah, I would do the rose.

486
00:23:21,000 --> 00:23:23,560
Speaker 3: I would do the rose too. Yeah. Yeah, you could

487
00:23:23,560 --> 00:23:24,240
Speaker 3: bring Kathy.

488
00:23:24,480 --> 00:23:28,399
Speaker 2: If he's not watching Bachelor Nation all productions with me,

489
00:23:28,840 --> 00:23:29,320
Speaker 2: he's out.

490
00:23:30,040 --> 00:23:31,080
Speaker 3: Okay, how about this one?

491
00:23:31,320 --> 00:23:34,680
Speaker 1: Has been over fifteen minutes late to your first two

492
00:23:34,800 --> 00:23:38,520
Speaker 1: dates with decent excuses.

493
00:23:37,960 --> 00:23:40,879
Speaker 2: Though how much over fifteen minutes?

494
00:23:41,920 --> 00:23:44,200
Speaker 3: I mean it's passable. Depends on the excuse.

495
00:23:44,280 --> 00:23:45,520
Speaker 2: Yeah, what do you think, Jess?

496
00:23:49,040 --> 00:23:51,440
Speaker 4: If the excuses are good, I would give rose because

497
00:23:51,440 --> 00:23:52,880
Speaker 4: sometimes I am late too, So.

498
00:23:53,560 --> 00:23:54,840
Speaker 3: That's my thought exactly.

499
00:23:54,920 --> 00:23:57,520
Speaker 2: Yeah, I was the three of us absolutely all right,

500
00:23:57,560 --> 00:24:02,600
Speaker 2: how about this one doesn't officially define the relationship with

501
00:24:02,680 --> 00:24:08,000
Speaker 2: someone for at least six months. Oh, I'm just gonna

502
00:24:08,040 --> 00:24:11,480
Speaker 2: say that depends on age, right, No, Wow, what do

503
00:24:11,560 --> 00:24:12,199
Speaker 2: you think difference?

504
00:24:13,320 --> 00:24:14,919
Speaker 4: I think red flag? I want to know.

505
00:24:15,119 --> 00:24:17,320
Speaker 5: I want to know intentions already exclusive?

506
00:24:17,400 --> 00:24:19,360
Speaker 3: Are we not? Yeah?

507
00:24:20,000 --> 00:24:23,800
Speaker 4: I'll be home overthinking it. You know, I drive myself crazy.

508
00:24:24,760 --> 00:24:27,680
Speaker 2: Oh I didn't. That's what we meant by define the relationship.

509
00:24:28,680 --> 00:24:31,680
Speaker 3: It's saying you're in one or not or just free falling.

510
00:24:31,800 --> 00:24:35,399
Speaker 3: You know. Yeah, you think that's okay.

511
00:24:36,760 --> 00:24:38,800
Speaker 2: I think in the in the abstract, it's fine if

512
00:24:38,800 --> 00:24:40,680
Speaker 2: it were me, they've got twenty four hours.

513
00:24:43,160 --> 00:24:44,440
Speaker 3: Oh, here's a no brainer.

514
00:24:45,080 --> 00:24:51,399
Speaker 1: Red blot is constantly rude to wait staff, consistently rude

515
00:24:51,920 --> 00:24:56,200
Speaker 1: consistently I beg your pardon, or constantly consistently.

516
00:24:55,600 --> 00:24:57,720
Speaker 3: What do you think rude to a weight staff person?

517
00:24:57,960 --> 00:25:01,159
Speaker 2: You and I have this conversation. It's weird at it.

518
00:25:01,160 --> 00:25:03,400
Speaker 3: It's a red flag, correct, Yeah.

519
00:25:03,200 --> 00:25:06,080
Speaker 4: Definitely a red flag. That's like a very big like

520
00:25:06,240 --> 00:25:08,840
Speaker 4: sign of like how they treat people in their lives too.

521
00:25:08,960 --> 00:25:15,160
Speaker 1: Yes, yes, Susan okay follows and likes post from other

522
00:25:15,280 --> 00:25:18,679
Speaker 1: girls on social media.

523
00:25:19,720 --> 00:25:22,720
Speaker 4: Oh, that's a tricky one.

524
00:25:23,040 --> 00:25:23,320
Speaker 1: It is.

525
00:25:23,359 --> 00:25:26,440
Speaker 4: I think it just depends. Like if it's friends, that's okay,

526
00:25:26,480 --> 00:25:29,480
Speaker 4: But if you know, it's like they're going out of

527
00:25:29,480 --> 00:25:32,240
Speaker 4: their way girls they don't know, and it's like you

528
00:25:32,280 --> 00:25:35,840
Speaker 4: know more so like bikini photos, I feel like that

529
00:25:35,960 --> 00:25:37,639
Speaker 4: is a little bit of red flag because you're clearly

530
00:25:37,640 --> 00:25:39,119
Speaker 4: trying to get that person's attention.

531
00:25:39,400 --> 00:25:41,600
Speaker 1: So you know, it's funny we read like a Q

532
00:25:41,720 --> 00:25:44,359
Speaker 1: and A questions that people send in one time, and

533
00:25:44,440 --> 00:25:48,000
Speaker 1: it was exactly about that. Remember, Kathy, do you remember

534
00:25:48,000 --> 00:25:49,440
Speaker 1: the advice we gave them?

535
00:25:50,000 --> 00:25:52,679
Speaker 2: I know what I said. I still say it to me.

536
00:25:52,800 --> 00:25:53,679
Speaker 2: That's a red flag.

537
00:25:54,080 --> 00:25:55,560
Speaker 5: Yeah, it's a red flag.

