1 00:00:00,440 --> 00:00:03,440 Speaker 1: Lisa Lampinelli is not a licensed therapist or life coach. 2 00:00:03,520 --> 00:00:05,720 Speaker 1: She is a meddling advice giving yana and know it 3 00:00:05,760 --> 00:00:07,680 Speaker 1: all and her words come from her head, her heart, 4 00:00:07,720 --> 00:00:10,319 Speaker 1: and often out of her ass. This podcast should not 5 00:00:10,360 --> 00:00:12,520 Speaker 1: be misconstrued as therapy. I should be taking with a 6 00:00:12,640 --> 00:00:15,520 Speaker 1: huge strain of salt for entertainment purposes only. 7 00:00:16,800 --> 00:00:27,560 Speaker 2: These. You need help, You're the problems. Come on, come down, 8 00:00:29,480 --> 00:00:37,800 Speaker 2: go lamb take a pill. I think you're insane. Do 9 00:00:37,880 --> 00:00:47,600 Speaker 2: what I say, dumb ass. Listen to me, everybody. It 10 00:00:47,680 --> 00:00:53,200 Speaker 2: is a festive, wonderful day in studio. This is Lisa 11 00:00:53,280 --> 00:00:58,760 Speaker 2: Lambinelli with Shrink. This the podcast because gosh darn it. 12 00:00:58,840 --> 00:01:01,320 Speaker 2: The reason we're so happy he is our little producer. 13 00:01:02,120 --> 00:01:06,840 Speaker 2: Celia is back from the near dead. Remember a week 14 00:01:06,880 --> 00:01:10,800 Speaker 2: ago it was super scary because Celia had the flu 15 00:01:10,880 --> 00:01:13,720 Speaker 2: that was killing everyone and I don't mean the bird 16 00:01:13,800 --> 00:01:18,160 Speaker 2: flu that's just for the Asians. Well, Celia is back 17 00:01:18,240 --> 00:01:20,480 Speaker 2: and she looks better than ever. I have to say 18 00:01:20,560 --> 00:01:23,640 Speaker 2: the flu is great for weight, ma and n'sn loss. 19 00:01:23,840 --> 00:01:25,960 Speaker 3: I've actually gained weight and oh well that's good. 20 00:01:25,959 --> 00:01:28,679 Speaker 2: Then you were too skinty girl, and I do like 21 00:01:28,800 --> 00:01:32,280 Speaker 2: your your little look you've got your makeup done. You 22 00:01:32,360 --> 00:01:35,640 Speaker 2: look very much like I'm fully recovered and ready to 23 00:01:35,640 --> 00:01:37,400 Speaker 2: stop making mistakes. 24 00:01:38,720 --> 00:01:40,360 Speaker 4: Which is the theme for today. 25 00:01:40,560 --> 00:01:44,920 Speaker 2: Yes it is, and so welcome back. I want to 26 00:01:44,959 --> 00:01:48,640 Speaker 2: say we missed you, but I can't. Okay, we did 27 00:01:48,720 --> 00:01:50,520 Speaker 2: miss you, but then I don't want like Stephanie r 28 00:01:50,680 --> 00:01:57,040 Speaker 2: fillin second rate loser. Stephanie Field did. She did a 29 00:01:57,080 --> 00:01:58,640 Speaker 2: fine job, but there's only one. 30 00:01:58,520 --> 00:02:06,480 Speaker 5: Celia Celiah, sweet and lovely Cela. She's a little county 31 00:02:07,000 --> 00:02:09,560 Speaker 5: and a shrinks us because. 32 00:02:09,320 --> 00:02:15,359 Speaker 2: That drinks a dyke. I don't know. Also, here vibrator 33 00:02:15,400 --> 00:02:19,679 Speaker 2: in hand is Nick scope. Lady, say hi Nick, everyone, Nick, 34 00:02:19,720 --> 00:02:23,160 Speaker 2: why do you have a telephone next to you? Is 35 00:02:23,160 --> 00:02:24,320 Speaker 2: about to take caller? 36 00:02:24,480 --> 00:02:26,800 Speaker 4: Yes, this is clearly from the morning show. I don't 37 00:02:26,840 --> 00:02:28,680 Speaker 4: have this, and one time I picked up the phone 38 00:02:28,680 --> 00:02:29,840 Speaker 4: and Celia yelled at me. 39 00:02:30,160 --> 00:02:31,520 Speaker 2: Don't can't do that. 40 00:02:32,040 --> 00:02:34,560 Speaker 4: So this is what I'm talking to today because. 41 00:02:34,320 --> 00:02:38,040 Speaker 2: We look, this is where Elvis Durant tapes his morning show. 42 00:02:38,320 --> 00:02:41,680 Speaker 2: So for some reason, there's two purple vibrators on chairs. 43 00:02:41,800 --> 00:02:44,760 Speaker 2: I'm imagining they weren't up someone's ass already because Nick's 44 00:02:44,760 --> 00:02:48,000 Speaker 2: talking into one right yeah, well. 45 00:02:47,919 --> 00:02:50,680 Speaker 4: Oh no, smells like a fish market on this thing. 46 00:02:51,720 --> 00:02:55,280 Speaker 2: It's getting cut right out. Okay, put it down this 47 00:02:55,280 --> 00:03:02,799 Speaker 2: camera stop. I have a question, Sya. Do you own 48 00:03:02,840 --> 00:03:06,280 Speaker 2: a vibrator? No, you don't. Neither do I and I 49 00:03:06,320 --> 00:03:08,240 Speaker 2: don't because I joked with you before. I was like, oh, 50 00:03:08,240 --> 00:03:10,639 Speaker 2: I'll take that one home. I don't know, because I'm 51 00:03:10,680 --> 00:03:13,920 Speaker 2: from the era we didn't do that. I don't know 52 00:03:13,919 --> 00:03:15,640 Speaker 2: if i'd know how to use it. I don't know. 53 00:03:15,760 --> 00:03:17,519 Speaker 2: Does that go up oneself? 54 00:03:18,000 --> 00:03:20,280 Speaker 3: I couldn't tell you. I don't know why. That's so like. 55 00:03:20,720 --> 00:03:22,000 Speaker 2: Bulbous, so big. 56 00:03:22,160 --> 00:03:24,080 Speaker 4: This looks like an which is so big. 57 00:03:24,120 --> 00:03:25,919 Speaker 2: You're clearly only been with white guys. 58 00:03:26,160 --> 00:03:32,560 Speaker 3: It's like that's like my forearm. But I can't understand. 59 00:03:32,560 --> 00:03:33,440 Speaker 3: Why would the handle. 60 00:03:36,200 --> 00:03:40,160 Speaker 2: We're clearly asking questions of the wrong person because Nick 61 00:03:40,240 --> 00:03:43,400 Speaker 2: seems to have verbiage around this. So Nick, I don't 62 00:03:43,400 --> 00:03:47,160 Speaker 2: want anything too dirty, but just yes or no. So 63 00:03:47,240 --> 00:03:51,680 Speaker 2: you have used something like that with some with a partner, Yes, 64 00:03:51,800 --> 00:03:56,120 Speaker 2: as the expert, so you would say that, and again 65 00:03:56,200 --> 00:03:59,920 Speaker 2: not to be graphic, so that is used externally basic. 66 00:04:00,760 --> 00:04:02,600 Speaker 4: I would say you could probably go a little internally. 67 00:04:02,640 --> 00:04:04,680 Speaker 4: But Celia's talking about the whole handle here. 68 00:04:06,000 --> 00:04:09,240 Speaker 2: What are you mental Charles and stuff. 69 00:04:09,360 --> 00:04:11,880 Speaker 3: I'm saying that that part goes inside of you. I'm 70 00:04:11,920 --> 00:04:15,640 Speaker 3: saying that that part is unnecessarily long and large. 71 00:04:15,640 --> 00:04:17,400 Speaker 4: Well, you got to reach and you don't know what's 72 00:04:17,440 --> 00:04:17,800 Speaker 4: going on. 73 00:04:17,839 --> 00:04:23,240 Speaker 2: You know, it's not unnecessarily long and large. Nicks penis incorrect, 74 00:04:23,400 --> 00:04:28,440 Speaker 2: it's small, Nick. Where can people find you? 75 00:04:25,800 --> 00:04:33,880 Speaker 4: If you can find me at Stephanie Lane Underscore, you 76 00:04:33,880 --> 00:04:36,680 Speaker 4: can find me at nick Scopes on Instagram and TikTok. 77 00:04:36,720 --> 00:04:39,400 Speaker 4: And I know all about this sex stuff you do. 78 00:04:39,560 --> 00:04:44,320 Speaker 2: You don't post about that, though, which I'm very grateful for. No, no, 79 00:04:44,440 --> 00:04:44,960 Speaker 2: darn it. 80 00:04:45,160 --> 00:04:47,920 Speaker 4: I don't put my talents out there requested. 81 00:04:48,240 --> 00:04:52,520 Speaker 2: Clearly, you put no talent on the show. So welcome back, Celia. 82 00:04:52,560 --> 00:04:55,040 Speaker 2: We're happy to have you sitting there texting other people 83 00:04:56,320 --> 00:05:00,960 Speaker 2: the old days. I think she's actually texted she's GBT, going, 84 00:05:01,000 --> 00:05:05,560 Speaker 2: how do I use a vibrator? Let's see how I 85 00:05:05,680 --> 00:05:09,279 Speaker 2: get why my generation of people doesn't have them because 86 00:05:09,320 --> 00:05:12,279 Speaker 2: we just didn't grow up that way. How is someone 87 00:05:12,320 --> 00:05:15,560 Speaker 2: of your generation not have a vibrator or is it 88 00:05:15,600 --> 00:05:16,880 Speaker 2: just something that doesn't occur to you? 89 00:05:17,360 --> 00:05:19,400 Speaker 3: Yeah, honestly, for me, it doesn't occur to me. Most 90 00:05:19,440 --> 00:05:24,360 Speaker 3: of my friends do, and like they are obsessed with theirs. Yea, 91 00:05:24,640 --> 00:05:26,760 Speaker 3: like they just rave about it and they don't understand 92 00:05:26,760 --> 00:05:28,760 Speaker 3: how like some of my other friends and my friend 93 00:05:28,800 --> 00:05:32,240 Speaker 3: group don't have one. Yeah, I just am not. Like 94 00:05:33,320 --> 00:05:35,919 Speaker 3: I'm not going to go out of my way to 95 00:05:36,080 --> 00:05:38,800 Speaker 3: buy one. In my personal humble opinion, what. 96 00:05:38,760 --> 00:05:41,240 Speaker 2: If you were gifted one, I'm not going to. But 97 00:05:41,400 --> 00:05:42,719 Speaker 2: if you were gifted one. 98 00:05:42,640 --> 00:05:45,080 Speaker 3: I've seen that happen with my friends too. I don't 99 00:05:45,120 --> 00:05:46,560 Speaker 3: think that I would really like that. 100 00:05:46,880 --> 00:05:50,360 Speaker 2: Because I was gifted one once by one mister Gabriel 101 00:05:50,480 --> 00:05:54,200 Speaker 2: Fluffy Iglecias. Why because we were doing this big show 102 00:05:54,400 --> 00:05:59,960 Speaker 2: years ago at some massive place in LA and he said, 103 00:06:00,480 --> 00:06:02,800 Speaker 2: I think I was joking with him one night backstage 104 00:06:02,839 --> 00:06:05,120 Speaker 2: about like I don't need that. I don't need a 105 00:06:05,200 --> 00:06:08,279 Speaker 2: vibrator and he reps one up, brand new one. He 106 00:06:08,320 --> 00:06:11,360 Speaker 2: goes with a note on just says this one changed 107 00:06:11,400 --> 00:06:15,719 