WEBVTT - Sunday Morning Run 0:00:01.120 --> 0:00:04.640 Morning Run with Amy and TJ and iHeartRadio podcast. 0:00:05.559 --> 0:00:09.799 Hey the folks, it is Sunday, May eleventh. I'm told 0:00:11.360 --> 0:00:15.800 welcome to a weekend morning run. I'm TJ. Holmes, Amy 0:00:15.920 --> 0:00:17.680 Robot sitting next to me. Sitting next to me right 0:00:17.720 --> 0:00:22.120 now in a hotel room in Arkansas, of all places. 0:00:22.560 --> 0:00:25.479 We had a very special weekend. I had a wedding 0:00:25.600 --> 0:00:28.360 to go to and it's thank you for being here. 0:00:28.400 --> 0:00:29.960 Actually it was on my family side. 0:00:30.480 --> 0:00:33.199 Well, you know what, I feel honored to be a 0:00:33.240 --> 0:00:37.199 part of it. I love weddings. I love family weddings. 0:00:37.560 --> 0:00:40.320 I love getting to know your family even more. It 0:00:40.400 --> 0:00:43.080 makes I don't know, just I feel like these are 0:00:43.120 --> 0:00:45.239 the moments where you feel more bonded together as a 0:00:45.280 --> 0:00:48.480 couple and you just really get to know someone's roots. 0:00:48.520 --> 0:00:51.320 Like I've already met your parents, love your sister. But 0:00:51.360 --> 0:00:54.200 it's just so fun getting to meet cousins and aunts 0:00:54.240 --> 0:00:57.400 and uncles and friends of the family. You just it's 0:00:57.440 --> 0:01:00.520 it's a special time and I appreciate being included. 0:01:00.840 --> 0:01:02.960 One of the fun things is that some of the 0:01:02.960 --> 0:01:06.039 folks that you are running into now you're not having 0:01:06.080 --> 0:01:08.720 to introduce yourself to, like you have some history with 0:01:08.800 --> 0:01:11.800 so it's cool that my cousin Chardet and certainly my 0:01:11.840 --> 0:01:15.240 parents and my sister and my niece. Yeah, married, you've 0:01:15.280 --> 0:01:17.280 spent time with him, so that's fun to see. But 0:01:17.319 --> 0:01:19.759 the work doesn't stop, is the point we're making. Even 0:01:19.800 --> 0:01:21.920 on this weekend, we travel with our equipment. So this 0:01:22.040 --> 0:01:24.160 was something we tried for the first time last weekend 0:01:24.200 --> 0:01:26.800 and lo and behold, you all responded to it. So 0:01:26.840 --> 0:01:28.759 we're gonna keep it going. We do a quote of 0:01:29.160 --> 0:01:31.319 the day every single day that we do our morning 0:01:31.360 --> 0:01:37.440 run newscast podcasts, and we've just kind of collected them. 0:01:37.720 --> 0:01:39.759 And you're gonna start talking about on Sunday. You said 0:01:39.760 --> 0:01:42.080 this to me just a moment ago. Sunday is not 0:01:42.200 --> 0:01:44.120 just a day that people go to church. It's not 0:01:44.200 --> 0:01:47.640 just about religion religion. It's the day of reflection and absolutely. 0:01:47.319 --> 0:01:49.960 Is because for me and I think, whether you do 0:01:50.000 --> 0:01:51.800 it in church, you do it in nature, or you 0:01:51.880 --> 0:01:55.200 do it in your backyard, you think about the week 0:01:55.320 --> 0:01:57.360 and what you went through and what you've been through, 0:01:57.400 --> 0:02:00.760 and then you also start planning what Monday and the 0:02:00.800 --> 0:02:02.120 rest of the days are going to begin. So it's 0:02:02.160 --> 0:02:04.920 just this point where where you've had your fun on Saturday, 0:02:05.240 --> 0:02:07.880 and now you reflect back about what you did right, 0:02:07.960 --> 0:02:09.360 what you did wrong, and what you want to do 0:02:09.400 --> 0:02:11.120 better in the week. And I feel like these quotes 0:02:11.160 --> 0:02:13.680 of the day all collectively, when we kind of go 0:02:13.760 --> 0:02:16.200 a little bit deeper into why we chose them and 0:02:16.240 --> 0:02:20.640 where they came from, it's just a wonderful way I think, 0:02:20.680 --> 0:02:24.079 to either end your reflection or start thinking about what 0:02:24.120 --> 0:02:25.799 you want to change, what you want to be, how 0:02:25.840 --> 0:02:26.440 you want to live. 0:02:26.639 --> 0:02:28.880 That's funny. It takes us kind of right into our 0:02:29.120 --> 0:02:32.399 quote of the day that was that we gave last Monday. Again, 0:02:32.400 --> 0:02:33.520 we give them at the end of the day. We 0:02:33.560 --> 0:02:35.680 don't get a chance to go that deep into them 0:02:35.680 --> 0:02:37.480 and where they came from. So this is an opportunity 0:02:37.480 --> 0:02:41.280 to do so. But you said, people reflect on Yeah, 0:02:41.360 --> 0:02:43.680 you've gone out already for the week, going out Saturday night, 0:02:43.720 --> 0:02:45.280 and I was time to reflect on all you did 0:02:45.360 --> 0:02:47.200 right and wrong. A lot of what you did wrong 0:02:47.280 --> 0:02:50.000 might have been on Saturday night. That's true. So this 0:02:50.080 --> 0:02:52.880 first one on Monday that we use kind of is 0:02:52.919 --> 0:02:54.120 in line with that. 0:02:54.440 --> 0:02:58.280 Yes, you can't walk with God and run with the devil, 0:02:58.800 --> 0:03:02.200 and this is from your pastor correct and it makes 0:03:02.280 --> 0:03:05.400 a lot of sense. Sometimes you want to act, or 0:03:05.480 --> 0:03:09.280 at least be as holy and as well behaved as 0:03:09.280 --> 0:03:13.280 you possibly can, But then you know, you let your 0:03:13.280 --> 0:03:15.919 guard down, and all of a sudden you're running somewhere 0:03:15.960 --> 0:03:16.640 you didn't intend to. 0:03:16.919 --> 0:03:19.680 Some of that. Sometimes, so many folks will say I 0:03:19.720 --> 0:03:23.359 can do whatever and just ask for forgiveness. That's different, right, 0:03:23.360 --> 0:03:26.960 if you're making a conscious decision that I can behave poorly. 0:03:27.240 --> 0:03:30.120 We all make mistakes, We've all screwed up, and we 0:03:30.160 --> 0:03:33.280 will continue to do so. But you do have a 0:03:33.320 --> 0:03:35.640 certain segment out there, and there's people we've known before 0:03:35.640 --> 0:03:38.640 that you really do feel like it doesn't matter what 0:03:38.680 --> 0:03:40.040 I do, because all I have to do is show 0:03:40.120 --> 0:03:42.800 up tomorrow and ask for forgiveness and everything's going to 0:03:42.840 --> 0:03:45.480 be okay. I don't think that's what the Gospel is. 0:03:45.680 --> 0:03:48.240 Trying to preach with it, I think, and you know, 0:03:48.320 --> 0:03:50.440 we've had this Actually funny enough, when we've had a 0:03:50.440 --> 0:03:53.440 few arguments back and forth where one of us has 0:03:53.480 --> 0:03:55.320 done something wrong, a lot of us will go back 0:03:55.320 --> 0:03:58.240 to intention. But I do think it matters. You can 0:03:58.240 --> 0:04:02.120 still apologize for bad behavior, but your intention should always 0:04:02.120 --> 0:04:03.680 try to be in the right place. And I think 0:04:03.680 --> 0:04:06.360 that's the whole point of walking with God. You intend 0:04:06.400 --> 0:04:09.120 to do the right thing, you intend to do no harm. 0:04:09.160 --> 0:04:12.360 And of course we all still screw up and do 0:04:12.400 --> 0:04:14.160 all the things we're trying to avoid. But I do 0:04:14.200 --> 0:04:17.080 think intention is important, and so that is part of 0:04:17.120 --> 0:04:20.600 what I think this quote from your pastor refers to. 0:04:20.920 --> 0:04:22.960 We can all strive to be our best and try 0:04:23.000 --> 0:04:26.039 to do our best. But if you are operating in 0:04:26.080 --> 0:04:29.200 another playing field where you think you can do what 0:04:29.240 --> 0:04:32.240 you want and then just say you're sorry, that's not 0:04:32.400 --> 0:04:34.640 what this is about. That's not what the intention is 0:04:34.680 --> 0:04:36.760 for trying to be a better person and live your 0:04:36.760 --> 0:04:37.240 best life. 0:04:37.279 --> 0:04:39.280 And this was something