538
00:25:55,880 --> 00:25:58,399
Speaker 2: It's one thing if you know, if it's a girlfriend

539
00:25:58,400 --> 00:26:01,959
Speaker 2: that they've known forever and a girlfriend you know, a

540
00:26:01,960 --> 00:26:05,760
Speaker 2: friend that But if you're following a lot of women's posts,

541
00:26:05,920 --> 00:26:09,400
Speaker 2: girls posts, yeah no, I don't care if they're bikinis

542
00:26:09,440 --> 00:26:12,000
Speaker 2: or what they are. You're you're clearly wanting to make

543
00:26:12,000 --> 00:26:14,560
Speaker 2: your statement known that you're around. Right. What about this

544
00:26:14,600 --> 00:26:19,919
Speaker 2: one is obsessed with his mom like number one Mama

545
00:26:20,000 --> 00:26:20,800
Speaker 2: boy vibes.

546
00:26:25,440 --> 00:26:29,640
Speaker 1: Since my first thought is I love a man that's

547
00:26:29,640 --> 00:26:32,600
Speaker 1: close to his mother and respects his mother, but mama

548
00:26:32,680 --> 00:26:36,240
Speaker 1: boy vibes could be something that you'd be dealing with

549
00:26:36,320 --> 00:26:36,840
Speaker 1: later on.

550
00:26:36,880 --> 00:26:38,760
Speaker 3: That would depend for me.

551
00:26:38,880 --> 00:26:42,120
Speaker 4: How about you, Jeff, I agree something that I think

552
00:26:42,119 --> 00:26:44,560
Speaker 4: that it could be something you can work on balance

553
00:26:44,760 --> 00:26:47,439
Speaker 4: with because I agree, you know, I would love for

554
00:26:48,080 --> 00:26:50,640
Speaker 4: my person to love his mom and have a good

555
00:26:50,720 --> 00:26:51,440
Speaker 4: relationship with.

556
00:26:51,440 --> 00:26:53,840
Speaker 2: The way they treat their mother is the way they'll

557
00:26:53,880 --> 00:26:55,440
Speaker 2: treat you exactly.

558
00:26:55,880 --> 00:26:57,480
Speaker 4: Yeah, So if we could, if we could create some

559
00:26:57,600 --> 00:26:59,320
Speaker 4: balance in the future, I think it's okay.

560
00:26:59,200 --> 00:27:01,439
Speaker 1: That was too Eric, that one that you know you

561
00:27:01,520 --> 00:27:04,560
Speaker 1: have to get a situation. He's gonna say, my mom

562
00:27:04,680 --> 00:27:07,800
Speaker 1: knows best and you don't. Now that's a whole nother story.

563
00:27:08,480 --> 00:27:09,480
Speaker 1: How about this one.

564
00:27:09,880 --> 00:27:11,879
Speaker 2: Okay, I'm just gonna I'm gonna read this one and

565
00:27:11,880 --> 00:27:14,720
Speaker 2: I'm going to give you has bad breath even after

566
00:27:14,880 --> 00:27:17,720
Speaker 2: mints and brushing teeth. I'm just going to say, in

567
00:27:17,760 --> 00:27:20,359
Speaker 2: that case, I'm not taking the time to give him

568
00:27:20,359 --> 00:27:23,159
Speaker 2: a red flag. He is out the door before I

569
00:27:23,160 --> 00:27:27,639
Speaker 2: even have to say red flag. No way, that's a

570
00:27:27,840 --> 00:27:29,720
Speaker 2: that's a health and safety issue.

571
00:27:29,880 --> 00:27:32,520
Speaker 5: How about you just that's sad?

572
00:27:32,880 --> 00:27:34,680
Speaker 4: Is that I don't know?

573
00:27:34,880 --> 00:27:37,960
Speaker 1: Well, that's the point I dated somebody years and years

574
00:27:38,000 --> 00:27:41,120
Speaker 1: and years ago, and he was such a nice guy,

575
00:27:41,119 --> 00:27:43,359
Speaker 1: but every time he open his mouth to talk, I

576
00:27:43,400 --> 00:27:47,359
Speaker 1: would back up like I could never kiss. Ever, how

577
00:27:47,440 --> 00:27:50,480
Speaker 1: would you date him, Susan, No, I didn't. That's the

578
00:27:50,520 --> 00:27:56,160
Speaker 1: problem you, Jess.

579
00:27:56,240 --> 00:27:57,640
Speaker 2: Would you would you date a guy?

580
00:27:57,760 --> 00:28:00,359
Speaker 4: Come on, No, I don't think I would.

581
00:28:00,760 --> 00:28:02,640
Speaker 2: Because I'm glad you said that, because you know what,

582
00:28:02,760 --> 00:28:06,119
Speaker 2: if you said yes, every guy with halatosis was going

583
00:28:06,200 --> 00:28:07,440
Speaker 2: to be reaching into your DM.

584
00:28:07,800 --> 00:28:08,080
Speaker 4: Please.

585
00:28:08,119 --> 00:28:11,560
Speaker 1: But sometimes it is a condition and they can take

586
00:28:11,600 --> 00:28:13,800
Speaker 1: care of it. But a lot of times they don't

587
00:28:13,880 --> 00:28:16,760
Speaker 1: know until someone brings it to their attention.

588
00:28:17,400 --> 00:28:19,240
Speaker 4: I don't know, but if it's just they're not taking

589
00:28:19,240 --> 00:28:19,879
Speaker 4: care of themselves.

590
00:28:20,520 --> 00:28:21,840
Speaker 3: So let me ask you guys this.

591
00:28:22,480 --> 00:28:27,679
Speaker 1: Would you tell someone if their breath was offensive and

592
00:28:27,680 --> 00:28:30,000
Speaker 1: you were out with them, would you say give them

593
00:28:30,000 --> 00:28:31,000
Speaker 1: a mint or something?

594
00:28:34,600 --> 00:28:34,960
Speaker 3: Be real?

595
00:28:35,040 --> 00:28:37,239
Speaker 2: I mean I would have climbed out the bathroom door

596
00:28:37,320 --> 00:28:38,880
Speaker 2: within I've told them.

597
00:28:39,320 --> 00:28:42,360
Speaker 4: I mean, like in the mornings, I feel like, well

598
00:28:42,400 --> 00:28:43,479
Speaker 4: that's a different story.

