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Speaker 1: Scrubbing In with Beca Tilly and Tanya rad and iHeartRadio

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Speaker 1: and two times People's Choice Award winning podcast.

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Speaker 2: Hello everybody, we are scrubing.

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Speaker 1: I think a lot.

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Speaker 3: I think it like, it's short and sweet, it's familiar.

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Speaker 3: You get to jing.

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Speaker 4: We are scrub dumb dubbing in.

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Speaker 3: No, I think I think what you did was perfect.

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Speaker 4: Yeah the second time.

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Speaker 3: No, no, the first time.

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Speaker 5: I think.

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Speaker 4: Tweak it each week and see which one lands, and

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Speaker 4: see which one lands. Yeah, yeah, let's see what the people.

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Speaker 3: The one thing about the scrubbers, they'll let us know.

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Speaker 1: Yeah.

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Speaker 4: And one thing that we really just need to get

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Speaker 4: this podcast in tiptop shape for the Golden Globe entry right.

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Speaker 3: Yes, yeah, yes, And Sandra, oh, get her on the map,

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Speaker 3: get us on her map.

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Speaker 1: Yeah.

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Speaker 4: We're gonna have to think of some more guest possibilities

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Speaker 4: because we cannot be attached to just one outcome. But

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Speaker 4: I'm on it, okay, all right, twenty twenty six is

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Speaker 4: gonna be here before you know it.

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Speaker 3: Time is just flying by, flying by, because I got

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Speaker 3: a memory on my phone and it was Jojo and

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Speaker 3: Jordan's wedding. It's been three years. That's crazy, which is crazy,

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Speaker 3: and I just feel like, y'all it's gonna be y'all's

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Speaker 3: wedding anniversary. It's gonna just happen so fast.

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Speaker 4: Well, it was our two month anniversary yesterday.

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Speaker 3: Happy anniversary, Thank you so much. How have the past

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Speaker 3: two months been a marriage?

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Speaker 4: Great? It hasn't felt two months is a long time

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Speaker 4: it has. It's felt like two weeks. I feel like

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Speaker 4: we just got there.

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Speaker 1: Britney's marriages didn't even make it to two months. Yeah, milestone, thank.

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Speaker 4: You, Masel. Just wedded, Bliss, just wedded, bliss. I'm obsessed

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Speaker 4: with being married.

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Speaker 3: I'm so happy to hear that. Yeah, I'm happy to

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Speaker 3: hear that, because not everyone feels that way.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, we didn't really celebrate our two month anniversary per se,

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Speaker 4: but maybe we'll celebrate six months, maybe a year.

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Speaker 1: I thought you were planning a dinner for your two months.

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Speaker 1: It did not happen, so funny.

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Speaker 4: Your memory is not so great. The dinner was for.

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Speaker 3: Like a oh, Michael, wow, she just snapped her brawl.

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Speaker 3: So we.

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Speaker 4: Did like a botchi ball tournament, which is like a

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Speaker 4: It's this thing called a party book. Do you know

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Speaker 4: what that is?

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Speaker 1: A party book?

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Speaker 4: Yeah, it's something to like raise money for the school. Okay,

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Speaker 4: so we did like a bochie tournament on our actual

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Speaker 4: two month anniversary.

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Speaker 1: Oh so your dinner. Oh you went on a dinner

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Speaker 1: for like step Mother's Day.

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Speaker 4: Yeah yeah, it was cute. Yeah, thank you for paying attention.

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Speaker 1: Well you showed me a lovely text hero you know,

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Speaker 1: it was extremely sweet. I forgot it was not for

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Speaker 1: your anniversary. It was for Mother's Day. Now she's a stepmom, yes,

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Speaker 3: Yes. Mother's Day is so interesting because I and I

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Speaker 3: don't know if it's because social media you see people

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Speaker 3: there was like I saw people just being like, it's

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Speaker 3: And I was like, man, that's tough. Like the expectation

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Speaker 3: like and then I saw someone saying, if if you're

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Speaker 3: on this one day for him to do. It's true,

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Speaker 3: what do you do for your wife?