my pastor was always good at. 0:04:39.480 --> 0:04:41.640 I mean he put it kind of in a fun, succinct, 0:04:41.800 --> 0:04:44.599 yes way, clever way that anybody can understand. You can't 0:04:45.640 --> 0:04:48.840 walk with God and run with the devil. That was 0:04:48.880 --> 0:04:53.839 our quote on Monday. On Tuesday, I'm not sure, And 0:04:53.839 --> 0:04:56.280 then we should let people know as well. Robes during 0:04:56.320 --> 0:04:58.480 our when we put the rundown together for the morning 0:04:58.560 --> 0:05:02.120 run is usually the one response before grabbing or plucking 0:05:02.200 --> 0:05:05.320 the quote of the day out from wherever. We have 0:05:05.400 --> 0:05:08.080 several different sources, but often one of the biggest sources 0:05:08.160 --> 0:05:09.680 is a big file of my quotes. 0:05:09.800 --> 0:05:13.360 Yeah, this week, this week, I believe I decided to 0:05:13.360 --> 0:05:15.400 do a full week because I know we started to 0:05:15.440 --> 0:05:19.320 do this Sunday deeper dive into our quotes of the day. 0:05:19.360 --> 0:05:20.520 I thought, you know what, I'm gonna do a whole 0:05:20.520 --> 0:05:22.920 week where I'm just going to go into TJ's file. 0:05:22.960 --> 0:05:24.880 And when I say a file, he actually has a 0:05:24.920 --> 0:05:28.200 Manila folder with all of the quotes that he used 0:05:28.200 --> 0:05:32.000 to put up on his dressing room door in the 0:05:32.000 --> 0:05:35.279 hallways of Good Morning America, so that every Monday you'd 0:05:35.360 --> 0:05:37.560 come in. I actually looked forward to it you would 0:05:37.600 --> 0:05:40.520 put up a new quote. And so you actually, when 0:05:40.560 --> 0:05:42.520 we were able to grab all of our stuff out 0:05:42.520 --> 0:05:47.480 of our dressing rooms quickly, we lost a lot. I 0:05:47.600 --> 0:05:50.680 know I lost a lot, and so did you, like genuinely, 0:05:50.839 --> 0:05:53.320 but you got these quotes, and so I thought, let's 0:05:53.360 --> 0:05:56.240 just do a whole week of just quotes from TJ's file. 0:05:56.320 --> 0:05:59.640 So this was the one we used on Tuesday. Worry 0:05:59.800 --> 0:06:02.560 is a fear that hasn't grown up yet. It is 0:06:02.680 --> 0:06:08.240 a misuse of our imagination. And ain't that the truth? 0:06:09.160 --> 0:06:11.840 Fear? We all have it? I think there are plenty 0:06:11.920 --> 0:06:14.400 of lessons out that it'll be learned and teachings about 0:06:14.440 --> 0:06:16.120 you have to embrace it. We're all going to have. 0:06:16.520 --> 0:06:19.720 But it's okay to have fear. You have to own it, 0:06:19.720 --> 0:06:21.440 you have to recognize it, and now what do you 0:06:21.839 --> 0:06:25.080 do with it? That's fine? So what is worry? This 0:06:25.200 --> 0:06:28.400 quote is essentially saying that worry is a waste of 0:06:28.440 --> 0:06:31.120 your time. You don't have anything to be scared of, 0:06:31.200 --> 0:06:33.680 yet you're just worried about what you might end up 0:06:33.680 --> 0:06:35.479 being scared of. That's a waste of time. 0:06:35.839 --> 0:06:36.240 I mean it. 0:06:36.400 --> 0:06:36.960 So is. 0:06:37.160 --> 0:06:41.640 Fear actually is important. Fear protects us, Fear keeps us 0:06:41.720 --> 0:06:44.039 out of harm's way a lot of times, and so 0:06:44.080 --> 0:06:46.440 fear can actually be a really good thing to have, 0:06:46.600 --> 0:06:49.800 I think when it's warranted. The problem is we're fearing 0:06:49.800 --> 0:06:52.600 stuff that hasn't happened and probably won't ever happen. I 0:06:52.640 --> 0:06:54.800 have always believed when I look back, when I have 0:06:54.880 --> 0:06:58.039 the time to reflect, I say, God, everything I was 0:06:58.080 --> 0:07:02.239 worried about never even came to fruition. All those minutes, 0:07:02.360 --> 0:07:05.719 all those hours wasted, And it's just a I need 0:07:05.760 --> 0:07:09.359 to constantly remind myself when I start to worry and 0:07:09.440 --> 0:07:11.960 think of worst case scenarios and think of what could happen, 0:07:12.040 --> 0:07:16.240 what if that is. It's okay, it's a human thing. 