Speaker 2: my wife's life. And I literally took it. I was 108 00:06:15,800 --> 00:06:19,200 Speaker 2: so embarrassed because you can't throw it away because then 109 00:06:19,240 --> 00:06:21,520 Speaker 2: the maid in the hotel is going to be like, oh, 110 00:06:21,560 --> 00:06:25,200 Speaker 2: she's dirty. You can't give it away because you kind 111 00:06:25,200 --> 00:06:27,880 Speaker 2: of have to own it. You have to then oh, 112 00:06:28,240 --> 00:06:32,360 Speaker 2: I have this. I remember once I kept it at 113 00:06:32,400 --> 00:06:35,440 Speaker 2: a house that I owned. I have many houses, as 114 00:06:35,440 --> 00:06:38,599 Speaker 2: you at Canyon Ranch. Else by, I owned a house 115 00:06:38,960 --> 00:06:41,159 Speaker 2: and I needed a dress that was there. Did I 116 00:06:41,160 --> 00:06:43,440 Speaker 2: tell you this story? Nick? I needed to dress that 117 00:06:43,520 --> 00:06:45,400 Speaker 2: was out there for a TV thing. So I sent 118 00:06:45,600 --> 00:06:49,200 Speaker 2: this is this sounds like I'm classy and moneyed, but 119 00:06:49,279 --> 00:06:53,320 Speaker 2: I don't care, do it? Okay? So I flew my 120 00:06:53,480 --> 00:06:57,360 Speaker 2: assistant to get the dress in Tucson, and I said, 121 00:06:57,360 --> 00:07:01,520 Speaker 2: while you're there, stay in the house. Obviously, while you're there, 122 00:07:01,800 --> 00:07:05,960 Speaker 2: please just list off what's in the closet to see 123 00:07:05,960 --> 00:07:08,680 Speaker 2: if you should bring anything else home. And she was 124 00:07:08,760 --> 00:07:15,160 Speaker 2: this little adorable like almost like not a cliche, a 125 00:07:15,400 --> 00:07:18,120 Speaker 2: stereotype of the little assistant in the black dress, like 126 00:07:18,200 --> 00:07:21,080 Speaker 2: right out of college, really sweet with the little pixie cut. 127 00:07:21,240 --> 00:07:23,240 Speaker 2: And she's like going through the clouds. I go, well, 128 00:07:23,280 --> 00:07:25,000 Speaker 2: what's on the top shelf. What's on She goes, Oh, 129 00:07:25,000 --> 00:07:30,239 Speaker 2: there's some shoes. And she goes and there's like this thing. 130 00:07:31,160 --> 00:07:35,080 Speaker 2: I'm like what. She goes It's in a box. And 131 00:07:35,120 --> 00:07:38,920 Speaker 2: I'm like, oh, I go, Jackie, no, I go, I 132 00:07:39,000 --> 00:07:42,800 Speaker 2: promise you I've never used it. It's her manically sealed. 133 00:07:43,000 --> 00:07:46,080 Speaker 2: I never took it out, and Gabriel Iglacias said it 134 00:07:46,120 --> 00:07:48,480 Speaker 2: to me, and she's like, I know this is all lies, 135 00:07:49,080 --> 00:07:51,640 Speaker 2: and she I go, do my favorite, just throwing a 136 00:07:51,680 --> 00:07:55,160 Speaker 2: dumpster because I'm not there. They'll think it's yours. And 137 00:07:55,200 --> 00:07:58,440 Speaker 2: she's like, okay, now that's a good assistant. Well, they'll 138 00:07:58,480 --> 00:08:01,960 Speaker 2: fall under a bus onto a vibrator. For you. Life 139 00:08:02,080 --> 00:08:02,480 Speaker 2: is good. 140 00:08:02,760 --> 00:08:06,280 Speaker 4: You got me a smell of an assistant yet vibrators 141 00:08:06,280 --> 00:08:06,880 Speaker 4: in the studio. 142 00:08:07,120 --> 00:08:09,440 Speaker 2: Yes, exactly, all right, put it down so you take 143 00:08:09,480 --> 00:08:13,520 Speaker 2: it away from him. Honestly, I'm about to, okay. 144 00:08:13,360 --> 00:08:14,679 Speaker 4: And take it home Tonight. 145 00:08:14,840 --> 00:08:20,280 Speaker 2: Tonight today we're going to talk about not cliches. I 146 00:08:20,320 --> 00:08:25,080 Speaker 2: had this idea to do a show about platitudes. Do 147 00:08:25,160 --> 00:08:26,360 Speaker 2: you know what a platitude is? 148 00:08:26,560 --> 00:08:28,080 Speaker 4: It's like an animal, like a platypus. 149 00:08:28,280 --> 00:08:29,920 Speaker 2: No, it's a saying. 150 00:08:33,120 --> 00:08:35,079 Speaker 4: It's an animal with the water. 151 00:08:35,160 --> 00:08:38,760 Speaker 2: Platitude is a saying that it's possibly become a cliche 152 00:08:39,760 --> 00:08:43,600 Speaker 2: and is possibly annoying everyone around you a lot. Sadly, 153 00:08:43,640 --> 00:08:46,400 Speaker 2: when I printed out a list of common platitudes that 154 00:08:46,440 --> 00:08:48,800 Speaker 2: people say often, I was like, wow, I used to 155 00:08:48,840 --> 00:08:51,960 Speaker 2: don't I used to do I used to know I 156 00:08:52,080 --> 00:08:52,680 Speaker 2: used to don't. 157 00:08:52,720 --> 00:08:52,960 Speaker 3: Didn't. 158 00:08:53,320 --> 00:08:59,920 Speaker 2: Now welcome to the folk fucking context. Okay, I didn't 159 00:09:00,120 --> 00:09:02,000 Speaker 2: used to believe a lot of these things, But in 160 00:09:02,040 --> 00:09:04,840 Speaker 2: my older age, I am definitely feeling like they're true. 161 00:09:05,280 --> 00:09:08,240 Speaker 2: Like if I had heard one more time in my youth, 162 00:09:08,360 --> 00:09:11,120 Speaker 2: if you have got your health, you have got everything, 163 00:09:11,200 --> 00:09:14,000 Speaker 2: I was like, I have no perspective. I'm thirty, I 164 00:09:14,000 --> 00:09:16,200 Speaker 2: don't care. I don't feel like I have everything just 165 00:09:16,280 --> 00:09:20,200 Speaker 2: because I have good blood work. But as you get older, 166 00:09:20,720 --> 00:09:24,720 Speaker 2: you're like, oh my god, that is true. Like if 167 00:09:24,760 --> 00:09:28,200 Speaker 2: you've got your health, you've no other problems stack up 168 00:09:28,240 --> 00:09:30,280 Speaker 2: when you have a health issue. I mean, Nick, you 169 00:09:30,320 --> 00:09:33,800 Speaker 2: know your mom got sick early on five years old. 170 00:09:33,840 --> 00:09:36,760 Speaker 2: You were probably when she first got diagnosed. Your mom 171 00:09:36,760 --> 00:09:38,720 Speaker 2: would have just killed to have her health. 172 00:09:38,920 --> 00:09:41,320 Speaker 4: Yeah, and she was. She was thirty years old when 173 00:09:41,360 --> 00:09:43,800 Speaker 4: she got diagnosed, right Jesus. And that's a thing too 174 00:09:43,880 --> 00:09:46,040 Speaker 4: that not to get too down the route hole, but 175 00:09:46,160 --> 00:09:50,440 Speaker 4: like that's a thing where it sends shockwaves through the 176 00:09:50,480 --> 00:09:52,720 Speaker 4: family and it kind of sticks with everyone. When someone 177 00:09:52,800 --> 00:09:57,760 Speaker 4: that young gets that sick and then passes away, it 178 00:09:57,960 --> 00:10:01,200 Speaker 4: makes like it just like sends my dad. I remember 179 00:10:01,240 --> 00:10:04,280 Speaker 4: the first like there wasn't whole foods back then, but 180 00:10:04,320 --> 00:10:07,480 Speaker 4: there was a grocery store called Missus Greens oh yeah, 181 00:10:07,520 --> 00:10:12,000 Speaker 4: in Larchmont and we lived in Amernich. And when she passed, 182 00:10:12,120 --> 00:10:15,960 Speaker 4: I mean my dad, the whole diet everything changed. 183 00:10:16,000 --> 00:10:16,560 Speaker 2: Oh yeah. 184 00:10:16,600 --> 00:10:18,600 Speaker 4: Like for a while he was like, we're not eating, 185 00:10:18,679 --> 00:10:22,079 Speaker 4: We're doing this and vegetables and blah blah blah. And 186 00:10:22,120 --> 00:10:23,760 Speaker 4: you know, I don't get me wrong, we had our 187 00:10:24,200 --> 00:10:31,280 Speaker 4: cheat days, but now it is a cheat dair. But yeah, 188 00:10:31,280 --> 00:10:34,040 Speaker 4: I mean, it just it changes. It changed the whole 189 00:10:34,080 --> 00:10:36,719 Speaker 4: culture of our family and how everyone looked at things now. 190 00:10:36,760 --> 00:10:37,560 Speaker 2: Now my dad's like. 191 00:10:37,600 --> 00:10:41,720 Speaker 4: Similar to you, religious about his blood work, loves going yeah, 192 00:10:41,800 --> 00:10:43,360 Speaker 4: if he has a test coming up and we're out 193 00:10:43,400 --> 00:10:45,240 Speaker 4: to eat, he goes, I can't have that test two days. 194 00:10:45,440 --> 00:10:47,480 Speaker 2: I've been become the chick who at this age I 195 00:10:47,559 --> 00:10:50,439 Speaker 2: brag about how easily they can find vain, Like I'm 196 00:10:50,440 --> 00:10:53,120 Speaker 2: all excited when I go and like the big lady 197 00:10:53,160 --> 00:10:55,400 Speaker 2: at the quest goes, oh, you have good brains. I'm like, 198 00:10:55,440 --> 00:10:58,040 Speaker 2: I know, girl, they're the best. I'm like, skinny yeah. 199 00:10:58,080 --> 00:11:00,600 Speaker 2: And then I love when they're like your blood work 200 00:11:00,679 --> 00:11:04,480 Speaker 2: is perfect, I'm like, oh, you give me r right now. 201 00:11:04,920 --> 00:11:08,040 Speaker 2: But so and even my friend Anthony, who survived of 202 00:11:08,120 --> 00:11:12,200 Speaker 2: real tough cancer, He's always like, every time I think 203 00:11:12,200 --> 00:11:14,760 Speaker 2: I have a real problem, I'm like, I had cancer, 204 00:11:14,960 --> 00:11:18,320 Speaker 2: I have my health. I don't have any problems. So 205 00:11:18,960 --> 00:11:21,360 Speaker 2: I think you come to realize a lot of these 206 00:11:21,360 --> 00:11:24,200 Speaker 2: platitudes are true. Like I do a lot of coaching 207 00:11:24,200 --> 00:11:27,160 Speaker 2: now because I only a highly elite coach, oh for 208 00:11:27,240 --> 00:11:33,040 Speaker 2: people who have no life. So I honestly really feel 209 00:11:33,800 --> 00:11:36,400 Speaker 2: if it's meant to be, it's meant to be. Now 210 00:11:36,440 --> 00:11:38,480 Speaker 2: people will argue with me, I'm like, no, can't just 211 00:11:38,600 --> 00:11:41,800 Speaker 2: keep pushing harder and get more, you know, better jobs 212 00:11:41,840 --> 00:11:44,600 Speaker 2: and bigger castings and all this. I'm like, if it's 213 00:11:44,600 --> 00:11:48,040 Speaker 2: not meant for you, you're not getting it. So people 214 00:11:48,320 --> 00:11:51,320 Speaker 2: can get mad hearing that. I just think, with my age, 215 00:11:51,400 --> 00:11:54,040 Speaker 2: I know that is true. Everything I got is what 216 00:11:54,120 --> 00:11:57,240 Speaker 2: I was supposed to. Everything I didn't get is stuff 217 00:11:57,280 --> 00:11:59,400 Speaker 2: that I wasn't meant to have, and I would have 218 00:12:00,160 --> 00:12:03,200 Speaker 2: been even worse shape than I am now. So what 219 00:12:03,240 --> 00:12:06,360 Speaker 2: do you think, Nick, when you hear you're going to 220 00:12:06,440 --> 00:12:08,440 Speaker 2: get everything you need or if it's meant to be, 221 00:12:08,520 --> 00:12:10,400 Speaker 2: it's meant to be. Do you believe that or do not. 222 00:12:12,240 --> 00:12:16,360 Speaker 4: It's weird. Yes, to a certain degree. I also think 223 00:12:16,400 --> 00:12:18,480 Speaker 4: platitudes when I hear some of them, I think they 224 00:12:18,520 --> 00:12:19,520 Speaker 4: provide comfort. 