Speaker 1: Morning Run with Amy and TJ and iHeartRadio podcast.
Speaker 2: Hey the folks, it is Sunday, May eleventh. I'm told
Speaker 2: welcome to a weekend morning run. I'm TJ. Holmes, Amy
Speaker 2: Robot sitting next to me. Sitting next to me right
Speaker 2: now in a hotel room in Arkansas, of all places.
Speaker 2: We had a very special weekend. I had a wedding
Speaker 2: to go to and it's thank you for being here.
Speaker 2: Actually it was on my family side.
Speaker 1: Well, you know what, I feel honored to be a
Speaker 1: part of it. I love weddings. I love family weddings.
Speaker 1: I love getting to know your family even more. It
Speaker 1: makes I don't know, just I feel like these are
Speaker 1: the moments where you feel more bonded together as a
Speaker 1: couple and you just really get to know someone's roots.
Speaker 1: Like I've already met your parents, love your sister. But
Speaker 1: it's just so fun getting to meet cousins and aunts
Speaker 1: and uncles and friends of the family. You just it's
Speaker 1: it's a special time and I appreciate being included.
Speaker 2: One of the fun things is that some of the
Speaker 2: folks that you are running into now you're not having
Speaker 2: to introduce yourself to, like you have some history with
Speaker 2: so it's cool that my cousin Chardet and certainly my
Speaker 2: parents and my sister and my niece. Yeah, married, you've
Speaker 2: spent time with him, so that's fun to see. But
Speaker 2: the work doesn't stop, is the point we're making. Even
Speaker 2: on this weekend, we travel with our equipment. So this
Speaker 2: was something we tried for the first time last weekend
Speaker 2: and lo and behold, you all responded to it. So
Speaker 2: we're gonna keep it going. We do a quote of
Speaker 2: the day every single day that we do our morning
Speaker 2: run newscast podcasts, and we've just kind of collected them.
Speaker 2: And you're gonna start talking about on Sunday. You said
Speaker 2: this to me just a moment ago. Sunday is not
Speaker 2: just a day that people go to church. It's not
Speaker 2: just about religion religion. It's the day of reflection and absolutely.
Speaker 1: Is because for me and I think, whether you do
Speaker 1: it in church, you do it in nature, or you
Speaker 1: do it in your backyard, you think about the week
Speaker 1: and what you went through and what you've been through,
Speaker 1: and then you also start planning what Monday and the
Speaker 1: rest of the days are going to begin. So it's
Speaker 1: just this point where where you've had your fun on Saturday,
Speaker 1: and now you reflect back about what you did right,
Speaker 1: what you did wrong, and what you want to do
Speaker 1: better in the week. And I feel like these quotes
Speaker 1: of the day all collectively, when we kind of go
Speaker 1: a little bit deeper into why we chose them and
Speaker 1: where they came from, it's just a wonderful way I think,
Speaker 1: to either end your reflection or start thinking about what
Speaker 1: you want to change, what you want to be, how
Speaker 1: you want to live.
Speaker 2: That's funny. It takes us kind of right into our
Speaker 2: quote of the day that was that we gave last Monday. Again,
Speaker 2: we give them at the end of the day. We
Speaker 2: don't get a chance to go that deep into them
Speaker 2: and where they came from. So this is an opportunity
Speaker 2: to do so. But you said, people reflect on Yeah,
Speaker 2: you've gone out already for the week, going out Saturday night,
Speaker 2: and I was time to reflect on all you did
Speaker 2: right and wrong. A lot of what you did wrong
Speaker 2: might have been on Saturday night. That's true. So this
Speaker 2: first one on Monday that we use kind of is
Speaker 2: in line with that.
Speaker 1: Yes, you can't walk with God and run with the devil,
Speaker 1: and this is from your pastor correct and it makes
Speaker 1: a lot of sense. Sometimes you want to act, or
Speaker 1: at least be as holy and as well behaved as
Speaker 1: you possibly can, But then you know, you let your
Speaker 1: guard down, and all of a sudden you're running somewhere
Speaker 1: you didn't intend to.