0:07:16.720 --> 0:07:20.560 But I just try to redirect my mind and say, 0:07:20.680 --> 0:07:23.840 you're doing it again. Stop, this may never happen. What's 0:07:23.840 --> 0:07:27.160 happening right now. Look around you. Enjoy what's happening right now. 0:07:27.320 --> 0:07:29.920 And if there's something to fear, fine, fear it, but 0:07:30.320 --> 0:07:33.000 don't think about what you might have to fear. That 0:07:33.160 --> 0:07:36.360 is crazy, and yet we're all doing it all the time. 0:07:36.400 --> 0:07:37.360 If you think about it. 0:07:37.240 --> 0:07:39.440 To this point, I would ask encourage everybody who's listening 0:07:39.520 --> 0:07:41.720 to me right now, think about the thing right now 0:07:41.760 --> 0:07:45.400 that you are worried about. Think about it, and now 0:07:45.520 --> 0:07:49.000 consider tomorrow the next day if that thing ever comes 0:07:49.000 --> 0:07:50.920 to fruition. It could be something small. You might be 0:07:50.960 --> 0:07:54.120 worried that the eggs in your refrigerator are going to 0:07:54.280 --> 0:07:56.640 expire and you're not going to have enough for breakfast 0:07:56.640 --> 0:07:59.040 because you got people coming all the WNG too, and whatever. 0:08:00.040 --> 0:08:03.240 Anything you're worried about, and it's probably not going to 0:08:03.280 --> 0:08:05.800 happen exactly. Just considered. So that was on Tuesday. Worry 0:08:05.880 --> 0:08:08.119 is not a fear that hasn't Worry is a fear 0:08:08.440 --> 0:08:11.240 that hasn't grown up yet. It is a misuse of 0:08:11.280 --> 0:08:14.640 our imagination. That was on Tuesday. Wednesday, we turned to 0:08:14.800 --> 0:08:19.040 one here Robes again. It's put in a very in 0:08:19.080 --> 0:08:22.040 a succinct way. It's a lesson we all understand and 0:08:22.080 --> 0:08:23.840 no need to be reminded of. But I like the 0:08:23.880 --> 0:08:25.440 way this one was put. 0:08:25.960 --> 0:08:28.960 If you can't be thankful for what you have, at 0:08:29.080 --> 0:08:33.880 least be thankful for what you've escaped. And this one 0:08:34.080 --> 0:08:38.640 I thought was so cool, because yeah, sometimes we're not 0:08:38.720 --> 0:08:43.959 grateful for things like shelter, food security, being able to 0:08:43.960 --> 0:08:45.959 pay my bills this month, whatever it is. We kind 0:08:45.960 --> 0:08:48.440 of think we're owed it or we should have those things. 0:08:48.840 --> 0:08:51.880 But a lot of times when we're upset that something 0:08:51.880 --> 0:08:55.520 didn't happen, or we're upset about something we didn't get. 0:08:56.000 --> 0:08:59.720 I love reframing that and thinking about how we're thankful 0:08:59.760 --> 0:09:02.400 because it always happens when you've had a few weeks, months, 0:09:02.480 --> 0:09:04.839 or even years for the perspective to set it in 0:09:04.840 --> 0:09:08.000 and you're like, oh my god, thank god I didn't 0:09:08.320 --> 0:09:10.800 end up getting that or doing that or being with 0:09:10.880 --> 0:09:14.320 that person, and I actually was able to escape a 0:09:14.360 --> 0:09:18.000 far worse fate. And again, sometimes these things don't actually 0:09:18.200 --> 0:09:21.680 land until you've had perspective. But it's an interesting way 0:09:21.760 --> 0:09:25.439 to recognize sometimes some of the angst you're feeling about 0:09:25.440 --> 0:09:28.559 what you're not getting and you don't feel that gratitude. 0:09:28.720 --> 0:09:31.800 Yeah, blessings aren't just about what you have, right, That's 0:09:32.000 --> 0:09:34.120 how we count them usually. Right, Let's look at my blessings. 