225 00:12:20,000 --> 00:12:21,120 Speaker 2: Yeah, that's true. 226 00:12:21,720 --> 00:12:23,400 Speaker 4: Like and you hear something like, oh yeah, if it's 227 00:12:23,440 --> 00:12:28,160 Speaker 4: gonna happen, it's gonna happen, which I think is true. 228 00:12:28,240 --> 00:12:31,000 Speaker 4: But also there's a part of me maybe that feels 229 00:12:31,000 --> 00:12:35,520 Speaker 4: like and this may sound nuts, but like sometimes people 230 00:12:35,520 --> 00:12:38,679 Speaker 4: will say that it's like their excuse for giving up 231 00:12:38,760 --> 00:12:39,520 Speaker 4: or their excuses. 232 00:12:39,559 --> 00:12:39,960 Speaker 2: I agree. 233 00:12:40,400 --> 00:12:45,040 Speaker 4: So like I'm I'm honestly very torn on the the 234 00:12:45,120 --> 00:12:48,240 Speaker 4: subject of platitudes and whether they they work or not. Yeah, 235 00:12:48,240 --> 00:12:50,000 Speaker 4: there's some truth to some of them, but I feel 236 00:12:50,040 --> 00:12:52,080 Speaker 4: like it's some degree you could you can also like 237 00:12:52,880 --> 00:12:56,160 Speaker 4: you know, uh, pick the future you want and try 238 00:12:56,160 --> 00:12:58,400 Speaker 4: different things and do things, not just like what it 239 00:12:58,440 --> 00:12:59,080 Speaker 4: is what it is. 240 00:12:59,160 --> 00:13:02,520 Speaker 2: Well, no, it's all of like it's meant to be, 241 00:13:02,960 --> 00:13:06,240 Speaker 2: or you'll get everything you're supposed to. It doesn't mean 242 00:13:06,840 --> 00:13:09,959 Speaker 2: dot dot dot and this will happen if you just 243 00:13:10,000 --> 00:13:12,840 Speaker 2: sit around and be lazy and twiddle you're twelve. Like 244 00:13:13,240 --> 00:13:17,520 Speaker 2: it's like, yeah, audition for every show that speaks to you, 245 00:13:18,200 --> 00:13:21,520 Speaker 2: go on every job interview where you think there's a 246 00:13:21,520 --> 00:13:23,600 Speaker 2: spark or whatever, but at the end of the day, 247 00:13:23,640 --> 00:13:26,720 Speaker 2: you're like, if it's meant to happen, it's gonna Like 248 00:13:26,800 --> 00:13:29,880 Speaker 2: I don't know, but I think it's again because of 249 00:13:29,920 --> 00:13:34,240 Speaker 2: my age and realizing, oh that all worked out, it's 250 00:13:34,240 --> 00:13:35,960 Speaker 2: easier for me to believe it than like a thirty 251 00:13:36,000 --> 00:13:42,280 Speaker 2: year old. Also like, I'm really over anyone using the 252 00:13:42,320 --> 00:13:47,120 Speaker 2: word manifesting because I don't say it, but if I did, 253 00:13:47,160 --> 00:13:51,920 Speaker 2: I'd use it correctly, which is I'm manifesting like a 254 00:13:51,960 --> 00:13:55,559 Speaker 2: beach body. No, I'm at my age. The one wants 255 00:13:55,600 --> 00:13:56,720 Speaker 2: to see that on the beach. 256 00:13:58,080 --> 00:13:58,240 Speaker 1: No. 257 00:13:58,520 --> 00:14:02,480 Speaker 2: So if I'm manifesting a happy okay, you know what, 258 00:14:02,520 --> 00:14:07,040 Speaker 2: I'm manifesting. My mother's old friend uh passed away. It 259 00:14:07,080 --> 00:14:10,120 Speaker 2: was the last one who was live, Missus O'Keefe of 260 00:14:10,120 --> 00:14:14,199 Speaker 2: their friend group. She was I think ninety, passed away 261 00:14:14,440 --> 00:14:19,920 Speaker 2: about two months ago. I have manifested through action. That's 262 00:14:19,960 --> 00:14:22,880 Speaker 2: the key, being like Missus O'Keeffe when I get old, 263 00:14:23,240 --> 00:14:27,400 Speaker 2: because she was so easy to be around, didn't complain, 264 00:14:28,080 --> 00:14:31,760 Speaker 2: she was lighthearted, she lit up when you'd walk in 265 00:14:31,760 --> 00:14:35,680 Speaker 2: the room. People wanted to go visit her. I am 266 00:14:35,800 --> 00:14:44,040 Speaker 2: manifesting through action, meaning therapy, self help, coaching, being someone 267 00:14:44,160 --> 00:14:47,440 Speaker 2: someone wants to see when they're old. So I want 268 00:14:47,720 --> 00:14:50,480 Speaker 2: younger people. I want old Celia. But when I'm eighty, 269 00:14:50,560 --> 00:14:54,040 Speaker 2: how old will you be, Celia? Sixteen years you will 270 00:14:54,080 --> 00:15:03,240 Speaker 2: be oh the man, Oh that was quick math. So 271 00:15:03,280 --> 00:15:05,280 Speaker 2: when you're thirty nine, I would love for you, like 272 00:15:05,440 --> 00:15:09,640 Speaker 2: you know my old Remember Lisa, that gal who was 273 00:15:09,720 --> 00:15:12,680 Speaker 2: on that failure of a show that I produced and 274 00:15:12,720 --> 00:15:16,560 Speaker 2: didn't and they replaced her with someone more famous. I 275 00:15:16,720 --> 00:15:19,200 Speaker 2: want to go see her because she was fun and 276 00:15:19,240 --> 00:15:23,120 Speaker 2: she has a lighthearted disposition. Like I think you can manifest, 277 00:15:23,200 --> 00:15:25,760 Speaker 2: but you have to manifest with action. Like if I 278 00:15:25,760 --> 00:15:27,880 Speaker 2: want to manifest that and sit there and think about 279 00:15:27,880 --> 00:15:29,320 Speaker 2: it and look in a mirror every day and go, 280 00:15:29,680 --> 00:15:32,760 Speaker 2: you are a pleasant old cunt. That's not going to 281 00:15:32,800 --> 00:15:35,520 Speaker 2: happen unless I work to become a pleasant old cunt, 282 00:15:35,640 --> 00:15:38,640 Speaker 2: right like that? Those idiots, oh it sounds so mean. 283 00:15:38,720 --> 00:15:42,360 Speaker 2: But the people with the vision boards, how dare you? 284 00:15:42,400 --> 00:15:43,240 Speaker 3: I made my last name? 285 00:15:43,320 --> 00:15:46,280 Speaker 2: Of course you don't. Oh my, I don't mind that 286 00:15:46,360 --> 00:15:50,320 Speaker 2: you have a vision board. But how about you then, 287 00:15:50,440 --> 00:15:53,360 Speaker 2: which I'm sure you're like this, work to get that. 288 00:15:53,560 --> 00:15:56,640 Speaker 2: Have a plan. The problem is a vision board without 289 00:15:56,640 --> 00:15:59,920 Speaker 2: a plan is jerking. 290 00:15:59,520 --> 00:16:03,640 Speaker 4: Off scrap photography. 291 00:16:03,400 --> 00:16:06,240 Speaker 2: Jerking off what's on your vision board? 292 00:16:06,280 --> 00:16:10,080 Speaker 3: I honestly have so much stuff, but like like what 293 00:16:10,240 --> 00:16:16,000 Speaker 3: is on there? No, Like personal trainer okay, I have 294 00:16:16,040 --> 00:16:17,880 Speaker 3: like pictures of that, and then I have like pictures 295 00:16:17,880 --> 00:16:18,720 Speaker 3: of you want. 296 00:16:18,520 --> 00:16:20,360 Speaker 4: To get a personal trainer? Okay? 297 00:16:20,480 --> 00:16:22,240 Speaker 3: And then like I have pictures of mountains and stuff 298 00:16:22,280 --> 00:16:24,280 Speaker 3: because I really want to go hiking this this year. 299 00:16:25,000 --> 00:16:28,720 Speaker 3: And then I have pictures of like Saturday Night Live 300 00:16:28,760 --> 00:16:32,120 Speaker 3: because I really want to go, and like that stuff 301 00:16:32,160 --> 00:16:34,920 Speaker 3: I think is achievable. That's nice to be able to 302 00:16:34,960 --> 00:16:37,320 Speaker 3: like look at it and be like, oh wait, I 303 00:16:37,360 --> 00:16:39,480 Speaker 3: need to plan to do do the things that I 304 00:16:39,520 --> 00:16:41,880 Speaker 3: really want to do this year, which are like hiking, 305 00:16:42,040 --> 00:16:45,440 Speaker 3: Saturday Night Live, getting a personal trainer, like getting fit. 306 00:16:45,440 --> 00:16:49,320 Speaker 2: And well so those things. If you're a visual learner, 307 00:16:49,800 --> 00:16:55,200 Speaker 2: which most people on the spectrum like you are. If 308 00:16:55,200 --> 00:16:59,400 Speaker 2: you're a visual learner, that's really helpful. Like I kind 309 00:16:59,400 --> 00:17:01,280 Speaker 2: of like that aasionally to have a picture of going 310 00:17:01,280 --> 00:17:05,119 Speaker 2: oh yeah, but again, the I'm shitting on the vision 311 00:17:05,119 --> 00:17:08,359 Speaker 2: board without the plan, so clearly then you need little 312 00:17:08,359 --> 00:17:10,560 Speaker 2: steps to get there and break it down into bite 313 00:17:10,560 --> 00:17:14,119 Speaker 2: science chunks like, so basically SNL, let's take one. What 314 00:17:14,240 --> 00:17:16,720 Speaker 2: would you then have as a plan for you want 315 00:17:16,720 --> 00:17:19,320 Speaker 2: to be in the audience? Correct? Yeah, okay, so what's 316 00:17:19,359 --> 00:17:19,720 Speaker 2: the plan? 317 00:17:19,960 --> 00:17:22,160 Speaker 3: Well, connections. 