1 00:00:03,520 --> 00:00:07,400 Speaker 1: Welcome to Jay dot im a production of I Heart Radio. 2 00:00:10,560 --> 00:00:12,840 Speaker 1: What's up, good people? It is such a pleasure to 3 00:00:12,960 --> 00:00:17,680 Speaker 1: be alive today. This is Jay dot Ill the podcast, 4 00:00:17,720 --> 00:00:21,960 Speaker 1: and I am here. We may seek your friend, Aja 5 00:00:22,040 --> 00:00:27,160 Speaker 1: Graden Danceler. Hello, Hello, Hello, and the lovely liah sank Cloud. 6 00:00:27,600 --> 00:00:36,880 Speaker 1: We outside outside. Listen, Hey girl, I'm telling you we're 7 00:00:36,920 --> 00:00:41,320 Speaker 1: actually together. Okay, the first time ever we have been 8 00:00:41,880 --> 00:00:47,159 Speaker 1: zooming and what else, what's the other? Riverside and riversiding, streaming, 9 00:00:47,400 --> 00:00:51,320 Speaker 1: streams and streaming. We've been streaming doing the podcast this 10 00:00:51,600 --> 00:00:54,000 Speaker 1: entire time, and this is the first time we're actually 11 00:00:54,000 --> 00:00:56,000 Speaker 1: here looking at each other in the face. I was 12 00:00:56,040 --> 00:00:59,360 Speaker 1: staring at y'all like I'm just sitting here like hi. 13 00:01:00,240 --> 00:01:02,480 Speaker 1: Like when we're on the zoom, I'm staring at you 14 00:01:02,520 --> 00:01:05,039 Speaker 1: while I'm talking to you. So like now I'm like, hi, 15 00:01:05,319 --> 00:01:09,440 Speaker 1: you're actually in the flesh. In the flesh. It is good. 16 00:01:10,240 --> 00:01:16,679 Speaker 1: It's very good special friend friend touching and we're touching 17 00:01:16,680 --> 00:01:23,560 Speaker 1: and agreeing on this uh podcast today. J dot Elgo podcast. Welcome, Welcome, Welcome, friends. 18 00:01:24,120 --> 00:01:28,360 Speaker 1: We're talking about we're talking about a couple of things. 19 00:01:28,360 --> 00:01:33,200 Speaker 1: It's it's normally layered. Our conversations are normally layered, and so, 20 00:01:33,560 --> 00:01:37,800 Speaker 1: first of all, as you may have noticed, we don't gossip, 21 00:01:37,959 --> 00:01:41,080 Speaker 1: not that we think that we're superior than anybody or 22 00:01:41,280 --> 00:01:43,920 Speaker 1: or that, which is it just doesn't. It's enough of it. 23 00:01:43,920 --> 00:01:49,160 Speaker 1: It's out there for the group text something. Yes, let 24 00:01:49,200 --> 00:01:52,400 Speaker 1: me get my ship together, start talking about Yeah, but 25 00:01:52,800 --> 00:01:54,680 Speaker 1: it's really just an ugly thing. You just want to 26 00:01:54,760 --> 00:01:57,000 Speaker 1: chill on that in general, because you know how things 27 00:01:57,040 --> 00:02:01,360 Speaker 1: go around. Yes, and there's there's plenty of that. This 28 00:02:01,440 --> 00:02:05,280 Speaker 1: is different, j got El. The podcast is a different situation. 29 00:02:06,400 --> 00:02:09,040 Speaker 1: For those of you are new to this podcast, it 30 00:02:09,200 --> 00:02:12,240 Speaker 1: is three friends, three sister friends grown as sister friends, 31 00:02:12,320 --> 00:02:17,360 Speaker 1: haven't grown as conversations about this existence, about this life, honey. 32 00:02:17,760 --> 00:02:20,359 Speaker 1: And if you don't know that we are really about 33 00:02:20,400 --> 00:02:25,839 Speaker 1: the living portion of it, not the existing, come on 34 00:02:26,200 --> 00:02:30,960 Speaker 1: the Yes, it is. It's not about this daily the grind. Yes, 35 00:02:31,000 --> 00:02:33,400 Speaker 1: that's a part of it, but it's also find enjoy 36 00:02:33,440 --> 00:02:35,840 Speaker 1: in the little things that the things that matter to 37 00:02:35,919 --> 00:02:39,560 Speaker 1: us as human beings and as women and and as 38 00:02:39,600 --> 00:02:45,520 Speaker 1: black women. Yep, yep, yep, all that. Yeah, my sister 39 00:02:45,520 --> 00:02:48,720 Speaker 1: says at all time, that's the one you know, human 40 00:02:48,760 --> 00:02:52,880 Speaker 1: if we're human out here. This is not intended to 41 00:02:52,919 --> 00:02:56,120 Speaker 1: be gossip. I'm going to say that I saw too, 42 00:02:56,240 --> 00:02:58,760 Speaker 1: just like the rest of the world. Um, we saw 43 00:02:58,919 --> 00:03:03,679 Speaker 1: the whole situation. Aation with Will Smith and Jada Pinkett. Well, 44 00:03:03,760 --> 00:03:08,440 Speaker 1: there was one particular thing that I noticed. Uh. Will 45 00:03:08,600 --> 00:03:12,560 Speaker 1: was talking about a a birthday party that they had 46 00:03:12,560 --> 00:03:16,480 Speaker 1: planned for Jada, um, a forty birthday party, and how 47 00:03:16,520 --> 00:03:19,959 Speaker 1: he had gone three years, you know, making up things 48 00:03:20,000 --> 00:03:23,720 Speaker 1: to do for her birthday party. And her comment was that, Um, 49 00:03:23,720 --> 00:03:25,680 Speaker 1: and this is not a quote, but you know, I 50 00:03:25,680 --> 00:03:30,840 Speaker 1: think I'm pretty closed that it was a ridiculous example. 51 00:03:30,960 --> 00:03:34,040 Speaker 1: I think of his ego rather than a party for her. 52 00:03:34,680 --> 00:03:37,200 Speaker 1: Now I saw online and people were talking about that 53 00:03:37,240 --> 00:03:39,680 Speaker 1: and they were like, you know, he threw her a party, 54 00:03:40,080 --> 00:03:43,280 Speaker 1: and that she's so ungrateful. Let me tell you something, friends, 55 00:03:44,680 --> 00:03:48,360 Speaker 1: I am a person who's had two birthday parties thrown 56 00:03:48,520 --> 00:03:51,880 Speaker 1: for me. Both of them were both they were intended 57 00:03:51,920 --> 00:03:56,000 Speaker 1: to be surprised. The first one I wasn't clearly I 58 00:03:56,000 --> 00:04:00,200 Speaker 1: didn't know. So I dressed to go to a movie. Okay, 59 00:04:00,320 --> 00:04:04,680 Speaker 1: addressed to go. I had on cut off sweatpans, high 60 00:04:05,800 --> 00:04:08,640 Speaker 1: it's a late night. Really, what it was you know, 61 00:04:09,480 --> 00:04:15,360 Speaker 1: I had cut off sweatpants and what else, like I 62 00:04:15,400 --> 00:04:18,320 Speaker 1: don't know, like a T shirt, had on, no makeup, 63 00:04:18,760 --> 00:04:22,640 Speaker 1: you know. And I got there and everybody you know. 64 00:04:22,680 --> 00:04:24,479 Speaker 1: Of course the surprised and I was so happy to 65 00:04:24,480 --> 00:04:28,440 Speaker 1: see everybody was also thoughtful. However, it wasn't fully thoughtful. 66 00:04:29,560 --> 00:04:34,000 Speaker 1: I wasn't dressed for a party, and I felt I 67 00:04:34,040 --> 00:04:39,120 Speaker 1: didn't feel great all night long. That everybody dressed up 68 00:04:39,160 --> 00:04:42,400 Speaker 1: they looked so beautiful, and that was where I wasn't considered. 69 00:04:43,400 --> 00:04:47,640 Speaker 1: The next time someone threw me a birthday party, they 70 00:04:48,000 --> 00:04:50,600 Speaker 1: and I don't. I'm check Just check your check where 71 00:04:50,600 --> 00:04:52,960 Speaker 1: you are to see if you feel like that is ungrateful, 72 00:04:53,400 --> 00:04:56,520 Speaker 1: because well we'll get back to that. Just check check 73 00:04:56,520 --> 00:04:58,560 Speaker 1: where you are and see if you feel like that's ungrateful. 74 00:04:58,640 --> 00:05:01,240 Speaker 1: The next time the party was thrown me, I had 75 00:05:01,440 --> 00:05:05,440 Speaker 1: my picture on the side of a building, um, and 76 00:05:05,520 --> 00:05:08,560 Speaker 1: there were people there that I had to introduce myself to. 77 00:05:10,920 --> 00:05:15,840 Speaker 1: There were videos from celebrities um talking about me, and 78 00:05:16,320 --> 00:05:19,880 Speaker 1: that was very nice and all that, but where were 79 00:05:19,960 --> 00:05:25,159 Speaker 1: my my friends? Like the celebrities that were chosen to 80 00:05:25,200 --> 00:05:28,640 Speaker 1: say something, we're my friends, but it wasn't a mixture 81 00:05:29,360 --> 00:05:32,400 Speaker 1: their friends friends too, but it wasn't a mixture of 82 00:05:33,240 --> 00:05:39,560 Speaker 1: my my friend right. They were all celebrities, and it 83 00:05:39,600 --> 00:05:42,760 Speaker 1: felt and it felt intentional. It felt intentionally. It felt 84 00:05:42,760 --> 00:05:46,800 Speaker 1: like it was not you for me or about me, right, 85 00:05:47,000 --> 00:05:50,880 Speaker 1: because because you were proxy in that moment exactly. So 86 00:05:50,960 --> 00:05:53,520 Speaker 1: when she said what she said about that being a 87 00:05:53,640 --> 00:05:59,440 Speaker 1: ridiculous example of his ego, I felt that because sometimes 88 00:05:59,480 --> 00:06:01,680 Speaker 1: you can have or people will throw you a party 89 00:06:01,960 --> 00:06:06,479 Speaker 1: that is really not about you if they know you 90 00:06:06,600 --> 00:06:09,960 Speaker 1: like jazz, but they're playing blues all night with the fud, 91 00:06:10,160 --> 00:06:14,440 Speaker 1: like what's happening. That's just a metaphor of it all. 92 00:06:14,720 --> 00:06:21,520 Speaker 1: But like, so, knowing what I know, I threw myself 93 00:06:21,560 --> 00:06:28,039 Speaker 1: a fiftieth birthday. But she did many please let us 94 00:06:28,040 --> 00:06:30,440 Speaker 1: tell all about this party. Go ahead, tut us, go ahead, 95 00:06:30,520 --> 00:06:32,160 Speaker 1: just let us look. I don't know. It's just beautiful. 