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Speaker 1: Tended it wasn't Mother's Day because our oldest was not able.

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Speaker 1: will celebrate Mother's Day. Then I did get her a

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Speaker 3: We've had We've had like some Christmases where not everyone

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Speaker 1: This was the first time we've ever all not been

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Speaker 4: Yeah, dang, it's keep coming.

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Speaker 1: Tell me about it. Yeah, yesterday my youngest got her

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Speaker 4: Lies last week just likely.

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Speaker 1: And as far as I'm concerned, I'm now the father

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Speaker 3: Is that so scary to let your kid drive?

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Speaker 1: Absolutely?

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Speaker 3: I feel like that's so scary here.

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Speaker 1: Then finally they'll get I don't have drive them all

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Speaker 1: Man once when Ali got her license, after that it

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Speaker 1: after that, and it's going to be the same thing,

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Speaker 1: Yeah, So we're happy for her, but it's a it's

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Speaker 3: Yeah, well because it's like independence here I come.

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Speaker 1: It is. And also I found that all of my

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Speaker 1: oldest milestones are celebrations and the youngest milestones are devastating

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Speaker 1: because it's the last one. It's the last one to

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Speaker 1: graduate elementary school, that's the last you know, all of

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Speaker 3: Jobs, the old Joe.

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Speaker 4: No, but it's true, like as you get older, like

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Speaker 4: going to have like mother in laws, Like it just

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Speaker 4: be's so complicated because you have so many mother was

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Speaker 4: an honor all of them. It was so might live

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Speaker 4: far farther apart, and so it's just like challenge. It's

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Speaker 3: It really is It's so interesting because I was telling

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Speaker 3: I thought motherhood was like the easy I was like,

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Speaker 3: I'm like it seemed like the hardest thing in the

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Speaker 4: Yeah, especially with like social media and stuff.

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Speaker 3: I've kids, Yeah, which I guess she feel like I

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Speaker 4: I feel like that's another layer of like fear all

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Speaker 3: Yeah, yeah, true. We do have a Dear Bonnie episode today, Yes,

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Speaker 3: we do. Let's get started here.

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Speaker 1: We go from a WLW scrubber II Becka Tani Houston

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Speaker 1: and marketing. He's been advice on how to propose as

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Speaker 1: a WLW scrubbery women, women loving women, whatever. My girlfriend

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Speaker 1: and I have been together two years, have chatted about

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Speaker 1: getting engaged soon, and went to look at rings awhile back.

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Speaker 1: We decided on what we liked, but to keep the surprise,

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Speaker 1: we're secretly ordering each other's rings and we'll propose at

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Speaker 1: some point. I'm type A, so I'm ready to get

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Speaker 1: this ball rolling. The issue is I mostly plan and

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Speaker 1: figure everything out. I was the first to ask her

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Speaker 1: to be my girlfriend. I was the first to say

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Speaker 1: I love you, so I think will be really special

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Speaker 1: if she proposed to me first. But if she does that,

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Speaker 1: then I don't really get to surprise her because she

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Speaker 1: knows they'll be coming shortly thereafter, and I love a surprise. Also,

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Speaker 1: for some reason, I think if she asks me first,

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Speaker 1: I wouldn't have to deal with remarks about how I

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Speaker 1: rushed her into something or persuaded her eye roll. What

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Speaker 1: should I do? I have an idea on how I

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Speaker 1: my special moment or should I get everything in order

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Speaker 1: for her to be surprised? Becca, I know you're keeping

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Speaker 1: it under wraps, but are you worried about not being

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Speaker 1: surprised if you go first? Any advice is appreciated. Love

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Speaker 1: you guys. Oh that is very excited to hear it.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, doing a creepy tap on her fingers. Yes, I

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Speaker 3: personally am not worried at all about not being surprised

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Speaker 3: I think I would still be surprised and excited regardless,

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Speaker 3: because it is That is the fun part of WLW

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Speaker 3: is that, like both people get typically both people get

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Speaker 3: I just love that you both get to experience that.

