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It's a joy to come into 45 00:01:51,760 --> 00:01:52,360 Speaker 4: your homes. 46 00:01:52,400 --> 00:01:55,360 Speaker 6: And if you're ever in our area, please stop buying 47 00:01:55,560 --> 00:01:57,920 Speaker 6: be a part of one of our services. I promise 48 00:01:57,960 --> 00:02:00,600 Speaker 6: you will make you feel right at home. But I 49 00:02:00,680 --> 00:02:03,080 Speaker 6: like to start with something funny. And I heard about 50 00:02:03,080 --> 00:02:06,080 Speaker 6: these three sons that left home and went. 51 00:02:05,960 --> 00:02:06,920 Speaker 4: Out and prospered. 52 00:02:07,360 --> 00:02:10,120 Speaker 6: They got back together to talk about the gifts they 53 00:02:10,160 --> 00:02:13,720 Speaker 6: bought their elderly mother. The first son said, I built 54 00:02:13,760 --> 00:02:17,000 Speaker 6: mom a big house. The second one said, I got 55 00:02:17,000 --> 00:02:20,720 Speaker 6: her a fancy car. The third son said, since mom 56 00:02:20,960 --> 00:02:24,160 Speaker 6: loves to read the Bible but she can barely see anymore, 57 00:02:24,560 --> 00:02:27,760 Speaker 6: I got her a specially trained parent that can quote 58 00:02:27,760 --> 00:02:31,280 Speaker 6: the entire Bible. A few months later, they received a 59 00:02:31,360 --> 00:02:34,200 Speaker 6: letter from their mother. It said, Milton, the house you 60 00:02:34,280 --> 00:02:37,040 Speaker 6: built me is way too big. Gerald, the car you 61 00:02:37,120 --> 00:02:40,440 Speaker 6: bought me is way too small. But my dearest Donald, 62 00:02:40,760 --> 00:02:42,560 Speaker 6: your simple gift is my favorite. 63 00:02:42,800 --> 00:02:47,640 Speaker 4: The chicken was delicious. Say it like you mean it. 64 00:02:48,240 --> 00:02:50,919 Speaker 4: This is my Bible. I am what it says. I am. 65 00:02:51,360 --> 00:02:53,640 Speaker 6: I have what it says I have. I can do 66 00:02:53,760 --> 00:02:56,320 Speaker 6: what it says I can do. Today I will be 67 00:02:56,400 --> 00:03:00,280 Speaker 6: taught the word of God. I'll boldly confess my mind 68 00:03:00,400 --> 00:03:02,480 Speaker 6: is alert, my heart is receptive. 69 00:03:02,800 --> 00:03:06,120 Speaker 4: I will never be the same. In Jesus' name, God 70 00:03:06,160 --> 00:03:06,600 Speaker 4: bless you. 71 00:03:08,120 --> 00:03:10,600 Speaker 6: I want to talk to you today about not relying 72 00:03:10,720 --> 00:03:14,760 Speaker 6: on people. It's great when people believe in us, cheer 73 00:03:14,840 --> 00:03:18,400 Speaker 6: us on, make us feel valuable. We love when our 74 00:03:18,440 --> 00:03:22,120 Speaker 6: spouse compliments us. A friend is there to give encouragement. 75 00:03:22,680 --> 00:03:24,160 Speaker 4: Our coworker stays. 76 00:03:23,919 --> 00:03:27,000 Speaker 6: Late to help us on the project. God uses people 77 00:03:27,320 --> 00:03:28,160 Speaker 6: to help move. 78 00:03:28,080 --> 00:03:30,840 Speaker 4: Us toward our destiny. But here's the key. 79 00:03:31,360 --> 00:03:34,920 Speaker 6: You can't become so dependent on people that you're getting 80 00:03:34,920 --> 00:03:38,240 Speaker 6: your worth and value out of how they treat you. 81 00:03:39,040 --> 00:03:43,880 Speaker 6: It's easy to become addicted to compliments, addicted to encouragement, 82 00:03:44,400 --> 00:03:45,080 Speaker 6: addicted to. 83 00:03:45,040 --> 00:03:45,880 Speaker 4: Them cheering you on. 84 00:03:46,760 --> 00:03:49,839 Speaker 6: Now you rely on them to keep you feeling good 85 00:03:49,840 --> 00:03:53,480 Speaker 6: about yourself, to always be there to validate you, to 86 00:03:53,600 --> 00:03:56,960 Speaker 6: make you feel approved and like a drug. If they 87 00:03:56,960 --> 00:04:01,880 Speaker 6: don't keep you fixed meet all your expectations, you get discouraged, 88 00:04:02,200 --> 00:04:06,040 Speaker 6: feel inferior, work over time to try to win their approval. 89 00:04:06,800 --> 00:04:10,280 Speaker 6: The problem is you're trying to get from people what 90 00:04:10,440 --> 00:04:15,080 Speaker 6: only God can give. Your worth, your value doesn't come 91 00:04:15,120 --> 00:04:16,159 Speaker 6: from another person. 92 00:04:16,680 --> 00:04:20,320 Speaker 4: It comes from your creator. If you rely on. 93 00:04:20,279 --> 00:04:25,000 Speaker 6: People, you'll be disappointed. People will let you down, people will. 94 00:04:24,880 --> 00:04:26,960 Speaker 4: Get busy and not be there when you need it. 95 00:04:27,400 --> 00:04:30,760 Speaker 4: Sometimes people will even turn on you. In the scripture, 96 00:04:31,200 --> 00:04:34,760 Speaker 4: Peter was Jesus's close friend. They were with each other 97 00:04:34,880 --> 00:04:35,520 Speaker 4: day and night. 98 00:04:36,200 --> 00:04:39,480 Speaker 6: But when Jesus needed Peter the most, when he was 99 00:04:39,520 --> 00:04:43,800 Speaker 6: about to be crucified, Peter denied that he even knew Christ. 100 00:04:44,600 --> 00:04:47,760 Speaker 6: Jesus could have been upset. God, I don't understand it. 101 00:04:48,000 --> 00:04:50,479 Speaker 6: Why wasn't my friend there for me? He would have 102 00:04:50,520 --> 00:04:55,320 Speaker 6: missed his destiny. Quit relying on people. What they do 103 00:04:55,600 --> 00:04:58,159 Speaker 6: or don't do doesn't determine your worth. 104 00:04:58,760 --> 00:05:01,560 Speaker 4: What they give you or don't give you. 105 00:05:01,120 --> 00:05:04,880 Speaker 6: Cannot stop your purpose. God breathed his life into you. 106 00:05:05,400 --> 00:05:08,760 Speaker 6: He has crowned you with his favor. Quit waiting for 107 00:05:08,880 --> 00:05:13,360 Speaker 6: people to approve you, and start approving yourself. People may 108 00:05:13,400 --> 00:05:17,200 Speaker 6: not encourage you, you can encourage yourself. People may not 109 00:05:17,320 --> 00:05:20,400 Speaker 6: make you feel special. You can make yourself feel special. 