599
00:28:43,480 --> 00:28:45,240
Speaker 3: But being out on the date and I'd say, you

600
00:28:45,240 --> 00:28:46,200
Speaker 3: know what, you need a mint?

601
00:28:46,320 --> 00:28:46,480
Speaker 4: Yeah?

602
00:28:46,600 --> 00:28:48,120
Speaker 3: No, and they thank me.

603
00:28:48,200 --> 00:28:52,320
Speaker 1: I was embarrassed, but yeah, I do it. I've said

604
00:28:52,320 --> 00:28:54,440
Speaker 1: it to a girlfriend I know something you eat. I

605
00:28:54,480 --> 00:28:56,320
Speaker 1: don't know what it is, but babe, you need a mint.

606
00:28:57,400 --> 00:28:58,920
Speaker 4: I'd probably be like, oh, I have a man, do

607
00:28:58,960 --> 00:29:00,400
Speaker 4: you want one to Yeah?

608
00:29:00,480 --> 00:29:02,320
Speaker 3: Yeah, yeah, yeah.

609
00:29:02,400 --> 00:29:04,479
Speaker 2: I don't think the guy's picking up on that. But okay,

610
00:29:04,520 --> 00:29:05,520
Speaker 2: all right.

611
00:29:05,200 --> 00:29:09,600
Speaker 1: Won't miss watching a single college football game. So your

612
00:29:09,640 --> 00:29:12,200
Speaker 1: weekend plans revolve around that.

613
00:29:14,280 --> 00:29:18,160
Speaker 5: What do you think, Chess, I think that's okay.

614
00:29:18,280 --> 00:29:21,240
Speaker 4: I mean I went to Florida State, so I I

615
00:29:21,240 --> 00:29:24,000
Speaker 4: mean I went to Florida State, so I would enjoy

616
00:29:24,040 --> 00:29:26,160
Speaker 4: watching like FCU football games.

617
00:29:26,440 --> 00:29:28,800
Speaker 2: No, no, no, that was not the question.

618
00:29:28,560 --> 00:29:32,959
Speaker 3: Any college at all. The college games college your weekend.

619
00:29:33,040 --> 00:29:35,440
Speaker 2: Let me paint a picture for your hair. Jess, you're

620
00:29:35,560 --> 00:29:38,880
Speaker 2: rolling out of bed. You're not going for brunch for eggs, Benedict,

621
00:29:39,080 --> 00:29:42,320
Speaker 2: You're cranking up the TV. He's cracking a beer at noon,

622
00:29:42,600 --> 00:29:46,720
Speaker 2: and he's watching football from noon till ten pm Saturday,

623
00:29:46,800 --> 00:29:50,400
Speaker 2: every weekend, every Saturday. So when your girlfriend invites you

624
00:29:50,440 --> 00:29:52,959
Speaker 2: out for brunch with her boyfriend, you have to go

625
00:29:53,000 --> 00:29:57,400
Speaker 2: by yourself because your boyfriend is cracking open a beer,

626
00:29:57,520 --> 00:29:58,240
Speaker 2: rooting for the game.

627
00:29:58,240 --> 00:30:00,200
Speaker 3: It's storing football season though, right, Oh.

628
00:30:00,240 --> 00:30:03,040
Speaker 4: Not the Gators. Honestly, I mean I'll do my own thing,

629
00:30:03,360 --> 00:30:05,520
Speaker 4: you know, like, yeah, I don't need to do everything

630
00:30:05,560 --> 00:30:09,280
Speaker 4: with him. So, but I wouldn't say I wouldn't leave him.

631
00:30:09,280 --> 00:30:10,880
Speaker 4: If I loved him, I wouldn't leave him. But he'd

632
00:30:10,880 --> 00:30:12,960
Speaker 4: better not be watching the Gators. I'll turn that off.

633
00:30:13,240 --> 00:30:15,880
Speaker 3: Well, I do watch Sunday football though all winter.

634
00:30:16,080 --> 00:30:16,280
Speaker 4: Yeah.

635
00:30:16,400 --> 00:30:18,640
Speaker 2: Oh, but you don't come on, Susan. If I said

636
00:30:18,640 --> 00:30:20,440
Speaker 2: to you, do you want to go out for lunch

637
00:30:20,480 --> 00:30:22,720
Speaker 2: and go shopping? You wouldn't say, oh, Kathy.

638
00:30:22,480 --> 00:30:24,800
Speaker 3: I can I can't know. That's a dude thing.

639
00:30:24,960 --> 00:30:29,200
Speaker 1: That's a how about hates pets and refuses to ever

640
00:30:29,360 --> 00:30:30,800
Speaker 1: have pets in his home?

641
00:30:31,680 --> 00:30:32,240
Speaker 4: Red flag?

642
00:30:32,720 --> 00:30:33,960
Speaker 2: Absolutely red flag.

643
00:30:35,000 --> 00:30:37,480
Speaker 4: Yeah, I'm an animal lover. He has to. I want to.

644
00:30:37,760 --> 00:30:40,160
Speaker 4: I am looking forward to the day where I find

645
00:30:40,680 --> 00:30:42,800
Speaker 4: I'm not looking forward to it for that reason. But

646
00:30:42,960 --> 00:30:44,560
Speaker 4: like an injured animal, I take it.

647
00:30:45,320 --> 00:30:47,640
Speaker 2: I've got two gerry after cats if you're interested.

648
00:30:49,680 --> 00:30:52,440
Speaker 1: I mean, I love pets, but I don't want any anymore.

649
00:30:52,480 --> 00:30:56,040
Speaker 1: I had lots of them, and I don't want any responsibility.

650
00:30:56,160 --> 00:30:58,720
Speaker 1: So I don't know that. I don't like the word

651
00:30:58,880 --> 00:31:02,360
Speaker 1: hates pets and fuses to ever have pets in his home.

