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Speaker 1: With Alexia Napola and Marisa Patton an iHeartRadio podcast.

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Speaker 2: Hi guys, Hi everyone, Hi Amiga, come with.

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Speaker 1: Das Yomi Yang. I was so excited to see her face.

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Speaker 1: I haven't seen it in a few days.

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Speaker 2: I know I missed your beautiful face too, and talking.

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Speaker 2: But I know we've been really busy with our lives.

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Speaker 3: Sorry.

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Speaker 2: I love that I have this little time with you

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Speaker 2: and we get to chat. He me out on Boco

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Speaker 2: and ask each other questions.

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Speaker 1: We have a bunch of questions from our followers.

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Speaker 3: I love it, and a lot of answers.

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Speaker 2: I guess we're going to be answering all those questions

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Speaker 2: that everybody wants to know.

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Speaker 1: So I remember the first time I met Todd, and

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Speaker 1: I'm sure you remember the first time you met Steve.

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Speaker 1: And one of the questions was what was our first

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Speaker 1: impressions of each other's you know, now husbands.

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Speaker 2: So what was your first impression of Todd to Todd?

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Speaker 1: Todd I thought was really funny. I was like, this

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Speaker 1: guy's really funny. He had like this New York vibed

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Speaker 1: him and he would just like do these like I

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Speaker 1: don't know, he just he was funny and he was quick,

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Speaker 1: and I'm like, I like quick, I like funny. He

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Speaker 1: talked a lot, he was very engaging, he was obviously

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Speaker 1: not hard on the eyes, and I thought, this guy's

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Speaker 1: really fun. I hope this is like, this works out

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Speaker 1: because I liked, you know, hanging out with him and

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Speaker 1: double dating.

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Speaker 2: Yes, well that was many years ago, because you obviously

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Speaker 2: met Todd. Wait before I met Steve. Because when I

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Speaker 2: met Todd, you were with.

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Speaker 1: We were double dating with somebody else.

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Speaker 3: Oh god, Okay, I kind of slipped there, But that's

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Speaker 3: because you've been my friends.

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Speaker 1: Okay, that's life.

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Speaker 3: That's fine. You know, we all have a past. Yep.

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Speaker 3: So yeah, so I remember that as well. I mean

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Speaker 3: I remember you having a lot.

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Speaker 2: Of fun with Todd because you do have that sense

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Speaker 2: of ye or like he does, and and the joking

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Speaker 2: and he's really clever.

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Speaker 3: So you do have those similarities with him. Maybe that's

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Speaker 3: why I like you so much.

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Speaker 1: I told you you married Todd because he reminded you

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Speaker 1: of me. I've been saying it forever.

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Speaker 3: For sure about Steve. So I heard a lot about

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Speaker 3: Steve before I actually got.

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Speaker 2: To meet him, because you were like hugging him up

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Speaker 2: for yourself.

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Speaker 3: You were like not sharing him with anybody yet.

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Speaker 2: You know, I remember when you first met Steve and

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Speaker 2: you were just like with him, like twenty four seven,

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Speaker 2: which I loved because, by the way, I think that's

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Speaker 2: really important before the women actually share the partner they're with,

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Speaker 2: they need to make sure that he's like shareable, like

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Speaker 2: that you want other people to meet him.

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Speaker 1: Well, I had already been burned with sharing beforehand and

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Speaker 1: announcing and you know, introducing someone to everybody before.

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Speaker 2: Right, I'm really careful with that, and I think that

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Speaker 2: that's an advice that I give all my friends, Like

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Speaker 2: before you bring him out there and introduce him to

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Speaker 2: the whole group, you know, make sure that you know

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Speaker 2: he deserves it and that you really like him. And yeah,

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Speaker 2: you know, you never know about the future at that point,

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Speaker 2: but like you really need to be excited about him.

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Speaker 2: And sure, I mean, I just don't like to like

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Speaker 2: introduce you know, my guy. I agree with a lesson

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Speaker 2: to something. And of course I've learned that you know,

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Speaker 2: with age and it was with and with wisdom.

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Speaker 1: It took us a long time to figure that one out.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, you know, I think when you're younger, you just

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Speaker 2: don't know any better. And you're so excited and you

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Speaker 2: kind of want to, like you introduce him to parents. Yeah, yeah,

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Speaker 2: but how I always say, like, make sure that it's

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Speaker 2: locked down before you bring him out there.

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Speaker 1: Mm hmm.

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Speaker 2: But nobody asked me for my advice right now, and

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Speaker 2: you're actually asking me what my first impression about Steve was.

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Speaker 1: That was the question advice I was. I was like, yeah, yeah, yeah,

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Speaker 3: Usually like used to that too.

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Speaker 2: And so when I met Steve, I had heard so

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Speaker 2: much about him, and I was so excited to meet him,

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Speaker 2: and he was everything and more that you told me about.

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Speaker 2: I was really happy for you because he was. He

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Speaker 2: was great like you and him made the cutest couple.

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Speaker 2: It was like, you guys look good together, and then

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Speaker 2: You're sweet and loving. He was sweet and loving. It

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Speaker 2: was like, you know, do mommy, like your mom put

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Speaker 2: him there for you to say, like this is the man.

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Speaker 2: And your dad too, by the way, because your dad

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Speaker 2: would have loved somebody like seeing Oh my god.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, well I think they were trying to show me

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Speaker 1: this is what love is supposed to be, like, this

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Speaker 1: is what a good loving relationship is. Like, I really

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Speaker 1: hadn't known. I thought I had known many times, but

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Speaker 1: I didn't know until now. Yeah, what it's supposed to

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Speaker 1: be never too.

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Speaker 3: Late, It's never too late.

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Speaker 2: I thought he came out the perfect time and you

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Speaker 2: were ready for it, and he was so.

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Speaker 3: Cute, he was so sweet, and.

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Speaker 1: That's it.

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Speaker 2: That's why you ended up like marrying him, And you know,

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Speaker 2: you guys are good because I felt like, you know,

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Speaker 2: you belong together.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, we did. We belong together. Yeah.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, And I love that we all get along and

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Speaker 3: we love to go out and have fun because we

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Speaker 3: kind of like all like yeah, right, Todd and Steve

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Speaker 3: they like each other each other from the day they

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Speaker 3: first met. And it's great, you know, because it's really

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Speaker 3: good to be able to go out with another couple,

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Speaker 3: you know, like, oh, so we have things in common,

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Speaker 3: we like to do the same things. Yeah, and you know,

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Speaker 3: we just like to have fun.

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Speaker 2: Absolutely, though, when did you know that you can spend

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Speaker 2: the rest of your life with this man?

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Speaker 3: With Steve?

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Speaker 1: I actually.

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Speaker 3: I actually remember.

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Speaker 2: I want you to answer it because I remember having

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Speaker 2: this conversation with you, my friend.

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Speaker 1: So my answer to that is every day that goes by,

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Speaker 1: it reconfirms for me. So the longer I'm with him,

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Speaker 1: the more I realize I can't ever be with anybody else,

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Speaker 1: like this is the person. I'm going to change his diapers,

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Speaker 1: the end because I really like this is it. And

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Speaker 1: the more I'm with him, the more I feel solidified

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Speaker 3: But I remember, so I'm gonna you know, I'm a

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Speaker 3: particular date.

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Speaker 1: You're better with dates than me, but I know that.

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Speaker 3: So I'm going to stick to the question and I'm

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Speaker 3: going to answer it for you. Yeah.

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Speaker 2: So the question is when did you know that Steve

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Speaker 2: was like the man you were going to spend the

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Speaker 2: rest of your life with. So I remember, like talking

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Speaker 2: to you, I remember you never leaving there, never.

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Speaker 3: Leaving like Steve's siety.

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Speaker 2: So I remember those days, and I remember like you

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Speaker 2: talking about him like all the time, every single day,

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Speaker 2: and you're telling me, oh my god, I'm so happy, Alex, say,

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Speaker 3: I'm like, it's so in love. This is like the

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Speaker 2: So one day you just said, oh my god, I'm

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Speaker 2: for the rest of my life. And I was like,

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Speaker 2: oh wow, Like okay, that's like it's so tough for

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Speaker 2: because it was, like I think it wasn't even like

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Speaker 2: the first three months you were already saying that you knew. Yeah,

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Speaker 2: it's kind of like you knew.

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Speaker 1: I always know and then I'm always wrong.

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Speaker 3: But no, but I think that way because you don't

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Speaker 1: You don't know I've made exactly, you have to take

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Speaker 1: the risk. You said it. If you don't take the risk,

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Speaker 3: I'm a risk taker. I mean me too. I don't

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Speaker 3: love a challenge. I love a challenge. With me, I

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Speaker 3: kind of had the same situation you did. You know,

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Speaker 3: you know, we're like in love with love and we

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Speaker 1: What we love putting on a wedding dress, don't we

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Speaker 1: or not right?

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Speaker 2: But what I'm trying to say is like, so with Todd,

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Speaker 2: I felt the same thing when we met, and I

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Speaker 2: and I think like day three or four being there,

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Speaker 2: I told him I must have been drunk, by the way,

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Speaker 2: Last time I felt like this about a man, I

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Speaker 3: No words because it's true.

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Speaker 2: So you know, I had been like single for a

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Speaker 2: Was so weird, I think because I'm you know, I'm

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Speaker 2: just came out from my heart. So I just told

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Speaker 2: him like I'm kind of to me like I'm not

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Speaker 3: Like, bro, He's like, okay, I like you, like, we're

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Speaker 1: But it was weird because we're not just dating.

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Speaker 3: No.

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Speaker 2: What I'm saying is no, I'm but first of all,

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Speaker 2: I'm not that person. But I don't know, like how

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Speaker 2: that came out. But what I'm trying to tell you,

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Speaker 2: it's kind of like you know, like in your gut,

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Speaker 2: it's obviously not happened to me.

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Speaker 3: It's happened to me three times.

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Speaker 2: And that's why I've been married three times, because it's

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Speaker 2: kind of like you know when you're gonna that this

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Speaker 2: is the guy you're gonna marry, obviously for different reasons

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Speaker 2: at different times in your life. But when I'm saying,

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Speaker 2: like with Todd, I I knew, like I looked at

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Speaker 2: him and I said, oh my god, because I guess

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Speaker 2: because being alone for that year that I was on

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Speaker 2: my own and I was going out and having fun,

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Speaker 2: I hadn't felt that with any man, so like with

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Speaker 2: him on this trip, I did and I just kind.

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Speaker 3: Of like blurred it out and yeah, and the rest

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Speaker 2: Three years later we got engaged and we've been married

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Speaker 2: since then, so we've been together for six and a

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Speaker 2: half years. Yeah, So, like, what do you think do

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Speaker 2: It's like we have something different than none of the

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Speaker 1: Mm hmm. So don't come after us because you're be

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Speaker 3: To explain things relating to our culture.

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Speaker 2: So what stuff do you, for example, have to explain

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Speaker 1: Okay, you probably have a lot more work in this

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Speaker 3: I love it.

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Speaker 1: He was literally the only American guy there. We were

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Speaker 3: But he is very he's very land.

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Speaker 1: Absolutely, he's he's he's he understands it, and he jives

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Speaker 2: Of course, and so Yami. Anyways, I'm sure he didn't

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Speaker 1: Well, you know, he loves food, yes, but.

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Speaker 1: I think something that because he doesn't understand he hasn't

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Speaker 1: those are things that I've taught.

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Speaker 3: I am here.

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Speaker 1: Oh yeah, for Nance.

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Speaker 3: You said that. For Nancy.

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Speaker 2: And you're not going to believe this. I've had this

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Speaker 2: look at it. It's perfect and the water. I haven't

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Speaker 3: It is so strong, it's perfect. Marisol, look at this

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Speaker 2: in such loving memory, and like you said, we have

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Speaker 2: So yeah, very very good. So I had that one

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Speaker 2: how the Latinos are always late, not always, I mean

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Speaker 1: So you're not bad at that.

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Speaker 2: You're good because I'm with Todd. Yeah, like I used

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Speaker 1: But I hate to interrupt you, but you're not grossly late.

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Speaker 1: You're usually ten to fifteen minutes. Oh yeah, yeah, I'm early.

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Speaker 2: and by eight o'clock and we don't nobody's going to

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Speaker 1: So it's so funny.

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Speaker 2: So Todd and I have had parties here at home,

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Speaker 2: I love talking to her. Like my mom took on

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Speaker 2: She would call me and.

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Speaker 1: She was like everybody anybody that could find me, right,

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Speaker 2: So if I wouldn't answer the same thing, my mother

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Speaker 3: So it's it's just like a cultures. Yeah, so and

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Speaker 1: Like I'll text him. I'm like, where's und your worst car?

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Speaker 1: What are they doing? Are they coming home today? What

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Speaker 1: What's happening? Like I ask him a million questions.

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Speaker 2: It was so funny with my stepdaughters and talks like bro,

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Speaker 3: He was liked yeah, and I was like, babe, like

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Speaker 3: Them they're good. I don't have to be calling them

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Speaker 2: I was like, say, helio, me too.

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Speaker 1: He's so calm about it, and I'm like, but wait,

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Speaker 2: So definitely. That's another one that's been but like it's

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Speaker 3: And again like the way that we were raised in

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Speaker 3: He's like, he'll he'll get home and.

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Speaker 2: I'll be like maybe even talking to you or talking

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Speaker 2: like this is that we talk like. It's not argumentative,

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Speaker 2: because like you know, they don't speak like that.

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Speaker 3: You know, it's different. So I think that's also like cultural.

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Speaker 1: Steve gets it. He's never once said to me being loud.

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Speaker 3: Been around and he went to Berlin. Yeah, and all

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Speaker 2: They were used to that, like if there's no screaming,

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Speaker 3: That was when a community.