110 00:05:20,800 --> 00:05:23,159 Speaker 6: I'm a child of the most High God. I know 111 00:05:23,279 --> 00:05:25,640 Speaker 6: I'm crowned with favor. I'm one of a kind. 112 00:05:25,680 --> 00:05:26,680 Speaker 4: I'm a masterpiece. 113 00:05:27,560 --> 00:05:31,799 Speaker 6: You'll have better relationships if you'll start validating yourself. 114 00:05:32,480 --> 00:05:33,839 Speaker 4: If you're always. 115 00:05:33,400 --> 00:05:38,400 Speaker 6: Depending on somebody else, you'll become needy, a burden waiting 116 00:05:38,440 --> 00:05:41,520 Speaker 6: for other people to keep you fixed. Can I tell 117 00:05:41,560 --> 00:05:45,640 Speaker 6: you your friends, family members, they have enough problems of 118 00:05:45,680 --> 00:05:49,039 Speaker 6: their own. They have enough issues that they're dealing with 119 00:05:49,520 --> 00:05:51,960 Speaker 6: to not come home and have to work on you 120 00:05:52,040 --> 00:05:56,520 Speaker 6: for three hours. That's not only hurting you, it's unfair 121 00:05:56,880 --> 00:06:00,919 Speaker 6: to the people God put in your life responsible for 122 00:06:01,000 --> 00:06:04,480 Speaker 6: your happiness. They're not responsible to keep you cheered up. 123 00:06:05,080 --> 00:06:09,080 Speaker 6: Don't put that extra pressure on them. Learn to receive 124 00:06:09,160 --> 00:06:14,000 Speaker 6: your value, your self worth from your heavenly Father. If 125 00:06:14,040 --> 00:06:17,080 Speaker 6: you're basing that off of what people give you, then 126 00:06:17,120 --> 00:06:20,039 Speaker 6: if they change their mind, if they stop doing it, 127 00:06:20,400 --> 00:06:24,000 Speaker 6: you'll feel devalued. But when you go to God for it, 128 00:06:24,320 --> 00:06:27,320 Speaker 6: nobody can take it away. It's not depending on how 129 00:06:27,360 --> 00:06:30,240 Speaker 6: somebody treats you, how they make you feel, how many 130 00:06:30,240 --> 00:06:33,760 Speaker 6: compliments they give you. It's dependent on the fact that 131 00:06:33,800 --> 00:06:37,000 Speaker 6: you're a child of Almighty God and you know He 132 00:06:37,120 --> 00:06:41,000 Speaker 6: has already approved you. That's where you're getting your value. 133 00:06:41,080 --> 00:06:42,040 Speaker 4: Well, Joel, my. 134 00:06:42,040 --> 00:06:45,400 Speaker 6: Parents didn't raise me right, I didn't have a good childhood. 135 00:06:45,480 --> 00:06:49,520 Speaker 6: Or my spouse never compliments me. My boss didn't give 136 00:06:49,560 --> 00:06:52,599 Speaker 6: me the credit that I deserve. I say this respectfully. 137 00:06:53,120 --> 00:06:56,320 Speaker 4: If you didn't get it, you didn't need it. They 138 00:06:56,360 --> 00:06:57,680 Speaker 4: can't stop your destiny. 139 00:06:58,200 --> 00:07:02,159 Speaker 6: What they say or do cannot override God's plan for 140 00:07:02,200 --> 00:07:02,760 Speaker 6: your life. 141 00:07:03,200 --> 00:07:04,680 Speaker 4: Shake off the negativity. 142 00:07:05,720 --> 00:07:09,680 Speaker 6: That person that walked away did you wrong, made hurtful comments. 143 00:07:10,400 --> 00:07:11,840 Speaker 4: Shake off the disrespect. 144 00:07:12,520 --> 00:07:16,400 Speaker 6: Don't believe the lies that you're not talented enough, attractive enough, 145 00:07:16,600 --> 00:07:20,720 Speaker 6: good enough. They don't determine your value. They can't lessen 146 00:07:20,760 --> 00:07:24,400 Speaker 6: your self worth. The only power people have over you 147 00:07:24,840 --> 00:07:25,920 Speaker 6: is the power. 148 00:07:25,640 --> 00:07:26,960 Speaker 4: That you give them. 149 00:07:27,520 --> 00:07:31,160 Speaker 6: Jesus had all kinds of people come against him, politicians, 150 00:07:31,400 --> 00:07:36,160 Speaker 6: religious leaders, haters, critics trying to discredit him, make him 151 00:07:36,160 --> 00:07:39,680 Speaker 6: feel inferior, cause him to give up. He could have 152 00:07:39,720 --> 00:07:43,240 Speaker 6: taken the bait, thought I must not be too special. 153 00:07:43,280 --> 00:07:45,840 Speaker 4: Listen to what they're saying. Look at how they're treating me. 154 00:07:46,600 --> 00:07:48,720 Speaker 4: But Jesus understood this principle. 155 00:07:49,040 --> 00:07:52,760 Speaker 6: He knew his value didn't come from people. It came 156 00:07:52,800 --> 00:07:56,000 Speaker 6: from his heavenly father. He said to them in John 157 00:07:56,080 --> 00:08:00,360 Speaker 6: chapter five, your approval or disapproval. 158 00:07:59,760 --> 00:08:03,440 Speaker 4: Means nothing to me. He was saying, I don't need 159 00:08:03,480 --> 00:08:05,600 Speaker 4: your approval to feel good about myself. 160 00:08:06,200 --> 00:08:09,240 Speaker 6: I don't have to have your encouragement, your support to 161 00:08:09,320 --> 00:08:13,160 Speaker 6: keep me moving forward. Paul said it this way in Philippians. 162 00:08:13,520 --> 00:08:18,440 Speaker 6: I am self sufficient in Christ's sufficiency, not in our 163 00:08:18,480 --> 00:08:22,480 Speaker 6: own strength. But when we know the creator of the universe, 164 00:08:22,880 --> 00:08:27,160 Speaker 6: lives in us. He's equipped us, empowered us, anointed us. 165 00:08:27,640 --> 00:08:30,920 Speaker 6: We can put our shoulders back, hold our head up high, 166 00:08:31,240 --> 00:08:33,920 Speaker 6: knowing that if God approves us, we don't have to 167 00:08:33,960 --> 00:08:38,079 Speaker 6: have people's approval. This good when people encourage us, when 168 00:08:38,120 --> 00:08:41,440 Speaker 6: they cheer us on. What I'm saying is, don't become 169 00:08:41,640 --> 00:08:45,920 Speaker 6: dependent on that. If somebody's not giving you what you expect, 170 00:08:46,360 --> 00:08:50,160 Speaker 6: they're not validating you. That's okay. You can validate yourself. 