652
00:31:03,000 --> 00:31:05,880
Speaker 1: But I understand if somebody doesn't want a pet, that

653
00:31:06,280 --> 00:31:06,680
Speaker 1: can I.

654
00:31:06,600 --> 00:31:09,240
Speaker 2: Just tell you I dated a guy, this poor guy.

655
00:31:09,400 --> 00:31:11,960
Speaker 2: I've talked about him many times on the podcast. He

656
00:31:12,120 --> 00:31:17,040
Speaker 2: is ancient history. But he had a dog, a nice dog.

657
00:31:17,240 --> 00:31:19,040
Speaker 2: And I have these two cats who I make fun of,

658
00:31:19,080 --> 00:31:20,600
Speaker 2: but I love them. I've had them since they were

659
00:31:20,640 --> 00:31:23,520
Speaker 2: five weeks old. And he wanted me to move in,

660
00:31:23,600 --> 00:31:26,760
Speaker 2: and I said, I've got my cats. Are scared to

661
00:31:26,760 --> 00:31:29,520
Speaker 2: death of dogs, he said, I said, what about my cats.

662
00:31:29,560 --> 00:31:32,480
Speaker 2: I can't leave my cats. And he said, well, just

663
00:31:32,480 --> 00:31:34,640
Speaker 2: give him away, find a good home for them. Can

664
00:31:34,680 --> 00:31:37,400
Speaker 2: I tell you? My blood boiled, and without even thinking,

665
00:31:37,480 --> 00:31:40,160
Speaker 2: I looked at him and I said, Joe. His name

666
00:31:40,240 --> 00:31:44,040
Speaker 2: was not Joe Joe. The minute you give away your

667
00:31:44,080 --> 00:31:46,960
Speaker 2: dog Sudsy, which was not the dog's name, I will

668
00:31:46,960 --> 00:31:48,920
Speaker 2: give away my two cats. He looked at me, be goes,

669
00:31:49,000 --> 00:31:52,080
Speaker 2: I can't give away Sudsy and I said exactly, But

670
00:31:52,160 --> 00:31:53,720
Speaker 2: you know what I can give away you.

671
00:31:56,520 --> 00:31:58,760
Speaker 4: I love that. I know.

672
00:31:58,840 --> 00:32:00,640
Speaker 2: I was furious when he wanted to get rid of

673
00:32:00,640 --> 00:32:03,400
Speaker 2: my cats, but oh no, not his dog. All right?

674
00:32:03,440 --> 00:32:05,440
Speaker 3: What about a guy one doesn't have his own car.

675
00:32:06,480 --> 00:32:10,640
Speaker 2: He doesn't have a car, and you often have to

676
00:32:10,680 --> 00:32:12,959
Speaker 2: pick because he doesn't drive himself, so you often have

677
00:32:13,000 --> 00:32:13,720
Speaker 2: to pick him up.

678
00:32:15,920 --> 00:32:19,280
Speaker 4: Is he helping with any of the bills with the car?

679
00:32:19,440 --> 00:32:19,760
Speaker 3: Maybe?

680
00:32:19,800 --> 00:32:25,000
Speaker 1: Like, yes, you are, so you're you're smart. You're giving

681
00:32:25,080 --> 00:32:27,360
Speaker 1: him an out. That's a good No, she's good.

682
00:32:27,800 --> 00:32:28,600
Speaker 2: Yeah, I give you.

683
00:32:28,960 --> 00:32:30,720
Speaker 3: But if I have to drive, you got to play

684
00:32:30,760 --> 00:32:31,520
Speaker 3: for the gas.

685
00:32:31,760 --> 00:32:34,320
Speaker 4: Yeah. I think there's many reasons why someone may not

686
00:32:34,360 --> 00:32:37,760
Speaker 4: have a car, So I wouldn't knock someone for financial reasons.

687
00:32:37,920 --> 00:32:39,840
Speaker 2: But I hear the sweetest.

688
00:32:41,200 --> 00:32:43,800
Speaker 4: VENI of having to pick him up, I would hope

689
00:32:43,800 --> 00:32:44,920
Speaker 4: he would help in other ways.

690
00:32:45,000 --> 00:32:48,080
Speaker 2: Yes, okay, all right, how about this one has a

691
00:32:48,120 --> 00:32:52,120
Speaker 2: great job and stable income but seems to be financially

692
00:32:52,160 --> 00:32:56,240
Speaker 2: irresponsible and spends frivolously except on a car of course,

693
00:32:57,240 --> 00:32:57,800
Speaker 2: getting no car.

694
00:32:58,120 --> 00:33:01,720
Speaker 4: No, I would say that's a red flag because I

695
00:33:01,720 --> 00:33:03,920
Speaker 4: feel like I would want someone that I can go

696
00:33:03,960 --> 00:33:06,880
Speaker 4: to to help with my finances and like help. I

697
00:33:06,920 --> 00:33:09,320
Speaker 4: feel like you, you know, if he's like spending money

698
00:33:09,360 --> 00:33:11,080
Speaker 4: like crazy and not being smart with it, I don't

699
00:33:11,120 --> 00:33:11,920
Speaker 4: think that's very entruting.

700
00:33:11,960 --> 00:33:13,880
Speaker 3: And it doesn't have enough to pay the mortgage, you.

701
00:33:13,800 --> 00:33:15,920
Speaker 4: Know, yeah, or the car.

702
00:33:16,320 --> 00:33:18,440
Speaker 1: So this last one's a good one, but I want

703
00:33:18,480 --> 00:33:20,720
Speaker 1: to I want to address something first, Jess, do you

704
00:33:20,880 --> 00:33:22,560
Speaker 1: know what your love language is?

705
00:33:23,760 --> 00:33:24,760
Speaker 4: Words of affirmation?

706
00:33:25,320 --> 00:33:27,960
Speaker 1: Okay, so you know they're all the five of them.