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Speaker 1: When I was on Saturday when we were with ran

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Speaker 1: O battle, battle, And he just listens and talks like

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Speaker 3: He does it, Milburt him. He does it well. And

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Speaker 1: Oh he says that.

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Speaker 3: Now, yeah he does because that's where I want. Oh,

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Speaker 3: you know, we go like how we speak. So he's

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Speaker 1: It's his favorite word is j molsa. Every time I

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Speaker 3: He's so cute.

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Speaker 2: Well, I love that he's embraced you know, he's embraced

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Speaker 1: And he's a lover not a fighter. Yeah.

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Speaker 3: I love that. Well.

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Speaker 2: Speaking of families and blended families, how have you been

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Speaker 1: Oh god, oh.

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Speaker 3: Blend. How were you able to blend your two spoiled dogs.

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Speaker 2: And the boys? Yeah, because his boys are easy. I

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Speaker 1: Well, yeah, Steve has a problem with my dogs.

443
00:19:39,080 --> 00:19:40,400
Speaker 3: I look, they're not table.

444
00:19:41,040 --> 00:19:43,959
Speaker 2: Your dogs are not trainable, and his kids are fine.

445
00:19:44,119 --> 00:19:44,479
Speaker 3: Perfect.

446
00:19:44,600 --> 00:19:46,800
Speaker 1: So a lot of people have told me, like Tupac

447
00:19:47,280 --> 00:19:52,040
Speaker 1: is hapchuaap dogs, and those dogs are untrainable. They pepe everywhere.

448
00:19:52,240 --> 00:19:54,720
Speaker 1: I don't even know what Poppy is. He Pepe's everywhere too.

449
00:19:54,880 --> 00:20:00,680
Speaker 1: They he loves to run away. They men at each other.

450
00:20:00,800 --> 00:20:02,960
Speaker 1: So if one's knotty, the other one does the same thing.

451
00:20:03,040 --> 00:20:05,040
Speaker 1: It's very hard to train them. I paid a trainer,

452
00:20:05,240 --> 00:20:09,720
Speaker 1: it's like kids, several thousands of dollars, a lot of thousands,

453
00:20:10,040 --> 00:20:12,040
Speaker 1: and I've been busy. I never had them come here.

454
00:20:12,040 --> 00:20:14,240
Speaker 1: I paid them like a year ago. That flushed it

455
00:20:14,280 --> 00:20:17,320
Speaker 1: down the toilet basically, So you know, he's not.

456
00:20:17,240 --> 00:20:18,680
Speaker 3: Way I would have done with your kids, if you

457
00:20:18,720 --> 00:20:22,200
Speaker 3: would have had kids. No, that's obviously not.

458
00:20:22,800 --> 00:20:25,359
Speaker 1: You know, because the dogs can't respond to me, you know,

459
00:20:25,440 --> 00:20:26,720
Speaker 1: they can't speak back to that.

460
00:20:26,720 --> 00:20:29,560
Speaker 3: That's a great thing. That's a great thing. By the way, well.

461
00:20:29,400 --> 00:20:32,760
Speaker 1: That's why people love animals more than people, because you know,

462
00:20:32,800 --> 00:20:37,280
Speaker 1: they don't get any lip. But uh, it's been you know,

463
00:20:37,400 --> 00:20:39,919
Speaker 1: for him, it's been difficult because of my dogs. But

464
00:20:40,080 --> 00:20:46,120
Speaker 1: his kids are great. They're really easy, and I think

465
00:20:46,160 --> 00:20:49,480
Speaker 1: you they're they're amazing, Like I couldn't have been knock

466
00:20:49,520 --> 00:20:51,119
Speaker 1: on wood. I don't want to say I like youving

467
00:20:51,200 --> 00:20:53,480
Speaker 1: because I'm just I don't even want to use that word.

468
00:20:54,080 --> 00:20:57,440
Speaker 1: I feel very grateful. I'm blessed, and I always wanted

469
00:20:57,480 --> 00:20:58,960
Speaker 1: to have my own kids, and then I got some

470
00:20:59,119 --> 00:21:02,200
Speaker 1: that somebody else raised and they're perfect. So that's it,

471
00:21:02,840 --> 00:21:06,200
Speaker 1: done and done. Your situation is a little more complicated.

472
00:21:06,200 --> 00:21:08,160
Speaker 1: You have like the Brady Bunch going on over there.

473
00:21:08,240 --> 00:21:10,800
Speaker 2: It is because I came with two boys. And even

474
00:21:10,840 --> 00:21:13,960
Speaker 2: though you know Overage, you know, Peter is still a

475
00:21:14,040 --> 00:21:18,080
Speaker 2: very big part of my life. And and Frankie, you know,

476
00:21:19,160 --> 00:21:22,800
Speaker 2: you know, being you know, unique and having unique abilities,

477
00:21:23,280 --> 00:21:27,119
Speaker 2: he you know, he also comes with like special directions.

478
00:21:27,160 --> 00:21:29,919
Speaker 2: You know, it's not like you know, your average, you know,

479
00:21:30,000 --> 00:21:33,439
Speaker 2: independent child that you know can do a lot of

480
00:21:33,440 --> 00:21:35,600
Speaker 2: things on his own, Like he needs you know, a

481
00:21:35,600 --> 00:21:38,720
Speaker 2: lot of my attention, so you know, Todd's learned to

482
00:21:39,320 --> 00:21:41,720
Speaker 2: you know, to to realize it, to be aware of it,

483
00:21:41,840 --> 00:21:43,320
Speaker 2: and and.

484
00:21:43,359 --> 00:21:45,600
Speaker 3: Actually just add you know, support to it.

485
00:21:45,960 --> 00:21:48,000
Speaker 2: But you know, the girls are really loving, and you

486
00:21:48,000 --> 00:21:50,240
Speaker 2: know they get along with Peter and Frankie fine. Peter

487
00:21:50,320 --> 00:21:52,480
Speaker 2: doesn't live here, so it's been easy. You know, I

488
00:21:52,520 --> 00:21:55,399
Speaker 2: think that when they're older, it's easier in some ways

489
00:21:55,440 --> 00:21:57,920
Speaker 2: and it's harder in other ways, right, because it's kind

490
00:21:57,920 --> 00:21:59,800
Speaker 2: of like Peter's a man, so it's kind of like okay,

491
00:21:59,840 --> 00:22:02,000
Speaker 2: like to your husband, but it's like he doesn't live here,

492
00:22:02,440 --> 00:22:04,720
Speaker 2: so you know, the relationship is different. It's like a friend,

493
00:22:04,800 --> 00:22:07,600
Speaker 2: which is actually great because you know he sees Todd

494
00:22:07,680 --> 00:22:11,439
Speaker 2: as a friend. And Frankie is very loving. You know,

495
00:22:11,560 --> 00:22:14,040
Speaker 2: there's nobody that's not going to love Frankie. Frankie all

496
00:22:14,080 --> 00:22:17,440
Speaker 2: he has is love and happiness to share, so it's

497
00:22:17,560 --> 00:22:21,000
Speaker 2: very easy to love him too. And and you know,

498
00:22:21,400 --> 00:22:24,840
Speaker 2: my stepdaughters are.

499
00:22:23,640 --> 00:22:25,680
Speaker 3: Really independent and they're really great.

500
00:22:25,760 --> 00:22:28,400
Speaker 2: Honestly, like I'm really blessed that way because they've given

501
00:22:28,480 --> 00:22:31,960
Speaker 2: us zero problems. So that's been easy as far as

502
00:22:31,960 --> 00:22:34,600
Speaker 2: you know, managing that. But the best advice I can

503
00:22:34,680 --> 00:22:38,520
Speaker 2: say is kind of like respect your boundaries and just

504
00:22:38,720 --> 00:22:40,480
Speaker 2: don't try to be their mom or don't try to

505
00:22:40,480 --> 00:22:43,040
Speaker 2: be their dad. Just try to be their friend. You know,

506
00:22:43,160 --> 00:22:45,400
Speaker 2: that's all you can do, you know, because they don't

507
00:22:45,400 --> 00:22:46,960
Speaker 2: have a mom. You know, they already have the real

508
00:22:47,119 --> 00:22:49,919
Speaker 2: you know, the biology mom, the biological dad. And you know,

509
00:22:50,160 --> 00:22:52,240
Speaker 2: we're not here competing. First of all, there's enough love

510
00:22:52,320 --> 00:22:55,440
Speaker 2: for everybody. I have love for my children, from my stepdaughters,

511
00:22:55,440 --> 00:22:56,640
Speaker 2: from my husband, for everyone.

512
00:22:56,720 --> 00:22:58,480
Speaker 3: So it's like there's enough of love.

513
00:22:58,880 --> 00:23:01,439
Speaker 2: So it's kind of like just respect each other, you know,

514
00:23:01,800 --> 00:23:06,359
Speaker 2: just be good listeners and be friends and and really

515
00:23:06,640 --> 00:23:09,920
Speaker 2: don't butt in in like important things, you know what

516
00:23:09,960 --> 00:23:12,840
Speaker 2: I mean. I've learned a lot from Todd's parenting skills, which,

517
00:23:12,880 --> 00:23:16,040
Speaker 2: by the way, were very different from mine, maybe because

518
00:23:16,080 --> 00:23:19,040
Speaker 2: of his background, you know, different from mine, the way

519
00:23:19,040 --> 00:23:21,960
Speaker 2: he was raised, you know, so he definitely had a

520
00:23:22,000 --> 00:23:23,520
Speaker 2: different parenting scot style.

521
00:23:24,359 --> 00:23:26,440
Speaker 3: But it's worked out for him really, really well.

522
00:23:26,600 --> 00:23:29,320
Speaker 2: So I've actually learned a lot of things from him

523
00:23:29,640 --> 00:23:32,959
Speaker 2: that I've applied to my relationships with my sons. And

524
00:23:33,119 --> 00:23:35,520
Speaker 2: I think he's learned a lot of things from me

525
00:23:35,640 --> 00:23:36,280
Speaker 2: and my boys.

526
00:23:36,359 --> 00:23:36,560
Speaker 3: You know.

527
00:23:36,600 --> 00:23:39,879
Speaker 2: He always says that he learned to love and be affectionate,

528
00:23:39,960 --> 00:23:43,159
Speaker 2: like because me, Peter and Frank and I were so affectionate,

529
00:23:43,240 --> 00:23:44,800
Speaker 2: you know, like you see, as well as.

530
00:23:44,520 --> 00:23:45,480
Speaker 3: Like touching each other.

531
00:23:45,640 --> 00:23:47,920
Speaker 2: Oh that's another thing about Latinos that we're always touching

532
00:23:47,960 --> 00:23:48,280
Speaker 2: each other.

533
00:23:49,000 --> 00:23:49,960
Speaker 3: Yeah, we're always like.

534
00:23:50,760 --> 00:23:55,720
Speaker 1: That's how you end up getting married too many times touching, touchy.

535
00:23:56,280 --> 00:23:59,080
Speaker 2: So anyway, so we I think we both you know,

536
00:23:59,560 --> 00:24:02,560
Speaker 2: came in to like the marriage or into our relationship.

537
00:24:02,920 --> 00:24:06,040
Speaker 2: Also like later on in life, right, you know, more mature,

538
00:24:06,160 --> 00:24:08,840
Speaker 2: with more wisdom, so like things that didn't work out before,

539
00:24:09,000 --> 00:24:11,119
Speaker 2: you know, work out now because we really wanted to

540
00:24:11,119 --> 00:24:13,760
Speaker 2: work out. And like I said, you know, it's it's

541
00:24:13,840 --> 00:24:16,639
Speaker 2: different when the kids are small. Everybody's situation is different,

542
00:24:16,720 --> 00:24:19,280
Speaker 2: you know. Luckily for me mine we're older, but then

543
00:24:19,320 --> 00:24:22,520
Speaker 2: I have you know, special needs on so it's it's

544
00:24:22,560 --> 00:24:25,760
Speaker 2: been an adjustment. It is an adjustment. And then just

545
00:24:25,840 --> 00:24:28,720
Speaker 2: don't give up. You know, you have to be patient,

546
00:24:29,160 --> 00:24:33,439
Speaker 2: you have to be tolerant. And I mean that's all

547
00:24:33,480 --> 00:24:36,040
Speaker 2: I can I can really say. Yeah, and you really

548
00:24:36,040 --> 00:24:38,760
Speaker 2: have to love each other because.

549
00:24:39,080 --> 00:24:42,439
Speaker 1: Oh they only see us happy and laughing, and you know,

550
00:24:42,560 --> 00:24:45,359
Speaker 1: these kids are so well brought up. They had two

551
00:24:45,440 --> 00:24:48,120
Speaker 1: good parents. I'm just like a big sister over here,

552
00:24:48,480 --> 00:24:49,240
Speaker 1: so you.

553
00:24:49,200 --> 00:24:51,000
Speaker 2: Know, well, you know what that but that's a great thing.

554
00:24:51,200 --> 00:24:52,800
Speaker 2: I mean, we're two boys. Wouldn't love to have a

555
00:24:52,800 --> 00:24:53,639
Speaker 2: big sister like you?

556
00:24:54,080 --> 00:24:56,320
Speaker 1: Oh yeah, yeah, yeah, oh. I'm all giggles and fun

557
00:24:56,359 --> 00:24:57,440
Speaker 1: and they love it, you know.