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Speaker 1: I don't even think I really understood that. I don't

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Speaker 3: Yeah, not everyone either. I guess not everyone does that,

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Speaker 3: but most people that I've seen do it. But I

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Speaker 3: that sometimes when you're the one who plans everything, like

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Speaker 3: I would say, definitely in our relationship, I'm the one

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Speaker 3: person who surprises and and does a lot of that.

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Speaker 3: Even though I don't consider myself type A. I think

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Speaker 3: I don't think you should wait for something that you're

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Speaker 4: Or for that matter, what her family's going to think.

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Speaker 4: I know, because that should be on the last.

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Speaker 3: It's so hard. I mean, I think it's it's so

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Speaker 3: hard when you're in that and your family, people that

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Speaker 3: you love and care about, like it adds an element

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Speaker 3: and especially pressure for the other person. But I think

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Speaker 3: you just go for it. I think you know what

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Speaker 3: think if you know that she's going to propose eventually,

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Speaker 3: you're still going to get to have your moment. And

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Speaker 3: I hope that maybe she's able to pull off an

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Speaker 3: epic surprise and surprise you. Even if you know what's coming,

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Speaker 3: you don't know when. Even now you know what's coming,

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Speaker 1: Should you give her a partner some a little bit

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Speaker 1: of a time frame here, should give her some runway

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Speaker 3: I think you move on. Yeah, I think you do

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Speaker 3: I think that he is using I think I don't

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Speaker 4: No excuse me, just woke up. And if it is

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Speaker 4: like that's what I'm saying, like he obviously is not

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Speaker 1: I No, I was waiting for you to finish.

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Speaker 4: Oh, well, that he is embarrassed or whatever he's going through,

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Speaker 1: I would to give him a little more credit. No,

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Speaker 3: You're telling me if you met AMers at a corporate job,

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Speaker 3: Would you be able to communicate that time?

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Speaker 4: I think you move on? You don't. I am the

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Speaker 4: move on. If he wants to open the door back

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Speaker 4: But I feel like you have to.

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Speaker 4: And doors need to be locked.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, some doors do need to be locked, but this

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Speaker 4: Yeah, he needs to take accountability for the ghost.

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Speaker 4: G and if he doesn't lock it, lock it and

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Speaker 1: Anonymous Hello, team, I'm a sneaky Day one listener because

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Speaker 3: If I have kids, that.

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Speaker 3: is it you know, when you're at each other's house,

439
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Speaker 3: it's you. You go by the rules of that house,

440
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Speaker 3: you know, like you respect the rules of that house.

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Speaker 3: You know what I'm saying.

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Speaker 4: She was saying that it's like that it's this one

443
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Speaker 4: friend in particular, because they do these things like they

444
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Speaker 4: do these mom co momming adventures, but they have different rules,

445
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Speaker 4: so it's like hard for her to maintain the friendship.

446
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Speaker 3: I know, But I'm saying, if it's if it's like, Okay,

447
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Speaker 3: we're at my house for this adventure, this house for

448
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Speaker 3: this adventure, like at least in the homes, and then

449
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Speaker 3: my thing is like just if you're teaching. And I

450
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Speaker 3: also feel like she's worried about future problems more so

451
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Speaker 3: the like current like she's worried about I think you're

452
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Speaker 3: and I get it because you're already going like how

453
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Speaker 3: are we going to navigate this? But also I think

454
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Speaker 3: if you're in the time now where they're just still

455
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Speaker 3: little kids, like you have control over what they do

456
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Speaker 3: and what they're looking at and what they see, And

457
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Speaker 3: if if you don't want them to go over to

458
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Speaker 3: her house without you there to supervise, then don't let them, right,

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Speaker 3: you know. And if if maybe maintaining the friendship is

460
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Speaker 3: y'all having more one on one time and the kids

461
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Speaker 3: not being involved.

