WEBVTT - Advice Letters 8 0:00:01.040 --> 0:00:04.920 Good morning, good afternoon, good evening. You are tuned into 0:00:04.960 --> 0:00:09.720 the Vitamin D Podcast. Welcome, great day, amazing day to you, 0:00:10.440 --> 0:00:14.080 and I'm your host on day and on this podcast, 0:00:14.400 --> 0:00:17.320 it's all about you getting excited about your life so 0:00:17.360 --> 0:00:20.759 that you can live life on purpose and for a purpose. See, 0:00:21.120 --> 0:00:23.560 Vitamin D came with the concept because it's un off 0:00:23.560 --> 0:00:26.439 my name. You know, my name is Dawn, right, and 0:00:26.480 --> 0:00:28.760 you get that vitamin D from the sun, right. So 0:00:28.800 --> 0:00:31.159 I'm here to shed light into your life. And I 0:00:31.280 --> 0:00:35.400 do that with inspirational conversations with celebrities and everyday people 0:00:35.440 --> 0:00:38.600 like you and me, just covering insights, just another way 0:00:38.640 --> 0:00:40.920 to look at things. And you've gotta get this too. 0:00:41.600 --> 0:00:44.080 Vitamin D is for your mind, body, and soul, and 0:00:44.080 --> 0:00:46.000 in order for all of that to come play together, 0:00:46.520 --> 0:00:48.640 that means it's shutting the light. And when you shut 0:00:48.720 --> 0:00:51.560 the light, we're uncovering what's under the good and the bad. 0:00:51.640 --> 0:00:54.680 Because in order to beat our best selves, we have 0:00:54.760 --> 0:00:57.560 to see our best selves. I mean, you think about it, 0:00:58.080 --> 0:01:01.840 taking consideration of fear. You fear what you do not see. 0:01:02.080 --> 0:01:05.080 Even fear itself is false evidence appearing real. It's all 0:01:05.160 --> 0:01:08.560 an illusion. But see, you know truth by the way 0:01:08.560 --> 0:01:11.200 it feels right. You know, truth because it's what you 0:01:11.240 --> 0:01:15.200 allow yourself to see. So we're cutting on the lights now. 0:01:15.240 --> 0:01:17.880 Ever so often I'll do something where I may sit 0:01:17.920 --> 0:01:20.919 down with somebody and have a good conversation just uncovering 0:01:21.000 --> 0:01:23.800 different things that they're involved in and ways to inspire. 0:01:24.160 --> 0:01:26.880 Other times, I'm doing something with cryptosis, and it's where 0:01:26.920 --> 0:01:29.880 I'm taking the lyrics of popular music and I intertwined 0:01:29.920 --> 0:01:33.200 into a motivational message. And then ever so often I 0:01:33.319 --> 0:01:36.240 come with a special treat. And this treat is all 0:01:36.280 --> 0:01:39.000 about hearing from you and giving advice to you. It's 0:01:39.000 --> 0:01:41.440 our Vitamin D advice letters. So I have plenty of 0:01:41.440 --> 0:01:44.800 people coming in to write about opinions and thoughts and 0:01:44.880 --> 0:01:48.600 questions on relationships, on love, on dreams, their career, and 0:01:48.640 --> 0:01:51.920 I just shed some light from my perspective. And here's 0:01:51.960 --> 0:01:54.400 the thing. If you wanna hit me out, go ahead 0:01:54.440 --> 0:01:57.880 and email me Vitamin D at Dawn day Speaks dot com. Again, 0:01:57.920 --> 0:02:01.600 that's Vitamin D at Dawn day Speaks dot com. Okay, 0:02:01.880 --> 0:02:05.800 so we're going into some advice letters. So without further ado, 0:02:06.000 --> 0:02:11.560 it's some for your dose of Vitamin D. Right with 0:02:11.760 --> 0:02:19.000 me and get excited about. Okay, So now let's go 0:02:19.160 --> 0:02:24.600 to the very first letter, subject explaining vision boards and 0:02:24.680 --> 0:02:27.120 Dear Dawn, I'm trying to find the best way to 0:02:27.160 --> 0:02:29.720 manifest what I want in life. I'm thirty one, and 0:02:29.760 --> 0:02:32.840 I live in Memphis. I really want to open a bookstore, 0:02:32.880 --> 0:02:35.440 but I'm feeling like it's out of my reach. All 0:02:35.520 --> 0:02:38.280 the little and big pieces of buying the property and 0:02:38.360 --> 0:02:41.600 setting up deals and contracts with publishers and all other 0:02:41.680 --> 0:02:45.200 aspects of starting a small business just feel overwhelming. I 0:02:45.240 --> 0:02:47.440 know you talked a few times about having a vision, 0:02:47.639 --> 0:02:50.600 but could you go into detail about manifesting and vision boards. 