558
00:24:57,920 --> 00:24:59,639
Speaker 2: And you know what, that's all you're really supposed to

559
00:24:59,640 --> 00:25:01,760
Speaker 2: be because and they have their mother, and besides that,

560
00:25:01,800 --> 00:25:03,880
Speaker 2: you don't want to be that step mother that's going

561
00:25:03,880 --> 00:25:05,800
Speaker 2: to I mean it's different because, like I said, when

562
00:25:05,840 --> 00:25:09,800
Speaker 2: they're little, there's you know, different like responsibilities and that

563
00:25:09,840 --> 00:25:12,040
Speaker 2: you would have as a stepmother. Right, But I think

564
00:25:12,040 --> 00:25:15,840
Speaker 2: that you getting them at teenage, you know, late teenage years,

565
00:25:15,880 --> 00:25:19,879
Speaker 2: just like I did, changes everything. So every situation is different.

566
00:25:20,400 --> 00:25:24,080
Speaker 1: And I had enough employees that were young to know

567
00:25:24,119 --> 00:25:26,920
Speaker 1: how to handle them and know, you know the things

568
00:25:26,960 --> 00:25:29,280
Speaker 1: are going to bring up and don't get involved. I'm

569
00:25:29,320 --> 00:25:31,560
Speaker 1: literally just a rescue. If you need me, I'm there.

570
00:25:31,760 --> 00:25:34,600
Speaker 1: You need a sandwich, you need an emotional place, you

571
00:25:34,640 --> 00:25:37,840
Speaker 1: need to drive, you need some money, whatever, you know,

572
00:25:38,000 --> 00:25:40,399
Speaker 1: big sister, that's it. You know. I'm not here to

573
00:25:40,400 --> 00:25:43,239
Speaker 1: teach them anything new, maybe just how to deal with

574
00:25:43,280 --> 00:25:45,840
Speaker 1: the pains right now. My step son just broke up

575
00:25:45,840 --> 00:25:47,440
Speaker 1: with his girlfriend and he's hurting.

576
00:25:47,520 --> 00:25:48,720
Speaker 3: No way, you hadn't told me.

577
00:25:49,280 --> 00:25:52,720
Speaker 1: Yeah, he's yeah, he's hurting. But she's about to leave

578
00:25:52,760 --> 00:25:54,800
Speaker 1: for college, and you know she's said.

579
00:25:54,680 --> 00:25:57,880
Speaker 2: Oh, everybody's going through that. Although my stepdaughter has has

580
00:25:57,880 --> 00:26:00,760
Speaker 2: a boyfriend. But you know they're good and they're going

581
00:26:00,800 --> 00:26:02,960
Speaker 2: to spend the summer together. But it's hard. It's their

582
00:26:03,000 --> 00:26:05,800
Speaker 2: first love. Never know how to handle it.

583
00:26:06,280 --> 00:26:07,840
Speaker 1: You know. You know what I did. I brought him

584
00:26:07,840 --> 00:26:10,080
Speaker 1: a Jill's Aaron candle. He loved it. I put it

585
00:26:10,119 --> 00:26:12,159
Speaker 1: on the room, I made it dark. I'm like, you

586
00:26:12,200 --> 00:26:14,600
Speaker 1: want any food, you want to hot cocoa, you want

587
00:26:14,600 --> 00:26:15,720
Speaker 1: a tequila? What do you need?

588
00:26:15,880 --> 00:26:17,000
Speaker 3: Just you want girlfriend?

589
00:26:18,440 --> 00:26:21,560
Speaker 1: Well I know I told Steve that afterwards, but it's

590
00:26:21,560 --> 00:26:22,840
Speaker 1: a little soon, and you know, it's only in a

591
00:26:22,880 --> 00:26:25,800
Speaker 1: couple of days. He loved the candle. He slept. You

592
00:26:25,800 --> 00:26:28,320
Speaker 1: want to play poker with his friends. He's getting through it.

593
00:26:28,440 --> 00:26:29,320
Speaker 3: We broke up with him.

594
00:26:29,560 --> 00:26:34,400
Speaker 1: It was kind of like a mutual was kind of mutual,

595
00:26:34,680 --> 00:26:36,840
Speaker 1: kind of mutual, but not so much. It was just

596
00:26:36,920 --> 00:26:39,240
Speaker 1: kind of forced. You know, someone always checks out a

597
00:26:39,280 --> 00:26:42,040
Speaker 1: little bit and you someone else takes the reins and

598
00:26:42,119 --> 00:26:44,040
Speaker 1: you feel it coming and you're like, okay, well we

599
00:26:44,080 --> 00:26:45,560
Speaker 1: need a break, and then you hope feel like.

600
00:26:45,520 --> 00:26:47,600
Speaker 2: You know, this will be a life lesson for him,

601
00:26:47,880 --> 00:26:49,920
Speaker 2: you know. And that's how we can say it hurts,

602
00:26:49,920 --> 00:26:51,359
Speaker 2: and it's going to hurt, but you.

603
00:26:51,480 --> 00:26:54,040
Speaker 3: Kind of have to go through this. No, you can

604
00:26:54,119 --> 00:26:54,760
Speaker 3: be ready for.

605
00:26:54,760 --> 00:26:59,000
Speaker 1: The next Are we ever really ready? Like it hurts

606
00:26:59,680 --> 00:27:03,520
Speaker 1: the first time? Well, now it's starts. It's super painful,

607
00:27:03,560 --> 00:27:04,960
Speaker 1: And I was like, you know what, hopefully you don't

608
00:27:04,960 --> 00:27:06,439
Speaker 1: have to go through it again. You meet someone and

609
00:27:06,440 --> 00:27:08,560
Speaker 1: that who you're with forever, but you won't be the

610
00:27:08,560 --> 00:27:09,720
Speaker 1: first and you won't be the last.

611
00:27:09,720 --> 00:27:11,919
Speaker 3: It happens going everybody college.

612
00:27:12,280 --> 00:27:16,400
Speaker 2: Yeah, and obviously he's staying here, so that's a problem exactly.

613
00:27:16,760 --> 00:27:17,240
Speaker 1: Yeah.

614
00:27:17,400 --> 00:27:19,640
Speaker 3: Yeah, I feel like that's like the first heartbreak right

615
00:27:19,800 --> 00:27:21,959
Speaker 3: when you when you graduate from high school.

616
00:27:22,760 --> 00:27:25,480
Speaker 2: Mm hmmm, and you have to make that decision mm hmm.

617
00:27:26,640 --> 00:27:29,159
Speaker 2: But hopefully you're there, like you, like you said, like

618
00:27:29,160 --> 00:27:32,280
Speaker 2: a big sister and like a friend. He has a

619
00:27:32,520 --> 00:27:34,440
Speaker 2: shoulder you know, to cry on or you.

620
00:27:34,440 --> 00:27:37,800
Speaker 1: To Like anyone can give experience on bad breakups, it's me,

621
00:27:39,680 --> 00:27:45,600
Speaker 1: You're an I'm an expert.

622
00:27:46,000 --> 00:27:46,680
Speaker 3: So MATI.

623
00:27:46,880 --> 00:27:50,440
Speaker 2: I know how much you're like a cocky. I don't

624
00:27:50,480 --> 00:27:52,159
Speaker 2: like when you call it the other word without the

625
00:27:52,320 --> 00:27:52,679
Speaker 2: I E.

626
00:27:53,080 --> 00:27:55,320
Speaker 1: But you know what, I'm lazy, so I cut some

627
00:27:55,560 --> 00:27:56,800
Speaker 1: you know, a shortened every day.

628
00:27:56,800 --> 00:27:57,880
Speaker 3: Don't cut that one off.

629
00:27:58,080 --> 00:28:02,439
Speaker 2: It sounds like it's very fun. No, it's not cocky,

630
00:28:02,600 --> 00:28:05,200
Speaker 2: is cue but the other one without the ie nomeusta.

631
00:28:05,920 --> 00:28:06,160
Speaker 3: Okay.

632
00:28:06,200 --> 00:28:09,399
Speaker 2: So anyways, I know all your favorite cockies. But because

633
00:28:09,440 --> 00:28:12,760
Speaker 2: I know you're working on your cockies, I know that

634
00:28:12,840 --> 00:28:17,440
Speaker 2: you're discovering different flavors. So tell me what's the latest

635
00:28:17,680 --> 00:28:18,720
Speaker 2: on your list that you love.

636
00:28:19,240 --> 00:28:28,880
Speaker 1: My latest favorite cockie is the porn Star Martinis.

637
00:28:26,320 --> 00:28:27,840
Speaker 3: Right, okay, so tell me.

638
00:28:28,119 --> 00:28:32,000
Speaker 1: Yeah, so it's vodka. You know, one of my favorites

639
00:28:32,760 --> 00:28:36,360
Speaker 1: passion fruit lemon, and I think it's like a vanilla

640
00:28:36,400 --> 00:28:40,360
Speaker 1: syrup in it. You shake it up, it's delicious. Oh

641
00:28:40,440 --> 00:28:43,000
Speaker 1: my god, yeah, it's really good.

642
00:28:43,040 --> 00:28:44,840
Speaker 3: I can't wait till you prepare one of those for me.

643
00:28:45,320 --> 00:28:46,320
Speaker 1: Oh yeah, yeah.

644
00:28:46,360 --> 00:28:52,120
Speaker 3: I had a margarita the other day. We always order

645
00:28:53,360 --> 00:28:56,760
Speaker 3: the other day, no, every day, So you know what

646
00:28:56,800 --> 00:28:58,640
Speaker 3: it was called the orange marmalade.

647
00:28:58,760 --> 00:29:02,520
Speaker 2: It was a pastise. It was so good because besides

648
00:29:02,560 --> 00:29:06,280
Speaker 2: the lemon. They put orange on it and like the

649
00:29:06,320 --> 00:29:09,080
Speaker 2: orange syrup with the lemon and the spice.

650
00:29:09,160 --> 00:29:10,160
Speaker 3: It was delicious.

651
00:29:10,320 --> 00:29:12,440
Speaker 2: That sounds really I'm like, oh, I have to give

652
00:29:12,480 --> 00:29:14,880
Speaker 2: this idea from my to my friend because it was

653
00:29:14,920 --> 00:29:15,480
Speaker 2: really really good.

654
00:29:15,640 --> 00:29:18,240
Speaker 1: That sounds really good, Alex, Yeah, yeah, Do we have

655
00:29:18,280 --> 00:29:19,880
Speaker 1: to get it at pasties? Are we going to make

656
00:29:19,880 --> 00:29:20,400
Speaker 1: them at home?

657
00:29:20,760 --> 00:29:22,760
Speaker 2: No, let's try them at home. I'm sure yours are

658
00:29:22,760 --> 00:29:25,560
Speaker 2: going to come out better. You're really good shaking up

659
00:29:25,560 --> 00:29:26,360
Speaker 2: a drink, my friend.

660
00:29:26,440 --> 00:29:28,920
Speaker 1: You know what, there's something in the hands. My first

661
00:29:28,960 --> 00:29:31,200
Speaker 1: husband used to tell me he'd make himself a sandwich

662
00:29:31,480 --> 00:29:32,040
Speaker 1: and I'd make.

663
00:29:32,880 --> 00:29:36,600
Speaker 3: Sandwiching else, you're like something in my hands. My first.

664
00:29:38,160 --> 00:29:43,080
Speaker 1: Yeah, he was was like you, there's something in your hands.

665
00:29:43,120 --> 00:29:45,520
Speaker 1: He'd make a sandwich. I'd make the same exact sandwich,

666
00:29:45,520 --> 00:29:48,080
Speaker 1: and he said mine tasted better. But some people have

667
00:29:48,160 --> 00:29:50,760
Speaker 1: something in the they know how to cook and make things.

668
00:29:50,600 --> 00:29:52,200
Speaker 3: Yo, tell me. And that's why I'm so afraid of

669
00:29:52,280 --> 00:29:53,640
Speaker 3: using my hands because.

670
00:29:55,440 --> 00:29:56,880
Speaker 1: The world will explode.

671
00:29:57,040 --> 00:29:59,760
Speaker 2: Yes, no, no, for real, I get that a lot too.

672
00:29:59,840 --> 00:30:01,800
Speaker 2: But the drinks, you know, I don't really like it,

673
00:30:02,200 --> 00:30:04,120
Speaker 2: but I feel like you really do. How to prepare

674
00:30:04,120 --> 00:30:05,760
Speaker 2: a cocktail. And you know that because in the group,

675
00:30:05,800 --> 00:30:08,040
Speaker 2: everybody always wants you to prepare the cocktail.

676
00:30:09,240 --> 00:30:12,480
Speaker 1: Some of the girls like, huh, I can't drink them? What,

677
00:30:12,600 --> 00:30:13,080
Speaker 1: Oh my.

678
00:30:13,000 --> 00:30:16,760
Speaker 2: God, I do get to you sometimes. I mean, I'm like,

679
00:30:16,840 --> 00:30:18,120
Speaker 2: it's for me, not for you.

680
00:30:18,480 --> 00:30:21,040
Speaker 1: Well, you know, my trick to a good cocktail is

681
00:30:21,120 --> 00:30:24,640
Speaker 1: I pour myself one first so that you know, then

682
00:30:24,640 --> 00:30:26,360
Speaker 1: I get creative and I make a good one, and

683
00:30:26,400 --> 00:30:29,640
Speaker 1: then sometimes sendalo like you say, I do a little extra,

684
00:30:29,720 --> 00:30:32,760
Speaker 1: and then everyone's gay. I'm like, it's fine, what's wrong

685
00:30:32,800 --> 00:30:34,800
Speaker 1: with you? Drink it puts hair on your chest, like

686
00:30:34,800 --> 00:30:35,560
Speaker 1: my dad would say.

687
00:30:36,600 --> 00:30:40,040
Speaker 2: So, since we're giving kind of like advice to each other,

688
00:30:40,840 --> 00:30:42,160
Speaker 2: what's someonody?

689
00:30:42,280 --> 00:30:44,000
Speaker 3: Well, like, what advice have you given me? I feel

690
00:30:44,040 --> 00:30:45,600
Speaker 3: like we're always giving advice to each other.