318 00:17:22,400 --> 00:17:24,879 Speaker 2: Okay, that's like the little a little too vague. So 319 00:17:24,960 --> 00:17:27,520 Speaker 2: what would be a way of what's the first step? 320 00:17:27,760 --> 00:17:29,879 Speaker 4: Harry Styles as the musical guests and you go and 321 00:17:29,920 --> 00:17:30,560 Speaker 4: bang them? 322 00:17:30,680 --> 00:17:34,320 Speaker 2: Okay, other than banging the bisexualt. 323 00:17:33,720 --> 00:17:36,720 Speaker 3: Is my presentation and not is like the motto to 324 00:17:36,880 --> 00:17:41,800 Speaker 3: my years. That's what I want. I just want to 325 00:17:41,840 --> 00:17:44,440 Speaker 3: go to Well, I would go to any SNL show, 326 00:17:44,480 --> 00:17:47,720 Speaker 3: But I mean when Harry Styles is going to be 327 00:17:47,800 --> 00:17:49,760 Speaker 3: the musical guest and the host that I need. 328 00:17:49,920 --> 00:17:52,119 Speaker 2: Okay, girls, stop with the fantasy. Let's get back to 329 00:17:52,160 --> 00:17:55,840 Speaker 2: what I ask. What's step one? See that's what where 330 00:17:56,000 --> 00:17:59,960 Speaker 2: these people with these vision boards, they get stopped up constant. 331 00:18:00,000 --> 00:18:04,800 Speaker 2: I paid it. Hell, don't do no like they don't 332 00:18:04,880 --> 00:18:08,639 Speaker 2: do no training, they don't do no fitness, and no 333 00:18:08,760 --> 00:18:12,680 Speaker 2: Harry Styles banging. So you say you almost do this. 334 00:18:12,720 --> 00:18:15,239 Speaker 2: Here's a good coaching tool for you. You can do 335 00:18:15,280 --> 00:18:17,040 Speaker 2: this if you want. You don't have to, It'll just 336 00:18:17,080 --> 00:18:20,719 Speaker 2: improve your life. You're a smart gal. You're no dummy. 337 00:18:20,760 --> 00:18:24,520 Speaker 2: In my opinion, there's this cool exercise. I have had 338 00:18:24,520 --> 00:18:28,200 Speaker 2: a lawyer do it and she is doing awesome. She 339 00:18:28,480 --> 00:18:30,359 Speaker 2: really has a vision for her life but doesn't know 340 00:18:30,400 --> 00:18:32,800 Speaker 2: how to get there. I'm like, just like pretend like 341 00:18:32,840 --> 00:18:36,920 Speaker 2: as an exercise. Don't shut up and listen. I'm giving 342 00:18:36,960 --> 00:18:39,479 Speaker 2: you fucking thirteen thousand dollars worth of gold here, all right, 343 00:18:39,800 --> 00:18:44,359 Speaker 2: so random number picked out, so I will tell you. Okay, 344 00:18:45,560 --> 00:18:50,320 Speaker 2: imagine you're writing a book about yourself, even if it's 345 00:18:50,359 --> 00:18:53,000 Speaker 2: a children's book, because you're a little remediagal. It would 346 00:18:53,040 --> 00:18:57,080 Speaker 2: be Celia goes to SNL. What would the chapters of 347 00:18:57,119 --> 00:19:00,680 Speaker 2: the book be called? Because if you break it down 348 00:19:00,720 --> 00:19:03,760 Speaker 2: to the chapters, you will get to know, Oh that's 349 00:19:03,760 --> 00:19:06,440 Speaker 2: my first step. Okay, then I'll try this. Then I'll 350 00:19:06,480 --> 00:19:08,440 Speaker 2: try this, then I try this. So at least you'd 351 00:19:08,480 --> 00:19:12,119 Speaker 2: have a visual and also sort of a I don't know, 352 00:19:12,320 --> 00:19:14,679 Speaker 2: an intellectual way of looking at it and going, this 353 00:19:14,840 --> 00:19:17,919 Speaker 2: is my plan for getting in that SNL audience. For me. 354 00:19:18,960 --> 00:19:21,560 Speaker 2: That would help you because you'd have it all written out. 355 00:19:22,080 --> 00:19:29,160 Speaker 2: There's no fantasy involved. It's going contact you know anyone 356 00:19:29,200 --> 00:19:32,760 Speaker 2: from my college, who's any alumni who happened to be 357 00:19:32,800 --> 00:19:37,880 Speaker 2: working there. Okay, contact someone, see if anyone on Elvis's 358 00:19:37,880 --> 00:19:41,000 Speaker 2: staff knows and will introduce me. So you would have 359 00:19:41,080 --> 00:19:44,439 Speaker 2: like a lot of ways in so do that. You 360 00:19:44,480 --> 00:19:46,479 Speaker 2: got to take action. You can't sit there and be 361 00:19:46,520 --> 00:19:49,160 Speaker 2: like I don't think that's like you. I don't think 362 00:19:49,160 --> 00:19:51,200 Speaker 2: you're like that. But there's some of these vision board 363 00:19:51,240 --> 00:19:55,760 Speaker 2: cunts which I call them. When is that vb c's 364 00:19:56,080 --> 00:19:59,959 Speaker 2: vbc's All these vbc's got to figure out how to 365 00:20:00,080 --> 00:20:03,320 Speaker 2: put that vision board from the wall into their lives. 366 00:20:03,359 --> 00:20:03,840 Speaker 2: I agree. 367 00:20:03,880 --> 00:20:06,399 Speaker 3: I think a lot of people, not that I was asked, 368 00:20:06,400 --> 00:20:08,720 Speaker 3: but I think a lot of people make their vision 369 00:20:08,840 --> 00:20:12,040 Speaker 3: boards yeah and are just like, oh yeah, if I 370 00:20:12,080 --> 00:20:14,000 Speaker 3: look at it every day or if I see it 371 00:20:14,080 --> 00:20:17,240 Speaker 3: and it's like it's in my twenty twenty six plan, 372 00:20:17,760 --> 00:20:20,160 Speaker 3: then it'll happen. But that's not the truth. I agree, 373 00:20:20,200 --> 00:20:21,840 Speaker 3: Like you need to have a concrete plan of how 374 00:20:21,840 --> 00:20:25,040 Speaker 3: you're gonna get to those goals. So like what you 375 00:20:25,040 --> 00:20:26,639 Speaker 3: were saying, like the first step would probably be just 376 00:20:26,640 --> 00:20:27,960 Speaker 3: to enter the lottery. 377 00:20:27,760 --> 00:20:29,880 Speaker 2: And yeah, that's like an easy one to do every 378 00:20:29,920 --> 00:20:34,360 Speaker 2: week exactly. It's like literally the check done. 379 00:20:34,440 --> 00:20:36,840 Speaker 3: Yeah, So that's like the first step obviously, try to 380 00:20:36,840 --> 00:20:38,800 Speaker 3: get it on my own out of pure luck. Because 381 00:20:38,840 --> 00:20:40,919 Speaker 3: my new thing is lucky girl syndrome. That's what I have. 382 00:20:41,520 --> 00:20:42,120 Speaker 2: What does that mean? 383 00:20:42,160 --> 00:20:44,679 Speaker 3: I'm diagnosing myself with lucky girl syndrome, which means like 384 00:20:45,160 --> 00:20:51,040 Speaker 3: everything that I work towards, Like you know what, that's. 385 00:20:50,880 --> 00:20:56,800 Speaker 2: Just really it's wait wait wait wait no, it's it's 386 00:20:56,800 --> 00:21:01,960 Speaker 2: like girls, please, yeah, focus on me. I wasn't laughing. Okay, 387 00:21:02,800 --> 00:21:05,399 Speaker 2: it's lucky girl syndrome a thing now. 388 00:21:05,880 --> 00:21:08,440 Speaker 5: No, it was like get ready with me and all 389 00:21:08,480 --> 00:21:10,680 Speaker 5: that ship it was did this? 390 00:21:11,200 --> 00:21:14,399 Speaker 3: No, it was like of a thing like last year, 391 00:21:14,480 --> 00:21:17,960 Speaker 3: And I was like, that's actually so stupid because I 392 00:21:18,000 --> 00:21:20,679 Speaker 3: was just angry that all these people were like actually 393 00:21:20,720 --> 00:21:22,520 Speaker 3: achieving what they wanted, and I was like, what the 394 00:21:22,560 --> 00:21:28,919 Speaker 3: heck what about me? I've adopted the mentality because in 395 00:21:28,960 --> 00:21:34,520 Speaker 3: the new year, I think it's really really harmful to say, 396 00:21:34,560 --> 00:21:36,880 Speaker 3: like in the new year, I'm going to rebrand or whatever, 397 00:21:36,920 --> 00:21:38,960 Speaker 3: because you're you're kind of treating yourself like a product, 398 00:21:39,359 --> 00:21:41,400 Speaker 3: which might sound a little woke, but I think that 399 00:21:41,400 --> 00:21:46,760 Speaker 3: that's very true, right, And so I'm rephrasing it like, no, 400 00:21:47,000 --> 00:21:49,800 Speaker 3: I'm gonna be lucky this year, like I'm gonna I'm 401 00:21:49,920 --> 00:21:53,520 Speaker 3: I'm gonna work, but also everything's gonna work out for 402 00:21:53,680 --> 00:21:55,280 Speaker 3: me because. 403 00:21:55,520 --> 00:21:56,520 Speaker 4: I believe that it will. 404 00:21:56,720 --> 00:21:59,960 Speaker 2: Well, here's like, no, no, no, it's not bad at all, Excel. 405 00:22:01,320 --> 00:22:03,560 Speaker 2: Some of that luck might not come in the way 406 00:22:03,720 --> 00:22:07,360 Speaker 2: you want it to, and if you get the lesson, 407 00:22:08,600 --> 00:22:12,040 Speaker 2: that's what you need. So oh wow, I didn't get 408 00:22:12,080 --> 00:22:17,000 Speaker 2: the SNL tickets. I what was the lesson I learned? 409 00:22:17,040 --> 00:22:19,680 Speaker 2: Okay that I got to keep working hard. The time 410 00:22:19,760 --> 00:22:22,960 Speaker 2: isn't right, It's meant to be, it will happen whatever, 411 00:22:23,520 --> 00:22:26,280 Speaker 2: whatever lesson you learned, or oh I took the wrong channel, 412 00:22:26,320 --> 00:22:28,120 Speaker 2: I have to try again a different way. 413 00:22:28,320 --> 00:22:28,800 Speaker 3: Yeah. 414 00:22:28,880 --> 00:22:32,080 Speaker 2: So as long as you get the lesson, that's the luck. 415 00:22:32,320 --> 00:22:36,080 Speaker 2: The luck isn't going to come as the poticle rainbow 416 00:22:39,400 --> 00:22:43,560 Speaker 2: harms lucky girl. You know that is I I think 417 00:22:43,640 --> 00:22:46,240 Speaker 2: that's a not a terrible way to look at things, 418 00:22:46,240 --> 00:22:47,880 Speaker 2: but it's also a terrible way to look at things 419 00:22:47,920 --> 00:22:50,920 Speaker 2: if you're not working at being finding your own luck. 420 00:22:51,200 --> 00:22:53,080 Speaker 3: Yes, And I think that's kind of what I was 421 00:22:53,080 --> 00:22:57,200 Speaker 3: trying to say, Like, I'm not expecting myself to just rebrand. 