462
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Speaker 4: Yes, more one on one time, no kids involved.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, and also talking like where can we have a compromise,

464
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Speaker 3: because like, I know that you have your way and

465
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Speaker 3: I have my way, and they're very opposite. But I

466
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Speaker 3: want our kids to grow up together like we have

467
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Speaker 3: a friendship. But maybe right now, when they're young and impressionable,

468
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Speaker 3: you have your friendship without the kids around.

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Speaker 1: As much as good advice because if these the kids

470
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Speaker 1: may drift apart one day, and if you do, you're

471
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Speaker 1: also going to drift apart with your friend. That is

472
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Speaker 1: how it goes. It's happened with so many different families

473
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Speaker 1: throughout my kids' lives. The kids drift apart, you drift apart.

474
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Speaker 1: So focus on the moment, focus on the now, don't

475
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Speaker 1: worry about the future. Good and you can always be

476
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Speaker 1: friends without your kids. Yeah, we have a couple of

477
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Speaker 1: fun ones. Well, Fok's out with Ali here. She need

478
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Speaker 1: to help with merch, Dear Banya, I need some creative

479
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Speaker 1: advice from you gals. I'm such a merch girly and

480
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Speaker 1: what you guys did for Tanya your wedding and Becca

481
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Speaker 1: your sister's thirtieth was beyond and wanted to redo my

482
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Speaker 1: wedding just so I could have merch, which brings me

483
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Speaker 1: to a question. I'm planning a big surprise birthday party

484
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Speaker 1: weekend for my mom. It's a big birthday, but the

485
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Speaker 1: theme is twenty first birthday because she had kids at

486
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Speaker 1: a super young age and people of that generation never

487
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Speaker 1: really got to have goofy fun the way a Delts

488
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Speaker 1: do now with their twenty first and Bachelorett parties. So merch,

489
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Speaker 1: what should I do that chic and a fun keepsake

490
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Speaker 1: for the weekend. It's my siblings, our partners in her,

491
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Speaker 1: but there are eleven of us split in half co ed,

492
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Speaker 1: so it's a big group, but we're just our VP.

493
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Speaker 1: If that helps, I feel like there's something fun in there.

494
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Speaker 1: Spa day, nice dinner, party, bus karaoke to a wan nearby,

495
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Speaker 1: and finishing off the weekend with tattoos. Wow. Wow, that's

496
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Speaker 1: a weekend. Yeah, makes an advance, says the merch Gurly Alley.

497
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Speaker 4: I have the perfect idea well flasks for everybody.

498
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Speaker 3: That's fun.

499
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Speaker 4: VPS two VP two one, VP two one. It's like

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Speaker 4: D three D twenty three. Do you know what I mean?

501
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Speaker 1: No letter numbers together. Yeah, he ultimate Disney fan of it.

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Speaker 4: Yes, the ultimate Disney fan of DT twenty three. She's

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Speaker 4: VP twenty one. So it's like a playoff of like that.

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Speaker 3: What if we did V I and like the I

505
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Speaker 3: was in parentheses v IP and the I stood for something,

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Speaker 3: you know what I'm saying, So it looks like V

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Speaker 3: with like an ie in parentheses and then P.

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Speaker 4: Maybe the I is a twenty one v twenty one.

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Speaker 1: It could be like a Martini glass movie.

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Speaker 3: Yes, yeah, yeah, that's cute, like a V a Martini glass. P.

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Speaker 1: She's a VP, she's also a VIP. Yeah, and we're

512
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Speaker 1: getting let this weekend.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, or you can do well. I guess you're all

514
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Speaker 4: of age. Never mind. I made fake IDs for Sunny's

515
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Speaker 4: twenty first which was really cute.

516
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Speaker 3: Fake really yeah, yeah, she did.

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Speaker 1: It was awesome.

518
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Speaker 4: Everybody had to have a ID to get into the

519
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Speaker 4: door everything.

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Speaker 3: That's funny. Yeah, it would be funny if you made

521
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Speaker 3: IDs for everybody and it was like like could they.

522
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Speaker 4: Might be VP's security VP's.

523
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Speaker 3: But they all had funny like little things about them,

524
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Speaker 3: so like little funny that what he tells about them.