0:09:34.120 --> 0:09:35.719 Look at this nice home, look this nice job, Like 0:09:35.760 --> 0:09:37.720 at these wonderful kids, look at the well. I mean, 0:09:38.120 --> 0:09:40.440 we think about what we have, and too often we 0:09:40.480 --> 0:09:43.720 don't think about the blessing also being the thing we 0:09:43.880 --> 0:09:47.360 no longer have. That's also a blessing, the thing you 0:09:47.400 --> 0:09:49.319 got out of that thing you escape. I just love 0:09:49.400 --> 0:09:51.400 the way he put this and gives it a way 0:09:51.400 --> 0:09:54.440 to reframe in your mind just the things that are 0:09:54.480 --> 0:09:55.880 in front of you. We do have a hard time 0:09:55.920 --> 0:09:58.319 oftentimes like I don't have enough money, or that I 0:09:58.360 --> 0:10:00.120 didn't get that raise, or I should have more or 0:10:00.120 --> 0:10:02.280 of this or more of that. Yeah, you want the 0:10:02.360 --> 0:10:04.600 raise here now, but you remember that job you had 0:10:04.640 --> 0:10:07.760 before that you barely got out before they laid everybody off. 0:10:07.760 --> 0:10:10.200 You remember that one. So it's just a different way 0:10:10.200 --> 0:10:12.280 to frame it. Again, it's a sink, and it's clever. 0:10:12.520 --> 0:10:15.000 Here's the quote. If you can't be thankful for what 0:10:15.080 --> 0:10:18.439 you have, at least be thankful for what you' fiscapes. 0:10:26.679 --> 0:10:30.679 All right, On Thursday, we brought you another quote. We 0:10:30.840 --> 0:10:33.000 you know, we decided to lighten it up a little. 0:10:33.040 --> 0:10:35.679 You know, most of the quotes we have are are 0:10:35.920 --> 0:10:40.720 very serious and thought provoking and inspirational even but you 0:10:40.800 --> 0:10:44.199 gotta love a funny quote every now and then because 0:10:44.200 --> 0:10:45.360 there's usually some truth to it. 0:10:45.400 --> 0:10:47.800 We actually had a conversation and debate about, you know, what, 0:10:47.920 --> 0:10:49.880 should we go this lighthearted? And we said, why the 0:10:49.880 --> 0:10:51.720 hell not? Well, aren't we we should be doing this 0:10:51.760 --> 0:10:54.920 more often. So we pledged to do more lighthearted, more 0:10:54.960 --> 0:10:56.120 fun quotes moving forward. 0:10:56.160 --> 0:10:57.760 You know, let's try to at least do one fun 0:10:57.880 --> 0:11:00.400 quote a week to get folks laughing, because I you know, 0:11:00.520 --> 0:11:02.600 sometimes when you're having a tough time, laughter is the 0:11:02.600 --> 0:11:05.160 best medicine. So here was the quote of the day 0:11:05.240 --> 0:11:08.840 for Thursday of this week. A wise man once said 0:11:08.880 --> 0:11:13.400 to his wife nothing because he was a wise man. 0:11:14.800 --> 0:11:18.520 Everybody immediately gets it. That's funny. It plays into stereotypes, 0:11:18.640 --> 0:11:21.360 it has some truth to it, but it's just fun. 0:11:21.600 --> 0:11:25.520 It's funny, and I I have a difficult time with 0:11:25.600 --> 0:11:29.760 sometimes those I don't know, those those marriage tropes if 0:11:29.760 --> 0:11:32.480 you will, to where old Ball and Jane just. 0:11:32.480 --> 0:11:39.120 The happy wife, happy life. But it's kind of true. 0:11:39.559 --> 0:11:41.959 I hate the idea that our marriages, that we should 0:11:41.960 --> 0:11:44.959 have an expectation that the key to happiness is you 0:11:45.040 --> 0:11:47.240 shut up and do what you're told. What is that's 0:11:47.240 --> 0:11:49.000 the man or the woman, but it's usually having to 0:11:49.000 --> 0:11:51.560 do I know it's somewhat jokingly, but this was a 0:11:51.600 --> 0:11:53.840 funny way to actually put it. And anybody who's been 0:11:53.840 --> 0:11:56.560 any man who's been in a relationship knows we know 0:11:56.679 --> 0:11:57.560 when to pick and choose. 0:11:57.679 --> 0:12:00.640 Look again, yes, some people get offended by aeotypes, but 0:12:00.800 --> 0:12:03.839 stereotypes are usually there because there is a at least 0:12:03.880 --> 0:12:07.920 a small little bit of truth to it where at 0:12:08.040 --> 0:12:11.080 least you're like, okay, I get it. There's a generalization there. 