422 00:22:57,640 --> 00:23:00,359 Speaker 3: I'm just gonna work hard to get the things that 423 00:23:00,440 --> 00:23:02,800 Speaker 3: I would want if I were to say that I'm rebranding. 424 00:23:02,880 --> 00:23:04,639 Speaker 3: That's kind of complicated what I'm trying to say, but 425 00:23:04,800 --> 00:23:05,520 Speaker 3: it's okay. 426 00:23:05,800 --> 00:23:08,040 Speaker 4: Maybe, well, just one of the side effects of lucky 427 00:23:08,040 --> 00:23:09,760 Speaker 4: girl syndrome. Just ramble on. 428 00:23:10,080 --> 00:23:16,320 Speaker 2: Wow, listen, well, I'm going to use as many cliches 429 00:23:16,480 --> 00:23:20,359 Speaker 2: or as many platitudes about you guys. No, Nick, she's 430 00:23:20,560 --> 00:23:23,840 Speaker 2: just giving one hundred and ten percent. No, we need 431 00:23:23,880 --> 00:23:27,600 Speaker 2: to circle back sometimes with what she's saying, and sometimes 432 00:23:27,600 --> 00:23:31,400 Speaker 2: she just like we needs us to hold space and say, 433 00:23:31,560 --> 00:23:34,320 Speaker 2: that's balent girl. But I do have a boundary which 434 00:23:34,320 --> 00:23:36,280 Speaker 2: I'm going to set, which is that your stories have 435 00:23:36,359 --> 00:23:39,679 Speaker 2: to have a point. So just as long as you 436 00:23:39,720 --> 00:23:42,359 Speaker 2: do the work and honor where you're at, and you 437 00:23:42,440 --> 00:23:46,600 Speaker 2: give yourself some grace, you just know that you're exactly 438 00:23:47,720 --> 00:23:52,359 Speaker 2: where you're meant to be. And seen, see now that 439 00:23:52,800 --> 00:23:55,240 Speaker 2: I don't mean any of that. Yeah, but see, Nick 440 00:23:55,400 --> 00:23:59,280 Speaker 2: was just being mean and yeah, so you focus on me. 441 00:24:00,040 --> 00:24:02,439 Speaker 2: I want to hold space for you right now to 442 00:24:02,480 --> 00:24:05,880 Speaker 2: tell you that you're fine. It's enough. Focus on the negative, 443 00:24:05,960 --> 00:24:08,760 Speaker 2: the ball, the fat in the room, Focus on the 444 00:24:08,800 --> 00:24:10,919 Speaker 2: gal with the good veins and the lack of a 445 00:24:11,000 --> 00:24:15,600 Speaker 2: vibrator who you know has the best life ever and 446 00:24:16,000 --> 00:24:17,679 Speaker 2: really fantastic tits. 447 00:24:21,119 --> 00:24:22,600 Speaker 4: Follow on Instagram. 448 00:24:29,800 --> 00:24:33,120 Speaker 2: Listen, I love that song, and you guys say you 449 00:24:33,160 --> 00:24:36,080 Speaker 2: don't like it, you have just heard it too often. 450 00:24:36,640 --> 00:24:38,840 Speaker 2: I don't listen to the radio. I listened to the 451 00:24:38,880 --> 00:24:42,960 Speaker 2: forties station, so I hear this Golden and I said, well, 452 00:24:43,000 --> 00:24:48,480 Speaker 2: these little Stephanie's as I'll call them, are terrific and 453 00:24:48,600 --> 00:24:52,240 Speaker 2: I really enjoy that song. So anyway, we are back 454 00:24:52,359 --> 00:24:54,520 Speaker 2: shrink This with les Lambinelli. If you have a letter 455 00:24:54,560 --> 00:24:57,480 Speaker 2: for us, send it to Shrinkthshow at gmail dot com. 456 00:24:57,560 --> 00:25:00,560 Speaker 2: Here with Nick Scopes on Gmail. No, what is it? 457 00:25:01,119 --> 00:25:02,719 Speaker 4: Gmail? 458 00:25:04,040 --> 00:25:05,400 Speaker 2: Nicks chubby Chaser? 459 00:25:06,359 --> 00:25:07,680 Speaker 3: Everyone sent him chain mail? 460 00:25:08,080 --> 00:25:14,440 Speaker 4: Yeah, chubby Chasers dot com. Backslash, Stephanie Lee Underscore, Instagram 461 00:25:14,840 --> 00:25:21,720 Speaker 4: Lane former producer. Okay, I'm sorry, shut up. 462 00:25:23,080 --> 00:25:26,760 Speaker 2: I'm the boss, and I say to follow Nick Scopes 463 00:25:26,800 --> 00:25:33,280 Speaker 2: on Instagram and TikTok, follow Celia at Watch This, Celia Underscore, 464 00:25:33,600 --> 00:25:40,400 Speaker 2: Underscore Robano, and don't follow Stephanie because I forgot it 465 00:25:40,840 --> 00:25:44,840 Speaker 2: and I don't need your bullshit. Man, I heard your 466 00:25:44,880 --> 00:25:47,000 Speaker 2: fucking sympathy. Okay, Nick, do. 467 00:25:46,960 --> 00:25:50,159 Speaker 4: We have let us we do? Hell girl, all right, 468 00:25:50,280 --> 00:25:53,440 Speaker 4: here we go, Dear Lisa. Next weekend, I'm going to 469 00:25:53,520 --> 00:25:58,119 Speaker 4: my sister's house to celebrate my father's ninety second birthday. 470 00:25:58,600 --> 00:26:03,840 Speaker 2: Celebrate for burium. You're not wrong. 471 00:26:04,119 --> 00:26:07,280 Speaker 4: Plan the procession all right, and I was like a 472 00:26:07,320 --> 00:26:09,080 Speaker 4: birthday with the whole family. I'm in the middle of 473 00:26:09,160 --> 00:26:12,160 Speaker 4: going through a bad divorce. Here we go, and when 474 00:26:12,160 --> 00:26:14,399 Speaker 4: you walk into my sister's house, there's a big sign 475 00:26:14,440 --> 00:26:15,919 Speaker 4: that says good vibes. 476 00:26:15,960 --> 00:26:18,720 Speaker 2: Oh no, nope, nope, nope, no. 477 00:26:18,480 --> 00:26:20,879 Speaker 4: No, right now, my vibes are shit. I feel like 478 00:26:20,920 --> 00:26:24,359 Speaker 4: all my vibes should be welcome, All vibes should be 479 00:26:24,359 --> 00:26:27,919 Speaker 4: welcome anywhere, no matter what. My sister is one of 480 00:26:27,920 --> 00:26:30,480 Speaker 4: these fake positive people that presents everything is great even 481 00:26:30,520 --> 00:26:33,480 Speaker 4: when it isn't. Should I just play along and not 482 00:26:33,520 --> 00:26:35,639 Speaker 4: say anything negative? Or do you think if I'm honest 483 00:26:35,640 --> 00:26:38,600 Speaker 4: with my family, they will ask me how I'm doing. 484 00:26:38,960 --> 00:26:41,639 Speaker 4: When they ask me how I'm doing? Sorry, what's this person? 485 00:26:41,640 --> 00:26:42,560 Speaker 2: A man or a woman? 486 00:26:42,840 --> 00:26:44,800 Speaker 4: It's Melissa from Portland, Maine. 487 00:26:45,320 --> 00:26:48,480 Speaker 2: Melissa, First of all, I'm sorry you and your wife 488 00:26:48,520 --> 00:26:53,199 Speaker 2: as going because she's from Portland. That's the deal. Portland, 489 00:26:53,240 --> 00:27:03,080 Speaker 2: Maine or Portland, Oregon. Let's most Central Jesus City. Now 490 00:27:03,440 --> 00:27:07,960 Speaker 2: I think this Good Vibes Only is disgusting. I never 491 00:27:08,240 --> 00:27:11,760 Speaker 2: liked it. I never like positive thinking. I don't like 492 00:27:12,040 --> 00:27:16,400 Speaker 2: positive toxic positivity. It's a way of just covering up 493 00:27:16,440 --> 00:27:20,040 Speaker 2: the trauma. And it's buying a sign from bed, Bath 494 00:27:20,119 --> 00:27:23,960 Speaker 2: and Beyond for an old reference from home Goods, buying 495 00:27:24,040 --> 00:27:27,120 Speaker 2: a buying a driftwood sign from home Goods. It says 496 00:27:27,160 --> 00:27:30,320 Speaker 2: it doesn't make you a better person, and it doesn't. 497 00:27:30,920 --> 00:27:35,080 Speaker 2: I mean, it's like prescribing this band aid on top 498 00:27:35,119 --> 00:27:43,000 Speaker 2: of a fucking gaping asshole wound. Same thing. So I'm 499 00:27:43,080 --> 00:27:46,360 Speaker 2: not a fan at all of Good Vibes Only. However, 500 00:27:46,480 --> 00:27:50,240 Speaker 2: this person, Melissa, she's going through something. She's a bit 501 00:27:50,280 --> 00:27:54,040 Speaker 2: of a sad seck. There's also another cliche I think 502 00:27:54,119 --> 00:27:56,800 Speaker 2: she should actually adhere to, which is, don't make your 503 00:27:56,880 --> 00:28:02,280 Speaker 2: problem there problem. Yes, you cannot go into a ninety 504 00:28:02,480 --> 00:28:05,480 Speaker 2: second this is probably the last birthday for this old 505 00:28:05,560 --> 00:28:07,440 Speaker 2: son of a bitch who hates you both because you're 506 00:28:07,560 --> 00:28:11,920 Speaker 2: lesbians and your sister's a closet one. So I say, 507 00:28:11,960 --> 00:28:15,280 Speaker 2: your poor father go there for him if you have to, 508 00:28:15,480 --> 00:28:17,840 Speaker 2: and your family annoys you, go out in your car 509 00:28:17,920 --> 00:28:20,480 Speaker 2: and call your friend. Go drive to the coffee shop 510 00:28:20,520 --> 00:28:24,320 Speaker 2: and call somebody invent, call your shrink, have a session 511 00:28:24,480 --> 00:28:28,359 Speaker 2: scheduled for the weekend so that you can talk. But 512 00:28:28,480 --> 00:28:32,320 Speaker 2: you can't make it their issue. They're not the one 513 00:28:32,359 --> 00:28:34,280 Speaker 2: going through the hard times. And if your family's not 514 00:28:34,359 --> 00:28:37,680 Speaker 2: the type you've always been honest with about stuff, it's 515 00:28:37,680 --> 00:28:40,280 Speaker 2: not going to start this weekend at poor almost dead 516 00:28:40,360 --> 00:28:44,400 Speaker 2: dad's funeral preemptive funeral party. Am I right? 