0:02:50.919 --> 0:02:52.799 I've been trying to get my head right to get 0:02:52.840 --> 0:02:56.079 the start on the dream, but often feel unfocused. I've 0:02:56.080 --> 0:02:58.840 read some things about vision boards being a solution for that, 0:02:58.919 --> 0:03:02.320 and assuming you've had experiences with them, could you tell 0:03:02.360 --> 0:03:06.240 me your thoughts. Yes, I have a vision world right now, 0:03:06.800 --> 0:03:09.519 this me talking to you on this podcast, right now, 0:03:10.520 --> 0:03:14.160 that's on the vision board. Um. You know when you 0:03:14.200 --> 0:03:17.960 talk about your dreams right oftentimes I think even the 0:03:17.960 --> 0:03:21.280 word dream is placed in a uh a realm that 0:03:21.320 --> 0:03:24.919 you're not in right now, right And in this realm, 0:03:24.919 --> 0:03:27.960 it's magic it's what you create and what you make 0:03:28.000 --> 0:03:31.800 of it. Always say that whether it's your dreams or 0:03:31.840 --> 0:03:34.720 just communication with self, you can't negate the fact that 0:03:34.760 --> 0:03:37.720 there is a spiritual self and then there's your physical self. 0:03:39.120 --> 0:03:42.920 You can't exist without one another, at least in this realm. 0:03:42.960 --> 0:03:45.760 And understanding these dreams that are coming to you, this 0:03:45.880 --> 0:03:47.840 feeling that you have, this urge to be more, to 0:03:47.920 --> 0:03:52.760 do more, that's your spiritual self. But remember this is 0:03:52.800 --> 0:03:56.080 all about teamwork, it's about relationship. So now you have 0:03:56.160 --> 0:03:58.920 to speak to your physical self. Now, yes, you may 0:03:58.960 --> 0:04:00.800 have the inside of knowing that this is the dream, 0:04:00.880 --> 0:04:03.920 this is the vision, this is what I want. But 0:04:03.960 --> 0:04:06.600 how do you speak to the carnal mind, the one 0:04:06.680 --> 0:04:11.920 that's used to eating and drinking and feeling. Right, Well, 0:04:12.000 --> 0:04:14.120 you put the vision board out there, because now what 0:04:14.240 --> 0:04:16.080 you feel inside you need to put in front of 0:04:16.120 --> 0:04:17.800 you kind of like so you can go after it. 0:04:18.040 --> 0:04:19.760 Now we've see it in different cases, right, you may 0:04:19.760 --> 0:04:21.680 see it, um, you know the dog races. I don't 0:04:21.680 --> 0:04:23.040 know if it's the greyhound, but they'll put like a 0:04:23.120 --> 0:04:26.200 character or a toy, and you're going after it. And 0:04:26.200 --> 0:04:28.839 see when we talk about purpose and we talk about dreams. 0:04:29.080 --> 0:04:30.920 You have to put something so that you can look 0:04:30.920 --> 0:04:33.679 forward to, because then you get caught up looking behind 0:04:33.680 --> 0:04:35.919 you and you realize that even in life, the whole 0:04:36.000 --> 0:04:40.560 mode is to just keep moving forward. You just gotta 0:04:40.640 --> 0:04:43.760 keep going. And when we look at the instance of 0:04:44.720 --> 0:04:48.159 life and understanding that the only time that you stop 0:04:48.279 --> 0:04:50.040 is when you die. So when you ask me, Dawn, 0:04:50.200 --> 0:04:54.520 is the vision board important? Absolutely? Guess it kind of 0:04:54.560 --> 0:04:58.440 works in the subconscious mind, right. You know what you 0:04:58.480 --> 0:05:00.960 can see, you can believe. So what happens when you 0:05:01.000 --> 0:05:03.640 have all these ideas in your head? You need to 0:05:03.640 --> 0:05:05.680 create it because it's your story. And if you look 0:05:05.960 --> 0:05:08.279 for life in the realm right down to put the 0:05:08.360 --> 0:05:10.760 vision for you to go after it, will your dreams 0:05:10.800 --> 0:05:13.320 matterfest Well, I have to wonder after question because they're 0:05:13.320 --> 0:05:16.400 your dreams. So it isn't necessarily something that somebody