691
00:30:45,680 --> 00:30:47,440
Speaker 2: I know that that's one of the next questions, and

692
00:30:47,480 --> 00:30:49,840
Speaker 2: that's why I was looking at it and kind of thinking, like,

693
00:30:50,480 --> 00:30:53,400
Speaker 2: I don't know. I feel like all of our conversations

694
00:30:54,000 --> 00:30:56,280
Speaker 2: we kind of have advice for you the same.

695
00:30:56,400 --> 00:31:01,160
Speaker 1: Well, we think the same very much so, and I

696
00:31:01,200 --> 00:31:04,680
Speaker 1: find that you and I think the same and feel

697
00:31:04,720 --> 00:31:09,760
Speaker 1: the same about don't sweat the small stuff, don't let

698
00:31:09,800 --> 00:31:12,120
Speaker 1: the little things stress you out. It's very easy to

699
00:31:12,160 --> 00:31:16,200
Speaker 1: get caught up in the You're sitting in traffic, someone

700
00:31:16,240 --> 00:31:18,280
Speaker 1: cuts you off, you get pissed off, you start cursing,

701
00:31:18,440 --> 00:31:20,840
Speaker 1: and then you're living in that negative energy. Like you

702
00:31:20,880 --> 00:31:24,520
Speaker 1: and I are very much about, don't let the little

703
00:31:24,560 --> 00:31:28,040
Speaker 1: things bother you. Look at the big picture. This is small,

704
00:31:28,160 --> 00:31:30,680
Speaker 1: it's not a big deal. Focus on the good. Like

705
00:31:30,720 --> 00:31:36,080
Speaker 1: we talked about this last time about not letting you know,

706
00:31:36,400 --> 00:31:39,400
Speaker 1: even a breakup or you know, just not focusing on

707
00:31:39,440 --> 00:31:41,680
Speaker 1: the negative, focusing on the positive and all the good

708
00:31:41,720 --> 00:31:44,120
Speaker 1: around you. I think that that's something I learned from you,

709
00:31:44,160 --> 00:31:46,280
Speaker 1: and we constantly talk about that.

710
00:31:46,840 --> 00:31:48,320
Speaker 3: No, I mean I agree with you.

711
00:31:48,400 --> 00:31:50,479
Speaker 2: I mean I love that I have, you know, a

712
00:31:50,520 --> 00:31:52,520
Speaker 2: friend that can give me good advice. You know, it's

713
00:31:52,520 --> 00:31:54,840
Speaker 2: always great, especially now that I don't have my mom.

714
00:31:55,280 --> 00:31:56,840
Speaker 2: And my mom used to always give me good advice.

715
00:31:56,880 --> 00:31:58,480
Speaker 2: I would never really do anything with it. I mean

716
00:31:58,520 --> 00:32:00,200
Speaker 2: I would kind of like I feel like as I

717
00:32:00,240 --> 00:32:02,600
Speaker 2: got older, I did start listening to her advice. And

718
00:32:02,640 --> 00:32:04,960
Speaker 2: what I do now a lot is think about the

719
00:32:05,040 --> 00:32:07,400
Speaker 2: advice that she chose to give me. Right, Oh my god,

720
00:32:07,440 --> 00:32:09,280
Speaker 2: and like if my mom was here, like what would

721
00:32:09,320 --> 00:32:11,400
Speaker 2: she be telling me or I start thinking, do la

722
00:32:11,480 --> 00:32:14,560
Speaker 2: cosa get in the past, you know, throughout my life

723
00:32:14,600 --> 00:32:16,800
Speaker 2: she had told me like all the time, I've been

724
00:32:16,800 --> 00:32:17,760
Speaker 2: doing that lately.

725
00:32:17,800 --> 00:32:23,400
Speaker 1: Yep, me too, or no, angry at little things of

726
00:32:23,560 --> 00:32:27,320
Speaker 1: like Okay, it's not a big deal. Yeah I do

727
00:32:27,360 --> 00:32:28,120
Speaker 1: that to Alex.

728
00:32:28,200 --> 00:32:30,959
Speaker 2: Yeah yeah no, But I mean it's great because I

729
00:32:31,000 --> 00:32:34,480
Speaker 2: feel like every girl needs a friend to get good advice.

730
00:32:34,800 --> 00:32:37,200
Speaker 2: And I feel like I have different friends. They give

731
00:32:37,240 --> 00:32:39,640
Speaker 2: me different kinds of advices. You know, if I already

732
00:32:39,760 --> 00:32:42,200
Speaker 2: like financial advice, like I know one of my friends

733
00:32:42,240 --> 00:32:44,360
Speaker 2: was really good with that, so I would ask her,

734
00:32:44,720 --> 00:32:47,520
Speaker 2: you know, if I need advice on relationships, you know,

735
00:32:47,600 --> 00:32:49,280
Speaker 2: and everything. But I feel like you and I we

736
00:32:49,280 --> 00:32:52,840
Speaker 2: can talk about everything and anything and be honest with

737
00:32:52,880 --> 00:32:56,000
Speaker 2: each other and really, you know, give advice to each

738
00:32:56,040 --> 00:32:59,960
Speaker 2: other like like sisters, and you know, really talk like raw,

739
00:33:00,240 --> 00:33:02,040
Speaker 2: you know, like say things and maybe you don't want

740
00:33:02,080 --> 00:33:04,360
Speaker 2: to hear, but you have to be open and honest.

741
00:33:04,920 --> 00:33:07,240
Speaker 1: And you know, I don't always want to hear things.

742
00:33:07,640 --> 00:33:09,600
Speaker 3: I know you don't, I know, but oh my god,

743
00:33:10,320 --> 00:33:12,280
Speaker 3: I know, Like yeah, I'm.

744
00:33:12,160 --> 00:33:14,480
Speaker 1: Very and I'm a good listener and you.

745
00:33:14,480 --> 00:33:16,160
Speaker 2: Are, but I tell you those things because like I

746
00:33:16,200 --> 00:33:18,120
Speaker 2: love you and I care for you, Like if if

747
00:33:18,120 --> 00:33:20,480
Speaker 2: I don't, then I don't do that. But when I

748
00:33:20,520 --> 00:33:23,240
Speaker 2: give advice, it's usually like good advice, and especially if

749
00:33:23,280 --> 00:33:24,960
Speaker 2: you're my friend and I love you, because it's like

750
00:33:25,040 --> 00:33:27,960
Speaker 2: I would only do that if you're my friend and

751
00:33:28,000 --> 00:33:28,400
Speaker 2: I love you.

752
00:33:28,440 --> 00:33:31,040
Speaker 3: So I feel like people give each other really good advice.

753
00:33:31,800 --> 00:33:34,760
Speaker 1: Yeah, of course, I always have you know, your best

754
00:33:34,760 --> 00:33:36,960
Speaker 1: interest at heart. I always want you to end up

755
00:33:37,280 --> 00:33:40,000
Speaker 1: happy and winning at the end of whatever the situation is.

756
00:33:40,280 --> 00:33:42,680
Speaker 2: But yeah, I mean I think like sometimes people do

757
00:33:42,800 --> 00:33:46,520
Speaker 2: have a hard time taking in the advice and it's like, well,

758
00:33:46,720 --> 00:33:47,920
Speaker 2: why are you even like.

759
00:33:48,200 --> 00:33:50,880
Speaker 1: Because we're stuck in our own thoughts in our own heads.

760
00:33:51,640 --> 00:33:54,120
Speaker 1: It's normal. You know, you have a thought process and

761
00:33:54,120 --> 00:33:56,840
Speaker 1: someone's giving you a different angle and you can't process

762
00:33:56,880 --> 00:33:59,800
Speaker 1: it because you're stuck in your own situation. It's normal.

763
00:34:00,240 --> 00:34:03,040
Speaker 1: But you know what I do, listen and I do.

764
00:34:03,120 --> 00:34:05,320
Speaker 2: Okay, So we've been beating out on the bush. We've

765
00:34:05,360 --> 00:34:08,080
Speaker 2: been being around the bush. Remember I'm the teacher. They

766
00:34:08,160 --> 00:34:11,840
Speaker 2: want to know specifically, what is the best advice you

767
00:34:11,880 --> 00:34:12,840
Speaker 2: think you've given me?

768
00:34:13,080 --> 00:34:14,719
Speaker 3: And the best advice I've given you.

769
00:34:15,120 --> 00:34:17,759
Speaker 1: Well, I just said it before and I and it's

770
00:34:17,800 --> 00:34:18,240
Speaker 1: the same.

771
00:34:19,080 --> 00:34:21,120
Speaker 3: It was the same in general, No, I thought, but

772
00:34:21,160 --> 00:34:24,120
Speaker 3: I could think of like one thing okay again my

773
00:34:24,239 --> 00:34:27,600
Speaker 3: words with you, but with a relationship, okay, with like

774
00:34:27,680 --> 00:34:28,280
Speaker 3: in the past.

775
00:34:28,480 --> 00:34:30,319
Speaker 1: So it was some advice you gave me.

776
00:34:30,760 --> 00:34:34,160
Speaker 2: Mm hmm about your Yeah, about like somebody that was

777
00:34:34,200 --> 00:34:37,040
Speaker 2: in your life, you know, in the past, and you

778
00:34:37,040 --> 00:34:39,560
Speaker 2: know you you finally listened and you know I gave

779
00:34:39,600 --> 00:34:41,520
Speaker 2: you a lot of advice and you reacted.

780
00:34:41,560 --> 00:34:41,680
Speaker 3: You know.

781
00:34:41,719 --> 00:34:44,600
Speaker 2: I feel like that's when you really you know, I'm

782
00:34:44,640 --> 00:34:46,120
Speaker 2: just trying to be like a little bit more specific

783
00:34:46,160 --> 00:34:48,480
Speaker 2: because I mean, in general, we give each other great advice,

784
00:34:48,680 --> 00:34:51,080
Speaker 2: you know, and that's what good friends do. I feel

785
00:34:51,120 --> 00:34:53,480
Speaker 2: like you and I have both been through a lot

786
00:34:53,480 --> 00:34:55,040
Speaker 2: of things in our life that were on a level

787
00:34:55,080 --> 00:34:57,160
Speaker 2: that you know that you you could give me good advice,

788
00:34:57,160 --> 00:34:58,759
Speaker 2: and I could give you good advice because you know,

789
00:34:58,760 --> 00:35:00,600
Speaker 2: you're not going to ask like a thirty year old

790
00:35:00,640 --> 00:35:02,920
Speaker 2: and maybe hasn't gone through something like that or hasn't

791
00:35:02,960 --> 00:35:06,600
Speaker 2: lived the experiences we have, you know, for advice. So

792
00:35:07,000 --> 00:35:10,879
Speaker 2: with that being said, I remember giving you specifically good

793
00:35:10,920 --> 00:35:13,880
Speaker 2: advice and a particular relationship you were in and you

794
00:35:14,040 --> 00:35:18,560
Speaker 2: finally like accepting it and realizing it and listening to it.

795
00:35:18,640 --> 00:35:22,879
Speaker 2: And I'm happy about that because you know, I got

796
00:35:22,920 --> 00:35:23,319
Speaker 2: thank you.

797
00:35:24,080 --> 00:35:26,719
Speaker 1: Yeah, yes, thank you. And I think a lot of

798
00:35:26,760 --> 00:35:29,280
Speaker 1: what you were saying is what I was saying before.

799
00:35:30,400 --> 00:35:32,560
Speaker 3: You know, Yeah, this is going to you've given me

800
00:35:32,800 --> 00:35:35,640
Speaker 3: and you've given me good advice too, Like with my relationships,

801
00:35:35,680 --> 00:35:39,239
Speaker 3: like with my kids, with with my.

802
00:35:39,200 --> 00:35:41,799
Speaker 1: Limited capassibility, I do the best that I can and

803
00:35:41,840 --> 00:35:44,960
Speaker 1: I possibility capassibility.

804
00:35:45,680 --> 00:35:49,600
Speaker 2: Okay, when you see you teach me your words, I

805
00:35:49,640 --> 00:35:50,920
Speaker 2: was like, capassibility.

806
00:35:51,000 --> 00:35:55,799
Speaker 1: I love when an English lesson, it's so good. We

807
00:35:55,880 --> 00:35:56,719
Speaker 1: got to do one of those.

808
00:35:56,719 --> 00:35:59,400
Speaker 3: And one of our podcasters do an English lesson please.

809
00:35:59,280 --> 00:36:01,320
Speaker 1: Yeah, yes, a Spanglish lesson.

810
00:36:02,280 --> 00:36:06,520
Speaker 2: So anyways, Amiga, for all your advice and.

811
00:36:06,600 --> 00:36:09,440
Speaker 1: Thank you, thank you. I'm only I'm only healthy in

812
00:36:09,440 --> 00:36:11,600
Speaker 1: alive because of you and all the good people around me.

813
00:36:20,320 --> 00:36:24,640
Speaker 2: So we know that you had a very successful PR

814
00:36:24,719 --> 00:36:28,040
Speaker 2: firm here in Miami, and I had the privilege and

815
00:36:28,120 --> 00:36:31,560
Speaker 2: honor to work with you and together.

816
00:36:31,719 --> 00:36:34,120
Speaker 1: I had full locations around the country. By the way,

817
00:36:34,160 --> 00:36:35,680
Speaker 1: I just want to throw that plug in there.