96 00:06:32,240 --> 00:06:36,400 Speaker 1: It was. It was beautiful, was wordiful. Act. I hired 97 00:06:36,440 --> 00:06:41,159 Speaker 1: Sharia Barlow, that's first of all, because I knew that 98 00:06:41,200 --> 00:06:44,680 Speaker 1: I was exceptionally busy. I knew I wanted a party. 99 00:06:44,880 --> 00:06:48,080 Speaker 1: I knew what my budget was. Um, I knew what 100 00:06:48,120 --> 00:06:50,560 Speaker 1: I wanted my party to feel like. Because I had 101 00:06:50,600 --> 00:06:53,760 Speaker 1: that I wanted it to feel like me. I didn't 102 00:06:53,800 --> 00:06:57,919 Speaker 1: want any pretentiousness that was important to me, Like I 103 00:06:57,920 --> 00:07:00,400 Speaker 1: don't want my friends to show up, the people that 104 00:07:00,480 --> 00:07:03,000 Speaker 1: love me, my friends and family, to show up and 105 00:07:03,040 --> 00:07:06,320 Speaker 1: feel like I'm on some celebrity ship because I've never been. 106 00:07:06,800 --> 00:07:09,720 Speaker 1: That's not my thing, you know. I want my people 107 00:07:09,760 --> 00:07:13,480 Speaker 1: to see the humanity, you know, like they know me, 108 00:07:13,640 --> 00:07:16,280 Speaker 1: they know me, so anything else would have been weird. 109 00:07:16,840 --> 00:07:18,840 Speaker 1: I'll say that it would have been really weird for 110 00:07:18,920 --> 00:07:20,920 Speaker 1: my people to come to my party and it was 111 00:07:20,960 --> 00:07:28,680 Speaker 1: all like, you know, you can't talk to yah, the 112 00:07:28,760 --> 00:07:32,160 Speaker 1: pulling together of worlds, and it turns into being not 113 00:07:32,240 --> 00:07:34,960 Speaker 1: about you at all at all. It turns out being 114 00:07:35,080 --> 00:07:38,000 Speaker 1: how am I managing all these different and taking a 115 00:07:38,080 --> 00:07:41,640 Speaker 1: thousand pictures? I didn't allow cameras um in my party 116 00:07:41,760 --> 00:07:45,720 Speaker 1: because I just didn't want to spend my entire evening posing, 117 00:07:46,320 --> 00:07:49,680 Speaker 1: you know, with with and and and maybe I'll regret 118 00:07:49,760 --> 00:07:53,000 Speaker 1: that later. Maybe I'll regret that. I'll probably try to 119 00:07:53,000 --> 00:07:56,320 Speaker 1: find another way to to manage the whole picture thing 120 00:07:56,760 --> 00:08:01,440 Speaker 1: lateral about that, yeah, but like and in in in 121 00:08:01,480 --> 00:08:04,920 Speaker 1: the outside world, for lack of a better like reference 122 00:08:05,120 --> 00:08:08,000 Speaker 1: in the outside world, like the that happened and at 123 00:08:08,000 --> 00:08:11,000 Speaker 1: a special event is a thing people probably expect. But 124 00:08:11,080 --> 00:08:13,440 Speaker 1: because that's kind of a part of our work in 125 00:08:13,520 --> 00:08:16,400 Speaker 1: that way, it's hard for a moment like that to 126 00:08:16,480 --> 00:08:19,480 Speaker 1: not feel like labor. And on your birthday, like you 127 00:08:19,480 --> 00:08:22,640 Speaker 1: don't want anything to remind you of your labor, Like 128 00:08:22,680 --> 00:08:26,440 Speaker 1: who does nobody If for some reason, like mail sorting 129 00:08:26,560 --> 00:08:29,840 Speaker 1: was about was a part of social interaction, people who 130 00:08:29,840 --> 00:08:31,520 Speaker 1: work for the post Office are not going to do 131 00:08:31,600 --> 00:08:33,720 Speaker 1: that portion of the party. They're like, I'm good, I'm 132 00:08:33,760 --> 00:08:37,360 Speaker 1: mail sword all day. Right, y'all can mail sword for 133 00:08:37,400 --> 00:08:40,000 Speaker 1: fun if you want to write. But as for me, 134 00:08:41,040 --> 00:08:43,880 Speaker 1: I'm good, exactly. Matter of fact, I don't even say 135 00:08:43,880 --> 00:08:46,959 Speaker 1: male tonight. Don't even say male or sort? How about that? 136 00:08:48,000 --> 00:08:50,520 Speaker 1: How about that? Exactly that? So so I didn't I 137 00:08:50,520 --> 00:09:05,839 Speaker 1: didn't want that more real talk. After the break, I 138 00:09:05,880 --> 00:09:07,960 Speaker 1: went to another party. When I was at the Oscars, 139 00:09:08,440 --> 00:09:16,040 Speaker 1: I went to the oscar Um pause for applause, Thank 140 00:09:16,080 --> 00:09:19,440 Speaker 1: your car less or anyone is wondering why I didn't sing, 141 00:09:21,000 --> 00:09:23,760 Speaker 1: it's because I didn't come as a singer to the Oscars. Listen. 142 00:09:23,800 --> 00:09:25,400 Speaker 1: I would trying to tell everybody that was asking me, 143 00:09:25,440 --> 00:09:27,199 Speaker 1: let's try out all my friends. I was like hide 144 00:09:27,280 --> 00:09:28,839 Speaker 1: god cown did the thing and she ain't even gonna sing. 145 00:09:28,840 --> 00:09:30,480 Speaker 1: Everybody else it was a whole quiet she could have said. 146 00:09:30,640 --> 00:09:32,760 Speaker 1: I was like, this is a pimp. She did a 147 00:09:32,840 --> 00:09:35,319 Speaker 1: high cool and she rolled the funk out. Okay, she's 148 00:09:35,360 --> 00:09:37,640 Speaker 1: also a poet. Leave her alone that I wrote, thank 149 00:09:37,679 --> 00:09:42,320 Speaker 1: you very much. I just feel like, okay, you are 150 00:09:42,360 --> 00:09:48,960 Speaker 1: you are a master vocalist. Okay, but you're also an actress. 151 00:09:49,040 --> 00:09:51,040 Speaker 1: And that was the world where you were existing as 152 00:09:51,080 --> 00:09:53,920 Speaker 1: your actress. So I didn't do feel good. So this 153 00:09:54,000 --> 00:09:55,960 Speaker 1: is what this is. It's it's a beautiful kind of 154 00:09:56,000 --> 00:10:01,360 Speaker 1: assertion of identity and that lets you know, yes, you know, 155 00:10:01,720 --> 00:10:03,840 Speaker 1: to let you know that when I'm in these spaces, 156 00:10:04,240 --> 00:10:12,560 Speaker 1: this is it's it's it's a compartmentalizing my creativity. But 157 00:10:12,679 --> 00:10:15,480 Speaker 1: I like it. Yes, one thing is not the other, 158 00:10:15,600 --> 00:10:17,520 Speaker 1: the other is not the other. The other one is 159 00:10:17,559 --> 00:10:19,080 Speaker 1: not the other one. This is such a good lesson 160 00:10:19,160 --> 00:10:21,040 Speaker 1: for so many people outside of yourself. I don't think 161 00:10:21,040 --> 00:10:23,120 Speaker 1: you understand, but most people in this world do more 162 00:10:23,160 --> 00:10:25,120 Speaker 1: than one thing. Oh yeah, you know what I'm saying, 163 00:10:25,559 --> 00:10:28,600 Speaker 1: And that's just I'm that's Oh I wish I could 164 00:10:28,640 --> 00:10:33,160 Speaker 1: have happened this low motion which you just one thing 165 00:10:33,320 --> 00:10:35,280 Speaker 1: is not the other, the other is not the other, 166 00:10:35,320 --> 00:10:37,199 Speaker 1: the other one is not the other one, and and 167 00:10:37,200 --> 00:10:40,200 Speaker 1: and and from from a business point of view, also 168 00:10:40,280 --> 00:10:43,920 Speaker 1: to just as everyone understands, like in the entertainment industry, 169 00:10:43,960 --> 00:10:47,199 Speaker 1: people expect you to be diverse, but I think they 170 00:10:47,240 --> 00:10:50,840 Speaker 1: have to understand that what being diverse also comes with 171 00:10:51,000 --> 00:10:55,040 Speaker 1: um multiple kinds of values depending on where they are located. 