else 0:05:16.400 --> 0:05:19.080 has done, because there's no other person like you. So 0:05:19.120 --> 0:05:21.400 now the question becomes is whether or not you're ready 0:05:21.400 --> 0:05:24.960 to have the conversation with your spiritualself and your physical self. 0:05:25.680 --> 0:05:27.440 I mean, you hear two minds are better than one, 0:05:27.760 --> 0:05:31.520 but two essences are better than one. Imagine the magic 0:05:31.560 --> 0:05:35.240 that you can create there and don't overwhelm yourself. You know, 0:05:35.279 --> 0:05:38.080 oftentimes we think vision boards have to be a physical thing. 0:05:38.120 --> 0:05:40.600 As far as it's tangible in my hand, you can 0:05:40.640 --> 0:05:43.000 also create it on your phone. It could be words, 0:05:43.080 --> 0:05:45.480 it can be pictures, it can be quotes, it can 0:05:45.520 --> 0:05:50.120 be colors. Whatever makes you feel alive, whatever makes you 0:05:50.160 --> 0:05:54.120 feel that like, I want to go after it right, 0:05:55.200 --> 0:06:00.440 and therefore allows you to dream wide awake. So when 0:06:00.480 --> 0:06:03.440 you say that things get overwhelmed me, you may have 0:06:03.520 --> 0:06:08.200 heard it before. Inch by inch, life's ascent yard by yard. 0:06:08.360 --> 0:06:11.000 Life is hard. You just gotta put one ft in 0:06:11.040 --> 0:06:13.960 front of the other and just let it start by 0:06:14.000 --> 0:06:16.760 just putting a vision and biblically speaking, write the vision 0:06:16.760 --> 0:06:19.560 and make it plain where else you need to see it. 0:06:19.640 --> 0:06:22.560 The vision board. You gotta manifest with your affirmations. And 0:06:22.720 --> 0:06:24.839 what happens is that when you put these vision boards 0:06:24.839 --> 0:06:27.080 out there, when you look at it, it's a sense 0:06:27.120 --> 0:06:29.960 to hold yourself accountable because you start to see it 0:06:29.960 --> 0:06:31.880 and you remember what it is that you want, and 0:06:31.920 --> 0:06:34.400 you need a consistent reminder of what it is that 0:06:34.480 --> 0:06:38.919 you want. So make the vision without the vision of 0:06:38.920 --> 0:06:40.720 people with pairs, So what is the vision? What do 0:06:40.760 --> 0:06:43.719 you want? For your life. What do you see for yourself? 0:06:45.200 --> 0:06:47.520 Make sure you wake up every day and subconsciously you 0:06:47.560 --> 0:06:51.080 look at it. It's kind of like even a seed 0:06:51.080 --> 0:06:52.960 in the ground you put water on, it's gonna grow. 0:06:54.240 --> 0:06:57.520 You gotta fertilize your dreams on this vision board. That 0:06:57.600 --> 0:07:01.440 is you planting your dreams. The only next step is 0:07:01.480 --> 0:07:06.599 to wait for your season and remember it's right on time. Okay, 0:07:07.040 --> 0:07:10.760 I'm completely for vision boards. Let's go all right, let's 0:07:10.760 --> 0:07:14.320 get to the next letter subject. My partner wants to 0:07:14.640 --> 0:07:21.040 open our relationship. Dear Dawn, thirty four year old man 0:07:21.200 --> 0:07:25.120 and fan. Okay, thank you. I see you from p 0:07:25.240 --> 0:07:28.600 a here. As someone who grew up being constantly bullied, 0:07:28.640 --> 0:07:31.840 I've always seen myself as not good enough. Eventually I 0:07:31.920 --> 0:07:33.800 managed to meet someone who thought I was a good 0:07:33.880 --> 0:07:36.440 person and a good match. And she must have thought 0:07:36.520 --> 0:07:39.200 the same. Because we've been together for the last six years. 