171 00:08:50,760 --> 00:08:55,359 Speaker 6: You can approve yourself. You are self sufficient in Christ's sufficiency. 172 00:08:55,760 --> 00:08:58,760 Speaker 6: You can feel good about who you are knowing that 173 00:08:58,800 --> 00:09:02,160 Speaker 6: God hand picked you, You created you in his image, 174 00:09:02,280 --> 00:09:04,599 Speaker 6: put seeds of greatness on the inside. 175 00:09:05,280 --> 00:09:06,080 Speaker 4: What am I saying? 176 00:09:06,520 --> 00:09:10,280 Speaker 6: You don't need somebody else's praise. You don't have to 177 00:09:10,360 --> 00:09:14,160 Speaker 6: have people's applause. You have the applause from the one 178 00:09:14,200 --> 00:09:17,880 Speaker 6: who matters most, from the God who spoke worlds into existence. 179 00:09:18,120 --> 00:09:20,760 Speaker 6: I'd rather have his applause than people's applause. 180 00:09:21,480 --> 00:09:22,360 Speaker 4: Well, if I could. 181 00:09:22,120 --> 00:09:25,160 Speaker 6: Convince this person to like me, they know a lot 182 00:09:25,200 --> 00:09:27,920 Speaker 6: of people, then maybe some new doors would open. 183 00:09:28,640 --> 00:09:32,520 Speaker 4: The scripture says promotion doesn't come from people, it comes 184 00:09:32,559 --> 00:09:36,840 Speaker 4: from the Lord. God knows where all the opportunities are. 185 00:09:37,559 --> 00:09:40,679 Speaker 6: He can make things happen for you without you having 186 00:09:40,720 --> 00:09:43,439 Speaker 6: to convince somebody to like you. 187 00:09:43,440 --> 00:09:44,199 Speaker 4: You don't have to. 188 00:09:44,160 --> 00:09:47,600 Speaker 6: Play up to people try to win their favor. If 189 00:09:47,640 --> 00:09:50,080 Speaker 6: they don't want to be your friend, it's their loss 190 00:09:50,120 --> 00:09:53,640 Speaker 6: and not yours. Do yourself a favor and keep moving forward. 191 00:09:53,920 --> 00:09:57,640 Speaker 6: They're not a part of your destiny. God has divine 192 00:09:57,800 --> 00:10:02,040 Speaker 6: connections people. He's already lined up. They're already in your future. 193 00:10:02,880 --> 00:10:06,200 Speaker 6: Sometimes the reason people don't give us what we need 194 00:10:06,600 --> 00:10:07,440 Speaker 6: is because they. 195 00:10:07,320 --> 00:10:10,080 Speaker 4: Don't have it. Nobody gave it to them. 196 00:10:10,360 --> 00:10:13,559 Speaker 6: They didn't see it modeled growing up, if they weren't 197 00:10:13,640 --> 00:10:18,280 Speaker 6: raised showing affection with people, expressing feelings, being good to 198 00:10:18,320 --> 00:10:21,760 Speaker 6: each other. The problem is they don't have it to give. 199 00:10:22,640 --> 00:10:25,240 Speaker 6: If you're trying to get it from them, you're going 200 00:10:25,280 --> 00:10:28,200 Speaker 6: to be frustrated. Why don't you let them off the 201 00:10:28,240 --> 00:10:30,880 Speaker 6: hook and go to God for what they can't give you. 202 00:10:31,160 --> 00:10:32,760 Speaker 4: Here's the key. God has it all. 203 00:10:33,520 --> 00:10:36,960 Speaker 6: If you'll learn this principle to not rely on people, 204 00:10:37,400 --> 00:10:40,800 Speaker 6: but to go to Him for your encouragement, for your approval, 205 00:10:41,040 --> 00:10:44,400 Speaker 6: for your self worth, then you want live stressed out 206 00:10:44,800 --> 00:10:48,400 Speaker 6: because somebody is not giving you what you expect. If 207 00:10:48,440 --> 00:10:51,280 Speaker 6: nobody's complimenting you, you can compliment yourself. 208 00:10:51,840 --> 00:10:53,679 Speaker 4: Get up in the morning, look at yourself in the mirror, 209 00:10:53,760 --> 00:10:56,240 Speaker 4: Good morning, you good looking thing. Call it by faith. 210 00:10:57,559 --> 00:11:01,719 Speaker 4: God calls you a masterpiece. Say what God says about you. 211 00:11:01,760 --> 00:11:04,360 Speaker 6: I'm strong, I'm healthy, I'm one of a kind, I'm 212 00:11:04,440 --> 00:11:10,200 Speaker 6: highly favored. You have to build yourself up, encourage yourself, 213 00:11:10,720 --> 00:11:15,600 Speaker 6: compliment yourself. You cannot rely on your spouse, your parents, 214 00:11:15,640 --> 00:11:18,720 Speaker 6: your coach, your teacher, your pastor. They may mean well, 215 00:11:19,320 --> 00:11:23,160 Speaker 6: they couldn't love you anymore, but no person can meet 216 00:11:23,200 --> 00:11:24,040 Speaker 6: all of your needs. 217 00:11:24,480 --> 00:11:25,440 Speaker 4: Only God can. 218 00:11:26,040 --> 00:11:29,960 Speaker 6: If you're just looking to people, eventually you're going to 219 00:11:30,000 --> 00:11:34,679 Speaker 6: become resentful, bitter. Start holding that against them. It will 220 00:11:34,720 --> 00:11:38,840 Speaker 6: sour the relationship. And the truth is it's not their fault. 221 00:11:39,559 --> 00:11:42,600 Speaker 6: Maybe they have issues, they could be doing better in areas. 222 00:11:42,960 --> 00:11:46,800 Speaker 6: But if you'll not rely on people instead go to God, 223 00:11:47,040 --> 00:11:49,720 Speaker 6: then you won't be dependent on what somebody does. 224 00:11:50,720 --> 00:11:53,200 Speaker 4: If they're not giving you what you need and that 225 00:11:53,400 --> 00:11:54,439 Speaker 4: was the only way. 226 00:11:54,240 --> 00:11:58,160 Speaker 6: To get it, they would control your destiny. God didn't 227 00:11:58,200 --> 00:12:00,520 Speaker 6: design the plan for your life and say, okay, it's 228 00:12:00,559 --> 00:12:03,040 Speaker 6: all dependent on if these other people. 