172 00:10:55,880 --> 00:10:59,400 Speaker 1: And so I think that's important to remember that. You know, 173 00:10:59,480 --> 00:11:04,040 Speaker 1: in the gray words of Fat Joe, yesterday's price is 174 00:11:04,080 --> 00:11:09,760 Speaker 1: not today's price. Other and the that other room's price 175 00:11:10,160 --> 00:11:13,720 Speaker 1: is not this room's price. Based on who I am 176 00:11:14,080 --> 00:11:24,520 Speaker 1: in said room cool is what I said, Yeah, yeah, yeah, 177 00:11:24,679 --> 00:11:27,360 Speaker 1: you know, I wouldn't. I want to be treated differently 178 00:11:27,440 --> 00:11:31,080 Speaker 1: as a writer. You know, there's different requirements for me 179 00:11:31,240 --> 00:11:34,080 Speaker 1: as a writer. There's different requirements for me as an 180 00:11:34,080 --> 00:11:37,800 Speaker 1: actor required as a singer, you know what I mean. 181 00:11:37,880 --> 00:11:41,760 Speaker 1: So I think that what happens is that you throw 182 00:11:41,800 --> 00:11:45,480 Speaker 1: all the stuff together and you can lose the values 183 00:11:45,559 --> 00:11:49,280 Speaker 1: of each thing. Because when I'm made a crazy hodgepodge, 184 00:11:50,320 --> 00:11:53,839 Speaker 1: it's crazy is not the word, but it could could 185 00:11:53,840 --> 00:11:57,680 Speaker 1: be confusing, a confusing hodge podge of what you are 186 00:11:57,840 --> 00:12:00,760 Speaker 1: that that out of you that yeah, that or your 187 00:12:00,800 --> 00:12:05,160 Speaker 1: skill sets exactly and those prices that skim that skims 188 00:12:05,200 --> 00:12:08,720 Speaker 1: the bag don't need to skim the bag. I just 189 00:12:08,760 --> 00:12:13,520 Speaker 1: got the holy ghost of something. I just tell us 190 00:12:13,559 --> 00:12:16,360 Speaker 1: about this feeling. What's going on over there and there? No, 191 00:12:16,480 --> 00:12:25,200 Speaker 1: I just are we talking parties. We're talking parties were parties, 192 00:12:25,240 --> 00:12:27,160 Speaker 1: but I didn't just I got the ghost. But I 193 00:12:28,240 --> 00:12:30,160 Speaker 1: you know, j il, you get it in weird ways 194 00:12:30,200 --> 00:12:32,520 Speaker 1: and it hits all. It hits. I'm like, I'm trying 195 00:12:32,520 --> 00:12:33,920 Speaker 1: to grow up and were growing up and I'm just 196 00:12:33,920 --> 00:12:36,600 Speaker 1: getting lessons lately, a lot and ever. Oh so I appreciate, 197 00:12:36,640 --> 00:12:40,240 Speaker 1: thank you. That was just that was I'm sorry party. No, 198 00:12:40,520 --> 00:12:43,000 Speaker 1: don't be sorry. This is what this thing is about. 199 00:12:43,440 --> 00:12:46,480 Speaker 1: Like you know, I'm telling you know, while we're sitting 200 00:12:46,520 --> 00:12:48,520 Speaker 1: here together, she's got tears in her eyes, and I'm 201 00:12:48,800 --> 00:12:51,280 Speaker 1: starting to tear up myself. I would really like to 202 00:12:51,360 --> 00:12:54,040 Speaker 1: understand what that is about. Is that is that too 203 00:12:54,160 --> 00:12:57,719 Speaker 1: much or can we can move on? Well, if it's 204 00:12:57,760 --> 00:12:59,959 Speaker 1: too much, then this then it's too much and we'll come. 205 00:13:01,640 --> 00:13:03,840 Speaker 1: I'll touch on it briefly, just on the sense of 206 00:13:03,920 --> 00:13:07,480 Speaker 1: like wearing multiple hats and like what you said about 207 00:13:07,520 --> 00:13:12,280 Speaker 1: everything needing to be compartmentalizing, individualizing, it's just different me myself. 208 00:13:13,160 --> 00:13:16,240 Speaker 1: I've always wanted the freedom to really be a creative 209 00:13:16,679 --> 00:13:18,839 Speaker 1: and the things that come with it. But every time 210 00:13:18,880 --> 00:13:21,840 Speaker 1: I've been a lot of the X the opportunity to 211 00:13:21,880 --> 00:13:25,320 Speaker 1: be a creative, I also have to be a practical thinker. 212 00:13:25,480 --> 00:13:27,960 Speaker 1: You know, I eat like he produces all shows that 213 00:13:28,360 --> 00:13:30,040 Speaker 1: or as a producer in some kind of way on 214 00:13:30,080 --> 00:13:32,480 Speaker 1: all shows that she's on. And that's not just podcast. 215 00:13:32,520 --> 00:13:35,040 Speaker 1: That's like my life and radio as well, you know. 216 00:13:35,600 --> 00:13:38,200 Speaker 1: But I think that I've always envied and my father. 217 00:13:38,360 --> 00:13:40,000 Speaker 1: My father is a creative and I always tease him 218 00:13:40,000 --> 00:13:41,640 Speaker 1: about this. I said, you know, He's like, I'm a creative. 219 00:13:41,679 --> 00:13:43,439 Speaker 1: I'm allowed to think like this. I'm a creative. I'm 220 00:13:43,440 --> 00:13:45,240 Speaker 1: allowed to talk like this. You know, I can be 221 00:13:45,280 --> 00:13:48,120 Speaker 1: as U And I'm like, man, what's that like not 222 00:13:48,240 --> 00:13:54,280 Speaker 1: to you know, have a have to be practical. What's 223 00:13:54,320 --> 00:13:56,680 Speaker 1: it like to just be free in that way? And 224 00:13:56,720 --> 00:13:58,920 Speaker 1: what's it like not to have to be concerned with 225 00:13:59,040 --> 00:14:02,839 Speaker 1: other people's movements because you you know, as a as 226 00:14:02,840 --> 00:14:05,679 Speaker 1: a producer. And again this is not in the podcast. 227 00:14:05,679 --> 00:14:07,880 Speaker 1: Basic just in a podcast based been in a radio space, 228 00:14:07,920 --> 00:14:11,640 Speaker 1: like you are responsible for people, so it's hard to 229 00:14:11,679 --> 00:14:13,640 Speaker 1: get out of that way of thought and always and 230 00:14:13,720 --> 00:14:16,880 Speaker 1: you think of yourself last because you are the least 231 00:14:16,920 --> 00:14:20,720 Speaker 1: important real person in the room to the majority of people. 232 00:14:22,440 --> 00:14:24,480 Speaker 1: I'm sorry, I'm crying. I'm looking at Amber. I produced 233 00:14:24,520 --> 00:14:27,200 Speaker 1: it as we're talking about it, and you know, and 234 00:14:27,280 --> 00:14:32,960 Speaker 1: so um line in that line and understanding you know 235 00:14:33,000 --> 00:14:35,280 Speaker 1: who you are and stuff. But at a certain points, 236 00:14:35,320 --> 00:14:36,760 Speaker 1: as I've been you know, I've been working for a 237 00:14:36,760 --> 00:14:39,760 Speaker 1: while in my life. Uh I think I don't know. 238 00:14:39,840 --> 00:14:41,320 Speaker 1: As it is weekend. In the last couple of days, 239 00:14:41,360 --> 00:14:43,720 Speaker 1: I was like, you know, you what you said, like 240 00:14:43,760 --> 00:14:46,000 Speaker 1: you gotta know your power and your value and all 241 00:14:46,040 --> 00:14:49,240 Speaker 1: these different disciplines too, and each of them are different 242 00:14:49,240 --> 00:14:52,880 Speaker 1: and require different things. It's just it goes back to 243 00:14:53,000 --> 00:14:55,120 Speaker 1: value and worth and stuff too. So I'm just you know, 244 00:14:55,160 --> 00:14:58,080 Speaker 1: I'm I'm forty something years old, and sometimes it's just 245 00:14:58,080 --> 00:15:00,720 Speaker 1: still shocking that I'm learning stuff. But I'm glad that 246 00:15:00,760 --> 00:15:04,960 Speaker 1: I'm learning from y'all. You know, we're in here. I 247 00:15:05,080 --> 00:15:08,080 Speaker 1: tell Asia all the time, I was like, yo, in 248 00:15:08,120 --> 00:15:10,120 Speaker 1: the world that I live in, like in my podcast space, 249 00:15:10,200 --> 00:15:12,360 Speaker 1: like when it comes to this show right here, this 250 00:15:12,440 --> 00:15:15,640 Speaker 1: is the only opportunity I have to be free when 251 00:15:15,640 --> 00:15:17,560 Speaker 1: it comes to loving great that's all about Philly people. 252 00:15:17,720 --> 00:15:20,240 Speaker 1: You know, we WeLive were tourism, you know what we do, 253 00:15:20,520 --> 00:15:22,200 Speaker 1: and I live, I work with me. It's just this 254 00:15:22,280 --> 00:15:25,360 Speaker 1: is let me just say this. Let me say this. 255 00:15:26,000 --> 00:15:27,640 Speaker 1: I'm gonna say if I'm gonna say this to you 256 00:15:27,680 --> 00:15:30,600 Speaker 1: because I don't want you all to miss what I 257 00:15:30,800 --> 00:15:33,240 Speaker 1: is really talking about here, Like what she's talking about 258 00:15:33,480 --> 00:15:37,000 Speaker 1: is too too really important things. Number one, how Jill 259 00:15:37,080 --> 00:15:41,240 Speaker 1: really spoke about earlier about how listen, I do multiple 260 00:15:41,320 --> 00:15:44,480 Speaker 1: things and so I can't allow you to lump my 261 00:15:44,520 --> 00:15:47,200 Speaker 1: ship together as if they don't have an individual set 262 00:15:47,200 --> 00:15:49,600 Speaker 1: of values. And I think for l yeah, it's coming 263 00:15:49,600 --> 00:15:51,880 Speaker 1: to it is really kind of coming into the understanding 264 00:15:51,960 --> 00:15:54,600 Speaker 1: that you don't have to come into a workspace being 265 00:15:54,600 --> 00:15:56,880 Speaker 1: a catch all. You know, come on the first side 266 00:15:56,920 --> 00:15:58,960 Speaker 1: of things. It's like, how many things can I get 267 00:15:59,000 --> 00:16:02,320 Speaker 1: out of you? And rather than you kind of deciding 268 00:16:02,360 --> 00:16:05,360 Speaker 1: what your what your strengths are and then creating a 269 00:16:05,480 --> 