818
00:36:35,800 --> 00:36:38,120
Speaker 2: Oh that's right. You did have in different cities. You

819
00:36:38,160 --> 00:36:40,759
Speaker 2: had presents there, so I apologize for that, thank you

820
00:36:40,760 --> 00:36:44,080
Speaker 2: for But I mean you were really known in Miami

821
00:36:44,719 --> 00:36:48,560
Speaker 2: for you know, for the events you know, and the

822
00:36:48,760 --> 00:36:50,879
Speaker 2: and the brands that you represent here and for all

823
00:36:50,920 --> 00:36:53,960
Speaker 2: of your PR work that you did here. So and

824
00:36:54,040 --> 00:36:56,560
Speaker 2: I had the honor and privilege to attend all these

825
00:36:56,600 --> 00:36:58,560
Speaker 2: events and to work with you and to publish all

826
00:36:58,600 --> 00:37:00,000
Speaker 2: those great events in the magazine.

827
00:37:00,480 --> 00:37:03,160
Speaker 1: Thank you for your support the magazine.

828
00:37:03,280 --> 00:37:04,319
Speaker 3: You know, how can I not?

829
00:37:04,440 --> 00:37:06,600
Speaker 2: You were like, had the best parties and the best

830
00:37:06,600 --> 00:37:09,840
Speaker 2: of everything. So you did that for many years, and

831
00:37:09,880 --> 00:37:12,160
Speaker 2: I know it was a big part of your life

832
00:37:12,280 --> 00:37:15,080
Speaker 2: and it assumed your life as well. Yes, you know

833
00:37:15,120 --> 00:37:19,080
Speaker 2: your friend back then as well. And by the way,

834
00:37:19,239 --> 00:37:22,239
Speaker 2: the question is like what made you close the firm?

835
00:37:22,360 --> 00:37:23,360
Speaker 2: I already know any.

836
00:37:23,160 --> 00:37:25,960
Speaker 3: Answer, but I would like for you to explain it

837
00:37:26,000 --> 00:37:28,240
Speaker 3: to people that are interested that are listening.

838
00:37:28,760 --> 00:37:33,359
Speaker 1: Right, So, I think that for people that don't know,

839
00:37:33,520 --> 00:37:39,440
Speaker 1: PR is a it's it. It sucks the life out

840
00:37:39,480 --> 00:37:42,640
Speaker 1: of you. It's a really really really hard job. A

841
00:37:42,719 --> 00:37:46,880
Speaker 1: lot of people burn out really young, really quickly change careers.

842
00:37:48,320 --> 00:37:50,640
Speaker 1: It's a special type of person that can do this

843
00:37:50,840 --> 00:37:53,200
Speaker 1: and do it for the rest of their lives until

844
00:37:53,239 --> 00:37:58,000
Speaker 1: they're you know, until they expire. It was taking a

845
00:37:58,040 --> 00:38:01,640
Speaker 1: big toll on me. My personal relationships, my families were

846
00:38:01,840 --> 00:38:05,160
Speaker 1: My mother and father were very ill. They needed me.

847
00:38:05,880 --> 00:38:07,919
Speaker 1: And I met a man at the time that said

848
00:38:07,960 --> 00:38:11,600
Speaker 1: to me, you know what, you're not fun. You know,

849
00:38:11,640 --> 00:38:14,600
Speaker 1: you're super stressed all the time. Don't worry about work.

850
00:38:15,120 --> 00:38:17,239
Speaker 1: I'm going to take care of everything. And I called

851
00:38:17,440 --> 00:38:19,800
Speaker 1: I remember calling my father and thinking this is crazy,

852
00:38:19,840 --> 00:38:21,880
Speaker 1: Like I need to ask my dad because he's always

853
00:38:21,880 --> 00:38:25,239
Speaker 1: supported me my whole life. And my dad was like,

854
00:38:25,280 --> 00:38:26,920
Speaker 1: you know what, your mother and I really need you.

855
00:38:27,040 --> 00:38:31,080
Speaker 1: And and I hate that job. You're always stressed, you're unhappy,

856
00:38:31,160 --> 00:38:34,960
Speaker 1: and you know, you know, go with this man, close it.

857
00:38:35,040 --> 00:38:36,839
Speaker 1: Do whatever you're going to do. Go live a life,

858
00:38:36,920 --> 00:38:40,000
Speaker 1: go travel, do whatever. And you know what, I was

859
00:38:40,080 --> 00:38:42,600
Speaker 1: just waiting for just someone to rescue me and get

860
00:38:42,600 --> 00:38:44,320
Speaker 1: me out of there. I was so stressed.

861
00:38:44,560 --> 00:38:47,360
Speaker 3: Oh I remember, I remember that part of your life vividing.

862
00:38:47,400 --> 00:38:47,600
Speaker 1: Yeah.

863
00:38:48,000 --> 00:38:50,360
Speaker 3: I was very happy that person.

864
00:38:50,560 --> 00:38:53,120
Speaker 2: Yeah, because you were so it consumed you and you

865
00:38:53,160 --> 00:38:55,640
Speaker 2: were so good at it, and it absorbed you so

866
00:38:55,719 --> 00:38:57,560
Speaker 2: like you want everything to be perfect, and you had

867
00:38:57,560 --> 00:39:01,320
Speaker 2: so much pressure with your employees, with the brands, with

868
00:39:01,920 --> 00:39:02,600
Speaker 2: with just I was.

869
00:39:02,640 --> 00:39:06,040
Speaker 1: The one man show with a big monkey on my back,

870
00:39:06,239 --> 00:39:10,400
Speaker 1: and the opportunity to escape was there. And one of

871
00:39:10,440 --> 00:39:12,680
Speaker 1: the girls that was my vice president at the time,

872
00:39:12,760 --> 00:39:14,520
Speaker 1: I've been telling her for two years, I'm going to

873
00:39:14,560 --> 00:39:15,960
Speaker 1: get out of this. I don't know how, but I'm

874
00:39:16,000 --> 00:39:18,280
Speaker 1: going to get out, and I'm either going to close

875
00:39:18,320 --> 00:39:20,279
Speaker 1: it or you can have it. We're gonna, you know,

876
00:39:20,480 --> 00:39:23,040
Speaker 1: just start thinking about it. And then when I met,

877
00:39:23,640 --> 00:39:27,560
Speaker 1: you know, my ex, I remember calling her like with

878
00:39:27,640 --> 00:39:30,160
Speaker 1: the two months notice. I said, I'm out. You want it?

879
00:39:30,200 --> 00:39:32,080
Speaker 1: Or am I closing it? She's like, I don't know

880
00:39:32,080 --> 00:39:33,680
Speaker 1: what to do. I'm nervous. What do I do? And

881
00:39:33,760 --> 00:39:36,839
Speaker 1: I said, open a bank account. Oh, you can have

882
00:39:36,880 --> 00:39:39,080
Speaker 1: the furniture, you can have the employees, you gonna have

883
00:39:39,120 --> 00:39:41,319
Speaker 1: the clients, you gonna have the computers, the phones, you

884
00:39:41,360 --> 00:39:43,120
Speaker 1: can have it all. You just need your own bank

885
00:39:43,160 --> 00:39:46,640
Speaker 1: account and your own corporation. It's all yours. And that's

886
00:39:46,680 --> 00:39:49,160
Speaker 1: what we did. We transferred everything over. And she's still

887
00:39:49,160 --> 00:39:51,319
Speaker 1: in business now and she's killing it. She's doing a

888
00:39:51,320 --> 00:39:53,920
Speaker 1: great job. She wants to get out. She hates it.

889
00:39:54,680 --> 00:39:56,720
Speaker 3: Well, the thing is like for a single woman.

890
00:39:56,960 --> 00:39:58,520
Speaker 2: Well, the only reason why you were able to do

891
00:39:58,560 --> 00:40:01,000
Speaker 2: it for so many years was because you single, Because

892
00:40:01,040 --> 00:40:03,080
Speaker 2: if you would have had a family or a real

893
00:40:03,120 --> 00:40:05,640
Speaker 2: relationship at that time in your life, you wouldn't have

894
00:40:05,760 --> 00:40:08,000
Speaker 2: I mean, any man would have made you pick because

895
00:40:08,040 --> 00:40:10,359
Speaker 2: I remember it was that you could never have fun,

896
00:40:10,400 --> 00:40:12,080
Speaker 2: like even like at the event, I would see you

897
00:40:12,080 --> 00:40:15,319
Speaker 2: and you were like completely disconnected and stressed out.

898
00:40:15,800 --> 00:40:16,600
Speaker 1: And you know that.

899
00:40:16,719 --> 00:40:18,960
Speaker 2: I was very happy when you made that decision because

900
00:40:19,000 --> 00:40:21,439
Speaker 2: I was your friend at that time and you told

901
00:40:21,440 --> 00:40:24,480
Speaker 2: me as well, and I was like, oh, you know, finally,

902
00:40:24,640 --> 00:40:26,319
Speaker 2: like finally we're gonna be able to go out and

903
00:40:26,320 --> 00:40:29,239
Speaker 2: have fun and you're gonna you know, So it worked.

904
00:40:29,160 --> 00:40:32,600
Speaker 1: And there's a point, did I I We've been having

905
00:40:32,640 --> 00:40:34,680
Speaker 1: fun ever since, like.

906
00:40:34,640 --> 00:40:35,719
Speaker 3: A different person since then.

907
00:40:35,760 --> 00:40:38,080
Speaker 2: People asked me, and I said, well, you really can't

908
00:40:38,120 --> 00:40:41,080
Speaker 2: judge by that because she was working, Like that's not

909
00:40:41,160 --> 00:40:42,319
Speaker 2: like how she really is.

910
00:40:42,360 --> 00:40:42,799
Speaker 3: She was working.

911
00:40:42,880 --> 00:40:46,160
Speaker 2: She's a professional and and and it gets stressful, and

912
00:40:46,200 --> 00:40:46,960
Speaker 2: it gets stressful.

913
00:40:47,040 --> 00:40:48,760
Speaker 3: So I was very happy by your decision.

914
00:40:48,800 --> 00:40:50,439
Speaker 2: I think that's one of the best things you've done

915
00:40:50,520 --> 00:40:52,920
Speaker 2: in your life, because if not, you would have been

916
00:40:52,920 --> 00:40:57,600
Speaker 2: there like, oh my god, for nothing, because you know.

917
00:40:58,120 --> 00:40:59,920
Speaker 1: A person in the world. And I just want to

918
00:41:00,719 --> 00:41:03,719
Speaker 1: give kudos to all those people that are MPR and

919
00:41:03,840 --> 00:41:07,000
Speaker 1: have a family or run to own a business and

920
00:41:07,719 --> 00:41:10,560
Speaker 1: have a family. It's a lot of stress, it's fine,

921
00:41:10,680 --> 00:41:11,320
Speaker 1: very difficult.

922
00:41:11,320 --> 00:41:13,560
Speaker 2: I really applaud all those women because you know, women

923
00:41:13,600 --> 00:41:17,000
Speaker 2: have even more responsibility in that case. You know, when

924
00:41:17,000 --> 00:41:19,240
Speaker 2: they have families that they go home and their children

925
00:41:19,239 --> 00:41:21,799
Speaker 2: and homework and after school activities and then events on night,

926
00:41:21,840 --> 00:41:24,200
Speaker 2: and then they have to make their husband happy and

927
00:41:24,239 --> 00:41:27,120
Speaker 2: they have to look good, and it's a lot. Honestly,

928
00:41:27,200 --> 00:41:30,279
Speaker 2: it's a really it's a glamorous career. It's actually a

929
00:41:30,320 --> 00:41:32,560
Speaker 2: really pretty profession for a woman. I always loved it

930
00:41:32,640 --> 00:41:33,400
Speaker 2: myself too.

931
00:41:33,920 --> 00:41:37,640
Speaker 1: But it's not so glamorous exactly.

932
00:41:37,880 --> 00:41:40,799
Speaker 2: Well, like a lot of careers and professions, but it's

933
00:41:40,840 --> 00:41:43,120
Speaker 2: one that you really have to dedicate your heart and

934
00:41:43,160 --> 00:41:46,160
Speaker 2: soul and so many hours and at the end, you know,

935
00:41:46,320 --> 00:41:48,200
Speaker 2: I don't know if it was worth it. It was

936
00:41:48,200 --> 00:41:49,680
Speaker 2: worth it for you for all those years that you

937
00:41:49,719 --> 00:41:51,680
Speaker 2: did it, obviously because you liked it, but it's a

938
00:41:51,719 --> 00:41:52,600
Speaker 2: lot of sacrifice.

939
00:41:53,280 --> 00:41:54,560
Speaker 3: Well, as you said, I.

940
00:41:54,640 --> 00:41:57,280
Speaker 1: Checked that box off of running a really big company

941
00:41:57,280 --> 00:42:00,640
Speaker 1: from scratch, and growing it and becoming in your national

942
00:42:00,760 --> 00:42:03,239
Speaker 1: and you know what I mean, that was huge and

943
00:42:03,360 --> 00:42:05,360
Speaker 1: I didn't even study that, so I you know, I

944
00:42:05,360 --> 00:42:07,360
Speaker 1: have to pat myself on the backboard. I gave it

945
00:42:07,400 --> 00:42:11,400
Speaker 1: the college try. I did great. It was top business

946
00:42:11,680 --> 00:42:15,440
Speaker 1: in my city at least, so you know, I did it,

947
00:42:15,520 --> 00:42:18,719
Speaker 1: done it, and I'm out. My father always said, if

948
00:42:18,719 --> 00:42:22,440
Speaker 1: you're going to do something, be the best, and I

949
00:42:22,480 --> 00:42:25,200
Speaker 1: did it to be the best until I myself.

950
00:42:25,080 --> 00:42:25,760
Speaker 3: Still the best.

951
00:42:25,840 --> 00:42:36,080
Speaker 2: My friend, your starter. Oh favorite Cuban traditions. I can

952
00:42:36,160 --> 00:42:37,440
Speaker 2: talk about this all.

953
00:42:37,400 --> 00:42:40,560
Speaker 1: Day hours, right, there's so many.