Speaker 2: Some of that. Sometimes, so many folks will say I
Speaker 2: can do whatever and just ask for forgiveness. That's different, right,
Speaker 2: if you're making a conscious decision that I can behave poorly.
Speaker 2: We all make mistakes, We've all screwed up, and we
Speaker 2: will continue to do so. But you do have a
Speaker 2: certain segment out there, and there's people we've known before
Speaker 2: that you really do feel like it doesn't matter what
Speaker 2: I do, because all I have to do is show
Speaker 2: up tomorrow and ask for forgiveness and everything's going to
Speaker 2: be okay. I don't think that's what the Gospel is.
Speaker 1: Trying to preach with it, I think, and you know,
Speaker 1: we've had this Actually funny enough, when we've had a
Speaker 1: few arguments back and forth where one of us has
Speaker 1: done something wrong, a lot of us will go back
Speaker 1: to intention. But I do think it matters. You can
Speaker 1: still apologize for bad behavior, but your intention should always
Speaker 1: try to be in the right place. And I think
Speaker 1: that's the whole point of walking with God. You intend
Speaker 1: to do the right thing, you intend to do no harm.
Speaker 1: And of course we all still screw up and do
Speaker 1: all the things we're trying to avoid. But I do
Speaker 1: think intention is important, and so that is part of
Speaker 1: what I think this quote from your pastor refers to.
Speaker 1: We can all strive to be our best and try
Speaker 1: to do our best. But if you are operating in
Speaker 1: another playing field where you think you can do what
Speaker 1: you want and then just say you're sorry, that's not
Speaker 1: what this is about. That's not what the intention is
Speaker 1: for trying to be a better person and live your
Speaker 1: best life.
Speaker 2: And this was something my pastor was always good at.
Speaker 2: I mean he put it kind of in a fun, succinct,
Speaker 2: yes way, clever way that anybody can understand. You can't
Speaker 2: walk with God and run with the devil. That was
Speaker 2: our quote on Monday. On Tuesday, I'm not sure, And
Speaker 2: then we should let people know as well. Robes during
Speaker 2: our when we put the rundown together for the morning
Speaker 2: run is usually the one response before grabbing or plucking
Speaker 2: the quote of the day out from wherever. We have
Speaker 2: several different sources, but often one of the biggest sources
Speaker 2: is a big file of my quotes.
Speaker 1: Yeah, this week, this week, I believe I decided to
Speaker 1: do a full week because I know we started to
Speaker 1: do this Sunday deeper dive into our quotes of the day.
Speaker 1: I thought, you know what, I'm gonna do a whole
Speaker 1: week where I'm just going to go into TJ's file.
Speaker 1: And when I say a file, he actually has a
Speaker 1: Manila folder with all of the quotes that he used
Speaker 1: to put up on his dressing room door in the
Speaker 1: hallways of Good Morning America, so that every Monday you'd
Speaker 1: come in. I actually looked forward to it you would
Speaker 1: put up a new quote. And so you actually, when
Speaker 1: we were able to grab all of our stuff out
Speaker 1: of our dressing rooms quickly, we lost a lot. I
Speaker 1: know I lost a lot, and so did you, like genuinely,
Speaker 1: but you got these quotes, and so I thought, let's
Speaker 1: just do a whole week of just quotes from TJ's file.
Speaker 1: So this was the one we used on Tuesday. Worry
Speaker 1: is a fear that hasn't grown up yet. It is
Speaker 1: a misuse of our imagination. And ain't that the truth?
Speaker 2: Fear? We all have it? I think there are plenty
Speaker 2: of lessons out that it'll be learned and teachings about
Speaker 2: you have to embrace it. We're all going to have.
Speaker 2: But it's okay to have fear. You have to own it,
Speaker 2: you have to recognize it, and now what do you
Speaker 2: do with it? That's fine? So what is worry? This
Speaker 2: quote is essentially saying that worry is a waste of
Speaker 2: your time. You don't have anything to be scared of,
Speaker 2: yet you're just worried about what you might end up
Speaker 2: being scared of. That's a waste of time.
Speaker 1: I mean it.