0:12:11.240 --> 0:12:12.920 It's not always the case. And look, it could be 0:12:12.960 --> 0:12:14.880 offensive even to women that we have to have our 0:12:14.960 --> 0:12:17.839 way or we're not happy, you know, or we want 0:12:17.920 --> 0:12:19.280 you know, to say what we want to say, and 0:12:19.320 --> 0:12:23.400 don't you contradict me. Look, I've actually appreciated and maybe 0:12:23.520 --> 0:12:29.040 well definitely in hindsight, when we've had a couple difficult moments. 0:12:29.360 --> 0:12:31.800 I have been forced to look in the mirror. I 0:12:31.840 --> 0:12:34.760 have been forced to recognize that maybe I have acted 0:12:34.800 --> 0:12:36.720 a little bit more that way in my life. Where 0:12:37.240 --> 0:12:41.360 you know, I do think sometimes women we nest, we 0:12:41.400 --> 0:12:43.760 want things a certain way, we want things our way, 0:12:43.840 --> 0:12:46.600 and we want people to facilitate and help us get 0:12:47.240 --> 0:12:49.120 things in order the way we'd like them to be. 0:12:49.679 --> 0:12:52.400 And when you actually really have a true partner, I 0:12:52.600 --> 0:12:55.560 do think you have raised some of those issues with 0:12:55.600 --> 0:12:58.839 me and I have seen myself in a different way 0:12:59.240 --> 0:13:02.160 and that has been very eye opening and enlightening and 0:13:02.200 --> 0:13:04.400 hopefully made me a better partner and a better person, 0:13:04.800 --> 0:13:08.000 recognizing that we do fall sometimes into these stereotypes, and 0:13:08.040 --> 0:13:10.040 we do, maybe as women even feel like we have 0:13:10.080 --> 0:13:13.199 a right to say no, this is how I want it. 0:13:13.240 --> 0:13:19.120 And it's been it's been a very enlightening relationship. 0:13:19.120 --> 0:13:20.360 It has that's supposed to be. 0:13:20.360 --> 0:13:23.480 A great Why did I just make something funny heavy? 0:13:23.600 --> 0:13:24.320 Sorry about that? 0:13:24.600 --> 0:13:27.040 I feel we're gonna have to there's our therapists work 0:13:27.040 --> 0:13:31.520 on weekends. That's the basic of it. We need a moment. Fine, No, 0:13:31.559 --> 0:13:33.440 I get one hundred percent of what you're saying, And 0:13:33.520 --> 0:13:35.400 you would never you know what you struggle with it. 0:13:35.720 --> 0:13:37.720 I A struggle might not be the right word, but 0:13:37.760 --> 0:13:40.120 you in talking about it, you seem to struggle to 0:13:40.120 --> 0:13:43.800 find this balance sometimes between being and putting on what 0:13:43.840 --> 0:13:48.280 you actually are, which is a strong, capable woman who 0:13:48.320 --> 0:13:52.280 doesn't need a man for anything to take care of her. 0:13:52.280 --> 0:13:55.280 And this this is this you overcome cancer, you are 0:13:55.360 --> 0:14:00.240 a marathon or everything about you is strength. And you've 0:14:00.280 --> 0:14:02.640 had moments that you've said publicly on a podcast before 0:14:02.679 --> 0:14:03.880 where yeah, I. 0:14:03.880 --> 0:14:05.800 Just want to be taken care of something I do 0:14:06.080 --> 0:14:06.320 I do. 0:14:06.600 --> 0:14:08.160 Yes, I want you to open the door. Yes, I 0:14:08.200 --> 0:14:09.160 want to be treated. 0:14:08.880 --> 0:14:10.080 Like I just want to be And that's hard to 0:14:10.080 --> 0:14:13.400 admit something and felt, Yes, that's hard to admit. 0:14:13.440 --> 0:14:16.320 Sometimes it didn't be both, I suppose, but it we 0:14:16.320 --> 0:14:18.559 were often put in the position that or told that 0:14:18.600 --> 0:14:21.440 women are either one or the other. You're this strong 0:14:21.520 --> 0:14:23.520 woman who doesn't need a man for anything, or you're 0:14:23.560 --> 0:14:25.440 this little weakling that needs man for everything. 