00:16:08,160 Speaker 1: space for each of those strengths to exist and create 270 00:16:08,200 --> 00:16:11,160 Speaker 1: their own value. And so many black women find themselves 271 00:16:11,160 --> 00:16:14,040 Speaker 1: in this position where it's like who they are is 272 00:16:14,040 --> 00:16:16,360 Speaker 1: based on how many things they can put in the 273 00:16:16,440 --> 00:16:20,320 Speaker 1: bag and present to their employer. Oh you want me, 274 00:16:20,400 --> 00:16:22,400 Speaker 1: because not only can I do the job I came 275 00:16:22,480 --> 00:16:24,400 Speaker 1: to do, but I can do these other three people's 276 00:16:24,480 --> 00:16:27,560 Speaker 1: jobs too. And there's a dog whistle also to black 277 00:16:27,600 --> 00:16:29,920 Speaker 1: women that makes them do it anyway, because it's not 278 00:16:30,040 --> 00:16:32,920 Speaker 1: really an option. There's an unspoken rule that you have 279 00:16:33,040 --> 00:16:35,880 Speaker 1: to present yourself this way in order for YouTube, then 280 00:16:35,960 --> 00:16:37,960 Speaker 1: get said gig, and then all of the way to 281 00:16:38,040 --> 00:16:41,680 Speaker 1: being a woman being black keeping that gig, excelling at 282 00:16:41,720 --> 00:16:45,040 Speaker 1: that gig when you're trying to excel at four different gigs. 283 00:16:45,240 --> 00:16:50,640 Speaker 1: I can bring home the baking exactly, you know what 284 00:16:50,720 --> 00:16:54,000 Speaker 1: I mean. It's a presentation, you know, and that presentation 285 00:16:54,120 --> 00:16:58,360 Speaker 1: eventually eats away at a person over time. You know 286 00:16:58,360 --> 00:17:00,920 Speaker 1: what I'm saying. While you're here, you also sing us 287 00:17:00,960 --> 00:17:03,680 Speaker 1: a song? And while you're here, can you also write 288 00:17:03,760 --> 00:17:07,280 Speaker 1: us a poem? And could you also cook us some 289 00:17:07,280 --> 00:17:10,440 Speaker 1: some chitlands? You know? Could you also bring my hair? 290 00:17:10,560 --> 00:17:14,000 Speaker 1: Could you also? You know, all of these things are valuable, 291 00:17:14,040 --> 00:17:17,480 Speaker 1: every little part of you, you know, it's exceptionally valuable. 292 00:17:17,800 --> 00:17:20,159 Speaker 1: So Um, you have to treat it as such and 293 00:17:20,200 --> 00:17:24,119 Speaker 1: remember that. So the price, like you said, you know, 294 00:17:24,240 --> 00:17:27,160 Speaker 1: it's not the same as yesterday, and it should be 295 00:17:27,200 --> 00:17:31,040 Speaker 1: different for all of your skill sets. Yes, there's a 296 00:17:31,119 --> 00:17:32,639 Speaker 1: reason why. I don't know if some of you are 297 00:17:32,680 --> 00:17:35,680 Speaker 1: watching my show on Hulu and and b T Plus, 298 00:17:35,720 --> 00:17:39,600 Speaker 1: and I think it's also on Showtime maybe a few 299 00:17:39,600 --> 00:17:42,000 Speaker 1: other places as well. It's called The First Wives Club. 300 00:17:42,960 --> 00:17:47,200 Speaker 1: We just wrapped our third season. Um, so that's happening. 301 00:17:47,600 --> 00:17:50,280 Speaker 1: But if you'll notice on the show, when I play Hazel, 302 00:17:50,400 --> 00:17:55,640 Speaker 1: I don't sing. I don't use my voice for Hazel. Um. 303 00:17:55,680 --> 00:17:58,440 Speaker 1: And I don't do that because it's a series number one, 304 00:17:59,119 --> 00:18:01,160 Speaker 1: so that means that it is going to be a 305 00:18:01,160 --> 00:18:05,320 Speaker 1: continuing thing. Um. And too because Hazel don't sound like me. 306 00:18:06,960 --> 00:18:11,320 Speaker 1: I'm not Hazel. I can't give Hazel Jill Scott because 307 00:18:11,400 --> 00:18:14,160 Speaker 1: Jill Scott in in the building when Hazel is on set. 308 00:18:14,359 --> 00:18:17,879 Speaker 1: That's what I'm saying on camera. She's not you know, 309 00:18:18,240 --> 00:18:22,600 Speaker 1: I'm not married or or to to Nigel. You know, 310 00:18:22,960 --> 00:18:27,040 Speaker 1: I'm not running Ladies First Record label that that is 311 00:18:27,280 --> 00:18:30,199 Speaker 1: these all this is fictitious, you know, but my my 312 00:18:30,320 --> 00:18:33,800 Speaker 1: voice is real and it belongs to me, and I've 313 00:18:33,800 --> 00:18:38,520 Speaker 1: spent twenty years, twenty plus years, you know, creating a 314 00:18:38,560 --> 00:18:42,840 Speaker 1: space for a said voice around the world. So I 315 00:18:42,880 --> 00:18:46,320 Speaker 1: can't just give it to some you know, a fictitious 316 00:18:46,400 --> 00:18:50,080 Speaker 1: character that I love funk with Hazel, but I can't 317 00:18:50,080 --> 00:18:53,160 Speaker 1: give her that. But that's that's a master lesson there 318 00:18:53,240 --> 00:18:55,840 Speaker 1: for for a lot of people, Like it's a multidiscipline 319 00:18:55,960 --> 00:19:01,000 Speaker 1: folk and just kind of really navigating and moving throughout 320 00:19:01,000 --> 00:19:03,600 Speaker 1: that world because there's certain decisions might not even occur 321 00:19:03,720 --> 00:19:06,639 Speaker 1: to you, like, oh yeah, I gotta separate these, you 322 00:19:06,680 --> 00:19:08,639 Speaker 1: know what I'm saying. I think a lot of times, 323 00:19:09,160 --> 00:19:11,959 Speaker 1: you know, and particularly people in creative business, you know, 324 00:19:12,000 --> 00:19:17,359 Speaker 1: we get fed the exposure, lie so much expose. This 325 00:19:17,400 --> 00:19:19,639 Speaker 1: is an exposure and as it's like it's it's you know, 326 00:19:19,760 --> 00:19:22,360 Speaker 1: job whistle for devalue in a lot you know period, 327 00:19:22,520 --> 00:19:25,320 Speaker 1: we all know, and we also wanted to go to 328 00:19:25,359 --> 00:19:27,680 Speaker 1: the second thing that like you was talking about, wait 329 00:19:27,720 --> 00:19:32,160 Speaker 1: before you move on, damn that exposure thing. The guys 330 00:19:32,359 --> 00:19:36,440 Speaker 1: of exposure. Wow, because that's right. So many people will 331 00:19:36,520 --> 00:19:39,479 Speaker 1: hit you will it's exposure, but you have to be 332 00:19:39,560 --> 00:19:43,119 Speaker 1: mindful of what it is, what it's for, and what 333 00:19:43,240 --> 00:19:45,240 Speaker 1: is it for the person who told you it was exposure. 334 00:19:45,320 --> 00:19:49,160 Speaker 1: It is your It is your life, your creativity, your 335 00:19:49,200 --> 00:19:52,600 Speaker 1: skill set. So what is that exposure for? Is this 336 00:19:52,720 --> 00:19:58,199 Speaker 1: for your greater good? Is this for your greater and 337 00:19:58,240 --> 00:20:01,399 Speaker 1: that Please believe everything as a price. So at the 338 00:20:01,520 --> 00:20:04,160 Speaker 1: end of the day, your exposure is going to cost 339 00:20:04,200 --> 00:20:07,080 Speaker 1: you money. And I don't know depending on where you 340 00:20:07,119 --> 00:20:10,080 Speaker 1: are in the spectrum of artists or creatives and what 341 00:20:10,160 --> 00:20:12,640 Speaker 1: you do and how much you get paid or not there. 342 00:20:12,640 --> 00:20:15,760 Speaker 1: It's some of this is just simple mask. Am I 343 00:20:15,760 --> 00:20:17,720 Speaker 1: gonna benefit from it? And this is gonna cost me 344 00:20:17,800 --> 00:20:19,080 Speaker 1: X y and Z to do it? Am I gonna 345 00:20:19,080 --> 00:20:20,840 Speaker 1: be looking back like, yo, I spend X amount of 346 00:20:20,840 --> 00:20:22,320 Speaker 1: dollars to do that and I didn't even get me 347 00:20:22,359 --> 00:20:25,240 Speaker 1: this deliverable. Say a lot of times in creative spaces, 348 00:20:25,240 --> 00:20:27,480 Speaker 1: we don't worry about these deliberables, you know what I'm saying, 349 00:20:27,520 --> 00:20:30,280 Speaker 1: and that that might save you damn life sometimes because 350 00:20:30,320 --> 00:20:32,080 Speaker 1: it's like some stuff ain't worth it. It It might look 351 00:20:32,119 --> 00:20:35,119 Speaker 1: good on a photo. Oh I went to this place, 352 00:20:35,280 --> 00:20:38,200 Speaker 1: but people don't know that cost you eight thousand dollars 353 00:20:39,160 --> 00:20:42,359 Speaker 1: to do that. This is the reason why a lot 354 00:20:42,440 --> 00:20:46,040 Speaker 1: of people are not necessarily going to the award shows 355 00:20:46,520 --> 00:20:50,320 Speaker 1: because they cost money. Friends, you know, you have to 356 00:20:50,400 --> 00:20:55,920 Speaker 1: fly there. You gotta you gotta get people gotta don't. 357 00:20:56,080 --> 00:20:58,919 Speaker 1: You gotta get away to get to the award. You 358 00:20:59,040 --> 00:21:01,000 Speaker 1: have to buy have to get somebody to do your 359 00:21:01,000 --> 00:21:03,120 Speaker 1: make up, or you could do it yourself. I mean 360 00:21:03,160 --> 00:21:06,160 Speaker 1: what I'm saying, you could. You have to get some clothes, 361 00:21:06,280 --> 00:21:09,200 Speaker 1: whether you hire a stylist to get them for you 362 00:21:09,320 --> 00:21:11,600 Speaker 1: or you have to go shopping yourself. You have to 363 00:21:11,640 --> 00:21:14,199 Speaker 1: get those nails done, you know, because it is a 364 00:21:14,280 --> 00:21:17,320 Speaker 1: presentation of yourself. So you try to make the best prison. 