Speaker 2: So is.
Speaker 1: Fear actually is important. Fear protects us, Fear keeps us
Speaker 1: out of harm's way a lot of times, and so
Speaker 1: fear can actually be a really good thing to have,
Speaker 1: I think when it's warranted. The problem is we're fearing
Speaker 1: stuff that hasn't happened and probably won't ever happen. I
Speaker 1: have always believed when I look back, when I have
Speaker 1: the time to reflect, I say, God, everything I was
Speaker 1: worried about never even came to fruition. All those minutes,
Speaker 1: all those hours wasted, And it's just a I need
Speaker 1: to constantly remind myself when I start to worry and
Speaker 1: think of worst case scenarios and think of what could happen,
Speaker 1: what if that is. It's okay, it's a human thing.
Speaker 1: But I just try to redirect my mind and say,
Speaker 1: you're doing it again. Stop, this may never happen. What's
Speaker 1: happening right now. Look around you. Enjoy what's happening right now.
Speaker 1: And if there's something to fear, fine, fear it, but
Speaker 1: don't think about what you might have to fear. That
Speaker 1: is crazy, and yet we're all doing it all the time.
Speaker 1: If you think about it.
Speaker 2: To this point, I would ask encourage everybody who's listening
Speaker 2: to me right now, think about the thing right now
Speaker 2: that you are worried about. Think about it, and now
Speaker 2: consider tomorrow the next day if that thing ever comes
Speaker 2: to fruition. It could be something small. You might be
Speaker 2: worried that the eggs in your refrigerator are going to
Speaker 2: expire and you're not going to have enough for breakfast
Speaker 2: because you got people coming all the WNG too, and whatever.
Speaker 2: Anything you're worried about, and it's probably not going to
Speaker 2: happen exactly. Just considered. So that was on Tuesday. Worry
Speaker 2: is not a fear that hasn't Worry is a fear
Speaker 2: that hasn't grown up yet. It is a misuse of
Speaker 2: our imagination. That was on Tuesday. Wednesday, we turned to
Speaker 2: one here Robes again. It's put in a very in
Speaker 2: a succinct way. It's a lesson we all understand and
Speaker 2: no need to be reminded of. But I like the
Speaker 2: way this one was put.
Speaker 1: If you can't be thankful for what you have, at
Speaker 1: least be thankful for what you've escaped. And this one
Speaker 1: I thought was so cool, because yeah, sometimes we're not
Speaker 1: grateful for things like shelter, food security, being able to
Speaker 1: pay my bills this month, whatever it is. We kind
Speaker 1: of think we're owed it or we should have those things.
Speaker 1: But a lot of times when we're upset that something
Speaker 1: didn't happen, or we're upset about something we didn't get.
Speaker 1: I love reframing that and thinking about how we're thankful
Speaker 1: because it always happens when you've had a few weeks, months,
Speaker 1: or even years for the perspective to set it in
Speaker 1: and you're like, oh my god, thank god I didn't
Speaker 1: end up getting that or doing that or being with
Speaker 1: that person, and I actually was able to escape a
Speaker 1: far worse fate. And again, sometimes these things don't actually
Speaker 1: land until you've had perspective. But it's an interesting way
Speaker 1: to recognize sometimes some of the angst you're feeling about
Speaker 1: what you're not getting and you don't feel that gratitude.
Speaker 2: Yeah, blessings aren't just about what you have, right, That's
Speaker 2: how we count them usually. Right, Let's look at my blessings.
Speaker 2: Look at this nice home, look this nice job, Like
Speaker 2: at these wonderful kids, look at the well. I mean,
Speaker 2: we think about what we have, and too often we
Speaker 2: don't think about the blessing also being the thing we
Speaker 2: no longer have. That's also a blessing, the thing you
Speaker 2: got out of that thing you escape. I just love
Speaker 2: the way he put this and gives it a way
Speaker 2: to reframe in your mind just the things that are
Speaker 2: in front of you. We do have a hard time
Speaker 2: oftentimes like I don't have enough money, or that I
Speaker 2: didn't get that raise, or I should have more or
Speaker 2: of this or more of that. Yeah, you want the
Speaker 2: raise here now, but you remember that job you had
Speaker 2: before that you barely got out before they laid everybody off.