954
00:42:42,520 --> 00:42:47,320
Speaker 2: Well, I feel like one of the biggest Cuban traditions

955
00:42:47,520 --> 00:42:48,880
Speaker 2: I think is like our family.

956
00:42:49,480 --> 00:42:51,880
Speaker 3: I feel like we were we were like born.

957
00:42:51,680 --> 00:42:54,600
Speaker 2: And raised Gila Familia is like everything everything is a

958
00:42:54,680 --> 00:43:01,200
Speaker 2: family and food, right, everything is like food. My house, well,

959
00:43:01,320 --> 00:43:05,160
Speaker 2: you guys were like weird Cubans and that because father.

960
00:43:05,800 --> 00:43:07,399
Speaker 1: You know, my mom didn't want to eat either.

961
00:43:07,560 --> 00:43:10,200
Speaker 2: I know, you know it's true. You know I didn't

962
00:43:10,200 --> 00:43:12,880
Speaker 2: have that typical house. It was luckily for me, I

963
00:43:12,920 --> 00:43:15,920
Speaker 2: had my grandmother that cooked so good and she was

964
00:43:15,960 --> 00:43:17,920
Speaker 2: like so Cuban and she was the one that raised

965
00:43:17,960 --> 00:43:22,359
Speaker 2: us so like every day it was like food, Like.

966
00:43:26,239 --> 00:43:29,359
Speaker 3: I was all like that kind of food. I was likeda.

967
00:43:29,760 --> 00:43:33,880
Speaker 2: So, which, by the way, is like another tradition is

968
00:43:33,920 --> 00:43:36,719
Speaker 2: like the Cubans that we call like terms of endearment

969
00:43:37,080 --> 00:43:39,279
Speaker 2: to like the people we love, Like we call like

970
00:43:39,320 --> 00:43:41,920
Speaker 2: I call boy. He's like, what do you mean Boppy.

971
00:43:42,000 --> 00:43:43,439
Speaker 2: It's like, isn't Poppy like your dad?

972
00:43:43,600 --> 00:43:46,480
Speaker 3: Yeah, And I'm like, well yeah, but it's also like

973
00:43:46,719 --> 00:43:48,680
Speaker 3: my guy. It's also like my man, right, like a

974
00:43:48,760 --> 00:43:52,080
Speaker 3: mimacho like Bobby, things like that. So that's like another

975
00:43:52,160 --> 00:43:55,160
Speaker 3: Cuban tradition that we have that we call each other

976
00:43:55,560 --> 00:43:58,840
Speaker 3: in terms of endearments and we put like ETA on everything,

977
00:43:59,000 --> 00:44:03,440
Speaker 3: like I like say aa or like Gordida, you know,

978
00:44:03,520 --> 00:44:05,600
Speaker 3: and not to you know, like English speakers.

979
00:44:05,600 --> 00:44:07,440
Speaker 2: I think we'll look at us weird, like we call

980
00:44:07,520 --> 00:44:12,960
Speaker 2: somebody skinny like Gordida. But it's kind of but like

981
00:44:13,040 --> 00:44:15,560
Speaker 2: sometimes you say, like Meorda, you know, and it's not

982
00:44:15,600 --> 00:44:17,360
Speaker 2: because you're Gorda, it's not because you're.

983
00:44:17,239 --> 00:44:22,880
Speaker 1: Fat's just you love endment yeah right, yeah, So I

984
00:44:22,920 --> 00:44:24,920
Speaker 1: think that that's like another Cuban tradition.

985
00:44:25,200 --> 00:44:26,800
Speaker 3: Like I really like, by.

986
00:44:26,680 --> 00:44:29,560
Speaker 1: The way, I made free from scratch for the first

987
00:44:29,600 --> 00:44:31,080
Speaker 1: time in my life on Sunday.

988
00:44:31,680 --> 00:44:32,360
Speaker 3: No, maybe.

989
00:44:34,120 --> 00:44:38,360
Speaker 1: No, I used the regular pot. Yeah, and they tasted

990
00:44:38,560 --> 00:44:40,920
Speaker 1: just like in the restaurant. It took seven hours. I'll

991
00:44:40,960 --> 00:44:43,600
Speaker 1: buy them at the restaurant.

992
00:44:43,600 --> 00:44:46,840
Speaker 3: Seven hours, bro, How can it take you seven hours? Negro?

993
00:44:47,160 --> 00:44:49,120
Speaker 1: Because they had to cook for my friend Peter.

994
00:44:50,800 --> 00:44:56,320
Speaker 3: You need a pressure cooker. Oh yeah, the bersion, yeah faster.

995
00:44:57,000 --> 00:44:59,000
Speaker 1: Yeah, because I took I said, Steve, we can just

996
00:44:59,040 --> 00:45:00,640
Speaker 1: go by it around the corner. I want to spend

997
00:45:00,840 --> 00:45:02,359
Speaker 1: making good.

998
00:45:02,520 --> 00:45:02,759
Speaker 3: Yeah.

999
00:45:02,840 --> 00:45:06,200
Speaker 1: And I made him super clean. No, just water and

1000
00:45:06,280 --> 00:45:07,359
Speaker 1: herbs and that was it.

1001
00:45:07,680 --> 00:45:11,680
Speaker 2: And that's seven hours or like.

1002
00:45:11,760 --> 00:45:15,040
Speaker 1: No, I made it perfect, but it wasn't boiling. Peter

1003
00:45:15,160 --> 00:45:17,040
Speaker 1: told me to boil it and then lower the heat

1004
00:45:17,120 --> 00:45:18,480
Speaker 1: and then it took too long, and then I had

1005
00:45:18,480 --> 00:45:20,200
Speaker 1: to boil it again. Then it finished, So it took

1006
00:45:20,800 --> 00:45:22,360
Speaker 1: like a good close to seven hours.

1007
00:45:22,440 --> 00:45:22,640
Speaker 3: Yeah.

1008
00:45:22,760 --> 00:45:24,160
Speaker 1: I thought this is ridiculous.

1009
00:45:24,280 --> 00:45:25,920
Speaker 3: I can't wait seven hours to eat, bro.

1010
00:45:26,280 --> 00:45:29,920
Speaker 1: Well, they're telling me, oh, women make it in the morning.

1011
00:45:29,920 --> 00:45:31,520
Speaker 1: They go to work and come back. I'm like, who's

1012
00:45:31,520 --> 00:45:33,319
Speaker 1: going to leave the stove on all day? You're gonna

1013
00:45:33,320 --> 00:45:34,160
Speaker 1: burn the house.

1014
00:45:34,000 --> 00:45:35,399
Speaker 3: Down for free?

1015
00:45:35,440 --> 00:45:39,840
Speaker 2: How did the house get on fire?

1016
00:45:39,920 --> 00:45:42,319
Speaker 3: I was making free? Holy that's funny, I was.

1017
00:45:42,239 --> 00:45:44,520
Speaker 1: Making it's not that necessary.

1018
00:45:45,080 --> 00:45:48,319
Speaker 3: I a lot of good Cuban restaurants, so yeah, we gotta.

1019
00:45:48,440 --> 00:45:51,319
Speaker 1: I'm gonna spend seven hours on something you better like

1020
00:45:51,520 --> 00:45:52,680
Speaker 1: over the top and different.

1021
00:45:52,760 --> 00:45:55,920
Speaker 2: Yeah yeah, so well, speaking of food, that's another tradition

1022
00:45:56,000 --> 00:45:56,759
Speaker 2: that I love, Like.

1023
00:45:58,200 --> 00:45:58,960
Speaker 1: That's my favorite.

1024
00:45:59,040 --> 00:46:04,920
Speaker 3: But yeah, yeah, get the pig at the farm. I

1025
00:46:04,920 --> 00:46:07,160
Speaker 3: don't like the part of the slaughtering and all that.

1026
00:46:08,840 --> 00:46:12,040
Speaker 1: Yeah, I've never gone to the farm. Usually just shows

1027
00:46:12,120 --> 00:46:14,120
Speaker 1: up at my house in the box and someone makes

1028
00:46:14,160 --> 00:46:15,239
Speaker 1: it right.

1029
00:46:15,719 --> 00:46:18,440
Speaker 2: But I feel like that's like a real Cuban or

1030
00:46:18,520 --> 00:46:22,480
Speaker 2: Latin thing, you know, where we celebrate whenna and it's

1031
00:46:22,520 --> 00:46:25,920
Speaker 2: like a whole ceremony picking up the pig, seasoning it

1032
00:46:25,960 --> 00:46:29,000
Speaker 2: the night before watching it, you know, and like a

1033
00:46:29,280 --> 00:46:31,719
Speaker 2: Gina churning it, doing the whole thing.

1034
00:46:31,760 --> 00:46:33,080
Speaker 3: It's like we serend the pig.

1035
00:46:34,000 --> 00:46:36,800
Speaker 1: If I if I did the beginning to end process

1036
00:46:36,880 --> 00:46:38,279
Speaker 1: like that, I'm like I could eat it. And you

1037
00:46:38,320 --> 00:46:39,439
Speaker 1: know I love bacon and pig.

1038
00:46:39,960 --> 00:46:45,000
Speaker 3: Yeah, I love it. I know you love it. Remember

1039
00:46:45,440 --> 00:46:46,480
Speaker 3: remember the little here.

1040
00:46:47,200 --> 00:46:50,040
Speaker 1: There was there was this we filmed the scene. I

1041
00:46:50,040 --> 00:46:53,359
Speaker 1: think it was season one two. I don't remember one.

1042
00:46:53,480 --> 00:46:55,840
Speaker 1: Season one one at your house, and you guys went

1043
00:46:55,920 --> 00:46:59,160
Speaker 1: to get the pig and you cooked it. And remember

1044
00:46:59,280 --> 00:47:01,919
Speaker 1: we were we were filming, and they did this thing

1045
00:47:02,239 --> 00:47:05,200
Speaker 1: for the audience. There's something called ring tone where everyone

1046
00:47:05,239 --> 00:47:08,400
Speaker 1: has to be silent. And I had just put a

1047
00:47:08,440 --> 00:47:11,200
Speaker 1: piece of crunchy pig skin in my mouth and I

1048
00:47:11,280 --> 00:47:14,920
Speaker 1: was crunching it, and everyone screamed at me because it

1049
00:47:14,960 --> 00:47:16,680
Speaker 1: was ring tone. When I was you could hear the

1050
00:47:16,760 --> 00:47:18,400
Speaker 1: crunching of the pork skin.

1051
00:47:18,239 --> 00:47:20,359
Speaker 3: In my mouth, and you know, and you didn't want

1052
00:47:20,360 --> 00:47:22,000
Speaker 3: to stop. You're like, it's so good, I'm not going

1053
00:47:22,040 --> 00:47:25,560
Speaker 3: to stop. They have to wait, so you I had

1054
00:47:25,640 --> 00:47:27,120
Speaker 3: to wait for you to get room, Tom. And by

1055
00:47:27,160 --> 00:47:30,799
Speaker 3: the way, it had the hairs of the pig.

1056
00:47:30,960 --> 00:47:31,759
Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, thing.

1057
00:47:31,880 --> 00:47:34,040
Speaker 2: I was like, yeah, cool, Like it literally had those

1058
00:47:34,080 --> 00:47:37,000
Speaker 2: hairs of the animals. Still I can't but I'm happy

1059
00:47:37,000 --> 00:47:37,680
Speaker 2: you enjoyed it.

1060
00:47:38,120 --> 00:47:40,960
Speaker 1: I enjoyed it. I'm not enjoying it now, reflecting on

1061
00:47:41,080 --> 00:47:41,880
Speaker 1: hair in my mouth.

1062
00:47:42,600 --> 00:47:45,200
Speaker 2: When the guys are serenading the pig, they are like

1063
00:47:45,320 --> 00:47:49,680
Speaker 2: smoking cigars, which is another really cool Cuban tradition which

1064
00:47:49,719 --> 00:47:51,360
Speaker 2: I don't like either because I don't like the smell

1065
00:47:51,400 --> 00:47:54,080
Speaker 2: of it. But it's like pretty hot, like the guys

1066
00:47:54,080 --> 00:47:55,000
Speaker 2: like smoking the cigar.

1067
00:47:55,239 --> 00:47:57,880
Speaker 1: Have you ever put a suitcase by your front door

1068
00:47:58,080 --> 00:48:01,480
Speaker 1: before on New Year's Eve? So you travel represtitious.

1069
00:48:01,760 --> 00:48:04,880
Speaker 3: I'm not there yet, Remember I I follow my questions.

1070
00:48:06,160 --> 00:48:06,880
Speaker 3: I was amazing.

1071
00:48:07,040 --> 00:48:09,200
Speaker 1: Is there another one? Is there that's a tradition?

1072
00:48:09,480 --> 00:48:10,879
Speaker 3: No, Cuban traditions?

1073
00:48:10,920 --> 00:48:13,239
Speaker 2: Oh, I thought you were talking about Cuban superstitious, which

1074
00:48:13,280 --> 00:48:15,920
Speaker 2: is another which is all it's superstitious.

1075
00:48:15,960 --> 00:48:18,600
Speaker 1: Tradition for me is tradition, but it's also bornerline.

1076
00:48:18,719 --> 00:48:21,799
Speaker 2: You're right, because Cuban superstitions are Cuban traditions.

1077
00:48:21,840 --> 00:48:24,279
Speaker 3: So let's talk about that one marathon. Tell me that's

1078
00:48:24,280 --> 00:48:25,040
Speaker 3: what I'm saying.

1079
00:48:25,440 --> 00:48:27,360
Speaker 1: So I like to put a suitcase in front of

1080
00:48:27,400 --> 00:48:29,680
Speaker 1: the door, front door every year, so that you know

1081
00:48:29,800 --> 00:48:31,440
Speaker 1: I'm sure to travel plenty.