365 00:21:18,040 --> 00:21:21,000 Speaker 1: And here's here's the here's the gag. You have to 366 00:21:21,840 --> 00:21:29,200 Speaker 1: buy a ticket. You can get a free ticket maybe 367 00:21:29,280 --> 00:21:32,479 Speaker 1: two for an award, so if you're nominated, but if 368 00:21:32,520 --> 00:21:35,359 Speaker 1: you're not nominated, then you have to buy your ticket, 369 00:21:35,640 --> 00:21:39,359 Speaker 1: which is nine of the people who are present. Yeah, 370 00:21:39,359 --> 00:21:42,000 Speaker 1: I need that for I didn't know that for every while. 371 00:21:42,960 --> 00:21:47,440 Speaker 1: So they're saying it's exposure, but you there's there's other 372 00:21:47,600 --> 00:21:49,959 Speaker 1: things you know to do. Maybe you should show up 373 00:21:49,960 --> 00:21:51,600 Speaker 1: at that jam session. Maybe you should go to the 374 00:21:51,640 --> 00:21:54,560 Speaker 1: roots jam session, you know and spend your you know, 375 00:21:54,760 --> 00:21:57,879 Speaker 1: thirty forty bucks or whatever they cost. Or maybe you know, 376 00:21:58,000 --> 00:22:00,679 Speaker 1: just show up there and be there, you know, maybe 377 00:22:00,920 --> 00:22:03,600 Speaker 1: try to be in those rooms and not necessarily at 378 00:22:03,640 --> 00:22:06,200 Speaker 1: that show. It's not to just the shows. I'm just saying, 379 00:22:07,040 --> 00:22:09,640 Speaker 1: it's just a process. It is a process, and and 380 00:22:09,920 --> 00:22:11,640 Speaker 1: the point, you know, at the end of the day, 381 00:22:11,720 --> 00:22:14,480 Speaker 1: it's just that as we're moving through the world and 382 00:22:14,560 --> 00:22:17,040 Speaker 1: making our decisions and deciding like, Okay, how am I 383 00:22:17,080 --> 00:22:19,840 Speaker 1: going to navigate this kind of business space and for me? 384 00:22:19,920 --> 00:22:22,000 Speaker 1: What does it mean for me? How do people view me? 385 00:22:22,560 --> 00:22:25,119 Speaker 1: You know? And I wanted to kind of backtrack a 386 00:22:25,119 --> 00:22:27,760 Speaker 1: little bit to what LIKEA was talking about, because the 387 00:22:27,840 --> 00:22:29,880 Speaker 1: other part of what she was talking about, aside from 388 00:22:29,960 --> 00:22:32,679 Speaker 1: the valuing of your of your different skill sets, is 389 00:22:32,720 --> 00:22:35,560 Speaker 1: also like who you're in a workspace with and how 390 00:22:35,600 --> 00:22:38,760 Speaker 1: do they perceive your value and how does that those 391 00:22:38,800 --> 00:22:42,080 Speaker 1: things work? And so for and being in in a 392 00:22:42,119 --> 00:22:45,080 Speaker 1: male kind of dominated space and being able and really 393 00:22:45,160 --> 00:22:47,399 Speaker 1: it's kind of a beautiful thing because like you can 394 00:22:47,440 --> 00:22:50,600 Speaker 1: kind of speak to all of these different kind of spaces, right, 395 00:22:50,880 --> 00:22:53,840 Speaker 1: So to be in a really male dominated space and 396 00:22:54,359 --> 00:22:56,719 Speaker 1: um to try to assert not only what you know 397 00:22:56,960 --> 00:22:59,960 Speaker 1: for yourself but your own particular value, it's really really 398 00:23:00,040 --> 00:23:04,880 Speaker 1: you know, it's like warfare. So when you're when you're 399 00:23:04,880 --> 00:23:12,000 Speaker 1: considering your your your value and your individuality, um, and 400 00:23:12,880 --> 00:23:21,480 Speaker 1: being respectful of yourself, respectful of who you are. I 401 00:23:21,520 --> 00:23:25,800 Speaker 1: think you know, I transition. But here we go. This 402 00:23:25,880 --> 00:23:30,240 Speaker 1: is where you start your party. Oh, this is where 403 00:23:30,280 --> 00:23:37,639 Speaker 1: you star. You have to consider yourself like that. You 404 00:23:37,760 --> 00:23:43,080 Speaker 1: have to consider yourself. Okay, So you're you're thinking about 405 00:23:43,119 --> 00:23:46,800 Speaker 1: what is it that you love. I love to dance, 406 00:23:47,560 --> 00:23:50,159 Speaker 1: so I needed a dance floor and I needed a 407 00:23:50,200 --> 00:23:53,320 Speaker 1: great DJ. In fact, for this particular party, I had 408 00:23:53,400 --> 00:23:58,440 Speaker 1: to right, so I needed that. I picked my favorite DJ, 409 00:23:59,280 --> 00:24:03,040 Speaker 1: which happened to be DJ l Boogie, who also happens 410 00:24:03,080 --> 00:24:06,920 Speaker 1: to be my my first husband. Um, that's Lazelle, everybody, 411 00:24:07,560 --> 00:24:11,200 Speaker 1: Lazelle spun. He was the DJ at my fiftieth birthday party. 412 00:24:11,280 --> 00:24:15,280 Speaker 1: Thank god. Wasn't he dope? He was? Wasn't he dope? 413 00:24:15,040 --> 00:24:17,800 Speaker 1: For really? They know that, Like, like, Lazelle been a 414 00:24:17,880 --> 00:24:20,440 Speaker 1: DJ in Philly for decades and we don't want a 415 00:24:20,520 --> 00:24:21,879 Speaker 1: lot of parts. I was just trying to make me, 416 00:24:21,920 --> 00:24:26,640 Speaker 1: you know, but but it just it gave a whole 417 00:24:26,640 --> 00:24:29,560 Speaker 1: new feeling of relief and nostalgia, like which I said 418 00:24:29,560 --> 00:24:31,000 Speaker 1: to Ji, I was like, you think that party was 419 00:24:31,040 --> 00:24:34,320 Speaker 1: just for you, child, some shoulders went down and relief 420 00:24:34,960 --> 00:24:38,720 Speaker 1: it was. It was and and just the like I 421 00:24:38,840 --> 00:24:41,119 Speaker 1: was telling you, like the nostalgia of seeing people you 422 00:24:41,160 --> 00:24:44,560 Speaker 1: haven't seen a really long time, and it was just 423 00:24:44,680 --> 00:24:47,720 Speaker 1: really good. I mean, I know it was for you 424 00:24:47,840 --> 00:24:49,639 Speaker 1: and you were, but you really gave us all a 425 00:24:49,680 --> 00:24:52,280 Speaker 1: gift because that was the plan. You gave us a gift. 426 00:24:52,400 --> 00:24:54,919 Speaker 1: That was the plan. Interacting with one another, to laughing 427 00:24:54,960 --> 00:24:57,959 Speaker 1: and smiling and dancing with each other, all of that 428 00:24:58,040 --> 00:25:00,880 Speaker 1: was great. And the special wa to put this out here. 429 00:25:01,320 --> 00:25:06,520 Speaker 1: I did fully bust my ass. Oh yeah I did. 430 00:25:06,720 --> 00:25:09,440 Speaker 1: I think you're back, was stirring when I felt so 431 00:25:09,480 --> 00:25:12,159 Speaker 1: this is what happened, right, someone has spilled a drink 432 00:25:12,440 --> 00:25:18,320 Speaker 1: on the right in front of Lazelle. Okay, him to 433 00:25:18,359 --> 00:25:21,760 Speaker 1: the side, and as soon as I touched the water, 434 00:25:23,240 --> 00:25:25,920 Speaker 1: and he picked me up so fast. It's so funny. 435 00:25:26,280 --> 00:25:30,399 Speaker 1: I don't think picked you up. My husband, bless him, 436 00:25:30,400 --> 00:25:32,200 Speaker 1: bless him. He was like, ye'll not see my wife 437 00:25:33,640 --> 00:25:36,359 Speaker 1: so fast that I had picked dresser, so my my 438 00:25:36,440 --> 00:25:39,880 Speaker 1: dress din't even get dirty. He picked me up so fast. 439 00:25:39,960 --> 00:25:42,160 Speaker 1: He was like, I said, Oh, I'm the girl who 440 00:25:42,200 --> 00:25:45,560 Speaker 1: fell at the party. He was like, that's okay. He 441 00:25:45,640 --> 00:25:49,560 Speaker 1: was like, it's okay, let's just keep dancing. I said, okay, 442 00:25:49,720 --> 00:25:52,280 Speaker 1: and so shann I did and she blew some whistles. 443 00:25:52,680 --> 00:25:56,520 Speaker 1: I love flowers. There were so many flowers and they 444 00:25:56,520 --> 00:26:01,200 Speaker 1: were fabulous. They were gorgeous. Okay. I love of exposed 445 00:26:01,240 --> 00:26:05,320 Speaker 1: brick because it makes it makes me feel Yes, it 446 00:26:05,359 --> 00:26:12,240 Speaker 1: makes me feel like city. Yeah, so that. I love 447 00:26:12,480 --> 00:26:15,960 Speaker 1: cheese steaks, and I love drinking. We had Lechi Martinez 448 00:26:16,680 --> 00:26:19,680 Speaker 1: dropped Martiniz. Those are my things, those are my drinks. 