229 00:12:02,800 --> 00:12:05,800 Speaker 4: Do what's right. If they encourage you, if they cheer. 230 00:12:05,640 --> 00:12:07,880 Speaker 6: You on, if they never let you down, or God 231 00:12:07,960 --> 00:12:12,280 Speaker 6: put everything you need within your power and instead of 232 00:12:12,360 --> 00:12:14,840 Speaker 6: us live in needy. Oh man, why don't they compliment me? 233 00:12:15,280 --> 00:12:16,640 Speaker 6: Why won't they be my friend? 234 00:12:16,840 --> 00:12:20,200 Speaker 4: The right attitude is nobody owes me anything. 235 00:12:20,920 --> 00:12:24,120 Speaker 6: I don't have to have people's credit, their applause, their support, 236 00:12:24,160 --> 00:12:25,040 Speaker 6: their compliments. 237 00:12:25,240 --> 00:12:28,360 Speaker 4: I am self sufficient. I know where to go for 238 00:12:28,480 --> 00:12:29,559 Speaker 4: everything that I need. 239 00:12:30,679 --> 00:12:34,160 Speaker 6: My father was raised very poor on a cotton farm 240 00:12:34,360 --> 00:12:38,160 Speaker 6: during the Great Depression. He didn't have enough food, hardly 241 00:12:38,200 --> 00:12:40,880 Speaker 6: any clothes, a limited education. 242 00:12:41,240 --> 00:12:43,000 Speaker 4: It was a very rough childhood. 243 00:12:43,600 --> 00:12:46,040 Speaker 6: At the age of seventeen, my dad gave his life 244 00:12:46,040 --> 00:12:48,720 Speaker 6: to Christ and he left the farm and went out 245 00:12:48,760 --> 00:12:52,600 Speaker 6: and started ministring. Years later, when he was in his 246 00:12:52,720 --> 00:12:56,960 Speaker 6: forties and had become a successful minister, he started thinking 247 00:12:57,000 --> 00:12:59,839 Speaker 6: about how he was raised and all the things he 248 00:12:59,840 --> 00:13:04,120 Speaker 6: had had to endure. He wondered why his parents didn't 249 00:13:04,120 --> 00:13:06,640 Speaker 6: give him a better childhood, why he had to go 250 00:13:06,679 --> 00:13:10,120 Speaker 6: without food and without a good education, and all these 251 00:13:10,240 --> 00:13:14,120 Speaker 6: negative memories filled his mind and he started thinking, Ah, 252 00:13:14,160 --> 00:13:17,040 Speaker 6: that wasn't right. They should have done better. They didn't 253 00:13:17,120 --> 00:13:20,360 Speaker 6: give me what I needed. He got so stirred up 254 00:13:20,400 --> 00:13:23,720 Speaker 6: about it. He was about to travel back to his parents' 255 00:13:23,760 --> 00:13:28,120 Speaker 6: hometown and confront his parents and tell them what he thought. 256 00:13:29,080 --> 00:13:31,640 Speaker 4: Just before he left, he heard something. 257 00:13:31,400 --> 00:13:34,880 Speaker 6: On the inside saying, they did you wrong, didn't they? 258 00:13:35,559 --> 00:13:39,200 Speaker 6: He said, yeah, they sure did. It said it wasn't fair, 259 00:13:39,520 --> 00:13:42,320 Speaker 6: was it. They didn't give you what you needed. He answered, no, 260 00:13:42,440 --> 00:13:44,800 Speaker 6: it wasn't fair. You're gonna let them have it. Yeah, 261 00:13:44,800 --> 00:13:47,319 Speaker 6: I'm gonna let them have it. Then the boy said, 262 00:13:48,080 --> 00:13:50,559 Speaker 6: how do you think you would have done if you 263 00:13:50,600 --> 00:13:54,040 Speaker 6: would have been in their shoes, with no income, with 264 00:13:54,160 --> 00:13:57,600 Speaker 6: the banks closing, with nobody to buy the cotton, with 265 00:13:57,720 --> 00:13:58,960 Speaker 6: six children. 266 00:13:58,559 --> 00:14:01,280 Speaker 4: To raise, no election, no washing. 267 00:14:01,040 --> 00:14:07,679 Speaker 6: Machines, no modern day conveniences. That conversation changed my father's perspective. 268 00:14:08,080 --> 00:14:11,800 Speaker 6: He realized his parents did the best they could with 269 00:14:11,840 --> 00:14:12,480 Speaker 6: what they had. 270 00:14:12,880 --> 00:14:15,160 Speaker 4: They couldn't give him what they didn't have. 271 00:14:16,640 --> 00:14:19,560 Speaker 6: Why don't you let the people in your life off 272 00:14:19,560 --> 00:14:22,440 Speaker 6: the hook. Maybe they did the best they could. 273 00:14:23,040 --> 00:14:23,680 Speaker 4: They may have. 274 00:14:23,600 --> 00:14:26,800 Speaker 6: Made decisions that you don't understand. Feels like it puts 275 00:14:26,840 --> 00:14:29,680 Speaker 6: you at a disadvantage, but you didn't have to walk 276 00:14:29,720 --> 00:14:33,880 Speaker 6: in their shoes. Maybe nobody gave them what they needed 277 00:14:33,920 --> 00:14:37,400 Speaker 6: to give to you. Bottom line, nobody owes you anything. 278 00:14:38,000 --> 00:14:41,640 Speaker 6: God is keeping all the records. He has seen everything 279 00:14:41,680 --> 00:14:46,600 Speaker 6: that's happened in your life, the injustice, the bad breaks, 280 00:14:47,120 --> 00:14:51,200 Speaker 6: the person that did you wrong. Those people cannot pay 281 00:14:51,240 --> 00:14:55,120 Speaker 6: you back. They cannot make your hole. Only God can. 282 00:14:56,000 --> 00:14:58,600 Speaker 4: He said he would give you beauty for the ashes. 283 00:14:59,040 --> 00:15:01,760 Speaker 6: He would pay you back double for the unfair things 284 00:15:01,760 --> 00:15:04,760 Speaker 6: that have happened. Quit looking to people to make it 285 00:15:04,840 --> 00:15:08,200 Speaker 6: up to you. Quit trying to get somebody to apologize, 286 00:15:08,280 --> 00:15:11,520 Speaker 6: to admit they were wrong, to give you what they 287 00:15:11,560 --> 00:15:14,720 Speaker 6: don't have. If you'll go to God, he'll bring you 288 00:15:14,800 --> 00:15:18,360 Speaker 6: out better. He'll make the rest of your life more rewarding, 289 00:15:18,760 --> 00:15:21,200 Speaker 6: more fulfilling than it would have been if that hadn't 290 00:15:21,200 --> 00:15:22,480 Speaker 6: have happened in the first place. 