707
00:33:28,320 --> 00:33:32,160
Speaker 1: So he has a totally different love language from you.

708
00:33:32,600 --> 00:33:33,200
Speaker 3: Is that okay?

709
00:33:34,800 --> 00:33:39,000
Speaker 4: No? Why that's actually where I would say no. I mean,

710
00:33:39,120 --> 00:33:41,080
Speaker 4: if we're gonna like if it's black and white question,

711
00:33:41,160 --> 00:33:43,680
Speaker 4: I would say no, I've dated someone who's love language

712
00:33:44,440 --> 00:33:47,160
Speaker 4: to get, like to receive. He also was words, but

713
00:33:47,240 --> 00:33:49,960
Speaker 4: to give it wasn't words. So he never gave me

714
00:33:50,040 --> 00:33:53,880
Speaker 4: a lot of affirmations. It's not just like compliments. It's

715
00:33:53,920 --> 00:33:55,960
Speaker 4: just like I'm proud of you or you know, things

716
00:33:56,000 --> 00:33:59,400
Speaker 4: like that. And that took a big toll on the

717
00:33:59,440 --> 00:34:03,600
Speaker 4: relationship because I just didn't feel like he really was

718
00:34:03,680 --> 00:34:04,920
Speaker 4: present and really cared for me.

719
00:34:05,320 --> 00:34:09,880
Speaker 1: So I just learned. I always assumed that when I

720
00:34:10,000 --> 00:34:13,319
Speaker 1: was with someone that their love language was mine. You know,

721
00:34:13,360 --> 00:34:15,880
Speaker 1: I know what mine is, so I assumed that was theirs.

722
00:34:15,960 --> 00:34:18,960
Speaker 1: And it wasn't until a few years ago that I

723
00:34:19,040 --> 00:34:22,319
Speaker 1: realized everybody has and I think I have all of them,

724
00:34:22,360 --> 00:34:25,040
Speaker 1: but yeah, but some people.

725
00:34:25,080 --> 00:34:26,240
Speaker 3: Like different things.

726
00:34:26,320 --> 00:34:29,640
Speaker 1: And when I learned that, and I understood what their

727
00:34:29,719 --> 00:34:32,960
Speaker 1: love language was I would try to do what they

728
00:34:33,000 --> 00:34:37,000
Speaker 1: wanted to do, okay, but they didn't try to do

729
00:34:37,360 --> 00:34:38,520
Speaker 1: what I told them.

730
00:34:40,080 --> 00:34:43,960
Speaker 2: So we had this conversation. Explained to me, one of

731
00:34:43,960 --> 00:34:51,080
Speaker 2: you explained to me. Having a different love language is it?

732
00:34:51,120 --> 00:34:54,000
Speaker 2: Is it how you receive love or how you give love?

733
00:34:54,160 --> 00:34:55,400
Speaker 2: I never can get this strange.

734
00:34:55,480 --> 00:34:57,520
Speaker 4: I think there's two ways for me. I think it's

735
00:34:57,600 --> 00:35:01,719
Speaker 4: too I think for me, I like to receive words.

736
00:35:01,440 --> 00:35:04,799
Speaker 2: Okay, and your love language that's your love language, that's

737
00:35:04,840 --> 00:35:08,360
Speaker 2: what you want to receive, yes, yeah, and then language

738
00:35:08,480 --> 00:35:09,240
Speaker 2: give way.

739
00:35:09,120 --> 00:35:11,920
Speaker 3: You feel love. That's your love language.

740
00:35:12,120 --> 00:35:15,120
Speaker 4: Yeah. And then for me, my giving would be gifts,

741
00:35:15,200 --> 00:35:17,840
Speaker 4: but it wouldn't be I like to do like letters

742
00:35:17,960 --> 00:35:20,840
Speaker 4: or like something like if you mentioned something, I'll remember it,

743
00:35:21,120 --> 00:35:25,839
Speaker 4: like surprise you with something small, like a little like yeah,

744
00:35:25,880 --> 00:35:28,480
Speaker 4: like little things that are not like the biggest, but

745
00:35:28,520 --> 00:35:29,799
Speaker 4: things are just like yes.

746
00:35:30,920 --> 00:35:34,359
Speaker 2: So is that so? Is that why I'm getting educated here?

747
00:35:34,680 --> 00:35:37,960
Speaker 2: Is that why you're saying just that the love languages

748
00:35:38,040 --> 00:35:42,120
Speaker 2: have to agree, because if you're dating a guy whose

749
00:35:42,239 --> 00:35:45,440
Speaker 2: love languages gifts, you don't want gifts, you want words

750
00:35:45,440 --> 00:35:47,840
Speaker 2: of affirmation. Is that so? Is that what you're saying

751
00:35:47,880 --> 00:35:51,160
Speaker 2: that his his language of love has to be words

752
00:35:51,160 --> 00:35:53,640
Speaker 2: of affirmation because he wants to receive it and he'd

753
00:35:53,640 --> 00:35:55,200
Speaker 2: give it. Is that correct?

754
00:35:55,840 --> 00:35:58,879
Speaker 4: Yes, But I also think in every relationship you can

755
00:35:59,120 --> 00:36:00,759
Speaker 4: you can be all five or you can you know,

756
00:36:00,800 --> 00:36:03,000
Speaker 4: it doesn't have to be a set one. I just

757
00:36:03,080 --> 00:36:05,680
Speaker 4: am referring to my last one where it was just

758
00:36:05,719 --> 00:36:07,920
Speaker 4: like whenever I would ask for the words of affirmation,

759
00:36:08,000 --> 00:36:10,640
Speaker 4: it always felt forced. So for me, like I'd have

760
00:36:10,719 --> 00:36:13,440
Speaker 4: to be with someone who will happily give words of

761
00:36:13,480 --> 00:36:15,880
Speaker 4: affirmation even if it's not their first choice.

762
00:36:15,920 --> 00:36:18,360
Speaker 1: To get those little things would make you so happy,

763
00:36:18,400 --> 00:36:20,120
Speaker 1: and it doesn't cost anything.