449 00:26:19,920 --> 00:26:21,840 Speaker 1: So you know, I wanted to make sure we had 450 00:26:21,920 --> 00:26:24,040 Speaker 1: a way to soak up all the alcohol. So there 451 00:26:24,160 --> 00:26:27,199 Speaker 1: was cheese steaks. We had a cheese steaks truck. You 452 00:26:27,280 --> 00:26:30,280 Speaker 1: had to be there in order to truly understand Philly 453 00:26:30,359 --> 00:26:37,280 Speaker 1: was represented and how beautiful and how practical as well, 454 00:26:37,600 --> 00:26:40,119 Speaker 1: Like I wanted to make sure that everybody had a 455 00:26:40,119 --> 00:26:47,440 Speaker 1: good time. I had a very very lovely garden of portion. Uh. 456 00:26:47,520 --> 00:26:52,000 Speaker 1: They were all kinds of vegetation. Yea beautiful vegetation or 457 00:26:52,240 --> 00:27:00,560 Speaker 1: thank you aromatic if you will. Was blessed. Okay, it was. 458 00:27:00,600 --> 00:27:05,479 Speaker 1: It was completely blessed. All night long. I was so 459 00:27:05,520 --> 00:27:10,959 Speaker 1: grateful for that funnel cake, Rita's water rice mango, cherry, 460 00:27:11,119 --> 00:27:13,880 Speaker 1: lemon and p and pean apple because she ain't cheat 461 00:27:13,880 --> 00:27:16,200 Speaker 1: because you know, usually it just be cherry and lemon, right, 462 00:27:16,560 --> 00:27:21,520 Speaker 1: or cherry and blue. The balloon's orange is my favorite color. Um, 463 00:27:21,560 --> 00:27:25,359 Speaker 1: so it was. It was soft orange and white. Enjoyed 464 00:27:25,400 --> 00:27:29,879 Speaker 1: the balloons and orange and white gave me like cream 465 00:27:30,000 --> 00:27:35,840 Speaker 1: sickle happiness. Happiness. Yes. See. The thing is when you're 466 00:27:35,880 --> 00:27:39,560 Speaker 1: when you're talking about, um, something for yourself, you actually 467 00:27:39,560 --> 00:27:42,360 Speaker 1: have to consider yourself who you are and sit down 468 00:27:42,359 --> 00:27:43,800 Speaker 1: with how long did it take you to figure out 469 00:27:43,840 --> 00:27:46,000 Speaker 1: elements that you had to have? Like how did you 470 00:27:46,040 --> 00:27:49,320 Speaker 1: do that? Um? It took me. It took me a 471 00:27:49,359 --> 00:27:54,480 Speaker 1: while because at first, Sharia Barlow, the party planner, she 472 00:27:54,600 --> 00:27:58,480 Speaker 1: was like, um, you know what, what exactly do you want? 473 00:27:58,520 --> 00:28:00,480 Speaker 1: And I was like, well, I know I want to day. 474 00:28:00,880 --> 00:28:03,640 Speaker 1: So start with the things that you know that. You know, 475 00:28:04,000 --> 00:28:06,639 Speaker 1: if you're somebody who likes to swim or being water, 476 00:28:07,160 --> 00:28:09,840 Speaker 1: they start there. You know. If you're like if someone 477 00:28:09,840 --> 00:28:11,840 Speaker 1: who likes to be on a beach or something like that, 478 00:28:11,920 --> 00:28:14,680 Speaker 1: start there and then work your way around the rest 479 00:28:14,720 --> 00:28:18,520 Speaker 1: of it. Um, I know that I miss um a 480 00:28:18,560 --> 00:28:21,320 Speaker 1: certain time in my life being in Philadelphia, you know, 481 00:28:21,400 --> 00:28:24,840 Speaker 1: going to pen parties, going to temple parties, dancing all 482 00:28:24,960 --> 00:28:30,160 Speaker 1: night to jazzy Jeff, spinning at um at at Central High. Like, 483 00:28:30,720 --> 00:28:33,119 Speaker 1: it was a lot of things that I loved about 484 00:28:33,160 --> 00:28:36,840 Speaker 1: that time, and I wanted to experience it again. So, um, 485 00:28:36,960 --> 00:28:39,520 Speaker 1: you have to consider yourself when you're planning a party 486 00:28:39,560 --> 00:28:42,480 Speaker 1: for yourself. Right, what do you like to eat? I 487 00:28:42,560 --> 00:28:44,720 Speaker 1: love cheese steaks. I'm from Philly. I'm always gonna love 488 00:28:44,800 --> 00:28:46,920 Speaker 1: cheese steaks. It is water do all. And I also 489 00:28:47,000 --> 00:28:49,000 Speaker 1: know it soaks up the alcohol. You know. I love 490 00:28:49,040 --> 00:28:51,160 Speaker 1: funnel cakes. So we had a funnel called Cake Truck 491 00:28:51,200 --> 00:28:59,040 Speaker 1: is Reda's water Ice. That was but yeah, they had caramel, 492 00:28:59,640 --> 00:29:04,560 Speaker 1: they had at chocolate strawberry. Um, it was so young. 493 00:29:05,160 --> 00:29:07,880 Speaker 1: Everybody was walking around humming, especially because there was all 494 00:29:07,920 --> 00:29:10,440 Speaker 1: that beautiful vegetation. I was just about to say the garden. 495 00:29:10,960 --> 00:29:13,880 Speaker 1: So many good vibes. Oh so so many kinds of 496 00:29:13,960 --> 00:29:18,320 Speaker 1: vegetation as well. Yeah, I mean just in vegetation for 497 00:29:18,400 --> 00:29:20,479 Speaker 1: any kind of person, you know, like whatever you how 498 00:29:20,560 --> 00:29:24,080 Speaker 1: you feel you vegetation. Yeah, it was it was that 499 00:29:24,760 --> 00:29:28,560 Speaker 1: so it was a grown ass. It was a grown 500 00:29:28,640 --> 00:29:33,240 Speaker 1: ass horny grown party where my you know, my knees 501 00:29:33,320 --> 00:29:36,080 Speaker 1: hurt right now. I don't know when that's gonna stop. 502 00:29:36,200 --> 00:29:41,440 Speaker 1: But I was reminded that I'm no longer twenty four, 503 00:29:41,800 --> 00:29:46,040 Speaker 1: you know. Um, so I was. I'm just saying, a 504 00:29:46,160 --> 00:29:47,960 Speaker 1: dance all night long. Yeah, you should be able to 505 00:29:48,000 --> 00:29:50,600 Speaker 1: dance a fifty all night long. Well that's fine, thanks, 506 00:29:50,760 --> 00:29:52,440 Speaker 1: but you know we're dealing with the hell you awake 507 00:29:52,600 --> 00:29:54,400 Speaker 1: now that's what. Now, that's a different thing, and that's 508 00:29:54,400 --> 00:29:56,960 Speaker 1: the only reason that you haven't this knee. I'm sorry, 509 00:29:57,040 --> 00:30:02,120 Speaker 1: Sometimes knees just go out. This is true. I'm just 510 00:30:02,440 --> 00:30:04,719 Speaker 1: my mother's spirit is coming out in me, and I'm like, ladies, 511 00:30:04,760 --> 00:30:06,920 Speaker 1: as we get older, we must continue to upkeep this 512 00:30:07,240 --> 00:30:09,480 Speaker 1: so they lets the times go out and you actually 513 00:30:09,520 --> 00:30:12,760 Speaker 1: are working it out preventing these things. You are so correct, 514 00:30:12,800 --> 00:30:15,880 Speaker 1: but you're not about to, you know, save our lives 515 00:30:15,920 --> 00:30:19,840 Speaker 1: with this movie. So you know, well, yeah, there's there's 516 00:30:19,880 --> 00:30:22,000 Speaker 1: a lot going on to the to the Jill Scott 517 00:30:22,000 --> 00:30:25,960 Speaker 1: of it all. At the moment, we're gonna take a 518 00:30:26,040 --> 00:30:38,280 Speaker 1: quick break and then it we'll be right back. It 519 00:30:38,400 --> 00:30:43,880 Speaker 1: really wasn't Jill Scott's party. It was my party, and 520 00:30:43,960 --> 00:30:47,560 Speaker 1: I don't know if you guys will ever understand what 521 00:30:47,600 --> 00:30:49,920 Speaker 1: I'm saying when I say that, how do I get it? 522 00:30:50,160 --> 00:30:52,840 Speaker 1: I mean the people that are listening right now, Okay, 523 00:30:53,080 --> 00:30:56,320 Speaker 1: I mean them, y'all know me. So it's it's like, 524 00:30:57,880 --> 00:31:01,280 Speaker 1: there is a there is a portion of myself, and 525 00:31:01,360 --> 00:31:06,680 Speaker 1: I hope of yourself that you value so much, that 526 00:31:06,840 --> 00:31:12,040 Speaker 1: you love so much above your station, above your quote 527 00:31:12,080 --> 00:31:16,600 Speaker 1: unquote class, above how much money is in your bank 528 00:31:16,640 --> 00:31:20,800 Speaker 1: account or stocks and bonds, or how many houses you have, 529 00:31:21,080 --> 00:31:24,880 Speaker 1: or what kind of jewelry or bags you carry. There 530 00:31:24,880 --> 00:31:30,600 Speaker 1: that there's something that's sacred to you about you, that part, 531 00:31:31,360 --> 00:31:35,360 Speaker 1: that part right there, And that's what I celebrated at 532 00:31:35,440 --> 00:31:39,880 Speaker 1: my party. You know, I'm a quinn Quadrainarian now, y'all. 533 00:31:40,240 --> 00:31:42,360 Speaker 1: So I won't be fifty one or fifty two or 534 00:31:42,360 --> 00:31:45,000 Speaker 1: fifty four. I will be a quin Quadnarian until I'm 535 00:31:45,040 --> 00:31:48,480 Speaker 1: no longer a quin quadnarian. Yes, if you if you 536 00:31:48,520 --> 00:31:51,920 Speaker 1: have any questions about what that quinn Quadrainarian is, it 537 00:31:52,160 --> 00:31:55,240 Speaker 1: is spelled exactly like it sounds, and you're welcome to 538 00:31:55,280 --> 00:31:59,160 Speaker 1: look that up. So you know what I am as 539 00:31:59,200 --> 00:32:07,600 Speaker 1: I go forward. You know, quinny quinny, I love it. 540 00:32:07,640 --> 00:32:11,000 Speaker 1: But that's what you should celebrate when you have a party. 