1082
00:48:32,200 --> 00:48:35,719
Speaker 2: Really yeah, I like, you know, I even heard about that.

1083
00:48:37,080 --> 00:48:39,560
Speaker 2: You know what I want I put behind the door

1084
00:48:43,719 --> 00:48:45,000
Speaker 2: after a party, And I'm kidding.

1085
00:48:45,040 --> 00:48:47,520
Speaker 3: I don't do that. I've never that one, but I've

1086
00:48:47,520 --> 00:48:48,479
Speaker 3: heard of that one. Yeah.

1087
00:48:48,800 --> 00:48:49,480
Speaker 1: What about.

1088
00:48:51,160 --> 00:48:51,600
Speaker 3: That means.

1089
00:48:53,200 --> 00:48:54,239
Speaker 1: Money is coming? Right?

1090
00:48:54,640 --> 00:48:55,399
Speaker 3: Yes? Yes?

1091
00:48:55,480 --> 00:48:55,800
Speaker 1: Yes?

1092
00:48:56,239 --> 00:49:00,759
Speaker 2: Or now, since we're talking about superstitious and super stitions,

1093
00:49:01,120 --> 00:49:03,799
Speaker 2: let's talk about it. Superstitions I feel like since the

1094
00:49:03,920 --> 00:49:07,960
Speaker 2: day were born, like we we grow up in superstitions,

1095
00:49:07,960 --> 00:49:09,680
Speaker 2: at least like in our culture with the Cubans.

1096
00:49:09,680 --> 00:49:13,439
Speaker 3: Because did you even have the saba the little ones

1097
00:49:13,600 --> 00:49:14,200
Speaker 3: gemp stone.

1098
00:49:14,440 --> 00:49:15,800
Speaker 1: No, I had diamond earrings?

1099
00:49:15,880 --> 00:49:18,000
Speaker 2: Okay, well I had those two. I had those two

1100
00:49:21,040 --> 00:49:23,840
Speaker 2: dibine earrings. My parents put a big asaba.

1101
00:49:24,200 --> 00:49:29,439
Speaker 1: Oh well, guess what I told you if you would

1102
00:49:29,480 --> 00:49:34,480
Speaker 1: have had that bro I was an infant. Well, I

1103
00:49:34,520 --> 00:49:34,920
Speaker 1: wasn't in.

1104
00:49:36,000 --> 00:49:37,920
Speaker 3: Or in the necklace, but I think that's so cute,

1105
00:49:37,920 --> 00:49:41,360
Speaker 3: you know, like a lot of baby on the pin, yeah,

1106
00:49:41,440 --> 00:49:44,640
Speaker 3: the pins, or like in the necklace or in the bracelets.

1107
00:49:44,680 --> 00:49:46,880
Speaker 2: So I felt like the day I was born, I

1108
00:49:46,920 --> 00:49:49,879
Speaker 2: was already brought up like it's a superstition.

1109
00:49:49,520 --> 00:49:53,040
Speaker 3: Of course because of the asabach thing.

1110
00:49:53,560 --> 00:49:56,840
Speaker 1: Yeah yeah, well I believe in good luck charms. I

1111
00:49:56,960 --> 00:49:58,200
Speaker 1: just never had an asabachi.

1112
00:49:58,520 --> 00:50:01,399
Speaker 3: What about another superstition that I love? And I know

1113
00:50:01,520 --> 00:50:06,960
Speaker 3: that I love it.

1114
00:50:10,400 --> 00:50:12,759
Speaker 2: When you know that somebody is being mean to you

1115
00:50:13,440 --> 00:50:16,040
Speaker 2: and like, you know, trying to like ruin your life,

1116
00:50:16,440 --> 00:50:18,960
Speaker 2: you like put their name, you write their name, and

1117
00:50:19,000 --> 00:50:20,560
Speaker 2: you wet it and you put it in the freezer

1118
00:50:20,640 --> 00:50:22,960
Speaker 2: and you kind of just like freeze them, you know what, Like.

1119
00:50:22,960 --> 00:50:26,680
Speaker 1: I did that. I did I did that once like

1120
00:50:27,680 --> 00:50:31,000
Speaker 1: thirteen years ago. Not sure if it worked.

1121
00:50:32,480 --> 00:50:34,000
Speaker 3: They're still talking about your being mean.

1122
00:50:34,120 --> 00:50:38,560
Speaker 1: Huh yeah, I think so. You see it didn't work.

1123
00:50:39,320 --> 00:50:42,080
Speaker 2: Well, there's superstitions, That's how there are. It's not like

1124
00:50:42,160 --> 00:50:44,680
Speaker 2: you know, there's any proof to them. And these things work,

1125
00:50:45,160 --> 00:50:46,719
Speaker 2: but you know, you want to believe that the work

1126
00:50:46,760 --> 00:50:47,520
Speaker 2: when you're doing them.

1127
00:50:47,680 --> 00:50:49,920
Speaker 1: And I kind of just set it and forget it.

1128
00:50:49,960 --> 00:50:53,719
Speaker 3: And it was that right. Another one is the milha

1129
00:50:53,880 --> 00:50:56,000
Speaker 3: or like the sugar, like you want when you want

1130
00:50:56,040 --> 00:51:00,640
Speaker 3: to attract somebody like romantically, or you know, you want

1131
00:51:00,680 --> 00:51:03,040
Speaker 3: like a job interview to go well or something to

1132
00:51:03,120 --> 00:51:03,439
Speaker 3: go good.

1133
00:51:03,480 --> 00:51:05,800
Speaker 2: It's kind of like you sweeten them up. Yeah, and

1134
00:51:06,560 --> 00:51:09,080
Speaker 2: you use honey or use sugar like water with sugar.

1135
00:51:09,680 --> 00:51:10,880
Speaker 3: And there's so many out there.

1136
00:51:10,920 --> 00:51:13,640
Speaker 2: I mean, I feel like as Latina in a culture

1137
00:51:13,640 --> 00:51:16,040
Speaker 2: that we have so many of these superstitions, you know,

1138
00:51:16,120 --> 00:51:18,280
Speaker 2: and they're all fun, you know, they're all like fun

1139
00:51:18,320 --> 00:51:19,239
Speaker 2: and funny and.

1140
00:51:19,880 --> 00:51:25,560
Speaker 1: Yeah, and I think that the the mental energy you

1141
00:51:25,560 --> 00:51:29,200
Speaker 1: put into it is actually what makes it happen, you know,

1142
00:51:30,320 --> 00:51:33,560
Speaker 1: just not just the act of a little sugar and

1143
00:51:33,600 --> 00:51:36,040
Speaker 1: a honey and here. The fact that you believe that

1144
00:51:36,080 --> 00:51:39,200
Speaker 1: it's going to give you a result is what makes

1145
00:51:39,200 --> 00:51:42,000
Speaker 1: it work. If it works, it all. But they are

1146
00:51:42,120 --> 00:51:44,120
Speaker 1: certainly fun folklore, that's for sure.

1147
00:51:44,640 --> 00:51:45,040
Speaker 3: Mm hmm.

1148
00:51:45,360 --> 00:51:45,600
Speaker 1: Yeah.

1149
00:51:46,239 --> 00:51:51,799
Speaker 3: I love let a candle's yeah, the candle like the flowers,

1150
00:51:51,920 --> 00:51:52,360
Speaker 3: the water.

1151
00:51:53,000 --> 00:51:55,160
Speaker 1: That's the first thing I did when Garrett came home,

1152
00:51:55,239 --> 00:51:57,799
Speaker 1: the candle still sitting there, the Jills Ren candle. He

1153
00:51:57,960 --> 00:51:59,640
Speaker 1: was like, like, you want a candle and me put

1154
00:51:59,640 --> 00:51:59,959
Speaker 1: a candle.

1155
00:52:00,680 --> 00:52:02,839
Speaker 2: Why does it have to be Jills Darren's candle. Why

1156
00:52:02,840 --> 00:52:04,120
Speaker 2: can't it just be diptique.

1157
00:52:04,719 --> 00:52:06,600
Speaker 1: No, Well, because that's what.

1158
00:52:07,320 --> 00:52:10,040
Speaker 3: Have any like special superstitious qualities.

1159
00:52:10,320 --> 00:52:15,120
Speaker 1: Actually, so her candles have stones and gems in them

1160
00:52:15,280 --> 00:52:21,279
Speaker 1: for energy. They actually have real gemstones in them for healing. Yeah.

1161
00:52:21,719 --> 00:52:23,399
Speaker 1: And I had a fresh one in there and it's

1162
00:52:23,560 --> 00:52:26,200
Speaker 1: and the candle said be happy on the outside, and

1163
00:52:26,239 --> 00:52:27,080
Speaker 1: I thought, me.

1164
00:52:27,120 --> 00:52:29,920
Speaker 3: Like happy, yeah, And.

1165
00:52:29,800 --> 00:52:32,080
Speaker 1: He loved it smelled like vanilla. He was relaxed. It

1166
00:52:32,200 --> 00:52:34,759
Speaker 1: was good. Yeah, candles beautiful.

1167
00:52:35,239 --> 00:52:37,480
Speaker 2: It's all medic and all you need at home are

1168
00:52:37,520 --> 00:52:40,560
Speaker 2: flowers and candles. To me, that just changes like the

1169
00:52:40,600 --> 00:52:43,040
Speaker 2: whole mood and vibe of the house.

1170
00:52:43,760 --> 00:52:45,359
Speaker 1: It smells like Vanilla so much.

1171
00:52:45,440 --> 00:52:48,719
Speaker 2: It's right here, be happy, Okay, Lena, I like it.

1172
00:52:49,280 --> 00:52:52,880
Speaker 2: So everybody wants to know about our fitness and beauty routine.

1173
00:52:53,320 --> 00:52:56,080
Speaker 1: Hypo forward. There's nothing I can talk about here. So

1174
00:52:56,160 --> 00:52:57,000
Speaker 1: we have a do we have.

1175
00:52:58,520 --> 00:53:01,759
Speaker 3: The I put forward? Was I'm really really fit?

1176
00:53:01,800 --> 00:53:04,520
Speaker 2: In context? Because I put forward for you? Like, so

1177
00:53:04,560 --> 00:53:07,160
Speaker 2: what did you? Obviously don't do anything for fitness?

1178
00:53:07,600 --> 00:53:09,480
Speaker 1: Yeah, thank you?

1179
00:53:09,080 --> 00:53:11,359
Speaker 3: No, no, I don't know.

1180
00:53:11,560 --> 00:53:13,880
Speaker 1: So no I'm so I'm saying yes, thank you for

1181
00:53:13,960 --> 00:53:18,480
Speaker 1: that entre No I I unfortunately I'm a poor example

1182
00:53:18,560 --> 00:53:22,799
Speaker 1: of fitness. I don't like to perspire. I don't like

1183
00:53:22,880 --> 00:53:26,319
Speaker 1: to be hot. I don't Yeah, I don't like any

1184
00:53:26,320 --> 00:53:28,640
Speaker 1: of that. I've tried a few, like to move.

1185
00:53:29,080 --> 00:53:32,000
Speaker 2: I've seen you play tennis. You can play tennis, I mean,

1186
00:53:32,320 --> 00:53:33,360
Speaker 2: but it's less routine.

1187
00:53:33,840 --> 00:53:36,520
Speaker 1: If someone puts me in some sort of a game

1188
00:53:36,560 --> 00:53:39,880
Speaker 1: where I have to win, I will. I will to

1189
00:53:39,960 --> 00:53:43,239
Speaker 1: win because I like to win. But I'm not athletic

1190
00:53:43,280 --> 00:53:46,040
Speaker 1: at all, super competitive, zero athleticism.

1191
00:53:46,760 --> 00:53:49,520
Speaker 3: So nothing for fitness. Okay, what about for beauty?

1192
00:53:50,400 --> 00:53:53,520
Speaker 1: For beauty so you know, for me, like I think

1193
00:53:53,560 --> 00:53:55,719
Speaker 1: we talked about this a little bit before, a little

1194
00:53:55,719 --> 00:53:57,719
Speaker 1: bit less for me as less. It's more. I do

1195
00:53:57,880 --> 00:54:00,799
Speaker 1: my boat talk. I've all as all the time without

1196
00:54:00,840 --> 00:54:03,160
Speaker 1: moisturizer on my face. I used to be better about it.

1197
00:54:03,960 --> 00:54:04,680
Speaker 1: I try not to.

1198
00:54:04,800 --> 00:54:07,120
Speaker 3: You don't want to give people your no, no, no.

1199
00:54:07,120 --> 00:54:11,920
Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, well I actually switch on your to aquafor

1200
00:54:12,400 --> 00:54:14,640
Speaker 1: I put it because I have very dry skin, though,

1201
00:54:14,680 --> 00:54:17,520
Speaker 1: so my skin soaks everything up, plus the pillow picks

1202
00:54:17,520 --> 00:54:19,880
Speaker 1: it up. So I use something very thick because I

1203
00:54:19,920 --> 00:54:22,600
Speaker 1: have dry skin. I do my aquafor. I do my boatox.

1204
00:54:22,880 --> 00:54:26,080
Speaker 1: I get a couple of strings once a year just

1205
00:54:26,120 --> 00:54:29,120
Speaker 1: to help with you know, lift the underneath my neck.

1206
00:54:29,640 --> 00:54:30,919
Speaker 3: And you don't have to say so much.

1207
00:54:31,040 --> 00:54:33,759
Speaker 2: Beauty could be like you know, nutrigena and oil oble

1208
00:54:34,040 --> 00:54:35,560
Speaker 2: like I was just talking about creams.

1209
00:54:35,600 --> 00:54:39,200
Speaker 1: I take no vitamins. I'm a hot mess, but you

1210
00:54:39,200 --> 00:54:40,400
Speaker 1: know here I am clean.