291 00:15:23,160 --> 00:15:25,280 Speaker 4: And that's what my father did. He let it go. 292 00:15:25,840 --> 00:15:29,280 Speaker 4: He realized his parents couldn't give him what they didn't have. 293 00:15:29,960 --> 00:15:33,640 Speaker 6: Daddy went on to live a blessed, prosperous, successful life. 294 00:15:33,880 --> 00:15:37,000 Speaker 6: When you let people off the hook and quit trying 295 00:15:37,040 --> 00:15:41,160 Speaker 6: to make them perform perfectly and keep you fixed, not. 296 00:15:41,160 --> 00:15:45,560 Speaker 4: Only would their life be better, but your relationships will improve. 297 00:15:46,720 --> 00:15:49,880 Speaker 6: No matter how good of a person is, they can't 298 00:15:49,920 --> 00:15:54,000 Speaker 6: give you everything that you need. I realize I can't 299 00:15:54,040 --> 00:15:56,240 Speaker 6: meet everyone of Victoria's needs. 300 00:15:56,360 --> 00:15:57,440 Speaker 4: I can do my best. 301 00:15:58,000 --> 00:16:02,320 Speaker 6: I can compliment her, encourage he treat her with respect. 302 00:16:02,480 --> 00:16:07,560 Speaker 6: But I'm human, I have flaws, shortcomings. If she just 303 00:16:07,600 --> 00:16:11,000 Speaker 6: looks to me, she'll be disappointed. But if you'll look 304 00:16:11,040 --> 00:16:17,560 Speaker 6: to God, you'll never be disappointed. No person has one 305 00:16:17,640 --> 00:16:22,040 Speaker 6: hundred percent. I've heard it said in a relationship, the 306 00:16:22,040 --> 00:16:25,600 Speaker 6: most the other person will have is eighty percent what 307 00:16:25,720 --> 00:16:29,640 Speaker 6: you need. There will always be twenty percent that they 308 00:16:29,680 --> 00:16:32,920 Speaker 6: don't have to give you. The mistake we make is 309 00:16:32,960 --> 00:16:34,720 Speaker 6: we leave the eighty to. 310 00:16:34,720 --> 00:16:36,600 Speaker 4: Go find the twenty in somebody else. 311 00:16:37,320 --> 00:16:41,160 Speaker 6: The problem is that next person will be missing twenty 312 00:16:41,240 --> 00:16:44,200 Speaker 6: percent as well. And I know some of you are thinking, Joe, 313 00:16:44,360 --> 00:16:46,760 Speaker 6: my wife is missing a lot more than twenty percent. 314 00:16:48,280 --> 00:16:50,680 Speaker 4: Think of it this way. If she had more, she 315 00:16:50,720 --> 00:16:51,560 Speaker 4: wouldn't have married you. 316 00:16:55,160 --> 00:16:59,880 Speaker 6: I'm thinking with the ladies, part of the twenty percent 317 00:17:00,080 --> 00:17:03,640 Speaker 6: that I'm missing that Victoria needs is I don't like 318 00:17:03,680 --> 00:17:06,040 Speaker 6: to talk a lot. You see me up here and 319 00:17:06,080 --> 00:17:10,240 Speaker 6: I seem outgoing, but in private, I'm more quiet and reserved. 320 00:17:10,760 --> 00:17:13,640 Speaker 6: Small talk is not one of my favorite things. And yes, 321 00:17:13,680 --> 00:17:15,959 Speaker 6: at home we talk and laugh and have fun together. 322 00:17:16,040 --> 00:17:19,000 Speaker 6: But Victoria and her family, they can talk for hours. 323 00:17:19,040 --> 00:17:20,200 Speaker 4: They enjoy each other. 324 00:17:21,720 --> 00:17:23,800 Speaker 6: We were having lunch one time at our house with 325 00:17:24,000 --> 00:17:27,400 Speaker 6: all of her family, and after about thirty minutes, when 326 00:17:27,400 --> 00:17:30,600 Speaker 6: I'd finished eating, I asked to be excused and I 327 00:17:30,680 --> 00:17:33,920 Speaker 6: went to the back and watched the football game. Three 328 00:17:33,960 --> 00:17:36,520 Speaker 6: and a half hours later, I came back and they 329 00:17:36,560 --> 00:17:37,760 Speaker 6: were still sitting. 330 00:17:37,440 --> 00:17:40,360 Speaker 4: At the table. Nobody had moved. I was so amazed. 331 00:17:40,520 --> 00:17:43,320 Speaker 6: I asked them, did y'all go somewhere? Victoria said no, 332 00:17:43,600 --> 00:17:45,760 Speaker 6: we didn't go anywhere. I said, what are you talking about? 333 00:17:45,920 --> 00:17:51,240 Speaker 6: Victoria said nothing. They talk about nothing longer than anybody 334 00:17:51,320 --> 00:17:51,600 Speaker 6: I know. 335 00:17:51,720 --> 00:17:54,480 Speaker 4: But the key to a. 336 00:17:54,440 --> 00:18:00,680 Speaker 6: Good relationship is to recognize the other person's strengths and weaknesses, 337 00:18:01,320 --> 00:18:04,720 Speaker 6: then give them room to be who they are. Don't 338 00:18:04,760 --> 00:18:07,720 Speaker 6: try to squeeze them into your mold. What I appreciate 339 00:18:07,760 --> 00:18:10,359 Speaker 6: about Victorious she doesn't say, Joe'll come in here and 340 00:18:10,440 --> 00:18:12,239 Speaker 6: visit with us for three and a half hours, I'll 341 00:18:12,280 --> 00:18:12,840 Speaker 6: get upset. 342 00:18:13,400 --> 00:18:14,520 Speaker 4: I'll give you the cold shoulder. 343 00:18:14,600 --> 00:18:17,800 Speaker 6: She recognizes that's a part of the twenty percent that 344 00:18:17,880 --> 00:18:20,399 Speaker 6: I don't have. I thank God every day that I 345 00:18:20,400 --> 00:18:21,000 Speaker 6: didn't get it. 346 00:18:21,119 --> 00:18:24,040 Speaker 4: But Victoria. 