Speaker 2: You remember that one. So it's just a different way
Speaker 2: to frame it. Again, it's a sink, and it's clever.
Speaker 2: Here's the quote. If you can't be thankful for what
Speaker 2: you have, at least be thankful for what you' fiscapes.
Speaker 1: All right, On Thursday, we brought you another quote. We
Speaker 1: you know, we decided to lighten it up a little.
Speaker 1: You know, most of the quotes we have are are
Speaker 1: very serious and thought provoking and inspirational even but you
Speaker 1: gotta love a funny quote every now and then because
Speaker 1: there's usually some truth to it.
Speaker 2: We actually had a conversation and debate about, you know, what,
Speaker 2: should we go this lighthearted? And we said, why the
Speaker 2: hell not? Well, aren't we we should be doing this
Speaker 2: more often. So we pledged to do more lighthearted, more
Speaker 2: fun quotes moving forward.
Speaker 1: You know, let's try to at least do one fun
Speaker 1: quote a week to get folks laughing, because I you know,
Speaker 1: sometimes when you're having a tough time, laughter is the
Speaker 1: best medicine. So here was the quote of the day
Speaker 1: for Thursday of this week. A wise man once said
Speaker 1: to his wife nothing because he was a wise man.
Speaker 2: Everybody immediately gets it. That's funny. It plays into stereotypes,
Speaker 2: it has some truth to it, but it's just fun.
Speaker 2: It's funny, and I I have a difficult time with
Speaker 2: sometimes those I don't know, those those marriage tropes if
Speaker 2: you will, to where old Ball and Jane just.
Speaker 1: The happy wife, happy life. But it's kind of true.
Speaker 2: I hate the idea that our marriages, that we should
Speaker 2: have an expectation that the key to happiness is you
Speaker 2: shut up and do what you're told. What is that's
Speaker 2: the man or the woman, but it's usually having to
Speaker 2: do I know it's somewhat jokingly, but this was a
Speaker 2: funny way to actually put it. And anybody who's been
Speaker 2: any man who's been in a relationship knows we know
Speaker 2: when to pick and choose.
Speaker 1: Look again, yes, some people get offended by aeotypes, but
Speaker 1: stereotypes are usually there because there is a at least
Speaker 1: a small little bit of truth to it where at
Speaker 1: least you're like, okay, I get it. There's a generalization there.
Speaker 1: It's not always the case. And look, it could be
Speaker 1: offensive even to women that we have to have our
Speaker 1: way or we're not happy, you know, or we want
Speaker 1: you know, to say what we want to say, and
Speaker 1: don't you contradict me. Look, I've actually appreciated and maybe
Speaker 1: well definitely in hindsight, when we've had a couple difficult moments.
Speaker 1: I have been forced to look in the mirror. I
Speaker 1: have been forced to recognize that maybe I have acted
Speaker 1: a little bit more that way in my life. Where
Speaker 1: you know, I do think sometimes women we nest, we
Speaker 1: want things a certain way, we want things our way,
Speaker 1: and we want people to facilitate and help us get
Speaker 1: things in order the way we'd like them to be.
Speaker 1: And when you actually really have a true partner, I
Speaker 1: do think you have raised some of those issues with
Speaker 1: me and I have seen myself in a different way
Speaker 1: and that has been very eye opening and enlightening and
Speaker 1: hopefully made me a better partner and a better person,
Speaker 1: recognizing that we do fall sometimes into these stereotypes, and
Speaker 1: we do, maybe as women even feel like we have
Speaker 1: a right to say no, this is how I want it.
Speaker 1: And it's been it's been a very enlightening relationship.
Speaker 2: It has that's supposed to be.
Speaker 1: A great Why did I just make something funny heavy?
Speaker 1: Sorry about that?
Speaker 2: I feel we're gonna have to there's our therapists work
Speaker 2: on weekends. That's the basic of it. We need a moment. Fine, No,
Speaker 2: I get one hundred percent of what you're saying, And
Speaker 2: you would never you know what you struggle with it.