517 00:28:45,040 --> 00:28:47,920 Speaker 4: One hundred percent? I was waiting for you to say 518 00:28:47,960 --> 00:28:51,640 Speaker 4: all of that and no notes, but yes, not making 519 00:28:52,040 --> 00:28:54,440 Speaker 4: no notes for Lisa, no notes, not making other shit. 520 00:28:54,600 --> 00:28:57,320 Speaker 4: Everyone else's problem, Like you said, fucking book a therapy 521 00:28:57,360 --> 00:29:00,720 Speaker 4: appointment before, figure out tools, going the car, going to 522 00:29:00,800 --> 00:29:02,400 Speaker 4: walk whatever. I don't know what the deal is of 523 00:29:02,440 --> 00:29:05,600 Speaker 4: this neighborhood. Okay, talk to your dad, hang out with 524 00:29:05,640 --> 00:29:09,640 Speaker 4: your dad. He's gonna fuck die, yeah any minute, Just 525 00:29:09,680 --> 00:29:10,120 Speaker 4: shut up. 526 00:29:10,160 --> 00:29:14,160 Speaker 2: I'm gonna be a cliche from TikTok if I could 527 00:29:14,160 --> 00:29:19,920 Speaker 2: have one last dinner with my father and scene. But 528 00:29:20,000 --> 00:29:22,520 Speaker 2: they're always just like like when it's an old person video, 529 00:29:22,800 --> 00:29:25,120 Speaker 2: like oh well, but it's kind of true. It's like, 530 00:29:25,120 --> 00:29:28,520 Speaker 2: oh man, are you gonna waste this fun time? Potentially 531 00:29:28,560 --> 00:29:32,160 Speaker 2: fun time with your father. That can be meaningful by 532 00:29:32,200 --> 00:29:35,800 Speaker 2: attacking your sister's sign, or that'd be really funny to 533 00:29:35,880 --> 00:29:39,959 Speaker 2: make a TikTok of you literally getting an axe and 534 00:29:40,000 --> 00:29:43,280 Speaker 2: cutting the sign down and burning it. Could go viral, 535 00:29:43,880 --> 00:29:47,680 Speaker 2: could be a rebrand, as Celia mentioned in the first, but. 536 00:29:47,760 --> 00:29:49,960 Speaker 4: More importantly, your dad could go viral because he's old, 537 00:29:50,000 --> 00:29:51,760 Speaker 4: and then he could just die. You know what I mean? 538 00:29:52,160 --> 00:29:56,040 Speaker 2: That got dark and fast, but no pay to any 539 00:29:56,240 --> 00:29:59,000 Speaker 2: where you're Yeah, I get she wants to be true 540 00:29:59,040 --> 00:30:01,880 Speaker 2: to herself. Just pick a different weekend to start being 541 00:30:01,880 --> 00:30:05,320 Speaker 2: true to yourself if we do it after Dad's celebrated. 542 00:30:05,400 --> 00:30:07,400 Speaker 4: Okay, yeah, that's an important birth. 543 00:30:07,520 --> 00:30:09,840 Speaker 2: Well, so I'm reading between the lines of this one. 544 00:30:10,040 --> 00:30:13,240 Speaker 2: She don't like her sister, Oh yeah, she don't. 545 00:30:15,120 --> 00:30:17,520 Speaker 4: I wonder how she feels about dad too. I have questions. 546 00:30:17,800 --> 00:30:20,720 Speaker 2: Yeah, well you know that we don't know. But it 547 00:30:20,800 --> 00:30:23,280 Speaker 2: sounds like she's like my sister's always did. She says 548 00:30:23,320 --> 00:30:25,600 Speaker 2: something like she's always fake or something, or I'm sick 549 00:30:25,640 --> 00:30:25,880 Speaker 2: of her. 550 00:30:25,960 --> 00:30:27,720 Speaker 4: She's one of those fake positive. 551 00:30:27,520 --> 00:30:30,360 Speaker 2: Oh yeah, I mean there's always fake things she doesn't 552 00:30:30,400 --> 00:30:32,880 Speaker 2: like about her either, Yeah, so keep it in your pants. 553 00:30:33,000 --> 00:30:38,760 Speaker 2: Shut your mouth. Use the vibrator on your dad alive. Yeah. 554 00:30:39,120 --> 00:30:51,280 Speaker 4: Next letter, Dear Lisa, I do yoga six days a week. 555 00:30:52,320 --> 00:30:55,560 Speaker 4: I love my instructor. Ooh until the very end of 556 00:30:55,600 --> 00:30:59,239 Speaker 4: class when she gets all spiritual. Then she tells us 557 00:30:59,280 --> 00:31:02,560 Speaker 4: to manify everything we want in our life. Now I'm 558 00:31:02,560 --> 00:31:06,120 Speaker 4: gonna stay these tits of mine at home. She says. Whatever. 559 00:31:06,200 --> 00:31:08,160 Speaker 4: I don't know, she says, to make that up. Yeah, 560 00:31:08,160 --> 00:31:11,280 Speaker 4: I did. She says, whatever we want, we should repeat 561 00:31:11,280 --> 00:31:14,800 Speaker 4: it ten times every morning and every evening. I think 562 00:31:14,800 --> 00:31:17,239 Speaker 4: it's so stupid. I don't understand how saying I am 563 00:31:17,360 --> 00:31:22,040 Speaker 4: rich twenty times? What is gonna make me any more money? 564 00:31:22,200 --> 00:31:24,600 Speaker 4: Should I just tune out when she does? What do 565 00:31:24,640 --> 00:31:29,200 Speaker 4: you think about manifesting? Thanks Bridget diagnosed with Lucky Girl syndrome. 566 00:31:31,480 --> 00:31:35,360 Speaker 2: By the way, By the way, listen, listen girls. Here's 567 00:31:35,360 --> 00:31:39,880 Speaker 2: how I feel. This letter isn't really manifest about manifesting, 568 00:31:39,920 --> 00:31:45,080 Speaker 2: It's about affirmations. Here's the deal. First of all, God 569 00:31:45,120 --> 00:31:47,680 Speaker 2: bless you. You do yoga six times a week. That's great. 570 00:31:48,560 --> 00:31:53,960 Speaker 2: Yoga is inherently spiritual. It was created. It's in the 571 00:31:54,040 --> 00:31:57,400 Speaker 2: Eastern practice. We in the West have just bastarded it 572 00:31:57,520 --> 00:32:01,080 Speaker 2: to mean burning calories and getting fit and sweating. No, 573 00:32:01,200 --> 00:32:04,440 Speaker 2: it's really about spirituality. But anyway, she clearly goes some 574 00:32:04,600 --> 00:32:08,920 Speaker 2: fucking hot, fucking yoga nonsense and they throw in this 575 00:32:09,000 --> 00:32:14,680 Speaker 2: cliche at the end. Well, these affirmations talk about useless 576 00:32:14,680 --> 00:32:19,600 Speaker 2: shit saying in the mirror I am rich. I am this. No, 577 00:32:20,280 --> 00:32:24,280 Speaker 2: because it's just another thing to feel you failed at. 578 00:32:24,720 --> 00:32:27,880 Speaker 2: So say I'm poor, Say I'm nick and I live 579 00:32:28,040 --> 00:32:31,360 Speaker 2: in a tiny, tiny apartment. I keep it clean, you know, 580 00:32:31,440 --> 00:32:37,240 Speaker 2: I straighten it out before I leave. Everything's fine, But 581 00:32:37,400 --> 00:32:41,320 Speaker 2: it is not rich people. What's for me? Because I 582 00:32:41,320 --> 00:32:42,240 Speaker 2: grew up in poverty. 583 00:32:43,360 --> 00:32:43,440 Speaker 3: No. 584 00:32:43,760 --> 00:32:46,440 Speaker 2: But if say a guy with an average income, you 585 00:32:46,480 --> 00:32:49,480 Speaker 2: know great, looks in the mirror and says I am rich, 586 00:32:49,600 --> 00:32:53,880 Speaker 2: you basically are telling yourself a lie. So why tell 587 00:32:53,920 --> 00:32:56,440 Speaker 2: yourself lies. I used to have a bit where I 588 00:32:56,480 --> 00:32:59,160 Speaker 2: would say, if you have to tell your youse, look 589 00:32:59,200 --> 00:33:02,240 Speaker 2: in the mirror and tell you yourself. I'm pretty. Chances 590 00:33:02,280 --> 00:33:06,160 Speaker 2: are you're not. If no guy has bought you a drink, 591 00:33:06,160 --> 00:33:07,360 Speaker 2: it happy? Are you better? 592 00:33:07,400 --> 00:33:07,560 Speaker 3: Right? 593 00:33:07,640 --> 00:33:09,800 Speaker 2: I'm pretty and lipstick big enough to cover your whole 594 00:33:09,880 --> 00:33:14,560 Speaker 2: ugly face, because you're fucking ugly. So it's just gonna 595 00:33:14,600 --> 00:33:18,160 Speaker 2: make you feel like more of a failure. Celia, as 596 00:33:18,160 --> 00:33:23,040 Speaker 2: you're aghast, answer this question. What would be a more 597 00:33:23,120 --> 00:33:29,040 Speaker 2: helpful affirmation than I am rich? What would be something 598 00:33:29,440 --> 00:33:33,240 Speaker 2: that would actually be a nice manifestation and an affirmation 599 00:33:33,520 --> 00:33:37,240 Speaker 2: of one's soul versus a product. 600 00:33:37,160 --> 00:33:41,040 Speaker 3: Like pertaining to finances. Kind of okay, yeah, I would 601 00:33:41,040 --> 00:33:45,000 Speaker 3: be like, I am in a career that gives me 602 00:33:45,080 --> 00:33:47,400 Speaker 3: financial stability and that I enjoy. 603 00:33:47,640 --> 00:33:51,560 Speaker 2: See, that's gratitude. That's great because it is saying, wow, 604 00:33:51,560 --> 00:33:54,760 Speaker 2: I'm looking at mirroring knowledging, I'm fucking lucky, like to 605 00:33:54,880 --> 00:33:58,160 Speaker 2: really walk around going thank god I get to do No, 606 00:33:58,760 --> 00:34:00,920 Speaker 2: I'm never using a word like again, I'm sorry I 607 00:34:00,920 --> 00:34:04,760 Speaker 2: had to use it now, but I okay, okay, shutty. 608 00:34:05,560 --> 00:34:07,200 Speaker 2: I'll point to you when I want to hear something. 609 00:34:08,840 --> 00:34:14,880 Speaker 2: Huh up. That is kind of funny. Okay, but you're right, like, 610 00:34:14,960 --> 00:34:18,400 Speaker 2: it's that's giving it gratitude. That's like being welcoming more 611 00:34:19,480 --> 00:34:24,080 Speaker 2: riches quote unquote in spirit to you because you're actually 612 00:34:24,280 --> 00:34:28,040 Speaker 2: grateful for what you've been given. So for me, if 613 00:34:28,080 --> 00:34:29,920 Speaker 2: it was for me, i'd be like instead of I 614 00:34:29,960 --> 00:34:31,840 Speaker 2: am rich. Well though I can say it, it's true. 615 00:34:32,120 --> 00:34:33,400 Speaker 4: So that's not fa. 616 00:34:35,320 --> 00:34:38,000 Speaker 2: No, But for Nick, somebody who's like a normal guy 617 00:34:38,560 --> 00:34:41,200 Speaker 2: who wants other things, who might want to not stay 618 00:34:41,200 --> 00:34:43,799 Speaker 2: in the day job forever or whatever, it could be like, 619 00:34:44,040 --> 00:34:50,520 Speaker 2: I welcome any change in my in my career, in 620 00:34:50,560 --> 00:34:54,759 Speaker 2: my life that is meant for me. So it's welcoming 621 00:34:54,800 --> 00:34:57,120 Speaker 2: the change in if it's supposed to happen. It's not 622 00:34:57,200 --> 00:35:00,320 Speaker 2: being like I'm rich, I'm pretty. Never look in the 623 00:35:00,320 --> 00:35:02,520 Speaker 2: mirror and say I'm not fat. It's not true. 624 00:35:03,719 --> 00:35:05,960 Speaker 4: I usually mush my tits up against my mirror and 625 00:35:05,960 --> 00:35:07,280 Speaker 4: I go, you like that fatty? 626 00:35:07,400 --> 00:35:10,040 Speaker 2: Okay, you know what. I think that's manifesting at his best. 627 00:35:10,160 --> 00:35:14,359 Speaker 4: I have FBS fat boy syndrome, which is which is 628 00:35:14,400 --> 00:35:19,560 Speaker 4: when you're just like you're girthy, but people fucking love you. 629 00:35:21,280 --> 00:35:24,600 Speaker 2: Okay, next you have another one. 630 00:35:24,680 --> 00:35:27,920 Speaker 4: We do have one more, another bitch from Portland. 