347 00:18:24,320 --> 00:18:27,840 Speaker 6: She doesn't try to squeeze me into her mold, and 348 00:18:27,920 --> 00:18:31,040 Speaker 6: even more importantly, she doesn't try to get something from 349 00:18:31,080 --> 00:18:34,720 Speaker 6: me that I don't have. If you're relying on another 350 00:18:34,880 --> 00:18:38,960 Speaker 6: person to meet all your needs and become everything. 351 00:18:38,560 --> 00:18:41,520 Speaker 4: In your life, you're going to be disappointed. You have 352 00:18:41,600 --> 00:18:42,960 Speaker 4: to let them off the hook. 353 00:18:43,960 --> 00:18:47,600 Speaker 6: Sometimes God will let us go through seasons where we're 354 00:18:47,640 --> 00:18:51,720 Speaker 6: not getting what we expect from people on purpose. He'll 355 00:18:51,760 --> 00:18:54,919 Speaker 6: have them withhold it to teach us to not rely 356 00:18:55,119 --> 00:18:57,720 Speaker 6: on another person, but to get our encouragement. 357 00:18:57,880 --> 00:18:59,800 Speaker 4: Our value are worth from him. 358 00:19:00,520 --> 00:19:03,800 Speaker 6: And when I first started ministering back in nineteen ninety nine, 359 00:19:03,960 --> 00:19:07,160 Speaker 6: I was very insecure, very unsure of myself. 360 00:19:07,200 --> 00:19:10,000 Speaker 4: I'd never done it. My dad had that heart attack 361 00:19:10,080 --> 00:19:12,320 Speaker 4: and went to be with the Lord, and I. 362 00:19:12,280 --> 00:19:14,960 Speaker 6: Stepped up to pastor the church. Now I was so 363 00:19:15,160 --> 00:19:19,000 Speaker 6: concerned about what people thought. Was I doing it good enough? 364 00:19:19,040 --> 00:19:22,360 Speaker 6: Were they going to accept me? After the services? When 365 00:19:22,359 --> 00:19:25,480 Speaker 6: I talk with visitors and different people. I lived off 366 00:19:25,480 --> 00:19:29,000 Speaker 6: of people's compliments. Joel, that was good today. I really 367 00:19:29,160 --> 00:19:33,879 Speaker 6: enjoyed it. Those comments were like water to a thirsty soul. 368 00:19:34,400 --> 00:19:37,520 Speaker 6: I'd getting my approval, my validation from people, And you know, 369 00:19:37,600 --> 00:19:39,560 Speaker 6: God uses that to keep us going. 370 00:19:39,720 --> 00:19:40,520 Speaker 4: Keep us moving. 371 00:19:41,240 --> 00:19:44,720 Speaker 6: But at some point, like a mother weans a baby 372 00:19:44,840 --> 00:19:48,240 Speaker 6: off a bottle so the child can grow up, God 373 00:19:48,359 --> 00:19:51,240 Speaker 6: is going to wean you off having to have people's 374 00:19:51,280 --> 00:19:54,160 Speaker 6: compliments people's applause doesn't. 375 00:19:53,880 --> 00:19:55,280 Speaker 4: Mean it's never going to happen. 376 00:19:55,800 --> 00:19:58,400 Speaker 6: It means you're going to get to a place where 377 00:19:58,400 --> 00:20:01,640 Speaker 6: you're not dependent on someone else cheering you on. 378 00:20:02,160 --> 00:20:05,399 Speaker 4: So you can feel good about yourself. You're not dependent on. 379 00:20:05,480 --> 00:20:09,600 Speaker 6: Them complimenting you and keeping you encouraged. It's nice to hear, 380 00:20:10,320 --> 00:20:14,840 Speaker 6: but you've developed this self sufficiency. You don't rely on 381 00:20:15,040 --> 00:20:18,080 Speaker 6: people for their approval. You go to God for your approval. 382 00:20:19,320 --> 00:20:23,160 Speaker 6: The first year that I started ministering at Lakewood, every 383 00:20:23,160 --> 00:20:25,720 Speaker 6: time I got up to speak, people would cheer for me. 384 00:20:26,240 --> 00:20:30,400 Speaker 6: They were very encouraging, very loyal, and supportive. Every time 385 00:20:30,440 --> 00:20:33,159 Speaker 6: I walked off the platform, Victoria would say, Joel, that 386 00:20:33,280 --> 00:20:34,280 Speaker 6: was amazing today. 387 00:20:34,640 --> 00:20:35,640 Speaker 4: You did so good. 388 00:20:36,000 --> 00:20:38,240 Speaker 6: Could have been the worst message in the world. I 389 00:20:38,280 --> 00:20:40,680 Speaker 6: could always count on her to tell me it was good. 390 00:20:41,200 --> 00:20:43,480 Speaker 6: Now I know sometimes she was lying, but I needed 391 00:20:43,480 --> 00:20:48,560 Speaker 6: it back then. One day I just finished my message 392 00:20:48,640 --> 00:20:51,240 Speaker 6: about a year in and I walked off the platform 393 00:20:51,320 --> 00:20:53,359 Speaker 6: and Victoria didn't say a word. 394 00:20:54,000 --> 00:20:57,280 Speaker 4: I stood there and waited and waited, gave her plenty 395 00:20:57,320 --> 00:20:58,760 Speaker 4: of opportunities. Still nothing. 396 00:20:59,200 --> 00:21:02,080 Speaker 6: I thought, well, she just preoccupied thinking about something else. 397 00:21:02,400 --> 00:21:04,760 Speaker 6: I went out to visit with the visitors and talk 398 00:21:04,800 --> 00:21:09,479 Speaker 6: with different people. Not one person complimented me on my sermon. 399 00:21:09,880 --> 00:21:13,439 Speaker 6: Usually every other person says something just being polite. I 400 00:21:13,480 --> 00:21:15,840 Speaker 6: thought they were playing a trick on me. I left 401 00:21:15,840 --> 00:21:19,840 Speaker 6: there so discouraged. I got home. My little dog can 402 00:21:19,880 --> 00:21:23,119 Speaker 6: hear our car coming in. She's always at the back door, 403 00:21:23,200 --> 00:21:25,119 Speaker 6: so happy to see me, jumping up on me. 404 00:21:25,440 --> 00:21:29,560 Speaker 4: I opened the door. My dog wasn't even there. I 405 00:21:29,640 --> 00:21:31,800 Speaker 4: walked over. She was in her bed. 406 00:21:32,480 --> 00:21:35,240 Speaker 6: She looked up at me, barely opened her eyes, like, oh, 407 00:21:35,359 --> 00:21:35,879 Speaker 6: it's just you. 408 00:21:36,160 --> 00:21:40,320 Speaker 4: Close your eyes, went back to sleep. God will use 409 00:21:40,359 --> 00:21:41,800 Speaker 4: your dog given to work on you. 410 00:21:43,640 --> 00:21:48,120 Speaker 6: Looking back now, I realize God was teaching me to 411 00:21:48,160 --> 00:21:51,280 Speaker 6: not rely on what people think to have to have 412 00:21:51,480 --> 00:21:52,880 Speaker 6: their applause. 