0:07:39.720 --> 0:07:42.680 Things have been good to be laugh, we argue, occasionally, 0:07:43.040 --> 0:07:46.120 we have little inside jokes. It's been good. But my 0:07:46.200 --> 0:07:48.480 partner recently opened up to me that she wants to 0:07:48.480 --> 0:07:52.120 try being polyamorous. Now, knowing that my favorite person in 0:07:52.160 --> 0:07:55.280 the world wants multiple partners, I feel more crushed than ever, 0:07:55.800 --> 0:07:59.200 and those feelings are being not good enough are coming, 0:07:59.720 --> 0:08:02.640 We're going back. I don't know what to do. I 0:08:02.680 --> 0:08:04.640 want to love my partner alone and for her to 0:08:04.680 --> 0:08:07.280 love me back the same way. I would usually try 0:08:07.600 --> 0:08:09.440 and be accepting of this sort of stuff, but I 0:08:09.520 --> 0:08:12.200 just can't. This time is too much. I trust her 0:08:12.240 --> 0:08:14.120 with everything I have, but it's not about trust, It's 0:08:14.120 --> 0:08:16.440 about feelings and how I would prefer to show them. 0:08:16.680 --> 0:08:21.200 Am I wrong for not being accepting this? No, you're 0:08:21.200 --> 0:08:24.480 not wrong for being in your truth. This is what 0:08:24.560 --> 0:08:27.080 you want. This is what you want now. One thing 0:08:27.080 --> 0:08:28.240 that I have to say off the bat, I have 0:08:28.280 --> 0:08:30.840 to commend your partner, and I commend your relationship to 0:08:30.920 --> 0:08:34.360 being open enough to share that. But aren't you grateful 0:08:34.400 --> 0:08:39.440 that she gave you the option rightfully and deservingly. So 0:08:40.640 --> 0:08:42.880 now there's another thing that I look at the flip 0:08:42.880 --> 0:08:46.280 of the coin, whether or not she wanted to bring 0:08:46.440 --> 0:08:50.000 some other person and relationship. There's a sense on your 0:08:50.080 --> 0:08:52.640 end that there's a level of self confidence, like where 0:08:52.640 --> 0:08:54.920 do you stand with yourself? And that's nothing that you 0:08:54.960 --> 0:08:56.960 have to rely on. I'm reading in the letter, and 0:08:57.000 --> 0:09:00.680 you set off the bat almost as if you were saved, 0:09:01.240 --> 0:09:04.280 you know, by some type of net you know, like 0:09:04.520 --> 0:09:06.160 I didn't think I was good enough because I was 0:09:06.160 --> 0:09:09.280 constantly put down and she chose me. But it wasn't 0:09:09.320 --> 0:09:10.920 that chosen of knowing that it was a blessing. It 0:09:10.960 --> 0:09:13.200 was almost a chosen like, oh nobody else wanted me. 0:09:13.960 --> 0:09:15.599 So then you gotta ask yourself, how much do you 0:09:15.679 --> 0:09:18.720 value yourself? Because how you do anything is how you 0:09:18.800 --> 0:09:21.760 do everything. And I'm not sure of what the narrative 0:09:21.880 --> 0:09:24.520 of showing or saying what yourself is because this was 0:09:24.559 --> 0:09:28.120 a very mature conversation, you know, it wasn't anything that 0:09:28.160 --> 0:09:31.559 came behind the back. And in a relationship there are 0:09:31.559 --> 0:09:34.040 things that are ebbs and flows. There are different wants 0:09:34.040 --> 0:09:36.920 and needs for each partner. Now, one partner should not 0:09:36.960 --> 0:09:39.719 go on her because in a relationship, the key thing 0:09:39.800 --> 0:09:42.920 that you want is communication. Just as every right that 0:09:42.960 --> 0:09:44.840 she wants to express with you that hey, I'd like 0:09:44.880 --> 0:09:49.200 to explore multiple partners and uh pursue the polyamorous lifestyle, 0:09:49.440 --> 0:09:51.080 you have every right to say that that does not 0:09:51.120 --> 0:09:54.120 work for you. Now we're's gonna have to take to 0:09:54.160 --> 0:09:55.920 the mature part of the table is to have a 0:09:55.960 --> 0:09:58.880 conversation express who you are now. The thing that makes 0:09:58.880 --> 0:10:01.000 me wonder and I want you to keep top of mind, 0:10:01.400 --> 0:10:03.559 is that you said that you're used to being bullied. Now, 0:10:03.559 --> 0:10:05.200 when I think of a bully, I always think of 0:10:05.240 --> 0:10:08.440 somebody that doesn't have a voice. There's somebody that keeps quiet. 0:10:09.000 --> 0:10:13.079 They they keep to themselves and so therefore they're not heard. 0:10:14.400 --> 0:10:17.679 You have to be heard in this situation. Whether it's 0:10:17.720 --> 0:10:20.400 not so much to say, hey, you can't do this, 0:10:20.440 --> 0:10:23.880 but you need to express how you feel and how 0:10:23.920 --> 0:10:26.680 you feel it makes it uncomfortable because is it more 0:10:26.720 --> 0:10:29.360 so you're uncomfortable of feeling like she will go on 0:10:29.440 --> 0:10:32.840 to someone else? Or is the idea of your favorite person? 