631 00:35:28,440 --> 00:35:29,759 Speaker 2: We switch one. 632 00:35:30,480 --> 00:35:32,319 Speaker 4: You're gonna say this one's Oregon. I think it is 633 00:35:33,160 --> 00:35:35,600 Speaker 4: d Day over here, and it's for dykes because they 634 00:35:35,680 --> 00:35:42,120 Speaker 4: keep brighten us. I backed out follow me at Stephanie 635 00:35:42,280 --> 00:35:48,280 Speaker 4: Layne Underscore. All right, Lisa, huge fan, I'm Ava definitely 636 00:35:48,280 --> 00:35:54,120 Speaker 4: gay thirty three from I cannot hear myself, say give 637 00:35:54,160 --> 00:35:56,440 Speaker 4: yourself grace one more time. 638 00:35:56,840 --> 00:36:00,239 Speaker 2: Oh so she says it, yes to her else. 639 00:36:00,400 --> 00:36:03,040 Speaker 4: Yeah, I used it last week when I forgot my 640 00:36:03,160 --> 00:36:04,400 Speaker 4: friend's baby shower. 641 00:36:04,560 --> 00:36:08,399 Speaker 2: Oh honey, it's called a calendar. Look at the fuck up. 642 00:36:09,000 --> 00:36:11,319 Speaker 4: By the way, who's thirty three year old adull? You 643 00:36:11,360 --> 00:36:12,480 Speaker 4: forget stuff? Event? 644 00:36:12,680 --> 00:36:15,640 Speaker 2: I forgot my friend's event. If it's important to you, 645 00:36:15,640 --> 00:36:18,279 Speaker 2: you're gonna remember, like you're gonna remember to keep looking 646 00:36:18,320 --> 00:36:25,440 Speaker 2: at your phone about Harry Styles tickets. Guys, do you 647 00:36:25,520 --> 00:36:28,680 Speaker 2: know what he's doing thirty nights New York, baking out 648 00:36:28,719 --> 00:36:30,880 Speaker 2: to every one of them. I'm gonna get a vibrators 649 00:36:31,440 --> 00:36:37,000 Speaker 2: Harry Style. Okay, but if it's an event that's important 650 00:36:37,000 --> 00:36:39,879 Speaker 2: to you, you're gonna remember. Nick In sixty four and 651 00:36:40,000 --> 00:36:43,640 Speaker 2: a half years, I could honestly tell you I've forgotten 652 00:36:43,719 --> 00:36:47,320 Speaker 2: one event. I forget what it even is now because 653 00:36:47,360 --> 00:36:50,160 Speaker 2: it probably like they weren't even like mad at me 654 00:36:50,320 --> 00:36:52,960 Speaker 2: or something. But that's ridiculous. Okay, So she had it 655 00:36:53,000 --> 00:36:53,640 Speaker 2: gets worse. 656 00:36:53,920 --> 00:36:56,759 Speaker 4: It gets worse because I just read ahead and this 657 00:36:56,880 --> 00:36:59,439 Speaker 4: drives me fucking nuts. Oh no, I forgot my friend's 658 00:36:59,480 --> 00:37:03,200 Speaker 4: baby shower. That's when she used the phrase, and again 659 00:37:03,880 --> 00:37:06,959 Speaker 4: when I venmoed my landlord four days late. 660 00:37:07,480 --> 00:37:10,839 Speaker 2: Nope, it's called the first. 661 00:37:10,640 --> 00:37:13,319 Speaker 4: Pay the rent. Stay in Connecticut. By the way, you 662 00:37:13,320 --> 00:37:15,719 Speaker 4: do have ten days to pay your landlord for the 663 00:37:15,719 --> 00:37:16,080 Speaker 4: first time. 664 00:37:16,120 --> 00:37:18,000 Speaker 2: We are Connecticut loosen. 665 00:37:18,840 --> 00:37:20,480 Speaker 4: I mean, we got a lot of them, but I 666 00:37:20,480 --> 00:37:23,479 Speaker 4: only know that state law. But like then she said, 667 00:37:23,480 --> 00:37:25,120 Speaker 4: and then she sai, I'm sorry to think it's not grace. 668 00:37:25,239 --> 00:37:28,640 Speaker 4: It's just I don't feel like doing better. At what 669 00:37:28,800 --> 00:37:32,040 Speaker 4: point does a platitude become a crutch? Well, Ava, a 670 00:37:32,040 --> 00:37:37,040 Speaker 4: platitude is actually an animal, so you're wrong. 671 00:37:37,239 --> 00:37:40,040 Speaker 2: Yeah, it's so stupid from when I see some of 672 00:37:40,040 --> 00:37:43,640 Speaker 2: the platypusses could use crutches because it's waddling around like 673 00:37:43,680 --> 00:37:44,880 Speaker 2: a little fat Nicks. 674 00:37:45,040 --> 00:37:48,920 Speaker 4: Okay, I'm gonna be the penguin next season for Colin Farrell. 675 00:37:49,040 --> 00:37:53,280 Speaker 2: You should should wait. So she what's great about what's ava? 676 00:37:53,400 --> 00:37:53,880 Speaker 2: Is it? Ava? 677 00:37:54,320 --> 00:37:54,680 Speaker 4: Ava? 678 00:37:55,000 --> 00:37:57,720 Speaker 2: One thing? I already know she's on the road to change, 679 00:37:57,920 --> 00:38:00,920 Speaker 2: because she said, how do I know when it's become 680 00:38:00,920 --> 00:38:04,560 Speaker 2: a crutch? She is already aware, and the awareness is 681 00:38:04,600 --> 00:38:07,440 Speaker 2: what she needs to go to the next step, Like 682 00:38:07,880 --> 00:38:13,560 Speaker 2: giving yourself grace is obviously fine, but she's recognizing she's 683 00:38:13,600 --> 00:38:17,239 Speaker 2: abusing it and saying it to herself a lot. How 684 00:38:17,280 --> 00:38:20,040 Speaker 2: About she practice has given that landlord some grace, and 685 00:38:20,120 --> 00:38:22,160 Speaker 2: by grace I mean the three grand a month she 686 00:38:22,239 --> 00:38:25,640 Speaker 2: owes him. How About she gives that baby shower cunt 687 00:38:25,719 --> 00:38:33,200 Speaker 2: which BSc, that BSc some grace by sending an apology. 688 00:38:33,400 --> 00:38:35,200 Speaker 4: Written out with a nice gift. 689 00:38:35,640 --> 00:38:38,879 Speaker 2: Of course, the gift two gifts, once for forgetting. See 690 00:38:38,880 --> 00:38:41,879 Speaker 2: if she if ava. If you're listening, you send one 691 00:38:41,960 --> 00:38:44,680 Speaker 2: for forgetting, and then you send the original and a 692 00:38:44,760 --> 00:38:50,320 Speaker 2: handwritten card. None of this email shit, a handwritten lovely card, 693 00:38:50,680 --> 00:38:53,640 Speaker 2: and you apologize and own it. So I like that 694 00:38:53,719 --> 00:38:57,120 Speaker 2: she recognizes it has become a crutch. I think, say, 695 00:38:57,160 --> 00:38:59,640 Speaker 2: give other people grace more than you give it to yourself. 696 00:39:00,800 --> 00:39:05,319 Speaker 2: Am I right? Am I right? But there's some instances. Yes, 697 00:39:05,360 --> 00:39:08,759 Speaker 2: you have to give yourself grace while changing. So she's 698 00:39:08,800 --> 00:39:11,400 Speaker 2: gonna make these mistakes. But as long as she's working 699 00:39:11,440 --> 00:39:14,600 Speaker 2: on it, then you're How about for every little step 700 00:39:14,600 --> 00:39:17,359 Speaker 2: forward you take, you give yourself a counterir of. 701 00:39:17,320 --> 00:39:20,320 Speaker 4: Grace, one cun hair of grace at. 702 00:39:20,480 --> 00:39:26,800 Speaker 2: One step, one counterre that's the fucking rules. You get grace, 703 00:39:27,560 --> 00:39:28,400 Speaker 2: bite the content. 704 00:39:28,680 --> 00:39:31,640 Speaker 4: What if this baby's name is Grace, middle name Conterre. 705 00:39:31,840 --> 00:39:37,319 Speaker 2: I mean, I'll count there. Counter. Do you know that's 706 00:39:37,360 --> 00:39:39,120 Speaker 2: a real thing. By the way, did you know that. 707 00:39:38,960 --> 00:39:40,480 Speaker 3: It's my favorite airline? 708 00:39:40,719 --> 00:39:45,879 Speaker 2: No, it's count She comes off with a good one 709 00:39:45,880 --> 00:39:51,200 Speaker 2: once in a while. Area die. She got all cute 710 00:39:51,239 --> 00:39:54,160 Speaker 2: on it. That'll get you in that audience in SNL. 711 00:39:54,200 --> 00:39:56,720 Speaker 2: There you go, you're throw in something nice. Somebody's listening. 712 00:39:56,800 --> 00:39:59,840 Speaker 2: They go, hey, that producer, we need her in the audience. 713 00:40:00,160 --> 00:40:02,640 Speaker 2: You never know, just put yourself out there. But anyway, 714 00:40:02,719 --> 00:40:06,879 Speaker 2: countare I You heard the expression first when I an 715 00:40:06,880 --> 00:40:10,319 Speaker 2: ex boyfriend who worked construction and he's like, yeah, move 716 00:40:10,400 --> 00:40:12,560 Speaker 2: that thing to countaire to the left, and I just 717 00:40:12,560 --> 00:40:14,880 Speaker 2: started laughing and I go, is that what he goes? No, 718 00:40:15,480 --> 00:40:18,919 Speaker 2: it's in building, Like when you're building, it's like the 719 00:40:18,960 --> 00:40:23,080 Speaker 2: smallest little amount to move something. And then I looked 720 00:40:23,160 --> 00:40:25,520 Speaker 2: up you can buy and I have it at home. 721 00:40:26,160 --> 00:40:32,040 Speaker 2: A count hair ruler literally is the tiniest. It's a 722 00:40:32,080 --> 00:40:35,799 Speaker 2: big ruler, but it's it's it's divided into counts. So 723 00:40:36,320 --> 00:40:38,839 Speaker 2: you say, move a five contres to the left might 724 00:40:38,840 --> 00:40:40,840 Speaker 2: be a half an inch. I don't know. I didn't 725 00:40:40,840 --> 00:40:43,960 Speaker 2: do to translation, but all I know is it's a 726 00:40:44,000 --> 00:40:46,359 Speaker 2: great expression and it's a real thing. 727 00:40:47,840 --> 00:40:54,200 Speaker 4: The more you know the rainbow when you years from now, 728 00:40:54,320 --> 00:40:57,520 Speaker 4: long time from now, when you pass, I am breaking 729 00:40:57,520 --> 00:40:59,880 Speaker 4: into your house and stealing that cun hair already. 730 00:41:00,440 --> 00:41:04,640 Speaker 2: Yeah, a show off Broadway. I used to use that 731 00:41:04,640 --> 00:41:07,719 Speaker 2: word a lot. You're not allowed to see a little 732 00:41:07,760 --> 00:41:10,759 Speaker 2: woke in the theater industry, but they allowed it because 733 00:41:10,760 --> 00:41:13,120 Speaker 2: it was me. I'd say, I'm moving to conter over there. 