525
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Speaker 1: And they were all born in uh twenty two thousand

526
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Speaker 1: and four.

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Speaker 3: Yes, so that's what I was gonna say. It could

528
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Speaker 3: be funny if you like, because we I did Kind's World,

529
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Speaker 3: and I did since nineteen ninety five because that's when

530
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Speaker 3: she was born. But if you did since and put

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Speaker 3: her actual birth here and did like a line through

532
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Speaker 3: it and then put two thousand and four.

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Speaker 5: Yeah, these are great, great flasks, and it could be

534
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Speaker 5: it could be really And I also think you could

535
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Speaker 5: go to You can either go to like a merch designer.

536
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Speaker 3: I think it's more expensive like the one we went to.

537
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Speaker 3: They do like merch for big companies.

538
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Speaker 4: Do a ton of this stuff on Amazon, like I've

539
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Speaker 4: made like hats on Amazon.

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Speaker 3: I was gonna say Amazon or Etsy, you can find Etsy, doesn't.

541
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Speaker 4: What you know how I feel about Etsy.

542
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Speaker 3: No, I know it's tough. It's really not. They make

543
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Speaker 3: it very easy. You just find someone with really good reviews,

544
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Speaker 3: with good reviews.

545
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Speaker 4: The baby baby microscopic confession, the sizing baby, little soap

546
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Speaker 4: dishes sent to me.

547
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Speaker 3: But also I was thinking, since you're getting tattoos, how

548
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Speaker 3: cute would it be if you did like little this

549
00:25:54,320 --> 00:25:56,960
Speaker 3: might be too advanced, but like little sketches that went

550
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Speaker 3: all over the merch, so like little tattoos of like

551
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Speaker 3: you know, like what you got, yeah, twenty one all

552
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Speaker 3: the things.

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Speaker 4: Anyways, I'm trying to think what other little twenty first

554
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Speaker 4: things we did on Sunny's birthday.

555
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Speaker 3: I liked your totes too. That was a nice addition.

556
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Speaker 3: If she don't want to do like clothing, the pats

557
00:26:17,880 --> 00:26:18,919
Speaker 3: and the tots.

558
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Speaker 4: Yeah, but I was a big hit. People love a tote.

559
00:26:23,640 --> 00:26:25,880
Speaker 4: Everyone loves a tote. He doesn't love a tote.

560
00:26:26,000 --> 00:26:29,359
Speaker 3: My sister and everyone wore all of the merged that

561
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Speaker 3: we got. My Oh, the other thing that we did,

562
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Speaker 3: my sister did the embroidery. She did just bought button

563
00:26:35,800 --> 00:26:38,399
Speaker 3: downs from the airy or something and embroidery something cute.

564
00:26:38,400 --> 00:26:40,240
Speaker 3: So you could find someone to do that. Maybe my

565
00:26:40,320 --> 00:26:46,800
Speaker 3: sister reach out to keep walking. There you go. But yeah,

566
00:26:46,800 --> 00:26:48,720
Speaker 3: that's so fun. Merch is fun. It's fun to have

567
00:26:48,760 --> 00:26:53,439
Speaker 3: a memento from an occasion. But good luck, I'll be thinking,

568
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Speaker 3: I'll be thinking on this. I love coming up with

569
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Speaker 3: ideas like that.

570
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Speaker 4: I'd be thinking too.

571
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Speaker 3: You should have Robbie and he's really good at merching.

572
00:27:02,920 --> 00:27:04,520
Speaker 3: Oh okay, we're gonna take a break and then we're

573
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Speaker 3: going to come back. Because there's a controversy on which

574
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Speaker 3: Gray's character I was from an earlier episode of Scrubbing

575
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Speaker 3: in we'll be right back.

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Speaker 1: Right, we are back, Kaylee says, Hey, Mark back at

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Speaker 1: Tanya and Easton last. I've waited forever to have something

578
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Speaker 1: worth writing about to hear you read that greeting. Thank you, Kaylee.