541 00:32:11,320 --> 00:32:13,680 Speaker 1: You know. I did make it a point, you know, 542 00:32:13,720 --> 00:32:15,480 Speaker 1: like I said earlier, I did make it a point 543 00:32:15,920 --> 00:32:18,840 Speaker 1: to not have cameras there because I just wanted to 544 00:32:18,880 --> 00:32:21,960 Speaker 1: live in the moment, and so often we don't do that. 545 00:32:22,720 --> 00:32:26,920 Speaker 1: I was in all all night, just all and how 546 00:32:27,080 --> 00:32:34,560 Speaker 1: beautiful and classy and fun and easy, you know, the 547 00:32:34,880 --> 00:32:37,880 Speaker 1: just great vibes all night long, and people I love 548 00:32:37,960 --> 00:32:43,200 Speaker 1: showed up. And I'm from all over the world, from 549 00:32:43,240 --> 00:32:47,560 Speaker 1: all over the world, they showed up. Like, man, what 550 00:32:47,720 --> 00:32:50,360 Speaker 1: a good feeling you had to light so sexy. I 551 00:32:50,400 --> 00:32:54,240 Speaker 1: couldn't see everybody, but I didn't see everybody, but I saw. 552 00:32:54,320 --> 00:32:56,880 Speaker 1: I mean, well, you know, you know, I saw all 553 00:32:56,880 --> 00:32:59,160 Speaker 1: the folks that I had my hey moment with, you know, 554 00:32:59,280 --> 00:33:03,320 Speaker 1: like you know, like I saw quite quite a few 555 00:33:03,360 --> 00:33:06,520 Speaker 1: hades throughout the night. But I just was happy to 556 00:33:06,560 --> 00:33:09,360 Speaker 1: see how happy you were, because really you could see 557 00:33:09,360 --> 00:33:11,600 Speaker 1: it all over your face, like you was just in 558 00:33:11,840 --> 00:33:14,680 Speaker 1: la la land the whole night, and like every time 559 00:33:14,720 --> 00:33:17,479 Speaker 1: I would just catch your face if even like at 560 00:33:17,520 --> 00:33:19,640 Speaker 1: one point we're all dancing, but then other times when 561 00:33:19,680 --> 00:33:21,280 Speaker 1: I went to see you from across the way or 562 00:33:21,320 --> 00:33:23,280 Speaker 1: just looking to see what you were doing. It's like wow, 563 00:33:23,600 --> 00:33:28,160 Speaker 1: like she's really enjoying herself very much, so very much. 564 00:33:28,200 --> 00:33:32,160 Speaker 1: So Yeah, I've you know, I've had people, like I said, 565 00:33:32,160 --> 00:33:36,520 Speaker 1: I've had people do things for Jill Scott and it's 566 00:33:36,600 --> 00:33:40,959 Speaker 1: it's very much appreciated. But there's something that hits different 567 00:33:41,000 --> 00:33:45,040 Speaker 1: when it's when it's specifically for me and you know 568 00:33:45,200 --> 00:33:47,240 Speaker 1: that it is. Yes, and you can sit in the 569 00:33:47,320 --> 00:33:49,600 Speaker 1: knowing of that. That's really important. But I feel like 570 00:33:49,680 --> 00:33:51,520 Speaker 1: also to like what you said to this, really I 571 00:33:51,560 --> 00:33:54,000 Speaker 1: want people to remember you can only do that if 572 00:33:54,000 --> 00:33:56,560 Speaker 1: you spend some time thinking about who you are, what 573 00:33:56,560 --> 00:34:00,080 Speaker 1: what what it is you like, because before you know it, 574 00:34:00,120 --> 00:34:02,720 Speaker 1: if you're not clear on that, it's very difficult to 575 00:34:02,720 --> 00:34:06,240 Speaker 1: have the people in your life understand it too. Knock knock, knocker, 576 00:34:06,280 --> 00:34:09,839 Speaker 1: who's there. Here's the message, Um, you are not the 577 00:34:09,960 --> 00:34:15,759 Speaker 1: caricature that you've created for yourself. You are not that 578 00:34:16,640 --> 00:34:20,440 Speaker 1: you could never be that baby. It's it's that's a 579 00:34:20,600 --> 00:34:23,520 Speaker 1: that's a jailb friends, that's a part of your job 580 00:34:24,680 --> 00:34:28,960 Speaker 1: that you've that you've created. You know, that's every Instagram 581 00:34:29,000 --> 00:34:32,080 Speaker 1: picture of of pure bliss When twelve minutes ago you 582 00:34:32,080 --> 00:34:34,200 Speaker 1: were really ready to punch somebody in the face and 583 00:34:34,280 --> 00:34:38,520 Speaker 1: the mouth right right, and the whole teeth right. And 584 00:34:39,080 --> 00:34:43,560 Speaker 1: that's right. You know when this or one part of 585 00:34:43,600 --> 00:34:45,840 Speaker 1: your room is clean where you took this picture, but 586 00:34:45,920 --> 00:34:49,759 Speaker 1: the rest of it it's in complete disarray because you're 587 00:34:49,800 --> 00:34:52,840 Speaker 1: having a real moment in life. Yes, the real is, 588 00:34:52,920 --> 00:34:55,120 Speaker 1: because it's all it's it's a it's a life that 589 00:34:55,160 --> 00:34:57,799 Speaker 1: people are living. It's a life you're trying to live. 590 00:34:57,840 --> 00:35:01,560 Speaker 1: It's like, and I do think it's easy to lean 591 00:35:01,719 --> 00:35:06,880 Speaker 1: into the unreal of things because it doesn't require any 592 00:35:06,960 --> 00:35:09,400 Speaker 1: kind of real work for the self. Come on, It's like, 593 00:35:09,440 --> 00:35:11,560 Speaker 1: I'm just gonna chill and just be this because this 594 00:35:11,680 --> 00:35:13,480 Speaker 1: is easy and I don't have to really and this 595 00:35:13,560 --> 00:35:16,920 Speaker 1: is what they think of me. I'm just gonna relax 596 00:35:16,960 --> 00:35:19,600 Speaker 1: into that. But you know that that kind of deep 597 00:35:19,640 --> 00:35:24,040 Speaker 1: and i'll use your word, sacred self work is really 598 00:35:24,080 --> 00:35:26,879 Speaker 1: going to be key to enjoying a certain set time 599 00:35:26,920 --> 00:35:30,200 Speaker 1: period of your life because you can only know what 600 00:35:30,400 --> 00:35:33,360 Speaker 1: you know after you know, being a quin quadtionary and 601 00:35:33,440 --> 00:35:36,040 Speaker 1: you can you know what I'm saying, like you want 602 00:35:36,040 --> 00:35:39,920 Speaker 1: to benefit from having lived those years. In order to 603 00:35:39,960 --> 00:35:42,040 Speaker 1: do that, you have to be committed to that sacred 604 00:35:42,080 --> 00:35:44,719 Speaker 1: self work that you really aren't ever, you're not really 605 00:35:44,760 --> 00:35:47,080 Speaker 1: even ready to do until you've gotten to this point 606 00:35:47,080 --> 00:35:52,120 Speaker 1: in your life. There's honeyest levels levels to this thing, 607 00:35:53,080 --> 00:35:57,399 Speaker 1: and we're all still growing and learning and processing. Some 608 00:35:57,560 --> 00:36:01,480 Speaker 1: processing happens really fast, and some of it takes its 609 00:36:01,600 --> 00:36:04,680 Speaker 1: sweet slow molasses ass time. I was waiting for slow 610 00:36:04,680 --> 00:36:08,520 Speaker 1: molasses ass that you know there is some of it 611 00:36:08,520 --> 00:36:13,560 Speaker 1: takes that, and it's important to have that. I promise you, 612 00:36:13,760 --> 00:36:16,840 Speaker 1: good people, The last thing I want to do is 613 00:36:16,920 --> 00:36:19,920 Speaker 1: beat now. The caricature of Jill Scott. It did not create. 614 00:36:20,520 --> 00:36:24,080 Speaker 1: I didn't do that. That wasn't That wasn't my bag. 615 00:36:24,320 --> 00:36:29,239 Speaker 1: I never wanted to participate in the caricature never, But 616 00:36:29,320 --> 00:36:34,640 Speaker 1: it happens. It happens, and it happens because people assume, 617 00:36:35,440 --> 00:36:38,720 Speaker 1: you know that, they think that you're away. And I tried. 618 00:36:38,840 --> 00:36:41,400 Speaker 1: I definitely have tried over the years. I remember saying 619 00:36:41,440 --> 00:36:45,760 Speaker 1: something in a live concert, you know about um sometimes 620 00:36:45,800 --> 00:36:48,920 Speaker 1: you gotta whoop some ass, you know, like they're like 621 00:36:49,080 --> 00:36:52,640 Speaker 1: all thinking that I'm all peace and and uh you know, 622 00:36:52,840 --> 00:36:56,160 Speaker 1: um slowers and incense. I like all that ship, but 623 00:36:56,200 --> 00:36:59,320 Speaker 1: I also like m M A fighting very very much. 624 00:36:59,800 --> 00:37:05,920 Speaker 1: And I also am very handy with my pistol. Okay, 625 00:37:05,760 --> 00:37:11,080 Speaker 1: the listeners know, yeah, these are the new the new media. 