734 00:41:13,520 --> 00:41:16,400 Speaker 2: Light me a conterear line I ordered for the entire 735 00:41:16,880 --> 00:41:19,680 Speaker 2: crew and cast opening night as part of their gifts 736 00:41:20,320 --> 00:41:23,160 Speaker 2: conterear rulers. I have several at home, and I'm going 737 00:41:23,200 --> 00:41:26,319 Speaker 2: to gift you one on your birthday. I know it's 738 00:41:26,360 --> 00:41:29,200 Speaker 2: so exciting. I'm so why are your birthday's coming up? Girl? Yeah, 739 00:41:29,239 --> 00:41:30,799 Speaker 2: I'm thirty eight. Here we go. 740 00:41:31,200 --> 00:41:33,479 Speaker 4: Yes, I'm the HB cun hair boy. 741 00:41:35,560 --> 00:41:38,440 Speaker 2: So Nick, before we close, I'm gonna we're gonna do 742 00:41:38,480 --> 00:41:40,879 Speaker 2: a big thumbs up and thumbs down. You can say it, 743 00:41:40,960 --> 00:41:43,640 Speaker 2: don't don't do it because like we won't be able 744 00:41:43,680 --> 00:41:48,160 Speaker 2: to see. So yes or no, both of you if 745 00:41:48,200 --> 00:41:53,359 Speaker 2: you agree with these clatitudes, do the work. Yes, Yeah, 746 00:41:53,480 --> 00:41:55,680 Speaker 2: thumbs up, honor where you're at No. 747 00:41:56,960 --> 00:41:58,840 Speaker 4: Okay, honor, what about enter. 748 00:42:00,400 --> 00:42:04,760 Speaker 2: Give yourself grace? Yes sometimes okay, good, It's all happening 749 00:42:04,760 --> 00:42:09,000 Speaker 2: for a reason. Yes, yes, Yes, you're exactly where you're 750 00:42:09,000 --> 00:42:13,520 Speaker 2: meant to be. No, she's meant to be on Harry 751 00:42:13,600 --> 00:42:16,520 Speaker 2: Styles Cack. I fully believe we're meant to be here. 752 00:42:17,200 --> 00:42:20,400 Speaker 2: Heal you're in her child one hundred and fifty percent true. 753 00:42:20,480 --> 00:42:24,280 Speaker 2: And I am not hearing any of your shit because 754 00:42:24,960 --> 00:42:26,840 Speaker 2: Nick you I know you believe it because of the 755 00:42:26,880 --> 00:42:31,120 Speaker 2: trauma work. We're done. They become a cliched phrase. But 756 00:42:31,239 --> 00:42:34,480 Speaker 2: unless you heal yourself historically, you are not moving forward. 757 00:42:34,560 --> 00:42:37,320 Speaker 2: I don't care what anyone says. Listen to your body. 758 00:42:37,440 --> 00:42:42,600 Speaker 2: I say yes, unless it's screaming for the vibrater, name 759 00:42:42,680 --> 00:42:44,400 Speaker 2: it to tame it. What the fuck is that? 760 00:42:45,719 --> 00:42:47,719 Speaker 4: Like, I'm a bad boy. 761 00:42:48,040 --> 00:42:53,560 Speaker 2: It's more like if, well, how are you feeling? Sad? Okay, well, angry? 762 00:42:53,640 --> 00:42:55,719 Speaker 2: So I guess if you identify the feeling, then you 763 00:42:55,760 --> 00:42:58,600 Speaker 2: can work on it. But I don't like that saying 764 00:42:58,600 --> 00:43:00,200 Speaker 2: I don't need Okay, let's just cross it up out 765 00:43:00,239 --> 00:43:02,440 Speaker 2: then wait, oh yeah, let me get a pen. 766 00:43:03,520 --> 00:43:05,680 Speaker 3: It doesn't exist. 767 00:43:05,840 --> 00:43:13,640 Speaker 2: Okay, this word that's valid? 768 00:43:14,160 --> 00:43:17,800 Speaker 3: Oh I say that all of I know you do. 769 00:43:18,760 --> 00:43:20,279 Speaker 2: That's why I was happy you had the flu and 770 00:43:20,280 --> 00:43:25,920 Speaker 2: couldn't come in. That's valand work smarter, not harder. I 771 00:43:25,960 --> 00:43:28,080 Speaker 2: mean that I think I like a. 772 00:43:28,080 --> 00:43:30,799 Speaker 3: Joke now, like work smarter, you know, like when somebody 773 00:43:30,880 --> 00:43:32,920 Speaker 3: does something, how do you do it? Work smarter? 774 00:43:33,120 --> 00:43:39,960 Speaker 2: Could you want? What's more, We're smarter catch. I do 775 00:43:40,040 --> 00:43:42,879 Speaker 2: hate circle back, I really do. That's just a way 776 00:43:42,920 --> 00:43:45,719 Speaker 2: of saying, hey, Hunt, you didn't answer me. I don't 777 00:43:45,760 --> 00:43:50,120 Speaker 2: like that to do give one hundred percent. I'll tell 778 00:43:50,120 --> 00:43:52,080 Speaker 2: you why. I particularly hate this because if you ever 779 00:43:52,080 --> 00:43:55,080 Speaker 2: go back and you watch my season of Celebrity Apprentice 780 00:43:55,600 --> 00:43:59,959 Speaker 2: Lou for Rigno and I'm not please people take this back. 781 00:44:00,080 --> 00:44:02,399 Speaker 2: Then you could make fun of deaf people and get 782 00:44:02,400 --> 00:44:04,759 Speaker 2: away with it. And I know it's wrong now, but 783 00:44:04,880 --> 00:44:09,839 Speaker 2: he would always say I'm not gonna imitate him. He'd say, 784 00:44:09,920 --> 00:44:14,360 Speaker 2: give so, but I would always go on, you know, 785 00:44:15,000 --> 00:44:22,400 Speaker 2: meanly during the confessional, go so, I remember this and 786 00:44:22,440 --> 00:44:25,080 Speaker 2: I apologize. I don't apologize to lou for Igno because 787 00:44:25,080 --> 00:44:27,800 Speaker 2: he was an asshole to me, but I am sorry 788 00:44:27,840 --> 00:44:30,279 Speaker 2: that I did Deaf Voice Jeff Community Deaf Voice. I 789 00:44:30,320 --> 00:44:32,560 Speaker 2: apologize to the deaf community. But you can't hear me. 790 00:44:32,600 --> 00:44:41,160 Speaker 2: So okay, one last one, I'm gonna throw up. Romanticize 791 00:44:41,280 --> 00:44:45,680 Speaker 2: your life. No, no, no. If I want to be 792 00:44:45,840 --> 00:44:48,600 Speaker 2: romantic with my life, I got a little lavender. 793 00:44:49,360 --> 00:44:54,279 Speaker 4: If you want to romanticize your life, follow me and 794 00:44:54,480 --> 00:44:59,680 Speaker 4: Stephanie Lee, which is my hibachi cooking. I know it's fun. Exactly, 795 00:45:00,000 --> 00:45:01,000 Speaker 4: She's Asian, but she's not. 796 00:45:01,320 --> 00:45:04,680 Speaker 2: This is, of course, Stephanie Lane, our producer from last 797 00:45:04,680 --> 00:45:06,879 Speaker 2: week and the week before and the week before, because boy, 798 00:45:06,920 --> 00:45:09,680 Speaker 2: does Celia know how to stretch out an illness. 799 00:45:14,960 --> 00:45:15,440 Speaker 3: Recording. 800 00:45:16,600 --> 00:45:19,480 Speaker 4: God, we did three episodes that yeah. 801 00:45:19,400 --> 00:45:23,600 Speaker 2: We nick you're you're taking you're exposing the veil from 802 00:45:23,600 --> 00:45:27,480 Speaker 2: our who cares, don't know? People go in a podcast 803 00:45:27,480 --> 00:45:31,720 Speaker 2: studio and tape four episodes a day, sometimes three because 804 00:45:31,760 --> 00:45:35,560 Speaker 2: we have lives people. Okay, that's not a platitude, that's 805 00:45:35,600 --> 00:45:41,520 Speaker 2: a saying of truth. We got lives. And Stephanie Lane 806 00:45:41,560 --> 00:45:47,200 Speaker 2: filled in, Yes she did. Yes, Celia, you're terrific. Could you, 807 00:45:47,280 --> 00:45:49,960 Speaker 2: once again before we close, tell people where to find 808 00:45:50,000 --> 00:45:55,920 Speaker 2: you on the social media? Celia, Oh me, I'm romanticizing 809 00:45:55,960 --> 00:45:59,240 Speaker 2: my lucky girl. 810 00:45:59,320 --> 00:46:03,080 Speaker 3: Exactly. Celia underscore underscore Romano. 811 00:46:03,360 --> 00:46:07,839 Speaker 2: Wait dude, though you're on Instagram, are you also on. 812 00:46:07,760 --> 00:46:09,400 Speaker 3: TikTok I'm private on TikTok. 813 00:46:09,480 --> 00:46:11,280 Speaker 2: Okay, that's what I thought, because I was like, oh, okay, 814 00:46:11,520 --> 00:46:13,000 Speaker 2: where can they find you, asshole? 815 00:46:13,840 --> 00:46:19,280 Speaker 4: You can find me at lavenderloveboy at gay forpay dot com. 816 00:46:19,520 --> 00:46:20,440 Speaker 2: Okay, now you. 817 00:46:20,400 --> 00:46:23,800 Speaker 4: Find me a Nick Instagram and TikTok a lease lamp. 818 00:46:23,520 --> 00:46:25,279 Speaker 2: An alley, wherever the fuck you want. I don't care. 819 00:46:25,360 --> 00:46:28,560 Speaker 2: What are you gonna do? What this shit? Oh my god, 820 00:46:28,560 --> 00:46:32,200 Speaker 2: it broke my pant. I and also Nick give us 821 00:46:32,239 --> 00:46:34,800 Speaker 2: our famous outro. We'll be back next week. 822 00:46:34,920 --> 00:46:38,440 Speaker 4: But guys, what if you want to write into the show? 823 00:46:39,400 --> 00:46:43,200 Speaker 4: Email us at shrink this show at gmail dot com. 824 00:46:43,200 --> 00:46:49,120 Speaker 4: That is, shrink this Show at gmail dot com. Follow 825 00:46:49,160 --> 00:46:51,719 Speaker 4: all of us on Instagram. Please listen to this podcast 826 00:46:52,000 --> 00:46:56,000 Speaker 4: on your iHeartRadio app or wherever the fuck you get podcasts. 827 00:46:56,080 --> 00:46:58,719 Speaker 2: I can't believe you didn't say the most important part, 828 00:46:58,800 --> 00:47:02,640 Speaker 2: which is thanks for listenings for this was so funny 829 00:47:02,640 --> 00:47:05,759 Speaker 2: because that was always your at your most insincere. Yeah. 830 00:47:05,960 --> 00:47:08,320 Speaker 2: I truly believe someday you will be a great actor. 831 00:47:08,400 --> 00:47:12,480 Speaker 2: But boy, thanks for listening. Do it? Okay? Give us 832 00:47:12,480 --> 00:47:15,280 Speaker 2: a thanks for listening like you you took acting class, 833 00:47:15,280 --> 00:47:16,840 Speaker 2: like with some gravy toss. 834 00:47:16,840 --> 00:47:19,160 Speaker 4: Go ahead, guys, thanks so much for listening. We really 835 00:47:19,200 --> 00:47:22,800 Speaker 4: appreciate you. Wow, welcome right into the show. Please email 836 00:47:22,880 --> 00:47:24,480 Speaker 4: us an 837 00:47:25,160 --> 00:47:30,000 Speaker 2: I gotta go, goodbye, we gotta go, stupid bye