Speaker 2: I A struggle might not be the right word, but
Speaker 2: you in talking about it, you seem to struggle to
Speaker 2: find this balance sometimes between being and putting on what
Speaker 2: you actually are, which is a strong, capable woman who
Speaker 2: doesn't need a man for anything to take care of her.
Speaker 2: And this this is this you overcome cancer, you are
Speaker 2: a marathon or everything about you is strength. And you've
Speaker 2: had moments that you've said publicly on a podcast before
Speaker 2: where yeah, I.
Speaker 1: Just want to be taken care of something I do
Speaker 1: I do.
Speaker 2: Yes, I want you to open the door. Yes, I
Speaker 2: want to be treated.
Speaker 1: Like I just want to be And that's hard to
Speaker 1: admit something and felt, Yes, that's hard to admit.
Speaker 2: Sometimes it didn't be both, I suppose, but it we
Speaker 2: were often put in the position that or told that
Speaker 2: women are either one or the other. You're this strong
Speaker 2: woman who doesn't need a man for anything, or you're
Speaker 2: this little weakling that needs man for everything.
Speaker 1: Yeah, we can all be a little bit of both. Yeah,
Speaker 1: And sometimes you can speak up and sometimes it is
Speaker 1: better to stay silent. So let's let's end with the
Speaker 1: uh with the quote itself, which is fun.
Speaker 2: Uh.
Speaker 1: It is a wise man. Once said to his wife
Speaker 1: nothing because he was a wise man, all right.
Speaker 2: And then our quote other thing on Friday is a
Speaker 2: very good example of ropes. And I say this all
Speaker 2: the time. My quotes don't just come from things I
Speaker 2: read or it comes from even my pastor necessarily. Sometimes
Speaker 2: it's just folks that I run into randomly on the
Speaker 2: street or I meet and they say something that I
Speaker 2: think is interesting and I write it down. And this
Speaker 2: is a very good example. This came to me from
Speaker 2: Benjamin Watson, who is a former football player played for
Speaker 2: the New Orleans Saints and Robes. I had this big
Speaker 2: you know, I used to do these big live events
Speaker 2: on GMA, and we had a big surprise that morning
Speaker 2: in New Orleans, and he was helping us with it,
Speaker 2: and we did all this stuff on the air and
Speaker 2: everything's live fine. But it was just in a quiet moment,
Speaker 2: just to he and I just standing next to each
Speaker 2: other talking about I'm not even sure what, but it
Speaker 2: had nothing to do with the shoot and what we
Speaker 2: were doing. I was just having a conversation with his
Speaker 2: brother and he said something and it clicked and I
Speaker 2: wrote it down. That was in twenty twenty one maybe wow,
Speaker 2: and here we are. I held on to that quote,
Speaker 2: so this was the one we used on Friday.
Speaker 1: Just because it's not on the news doesn't mean it's
Speaker 1: not happening. I thought this was so interesting on a
Speaker 1: couple of different levels, because there's the point where we're all,
Speaker 1: as Americans as a society, sometimes force fed or spoon
Speaker 1: fed what we're supposed to care about, what is important,
Speaker 1: what needs attention, and that's coming to us from the
Speaker 1: mainstream media for the most part, and even as journalists
Speaker 1: we recognize that. But there are so many stories that
Speaker 1: never get told. There are so many stories that are
Speaker 1: too messy, too ugly, too controversial, too potentially litigious for
Speaker 1: us to cover. And that's something that we all need
Speaker 1: to keep in mind as human beings, that there are
Speaker 1: so many other things that need attention that perhaps for
Speaker 1: whatever reason, we aren't being told about. And it's important
Speaker 1: to recognize that.