1211
00:54:40,520 --> 00:54:43,040
Speaker 2: I'm pretty good, my friend, I don't think so. You're

1212
00:54:43,120 --> 00:54:46,279
Speaker 2: very healthy and you look good, you know, you know it.

1213
00:54:47,080 --> 00:54:49,200
Speaker 1: Must be some good jeans, because I don't think I

1214
00:54:49,239 --> 00:54:50,400
Speaker 1: really take care of myself.

1215
00:54:50,800 --> 00:54:51,080
Speaker 3: Jeans.

1216
00:54:51,120 --> 00:54:56,280
Speaker 2: You're good doctors, you know, yeah, yeah, yeah, or doctor both.

1217
00:54:58,040 --> 00:54:59,840
Speaker 1: What's your cigarette a?

1218
00:55:00,920 --> 00:55:02,440
Speaker 3: I was born that way and I'm kidding.

1219
00:55:02,560 --> 00:55:06,840
Speaker 1: Yeah, I woke up like this, right, never sleep with kidding?

1220
00:55:07,320 --> 00:55:09,440
Speaker 2: Well, you know, I know I do that. All you

1221
00:55:09,480 --> 00:55:12,120
Speaker 2: girls get mad at me because sometimes I do that.

1222
00:55:12,480 --> 00:55:14,600
Speaker 2: But the only reason why I sleep with makeup sometimes

1223
00:55:14,719 --> 00:55:16,960
Speaker 2: is because the next day I need my makeup done

1224
00:55:17,160 --> 00:55:18,960
Speaker 2: and I don't feel like sitting in a chair for

1225
00:55:19,000 --> 00:55:21,520
Speaker 2: another hour and a half. So I say, you know what,

1226
00:55:21,680 --> 00:55:23,680
Speaker 2: let me just keep my makeup on and just sleep

1227
00:55:23,719 --> 00:55:25,400
Speaker 2: on it, and then the next day I use it

1228
00:55:25,440 --> 00:55:26,319
Speaker 2: and then I take it off.

1229
00:55:26,360 --> 00:55:28,239
Speaker 3: But luckily for me, I do have good skin.

1230
00:55:29,520 --> 00:55:32,239
Speaker 1: Doesn't that make you feel tired? I feel exhausted. If

1231
00:55:32,280 --> 00:55:35,200
Speaker 1: I wake up with my making.

1232
00:55:34,320 --> 00:55:38,320
Speaker 2: I feel exhausted. I feel like I have to sleep

1233
00:55:38,320 --> 00:55:41,200
Speaker 2: the same. My sleep is not as good because I

1234
00:55:41,200 --> 00:55:43,120
Speaker 2: think I'm a little bit cautious about it, like am

1235
00:55:43,120 --> 00:55:44,960
Speaker 2: I going to get my pillow dirty? Which the answer

1236
00:55:45,000 --> 00:55:50,680
Speaker 2: is yes, by the way, for something well minor extensions.

1237
00:55:50,719 --> 00:55:52,759
Speaker 3: I don't have the strip the last strip, so I

1238
00:55:52,760 --> 00:55:55,440
Speaker 3: don't do that. But it's worth it.

1239
00:55:55,440 --> 00:55:57,560
Speaker 2: It's worth it because the fact that I have to

1240
00:55:57,600 --> 00:56:00,200
Speaker 2: wake up the next day earlier and just in the

1241
00:56:00,239 --> 00:56:01,640
Speaker 2: chair for an hour for makeup.

1242
00:56:01,840 --> 00:56:03,600
Speaker 1: Save a couple of hundred recycle it.

1243
00:56:03,480 --> 00:56:06,520
Speaker 2: And save two or three hundred dollars. So yes, but

1244
00:56:06,760 --> 00:56:08,799
Speaker 2: I do watch my face every day, you know. I

1245
00:56:08,800 --> 00:56:11,000
Speaker 2: think my secret has been, like I've never really worn

1246
00:56:11,080 --> 00:56:14,239
Speaker 2: a lot of makeup. And with that being said, foundation.

1247
00:56:14,480 --> 00:56:18,799
Speaker 2: I never used foundation to like an older adult like

1248
00:56:18,920 --> 00:56:22,600
Speaker 2: into like my late thirties. Truthfully, I never wore like

1249
00:56:22,640 --> 00:56:25,640
Speaker 2: My makeup regimen was very simple. It was only like,

1250
00:56:26,040 --> 00:56:29,800
Speaker 2: you know, mascara, lip gloss, maybe a little bit of blush.

1251
00:56:30,320 --> 00:56:34,880
Speaker 2: I never really young, no, but not really because the

1252
00:56:34,920 --> 00:56:36,880
Speaker 2: other young ones now are the ones that do.

1253
00:56:36,760 --> 00:56:39,440
Speaker 3: Their face like a lot. I've seeing the young girls

1254
00:56:39,520 --> 00:56:42,920
Speaker 3: amount of makeup that they wear all the what is that?

1255
00:56:43,120 --> 00:56:44,080
Speaker 3: So that's what I'm telling you.

1256
00:56:44,200 --> 00:56:47,840
Speaker 2: I never really did anything to like my late thirties.

1257
00:56:47,880 --> 00:56:50,560
Speaker 2: And with that being said, even like makeup and I

1258
00:56:50,600 --> 00:56:53,200
Speaker 2: did both talks for the first time in my early forties,

1259
00:56:53,239 --> 00:56:55,799
Speaker 2: and sporadically I would do it. So I think I

1260
00:56:55,840 --> 00:56:58,359
Speaker 2: had like a late start, you know, as far as

1261
00:56:58,400 --> 00:57:02,080
Speaker 2: like beauty, you know, beauty products and all that. I

1262
00:57:02,160 --> 00:57:04,759
Speaker 2: do love to change up like the brands like so

1263
00:57:05,000 --> 00:57:07,319
Speaker 2: I'll use Lamer, I'll buy Lamur, and once I'm done

1264
00:57:07,360 --> 00:57:09,720
Speaker 2: with the whole Lamer thing, I'll change feel like Babor

1265
00:57:10,200 --> 00:57:12,680
Speaker 2: when I'm done with like Babor, you know, I'll change

1266
00:57:12,719 --> 00:57:13,520
Speaker 2: to Nutrigina.

1267
00:57:13,920 --> 00:57:16,040
Speaker 3: So I know it's crazy, but I like to try

1268
00:57:16,080 --> 00:57:16,600
Speaker 3: different things.

1269
00:57:16,800 --> 00:57:19,480
Speaker 1: I say, it's good to do that, to change the

1270
00:57:19,480 --> 00:57:21,840
Speaker 1: brands and the cosmetics and not to do the same routine.

1271
00:57:21,880 --> 00:57:23,680
Speaker 1: Just like with your hair, you have to mix it up.

1272
00:57:24,080 --> 00:57:26,120
Speaker 3: Yeah, yeah, So I love to do that.

1273
00:57:26,240 --> 00:57:28,720
Speaker 2: And for fitness, for me, I I've always had to

1274
00:57:28,920 --> 00:57:31,920
Speaker 2: kind of work out because I have the body, that

1275
00:57:32,040 --> 00:57:34,600
Speaker 2: kind of body or like again the Latino body where

1276
00:57:34,600 --> 00:57:36,360
Speaker 2: I have the big legs and the button the whole thing.

1277
00:57:36,400 --> 00:57:38,960
Speaker 2: So I need to be working out, especially now at

1278
00:57:39,000 --> 00:57:39,560
Speaker 2: our age.

1279
00:57:39,880 --> 00:57:43,560
Speaker 1: I feel like you don't miss a workout, you don't

1280
00:57:43,600 --> 00:57:44,920
Speaker 1: miss the work you're pretty good.

1281
00:57:44,920 --> 00:57:47,520
Speaker 2: I think it's all mental. Like for me, that's how

1282
00:57:47,560 --> 00:57:49,440
Speaker 2: I start my day, like I don't even think about it.

1283
00:57:49,480 --> 00:57:51,479
Speaker 2: I put on my workout clothes. I have the gym

1284
00:57:51,520 --> 00:57:53,600
Speaker 2: here downstairs, so that's a plus. I don't have to

1285
00:57:53,640 --> 00:57:55,960
Speaker 2: drive to the gym, and I have a trainer three

1286
00:57:56,000 --> 00:57:58,160
Speaker 2: times a week, so for me, it's like automatic.

1287
00:57:58,320 --> 00:57:58,480
Speaker 3: You know.

1288
00:57:58,520 --> 00:58:00,720
Speaker 2: I brush my teeth, washed my face, I have my

1289
00:58:00,800 --> 00:58:03,240
Speaker 2: coffee actually before I write the gym and then I

1290
00:58:03,320 --> 00:58:04,880
Speaker 2: just work out of the gym and it gets me,

1291
00:58:05,440 --> 00:58:06,240
Speaker 2: it wakes me up.

1292
00:58:06,360 --> 00:58:08,600
Speaker 3: It makes me feel good about myself. You know.

1293
00:58:08,680 --> 00:58:10,640
Speaker 2: It kind of like starts my day. I think about

1294
00:58:10,680 --> 00:58:13,120
Speaker 2: all the things that I need to do and get done. Yeah,

1295
00:58:13,200 --> 00:58:15,920
Speaker 2: and from there I'm ready to like shower or not shower,

1296
00:58:16,280 --> 00:58:18,600
Speaker 2: depends how much I sweat, and then I just you know,

1297
00:58:18,720 --> 00:58:20,720
Speaker 2: keep onto the beauty bar or like go on with

1298
00:58:20,760 --> 00:58:22,680
Speaker 2: my day whatever it is that I need to do.

1299
00:58:23,000 --> 00:58:26,320
Speaker 2: But for me, fitness is very important. I mean, fitness

1300
00:58:26,400 --> 00:58:28,120
Speaker 2: is part of my beauty routine for me.

1301
00:58:29,160 --> 00:58:34,800
Speaker 1: Well done. You. I wish I could be like that, Honestly,

1302
00:58:34,840 --> 00:58:36,560
Speaker 1: I wish I could. I wish I loved it. If

1303
00:58:36,600 --> 00:58:38,800
Speaker 1: I did, I know, I'd be like ripped and fabulous.

1304
00:58:38,920 --> 00:58:39,120
Speaker 3: Yeah.

1305
00:58:39,160 --> 00:58:40,600
Speaker 2: I mean I don't want to be ripped because you know,

1306
00:58:40,640 --> 00:58:42,320
Speaker 2: at our age some book, I'm trying to be ripped.

1307
00:58:42,760 --> 00:58:44,400
Speaker 3: But you know, I like my clothes to look good.

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Speaker 2: And like I said, I've really noticed, like in this

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Speaker 2: time in our lives that you start getting flabby.

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Speaker 3: I mean, it is what it is. Okay.

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Speaker 2: So who is your style inspiration? Do you have any

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Speaker 2: like anybody you look to for like a style inspell.

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Speaker 1: I'm trying to think of do I say that I always.

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Speaker 3: Like somebody, oh, Zerra Burn, Coco Chanel.

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Speaker 1: I love Audrey Hepburn, But you know, I always like

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Speaker 1: what she wears. What's that blonde? Kate Blanchet. I love

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Speaker 1: the way Kate Blanchet dresses. She always dresses on point

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Speaker 1: for me, you know, I like her style.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, and you my inspose is.

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Speaker 2: I knew, but you know what, she could be sexy,

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Speaker 2: she could also be conservative and elegant.

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Speaker 3: She just for me. She's always on point. She always

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Speaker 3: kills it and.

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Speaker 1: She saw well we said it at the same time.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, of course I knew who yours would be too.

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Speaker 2: I mean, I didn't know Kate Blanchet, but she does

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Speaker 2: have great style. But I feel like Jlo always dresses

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Speaker 2: like appropriate for the occasion, And to me, that's part

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Speaker 2: of yeah, you know, knowing knowing how to dress.

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Speaker 3: It's not like, oh, she had a beautiful dress, but like.

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Speaker 1: She's definitely gotten better over time.

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Speaker 3: Definitely feel like she else it.

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Speaker 2: If she goes to a Good Morning America, she's wearing

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Speaker 2: like a sue or she's wearing like a turtleneck. You know,

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Speaker 2: she knows how to dress for the occasion for me.

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Speaker 1: Turtle neck signature.

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Speaker 3: Excited.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, I hear turtleneck and I get lady would it's

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Speaker 1: my signature.

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Speaker 3: Bro. But we live in Miami. When do I wear

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Speaker 3: a turtle like when I go to New York?

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Speaker 1: Now, Lamas, I can I wear turtle like in all weather?

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Speaker 3: Yeah? I know, Yeah, I feel like you just wore

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Speaker 3: one recently.

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Speaker 1: I did. You were visiting, Yeah, and it was blazing high.

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Speaker 3: It was like ninety degrees and it was black, I

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Speaker 3: mean not even white. You could have worn a white turtleneck.

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Speaker 1: Oh no, because my nipples would show throw on that. No, no, no,

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Speaker 1: no, no no. When you around a bunch of ladies. Okay,

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Speaker 1: why do anyone get in the wrong idea? Well, my love,

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Speaker 1: I love you.

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Speaker 3: I love you.

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Speaker 2: I thank you guys, thank you for listening. It's been

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Speaker 2: so much fun. Please continue to send us questions.

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Speaker 1: Oh my god, I love when we do personal questions.

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Speaker 1: That's my favorite. Right.

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Speaker 2: Yes, Well, you know what, maybe next week we can

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Speaker 2: continue because we're leaving a few questions out and we

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Speaker 2: are being asked about our mommies and how our moms

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Speaker 2: came to the US. So maybe that's something we can

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Speaker 2: talk about and start off our next podcast with.

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Speaker 1: That absolutely, that would be great. Okay, love you bye everyone.

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