764
00:36:20,280 --> 00:36:21,719
Speaker 3: It's not hard to do.

765
00:36:22,320 --> 00:36:26,080
Speaker 1: What that is is a person paying attention to how

766
00:36:26,239 --> 00:36:29,239
Speaker 1: you feel love. It's so easy, Like everybody in the

767
00:36:29,280 --> 00:36:31,080
Speaker 1: world should read the book twice.

768
00:36:31,360 --> 00:36:34,000
Speaker 4: It's even as simple as like I really like the

769
00:36:34,080 --> 00:36:36,840
Speaker 4: song that you played, like I just like to like it's.

770
00:36:36,640 --> 00:36:41,920
Speaker 2: Just you know, paying attention. Okay, well I can't wait.

771
00:36:42,320 --> 00:36:45,480
Speaker 2: I want to move on Jess to we call this

772
00:36:45,480 --> 00:36:49,040
Speaker 2: little segment advice with Jess And you seem such a

773
00:36:49,160 --> 00:36:52,160
Speaker 2: wise person for twenty five years of day.

774
00:36:52,440 --> 00:36:55,279
Speaker 1: Don't get paranoid because people are questioning this and you're

775
00:36:55,320 --> 00:36:56,879
Speaker 1: going to give them your advice.

776
00:36:56,600 --> 00:36:59,319
Speaker 2: Right, So we're going to read some questions. So all right,

777
00:36:59,360 --> 00:37:02,400
Speaker 2: here we go. The first verse one is from Olive

778
00:37:02,840 --> 00:37:09,240
Speaker 2: whose age twenty two from Vancouver, Canada. Hi, Susan and Cathy.

779
00:37:09,560 --> 00:37:12,520
Speaker 2: I started listening to your podcast over the summer with

780
00:37:12,560 --> 00:37:15,400
Speaker 2: my mom before I moved away from home, and we

781
00:37:15,560 --> 00:37:18,840
Speaker 2: loved listening together. Now I'm writing in need of some

782
00:37:19,120 --> 00:37:22,000
Speaker 2: advice of my own. I just moved to a new

783
00:37:22,040 --> 00:37:25,120
Speaker 2: city with my college sweetheart, clothes to where he's from.

784
00:37:25,520 --> 00:37:27,759
Speaker 2: He has been my boyfriend for four years and we

785
00:37:27,760 --> 00:37:31,359
Speaker 2: were so excited about starting our lives together. I got

786
00:37:31,360 --> 00:37:34,960
Speaker 2: an adorable apartment and an amazing job in the city,

787
00:37:35,239 --> 00:37:37,440
Speaker 2: and he was still living at home with his parents

788
00:37:37,520 --> 00:37:40,440
Speaker 2: in the suburbs, but was planning on moving in with

789
00:37:40,560 --> 00:37:41,919
Speaker 2: me before the end of the year.

790
00:37:42,719 --> 00:37:43,160
Speaker 3: Oh boy.

791
00:37:43,680 --> 00:37:46,359
Speaker 2: Then a couple of weeks after I moved here, out

792
00:37:46,400 --> 00:37:49,720
Speaker 2: of absolutely nowhere, he just broke up with me, saying

793
00:37:49,760 --> 00:37:54,759
Speaker 2: he wanted to quote start fresh unquote after college. To

794
00:37:54,800 --> 00:37:58,759
Speaker 2: say I'm heartbroken and completely distraught is an understatement. Now

795
00:37:58,760 --> 00:38:01,440
Speaker 2: I'm in this new city where I don't know anyone,

796
00:38:01,640 --> 00:38:04,440
Speaker 2: but I have this great job. My question is do

797
00:38:04,480 --> 00:38:06,880
Speaker 2: I stay and keep my job in the apartment and

798
00:38:06,920 --> 00:38:09,239
Speaker 2: try to start my own life here, or should I

799
00:38:09,280 --> 00:38:11,480
Speaker 2: try to find a new job somewhere else or move

800
00:38:11,560 --> 00:38:14,799
Speaker 2: back home. I just feel so lonely and this isn't

801
00:38:14,840 --> 00:38:18,359
Speaker 2: how I imagine starting this new chapter off at all. I

802
00:38:18,440 --> 00:38:20,799
Speaker 2: also worry if I stay here, I'll run into him

803
00:38:21,040 --> 00:38:25,440
Speaker 2: because he's still planning on moving into the city with friends. Now.

804
00:38:26,160 --> 00:38:29,200
Speaker 2: Any advice is appreciated, my mom, and I can't wait

805
00:38:29,280 --> 00:38:33,520
Speaker 2: to hear what you say. Wow, all right, Jess, what

806
00:38:33,520 --> 00:38:34,040
Speaker 2: do you say?

807
00:38:36,600 --> 00:38:39,920
Speaker 4: My first thought is, you know, she may have thought

808
00:38:39,960 --> 00:38:42,279
Speaker 4: that she moved to that city and got that job

809
00:38:42,320 --> 00:38:44,400
Speaker 4: for him, but I think that is just probably what

810
00:38:44,680 --> 00:38:46,520
Speaker 4: brought her there and doesn't really need to be the

811
00:38:46,520 --> 00:38:49,200
Speaker 4: reason why she stays. I think she's there for a reason.

812
00:38:49,320 --> 00:38:51,960
Speaker 4: I think she should explore because she'll always wonder you

813
00:38:52,000 --> 00:38:55,560
Speaker 4: know what if I stayed, I think this city will

814
00:38:55,600 --> 00:38:59,960
Speaker 4: have so much more than just him, and think thankful,

815
00:39:00,239 --> 00:39:03,440
Speaker 4: like kind of like change the mindset because now you

816
00:39:03,480 --> 00:39:05,000
Speaker 4: get to have a whole new life here and you

817
00:39:05,000 --> 00:39:07,720
Speaker 4: don't have as many memories with him yet, So create

818
00:39:07,800 --> 00:39:10,640
Speaker 4: new ones with friends, you know, try new things, go

819
00:39:10,680 --> 00:39:13,040
Speaker 4: to new workout places, and maybe you will run into

820
00:39:13,080 --> 00:39:14,880
Speaker 4: him one day, but you'll be so much happier that

821
00:39:15,160 --> 00:39:16,120
Speaker 4: you did that for yourself.