0:14:25.640 --> 0:14:28.040 Yeah, we can all be a little bit of both. Yeah, 0:14:28.080 --> 0:14:30.040 And sometimes you can speak up and sometimes it is 0:14:30.080 --> 0:14:33.320 better to stay silent. So let's let's end with the 0:14:33.560 --> 0:14:35.640 uh with the quote itself, which is fun. 0:14:36.200 --> 0:14:36.320 Uh. 0:14:37.360 --> 0:14:40.160 It is a wise man. Once said to his wife 0:14:40.680 --> 0:14:43.960 nothing because he was a wise man, all right. 0:14:44.000 --> 0:14:45.840 And then our quote other thing on Friday is a 0:14:45.920 --> 0:14:48.160 very good example of ropes. And I say this all 0:14:48.200 --> 0:14:51.360 the time. My quotes don't just come from things I 0:14:51.480 --> 0:14:55.680 read or it comes from even my pastor necessarily. Sometimes 0:14:55.680 --> 0:14:58.280 it's just folks that I run into randomly on the 0:14:58.280 --> 0:15:01.800 street or I meet and they say something that I 0:15:01.800 --> 0:15:03.520 think is interesting and I write it down. And this 0:15:03.560 --> 0:15:05.360 is a very good example. This came to me from 0:15:05.680 --> 0:15:10.000 Benjamin Watson, who is a former football player played for 0:15:10.040 --> 0:15:13.360 the New Orleans Saints and Robes. I had this big 0:15:13.640 --> 0:15:15.400 you know, I used to do these big live events 0:15:15.480 --> 0:15:18.560 on GMA, and we had a big surprise that morning 0:15:18.560 --> 0:15:20.560 in New Orleans, and he was helping us with it, 0:15:20.640 --> 0:15:22.320 and we did all this stuff on the air and 0:15:22.360 --> 0:15:25.240 everything's live fine. But it was just in a quiet moment, 0:15:25.360 --> 0:15:28.800 just to he and I just standing next to each 0:15:28.800 --> 0:15:31.240 other talking about I'm not even sure what, but it 0:15:31.280 --> 0:15:32.960 had nothing to do with the shoot and what we 0:15:32.960 --> 0:15:34.960 were doing. I was just having a conversation with his 0:15:35.000 --> 0:15:37.440 brother and he said something and it clicked and I 0:15:37.480 --> 0:15:42.240 wrote it down. That was in twenty twenty one maybe wow, 0:15:42.280 --> 0:15:44.840 and here we are. I held on to that quote, 0:15:44.920 --> 0:15:46.560 so this was the one we used on Friday. 0:15:47.040 --> 0:15:50.600 Just because it's not on the news doesn't mean it's 0:15:50.680 --> 0:15:55.160 not happening. I thought this was so interesting on a 0:15:55.200 --> 0:16:00.400 couple of different levels, because there's the point where we're all, 0:16:00.680 --> 0:16:06.200 as Americans as a society, sometimes force fed or spoon 0:16:06.280 --> 0:16:10.160 fed what we're supposed to care about, what is important, 0:16:10.400 --> 0:16:13.200 what needs attention, and that's coming to us from the 0:16:13.240 --> 0:16:16.280 mainstream media for the most part, and even as journalists 0:16:16.320 --> 0:16:19.560 we recognize that. But there are so many stories that 0:16:19.720 --> 0:16:21.720 never get told. There are so many stories that are 0:16:21.760 --> 0:16:27.800 too messy, too ugly, too controversial, too potentially litigious for 0:16:27.960 --> 0:16:31.680 us to cover. And that's something that we all need 0:16:31.720 --> 0:16:33.920 to keep in mind as human beings, that there are 0:16:33.960 --> 0:16:37.440 so many other things that need attention that perhaps for 0:16:37.480 --> 0:16:41.000 whatever reason, we aren't being told about. And it's important 0:16:41.000 --> 0:16:42.320 to recognize that. 0:16:42.680 --> 0:16:51.280 It's too often I think something is dismissed because certain 0:16:51.320 --> 0:16:53.600 media voices aren't paying attention to it, like, oh, it 0:16:53.840 --> 0:16:55.960 must not be a big deal because it's not on 0:16:56.240 --> 0:16:59.280 that network, that network, or that network. We've had to 0:17:00.040 --> 0:17:03.080 certainly in the past several years retrain ourselves, and this 0:17:03.120 --> 0:17:04.639 was something that was a frustration to mine. I