0:10:32.880 --> 0:10:34.960 You said a mixture of both, But I guess I 0:10:35.000 --> 0:10:36.800 got a little mixed up because the first thing you 0:10:36.840 --> 0:10:39.800 came into letters stating is that you've been bullied and 0:10:39.840 --> 0:10:41.360 there's a time that you didn't feel like you were 0:10:41.360 --> 0:10:45.280 good enough. It's gonna take a tremendous amount of confidence 0:10:45.480 --> 0:10:49.240 and self assurance one to even explore this lifestyle and 0:10:49.280 --> 0:10:52.719 the type of security in your relationship. But two, it's 0:10:52.720 --> 0:10:54.760 also gonna take for you to know who you are 0:10:54.840 --> 0:10:58.600 within yourself, because whether it's this relationship it'll spill out 0:10:58.600 --> 0:11:01.360 into the next relationship. You gotta understand the gift that 0:11:01.400 --> 0:11:05.400 you are for self, you know, and you know. I 0:11:05.400 --> 0:11:08.640 think in the relationship oftentimes people have a means of changing. 0:11:08.920 --> 0:11:10.840 You said that you've been married or you guys have 0:11:10.880 --> 0:11:13.360 been together for the last six years. This has never 0:11:13.400 --> 0:11:16.720 came up. This has never been something that you talked about, 0:11:16.800 --> 0:11:19.199 you joked about, or did you choose not to hear it? 0:11:20.080 --> 0:11:22.679 Only you know that. But when you talk about being 0:11:22.720 --> 0:11:24.760 a relationship, I think it's our due diligence to know 0:11:24.800 --> 0:11:27.160 our partner. Now, there are some things I think people 0:11:27.160 --> 0:11:29.120 will keep to themselves, but I think there's a level 0:11:29.120 --> 0:11:31.280 of when do you come with the communication and don't 0:11:31.280 --> 0:11:34.200 break down the communication. Now you are going to have 0:11:34.280 --> 0:11:36.480 to work on your self confidence with yourself in general, 0:11:36.720 --> 0:11:38.319 because who you were when you were a little kid, 0:11:38.360 --> 0:11:40.240 that's not the man, the thirty four year old man 0:11:40.280 --> 0:11:44.520 that you are today, and if it is now, it's 0:11:44.520 --> 0:11:47.000 your responsibility to do the work to change the narrative, 0:11:47.720 --> 0:11:49.360 because what does that say to your partner that you 0:11:49.440 --> 0:11:52.400 feel like, oh, I'm a damsel in distress and so lucky. 0:11:52.440 --> 0:11:55.800 She should feel like she has a prize too. And 0:11:55.880 --> 0:11:57.880 just like a diamond, it doesn't apologize for shining to 0:11:57.880 --> 0:12:01.080 get your shines and all of its imperfections, because there's 0:12:01.160 --> 0:12:03.280 value in it, and you have to see the value 0:12:03.280 --> 0:12:05.400 of yourself and the value comes from your voice and 0:12:05.440 --> 0:12:07.400 expressing to your partner that this is something that you 0:12:07.440 --> 0:12:09.760 are uncomfortable with and see what it goes from there. 0:12:09.800 --> 0:12:11.559 Now we can sit here and try to play how 0:12:11.600 --> 0:12:14.680 every scenario, what could happen, what could be said, But 0:12:14.920 --> 0:12:17.040 what it takes right now is what you know right now, 0:12:17.120 --> 0:12:20.960 this is not what you want. And I think oftentimes 0:12:20.960 --> 0:12:23.880 when we're making decisions in life, we're trying to predict 0:12:24.080 --> 0:12:27.480 what's to come after. Sometimes the best decision is just 0:12:27.520 --> 0:12:30.120 knowing where you don't want to be because it forces 0:12:30.160 --> 0:12:35.880 you to move, keep moving forward, make sure you continue 0:12:35.920 --> 0:12:39.520 to communicate. Okay, all right, let's go to the next 0:12:39.600 --> 0:12:45.360 letter subject Getting the thing done the deud An. I've 0:12:45.360 --> 0:12:47.280 been trying to write a book for about ten years now, 0:12:47.320 --> 0:12:49.520 and I feel like I'm about to go crazy. It 0:12:49.520 --> 0:12:51.560 all started when I was a team I got to 0:12:51.600 --> 0:12:54.200 college and decided that journalism was going to be my thing, 0:12:54.559 --> 0:12:57.320 so I really fell into love with writing. Turns out, though, 0:12:57.360 --> 0:13:00.880 that Journalism wasn't my thing, but fiction was go figure. 