413 00:21:52,359 --> 00:21:53,720 Speaker 4: And their approval. 414 00:21:54,080 --> 00:21:56,959 Speaker 6: If I had not learned that back then, I wouldn't 415 00:21:57,000 --> 00:22:00,479 Speaker 6: be standing here today. Because the higher God takes you, 416 00:22:00,840 --> 00:22:04,640 Speaker 6: there will be more disapproval, more opposition, more critics. If 417 00:22:04,640 --> 00:22:10,400 Speaker 6: you're basing your work and value on how people are 418 00:22:10,440 --> 00:22:13,000 Speaker 6: treating you, and how much they're cheering you on, and 419 00:22:13,240 --> 00:22:15,800 Speaker 6: you're trying to keep all of them happy. You'll never 420 00:22:15,880 --> 00:22:20,600 Speaker 6: become everything God created you to be. In those early years, 421 00:22:20,760 --> 00:22:24,040 Speaker 6: if I heard one negative comment, it ruined my whole Sunday. 422 00:22:24,520 --> 00:22:27,160 Speaker 4: I'd go home discourage thinking that I didn't do good enough. 423 00:22:27,680 --> 00:22:30,360 Speaker 4: But now that I've been weaned off that. 424 00:22:30,400 --> 00:22:33,600 Speaker 6: Bottle, so to speak, if I hear something negative. 425 00:22:33,320 --> 00:22:34,119 Speaker 4: Doesn't bother me. 426 00:22:34,440 --> 00:22:37,879 Speaker 6: I realize, as long as I'm doing my best honoring God, 427 00:22:38,200 --> 00:22:40,000 Speaker 6: I don't have to have people's approval. 428 00:22:40,119 --> 00:22:45,120 Speaker 4: I have al Mighty God's approval. Here's the thing. You're 429 00:22:45,200 --> 00:22:50,400 Speaker 4: never going to keep everyone happy. Quit trying to please people. 430 00:22:50,800 --> 00:22:53,080 Speaker 6: When you come to the end of your life, you 431 00:22:53,119 --> 00:22:56,040 Speaker 6: are not going to stand before people and give an account. 432 00:22:56,320 --> 00:22:59,000 Speaker 6: You're going to stand before God. He's not going to 433 00:22:59,040 --> 00:23:01,639 Speaker 6: say did you keep every one happy? Did you please 434 00:23:01,680 --> 00:23:04,920 Speaker 6: all your family? Did you have the support from your coworkers. 435 00:23:05,200 --> 00:23:08,600 Speaker 6: He's going to ask, did you fulfill my purpose for 436 00:23:08,680 --> 00:23:09,159 Speaker 6: your life? 437 00:23:09,640 --> 00:23:12,919 Speaker 4: Did you run your race? Did you finish your assignment? 438 00:23:14,119 --> 00:23:17,600 Speaker 6: Maybe, like with me, you're not getting from people what 439 00:23:17,680 --> 00:23:21,480 Speaker 6: you used to, the compliments, the support, the encouragement. Instead 440 00:23:21,480 --> 00:23:24,240 Speaker 6: of being frustrated, have a new perspective. 441 00:23:24,640 --> 00:23:25,920 Speaker 4: God is growing you up. 442 00:23:26,520 --> 00:23:29,800 Speaker 6: He's getting you prepared for the next level of your destiny. 443 00:23:30,160 --> 00:23:34,280 Speaker 6: The less you depend on people, the stronger your spiritual 444 00:23:34,320 --> 00:23:36,800 Speaker 6: muscles are going to become, and the higher you're going 445 00:23:36,840 --> 00:23:42,040 Speaker 6: to go. In Judges chapter seven, the Midianites joined forces 446 00:23:42,080 --> 00:23:45,840 Speaker 6: with two other armies that crossed the Jordan River and 447 00:23:45,880 --> 00:23:49,399 Speaker 6: were about to attack the Israelites. Gideon put out a 448 00:23:49,440 --> 00:23:53,240 Speaker 6: call to all of his men. Thirty two thousand Israeli 449 00:23:53,280 --> 00:23:55,040 Speaker 6: warriors showed up ready to fight. 450 00:23:55,720 --> 00:23:57,080 Speaker 4: Gideon was feeling good. 451 00:23:57,520 --> 00:24:01,000 Speaker 6: He had a large army to protect the people of Israel. 452 00:24:01,480 --> 00:24:04,560 Speaker 6: They marched out toward those enemies, but God said to 453 00:24:04,640 --> 00:24:08,320 Speaker 6: him in verse two, Gideon, you have too many people 454 00:24:08,400 --> 00:24:08,760 Speaker 6: with you. 455 00:24:09,480 --> 00:24:12,159 Speaker 4: If you win the battle, you'll think you did it 456 00:24:12,200 --> 00:24:13,320 Speaker 4: in your own strength. 457 00:24:14,160 --> 00:24:18,040 Speaker 6: God instructed him to tell everyone that wanted to leave, 458 00:24:18,200 --> 00:24:18,760 Speaker 6: anyone that. 459 00:24:18,800 --> 00:24:20,680 Speaker 4: Was afraid they could go back home. 460 00:24:21,320 --> 00:24:25,240 Speaker 6: Twenty two thousand men turned around and left. He lost 461 00:24:25,320 --> 00:24:30,480 Speaker 6: two thirds of his army. I'm sure Gideon gulped and said, God, 462 00:24:30,520 --> 00:24:32,160 Speaker 6: did you see what just happened. 463 00:24:32,640 --> 00:24:35,679 Speaker 4: God said, yes, I saw it. But Gideon, you still 464 00:24:35,880 --> 00:24:36,879 Speaker 4: have too many people. 465 00:24:37,760 --> 00:24:41,160 Speaker 6: And God told Gideon to take those remaining ten thousand 466 00:24:41,200 --> 00:24:43,080 Speaker 6: men down to get a drink. 467 00:24:43,680 --> 00:24:45,920 Speaker 4: He was to divide them into two groups. 468 00:24:46,480 --> 00:24:49,040 Speaker 6: Every man that put his mouth to the water and 469 00:24:49,119 --> 00:24:52,320 Speaker 6: drank that was one group. The second group was the 470 00:24:52,400 --> 00:24:53,480 Speaker 6: men who cupped. 471 00:24:53,160 --> 00:24:55,600 Speaker 4: Their hands and brought the water to their mouth. 