Speaker 2: It's too often I think something is dismissed because certain
Speaker 2: media voices aren't paying attention to it, like, oh, it
Speaker 2: must not be a big deal because it's not on
Speaker 2: that network, that network, or that network. We've had to
Speaker 2: certainly in the past several years retrain ourselves, and this
Speaker 2: was something that was a frustration to mine. I know
Speaker 2: we talked about it Good Morning America. This is not
Speaker 2: to be critical of them. I know this happens in
Speaker 2: newsrooms everywhere, but they always, or at least in the
Speaker 2: last decade, like what's trending, what's hot, what's hot on TikTok,
Speaker 2: what's hot on Twitter, like they would actually as a
Speaker 2: part of your research of what you were going to
Speaker 2: put in your show or your rundown, they're looking to
Speaker 2: see what are the top trends in whatever. It always
Speaker 2: frustrated me that we were trying to follow a conversation
Speaker 2: that said, can we please be the ones to lead it? Yeah,
Speaker 2: we should be talking about something that we find important
Speaker 2: that nobody else is talking about to get them talking
Speaker 2: about it and make it trend. That was always something
Speaker 2: I thought was as important that I think we and
Speaker 2: we were part of the media in that mainstream way.
Speaker 2: We were part of the problem.
Speaker 1: But you and I fought, and I can definitely say
Speaker 1: this to try and get some of those stories airtime,
Speaker 1: and oftentimes we were met with a brick wall. It
Speaker 1: wasn't gonna happen. But from from Brown and black girls
Speaker 1: going missing who we never hear about and never knew about,
Speaker 1: to Jeffrey Epstein, to you know, there were stories that
Speaker 1: were just h that's not no one cares or you know,
Speaker 1: it's not as important for whatever reason, and it was disgusting.
Speaker 1: You know. I think people talk about media bias about
Speaker 1: how we cover stories. I think the biggest media bias
Speaker 1: is what we cover and what we don't cover. And
Speaker 1: I just think that's such an important lesson for everyone
Speaker 1: who consumes media. And there's so many outlets and so
Speaker 1: many and yet still there are so many glaring lapses
Speaker 1: in what we actually should be talking about.
Speaker 2: Different iterations a way to say what he said. But
Speaker 2: Benjamin Watson, if anybody knows that brother and I need
Speaker 2: to reach out to him and let him know about
Speaker 2: just please then how we're talking so good about him
Speaker 2: behind his back? You should always talk good about somebody
Speaker 2: when you get a chance to, even if it's not
Speaker 2: to your benefit. But he is a just I like
Speaker 2: the brother and that he's an analyst for the SEC
Speaker 2: Network for SEC football now and he said that to me,
Speaker 2: and it's amazing just how somebody can make an impact
Speaker 2: on you like that. But that was our quote of
Speaker 2: the day on Friday.
Speaker 1: Yes, and so we hope that you know, you all
Speaker 1: stick around on Monday through Friday on Morning Run because
Speaker 1: if you didn't know, because some of y'all, I know,
Speaker 1: probably jump out after ten minutes, fifteen minutes, but if
Speaker 1: you hold out to the end, we do have these
Speaker 1: quotes of the day that we hope actually ends the
Speaker 1: podcast and begins your day with something that's thought provoking,
Speaker 1: something that's inspiring, and yes, something that maybe even makes
Speaker 1: you laugh.
Speaker 2: So that was Fridays. Just because it's not in the
Speaker 2: news doesn't mean it's not happening. We thank you as
Speaker 2: always for running with us. We thank you as always
Speaker 2: for listening. We thank you as always for clicking. We
Speaker 2: thank you as always for subscribing as well. Do so
Speaker 2: if you have it already. But this we saw last week.
Speaker 2: We tried this for the first time on Sunday end.
Speaker 2: We got a good response and we have evidence that
Speaker 2: people liked it. So we will keep it up. Yeah,
Speaker 2: we certainly will.
Speaker 1: And by the way, just wanted to let all you
Speaker 1: moms know out there, Happy Mother's Day on this Sunday,
Speaker 1: May eleventh, and if you'd like to click it should
Speaker 1: be in your feed right now, but we have a
Speaker 1: special Mother's Day episode of Amy and TG, so please
Speaker 1: check that out as well. But in the meantime, thank
Speaker 1: you for running with us on this Sunday and Happy
Speaker 1: Mother's Day.