822
00:39:16,719 --> 00:39:19,000
Speaker 3: And I would definitely start dating again.

823
00:39:19,920 --> 00:39:22,319
Speaker 2: You know what I thought I would do that. I'm

824
00:39:22,360 --> 00:39:24,279
Speaker 2: not sure she's ready to start dating, but you know

825
00:39:24,320 --> 00:39:29,919
Speaker 2: what I thought from lemons come lemonade, like this could

826
00:39:29,960 --> 00:39:34,120
Speaker 2: be the greatest gift of learning to be independent and

827
00:39:35,000 --> 00:39:37,840
Speaker 2: a sense of adventure and trying new things. Something you

828
00:39:37,880 --> 00:39:41,000
Speaker 2: didn't anticipate. You know, you went from college and living

829
00:39:41,040 --> 00:39:46,120
Speaker 2: at home to moving to this strange city and now

830
00:39:46,120 --> 00:39:47,680
Speaker 2: you've got to do it on your own, and that's

831
00:39:47,719 --> 00:39:49,480
Speaker 2: in some ways can be exhilarating.

832
00:39:49,000 --> 00:39:51,359
Speaker 1: And to make you grow up real quick too and

833
00:39:51,719 --> 00:39:53,160
Speaker 1: learn to depend on yourself.

834
00:39:53,239 --> 00:39:56,520
Speaker 2: Yeah, so we wish you all the best, Olive, and

835
00:39:56,560 --> 00:39:58,560
Speaker 2: we hope let us know how it's going in that

836
00:39:58,600 --> 00:39:59,120
Speaker 2: new city.

837
00:39:59,280 --> 00:39:59,720
Speaker 5: We hoped.

838
00:40:01,120 --> 00:40:04,160
Speaker 1: All right, we have another one from Tracy and she's

839
00:40:04,200 --> 00:40:08,880
Speaker 1: fifty nine from Dover, Delaware. Well she's not far from me. Hey, ladies,

840
00:40:08,920 --> 00:40:11,279
Speaker 1: I have a question for you. My husband and I

841
00:40:11,320 --> 00:40:15,239
Speaker 1: are finally getting divorced after a long road of an

842
00:40:15,400 --> 00:40:16,600
Speaker 1: unhappy marriage.

843
00:40:17,239 --> 00:40:17,479
Speaker 5: Yay.

844
00:40:18,360 --> 00:40:20,520
Speaker 1: I am feeling ready and excited to get back out

845
00:40:20,520 --> 00:40:23,480
Speaker 1: there and date again. Some of my friends have shared

846
00:40:23,600 --> 00:40:27,320
Speaker 1: mixed opinions on this, so I wanted to hear your thoughts.

847
00:40:27,680 --> 00:40:30,560
Speaker 1: Some think I need to wait until the divorce is

848
00:40:30,600 --> 00:40:34,520
Speaker 1: finalized to start dating, while others say it's okay to

849
00:40:34,680 --> 00:40:37,480
Speaker 1: dive back into dating now that we are separated and

850
00:40:37,560 --> 00:40:44,040
Speaker 1: living apart. I feel healed enough to put myself out

851
00:40:44,080 --> 00:40:47,160
Speaker 1: there and date. Plus I have no idea how long

852
00:40:47,280 --> 00:40:49,880
Speaker 1: our divorce will take. I know for some of my

853
00:40:49,960 --> 00:40:54,200
Speaker 1: friends it was months years before everything was finalized. Do

854
00:40:54,280 --> 00:40:57,120
Speaker 1: you think it's okay that I get back out there

855
00:40:57,200 --> 00:41:00,040
Speaker 1: and start dating or do you think I need to

856
00:41:00,080 --> 00:41:03,719
Speaker 1: wait until our divorce is final? So curious about your

857
00:41:03,719 --> 00:41:07,520
Speaker 1: thoughts on this, and also if you'd even considered dating

858
00:41:07,560 --> 00:41:12,440
Speaker 1: someone who's divorce wasn't final. Maybe I'm setting myself up

859
00:41:12,480 --> 00:41:15,680
Speaker 1: for a lot of rejection. Anyway, Love you both and

860
00:41:15,719 --> 00:41:18,880
Speaker 1: thank you for the advice. All right, Jesse, you're going first.

861
00:41:21,000 --> 00:41:23,200
Speaker 4: I think when it comes to putting yourself out there,

862
00:41:23,280 --> 00:41:25,799
Speaker 4: there's no timeline. I think it's different for everyone, so

863
00:41:25,880 --> 00:41:28,960
Speaker 4: it's more so check in with yourself if you're ready

864
00:41:29,760 --> 00:41:32,040
Speaker 4: after everything you've been through, if you're ready to trust

865
00:41:32,160 --> 00:41:32,919
Speaker 4: and fall in love again.

866
00:41:34,400 --> 00:41:36,400
Speaker 1: I don't think there's anything wrong with it at all,

867
00:41:36,480 --> 00:41:37,760
Speaker 1: as long as she's honest.