0:13:01.280 --> 0:13:03.160 I really fell in love with the freedom to that, 0:13:03.200 --> 0:13:06.120 and I hadn't telling stories and the centrality that ideas 0:13:06.160 --> 0:13:09.120 I was interested in could take. But the thing about 0:13:09.160 --> 0:13:11.000 getting bitten by that sort of bug is when you 0:13:11.080 --> 0:13:13.760 don't immediately make it, you can start to feel like 0:13:13.800 --> 0:13:16.679 you felt immeasurably. So I like twenty I decided I 0:13:16.760 --> 0:13:19.040 wanted to write a novel. I started and got a 0:13:19.040 --> 0:13:22.360 bit of ways in. But since that first year it's 0:13:22.360 --> 0:13:26.360 been stopping start. That was six years ago. Since I 0:13:26.400 --> 0:13:28.720 haven't been able to finish it. I keep feeling like 0:13:28.760 --> 0:13:31.880 a failure. And now, even though I'm financially okay I 0:13:31.960 --> 0:13:34.559 managed to find a job as a grant writer after school, 0:13:35.840 --> 0:13:38.920 I feel just down in the dump spiritually. So what 0:13:38.960 --> 0:13:41.160 I want to ask you, Dahn, is this, how do 0:13:41.240 --> 0:13:44.080 I hunker down and term my vision into reality. I 0:13:44.120 --> 0:13:46.199 know I won't feel right until I get back to Ranny. 0:13:46.440 --> 0:13:48.400 I mean, even if I can't finish the book, if 0:13:48.400 --> 0:13:50.840 I could just develop a daily habit, I think this 0:13:51.000 --> 0:13:53.280 soul sickness I've had for a few years would start 0:13:53.320 --> 0:13:55.920 to get better. I'm not under the impression that things 0:13:55.920 --> 0:13:58.360 will get better right away. But if it could change 0:13:58.400 --> 0:14:02.880 a little, I would be so relieved. Okay, so I 0:14:02.880 --> 0:14:06.160 feel like you just answered your own question about what 0:14:06.200 --> 0:14:08.880 you want. So I guess what you want? For me 0:14:08.920 --> 0:14:12.040 to just reiterate, okay, cool, you had this vision, it 0:14:12.080 --> 0:14:14.840 came to you ten years ago. You've identified the fact that, 0:14:15.040 --> 0:14:18.600 um that ten years ago you were eighteen, and then 0:14:18.679 --> 0:14:21.800 you did like a starting stop. So then at twenty 0:14:21.840 --> 0:14:24.240 you were like, I'm gonna really do this, and it 0:14:24.320 --> 0:14:27.160 still hasn't been executed. So then it comes down to 0:14:27.400 --> 0:14:30.160 how bad do you want it? You know, I said 0:14:30.200 --> 0:14:32.760 in the previous letter, inch by inch life's ascent, yard 0:14:32.840 --> 0:14:35.480 by yard life is hard. So again, what do you want? 0:14:36.120 --> 0:14:39.560 Mm hmm. You've identified it. You know what it takes, 0:14:39.600 --> 0:14:42.120 because you even said yourself, you said, okay, it's not 0:14:42.160 --> 0:14:44.120 something that's just a fad that just came once or twice. 0:14:44.800 --> 0:14:49.120 It's been plaguing you for years now a decade. You're saying, Hey, 0:14:49.240 --> 0:14:51.440 I can't put too much pressure on myself because of 0:14:51.440 --> 0:14:54.000 writing the book right now, so how about I just 0:14:54.000 --> 0:14:56.000 do a little by little write the paragraph. But there 0:14:56.080 --> 0:14:59.000 was something that is so important and I always tried 0:14:59.000 --> 0:15:01.440 to identify that still it out to me, and it 0:15:01.560 --> 0:15:04.040 was the line in what you said is that I 0:15:04.160 --> 0:15:07.080 keep feeling like a failure. And now even though I'm 0:15:07.120 --> 0:15:10.480 financially okay, hold on, let me go again. You said, 0:15:10.920 --> 0:15:13.600 I keep feeling like a failure. And now even though 0:15:13.600 --> 0:15:16.720 I'm financially okay, I managed to find a job as 0:15:16.720 --> 0:15:20.520 a grant writer after school, I just fell down in 0:15:20.600 --> 0:15:24.680 the dump spiritually. Can you see why? Because you've allowed 0:15:24.720 --> 0:15:27.520 your dream to be based and distracted on financially what 0:15:27.560 --> 0:15:30.880 you're getting from this job. Now, when you got a dream, 0:15:31.000 --> 0:15:33.800 you gotta understand that it's to satisfy all your needs. 