472 00:24:56,440 --> 00:25:00,400 Speaker 6: Nine thousand, seven hundred men put their mouth to the water. 473 00:25:00,960 --> 00:25:02,919 Speaker 4: That was the group that was to go home. 474 00:25:03,640 --> 00:25:07,080 Speaker 6: Only three hundred men drank it the other way. His 475 00:25:07,320 --> 00:25:10,480 Speaker 6: army went from thirty two thousand to three hundred. 476 00:25:11,240 --> 00:25:13,280 Speaker 4: I can imagine Gideon. 477 00:25:12,920 --> 00:25:16,520 Speaker 6: Thought God, I was confident with thirty two thousand. I 478 00:25:16,560 --> 00:25:19,160 Speaker 6: was a little worried with ten thousand. But God, three 479 00:25:19,240 --> 00:25:24,280 Speaker 6: hundred men, this is impossible. God was saying, Gideon, you 480 00:25:24,359 --> 00:25:28,560 Speaker 6: don't need everyone that you think you need. You're depending 481 00:25:28,640 --> 00:25:29,679 Speaker 6: on too many people. 482 00:25:30,560 --> 00:25:31,880 Speaker 4: God is saying that to us. 483 00:25:32,400 --> 00:25:35,960 Speaker 6: You don't need all of your coworkers to support you. 484 00:25:35,960 --> 00:25:38,480 Speaker 6: You don't have to have all your friends and family 485 00:25:38,520 --> 00:25:39,520 Speaker 6: members cheering you on. 486 00:25:39,840 --> 00:25:43,480 Speaker 4: Here's the key. The less you depend on people. 487 00:25:43,480 --> 00:25:46,080 Speaker 6: The greater the anointing in your life. 488 00:25:46,760 --> 00:25:49,000 Speaker 4: When you're not depending on someone. 489 00:25:48,640 --> 00:25:52,920 Speaker 6: Else hoping that they'll help you, thinking that they're the savior, 490 00:25:53,320 --> 00:25:56,240 Speaker 6: then God will release his favor in your life in 491 00:25:56,280 --> 00:25:59,720 Speaker 6: a greater way. Gideon went out with those three hundred 492 00:25:59,800 --> 00:26:03,600 Speaker 6: men and one percent of what he started with. God 493 00:26:03,760 --> 00:26:07,520 Speaker 6: supernaturally helped them to defeat those armies that were much 494 00:26:07,560 --> 00:26:11,879 Speaker 6: bigger and much more equipped. In the same way, God 495 00:26:12,000 --> 00:26:14,840 Speaker 6: is going to give you victories where the odds were 496 00:26:14,880 --> 00:26:18,400 Speaker 6: totally against you. You know you could accomplish your goal 497 00:26:18,840 --> 00:26:21,240 Speaker 6: if you had to support the connections. 498 00:26:21,600 --> 00:26:23,320 Speaker 4: You could overcome that obstacle. 499 00:26:23,720 --> 00:26:26,679 Speaker 6: If you had the strongest players, the best people on 500 00:26:26,720 --> 00:26:29,959 Speaker 6: your legal team. God is saying, don't worry about it. 501 00:26:30,280 --> 00:26:33,399 Speaker 6: You don't have to have all those people. You and 502 00:26:33,560 --> 00:26:37,160 Speaker 6: God are a majority. The forces that are for you 503 00:26:37,520 --> 00:26:40,399 Speaker 6: are greater than the forces that are against you. Now 504 00:26:40,480 --> 00:26:43,600 Speaker 6: quit saying, oh, if they just train me, if they 505 00:26:43,800 --> 00:26:47,199 Speaker 6: just get behind me. If you'll quit depending on people, 506 00:26:47,440 --> 00:26:50,920 Speaker 6: the anointing will increase in your own life. You'll accomplish 507 00:26:50,960 --> 00:26:54,000 Speaker 6: more with less help, with less people. 508 00:26:53,920 --> 00:26:55,760 Speaker 4: Because of God's favor on your life. 509 00:26:56,720 --> 00:26:59,719 Speaker 6: Are you frustrated because you don't think you have enough 510 00:26:59,760 --> 00:27:03,960 Speaker 6: sol have this new perspective. The greatest force in the 511 00:27:04,119 --> 00:27:07,840 Speaker 6: universe is breathing in your direction right now. Are you 512 00:27:07,960 --> 00:27:11,520 Speaker 6: discouraged because people are not giving you what they used 513 00:27:11,600 --> 00:27:15,359 Speaker 6: to it's because God's growing you up. Quit trying to 514 00:27:15,400 --> 00:27:18,480 Speaker 6: get from people what only God can give. Go to 515 00:27:18,560 --> 00:27:21,679 Speaker 6: Him for your value, your self worth, for your encouragement. 516 00:27:22,359 --> 00:27:26,280 Speaker 6: If you'll start passing these tests, not relying on people, 517 00:27:26,720 --> 00:27:30,359 Speaker 6: you'll not only live more confident, more secure, but I 518 00:27:30,480 --> 00:27:35,200 Speaker 6: believe and declare, like Gideon, you're going to overcome obstacles 519 00:27:35,240 --> 00:27:40,359 Speaker 6: that looked insurmountable, accomplish dreams that seemed impossible. 520 00:27:39,840 --> 00:27:43,400 Speaker 4: And reach the fullness of your destiny. In Jesus's name, 521 00:27:43,760 --> 00:27:45,479 Speaker 4: if you receive it, can you say it then? 522 00:27:45,520 --> 00:27:50,800 Speaker 6: Today we never like to close our broadcasts without giving 523 00:27:50,800 --> 00:27:53,960 Speaker 6: you an opportunity to make Jesus the lord of your life. 524 00:27:54,400 --> 00:27:58,880 Speaker 6: Would you pray with me? Just say, Lord, Jesus, I'll 525 00:27:58,920 --> 00:28:04,120 Speaker 6: repent of my sins. Come into my heart. I make 526 00:28:04,200 --> 00:28:07,920 Speaker 6: you my Lord and savior. Friends, if you prayed that 527 00:28:08,040 --> 00:28:10,680 Speaker 6: simple prayer, we believe you got born again. 528 00:28:11,200 --> 00:28:14,600 Speaker 4: Get in a good Bible based church, Keep God first place. 529 00:28:14,880 --> 00:28:17,359 Speaker 6: He's going to take your places that you've never dreamed. 530 00:28:18,160 --> 00:28:21,120 Speaker 6: Thanks so much for listening to today's message. 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