579
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Speaker 1: I'm a day one listener. I've loved listening from the

580
00:27:46,520 --> 00:27:48,280
Speaker 1: very beginning. I look forward to the podcast every week.

581
00:27:48,320 --> 00:27:50,520
Speaker 1: I have two biological daughters and a step daughter, and

582
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Speaker 1: I saved the podcast from my me time, even if

583
00:27:53,240 --> 00:27:55,480
Speaker 1: it's doing dishes alone with my headphones in. I feel

584
00:27:55,520 --> 00:27:57,160
Speaker 1: like you guys are some of my best friends, says

585
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Speaker 1: I know so much about your lives and I have

586
00:27:58,600 --> 00:28:00,320
Speaker 1: listened to you a lot live it over the years.

587
00:28:01,000 --> 00:28:03,399
Speaker 1: I recently started the podcast from the beginning, and in

588
00:28:03,440 --> 00:28:06,239
Speaker 1: the first episode, where Tanya makes your debut, she and

589
00:28:06,280 --> 00:28:09,120
Speaker 1: Becka discuss a sweatshirt Becca gave to Tanya. It says,

590
00:28:09,160 --> 00:28:11,760
Speaker 1: Meredith Gray is my spirit animal. Do you still have that?

591
00:28:12,359 --> 00:28:13,760
Speaker 4: I think so yeah.

592
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Speaker 1: Then they go on to discuss how Becca is so

593
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Speaker 1: much like Meredith. I thought it was so funny since

594
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Speaker 1: in the most recent episode, you guys played the game

595
00:28:21,160 --> 00:28:23,080
Speaker 1: of naming who each person was most like, and Becca

596
00:28:23,119 --> 00:28:25,560
Speaker 1: gave her a buttle that she was not like Meredith.

597
00:28:25,600 --> 00:28:27,679
Speaker 1: It's so funny how things have changed over the years.

598
00:28:28,119 --> 00:28:31,320
Speaker 1: Please never stop podcasting. What you guys think is mundane

599
00:28:31,320 --> 00:28:33,600
Speaker 1: and boring is the highlight of so many people's week.

600
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Speaker 1: The best episodes of the four of you just talking

601
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Speaker 1: like family. I've enjoyed so much learning about all four

602
00:28:38,520 --> 00:28:40,600
Speaker 1: of your lives, love you so much and always cheering

603
00:28:40,640 --> 00:28:43,920
Speaker 1: you all on ps. My dad has been absent nearly

604
00:28:43,960 --> 00:28:45,880
Speaker 1: my whole life, and listening to Mark talk and give

605
00:28:45,960 --> 00:28:49,959
Speaker 1: advice feels like listening to the data I never had. Wow, Oka,

606
00:28:50,920 --> 00:28:54,040
Speaker 1: that is really sweet, Cayley, Wow.

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Speaker 3: I think that I think that at that time, I

608
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Speaker 3: was like Meredith, I'm very just not to me in relationship. Yeah.

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Speaker 3: I think I did resonate a lot more with Meredith

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Speaker 3: than than I do. Know.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, I don't feel like you're It's interesting. I never

612
00:29:15,600 --> 00:29:17,960
Speaker 4: felt like you were Meredith Gray in general, because you

613
00:29:18,000 --> 00:29:21,480
Speaker 4: are not a cold person. But I feel like in

614
00:29:21,520 --> 00:29:24,000
Speaker 4: your love life you were very cold. You were like

615
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Speaker 4: shut off.

616
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Speaker 3: Yes now we know why.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, but there was a point where I was like,

618
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Speaker 4: maybe Becca doesn't have that chip in her.

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Speaker 3: I wonder if Robert thought of me as being shut

620
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Speaker 3: off for sure, or if he just was like, she's chill,

621
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Speaker 3: no chances chill.

622
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Speaker 4: Maybe we should have him on the podcast to discuss

623
00:29:46,320 --> 00:29:47,360
Speaker 4: that could be a golden globe.

624
00:29:47,400 --> 00:29:48,720
Speaker 1: Have never had him on before?

625
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Speaker 5: Never?