0:15:34.000 --> 0:15:36.160 Your dream is not something where you're gonna be a lacking. 0:15:36.480 --> 0:15:38.720 Your dream is to come from a yes and type 0:15:38.760 --> 0:15:41.720 of space where you receive it and then it's an abundance. Right. 0:15:42.600 --> 0:15:45.280 So when we have this safety net, we're trying to 0:15:45.280 --> 0:15:48.040 be so careful, we realize we knock ourselves out of 0:15:48.040 --> 0:15:50.360 the ram where the magic happens. Because now we're in 0:15:50.440 --> 0:15:52.840 this comfortable space. I mean, you just said it, Okay, 0:15:52.880 --> 0:15:55.600 I'm financially okay. That doesn't mean that you should have 0:15:55.680 --> 0:15:57.760 to struggle financially for your dreams. But when you're in 0:15:57.760 --> 0:16:02.360 a position where that's a distraction. Where's your focus? It 0:16:02.400 --> 0:16:04.560 boils down? What do you want? Do you feel like 0:16:04.560 --> 0:16:06.040 this is an extreme focus or do you need to 0:16:06.080 --> 0:16:08.360 sit down and waste of time? How is it for you? 0:16:08.800 --> 0:16:10.600 Just as those saying you're trying to make a habit 0:16:10.680 --> 0:16:12.440 or break a habit, a lot of people feel like 0:16:12.480 --> 0:16:14.640 they have to go all in and jump. Some people 0:16:14.680 --> 0:16:17.200 are good at doing a little by little. But you've 0:16:17.240 --> 0:16:19.600 answered it for yourself. How long are you gonna sit 0:16:19.640 --> 0:16:22.280 in this job and not go after your dream? And 0:16:22.360 --> 0:16:25.200 if you get frustrated, you know that you're only getting 0:16:25.200 --> 0:16:29.080 frustrated with yourself. Why? Because here it goes here you're 0:16:29.080 --> 0:16:32.120 telling yourself this is what you want. So your spiritual 0:16:32.160 --> 0:16:34.360 self is saying, yes, we're gonna get this dream. We're 0:16:34.360 --> 0:16:36.360 gonna write this. Now, all this book out here. You 0:16:36.360 --> 0:16:40.000 know it may not have been, um, what did you say, journalism? 0:16:40.120 --> 0:16:42.000 But now I know that I want to write this fiction. 0:16:42.680 --> 0:16:45.000 So now you've got all these stories inside, including the 0:16:45.000 --> 0:16:46.760 story that you're telling yourself that you want it, but 0:16:46.800 --> 0:16:50.080 it's actually you don't want it because you're staying comfortable 0:16:50.120 --> 0:16:51.960 in your job. You don't want to because you're not 0:16:52.000 --> 0:16:54.040 spending time and just writing sentences just to get the 0:16:54.040 --> 0:16:56.560 paragraphed out. You don't want it because you aren't holding 0:16:56.600 --> 0:16:59.760 yourself accountable. So what happens is this communication of what 0:16:59.800 --> 0:17:02.160 you're saying spiritually, it's not matching up what you're doing 0:17:02.160 --> 0:17:04.560 in the physical realm. So I have to ask you, 0:17:04.960 --> 0:17:09.480 what do you want? If you truly believe that you 0:17:09.520 --> 0:17:11.720 can create whatever you want on the life, which has 0:17:11.800 --> 0:17:14.600 been proven time and time again. When you hear that 0:17:14.640 --> 0:17:20.000 people in insurmountable circumstances have achieved and uh exceeded against 0:17:20.040 --> 0:17:25.560 all odds, why can't you The impossible has been done before, 0:17:26.720 --> 0:17:29.119 and the impossible is only until it's possible. And you 0:17:29.160 --> 0:17:31.399 think about how many things are possible? So when do 0:17:31.480 --> 0:17:33.480 you step into the realm of knowing that you're possible? 