know 0:17:04.640 --> 0:17:06.639 we talked about it Good Morning America. This is not 0:17:06.720 --> 0:17:08.440 to be critical of them. I know this happens in 0:17:08.480 --> 0:17:12.320 newsrooms everywhere, but they always, or at least in the 0:17:12.400 --> 0:17:18.000 last decade, like what's trending, what's hot, what's hot on TikTok, 0:17:18.040 --> 0:17:20.359 what's hot on Twitter, like they would actually as a 0:17:20.400 --> 0:17:22.320 part of your research of what you were going to 0:17:22.359 --> 0:17:24.960 put in your show or your rundown, they're looking to 0:17:25.000 --> 0:17:27.879 see what are the top trends in whatever. It always 0:17:27.960 --> 0:17:31.040 frustrated me that we were trying to follow a conversation 0:17:31.600 --> 0:17:34.320 that said, can we please be the ones to lead it? Yeah, 0:17:34.400 --> 0:17:37.320 we should be talking about something that we find important 0:17:37.359 --> 0:17:39.800 that nobody else is talking about to get them talking 0:17:39.840 --> 0:17:43.200 about it and make it trend. That was always something 0:17:43.240 --> 0:17:46.000 I thought was as important that I think we and 0:17:46.040 --> 0:17:48.800 we were part of the media in that mainstream way. 0:17:49.480 --> 0:17:50.720 We were part of the problem. 0:17:50.800 --> 0:17:53.440 But you and I fought, and I can definitely say 0:17:53.480 --> 0:17:55.760 this to try and get some of those stories airtime, 0:17:55.800 --> 0:17:58.720 and oftentimes we were met with a brick wall. It 0:17:58.760 --> 0:18:03.040 wasn't gonna happen. But from from Brown and black girls 0:18:03.080 --> 0:18:07.040 going missing who we never hear about and never knew about, 0:18:08.000 --> 0:18:12.520 to Jeffrey Epstein, to you know, there were stories that 0:18:13.040 --> 0:18:17.720 were just h that's not no one cares or you know, 0:18:18.320 --> 0:18:22.320 it's not as important for whatever reason, and it was disgusting. 0:18:22.440 --> 0:18:24.840 You know. I think people talk about media bias about 0:18:24.840 --> 0:18:27.360 how we cover stories. I think the biggest media bias 0:18:27.840 --> 0:18:31.359 is what we cover and what we don't cover. And 0:18:31.400 --> 0:18:34.119 I just think that's such an important lesson for everyone 0:18:34.160 --> 0:18:37.080 who consumes media. And there's so many outlets and so 0:18:37.200 --> 0:18:41.480 many and yet still there are so many glaring lapses 0:18:41.800 --> 0:18:44.080 in what we actually should be talking about. 0:18:44.400 --> 0:18:46.720 Different iterations a way to say what he said. But 0:18:46.800 --> 0:18:50.600 Benjamin Watson, if anybody knows that brother and I need 0:18:50.640 --> 0:18:52.120 to reach out to him and let him know about 0:18:52.200 --> 0:18:56.080 just please then how we're talking so good about him 0:18:56.080 --> 0:18:58.840 behind his back? You should always talk good about somebody 0:18:58.880 --> 0:19:00.960 when you get a chance to, even if it's not 0:19:01.000 --> 0:19:03.840 to your benefit. But he is a just I like 0:19:03.880 --> 0:19:08.080 the brother and that he's an analyst for the SEC 0:19:08.240 --> 0:19:11.720 Network for SEC football now and he said that to me, 0:19:11.800 --> 0:19:14.280 and it's amazing just how somebody can make an impact 0:19:14.359 --> 0:19:15.800 on you like that. But that was our quote of 0:19:15.800 --> 0:19:17.080 the day on Friday. 0:19:17.240 --> 0:19:21.200 Yes, and so we hope that you know, you all 0:19:21.240 --> 0:19:23.920 stick around on Monday through Friday on Morning Run because 0:19:23.920 --> 0:19:25.679 if you didn't know, because some of y'all, I know, 0:19:25.760 --> 0:19:28.359 probably jump out after ten minutes, fifteen minutes, but if 0:19:28.400 --> 0:19:30.640 you hold out to the end, we do have these 0:19:30.760 --> 0:19:34.119 quotes of the day that we hope actually ends the 0:19:34.160 --> 0:19:38.160