626 00:37:11,440 --> 00:37:17,080 Speaker 1: Look the we're talking about what we usually talk about 627 00:37:19,040 --> 00:37:21,799 Speaker 1: and we end up here. Yeah, it's always about being 628 00:37:21,880 --> 00:37:25,439 Speaker 1: the all of yourself. Yeah, I'm sorry, and I love 629 00:37:25,560 --> 00:37:29,000 Speaker 1: sacred self. I love this sacred this this concept. But 630 00:37:29,160 --> 00:37:31,640 Speaker 1: came out, Thank you father, it came out, you know 631 00:37:31,680 --> 00:37:34,239 Speaker 1: what I mean. But I appreciate that because these are 632 00:37:34,280 --> 00:37:35,640 Speaker 1: the things that we have to hold on. We can 633 00:37:35,680 --> 00:37:40,239 Speaker 1: get so caught up in, you know, the imaging of ourselves. 634 00:37:41,239 --> 00:37:44,359 Speaker 1: Most photos are photoshop friends, you know what I'm saying. 635 00:37:44,360 --> 00:37:46,399 Speaker 1: But even that applies to people are not in this 636 00:37:46,440 --> 00:37:50,320 Speaker 1: industry because people people create an imagery or a cacature 637 00:37:50,680 --> 00:37:55,480 Speaker 1: talking about people outside. I am I'm talking to you. Yeah, 638 00:37:55,560 --> 00:38:03,840 Speaker 1: I'm talking to you to me, ain't Trevor right, David, 639 00:38:05,680 --> 00:38:13,880 Speaker 1: I'm definitely talking today. Yeah, yeah, we're talking exactly to you. There. 640 00:38:14,480 --> 00:38:17,879 Speaker 1: We're all people, all of us, and we're what we've 641 00:38:17,920 --> 00:38:22,520 Speaker 1: figured out. We're sharing with you. And somebody get me 642 00:38:22,560 --> 00:38:25,440 Speaker 1: to some game. The last night and the last couple 643 00:38:25,440 --> 00:38:30,680 Speaker 1: of nights, somebody in her sixties was showing me some 644 00:38:30,680 --> 00:38:32,919 Speaker 1: some ways to move and I was like, well, thank you, God, 645 00:38:32,960 --> 00:38:37,120 Speaker 1: bless you. It doesn't stop. We don't really land on 646 00:38:37,360 --> 00:38:41,000 Speaker 1: who we are. It's just an ongoing process, you know. 647 00:38:41,080 --> 00:38:45,120 Speaker 1: And that's okay. It's okay. Don't define yourself so hard 648 00:38:45,200 --> 00:38:47,719 Speaker 1: that you can't get out that box. My goodness, we 649 00:38:47,800 --> 00:38:51,520 Speaker 1: talked about these boxes. Go back, y'all an episode, don't 650 00:38:51,600 --> 00:38:59,359 Speaker 1: don't it, don't write it that's going. What did I 651 00:38:59,400 --> 00:39:03,120 Speaker 1: see today? Lord London said something about did you guys 652 00:39:03,200 --> 00:39:05,640 Speaker 1: see that? And she said, uh, oh, I don't want 653 00:39:05,640 --> 00:39:09,279 Speaker 1: to mess this up. She said, um, I think it 654 00:39:09,320 --> 00:39:12,000 Speaker 1: was something like worrying about the river, be the water, 655 00:39:12,160 --> 00:39:18,279 Speaker 1: not the rocks, something like that, something like that, and 656 00:39:18,320 --> 00:39:20,520 Speaker 1: I thought it was so powerful. It makes sense because 657 00:39:20,560 --> 00:39:23,280 Speaker 1: you know what makes those rocks smooth over time, Water 658 00:39:23,719 --> 00:39:26,359 Speaker 1: makes them smoother. So the water is the thing that 659 00:39:26,440 --> 00:39:28,880 Speaker 1: causes the change, doesn't react to the change, and the 660 00:39:28,880 --> 00:39:32,719 Speaker 1: water is ever flowing indeed, because that's what this thing is. 661 00:39:32,880 --> 00:39:35,680 Speaker 1: We we we we're moving as long as we're live, 662 00:39:35,920 --> 00:39:39,759 Speaker 1: changing shape, be flowing in, change in shape. I'm so 663 00:39:39,840 --> 00:39:42,759 Speaker 1: grateful to be fifty years old. I'm so grateful to 664 00:39:42,760 --> 00:39:46,200 Speaker 1: be a quin quadrainarian. I'm so grateful to have the 665 00:39:46,280 --> 00:39:50,080 Speaker 1: kind of friends that genuinely loved me and know who 666 00:39:50,160 --> 00:39:54,359 Speaker 1: I am. I'm so grateful for that that they, you know, 667 00:39:54,400 --> 00:39:59,960 Speaker 1: whenever they come up across some kind of rumor or something, 668 00:40:00,000 --> 00:40:03,160 Speaker 1: because these things occur um most of the time, they 669 00:40:03,160 --> 00:40:06,680 Speaker 1: don't even bother bringing my phone because they better because 670 00:40:06,680 --> 00:40:09,800 Speaker 1: they know me already know I tried that once. You 671 00:40:09,840 --> 00:40:12,319 Speaker 1: know it's meant about a couple of decade friendship. Don't 672 00:40:12,320 --> 00:40:20,280 Speaker 1: think I ain't tried it. Y'all work so you live. 673 00:40:21,280 --> 00:40:24,680 Speaker 1: So grateful to to continue to grow, So grateful for 674 00:40:25,120 --> 00:40:28,239 Speaker 1: the smooth and the rough. Uh. This is Jay dot 675 00:40:28,239 --> 00:40:35,160 Speaker 1: Ill the podcast and we outside, we outside, We're in 676 00:40:35,239 --> 00:40:37,719 Speaker 1: your house to thank you so much for listening. I 677 00:40:37,880 --> 00:40:48,759 Speaker 1: love you. How do you Eat an Elephant? One? By? 678 00:40:48,840 --> 00:40:54,200 Speaker 1: It time? Hi there, listeners. This is Amber, the producer 679 00:40:54,239 --> 00:40:57,399 Speaker 1: of season two of j dot Ogle podcast. You'll hear 680 00:40:57,440 --> 00:40:59,919 Speaker 1: from me from time to time on the show. It's 681 00:41:00,080 --> 00:41:02,480 Speaker 1: almost the end of our first episode of the season, 682 00:41:02,640 --> 00:41:05,880 Speaker 1: and as our day one listeners know, it's time for 683 00:41:05,960 --> 00:41:08,560 Speaker 1: our how do you Eat an Elephant? Segment for our 684 00:41:08,600 --> 00:41:12,000 Speaker 1: new listeners. If you're not familiar, the saying goes, how 685 00:41:12,080 --> 00:41:14,920 Speaker 1: do you eat an elephant one bite at a time. 686 00:41:15,520 --> 00:41:17,520 Speaker 1: It means if you have something in front of you 687 00:41:17,960 --> 00:41:22,000 Speaker 1: that seems like this insurmountable task, instead of being overwhelmed, 688 00:41:22,360 --> 00:41:25,560 Speaker 1: what you can do is break it down bite by bite. 689 00:41:25,960 --> 00:41:28,120 Speaker 1: So this is the part of the show where I'll 690 00:41:28,160 --> 00:41:31,960 Speaker 1: share some resources. We talk about a lot of big 691 00:41:32,600 --> 00:41:35,000 Speaker 1: layer topics on the show and want to provide you 692 00:41:35,200 --> 00:41:38,160 Speaker 1: with a bite of information to take with you, hopefully 693 00:41:38,160 --> 00:41:41,839 Speaker 1: help you navigate eating your own elephants. Today, I've got 694 00:41:41,880 --> 00:41:44,759 Speaker 1: two bites for you. Jill talked about the process of 695 00:41:44,760 --> 00:41:47,799 Speaker 1: planning her birthday party and the importance of finding a 696 00:41:47,840 --> 00:41:50,960 Speaker 1: great party planner. So I want to share this article 697 00:41:51,120 --> 00:41:54,160 Speaker 1: from the Balance md dot com about the steps to 698 00:41:54,239 --> 00:41:57,279 Speaker 1: finding the perfect party planner for you. It gets into 699 00:41:57,360 --> 00:42:01,080 Speaker 1: everything from interview questions, to budgets, to think eames, all 700 00:42:01,160 --> 00:42:03,440 Speaker 1: of that, so I'll link that in our show notes. 701 00:42:04,040 --> 00:42:06,640 Speaker 1: The second bite I have for you is how to 702 00:42:06,719 --> 00:42:12,800 Speaker 1: spell coin quadrainari in are you ready? Q u I 703 00:42:13,400 --> 00:42:20,640 Speaker 1: N q u A G E N A R I 704 00:42:20,760 --> 00:42:23,960 Speaker 1: A N And if you didn't quite catch that, that 705 00:42:24,280 --> 00:42:40,920 Speaker 1: spelling will also be in the show notes. Hi, if 706 00:42:40,960 --> 00:42:43,799 Speaker 1: you have comments on something we said in this episode 707 00:42:44,160 --> 00:42:47,719 Speaker 1: called eight six six. Hey do if you want to 708 00:42:47,719 --> 00:42:51,080 Speaker 1: add to this conversation, that's eight six six four three 709 00:42:51,160 --> 00:42:54,319 Speaker 1: nine five four five five. Don't forget to tell us 710 00:42:54,360 --> 00:42:57,439 Speaker 1: your name and the episode you're referring to. You might 711 00:42:57,800 --> 00:43:01,360 Speaker 1: just hear your message on a future episod. So thank 712 00:43:01,360 --> 00:43:04,759 Speaker 1: you for listening to Jill Scott Presents Jay dot Il. 713 00:43:05,120 --> 00:43:11,040 Speaker 1: The podcast j dot Ill is a production of I 714 00:43:11,360 --> 00:43:15,480 Speaker 1: heart Radio. For more podcasts from I heart Radio, visit 715 00:43:15,520 --> 00:43:19,759 Speaker 1: the i heart Radio app, Apple podcast, or wherever you 716 00:43:19,840 --> 00:43:21,400 Speaker 1: listen to your favorite shows.