626
00:29:49,440 --> 00:29:53,000
Speaker 1: Oh wow, Yeah, it's time I'm with you. I thought

627
00:29:53,000 --> 00:29:56,040
Speaker 1: we did this, but was it this?

628
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Speaker 6: We called him at one point he was like the

629
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Speaker 6: call he was there's a busy coffee shop.

630
00:30:02,040 --> 00:30:02,480
Speaker 1: Understand.

631
00:30:03,720 --> 00:30:05,920
Speaker 4: Maybe was I on the podcast?

632
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Speaker 6: I don't even know if it was this podcast on

633
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Speaker 6: I'll figure it out.

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00:30:10,000 --> 00:30:11,440
Speaker 1: We do so many a lot.

635
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Speaker 4: I think Becca is the opposite of cold. Let me

636
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Speaker 4: tell you. If there's something that Becca Tilly is, she

637
00:30:19,480 --> 00:30:23,200
Speaker 4: is that warm cup of coffee that you just need

638
00:30:23,280 --> 00:30:26,680
Speaker 4: every day. I felt that recently.

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Speaker 3: Oh really, that's touching.

640
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Speaker 4: I'm serious.

641
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Speaker 3: Why.

642
00:30:31,400 --> 00:30:33,080
Speaker 4: I just feel like you've really been there for me.

643
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Speaker 3: Oh my gosh, I love you so much. I told

644
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Speaker 3: you it was like, what kind of friend would I

645
00:30:38,560 --> 00:30:39,960
Speaker 3: be if I wasn't? Yeah?

646
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Speaker 4: Yeah, I think it's time we wrap it up. Here

647
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Speaker 4: is very cute.

648
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Speaker 1: It's from Jazz. I've been loving the recent pattern of

649
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Speaker 1: ending each Deer Bonnie with a fun light how to

650
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Speaker 1: question or game. So, building on last week's theme of

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Speaker 1: how do you know you found your person I have

652
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Speaker 1: a question for each of you, one physical trait and

653
00:31:01,280 --> 00:31:04,960
Speaker 1: one personality trait your partner has that if they didn't have,

654
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Speaker 1: might have made you second guess whether they were the one.

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Speaker 1: Thanks for the weekly laughs. And I have to say

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Speaker 1: I am a die hard fan of the scrub a

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Speaker 1: dub dub and the tub tub tub jingle in the house.

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Speaker 4: I know mine his hands they're hotter now than ever,

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Speaker 4: and if.

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Speaker 1: They were, like, I'm not sure he's the one for sure.

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Speaker 3: Really, if Robbie didn't have the hands that he.

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Speaker 4: Had, I mean, it's hard to say, you know, it's

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Speaker 4: hard to I don't know those hands did it for

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Speaker 4: me day one.

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Speaker 3: I don't remember you talking about them day one. I

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Speaker 3: felt I feel like, I mean early on, for sure.

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Speaker 4: Those hands, they're gorgeous.

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Speaker 3: He has very nice hands.

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Speaker 4: He does does and like it's weird because they're masculine

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Speaker 4: but spemer groomed and like the perfect ratio like nail

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Speaker 4: to skin and my nice color, perfect amount of hair.

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Speaker 4: And personality wise, I think his empathy, he's like one

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Speaker 4: of the most empathetic. I feel like he can put

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Speaker 4: himself in other people's shoes more than anybody that I've

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Speaker 4: ever met. That those my answers.

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Speaker 3: Mine would be physical trait. Her nose I love her nose.

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Speaker 4: I would say her lips, oh dang her, but her

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Speaker 4: whole face.

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Speaker 3: Really, she looks like a doll. She always looks perfectly.

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Speaker 3: She wakes up just like like looking glowing. I'm like,

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Speaker 3: why do you always look like you're like glowing? So annoying?

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Speaker 4: See me when I wake up?

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Speaker 3: Me too, I'm like mouth tape, hair.

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00:32:46,960 --> 00:32:48,400
Speaker 4: Drool coming off the side.