0:17:35.080 --> 0:17:39.360 M hm? Do you just see what I'm saying? More importantly, 0:17:39.400 --> 0:17:41.800 do you understand where I'm coming from? What I'm saying. 0:17:42.680 --> 0:17:47.040 It's about you making the decision and how long are 0:17:47.080 --> 0:17:49.560 you're gonna have that little child inside of you saying 0:17:49.560 --> 0:17:52.399 that you want to write and you're not writing why 0:17:52.760 --> 0:17:55.560 Because you're allowing fear, You're allowing the idea of what's 0:17:55.560 --> 0:17:57.119 next to come to get in your way instead of 0:17:57.160 --> 0:17:59.360 just taking the next step, Can you just put one 0:17:59.400 --> 0:18:02.080 foot in to the other. Can you just click one 0:18:02.160 --> 0:18:07.639 finger after the other. What do you want? Because if 0:18:07.640 --> 0:18:10.159 you're gonna stay down this bad being a writer and 0:18:10.200 --> 0:18:13.680 writing your own novel, that's not what you want. Because 0:18:13.680 --> 0:18:16.679 you do what you want for what you need, and 0:18:16.760 --> 0:18:18.720 you you should want your dreams as bad as you 0:18:18.760 --> 0:18:22.880 want to breathe. I've mentioned this story before. I first 0:18:22.960 --> 0:18:25.800 heard the story from Eric Thomas, he sort of detroit Et, 0:18:25.920 --> 0:18:28.680 the hip hop preacher. He talked about this young man 0:18:29.040 --> 0:18:31.280 and he had this dream and he wants to be 0:18:31.280 --> 0:18:34.720 a billionaire. And so he met this guy. He said, hey, kid, 0:18:34.840 --> 0:18:36.320 you want to make a lot of money? He sai, yeah, 0:18:36.320 --> 0:18:38.119 He's okay, meet me by the water. I'll tell you 0:18:38.160 --> 0:18:40.080 whatever you need to know by the beach. So the 0:18:40.200 --> 0:18:42.640 kid comes through. He's kind of waiting there. The guy 0:18:42.760 --> 0:18:45.439 is doing the stretch, doing his own thing, right. He 0:18:45.480 --> 0:18:47.159 got there at six am because the guy said be 0:18:47.200 --> 0:18:49.440 there on time sharp. He's suiting the booty of heady 0:18:49.480 --> 0:18:52.400 to go. So he's like, okay, are you gonna teach 0:18:52.440 --> 0:18:55.320 me or show me how to become a millionaire, a billionaire, 0:18:55.520 --> 0:18:58.560 have everything you want in the life. And he says, yes, okay, 0:18:58.680 --> 0:19:01.359 so he said come out to the water. So the 0:19:01.359 --> 0:19:03.440 young kid was like, wow, you know, you got me 0:19:03.560 --> 0:19:05.600 dressed out here to come out the water, like are 0:19:05.600 --> 0:19:08.280 we gonna get this done? Like what's up? And he's like, 0:19:08.280 --> 0:19:10.040 I'm gonna show you, you you know, just wait a second. 0:19:10.640 --> 0:19:13.040 So he's getting impatient. He's like, sir, like, at what 0:19:13.119 --> 0:19:15.680 point are you going to tell me how to achieve 0:19:15.720 --> 0:19:17.560 everything I want on the life, to get all the money, 0:19:17.560 --> 0:19:20.080 to get all the success. He immediately took the young 0:19:20.119 --> 0:19:23.800 man and he doused him under the water. The little 0:19:23.800 --> 0:19:25.240 boy jumped up. He's like, oh my gosh, you know, 0:19:25.280 --> 0:19:26.679 why would you do that? I mean, think about this 0:19:26.680 --> 0:19:28.399 guy almost tried to kill him. As soon as he 0:19:28.480 --> 0:19:30.800 got his breath, he doused some money there again, held 0:19:30.880 --> 0:19:33.520 him down there a little longer. He jumps up trying 0:19:33.560 --> 0:19:35.280 to get his breath, and then the guy does it 0:19:35.359 --> 0:19:37.560 again and this time he holds it down longer. At 0:19:37.600 --> 0:19:40.000 this point, the the young boy is just moving around, 0:19:40.040 --> 0:19:43.480 really fighting for until he comes up. And you know, 0:19:43.520 --> 0:19:45.440 he had to compose herself because you know, he almost 0:19:45.480 --> 0:19:47.080 got out of character. He looked at this old man 0:19:47.200 --> 0:19:51.280 like yea. But the guy said, that's the secret to 0:19:51.320 --> 0:19:54.760 being successful. Dawn, What does this mean? You gotta want 0:19:54.800 --> 0:19:58.680