868
00:41:38,840 --> 00:41:41,680
Speaker 2: Yeah, I think we don't we as usual, we don't

869
00:41:41,719 --> 00:41:44,279
Speaker 2: have all the information, but it sounds like they've been

870
00:41:44,440 --> 00:41:47,520
Speaker 2: very unhappy for a long time, so I think emotionally

871
00:41:47,560 --> 00:41:51,600
Speaker 2: she's already moved on out of the marriage. I just think, Susan,

872
00:41:51,600 --> 00:41:55,000
Speaker 2: you're exactly right. You want to be honest and say

873
00:41:55,040 --> 00:41:58,640
Speaker 2: that you're in the process. And I'm assuming Tracy that

874
00:41:58,719 --> 00:42:01,880
Speaker 2: you all have filed for divorce and that it's in

875
00:42:01,960 --> 00:42:05,080
Speaker 2: the works. And I don't see any problem with that

876
00:42:05,200 --> 00:42:07,279
Speaker 2: as long as it's in the works and it's not

877
00:42:07,480 --> 00:42:09,799
Speaker 2: just quote unquote a trial separation.

878
00:42:10,600 --> 00:42:10,799
Speaker 3: Yeah.

879
00:42:10,880 --> 00:42:13,920
Speaker 1: No, I think that's completely right. But hey, don't feel guilty.

880
00:42:14,280 --> 00:42:16,040
Speaker 1: And you know what, I don't want to rain on

881
00:42:16,080 --> 00:42:19,600
Speaker 1: your parade, but sometimes you don't find dates that well easy.

882
00:42:19,680 --> 00:42:23,080
Speaker 2: I was just tell Tracy what it's like out there

883
00:42:23,080 --> 00:42:25,480
Speaker 2: in the dating in your sixties.

884
00:42:25,800 --> 00:42:28,200
Speaker 3: It could be harder than you think. So start now,

885
00:42:28,760 --> 00:42:29,160
Speaker 3: start down.

886
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Speaker 2: It's a long road up hill.

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Speaker 3: Well would you wait, Yes, if you were going through

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Speaker 3: a divorce, would you wait?

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Speaker 4: I mean, I feel like I think it just kind

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Speaker 4: of like what you said. I have to be honest

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Speaker 4: when I'm dating. But I think it's just a matter

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Speaker 4: of like I would be ready or not even if

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00:42:46,960 --> 00:42:49,280
Speaker 4: I've been unhappy. I think sometimes it's good. It's different

894
00:42:49,360 --> 00:42:52,680
Speaker 4: to be unhappy and to be alone and learn self love.

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Speaker 4: So if I need to, but it's again, yeah, yeah,

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Speaker 4: it takes time to hear.

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Speaker 3: Agree all right, well whatever.

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Speaker 2: We've had so much from with you, Jess, but now

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Speaker 2: that one so fast. This episode of Bachelor Happy Hours

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Speaker 2: Golden Hour has come to an end.

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Speaker 3: Wait wait, wait before wait wait, just pause.

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Speaker 1: I want to ask Jess if she has any thoughts

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Speaker 1: or recommendations.

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Speaker 4: For us, for you guys, for your dating life.

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Speaker 5: Yes, uh huh, okay, I love this. Okay, I think.

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Speaker 4: I mean, I don't know how much advice I could

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Speaker 4: give because I'm struggling too, but I think to just

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00:43:36,920 --> 00:43:40,560
Speaker 4: continue to stay positive and trust that you know who

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00:43:40,600 --> 00:43:42,640
Speaker 4: you were meant to be with. It will come when

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00:43:42,640 --> 00:43:46,440
Speaker 4: it's supposed to, and you will be your worst enemy.

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00:43:46,520 --> 00:43:49,480
Speaker 4: If you feel like that, won't that time won't come,

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Speaker 4: because it will.

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Speaker 3: I love that.

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Speaker 2: That's great.

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Speaker 3: Hear that.

916
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Speaker 1: Because Kathy always says they're not gonna want us, we're old.

917
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Speaker 1: They want younger men want younger women, and she says

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Speaker 1: it all the time.

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Speaker 2: Well, it's only been my experience, that's it's been my

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Speaker 2: experience that I have friends who are in their forties

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Speaker 2: and there, and you know, some of them their dads

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Speaker 2: are divorced whatever, and they say, oh my gosh, you'd

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Speaker 2: be so great. And then they give them this strange look,

924
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Speaker 2: and I say, what is it. You know, you're fun

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Speaker 2: and you're active and you're so cool, but my dad

926
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Speaker 2: is sixty five and he really wants to date a

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Speaker 2: forty year old. You know, I'm good, but I cannot

928
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Speaker 2: compete with a forty year old.

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Speaker 4: Well, that's not the type of man.

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Speaker 5: You want someone who.

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Speaker 4: Will see your beauty inside out, and that's that will be.

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Speaker 1: The one all you romantic, I really even happily ever after,

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Speaker 1: no matter how long it takes.

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Speaker 2: Yes, well on that happy note, and truly just thank you,

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Speaker 2: truly you are a lovely seriously, a lovely young lady.

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Speaker 2: We only wish you the best as you go down

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Speaker 2: this road of growing and looking for love yourself or not.

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Speaker 2: Whatever you decide you want to do, we do.

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Speaker 1: We do, but call us if you do meet somebody,

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Speaker 1: because you might have an.

941
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Speaker 2: He might have an uncle who wants to be to

942
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Speaker 2: forty year old Jess.

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Speaker 1: Thank you so much for joining us, and thank you

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Speaker 1: out there for listening, and make sure to follow us

945
00:45:11,080 --> 00:45:15,160
Speaker 1: on Bachelor Happy Hours. We have new and exciting guests

946
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Speaker 1: coming out all the time.

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Speaker 2: And if you liked the questions that Jess and we

948
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Speaker 2: all answer today, make sure you submit your questions to us,

949
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Speaker 2: because we really do enjoy answering your questions. It's really easy.

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Speaker 2: Just go to bachelornation dot com, slash Golden Hour, or

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00:45:31,760 --> 00:45:34,880
Speaker 2: hit us up on social at Bachelor Happy Hour.

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00:45:34,880 --> 00:45:37,239
Speaker 1: And listen to Bachelor Happy Hours Golden Hour on the

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Speaker 1: iHeartRadio app or wherever you listen to your podcast.

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Speaker 3: Thanks again, have a good week.