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Speaker 3: Personality trait probably her communication because I I think that

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Speaker 3: it made me feel safe to fall in love with her,

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Speaker 3: her communicating skills, because I'm not I wasn't necessarily a

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Speaker 3: good communicator.

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Speaker 4: Beautiful still working on it.

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Speaker 1: Uh.

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Speaker 3: I know what he's gonna say.

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Speaker 2: Physical trait, Oh yeah, what ass it is?

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Speaker 6: Really actually weird. I'm gonna have to go with breast.

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Speaker 1: That sweet booty out the door. Yeah no, I mean.

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Speaker 6: Is an angel in every every sense, and I love

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Speaker 6: her smile so much. And then a personality trait, God,

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Speaker 6: there's so many. I think something maybe second guess is

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Speaker 6: uh like finding humor in the same things Like that

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00:33:48,520 --> 00:33:51,080
Speaker 6: was something that Allison and I bonded over very early.

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Speaker 6: Was like finding the same things very funny and and weird,

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Speaker 6: and I have not had that with many other people.

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Speaker 1: I've got I've got many dates.

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Speaker 6: Right, I thought something was very, very funny, and the

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Speaker 6: other person did not.

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Speaker 1: I don't know. This is the hard one, but I

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Speaker 1: will say this. I don't like feet. And when I

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Speaker 1: look at almost everyone's feet, I'm grossed out by nearly

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Speaker 1: everyone's feet I ever see. But my wife has great feet,

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Speaker 1: and if she had gross feet, I don't know that

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Speaker 1: I could be married with grossed feet.

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Speaker 4: Yeah.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, but I see gross feet all the time anyway. Uh,

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Speaker 1: and my kids know this that her laugh is my

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Speaker 1: favorite sound in the world. So that was a big

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Speaker 1: one for me. It was that when that laugh gets going, man,

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Speaker 1: all right with the world?

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Speaker 3: Is that her personality?

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Speaker 1: I guess that'd be her personality trait. Yeah, that's not

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Speaker 1: a physical trait.

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Speaker 3: They're sweet.

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Speaker 1: Oh, the physical trait is weird.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, I guess, like, well, I'm talking about another woman,

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Speaker 3: so it's different. And then Tony's talking about a man,

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Speaker 3: but like a different talking about physical traits.

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Speaker 6: Yeah, it feels right also to boil them down to

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Speaker 6: one physical trait weird.

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Speaker 3: You have to walk a tight little line. Tight line.

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Speaker 3: Speaking of Alison on our the topic of controversial opinion,

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Speaker 3: she she messaged Meldly with like just like she was certain,

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Speaker 3: Oh god, I think Friends is overrated.

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Speaker 1: Oh wow, that is controversial opinion.

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Speaker 4: That's like the most horrific thing I've heard in my life.

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Speaker 3: I responded just like gas literally gasped. But a lot

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Speaker 3: of people actually sent me that. It was like like

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Speaker 3: they were trying to hurt my feelings.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, probably are trying the worst. There's like a there's

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Speaker 4: like a thing that you can google on YouTube or

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Speaker 4: search on YouTube whatever you call it, like laughable moments

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Speaker 4: from Friends, and they just like compile all like the

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Speaker 4: funniest like one liners from all all the Friends episodes,

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Speaker 4: like forty five to fifty minutes of just like straight

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Speaker 4: funny one liners. It has you laughing for an hour hours. Yeah,

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00:36:08,440 --> 00:36:09,080
Speaker 4: it's so good.

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00:36:09,200 --> 00:36:13,160
Speaker 3: It's so good but fun fact, I'm assuming gall Are

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00:36:13,200 --> 00:36:17,600
Speaker 3: Seinfeld people were signfel. Yeah, yeah, there's a difference. It is.

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Speaker 3: It's different strokes, different folks, different folks. And on that note,

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Speaker 3: we're saying goodbye, but it will be to be continued

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Speaker 3: next week on Monday. That's right.

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Speaker 1: Doctor Joe Wilson said, Yeah, we are we tweak over here.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, don't worry.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, we love you, love you,